Caregiver Training: Agitation and Anxiety | UCLA Alzheimer's and Dementia Care Program
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- The UCLA Alzheimer's and Dementia Care Video series provides viewers with practical tools you can use in a variety of settings to create a safe, comfortable environment both for the person with dementia and the caregiver.
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Being a caregiver is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting. No one will ever understand unless they do it. Such a heartbreaking disease 💔
I can tell you from 21 yrs of experience that kindness goes a long ways never force anything, only encourage. Patience & passion is the key.
You seem like a wonderful person.
God it’s hard as heck sometimes, knowing it’s a snowball effect doesn’t help much either without the saint like self control
Do you actually live with someone who has this? Or do you just visit? There is a world of difference.
I can tell you from 2 years of experience taking care of a person with dementia that utter patience and gentleness with mentally dead people will bring your and your family's physical, mental and emotional state to the grave. Take a seat please.
How do I prepare my 8 year old twins to deal with losing me through this disease? How do you help children understand it?
I've been a CNA for 30 years and this approach of being kind and calm and gentle doesn't always work
I understand. I also worked with clients suffering from dementia and one lady would scream the worst swear word insults no matter what was going on… Even during a nice, positive activity.
If you've been a CNA for 30 years and haven't advanced in your position, I don't trust your opinion at all. I've already experienced significant success with changing the approach that's used in my grandmother's case. Maybe I got lucky or maybe it's just God. And maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. But if someone who's dealt a lot of burnt out people in the medical field.... If you've been in the same position for 30 years (specifically a low-level CNA position) then I'm not sure you'd have the best information on the topic in the first place. Again I could be wrong but your statement sounds like to me with somebody says when they've been doing the same thing too long and they haven't managed to make it work for themselves either. It bothers me that someone would be in a position for that many years and have a statement like that to make without having some kind of backup or alternate solution. You sound like the kind of CNA that we should not be letting watch our old folks. The approach isn't about just being kind calm and gentle... It's about having targeted responses and approaches to how their brain works. People who oversimplify it to being kind calm and gentle are really just likely mean people who don't know how to do anything different. You oversimplify it because you still can't do it and can't get it to work consistently. You're likely burnt out and you need to take some time off if you can.
@@stevendavidsonsaunders694I've only been doing this for a month and I've figured out why one lady got moody just one time with me... I didn't like that I caused her some type of aniexty or agitated her so I started paying attention to.others more & shared my experience with a trainer co worker an she went in with me next time cus I asked her to see if she could notice anything I was doing wrong... An golly what do.ya know it wasn't me being rude or mean ... I was very good to her but I just was overwhelming her cus I was talking too fast an asking questions that were too hard an.not making it more simple ...
An yet here I am watching videos on my spare time cus I really love doing this & I just got done caring for my father on hospice & absolute love working in this field...
@@stevendavidsonsaunders694 total hogwash dude
as is this video , scheduling appointments in the afternoon if the patient is a late riser will collide with dispersion of medications and Sundowning is a huge feature with dementia patients.
It should be self explanatory for anyone whos been around it
To the families that are dealing with a parent with this disease Please be strong through this. I know this pain ❤️
Me too.
My grandmother
My wife
My husband is the end stage and he bats us aware when we try to help him with eating 😢😢😢😢he's oin jhospital because he won't eat or drink 😂😢😢😢❤❤❤
@donwood7700 my hubby I'm heart broken 💔 ❤😢😢❤
Unrealistic, it's so different in real life. I have really lost my patience at times with my grandmother. The more I am understanding towards her the more she acts out.
Besides the writing and acting in the video, being calm and having patience usually does the trick. That said, the disease gets to a point that most of us can't really do anything about it and they need professional care.
(I'm not patronizing you, btw. One of my grandmoms has Alzheimer's, she was having a really bad day today and I lost my temper. I just came came here looking for more tips, saw your comment and thought I'd chip in. Hang on out there, mental illnesses are just terrible...)
Same.
It isn't mental illness it is neurological
It is very difficult stay strong and always remember its an illness,My dads moods change like the wind,My dad has made me a better person despite of his illness im going to make each day great for him.My dad believes pictures and the tv are alive and never wonts to sleep.Its difficult at times but im going to give him the best days of his life and fight with him to slow this awful illness down.
Sadly, the ONLY part of their mind that works is the cunningly portion of their brain.
I let my Mom wear what she wants (no matter how CRAZY it may look) - it helps her to keep her autonomy!
I find my tone of voice with patients is incredibly important. As a speech path often the person may no longer understand what you say. But if you are talking sweetly and giving 10 seconds for a reaction/response that helps. Bring out the angel, not the devil.
My father has been an angry, mean man my entire life, and it's significantly worse now. The situation is extremely difficult to the point that these things I've tried have little to no effect, and it's very hard to have sympathy/empathy for him in his worst moments. I truly wish things like this worked half as well as depicted in the video.
we literally have lived the same life. it's hard to forgive someone when they constantly are doing the thing you are trying to forgive them for. you remember the past and the way he conditioned you to feel.
