Loneliness - The Elderly Epidemic
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ย. 2024
- This is a documentary highlighting the forgotten epidemic that is alive and well in our society today. 3.6 million elderly people in the UK live alone and I will spreading awareness of the mental and physical effects of chronic loneliness and isolation.
Nobody should feel like they are on their own.
Many thanks to Age UK Wirral and each of the interviewees for their support in creating this documentary.
Produced and edited by Ross McAuley.
Music: Emotional Sad Piano Music (royalty free) by Matia Cupelli.
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Hi everyone. If anybody would like to contact me privately, please feel free to email me on Ross.mcauley@talktalk.net. If it’s just for some advice or a chat, please feel free.
Ross McAuley
Nothing screams louder than the sounds of silence.
Thank you 🙏🏾
Do you have an email address?
Hello. I was just thinking... wht about if people from other countries could chat with these elderlies by whattsapp or skype? I am from Brazil and I am very lonely. I would to chat with a native english speaker about random things...
@@omordomo9685 that's a wonderful idea. Zoom chats would be great.
Loneliness is horrible, as one stated on here...nothing screams louder than the silence. 😢
60 Yrs old and suffering from loneliness, It gets so bad it hurts deep in my gut. Once upon a time I was a popular guy but as you get older the people you knew are gone and you're left not knowing anyone.
true
I understand how you feel. Going through the same thing myself. I am so tired of crying.
Yes, that's so very true. One suggested we do Zoom video chats. Seeing another face to talk with would be a blessing 🙌...anyone reading this, I'm open to a chat. ❤
Hi @@lindapowell2397 I was just thinking the same that perhaps there could be an online social connect for people over 50 or 60 who live alone and just want to connect for a chat. Maybe each week having a topic they are given to think about for the following week, then connect together to discuss. It could work I guess but I don't know how it could be set up. A lot of older folk would need help to set it up.
I often observe others, young and not so young, on their own, walking without device or using device such as a cane or walker, they might be on a bicycle, unicycle, shooting basketball hoops, throwing frisbee to their dog in the park ....I do not know if they are lonely, I do not know if they have friends on whom they can rely but at that moment of time but they look as if they are in their own good company.
I am 68 and retired for 7 years now, never married and have no children and no friends either but I have some good acquaintances. I am intelligent, funny, and outgoing but I love being alone and never feel lonely. I can do the social sprint but I have no interest in the social marathon. I am perfectly content with my own company and frankly I find a little bit of people goes a long way.
Don't you find alot of people our age nothing but a big P.I.A?😆
I hear you. Im 72 I’m never less alone than when alone. I lived with my disturbed ex wife for 33 years and I paid a heavy price with alcoholism. Then when I re covered 22 years ago she never liked the idea because her smear campaign about me no longer had weight. She tried her best to get me to drink again and without so much as suggesting it. But my higher power kept watch over me and I did not drink again. The miracle of my life is not only that I got sober but that I stayed sober. So folks having company is good but god help you if it’s the wrong company
Just turned 65. My wife of 42 years died of cancer 5 years ago. My 3 children have their own families and my grandchildren far away in different states. So fucking lonely I could scream ....some times I do.....Miss my wife soooo much. Can't live much longer like this
I'm 73 I took care of my parents and when my father died his last word to me was take care of your mother.My mom had a long life she lived to 102 she died a year ago and I was her care giver
SHE DINT SPEND ONE DAY ALONE, I miss her so much.2 years ago I lost my husband of 50 years, I have 4 children 6 grandchildren. And I live alone. I NOW KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE ALONE, and with this PANDEMIC it's even worse. I pray a lot.
What about your children and grandchildren ? They cant take you in?
People like you are my heroes. I mean it.
Where are your children are they not supporting you emotionally?
I couldn't agree more with you. Are you open to video call? It be wonderful to see another face to talk with. I have no family close by either. Loneliness is suffocating.
