This is silly Dr. Jones ... I had a horrible (really horrible) GYN experience about 10 years ago ... I happened upon your videos and watched a few of them . My level of apprehension decreased .. I had a full exam yesterday .. Thanks ! What you are doing with these videos makes a big difference ... I am grateful . Thank You Dr. Jones 😊
Seriously! These vids should be shown to every girl in the country, probably during sex ed. We should make it much more comprehensive, and spend a lot more time educating our kids on their own bodies. I wish everyone could see all of her videos, honestly even the boys should watch these. It's so important that people are prepared for what they'll face as parents, and would improve the quality of life for all of the next generations, having parents who were well educated on child rearing
Anna Kohler I'm so glad you caught it early! Really, truly happy for you. When people aren't properly educated on their reproductive health, the outcomes are always significantly worse. We really need to put more focus on this in schools, and teach people how important it is to take good care of your body.
A D.O. stands for Doctor Of Osteopathic Medicine. There are actually fewer Osteopathic Medical Schools in the USA than there are M.D. (Doctorate Of Medicine) Medical Schools. Both teach pretty much the exact same subjects and material. D.O.’s in my experience are more widely accepted in the Midwest than on the coasts. D.O.’s can be accepted into the same Residency and Fellowship programs as M.D.’s. Really the only difference between the two is that D.O. programs spend more time (close to 400 hours worth) studying techniques on Muscular Skeletal Manipulation.
Something funny. I Nanny for an Obgyn. The youngest is 4. He knows Mommy is a Doctor and " gets babies out of the mommies". So we were driving and he asked," Did Mommy swallow me?". I first thought he said, " swaddle ". I told him, " Well she swaddled you in blankets when you were tiny". He said, " No swallow. In her throat. " i told him no. He said, " Well how did I get in her tummy?". Myself and employer are both Christian. I had to think quickly. I said," God made you and placed you in mommy. " He said," in the belly?". I said," Well, the womb." He thought a minute and said, " That is very nice of God! I am glad Mommy didn't swallow me in her throat!". Lol
In Canada , or at least Québec province it is not seen bad ☺️ my doctor was out fort 1year and a half after having her baby. The others just work more to cover
Marie-Soleil Dobie Thank you for answering! I really wish The US was more like Canada and Europe. Maternity leave is a legal right here (even paternity leave getting more recognition), but it is generally viewed as a hindrance to ever have to devote attention to child-rearing while also having a busy career. We are often so obsessed with work, work, work, anything less can be seen as a weakness. It really sucks some of the stereotypes we have!
Sleep training. Honestly, the best thing ever. It is hard on both the parent and the child, yes but it's only a few days. The sleep training method I used with my son is to lay them down when they are sleepy, not asleep. Do your good night routine ( needs to remain the same no matter how many times you do it.) This will help your child program their brain to know it's time to go to sleep. Leave the room, they will cry and throw fits. Start with 2 minutes, let them cry for 2 minutes. If they are in serious distress ( not breathing correctly, hurting themselves, ect) re-enter their room and calm them before the 2 minutes are over but try to let the whole 2 minutes go by. If they are still crying at the end of 2 minutes, go in calm them and replace them in bed. Now the time doubles to 4 minutes. Continue adding time till they are calm and asleep. The first time I did this with my son it took over 2 hours, but then the next day it was only half an hour, the next day only 10 minutes. 3 days all together to get him sleep trained. Not every child will be easy and it gets harder the older they get but if you stick it out within a week they will be sleep trained. It is work, it ishard, it is heartbreaking, yes. But your body and mind will than you. My son has been sleeping through the night, no wakeups for almost 2 years and he is just barely 2.5 years old. It's fantastic. They do have sleep regressions, he did too. You just start sleep training from scratch, a day or two and they are right back on track. I had to be proactive with sleep training bc I have Epstein-Barr and it was hell on my body to be up all night. It really changed my life when we did sleep training to help.
I completely agree!! The sleep-training method works like a charm! I live in Chile, and most parents co-sleep with their kids until they are 6-9 years old sometimes. I feel extremely uncomfortable every time I hear a story like that, and share the three day training method whenever I can. I used it on my oldest daughter, and it worked like magic
„Works“ is arguable. Babies still have higher stress levels (hormones) AFTER they stopped crying. They just look peaceful. Here in Germany child protection organizations advice not to do it. Also: it‘s been invented to protect kids from parents that couldn’t cope anymore and were in danger of getting physically harmed. Even the inventor of this method said in an interview that it was meant for a specific target group and at least 12 months old kids and the widespread use has never been intended. Most parents should be able to find other forms of help. (Family support, friends, etc.) Many psychologists advice against it for fear of breaking the bond between child and parents, especially before the first birthday.
@@thinkbig5438 I agree with you. Hearing my children crying for even 15 minutes is an agony, I cannot imagine hearing them crying for 2 hours. Poor babies. It totally makes sense that it breaks the bond between parent and child. A child's cry is as serious as it sounds. Just because the babies are silent after crying for 2 hours it does not mean they are calm. The last time I had a long cry it took me days to recover. Imagine what happens to a baby.
She's answered this on another video (I think the Reddit one??) She said if you are comfortable using them, they're great (safe and environmentally friendly)!
Gabrielle Cameron they’re also economical (save so much money long term) and very sanitary if you follow the instructions on cleaning and sterilizing. Precious star pads on TH-cam has many videos about ways you can do that (the material can affect types of sterilization you can do)
Kids sleep secrets... this is what has worked for me and I have 4 kids (13, 9, 5 and 3) who all slept through the night by 4-5 months old.. I'm talking 7pm-7am 12 hour nights and great naps and still are great sleepers. 1) Blackout curtains 2) White noise machine 3) As an infant, use a black light in the bedroom. I know it sounds weird but hear me out. It's enough light to see by for nighttime diaper changes and nursing, but soft and keeps that "night" impression. 4) No TV at night. Period. I know it's hard when you're up every 2-3 hours to nurse or feed the baby. But resist the temptation. It's too stimulating. Keep it quiet and dark. 5) Feed and put back down to sleep 6) Stick to a schedule. I know it's hard. But it's very important. How can they learn night vs. day if you're turning on the lights and TV when it's supposed to be sleep time.
@Rebster I guess it depends on the kid. Mine don't have trouble sleeping other places that aren't completely dark but it helps during naptime at home for sure. Especially when establishing a routine. Once the routine is established then I find you can relax a bit on the environment.
Do as much research as you can. There was not a lot of info available when I was diagnosed 20 yrs ago (and the internet sucked), so apart from using BC there were no other medically accepted treatment options. I had to push my OB/gyn to let me try metformin. Sadly it only worked briefly. My current housemate is in her 20s and is having a lot of success with an anti-inflammatory diet. Still, do your own research, be your own best advocate, and be willing to make big life changes to better your health. I'm 45 and last week I had a full hysterectomy, including both ovaries, because of really huge cysts on both ovaries and advanced adenomyosis of the uterus. I've known for years this was a likely outcome for my situation. If I could tell my younger self 1 thing it would be, Freeze your eggs! Egg health deteriorates with age, and seem to go faster with PCOS. If there are any delays or complications to your ability to get pregnant if you had your eggs you would have more options. I wish I had. I've never had children and can't now. I talked with a fertility specialist years ago but my egg/uterus health was already too far gone. So, Freeze your eggs. ❤
Carollynn K I have pcos so I completely understand a lot of what you’re saying. I also have medical issues and family history of blood clots so many hormonal contraceptives are not possible for me, plus I could not deal with the havoc they wreak on my body. I also refuse to do iud or implant because the thought of someone shoving something into my cervix or cutting me open like that is just too much. I’d rather the off chance of getting pregnant naturally and having a baby than do that. I’ve always wanted kids and even though my current situation is far from ideal I am well versed in government assistance options in my area as well as the many charities that can offer assistance with basically anything. Basically I know it would not be the end of the world and I wouldn’t be alone, there are people who can and will help if needed.