Same. I rarely meet my father before I'm 18. Not because he was working, but living with his "other girlfriends". Nevertheless, he is considered relatively rich and my mom accepted him. He had beat my mom before but refuse to resort to law or divorce, so I went to live with them. I had fought with my dad physically several times since, to protect my mother.
Now after the pandemic and lock down, he couldn't go golfing or drink with his friends. He became alcoholic and had a stroke around this June. He has vascular dementia since then. We already hate each other, so even if I'm trying to be nice, he'll just respond with curses of how hypocritical I am.
I love my mom. She literally raised me up alone. I will protect her no matter what, but for someone you hate and is now suffering from dementia? I sometimes just hope he suffers more.
Same. I rarely meet my father before I'm 18. Not because he was working, but living with his "other girlfriends". Nevertheless, he is considered relatively rich and my mom accepted him. He had beat my mom before but refuse to resort to law or divorce, so I went to live with them. I had fought with my dad physically several times since, to protect my mother.
Now after the pandemic and lock down, he couldn't go golfing or drink with his friends. He became alcoholic and had a stroke around this June. He has vascular dementia since then. We already hate each other, so even if I'm trying to be nice, he'll just respond with curses of how hypocritical I am.
I love my mom. She literally raised me up alone. I will protect her no matter what, but for someone you hate and is now suffering from dementia? I sometimes just hope he suffers more.
I know what you mean. I’m dealing with LO who has been emotionally abusive to me my entire life And they think it’s OK to get angry at me about anything they want.
@@kevinchang0527 You do not have to take care of him. You owe him nothing. In your situation you are better off just leaving and never speaking to him again. I know this might sound rude but your mom might have something wrong with her if she just keeps staying with him.
It's an unending circle with no end. All these advices multiply with zero while dealing with actual patient. You are bound to lose your temper, say things you don't want to say, do things you don't want to do - despite regretting them later. May those who take care of these patients be blessed. It is one hell of a tough job; keeping them alive with no hope of recovery.
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
Wow, how I can relate to what you said. You CANNOT do anything to please them
@@tennesseegirl5539 I know right !
U show nuff telling the truth. I'm a caregiver and most of the times I get difficult clients and besides that having to deal with family members micromanaging you. Sometimes the old people that you care for use stuff for an excuse to get by being rude and nasty toward you. You can never do anything to please them that's why when I deal with a client I don't get all attach to them or the family because it's a slap in the face. I keep it simple and that's it.
You get it
I’ve worked as a carer for dementia clients for 17 years I can honestly say it’s no longer rewarding, the fact that we are trying to do a job, keep them safe, keep them clean, keep them well fed and hydrated when they just make our lives ten times harder, I know they can’t help it but it’s too much of a struggle and some of their families don’t give a damn about them, it’s having a real negative effect on my health and mental well being.
I couldn’t imagine the stress levels you’ve been through. I had to leave my family, home and career ro move in with my mom because she refuses to move in with me. It’s only been 3 months but 24/7 care has driven me to depression.
There’s no time for yourself, not even a chance for a haircut or oil change. I have a large family that my mom’s helped all her life but now, there’s no one except one cousin of mine. Funny how all the support she’s given has been forgotten.
I'm 18 and have been a care assistant for people with severe dementia for nearly a year now. It's an incredibly rewarding job and it's been an amazing experience. My advice here to anyone who is caring for a family member with dementia is to remember they're still people, they still feel valid human emotions. Don't react to their anger with more anger, be paitent because it's the disease that's making them this way and it usually is an indication of something. Learn what their behaviour means and try a variety of responses. For example, we have one resident who shouts and becomes distressed when he is thirsty or hungry. Learn the signs and always be calm. Dementia doesn't need to be scary!
@@lovesrc4296 this would be a case of acting in their best interest. A technique you learn for this is distraction. You could remove excessive amounts of food for example by distracting the person with an activity or exercise maybe. If signs show they're excessively eating, it's most likely because they can't remember they've eaten, so you have to distract from the faux hunger they think they're feeling. And always keep healthy food in the house, allow them snack and don't be afraid to moniter them, just be respectful and discrete:)
They deserve respect and dignity too But it is scary when they get like that
I'm carer too ! Working with Dementia is beautiful job ! But is not for everyone, and I do not advice family members to be involved! You need lots of skills, techniques etc, even for professional can be difficult and not all time with good results!
But , absolutely fantastic job ! And yes , very rewarding! Good luck !
Im thinking of a job with someone with dementia.what is it like?any tips?
I am 32 year old. I have dementia 😪
Dear Lord, keep this disease away from my loved ones.
I have been thinking the same for years after watching a documentary on the disease and its effect on 1 specific family. Sadly, my dad has just been diagnosed and I am in a fog now.
@@jonb351 im so sorry, please b strong.
In Jesus name amen!
