3 UPDATES: MIL & SIL Lied About me to my Husband And he Kicked me Out The House w/o Listening to..
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I met my ex "Jack" (38M) when we were both living in France in our twenties. I'm half Canadian and French, and Jack is American. He was working on his PhD, and I was living with family and interning as a photographer for a local newspaper when we met. I met him by chance at his university and was just blown away by how charming and smart he was. We met through a mutual friend, and after months of hanging out together in groups, I gathered the courage to ask him out, and he said yes. One date led to another, and we got into a relationship. Thinking about those days is so strange now because it feels like another life because of how different everything is now and how my husband changed from the brilliant, funny guy I fell in love with to the seemingly heartless and totally selfish guy he turned out to be.
He threw a pregnant woman out on the word of people he knew didnt like her. What did he expect?
Especially when said pregnant wife was in a foreign country when she got kicked out. Like really gtfo 😂😂😂
Did he know though? Every time the wife complained he made EXCUSES for them. Maybe he was in denial? I would love a follow up where one of them finally feels shame for ruining his marriage with her lies and admits that she lied about the insults and it was in fact they who were insulting her. I want to see how he would react to finding out that his mother's and sister's lies cost him his marriage AND the ability to raise his child.
@@Zurround People like this never admit any culpability, as their clearly psochiopathic Narcissists and racist/elitists to boot. Not even on their death beds would they admit it. OP'S kids better off never meeting those walking diaper stains.
@@Zurround he’s awful. Throwing out his pregnant wife is just plain awful.
He was just as toxic, it's all the same.
Op husband is going to regret how he let his family miss treat her when the truth comes out about his sister and mother.
It's not shocking to see how women behave.😂😂😂
No, they’ll still find a way to make OP the villain.
Let's hope for the babies sake that the major stupidity on the paternal side isn't hereditary!
You can see the red flag older brother and his family is very far away
@@30WallEra the man in this story is a POS too.
They claimed she was talking about being a superior European while being half Canadian? Maybe they take South Park too seriously?
Why didn’t she just say “ How could your sister understand my conversation since my Mom and I speak in French?” mike drop.
Yeah, many mistakes in this red neck from a half French Canadian
I hope Op is hyper vigilant. It wouldn’t surprise me if Jack &/or his mom would try to kidnap that little girl. She should start from a very early age to teach the daughter to be careful-- not to scare her but to teach her safety. This would include showing her pictures of grannydearest, auntypoo & the awful dad
If ex wife does that - and l agree she has reason- ex husband could go to court and claim she is poisoning the child's mind against him and HER primary custody rights could be threatened. Be careful who you chose to have children with because child custody laws in the US are a minefield .
She actually has to get legal guardianship if the child. Otherwise he could take the child legally.
Canadian border patrol are suuuuper harsh when it comes to children. He would need to provide documentation that he had permission to take her over the border. My mom needed to show my sisters dads death certificate to take her with us to Disneyland.
I'm glad this worked out for her but this isn't the case in every state in the country. She's got to know that custody rights differ from state to state and it is not as clear cut as you might think it is.
Op taking about brother in law and his wife living on the other side of the country
Me: HmMmm... I wOnDeR wHy
Yeah, no wonder he left
Exactly my question! They could have warned her though! 😮
@@nedraenglish6362That would be helpful, but the running gag with these stories are people ignoring every glaring red flag until they're swimming in red flags.
A pity they didn't warn her.
Had I been in OP's shoes, I would have made sure that Jack's life and his mother and sister's dirty laundry were aired to the public in US. I would have made his life so miserable, that both his personal and professional life would have been living hell. I know many women who have done this, they perfectly fit the quote "Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned".
I love women as my mother, grandmother, wife, sister, daughter, and friends. Without them, I don't exist, they are the life of this world.