Carollynn K my only thing is I cannot afford the exorbitant costs of prepping, harvesting, and storing eggs or embryos. I’m at the point where if I cannot conceive naturally the most I’ll probably do is try some medications and iui or something and if those don’t work adopt. My state and most agencies will reimburse adoptive families for legal stuff, home studies etc if they agree to adopt a child from foster care.
Totally agree with you on the live and let live with professionals who stay at home. I'm almost a SAHM with my 4 littles, but I work as a pediatrician one day a week. I also do My Pocket Pediatrician. I feel like I can never do all I need to do for work and home. I think women judge others when they feel insecure about the choices they made. We each just have to find what makes up happy and go for it!
Gotta dust of my milk crate for a sec and point out that since well educated women tend to raise well educated kids, you really can't "waste" a degree by choosing to be a full-time mom (milk crate officially put away) 🎓
Jen Doninger amen! My parents (stay at home Mum and professional Dad) saw to it that us kids (x5) were brought up with a zeal for learning. Now we are a PhD, psychologist, dentist, lawyer and surgeon.
In the US we call it a soap box, but the point remains the same. Education is so important, not just on their own reproductive health, but just education in general. We absolutely need to increase funding for public schools, b/c education is the best way to get out of poverty, and live productive sustainable lives
Tootsla 125 I quit school at 16. My three daughters have had perfect grades since them going to preschool at three they are 19, 18, and 15 and still have all a’s. Two are graduateing and talking about college. It's not more about you and more about instilling in them the desire and drive to be more than you. I'm disable and my daughters and I have worked hard from a very early age pushing their skills making it fun for them by playing games learning new languages even though I can't do it don't mean they can't. I'm proud of all three of them.
I have a PhD and am home with my kids right now. I do sometimes wonder what my colleagues/former advisors might think of my choice, but mostly I am thankful for the flexibility to be home right now and I know that it might change in a few years!
I had a medically managed miscarriage just before Christmas last year. The professionals I worked with that day were genuinely awful and left me with such awful trauma that I’ve had to have counselling for more so than the actual loss of my baby. I can’t imagine how much better I would have felt if I’d have met professionals like you. Thank you so much for being the type of person that you are.
My kid sleep advice is (with approval from their pediatrician) melatonin. My 2 year old REFUSES to sleep at night without it. And my 6 year old has a hard time sleeping. It’s only given once a day before bed. And I made sure it was okay with their doc first.
Caddybaby21 my mom did this as well! She had found chewable mint ones that tasted like wedding mints so I always looked forward to it, and it did help.
I would love to see you do a collab with a midwife. I LOVE you and your channel, but I did have a home birth with a midwife. Granted, I live in Alberta, Canada where the midwives are highly educated and highly regulated. I know that's not the case everywhere in the US, but the statistics here on home birth are actually really great. I hate the stigma in the birth world where it's OBs vs. Midwives and it seems like as a mom, you're expected to pick a side and you're very judged whatever you do. I think there is a place for midwives in low risk pregnancy and birth and absolutely a place for OBs as well. I wish we could see more teamwork in the industry and collaboration in general ❤️
I'd love to see you hang out with Phillip DeFranco to discuss how media outlets affects your profession. I'd also love to see Dr. Mike maybe to compare your experiences
Lol "to celebrate paying off my student loans I want to celebrate by doing a collab on Post Partum Depression" 😂 I mean, GREAT important video topic, it just cracks me up that that's what you suggested doing a video on to celebrate.
I love the glass ball analogy! I’m currently 10 days postpartum and love the reminder to give myself grace to heal and time to bond with my new baby while enjoying my toddler. I often feel bad about the things I let go to do this, but this reminded me it’s healthy to do so and it’s ok to let other people take care of stuff and me!
Kids and sleep. . . .I've tried everything. EVERYTHING!! ONE of my 4 kids slept through the night before 3 years old. I read a whole book once with a lot of evidence based science. . . was super excited. Thought it would work. . . .There are two paragraphs at the end that say "and if your kids are particularly spirited, there's a good chance that none of these things will work. . . " I literally cried.
What is the most ridiculous item you've seen in a new mom's hospital bag? I found an awesome video you should see th-cam.com/video/K8u2jRP85s0/w-d-xo.html
As a professional mom (lawyer here) I love being able to do both (be a mom and be a lawyer) but I wish I could spend more time at home with my kiddo. Thankfully my husband gets to stay home with our youngest and that is awesome for us. Also, I think there is no secret to getting kids to sleep. My oldest has always been an amazing sleeper (she literally started sleeping through the night at 2 months old - scared the bejeezus out of me -- and she never stopped sleeping through the night). For the most part our baby is an okay sleeper -- she hates to nap and generally falls asleep around the same time every night. She didn't start sleeping through the night (more than 4 hours at a time) until she was about 10 months. She sleeps through the night now, but hates sleeping by herself. I have no answers but I LOVE your videos!
I'd love to watch a video with you and Colleen! I am going to try my best. She will probably be excited to talk more about her pregnancy and medical problems!
So secrets to success at bedtime 😴 I use a great bedtime routine since birth So here goes 1, bath/wash - doesn't need to be anything major but a bit of calm water play with rubber ducks or robo fish is great for tots 2, story/song- place baby or child in bed and either make up Ur own story to a picture book or read a fav of thiers or for baby's singing can work wonders 3, kiss and hugs- in thier bed if using night lights put them on say goodnight and leave (not always easy) if very fussy sit down near bed facing away if they get out put back but don't talk to them Hope this is helpful x
I so agree with your answers about pregnancy while working ( over being at home with your kids) - you have to take each day as it comes and do your best, but if you are exhausted- rest and realize the world will not end if the laundry is not done that day or if you aren’t the most patient teacher in your case. You are doing great balancing the different aspects of your life and I am loving your videos - so much knowledge and practical advice. As far as getting kids to sleep - I have 3 kids - now adults - and I was lucky because they were great sleepers for the most part - I had a bedtime routine - diner, bath, read them a story in my bed, then they went to their bed, kiss goodnight, shut door. Now I had one who would get up in the middle of the night and crawl in bed with me and I would wake up in the morning with him snuggled next to me. Very sweet, but it got to be a little much over time so I had to lock the door. Then he just went back to his bed. The big thing is to try to stay calm when they get up at night and make it really boring. Just calmly put them back in bed. No comforting, no fun, no complaining- just lets get back in bed, kiss, night night. Hope this helps. If not as they get older and move more and have more structure in their lives ( like school), they will sleep longer and when they are teenagers you will have the opposite problem of trying to wake them up in the morning- and college age is like living with vampires ( up all night - sleep all day). Each age has its challenges and charms. Sorry if this is too long. Best to you
“Send me the secrets! I NEED ANSWERS!!!l” Rotfl...you’re so awesome and genuinely hilarious in the best kind of way! This was my favorite video of yours so far, after finding you 4 days ago and binging ever since. Thank you for being so real, honest and relatable!
As much as I love Colleen Ballinger, I doubt she would be the best person to do a collab with about postpartum depression. If anything she had postpartum euphoria!
I never understood the hate some people have for parents who stay home for a while or long term. My stance is the parents/legal guardians who care for this child decide based on what makes them happy and what they feel is best for the child(ren). My mom became a stay at home mom when she got pregnant with me and it worked out well. Sometimes, particularly if there are multiple children, very young children, and/or with special needs having one parent stay home (or work part time or from home) mean the kids who need extra attention get it. It means that parent is more able to be involved with the kids school and other activities. But working is also good because some people do better having something outside of home going on. If parents aren’t home immediately every day when say ages 13-18 get there, it can be a good way to teach kids responsibility, self reliance, etc that they’ll need when they are on their own. There’s benefits and drawbacks to all options here and parents just have to do what is best for them and their children. Unless the parent is literally actively endangering the child (ie making them stay outside in the cold for hours because they’re not home; leaving toddlers alone in house etc) other people don’t have any right to say anything about it and should butt out
I love your answer about being a stay at home mom vs. working mom. My aunt was a stay at home mom from 1991 until 2003. She then went back to school and is a rock star RN! She said she wanted to stay home with her kids until they were both in school full time and until she felt it was the right time for the whole family. She'll be the first to tell you that going back was intimidating but that she wouldn't have it any other way because she got the best of both worlds.
