I get the impression Matt and Abby thought this could be an opportunity for Dellavlogs to educate people on adoption and show the amazing side of adoption....but ended up learning that how they went about their adoption was icky...
I get the impression that Matt and Abby invited them into their podcast to set them up for failure. Is it possible that they know exactly how Story will be and is being exploited and they don't like it? Matt and Abby surely aren't perfect, but they seem a lot more honest and mature than Bella and Dallin (in my opinion)
I’m 42, adopted, knew forever I was adopted. My parents NEVER made it seem like they “saved” me. I know the situation I was born into and the privilege I was adopted into. I put the dots together. My parents were just open and I as I got older, I asked questions. I have a strong feeling they will make themselves the “savior” to their kids. My parents addressed everything just in facts and details. And I honestly think that was best. It wasn’t that I was a child of a 16 year old and was adopted by a family that could provide so much more. I literally forgot at times I was adopted. I just feel like this adoption story is going to be their “thing”, just like the DD. I love adoption and think it’s amazing. But if you truly love your adopted kids, (and my parents never ever talked about me like that), you won’t make it a non stop topic of conversation. Period.
Exactly! The children aren't the storyline & the parents aren't "saviors". My best friend in school was adopted and her parents were open about it with her. They just kept it matter of fact style and just loved my best friend every day.
Hey ,we have something in common., Both my brother (adopted from another mother) and i were told about our circumstances as soon as we were old enough to understand.We were told we were specially chosen ,not "saved" too ,which has been such a lovely memory as i`ve gotten older. Like you i rarely think about it ,only really when i`m with a dr and asked about family medical history. LOve hearing you talk about your experience.We both got very lucky.Xox
Your story is heart warming. My husband was adopted in 1946 by wonderful parents. The birth mom’s father was a minister that sent her away when she got pregnant in college. My husband’s parents received a call from their doctor that a baby had been born and did they want him. They picked him up directly from the hospital. He always knew he was adopted and chose to meet his birth mother when he was 60. We thanked her for bringing him into the world and let her know he had a wonderful life. She was relieved to tell her story and hear he wasn’t mad at her. In 1946 it would have been very difficult for a single mom to raise a child when the dad ran & without family support.
Shame on Bella and Dallin. They made promises to the birth mother and won her faith, to raise her daughter, on the basis of them. How can they fulfil the promises if - only a few months after making them - they have already forgotten what the promises were? It tells me that the promises were not sincerely meant. The birth mother has been severely misled and manipulated. 😔
Oh that would be terrible if they meant so little they don't remember. I thought they probably just didn't want to tell them so people didn't call them out
Matt can be annoying but he’s asking the questions we want to hear the answers to 😂 not only did he ask what the five promises were, but reiterated the fact that they can’t even remember the five most important things 😂
Matt lives for the drams for sure lol. Luckily with guests on the podcast, it’s not at Abby’s expense. It’s a win win for them. They should have influencers on and just sneak diss them hahaha
I also think these guys aren't as close friends as they say they are online tbh especially based off all their body languages and particularly Matt, Abby and Dallin's facial expressions...there was silent judging going on there for sure.
@@strawberrykatnzI think they've grown distant from each other for sure. And I think the adoption and using that baby as an accessory has something to do with it
Yes!!!! It is driving me crazy. And that poor baby (I’m confident that is a doll though, as she/it never moved during the entire interview). But if that is how she normally acts when she is wearing her, that poor baby. That isn’t nurturing or soothing at all. She is so awkward.
They don’t want to talk about the scam because it was so traumatic, yet they felt comfortable enough to make a whole two part series about the whole thing. Ok.
Saying they forgot the promises was extremely tacky in my opinion. I agree with you, they should have said something along the lines of it being a personal and private thing. Not oh we forget. What in the actual heck lol not cool!
My adoption was closed. I am 32 and my parents adopted me at 2 months old. My parents could easily have blown off the promises they made to my birthmother that she requested, but instead they went above and beyond! I can't believe they said they forgot. My mother even wrote my birthmother a note thanking her for the selfless act she made. My parents have always been open with me about my adoption but never made it into a big production like these two. I never have felt any different. My parents didn't struggle with infertility and they had two biological children before adopting me. You would never know by how they treated me and GENUINELY loved/love me that I am not biologically related. P.s. My parents didn't care if I was a boy or a girl and never saw what I looked like until the moment the social worker placed me in their arms at the airport. All they knew was they were getting a Jamaican American baby girl. I was malnourished, dirty and sick and in the home video they still have nothing but love for me in their faces.
My husband and I have been pursuing adoption for just over a year now. We have two biological little girls and still feel this aching like I know I have another baby out there that I just haven't met yet. It's so painful to see the way this couple is talking about adoption. Like they won some prize or something. It's not right. We've been patiently waiting for over a year, still no matches. We've shown to probably 10 cases and have not been chosen. It defiantly feels weird that they got a match within just a few short months of their adoption journey starting. I read your comment and thought it was so beautiful how you talked about your parents. I can only hope and pray that my husband and I get a match someday soon and that baby will feel so loved by us. Just like you with your family. Thanks for sharing!
@@daliasolomon5168for what it’s worth I hope you get a match soon- I have no idea how this all works but even with my very vague information I was surprised that they got through the process so quickly, it’s just not the picture I have built up over hearing of people adopting.
There is more to adoption than just accepting the first baby. You have to agree to the terms of the adoption, along with checking health issues. It is not a simple yes or no, so please don’t spread stupid rumours.
I really wish they hadn’t taken this down. This interview needed to happen! I’m glad you showed it. It was taken down so quickly I didn’t know it was created.
People keep telling her that the baby is lucky? No, Bella, YOU are the lucky one! You’ve been given the greatest gift of all and you can’t even be bothered to remember the promises you made to the birth mother to earn that gift.
She repeats that people comment the baby is lucky to have them as parents because everything is about them. Narcissists! All Mormon’s are so full of themselves
Theory: Abby is intentionally taking down family vloggers from the inside. There have been times where I feel like she sets people up to make fools of themselves. Two faced but for a good cause haha Wouldn’t that be interesting?
I think she has realised just how dangerous and fake family vlogging is. Good for her honestly. Hopefully this message is passed on to Matt and her friends.
Yeah there's something about her that even tho she would typically be kinda annoying...idk there's something that I can't put my finger on...idk for lack of a better word its something slightly redeeming idk hard to explain but she seems like she's a lot smarter than people probably give her credit for or that she might come across as....however that's also not saying much compared to Matt. He's annoying but he's honestly not that bad and I don't think he's as shitty as a lot of others (duh 😅) but idk they used to be a lot more cringey for me but lately not as much but that's probably cos they're so young and still have a lot of maturing to do?
Is it just me or is Bella actually using Story as an accessory? She “wears” her wrapped up tight or dresses her up matching. They don’t know what promises they made because they did NOT make their own book. You know they paid someone to create it for them.
That was my thought, THEY did not write the promises or put the book together. They had the agency or a professional do it. Otherwise you’d be able to give a general idea at least!
@pimmspimms5462 Abby has started to stupidly copy Bella and also wear the wraps. In their last Unplanned Podcast, Augie was turning redder and redder and had his nose crushed up against Abby’s chest. 🙁
It's definitely NOT you. She is fricking relentless. Between that damn mobi wrap and the way she holds her almost by her upper back/neck while her head and other leg is dangling. Ugh. That poor baby. I comment in her posts all the time how she's exploited her baby from the moment she met her, and she's disgusting. I literally have to pause the videos I comment on because I can't stand who she is and what she stands for. Let me stop cause I could go on for hours.
To give Matt a little credit here, you can DEFINITELY tell he does not like the idea that they basically picked a baby based on what it looked like. He’s pressing them in the nicest way he can, but the expressions on his face when they give their answers says it all. “So, was this the first baby you saw?” “No we had passed up others” “oh…” *frowns, shakes his head, and rubs his chin*
Right.?? Absolutely disgusting!! The way people judge on babies looks and won't even adopt them if they're not cute enough is mind blowing!!! Absolutely heartbreaking! If they wanted a baby so badly they would have adopted the first opportunity that they could!
I think this ppl were shopping for a baby and I think they were like "nope we want blue eyes,nope that is boy we want girl", they treated that like any other thing they are buying,if they really want baby they wouldn't care about anything,they would be happy they are having a baby
I bet they turned down male babies. Also, do you remember the scam about the baby mama? They said there case got in the right hands and they wanted her to be charged . They have not said a word about the case. I got a feeling they gave her money, they don't want that out.
It really rubs me the wrong way when they said that there were other offers that 'weren't a good fit.' Translation - they wanted a little white baby that could be passed off as their biological child. Bella wanted to adopt to fulfill her narrative. She wanted to do the Instagram pics and matching outfits like all her friends do. It's very clear from this interview that she doesn't actually care about giving a child a new home, it's all about HER and how SHE finally got what she wanted.
exactly,I think she even said in previous vlogs that she dreams about adopting girl with blue eyes,...so yeah she was definitely shopping for a baby that will look like them,and it is sad because so many families would be happy to adopt no matter what gender,eye color,...
@@Alona2811 You're right, it's so unfortunate that just because they're wealthy they can play a game of 'design a baby.' It just shows that they don't care about giving a child a better life, they just want their little Instagram perfect family to show off. There are so many amazing people who adopt with the intention of helping a child, no matter its race, sex, etc, and Bella is taking away this opportunity from them because she wants to play house.
Absolutely ! It's clear they chose her cus she looks most like them. Which is disgusting because most people adopt to have a baby they couldn't have. They didn't adopt and pick and choose to make sure the baby looks like mom.
It’s always about her. I remember her posting a short on Instagram or TikTok or whatever about how they missed Dallin’s brothers wedding because she wanted to go overseas to see a doctor for her to get pregnant. They could have waited and stayed for his brothers wedding but no they are incredibly selfish and only think about themselves. Pathetic
Honestly as wrong as it seems, some people do have preferences and they allow people to choose what they'd love or want. So that's what happened there. They were okay picking only a white baby with blue eyes like their "dream'". She's allowed to not want to adopt one from China or Africa.
The way she treats that baby is like when you are in high school and you get that doll you don't know what to do with . Only thing is it's not a doll that poor baby I hope they get parenting classes
Yeah it’s very odd. She also seems to treat her baby like a newborn when its clearly not which is kind of weird. I think Dallin seems more normal about it but still weird all around
I disagree with you Josh. I don’t think they are covering up their promises to the birth mother. I think they really can’t remember them because they said an adoption agency helped/coached them with the book. They just told the adopted Mom what she would want to hear. That’s why neither of them can remember because it was all a bunch of BS!
It’s so strange that they got a newborn baby for adoption THAT quickly. They decided they would adopt, had someone made a book / profile for them and then POOF a newborn baby! And not even to foster or foster to adopt, but to adopt? What are the chances?! And I get the “ick” with these people, I always have. They DO NOT seem genuine and I don’t think they are getting the views they hoped for.. and there are many comments calling them out on their TH-cam shorts. A lot of people see through them!
