Want to learn more and get ALL the tools to healing your nervous system? Be on the lookout for more videos like this one, or check out some of my recent content! My passion is helping others heal and in an affordable way. That's why I created my Inner Circle...go to www.lifewithkate.com/innercirlce for more details!
As I am listening to this, we have been trained by society NOT to listen to the body. Think elementary school, middle School, high school. You have to ask for permission to pee or poo. You have to get up and go to school even if you are tired. You have to be awake and not take naps at school...... Then as we grow into adults, we need to untrain what they taught us. This is how we treat our youth? Not to mention what goes on in some homes such as abuse and trauma..... Society is Frustrating......
I am thinking exactly the same! It is normal and expected of us to push and push beyond our body's limits, doesn't matter if you are tired or burned out. Unfortunately, I played along until my late teens (for me it was normal, something everyone else also did). My chronic illness is teaching me to reconnect with my body. I wish that it was part of education to learn to listen to our bodies, to learn how to communicate our boundaries and other things that are necessary for a healthy and happy life. I intuitively felt when I was 12 that I wanted to be home schooled or be a free learner but unfortunately that was not possible in my country. I want a better approach for my kids in the future.
truth! I was eldest girl in a family of 10 kids. I was taught to put myself last, like it would pay off someday, I was a good catholic girl. It's all self abuse. I could not sit and empty bladder in peace. no wonder the bladder infections showed up. I sit and pee in peace now. I drink water in peace and stare at the sun in peace and I walk in peace. It's quite enlightening!
Many children blatantly make aware that they absolutely do not consent to going to public school. Nobody seems to care about their consent on this topic. But when parents don't respect it and force them anyway, well it causes the damage that you should expect.
I agree in large part with what you say. Far too much emotional repression and trying to push through ( or push down ) bodily symptoms . Although at the same time, if people only worked when they felt like it, unless everyone was in a job they loved or found great purpose in, things would be chaos . Surgeons or nurses can’t just not go in because they don’t feel like it, or are tired. So I think an element of self discipline is required, but still agree with you about the majority of things. Having to ask permission to go for a pee or poo is ridiculous, I agree! Politeness is one thing, but that imo is needlessly patronising and breeds submission
1. Following impulses Honoring and responding to our physical needs 2. Orienting Reconnect to our environment what do you see, hear, smell, touch, taste 3. Sensory stimulation Proprioceptive and vestibular stimulation calms the nervous system, like squeezing or applying pressure, rocking back and forth, swinging, jumping, shaking, 4. Daily practice earthing, walking barefoot, mindfully walking, Social support
1. Following impulses - aka listen to your body. Tune into sensations (ex. go to the bathroom instead of pushing through/ignoring, drink water when thirsty) 2. Orienting - connect to your environment. Look outside the window, far into the distance. 3. Sensory Stimulation - helps get you into your body. Movement, balance, etc. Go for a walk, rocking, yoga, weighted blanket, foam rolling, jumping & shaking, heel drops. 4. Implementing resources - grounding exercises (aka earthing), mindful walking, gardening, mindfulness practices, deep breathing, art, connection. ❤
People are very lucky you are sharing this info for free!! This info usually costs many hundreds or even thousands of dollars to obtain from a brain-retraining course. Blessings to you. 🙏🌷
Which should be free and taught in schools and in media for free. People are abused do nothing to entice violence, trauma harms their body and cause illnesses mental and physical - and healing costs so much money which is sick and abnormal. Most traumatized people do not have money and healing is not available to them. So kudos to Kate!
I got involved in yoga and meditation 23 years ago when I was trying to get sober. Although it did connect me with my body in ways I was not connected before. It also created a spiritual bypassing and ignoring of my body's signals. I had not done the trauma work first. Oh, how I wish I'd known to do that first, I would have prevented a lot of re-traumatizing, and horribly slow, circuitous route to just listening to my body and honoring it. TH-cam wasn't like this back in the day I started down that route. Thank you so much for sharing this life-saving information 🙏This also explains why I've gotten sick being a nurse in a hospital floor. I've learned in life to push through hard stuff, Thinking it'll make me stronger. All it really did was traumatize me(disregulate my nervous system) and make me sick. I've drank coffee for years. I think I do it as a way to hype myself up to be able to abandon myself. Our society definitely supports people who abuse themselves. That's just not life-sustaning for me anymore.
Just listened half way and I’m crying, realising how I’ve neglected myself. I didn’t learn this growing up. Changing that now so I pass on better habits to my child❤ thank you for this Kate!