@@lindapowell2397 Linda, I hope that you don't mind that I am texting you. You are right, loneliness can be very overwhelming . I am blessed, because I can still get around easily. I do drive, so that helps a lot. My children live close by, but they have busy lives, and are still raising children. I have always been pretty independent, and don't rely on my children for companionship; but I know if I am still here when I'm old, I will have the same loneliness challenges, that so many other people have. I'm 75 now, so we'll see what the Lord has in store for me. Thank you for reading my text. 🤗🤗🤗
It really gnaws at your gut and rips your heart out when the children you raised in a loving home excludes you
How did you assume it was a lovely home...a lot of homes are hells...a lot of parents are self centered...so obviously kids don't care too when they grow up
Linda, I understand your words, ignore the nasty comment from the other poster. My children were raised in a loving home, yet I haven’t seen my daughter in years. Fortunately, my son is more caring. I just wanted you to know I emphasise with your comments. I was raised in a convent boarding school, so I wanted to ensure my children always had the security of a loving home.
Ut bo....your nasty words coming from a cold heart, no doubt. If you haven’t anything nice to say just keep quiet.
Yep, that's me. I can't understand the meanness and insensitivity of human beings to treat their own mother or father that way. Even after years of serving them and attending to all their needs and more. It is very difficult to comprehend.
Yes it does💔
I am 66 and live alone, and I love it. No other people problems, do what I like, find things to do all the time. It really is a state of mind.
I am 68 and live alone. I don't mind it. I have a couple of hobbies and do have a couple of friends who I talk to on the phone sometimes.
You are only 66. Wait until you are in your late 70s or into your 80s and not so mobile as in your youth.
Do you have the money for accommodation in a nursing home in your last days when you are virtually immobile ??
When you are virtually house bound with NO FAMILY inclusive of great great nephews or nieces to drop by or take you out for a meal or a day's activity doing some favourite family fun.
I don't think that you ever get over loosing a partner of forty plus years. God bless you. ❣️
What type of things do you do to stay busy? I need ideas.
Loneliness is the poison that is killing my soul...
Does not only affect the elderly but also the young
Problems in our young ages not a problem at all. :(
Unfortunately this problem affects the younger generation as well
The digital age can be very isolating
It is a sad reality
That’s not the point dumbass
I am only 52 I have an empty nest and live alone for the past seven years the past few years have been the loneliest time of my life.... I feel alone lonely isolated and totally by myself don't think people even notice when week or two goes by and I don't leave my home. .. sometimes I have to remind myself to take a nice deep breath because the loneliness just echoes 😔(no friends no family that lives in the same state and disabled so don't go out to work each day)
You know what the irony is , we’re alone in the midst of a million people! Go figure !
.... and loneliness also exists for some people even when they share their lives and homes with others.
A nation/world of strangers.
Try two million. I'm poor and many do not want to associate with me anymore. Sad
She looks so sad. God bless her.
This is me at 56 i have no family my husband is with another my daughter is dealing with addiction i cant work no family at all ive had 2 breakdowns .......my god im crying my eyes out im so depressed and suffer great aniexty
Dawn Schnack Is it possible for you to adopt a cat or dog from an animal shelter? My little buddy ( cat) has kept me from dying from loneliness
Dawn Schnack : consider me your online friend! I'm a widow living in a senior apartment , so lonely. I adopted a 4 year old cat and he brings me joy
@@MrMkayultra yes i have a cat and i love her i am very happy to be your friend.Linda i live in new jersey i would love to talk to you anytime maybe we can on phone...ty for reaching out to me.
@Barbara Ann no i havent heard anything from exchanging numbers but ty
@Barbara Ann its been rough but im still hanging in there.How are you?
sending much love to everyone here xxx
Keyword love is pathetic as fuck hehe
It's devastating when you are widowed and living in HUD sub apartments and some of the other residents are mean a holes
It gets worse when you don't have the means to cover your doctor bills and the medications (US) ...lonely and in pain .
Tomas Garcia Get some good happy kind of herbal medicine. And, adopt a pet . Even a fish likes to be talked to
ask your doctor for contact info for a social worker who can hook you up with special programs to help you pay for your medications and medical bills
If you are in the United States, please reach out to Area Council of Governments, they have monies set aside for help and help wth Medicare and Medicaid. I don't know if you have a military background, there is also help there. I hope you find help Tomas Garcia. I am in Texas and I use to work for AACOG, they really do help seniors. Too bad we have Corona right now, there are plenty of senior centers here where seniors go to have lunch, exercise and meet other seniors, all centers are closed right now.
@@MrMkayultra that what I did Linda, I got a dog to keep my company 😞
I know.i am 65
These are absolutely beautiful people! And they deeply love and miss their spouses. Like the lady said ..."It never gets _any_ easier. It gets Worse. It's something you _never_ get used to."