It’s not even a newborn! She hasn’t disclosed the age but the baby is at least 4 months old. I have a 6 week old that looks and acts much younger than story
If you go through an adoption agency, it's possible. They must have already been approved and had all the paperwork in order because they thought they were going to adopt previously. Once a birth mother chooses a family, the process could happen quickly. It happened to family members of mine.
@@kutie216There was a sign in a baby shower video that has her birthday. I'm not going to share the exact date, but she was born at the end of May, so she is indeed four months old. She was almost two months when they adopted her.
Don't get me wrong, I don't like them at all, and I'm not saying money was absolutely not involved, but the same happened to my parents, and they were far from rich. This was 32 years ago. My parents didn't even have the nursery ready when they got the call. They expected to have to wait at least 2-3 years and literally waited a matter of months before getting the call that there was a baby girl that needed a home. So it's not impossible.
I think Abby is a pretty intelligent person, especially in comparison to a lot of other influencers. She seems to have a lot more empathy for the child than Bella and Dallin do.
I have never ever seen a mother carry a baby like bella does, its like she is doing it on purpose. The baby is a total accesory once the baby becomes a toddler and starts to have tantrums it will be a totally different story.
I’m just so confused how bella shows such little maternal/nurturing behavior yet makes being a mom her whole personality. And it was “love at first sight” because Bella knew she could pass her off as her own in public.
In fairness she hasnt had the entire pregnancy and the hormonal shifts that come with pregnancy, birth and post partum. She had 2 weeks of probably intense anxiety waiting for the call, and then had a baby to look after. Its pretty normal in that situation to take a while to adjust
I agree, I don't agree with them on majority of things, but she's definitely in shock/ trying to figure out how to keep this sweet thing alive. You are waking up every hour to two, having to feed and track what's happening, WHILE going through sleep torture.... It's got to be crazy trying to acclimate to the new life so quickly, and with ZERO hormonal help preparing you. Just because they suck doesn't mean she isn't dealing with hell. Howeverrrrrr, I still think they should have fostered to adopt if they truly wanted to be parents. Babies aren't accessories or a "level up" in a relationship or adulthood.
Hi! I’ve learned a lot from your channel about children’s rights and privacy in the internet age. They were things I was already thinking about, but you’ve helped me notice specific things in the content I watch that I was missing. Thank you for that. I do have one comment about your style, take it or leave it. I feel like your digs at people that are more related to appearance or that are just making fun of them for something not so important, compared to a fair critique on their character, I feel like those parts are unnecessary and can water down your message. Which is a really important and impactful message! Hope you will consider this cause it’s really cool what you do. H
Something like the blessed comment was really funny and true though 😂 I think that’s where you shine when you point out something that’s an oh yeah moment.
I can't believe I'm actually saying this, but matt is kind of growing on me.... His facial expressions throughout the podcast and thr questions he was asking definitely made it seem like he was disgusted by them.
Yes! I also feel like he purposefully tried to ask those questions in an innocent or "dumb" way to justify the questions. Because, obviously, "friends" (Matt and Abby) wouldn't ask questions to make their "friends" (Bella and Dallin) uncomfortable. He was asking the stuff that everyone wanted to know so badly and I feel like Abby, based on her facial expressions, was really glad that Matt asked them, because she maybe knew she wouldn't be able to ask them this innocently.
Abby was not okay about the promises thing. I felt so bad for her sitting there highly pregnant, listening to these people who have another woman's baby. Whatever the reason - giving your child to someone else is HUGE! And someone who has kept a child knows.
When I was pregnant I had to stop watching any criminal cases with children in it and I couldn't see adoption stuff either without breaking down crying lol...idk how she sat through all that bullshit.
As a mother of a little girl and #2 on the way this really hits a cord with me…. That poor baby girl is being exploited. Her whole life is online already… what if she grows up and doesn’t want her whole adoption story out there and that poor birth mother can watch it all unfold…. I can’t believe they can’t remember the 5 promises they made the birth mother.
Exactly I have a 4 year old and am 34 weeks pregnant and I don’t even share my children online because it’s a privacy concern and what if they grow up and didn’t want me sharing embarrassing pictures of stories or precious moments online . Children aren’t a extension of you they are their own individual with their own personality and ideas it pisses me off when parents think they can do whatever to them kids just because they gave them life
It sounds EXACTLY like a catholic charities type of situation: I was given up for adoption 35 yrs ago, my mother’s family ‘sent’ her to another state when they found out she was pregnant with me and told her ‘not to come back with THAT baby, if you do you won’t have somewhere to live’. Needless to say I was put up for adoption and lived the best life possible. It was a closed adoption but I made the choice to find her at the age of 18 to see my background (and medical history) I was hoping for a relationship but decided in the end it wasn’t the best mentally for me (I still keep in touch with some of the family but not others). I know for me my birth parents made the best decision because my life is amazing (for the most part LOL). I actually grew up looking just like my parents (adoptive parents but the only parents I know: being a parent doesn’t mean blood- it means who made you the person you are today ) I completely agree with you Josh, there should be a cause that they should not be allowed to put the child online (publicly) for a a select number of years but that’s where it gets tricky).
Everything about Dallen is just not good. Lol the hats, the voice, the dumb face. I didn’t think you were allowed to be Mormon and also dress like a f*boy
If he was a good dude, no one would care. But since we are here, in the comment section below this video, I think we can all agree: His voice is pretty annoying.
Bella reminds me of Serena Joy from The Handmaid’s tale.. She felt so entitled to receive a baby and ends up just using said child as a doll to play house with.
Della made some post about how mohering a new born isnt as hard as everyone made it seem. And no hate on adopting, but the experience of a mother who just gave birth a new born is a little bit different than a mother who did not. She didnt go through a 9 month hormone fueled brain altering experuence and then have a new born. So maybe, della, it feels a little bit easier for you...
They are idiots who are completely removed from reality. Having enough money and resources to offset the sources of commonly felt struggle certainly makes things easier. Their circumstances are wildly different than the average caretaker of a newborn child! Their situation can't be compared to others, especially people who carried and birthed their children, and it's insulting to attempt to do so. They need to shut their mouths about it and stay in their lane. Their lack of understanding what makes their situation different is un-fucking-real and makes them look like morons. I don't have and never want kids, i will never live that life, yet i can still conceptualize what makes it hard and why they have no ground to stand on here! Let's see what makes their situation "not that hard" shall we? -no physical damage to your body, zero recovery physically and/or mentally. -no feeling of loneliness or sadness from lack of support for YOU during your time of healing. No wishing that someone would ask you how YOU'RE doing after a difficult, traumatic, and mutilating experience. -no flood of hormones and altering brain chemistry that change your thoughts, behaviors, and mood, literally altering how you experience life. -no dependency of the child to YOUR BODY, which leads to my next point... -no loss of autonomy or agency to create and sustain the child's life, a major contributor to PPD. -no worry about finances -no worry of maternity leave or other work related issues. Do i have any leave? Is it enough? Will i be ready to go back when it ends? Will i be treated the same when i go back? Will this effect my chances of promotion? Am i going to have to choose between my job and being a parent? -no worries about childcare as related to work or otherwise, there will always be the option for hiring a lot of help for any reason at all. -no frustration or guilt with getting behind on household or business tasks.(due to unlimited access to said help) -not having to breastfeed, which is a full time, 'round the clock job that requires a lot of effort. No issues with under or oversupply. No frustration with a baby that won't latch, or guilt from not being amazing at it or just not wanting to do it anymore. No complications or discomfort that come with breastfeeding, and no restrictions on food or drink that can effect quality and supply. -no sleep deprivation. I don't believe for one second that they don't have a night nurse. -lastly, and this plays into the massive amounts of help they can afford, no feelings of being overwhelmed, not having enough support, or feeling stuck with no options. They can take breaks from parenting whenever they please, and had to sacrifice nothing to become parents. Not their time, not their bodies, not their financial security, not their jobs, not their lifestyle...nothing. These two bringing a baby into their lives is more appropriately compared to someone adopting a cat. Life is different, but also not really, and no shit it isn't that hard because the cat isn't dictating your schedule, altering your livelihood, or interfering with the ability to care for yourself.
Yeah I saw that too. As someone who had a really rough pregnancy, traumatic birth, and then NICU stay on top of that…. It was rough arriving at having our firstborn. Even when she came home, I was recovering from a C-section and the stress of other things happening made it such a rough transition. So for Bella to act like “oh hey it’s not so bad!” Felt like such a slap in the face. She didn’t even acknowledge WHY it’s so much easier for her and acted like it’s just her being effortlessly amazing. Hated that video.
@@SassyUnicorn86a night one I bet because if you're up all night you do not have the energy to go to the gym and all the travel all you want to do with a newborn is faceplate your bed for a straight 8 hours. They're so dishonest it's disgusting and I feel so bad for the birth mother though I suspect its actually been a surrogacy
As an adopted child I am so pissed off at the agency that they went through to get story! They need to have laws and policies in place to better protect the children that are being adopted. I was adopted in 1985 when I was 19-20 months old and it was a closed adoption. My parents were always very open about me being adopted and I really appreciate it! At 19 I did end up finding my birth parents and I am very grateful that I was adopted and that I had the chance to meet my birth parents as well!
I bet you're right. I never even thought of that but that's exactly what a rich entitled princess would do since she's so obsessed with looks . I'm calling it right now that this will end badly for Dalin ,Banks & Story . I hope I'm wrong & she grows up . Maybe losing her Mlm business & some $ will wake her up but I doubt it .She's probably going to just adopt again or get a surrogate to ensure her cash flow on TH-cam. I really want laws in place for these innocent children.
I totally agree. I wonder if it’s because of their “jobs”. They haven’t had to really evolve or mature beyond what teenagers do. It’s so cringey. I cannot imagine any adult watching this content. Their audience has to be 12 years olds.
When my hub and I were talking about our options to become parents because of infertility, He was honest and told me, "I don't think I could connect to a child that wasn't biologically not mine."... I completely respected his feelings because I knew how hard it was for him to be vulnerable and tell me. He didn't want to feel that way, but he did. Women can mother a plant it's just in our nature, but men sometimes can't make that connection. Because of that conversation, I went and did some research, and a lot of men anonymously said that they only adopted because the wife wanted to. They care about the child, but they don't love them. In my opinion, that isn't fair to the child or the man. I don't know what our journey will look like, but I know that adopting isn't on the list of options for us.
My god .. this baby is a prop to them . An accessory! She always has to have matching clothes and matching everything taking their matching photos ! Posing all the time . Never once have I seen a maternal moment from this woman !! It’s so disgusting and oddly disturbing! I hate them so much !! No wonder they deleted this video it’s filled with so many lies it’s unbelievable!
I'm fairly new to the whole TH-cam world but can you save this? I hope you get to see this entire video, it's very telling. I honestly can't stand these people. Mostly Della and dufus , sorry I just can't.
Lets be real, the birth mother watches everything to do with them. I can't imagine how insulting it must be to hear them say they have forgot about the promises they made smh
That's probably a reason why this was deleted because they realized she would most likely see it. Cause I bet she watches everything to be able to see her baby she gave up.