This video is a GEM. I've been doing all this stuff for a long time without knowing it was actually the "right thing" to do... and now finally I found someone who explains it so well! Truly thank you ~ ♡
I enrolled in a health coaching program earlier this year and the program recommended eating 3 meals and 2 snacks per day, daily movement, daily exercise, drinking up to 100 oz of water, taking naps and going to bed early. I had NEVER done most of these things and found it difficult to do at first. I felt like a robot at first. But then I realized the reason my body had gotten out of whack over many years from the self-abuse you mentioned. I was so shocked and then understanding why my meditation and mindful practices were not as effective. This hustle/grinding culture and martyrdom has ruined so many of our health. I'm still learning to integrate all of these practices. When I fall off track and slip back into old habits, I have had a light bulb moment of awareness that I have been abusing my body and nervous system all of these years. Thank you for this video!
@@aquariusstar7248 I watched this video a day or two ago, and I have been trying to implement her tips. I am a homemaker, so I can pee any time I want to. I was shocked by how often my first instinct was to hold it and finish up whatever I was doing before going! I'm guessing this bad habit has carried over from all the years in school where I couldn't go, but I am honestly shocked at how hard it has been to remember to go as soon as I feel the urge. I was feeling anxious today, so I went on two walks to burn off extra cortisol. In the past I would have told myself that one was plenty and that it would be better to spend the time cleaning or "being productive." Instead I listened to my body, and I feel much more relaxed! I can't believe how challenging this is. It makes me so sad. No wonder my nervous system is so screwed up.
I did not know how to cook and entire day I will ignore my hunger and milk tea or coffee and eat at night after making food for the night and I felt tired dizzy and this went for years in my twenties I needed somebody or family member to tell me to eat and when I took up painting hobby I neglected my bodily needs and stood painting the whole day I don’t know how I survived such self abuse and apathy towards myself is beyond me!nowI Iam 63 and I take care of my needs well!
Wow I am also struggling with that part of I want somebody to tell me. I do not also have a proper social structure. I am going out and make some friends. Regarding the cooking part. I have to make conscious decision to do it.
I also feel I am so different as a person when i socialize. And when I don't allow anything to measure me. Isolation makes me feel that I have low standards.
I am using "It is okay. All is well. I can live my life the way i want. What i feel is ok" mantras. I also used to hug myself when i felt fear. Looking at my cat calms me the most. Also, I learnt to listen to my impulses and take action right away. It must be done consciously with no delay😊 Yep, putting myslef first when it comes to following my bliss, values and happiness. F...the people pleaser mentality and being toyed. Self obsessed is the key but many people do not see the advantage of it. They think it is selfish which is not true. I enjoy looking at people when they throw tantrums because they cannot control me. 😊 The worst part of the society for me is being employed because this is where we start losing ourselves big time. Can't forget expectations of our parents. Then of course school because it teaches self neglect as a temple for life. And relationships where people focus on othres to make them happy. Terrible mistake.
Thank you! I’m so glad the algorithm suggested you. A few years ago I started a new job and I was so overwhelmed and excited. One day I was being trained on the new software and all of the desks and employees were grouped together, no walls - ah! I ignored my need to pee and my hunger. My new boss passed by and I complained that was hungry like a little kid. I was so embarrassed when other people turned around and gave me wide eyes 👀. It was a revelation! I’m adult who has a right to take care of my needs. It was bizarre that I felt I was in prison. I attribute that to growing up in an alcoholic family.
What helping me to feel safe is also 🪷✨ 1. Taking warm baths or showers just for relaxtion with candles and dimming light 🛀🕯️ 2. Self care for example foot bath etc (what your body feel to do without pressure) 💅🏻 3. Go for a massage 4. Hug and be close to animals, they have uncondional love so it’s no pressure and safe 🐶
@@TheBillaroalso an essential part of the healing process indeed. Teal swan, in my opinion, got useful information about this. I practiced over 25 years of buddhist meditation which helped. But calming the nervous system and feel save come first. Forgiveness is a byproduct. Self love first ❤ take care 🙏
@@TheBillaro I would also like to know. I think the key is not to rush it. Maybe you are angry and you haven't fully come to terms with and learned to love that part of you. That is the case with me anyway.
