"Boomers just ended up raising miniature adults." ... I just had to stop, rewind, and watch the last few minutes again. Damn. From the age of five on, I really was taught which of my interests would be a "good" career, and which wouldn't. Fun fact: Everything I enjoyed was not a "good" career.
And for those that choose what we enjoy, get ready for a lifetime of "way to waste your life on X instead of going into the trades." Cause remember - your only value is how much you make. /s
I know exactly how you feel. I was raised by a single mother who worked the graveyard shift at the hospital. I wasn't allowed out of the house outside of going to school. Thus video games became a big part of my life. When I expressed interest in doing something with video games when I grew up, I was told that they were a waste of time and I needed to find a "real" job. I'm 31 now and nearing the end of my first year of college for game design. I regret waiting this long to finally start.
Yep! By age 10 my friends and I were making college plans. In middle school, I *really* wanted to be a meteorologist, but it wasn't good enough. None were until finally settled on law because it was the most acceptable
Letting kids be kids is something the public school system doesn’t understand. Test, test, test, test. All I heard in elementary school was “we’re preparing you for middle school.” In middle school it was “we’re preparing you for high school.” In high school it was “we’re preparing you for college(even though we know at least half of you or more won’t go to college).” There was never time to just be. Not even at home. Always always always doing homework that doesn’t actually help you learn. The only thing I learned through homework was how to BS my way through it. Just tell them what they want to hear.
That's because the school system got modeled to forego instruction at the benefit of education, by that I mean you're not taught, you're just being crammed for evaluation and you can dump it all away afterwards because it doesn't matter in the job world. And the school system got into this because in the 20th century it's been geared and hardwired to produce obedient cogs and simply wrangle the misfits until the "real world" destroys them.
I'm still doing that even now that I am in college. It's honestly so mentally taxing and I didn't even go in for the EdUcaTIoN part. I'll finish the semester/year but that's it. I'm just lucky to have grandma and grants.
@@davidb3155 I have thought about that option before. The only thing with trades is a lot of them are highly physically. When I think about it I am someone relatively suited for office type jobs. I might not like phone calls and writing long reports but things like, looking over stock, checking balance. Heck even just filing papers is something I like. The issue is those types of jobs can be almost entirely automated. At least the ones that would pay a lot. Otherwise it's something like being an educator. I liked being a student teacher aid and helping grade work. I don't think I could stand kids though. I do hope I can find something so I'm keeping optimistic about it. I just don't know what "it" is yet.
@@nicole_1747 would highly recommend binging the whole thing as an adult. Some of the babies’ parents dialog is legitimately the best part of the show. 🤣
@@Mark0o0Polo I used to LOVE the Rugrats, but when I tried watching it again a few years ago, I couldn't get past the animation style. And if I remember correctly, the first season might have been a little rough around the edges too, as most first seasons of a sitcom usually are. Maybe I should give it another shot...
"Stew? What're you doing?" "Making chocolate pudding. . . " "It's 3'Oclock in the morning. Why on earth are you making chocolate pudding?" "Because I've lost control of my life. . . " I feel ya, Stew. . . I feel ya
It’s tough tbh. I remember thinking “I sold my soul. I have no morals. I did EVERYTHING right, and I still have nothing.” That is why millennials are angry. Even the ones who WANTED to be evil yuppies couldn’t do it anymore.
The dark side of all this is that - generalizing of course - adults LOVE IT when kids act more like miniature adults than actual children. On top of just being easier to deal with, miniature adults have the *appearance* of having their shit together and the *appearance* of maturity. So even when we understand the importance of letting kids be kids, or that kids will sometimes ask like adults for unhealthy reasons, we (parents, schools, church groups, etc) can't help but reward adultlike behaviour in kids, and hold it up as an example for other kids to follow.
It might even be an extension of the "yuppie" mindset to have, or have the appearance of, a child who's further along in their mental development than normal. Since the "yuppie" mindset is about projecting outward prosperity, the idea that you have raised a superior child could simple be another element of that. And one that seems to have survived to the modern day.
More than that, the "yuppie" mindset might even have evolved when it met with social media, the result could be what we see today in Gen Z and millennials on Instagram and tik tok and other "influencers"
Children need to be given unstructured time, when parents aren't telling them to be cellists or trying to turn them into Michael Phelps to look good for college admissions. The absence of this time stunts personal growth.
@@alexanderrahl7034 I dont exactly agree with that entirely. When in a mature environment, I dont think its unreasonable to impose a stricter atmosphere of maturity (cite children on a plane, at a restaurant, in a supermarket). Its understandable that you won't get 100% cooperation from a child (or anyone i suppose) so a compromise must be made. Allowing them to color or watch or listen to things on youtube on your phone is a good compromise. It allows them to stimulate themselves in a way thats engaging for them and not outwardly interrupting adults in the area. Ultimately, the parent must assert some control over their child, not necessarily dictate their interests, but shape them into a suitable cohabitant of society.
Except a lot of those "Adult" behaviors are more accurately described as traumas. So if they say you got an old soul that means they traumatized you into a form early adulthood. No, literally. The behavior changes we attribute to it like an increase, omnipresent seriousness, no willingness to take risks and other such behaviors are literally results of being traumatized and not coping with it. The rampant plague of Depression and Anhedonia are directly linked to this.
Oh yeah, I did well in school and seemed to naturally understand the material, so that got pushed on me constantly. I would only be happy if I went to college. I was so smart, so I was wasting this amazing brain I have because I just wanted a job to pay the bills. Yada yada, it was all bullshit. My proof is POF. How many profiles did I see where the education level was listed as something like bachelor's degree, master's degree, etc, but the job title was factory worker, cashier, or fastfood. College guarantees nothing. In fact, sadly, so many of those folks ended up having crushing student debt to deal with on top of working a low paying job. Lower class people can be, and often are, happy, but that's hard to do when 1/4 of your paycheck is going to a loan that isn't getting payed off any time soon. It's incredibly sad. My ex-girlfriend was in that boat. She's an emt working at a chemical plant. She makes almost $18 an hour which, here in southern Indiana, is good pay, but she's barely getting by, because her wages are being garnished to cover her student loans. Around here, a person making that much should be covering their bills and then some. They shouldn't feel constricted unless they are living outside their means, but she always seems to be running low. The bills get payed, but there's nothing left, and she sometimes goes to work without a lunch to bring with her, because she doesn't have enough to pick up something on the way, and there are no leftovers from earlier. Side note here, whoever invented the 21 day swing shift is a sadistic bastard. It wasn't even for her emt training if I'm not mistaken. She took classes for medical transcription and billing. Of course, noone would hire her without experience, and now, just a few years later, her degree is worthless, because so much has changed that she would have to take all of the classes over again.
@@brenthunter5078 I graduated college 2 years early with a bachelors in computer science, Fortunately before i still ended up working at target for a few years, i managed to pay off my debt. But i know i was lucky in that... considering how millennials as a collective beat all other generations with accrued debt with 1.6 trillion in student loan debt alone before the youngest of us even reached 25. It was baffling to me just how many of my coworkers at target also had bachelors... a few even had masters. One of the team leads literally had a doctorate. Yet all of us still... were working at target because there werent enough jobs in our fields. And despite the notion many older Gen Xers and Boomers believe, they werent useless degrees either. We graduated into one of the worse economies and job markets in US history. After being lied to, since early childhood by people we were suppose to trust, about what we needed to do to succeed. Its kinda wild how so many of us were shackled, by achieving crushing debt for a piece of paper most of us dont use, after spending years of our lives to get it. And then those same people who told us to get it wonder why we arent further along in life.
One of the biggest lies ever perpetuated.. Most of the smartest people in history died poor or at best in modest conditions. You don't need tons of intelligence to rise to the top, merely enough, with lots of cunning.
My dad use to always say, "I'm not raising kids, I'm raising adults." I always thought it was an odd thing to say because I was a kid...not an adult lol
I get the reasoning, you're working with an end product in mind. But the flaw is that it can cause one to be so focused on reaching that end product that they forget the process to get there. Tempering is needed in order to have an outcome that is stable. If you take raw material and simply try to force it into the shape of the final product without processing and refining the materials first, then you will be left with something that has approximately the right appearance, but that is being held together by the crafter and will fall apart or shatter when let go or put under any stress. That is what we are seeing happening with people now. The initially appearance of being well put together and having one's life in order, but then failing and crumbling appart when required to face lofe on their own. Some people can assemble themselves into a cohesive form and function, but others never manage to pull their lives together.
The parents never tried to actually interact with or watch the children. They didn’t try to figure out what was going on by just plainly observing their children. It was all about worrying about being a good parent but they didn’t actually do anything to be a good parent.
I think 1) we have to remember this is a TV show so they're only going to be showing the adventurous times. We're not going to see the boring days in between where Didi plays with Tommy alone while Price is Right is on in the background. 2) I think the whole premise of the show also plays into the idea that you can turn your back on your kids for 2 minutes while you do dishes and they're suddenly covered in peanut butter. And since the show's writers definitely pulled from their own lives and experiences, they probably just wondered what their kids were imagining while playing with a toy truck in the sand box and expanded on that. 3) There's instances where the kids are doing this stuff and parents ARE watching. The pirates episode, Didi is watching from the window telling someone on the phone they're playing pioneers and she wished she had her camera. 4. The number of times adventures happened cuz grandpa fell asleep... xD
Sounds exactly like my grandparents who were part of "The Greatest Generation". My grandmother was an abusive alcoholic who alienated most of her children and my grandfather was "there" physically (sometimes) but not really there emotionally, if you know what I mean. From the outside they seem like good parents but from the inside they couldn't have been more dysfunctional.
I don't see them being neglectful but rather taking a break. Many parents get so much pressure about how to parenting well, and leaving the kids alone for 5 minutes helps. And you probably say "But they left the kids alone for hours!!!", and is a yes and no, on one hand if there are in a safe place they can be left alone longer while we as viewers we see everything by the lens of the babies, for them one hour is like a month, so they feel more fullfilled with their little adventures than an adult would.
Broke: conspiracy theory about the babies of Rugrats being invented by angelica's mind. Woke: Conspiracy theory about The Rugrats inadvertedly portraying the anxieties of our parents, and the decadence of the American middle class
@@tariqthomas9090 the second one probably more accurate anyway, except there was nothing inadvertent about it. The makers of Rugrats knew exactly what they were doing, and Nickelodeon shows in general satirized society in some way.
I was always interested in the non-traditional gender roles of RR parents, Stu, while a freelance toy designer, was a stay at home dad while Didi went out and worked as a teacher, Drew and Charlotte were both business people but it was clear that Charlotte had the higher position and paycheck, Chaz had to play duel parent roles as a widower, and Betty was interested in fitness and female empowerment coming off as the more dominant partner than the more mild-mannered Howard. I even recall an episode where all the women are gathered around the tv for the Super Bowl while Drew and Stu were in the kitchen cooking.
@@jessehenderson2967 The best part about television back then was that progressive ideas were inched in subtly, in a natural way, not performative, like many of the messages inserted in shows today.
@@GenerationNextNextNext so true. Watched RR and rockos modern life the other week and both those shows had very progressive ideas in the shows but it was so subtle that I almost didn’t notice it until I really payed attention to the show. Side note: rocko has aged like fine wine, tbh it was ahead of its time and predicted many of the modern issues we face right now literately 25 years ago.
@@GenerationNextNextNext There's no way that isn't cringe. I'm sorry, but how many of these people CLAIMING to be trans are doing it to put a big stamp of "social outcast" on themselves to make up for another internal feeling? Or that they enjoy bossing the big companies around. Rest assured, many claiming to be trans today will not have transitioned in the next generation, thus rendering the word meaningless. Since I do care about more acceptance for people who transition and enabling a more flawless genetic transition. That's our future. But for posers who do so for all the wrong reasons, I don't care.
@@kappadarwin9476 Exactly using simple things like safety scissors made me ambidextrous because all were made for right handed and I had to learn to work with it
@@AnimeGirlYaoiChan I'm not purely ambidextrous because I can't write with my right hand at all but everything else I can do with ether hand so at least something good came out of being a lefty.
They used to play Nick ads with facts about the show. I think they played the same three like a million times. I still know that the woman who plays Deedee also voices Tommy's grandma. Like, why tf do I know that?
I grew up in a household where my parents were constantly screaming at each other about paying the bills, threatening each other that we'd be living on the street. Needless to day, I'm very financially conservative to this day.
My parents divorced pretty early, which didn't really bother me at the time but it might've actually set in motion my view on relationships, which is that they never last and if they do its unhappy, for financial reasons. My dad was pretty strict and cynical and I feel like these days I'm slowly becoming like him. But I also realize more that what he's said is sad but true
Thinking how boomers had anxiety that they might not be able to afford a middle class lifestyle on basic labor jobs, is actually funny to me, as a millennial.
You wanna know what's even funnier? They're pissed at their own karma. So you know how Boomers have relentlessly bullied Millenials (and Gen Xers because they, for some reason, occasionally get lumped in with Millennials), because they're so much more "sheltered" or "entitled"? Their constant efforts to perform the middle-class lifestyle they suffered so much anxiety over losing inadvertently gave their kids a higher standard of living from the get-go. Not to say that this is a bad thing, but that Boomers hold disdain for a generation (or generations) they helped to create, and that they take virtually no responsibility for it now, is. I could also just be connecting dots that aren't there from a fictionalized, PG-rated microcosm of the final years of the 20th century, but I still think it's a half-decent working theory.
@@hanssprungfeld8487 at least shes taking some responsibility for that possible outcome - that hasnt and may never happen, lol. The sterotypical Boomer parent wont even consider the possibility- of something that already happened
i was a married, but childless, 25 yr old gen x'er when "rugrats" debuted... and i always connected with the babies. my husband and i laughed at the parents, for the most part, altho chuckie's dad always seemed the most realistic. but i was raised by my grandmom much the same way the babies were, so i could relate best to that. i'm, like, 55 now.... my husband and only child have passed on.... and i still enjoy watching "rugrats". it's comfort food for me, ya know? 💕
I am so very sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart to even try to understand the pain your heart must have felt. I can only wish you find what you need to heal your soul. ❤️
I'm glad that Rugrats brings you some measure of comfort. It can be extremely rough to mourn and process grief. I know I'm just a stranger, but I'd like you to know that you have my sympathy and my heart goes out to you. This show was very pivotal to me as a child growing up. It's interesting revisiting it at 31 and seeing what went over my head. It's also interesting to see how maturity, experience, and perspective shapes our outlook and appreciation of things.
@@andrewmaximo4485 Not really, i always felt that they weren't very approachable on that front, i'd always be afraid to ask them many things. I can't really tell you why that is, or what i really meant with that comment since it's been 3 years, so i can't remember my thought process.
And now I finally understand why a huge part of the kids that were in honor rolls and "gifted child" programs are anxious wrecks masquerading as adults today. Even the ones who were there because they actually enjoyed the academic part of school.
Yep, I was in "gifted child" programs, honor roll, AP and IB classes all throughout K-12 and now I scam boomers for bitcoin after dropping out of graduate school after an existential crisis turned into a mental breakdown.
my adult ass being on honor rolls and in gifted programs..... In my early 20s I left the US and start doing my own thing. so glad I did that shit. in my 30s I am pretty successful. not filled with anxiety and not pretending to be an adult. A lot of why these kids grow up to be anxiety ridden adults is because they trusted the pipeline they were put in, only to find out that pipeline/path was broken, and didn't have the flexibility to take the unbeaten path in life. That's in no way their fault. That's literally how their parents raised them to be. To rely on a structured environment when in life, that structure just doesn't exist and really never existed. We have a lot of freedom, and with it does come responsibility and that shit is hard for people to handle.
Ah yes the "loser career" storyline. I swear teachers and parents back then used "loser career talk" as a threat if you didn't study. That sentiment died down because we literally were watching Spongebob live his best life as a fry cook. I think that the recession and the pandemic ended that "get a real job" talk. I know my mother is proud that I have a job and can financially support her when she lost hers; I still felt guilt over not being the successful office drone that reached the upper middle class.
That's Stu, LOL. If you think about it: the guy knows some electronics and rudimentary engineering, so he wants to make toys for a living, risking it in the private sector for an unconvetional idea, while his brother is more traditionally career-oriented. The very first sceneof them in the Rugrats film shows them arguing over Stu's career and how much time and money he spent making a fucking flying machine shaped like a pterodactylus (remember that?). Stu hated not being able to work with his hands so he'd rather keep making failed projects than wirking in a desk job. He didn't make it into the traditional fit for a man, but takes pride in his work.