What is also really sad is that she’s probably a very young woman. Maybe even a teenager. Think about having a baby and all those hormonal shifts, being a teenager without a fully developed brain, you’re being given Percocet for pain. And they want you to sign your baby away. Adoption exploits mothers too. Nobody talks about the pain that these poor women go through. Not even fully knowing the gravity of what they’re deciding until it’s over. Did you know that most woman say if they had about $1,500 they would feel confident to keep their baby? Why couldn’t Bella and Dallin just donate to this woman they love so much and help fund her as a mom?
@@Jennwarner1988 I totally agree with you. It is heartbreaking. I think well off people exploit the hardship of people to gain their nice little family while they rip someone elses apart. I'm watching a tv show called Fat Friends at the moment and atm, the storyline is about a older woman who gave up her son for adoption when she was 15 like 30 years ago and even though she is a older woman who's married and has had other kids, she can't get over her loss. That must be what people really feel like
Yeah and that’s not a newborn lol I wore my third in a wrap like that for like… a few weeks. Then he wanted to be put on the floor lol or in his rocker or in our other baby carrier. He was crawling at 4mo and walking at 8mo because he got so much time to move around and get strong… it’s concerning that - I think the baby is like 4mo??? - is in this tight wrap like the baby could go into a regular baby carrier at this point if she really wants to baby wear a lot. But honestly during this whole podcast baby could’ve been on a mat on the floor or just… in her arms if she wanted to sleep/be held. It’s so weird.
I also noticed she’s always talking about how beautiful and cute the baby is. It almost feels like she’s trying to convince herself that the baby is “attractive.” Or that they wouldn’t have picked an “ugly” baby. It gives me a weird vibe.
I know this might be a weird take but Matt would be a really good interviewer. Even if it was just podcasting about subjects that entertained him as opposed to family oriented content it could be pretty good. Not for me but TH-cam proves there's an audience for most things.
They 100% don’t want to share the promises because they don’t want to be held accountable for not holding them up. I remember seeing Bella post a photo and hiding Matt & Abby’s kids but not her own daughter - did she not feel weird about that? I knew they were going to exploit this baby but I can’t believe how much they are exploiting already.
Why do I feel like she has a doll wrapped up in there instead of the actual baby… it just seems weird that you literally can’t see a single part of the baby, not even the head, and it hasn’t made a peep. Seems pretty sus
The more they talk, the more things just don’t add up. I am really starting to think that the “scam” was all a lie to gain sympathy and an offer, from what was probably a subscriber of theirs, for a baby to adopt.
Can you imagine being forced by your parents to give up your baby and then seeing the adoptive parents all over the internet with your baby. 😢 And you know that poor bio mom won’t be allowed to get therapy. Ugh my heart breaks for these poor girls and women who have to go through that.
They would have been better off to say “we want to keep the promises private. Than to say they don’t remember. Made them look vapid, I mean which they are lol
Not a chance between those 2 idiots they couldn’t remember the promises they made. They are terrible liars. Wouldn’t it be like forgetting your wedding vows? And only weeks after you made them?
There are parents ACTUALLY traumatised going back into their nursery after SIDS, miscarriages and still births I really feel like these people are having first world problems.
Josh you a definantly on the right track. My uncle was adopted and his birth mother was a young teenager when she got pregnant and was from a very religious house hold. Her family didn’t want anyone to know that she was pregnant, so they sent her to a young pregnant girls boarding school, where she also gave birth to him. She was forced to put the baby up for adoption and then was brought back home and no one ever spoke of it again. My uncle and his birth mom have reconnected and he learned that she never wanted to give him up, but she had no choice. No one ever found out she was pregnant, the family told everyone that she was studying abroad.
Well you do know what crap is in there....that's one thing I actually agree with doing ...my pets get bottled water...tap water u do know is the same as whats in the cistern in your toilet...
@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx and YOU know that people aren't going down to natural springs and dunking single use containers meant for sale into the water, right? All bottled water comes from a tap of some sort, and many bottled waters share the exact same source as tap water. Shit, more than half of all bottled water is literally packaged tap water from city lines. Potable drinking water comes and goes through different lines and are subject to different treatment standards. (The source may be the same, but in that case it means your toilet water is the same potable quality as your sink water, it's just collected in a toilet, making it undesirable for drinking for obvious reasons.) It is true that not all tap water is created equally, though! Quality, treatment, and source vary greatly, but in modern developed areas your sink water is perfectly safe and kept seperate from waste waters that would pollute the supply. If it's just a matter of preference, enjoy your bottled water, nothing wrong with that! But let's not pretend drinking sink water is the same as sticking a straw into the toilet bowl, or that bottled water springs into existence without a bunch of man made processes to collect, treat, and package it.
Ex Mormon here, I BET they went through a Mormon adoption agency. And honestly josh, I think you’re onto something with the theory of the baby’s mom being a teen. I BET.
Here’s my conspiracy.. Matt edited the video to show the true depiction of Bella and Dallin bc he certainly could’ve edited out the promises part. Bella and Dallin paid them to take down the video but Matt is the one who released it on Reddit. This stirs more views which is what Matt craves and it’s evident from the video that he doesn’t really like Dallin and Bella. Lol Matt is secretly the messy mastermind
I’ll admit over a year ago I came across your chancel when you were talking about the Frost family- at the time I literally thought you were a dick LOL. I at the time really enjoyed the frost family. But man- I kept watching you. & you’ve completely turned my thought process around& my outlook on these family channels. I no longer even post my own kids faces on social media. & I would assume you’ve changed MANY other peoples views also. Keep doing what you’re doing!!! 👏🏼
SAMEEE at first I was like... why does he hate everyone?! But now I see it all so clearly and he's SO RIGHT to be exposing these terrible family channels 💯💯💯💯
I used to watch a few of these families one day DCP popped up and after 5 hours of watching, I unsubscribed to all the family vloggers I followed. I too at first thought he was a complete A-hole. Sorry Josh, I think you're absolutely wonderful all you do to bring awareness to child exploitation.
@@jlp0174let’s not exaggerate. He is doing great work with these family vloggers exploiting their children but I have personally heard him saying 3-4 misogynistic stuff in his channel and many have said he is a homophobe and politically leaning very right.
Bella seems to want a baby, not a child. When the independent toddler years and beyond arrive, she's going to be secretly resentful. She just seems to act like I did with my dolls growing up. Its fun to dress up and hold babies was my thinking as a child and seems to be Bella's as an adult with a real child. She never shows tummy time or floor time. She just holds her with her leg dangling amd babywears all the time. Also, I wonder how many they turned down just because the baby wasn't a girl. Just saying.
Wow that’s VERY eye opening that they don’t remember their 5 promises to the birth mom to fulfill for giving them the gift of life! I also agree she does use the baby as an accessory! It irks me so much!! I want to know why they chose the name “Story” for her. I want to know why?? Not bashing the name just curious on how they got to choosing that name for the baby.
I used to watch them a year ago and even I, for whom English is just my third foreign language, noticed their vocabulary is very limited: they always day something is “cool”, “sick” or “surreal”.
The fact that she is using that comment about “wow you look so amazing! How do you look like this how old is your baby?!?!” As a flex is so gross. Stop it.
Much of this video sickens me. But one of the biggest things that rubbed me the wrong way is that they turned down babies before Story because they “weren’t a right fit” for their family. WTF? What would not make a baby the right fit? Its race? Its gender? The fact the birth mom wouldn’t have been okay with family vlogging? Just ick. And omg you can soooo tell that they knew exactly what those promises were but didn’t want to say them out loud. I feel so bad for Story and her birth mom. My heart hurts for them.
Babies with special needs are often harder to place. Sometimes, it's because a couple legitimately can't afford the medical bills involved to give that child proper care. Sometimes, it's because people just don't want to deal with that and will wait for a "perfect" fit.
Real talk ..how tf do you leave a kid in the car and then realize two hours later? How are you in the store for two hours when you don't have a kid slowing you down? As a former drug user, the whole thing screams drug use to me
In adoption profiles, the promises are usually very non-committal. For example. "We will raise this child to know and love God's grace" or "We will ensure this child always knows your story and the love and selflessness you displayed for her" or "She will always have a safe place to live where she is lived unconditionally." They aren't typically actually commitments, for the very reason that agents know parents are not likely to follow through with things.
As a mother of an adopted child, the biggest thing you have to realize going into adoption is that it is NOT about you. It is about loving a bio family (every situation is different of course), and not making adoption the child’s identity. My son is my son, and his story may be different, but he is my son. Not my “adopted” son, not the son I “chose,” not the one who is “lucky.” When you choose to adopt, you choose to say yes (again, there are many aspects of this, and you can have boundaries) to a child regardless of race, gender, etc. Again, it’s not about you and getting the designer child you want.
it looks like she's holding a doll, that baby is wrapped too tightly, her head can't even move! I don't think the baby moved one bit the entire video...
Please do everything in your power to keep this up so I can watch it after work 😂 I have a feeling they will try to get this removed. There’s a reason they took this down, won’t reupload and haven’t addressed it
Im just throwing out guesses here but based off the entire conversation during this podcast, I wouldn’t be surprised if Matt lost respect for Dallin and Bella. I think he playfully called them out several times. I would guess this podcast got taken down because dallin and Bella felt attacked and called out for all their lies and selfishness which probably caused all the first comments upon posting to be the same.
The AUDACITY and STUPIDITY for them to say they want to protect the birth mother and not regard the privacy of their daughter is beyond a joke. My jaw literally dropped when I heard them say that.
Notice how all they say about the baby is how cute she is, what an angel. Nothing meaningful, only superficial. She is their accessory and you can bet if the child didn’t have characteristics similar to theirs, they would’ve looked for another baby to buy, I mean adopt.
To be completely honest, if someone is not aware of (or doesn't believe) how exploitative "family vlogging" is, unfortunately I can see the appeal of placing your baby with an "influencer couple" who aspire to be "family vloggers". When you place a baby under normal circumstances you only have a small picture of the prospective family's financial and living situation, how they interact with each other, etc... and once the ink dries on those adoption papers, no matter what level of openness you've agreed to, there's no obligation on the adoptive parents' part to ever allow you to visit or even see a photo of the baby you gave birth to ever again. If you're young, naive, scared, unsure of your decision, etc, this could easily cause a false sense of security, feeling like you know the family that your child will end up with, feeling like even if they close the adoption you can still watch your child grow up in what feels like real time, etc.