LOL God is not real!
@@Israel_Kit968 edgy
My grandma had dementia and forgot our names but she would say your one of mine. Nana loved to sing and share her childhood rhymes and riddles. She was a fun funny and a loving grandma. I miss you nana ♥️
I am scared.... my Grandmother has dementia, and I have learnt there’s a point where they forget everyone, and I remembered my grandmother told me she’d never forget me....
That’s out of her control , just keep the good memories in your heart and be patient and kind to her
My mother hasn't known who I am for well over a year. She doesn't know I am her daughter but she knows I am somebody to her. I think that they know familiar people, they just don't know the name or the ties. The heart remembers when the brain cannot.
im scared that will happen to my grandma too, she loves us very much. i can never imagine her forgetting us but if it does, i just hope i can cope well.
@@KG-kl9gc "the heart remembers when the brain cannot" :') i love that
My stepdad who has dementia and lives with me has not forgotten me once in the 3 years I am caring for him.
“Ice cream” the magic word
LOL I don't know what it is about that ice cream but you are so right LOL
I always say milkshakes 🤪
For my dad it’s root beer lol
As a caregiver of 5 years I can say “ice cream” is almost always the magic word.
Specifically butter pecan. Don’t know why. I’ve had several clients and the ones who liked ice cream always had that one as their favorite flavor.
Not for my my uncle he will say fuck ice cream and go to his room and talk to Got he says he says God it standing across from him at the table and he wants to talk to me.
Many times a UTI will cause the same responses. Make sure you consult their doctor. Take a deep breath and remain calm, it’s not personal; it’s simply their “reality”.
This is exactly what I’m going through with my father. I’m 25 and this is the hardest thing in my life. It’s getting to the point to where he has to go get professional care. I love my father, it’s sad that he went from a loving caring person to a angry forgetful man.
I'm with you my mother has it I'm 42 she's 70 now my world has been rocked and turned upside down and honestly i don't know how too respond my father is currently in the hospital he's gonna half too have a stent put in his heart and I was left too take care of her alone and I know nothing about caring for a dementia patient my mother use too be very sweet and caring now she's angry
@Myrt Myrtle my mom got out of the nursing home Wednesday but is already back in the hospital it's too the point where no one can handle her now but professional her disease is moving along really fast
@Myrt Myrtle yes here is what amazes me is she just got diagnosed last November it's moving so fast it's making my head spin
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
@@spiritualguidancek Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
For those of you taking care of your loved ones, hang in there, it’s not easy, I know, I’ve been there. It is stressful but in the end, you will know you did the right thing. You will have no regrets. But when it gets to the point where it’s no longer manageable, get professional help. The last 2 years of my mom’s life, we had to put her in a memory care facility. Very expensive, but worth every penny to be able to release some of that stress. I had no support from my brothers. I had to sell their house and all their belongings and we lived 11 hours away, so it wasn’t easy to say the least. But now she isn’t suffering any longer. God has come to take her. Stay strong!
My dad has
@@irealghost3248 Hang in there, like I said, it’s not easy, just don’t let it affect your health , it’s harder on the ones taking care of them. Especially family. Take care.
@@JackOfAllTrades2022 yup
your not taught this in america or most places or on tv but almost all health issues are casued by nutrition deficiencies and are easy to fix within a week. Nutrition ivs and nutrition injections supper effective in healing reversing health issues. you heal reverse dementia/altimers by myers cocktail iv and b12 injections. you get dementia/altimers because of b12 deficiencies. for example japan has the lowest rate of dementia/altimers because they health care system make sure there citizens get enough b12. You check your nutrition levels with thourough nutrition blood tests only functional medicine mds will do that and they know optimal levels not reg providers. anybody with health issues the root main cause is nutrition deficiencies. mental health issues, headache issues sleep issues balance issues the list goes on and on and its becasues of nutriton deficeinces. myers cocktail iv, vitamin d injection b12 injection, gludathione iv coq10 injections will heal and keep you at optimal health year round thats what pro althetes and rich people do year round. just type in google nutrition iv therapy near me. go get them done and start healing quick nutrition ivs and injections have been around since 1950's its a hidden secret casue there super effective and cure. anybody with altimer/dementian should do myers cocktail iv and b12 injections watch how fast they improve.
except she continues to yell at me even when I'm calm
its the same with my grandma, its very tough. she reeeeeally tests my patience.
You are not doing anything wrong. Just be strong like you are. I don;t know you but if you need advise. i will help and if i can. My wife is a nurse who deals with older people. Just try to be strong. Also i don't know you but i feel you don"t want give up faith. i can't say it will be a for sure thing but we want to help some way
Same. None of the practical advice I've been given, like this video, even KIND OF works. Maybe it's just because we're in an advanced stage, but we're long past a calm tone and patience making for a more cooperative loved one. Even the smallest task is a fight. There comes a time when you either let them piss in the trash can or physically force them to go sit on the toilet instead. And if I hear ONE MORE person tell me it's time for a home. We're WELL past that time, but Medicaid won't cover it and we don't have 6k/mo to self pay. So fuck off.