@@UBvtuber I studied a lot, to the point i was considered a genius, but obsure languages don't translate to marketable skills. At least I have a job, most of my peers probably lost theirs during the pandemic and have a 100K+debt. I was considered "retarded" by my teachers.
You’re definitely right about the pandemic ending a lot of parenting quips like the “get a real job” talk. Also parents used to complain about kids screen time and video games. You don’t hear them complaining about that anymore with quarantine
Every few years a new one comes up remember Dr. Oz and the horrible raspberry ketones, oh wait that causes breathing problems woops. always some douch bag claiming he knows the secrets to what ever just buy his book.
I remember my dad loving Rugrats, laughing his ass off at Mr. Pickles. 5 year old me didn't get why. I was just stoked that my dad liked the same cartoon as me. We all used to love the adventure episodes when the normal house got transformed into fantastical make-believe worlds.
He was probably laughing at himself with Stu. Anyone with their own business, as small as it can be, can relate to Stu. If you also had an uncle who happened to work in a more traditional career, then he was for sure laughing at himself.
I’m from the Midwest and just graduated high school in the spring of 2019. Heard the same boomer dead end job secure your spot in college for a successful life talk. I’ve worked for 8 years (since I was 12) as my father passed away when I was 10 and I’ve supported my mother for a long time doing everything from raising livestock, being a counter clerk, fixing and flipping cars to factory jobs. During graduation I had people laugh at me when they announced on my walk up that I had chosen not to go to college, the same people I know who always complain about their careers and their lives in business. Funny. Half of my senior class that went to college has dropped out with 1yrs tuition in debt. It’s a shame. I’m still here nothings changed. Blue collar money, but everything is paid off and I still have a job during the pandemic. God bless.
Well to be fair, covid isn't making college any easier. I'm insanely glad none of this was happening when I was in college, because I would have stopped going in a heart beat and probably never even returned. I've never heard of someone having to drop out from debt after 1 year though. I'm only 20k in debt from 4 years and that's not even that much. My first two were free thanks to scholarships tho (in other words I got my associates degree for free while partying my face off for 2 years). Pretty lit I do think college isn't for everyone, but it's a great experience for those seeking it. I don't regret the debts I accumulated, though I would obviously prefer not to have them.
9:30 Credit to Arthur, who had a whole episode about Francine's dad being a garbage man, and learning not to be ashamed to say it out loud to her classmates.
isn't it so funny how parents push their kids to be more well off than they were, completely neglecting all the different people who don't make 6 figures? even though if you took those people away these parents would fall apart. can't take the train now, no conductors. wanted to stop and get coffee or lunch? whoops, no food service workers. need new clothes? sorry, the manufacturers are out and the retail employees are too. need to throw out your trash? drive your car over to the dump then sweetie. looking to make dinner? hope you been growing your own food and keeping care of livestock! yes, life is easier with money. but money isn't everything. if you spend your whole life pushing for money and success you'll look back on it at the age of 60 wondering whether you really gained anything at all.
I remember catching up with a high school friend 5 years after I graduated (he dropped out before that). He said he was a garbage man like he was ashamed of it. I told him he should be proud because it was an important job. He was making good money in his early 20's and meanwhile I didn't make decent money until I was 35 and that was by luck. I have a college degree and he dropped out of high school.
@@jonathan2282 Life is all what you make of it my friend. That's the biggest lesson teenagers should learn. Rushing into college was a mistake and if I could I'd go back in time and take a gap year to figure it all out.
See, i always had that thing I wanted to be. It just never meant anything. First I wanted to be a Fire fighter/police officer, because as a kid, that was what I thought was a good guy. Then I heard dentists get paid a lot... Then i saw Snow Dogs and some of the rank ass teeth he had to work on and that scared me away. Then a pro-wrestler, comic book artist, computer programmer, graphic designer. And eventually, i just settled on Unemployed Filmmaker...
I really love the line about "you would never want to be a lowly garbage man keeping your town clean when you could be making hundreds of thousands of dollars doing... whatever the *** a consultant does"
What was said about children pressured to grew up too quickly in order to maintain their social class reminds me of the Teen Suicide Cluster in Palo Alto, CA -- an affluent community within the San Fransisco bay area. After the '07 housing bubble burst, there was added pressure to not fail academically, while at the same time, universities wanted to look more "prestigious" and seclusive by increasing applications so that they can reject the most applicants as they can. Between '09 and '12, the amount of teenagers taking their own lives hit a spike in a number of communities across the U.S., but Palo Alto got the spotlight as a number of PA kids running in front of passing CalTrans train cars caught major news outlets. Sadly, it took folks a bit to figure why they were doing this, as it never occurred to parents and educators that too much education is a bad thing.
Interestingly enough, Palo Alto gave birth to a school of psychology aiming at proposing a systemic analysis, that is not only talking to the patient about himself, but trying to understand how the contexts and interactions play a role in the mental states. Coincidence? I THINK NOT! Kidding, I'm pretty sure it is a coincidence, but it rings strangely significant to me...
It’s not that too much education is a bad thing. Rather, the parameters for success are far too limited and don’t account for the interests and inclinations of the individual.
Really? I thought it would be the first movie that made people cry, that's the one where we thought Spike might have died fighting a wolf. Oh, and the psycho monkeys attacking the babies was creepy as all get-out.
This is sooo relatable, reminds me so much of my mom especially. She always worried about not raising me right and therefore tried way to hard and maybe cared a bit too much. I felt smuthered by this for a long time in my teens. Now in my twenties, the past couple years i've been so stressed about not becoming someone succesfull i went trough some dark times. After quitting my third study i've come to realise i don't have to be perfect or succesful and i feel so much more free. I feel i can go in directions with my life i never even considered before, even without having to go to college again. So many people around me seem to be obsessed with materialism and becoming succesful it's sometimes hard to realise there is so much more than that.
I was a money addict till my late 20's ..then I was like _What am I doing? Im trading all my time for this stupid money. Making rich assholes richer?.. Im out!_ Now I just chill lol.. way better.
This made me think of my mom as well. She is borderline obsessed with money and class. She judges everyone by how much money they make. And she keeps telling me to go back to college so I can get a better job. Even though it's not important to me right now. Maybe not ever. When her ex boyfriend died from a car crash, she only lamented that he didn't have life insurance, so his family couldn't get any money.
I can relate, in my thirties now. I was raised by a blue collar single mom. I noticed a lot of the worries mentioned here. College was constantly being pushed on our generation by teachers, your friends parents, your family, and any other adult worried about your success.
Actually, the fact that their parents think of themselves as helicopter parents, want the world the see them as helicopter parents, but are so self-absorbed that they (in reality) constantly neglect basic supervision duties, is the best representation of Boomer parents that I know. 👏
So many parents really are like this. That's why they constantly rub it into their peers and even their own children. They know their kids won't die if left alone for a few hours, but they know they'll get judged by other parents who are doing the exact same thing. It's almost never about safety or wanting the best for their kids, because they themselves claim that they grew up with parents who gave them more freedom and "turned out fine". Some even know that coddling or hovering around your kid too much is unhealthy for them, but that doesn't matter to them. It's abouct looking like you're just going to extremely measures to be a good parent so that you seem "holier than thou". Or they do it so they can brag to their kids when they're older about how how much they had to go through to keep you safe just so you could be happy, so the children "can't complain". Watching over a toddler constantly is understandable, but if they're older, not giving them any space whatsoever is just unnecessary unless you either want to make your kid feel miserable or you just care more about image than doing the best for your kid. It's just like with spoiling your children just so you could brag about it to other parents about how you're a "cool mom" or "cool dad", or they do it so that if the kids feel like they're not allowed to complain and are simply labeled as "ungrateful", even if their complaints are legit and valid. Relatives, teachers, etc can do the same thing. In most cases, it's got nothing to do with genuine love, in my opinion, but rather to "make up" for abuse and neglect so the kids stay silent (essentially, hush money) or so they look good as parents. I just want to clarify that I don't believe this is exclusive to baby boomers alone. Not all boomers are like this, and anyone regardless of the year they were born in can be guilty of this. A LOT of gen xers and millennials have this problem, and gen z will probably start to have this problem too (some of them already have their own kids).
My boomer mother. She usually spent plenty hours talking with my school principal on things she didn't agree with, and then left me and my sister on the nursery until 5 p.m. because she was working 3 jobs to raise us. I absolutely don't resent her for it: I actually wish I understood these things back then.
@@betsapp91 Yeah they're effectively just the guys doing Stage Design in a play while Boomers are the ones who wrote the play and Millenials/Zoomers are the actors forced to perform in front of the crowd.
Definitely a lie! I wish adulthood hadn't been hyped up as some magical age where you suddenly become competent at everything. Adults F up their decisions all the time. It's just a high-stakes learning game.
I tried to hold on to my childhood as long as I could as a kid. I didn't stop watching Nickelodeon on a regular basis until the age of 23 in 2013. Once The Thundermans came out, I had to admit that Nickelodeon was for today's kids and not the 90s kids anymore.
@Jarod 1999 Nah man. For sure, don't glorify the race to grow up. But don't traumatize them with it too young. Hold on to that innocent enjoyment of life as long as you can, and warn em about stuff as it comes up (bullying, politics, greed, superficiality, etc.) @@dapperfan44 you got the right attitude my dude
"...prone to suffering from real bouts of anxiety...like they have the weight of the world on their shoulders" Yep, sounds like a typical Monday ...Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
@@PoseurGoth Yeah it would be 10 years. The video creator says "11 year old daughter" but she would not be 11 if the babies are in 5th grade. Angelica was about 2 years older and would be around 13, not 11.
My parents definitely practiced concerted cultivation on me. My mom even admitted to trying to raise me as the perfect child back in the day, which led to me developing an anxiety disorder as well as a perfectionism complex and low self-esteem.
My mum tried raising me to be her "perfect child trophy" so she could gloat to her deadbeat family who hated her. So, if I didn't do what she aspired me to do, I became her (and dad's) human punching bag. Wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend, because I was meant to study, have a career, earn big money... Because if I got married at the same age my mum got married, I wouldn't have the time to succeed & achieve to be some millionaire big-shot. To this day she says "you could've been this" or "you could've been that if you stayed at school..." I left school in year 10, because I was SICK of the control. Sick of having no life & coming home to be shoved into a bedroom to do hours & hours of homework so I could over-achieve to please some nobody-housewife who was my mother. Now she complains about me not giving her grandchildren..... But she spent her whole energy as a mother, outlawing me from having a girlfriend..... When she was the "town bike" as a teenager.
This is a small litte point, but boomers weren't the "weed smoking hippie" generation. Most of the social figures at the time were from the Silent generation or even the greatest. Most of the boomers were still children in the 60s. Only the absolute oldest of the boomers might have had anything to do with all that happened in the 60s. This is something many people, boomers as well, get wrong and overlook.
To be fair, some of the early boomers were able to take part of the 60s hippie movement. Plus it extended to the 70s as well, when most boomers were either teens or young adults. But you're definitely right about many social figured not being from the baby boomer generation. The Silent Generation honestly doesn't get the credit they deserve. Plus boomers didn't invent "hippie culture".
Yeah, better to think of boomers as the kids in That 70s Show. Smoking weed, wearing bell bottoms, maybe some social consciousness/protesting but mostly just goofing off.
I can say that my upbringing resembled that of Rugrats. Parents and other adults had insanely high expectations of me and I had so much anxiety to live up to those expectations. Thankfully I had ample free time to do with as I pleased, like watch tv and play videogames. I did grow up a lot faster than I should have so I existed in this sort of self-aware state where I was mature enough to understand the situation I was in, yet, helpless to do anything about it. Thank god for memory repression.
@Student Rohan Joshi It really is about getting to know yourself. Figure out what your goals in life are, outside of anyone else's influence. The more time you spend thinking on what you want to do, the less important other people's views become. Learn what makes you happy and pursue that.
My parents were born in '58 & '61, late boomers and they literally have the characteristics of ALL of these characters morphed together. They definitely suffered that whole economic stress and anxiety and smothered the crap out of me and my sister, and people wonder why so many young people live with their parents; we all have this idea that if we don't save as well as indulge not only are we missing out on life but we are also gonna be living on the streets.
I'm a Canadian minimum wage worker who barely works full time and I could buy a house if go out of the city. Just stop trying to buy a house in expensive cities.
@@ay-dionne If your career require from you to live in a big city but said career cannot pay enough to make living in a big city doable, then that is not a career. It's a dead end dream.
@@Pikminiman When I was a kid I didn't tell my parents I need new shoes, since the old ones had holes in them. Later when my old friend's gran got me some. My folks were embarrassed they didn't get me shoes. They even had the gal to sham me for accepting charity! When through out childhood my parents talked about finances a lot as a kid - so I didn't bother them with what a needed or wanted. Sad really.
You left out the most boomer moment of the show- the episode where the babies kept taking their clothes off and the twins' mother tells Tommy's "the 60's are over we lost".
@@BelieveIt1051 Tbh I can't tell the difference between the Karens, Feminists, and Boomers at times... they all scream "ITS THAT PHONE!" at the end of the day and victimize themselves.
@@BelieveIt1051 i mean, which generation did you think make up the bulk of second-wave feminism, the main target of mockery whenever feminism came up in this era of cartoons?
@@DixyRae What do other cartoons have to do with this? Like, if Ren & Stimpy mock some boomer feminists that doesn't mean Rugrats showed boomer feminists. The fact is, feminists exist in every generation. It doesn't make the feminist a boomer.
I do think it remains unhelpful to miss that "movements" rarely include the entire generation. The one that gets sold about boomers were hippies who then became yuppies. The hippies were a rare thing, and when talking with boomers it is clear that for most of them, they witnessed hippies existing and on the news, rather than participating in the movement.
I believe nothing defines an entire generation the way we are told it does. A lot doesn't mean everyone. Not every boomer kid in the 60s was a hippie. Not every late 70s kid was into Star Wars. Not every Gen X kid was a grunge fan, and not every Gen Z kid uses TikTok. History seems to forget the half of that particular generation who were or went out of their way to be the contrary.
I also like to point out regarding Chas Finster (Chuckie's dad, I forgot his name) being a single dad at such an era. I think Mrs. Finster passed away when Chuckie was barely a year old and so Chas really had to double up on being the ultimate parent for his son, but being quite an easily nervous and retentive guy over his child which reflects on Chuckie being a sympathetic, easily scared character.
Boomers kinda screwed Gen X as well. Being that bit older, they gobbled up all the best jobs then closed the doors behind them. Then got rid of mandatory retirement to make sure they could carry on screwing Gen X.
Eric Clapton, one of the greatest rock guitarists, is a baby boomer and so is Paul Weller who co-founded Red Wedge. Donald Trump is a baby boomer and so is Jeremy Corbyn who was born just three years later.
@@discosecret6363 am from the start of gen z and honestly I used to do this until I realised most of the "boomers" I don't want to strangle are actually gen x'ers lol
My cousin always has said that Boomers reaped the benefits of the decades of hard work the G.I. & Silent generations, milked it for all it was worth, left nothing for future generations after & then constantly criticizing the Gen X, Gen Y & Early Gen Zers for not being as successful "go getters" like they were before forgetting or flat out refusing to acknowledge how much easier the G.I. & Silent generations made it for them. I've also heard the early to mid Boomers had the their G.I. parents helicoptering over them so they were pushed into those lucrative careers they may not have even were really going for in the 1st place but had successful careers none the less.
Loved this show as a kid, such an interesting take on the parents. Loved the episode where Stu makes pudding in the middle of the night because he’s lost control of his life 😂
Yeah, cause angelica abuses the button that he gives her cause it makes her feel really powerful. I know angelica is the bad guy of the show and it doesn't always make her the most likable person, but given how her mother is always working can totally see why, as a character, she acts out. It's cause she wants to be powerful like her mom and she probably isn't getting all the attention she wants as a kid cause her mom is constantly on the phone. If you look at it that way angelica becomes kinda tragic. She's got a mom who's powerful and living the American dream, but that doesn't leave her much time to be the be a mom to angelica.
I was thinking of the same exact moment. I can’t tell you how many times my wife has woken up in the middle of the night to find me wasting time and when she asks me why I’m still up I start laughing at Stu, and how dead on that line was.