If you’re sitting down…. Talking…. You don’t need to have her wrapped. I wrap or put mine in a carrier if I have to do things around the house. When I sit down, I take her out.
this entire story is so hard for me to watch. I was adopted from teen parents by a wealthy over privileged, abusive, mentally ill couple who had been rejected from all of their local and state adoption agencies in their home state. So they just moved to a different state for the adoption where of distant family member lived in New # about a teen who was pregnant. (my birth mom) the story i’ve gathered now as a adult is that my birth moms parents were adimit she give up the baby (me) to my adoptive parents because their was big $ involved. and she was pressured into it as a teen kid. then my adoptive parents basically made a purchase of a “white female attractive baby”. literally the phrase used multiple times. smh. they were extremely raciest and discriminatory people. and i was used as a prop and piece of property by them for my entire life! and they used their money, local power and high powered friends to exploit me and put me on display. i had no privacy and no voice. i was abused both physically and mentally. i was forced into child modeling in the early 80s and 90s you can imagine how sick and toxic that industry was then. i started being drugged by my father with hardcore opiates as a tiny kid around 6, prior to that it had been alcohol. i was forced into opiate dependencey as a form of control and to make me a brainless zombie kid so my mentally ill adoptive mother would have a easier time controlling my emotions and actions and she would leave my adoptive dad alone about me. he was tired of phone calls at work or parties from my crazy mom screaming about me. I was an absolute hard-core people pleaser, and went out of my way to try and make them happy as to avoid abuse and the mental torture from them. it took me decades to get help into therapy and get off opiates. it still to this day is a puzzle i’m working on piecing together. but watching this couple’s channel has really effected me. they are so similar in some ways to my own parents. i don’t think they are as bad as all that but they have a similar mindset of the baby being a accessory and cash cow and she’s not a human being she’s s piece of property to them. 😢😢😢
I’m so sorry for what you experienced as a child. No child should have to suffer like that at the hands of their own parents no less 😢 I’m glad you are working through it now and I wish you the best on your journey to recovery 💕🙏
I agree, Josh. I can not believe if they were that desperate to have a kid that they rejected a couple of other kids. So they weren't that 'desperate'. The way they hold Story freaks me out and I am not even a parent. Her poor neck. 😅
Am I the only one who thinks Bella lacks maternal instinct? Like she is behaving more like an aunt of the baby? I just had my first baby 5 months ago, and the way she is behaving is exactly how I behaved holding my niece.. It's COMPLETELY different when you get your own child.. Or am I wrong?
Idk I was super lovey over nieces and nephews just like I am over cats and dogs or anything innocent and little that needs protection in the world. But I’ve heard it’s even more so with your own but this Bella comes off as a fake user that’s just exploiting that poor innocent child. People that can’t love a child like their own have no business adopting though that’s for sure.
Yesss! Was waiting for somebody to start covering „Story Belle“ and her parents. I mean she literally named her „Story“ - as in „this is my new story content“ and has nobody told her how to wrap a baby? How to wear her properly in a carrier? She wanted a child so badly she didn’t do any research? Has all that money to buy matching outfits for her and her baby(!) but cannot find a midwife or baby wrap consultant who will show her how to do this? Or even a doula? Really? And I agree on her singing voice - apart from the goat. Goats are not at fault for these horrible examples of grown up kids playing house.
Yeah all of that and what also stuck in my brain was when she was packing baby clothes when they were going to pick her up,she packed everything with tags, straight from the plastic wraps not washed and dressed her in that not washed things moment she was with them
@@Alona2811 Yessss! I noticed that as well! I wonder if she even read ONE book on parenthood and infants… It clearly doesn’t look like it. And since no one in her family knew she was serious about adoption - not a single person gave her advice. It‘s almost comedic how clueless she is.. I hope nobody ever comes to her and her videos for advice.
@Ninitschga yeah totally agree, she is definitely clueless abut infants how to care about them or parenthood in general, she wanted a child just becouse ppl around her started having kids and all her influncer friends started doing family content and she actually acted like a envious kid that didn't got Barbie doll all her friends got and she didn't stop until she got one,just the way she carelessly hold that poor baby or how she straps that kid around her that it looks like kid will suffocate, it is like she is living her fantasy doing all the trands from making mom drinks to matching outfits etc.Sad because those ppl are clearly not ready to be parents,they are way to selfish and self centered and this child was just latest caprice she had to have,and I dont want to think how will she treat that kid when she get bored of being parent and kid become nuisances
Matt’s facial expressions during this whole interview though. I think in his mind he’s battling wether he should stay friends with these clowns or not because he knows the views they bring in that benefit him, but in all honesty he looks disgusted
With the Christian birth thing. My aunt got pregnant at 13 no one really knew about it because my grandma and grandpa sent her away until she gave birth and the baby was put up for adoption. Something went wrong and she was never able to have another child. My dad was younger than her and he didn’t even know why she was sent away till many years later. It’s terrible that it’s still happening
Your reactions to the people you cover are priceless…you never cease to make me laugh. I feel so “blessed” 😂 to watch your content…life changing..hahaha…
Josh the reason they had to delete it is because if Matt and Abby would have deleted just that part of the promises people would have picked up on that and still call it out… if they delete the whole thing then people can just speculate why they deleted it…. And they can lie why they REALLY deleted it
This is WILD!! Haha they totally deleted this because their lies were exposed. Everything Dallin and Bella put out feels scripted and off-putting. It’s crazy to see them getting caught exposing their own lies 😂
Bella makes me sick she’s so fixated on the babies looks and treating her like a accessory it’s quite frightening!! How people like this are allowed to adopt and exploit straight away, I definitely think there’s going to be a lawsuit once this little girl becomes of age her whole life exposed to whole entire world,because she looks exactly like Bella envisioned she was worthy of a home,as for Abbie slandering other family vloggers on there name choices but sitting her with her friends and they named they child story okay then lol why do these people even get paid 😅
What’s going to happen if Story is some how not perfect when she grows up? Just can’t imagine them being genuinely supportive off screen and shitballs if she’s a member of the lgbtq+ community! Bet organic hand crafted food & clothing and homeschooling will be high on the list of must do’s + employing a multi lingual nanny.
Matt and Abby, your “friends” are straight up lying to you. They “don’t remember promises they made to the most important woman in their life?” Wow. Disgusting.
I know someone who either wore or wrapped their baby all the time & baby got pneumonia bc his lungs didn’t get to expand all the way. I think baby wearing is great but this looks wrong.
The fact they chose her case bc she was a cute baby to them for their videos. Most disgusting thing ever. Anyone else really wanting a baby would take the first case given to them! Not pick and choose which baby is the cutest to adopt. They are the worst humans ever
It’s kinda hard to hide from your kid that they’re adopted when you’ve posted it all over the internet. I really hope she doesn’t get bullied because of all of the stuff they post about her online, not taking into consideration that it’s there forever.
Ok why in the h*ll does she keep patting the baby. She’s not crying so doesn’t need soothing. Why is she dressed like Mary Mary quite contrary. With the yellow gingham frock yellow headband.
I get the impression Matt and Abby thought this could be an opportunity for Dellavlogs to educate people on adoption and show the amazing side of adoption....but ended up learning that how they went about their adoption was icky...
I get the impression that Matt and Abby invited them into their podcast to set them up for failure. Is it possible that they know exactly how Story will be and is being exploited and they don't like it? Matt and Abby surely aren't perfect, but they seem a lot more honest and mature than Bella and Dallin (in my opinion)
I’m 42, adopted, knew forever I was adopted. My parents NEVER made it seem like they “saved” me. I know the situation I was born into and the privilege I was adopted into. I put the dots together. My parents were just open and I as I got older, I asked questions. I have a strong feeling they will make themselves the “savior” to their kids. My parents addressed everything just in facts and details. And I honestly think that was best. It wasn’t that I was a child of a 16 year old and was adopted by a family that could provide so much more. I literally forgot at times I was adopted. I just feel like this adoption story is going to be their “thing”, just like the DD. I love adoption and think it’s amazing. But if you truly love your adopted kids, (and my parents never ever talked about me like that), you won’t make it a non stop topic of conversation. Period.
Exactly! The children aren't the storyline & the parents aren't "saviors". My best friend in school was adopted and her parents were open about it with her. They just kept it matter of fact style and just loved my best friend every day.
Hey ,we have something in common., Both my brother (adopted from another mother) and i were told about our circumstances as soon as we were old enough to understand.We were told we were specially chosen ,not "saved" too ,which has been such a lovely memory as i`ve gotten older. Like you i rarely think about it ,only really when i`m with a dr and asked about family medical history. LOve hearing you talk about your experience.We both got very lucky.Xox
Your story is heart warming. My husband was adopted in 1946 by wonderful parents. The birth mom’s father was a minister that sent her away when she got pregnant in college. My husband’s parents received a call from their doctor that a baby had been born and did they want him. They picked him up directly from the hospital. He always knew he was adopted and chose to meet his birth mother when he was 60. We thanked her for bringing him into the world and let her know he had a wonderful life. She was relieved to tell her story and hear he wasn’t mad at her. In 1946 it would have been very difficult for a single mom to raise a child when the dad ran & without family support.
@@texasproud8822Such a beautiful story!! Adoption is truly amazing 💕
@@Joy-qw3wmI love it! 💕
Shame on Bella and Dallin. They made promises to the birth mother and won her faith, to raise her daughter, on the basis of them. How can they fulfil the promises if - only a few months after making them - they have already forgotten what the promises were? It tells me that the promises were not sincerely meant. The birth mother has been severely misled and manipulated. 😔
Oh that would be terrible if they meant so little they don't remember. I thought they probably just didn't want to tell them so people didn't call them out
They said what they needed to to get what they want.
You wouldn’t forget something as important as the promises… unless they were never important to you!! You’re right that the mother’s been swindled.
@Ashley-tf4zd Dallin & Bella say in the video that they can’t remember the promises.
@YellowFlowers-hd7cu right but like I said I figured they probably lied because if they said them out loud then people would come for them...
Matt can be annoying but he’s asking the questions we want to hear the answers to 😂 not only did he ask what the five promises were, but reiterated the fact that they can’t even remember the five most important things 😂
Matt lives for the drams for sure lol. Luckily with guests on the podcast, it’s not at Abby’s expense. It’s a win win for them. They should have influencers on and just sneak diss them hahaha
I also think these guys aren't as close friends as they say they are online tbh especially based off all their body languages and particularly Matt, Abby and Dallin's facial expressions...there was silent judging going on there for sure.
Yep, he's on to them
yes😂😂😂😂😂
@@strawberrykatnzI think they've grown distant from each other for sure. And I think the adoption and using that baby as an accessory has something to do with it
She pats the baby with such frantic energy - it isn’t soothing at all. It’s like she’s just snorted a line of coke or something.
Yes!!!! It is driving me crazy. And that poor baby (I’m confident that is a doll though, as she/it never moved during the entire interview). But if that is how she normally acts when she is wearing her, that poor baby. That isn’t nurturing or soothing at all. She is so awkward.
@@kelleyatcthe baby never moved because the wrap looks wayyyy too tight lol
They don’t want to talk about the scam because it was so traumatic, yet they felt comfortable enough to make a whole two part series about the whole thing. Ok.
THIS
They should’ve just said their promises to the birth mom are private/personal instead of saying “I forget” 😂😂
Right?! They must not have been prepared for that question!
They forgot their promises because they didn’t write the book, someone else probably wrote it!
Saying they forgot the promises was extremely tacky in my opinion. I agree with you, they should have said something along the lines of it being a personal and private thing. Not oh we forget. What in the actual heck lol not cool!
Agreed, Or "We aren't allowed to share"
Wow that's horrible they replied that
My adoption was closed. I am 32 and my parents adopted me at 2 months old. My parents could easily have blown off the promises they made to my birthmother that she requested, but instead they went above and beyond! I can't believe they said they forgot. My mother even wrote my birthmother a note thanking her for the selfless act she made. My parents have always been open with me about my adoption but never made it into a big production like these two. I never have felt any different. My parents didn't struggle with infertility and they had two biological children before adopting me. You would never know by how they treated me and GENUINELY loved/love me that I am not biologically related.