Role playing is sooooo stupid you can ALWAYS get the outcome you want when play acting!,,, It is so much easier said than done. I have dealt with someone for 3 years and it doesn't get easier. The only thing that I gave him to ease the agitation was Hemp oil cbd oil which I started about a month ago. Amazing is not enough of an adjective to describe how much easier he is to deal with!
@@margaretmary1139 omg THAT'S PERFECT. THANK YOU! Why did I not think of this before?!
The way she opened that door, she would have scared the life out of me.
The second part was much more calming, and in a loving tone.
Me and my brother are going through this with my mom and it’s the hardest battle I’ve ever fought. My mom is different though. Even when we talk to her nice and calmly, she gets upset and rolls her eyes. I haven’t gotten any sleep in over a week. I don’t know how much longer I can deal with this.😢
I’ve been my moms sole caregiver for 5+ years, she’s 85 and Alzheimer’s. I’m not sure how much longer I can either, am physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted
@@ninjasipad7924 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Same
This is nothing like the real thing!! It is the hardest my brother is 55 with this symptoms.
There are times when my grandma will say lots of negative things or acuse me for letting her down. I don't care and never lost my temper and go on with her as usual until I get to trick her to restby giving her a chocolate bar. It is the same as taking care of a baby, but with a downgrading difference, that this baby won't learn anything new but only forget. The main issue for me is that after I'm done with everything and go out I have developed a grumpy atyitude at the others and skip most of the social interactions.
Hardest job ever
Got to be a saint 🙏
To care for demented patient's
It hurts trust me
My mother was easy to care for, except when she would have a bimonthly episode of frantic anxiety that would last 36 hours non-stop. She would look for lost objects and demand me to help her find them. Ten minutes later she'd be searching for the same objects again.
Meds didn't help her with this and after the 36 hours, she would fall asleep exhausted for 3 days, just getting up on her own to use the bathroom and to eat and drink a little. By then I really needed that break.
She had a large walk in closet stuffed with clothes many dating back to the 50's, 60's and 70's. I would remove one or two sets of clothing and see if she noticed it. If she didn't notice it I put it in a bag to take to Goodwill. It took several months but I got her clothing collection down to a more manageable amount.
5 years I cared for her and my father. It was a good experience and healing time for all of us, and I would be willing to do it all over again.
I am going through this now. My grandma had high anxiety and stress and then hallucinations. She won’t sleep and she’ll be up all night and the meds don’t help her to relax or sleep. By the time the 2nd or 3rd day hits she sleeps for a day and then it’s like all of that never happened. When she finally sleeps I am so exhausted and sleep for a day myself. When my sleep patterns follow hers my family tells me I’m depressed but really I am just tired and no one understands how much work it is during these periods because they always see her when it’s easy to care for her.
You are such an amazing person. It's very rare to find people with this level of patience and care. Alzheimer's affects both the patient and their caregiver pretty badly mentally. I'm in such a position now. I hope I find the mental strength to be positive and patient as you were.
My father spent the last 7 years in a nursing facility. He had dementia which never became too bad. He would talk about the upstairs people making too much noise. Only there was no "upstairs".
But after reading some of these posts we, my father, mother and myself, were so lucky to have avoided the degree of suffering many, even most, go through. No words are enough to describe their loss. But there's hope because after things change things get better again. They really do.
@@germanandchocolatespeak what kind of hallucinations
your not taught this in america or most places or on tv but almost all health issues are casued by nutrition deficiencies and are easy to fix within a week. Nutrition ivs and nutrition injections supper effective in healing reversing health issues. you heal reverse dementia/altimers by myers cocktail iv and b12 injections. you get dementia/altimers because of b12 deficiencies. for example japan has the lowest rate of dementia/altimers because they health care system make sure there citizens get enough b12. You check your nutrition levels with thourough nutrition blood tests only functional medicine mds will do that and they know optimal levels not reg providers. anybody with health issues the root main cause is nutrition deficiencies. mental health issues, headache issues sleep issues balance issues the list goes on and on and its becasues of nutriton deficeinces. myers cocktail iv, vitamin d injection b12 injection, gludathione iv coq10 injections will heal and keep you at optimal health year round thats what pro althetes and rich people do year round. just type in google nutrition iv therapy near me. go get them done and start healing quick nutrition ivs and injections have been around since 1950's its a hidden secret casue there super effective and cure. anybody with altimer/dementian should do myers cocktail iv and b12 injections watch how fast they improve...
My grandpa had dementia and was very stubborn and agitated lol, it was hard for awhile but it got easier with time. He passed away on my birthday a few days ago and its a weird feeling knowing that the responsibility you had one day completely vanished the next. I miss him alot but I just miss having someone to care for and love you know? I guess if I ever got the opportunity to take care of an elder again I would and hopefully would learn from this experience and do better than I did before because I know I didn't do everything right but I did the best I could and am very thankful for the opportunity to care for an elder, my elder.