Lavender oil diffuser or lavender pillow spray will help with sleep and calmness. When I was in elementary school I would go with a small group of kids to another class for reading composition. One day the teacher commented how unusually quit we all were and attributed it to the new lavender oil diffuser. She heard about lavender's calming affect but she wasn't sure if it would work or not. Also dimming light and filtering blue light for an hour before bed time is helpful to sleepers of all ages.
Hmm? Was reminded of this saying “life is what happens when you are sitting around planing for the future”. Things change, life changes, and every day we learn something new. It’s how we improve, evolve, get better. You do what is best for you and your family. People need to learn to take care of themselves and their family and stop criticizing others for taking care of themselves and their own families.
I litterally cannot thank you enough! You saved my life by listening at your outlook. I will be okay. I just need to choose my battles instead of getting overwhelmed.
Lavender essential oils being diffused into a room and dabbed onto a pillow is a VERY effective way to get kids to sleep. I use it with my one year old and use it myself sometimes. Also children’s melatonin gummies help a ton and a warm bath or shower right before bed😊 hope this helped
My mom's an MD who's been stay at home most of my life. She was going to be a psychiatrist but the stress was too much for her. Now she's my primary carer (I'm disabled) and enjoys managing finances.
Regarding the question about leaving a career to stay home, I went from being a corporate lawyer to a SAHM. I’ll be out of the profession eight+ years by the time my youngest starts pre-K (if we’re done having kids now; it’ll be longer if we’re not). I feel like my qualifications and experience will be irrelevant if/when I go back. But 100+ hours per week wasn’t compatible with family life. I chose family over career. I’ll either re-train or do something else. It’s somewhat hard if I think about how long I studied and worked to build my career but my kids mean more 🤷♀️
Sleep secret: all sleep is good sleep. If they are in your bed or on the floor or on the couch or in the recliner... who cares? They’re sleeping! Go with it. My kids are 18 and 16 and they sleep just fine in their own beds even though they slept wherever they wanted (usually with me) when they were little. These years go by fast and they won’t want to snuggle with you forever.
I have extreme fatigue through out my pregnancies. I am now in my third trimester with my third pregnancy and feel drained even after a full nights sleep. I realize there is not much I can do to fix it but just to take it day by day until it goes away, but that doesnt take away the mom guilt for not being the most interactive I can be and also feeling like a bad wife and everything else i cant do. Your answer to the last question actually made me feel so much better. Just knowing someone else experienced it too helps me relax and come to terms with the idea that it's not forever and soon I'll have my energy back and be able to do all the things again. Thank you for your videos! I just recently discovered them and have been binge watching for the last few days 🤣
Wow.... So insane the uni fees over there 😭 I'm in my final year of university in Ireland and I have some modest savings.... Not debt 😨 Must be so stressful starting a career drowning in debt- I'm sorry!
LOVE THIS IDEA however Colleen is on tour right now and JUST Announced she's going on Broadway. I'm sure she is being bombarded by messages for a ton of things. I truly hope this will happen but if not mama is killing it! Hoping for better timing down the road because this would be an epic colab!!!
in switzerland you have to agree to work nightshifts (8 pm to 6 am) and if you don‘t want to your boss has to give you the work hours during the dayshift (6 am to 8 pm). during the last 8 weeks of pregnancy it‘s illegal to work during the night even if you would agree to work...
I love that juggling analogy!! I'm terrible with juggling. I imagine that it's all glass and beat myself up if I drop one, but you are so correct- pick and choose what's plastic/glass and allow others to pick up the plastic ones when they drop. That's awesome
This video is ancient by TH-cam standards, but I had to just say a quick thank you for your words in the middle about being a stay at home mom. I'm a lawyer and lately I've been feeling very guilty about choosing to be a SAHM (with an Etsy side-hustle) right now. What you said made me feel a lot better about pursuing what really makes me happy at the moment.
Great video! It’s absolutely true about being able to step back or go forward with whatever you want to do! I love your videos! You are very informative and entertaining!
I think the poster who said "I think you never partied and always wanted to be a mom". was trying to imply "You seem to be one of those practical, hard working people who never did anything irresponsible. You would seldom waste time on things that hindered you from being a mother."
I'm not a mom but as a nanny for over 20 years my best sleep advice is to make sure kids get plenty outdoor time running around. Balanced meals are also a big help but I realize that can be very controversial issue and this does not mean you can never go through McDonald's lol. The last thing that I would put in is a nighttime routine. Yes I'm aware this is two years later and it is not 100% effective but it definitely works more often than it doesn't if that makes any sense.
I believe he would be happy to make a video with her and I am sure that he'll show her his great respect for all she's managing to do in her life and for the impact she's making. He has a very positive and educational platform as well, and has a wider audience right now, so this will be an awsome way for more people to come across MDJ's channel! And she surely deserves it!
I love your videos more and more! You’re hilarious!! You give great advice! It’s so nice for an OB/GYN to talk about the GYN side as much as the OB side of things! Thanks for another great video Dr Momma Jones!!! Much love from Oklahoma! 💗💗💗
As a professional who gave up her profession for many years to stay home with children, thank you for your support. These are years I won't get back and I am doing what I love being home with my kids. Someday I will rejoin the professional world with new wisdom, empathy, and enthusiasm. An educated mom is an asset to her child, whether or not she stays home. We expect basic education for professional caregivers so why is a well educated mom a waste?
I love your videos and really really loved your comments about fluidity in life choices and giving yourself grace with plastic balls. I’m 33, a wife, mother of 2, small business owner, and an author and wish I knew that so much earlier in life!!
I just have my bachelor's degree, and worked in the field until my oldest was 5.5 y.o. Now that I stay home I don't know how I made life run at all while working! I am so grateful for the blessing of getting to be home for my children while they grow. Not everyone gets the opportunity to in this world of double income standards.
Hello! Just wanted to say that I really enjoy your content. Your opinions, personality, humor, silliness, honestly, values and character are inspiring. Thank you for taking the time to share as I can only imagine how busy your life is. All the best to you!
My kid sleep secrits is letting them cry keep putting them back and keep to a rutien and when all else fales lock yourself in the bathroom and cry till you are ready to tackle it lol. My daughter i messed up and didnt keep her on a rutine but i am not making the same mistakes with my son. My daughter is now 9 and my son is 7 months.
I think fatigue is a major indicator anything is wrong at all (even if it is just because you're pregnant). It's how I knew I had coronavirus. I had been having trouble sleeping and that night I had been able to get to sleep and get enough, I woke up feeling so much better. My boyfriend had woken up very groggy, which I was a bit suspicious of. When I went to work I was doing my normal tasks easily compared to sleep deprived me for a few hours and then suddenly fatigue began to overcome me and this feeling something was wrong and I needed to rest set in. I knew something was wrong, and shortness of breath quickly followed. I wanted to sit down so bad, so I took my break when it came in like 10 minutes and decided to work out how to tell her I needed to go home without freaking everybody out, then I sat by myself wearing my uncomfortable mask and went home. I felt so awful from that first moment. I knew before I got the results what it would be. Luckily I follow the mask requirements as much as I can and I work in an isolated position, I wash my hands often because of cold and flu season as well; I've had the flu like three times this year because I had not had it more than a few times in 10 years and all these people come in and touch my hands. They disinfected after I left.
