Thank you so much for this great video... You are Spot On!!! Just in the last couple of months I have started to use "Reframing". It has saved my sanity sooooooo many times... LOL... "Change your thoughts..... Change the world".
I'm finding NLP integrates really well with the frames of Stoicism. You can learn reframing but when something happens and in the moment you're frustrated, you may not know a good frame to use. The Stoic philosophy is really about taking on useful frames and embodying them before you're caught in a tough situation.
I totally agree. The framework of a reframe automatically presupposes that a default response will be one in which ideally needs to be reframed. Thanks for your input.
Hi, my name is Jeff. I've been on a personal growth journey for almost a year strongly. A few months ago I learned about NLP and how it can turn someone's life around or just make it excellent. I've watched about 90% of your videos here and I like how well you present this great information. Most people don't know about NLP, but they should. Anyway, I would like to hear your insights on other topics. Like, narcassism, empaths, awareness, how the human mind is in transition right now. I'm interested in these topics and they seam popular right now. People need a great example like yourself here. Thank you, Jeff
Exactly. I stopped using this technique after sometime when I realised I’m just giving people the benefit of doubt when in reality they’ve actually been assholes all the time.
Thanks for a great video! I love the concept of reframing, and think the two examples in this video are fitting for when reframing is a good solution. But, at what point does reframing become ignorance because you're choosing to ignore a potentially truthful meaning that makes you feel bad to focus on a meaning which makes you feel better? I think the famous quote by Dostoevsky is relevant here: "“Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart.” I think what he's getting at is that people with a "large intelligence" consider many potential truths and because of that, keep in frame the truthful meanings that are hard to bear and cause suffering. They cannot turn away. Because to turn away from something true would be ignorant and ignorance can lead to bad outcomes. For example, if you see a stack of dirty dishes... in order to feel less badly about it, you could reframe to think about how those dirty dishes mean that you're lucky to have food to eat and also live a life interesting enough to have better things to do than clean them. But, this framing ignores the fact that you're being lazy and undisciplined by not cleaning your dishes right away and if you don't clean them, eventually, they're going to become a real problem. Maybe this isn't the best example, but Dostoevsky's quote and scenarios like this leave me wondering where reframing's utility begins and ends, and where it could actually be problematic. Would love to hear yours or others thoughts on this
The context of NLP reframing I was familiar with is about rearranging the habits and reactions to triggering situations. E.g.. reading a nice book instead of smoking a cigarette once you have finished a stressful day of work. I am aware your speech is rather to give some idea about how this technique might possibly work in a simple and comprehensive way however stopping yourself from feeling anger at socially unadjusted individuals is not the best example.
Thanks for your comment. Habit swapping is certainly common at dealing with potentially unhelpful circumstances. My point is, flippant automatic emotions which disempower are often fuel for many issues for people. In the case I'm sharing. Emotions are generated from a rapidly fabricated internal narrative. That narrative is yours to change as you can't know so many things. Therefore, in cases where there is much ambiguity and guess work. A rapid reframe of a narrative which dramatically shifts a person's state from negative to positive is very helpful. I'd be very interested to hear why you believe maintaining feelings of anger towards someone offers benefits?
Hi mike have recently come across your videos and found them both fascinating and helpful. I was hoping you could give me some information or advice on using or linking NLP to my sports psychology studies, as I am about to enter my final year and would like to link in particular reticular cortex functions to the challenge and threat theory for my final dissertation on sports performance anxiety. Thanks.
Hi Mike stumbled on this lecture I'm now intrigued. Where would be the best place to learn or get resources? I'm currently starting person centred counselling so this would be perfect accompaniment
HEY Mike ,great informative viedo!!!! can ou please explain why is it for expale ,when someone says "i have depression" they get depressed rather than someone feels sad ,yet they dont fram their sadness as depression ,so they are not depressed?
Hi Christian, Thanks for your comment. That's assuming a person has an underlying problem which creates a reaction. How about this. What if reaction is simply a learned behaviour repeated, creating a default response? In fact, if a person is able to go from an extreme negative behaviour/response to a far more positive suitable behaviour extremely quickly, then giving them the insight to experience that rapid change can truly be a gift. We're unconscious beings, thankfully. It's just far too often we have unconscious patterns which disempower us. Knowing about rapid reframing gives perspective. Not a solution to every situation, far from it. But, a tool which may offer you, your client etc a new option. Take care. Mike
Thank you so much for this great video... You are Spot On!!!
Just in the last couple of months I have started to use "Reframing".
It has saved my sanity sooooooo many times... LOL...
"Change your thoughts..... Change the world".
I'm finding NLP integrates really well with the frames of Stoicism. You can learn reframing but when something happens and in the moment you're frustrated, you may not know a good frame to use. The Stoic philosophy is really about taking on useful frames and embodying them before you're caught in a tough situation.
I totally agree. The framework of a reframe automatically presupposes that a default response will be one in which ideally needs to be reframed. Thanks for your input.
Thanks the Stoics were Great at Ancient Reframing..."Do not say someone has died..say they have been returned to where they came from " Epictetus
Awesome inspiration and so well articulated, thank you, Mike!