I lost the mom I knew.. Sad 😔
Best tip from this was the clothing.. simplify wardrobe choise and have easier to put on clothing ..helps so much!
This short video answers so many questions. I am grateful, UCLA Health!
if it were as easy as this video I wouldn't have looked this video up.
for my confused patients, I have to be simple and straightforward, and everything has to be logical in simple terms. For example, if I have to get a patient up for therapy one day, and if they give issues, being kind and reassuring makes them feel like they can push me around. I have to be kind and straightforward, not nice and willing to get ice cream. Sometimes, I have to be terse, and being a little terse while explaining is what works the best.
Wait till you spend 6 hours listening to your loved one repeating the same story over and over and over. And if at any given time you interrupt the story, the meltdown begins. There is no redirecting or interacting because when you do you just made a rough situation 100x's worse. I've been dealing with this part of dementia with my loved one for almost a year now. I'd love to see a video on how to handle this.
Thank you so much for making these videos. Youll are so kind. God bless you
I give 2 options to my clients which help them to choose what to wear. Patience also helps🥰
I'm a 39 years old woman and my mom is a 78 years old woman that suffer from dementia. I've been her health care provider for 20 years. I'm doing everything to try to help her and I'm always calm and she goes off on me all of the time even though I'm trying to help her. I reach out to my sister and she said that it's not her problem and I must deal with it. I feel so sad and depressed because it's triggering my depression and anxiety. I'm bipolar and dealing with PTSD and I began to shut down and go in my room and let my mom do what she do to keep her for going off on me. Sometimes I just wish she would die already.
I’m sorry.
I’m 45, my mother also has moderate to severe dementia and I’m a caregiver. Thankfully she’s not abusive to me and I’ve also a sister who lives nearby who helps, but my father lacks any ability for compassion, empathy or understanding and holds her to expectations of someone who has memory. He’s downright cruel to her when she cannot meet them (which is always) and she is often left sobbing. It’s making me really resent and despise him.
They are thankfully moving into a care facility next week. I can relate with it being a relief for my mom to pass also, just to end this cruelty.
Take care of yourself.
@@rekunta I'm sorry about what you are going threw my love. I pray all is well for you and your family. My mom is very verbally abusive to me, she say things that goes straight to my heart that hurts. People wants to say sticks and stones might break my bones but words never hurt me. Words do hurts because we are humans with feelings. My mom says things to hurt you really bad, I drink, cry, and I smoke. I can't eat, sleep or have any one to talk to but God. It's not fair that my sister gets to enjoy her life while I'm taking care of my mom 24/7. I'm her health care provider full time, on the clock and off the clock she still gets round the clock care. I have high blood pressure problems and I have high cholesterol problems. Three months ago I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Atheritis having aches and pains all of the time. I take pain killers but it's not help. I'm work down and worn out. My mom calls me a tired ass bitch because I get around slow now. My mom said I don't have that spunk or full of energy like I used to. And she said a man will never get with me because I'm a worn out bitch and if a man gets with me he is a damn fool. I don't know what to do and I don't have any hope.😔
Sounds so much like my situation 💔
My grandmother has dimentia and acts out wildly. Her level of resistance is almost unbearable.
Thank you for the video. I am struggling with my mum and my own short temper and patience, it’s hard. I need to watch this every day 😊
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
@@pooobhatia9663 Stop posting this everywhere. It's annoying. No one's interested. We have bigger issues to worry about
Loving daughter... love to the daughter who supports his mom with dementia
Thanks so much for this video. I work at an emergency shelter for at risk homeless people (extended shelter for COVID19). I've been seeing a lot of compassion fatigue and burnout lately in my field, and it breaks my heart. I am new to this work and I am beginning to understand just how challenging this work is and how even the most caring, compassionate individuals can do and say things they wouldn't have under "normal" circumstances. This video was so refreshing. It's so nice to witness and learn from such expert care. Thank you.
homeless people are useless.... youre wasting your time
my father has this episode a few times a month. since he had a stroke his dementia really advanced
Same happened to me, how is he right now, my mom cannot see clearly and would refuse to get out of bed
your not taught this in america or most places or on tv but almost all health issues are casued by nutrition deficiencies and are easy to fix within a week. Nutrition ivs and nutrition injections supper effective in healing reversing health issues. you heal reverse dementia/altimers by myers cocktail iv and b12 injections. you get dementia/altimers because of b12 deficiencies. for example japan has the lowest rate of dementia/altimers because they health care system make sure there citizens get enough b12. You check your nutrition levels with thourough nutrition blood tests only functional medicine mds will do that and they know optimal levels not reg providers. anybody with health issues the root main cause is nutrition deficiencies. mental health issues, headache issues sleep issues balance issues the list goes on and on and its becasues of nutriton deficeinces. myers cocktail iv, vitamin d injection b12 injection, gludathione iv coq10 injections will heal and keep you at optimal health year round thats what pro althetes and rich people do year round. just type in google nutrition iv therapy near me. go get them done and start healing quick nutrition ivs and injections have been around since 1950's its a hidden secret casue there super effective and cure. anybody with altimer/dementian should do myers cocktail iv and b12 injections watch how fast they improve.,,
Literally. Thank you for this.