P.s. My parents didn't care if I was a boy or a girl and never saw what I looked like until the moment the social worker placed me in their arms at the airport. All they knew was they were getting a Jamaican American baby girl. I was malnourished, dirty and sick and in the home video they still have nothing but love for me in their faces.
That is such a beautiful story 🥺
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Such a sweet story, I'm 36 no kids but I'd love a child. I wouldn't care what race or gender looks don't matter!
My husband and I have been pursuing adoption for just over a year now. We have two biological little girls and still feel this aching like I know I have another baby out there that I just haven't met yet.
It's so painful to see the way this couple is talking about adoption. Like they won some prize or something. It's not right. We've been patiently waiting for over a year, still no matches. We've shown to probably 10 cases and have not been chosen. It defiantly feels weird that they got a match within just a few short months of their adoption journey starting.
I read your comment and thought it was so beautiful how you talked about your parents. I can only hope and pray that my husband and I get a match someday soon and that baby will feel so loved by us. Just like you with your family. Thanks for sharing!
@@daliasolomon5168for what it’s worth I hope you get a match soon- I have no idea how this all works but even with my very vague information I was surprised that they got through the process so quickly, it’s just not the picture I have built up over hearing of people adopting.
The fact they TURNED DOWN OTHER BABIES. After acting like they had NO opportunities. That is INSANE. To choose a baby off of LOOKS.
There is more to adoption than just accepting the first baby. You have to agree to the terms of the adoption, along with checking health issues. It is not a simple yes or no, so please don’t spread stupid rumours.
@@63dkw very true point, however its quite a big coincidence that the "right baby" was blond hair, blue eyes.
Was wondering about that.....
I really wish they hadn’t taken this down. This interview needed to happen! I’m glad you showed it. It was taken down so quickly I didn’t know it was created.
People keep telling her that the baby is lucky? No, Bella, YOU are the lucky one! You’ve been given the greatest gift of all and you can’t even be bothered to remember the promises you made to the birth mother to earn that gift.
Or wrap that baby properly lmao
That's sad to think about
She repeats that people comment the baby is lucky to have them as parents because everything is about them. Narcissists! All Mormon’s are so full of themselves
I honestly don't think there's a baby in there on her chest. I want proof. I'm so upset.
Theory: Abby is intentionally taking down family vloggers from the inside. There have been times where I feel like she sets people up to make fools of themselves. Two faced but for a good cause haha Wouldn’t that be interesting?
Yes!
Yes their whole ‘friendship’ gives me weird vibes!
I think she has realised just how dangerous and fake family vlogging is. Good for her honestly. Hopefully this message is passed on to Matt and her friends.
😂 That is funny to think about
Yeah there's something about her that even tho she would typically be kinda annoying...idk there's something that I can't put my finger on...idk for lack of a better word its something slightly redeeming idk hard to explain but she seems like she's a lot smarter than people probably give her credit for or that she might come across as....however that's also not saying much compared to Matt. He's annoying but he's honestly not that bad and I don't think he's as shitty as a lot of others (duh 😅) but idk they used to be a lot more cringey for me but lately not as much but that's probably cos they're so young and still have a lot of maturing to do?
Is it just me or is Bella actually using Story as an accessory? She “wears” her wrapped up tight or dresses her up matching.
They don’t know what promises they made because they did NOT make their own book. You know they paid someone to create it for them.
The body wrap terrifies me. Babies have suffocated in them and you can see that, when Bella wears it, she completely covers Story’s face and nose.
That was my thought, THEY did not write the promises or put the book together. They had the agency or a professional do it. Otherwise you’d be able to give a general idea at least!
@pimmspimms5462 Abby has started to stupidly copy Bella and also wear the wraps. In their last Unplanned Podcast, Augie was turning redder and redder and had his nose crushed up against Abby’s chest. 🙁
@pimmspimms5462 yeah you're not supposed to cover the babies face. That should be common sense. They have her face and head way too covered
It's definitely NOT you. She is fricking relentless. Between that damn mobi wrap and the way she holds her almost by her upper back/neck while her head and other leg is dangling. Ugh. That poor baby. I comment in her posts all the time how she's exploited her baby from the moment she met her, and she's disgusting. I literally have to pause the videos I comment on because I can't stand who she is and what she stands for. Let me stop cause I could go on for hours.
To give Matt a little credit here, you can DEFINITELY tell he does not like the idea that they basically picked a baby based on what it looked like. He’s pressing them in the nicest way he can, but the expressions on his face when they give their answers says it all. “So, was this the first baby you saw?” “No we had passed up others” “oh…” *frowns, shakes his head, and rubs his chin*
Right.?? Absolutely disgusting!! The way people judge on babies looks and won't even adopt them if they're not cute enough is mind blowing!!! Absolutely heartbreaking! If they wanted a baby so badly they would have adopted the first opportunity that they could!
And he did catch on.. like “those promises… the thing you just said was the most important thing… and now you forget?” Uncomfortable.
He kept pushing for those promises, those two dopes were tripping over themselves with nonsensical lies. The whole timeline is off and very telling.
I think this ppl were shopping for a baby and I think they were like "nope we want blue eyes,nope that is boy we want girl", they treated that like any other thing they are buying,if they really want baby they wouldn't care about anything,they would be happy they are having a baby
I bet they turned down male babies. Also, do you remember the scam about the baby mama? They said there case got in the right hands and they wanted her to be charged . They have not said a word about the case. I got a feeling they gave her money, they don't want that out.
"Story" is not a name, it is a literal description of what she means to these people. She is just a story they make, an accessoire for them.
Exactly! She is the content for their IG- and YT- Stories. And videos. And IG Feed. And everything else. It‘s their new little cash cow.
I work with kids and have met a few little girls names Stori /Story. I understand it’s not for everyone
Went to school with a girl named Stori. I agree with ya, she had to explain her name every min of her life. No thanks.
Dumb name
Money grab is her middle name lol
It really rubs me the wrong way when they said that there were other offers that 'weren't a good fit.' Translation - they wanted a little white baby that could be passed off as their biological child. Bella wanted to adopt to fulfill her narrative. She wanted to do the Instagram pics and matching outfits like all her friends do. It's very clear from this interview that she doesn't actually care about giving a child a new home, it's all about HER and how SHE finally got what she wanted.
exactly,I think she even said in previous vlogs that she dreams about adopting girl with blue eyes,...so yeah she was definitely shopping for a baby that will look like them,and it is sad because so many families would be happy to adopt no matter what gender,eye color,...
@@Alona2811 You're right, it's so unfortunate that just because they're wealthy they can play a game of 'design a baby.' It just shows that they don't care about giving a child a better life, they just want their little Instagram perfect family to show off. There are so many amazing people who adopt with the intention of helping a child, no matter its race, sex, etc, and Bella is taking away this opportunity from them because she wants to play house.
Absolutely ! It's clear they chose her cus she looks most like them. Which is disgusting because most people adopt to have a baby they couldn't have. They didn't adopt and pick and choose to make sure the baby looks like mom.
It’s always about her. I remember her posting a short on Instagram or TikTok or whatever about how they missed Dallin’s brothers wedding because she wanted to go overseas to see a doctor for her to get pregnant. They could have waited and stayed for his brothers wedding but no they are incredibly selfish and only think about themselves. Pathetic
Honestly as wrong as it seems, some people do have preferences and they allow people to choose what they'd love or want. So that's what happened there. They were okay picking only a white baby with blue eyes like their "dream'". She's allowed to not want to adopt one from China or Africa.
The way she treats that baby is like when you are in high school and you get that doll you don't know what to do with . Only thing is it's not a doll that poor baby I hope they get parenting classes
She acts like a nanny 🤦♀️😂
Yeah it’s very odd. She also seems to treat her baby like a newborn when its clearly not which is kind of weird. I think Dallin seems more normal about it but still weird all around
HAAAA, that is so on par. She really does treat that baby like a 14 year old with a mechanical baby
@@trialsemail2I nanny I wouldn’t want 😳. But, yes!!!
@@kutie216She looks small like a new born. 🤷🏼♀️
I disagree with you Josh. I don’t think they are covering up their promises to the birth mother. I think they really can’t remember them because they said an adoption agency helped/coached them with the book. They just told the adopted Mom what she would want to hear. That’s why neither of them can remember because it was all a bunch of BS!
I think so too I don't think they made the promises that's why they can't remember them!
It’s so strange that they got a newborn baby for adoption THAT quickly. They decided they would adopt, had someone made a book / profile for them and then POOF a newborn baby! And not even to foster or foster to adopt, but to adopt? What are the chances?! And I get the “ick” with these people, I always have. They DO NOT seem genuine and I don’t think they are getting the views they hoped for.. and there are many comments calling them out on their TH-cam shorts. A lot of people see through them!
It’s not even a newborn! She hasn’t disclosed the age but the baby is at least 4 months old. I have a 6 week old that looks and acts much younger than story
Money was def involved
If you go through an adoption agency, it's possible. They must have already been approved and had all the paperwork in order because they thought they were going to adopt previously. Once a birth mother chooses a family, the process could happen quickly. It happened to family members of mine.
@@kutie216There was a sign in a baby shower video that has her birthday. I'm not going to share the exact date, but she was born at the end of May, so she is indeed four months old. She was almost two months when they adopted her.
Don't get me wrong, I don't like them at all, and I'm not saying money was absolutely not involved, but the same happened to my parents, and they were far from rich. This was 32 years ago. My parents didn't even have the nursery ready when they got the call. They expected to have to wait at least 2-3 years and literally waited a matter of months before getting the call that there was a baby girl that needed a home. So it's not impossible.
Matt is asking questions that make me think he knows they are bullshitting. 😂
Oh, he knows!
Maybe this will help Matt and Abby re-examine the friendship.
Exactly!!!!😂
Lmao
No - Matt is just not sharp lol
All of Matt’s little remarks throughout this video is what did it 😂😂😂 he was calling them out very subtly
Yep!
Yes he does. And the looks.
Matt doesn’t actually like them, and that says a lot about them!
Abby's face when they say they don't even know. She knows they know and is feeling so awkward about it lol
I think Abby is a pretty intelligent person, especially in comparison to a lot of other influencers. She seems to have a lot more empathy for the child than Bella and Dallin do.
@@thecatcat4537 I agree, It's kind of weird to me that they are still close friend with Della! They are really weird and awful
I have never ever seen a mother carry a baby like bella does, its like she is doing it on purpose. The baby is a total accesory once the baby becomes a toddler and starts to have tantrums it will be a totally different story.
Pun intended or not? 😂 “totally different Story” lol
Yeah as soon as the kid has their own thoughts and opinions, they’re done lol
@@hayleytarnasky6654 I get it, and I don't think so. 🤣
Am I the only one that thinks it looks like a fake baby?
A totally different story lol that’s great but my thing is who names their kid story 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m just so confused how bella shows such little maternal/nurturing behavior yet makes being a mom her whole personality. And it was “love at first sight” because Bella knew she could pass her off as her own in public.
She's very awkward with the baby.