I live alone, I’m old and I enjoy my life tremendously. I am healthy and I have many interests in my life, I don’t need other people at all
I have the same problem . I’m 61 and have no one !
I am 64 years old and although I live with my brother and his wife, I basically stay to myself. I will be your on-line friend if you'd like?
Let me know if you are interested in corresponding, Okay?☺
Hi Gloria ! My name is Toni and I would love to be your online friend. My Email is Toni_2yahoo.com@icloud.com. I would love to correspond with you. As for my Email address, it’s a long story. LOL 😂
Hi Tony
@@gloriamaryhaywood2217 Hello Gloria how do you. my name is wirapon I live in Bangkok. Thailand. I am 68 I know how you feel. i will talk to you any time if you please. i live with my wife and daughter. a small family but some time feel so lonely. line : 097 2685342 see you soon
@@toniporto8000 So Sorry, Toni, but I never got your last message! I am just now seeing it! Here's my e-mail address if you are still interested in communicating: gloriamaryhaywood@yahoo.com
Hope to hear from you soon!☺
Where are the families and the children of all these dear people?
They are not there, because they don't give a damn. Terrible indictment of this sick, cruel and abhorent human world. 😠
Where the way economy is they are busy working and taking care of their family wish don't include grandparents
Peter Turley Not all parents are good people...!!!!! My parents were evil they abused me physically, emotionally and sexually....!!!!! Men are evil asshole....!!!!!
you know, this is a side effect of women's lib. before women went to work, there was always someone home to care for the children and the elderly. your wife, your sister, your aunt was around to deliver a pot roast to your grandparents or drive them to the doctor appointment. Now nobody has time for anything. Now if your grandparent cant drive or cant afford the car service, they cant go to the doctor. it is sink or swim. and corporate america does not allow anybody to work part time or have private family responsibilities.
@@anastasia10017 Yes, That's very true.
Someone needs to teach older people how to use a computers and WiFi should be given free to elderly people.
i agree wifi should be free because it has replaced radio, TV and telephone. But old people still need someone to communicate with. you can give them Skype but if nobody ever calls them or they have nobody to call ....
I have WiFi. It was required where I live. Still very lonely.
@@hhjj5998me too... It's that personal interaction that's important 😊
Indeed; otherwise they socialize only when they go to structured and organized religious activity, watch religious program or Fox network!
Maybe that is the goal.
I battle loneliness daily nights are the worst and I started youtube partly to find an outlet where I can feel needed - eating on camera feels way better than eating alone.
I agree with this!
I would like us to be friends you can hit me on hangouts edwardmarsh25@gmail.com
I will be glad to hear for you.
Crying at this 😔❤️
I love being alone, people irritate me, I'm married with 4 kids and I swear sometimes I beg for 2 hours of peace! Just 2 hours and I can never get it
it's an interesting situation where there can be 8 billion other people and yet so many of them feel alone
I never impose my religion on anymore, but for me, going to church helps a lot. A lot of my friends have passed away, but I’ve developed good friendships with fellow church members, and there are lots of activities in church to keep me busy. So that can be an answer for some people if they suffer from loneliness. Others may be turned off by churches, but mine is a wonderful loving place to go.
Don't feel too much sad.. It's the way that our life is. Nobody is exceptional..
I'm a widow at 48 my husband died at Xmas I have children and grandchildren however I feel so lost without my beautiful Michael..
Hello hayley. Be strong..live healthy and open yourself to many things this world has to offer.
@@PuntaPacifica507 thankyou xx
Hugs from NYC
I just turned 69 and have been alone for many years. Cannot even begin to relate to these folks and many of the commenters. I have a rich and fulfilling life and comfortably retired as well.
What a wonderful service! I wish the US had this! As a 70 year old widow of 8 1/2 yrs, I am painfully aware of this dilemma! Good thing I am strongly connected with my congregation and I volunteer my time to teach the Bible. That is my lifeline. Without it, I would be lost!
These old people they're interviewing are still attractive, and their homes and way of dress look elegant and upscale. What about the seniors whose looks have faded more? And there are lots of seniors in poverty, so they don't have nice homes and nice clothing/jewelry. That lady said she goes out and people smile at her, but if she looked more plain and less elegant, she wouldn't get any smiles or nice treatment. Older people who look worse have it worst - no one cares about them, and they're looked down upon.