@@EagleZtoTheGrave right, I remember one of the showrunners wanted the writers to make angelica a little more sympathetic. Idk how I feel about that on the one hand she's basically the shows main antagonist, she needs to be kind of evil. On the other, I think it would have made her a little more 3-dimensional if they made angelica more sympathetic.
@@darkmyro I like how Rugrats went against the usual narrative of "D'aw see? Bullies are like that because they're bullied by other children or their parents." Bull. Some kids are just evil shits and don't come out of it until their early adult life or stay that way and either end up in prison or become someone's boss.
A lot of it came from the red scare via media brainwashing that anything remotely similar to the idea of "socialism" and "communism" suddenly invoked such terror that it was like they were being chased by a serial killer.
My paranoid self... Is like are ppl trying to 1) study this time or 2) be baity Idk. I remember what i remember. I guess it makes me look independent. & My parents really dont have much of an influence bc theyre not much of them. I couldnt even remember what angelicas mom did. I thought she was a real estate agent
This hits uncomfortably close to home. Like... Yeah, did I ever feel like my parents expect me to go to college, excel there, get a high paying job for a house and family. Is it nothing what I imagined my life to be? Sure. Do I like having them around? Hell, no. Do I still love them? Hell, yes. Am I depressed and not able to pursue a carrer without their judment and feeling I am not successful enough? Yes.
Thats when you have to do things for your own happiness, your own approval, your own pride and your own love. Can't always live for other people and try to be who they want you to be
@@mindofzena8447 Well I respect your advice, but things cannot be generalized in just one conditions. What if you live in a stagnant, third world countries? The choice is quite obvious.
My boomer parents always wanted me to attend high school and go to study at a university and of course this became the most important goal of my life (and still is to this day). But as a teenager I couldn't handle the pressure and I started wasting my days smoking pot with my mates. Although I went to high school at first, I failed it and dropped out two times in a row. In my early 20s I tried again, succeeded and now I study at University. And now after I found a new student job, my mom tells me that I should find a "real job" instead...
The trick is to just stop caring about their approval. Sounds hard to do and I won't lie, it is-- but at some point you have to decide who you're living on this planet for. You, or them.
For all the 'no, they were Gen-Xers' - the youngest parent was Deedee, who was 32 at the beginning of the series. Meaning all of the parents were born in 1959 or earlier. Gen X was 65. They're Boomers.
To add a bit more verification to that, I distinctly remember an episode that was mostly a flashback to an adventure that Stu and Drew had in their father's electronics repair shop when they were about Tommy and Angelica's ages, respectively. The flashback was animated in black and white, and I recall there were were thinly-veiled parodic references to The Flintstones, The Jetsons, and Rocky and Bullwinkle. At one point, one of Lou's customers also mentions having difficulty starting his Edsel. All of the context clues line up, and point to that particular flashback occurring sometime around 1959 or 1960. That absolutely confirms Stu and Drew as being Boomers.
@@Josh-sv7wj Let's assume these parents were all born around 1950. They'd be 20 in 1970, and probably not be having kids until their late 20s/early 30s due to the Sexual Revolution, so having kids between 1978 and 1982, as Gen X was reaching its final years and giving way to the Millennials. We have to understand that generations are not defined by who gives birth to whom, but rather by what period of time one was born in. Both Gen X and the Millennials are products of the Boomers, as Gen X and the Millennials both grew up under different circumstances due to the rapidly increasing development of technology and shifting culture. Gen X would also have some members who would be considered young members of the Greatest Generation, while Millennials were entirely sired by Boomers, with some Gen X parentage towards the end in the mid 90s.
When I was a kid, I was obsessed with the rugrats. Its interesting looking back that they were playing and I was sitting in front of a TV just watching.
And... now I notice my fellow-Millennial friends and family that have children follow the same behavioral patterns. It's easy to shit on boomers as if they're personally culpable for this shit, but in some ways it's just the natural endpoint of a meritocratic culture (whether that meritocracy is real or an illusion). We use universities as a sorting mechanism - the people that're most neurotic, most workaholic, least likely to challenge authority figures, most likely to define their self-worth as a human being from external factors like a report card or a paycheque... these are the people that are the most productive workers. At 11:25 you see older Tommy (? never watched all grown up) freaking out about a single test that could completely ruin his future. Those same people grow up, become business leaders, and somehow we're all shocked when they're obsessed about the slightest short term move in their company's stock price or quarterly earnings?
Holy smokes I did not expect to find you guys here. But yes. Kinda terrifies me how self-worth is now being judged by what position you held, what latest supercars you owned, and how high your GPA is in college.
Yes, universities are well known for not producing challenging ideas, and I for one have never seen students protesting authority. Sarcastic reply aside, I do like your guys channel! Keep up the great work!
@@bencochrane6112 They protest the authority, yell, wave flags and hold signs and then they join the workforce like everyone else because they need food on the table. And how about this year? Governments of the world are doing whatever they want. no one is questioning them. Everyone is an obedient little sheep.
@@mikshinee87 That's not true in the slightest. There have been historic protests and progress for worker/citizen centric movements/governments across the globe this year. Even my country, the shitty Right Wing dystopia U.S.A, has a population which is finally starting to open their eyes and see past the decades, centuries, of propaganda. Joining the workforce doesn't make someone an obedient little sheep. What a ridiculous assertation.
My parents got married at 20 and bought their first house at 21. They are so much less understanding than actual boomers because they became adults at just the right time in the '90s for my dad to make a bunch of money on computers and the internet. They got lucky but don't see it they see it as hardwork to build their empire (they're still married) and so they think hardwork will make you rich now when that isn't necessarily true. The hardest working people I know work two jobs and raise a family and barely make ends meet. I don't know where I'm going with this but I feel like parents who became adults in the 90s are far more damaging than actual boomers are
George Prchal They do. Gen X is alive and well and in many ways overlooked in a lot of ways. This is especially since they were the 1st wave of children a lot of Baby Boomers had and subsequently through the poor development of the job market the 1st unofficial parents of a lot of Millennials. Lol.
Oh god that ending made me so sad. We spent our childhoods watching other kids have fun on tv rather than having fun ourselves. Our imaginations really only turn on when the electronics turn off.
No your attempt at an imagination is horrible. For me, that never has left. Ill leave it at that. Lol, youre also in the wrong time period. Even in the late 90s, early millennium, technology was a box computer that was in the living room. I wasnt allowed on it unless i asked. Also, i think it was considered a middle class thing. Not everyone had those. Ppl still had pagers back then. Well, i think my dad had a cell. But it sure as wasnt connected to the net.
I’m curious about what differences in parenting were present between Boomers and GenX. My parents were born in 67/68, too young to be Boomers and right at the start of GenX. I’m a part of the youngest subset of millennials, mid-late 20s, and saw way more helicoptering among my peers than kids older than us.
I agree. My parents were born in 58/60, in between Boomers and Gen X (although they do lean more towards what we think of as Boomer mentality), and I'm a Xennial born in 82. I know it's probably weird to say, but I think the difference between Xennials and Millennials is if you graduated before or after 9/11. I graduated in May 01, my brother was a grade behind me, and I don't think some of the major shifts that happened didn't quite affect people my age or a little older as they did kids who were still in school. Maybe it is just me who feels this way, but I do think that's partially why I don't feel right calling myself a Millennial, even though I technically could.
@@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 A very good question to ask. My parents, for example, would very solidly fall under the boomer category as they were born in the 50's but they were also born in colonies and lived through their countries' independence. The childhood and early adulthood experiences they've described are wildly different from the boomer experience described in even this video.
@@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 It's just kind of something I've vaguely thought about, more than a concrete theory. It would be interesting to see an actual sociological study on it though.
@@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 To a certain extent, I think it still applies bc 9/11 kicked off the truly bonkers era of foreign policy we're still dealing with. America can't go through a thing without bringing everyone else along.
@Jeremiah Kivi The "baby boom" came after the soldiers who served in WWII started coming back home and making babies because they were relieved they weren't going to die by kraut machine gun fire. It spans from '46, when the first couples got their hanky-panky on, to '64. If the show takes place in '91, assuming they were the tail end of the boomer generation, they could be anywhere from 27 to 45. P.S. I think you're at least as bad at math as you assert Wisecrack is.
@Jeremiah Kivi Go ahead, Google the years that cover the baby boom, get a calculator(you obviously need one), and you know, maybe go sit in a 2nd grade class during math time and brush up on your two-digit arithmetic.
Pops comes home* "How was your night with your friends?" Pops:"we had a round of russian roulette" "Did you win?" Pops: "I dont think you know what russian roullete is "
The first thing to come to my mind, when thinking about Rugrats, is that Tommy's parents were self portraits of the married couple that created the show, as new parents. And that, later on, they divorced in real life.
I never watched the show, but being a mid 90's baby, i wanted to thank you for showing me these major factors that have resulted in my upbringing. This explains many things about why us millennials are the way we are.
One of my absolute fave shows as kid, I’d say this deep dive is needed. My parents were the last yr of the Boomers and I was the last gen of the millennials and honestly I feel this.
The Rugrats are definitely Core Millennials. Angelica and Susie were born in 1988, Chuckie and Kimi were born in 1989, Tommy, Phil and Lil were born in 1990, Dil was born in 1991.
Damn. I just realized that I'm jealous of my high-school classmates who are dumber than me but more successful. Basically they started "adulting" that is moving out, working a job in an office, drinking fancy coffee and wearing professional looking clothes. These people don't do anything important and their jobs could easily be automated or done by some slob in his pajamas. Holy shit, they just turned into their parents.
same. the more you learn, the more you start to understand that more than anything else, our economic system rewards social connections and dogma, just like it did in the olden days. also that the social script is incredibly limiting.
@@ethanstump What I can't understand is how these drones got into these "professions" when they never had any experience. I could easily do or learn-to-do their jobs but I can't make it to the interview despite having a degree. Also, why do children of professionals getting middle class jobs, where working class kids can't break into that despite their education?
@@pacodance29 I'm familiar with that word and seen plenty of it in government roles but for some reason a bunch of drones ended up in good places with no evidence of nepotism whatsoever.
@@professordogwood8985 Maybe it doesn't have to do with technical abilities but rather social abilities. I believe they may "talk their way" into the careers during an interview, for example. If the job they are doing is more "fluid" in a sense that you don't need hard skills (programming, understanding evolution or calculus, critical thinking and analysis, you get it), they tend to do well. I see some colleagues that were on the lower end during high school and today are doing well. Idk, maybe it's luck, or people change, or whatever..
I hope people remember the episode that Angelica was potentially going to have a younger sibling the darker implication of that episode is that Charlotte was indeed pregnant but had a chemical pregnancy
That’s a fan theory. It’s also theorized that she had an abortion (as she increasingly panics about having another baby + she’s a workaholic with zero time for Angelica).
@@TabbyeLynne Also the implication of fertility issues. I heard Didi and Stu had them as well which was so surprising they had Tommy and Dil. Also Tommy was a Preemie.
Great video! Do one about Rory Gilmore from Gilmore Girls as an archetypal millennial. A lot of people were miffed that she was floundering in her career and adulthood during the Netflix revival, but I found it a refreshingly honest take on the millennial experience. She was a "gifted" millenial and her mom and grandparents invested a lot in her education... yet that academic success didn't translate at all into career success. So much of the plot of the original series revolves around her studiousness, academic talents, and pressure amongst her and her peers to get into Ivy Leagues. Love that the revival didn't have her successful as an adult!
I am so glad someone else sees this! I know Rory was a sweet, studious lady in the series, but if you peer closer she really was a bit spoiled and had some things handed to her like a rich kid would, even though she grew up in a modest small town. I also don't find it at all hard to believe that for all her booksmarts, she is not very logical when it comes to relationships.
I just had the most terrifying of flashback. How my father wanted to learn many things to help me to be a successful grown-up but never allowed me to do or learn what I wanted. The constant reminder that I should not disappoint him in any way. How he almost gloated when he saw me failed at trying to achieve what I really wanted. How he pushed me to study a career I don't like and to this day haven't used. How his perpetual pressure caused me depression and he made a surprise Pikachu face when it happened.
I know this message doesn't mean much but your dad is real jerk for projecting his desires onto you. I always hated those kinds of parents who wanted their children to be financially successful so they could mooch off of them. It really shows how much of a class act he is.
@@kappadarwin9476 Hold the phone, we don't know Clara's Dad's Intentions here. There is some chance that he really _is_ just blind, and tried to do well, but failed in multiple things he wasn't aware were important. Then again, maybe he's the kind of Dad you're talking about. I just don't want to assume positivity or doom.
im 22 and finished college and my parents immediately urged me to go back to school for a master's degree. like i don't even know what i want to do with my life at this point, at least let me find a damn job and live it a little.
I just met up with my cousin who immediately got a masters degree and went straight to becoming a school dean at like 24-25. I don't know the full details but she apparently crashed hard a few months ago, lost her job, apartment, and car and is still recovering. I just really don't understand her.
@@joelsasmad it's burnout, dude. sooner or later she was gonna burn out from all the expectations and responsibilities. it's why this style of parenting is awful. it teaches the kids nothing about their lives and only serves to add a shitload of unnecessary stress to their lives. parents need to learn when to detach and let their kids just be themselves. if i decide i want to go to law school, i want it to be after I've had experience in said field so i can decide if it is the kind of lifestyle i can manage. not because i was told to. I'm living my life for myself. I'm in the driver's seat, and whoever is in the back is just along for the ride. Not backseat driving the entire time
Im 26. I went to graduate school in the moment of trying to find myself and I kinda regret it. But I kinda don’t. It was a very stressful time. I’m going back to school for media, something I did while in undergraduate school and I’m more excited about it than anything. My parents are Gen X, and they’re always pushing me to find a better paying job, don’t waste time or money..I’m slowly learning to live for me, because they stress me out lol ..I’m sure they learned from my boomer grandparents
Yeah, Boomers sabotaged our relationships, banned us from falling in love & banned us from marrying you, banned us from taking risks, banned us from owning cars, banned us from having friends THEY didn't like...... Now they complain we're not breeding them grandchildren.
Surprised you didn’t talk about Phil and Lils mom and how chill she was in contrast to the other parents. But great video! Loved this show as a kid! Super interesting insights!
Yeah she was a real loud mouth and came across pretty condescending to other adults. I think she had more influence on the parents' anxieties than on her own kids since everything just seemed easy to her. I think that sparked Didi to overcompensate, and Chucky's dad to become indecisive and overanalytical. Notice how Angelica's mom had no problem with her own parenting style because she was also very confident.
Also in All Grown Up, she and Charlotte get into a nasty argument over their personalities. The not too feminine mumsy feminist mom who wants to bust the system vs the #girlboss mom who wants to join the system and temporarily ended childcare in her company.
Can we please highlight how gender bending Rugrats was?! Like Charlotte being a BOSS at her job and both her and DeDe financially supporting the household while Drew and Stu, maintained the house?!
@@ManictheMod Not exactly. I consider "stay-at-home" dads are fathers that take on the more "caretaker" role in the family, which Didi kinda does, as Stu is sometimes away from home, probably at inventor cons or is required to go to some nearby company, doing a sales pitch for his inventions. Rugrats in Paris is apparently the only actual time he was required to go do an international trip (afaik).
I was waiting for a video to explore the Boomer parents on Rugrats. Also: Daria, King of the Hill, Rocket Power, As Told By Ginger (Lois and Macie's parents sound like late Boomers), Stranger Things. (Please do a video The Take on Boomer Parents as a follow up to the Sally Draper video). I recommend "The Mommy Myth" by Susan J. Douglas for insight into the mothering exhibited by the Rugrats Moms (especially Didi). Angelica was 12-13 in "All Grown Up!"
@@franklinlara1831 I was just about to say that. King of the Hill is a fascinating cultural artifact on many levels. It baffles me how overlooked it is.
Daria is so great. But I feel that it's less a reflection on the Boomers themselves as a group much as it is the suburban dream lifestyle that turned out to be more dystopian than utopian. That was a big arching theme in the mid to late 1990s across lots of media, as we see in American Beauty and The Matrix especially, and the song "(21st Century) Digital Boy" by Bad Religion, although that was a bit earlier in 1994.