My favorite professor in college got a PhD and MD at the same time. She then practiced for 4 years before becoming a SAHM. I was like damnnn that's a lot of time and money but she seemed super happy
Excellent point. You paid for your education. It is up to you to use it in a career or stay at home and use it in your personal life. That’s the great thing about paying for your own education; you own it out right. 👍👍
We are raising our granddaughter and I just retired. I am less tolerant than when I was younger. I did a module on intentional parenting. Now when I am irritated by the noise and activity, I tell her that I love her. That way I am not overreacting and I am telling her what I really feel.
Have you ever seen "The Mindy Project"? What do you think about the depiction of OB GYN there? I guess it's a comedy and not meant to be realistic, but I feel like they missed an opportunity there. Plus Mindy was always the only female OB GYN in her practice and that puzzled me. If you ever get a chance, the Mindy Project would be an interesting show to comment on.
I’ve wondered the same thing, and I think it would be really cool to hear her comments on it if she has seen the show!!! I don’t think there is anything wrong with the fact that it doesn’t have a lot of medical content though.
Omg imagine a miranda sings video where mama doctor jones tries to teach her where babies come from or something. Or what MDJ does in her job being explained to Miranda Sings
MDJ, I agree that you have to pick your battles or you'll be fighting and angry all the time. Nobody needs that, or wants it. It's ok to need help and to depend on others, especially dads. You are one person and you just cannot do everything yourself. When you're exhausted focusing on what has to be done is the only sane solution and letting the other things be taken over by family and friends is the right thing to do. I wish more moms would let the not so important stuff hit the back burner or be delegated when they just can't do everything. Child care is expensive, you're right, mortgage expensive. There is no secret to sleep. Some kids sleep well and some don't. I have no clue why or how to fix it. My son wasn't a good sleeper until he got to be about 3. He was a fussy baby and a fussy sleeper. It turned out he had GERD and that could have caused sleep problems. Then he was like clockwork. They had to wake him in kindergarten b/c he really liked his naps. He was also a very active sleeper. I'd put him to bed and he would wake up with his feet on his pillow and his head at the foot of his bed. I caught him turning around one night and he was completely asleep, sat up, laid back down the opposite direction. I was lucky to only be a little nauseated my first 13 weeks. After my son was born, I didn't know you could be that tired and still be alive. I was so happy when he gave up the 2 am feeding, I can't express the relief of getting 5 hours of sleep in a row. I had to get up and pump a little at first to relieve pressure, as by then I had become quite the cow. I started out as a rather small B, but breastfeeding turned me into a EE, and I've never gone below a C afterward. I wasn't fortunate to have more than one child. I'm O neg, my hubby is O pos and my son is O pos. I got the shots, but I couldn't get pregnant again. Most people I know with O neg only manage one child, two if they are in their early twenties, but they're not close together. Is RH neg a barrier to getting pregnant even with the shots? In my limited experience it seems to be.
I rented a fetal monitor during my 3rd pregnancy. I had a subchorionic hemorrhage and a lot of bleeding. My anxiety level was high and it was very reassuring to listen to his fetal heart tones before bed every evening. I just needed to know that he was still there before I fell asleep. I worked for several years as an L&D nurse so using the Doppler was easy for me. It alleviated a lot of angst for me and was very reassuring. My little guy is a completely healthy 5 year old now and I'm so glad that technology was available.
I am right there with you on the no morning sickness but debilitating fatigue thing. It's bad enough that I'm thinking of just leaving my job next time. Especially if I still have this long commute. That just won't be safe.
OMG the fatigue!! I made it through vet school and internship and was very proficient at being sleep deprived...then during my first trimester I was so incredibly tired no matter how much I slept! Then once baby was here, I was super proficient at being sleep deprived again!
Do a collaborative video about miscarriage! Miscarriage seems to be shrouded in mystery but it's super common. There are so many types of miscarriage, many reasons why it happens, and it can be a very tough thing to get over.
I know this video is a little older but what worked for my kid is the Little Ones Sleep program. They look at the science of awake times of babies. It is seriously amazing. My 16 month old sleeps from 7 to 7:30-8:00. I am totally using this program with my next kid!
Real sleep advice: if they don’t “grow out of it” get them a sleep study. I have a rare sleep disorder but was punished for years for not sleeping at night or staying awake during the day. Would have been easier on us all! Otherwise, have you tried “sleep hygiene” (have a consistent schedule) and melatonin? I’m not a fan of herbs or putting kids on things, but pediatricians recommend it sometimes...
I'm late to this video but thank you! Two years ago I busted my behind to get licensed in my field and my then-boss told me I wasted my time since I plan to stay home with my daughter. I'm still darn proud of myself for getting that certification and I hope to keep it up to date while I'm at home so I can get back to work when I'm ready. :)
OMG, I related to the fatigue. I am SAHM, so no work shifts, but I still had crippling fatigue. I couldn't do anything. So glad that you could take care of your patients.
Visit NOLA after you pay off your loans and take your kids to the Mardi Gras museum and city park. We have a lot of fun kid friendly things and we also have a lot of adult things as well.
I would personally say having larger breast makes breastfeeding harder, my son is 13 months old and my breast are still bigger then his head... I was scared I would smother him, for half his life. 😩😩
This is silly Dr. Jones ... I had a horrible (really horrible) GYN experience about 10 years ago ... I happened upon your videos and watched a few of them . My level of apprehension decreased .. I had a full exam yesterday .. Thanks ! What you are doing with these videos makes a big difference ... I am grateful . Thank You Dr. Jones 😊
Dr Jones’s work here is done.... I’m so glad you were helped 😘
Seriously! These vids should be shown to every girl in the country, probably during sex ed. We should make it much more comprehensive, and spend a lot more time educating our kids on their own bodies. I wish everyone could see all of her videos, honestly even the boys should watch these. It's so important that people are prepared for what they'll face as parents, and would improve the quality of life for all of the next generations, having parents who were well educated on child rearing
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I'm so glad you caught it early! Really, truly happy for you. When people aren't properly educated on their reproductive health, the outcomes are always significantly worse. We really need to put more focus on this in schools, and teach people how important it is to take good care of your body.
Collab with dr. Mike and talk about the differences between DO/MD and assumptions about doctors! Or Violin MD! She’s super great as well!
Lauren Fleming that’s what I was thinking
Lauren Fleming haha as soon as she said collab I was like Dr Mike!!
Yesss I love them both too!!
A D.O. stands for Doctor Of Osteopathic Medicine. There are actually fewer Osteopathic Medical Schools in the USA than there are M.D. (Doctorate Of Medicine) Medical Schools. Both teach pretty much the exact same subjects and material. D.O.’s in my experience are more widely accepted in the Midwest than on the coasts. D.O.’s can be accepted into the same Residency and Fellowship programs as M.D.’s. Really the only difference between the two is that D.O. programs spend more time (close to 400 hours worth) studying techniques on Muscular Skeletal Manipulation.
YESSSSS
You should collab with Doctor Mike.
Omg yassed
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Yes!!! That would be awesome to see! “Stay Happy and Healthy...and Be Kind To Each Other!”
Please collab with Violin MD! You could discuss the difference between medicine in the US and Canada!
Yesss!!
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Something funny. I Nanny for an Obgyn. The youngest is 4. He knows Mommy is a Doctor and " gets babies out of the mommies". So we were driving and he asked," Did Mommy swallow me?". I first thought he said, " swaddle ". I told him, " Well she swaddled you in blankets when you were tiny". He said, " No swallow. In her throat. " i told him no. He said, " Well how did I get in her tummy?". Myself and employer are both Christian. I had to think quickly. I said," God made you and placed you in mommy. " He said," in the belly?". I said," Well, the womb." He thought a minute and said, " That is very nice of God! I am glad Mommy didn't swallow me in her throat!". Lol
So you lied to him. lol
In Germany it is illegal to let a pregnant woman work the night shift
Same here in Denmark 👍🏻
It is after a Certian amount of week's (like 25 weeks) in the UK. Plus most employers are generally more understanding so adapt schedules.