True
Loneliness is like a punishment and it effects all ages. I must have committed some sin in my past life for being so lonely. I don't have anyone other than my dad and he is so old. I pray to God so that I die before him.
So sad but admirable how she still gets out of the house each day.
Why are we worrying about loneliness shortening our years? If you're miserable, isn't the shorter, the better??? We should be trying to relieve it for the emotional benefit alone.
We all need Someone.
100%. True. 👍
I wish all these lonely people could get together and rip some bong hits
linda from ga on point! Count me in.
linda from ga Works for me😁👍👍
🤷🏾♀️exactly
This woman sounds so much like me...I miss my hubby and baby everyday still...when I asked a doctor how long it would take for things to get easier...his answer was simple and true..."it takes as long as it takes". I think some of us just hang on and hurt more when we lose our true loves...some people can seem to go on and they seem pretty much OK...but, there are some of us that just can't seem to move completely past losing the love of our life. My heart goes out to you, and may you find comfort and peace and know that your hubby, like my hubby, is watching over you from above and yes, one day we will be with them again and never be separated again. We just have to find a comfortable place now, for ourselves...it's hard, I'll be the first to admit that...but, I found it gave me time to think about bettering myself too...I can't leave my home very often because I have an intestinal issue...so, it keeps me close to home. I do have my religious beliefs too and that gives me a lot of comfort, but it still doesn't completely fill that void that a lot of us have, after losing that one special love. Blessings, my dear friend and take care and know you are not alone.😢🙏💖
May God bless you always.
Same with me 😞
@@janetbrowning9089 thanks a lot, it’s been awhile since I’ve even got a message 😞
@@janetbrowning9089 how are you doing today?
Knowing I’m not alone helps me get on with life.
I was just having this discussion with my sister. The narrator needs to hook the 1st woman and 1st gentleman up with each other 🤔🌹
You will end up like this if you are to picky towards men.
Yes ... and ... No.
There is hope! You are loved, friend!
MaryMarie thank you!
Ross McAuley You are very welcome! God bless you ! 🤗
Also, you have a favorite dessert? Author? Movie? Know any different languages?
My goodness, this is so sad. Surely there is something we can do!
After my divorce im alone too. At 65 it's hard finding dates, children are busy with their lives, family are too. Restaurant servers become your friends.
how are you?
Thank you for this I will never look at another senior the same
And deafness creates loneliness
I have a special love for elderly people...
This is something that really really upsets me..... i’m going to share something with you that’s deeply personal..... my biggest fear in life is exactly what this video is talking about, dying all alone with nobody to even notice that I’m gone, nobody to be there for me and my last hours, regardless of how I die, dying alone in itself?, To me that is the worst possible way to leave this world behind, and it scares the hell out of me! there’s so many people in this world who have nobody. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, nothing can take the place of a human being, yet we allow millions of senior citizens to live in silence, alone, forgotten, as if they weren’t even here. That is not the way life is supposed to be. We/they sacrifice so much of our lives through most of our life, it’s not right that we should end up all alone. We shouldn’t be punished for living longer than most, we should be helping these people, supporting them and cherishing them, because they have a lifetime of wisdom and knowledge to share with us, things that can only be learned, by living a long life. So I beg you, all of you reading this, if you know of any elderly people that live alone, don’t let them sit in silence, it doesn’t take much of an effort to pick up the phone or to pay them a visit, it might not be a big deal to you, but even a few hours out of your day once or twice a week, can mean the difference between crippling depression, or a happy life. I see so many people, both family and friends alike, who had so few people left to talk to, mostly because they have outlived all of their friends and families, and it is up to us, as a society, as a fellow human being, to reach out and make that connection, to ensure that nobody spends the rest of their lives alone with no one to talk to and no means of communication. We waste so much time glued to our devices, there has got to be a way to use them to our mutual advantages. These people have lived such a long time and through so much history, you would be amazed at the things you could learn, and at the same time, develop a strong bond with a new friend, who desperately needs human contact, not the cold hand of technology, or a TV. Watching this has given me an idea, because it’s not just the UK where there are lonely single citizens, unfortunately it’s the same everywhere in the world. I have got to look into a way of helping these poor people, to let them know that we care, and that we love them. In the meantime if you know anybody who lives alone, please make the effort to reach out to them, And get to know them. I guarantee you the pleasure and joy you get back in return, is Worth more than any monetary value. Life is such a precious gift, it should not be wasted, let’s just hope that in the future we can eliminate this problem, so that nobody gets left behind. I can tell you personally, that I would rather be dead, then spend my remaining years all by myself with no one to care for, or no want to care for me. So?, What do you say? Are you willing to take a few hours out of your day, to help somebody else in distress? It doesn’t cost you anything, but it will give you more than you could ever possibly imagine, so please, reach out and help these people whenever you can, because eventually, we will all be in the same position one day. Ask yourself, would you rather spend your remaining years in total silence, cut off from the world, or have people to share your life with and to talk to (and not by text messaging or emails but an actual living breathing human being sitting in front of you). I find it so depressingly ironic, that something called social media, has completely isolated hundreds of millions of people all across the world, who now have absolutely no social skills whatsoever. I don’t know what else to say to encourage you to do this, just please think about it, and in the meantime I have got to start checking to see if there’s any organizations set up in my city, where I can volunteer my time, to help these people realize that we still care about, and love them, deeply.