I have never seen you before but this was very important info for me. I feel so unsafe all day everyday from profound childhood abuse.I am right now using these tips. I also need to feel safe so my animals will feel safe. For them I will do this (and for me) I’ve never heard this being a thing. Thank you. 🙏
Oh my goodness, this is 10000% TRUE. I’ve been trying to heal my nervous system for 2 years and was stuck until just recently I realized this is what was going on! I was hyper vigilant keeping my nervous system stuck. Keep spreading the good news, soooo many stuck sick people out there! ❤
I’ve just started watching this and I’m amazed… shocked actually. Rather than make this really long I’ll just say that my whole life I’ve been unsafe and in reality - I’ve neglected myself. Never felt safe. Trauma has taught me that I couldn’t feel safe. But I never helped myself feel safe within myself. Calm my nervous system…what a concept❣️
Great video. I wonder if helping the nervous system feel safe helps us perceive a higher form of our intuition. Some people don't believe that even exists, but I've experienced times when insights showed up during stressful times that led to their solutions. I'd like to have more access to that part of myself. Previously, I never understood the value of being calm during difficult times. I used to say, "I don't care about being calm, I just want the problem to be fixed!" But if I could access choices I can't otherwise see while in freeze or fight or flight, I can see value in this other than just the health benefits to the body for calming down.
Just listening to you and the EXACT things needed by our bodies has calmed me down. I heard many of these suggestions before, but you've corralled them a concise usable practice. So thankful.❤❤❤
This is presented so well and it feels so doable that it calmed me just to watch the video. Most youtube practice are so complex that my body experiences them as additional stress. Many thanks for these valuable tools.
Even at night, when I have to pee, I will keep telling myself to go back to sleep... Why do I do that? It takes a minute to go pee and get back in bed, why do I continue to choose to try and sleep with a full bladder? I know the consequences if I hold my pee in too long, I can het an infection... Why do I not just get up and go and go back to bed and be comfortable? Its so weird right? I have to figure out this insanity.
I still live in the apartment that I moved into when I first got into an abusive relationship so you saying “you need to show your nervous system that your safe” hit hard. Ugh I gotta move out
Interesting note regarding orientation- Not moving your eyeballs but just shifting attention/focus from directly in front of you to your periphery really helps orient and I notice straightaway I relax and drop into myself..also nobody notices you doing this :))
I have not listened to this yet. The responses tell me more..and the headline. Inner peace and tranquility are my treasure. A Soul survivor of my family..inherited heart condition..divorcing an alcoholic narcissist and dating one!! Minus the alcoholic part " They are bees around a honey pot"! I go away to Cornwall on my own regularly...for my own healing retreats. They are solitary. I go hiking weekly. Even a narcissist can be great fun too...(Not when you live with them) Dating them it can be bearable but his days are numbered. So disrespectful. He will never rob me of my joy. But, my Joy irritates his tortured soul 🙏
Dear Kate, just bumped into this video last night during another sleepless night. Thank you so much! First time I understand clearly why, how, what to do and when. As step one. I will implement, build capacity. No rush. Most likely in june join with the inner circle. Thank you so much again. I have hope now that I will be able to take care of myself, heal and change. Excited to start this process (very carefully & kindly). Myriam
wow this is exactly why I needed. I’ve never had any validating my experience like this especially with something like not using the restroom. I thought I just had issues transitioning tasks but I will go hours without using the restroom and find it hard to leave my work desk. Wow thank you so much for letting me see this connection
Very interesting and helpful. Funny how I was getting over some really painful stuff: both mental and physical. I was drawn to weight-lifting, yoga, and I've always been a walker. I've kept up these activities as much as possible over the last couple of years and seriously feel they've helped. I still long for security though, on a regular basis.
Pile 2 😍 sounding like November, December & January and then getting double confirmation in pile 3 of Aquarius season Jan/Feb! I’m so excited and staying hopeful 🥳
What an amazing video. Thank you so much for all your hard work and putting this out there. A summary of all the things! I have started implementing them today. I never connected holding my pee that way but you are SO RIGHT! Had a few ah hah moments with this video. THANK YOU
I love that I can tell the pee thing was important to your own story, so it’s what you think of every time. It’s not bad, it’s just how humans work, and I love humans.
Great video and information. Thank you for the time taken to share. Respectfully, I would have added a specific 5th, with Coherent Breathing. I know you mentioned it in 4, but I would double down on this as it balances the nervous system.
Great video! I’ve learned a great deal just from this short video - Thank you! One thing that I do when I realize that I’m dis-regulated is watch an episode of Cesar 911 on his personal channel. I love dogs and hope to get another pup one day😢. All the dogs he works with are in a state of fear and insecurity, just like my nervous system! Watching him work with dog and give it a sense of safety helps me be kinder to myself and have compassion instead of blaming or dwelling on horrible I feel. Maybe this will help another dog lover find ways to create safety in themselves ❤
Interesting that you bring him up, In hind sight I realize that was actually the beginning of my being able to understand the nervous system connection to the body. Caesar Milan and his show. Wow. Yay dogs!!!. I wound up with 2 rescue pits who are an excellent mirror for me and my husband. When he goes away one night a week the dogs are much less restless at night. It's him! 😆. We will both work on this. He's starting to understand and he's currently in the argument with his brain telling him the opposite should be happening. "Work work work, don't do ten minutes of yoga to reorient..."