Same in Montreal
In Canada , or at least Québec province it is not seen bad ☺️ my doctor was out fort 1year and a half after having her baby. The others just work more to cover
Marie-Soleil Dobie Thank you for answering! I really wish The US was more like Canada and Europe. Maternity leave is a legal right here (even paternity leave getting more recognition), but it is generally viewed as a hindrance to ever have to devote attention to child-rearing while also having a busy career. We are often so obsessed with work, work, work, anything less can be seen as a weakness. It really sucks some of the stereotypes we have!
Please do a video on your thoughts on midwives. And also your relationship with nurses!!!!
Yes! Midwives!
I agree! I want to hear a doctor's opinions on midwives/home births!
Sleep training. Honestly, the best thing ever. It is hard on both the parent and the child, yes but it's only a few days. The sleep training method I used with my son is to lay them down when they are sleepy, not asleep. Do your good night routine ( needs to remain the same no matter how many times you do it.) This will help your child program their brain to know it's time to go to sleep. Leave the room, they will cry and throw fits. Start with 2 minutes, let them cry for 2 minutes. If they are in serious distress ( not breathing correctly, hurting themselves, ect) re-enter their room and calm them before the 2 minutes are over but try to let the whole 2 minutes go by. If they are still crying at the end of 2 minutes, go in calm them and replace them in bed. Now the time doubles to 4 minutes. Continue adding time till they are calm and asleep.
The first time I did this with my son it took over 2 hours, but then the next day it was only half an hour, the next day only 10 minutes. 3 days all together to get him sleep trained. Not every child will be easy and it gets harder the older they get but if you stick it out within a week they will be sleep trained. It is work, it ishard, it is heartbreaking, yes. But your body and mind will than you. My son has been sleeping through the night, no wakeups for almost 2 years and he is just barely 2.5 years old. It's fantastic.
They do have sleep regressions, he did too. You just start sleep training from scratch, a day or two and they are right back on track.
I had to be proactive with sleep training bc I have Epstein-Barr and it was hell on my body to be up all night. It really changed my life when we did sleep training to help.
I completely agree!! The sleep-training method works like a charm! I live in Chile, and most parents co-sleep with their kids until they are 6-9 years old sometimes. I feel extremely uncomfortable every time I hear a story like that, and share the three day training method whenever I can. I used it on my oldest daughter, and it worked like magic
My kid hated it and it didn't work. She'd get really distressed, upset and she'd wake up anyway. It didn't help. It's not a panacea for everyone.
„Works“ is arguable. Babies still have higher stress levels (hormones) AFTER they stopped crying. They just look peaceful. Here in Germany child protection organizations advice not to do it. Also: it‘s been invented to protect kids from parents that couldn’t cope anymore and were in danger of getting physically harmed. Even the inventor of this method said in an interview that it was meant for a specific target group and at least 12 months old kids and the widespread use has never been intended. Most parents should be able to find other forms of help. (Family support, friends, etc.) Many psychologists advice against it for fear of breaking the bond between child and parents, especially before the first birthday.
@@thinkbig5438 I agree with you. Hearing my children crying for even 15 minutes is an agony, I cannot imagine hearing them crying for 2 hours. Poor babies. It totally makes sense that it breaks the bond between parent and child. A child's cry is as serious as it sounds. Just because the babies are silent after crying for 2 hours it does not mean they are calm. The last time I had a long cry it took me days to recover. Imagine what happens to a baby.
I would love to hear your opinion (as an OB/Gyn) on menstrual cups. Do You recommend them?
that's a very good question
She's answered this on another video (I think the Reddit one??)
She said if you are comfortable using them, they're great (safe and environmentally friendly)!
@@GabrielleCameron Thank You! :-)
Gabrielle Cameron they’re also economical (save so much money long term) and very sanitary if you follow the instructions on cleaning and sterilizing. Precious star pads on TH-cam has many videos about ways you can do that (the material can affect types of sterilization you can do)
What about disks???
Colab with Dr. Mike!
Louise Bullis YES YES YES! ❤️
Kids sleep secrets... this is what has worked for me and I have 4 kids (13, 9, 5 and 3) who all slept through the night by 4-5 months old.. I'm talking 7pm-7am 12 hour nights and great naps and still are great sleepers.
1) Blackout curtains
2) White noise machine
3) As an infant, use a black light in the bedroom. I know it sounds weird but hear me out. It's enough light to see by for nighttime diaper changes and nursing, but soft and keeps that "night" impression.
4) No TV at night. Period. I know it's hard when you're up every 2-3 hours to nurse or feed the baby. But resist the temptation. It's too stimulating. Keep it quiet and dark.
5) Feed and put back down to sleep
6) Stick to a schedule. I know it's hard. But it's very important.
How can they learn night vs. day if you're turning on the lights and TV when it's supposed to be sleep time.
Good advice :D
also a good night time routine never hurts.
@Rebster I guess it depends on the kid. Mine don't have trouble sleeping other places that aren't completely dark but it helps during naptime at home for sure. Especially when establishing a routine. Once the routine is established then I find you can relax a bit on the environment.
Please make a video on PCOS!!! I was diagnosed recently and really don't know much about it
Vannasaur yeeeees!!! I’d love a video on this as well!
Do as much research as you can. There was not a lot of info available when I was diagnosed 20 yrs ago (and the internet sucked), so apart from using BC there were no other medically accepted treatment options. I had to push my OB/gyn to let me try metformin. Sadly it only worked briefly. My current housemate is in her 20s and is having a lot of success with an anti-inflammatory diet. Still, do your own research, be your own best advocate, and be willing to make big life changes to better your health.
I'm 45 and last week I had a full hysterectomy, including both ovaries, because of really huge cysts on both ovaries and advanced adenomyosis of the uterus. I've known for years this was a likely outcome for my situation.
If I could tell my younger self 1 thing it would be, Freeze your eggs! Egg health deteriorates with age, and seem to go faster with PCOS. If there are any delays or complications to your ability to get pregnant if you had your eggs you would have more options. I wish I had. I've never had children and can't now. I talked with a fertility specialist years ago but my egg/uterus health was already too far gone. So, Freeze your eggs. ❤
Carollynn K thank you for sharing your story❤️
Carollynn K I have pcos so I completely understand a lot of what you’re saying. I also have medical issues and family history of blood clots so many hormonal contraceptives are not possible for me, plus I could not deal with the havoc they wreak on my body. I also refuse to do iud or implant because the thought of someone shoving something into my cervix or cutting me open like that is just too much. I’d rather the off chance of getting pregnant naturally and having a baby than do that. I’ve always wanted kids and even though my current situation is far from ideal I am well versed in government assistance options in my area as well as the many charities that can offer assistance with basically anything. Basically I know it would not be the end of the world and I wouldn’t be alone, there are people who can and will help if needed.
Carollynn K my only thing is I cannot afford the exorbitant costs of prepping, harvesting, and storing eggs or embryos. I’m at the point where if I cannot conceive naturally the most I’ll probably do is try some medications and iui or something and if those don’t work adopt. My state and most agencies will reimburse adoptive families for legal stuff, home studies etc if they agree to adopt a child from foster care.
Totally agree with you on the live and let live with professionals who stay at home. I'm almost a SAHM with my 4 littles, but I work as a pediatrician one day a week. I also do My Pocket Pediatrician. I feel like I can never do all I need to do for work and home. I think women judge others when they feel insecure about the choices they made. We each just have to find what makes up happy and go for it!
Love the analogy of glass balls vs plastic! Perfectly fits most lifestyles/stages/etc!!!! I really enjoy your videos.
Loved your analogy of Juggling Glass and Plastic Balls. Life is always changing and no one is perfect all of the time.