On the other hand you see everybody happy groups of friends or relatives shopping having a good time, and it make me wonder if im the only lonely person out there.
I'm middle aged and have been feeling it for years, friends moving on with their lives and no longer needing me after their wedding, so I don't belong anywhere. The only friend I had left cut me off right before a family medical crisis, just when I needed words of encouragement. As depressing as it is, I now realize I can't depend on friendships. On one side, I'm very disappointed and feel like I have nothing in life to look forward to, but on the other side, why would anyone want to hang out with a lonely caregiver.
Well I love being alone and don't want anyone around me at all. 24/7 .And I'm a happy camper. 🤗
🧢🧢🧢
Same with me
I go out everyday. I open the sunroof and drive my cute car wherever I want . Can’t stand the silent house alone all day and all night🤨
Thanks God that there is organization like this it helps them a lot in terms of emotional aspects
I’ve even tried church. Religion is a closed community too
I have been surrounded with needy alcoholic and certified mentally ill family members. Now I am alone as an elder and I can finally have some peace.
Why?! Here in the Philippines, we do not have this.. Thank God we have big families which we can count on with each other under any circumstances. I extend my sympathy to all the lonely people around the world especially the elderly.
One of the benefits of living alone it that you don't have to put up with irritating things like the ubiquitous sad piano dirge in the background of this video.
Im 38 and no husband no child..I will be alone when I get old.
No 😭 praying someone amazing comes into your life. I'm 38 too it's going to be ok.😊
Safe some money and move to a nursing home ...you will find company
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I m not saying to go to nursing home now...i mean can go when she feels unable to mange herself own life ...of course we hope such days never arrive🙇♂️🙇♀️bless her
@@liongrose1173 do you know how much nursing homes cost ???????
@@anastasia10017 It all depends on how deep one's pocket is ..Many options are available .
I’m 72 living alone separated happily since 6 years after 33 years living together with my ex wife. But it was a horrible loneliness living with her. It’s better to be lonely when alone than to be lonely when you’re with somebody
Yes, I think you are right...we all have that need to feel close to one special person...I think the other thing that affects most of us and causes us to feel alone is that when we lost that someone special, in our lives, it means we have to change so many things in our lives...I think that kind of change is hard for most humans. Bless you and so well said too.🙏💖
That's why all my decisions are taken in favor of staying with my mom.
A good clip, and I hope those people continued to enjoy each other's company. HOWEVER, some older people WANT to be alone, and esp. live on their own, even into their 90s. That's my mother!
I'm so sorry to see this. It breaks my heart in two. God bless anyone going threw this and I wish I could help all of you
Ironic, pillow right beside her says Grandmother.
I'm 68 and my wife of 37 years passed away last year on Jan 31. I don't know if I am lonely for company but I do know I need to be with her. I am lonely for her. It hurts.
Can these seniors move in to live together?
Yea i think its not a bad idea ... or cant they all live in a nursing home ?!
@@liongrose1173 do YOU want to live in a nursing home ? These people are in decent health and they are comfortable in their homes. They are alone with nobody to protect them, they are not sick. Even the suggestion they should move house would be a huge life upheaval for them and emotionally devastating. They would have to get rid of their home. All their memories. They would have to throw out all their stuff to move into a small space where they have nothing... Everytime a person moves, they have to throw out more and more of their life.