He wasn’t even there to sign the birth certificate and really thought he was gonna get custody? He didn’t even ask where she went to stay when he kicked her out but we supposed to believe he gaf about the child he didn’t ask about till months after being born…. Honestly glad she got full custody cus they probably would have treated that child exactly how they treat op. Truly the dummest boy in all the land. What. A. Fool.
And I bet he blames his mom & SIL for all his woes! Like HE didn't have a choice in any of this! He will die alone.
That’s the problem is that when women decide to play God like this and do not allow men to be on birth no they’re not going to get custody of their child and even if Jack could not get Kirsty he should’ve been able to have rights. A child. Jesus deserves to have a father in the life, and it is not about the mother, and I really do believe that you can have super various contacts first, and then if Jack proves to be a good father, then he can carry on having access to his daughter.
@@vickyfisher-bz4jj You think ANY child deserves a father and grandmother like THEM?!
Can you imagine the abuse MIL would heap on that kid? The neglect and enabling of MIL her dad would allow? That kid would be in HELL and probably contemplest ending it all, if it had anything to do with those two!
Sorry to say but if this story is in the US like they claim the husband is considered the father and will almost certainly receive partial custody or visitation if he wants it. US courts want the child to have a relationship with both parents regardless of the problems between the parents. It is almost impossible to get a judge to agree to no contact with a parent. That is why I say this story is bs and comes from Asia, where custody almost ALWAYS goes to the mother and she has total control over things like when and if the father can see the child.
@@lindasavelle1731 Don't forget, it also depends on which state this happened in. And no, this can happen. It happened to a person I know. He took a two week vacation with his asshole friends when she was due in maybe three weeks. She begged him not to go, but he ignored her. Long story short, her water rose early (from stress), she had to get an emergency c-section, they both nearly died and his ass couldn't be reached. He got back to divorce papers, a half empty house and a complete loss of parental rights, as she put 'father unknown' on the certificate (his mom was just so pissed at him and took her side. It was his moms idea to write that) he lost it all, because he couldn't be bothered to answer his phone. He did get rights. Eventually, but got zero help from family and the friends he'd been with didn't help him at all.
We're going to need an update when OPs ex husband reaches out to apologize, once he realizes what toxic people his mother and sister are and that they lied.
He was no better than his mom and sister, and he was also stupider than they were since he fell for their obvious lies.
The xenophobia from his family backfired and his callous behaviour to his pregnant wife sunk him
American chauvinism writ large.
“You two have a choice. You both can admit to your lies and sincerely apologize, or I will air everything online, even how you kicked out a pregnant woman, and all your lies. Plus, all three of you will never meet the baby, ever. Your choice.”
Watch as realization dawns upon them that they screwed themselves over, royally.
1. Fight OP, fight for your kiddo. He trusted his family's lies over OP.
Is it me or does it seem off that they would say a foreigner called them dirty rednecks? That’s an American thing and can’t picture so someone from France or Canada saying that. He might be used to hearing it in the states, but foreigners aren’t…hence the thought of it being off. 🤷🏼♀️
Yeah, most Europeans don’t know what a redneck is. I have friends in Poland, France, England, Spain and Ireland, and the first time I posted a redneck engineering meme from Reddit onto our group server (we all met through roleplaying) a lot of them asked me what tf a redneck is LMAO
1. Well that establishes that you are SMARTER than the HUSBAND in this story
2. Even though they were lying it is possible that she at some point learned the term. I do not speak French beyond just a few words but if I really did not like a French person I might put effort into LEARNING their insults so its still POSSIBLE that she would say that even if somewhat unlikely.
Yeah but there is no equivalent in french to dirty rednecks, I mean in translation, so the husband is stupid.
I am Canadian, I was just thinking the same thing , but I thought she might have adopted some American ways.
We have rednecks in Canada as well.@@disabledbabe
All I was thinking is good luck trying to get a child that is born in an other country living there back to your country I didn't think he had a shot from the jump to win this case even if he was married to her there is no proof of that he's the father without a DNA test and when the test comes back that he's the father you don't think Canada is going to fight for their citizens that is living with there with the mother in Canada 🤣
Really stupider then a box of pebbles 🤦🏾♀️. They are dumb lol
I love all the stories with updates. I feel for OP. Jack and his family are terrible.