Gotta dust of my milk crate for a sec and point out that since well educated women tend to raise well educated kids, you really can't "waste" a degree by choosing to be a full-time mom (milk crate officially put away) 🎓
Jen Doninger amen! My parents (stay at home Mum and professional Dad) saw to it that us kids (x5) were brought up with a zeal for learning. Now we are a PhD, psychologist, dentist, lawyer and surgeon.
In the US we call it a soap box, but the point remains the same. Education is so important, not just on their own reproductive health, but just education in general. We absolutely need to increase funding for public schools, b/c education is the best way to get out of poverty, and live productive sustainable lives
It’s so true. Studies have shown that the education level of a mother has the greatest impact on how well-educated her children are.
Jen Doninger thank you for this comment. It really hit me hard as I struggle with deciding to be a stay at home mom when my baby comes!
Tootsla 125 I quit school at 16. My three daughters have had perfect grades since them going to preschool at three they are 19, 18, and 15 and still have all a’s. Two are graduateing and talking about college. It's not more about you and more about instilling in them the desire and drive to be more than you. I'm disable and my daughters and I have worked hard from a very early age pushing their skills making it fun for them by playing games learning new languages even though I can't do it don't mean they can't. I'm proud of all three of them.
I have a PhD and am home with my kids right now. I do sometimes wonder what my colleagues/former advisors might think of my choice, but mostly I am thankful for the flexibility to be home right now and I know that it might change in a few years!
MsJLJudy what do u have a PhD in? I’m interested in getting my PhD and also want a family in the future
If you aren’t drowning in debt and paid off your loans I don’t see the issue. It’s a great move if your family can be financially stable.
I had a medically managed miscarriage just before Christmas last year. The professionals I worked with that day were genuinely awful and left me with such awful trauma that I’ve had to have counselling for more so than the actual loss of my baby. I can’t imagine how much better I would have felt if I’d have met professionals like you. Thank you so much for being the type of person that you are.
My kid sleep advice is (with approval from their pediatrician) melatonin. My 2 year old REFUSES to sleep at night without it. And my 6 year old has a hard time sleeping. It’s only given once a day before bed. And I made sure it was okay with their doc first.
Caddybaby21 my mom did this as well! She had found chewable mint ones that tasted like wedding mints so I always looked forward to it, and it did help.
I would love to see you do a collab with a midwife. I LOVE you and your channel, but I did have a home birth with a midwife. Granted, I live in Alberta, Canada where the midwives are highly educated and highly regulated. I know that's not the case everywhere in the US, but the statistics here on home birth are actually really great. I hate the stigma in the birth world where it's OBs vs. Midwives and it seems like as a mom, you're expected to pick a side and you're very judged whatever you do. I think there is a place for midwives in low risk pregnancy and birth and absolutely a place for OBs as well. I wish we could see more teamwork in the industry and collaboration in general ❤️
Sarah T Well said.
I'd love to see you hang out with Phillip DeFranco to discuss how media outlets affects your profession. I'd also love to see Dr. Mike maybe to compare your experiences
Kristina Braly! She's a doctor - mom - vlogger from Texas as well.
Lol "to celebrate paying off my student loans I want to celebrate by doing a collab on Post Partum Depression" 😂 I mean, GREAT important video topic, it just cracks me up that that's what you suggested doing a video on to celebrate.
I love the glass ball analogy! I’m currently 10 days postpartum and love the reminder to give myself grace to heal and time to bond with my new baby while enjoying my toddler. I often feel bad about the things I let go to do this, but this reminded me it’s healthy to do so and it’s ok to let other people take care of stuff and me!
Kids and sleep. . . .I've tried everything. EVERYTHING!! ONE of my 4 kids slept through the night before 3 years old. I read a whole book once with a lot of evidence based science. . . was super excited. Thought it would work. . . .There are two paragraphs at the end that say "and if your kids are particularly spirited, there's a good chance that none of these things will work. . . " I literally cried.
What is the most ridiculous item you've seen in a new mom's hospital bag?
I found an awesome video you should see th-cam.com/video/K8u2jRP85s0/w-d-xo.html
As a professional mom (lawyer here) I love being able to do both (be a mom and be a lawyer) but I wish I could spend more time at home with my kiddo. Thankfully my husband gets to stay home with our youngest and that is awesome for us. Also, I think there is no secret to getting kids to sleep. My oldest has always been an amazing sleeper (she literally started sleeping through the night at 2 months old - scared the bejeezus out of me -- and she never stopped sleeping through the night). For the most part our baby is an okay sleeper -- she hates to nap and generally falls asleep around the same time every night. She didn't start sleeping through the night (more than 4 hours at a time) until she was about 10 months. She sleeps through the night now, but hates sleeping by herself. I have no answers but I LOVE your videos!
I'd love to watch a video with you and Colleen! I am going to try my best. She will probably be excited to talk more about her pregnancy and medical problems!
So secrets to success at bedtime 😴
I use a great bedtime routine since birth
So here goes
1, bath/wash - doesn't need to be anything major but a bit of calm water play with rubber ducks or robo fish is great for tots
2, story/song- place baby or child in bed and either make up Ur own story to a picture book or read a fav of thiers or for baby's singing can work wonders
3, kiss and hugs- in thier bed if using night lights put them on say goodnight and leave (not always easy) if very fussy sit down near bed facing away if they get out put back but don't talk to them
Hope this is helpful x
You always have so much energy, this makes it great to watch your videos! How do you do it?!
I so agree with your answers about pregnancy while working ( over being at home with your kids) - you have to take each day as it comes and do your best, but if you are exhausted- rest and realize the world will not end if the laundry is not done that day or if you aren’t the most patient teacher in your case. You are doing great balancing the different aspects of your life and I am loving your videos - so much knowledge and practical advice. As far as getting kids to sleep - I have 3 kids - now adults - and I was lucky because they were great sleepers for the most part - I had a bedtime routine - diner, bath, read them a story in my bed, then they went to their bed, kiss goodnight, shut door. Now I had one who would get up in the middle of the night and crawl in bed with me and I would wake up in the morning with him snuggled next to me. Very sweet, but it got to be a little much over time so I had to lock the door. Then he just went back to his bed. The big thing is to try to stay calm when they get up at night and make it really boring. Just calmly put them back in bed. No comforting, no fun, no complaining- just lets get back in bed, kiss, night night. Hope this helps. If not as they get older and move more and have more structure in their lives ( like school), they will sleep longer and when they are teenagers you will have the opposite problem of trying to wake them up in the morning- and college age is like living with vampires ( up all night - sleep all day). Each age has its challenges and charms. Sorry if this is too long. Best to you
“Send me the secrets! I NEED ANSWERS!!!l” Rotfl...you’re so awesome and genuinely hilarious in the best kind of way! This was my favorite video of yours so far, after finding you 4 days ago and binging ever since. Thank you for being so real, honest and relatable!
Loved the glass/plastic analogy! I struggled for a LONG time with work/school/SAHM decision. I’m glad to know that I wasn’t alone.
As much as I love Colleen Ballinger, I doubt she would be the best person to do a collab with about postpartum depression. If anything she had postpartum euphoria!
Stella Marie maybe they could talk about depression during pregnancy!
I also didn't have morning sickness but EXTREME fatigue
I never understood the hate some people have for parents who stay home for a while or long term. My stance is the parents/legal guardians who care for this child decide based on what makes them happy and what they feel is best for the child(ren). My mom became a stay at home mom when she got pregnant with me and it worked out well. Sometimes, particularly if there are multiple children, very young children, and/or with special needs having one parent stay home (or work part time or from home) mean the kids who need extra attention get it. It means that parent is more able to be involved with the kids school and other activities. But working is also good because some people do better having something outside of home going on. If parents aren’t home immediately every day when say ages 13-18 get there, it can be a good way to teach kids responsibility, self reliance, etc that they’ll need when they are on their own. There’s benefits and drawbacks to all options here and parents just have to do what is best for them and their children. Unless the parent is literally actively endangering the child (ie making them stay outside in the cold for hours because they’re not home; leaving toddlers alone in house etc) other people don’t have any right to say anything about it and should butt out
Could we get a video with VBAC information?