Loneliness has rolled onto younger gen nowadays. TFL in American society is on the rise
Iam old, I hate the ending but I accepted it. Its just the way, how the world is set up. My life cycle is completed and that is part of human development. I deal with it, I cannot change it. I make the best of it. As long as I can get up and can take care of myself, that alone is a blessing.
wish i could bring all the lonely elderly together
I really wish I had someone to talk to💔😞
I still 46, but I feel so lonely, no friends. Every day I almost talk with myself and my cats. My comfy zone my bed I sleep all the day and still awake until 5am. Lonely really hurt like something can't explain with the words. My company only cats, many cup. Coffee and sitting at the terrace alone. I am more worse I just thinking all people don't like me. Almost every day I am talking on camera like I feel talking with friends I need. So I make more video, silly video sometimes to make feel. I still alive. Really hurt feel lonely
Nina and meow vlogs.
Feel free to talk to me. I will listen your story. If you would like to talk to me, i will send you my contact number.
From Pakistan.
Such a handsome gentleman 🌹💟💘 pray for the lonely everyday and night, whatever their age 💙
Awww i am crying i wish i could give up my job and just help people who are lonely and sad 🙏
If there are so many elderly living alone & are desperately lonely why isn’t something done about sharing that home with someone homeless.
Obviously great care would have to paid to background checks. Becoming grandparents to children who may only have a mum or a dad..
The numbers of homeless is massive & the number of lonely people who could help is also massive apparently, co-ordination could be life changing . I’m a full time carer but intend to donate a small amount of time to someone lonely. I don’t understand why this is so obvious but yet an untapped resource.
Yes , I do realise there would have to be a clear legal path to follow as well
I think pairing people up for co- housing would be beneficial.
because homeless people will harm the old people. my grandma was a kind woman who took in anyone with a hard done by story. She has cataracts so her vision was poor (she refused surgery). those homeless people robbed her of everything. They stole her money. They stole her food. Relatives eventually had to go and throw everybody out. old people are vulnerable to people stealing from them. Even the nurses aides who are paid to come to the house to care for the elderly steal from them. My friend had to put padlocks on every armoire and cabinet because the nursing attendants hired to care for her mother were stealing everything they could get their hands on from her blind mother. Even the cookbooks.
@@anastasia10017 You are right the elderly are vulnerable and often can suffer abuse. My elderly Mum used to lend her money which she needed to live on to Home Carers. One Carer almost lost her job when the authorities found out. When Mom died I found a notebook in her bedroom noting she had lent a sum of money to another Carer with no repayment. Another relative had cash and clothes regularly stolen by Care home staff in Homes where she lived.On one occasion when a complaint was made to Management a payment to cover the cost of some items was made to my relative by management without accepting it was theft. As clothes and linen have no legs, theft or fairy theives were the only possible explanations for the disappearances.
There are friendly visiting programs. I joined one and it required you attending classes for a few months and you had to have a police-check, and when you were matched with someone you still met once a month with the group you had gone through the classes with to discuss how things were going and to brainstorm if you had any problems.
I visited a woman in her 90's for over a year and it benefitted both of us. She then went in the hospital and then into a care home. Then Covid ended the program.
I just wanted to say that people are trying to help lonely seniors, with safeguards in place. You have to have the safeguards.
Local libraries and Senior Centers offer many supportive and creative ideas and activities.
SO SO BEAUTIFUL YET SAD. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS> BROTHER>
I recently had a revelation and gave my notice to quit my job. I want the time with my children to be happier, I want more time with my parents, and I have a plan help with this problem in my community to the greatest extent that I can and I plan/hope to make a living doing it.
If only i can take care of you, iam longing for a mother's love. I've never been love by my own mother. I hope we can both exchange the love and loneliness we've both longing for before we die
You are another heroe for me.
I USED TO WORK IN A NURSING HOME.THE SAD THING OF THAT YOU SEE ALL THESE PICTURES OF ALL THOSE FAMLIY.YEA PICTURES DON'T TALK BACK TO YOU.THATS WHY I STOP WORKING IN THEM.TO SAD BUT WHEN THEY DIE BET YOU ALL OF THOSE PICTURES PEOPLE COME TO LIFE.IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.ITS SAD.
why is it that when you get older it is so hard to make new friends ?
