I LOVE IT. By saying that he was effing one of his employees even though she (and maybe him too not sure) were MARRIED could damage him professionally once those rumors get out. And on the topic of suing I wonder if the OP could have also sued that MONSTER IN LAW?
Or a boyfriend who is a badass. My fantasy is next time he shows up to harass her her new boyfriend is there with her and he is a professional MMA fighter or a 4th degree black belt in some martial art or maybe a pro boxer. Something along those lines. Her pathetic pantywaste of an ex had better stock up on bottles of LOTION because that will be the closest thing to a relationship he will be capable of.
It goes show how different worlds they come from her ex mother is super toxic that caused her break-up and her parents put their differences aside to support their daughter during a difficult time.
I've never understood why men think that the co-owned house belongs to them. She could have called the cops and had them remove him for domestic violence. And she shouldn't have made her insane MIL her own problem. He thought he could keep all of the assets, what a 🤡
No excuse for husband and his mother. Do not take him back. Tell him your actions are due to anger and he can kiss off Never ever take him back. When he eventually gets involved with another woman. Let her know what’s in store for her in the future. Ex husband and his mommy deserve each other.
But this OP is so self-defeating that she thought the hatred of MIL to OP was none her husband’s business. It’s interactions with his wife and his mother but OP says it has nothing to do with him. Isn’t her stupidity the heart of the problem rather than anywhere (or anyone) else? This line of thinking really proves OP is socially inept at the very best: dumb as dirt most would say. Sure, the others are not saints but OP is 100% responsible for the relationship being so toxic leaving hubby no opportunity to get involved, do something healthy, get talking to his mom about her issues. She caused it to fester and become nasty by ignoring it. There’s no way she’s a victim. There’s no way she’s better than the other two. Everybody sucks hard.
No excuse for OP either. She was too immature and lacked communication by choice. This woman full on threatened her marriage. Love is not an acceptable reason it was wrong to keep this from him from the go. This isnt victim shaming. The MIL is the most to blame but OP is as much to blame as husband for immaturity. Oh la di da I love him I would never want to pit him against his mother for love. Fk that noise. That isnt you pitting him against his mom that is you communicating with your husband/partner that his mother has full on decided of her own valition to hate you and break you up. She decided to be enemy to your union and he is your ties to this dreadful woman and it is ONLY his job to handle MIL. Not OP. She was niave and ridiculous and should have stuck to her guns about not getting married. Where he failed was how he reacted to the MILs meddling. Had he known ahead of time he could have not only could he have defended her reason for saying no to proposal to MIL she wasnt going to listen to OP. Yes crazy MIL often dont listen to their kids either but they would have been a united front. A team. Because that is how marriage works. His response of being unwilling to hear her for a few days as this man had 0 clue there was any issue or motive for his mother to do this THANKS TO OP. He had a picture and his mom painting more of a picture. I can see saying I cant believe you would do this to me I dont want to talk to you and even just being silent and giving her the silent treatment until he calmed down enough to talk. Threatening to get violent and kicking her out was his ONLY mistake in this. It was severely bad enough to divorce his @ss I agree with that as him being mad makes him a danger as hes shown. However neither of them communicated her out of sheer naiveté and lack of maturity and him out of lack of maturity. Again I digress this was not simply his mom being angry over a misunderstanding she full blown told her she would blow up their relationship and parents are a big part of most peoples lives you cant just be stupid and go "I cant believe he believed his mother over me". Yes your partner becomes your family and your parents extended family when you marry however this doesnt make them like cousins etc. They are still the closest extended family you have along with siblings. She still had his trust and underestimating that was pure willful ignorance because who doesnt know that? MILs actions should have broken trust but he HAD NO CLUE thanks to OP. She handed mother in law the genade essentially. Shes as much to blame. Everyone had their part. MIL the most of it as she was set out to destroy their marriage. The other two were just being willfully stupid.