This me toward my mum in law... lately Im stressing my self being her care giver.. watching this video making me back in control of my emotion. Thank you.
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
There is a TH-cam channel called Dementia Careblazers. The doctor gives excellent information for care givers. She’s exceptionally supportive of care givers, she calls them “Careblazers.” Her channel has helped me a great deal.
I know the same tactics don’t work for everyone but I feel like I need all the help I can get. I do appreciate watching videos like this that 🎉suggest tactics to use.
Excited to get this site information to help my family & i to help our Mom. We’ve been looking for a while for resources. My prayer partner felt to pray for us & what we needed to help us out with her & today the group that I’m a part of posted this to their page. I’m a nurse, retired at this time but don’t have the skills when it comes to a family member needing my help. Thankful to answered prayers.
I recommend the TH-cam channel, Dementia Careblazers. The doctor gives excellent information and it has helped me tremendously. I wish you the best of luck.
I’m a caregiver and am as nice and sweet as a butterfly but sometimes I have to tell miss thing, “Don’t raise your voice at me or don’t be mean or let’s not talk until you feel better”. We used to get along so well. Now I’m on eggshells. Nothing I do is right and everything I do is not enough. I understand this is what happens, so I’m just putting my emotions aside and work around her until we part ways.
Then I’m retiring…
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I work at a care facility in Calgary with many residents with dementia, this is very helpful advice!
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I Can't do this with my Gram anymore yet she cries and dreads a home but is very combative and downright cruel. I came here to help her but now I feel like it's driving me to point of insanity. 😥
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And pray God
You came here to help her but maybe you need help too. Like on an airplane if there's an emergency you must put the mask on...yourself. then You have the ability to help your Grandmother. Be strong.and nice.
My grandma has this right now and she’s always lashing out on me and taking her anger off on me. She’s calls me names, says horrible things, she’s been putting ac on to 95 degrees in house and so much more stuff and no one wants to help her. My patience is thin and idk what to do anymore 🤦🏽♀️
Sometimes finding someone who she is positively acting to would help, a family member or friend perhaps, maybe pets? It's all about the approach
Omg that is just like my situation. She also has health problems and is in complete denial of her condition. I don’t know why they put the heat up so high? Maybe bad blood circulation? And yes I can’t stand everyone saying “be patient and caring” like what?? So I just have to have stand there while they scream and become violent?!
it's ok if you lose your temper sometime ... But always remember they don't act like this intentionally...it's our duty to understand them.... Just imagine how good it will be if you're handling well this situation 😄 .. all the best n wish me the same 🙌
Some people have videos of their loved ones on the internet showing how they care for them .But the videos are always of the rare ones who have an angelic spirit and are very cooperative not the strong ones.who can be delusional, angry ,accusing and never seem to sleep. And they also seem to have in home help, still work and get a chance out of the home and there is at least two most of the time more than three people in the home besides the patient. Those are nice videos and inspiring, but thise situations are rare.
Close the vent in her room and adjust the temp, elderly people feel cold usually for many reasons.
Am happy to digest this tips and I would surely live to expectations
God bless anyone who is diagnosed with this
My friend’s 92 year old grandma has dementia and whenever I come over to his house she talks to things that weren’t even there like she will ask me if I met the at the living room but nobody’s there. She also see things outside at night which used to scare me so much but I know it’s all in her imagination and I’m used to it now. What amazes me the most is how she can still remember what happened in WW2 but forgets recent memory and she’s still sweet despite her condition. She will offer me food or drinks and she will ask me to sit with her and watch tv. I’ve known her for years. I know she will not live long but I’m so grateful that I met her and she became part of my life. I will cherish every moment I have with her and with my grandma as well. My grandma is 86 and she’s starting to show some signs of dementia. I used to get so worried because I don’t want her to have that condition but now I have enough knowledge about this condition and I’m ready to take care of my grandma.
CBD oil drops work very well. Put 3 drops under the tongue and they are calm. They still talk about things that you may not know about but they are usually events that occurred when they were young.
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I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
This. This is such a great video.
Thank you for this. 🙏
Great content, thanks for sharing!
Unfortunately my farther passed away at 5am last morning it's so upset over this disorder the bupa aged care were very helpful and friendly and understandy this
Thank you, for use of Your Web Site.
I am sure, your doing a good, job.