In fairness she hasnt had the entire pregnancy and the hormonal shifts that come with pregnancy, birth and post partum. She had 2 weeks of probably intense anxiety waiting for the call, and then had a baby to look after. Its pretty normal in that situation to take a while to adjust
I agree, I don't agree with them on majority of things, but she's definitely in shock/ trying to figure out how to keep this sweet thing alive.
You are waking up every hour to two, having to feed and track what's happening, WHILE going through sleep torture....
It's got to be crazy trying to acclimate to the new life so quickly, and with ZERO hormonal help preparing you.
Just because they suck doesn't mean she isn't dealing with hell.
Howeverrrrrr, I still think they should have fostered to adopt if they truly wanted to be parents. Babies aren't accessories or a "level up" in a relationship or adulthood.
I'm 40, I don't have any kids, I don't want kids, and I can hold a baby more natural than that.
Hi! I’ve learned a lot from your channel about children’s rights and privacy in the internet age. They were things I was already thinking about, but you’ve helped me notice specific things in the content I watch that I was missing. Thank you for that.
I do have one comment about your style, take it or leave it. I feel like your digs at people that are more related to appearance or that are just making fun of them for something not so important, compared to a fair critique on their character, I feel like those parts are unnecessary and can water down your message. Which is a really important and impactful message! Hope you will consider this cause it’s really cool what you do.
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Something like the blessed comment was really funny and true though 😂 I think that’s where you shine when you point out something that’s an oh yeah moment.
I agree. And on the way he is criticizing their looks, etc
I can't believe I'm actually saying this, but matt is kind of growing on me.... His facial expressions throughout the podcast and thr questions he was asking definitely made it seem like he was disgusted by them.
Yes! I also feel like he purposefully tried to ask those questions in an innocent or "dumb" way to justify the questions. Because, obviously, "friends" (Matt and Abby) wouldn't ask questions to make their "friends" (Bella and Dallin) uncomfortable. He was asking the stuff that everyone wanted to know so badly and I feel like Abby, based on her facial expressions, was really glad that Matt asked them, because she maybe knew she wouldn't be able to ask them this innocently.
Matt was making digs all the way through that interview. Love it
He always does. Every video. 😂
Abby was not okay about the promises thing. I felt so bad for her sitting there highly pregnant, listening to these people who have another woman's baby. Whatever the reason - giving your child to someone else is HUGE! And someone who has kept a child knows.
100%!!!!!!!!!! That would boil my blood, pregnant and ready to pop. Messed up, at least LIE and say it's personal between them and the mom!
When I was pregnant I had to stop watching any criminal cases with children in it and I couldn't see adoption stuff either without breaking down crying lol...idk how she sat through all that bullshit.
As a mother of a little girl and #2 on the way this really hits a cord with me…. That poor baby girl is being exploited. Her whole life is online already… what if she grows up and doesn’t want her whole adoption story out there and that poor birth mother can watch it all unfold…. I can’t believe they can’t remember the 5 promises they made the birth mother.
I want to puke. I'm doubting that she even has a baby in that wrap.
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Hope it's going well! ❤
Exactly I have a 4 year old and am 34 weeks pregnant and I don’t even share my children online because it’s a privacy concern and what if they grow up and didn’t want me sharing embarrassing pictures of stories or precious moments online . Children aren’t a extension of you they are their own individual with their own personality and ideas it pisses me off when parents think they can do whatever to them kids just because they gave them life
They remember the promises. Like Matt said, they just don’t want to tell everyone. They obviously don’t like accountability!
It sounds EXACTLY like a catholic charities type of situation: I was given up for adoption 35 yrs ago, my mother’s family ‘sent’ her to another state when they found out she was pregnant with me and told her ‘not to come back with THAT baby, if you do you won’t have somewhere to live’. Needless to say I was put up for adoption and lived the best life possible. It was a closed adoption but I made the choice to find her at the age of 18 to see my background (and medical history) I was hoping for a relationship but decided in the end it wasn’t the best mentally for me (I still keep in touch with some of the family but not others). I know for me my birth parents made the best decision because my life is amazing (for the most part LOL).
I actually grew up looking just like my parents (adoptive parents but the only parents I know: being a parent doesn’t mean blood- it means who made you the person you are today )
I completely agree with you Josh, there should be a cause that they should not be allowed to put the child online (publicly) for a a select number of years but that’s where it gets tricky).
This is a PERFECT example of nothing is ever truely deleted off this internet and why not to post children.
Good lordddd, Josh, the way you feel about Abby’s voice is the way I feel about Dallen’s. It just absolutely grates my ears
100% agree with this
Yes!!! He has a major speech impediment, which makes me feel bad for saying it's hard to listen to him...but he's just a goober.
Everything about Dallen is just not good. Lol the hats, the voice, the dumb face. I didn’t think you were allowed to be Mormon and also dress like a f*boy
So nasally 😂
If he was a good dude, no one would care. But since we are here, in the comment section below this video, I think we can all agree: His voice is pretty annoying.
Bella reminds me of Serena Joy from The Handmaid’s tale.. She felt so entitled to receive a baby and ends up just using said child as a doll to play house with.
Omg right?!!
Della made some post about how mohering a new born isnt as hard as everyone made it seem. And no hate on adopting, but the experience of a mother who just gave birth a new born is a little bit different than a mother who did not. She didnt go through a 9 month hormone fueled brain altering experuence and then have a new born. So maybe, della, it feels a little bit easier for you...
They are idiots who are completely removed from reality. Having enough money and resources to offset the sources of commonly felt struggle certainly makes things easier. Their circumstances are wildly different than the average caretaker of a newborn child! Their situation can't be compared to others, especially people who carried and birthed their children, and it's insulting to attempt to do so. They need to shut their mouths about it and stay in their lane. Their lack of understanding what makes their situation different is un-fucking-real and makes them look like morons. I don't have and never want kids, i will never live that life, yet i can still conceptualize what makes it hard and why they have no ground to stand on here! Let's see what makes their situation "not that hard" shall we?
-no physical damage to your body, zero recovery physically and/or mentally.
-no feeling of loneliness or sadness from lack of support for YOU during your time of healing. No wishing that someone would ask you how YOU'RE doing after a difficult, traumatic, and mutilating experience.
-no flood of hormones and altering brain chemistry that change your thoughts, behaviors, and mood, literally altering how you experience life.
-no dependency of the child to YOUR BODY, which leads to my next point...
-no loss of autonomy or agency to create and sustain the child's life, a major contributor to PPD.
-no worry about finances
-no worry of maternity leave or other work related issues. Do i have any leave? Is it enough? Will i be ready to go back when it ends? Will i be treated the same when i go back? Will this effect my chances of promotion? Am i going to have to choose between my job and being a parent?
-no worries about childcare as related to work or otherwise, there will always be the option for hiring a lot of help for any reason at all.
-no frustration or guilt with getting behind on household or business tasks.(due to unlimited access to said help)
-not having to breastfeed, which is a full time, 'round the clock job that requires a lot of effort. No issues with under or oversupply. No frustration with a baby that won't latch, or guilt from not being amazing at it or just not wanting to do it anymore. No complications or discomfort that come with breastfeeding, and no restrictions on food or drink that can effect quality and supply.
-no sleep deprivation. I don't believe for one second that they don't have a night nurse.
-lastly, and this plays into the massive amounts of help they can afford, no feelings of being overwhelmed, not having enough support, or feeling stuck with no options. They can take breaks from parenting whenever they please, and had to sacrifice nothing to become parents. Not their time, not their bodies, not their financial security, not their jobs, not their lifestyle...nothing.
These two bringing a baby into their lives is more appropriately compared to someone adopting a cat. Life is different, but also not really, and no shit it isn't that hard because the cat isn't dictating your schedule, altering your livelihood, or interfering with the ability to care for yourself.
Yeah I saw that too. As someone who had a really rough pregnancy, traumatic birth, and then NICU stay on top of that…. It was rough arriving at having our firstborn.
Even when she came home, I was recovering from a C-section and the stress of other things happening made it such a rough transition.
So for Bella to act like “oh hey it’s not so bad!” Felt like such a slap in the face. She didn’t even acknowledge WHY it’s so much easier for her and acted like it’s just her being effortlessly amazing. Hated that video.
They've got a nanny
I'm adopted and my adoptive mother didn't bond with me at all so that was nice growing up.
@@SassyUnicorn86a night one I bet because if you're up all night you do not have the energy to go to the gym and all the travel all you want to do with a newborn is faceplate your bed for a straight 8 hours. They're so dishonest it's disgusting and I feel so bad for the birth mother though I suspect its actually been a surrogacy
As an adopted child I am so pissed off at the agency that they went through to get story! They need to have laws and policies in place to better protect the children that are being adopted. I was adopted in 1985 when I was 19-20 months old and it was a closed adoption. My parents were always very open about me being adopted and I really appreciate it! At 19 I did end up finding my birth parents and I am very grateful that I was adopted and that I had the chance to meet my birth parents as well!
They can’t recall the promises because they paid the “consultant” to make the book and promises. They have no idea what was in there …
I bet you're right. I never even thought of that but that's exactly what a rich entitled princess would do since she's so obsessed with looks . I'm calling it right now that this will end badly for Dalin ,Banks & Story . I hope I'm wrong & she grows up . Maybe losing her Mlm business & some $ will wake her up but I doubt it .She's probably going to just adopt again or get a surrogate to ensure her cash flow on TH-cam. I really want laws in place for these innocent children.
I admit i am older. I just dont understand why they act like they are stuck at what would seem a 14 year old mentality.
ITS WHAT THEIR GENERATION CALLED THE COOL FACTOR BUT YOU CANT STAY THAT WAY FOREVER LIKE TANA MONGOOSE IS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF THIS TREND
You're right, it seems that across the board they all have a very teenage-like mentality. Very immature group of people.
They are definitely emotionally stunted. They peaked in highschool and were never able to move on from there
I totally agree. I wonder if it’s because of their “jobs”. They haven’t had to really evolve or mature beyond what teenagers do. It’s so cringey. I cannot imagine any adult watching this content. Their audience has to be 12 years olds.
@@saramcdonalds427 makes you wonder if its for camera or is this really them.
When my hub and I were talking about our options to become parents because of infertility, He was honest and told me, "I don't think I could connect to a child that wasn't biologically not mine."... I completely respected his feelings because I knew how hard it was for him to be vulnerable and tell me. He didn't want to feel that way, but he did. Women can mother a plant it's just in our nature, but men sometimes can't make that connection. Because of that conversation, I went and did some research, and a lot of men anonymously said that they only adopted because the wife wanted to. They care about the child, but they don't love them. In my opinion, that isn't fair to the child or the man. I don't know what our journey will look like, but I know that adopting isn't on the list of options for us.
My god .. this baby is a prop to them . An accessory! She always has to have matching clothes and matching everything taking their matching photos ! Posing all the time . Never once have I seen a maternal moment from this woman !! It’s so disgusting and oddly disturbing! I hate them so much !! No wonder they deleted this video it’s filled with so many lies it’s unbelievable!
I'm fairly new to the whole TH-cam world but can you save this? I hope you get to see this entire video, it's very telling. I honestly can't stand these people. Mostly Della and dufus , sorry I just can't.
Imagine the whole world knowing you’re adopted before you’d ever get a chance to.