@@KARENboomboomROXX Wow that's so interesting! Cesar always says he trains humans and rehabilitates animals and it's so true. Animals are a mirror for what we feel inside. Thank you for sharing!
I never considered that having to urinate really badly out of nowhere was a nervous system thing. I struggled with that for a long time and then it just went away.
not quite sure about "feeling heard, feeling seen" part. I would rather not put my feeling to be safe in other people hands, my need to be seen and heard. As personal experience I felt really safer when I got rid of that need, not when I (temporarily) fullfilled it. Or am I missing something? All blessings
I also released the need to get it from others. Like I don't expect it. I learned to do it for myself and it feels great and safe. But If I talk to someone I can see where they are at and if I don't feel heard or seen I do not continue any relationship with them because it automatically feels like being ignored and unimportant. Those relationships feel empty and superficial with no meaning for me.
How do I follow my impulses if I have hyperawareness (aka somatoform/sensorimotor) OCD? I become hypervigilant about bodily processes and sensations, and I'm afraid focusing on impulses will make this worse.
I am so conditioned to put my kids and husband first, that I dont even eat the healthy stuff in our fridge because I don't want to deprive them. 😢 I think being a mom for 16 years and having a husband fighting lung cancer got me to this point. I just don't know where to start..
Taking care of yourself so you can care for your family is so important and it's never to late to start! I have a program that starts in January as well as my Inner Circle monthly membership that will give you all sorts of tools to help you get started!
Want to learn more and get ALL the tools to healing your nervous system?
Be on the lookout for more videos like this one, or check out some of my recent content! My passion is helping others heal and in an affordable way.
That's why I created my Inner Circle...go to www.lifewithkate.com/innercirlce for more details!
As I am listening to this, we have been trained by society NOT to listen to the body. Think elementary school, middle School, high school. You have to ask for permission to pee or poo. You have to get up and go to school even if you are tired. You have to be awake and not take naps at school...... Then as we grow into adults, we need to untrain what they taught us. This is how we treat our youth? Not to mention what goes on in some homes such as abuse and trauma..... Society is Frustrating......
What is the reason they want to drill children into a system which is not healthy and robbes you from your own self. I truly wonder,😢
I am thinking exactly the same! It is normal and expected of us to push and push beyond our body's limits, doesn't matter if you are tired or burned out. Unfortunately, I played along until my late teens (for me it was normal, something everyone else also did). My chronic illness is teaching me to reconnect with my body. I wish that it was part of education to learn to listen to our bodies, to learn how to communicate our boundaries and other things that are necessary for a healthy and happy life.
I intuitively felt when I was 12 that I wanted to be home schooled or be a free learner but unfortunately that was not possible in my country. I want a better approach for my kids in the future.
truth! I was eldest girl in a family of 10 kids. I was taught to put myself last, like it would pay off someday, I was a good catholic girl. It's all self abuse. I could not sit and empty bladder in peace. no wonder the bladder infections showed up. I sit and pee in peace now. I drink water in peace and stare at the sun in peace and I walk in peace. It's quite enlightening!
Many children blatantly make aware that they absolutely do not consent to going to public school. Nobody seems to care about their consent on this topic. But when parents don't respect it and force them anyway, well it causes the damage that you should expect.
I agree in large part with what you say. Far too much emotional repression and trying to push through ( or push down ) bodily symptoms . Although at the same time, if people only worked when they felt like it, unless everyone was in a job they loved or found great purpose in, things would be chaos .
Surgeons or nurses can’t just not go in because they don’t feel like it, or are tired. So I think an element of self discipline is required, but still agree with you about the majority of things. Having to ask permission to go for a pee or poo is ridiculous, I agree! Politeness is one thing, but that imo is needlessly patronising and breeds submission
1. Following impulses
Honoring and responding to our physical needs
2. Orienting
Reconnect to our environment
what do you see, hear, smell, touch, taste
3. Sensory stimulation
Proprioceptive and vestibular stimulation calms the nervous system, like squeezing or applying pressure, rocking back and forth, swinging, jumping, shaking,
4. Daily practice
earthing, walking barefoot, mindfully walking,
Social support
Very helpful summary, thanks!
@@oksanakaido8437 you're welcome
4. Walking, painting, gardening
Thank you so much for taking the time to bullet-point this for me. Saves me having to listen to 20 mins of waffle. x
You forgot Yoga.
This inner work never ends. I’m 80 years into this journey ❤
I really like your pauses between ideas as you talk. It allows the viewer to absorb the idea before moving on to the next idea.