@@Jasonfallen71MIL is most to blame by being malicious but husband and wife are equally to blame. OP handed her the grenade to blow up her marriage. Husband only screwed up by going nuclear. Silent treatment until he could calm the fk down to speak calmly would be understandable since he had 0 reason not to trust MIL thanks to OP. Believing she cheated without talking to her was understandable for the same reason and cheaters lie. They will double down even if you showed a picture or security video of them fking they would still say its not me. However had he been able to calmly tell her off but hear her out so he knows her end maybe said lets go to therapy or something. That would be one thing he could find out where things went wrong. Instead he yelled, screamed, threatened violence, and kicked her out immediately. Even if she had cheated its only smart to hear the other person. If you have undeniable evidence (which he didnt have) its still her house too. You have to handle the issue with maturity. Not violence. He screwed up with that because what happens if she forgives him and there is another misunderstanding? He might straight up beat her up. He was also immature and handled it all wrong. Even if it wasnt a lie it would be a poor way to handle it.
During the dating phase, these women think oh he treats his mother so well, he must be a great guy, only later in the relationship do they realize how deep that attachment to his mother goes.
I believe OP has grounds for a lawsuit against mother-in-law. She has ample evidence to prove mil lied and deliberately acted to break up the marriage. If that’s not grounds for a lawsuit for emotional abuse, I don’t know what is.
This husband is just as crazy as his mother, good thing there are no children involved. If husband is prone to rage outbursts if things aren't going his way he might one day have physically harm her. She should send her ex -MIL flowers and a card thanking her for making her see what a nutcase husband was and giving her the incentive for getting off that crazy train.
OP should tell her ex mil next time she contacts OP that the ex's breakdown is all mil's fault and to enjoy the pain and misery mil has has created in son's life, that she has shown son what a wonderful mother she is.
The heart is like a glass bottle, containing love. Once it shatters, the love spills away while the vessel no longer has the means to contain it, or anything else for that matter. How can she love a person who did that to her? How is he going to make her love him again?
He doesn’t care if she will love him or not. He just wants her to forget all about it because it would have made his life easier. Pure selfishness on his part. And he doesn’t have the strength of character to take responsibility. She is right to have left.
Thank god OPs mother had the sense to record. I would have put that vid on socialmedia and tag every friend and familymember of OPs ex. That will shut MiL up.
While husband's behavior was inexcusable, OP knew from the beginning that her MIL had it in for her yet didn't tell her husband about any of it. If she had, maybe he would've put his mother in her place and the divorce could've been avoided.
She made the right choice NOT canceling the divorce. He had shown his true character and if she went back to him he would be great for a while but at some point he would fly off the handle again. What is more, you would have that mother in law in your life. I would not take him back but for anyone who would consider doing so, I would make one of my conditions him fully and absolutely disowning the mother in law and if I were to find out that he had visited or talked with her AT ALL that I would treat it as much of a betrayal as infidelity. At some point this loser will come to realize that his mother cost him his marriage (its really his fault for not listening to the OP for a few goddamn minutes) and he will cast her out of his life.
Ahhhh~... Don't you just love the "I'm sorry - wait this won't get me anything? You don't feel obligated to forgive me? Well then I'M NOT sorry, and @#$% youuuuu"!!! Type of people? Not just self-centered/delusional, but a disingenuous person altogether.
If I was OP I’d tell her stbx to treasure the last few days he had possession of his soul cause I’m about to eviscerate it and fully plan to milk him for everything the law will let me take from him
100%! Besides, once my mom knows how you've done me dirty, I truly cannot go back! My mom would clown me for an eternity! My father always said when you let someone 'slide' with gross disrespect, they will soon think they can ice skate over your boundaries going forth!
I have some cognitive disorders that make understanding certain social situations difficult. Can someone please help me out here? Isn't cheating in a relationship SEXUAL ACTIVITY with other people? Can someone please explain to me how meeting someone's BOSS at a restaurant for a BUSINESS MEETING that INCLUDES OTHER PEOPLE FROM THE BUSINESS is sexual activity? I have had business meetings myself (I am a board game designer starting up a board game company) at restaurants many times and the number of people at those meetings that I have done anything sexual with is still ZERO. Can someone please help me understand how a public BUSINESS MEETING is an act of sex? This makes no sense to me at all.