Then finding out your parents profited off of your adoption :/
Good point!
@@chelseayoung8147while you were independently a millionaire nevertheless
I love that Matt is asking these questions! What we’re the promises, was this the first case brought to you…
Lets be real, the birth mother watches everything to do with them. I can't imagine how insulting it must be to hear them say they have forgot about the promises they made smh
That's probably a reason why this was deleted because they realized she would most likely see it. Cause I bet she watches everything to be able to see her baby she gave up.
@@kimberleighe_anne Yeah I totally agree
What is also really sad is that she’s probably a very young woman. Maybe even a teenager. Think about having a baby and all those hormonal shifts, being a teenager without a fully developed brain, you’re being given Percocet for pain. And they want you to sign your baby away. Adoption exploits mothers too. Nobody talks about the pain that these poor women go through. Not even fully knowing the gravity of what they’re deciding until it’s over. Did you know that most woman say if they had about $1,500 they would feel confident to keep their baby? Why couldn’t Bella and Dallin just donate to this woman they love so much and help fund her as a mom?
@@Jennwarner1988 I totally agree with you. It is heartbreaking. I think well off people exploit the hardship of people to gain their nice little family while they rip someone elses apart. I'm watching a tv show called Fat Friends at the moment and atm, the storyline is about a older woman who gave up her son for adoption when she was 15 like 30 years ago and even though she is a older woman who's married and has had other kids, she can't get over her loss. That must be what people really feel like
It will be a MIRACLE if Story doesn’t suffocate. Bella wears her in that wrap for hours.
Something very strange going on here.
It's ridiculous. It's like a new purse for her.
Have you seen her videos where she makes "mom coffee"🤮 the way She is Holding the baby is SO disturbing
Why does she have it up over her head it looks so tight I am surprised the baby doesn't suffocate.
Yeah and that’s not a newborn lol I wore my third in a wrap like that for like… a few weeks. Then he wanted to be put on the floor lol or in his rocker or in our other baby carrier. He was crawling at 4mo and walking at 8mo because he got so much time to move around and get strong… it’s concerning that - I think the baby is like 4mo??? - is in this tight wrap like the baby could go into a regular baby carrier at this point if she really wants to baby wear a lot. But honestly during this whole podcast baby could’ve been on a mat on the floor or just… in her arms if she wanted to sleep/be held. It’s so weird.
I also noticed she’s always talking about how beautiful and cute the baby is. It almost feels like she’s trying to convince herself that the baby is “attractive.” Or that they wouldn’t have picked an “ugly” baby. It gives me a weird vibe.
yeah they definitely would only want a white blonde baby
It gives me vibes of someone cosplaying on how to behave like (she thinks) mothers do.
@@martafiordyes this is what I always thought about her but couldn’t put it into words
I know this might be a weird take but Matt would be a really good interviewer. Even if it was just podcasting about subjects that entertained him as opposed to family oriented content it could be pretty good. Not for me but TH-cam proves there's an audience for most things.
They 100% don’t want to share the promises because they don’t want to be held accountable for not holding them up. I remember seeing Bella post a photo and hiding Matt & Abby’s kids but not her own daughter - did she not feel weird about that? I knew they were going to exploit this baby but I can’t believe how much they are exploiting already.
Why do I feel like she has a doll wrapped up in there instead of the actual baby… it just seems weird that you literally can’t see a single part of the baby, not even the head, and it hasn’t made a peep. Seems pretty sus
Yes!!!! My first thought in that very first shot at the start of the video. It’s a doll. Period
And it never moved. Not once.
*30:36* you can clearly hear the baby grunt…they all 4 acknowledge it.
The more they talk, the more things just don’t add up. I am really starting to think that the “scam” was all a lie to gain sympathy and an offer, from what was probably a subscriber of theirs, for a baby to adopt.
I love when Josh says "shut up" then stares right into the camera 😂
Do you have a time stamp?
@@SeanB-97 ummm no but he does it alot in so many videos 😄 especially the Dougherty dozen videos lol
😂😂😂😂😂
Can you imagine being forced by your parents to give up your baby and then seeing the adoptive parents all over the internet with your baby. 😢
And you know that poor bio mom won’t be allowed to get therapy.
Ugh my heart breaks for these poor girls and women who have to go through that.
They would have been better off to say “we want to keep the promises private. Than to say they don’t remember. Made them look vapid, I mean which they are lol
I kind of believe they don't remember.. Which us way worse 😳
If they lied, thinking this would actually make them sound better that say “we cannot share that info”😂What idiots
Not a chance between those 2 idiots they couldn’t remember the promises they made. They are terrible liars. Wouldn’t it be like forgetting your wedding vows? And only weeks after you made them?
There are parents ACTUALLY traumatised going back into their nursery after SIDS, miscarriages and still births I really feel like these people are having first world problems.
Josh you a definantly on the right track. My uncle was adopted and his birth mother was a young teenager when she got pregnant and was from a very religious house hold. Her family didn’t want anyone to know that she was pregnant, so they sent her to a young pregnant girls boarding school, where she also gave birth to him. She was forced to put the baby up for adoption and then was brought back home and no one ever spoke of it again. My uncle and his birth mom have reconnected and he learned that she never wanted to give him up, but she had no choice. No one ever found out she was pregnant, the family told everyone that she was studying abroad.
Poor girl/woman!!!
Neither Matt or Abby follow Della Vlogs anymore😶
Really! Honestly good for them.
41:16 "My heart sank when you guessed her name." Well, she guessed it because you're just not that original. You're really transparent.
That wrap is so tight on that poor baby’s head she can’t even move 😖😖😖
Imagine how sweaty that child is smh
Taught my cat how to drink out of a water bottle today, pretty proud of myself lol yes she's spoiled but she still gets sink water
Well you do know what crap is in there....that's one thing I actually agree with doing ...my pets get bottled water...tap water u do know is the same as whats in the cistern in your toilet...
@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx and YOU know that people aren't going down to natural springs and dunking single use containers meant for sale into the water, right? All bottled water comes from a tap of some sort, and many bottled waters share the exact same source as tap water. Shit, more than half of all bottled water is literally packaged tap water from city lines. Potable drinking water comes and goes through different lines and are subject to different treatment standards. (The source may be the same, but in that case it means your toilet water is the same potable quality as your sink water, it's just collected in a toilet, making it undesirable for drinking for obvious reasons.) It is true that not all tap water is created equally, though! Quality, treatment, and source vary greatly, but in modern developed areas your sink water is perfectly safe and kept seperate from waste waters that would pollute the supply. If it's just a matter of preference, enjoy your bottled water, nothing wrong with that! But let's not pretend drinking sink water is the same as sticking a straw into the toilet bowl, or that bottled water springs into existence without a bunch of man made processes to collect, treat, and package it.
@nikki1400 wow well u need to so more research ....the amount of chemical that are put into tap water to make it drinkable is bad enough....
Ex Mormon here, I BET they went through a Mormon adoption agency. And honestly josh, I think you’re onto something with the theory of the baby’s mom being a teen. I BET.
Everybody hates that name. It's so bad, but also fits her since she's just a character in their little online fake story.
@@kay-bc3vlno the babys government name is actually Story Belle
@@kay-bc3vl oh pls I just realized what you meant 😂
Here’s my conspiracy.. Matt edited the video to show the true depiction of Bella and Dallin bc he certainly could’ve edited out the promises part. Bella and Dallin paid them to take down the video but Matt is the one who released it on Reddit. This stirs more views which is what Matt craves and it’s evident from the video that he doesn’t really like Dallin and Bella. Lol Matt is secretly the messy mastermind
I hope this is the case😂 and i noticed matts contemp for them at times too😳
I’ll admit over a year ago I came across your chancel when you were talking about the Frost family- at the time I literally thought you were a dick LOL. I at the time really enjoyed the frost family. But man- I kept watching you. & you’ve completely turned my thought process around& my outlook on these family channels. I no longer even post my own kids faces on social media. & I would assume you’ve changed MANY other peoples views also.
Keep doing what you’re doing!!! 👏🏼
SAMEEE at first I was like... why does he hate everyone?! But now I see it all so clearly and he's SO RIGHT to be exposing these terrible family channels 💯💯💯💯
@@kaycho717 absolutely!! I was so blind to the BS before.
I used to watch a few of these families one day DCP popped up and after 5 hours of watching, I unsubscribed to all the family vloggers I followed. I too at first thought he was a complete A-hole. Sorry Josh, I think you're absolutely wonderful all you do to bring awareness to child exploitation.
@@jlp0174let’s not exaggerate. He is doing great work with these family vloggers exploiting their children but I have personally heard him saying 3-4 misogynistic stuff in his channel and many have said he is a homophobe and politically leaning very right.
@@martafiord 🙄
Bella seems to want a baby, not a child. When the independent toddler years and beyond arrive, she's going to be secretly resentful. She just seems to act like I did with my dolls growing up. Its fun to dress up and hold babies was my thinking as a child and seems to be Bella's as an adult with a real child. She never shows tummy time or floor time. She just holds her with her leg dangling amd babywears all the time. Also, I wonder how many they turned down just because the baby wasn't a girl. Just saying.
Wow that’s VERY eye opening that they don’t remember their 5 promises to the birth mom to fulfill for giving them the gift of life! I also agree she does use the baby as an accessory! It irks me so much!! I want to know why they chose the name “Story” for her. I want to know why?? Not bashing the name just curious on how they got to choosing that name for the baby.
Because this baby girl is the beginning of their new story arc. She's just a prop/accessory in their storyline.
Bella said she had that name picked out since she was a teenager
Because every locket tells a story
The fact they say meeting the birth mother was a "cool" experience instead of emotional or anything along those lines is pretty ick
I used to watch them a year ago and even I, for whom
English is just my third foreign language, noticed their vocabulary is very limited: they always day something is “cool”, “sick” or “surreal”.
The birthmom picked them over other couples? Who were the other couple? The Hitlers? 🤷🏽♀️
😂😂😂
Nah...more money. 😂
The fact that she is using that comment about “wow you look so amazing! How do you look like this how old is your baby?!?!” As a flex is so gross. Stop it.
Much of this video sickens me. But one of the biggest things that rubbed me the wrong way is that they turned down babies before Story because they “weren’t a right fit” for their family. WTF? What would not make a baby the right fit? Its race? Its gender? The fact the birth mom wouldn’t have been okay with family vlogging? Just ick. And omg you can soooo tell that they knew exactly what those promises were but didn’t want to say them out loud. I feel so bad for Story and her birth mom. My heart hurts for them.
Babies with special needs are often harder to place. Sometimes, it's because a couple legitimately can't afford the medical bills involved to give that child proper care. Sometimes, it's because people just don't want to deal with that and will wait for a "perfect" fit.
Real talk ..how tf do you leave a kid in the car and then realize two hours later? How are you in the store for two hours when you don't have a kid slowing you down? As a former drug user, the whole thing screams drug use to me
This!!!!
I don’t know what the reasons were of her pedo friend mom, but I imagine there are many reasons like exhaustion for example.