1. Following impulses - aka listen to your body. Tune into sensations (ex. go to the bathroom instead of pushing through/ignoring, drink water when thirsty)
2. Orienting - connect to your environment. Look outside the window, far into the distance.
3. Sensory Stimulation - helps get you into your body. Movement, balance, etc. Go for a walk, rocking, yoga, weighted blanket, foam rolling, jumping & shaking, heel drops.
4. Implementing resources - grounding exercises (aka earthing), mindful walking, gardening, mindfulness practices, deep breathing, art, connection.
❤
My body craves an intense amount of solitude
Mine too. I think it's because it's quiet and very low stimulation. I get overwhelmed and overstimulated very easily.
YESS💙💙👏👏same
Same
Because chaos out there adds to the chaos inside.
People are very lucky you are sharing this info for free!!
This info usually costs many hundreds or even thousands of dollars to obtain from a brain-retraining course. Blessings to you. 🙏🌷
Which should be free and taught in schools and in media for free. People are abused do nothing to entice violence, trauma harms their body and cause illnesses mental and physical - and healing costs so much money which is sick and abnormal. Most traumatized people do not have money and healing is not available to them. So kudos to Kate!
Yes ❤ thank you for sharing 🙏
I got involved in yoga and meditation 23 years ago when I was trying to get sober. Although it did connect me with my body in ways I was not connected before. It also created a spiritual bypassing and ignoring of my body's signals. I had not done the trauma work first. Oh, how I wish I'd known to do that first, I would have prevented a lot of re-traumatizing, and horribly slow, circuitous route to just listening to my body and honoring it. TH-cam wasn't like this back in the day I started down that route. Thank you so much for sharing this life-saving information 🙏This also explains why I've gotten sick being a nurse in a hospital floor. I've learned in life to push through hard stuff, Thinking it'll make me stronger. All it really did was traumatize me(disregulate my nervous system) and make me sick. I've drank coffee for years. I think I do it as a way to hype myself up to be able to abandon myself. Our society definitely supports people who abuse themselves. That's just not life-sustaning for me anymore.
Hey thanks for saying that about the coffee! I relate!!!
Just listened half way and I’m crying, realising how I’ve neglected myself. I didn’t learn this growing up. Changing that now so I pass on better habits to my child❤ thank you for this Kate!
Love that Maryanne! It's never to late to heal and a wonderful thing to pass onto your children!
This video is a GEM. I've been doing all this stuff for a long time without knowing it was actually the "right thing" to do... and now finally I found someone who explains it so well! Truly thank you ~ ♡
Thank you so much Alice! It is my passion to get this word and knowledge out into the world!
I enrolled in a health coaching program earlier this year and the program recommended eating 3 meals and 2 snacks per day, daily movement, daily exercise, drinking up to 100 oz of water, taking naps and going to bed early. I had NEVER done most of these things and found it difficult to do at first. I felt like a robot at first. But then I realized the reason my body had gotten out of whack over many years from the self-abuse you mentioned. I was so shocked and then understanding why my meditation and mindful practices were not as effective. This hustle/grinding culture and martyrdom has ruined so many of our health. I'm still learning to integrate all of these practices. When I fall off track and slip back into old habits, I have had a light bulb moment of awareness that I have been abusing my body and nervous system all of these years. Thank you for this video!
@@aquariusstar7248 I watched this video a day or two ago, and I have been trying to implement her tips. I am a homemaker, so I can pee any time I want to. I was shocked by how often my first instinct was to hold it and finish up whatever I was doing before going! I'm guessing this bad habit has carried over from all the years in school where I couldn't go, but I am honestly shocked at how hard it has been to remember to go as soon as I feel the urge.
I was feeling anxious today, so I went on two walks to burn off extra cortisol. In the past I would have told myself that one was plenty and that it would be better to spend the time cleaning or "being productive." Instead I listened to my body, and I feel much more relaxed! I can't believe how challenging this is. It makes me so sad. No wonder my nervous system is so screwed up.
I did not know how to cook and entire day I will ignore my hunger and milk tea or coffee and eat at night after making food for the night and I felt tired dizzy and this went for years in my twenties I needed somebody or family member to tell me to eat and when I took up painting hobby I neglected my bodily needs and stood painting the whole day I don’t know how I survived such self abuse and apathy towards myself is beyond me!nowI Iam 63 and I take care of my needs well!
Wow
I am also struggling with that part of I want somebody to tell me.
I do not also have a proper social structure.
I am going out and make some friends.
Regarding the cooking part. I have to make conscious decision to do it.
I also feel I am so different as a person when i socialize. And when I don't allow anything to measure me.