Rachel Duplechin yes please I have my vbac coming up and would love for this to be made too
Rachel Duplechin vbac is generally safe unless there is a complication requiring a last minute c section or other serious issues
Brittney Rhodes Good luck/Hope everything went well!
I love your answer about being a stay at home mom vs. working mom. My aunt was a stay at home mom from 1991 until 2003. She then went back to school and is a rock star RN! She said she wanted to stay home with her kids until they were both in school full time and until she felt it was the right time for the whole family. She'll be the first to tell you that going back was intimidating but that she wouldn't have it any other way because she got the best of both worlds.
Lavender oil diffuser or lavender pillow spray will help with sleep and calmness. When I was in elementary school I would go with a small group of kids to another class for reading composition. One day the teacher commented how unusually quit we all were and attributed it to the new lavender oil diffuser. She heard about lavender's calming affect but she wasn't sure if it would work or not. Also dimming light and filtering blue light for an hour before bed time is helpful to sleepers of all ages.
Hmm? Was reminded of this saying “life is what happens when you are sitting around planing for the future”. Things change, life changes, and every day we learn something new. It’s how we improve, evolve, get better.
You do what is best for you and your family. People need to learn to take care of themselves and their family and stop criticizing others for taking care of themselves and their own families.
I litterally cannot thank you enough! You saved my life by listening at your outlook. I will be okay. I just need to choose my battles instead of getting overwhelmed.
She is like, my new favorite human being ever! She's hilarious and amazing
OMG YES! Please collab with Colleen!💕
Also, great job on almost paying off med school! 🥳
That juggling analogy blessed me.❤ sometimes we moms really need to give ourselves the grace to be HUMAN BEINGS!
Lavender essential oils being diffused into a room and dabbed onto a pillow is a VERY effective way to get kids to sleep. I use it with my one year old and use it myself sometimes. Also children’s melatonin gummies help a ton and a warm bath or shower right before bed😊 hope this helped
My mom's an MD who's been stay at home most of my life. She was going to be a psychiatrist but the stress was too much for her. Now she's my primary carer (I'm disabled) and enjoys managing finances.
Yes! I totally agree with balance, pick your battles, giving yourself grace, and not being afraid to ask for HELP. It's ok! 😉😁
Regarding the question about leaving a career to stay home, I went from being a corporate lawyer to a SAHM. I’ll be out of the profession eight+ years by the time my youngest starts pre-K (if we’re done having kids now; it’ll be longer if we’re not). I feel like my qualifications and experience will be irrelevant if/when I go back. But 100+ hours per week wasn’t compatible with family life. I chose family over career. I’ll either re-train or do something else. It’s somewhat hard if I think about how long I studied and worked to build my career but my kids mean more 🤷♀️
Caroline Specht you could practice a different type of law or teach.
Sleep secret: all sleep is good sleep. If they are in your bed or on the floor or on the couch or in the recliner... who cares? They’re sleeping! Go with it. My kids are 18 and 16 and they sleep just fine in their own beds even though they slept wherever they wanted (usually with me) when they were little. These years go by fast and they won’t want to snuggle with you forever.
I have extreme fatigue through out my pregnancies. I am now in my third trimester with my third pregnancy and feel drained even after a full nights sleep. I realize there is not much I can do to fix it but just to take it day by day until it goes away, but that doesnt take away the mom guilt for not being the most interactive I can be and also feeling like a bad wife and everything else i cant do. Your answer to the last question actually made me feel so much better. Just knowing someone else experienced it too helps me relax and come to terms with the idea that it's not forever and soon I'll have my energy back and be able to do all the things again. Thank you for your videos! I just recently discovered them and have been binge watching for the last few days 🤣
Wow.... So insane the uni fees over there 😭 I'm in my final year of university in Ireland and I have some modest savings.... Not debt 😨 Must be so stressful starting a career drowning in debt- I'm sorry!
Doctor Mike collab!!
LOVE THIS IDEA however Colleen is on tour right now and JUST Announced she's going on Broadway. I'm sure she is being bombarded by messages for a ton of things. I truly hope this will happen but if not mama is killing it! Hoping for better timing down the road because this would be an epic colab!!!
"Hello reservation? I need a room for a large family. And also 31K other rooms, for the fans. Yes fans" =P
"Yes...I'm bringing 30,000 crock pots"
in switzerland you have to agree to work nightshifts (8 pm to 6 am) and if you don‘t want to your boss has to give you the work hours during the dayshift (6 am to 8 pm). during the last 8 weeks of pregnancy it‘s illegal to work during the night even if you would agree to work...
I love that juggling analogy!! I'm terrible with juggling. I imagine that it's all glass and beat myself up if I drop one, but you are so correct- pick and choose what's plastic/glass and allow others to pick up the plastic ones when they drop. That's awesome
This video is ancient by TH-cam standards, but I had to just say a quick thank you for your words in the middle about being a stay at home mom. I'm a lawyer and lately I've been feeling very guilty about choosing to be a SAHM (with an Etsy side-hustle) right now. What you said made me feel a lot better about pursuing what really makes me happy at the moment.
Great video! It’s absolutely true about being able to step back or go forward with whatever you want to do! I love your videos! You are very informative and entertaining!
I think the poster who said "I think you never partied and always wanted to be a mom". was trying to imply "You seem to be one of those practical, hard working people who never did anything irresponsible. You would seldom waste time on things that hindered you from being a mother."
Collaboration with dr.mike??
I'm not sure if I could solely be a stay-at-home mom because that seems wayyyy harder than any other job.
It is, 100%. I was terrified before I quit.
I'm not a mom but as a nanny for over 20 years my best sleep advice is to make sure kids get plenty outdoor time running around. Balanced meals are also a big help but I realize that can be very controversial issue and this does not mean you can never go through McDonald's lol. The last thing that I would put in is a nighttime routine.
Yes I'm aware this is two years later and it is not 100% effective but it definitely works more often than it doesn't if that makes any sense.
How bout a collab with Dr. Mike? 🤷🏻♀️
MsKermithefrog because she is so above him...
wild_rose whistler true
I believe he would be happy to make a video with her and I am sure that he'll show her his great respect for all she's managing to do in her life and for the impact she's making. He has a very positive and educational platform as well, and has a wider audience right now, so this will be an awsome way for more people to come across MDJ's channel! And she surely deserves it!
Sorry for my crappy English, my grammer does suck, as you can clearly see, I'm not a native speaker..
I love your videos more and more! You’re hilarious!! You give great advice! It’s so nice for an OB/GYN to talk about the GYN side as much as the OB side of things! Thanks for another great video Dr Momma Jones!!! Much love from Oklahoma! 💗💗💗
I love that glass and plastic ball analogy. As someone with chronic illness I'm adopting it!
As a professional who gave up her profession for many years to stay home with children, thank you for your support. These are years I won't get back and I am doing what I love being home with my kids. Someday I will rejoin the professional world with new wisdom, empathy, and enthusiasm. An educated mom is an asset to her child, whether or not she stays home. We expect basic education for professional caregivers so why is a well educated mom a waste?
I love your videos and really really loved your comments about fluidity in life choices and giving yourself grace with plastic balls. I’m 33, a wife, mother of 2, small business owner, and an author and wish I knew that so much earlier in life!!
Could also be teething.. I may try the slightly warm rice sock..any suggestions are welcome
I just have my bachelor's degree, and worked in the field until my oldest was 5.5 y.o. Now that I stay home I don't know how I made life run at all while working! I am so grateful for the blessing of getting to be home for my children while they grow. Not everyone gets the opportunity to in this world of double income standards.