I really don’t know, wish I had someone to talk to 😞
It's sad to see this, but it proves the point, don't point all your eggs in one basket. Have friends before your partner passes away ora hobby or an interest in things.
as you get older, your friends die off or move far away to retirement homes or nursing homes. As you get older, it becomes more difficult to make new friends. Nobody has time for you. As you get older, usually money gets tighter and your health gets worse so you cant afford to do a lot of the things you enjoyed before. Your money goes to buying your heart medications instead of food or playing golf.
Where are the children for these elderly people?
I am the grandson of Helen. I live abroad, but I keep regular contact. Myself and mother do what we can, but there is only so much we can do. She is left without a soul mate.
Most adult children are selfish. Yet, just a short visit from their children every now and then, would gladden the heart of any ageing parent.
My husband couldn't have children and left as well. And I don't think we should expect children to be there or watch over us anyhow and from what I can see many children just abandon their parents anyhow probably for many reasons. But at the end of the day I now realize despite being alone if you have Jesus that is good because we are born and die alone. I'm not sure how those without Jesus could bare it though all alone
Very true...
I worked in health care and the warehousing of people is also not the answer. I grew up in a multi generational household and it worked.
that is the way it is supposed to be. or at least everybody living within a block of each other.
Go to Church,, join the beautiful Seniors,, love
The loneliness is REAL. Believe that. 😪
That's a lovely idea💝
Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a program to match elderly lonely people to live together? Males and females or same gender together, just to have a friend or companion to share this stage of life with. Go for walks or movies or dinner. Seems like a good idea to me. I know I’d be open to it if I were in the situation.
This is a wonderful idea. I am 62 and still work, have family with busy lives. I talk to my sisters regularly and see them when I can. I have a church connection which is wonderful. It is an effort sometimes to reach out and not feel alone.
Sadly, isolation and loneliness are so prevalent in older adults, and the health risks are both emotional and physical. Some helpful tips are outlined in this article to enhance senior socialization: www.jfscare.org/dangers-of-senior-loneliness/
So why can't these people meet?
maybe they live 300 miles apart.
I lost my husband to cancer in 2014 he was only 56 I was 53 , I am on my own so lonely, my sons don’t come near me
why not?
I know what it feels like, I am in the same situation.
I am facing christmas alone. No fun.
Sharon this is my 19th Christmas alone the problem is i was molested by Men and Women my mother gave me out to perverts my wife beat me for 11 years so i dont trust anyone anymore Oh i have 3 Children i havent seen the eldest in over 30 years.You take care and i hope things get better for you.Rory
Every city should have a place where the aging population can meet
And transport to get them there and back
Food to eat
Books to read and share in a book club
Dances
Outings
i agree, good ideas there.
I really wish I had someone to talk to😞
Where are their kids?
@sarah jones that's sad😔
I feel sad for her and would love to just hug her and never let go.
I feel lonely to and always have but this generations which is not far above me now need someone not computer's or other things that keep you at home still alone.
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this my biggest fear...i am going to start my own Golden Girls House... only reason i want to be married now.
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Please adopt a cat or dog at the animal shelter
Yes a dog is good company 🐶
no because the dog or cat will outlive the elderly person. If nobody knows they old person died, the animal will starve to death. If the old person gets taken to die in a nursing home, the animal will be abandoned again. And if they adopted an older dog, now the dog is even older and nobody will want adopt it.
This lovely people all have big houses why not take in a young young for a lodger .you both will be helping each other please contact age UK for more information. Remember you don't have to be alone .❤❤❤❤
Don't feel sad.think positive.god is with u.god bless both of u.may u both live happy life
Im a 50yr old man , and its so true.
Sad part is, pillow next to her says Grandmother . Where are her kids and grandchildren?.
This is why people in couples (human or professional) should cultivate relationships and interests (and keep cultivating new friendships throughout life) outside of being a couple, and not be solely dependent on one another. Call it diversified streams of friendship or diversified portfolios of friendship.😂 I have friends my mother's age who are so vibrant and have a zest for life, and yet my mother doesn't have any real friends left, she never had many to begin with, and mainly relies on me. She is even anti-social with me to some extent. She just seems to enjoy wallowing in misery and is such hard work since she retired from a high profile profession. I love people and generally form new relationships easily. Sometimes I wish I could just scoop her along in my enthusiasm, but I am coming to accept that this isn't possible.