Isolation makes me feel that I have low standards.
1:32 nervous system. Body>brain
Creating internal safety and NS capacity. Connection
4:14 Following impulses
11:02 Orienting
13:21 Sensory stimulation. Propiocective and vestibular stimulation
17:46 Implementing practices
I am using "It is okay. All is well. I can live my life the way i want. What i feel is ok" mantras. I also used to hug myself when i felt fear. Looking at my cat calms me the most.
Also, I learnt to listen to my impulses and take action right away. It must be done consciously with no delay😊
Yep, putting myslef first when it comes to following my bliss, values and happiness. F...the people pleaser mentality and being toyed. Self obsessed is the key but many people do not see the advantage of it. They think it is selfish which is not true. I enjoy looking at people when they throw tantrums because they cannot control me. 😊 The worst part of the society for me is being employed because this is where we start losing ourselves big time. Can't forget expectations of our parents. Then of course school because it teaches self neglect as a temple for life. And relationships where people focus on othres to make them happy. Terrible mistake.
Thank you! I’m so glad the algorithm suggested you.
A few years ago I started a new job and I was so overwhelmed and excited. One day I was being trained on the new software and all of the desks and employees were grouped together, no walls - ah! I ignored my need to pee and my hunger. My new boss passed by and I complained that was hungry like a little kid. I was so embarrassed when other people turned around and gave me wide eyes 👀. It was a revelation! I’m adult who has a right to take care of my needs. It was bizarre that I felt I was in prison. I attribute that to growing up in an alcoholic family.
I'm thinking those wide eyes were thinking they feel that way too, and were hoping you had a solution they might also use. Hope you left that place.
@@Green2Red2 thank you. Yes, I am long gone 🥳
Consider practising tai chi - it calms the system beautifully.
What helping me to feel safe is also 🪷✨
1. Taking warm baths or showers just for relaxtion with candles and dimming light 🛀🕯️
2. Self care for example foot bath etc (what your body feel to do without pressure) 💅🏻
3. Go for a massage
4. Hug and be close to animals, they have uncondional love so it’s no pressure and safe 🐶
Thank you. I deal with constant anger/fear within me due to severe developmental trauma.
This helps. Now it's up to me to keep practicing this.
how do you forgive
❤🙏
@@TheBillaroalso an essential part of the healing process indeed. Teal swan, in my opinion, got useful information about this. I practiced over 25 years of buddhist meditation which helped. But calming the nervous system and feel save come first. Forgiveness is a byproduct. Self love first ❤ take care 🙏
@@TheBillaro I would also like to know. I think the key is not to rush it. Maybe you are angry and you haven't fully come to terms with and learned to love that part of you. That is the case with me anyway.
You have no idea how much this information is going to help me. I can’t thank you enough
Restorative Yoga. Gentle Yoga and Vagus Nerve reset wirh chanting or humming. Peace out. ☮
Absolutely ❤
Every woman everywhere needs to watch you….🙏💙bless you
Men don't count?
@@erickaepworth6257 Many women are convinced men don't suffer. Their language mirror this assumption.
@@jonber9411you are toxic masculinity if you suffer.
@@erickaepworth6257Men count. ❤️
For years ive treated my hody like it was an annoying demanding child.
Perhaps that’s how you were treated as a child? If so, you deserved compassion and kindness and I hope you can receive it now. 💜
Thanks so much for delivering these vital messages in an unhurried way. I really appreciate it.
Your calm delivery and providing a safe space is appreciated
Wow. I can't believe this is the first time I'm hearing this. This makes so much sense. Thank you.
You are so welcome!
I have never seen you before but this was very important info for me. I feel so unsafe all day everyday from profound childhood abuse.I am right now using these tips. I also need to feel safe so my animals will feel safe. For them I will do this (and for me) I’ve never heard this being a thing. Thank you. 🙏
I hear you and experience the same every day. It's horrible. Hope for your healing also.
❤🙏
This was sooooooo awesomely helpful for me that I slept 5 hours and got up to listen again!!!!!
Self care is very precious. Will help you to cope with everything snd slerp better
Oh my goodness, this is 10000% TRUE. I’ve been trying to heal my nervous system for 2 years and was stuck until just recently I realized this is what was going on! I was hyper vigilant keeping my nervous system stuck. Keep spreading the good news, soooo many stuck sick people out there! ❤
Best video I’ve seen so far about the nervous system, makes complete sense and very clear
Thank you SO MUCH! It sounds so simple, yet I wasn't aware of how much I've been ignoring body cues.