Man, I had like the exact opposite of the Rugrats' situation. If I was doing chores, I was helicopter'd like a prime time police chase, and I wasn't allowed to play video games or even READ until after my aunt had gone over my chores and homework in meticulous detail to make sure I had everything squared away to perfection. And then I was put on ADHD medication when I was 8, and the mood swings they set me on had me throwing myself off the roof of our house because I'd been yelled at one too many times about how lazy I was for not finishing the lawn mowing. If I stopped chopping wood for half a second to get a drink of water, my uncle would teleport out of nowhere to tell me exactly how much of a fat, lazy burden I was and how he couldn't wait to get me out from under his roof. I attempted suicide 3 times at the ages of 9, 12, and 16. That first attempt at the age of 9 was when I threw myself off the roof. I landed in an ivy bush instead of the concrete front porch, and dazedly walked back to my bedroom where, a few minutes later, I watched the milk man pull up, drop off some milk right next to the bush I'd just flattened, and drive off. I then spent the next few hours hiding in my closet having an existential panic attack as I fully realized my own mortality and how the earth as a whole wouldn't even blink at my passing, which is when I developed a debilitating fear of heights so severe I'm literally incapable of climbing a ladder to change a light bulb without hyperventilating. Now, to be completely fair, the VAST majority of why I initially became suicidal was because of those goddamn pills, but what kept me feeling that way for another 7 years was the explicit, unambiguous disinterest my aunt and uncle had in what could have possibly driven a ***nine year old*** into ***jumping off a two story building.*** Instead, they waved it off as me "playing" and "exaggerating" when I told them I had wanted to die and almost did. I'm now 26 and have held a job for a full year now. I had been going to therapy, but the current world situation has had me stop. This job though is the biggest deal for me because it's the longest I've ever held a job, and the first job I've had since 2015 that wasn't a 3 week long seasonal job. I'm not living the life I always wanted; my uncle made sure to nurture doubt in my own creativity as much as possible, while my aunt actively picked at and tore down my dreams and goals as "unrealistic", which is even more infuriating since they've recently turned right around and bought my younger cousin an $8k custom gaming computer and Webcam set up so he can stream Fortnite, but hey, my ideas of being an author, or a video game/book reviewer on TH-cam, were just terrible and completely unrealistic. That said, I'm tentatively starting on outlines for two different stories I've thought up, both of which are taking cues and tropes from romance anime (both drama and comedy) and viewing them from different lenses. One is about a man who travels the world looking for his Cinderella. If you know Toradora, then my second story idea is basically that, except Ryuji and Taiga are fighting because (due to never actually communicating with each other civilly) both believes that the other is trying to break up Kitamura and Minori, all because they stumbled across one another (playing on the crash-into hello trope) while spying on a date of Kitamura and Minori's. I don't expect this to get seen by very many people, but the stress has been building lately, and being able to vent about the bad and also highlight the good has lightened my load by a significant amount, so thank you for posting such a surprisingly needed video, and know that life is always worth living, because it can always get better if you work at it.
This is quite the life story you've told here. It gives me hope that you're still considering writing your stories even after everything you've gone through. I'm hoping that things will continue to get better for you and I'm so grateful you're still with us. Thanks for sharing!
I'm 29 and, despite never truly attempting suicide, you hit the nail on the head for my childhood. I was popped full of adderall at 7 (1998). I stopped the pills this year, and although it hurts, it has helped both financially and mentally. I also have Asperger's and have less and less panic attacks off of those damn pills. I also found a creative niche that had helped me make friends finally when I was 19 and due to this niche I have made more and more friends. But man...that really sounds rough. I wish I could give you a hug right now as we seem to have similar perspectives on life and our upbringings. I wish you the best.
Honestly adhd medicine isn't for everyone, I'm 19 and the doctors prescribed them to me when I was like 8 due to me having Asperger's, with each new type of medicine they tried it just messed me up more and more such as causing ticks to happen or me puking early in the morning.
Less "adding complexity and philosophy" and more saying "the show demonstrates this and this and that on the time's culture, and here are the results of said culture", but still cool.
Yup. I got super lucky and somehow ended up with a part time engineering job (36 hours a week) paying $41 an hour, but no benefits. And I was able to set my own schedule for a third of those 36 hours. I worked 3 days a week. Somehow my parents thought it wasn't good enough, and I should look elsewhere for a "real job" with benefits. After a year of arguing with them, I finally broke down the numbers that even AFTER paying for my own health insurance and maxing out my IRA, I was making more money than I would at any other company in the city. To some people, if it doesn't meet their traditional expectations of good it's not good enough. I lost that job in March due to COVID, but it was amazing while it lasted. As far as I'm concerned, if I can pay my bills and I love coming into work each morning I don't care what anyone else thinks at this point.
Best job I ever had was delivering junk mail. Surprisingly well paid, got to set my own hours, and only had to visit the office once a week to hand in my time sheet and pick up new leaflets. I made enough in 25-30 hours a week to live comfortably (renting a small place on my own), I was by no means rolling in money, but I had enough and I also had time to do things. The constant "when are you getting a real job" from family got real annoying, and yeah even pointing out I was making enough money just lead to "but you're not working 40 hours".
Eeeeyup. I'm 26 (born in '94) mom was 21 and dad was 24 when they had me. They were born in '72 and '69 respectively, definitely full-blown Gen-X. But I absolutely still relate to this video, they were a lot like boomers so I'm not sure. Straight up, Gen-X just isn't even talked about. It's like they never existed. And like only The Boomers were this awful people. But nope... Yeah no, I had a _pretty traumatizing_ *GEN X PARENTED CHILDHOOD.* Man, *FUCK all generations* before Millenial and Gen Z, tbh!!! 🤣😆 (except, of course, for the good apples in each).
Same, I was born in 92 and my parents were born in 68. Now that I re-watch this, yeah, all the adult characters seem well into their thirties (or even older).
But what if you were a child that was left alone constantly but also couldn’t play outside so all you did growing up was watch tv? My mom wanted me to have the advantages in the future that she never had, so she did pay for my English classes and music classes growing up, for French classes in high school and Portuguese classes in College. So I am both independent, self-sufficient and imaginative but do everything with anxiety and I’m depressed. I also don’t know how to keep a schedule and I’m always seeking immediate gratification in the form of tv, TH-cam and books.
gen x missed out on cheap housing and long term anything stable while being lectured by their boomer parents who sit upon on a goldmine of assets which they slowly dwindle away in everyone's faces while still claiming poor... it's boomers that still run the majority of things and refuse to hand anything over. they just won't budge, and this gives gen x huge anxiety
I never saw it as child neglect. I just thought it was letting children be children. The last thing I'd want as a kid is to have my parents hovering over me the whole time. I got my batman and my Tonka truck, let me fucking dig some dirt. Especially because the show was about them being alone, just like how the show is about the group of babies. When the other babies went home, I'm sure the parents spent time with their kids like most normal families. Or maybe not, they never made that spinoff, so we'll never know
@@DarrenNoFun reminds me of the episode where the kids had a simple cardboard box. Pretty much all the babies except Angelica had wonderful adventures (race car, space ship, a cave/ house) with it. Even when it got ripped up, they STILL played with what was left but transformed what the box was to them (a pair of wings, a mask, even swords).
@@DarrenNoFun I think you seem to forget that most of the child characters on this show are 1 year olds. Angelina was 3 and she was the oldest of the group. There's a difference between hovering 10 year olds and hovering over toddlers. Also, didn't they lose their babies IN A FOREST in one of their movies? Even their newborn infant. Plus in the other movie when they got stranded on an island, all the children got lost IN A JUNGLE. All of the adults there, and not one of them could watch the kids properly. I get that parents aren't perfect and that they make mistakes, and I understand that giving your kids some space is good for them, but come on. How do you screw up THAT badly? And MULTIPLE times too? 😂
To me it wasn't the expectations placed on me that made things difficult, but the lack of it. My parents were always kind of modest, but supportive. Yes we went to vacation every year but we never exceeded our budget. Whatever my brother and I wanted to do or become our parents supported it. But that is kind of bad when you have ADHD and want to do something different every month. I was never pushed to stick to something or working towards something that didn't come naturally. Today I literally don't know how to learn. I absorb knowledge that I find interesting, but I just can't wrap my head around doing tasks that I find obsolete (even when the job education says it is mandatory)
That's why I despise the OK Boomer memes. Like everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. Being born between 1945 and 1964 doesn't automatically mean you're racist, hate the younger generations, etcetera. Also all of the boomers made fun of are the earlier boomers, the ones born after 1955 I'd say are probably more lumped in with Gen X stereotypes than Boomers.
part about the birthdays is interesting because I feel right now is when people go over the top for toddler’s birthdays. when i was growing up it was family dinners with homemade cakes and once school aged they were at home parties with hotdogs and simple games. i was a lower middle class canadian millennial myself.
Even baby showers are crazy. There's all these ridiculous gender reveal parties (to the point where they start FIRES!) and "sprinkle" parties where the parents demand more shit for their kid instead of buying it themselves. The only difference between today and 20 years ago is that everyone is documenting and uploading life events in seconds to show how "speshul" they are.
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What else should we cover? More 90s cartoons?
Ren and Stimpy or Rocko’s Modern Life would be neat topics, I think.
Beetlejuice. That’s what gave me nightmares when I was a kid and their music was also done by a nerdy New Wave band
The middle class in Urban areas in Hey Arnold
Cover "I'm thinking of ending things."
Ed, edd n Eddy. Courage the cowardly dog, Cow and Chicken
"Boomers just ended up raising miniature adults."
... I just had to stop, rewind, and watch the last few minutes again. Damn. From the age of five on, I really was taught which of my interests would be a "good" career, and which wouldn't. Fun fact: Everything I enjoyed was not a "good" career.
And for those that choose what we enjoy, get ready for a lifetime of "way to waste your life on X instead of going into the trades." Cause remember - your only value is how much you make. /s
@Fizz OMG, Paleontologist was #1 on my list for so long. XD
@Fizz I used to love Dinosaurs. :_(
I know exactly how you feel. I was raised by a single mother who worked the graveyard shift at the hospital. I wasn't allowed out of the house outside of going to school. Thus video games became a big part of my life. When I expressed interest in doing something with video games when I grew up, I was told that they were a waste of time and I needed to find a "real" job. I'm 31 now and nearing the end of my first year of college for game design. I regret waiting this long to finally start.
Yep! By age 10 my friends and I were making college plans. In middle school, I *really* wanted to be a meteorologist, but it wasn't good enough. None were until finally settled on law because it was the most acceptable
Letting kids be kids is something the public school system doesn’t understand. Test, test, test, test. All I heard in elementary school was “we’re preparing you for middle school.” In middle school it was “we’re preparing you for high school.” In high school it was “we’re preparing you for college(even though we know at least half of you or more won’t go to college).” There was never time to just be. Not even at home. Always always always doing homework that doesn’t actually help you learn. The only thing I learned through homework was how to BS my way through it. Just tell them what they want to hear.
Its a public indoctrination camp. I hated public school but I loved to learn. I would study topics and interests i enjoyed on my own time.
That's because the school system got modeled to forego instruction at the benefit of education, by that I mean you're not taught, you're just being crammed for evaluation and you can dump it all away afterwards because it doesn't matter in the job world.
And the school system got into this because in the 20th century it's been geared and hardwired to produce obedient cogs and simply wrangle the misfits until the "real world" destroys them.
I'm still doing that even now that I am in college. It's honestly so mentally taxing and I didn't even go in for the EdUcaTIoN part. I'll finish the semester/year but that's it. I'm just lucky to have grandma and grants.
@@rutyqutykandi1361 trade skill careers are in high demand right now and you can get trained in a fraction of the time compared to college.
@@davidb3155 I have thought about that option before. The only thing with trades is a lot of them are highly physically. When I think about it I am someone relatively suited for office type jobs. I might not like phone calls and writing long reports but things like, looking over stock, checking balance. Heck even just filing papers is something I like.
The issue is those types of jobs can be almost entirely automated. At least the ones that would pay a lot. Otherwise it's something like being an educator. I liked being a student teacher aid and helping grade work. I don't think I could stand kids though. I do hope I can find something so I'm keeping optimistic about it. I just don't know what "it" is yet.
As an X-ennial, I was babysitter age when Rugrats came out and the parents in the show were a fair representation of my clients' behavior .
Shout-out to you for using the term "X-ennial"
It was definitely interesting watching Rugrats as an adult and paying attention to the dialogue between the adult characters.
And the babies. They say alot of the stuff the adults say off screen. Shit can actually be sad.
I watched a ton of Rugrats as a kid, and have zero recollection of anything discussed in this video. Went right over my little head, apparently.
@@nicole_1747 would highly recommend binging the whole thing as an adult. Some of the babies’ parents dialog is legitimately the best part of the show. 🤣
@@Mark0o0Polo I used to LOVE the Rugrats, but when I tried watching it again a few years ago, I couldn't get past the animation style. And if I remember correctly, the first season might have been a little rough around the edges too, as most first seasons of a sitcom usually are. Maybe I should give it another shot...
@@chazchoo99 the animation style of the first season of every cartoon is just... Always awful
"Stew? What're you doing?"
"Making chocolate pudding. . . "
"It's 3'Oclock in the morning. Why on earth are you making chocolate pudding?"
"Because I've lost control of my life. . . "
I feel ya, Stew. . . I feel ya
***Stu
"4 O'clock"
Tommy gets his imagination from his dad, ha. His dad was an inventer. I do remember that.
Tommy was taught how to be brave by his mom because he was born prematurely. In that episode, he remembers being inside some kind of fish tank.
Literally my life
It’s tough tbh. I remember thinking “I sold my soul. I have no morals. I did EVERYTHING right, and I still have nothing.” That is why millennials are angry. Even the ones who WANTED to be evil yuppies couldn’t do it anymore.
Burnout in investment banking here, just followed my musical dreams, making 10% of what I did but happy.
I wanted to be a morally-neutral yuppie. Went into banking and burned out. So glad I did.
The dark side of all this is that - generalizing of course - adults LOVE IT when kids act more like miniature adults than actual children. On top of just being easier to deal with, miniature adults have the *appearance* of having their shit together and the *appearance* of maturity. So even when we understand the importance of letting kids be kids, or that kids will sometimes ask like adults for unhealthy reasons, we (parents, schools, church groups, etc) can't help but reward adultlike behaviour in kids, and hold it up as an example for other kids to follow.
It might even be an extension of the "yuppie" mindset to have, or have the appearance of, a child who's further along in their mental development than normal.
Since the "yuppie" mindset is about projecting outward prosperity, the idea that you have raised a superior child could simple be another element of that. And one that seems to have survived to the modern day.
More than that, the "yuppie" mindset might even have evolved when it met with social media, the result could be what we see today in Gen Z and millennials on Instagram and tik tok and other "influencers"
Children need to be given unstructured time, when parents aren't telling them to be cellists or trying to turn them into Michael Phelps to look good for college admissions.
The absence of this time stunts personal growth.
@@alexanderrahl7034 I dont exactly agree with that entirely. When in a mature environment, I dont think its unreasonable to impose a stricter atmosphere of maturity (cite children on a plane, at a restaurant, in a supermarket). Its understandable that you won't get 100% cooperation from a child (or anyone i suppose) so a compromise must be made. Allowing them to color or watch or listen to things on youtube on your phone is a good compromise. It allows them to stimulate themselves in a way thats engaging for them and not outwardly interrupting adults in the area. Ultimately, the parent must assert some control over their child, not necessarily dictate their interests, but shape them into a suitable cohabitant of society.
Except a lot of those "Adult" behaviors are more accurately described as traumas. So if they say you got an old soul that means they traumatized you into a form early adulthood. No, literally. The behavior changes we attribute to it like an increase, omnipresent seriousness, no willingness to take risks and other such behaviors are literally results of being traumatized and not coping with it. The rampant plague of Depression and Anhedonia are directly linked to this.
Was any one else told how rich they'd be on account of how smart you are? I was, but it has yet to work out.
and that you had to go to college if you wanted to be successful
Hell yes! I feel cheated now. I got an A+ on that trig test, where's my million dollars?
Oh yeah, I did well in school and seemed to naturally understand the material, so that got pushed on me constantly.
I would only be happy if I went to college. I was so smart, so I was wasting this amazing brain I have because I just wanted a job to pay the bills. Yada yada, it was all bullshit. My proof is POF. How many profiles did I see where the education level was listed as something like bachelor's degree, master's degree, etc, but the job title was factory worker, cashier, or fastfood. College guarantees nothing. In fact, sadly, so many of those folks ended up having crushing student debt to deal with on top of working a low paying job.
Lower class people can be, and often are, happy, but that's hard to do when 1/4 of your paycheck is going to a loan that isn't getting payed off any time soon. It's incredibly sad. My ex-girlfriend was in that boat.