The writer often puts "updates " in to make the story seem more authentic . Reddit these days is almost entirely fiction and unless you have messages with addresses in the story it is an imaginary work
Don’t expect to ex to ever apologize.
At this point it’s beyond pride and now it’s a matter of self preservation.
This man destroyed his whole life on hearsay. He knew who his wife was, he knows who his family are, he sees how they treated her, but he still let them convince him his wife was a different person.
He saw what they did to her and let it happen, he saw them lying about her and he let it happen. Hell he even participated because he need to keep the facade in his mind up, if he doesn’t, well the only answer is…
He is completely and utterly stupid, a heartless monster, and a spineless coward.
He won’t accept that, he can’t, so he’ll never apologize.
narrator-thank you so much for your reading. you are the first reader who does it so well and your pronunciation is wonderful
Your stories are interesting, but your reading of them is the very best ever! It's obvious that you look over the material before you present it, and you have read enough in your own life to be able to properly pronounce the words and phrase the sentences. Thank you.
Honestly at that point I’d go the REALLY vindictive rout and be like, “sure that’s your kid?” Lol
women destroying other women's lives terrible.
Hopefully, op priorities the well being of her daughter over any relationship. OP should learn that sometimes loving someone too much is not enought, she needs to make sure that the feeling is mutual or she will be back here again in just a few years time complaining
These stories never make any sense to me. How is saying that you are having difficulty living in a different COUNTRY OR GEOGRAPHIC REGION equatable to a direct or even indirect insult against your family just because they are natives of that country? Moving long distances to an unfamiliar place is difficult and scary and takes some adjustment.
For example, I live in the wine country of North California and if someone were to move here to stay with me from Arizona and I were to overhear them saying that adjusting to so much RAIN and COLD (our winters get pretty chilly, the grapes are grown in the summer mostly) is difficult for them or if they were to mention something about Arizona that they miss there is no way in HELL I would consider that an attack against ME PERSONALLY.
I really do not understand how anyone can equate difficulty adjusting to a new GEOGRAPHIC ENVIRONMENT with a DIRECT ATTACK ON THEM PERSONALLY. Can someone please help me understand this? Due to my autistic spectrum condition social situations are confusing to me?
Some people be ignant. That's all you have to know. There is no rational reason for it so don't tire your brain cells out trying to find the rationale.
People don't make sense. But in this case, MIL and SIL know deep down that they are redneck trash and project that awareness onto anyone who says anything remotely negative. When someone says, "You think you're better than me", it reveals their own insecurities. On top of this, they are prejudiced against foreigners.
My dear, people will use any crap or excuse make sure they will be believed. My family and i had just gone throughsomething similar for full custody of a little girl. And believe me the total idiotic crap the exes family came up with was really laughable. Human nature sometime floors me. Glad OP won the battle.
Living your life to the fullest is the best revenge..😊
Her ex is a drama queen. Not a man. His family is definitely full of hate and rage. Don't understand why ex believed the bs given by his family.
This is how court cases should work!
Well that's karma he chooses, to treat his wife and daughter horribly and allowing his family to treat them horribly too, like sir you have no excuse for any of this if there was a any problems he should have put his, big boy pants on and investigate himself, seriously jack deserve to be alone because no women needs to, have him as a partner nor have his family as in-laws so to heII with them.
Keep your child from those toxic inlaws
Why would she put him on the birth certificate ?
Your sister in law was most definitely jealous of you!
I love listening to your voice. You really make my day. ❤😊
I wonder if BIL had and part in this.
GUESSING..
Jack
F.A.F.O.
Good for the ex-wife!!
Mama Bear engaged!
Just wishing you good luck in the future. Totally baffled by your husband and in-laws. Some people just aren’t good at heart. No way to change that.