Hello! Just wanted to say that I really enjoy your content. Your opinions, personality, humor, silliness, honestly, values and character are inspiring. Thank you for taking the time to share as I can only imagine how busy your life is.
All the best to you!
Try to find the book “just go the 🤯sleep. Great book, solves nothing but you can laugh about it
Elizabeth Lambert especially since the audiobook is narrated by Samuel L Jackson!
My kid sleep secrits is letting them cry keep putting them back and keep to a rutien and when all else fales lock yourself in the bathroom and cry till you are ready to tackle it lol. My daughter i messed up and didnt keep her on a rutine but i am not making the same mistakes with my son. My daughter is now 9 and my son is 7 months.
I think fatigue is a major indicator anything is wrong at all (even if it is just because you're pregnant). It's how I knew I had coronavirus. I had been having trouble sleeping and that night I had been able to get to sleep and get enough, I woke up feeling so much better. My boyfriend had woken up very groggy, which I was a bit suspicious of. When I went to work I was doing my normal tasks easily compared to sleep deprived me for a few hours and then suddenly fatigue began to overcome me and this feeling something was wrong and I needed to rest set in. I knew something was wrong, and shortness of breath quickly followed. I wanted to sit down so bad, so I took my break when it came in like 10 minutes and decided to work out how to tell her I needed to go home without freaking everybody out, then I sat by myself wearing my uncomfortable mask and went home. I felt so awful from that first moment. I knew before I got the results what it would be.
Luckily I follow the mask requirements as much as I can and I work in an isolated position, I wash my hands often because of cold and flu season as well; I've had the flu like three times this year because I had not had it more than a few times in 10 years and all these people come in and touch my hands. They disinfected after I left.
Omg yes! Please do a collab with Colleen! I lover her & you!
My favorite professor in college got a PhD and MD at the same time. She then practiced for 4 years before becoming a SAHM. I was like damnnn that's a lot of time and money but she seemed super happy
Excellent point. You paid for your education. It is up to you to use it in a career or stay at home and use it in your personal life. That’s the great thing about paying for your own education; you own it out right. 👍👍
Congratulations on being close to college loan debt freedom!!! I Tweeted to Colleen B for you, hope she's in a fun mood. 😁
We are raising our granddaughter and I just retired. I am less tolerant than when I was younger. I did a module on intentional parenting. Now when I am irritated by the noise and activity, I tell her that I love her. That way I am not overreacting and I am telling her what I really feel.
Do a collab with Dr. Hope!!! You and Dr. Hope would be amazing in a video together!!!!!!
Yes! Dr. Hope is awesome
How long has it taken you/will it take you to pay off your med school loans?
Oh my goodness YES! I have crippling fatigue every pregnancy and not really much nausea.
Have you ever seen "The Mindy Project"? What do you think about the depiction of OB GYN there? I guess it's a comedy and not meant to be realistic, but I feel like they missed an opportunity there. Plus Mindy was always the only female OB GYN in her practice and that puzzled me. If you ever get a chance, the Mindy Project would be an interesting show to comment on.
I’ve wondered the same thing, and I think it would be really cool to hear her comments on it if she has seen the show!!! I don’t think there is anything wrong with the fact that it doesn’t have a lot of medical content though.
Omg imagine a miranda sings video where mama doctor jones tries to teach her where babies come from or something. Or what MDJ does in her job being explained to Miranda Sings
Shannon King YES YES YES!
MDJ, I agree that you have to pick your battles or you'll be fighting and angry all the time. Nobody needs that, or wants it. It's ok to need help and to depend on others, especially dads. You are one person and you just cannot do everything yourself. When you're exhausted focusing on what has to be done is the only sane solution and letting the other things be taken over by family and friends is the right thing to do. I wish more moms would let the not so important stuff hit the back burner or be delegated when they just can't do everything.
Child care is expensive, you're right, mortgage expensive.
There is no secret to sleep. Some kids sleep well and some don't. I have no clue why or how to fix it. My son wasn't a good sleeper until he got to be about 3. He was a fussy baby and a fussy sleeper. It turned out he had GERD and that could have caused sleep problems. Then he was like clockwork. They had to wake him in kindergarten b/c he really liked his naps. He was also a very active sleeper. I'd put him to bed and he would wake up with his feet on his pillow and his head at the foot of his bed. I caught him turning around one night and he was completely asleep, sat up, laid back down the opposite direction.
I was lucky to only be a little nauseated my first 13 weeks. After my son was born, I didn't know you could be that tired and still be alive. I was so happy when he gave up the 2 am feeding, I can't express the relief of getting 5 hours of sleep in a row. I had to get up and pump a little at first to relieve pressure, as by then I had become quite the cow. I started out as a rather small B, but breastfeeding turned me into a EE, and I've never gone below a C afterward.
I wasn't fortunate to have more than one child. I'm O neg, my hubby is O pos and my son is O pos. I got the shots, but I couldn't get pregnant again. Most people I know with O neg only manage one child, two if they are in their early twenties, but they're not close together.
Is RH neg a barrier to getting pregnant even with the shots? In my limited experience it seems to be.
How do you feel about patients purchasing fetal monitors to use at home?
I rented a fetal monitor during my 3rd pregnancy. I had a subchorionic hemorrhage and a lot of bleeding. My anxiety level was high and it was very reassuring to listen to his fetal heart tones before bed every evening. I just needed to know that he was still there before I fell asleep. I worked for several years as an L&D nurse so using the Doppler was easy for me. It alleviated a lot of angst for me and was very reassuring. My little guy is a completely healthy 5 year old now and I'm so glad that technology was available.
I am right there with you on the no morning sickness but debilitating fatigue thing. It's bad enough that I'm thinking of just leaving my job next time. Especially if I still have this long commute. That just won't be safe.
I impulsively tweeted this to Colleen the instant you said something bc you guys are my literal 2 favorite humans and I watch y’all religiously!
So cool going back and watching this knowing you have collabed with Colleen!
OMG the fatigue!! I made it through vet school and internship and was very proficient at being sleep deprived...then during my first trimester I was so incredibly tired no matter how much I slept! Then once baby was here, I was super proficient at being sleep deprived again!
I love how much of a dork you are! Gives me hope that I can be a good and dorky lady MD! XD
Do a collaborative video about miscarriage! Miscarriage seems to be shrouded in mystery but it's super common. There are so many types of miscarriage, many reasons why it happens, and it can be a very tough thing to get over.
Please do a colab with @Doctormike!
I know this video is a little older but what worked for my kid is the Little Ones Sleep program. They look at the science of awake times of babies. It is seriously amazing. My 16 month old sleeps from 7 to 7:30-8:00. I am totally using this program with my next kid!
Would love to see you collab with Dr Mike :)
Colleen would be great too
“we can raise awareness for pregnancy”
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Real sleep advice: if they don’t “grow out of it” get them a sleep study. I have a rare sleep disorder but was punished for years for not sleeping at night or staying awake during the day. Would have been easier on us all! Otherwise, have you tried “sleep hygiene” (have a consistent schedule) and melatonin? I’m not a fan of herbs or putting kids on things, but pediatricians recommend it sometimes...
I'm late to this video but thank you! Two years ago I busted my behind to get licensed in my field and my then-boss told me I wasted my time since I plan to stay home with my daughter. I'm still darn proud of myself for getting that certification and I hope to keep it up to date while I'm at home so I can get back to work when I'm ready. :)
OMG, I related to the fatigue. I am SAHM, so no work shifts, but I still had crippling fatigue. I couldn't do anything. So glad that you could take care of your patients.
Visit NOLA after you pay off your loans and take your kids to the Mardi Gras museum and city park. We have a lot of fun kid friendly things and we also have a lot of adult things as well.
I would personally say having larger breast makes breastfeeding harder, my son is 13 months old and my breast are still bigger then his head... I was scared I would smother him, for half his life. 😩😩