She's an emt working at a chemical plant. She makes almost $18 an hour which, here in southern Indiana, is good pay, but she's barely getting by, because her wages are being garnished to cover her student loans. Around here, a person making that much should be covering their bills and then some. They shouldn't feel constricted unless they are living outside their means, but she always seems to be running low. The bills get payed, but there's nothing left, and she sometimes goes to work without a lunch to bring with her, because she doesn't have enough to pick up something on the way, and there are no leftovers from earlier.
Side note here, whoever invented the 21 day swing shift is a sadistic bastard.
It wasn't even for her emt training if I'm not mistaken. She took classes for medical transcription and billing. Of course, noone would hire her without experience, and now, just a few years later, her degree is worthless, because so much has changed that she would have to take all of the classes over again.
@@brenthunter5078 I graduated college 2 years early with a bachelors in computer science, Fortunately before i still ended up working at target for a few years, i managed to pay off my debt. But i know i was lucky in that... considering how millennials as a collective beat all other generations with accrued debt with 1.6 trillion in student loan debt alone before the youngest of us even reached 25.
It was baffling to me just how many of my coworkers at target also had bachelors... a few even had masters. One of the team leads literally had a doctorate.
Yet all of us still... were working at target because there werent enough jobs in our fields. And despite the notion many older Gen Xers and Boomers believe, they werent useless degrees either.
We graduated into one of the worse economies and job markets in US history. After being lied to, since early childhood by people we were suppose to trust, about what we needed to do to succeed.
Its kinda wild how so many of us were shackled, by achieving crushing debt for a piece of paper most of us dont use, after spending years of our lives to get it. And then those same people who told us to get it wonder why we arent further along in life.
One of the biggest lies ever perpetuated.. Most of the smartest people in history died poor or at best in modest conditions. You don't need tons of intelligence to rise to the top, merely enough, with lots of cunning.
My dad use to always say, "I'm not raising kids, I'm raising adults." I always thought it was an odd thing to say because I was a kid...not an adult lol
I get the reasoning, you're working with an end product in mind. But the flaw is that it can cause one to be so focused on reaching that end product that they forget the process to get there. Tempering is needed in order to have an outcome that is stable. If you take raw material and simply try to force it into the shape of the final product without processing and refining the materials first, then you will be left with something that has approximately the right appearance, but that is being held together by the crafter and will fall apart or shatter when let go or put under any stress. That is what we are seeing happening with people now. The initially appearance of being well put together and having one's life in order, but then failing and crumbling appart when required to face lofe on their own. Some people can assemble themselves into a cohesive form and function, but others never manage to pull their lives together.
The real solution is something in between. Parents today are having the opposite problem and will fail to raise competent adults.
@@starchannel123 but wouldn't that be a knee-jerk "I'm not doing to my kids what my parents did to me" reaction tho
@@starchannel123 it's definitely *way* too soon to say that
My dad always compared our behavior to his employees’. I’ve had a “boss” since I was born
The parents never tried to actually interact with or watch the children. They didn’t try to figure out what was going on by just plainly observing their children. It was all about worrying about being a good parent but they didn’t actually do anything to be a good parent.
I think 1) we have to remember this is a TV show so they're only going to be showing the adventurous times. We're not going to see the boring days in between where Didi plays with Tommy alone while Price is Right is on in the background.
2) I think the whole premise of the show also plays into the idea that you can turn your back on your kids for 2 minutes while you do dishes and they're suddenly covered in peanut butter. And since the show's writers definitely pulled from their own lives and experiences, they probably just wondered what their kids were imagining while playing with a toy truck in the sand box and expanded on that.
3) There's instances where the kids are doing this stuff and parents ARE watching. The pirates episode, Didi is watching from the window telling someone on the phone they're playing pioneers and she wished she had her camera.
4. The number of times adventures happened cuz grandpa fell asleep... xD
it seemed more like they wanted to be SEEN as good parents, rather than actually BEING good parents.
Sounds exactly like my grandparents who were part of "The Greatest Generation". My grandmother was an abusive alcoholic who alienated most of her children and my grandfather was "there" physically (sometimes) but not really there emotionally, if you know what I mean. From the outside they seem like good parents but from the inside they couldn't have been more dysfunctional.
I don't see them being neglectful but rather taking a break. Many parents get so much pressure about how to parenting well, and leaving the kids alone for 5 minutes helps. And you probably say "But they left the kids alone for hours!!!", and is a yes and no, on one hand if there are in a safe place they can be left alone longer while we as viewers we see everything by the lens of the babies, for them one hour is like a month, so they feel more fullfilled with their little adventures than an adult would.
@@Thejigholeman sounds like parent activist organizations
Broke: conspiracy theory about the babies of Rugrats being invented by angelica's mind.
Woke: Conspiracy theory about The Rugrats inadvertedly portraying the anxieties of our parents, and the decadence of the American middle class
I prefer the second one. It’s far more interesting.
@@tariqthomas9090 the second one probably more accurate anyway, except there was nothing inadvertent about it. The makers of Rugrats knew exactly what they were doing, and Nickelodeon shows in general satirized society in some way.
The "It's not real" theory is such a cliche for animated show
Not a conspiracy theory, people write these messages and themes in these shows intentionally
The second one isnt a conspiracy theory at all. It's a thesis, the thesis of this video essay.
I was always interested in the non-traditional gender roles of RR parents, Stu, while a freelance toy designer, was a stay at home dad while Didi went out and worked as a teacher, Drew and Charlotte were both business people but it was clear that Charlotte had the higher position and paycheck, Chaz had to play duel parent roles as a widower, and Betty was interested in fitness and female empowerment coming off as the more dominant partner than the more mild-mannered Howard. I even recall an episode where all the women are gathered around the tv for the Super Bowl while Drew and Stu were in the kitchen cooking.
Much in the same way the right decries Sesame Street as PC, they would be up in arms about it if it came out today.
@@jessehenderson2967 The best part about television back then was that progressive ideas were inched in subtly, in a natural way, not performative, like many of the messages inserted in shows today.
@@GenerationNextNextNext so true. Watched RR and rockos modern life the other week and both those shows had very progressive ideas in the shows but it was so subtle that I almost didn’t notice it until I really payed attention to the show. Side note: rocko has aged like fine wine, tbh it was ahead of its time and predicted many of the modern issues we face right now literately 25 years ago.
@@GenerationNextNextNext There's no way that isn't cringe. I'm sorry, but how many of these people CLAIMING to be trans are doing it to put a big stamp of "social outcast" on themselves to make up for another internal feeling? Or that they enjoy bossing the big companies around. Rest assured, many claiming to be trans today will not have transitioned in the next generation, thus rendering the word meaningless. Since I do care about more acceptance for people who transition and enabling a more flawless genetic transition. That's our future. But for posers who do so for all the wrong reasons, I don't care.
@@saberiandream316 oof
The fact that Chucky is left handed is a bit of trivia that's lodged in my brain like a god damn tick.
Yeah being left handed is a struggle especially if the teacher doesn't catch it during Kindergarten.
@@kappadarwin9476 Exactly using simple things like safety scissors made me ambidextrous because all were made for right handed and I had to learn to work with it
@@AnimeGirlYaoiChan I'm not purely ambidextrous because I can't write with my right hand at all but everything else I can do with ether hand so at least something good came out of being a lefty.
They used to play Nick ads with facts about the show. I think they played the same three like a million times. I still know that the woman who plays Deedee also voices Tommy's grandma. Like, why tf do I know that?
They had a whole episode about it! His dad bought him left-handed scissors!
I grew up in a household where my parents were constantly screaming at each other about paying the bills, threatening each other that we'd be living on the street. Needless to day, I'm very financially conservative to this day.
My parents divorced pretty early, which didn't really bother me at the time but it might've actually set in motion my view on relationships, which is that they never last and if they do its unhappy, for financial reasons. My dad was pretty strict and cynical and I feel like these days I'm slowly becoming like him. But I also realize more that what he's said is sad but true
Same
Thinking how boomers had anxiety that they might not be able to afford a middle class lifestyle on basic labor jobs, is actually funny to me, as a millennial.
hilarious tho
You wanna know what's even funnier? They're pissed at their own karma.
So you know how Boomers have relentlessly bullied Millenials (and Gen Xers because they, for some reason, occasionally get lumped in with Millennials), because they're so much more "sheltered" or "entitled"? Their constant efforts to perform the middle-class lifestyle they suffered so much anxiety over losing inadvertently gave their kids a higher standard of living from the get-go. Not to say that this is a bad thing, but that Boomers hold disdain for a generation (or generations) they helped to create, and that they take virtually no responsibility for it now, is.
I could also just be connecting dots that aren't there from a fictionalized, PG-rated microcosm of the final years of the 20th century, but I still think it's a half-decent working theory.
@@Neroli-Arancia ironically you'll be an embarrassment to the future generation and they'll explain how you ruined their life.
@@hanssprungfeld8487 You know what? You're probably right 🤣
@@hanssprungfeld8487 at least shes taking some responsibility for that possible outcome - that hasnt and may never happen, lol. The sterotypical Boomer parent wont even consider the possibility- of something that already happened
i was a married, but childless, 25 yr old gen x'er when "rugrats" debuted...
and i always connected with the babies.
my husband and i laughed at the parents, for the most part, altho chuckie's dad always seemed the most realistic.
but i was raised by my grandmom much the same way the babies were, so i could relate best to that.
i'm, like, 55 now....
my husband and only child have passed on....
and i still enjoy watching "rugrats".
it's comfort food for me, ya know? 💕
I am so very sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart to even try to understand the pain your heart must have felt. I can only wish you find what you need to heal your soul. ❤️
May they both rest in peace.
💌💕
I'm glad that Rugrats brings you some measure of comfort. It can be extremely rough to mourn and process grief. I know I'm just a stranger, but I'd like you to know that you have my sympathy and my heart goes out to you.
This show was very pivotal to me as a child growing up. It's interesting revisiting it at 31 and seeing what went over my head. It's also interesting to see how maturity, experience, and perspective shapes our outlook and appreciation of things.
I just realized Tommy said: "One day dad won't wake up and I'll be the man of the house."
That was dark.
12:03 "My daddy went away and he wants me to be the man of the house."
@@dangolpossum Ohh, my mistake, still pretty dark.
@@JARV9701 hella dark. Too much responsibility for a child to even pretend about
My parents had these flaws but their biggest flaw was expect me to be "successful", but forget to teach me how.
Soo accurate
My parents expected me to know everything and were loudly disappointed when I didn't. Strange, it was almost like the roles were reversed.
You ever try asking them for advice?
@@andrewmaximo4485 Not really, i always felt that they weren't very approachable on that front, i'd always be afraid to ask them many things. I can't really tell you why that is, or what i really meant with that comment since it's been 3 years, so i can't remember my thought process.
And now I finally understand why a huge part of the kids that were in honor rolls and "gifted child" programs are anxious wrecks masquerading as adults today. Even the ones who were there because they actually enjoyed the academic part of school.
Yep, I was in "gifted child" programs, honor roll, AP and IB classes all throughout K-12 and now I scam boomers for bitcoin after dropping out of graduate school after an existential crisis turned into a mental breakdown.
Correct.
@@MK_ULTRA420 "scam boomers for bitcoin" how?
@Linus The God You didn't waste something you had no control over but how would you like the future to be like for you?
my adult ass being on honor rolls and in gifted programs..... In my early 20s I left the US and start doing my own thing. so glad I did that shit. in my 30s I am pretty successful. not filled with anxiety and not pretending to be an adult. A lot of why these kids grow up to be anxiety ridden adults is because they trusted the pipeline they were put in, only to find out that pipeline/path was broken, and didn't have the flexibility to take the unbeaten path in life. That's in no way their fault. That's literally how their parents raised them to be. To rely on a structured environment when in life, that structure just doesn't exist and really never existed. We have a lot of freedom, and with it does come responsibility and that shit is hard for people to handle.
Ah yes the "loser career" storyline. I swear teachers and parents back then used "loser career talk" as a threat if you didn't study. That sentiment died down because we literally were watching Spongebob live his best life as a fry cook. I think that the recession and the pandemic ended that "get a real job" talk. I know my mother is proud that I have a job and can financially support her when she lost hers; I still felt guilt over not being the successful office drone that reached the upper middle class.
That's Stu, LOL. If you think about it: the guy knows some electronics and rudimentary engineering, so he wants to make toys for a living, risking it in the private sector for an unconvetional idea, while his brother is more traditionally career-oriented. The very first sceneof them in the Rugrats film shows them arguing over Stu's career and how much time and money he spent making a fucking flying machine shaped like a pterodactylus (remember that?). Stu hated not being able to work with his hands so he'd rather keep making failed projects than wirking in a desk job. He didn't make it into the traditional fit for a man, but takes pride in his work.
That is what we call: Karma.
@@UBvtuber I studied a lot, to the point i was considered a genius, but obsure languages don't translate to marketable skills. At least I have a job, most of my peers probably lost theirs during the pandemic and have a 100K+debt. I was considered "retarded" by my teachers.
@@laurocoman Also Angelica overheard her dad telling her momnthat his sister in law "got saddled with a loser"
You’re definitely right about the pandemic ending a lot of parenting quips like the “get a real job” talk. Also parents used to complain about kids screen time and video games. You don’t hear them complaining about that anymore with quarantine
This makes me think of a line from Fight Club: “Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate to buy shit we don’t need”.
Lipschitz is the best name for a pop-science doctor ever.
...Oh my god. Lip shits.
OH MY GOD. I NEVER NOTICED THAT.
Every few years a new one comes up remember Dr. Oz and the horrible raspberry ketones, oh wait that causes breathing problems woops. always some douch bag claiming he knows the secrets to what ever just buy his book.
Ralph Lauren was formerly Ralph Lipschitz. Hahahaha.
Not to be confused with Liftshitzs, a well respected physicist lol
I always thought lip shits was a parody of Dr Spock.
I remember my dad loving Rugrats, laughing his ass off at Mr. Pickles. 5 year old me didn't get why. I was just stoked that my dad liked the same cartoon as me.
We all used to love the adventure episodes when the normal house got transformed into fantastical make-believe worlds.
He was probably laughing at himself with Stu. Anyone with their own business, as small as it can be, can relate to Stu. If you also had an uncle who happened to work in a more traditional career, then he was for sure laughing at himself.
I’m from the Midwest and just graduated high school in the spring of 2019. Heard the same boomer dead end job secure your spot in college for a successful life talk. I’ve worked for 8 years (since I was 12) as my father passed away when I was 10 and I’ve supported my mother for a long time doing everything from raising livestock, being a counter clerk, fixing and flipping cars to factory jobs. During graduation I had people laugh at me when they announced on my walk up that I had chosen not to go to college, the same people I know who always complain about their careers and their lives in business. Funny. Half of my senior class that went to college has dropped out with 1yrs tuition in debt. It’s a shame. I’m still here nothings changed. Blue collar money, but everything is paid off and I still have a job during the pandemic. God bless.
Well to be fair, covid isn't making college any easier. I'm insanely glad none of this was happening when I was in college, because I would have stopped going in a heart beat and probably never even returned. I've never heard of someone having to drop out from debt after 1 year though. I'm only 20k in debt from 4 years and that's not even that much. My first two were free thanks to scholarships tho (in other words I got my associates degree for free while partying my face off for 2 years). Pretty lit
I do think college isn't for everyone, but it's a great experience for those seeking it. I don't regret the debts I accumulated, though I would obviously prefer not to have them.
You keep doing you, man
keep your head up. You're doing good and i hope your peers learn to stop ridiculing someone who is just living a different life.
9:30 Credit to Arthur, who had a whole episode about Francine's dad being a garbage man, and learning not to be ashamed to say it out loud to her classmates.
My career aspirations as a kid:
1: astronaut
2: garbage man
I found garbage trucks to be fascinating.
isn't it so funny how parents push their kids to be more well off than they were, completely neglecting all the different people who don't make 6 figures? even though if you took those people away these parents would fall apart. can't take the train now, no conductors. wanted to stop and get coffee or lunch? whoops, no food service workers. need new clothes? sorry, the manufacturers are out and the retail employees are too. need to throw out your trash? drive your car over to the dump then sweetie. looking to make dinner? hope you been growing your own food and keeping care of livestock!
yes, life is easier with money. but money isn't everything. if you spend your whole life pushing for money and success you'll look back on it at the age of 60 wondering whether you really gained anything at all.