There is emotional cheating as well but the MiL told her son that OP was on a date with her boss. All the pictures showed was them in the same restaurant. She left out the part where they were meeting other people and he wouldn't listen to her when she tried to tell him that. So he kicked her out over some pictures of them at the same table or in the same area and his mothers word that they were having an affair.
The mother didn't see the other business partners and didn't know it was a business meeting. And doing any kind of things people do in romantic relationships with someone else is cheating. Not just sex.
I find the end a bit hypocritical mil of course isnt going to accept blame for her actions but wife handed her the grenade by not communicating what she had said to her husband.
Can not "not tell him so he can be happy" that was a direct threat and in all fairness its not fair to leave him unprepared. Had he known she likely wouldn't have been able to get in his head. Being aware she was on a mission. Maybe he would have listened to MIL but you dont keep shite like that from your partner. ETA here mostly MIL but husband and wife are equally so to each other. He had 0 clue what was going on for years due to wife keeping that secret. He let his mom lie to him and whereas he had no clue they had beef he didnt communicate with wife either. Neither belong married because they lack communication ON BOTH ENDS HER AS MUCH AS HIM. Doing it out of love doesnt mean it was ok to keep what his mom had done. He was going to hurt her if she didnt leave. That is unacceptable as well. They need to cut and run on both ends. Omg this woman keeps trying to screw herself. I didnt try to involve my friends so none of the friends had any fking clue about the divorce. For fks sake woman this dude is related to MIL she is fking lucky her friends believed her. Some may not have believed this and thought she was trying to save face since she said nothing she must be ashamed of the divorce. They could have ended up siding with him and she could have lost. She needs to stop omitting stuff out if being nice. This MIL declared war. Then she was in a war with ex. You cant play nice in war. With the jerk her husband turned out to be maybe he would have blown up the marriage himself however on this subject he likely would have told his MIL to stop and even defended wife. She couod have recorded MIL threats down the road. She kept him in the dark for years. That is insane to me.
MIL and husband were both at fault but OP set him up by hiding all that MIL had said and done. She didn't hesitate to tell their friends the whole story when they asked but she let her husband walk into that ambush unprepared.
Why let him talk? He never let you explain. So I would tell him I'm not interested. You showed you have no respect for me or any value. Did you even ask the restaurant workers? Or contact my boss? No. Only your mother's words were taken. Your trust in me was little. So, I'm done. I am not bending myself in many ways because you NOW feel bad.
Make sure you ask your boss to testify that the day in the restaurant was JUST a meeting. And I would make sure my ex husband knew she vowed at the wedding that she would break us up. So he gift wrapped her present. Nope! You never gave me a chance to explain. You could have asked my boss. You were very VIOLENT. So you screwed up big time. Blame it on your mother!
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While everybody's reaming on the husband,I think everyone needs to stop and think for a second if she was told and showed pictures that her husband was cheating on her everyone knows how a woman would react. she would flip out, she would probably destroy property, maybe key a car, maybe burn everything he owns. she would get angry. she would kick him out of the house. she would file for divorce. as a woman who knows lots of women who have acted exactly as the husband had, we need to stop pretending like the "husband's such a bad man because a woman would never do that" bs. he reacted in the same way any other human would react, with anger, hurt, and betrayal. no one is going to listen to you in the heat of the moment when they are angry at you. Anyone with half of a brain would say, "You know what, I'll leave, and when you're ready to talk in a few days, we'll talk." instead of just you know rushing to divorce. that's why marriages don't work because people don't communicate, they don't know how to handle arguments and fights, they don't know how to handle evil in-laws, and to be clear I am not saying that a woman should stay with a man who mistreats her at the same pace as a bad mother-in-law does. that is a time when you get divorced because it's abusive. but she didn't tell her husband about the nasty thing that his mother said to her on their wedding day. that is where the lack of communication comes in. she should have told him straight up right away and then when Mama told him this he would go straight back into the back of his mind "well, she told my wife that she would break us up one day so maybe..." you know what she should have done, was waited until he realized his mistake and then destroyed the mother-in-law but it doesn't surprise me that they just went straight to divorce because society today is too lazy to try and stick it through. And I'm saying that about both sides. I'm not just saying this about this woman. I'm just saying in general. Society is too lazy to work at making something work. it's easier to dump and move on. So like I don't think that she's an a-hole it just doesn't surprise me in the slightest because Society has been brainwashed to believe you just dump and move on, instead of being a strong husband and wife and sticking through it. Honestly, if they really loved each other, I mean really truly loved each other they would have made it through this mess. So it's obvious they didn't really love each other that much because it was very easy to break them up. The two of them are probably better off not married.