Gotta love karma
Guys like that are married to their mothers.
I am not saying that op is in the wrong here. But she definitely didn't make herself look good when she was trying to defend herself when the mother-in-law and sister-in-law were calling her a liar after she lied to get them all to come over😂
Lmao she deserves to be petty for the shit she went through. 😂
What about your now ex brother-in-law and his wife you said they were nice would you let them see your daughter if they ask
I don’t think so! They would kidnapped the little girl and would not return her back to her own mother. Instead they raised her with lies and manipulation to hate her own mother. Also be liked exactly liked them as in personality and nature alike.
@@lhuynh731Exactly.
That other family should not even be allowed SUPERVISED VISITATION RIGHTS much less FULL OR EVEN PARTIAL CUSTODY. I have a belief that a mother and child are a "package deal" and it is not possible to love one of them if you are abusing the other. The family abused her, verbal abuse, passive aggression and slander for starters and the ONLY reason she did not suffer EVEN MORE ABUSE AND A LOT OF IT was how quickly she moved away and got divorced.
As soon as people are abusing the mother of a child that is proof that they do NOT love the child. Goes both ways. It is impossible to love a woman AND abuse her child.
I guess I could make a one in a million exception to that rule if the person being abused was a terrible person who really deserved the abuse. I guess in the fictional world of STAR WARS a person could abuse Darth Vader (Maybe only Yoda and Palpatine could get away with that) and still love Luke Skywalker.
That's not the law , hon. Trust me I've had friends who tried to get no contact custody for good reason and the husband still got visitation rights. Picks up the child every weekend or so and takes her to grandma's. This story is either lying about being from the US or the writer is totally ignorant about the court system here.
@@lindasavelle1731the OP is from Canada and it’s different when a child is a not a us citizen.
@@brandinicole1372 if a child is born in the US it is automatically a US citizen. Doesn't matter the nationality of the mother or father.
@@lindasavelle1731 kid was not born in the US. She went directly back to Canada when she was kicked out. She stated that her family had to send money to get her back.
@@brandinicole1372 Even if the child's not a US citizen, his father is. The father was LEGALLY married to the mother when the child was concieved. In other words, the child comes out of that marraige. Under both US and Canadian law he is the child's parent
IF she brings the child back to the US crap father could ask for custody, whatever the citizenship. If father goes to Canada he would probably get visitation at the very least. In the US, in Canada, in the EU the primary concern of the courts is not parents rights, but the right of the child to the support of both parents. In both the US AND Canada she would have to prove extraordinary circumstances to keep the ex totally away from the child. Canadian courts are so concerned with a child having a relationship with both parents that the custodial parent is not allowed to move long distances from the non custodial parent. SO in this story, if ex husband should go to Canada and establish some sort of residency, he is very likely to get some sort of custody.
And Ex himself never abused OP. It is only in Asia where the mother can dictate whether or not her child sees his father. It's only in Asia where a child born AFTER divorce "belongs " to the mother only, only in Asia where the custodial parent has complete control over a child .
Since when is Canada a European country?
Anything can be anything if you only care about putting out quantity content, and not quality, chatgpt doesn’t care about continuity lol
Guess they are dumb rednecks.
She originally met him in France and she said she was Canadian/French
😀😆😅🤣
Send proof of the lawsuit for custody to his boss, then warn them you plan on suing the family for abuse and abandonment. Watch the three freak out
It is sad. These people make Americans look bad. We are not all like this.
OP husband will beg for another chance
His mom and sister did not manipulate him. He wanted out.
I hate hate hate these stories that pretend others are giving their opinions, total waste of time, I'll make sure to stop listening next time I realize that's part of the story
Story 1) im confused, i thought ops ex was happy about the pregnancy. They even got married early. Then in update 1 she says "he was unhappy about the pregnancy"?
I suspect that the father WILL be granted rights to his daughter at some level. Stay calm and listen to your lawyer so that you don’t lower yourself to his family’s level.