I remember catching up with a high school friend 5 years after I graduated (he dropped out before that). He said he was a garbage man like he was ashamed of it. I told him he should be proud because it was an important job. He was making good money in his early 20's and meanwhile I didn't make decent money until I was 35 and that was by luck. I have a college degree and he dropped out of high school.
@@jonathan2282 Life is all what you make of it my friend. That's the biggest lesson teenagers should learn. Rushing into college was a mistake and if I could I'd go back in time and take a gap year to figure it all out.
Also, being a garbage man pays well. It may not be as glamorous as the corporate jobs Drew and Charlotte have, but it pays almost as well.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
8 year old me: ....... uhhhhhhh
See, i always had that thing I wanted to be. It just never meant anything. First I wanted to be a Fire fighter/police officer, because as a kid, that was what I thought was a good guy. Then I heard dentists get paid a lot... Then i saw Snow Dogs and some of the rank ass teeth he had to work on and that scared me away. Then a pro-wrestler, comic book artist, computer programmer, graphic designer. And eventually, i just settled on Unemployed Filmmaker...
I have an old 2nd grade assignment where I wrote I wanted to be a baseball player then work at mcdonalds
I want to be Reptar
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
"Kind and generous."
"No, I mean how will you sell your labor?"
28 year old me: .......uhhhhhhhhh
I really love the line about "you would never want to be a lowly garbage man keeping your town clean when you could be making hundreds of thousands of dollars doing... whatever the *** a consultant does"
What was said about children pressured to grew up too quickly in order to maintain their social class reminds me of the Teen Suicide Cluster in Palo Alto, CA -- an affluent community within the San Fransisco bay area. After the '07 housing bubble burst, there was added pressure to not fail academically, while at the same time, universities wanted to look more "prestigious" and seclusive by increasing applications so that they can reject the most applicants as they can. Between '09 and '12, the amount of teenagers taking their own lives hit a spike in a number of communities across the U.S., but Palo Alto got the spotlight as a number of PA kids running in front of passing CalTrans train cars caught major news outlets. Sadly, it took folks a bit to figure why they were doing this, as it never occurred to parents and educators that too much education is a bad thing.
Very well said.
Interestingly enough, Palo Alto gave birth to a school of psychology aiming at proposing a systemic analysis, that is not only talking to the patient about himself, but trying to understand how the contexts and interactions play a role in the mental states.
Coincidence? I THINK NOT!
Kidding, I'm pretty sure it is a coincidence, but it rings strangely significant to me...
Kinda hits home seeming as I had to work at 14 for school clothes and lunches
It wasn't too much education. But the amount of pressure and importance parents gived to the kids académic success.
It’s not that too much education is a bad thing. Rather, the parameters for success are far too limited and don’t account for the interests and inclinations of the individual.
I loved Rugrats when I was little. Watched it often. But boy did Rugrats in Paris make me cry
I've had that Reptar musical song stuck in my head for the last few days. That movie is actually so great lol
Yesss that orange VHS tape slapped. We wore that thing out.
@@Kelarys I can never forget the Chuckie Chan bit.
Really? I thought it would be the first movie that made people cry, that's the one where we thought Spike might have died fighting a wolf. Oh, and the psycho monkeys attacking the babies was creepy as all get-out.
@@joelsasmad martial arts expert~~~ of reptarlaaaaaand~~
He said "accidentally" documented. Nah this is what true artists do. They subtly speak truth in their "kid" cartoons.
This is sooo relatable, reminds me so much of my mom especially. She always worried about not raising me right and therefore tried way to hard and maybe cared a bit too much. I felt smuthered by this for a long time in my teens. Now in my twenties, the past couple years i've been so stressed about not becoming someone succesfull i went trough some dark times. After quitting my third study i've come to realise i don't have to be perfect or succesful and i feel so much more free. I feel i can go in directions with my life i never even considered before, even without having to go to college again. So many people around me seem to be obsessed with materialism and becoming succesful it's sometimes hard to realise there is so much more than that.
I was a money addict till my late 20's ..then I was like _What am I doing? Im trading all my time for this stupid money. Making rich assholes richer?.. Im out!_ Now I just chill lol.. way better.
But what is being successful? Dead and penniless in a gutter could be considered successful.
Success is living longer than your peers, and taking someone's beautiful daughter as your concubine.
This made me think of my mom as well. She is borderline obsessed with money and class. She judges everyone by how much money they make. And she keeps telling me to go back to college so I can get a better job. Even though it's not important to me right now. Maybe not ever.
When her ex boyfriend died from a car crash, she only lamented that he didn't have life insurance, so his family couldn't get any money.
I can relate, in my thirties now. I was raised by a blue collar single mom. I noticed a lot of the worries mentioned here. College was constantly being pushed on our generation by teachers, your friends parents, your family, and any other adult worried about your success.
Actually, the fact that their parents think of themselves as helicopter parents, want the world the see them as helicopter parents, but are so self-absorbed that they (in reality) constantly neglect basic supervision duties, is the best representation of Boomer parents that I know. 👏
AGREED
So many parents really are like this. That's why they constantly rub it into their peers and even their own children. They know their kids won't die if left alone for a few hours, but they know they'll get judged by other parents who are doing the exact same thing. It's almost never about safety or wanting the best for their kids, because they themselves claim that they grew up with parents who gave them more freedom and "turned out fine". Some even know that coddling or hovering around your kid too much is unhealthy for them, but that doesn't matter to them. It's abouct looking like you're just going to extremely measures to be a good parent so that you seem "holier than thou". Or they do it so they can brag to their kids when they're older about how how much they had to go through to keep you safe just so you could be happy, so the children "can't complain".
Watching over a toddler constantly is understandable, but if they're older, not giving them any space whatsoever is just unnecessary unless you either want to make your kid feel miserable or you just care more about image than doing the best for your kid.
It's just like with spoiling your children just so you could brag about it to other parents about how you're a "cool mom" or "cool dad", or they do it so that if the kids feel like they're not allowed to complain and are simply labeled as "ungrateful", even if their complaints are legit and valid. Relatives, teachers, etc can do the same thing. In most cases, it's got nothing to do with genuine love, in my opinion, but rather to "make up" for abuse and neglect so the kids stay silent (essentially, hush money) or so they look good as parents.
I just want to clarify that I don't believe this is exclusive to baby boomers alone. Not all boomers are like this, and anyone regardless of the year they were born in can be guilty of this. A LOT of gen xers and millennials have this problem, and gen z will probably start to have this problem too (some of them already have their own kids).
My boomer mother. She usually spent plenty hours talking with my school principal on things she didn't agree with, and then left me and my sister on the nursery until 5 p.m. because she was working 3 jobs to raise us. I absolutely don't resent her for it: I actually wish I understood these things back then.
My mom loved calling herself a helicopter parent when in reality she was around so little i was a latch key kid lmao
I know several millennial parents that act this way.
Everyone talks about Boomers, Millennials, and now Gen Z, but somehow they forget about Gen X. Those people born between 1965-1980.
lamest generation by far
@@betsapp91 Yeah they're effectively just the guys doing Stage Design in a play while Boomers are the ones who wrote the play and Millenials/Zoomers are the actors forced to perform in front of the crowd.
Cause they are smart and staying out of it all
Ssh, we keep our heads down, no one is giving us shit at the moment :)
To my knowledge, “Karen” is a middle aged Gen X 🤔
Adulthood is overrated and a lie, I’m gonna tell kids that all the time.
Definitely a lie! I wish adulthood hadn't been hyped up as some magical age where you suddenly become competent at everything. Adults F up their decisions all the time. It's just a high-stakes learning game.
How do you intend to raise kids without adulting tho?
@@MsMusicalBeans Yes! We need to stop hyping it like this!
I tried to hold on to my childhood as long as I could as a kid. I didn't stop watching Nickelodeon on a regular basis until the age of 23 in 2013. Once The Thundermans came out, I had to admit that Nickelodeon was for today's kids and not the 90s kids anymore.
@Jarod 1999 Nah man. For sure, don't glorify the race to grow up. But don't traumatize them with it too young. Hold on to that innocent enjoyment of life as long as you can, and warn em about stuff as it comes up (bullying, politics, greed, superficiality, etc.)
@@dapperfan44 you got the right attitude my dude
"...prone to suffering from real bouts of anxiety...like they have the weight of the world on their shoulders"
Yep, sounds like a typical Monday
...Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Damn those 8 years of Angelica's childhood were NOT good to Charlotte.
She got botox, that's why her face looked like that. And, I think it was more like 10 years to be fair.
@@PoseurGoth Yeah it would be 10 years. The video creator says "11 year old daughter" but she would not be 11 if the babies are in 5th grade. Angelica was about 2 years older and would be around 13, not 11.
@@EhrenG She is 13. For her 13th birthday she remodeled her room and gave away her original Cynthia doll. There was an entire episode about it.
Isn't it more of trying to maintain her place in corporate than dumping her kid off at some one elses house?🤔
The one scene I remember the most is that when Charlotte is giving birth to Angelica she is *STILL* on the damn phone!🤣
The 4th grade standardized test is what really counted. That was the one that determined whether you got to be in honors math and skip a year.
My parents definitely practiced concerted cultivation on me. My mom even admitted to trying to raise me as the perfect child back in the day, which led to me developing an anxiety disorder as well as a perfectionism complex and low self-esteem.
My mum tried raising me to be her "perfect child trophy" so she could gloat to her deadbeat family who hated her. So, if I didn't do what she aspired me to do, I became her (and dad's) human punching bag. Wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend, because I was meant to study, have a career, earn big money... Because if I got married at the same age my mum got married, I wouldn't have the time to succeed & achieve to be some millionaire big-shot. To this day she says "you could've been this" or "you could've been that if you stayed at school..." I left school in year 10, because I was SICK of the control. Sick of having no life & coming home to be shoved into a bedroom to do hours & hours of homework so I could over-achieve to please some nobody-housewife who was my mother. Now she complains about me not giving her grandchildren..... But she spent her whole energy as a mother, outlawing me from having a girlfriend..... When she was the "town bike" as a teenager.
highway to hell is paved on good intention... but I can't say your mom had good intention or even basic empathy.
This is a small litte point, but boomers weren't the "weed smoking hippie" generation. Most of the social figures at the time were from the Silent generation or even the greatest. Most of the boomers were still children in the 60s. Only the absolute oldest of the boomers might have had anything to do with all that happened in the 60s.
This is something many people, boomers as well, get wrong and overlook.
THIS ^ YES!
Yes. The "weed smoking hippie" Silent Generation did all the hard work that Boomers often take credit for.
Boomers gobbled that shit up like ice cream sandwiches though, and look at America now.
To be fair, some of the early boomers were able to take part of the 60s hippie movement. Plus it extended to the 70s as well, when most boomers were either teens or young adults. But you're definitely right about many social figured not being from the baby boomer generation. The Silent Generation honestly doesn't get the credit they deserve. Plus boomers didn't invent "hippie culture".
Yeah, better to think of boomers as the kids in That 70s Show. Smoking weed, wearing bell bottoms, maybe some social consciousness/protesting but mostly just goofing off.
I can say that my upbringing resembled that of Rugrats. Parents and other adults had insanely high expectations of me and I had so much anxiety to live up to those expectations.
Thankfully I had ample free time to do with as I pleased, like watch tv and play videogames. I did grow up a lot faster than I should have so I existed in this sort of self-aware state where I was mature enough to understand the situation I was in, yet, helpless to do anything about it. Thank god for memory repression.
@Student Rohan Joshi get to know yourself.
@Student Rohan Joshi It really is about getting to know yourself. Figure out what your goals in life are, outside of anyone else's influence. The more time you spend thinking on what you want to do, the less important other people's views become. Learn what makes you happy and pursue that.
So you're generation X that somes the generation up nicely... knowing the world's falling apart and all you can do is just watch
*PTSD
**Raises glass** right there with you brother 😂
Watching this video about how boomers gave millennials anxiety is giving me anxiety
Don't you mean how boomer parents gave their millennial offsprings anxiety?
My parents were born in '58 & '61, late boomers and they literally have the characteristics of ALL of these characters morphed together. They definitely suffered that whole economic stress and anxiety and smothered the crap out of me and my sister, and people wonder why so many young people live with their parents; we all have this idea that if we don't save as well as indulge not only are we missing out on life but we are also gonna be living on the streets.
Is your name really Angelica? Lol
@@user-vi4xy1jw7e Yes
My parents were both born in 1965, born Gen Xers, but act like Boomers.
I'm a consultant in my late 30s and I can't a afford a house, despite doing trade work and UberEats after hours. The middle class is dead.
Stop doing cocaine.
I'm a Canadian minimum wage worker who barely works full time and I could buy a house if go out of the city.
Just stop trying to buy a house in expensive cities.
@@BlueSpirit422 Sometimes your career depends on living near expensive cities.
~Sincerely, an out of work performer
@@ay-dionne If your career require from you to live in a big city but said career cannot pay enough to make living in a big city doable, then that is not a career. It's a dead end dream.
@@BlueSpirit422 As a dancer, singer, and actor, that’s nothing I haven’t heard before. Ima keep doing it cause I love it tho
Yeah, I just remembered worrying about my parent's finances when I was 11.
Yeah, and it didn't help that I, at 11 years old, was genuinely better at managing money than my mom.
@@Pikminiman , my God!
Your parents are full on boomers
Hey my friend my parents were Gen X and I worried about money when I was 11
@@Pikminiman When I was a kid I didn't tell my parents I need new shoes, since the old ones had holes in them. Later when my old friend's gran got me some. My folks were embarrassed they didn't get me shoes. They even had the gal to sham me for accepting charity! When through out childhood my parents talked about finances a lot as a kid - so I didn't bother them with what a needed or wanted.
Sad really.
You left out the most boomer moment of the show- the episode where the babies kept taking their clothes off and the twins' mother tells Tommy's "the 60's are over we lost".
She's just a radical feminist, not a boomer.
@@BelieveIt1051 Tbh I can't tell the difference between the Karens, Feminists, and Boomers at times... they all scream "ITS THAT PHONE!" at the end of the day and victimize themselves.
@@BelieveIt1051 i mean, which generation did you think make up the bulk of second-wave feminism, the main target of mockery whenever feminism came up in this era of cartoons?
@@DixyRae Actually as another Wisecrack video put it: Boomers inherited progressive movements from the Silent Generation.
@@DixyRae What do other cartoons have to do with this? Like, if Ren & Stimpy mock some boomer feminists that doesn't mean Rugrats showed boomer feminists. The fact is, feminists exist in every generation. It doesn't make the feminist a boomer.
I do think it remains unhelpful to miss that "movements" rarely include the entire generation. The one that gets sold about boomers were hippies who then became yuppies. The hippies were a rare thing, and when talking with boomers it is clear that for most of them, they witnessed hippies existing and on the news, rather than participating in the movement.
If anything some of them were weekend hippies
I believe nothing defines an entire generation the way we are told it does. A lot doesn't mean everyone. Not every boomer kid in the 60s was a hippie. Not every late 70s kid was into Star Wars. Not every Gen X kid was a grunge fan, and not every Gen Z kid uses TikTok. History seems to forget the half of that particular generation who were or went out of their way to be the contrary.
Exactly! Same with flappers in the 20s or punks in the 80s, these were fringe people only the fashion got mainstreamed!
The hippies went to college to avoid the draft and got high paying jobs as young urban professionals.
I also like to point out regarding Chas Finster (Chuckie's dad, I forgot his name) being a single dad at such an era. I think Mrs. Finster passed away when Chuckie was barely a year old and so Chas really had to double up on being the ultimate parent for his son, but being quite an easily nervous and retentive guy over his child which reflects on Chuckie being a sympathetic, easily scared character.
Boomers kinda screwed Gen X as well. Being that bit older, they gobbled up all the best jobs then closed the doors behind them. Then got rid of mandatory retirement to make sure they could carry on screwing Gen X.
Eric Clapton, one of the greatest rock guitarists, is a baby boomer and so is Paul Weller who co-founded Red Wedge. Donald Trump is a baby boomer and so is Jeremy Corbyn who was born just three years later.
To add insult, to injury, Millennials (and Zoomers) lump us in with the Boomers.