I thought exactly the same it screams xanny memory to me
I truly believe that’s not a real baby in that carrier. Looks too much like a doll and isn’t even moving. 🙄
In adoption profiles, the promises are usually very non-committal. For example. "We will raise this child to know and love God's grace" or "We will ensure this child always knows your story and the love and selflessness you displayed for her" or "She will always have a safe place to live where she is lived unconditionally." They aren't typically actually commitments, for the very reason that agents know parents are not likely to follow through with things.
As a mother of an adopted child, the biggest thing you have to realize going into adoption is that it is NOT about you. It is about loving a bio family (every situation is different of course), and not making adoption the child’s identity. My son is my son, and his story may be different, but he is my son. Not my “adopted” son, not the son I “chose,” not the one who is “lucky.” When you choose to adopt, you choose to say yes (again, there are many aspects of this, and you can have boundaries) to a child regardless of race, gender, etc. Again, it’s not about you and getting the designer child you want.
They wanted a baby that could pass as their bio kid as much as possible thats why bella went by looks ethnicity eye color etc
it looks like she's holding a doll, that baby is wrapped too tightly, her head can't even move! I don't think the baby moved one bit the entire video...
Please do everything in your power to keep this up so I can watch it after work 😂 I have a feeling they will try to get this removed. There’s a reason they took this down, won’t reupload and haven’t addressed it
Im just throwing out guesses here but based off the entire conversation during this podcast, I wouldn’t be surprised if Matt lost respect for Dallin and Bella. I think he playfully called them out several times. I would guess this podcast got taken down because dallin and Bella felt attacked and called out for all their lies and selfishness which probably caused all the first comments upon posting to be the same.
The AUDACITY and STUPIDITY for them to say they want to protect the birth mother and not regard the privacy of their daughter is beyond a joke. My jaw literally dropped when I heard them say that.
Notice how all they say about the baby is how cute she is, what an angel. Nothing meaningful, only superficial. She is their accessory and you can bet if the child didn’t have characteristics similar to theirs, they would’ve looked for another baby to buy, I mean adopt.
To be completely honest, if someone is not aware of (or doesn't believe) how exploitative "family vlogging" is, unfortunately I can see the appeal of placing your baby with an "influencer couple" who aspire to be "family vloggers". When you place a baby under normal circumstances you only have a small picture of the prospective family's financial and living situation, how they interact with each other, etc... and once the ink dries on those adoption papers, no matter what level of openness you've agreed to, there's no obligation on the adoptive parents' part to ever allow you to visit or even see a photo of the baby you gave birth to ever again. If you're young, naive, scared, unsure of your decision, etc, this could easily cause a false sense of security, feeling like you know the family that your child will end up with, feeling like even if they close the adoption you can still watch your child grow up in what feels like real time, etc.
This is what I was thinking!
If you’re sitting down…. Talking…. You don’t need to have her wrapped. I wrap or put mine in a carrier if I have to do things around the house. When I sit down, I take her out.
But how would she then show us she is a caring Mother??!!😁
this entire story is so hard for me to watch. I was adopted from teen parents by a wealthy over privileged, abusive, mentally ill couple who had been rejected from all of their local and state adoption agencies in their home state. So they just moved to a different state for the adoption where of distant family member lived in New # about a teen who was pregnant. (my birth mom) the story i’ve gathered now as a adult is that my birth moms parents were adimit she give up the baby (me) to my adoptive parents because their was big $ involved. and she was pressured into it as a teen kid. then my adoptive parents basically made a purchase of a “white female attractive baby”. literally the phrase used multiple times. smh. they were extremely raciest and discriminatory people. and i was used as a prop and piece of property by them for my entire life! and they used their money, local power and high powered friends to exploit me and put me on display. i had no privacy and no voice. i was abused both physically and mentally. i was forced into child modeling in the early 80s and 90s you can imagine how sick and toxic that industry was then. i started being drugged by my father with hardcore opiates as a tiny kid around 6, prior to that it had been alcohol. i was forced into opiate dependencey as a form of control and to make me a brainless zombie kid so my mentally ill adoptive mother would have a easier time controlling my emotions and actions and she would leave my adoptive dad alone about me. he was tired of phone calls at work or parties from my crazy mom screaming about me. I was an absolute hard-core people pleaser, and went out of my way to try and make them happy as to avoid abuse and the mental torture from them. it took me decades to get help into therapy and get off opiates. it still to this day is a puzzle i’m working on piecing together. but watching this couple’s channel has really effected me. they are so similar in some ways to my own parents. i don’t think they are as bad as all that but they have a similar mindset of the baby being a accessory and cash cow and she’s not a human being she’s s piece of property to
them. 😢😢😢
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I’m so sorry for what you experienced as a child. No child should have to suffer like that at the hands of their own parents no less 😢 I’m glad you are working through it now and I wish you the best on your journey to recovery 💕🙏
I’m sooo sorry, and it literally sounded like you said exactly what happened with story. I can feel it
I am so sorry for what you went through.
I agree, Josh. I can not believe if they were that desperate to have a kid that they rejected a couple of other kids. So they weren't that 'desperate'. The way they hold Story freaks me out and I am not even a parent. Her poor neck. 😅
Am I the only one who thinks Bella lacks maternal instinct? Like she is behaving more like an aunt of the baby? I just had my first baby 5 months ago, and the way she is behaving is exactly how I behaved holding my niece.. It's COMPLETELY different when you get your own child.. Or am I wrong?
Idk I was super lovey over nieces and nephews just like I am over cats and dogs or anything innocent and little that needs protection in the world. But I’ve heard it’s even more so with your own but this Bella comes off as a fake user that’s just exploiting that poor innocent child. People that can’t love a child like their own have no business adopting though that’s for sure.
Yesss! Was waiting for somebody to start covering „Story Belle“ and her parents. I mean she literally named her „Story“ - as in „this is my new story content“ and has nobody told her how to wrap a baby? How to wear her properly in a carrier? She wanted a child so badly she didn’t do any research? Has all that money to buy matching outfits for her and her baby(!) but cannot find a midwife or baby wrap consultant who will show her how to do this? Or even a doula? Really?
And I agree on her singing voice - apart from the goat. Goats are not at fault for these horrible examples of grown up kids playing house.
Yeah all of that and what also stuck in my brain was when she was packing baby clothes when they were going to pick her up,she packed everything with tags, straight from the plastic wraps not washed and dressed her in that not washed things moment she was with them
@@Alona2811 Yessss! I noticed that as well! I wonder if she even read ONE book on parenthood and infants… It clearly doesn’t look like it. And since no one in her family knew she was serious about adoption - not a single person gave her advice. It‘s almost comedic how clueless she is.. I hope nobody ever comes to her and her videos for advice.
@Ninitschga yeah totally agree, she is definitely clueless abut infants how to care about them or parenthood in general, she wanted a child just becouse ppl around her started having kids and all her influncer friends started doing family content and she actually acted like a envious kid that didn't got Barbie doll all her friends got and she didn't stop until she got one,just the way she carelessly hold that poor baby or how she straps that kid around her that it looks like kid will suffocate, it is like she is living her fantasy doing all the trands from making mom drinks to matching outfits etc.Sad because those ppl are clearly not ready to be parents,they are way to selfish and self centered and this child was just latest caprice she had to have,and I dont want to think how will she treat that kid when she get bored of being parent and kid become nuisances
Oh he has more videos on them! From before they even became parents, when they just wanted a baby!
@@JamesAshlei I watched them all - especially about her MLM and her mom… Good Lord she‘s an awful human being. Yikes.
Matt’s facial expressions during this whole interview though. I think in his mind he’s battling wether he should stay friends with these clowns or not because he knows the views they bring in that benefit him, but in all honesty he looks disgusted
With the Christian birth thing. My aunt got pregnant at 13 no one really knew about it because my grandma and grandpa sent her away until she gave birth and the baby was put up for adoption. Something went wrong and she was never able to have another child. My dad was younger than her and he didn’t even know why she was sent away till many years later. It’s terrible that it’s still happening
I hope he starts covering them more regularly. They deserve it
Your reactions to the people you cover are priceless…you never cease to make me laugh. I feel so “blessed” 😂 to watch your content…life changing..hahaha…
I laugh so hard at half the things he says off the wall🤣🤣🤣
LITERALLLLLY …Same. 😂😂
Story will always know she’s adopted because they already told the whole world for her, she’ll never have the choice to keep that to herself…
Absolutely DISGUSTING that they “can’t remember” the promises. My heart aches for that birth mom and the baby
HOW COULD YOU FORGET. Do they think we are all stupid?? This is so upsetting
They could have at least said, that they want to keep them private.
I just found this channel over the weekend and it's now my absolute favorite. I feel like I finally found my people!
Right
Welcome 😀
Josh the reason they had to delete it is because if Matt and Abby would have deleted just that part of the promises people would have picked up on that and still call it out… if they delete the whole thing then people can just speculate why they deleted it…. And they can lie why they REALLY deleted it
This is WILD!! Haha they totally deleted this because their lies were exposed. Everything Dallin and Bella put out feels scripted and off-putting. It’s crazy to see them getting caught exposing their own lies 😂
In the same video also! They contradicted themselves in a matter of minutes😂
Bella makes me sick she’s so fixated on the babies looks and treating her like a accessory it’s quite frightening!! How people like this are allowed to adopt and exploit straight away, I definitely think there’s going to be a lawsuit once this little girl becomes of age her whole life exposed to whole entire world,because she looks exactly like Bella envisioned she was worthy of a home,as for Abbie slandering other family vloggers on there name choices but sitting her with her friends and they named they child story okay then lol why do these people even get paid 😅
What’s going to happen if Story is some how not perfect when she grows up? Just can’t imagine them being genuinely supportive off screen and shitballs if she’s a member of the lgbtq+ community! Bet organic hand crafted food & clothing and homeschooling will be high on the list of must do’s + employing a multi lingual nanny.
Matt and Abby, your “friends” are straight up lying to you. They “don’t remember promises they made to the most important woman in their life?” Wow. Disgusting.
The dog eats grilled nuggets from Chick-fil-A & steak bowls from Chipotle. Then dude proceeds to say, but he won't eat bacon, CHICKEN or STEAK 😂
The first thought that came to mind was “that baby looks like a doll” why is she wrapped so tightly
I know someone who either wore or wrapped their baby all the time & baby got pneumonia bc his lungs didn’t get to expand all the way. I think baby wearing is great but this looks wrong.
Because that moron is clueless doesn't even know what year it is.
That's what I said look how tight it is over head I have never seen anyone do that she can't even move
I think this also could be part of why they deleted this video.
He doesn’t know the promises they made?!?!?!?!?! That MUST be why they deleted it. My God!!! 😳😳😳😳😳😳
The fact they chose her case bc she was a cute baby to them for their videos. Most disgusting thing ever. Anyone else really wanting a baby would take the first case given to them! Not pick and choose which baby is the cutest to adopt. They are the worst humans ever
It’s kinda hard to hide from your kid that they’re adopted when you’ve posted it all over the internet. I really hope she doesn’t get bullied because of all of the stuff they post about her online, not taking into consideration that it’s there forever.
Ok why in the h*ll does she keep patting the baby. She’s not crying so doesn’t need soothing. Why is she dressed like Mary Mary quite contrary. With the yellow gingham frock yellow headband.