Lets hope the toxic gorgon never gets to meet any of her grandchildren.. So she's left knowing she caused her own loss. Jack knows the truth, that's why he's a better man when away from his parent, he's so attached he can't be himself around her, he becomes her mouth piece.
Another Swiss cheese story. Jack and family suck. That said, How did she not see what Mil and Sil were doing ? Why did she allow AH momma’s boy boyfriend to gaslight her when there were obvious signs ? Why didn’t she look for a job immediately so she wouldn’t have to stay there for three months? Since she mentioned not getting married till finances were better why was she not on birth control or him for that matter since he didn’t want children yet? For the record she left, he did not kick her out. She packed her bags and went to Canada. During the divorce process and settlement why her lawyer not ask for financial support yet complained about not having any? Why did she not let the lawyers did the AH and his family rather go back to their home to confront him and tearing up the letter ( bs drama ) stating it was satisfying and empowering. And how on earth could she possibly take away his parental rights? That’s almost impossible based on this story . Even full custody would be difficult and that’s not the same thing at all. Too many holes in this story. And don’t say I’m knit picking because if I was I would ask where did she get the money to get to Canada, who paid the rent,expenses and the wedding? How did he know where to mail the letter and who paid for her two lawyers? Swiss cheese
nah op,your mom IS right about the ex SIL that family is filled with emotional incest and you best steer way clear of that dumpster fire.
Single mom raising a future single mom
Imagine threatening to take the baby, she’s better off with them but then turn around and tell her that it’s wrong to keep the baby from them. What? That’s exactly what you were trying to do 😂.. Not only that, but the way he changed, do you think she can trust that if she did let baby visit them that they’d ever give her back? Wild
I’d leave the country
Why the hell did she go back over their
I'm not the best at geography but I do believe that canada is not part of europe
NTA
There’s no way his parental rights were terminated that easily. Especially when he was never abusive to the child or even OP. Courts in this country are all about family reunification.
Yeah it's surprising - or maybe it's a good sign? - that so many people are ignorant of child custody laws in the US. I've had friends who've tried, with good reason , to get no contact custody and husbands got visitation. Maybe if you can prove child sexual abuse but I know of one case where the husband still got Supervised visitation. Mother lives in constant fear. Makes me wonder if this story is BS and if the writer is from Asia. In Asia custody almost always goes to the mother and she has total control over the child.
Thank you for saying this. There IS no way parental custody is terminated this easily.
OP’s baby was born in Canada. She went back there and gave birth without him present, and he’s not on any of the baby’s legal documents. She also had recorded evidence and visual proof of the abuse. Were you even listening towards the end? OP is not in the US any more.
In some courts, he never acted as a father. My brother had his rights terminated to his first child for this reason. Not only did he abandon his young wife to run the streets, but the courts saw that he never acted as a father. Demanding to see a child he never planned to provide for cut that off. He didn't help with medical expenses, he didn't buy a diaper. She showed messages that she asked for him to help with the delivery and he insisted on a paternity test. In the states, he was ruled the defacto father by marriage and his refusal to act as such when he was already a father cut that off. And he was given the chance. He still pays child support but he has no legal rights. This was 14 years ago. He now has more kids and a baby mama drama and I know he regrets abandoning his wife by extension the child he was legally obligated to care for.
Nta
4:30 Someone spends most of his life in Canada, consequently does not know how people from the continent called America are, probably because Canadians are from a different continent😂😂
Monroe doctrine still going strong.😂
Canada is part of North America. Are you kidding. Lol
@@ocean3237 let me guess, sarcasm and irony are not in your vocabulary, are they?