Very useful
I'm still learning thanks for sharing
This video was helpful and more realistic in approaching problems
I wish it were this easy. The people who made these videos must have never dealt with a person with dementia. My mother-in-law has given her credit card number out to telemarketers several times costing her thousands of dollars. She refuses to add our names to her bank account and has even hired an attorney to reverse our guardianship. She calls when she thinks she gave her credit card# out to someone on the phone and wants our help getting her out of the mess. On another visit when we mention very lovingly and gently that we don't want her to lose her money to telemarketers and we'd like to go to the bank with her to see how we can stop that from happening, she instantly turns into a monster. Her go to phrase is "don't go there". She tells us she's an adult and no one's going to tell her what to do. The only relatable portion of this video is the woman's youngish appearance. It's because of her younger age that we live in a constant state of possibly pushing her too far and having her call the police on us and having us arrested.... We need videos that show the ugly side of dementia.
Bless her
Thanks for providing these videos. I'm 53, my mom is 85. She's becoming more aggressive in her behavior. She has highs and lows. Whenever she can't find something. I'm the culprit. You stealing from me! I hate to see her go through this. 😥
I'm going through this too along with anger, every single day 😥
@@Shanice1 I don't wish this on anyone. 😥😥 I try to stay calm and give her whatever she wants and needs. It's hard your parent go through this. 🙏🙏
@@angelaburton230 We have to be strong❤
Love this video
thanks!
Excellent one
Oh my goodness I am so glad that I’m not the only caregiver that faces this.
Im going into care, working with dementia is it quite scary?
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
@@melissajade.1175 Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
I’m going through the same thing only now my mother has served all her children with no trespassing orders so we can’t help her! Meeting with lawyers next.
Emily Barczak after
oh my goodness, i hope she's safe in the meantime. best of luck so this is resolved soon!!
How can she serve no trespassing orders when she is not in her right mind? Is enough of it working so that she can deceive lawyers??
@@georgegates526 You'd be surprised, some people can hold it together for short interactions. Not sure how it works where OP lives, but where I live you don't need to go to a lawyer for trespassing orders... you call the police. Police can't really diagnose someone as having dementia, so it the person can present as reasonable and rational, even if its just for 5 minutes... they could get an order preventing loved ones from visiting. It could eventually be addressed (family could insist on a welfare check through the police). But a pain in the butt for anyone to be in that situation, without a doubt!
@@sharnistevens1428 True. They can appear to be functional. But my mom can't even prepare breakfast or change the TV volume or channel. No trespassing isn't going to work long for her.
Learner.....Great clip
Thank you for this video.
It help me to learn how to do this
Make sure you have advanced directives, power of attorney and a plan for assisted living/nursing home care in place while you can still think rationally.
Seriously. Don't wait. Don't make your loved ones scramble in a crisis. Plan ahead so you have made your own choices, rather than someone else making them on your behalf in a desperate situation.
It's extremely rare to live a healthy life to old age and die in your sleep. People are often significantly disabled before they die. Nobody wants to think about it but they absolutely should. Decide what your end of life care should be while you still can.
Unrealistic video. Poor fashion choices will be the least of your worries if you deal with someone with dementia.
my mom right now is yelling and singing out loud, there is no controlling or even talking to her, does she have dementia or something related?
Check for unrinary tract infection or any infection can be septic psychosis. Ask the doctor to send a home health care to take urine if you can’t get her to the doctor. My mother had this many times and every time it just kept getting worse and worse she was screaming and yelling at me calling me names being very agitated and her medications weren’t even working.
nobody can diagnose your mom over youtube comments. You need to contact a doctor
My father has a combination of both, he plays loud horrible music all day and sleeps most of the day in front of the radio and if I lower the music he gets really mad and curses me out, dementia and Alzheimer’s are the worst
Drakilicious oh thanks for reminding me, she used to do the same thing always, she would also be like talking to god all the time.... but right now she’s back to normal, she’s been normal for the past months so it’s good for now until it comes back
shes just tone deaf/ slightly deaf
One of the sad things with having a loved one have dementia is listening to people talk bad to them. I have had to comfort my loved one so many times because of what said to her.
Great video thanks 😊👍🙏
You need to leave your word and step into theirs ❤
Very good actors
i have to take care of my mother who have dementia and my brother who had hemorrhagic stroke while also working at home. My mom keep telling me that she wants to go home to my grandmother place. eventhough my grandmother passed away when i was junior high and her house already gone. She insisted to the point that she attemped to runaway several times by climbing my house gate. My mom also thinks persons on tv and pictures alive. I often get super stressed and frustrated that i keep yelling and eventually crying.
This is another godsend
OMG!! The lady in the beginning tells my exact story!!
The Forwago personalized program helped me get rid of my anxiety and depression. Just wanted to share it with you guys, even if one person gets better I'm happy.
Not my mom.... she’d curse me out and rip me a new one..
I'm sorry but I get extremely impatient with my mom I've tried the calm way but she tends to act like a spoilt little girl then I resort to being more strict like im talking to a baby its extremely hard on me and care givers need support from loved ones its a stressful task
Great advice the acting is good in there’s
videos
I came here for any help I can get!! Care gi ver for my 87 year old Pops is so so hard.