I’ve just started watching this and I’m amazed… shocked actually. Rather than make this really long I’ll just say that my whole life I’ve been unsafe and in reality - I’ve neglected myself. Never felt safe. Trauma has taught me that I couldn’t feel safe. But I never helped myself feel safe within myself. Calm my nervous system…what a concept❣️
Great video. I wonder if helping the nervous system feel safe helps us perceive a higher form of our intuition. Some people don't believe that even exists, but I've experienced times when insights showed up during stressful times that led to their solutions. I'd like to have more access to that part of myself. Previously, I never understood the value of being calm during difficult times. I used to say, "I don't care about being calm, I just want the problem to be fixed!" But if I could access choices I can't otherwise see while in freeze or fight or flight, I can see value in this other than just the health benefits to the body for calming down.
Just listening to you and the EXACT things needed by our bodies has calmed me down. I heard many of these suggestions before, but you've corralled them a concise usable practice. So thankful.❤❤❤
This is presented so well and it feels so doable that it calmed me just to watch the video. Most youtube practice are so complex that my body experiences them as additional stress.
Many thanks for these valuable tools.
I agree, I like how simply this was presented
Even at night, when I have to pee, I will keep telling myself to go back to sleep... Why do I do that? It takes a minute to go pee and get back in bed, why do I continue to choose to try and sleep with a full bladder? I know the consequences if I hold my pee in too long, I can het an infection... Why do I not just get up and go and go back to bed and be comfortable? Its so weird right? I have to figure out this insanity.
For me it's because I'm so tired I can barely get up, also Knowing once I do I'll be awake for the rest of the night.
i do this aswell ur no insane we both are
I used to be so proud of my ability to reign in a sneeze while working with patients! This entire video is a Godsend.
I still live in the apartment that I moved into when I first got into an abusive relationship so you saying “you need to show your nervous system that your safe” hit hard. Ugh I gotta move out
This was so helpful you have no idea.
God bless you abundantly ❤
Kate. You are just beautiful inside and outside. Thank you so much 😢😢😢😢😢
Great video, thank you! 😊 💚
This is so helpful! Please recommend some books on this subject! Thanks!
This was very helpful to me . Huge Thank you for this video !!!! ❤
Interesting note regarding orientation- Not moving your eyeballs but just shifting attention/focus from directly in front of you to your periphery really helps orient and I notice straightaway I relax and drop into myself..also nobody notices you doing this :))
I have not listened to this yet. The responses tell me more..and the headline. Inner peace and tranquility are my treasure. A Soul survivor of my family..inherited heart condition..divorcing an alcoholic narcissist and dating one!! Minus the alcoholic part " They are bees around a honey pot"! I go away to Cornwall on my own regularly...for my own healing retreats. They are solitary. I go hiking weekly. Even a narcissist can be great fun too...(Not when you live with them) Dating them it can be bearable but his days are numbered. So disrespectful. He will never rob me of my joy. But, my Joy irritates his tortured soul 🙏
I call it my calm system
THANK YOU!!! I’m encouraged!
This is probably the most helpful video I've ever seen. I feel like I'm going to be Supergirl after this. Thank you beautiful!
This video was so helpful! Thank you! ❤️
I am so happy I found this video
Dear Kate, just bumped into this video last night during another sleepless night. Thank you so much! First time I understand clearly why, how, what to do and when. As step one. I will implement, build capacity. No rush. Most likely in june join with the inner circle. Thank you so much again. I have hope now that I will be able to take care of myself, heal and change. Excited to start this process (very carefully & kindly). Myriam
How do we handle it when we cant have what we need to feel safe?
wow this is exactly why I needed. I’ve never had any validating my experience like this especially with something like not using the restroom. I thought I just had issues transitioning tasks but I will go hours without using the restroom and find it hard to leave my work desk. Wow thank you so much for letting me see this connection
Wow that was truly to the point everyone should be made to watch this.
Very interesting and helpful. Funny how I was getting over some really painful stuff: both mental and physical. I was drawn to weight-lifting, yoga, and I've always been a walker. I've kept up these activities as much as possible over the last couple of years and seriously feel they've helped. I still long for security though, on a regular basis.
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Ufffffffff… so clear. Amazing. Huge gratitude.
Love this so much!! Thank you 🥰
This was an epic video that I will listen to again thank you ❤❤
Thank you for this
Pile 2 😍 sounding like November, December & January and then getting double confirmation in pile 3 of Aquarius season Jan/Feb! I’m so excited and staying hopeful 🥳
What an amazing video. Thank you so much for all your hard work and putting this out there. A summary of all the things! I have started implementing them today. I never connected holding my pee that way but you are SO RIGHT! Had a few ah hah moments with this video. THANK YOU
Thank you so much for this simple break down. Straight to what matters, I appreciate that.