@@azazelreficulmefistofelicu7158 clearly ignorance is not as well
I will never support the mother taking away a father's parental rights simply because their marriage didn't work out so what if he was stupid enough to believe what his mom and sister said he is still that child's father you may not like him but being manipulated by his evil mother does not mean he is not capable of loving his child it is not okay to take a child away from a parent simply because you don't like them being abused by his own mom because of the way she manipulates him with lies. At the end of the day the court should decide whether or not he deserves to be in his daughter's life and we all know that the courts are biased towards women and against men that the family court system is extremely misandristic. Social likely get what she wants and another father Willie's access to his child once again and she will probably toxify that child against her father so that she will never want anything to do with him because that's usually how it works.
Too long and tedious
Average story, 😢.
Absolutely no in this story this is really really wrong. She chose not to put the father on the birth certificate so legally he has no right with regards to his child he can prove just because she gave birth to this child automatically. She gets everything this is wrong. I agree that maybe the in-laws should not be but that is so wrong not to give Jack a chance to be a father automatically. The mother gets to be mother because she just carries a child for nine months and gives birth that is completely wrong whatsoever 100% only because she did not put the child on the father of the birth certificate is the reason why he does not be able to be able to see his child. This is wrong
I think it’s really really wrong to deny a child from his father, and to deny father from his child, it’s completely wrong and in this instant is in the wrong wrong, 100%
I would say that you could have supervised access to begin with and if he can prove to be a father yet he can have every other weekend and go back to court. I think it’s so wrong because there was an argument with a fight okay and they both kicked off. That’s completely agree that the in-laws are ridiculous and wrong completely
But I really dislike it when women do this, when they choose to play and do not put the father on the birth of God, even though he’s a legal father he has the right to be the father of that child
We know you aren't talking exactly about this story and is obviously mixing it with something else when they made clear in their story that the child is a girl and you keep using male pronouns... His father? Who's father? I'm sure you aren't talking about the girl's father, so tell me what are you mixing with that story, something that happened in your life? In a friend's life?
Are you the sister in law?
Your mother and sister tell you things about your wife. You have known them all your life and your wife for a fraction of that time. Disney tells you to trust your wife but we know what happens to a lot of men who have done that. Cut the man some slack and think realistically about what you would do.
Do you know what is it to have wisdom and know when and how to react in each station.
Just don't get married and be with your family all of your life, simple.
A man who let his pregnant wife outside without money? For people need to cut slack?
If you have a wife I'm sad for her.
Nope. Will not cut the idiot husband any slack at all. He was married to her and up to the point where he took her home to mommy dearest there was no problem. He had actually been a witness to how his sister and mother talked about her behind her back in the story where they went to show the sonogram. But he sure forgot about that pretty quickly. No he is an idiot and a AH and he deserved to be divorced. Hope he ends up spending the rest of his life being a Buttboy to his toxic mother and sister and leave unsuspecting woman alone.
Ok!! Think realitically you say. Hmmm . 1. I would never just blindly believe my family just because they are. Because they are my family, i should know them and kind of people they are. 2. I would try and find the truth for myself. 3. I would never support them if they are in the wrong.
Believe me, my family knows not to depend on me when they are full of crap. I dont care whether your my mother, sister, brother or my child. If you are wrong, i will match right over to the innocent party and stand with them even if i know them for only a couple of months. My family knows i will fight for them, but then they have to be really truthfull and honest and in the right.
@@patpaiz5693 Exactly ! He himself had witnessed how his mother and sister talked trash about OP and had no evidence of their claims against OP ...yet he still accepted their word against OP. It is just not logical that he believed them ,family or not , when his knowledge of their behavior shoots down any of their credibility. He should have told them that he can't give their claims against his wife or any of their motives in presenting them any validation having no proof of it , especially after having witnessed himself their negative behavior and trash talking his wife. He should have demanded that they genuinely apologize to OP. He also should have made the boundary that no such negative behavior or trash talk will be tolerated going forth, period ..and he will be watching and scrutinizing them very closely from now on. You can't cut him any slack for that stupidity or for throwing out his pregnant wife because of it and actively abandoning her and their child.