@@discosecret6363 am from the start of gen z and honestly I used to do this until I realised most of the "boomers" I don't want to strangle are actually gen x'ers lol
My cousin always has said that Boomers reaped the benefits of the decades of hard work the G.I. & Silent generations, milked it for all it was worth, left nothing for future generations after & then constantly criticizing the Gen X, Gen Y & Early Gen Zers for not being as successful "go getters" like they were before forgetting or flat out refusing to acknowledge how much easier the G.I. & Silent generations made it for them. I've also heard the early to mid Boomers had the their G.I. parents helicoptering over them so they were pushed into those lucrative careers they may not have even were really going for in the 1st place but had successful careers none the less.
@@VidWatcher01 so basically, most boomers are straight up hypocrites.
Loved this show as a kid, such an interesting take on the parents. Loved the episode where Stu makes pudding in the middle of the night because he’s lost control of his life 😂
Yeah, cause angelica abuses the button that he gives her cause it makes her feel really powerful. I know angelica is the bad guy of the show and it doesn't always make her the most likable person, but given how her mother is always working can totally see why, as a character, she acts out. It's cause she wants to be powerful like her mom and she probably isn't getting all the attention she wants as a kid cause her mom is constantly on the phone. If you look at it that way angelica becomes kinda tragic. She's got a mom who's powerful and living the American dream, but that doesn't leave her much time to be the be a mom to angelica.
I was thinking of the same exact moment. I can’t tell you how many times my wife has woken up in the middle of the night to find me wasting time and when she asks me why I’m still up I start laughing at Stu, and how dead on that line was.
@@darkmyro Yeah, being older now gives you a perspective beyond "that girl is so mean", good breakdown.
@@EagleZtoTheGrave right, I remember one of the showrunners wanted the writers to make angelica a little more sympathetic. Idk how I feel about that on the one hand she's basically the shows main antagonist, she needs to be kind of evil. On the other, I think it would have made her a little more 3-dimensional if they made angelica more sympathetic.
@@darkmyro I like how Rugrats went against the usual narrative of "D'aw see? Bullies are like that because they're bullied by other children or their parents." Bull. Some kids are just evil shits and don't come out of it until their early adult life or stay that way and either end up in prison or become someone's boss.
"They became less socially minded and began caring more for themselves" got greedy and lost their souls, gotcha.
A lot of it came from the red scare via media brainwashing that anything remotely similar to the idea of "socialism" and "communism" suddenly invoked such terror that it was like they were being chased by a serial killer.
My paranoid self... Is like are ppl trying to
1) study this time or
2) be baity
Idk. I remember what i remember. I guess it makes me look independent. & My parents really dont have much of an influence bc theyre not much of them. I couldnt even remember what angelicas mom did. I thought she was a real estate agent
True, and I’m a baby boomer with two gen “Z” kids.
This hits uncomfortably close to home. Like... Yeah, did I ever feel like my parents expect me to go to college, excel there, get a high paying job for a house and family. Is it nothing what I imagined my life to be? Sure. Do I like having them around? Hell, no. Do I still love them? Hell, yes. Am I depressed and not able to pursue a carrer without their judment and feeling I am not successful enough? Yes.
Thats when you have to do things for your own happiness, your own approval, your own pride and your own love. Can't always live for other people and try to be who they want you to be
@@mindofzena8447 Well I respect your advice, but things cannot be generalized in just one conditions. What if you live in a stagnant, third world countries? The choice is quite obvious.
My boomer parents always wanted me to attend high school and go to study at a university and of course this became the most important goal of my life (and still is to this day). But as a teenager I couldn't handle the pressure and I started wasting my days smoking pot with my mates. Although I went to high school at first, I failed it and dropped out two times in a row. In my early 20s I tried again, succeeded and now I study at University. And now after I found a new student job, my mom tells me that I should find a "real job" instead...
The trick is to just stop caring about their approval.
Sounds hard to do and I won't lie, it is-- but at some point you have to decide who you're living on this planet for. You, or them.
@@janudennhalt5460 That's sad and horrible. Boomers bother me. Gen Xers with boomer ideology (like my parents) do too.
For all the 'no, they were Gen-Xers' - the youngest parent was Deedee, who was 32 at the beginning of the series. Meaning all of the parents were born in 1959 or earlier. Gen X was 65. They're Boomers.
To add a bit more verification to that, I distinctly remember an episode that was mostly a flashback to an adventure that Stu and Drew had in their father's electronics repair shop when they were about Tommy and Angelica's ages, respectively. The flashback was animated in black and white, and I recall there were were thinly-veiled parodic references to The Flintstones, The Jetsons, and Rocky and Bullwinkle. At one point, one of Lou's customers also mentions having difficulty starting his Edsel. All of the context clues line up, and point to that particular flashback occurring sometime around 1959 or 1960. That absolutely confirms Stu and Drew as being Boomers.
Shut the fuck up
@@I_WANT_MY_SLAW chill
If that's the case, these boomers had kids at an age older than most boomers. Making them outliers.
@@Josh-sv7wj
Let's assume these parents were all born around 1950. They'd be 20 in 1970, and probably not be having kids until their late 20s/early 30s due to the Sexual Revolution, so having kids between 1978 and 1982, as Gen X was reaching its final years and giving way to the Millennials.
We have to understand that generations are not defined by who gives birth to whom, but rather by what period of time one was born in. Both Gen X and the Millennials are products of the Boomers, as Gen X and the Millennials both grew up under different circumstances due to the rapidly increasing development of technology and shifting culture. Gen X would also have some members who would be considered young members of the Greatest Generation, while Millennials were entirely sired by Boomers, with some Gen X parentage towards the end in the mid 90s.
When I was a kid, I was obsessed with the rugrats. Its interesting looking back that they were playing and I was sitting in front of a TV just watching.
And... now I notice my fellow-Millennial friends and family that have children follow the same behavioral patterns. It's easy to shit on boomers as if they're personally culpable for this shit, but in some ways it's just the natural endpoint of a meritocratic culture (whether that meritocracy is real or an illusion). We use universities as a sorting mechanism - the people that're most neurotic, most workaholic, least likely to challenge authority figures, most likely to define their self-worth as a human being from external factors like a report card or a paycheque... these are the people that are the most productive workers.
At 11:25 you see older Tommy (? never watched all grown up) freaking out about a single test that could completely ruin his future. Those same people grow up, become business leaders, and somehow we're all shocked when they're obsessed about the slightest short term move in their company's stock price or quarterly earnings?
That is a very interesting thought and I'm glad I read this
Holy smokes I did not expect to find you guys here.
But yes. Kinda terrifies me how self-worth is now being judged by what position you held, what latest supercars you owned, and how high your GPA is in college.
Yes, universities are well known for not producing challenging ideas, and I for one have never seen students protesting authority.
Sarcastic reply aside, I do like your guys channel! Keep up the great work!
@@bencochrane6112 They protest the authority, yell, wave flags and hold signs and then they join the workforce like everyone else because they need food on the table. And how about this year? Governments of the world are doing whatever they want. no one is questioning them. Everyone is an obedient little sheep.
@@mikshinee87 That's not true in the slightest. There have been historic protests and progress for worker/citizen centric movements/governments across the globe this year. Even my country, the shitty Right Wing dystopia U.S.A, has a population which is finally starting to open their eyes and see past the decades, centuries, of propaganda.
Joining the workforce doesn't make someone an obedient little sheep. What a ridiculous assertation.
My parents got married at 20 and bought their first house at 21. They are so much less understanding than actual boomers because they became adults at just the right time in the '90s for my dad to make a bunch of money on computers and the internet. They got lucky but don't see it they see it as hardwork to build their empire (they're still married) and so they think hardwork will make you rich now when that isn't necessarily true. The hardest working people I know work two jobs and raise a family and barely make ends meet. I don't know where I'm going with this but I feel like parents who became adults in the 90s are far more damaging than actual boomers are
Most of those parents are younger boomers. lol. It's s wild generation.
If your parents were young adults in the 90s then they would be gen x
Do people not remember Gen X?
Ask them whether they think poor women in Africa with ten children who carry water buckets on their heads don’t work hard.
George Prchal They do. Gen X is alive and well and in many ways overlooked in a lot of ways. This is especially since they were the 1st wave of children a lot of Baby Boomers had and subsequently through the poor development of the job market the 1st unofficial parents of a lot of Millennials. Lol.
Oh god that ending made me so sad. We spent our childhoods watching other kids have fun on tv rather than having fun ourselves. Our imaginations really only turn on when the electronics turn off.
No your attempt at an imagination is horrible. For me, that never has left. Ill leave it at that. Lol, youre also in the wrong time period. Even in the late 90s, early millennium, technology was a box computer that was in the living room. I wasnt allowed on it unless i asked. Also, i think it was considered a middle class thing. Not everyone had those. Ppl still had pagers back then. Well, i think my dad had a cell. But it sure as wasnt connected to the net.
A Rugrats Chanukah is one of the best holiday episodes of a show I've ever seen
The “Hey, Arnold!” holiday special where Arnold and Gerald track down Mr. Hyunh’s long lost daughter was great as well!
Kim?
The Ren and Stimpy holiday special called “Son of Stimpy” is a true masterpiece.
Rugrats.... "ok boomering" before it was cool to "ok boomer"
“The 60’s are over and we lost!” - said Betty to Didi when she freaked out over the prospect of Phil and Lil “being nudists”.
You mean in the episode Naked Tommy?
Sheds tear
The "Naked People Protesting Something Again" headline in Nationstates.net suddenly makes a lot more sense
I’m curious about what differences in parenting were present between Boomers and GenX. My parents were born in 67/68, too young to be Boomers and right at the start of GenX. I’m a part of the youngest subset of millennials, mid-late 20s, and saw way more helicoptering among my peers than kids older than us.
I agree. My parents were born in 58/60, in between Boomers and Gen X (although they do lean more towards what we think of as Boomer mentality), and I'm a Xennial born in 82. I know it's probably weird to say, but I think the difference between Xennials and Millennials is if you graduated before or after 9/11. I graduated in May 01, my brother was a grade behind me, and I don't think some of the major shifts that happened didn't quite affect people my age or a little older as they did kids who were still in school. Maybe it is just me who feels this way, but I do think that's partially why I don't feel right calling myself a Millennial, even though I technically could.
@@CinnamonGrrlErin1 what about people outside of america?
@@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 A very good question to ask. My parents, for example, would very solidly fall under the boomer category as they were born in the 50's but they were also born in colonies and lived through their countries' independence. The childhood and early adulthood experiences they've described are wildly different from the boomer experience described in even this video.
@@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 It's just kind of something I've vaguely thought about, more than a concrete theory. It would be interesting to see an actual sociological study on it though.
@@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 To a certain extent, I think it still applies bc 9/11 kicked off the truly bonkers era of foreign policy we're still dealing with. America can't go through a thing without bringing everyone else along.
Man, Wisecrack reveals how yet another old cartoon had a hidden background of brilliant social commentary.
@Jeremiah Kivi Not exactly, for parents born in the late 50s/early 60s, who would still technically be boomers, they'd be in their 30s.
@Jeremiah Kivi you seem awfully confident for being wrong 😂
@Jeremiah Kivi The "baby boom" came after the soldiers who served in WWII started coming back home and making babies because they were relieved they weren't going to die by kraut machine gun fire. It spans from '46, when the first couples got their hanky-panky on, to '64. If the show takes place in '91, assuming they were the tail end of the boomer generation, they could be anywhere from 27 to 45.
P.S. I think you're at least as bad at math as you assert Wisecrack is.
@Jeremiah Kivi Okay, lemme take it slow. 64+30=94. The show takes place in 1991. So subtract 3. 27. 27 is the youngest a boomer could be in 1991.
@Jeremiah Kivi Go ahead, Google the years that cover the baby boom, get a calculator(you obviously need one), and you know, maybe go sit in a 2nd grade class during math time and brush up on your two-digit arithmetic.
Pops comes home*
"How was your night with your friends?"
Pops:"we had a round of russian roulette"
"Did you win?"
Pops: "I dont think you know what russian roullete is "
The first thing to come to my mind, when thinking about Rugrats, is that Tommy's parents were self portraits of the married couple that created the show, as new parents. And that, later on, they divorced in real life.
I never watched the show, but being a mid 90's baby, i wanted to thank you for showing me these major factors that have resulted in my upbringing. This explains many things about why us millennials are the way we are.
I'm still traumatized by how close the opening came to showing us Tommy's junk. That diaper saved us all.
One of my absolute fave shows as kid, I’d say this deep dive is needed. My parents were the last yr of the Boomers and I was the last gen of the millennials and honestly I feel this.
The Rugrats are definitely Core Millennials. Angelica and Susie were born in 1988, Chuckie and Kimi were born in 1989, Tommy, Phil and Lil were born in 1990, Dil was born in 1991.
Yup! And Drew being born in 1955. Stu, Howard, and Chazz being born in 1956. Didi, Charlotte, Betty, and Kira being born in 1957.
Not to Mention Randy and Lucy Carmichael. Susie's parents being born in 1955 as well as Drew.
You guys are so old now!
The revival has the parents acting like Millennials while Lou is a Boomer Hippie.
As a millennial, this changes rugrats for me that I can’t unsee now.
Damn.
I just realized that I'm jealous of my high-school classmates who are dumber than me but more successful. Basically they started "adulting" that is moving out, working a job in an office, drinking fancy coffee and wearing professional looking clothes. These people don't do anything important and their jobs could easily be automated or done by some slob in his pajamas.
Holy shit, they just turned into their parents.
same. the more you learn, the more you start to understand that more than anything else, our economic system rewards social connections and dogma, just like it did in the olden days. also that the social script is incredibly limiting.
@@ethanstump What I can't understand is how these drones got into these "professions" when they never had any experience. I could easily do or learn-to-do their jobs but I can't make it to the interview despite having a degree.
Also, why do children of professionals getting middle class jobs, where working class kids can't break into that despite their education?
@@professordogwood8985 it's called nepotism. the corporate system is basically feudalism 2.0
@@pacodance29 I'm familiar with that word and seen plenty of it in government roles but for some reason a bunch of drones ended up in good places with no evidence of nepotism whatsoever.
@@professordogwood8985 Maybe it doesn't have to do with technical abilities but rather social abilities. I believe they may "talk their way" into the careers during an interview, for example. If the job they are doing is more "fluid" in a sense that you don't need hard skills (programming, understanding evolution or calculus, critical thinking and analysis, you get it), they tend to do well. I see some colleagues that were on the lower end during high school and today are doing well. Idk, maybe it's luck, or people change, or whatever..
I hope people remember the episode that Angelica was potentially going to have a younger sibling the darker implication of that episode is that Charlotte was indeed pregnant but had a chemical pregnancy
Go on...
That’s a fan theory. It’s also theorized that she had an abortion (as she increasingly panics about having another baby + she’s a workaholic with zero time for Angelica).
Always believed she had a miscarriage, she seemed sad when telling Angelica there wasn't going to be a new baby after all
@@TabbyeLynne Also the implication of fertility issues. I heard Didi and Stu had them as well which was so surprising they had Tommy and Dil. Also Tommy was a Preemie.
Yup
Great video! Do one about Rory Gilmore from Gilmore Girls as an archetypal millennial. A lot of people were miffed that she was floundering in her career and adulthood during the Netflix revival, but I found it a refreshingly honest take on the millennial experience. She was a "gifted" millenial and her mom and grandparents invested a lot in her education... yet that academic success didn't translate at all into career success. So much of the plot of the original series revolves around her studiousness, academic talents, and pressure amongst her and her peers to get into Ivy Leagues. Love that the revival didn't have her successful as an adult!
I am so glad someone else sees this! I know Rory was a sweet, studious lady in the series, but if you peer closer she really was a bit spoiled and had some things handed to her like a rich kid would, even though she grew up in a modest small town. I also don't find it at all hard to believe that for all her booksmarts, she is not very logical when it comes to relationships.
I just had the most terrifying of flashback. How my father wanted to learn many things to help me to be a successful grown-up but never allowed me to do or learn what I wanted. The constant reminder that I should not disappoint him in any way. How he almost gloated when he saw me failed at trying to achieve what I really wanted. How he pushed me to study a career I don't like and to this day haven't used. How his perpetual pressure caused me depression and he made a surprise Pikachu face when it happened.
I know this message doesn't mean much but your dad is real jerk for projecting his desires onto you. I always hated those kinds of parents who wanted their children to be financially successful so they could mooch off of them. It really shows how much of a class act he is.
@@kappadarwin9476 Hold the phone, we don't know Clara's Dad's Intentions here. There is some chance that he really _is_ just blind, and tried to do well, but failed in multiple things he wasn't aware were important. Then again, maybe he's the kind of Dad you're talking about. I just don't want to assume positivity or doom.