Ok, so 2:38 in she’s admitting she never spoke about what MIL said about breaking them up and “allowing” the marriage in the first place. That mean OP 1 is 100% responsible for all misunderstandings and conflict that arises due to hubby being in the dark about his mom’s behavior and nastiness. And this is irrefutable. OP ignored massive red flags refusing to alert family/friends to points of conflict. No matter what happens now it’s all on OP. She’s set up her husband to fail her by keeping him in the dark about MIL’s hatred.
Except even after he found out his mother lied and wanted to break them up from his mother's own mouth he still said he would ruin her reputation with the lie because she wouldn't get back together with him. And even IF you think k your partner is cheating that's absolutely NO reason to threaten them with bodily harm and property damage because you are angry. Nice victim blaming though. There always has to be someone there to try and justify the abusive behavior of others like you do
If a trusted family member tells you "i saw your wife holding hands and canoodling with her boss at a restaurant" its entirely reasonable for you to freak out on your wife. His reaction upon learning the truth was adequate. This chick was primed and ready to leave at the first trouble. She shouldn't have ever gotten married.
Nope. This woman had been in his life for 6(?) years and he never thought about her cheating that whole time! Why now, 2 years into the marriage? He literally OWES her the chance to defend herself but he didn't. Either he is cheating and projecting, or he is an emotional moron. If my mother tells me my husband was on a date, you better believe I'm asking him about it. Especially with her boss, whom you may logically assume the husband had met! Not all kinfolk are "family". He deserved to be left, especially since her mother knows what he did. I've never gone back to an ex once my mom knows the situation.
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If I had been the boss, I would have sued the mother and her son for defamation of character.
I LOVE IT. By saying that he was effing one of his employees even though she (and maybe him too not sure) were MARRIED could damage him professionally once those rumors get out. And on the topic of suing I wonder if the OP could have also sued that MONSTER IN LAW?
a massive hug of appreciation to OPs mother who recorded the husbands admission and rant as evidence that woman deserves a lot of praise x
Get a restraining order. That’s all she needs now.
Or a boyfriend who is a badass. My fantasy is next time he shows up to harass her her new boyfriend is there with her and he is a professional MMA fighter or a 4th degree black belt in some martial art or maybe a pro boxer. Something along those lines.
Her pathetic pantywaste of an ex had better stock up on bottles of LOTION because that will be the closest thing to a relationship he will be capable of.
He might have been cheating himself to if he was that eager to believe that of his wife.
He showed that he is his mother.
And old Southern expression is that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
It goes show how different worlds they come from her ex mother is super toxic that caused her break-up and her parents put their differences aside to support their daughter during a difficult time.
I've never understood why men think that the co-owned house belongs to them. She could have called the cops and had them remove him for domestic violence. And she shouldn't have made her insane MIL her own problem. He thought he could keep all of the assets, what a 🤡
No excuse for husband and his mother. Do not take him back. Tell him your actions are due to anger and he can kiss off Never ever take him back. When he eventually gets involved with another woman. Let her know what’s in store for her in the future. Ex husband and his mommy deserve each other.
But this OP is so self-defeating that she thought the hatred of MIL to OP was none her husband’s business.
It’s interactions with his wife and his mother but OP says it has nothing to do with him.
Isn’t her stupidity the heart of the problem rather than anywhere (or anyone) else?
This line of thinking really proves OP is socially inept at the very best: dumb as dirt most would say.
Sure, the others are not saints but OP is 100% responsible for the relationship being so toxic leaving hubby no opportunity to get involved, do something healthy, get talking to his mom about her issues.
She caused it to fester and become nasty by ignoring it.
There’s no way she’s a victim. There’s no way she’s better than the other two.