OP is not that great a parent either. She lacks impulse control. In response to Jacks letter she flew over for a confrontation? How unhinged is that? Imagine her daughter doing the same later in life...
What would you have suggested she do instead? Write a response letter?
@@wordeeone4996 Right and again that would have accomplished what ? A response letter basically telling him " You will take my child over my dead body !" would have only have lead to more letters back and forth arguing. They still would had ended up majorly battling in the courts as they did after all of the wasteful back and forth nonsense. How else was she supposed to react to his letter demanding she give up her daughter but to go right into mama bear mode and then to America to deal directly with him ? This wasn't a dispute over some trivial thing like a household appliance. This was a very serious matter about a possible threat of her CHILD being taken away so OP wasn't overreacting or behaving "unhinged" at all in going to direct confrontation here. This was about OP as a mother taking control of the situation to firmly establish her firm boundaries with her ex and determine the possible battle lines she would need to know going forth.
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Father's are not second class citizens. OP is right to divorce him, but using the kid as a pawn for revenge makes me wonder if OP is really as good and right as she says.
Do you honestly think he’s fit to take care of a when he can’t stand up to his family. No one that cruel and spineless deserves to be a parent.
@@brandinicole1372 weather he deserves it or how good he is at it doesn't change that he's the father. He isn't abusive, just spineless. And OP is using the kid for revenge because she's upset with him. She doesn't sound like a good parent either.
@@brettemiller8046 a spineless person that can’t be trusted to protect the woman he married is extremely problematic. He didn’t show up for the birth of his daughter. He allowed his family to verbally abuse her and because of that she was thrown out on the street pregnant in a foreign country. There’s no judge that would side with him and the proof is there. Protecting her child is top priority he only fought in court because mommy said so. What child would be safe with a weak willed parent and parental alienation is a thing and I wouldn’t put it past his mommy and sister to try it.
We don't know if jack's mother and sister had planted doubts that the kid is his... So why would they want the child anyways, to bully???
@@brettemiller8046 And that's not even the biggest problem with this story. It's when she says that ex husband was totally denied his parental rights. In the US, in Canada it is almost impossible to totally terminate someone's parental rights. The law in both countries want children to have a relationship with both parents. In both countries the ex would I guarantee you, recieve some sort of visitation. Should he? Not for me to say. It's just the way it is.
*TLDR* : at first you were the victim & still are, but so was the husband so let him see his kids
I am NOT defending the ex in any way
But he does have paternal rights & it does seem like a massive dick move to just refuse the guy his own kid
Im sure you could set up some system of the child never seeing your ex MIL/SIL while still visiting their father because honestly, that kinda makes you out to be a massive prick
Plus the husband seems to be heavily gaslit by his family, especially since he got much worse once back with them
He wasn't happy that she got pregnant. He doesn't deserve parental rights. This is almost as dumb as laws giving rapists parental rights. Furthermore, he abandoned his child when he kicked his pregnant wife out with nowhere to go.
If he wants parental rights, then he should pay the child support. No child support, no parental right. Besides, his ex is an asshole, the way he claims what's his is rude as if he has the decency of small grains. It's up to the laws and the courts to grant him or not. Besides, you are lacking a reading comprehension if you don't understand a bit, the father wants a full parental right to avoid paying for a child support based on my opinion, if she demands a child support, her ex will run away faster than cockroaches.
Op: he's an American
Me: THERES YOUR RED FLAG RIGHT THERE....😅😅😅
Honestly is disgusted with OP terminating parental rights. If he had been violent, sure, but it just seems like she is vindictive. OP should have custody, but I believe the father should have supervised visitations.
Sounds like someone’s guilty.
@@Nerdbookworm yeah, we've found someone with the same mindset as the father. plus, not being able to predict exactly what the father would tell the child.
The parental alienation from his family would amount to abuse for the child
@@jamie151-d9jI mean, the father and MIL was trying to do the same thing.
So by this you want her to come to the states so this person can just visit for what an hour. Please. Remember she's in Canada.