Hi, my name is Jeff. I've been on a personal growth journey for almost a year strongly. A few months ago I learned about NLP and how it can turn someone's life around or just make it excellent. I've watched about 90% of your videos here and I like how well you present this great information. Most people don't know about NLP, but they should. Anyway, I would like to hear your insights on other topics. Like, narcassism, empaths, awareness, how the human mind is in transition right now. I'm interested in these topics and they seam popular right now. People need a great example like yourself here.
Thank you, Jeff
Great video on reframing. I like that you reference humour can be used, as this is what I’ve done before to help someone clear their frustrations.
This is Excellent.. Sometimes we have to silence the critical mind without trying to force it to be quiet
Thanks for this Mike! I really like how you make NLP techniques easy to start using yourself!
Great presentation mate. Loved it
This is really helpful and your style is very engaging ☺️ I think I will watch all your videos. Thanks a bunch 🙏
Reframing. Another way to look at these examples is to say that we're just trying to "make excuses" for these rude people.
Exactly. I stopped using this technique after sometime when I realised I’m just giving people the benefit of doubt when in reality they’ve actually been assholes all the time.
Thanks for a great video! I love the concept of reframing, and think the two examples in this video are fitting for when reframing is a good solution. But, at what point does reframing become ignorance because you're choosing to ignore a potentially truthful meaning that makes you feel bad to focus on a meaning which makes you feel better?
I think the famous quote by Dostoevsky is relevant here: "“Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart.” I think what he's getting at is that people with a "large intelligence" consider many potential truths and because of that, keep in frame the truthful meanings that are hard to bear and cause suffering. They cannot turn away. Because to turn away from something true would be ignorant and ignorance can lead to bad outcomes.
For example, if you see a stack of dirty dishes... in order to feel less badly about it, you could reframe to think about how those dirty dishes mean that you're lucky to have food to eat and also live a life interesting enough to have better things to do than clean them. But, this framing ignores the fact that you're being lazy and undisciplined by not cleaning your dishes right away and if you don't clean them, eventually, they're going to become a real problem.
Maybe this isn't the best example, but Dostoevsky's quote and scenarios like this leave me wondering where reframing's utility begins and ends, and where it could actually be problematic. Would love to hear yours or others thoughts on this
The context of NLP reframing I was familiar with is about rearranging the habits and reactions to triggering situations. E.g.. reading a nice book instead of smoking a cigarette once you have finished a stressful day of work. I am aware your speech is rather to give some idea about how this technique might possibly work in a simple and comprehensive way however stopping yourself from feeling anger at socially unadjusted individuals is not the best example.
Thanks for your comment. Habit swapping is certainly common at dealing with potentially unhelpful circumstances.
My point is, flippant automatic emotions which disempower are often fuel for many issues for people.
In the case I'm sharing. Emotions are generated from a rapidly fabricated internal narrative. That narrative is yours to change as you can't know so many things. Therefore, in cases where there is much ambiguity and guess work. A rapid reframe of a narrative which dramatically shifts a person's state from negative to positive is very helpful.
I'd be very interested to hear why you believe maintaining feelings of anger towards someone offers benefits?
Brilliant! You always have the opportunity to ask yourself another question - What else can this mean? 💕
How do you reframe it when people anger you?
Nice video
This is brilliant stuff Mike thank you
Thank you so much for your Mike
Great insight! Where to find your free training on NLP so mentioned in the video?
Hey Neeraj, I'm pleased you've found it useful. Check out the email series here. www.mikesweet.co.uk/free-nlp/
Hi mike have recently come across your videos and found them both fascinating and helpful. I was hoping you could give me some information or advice on using or linking NLP to my sports psychology studies, as I am about to enter my final year and would like to link in particular reticular cortex functions to the challenge and threat theory for my final dissertation on sports performance anxiety. Thanks.
Hi Mike stumbled on this lecture I'm now intrigued. Where would be the best place to learn or get resources? I'm currently starting person centred counselling so this would be perfect accompaniment
Why did you stop making videos?
Do you still offer the free NLP email materials???? Would love to get hands on them.
Very good Mike. You make it simple and practical.
Paul West thank you. My aim is to simplify and make NLP accessible to everyone.
HEY Mike ,great informative viedo!!!! can ou please explain why is it for expale ,when someone says "i have depression" they get depressed rather than someone feels sad ,yet they dont fram their sadness as depression ,so they are not depressed?
thanks a lot very helpful
thanks
But what about the real reason the person snaps in the first place?, you are treating the symptoms not the problem.
Hi Christian,
Thanks for your comment.
That's assuming a person has an underlying problem which creates a reaction.
How about this. What if reaction is simply a learned behaviour repeated, creating a default response?
In fact, if a person is able to go from an extreme negative behaviour/response to a far more positive suitable behaviour extremely quickly, then giving them the insight to experience that rapid change can truly be a gift.
We're unconscious beings, thankfully. It's just far too often we have unconscious patterns which disempower us.
Knowing about rapid reframing gives perspective. Not a solution to every situation, far from it. But, a tool which may offer you, your client etc a new option.
Take care.
Mike
thank you very much.