Brilliant. Thanks. I'm just looking for practical solutions and pointers. Too many people talking about the problems rather than the solutions. 👍
You are so welcome! My hope is to get this word out and help as many people as possible!
Shake it off by Taylor Swift is an amazing song to shake it off to. For real
I love that I can tell the pee thing was important to your own story, so it’s what you think of every time. It’s not bad, it’s just how humans work, and I love humans.
Great video and information. Thank you for the time taken to share. Respectfully, I would have added a specific 5th, with Coherent Breathing. I know you mentioned it in 4, but I would double down on this as it balances the nervous system.
If you do more videos like this, you will become famous! It was super helpful and informative, thank you so much 🙏
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Beautiful work! I’m thrilled to have found your content!
Thank you ❤
This was so, so good. Thank you so much! 💗
Thank you.x
This is a great video!!! Thank you so much!!
Great video! I’ve learned a great deal just from this short video - Thank you! One thing that I do when I realize that I’m dis-regulated is watch an episode of Cesar 911 on his personal channel. I love dogs and hope to get another pup one day😢. All the dogs he works with are in a state of fear and insecurity, just like my nervous system! Watching him work with dog and give it a sense of safety helps me be kinder to myself and have compassion instead of blaming or dwelling on horrible I feel. Maybe this will help another dog lover find ways to create safety in themselves ❤
Interesting that you bring him up, In hind sight I realize that was actually the beginning of my being able to understand the nervous system connection to the body. Caesar Milan and his show. Wow. Yay dogs!!!. I wound up with 2 rescue pits who are an excellent mirror for me and my husband. When he goes away one night a week the dogs are much less restless at night. It's him! 😆. We will both work on this. He's starting to understand and he's currently in the argument with his brain telling him the opposite should be happening. "Work work work, don't do ten minutes of yoga to reorient..."
@@KARENboomboomROXX Wow that's so interesting! Cesar always says he trains humans and rehabilitates animals and it's so true. Animals are a mirror for what we feel inside. Thank you for sharing!
@@PrayforMe831 yes!!!! ❤️🔥
neuroplasticity and vagus nerve
Fantastic - more please ❤❤❤
Thanks! I needed this.
I never considered that having to urinate really badly out of nowhere was a nervous system thing. I struggled with that for a long time and then it just went away.
Great job explaining this. Thank you.
Where can I find the sequel of this 6 months course? So interesting! I just discovered you thru TH-cam random algorithm! Thanks!
Hi Andreanne, more details about my Inner Circle can be found here: www.lifewithkate.com/innercircle
Thank you!! Truly! That was really interesting and well explained. Very valuable for a chronic-worrier like me 😅
Dear Kate I wish to thank you for this video, I have subscribed and am liking, 🙂
thank you for this video!!
The BEST solution for my nervous system is CHRIST. Letting Him live His life in and through me instead of me!
not quite sure about "feeling heard, feeling seen" part. I would rather not put my feeling to be safe in other people hands, my need to be seen and heard. As personal experience I felt really safer when I got rid of that need, not when I (temporarily) fullfilled it.
Or am I missing something?
All blessings
i think feeling heard and seen in the moment works as long as you are not insecurely attached to them or future outcomes?
I also released the need to get it from others. Like I don't expect it. I learned to do it for myself and it feels great and safe. But If I talk to someone I can see where they are at and if I don't feel heard or seen I do not continue any relationship with them because it automatically feels like being ignored and unimportant. Those relationships feel empty and superficial with no meaning for me.
Thank you for the video. Does having a pet at home help?
Yes, co-regulation is a real thing and can help calm your nervous system.
Thank you so Much🙏🏽❤️
This is such important information for coping with life as we know it today. Thank you ❤ Proudly new subscriber.
What do you mean by impulses because I always get an impulse to leave my boyfriend when I am disregulated during my PMDD.
How do I get the guide book
How do I follow my impulses if I have hyperawareness (aka somatoform/sensorimotor) OCD? I become hypervigilant about bodily processes and sensations, and I'm afraid focusing on impulses will make this worse.
Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you
Very good, thank you.
But what if you're actually hyperaware of your bodily needs and that's what's causing your distress?
great advices 😊
So helpful!!
I love this 💕
I think I need to move from Israel to have this.
I am so conditioned to put my kids and husband first, that I dont even eat the healthy stuff in our fridge because I don't want to deprive them. 😢 I think being a mom for 16 years and having a husband fighting lung cancer got me to this point. I just don't know where to start..
Taking care of yourself so you can care for your family is so important and it's never to late to start! I have a program that starts in January as well as my Inner Circle monthly membership that will give you all sorts of tools to help you get started!