I'm pretty sure that's abuse.
im 22 and finished college and my parents immediately urged me to go back to school for a master's degree. like i don't even know what i want to do with my life at this point, at least let me find a damn job and live it a little.
I just met up with my cousin who immediately got a masters degree and went straight to becoming a school dean at like 24-25. I don't know the full details but she apparently crashed hard a few months ago, lost her job, apartment, and car and is still recovering. I just really don't understand her.
@@joelsasmad it's burnout, dude. sooner or later she was gonna burn out from all the expectations and responsibilities. it's why this style of parenting is awful. it teaches the kids nothing about their lives and only serves to add a shitload of unnecessary stress to their lives. parents need to learn when to detach and let their kids just be themselves.
if i decide i want to go to law school, i want it to be after I've had experience in said field so i can decide if it is the kind of lifestyle i can manage. not because i was told to. I'm living my life for myself. I'm in the driver's seat, and whoever is in the back is just along for the ride. Not backseat driving the entire time
As someone Who 27. 22 is the time to be who you where meant to be. 27 will be there like a light switch. Tupac was 25 when he died.
@@carlosdanger8043 I'm 24 and have no idea what I'm going to do.
Im 26. I went to graduate school in the moment of trying to find myself and I kinda regret it. But I kinda don’t. It was a very stressful time. I’m going back to school for media, something I did while in undergraduate school and I’m more excited about it than anything. My parents are Gen X, and they’re always pushing me to find a better paying job, don’t waste time or money..I’m slowly learning to live for me, because they stress me out lol ..I’m sure they learned from my boomer grandparents
ah yes, the eternal refrain of the boomer parent: "you don't want to end up working at McDonalds"
Yeah, Boomers sabotaged our relationships, banned us from falling in love & banned us from marrying you, banned us from taking risks, banned us from owning cars, banned us from having friends THEY didn't like...... Now they complain we're not breeding them grandchildren.
"Flipping burgers" was always the word choice I heard. Talking about the same thing.
Funnily enough my McDonalds job helped me, my mom, and younger brother through a shitty time when my boomer grandmother threw us out of the house.
@@odstarmor557 and I heard it teamed up with colleges to for scholarships ofcourse
My mom: kids can't be anxious and depressed
Kid me: depressed and anxious
My whole thought process watching rugrats as an adult was "cps needs to intervene"
I remember the nudist episode where Betty specifically says “The 60’s are over and we lost.” That was funny.
Now I know why "what do you want to be when you grow up" was always followed with "and how are you going to make that a reality?"
Surprised you didn’t talk about Phil and Lils mom and how chill she was in contrast to the other parents. But great video! Loved this show as a kid! Super interesting insights!
She was an exercise nut lol
Yeah she was a real loud mouth and came across pretty condescending to other adults. I think she had more influence on the parents' anxieties than on her own kids since everything just seemed easy to her. I think that sparked Didi to overcompensate, and Chucky's dad to become indecisive and overanalytical. Notice how Angelica's mom had no problem with her own parenting style because she was also very confident.
@@Parcha64 Ironically chill people or people who have it all together indirectly influence stress and insecurity
Also in All Grown Up, she and Charlotte get into a nasty argument over their personalities. The not too feminine mumsy feminist mom who wants to bust the system vs the #girlboss mom who wants to join the system and temporarily ended childcare in her company.
I've always liked Phil and Lil's mom more than the others.
This reminds me of why Grandpa was my favorite character on the show.
He went to school up hill both ways
Can we please highlight how gender bending Rugrats was?! Like Charlotte being a BOSS at her job and both her and DeDe financially supporting the household while Drew and Stu, maintained the house?!
Not to mention that Howard was a stay-at-home dad.
In Stu's defense, he did have a job that allowed him to stay home (most of the time), being an inventor and all that..
@@Practitioner_of_Diogenes So we've got TWO stay-at-home dads?
Nice.
@@ManictheMod Not exactly. I consider "stay-at-home" dads are fathers that take on the more "caretaker" role in the family, which Didi kinda does, as Stu is sometimes away from home, probably at inventor cons or is required to go to some nearby company, doing a sales pitch for his inventions. Rugrats in Paris is apparently the only actual time he was required to go do an international trip (afaik).
@@Practitioner_of_Diogenes Ah, sorry for my mistake then. At least we still got Howard (Phil and Lil's dad).
I was waiting for a video to explore the Boomer parents on Rugrats. Also: Daria, King of the Hill, Rocket Power, As Told By Ginger (Lois and Macie's parents sound like late Boomers), Stranger Things. (Please do a video The Take on Boomer Parents as a follow up to the Sally Draper video).
I recommend "The Mommy Myth" by Susan J. Douglas for insight into the mothering exhibited by the Rugrats Moms (especially Didi).
Angelica was 12-13 in "All Grown Up!"
I’d like to see a video on king of the hill
@@franklinlara1831 I was just about to say that. King of the Hill is a fascinating cultural artifact on many levels. It baffles me how overlooked it is.
@@gankhef5564 Its so excellent. Like how it explores things without condoning them.
Daria, yes
Daria is so great. But I feel that it's less a reflection on the Boomers themselves as a group much as it is the suburban dream lifestyle that turned out to be more dystopian than utopian. That was a big arching theme in the mid to late 1990s across lots of media, as we see in American Beauty and The Matrix especially, and the song "(21st Century) Digital Boy" by Bad Religion, although that was a bit earlier in 1994.
Man, I had like the exact opposite of the Rugrats' situation.
If I was doing chores, I was helicopter'd like a prime time police chase, and I wasn't allowed to play video games or even READ until after my aunt had gone over my chores and homework in meticulous detail to make sure I had everything squared away to perfection.
And then I was put on ADHD medication when I was 8, and the mood swings they set me on had me throwing myself off the roof of our house because I'd been yelled at one too many times about how lazy I was for not finishing the lawn mowing. If I stopped chopping wood for half a second to get a drink of water, my uncle would teleport out of nowhere to tell me exactly how much of a fat, lazy burden I was and how he couldn't wait to get me out from under his roof.
I attempted suicide 3 times at the ages of 9, 12, and 16. That first attempt at the age of 9 was when I threw myself off the roof. I landed in an ivy bush instead of the concrete front porch, and dazedly walked back to my bedroom where, a few minutes later, I watched the milk man pull up, drop off some milk right next to the bush I'd just flattened, and drive off. I then spent the next few hours hiding in my closet having an existential panic attack as I fully realized my own mortality and how the earth as a whole wouldn't even blink at my passing, which is when I developed a debilitating fear of heights so severe I'm literally incapable of climbing a ladder to change a light bulb without hyperventilating.
Now, to be completely fair, the VAST majority of why I initially became suicidal was because of those goddamn pills, but what kept me feeling that way for another 7 years was the explicit, unambiguous disinterest my aunt and uncle had in what could have possibly driven a ***nine year old*** into ***jumping off a two story building.*** Instead, they waved it off as me "playing" and "exaggerating" when I told them I had wanted to die and almost did.
I'm now 26 and have held a job for a full year now. I had been going to therapy, but the current world situation has had me stop. This job though is the biggest deal for me because it's the longest I've ever held a job, and the first job I've had since 2015 that wasn't a 3 week long seasonal job.
I'm not living the life I always wanted; my uncle made sure to nurture doubt in my own creativity as much as possible, while my aunt actively picked at and tore down my dreams and goals as "unrealistic", which is even more infuriating since they've recently turned right around and bought my younger cousin an $8k custom gaming computer and Webcam set up so he can stream Fortnite, but hey, my ideas of being an author, or a video game/book reviewer on TH-cam, were just terrible and completely unrealistic.
That said, I'm tentatively starting on outlines for two different stories I've thought up, both of which are taking cues and tropes from romance anime (both drama and comedy) and viewing them from different lenses.
One is about a man who travels the world looking for his Cinderella.
If you know Toradora, then my second story idea is basically that, except Ryuji and Taiga are fighting because (due to never actually communicating with each other civilly) both believes that the other is trying to break up Kitamura and Minori, all because they stumbled across one another (playing on the crash-into hello trope) while spying on a date of Kitamura and Minori's.
I don't expect this to get seen by very many people, but the stress has been building lately, and being able to vent about the bad and also highlight the good has lightened my load by a significant amount, so thank you for posting such a surprisingly needed video, and know that life is always worth living, because it can always get better if you work at it.
This is quite the life story you've told here. It gives me hope that you're still considering writing your stories even after everything you've gone through. I'm hoping that things will continue to get better for you and I'm so grateful you're still with us. Thanks for sharing!
I'm 29 and, despite never truly attempting suicide, you hit the nail on the head for my childhood. I was popped full of adderall at 7 (1998). I stopped the pills this year, and although it hurts, it has helped both financially and mentally. I also have Asperger's and have less and less panic attacks off of those damn pills. I also found a creative niche that had helped me make friends finally when I was 19 and due to this niche I have made more and more friends.
But man...that really sounds rough. I wish I could give you a hug right now as we seem to have similar perspectives on life and our upbringings. I wish you the best.
I’m sorry you had to go through with those awful awful things. I hope your doing better now. You are so strong
Honestly adhd medicine isn't for everyone, I'm 19 and the doctors prescribed them to me when I was like 8 due to me having Asperger's, with each new type of medicine they tried it just messed me up more and more such as causing ticks to happen or me puking early in the morning.
Keep following your dreams your very strong and im glad your still here 💕
Ahh yes. A video reconstructing a childhood show of my child and adding great complexity and philosophy in it. So good.
Righttt!!
Less "adding complexity and philosophy" and more saying "the show demonstrates this and this and that on the time's culture, and here are the results of said culture", but still cool.
I've been told by my parents to "Get a different job, because it doesn't pay enough. To them."
Yup. I got super lucky and somehow ended up with a part time engineering job (36 hours a week) paying $41 an hour, but no benefits. And I was able to set my own schedule for a third of those 36 hours. I worked 3 days a week. Somehow my parents thought it wasn't good enough, and I should look elsewhere for a "real job" with benefits. After a year of arguing with them, I finally broke down the numbers that even AFTER paying for my own health insurance and maxing out my IRA, I was making more money than I would at any other company in the city.
To some people, if it doesn't meet their traditional expectations of good it's not good enough. I lost that job in March due to COVID, but it was amazing while it lasted. As far as I'm concerned, if I can pay my bills and I love coming into work each morning I don't care what anyone else thinks at this point.
Best job I ever had was delivering junk mail. Surprisingly well paid, got to set my own hours, and only had to visit the office once a week to hand in my time sheet and pick up new leaflets. I made enough in 25-30 hours a week to live comfortably (renting a small place on my own), I was by no means rolling in money, but I had enough and I also had time to do things. The constant "when are you getting a real job" from family got real annoying, and yeah even pointing out I was making enough money just lead to "but you're not working 40 hours".
Everyone: (Complaining about their Boomer parents)
Me, A Millennial raised by a Gen X: Can’t relate
wow,they where either younge when they had you or you're really a zoomer.
Eeeeyup. I'm 26 (born in '94) mom was 21 and dad was 24 when they had me. They were born in '72 and '69 respectively, definitely full-blown Gen-X. But I absolutely still relate to this video, they were a lot like boomers so I'm not sure. Straight up, Gen-X just isn't even talked about. It's like they never existed. And like only The Boomers were this awful people. But nope... Yeah no, I had a _pretty traumatizing_ *GEN X PARENTED CHILDHOOD.*
Man, *FUCK all generations* before Millenial and Gen Z, tbh!!! 🤣😆 (except, of course, for the good apples in each).
Same...I spent the first half of the video thinking huh, aren't the parents gen X? I guess they're all in their thirties not their twenties.
Same, I was born in 92 and my parents were born in 68. Now that I re-watch this, yeah, all the adult characters seem well into their thirties (or even older).
@@DarleyHavidsun Millenials too though since those guys are fucking things up for the Zoomers and Gen Alpha.
The longer 2020 goes on, the less I feel like Tommy and the more I feel like Chucky.
Ohhhh yeh.
Tommy literally pulls things out of his *ss. Hes like a mini mcguyver. Then he has snacks in there too. Cookies & lollipops. Other random things
But what if you were a child that was left alone constantly but also couldn’t play outside so all you did growing up was watch tv?
My mom wanted me to have the advantages in the future that she never had, so she did pay for my English classes and music classes growing up, for French classes in high school and Portuguese classes in College.
So I am both independent, self-sufficient and imaginative but do everything with anxiety and I’m depressed. I also don’t know how to keep a schedule and I’m always seeking immediate gratification in the form of tv, TH-cam and books.
Are you my twin? You literally just described my life to a T. 🤔 But seriously, I feel this on a spiritual level.
Now I know why my parents were literally afraid this show would corrupt me.
Deedee reminded me of The Amazing World of Gumball joke
"I don't care about that, I care what the others would think of me"
All boomers/gen x gave us was anxiety... and then they blamed us for the world they destabilized.
Yeah..
gen x missed out on cheap housing and long term anything stable while being lectured by their boomer parents who sit upon on a goldmine of assets which they slowly dwindle away in everyone's faces while still claiming poor... it's boomers that still run the majority of things and refuse to hand anything over. they just won't budge, and this gives gen x huge anxiety
The first couple of seasons of The Simpsons focused a lot of money troubles and slice of life moments like that too.
I always thought the message of “Rugrats” was about child neglect
Sounds like boomers for me
I never saw it as child neglect. I just thought it was letting children be children. The last thing I'd want as a kid is to have my parents hovering over me the whole time. I got my batman and my Tonka truck, let me fucking dig some dirt. Especially because the show was about them being alone, just like how the show is about the group of babies. When the other babies went home, I'm sure the parents spent time with their kids like most normal families. Or maybe not, they never made that spinoff, so we'll never know
@@DarrenNoFun reminds me of the episode where the kids had a simple cardboard box. Pretty much all the babies except Angelica had wonderful adventures (race car, space ship, a cave/ house) with it. Even when it got ripped up, they STILL played with what was left but transformed what the box was to them (a pair of wings, a mask, even swords).
@Sardonicus I agree but some of this if not most of this is plot convenience. Wouldn’t be a good show without the crazy adventures.
@@DarrenNoFun I think you seem to forget that most of the child characters on this show are 1 year olds. Angelina was 3 and she was the oldest of the group. There's a difference between hovering 10 year olds and hovering over toddlers.
Also, didn't they lose their babies IN A FOREST in one of their movies? Even their newborn infant. Plus in the other movie when they got stranded on an island, all the children got lost IN A JUNGLE. All of the adults there, and not one of them could watch the kids properly.
I get that parents aren't perfect and that they make mistakes, and I understand that giving your kids some space is good for them, but come on. How do you screw up THAT badly? And MULTIPLE times too? 😂
The parents: Omg I worry about them! I want the best for them!
Also the parents: Not pay attention to the babies as the babies snuck away
To me it wasn't the expectations placed on me that made things difficult, but the lack of it.
My parents were always kind of modest, but supportive. Yes we went to vacation every year but we never exceeded our budget. Whatever my brother and I wanted to do or become our parents supported it. But that is kind of bad when you have ADHD and want to do something different every month. I was never pushed to stick to something or working towards something that didn't come naturally. Today I literally don't know how to learn. I absorb knowledge that I find interesting, but I just can't wrap my head around doing tasks that I find obsolete (even when the job education says it is mandatory)
This video is great because it humanizes Boomers; something that isn’t done very often today.
Great vid Michael!
At one point, old people were just people
"Perhaps I treated you too harshly."
That's why I despise the OK Boomer memes. Like everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. Being born between 1945 and 1964 doesn't automatically mean you're racist, hate the younger generations, etcetera. Also all of the boomers made fun of are the earlier boomers, the ones born after 1955 I'd say are probably more lumped in with Gen X stereotypes than Boomers.
Haha, as a child I never understood why my parents and grandparents where so baffled by Rugrats, got angry and left the room shaking their fists.
part about the birthdays is interesting because I feel right now is when people go over the top for toddler’s birthdays. when i was growing up it was family dinners with homemade cakes and once school aged they were at home parties with hotdogs and simple games. i was a lower middle class canadian millennial myself.
Even baby showers are crazy. There's all these ridiculous gender reveal parties (to the point where they start FIRES!) and "sprinkle" parties where the parents demand more shit for their kid instead of buying it themselves. The only difference between today and 20 years ago is that everyone is documenting and uploading life events in seconds to show how "speshul" they are.