Even though I do not yet have Alzheimer's or dementia yet, I am afraid that I could end up with that later in life. From that, my two bits is that from learning from meltdowns from people who have autism spectrum disorder, I think there is a bit of affinity to the same "meltdowns" happening in those with Alzheimer's or dementia.
From watching recent television commercials in this condition called "Agitation and Anxiety in Alzheimer's/Dementia", there are a bit of similarities to the autism-related meltdowns--people hitting their heads with their fists, using fists to strike at inanimate objects, using physical back-offs to push somebody away during a meltdown, verbal escalations of anger-filled tones.
My mother had dimentia, I don’t know 🤷♂️ I tried to be as much calm as possible even when I’m angry at her, I just tried to ignore her or listen on video how to be calm in negative situations.
All the cases are different this can work for some people but not for me I’m taking care of a patient and is real hard to change her because she don’t let me touch her and I talk to her good but every day is diferent
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
I am overwhelmed and depressed trying to help my elderly father. I don't know how others are doing. 😔
@Manuel
It not just specific to dementia but the sudden responsibility.
It's the person but also that your life now is over. I am just completely distraught 😔
@Manuel
Thanks but he will never go to any care centre.
I also lost my job.
My life is over.
Ive been saying that to all my friends including you. If I take my own life it's not fair to my family.
Thank you Manuel. 🙏
@Manuel 🙏😔
I hate in dementia training everyone talks about clothing like does it really matter if someone's clothes don't match as long as they are happy like do you really care if people think it looks weird does it really make a big difference to the person's day
Sometimes when you’re old you’ll get cold very easily
My grandpa used to get all dressed up just to get naked lmao it was test of my patience to the fullest smh 😂
And that went on for like a month straight lol
right? like worry bout your own fit! not everybody wanna look like everybody else lol
@@djde4th877 exactly!!
That's so scary honestly.
The disease is a curse
A previous care giver i had, with some frustration but NO agresion, changed my mom's diapers, for many days. Do you think she can recall thos events and probably be de reason that my mom nowadays goes totally mad when I try to help her or change her? Is that possible for a dementia patient recall those negative situations and not the good ones?
I'm trying to find a video about caring for an elderly parent who feels is very upset her own family would do this to her. To have gone through her place to find important papers to do something against her. So far I've seen videos of them getting agitated & such, but not how to respond to this level of distrust
The problem is with the person played by an actress learn patience and understanding.
No ....after you live with someone like this for years I dont blame her
Sounds like you have not had to take care of someone with Dementia. its maddening
You know how it’s bothersome when someone repeats something a few times or you have to explain something to someone. Now make it a 24/7 thing while you watch your mom call out for her dad to come hold her. It makes you go crazy with every single emotion that you can have.
@@hugh2hoob668 actually that's still your fault. I don't blame you for being fed up and frustrated with them, but you can dictate and control your emotions much more than the person your caring for so there's not a whole lot of excuses to be an ass.
Patience!
Nah my dad we had to put in a nursing home
I work with dementia patients, and there's one guy who always says "Go with the flow". I think it's relevant here.
My mother asks us to help her do things faster than we can do things for her. It is rapid fire!
Bro try unani med, my personal experience is with it unani med from hamdard i visited hamdard.in and consulted drs there , their med is best it is reversing dementia
Plz give it a try
I don't hv any profit
I just want to spread awareness for possible treatment for dementia
And pray God
The attitude bit is spot on, but the rest of this is a joke. Someone with high anxiety dementia will not calm down that quickly. Rather they will resist, fight, get violent, throw temper tantrums and become an overall nasty person.
For those saying, they don’t know what they are doing. I think they damn well know how they are behaving. They just have no control over it because they are declining. It’s that fight for control. It’s the fight or flight response. They no longer are able to access the higher mind where logic resides. I hate to say this, but they become like animals with a child’s mind.
They will be feral or playful, that’s about the only two modes of operation left to them.
It’s a horrible disease and your best bet is to keep your own energy at the highest level, let them do what they want, within reason , as long as it’s not harming them or anyone else. You cannot reason with a dementia patient. Let them think necessary daily activities like hygiene and taking medication are their idea. It’s not an easy caregiving role and this video is not realistic to the reality.
0:17 "my mom's become resistant to my help."
Seems like "I'll never do it her way" to the mother.
The daughter could use assertiveness training. To be assertive instead of aggressive or passive.
I should have watched this a few months ago.
My mother in law argues when I help her with her clothes, I just ignore it and calmly explained to her that I’m helping her and take over and she eventually allows me to help
Yeah it's so irritable when you know you have all the patience in the world but it still doesn't help anyting seriously 😒 it doesn't seem to matter there comes a time and a place where you know what I think it's best if the caregiver recognize hey man my life matters too... I hope I find some wisdom and some things that you have shared cuz this is the first time wOW omg 😳❤️