Everybody sucks hard.
@@Jasonfallen71 You are the sort of person who'd tell s*x**l assault victims they dressed sexy and had it coming.
No excuse for OP either. She was too immature and lacked communication by choice. This woman full on threatened her marriage. Love is not an acceptable reason it was wrong to keep this from him from the go. This isnt victim shaming. The MIL is the most to blame but OP is as much to blame as husband for immaturity. Oh la di da I love him I would never want to pit him against his mother for love. Fk that noise. That isnt you pitting him against his mom that is you communicating with your husband/partner that his mother has full on decided of her own valition to hate you and break you up. She decided to be enemy to your union and he is your ties to this dreadful woman and it is ONLY his job to handle MIL. Not OP.
She was niave and ridiculous and should have stuck to her guns about not getting married.
Where he failed was how he reacted to the MILs meddling. Had he known ahead of time he could have not only could he have defended her reason for saying no to proposal to MIL she wasnt going to listen to OP. Yes crazy MIL often dont listen to their kids either but they would have been a united front. A team. Because that is how marriage works. His response of being unwilling to hear her for a few days as this man had 0 clue there was any issue or motive for his mother to do this THANKS TO OP. He had a picture and his mom painting more of a picture. I can see saying I cant believe you would do this to me I dont want to talk to you and even just being silent and giving her the silent treatment until he calmed down enough to talk. Threatening to get violent and kicking her out was his ONLY mistake in this. It was severely bad enough to divorce his @ss I agree with that as him being mad makes him a danger as hes shown. However neither of them communicated her out of sheer naiveté and lack of maturity and him out of lack of maturity.
Again I digress this was not simply his mom being angry over a misunderstanding she full blown told her she would blow up their relationship and parents are a big part of most peoples lives you cant just be stupid and go "I cant believe he believed his mother over me". Yes your partner becomes your family and your parents extended family when you marry however this doesnt make them like cousins etc. They are still the closest extended family you have along with siblings. She still had his trust and underestimating that was pure willful ignorance because who doesnt know that?
MILs actions should have broken trust but he HAD NO CLUE thanks to OP. She handed mother in law the genade essentially. Shes as much to blame. Everyone had their part. MIL the most of it as she was set out to destroy their marriage. The other two were just being willfully stupid.
@@Jasonfallen71MIL is most to blame by being malicious but husband and wife are equally to blame. OP handed her the grenade to blow up her marriage. Husband only screwed up by going nuclear. Silent treatment until he could calm the fk down to speak calmly would be understandable since he had 0 reason not to trust MIL thanks to OP. Believing she cheated without talking to her was understandable for the same reason and cheaters lie. They will double down even if you showed a picture or security video of them fking they would still say its not me.
However had he been able to calmly tell her off but hear her out so he knows her end maybe said lets go to therapy or something. That would be one thing he could find out where things went wrong.
Instead he yelled, screamed, threatened violence, and kicked her out immediately. Even if she had cheated its only smart to hear the other person. If you have undeniable evidence (which he didnt have) its still her house too. You have to handle the issue with maturity. Not violence.
He screwed up with that because what happens if she forgives him and there is another misunderstanding? He might straight up beat her up. He was also immature and handled it all wrong. Even if it wasnt a lie it would be a poor way to handle it.
Seriously, what is up with the plethora of hardcore mama's boys in these relationships? How do they even manage to get married?
During the dating phase, these women think oh he treats his mother so well, he must be a great guy, only later in the relationship do they realize how deep that attachment to his mother goes.
Legit, listening to these stories keeps me out of my kids relationships unless there is a serious problem, their relationship, their business
I believe OP has grounds for a lawsuit against mother-in-law. She has ample evidence to prove mil lied and deliberately acted to break up the marriage. If that’s not grounds for a lawsuit for emotional abuse, I don’t know what is.
This husband is just as crazy as his mother, good thing there are no children involved. If husband is prone to rage outbursts if things aren't going his way he might one day have physically harm her. She should send her ex -MIL flowers and a card thanking her for making her see what a nutcase husband was and giving her the incentive for getting off that crazy train.
Girl said no two times, she should have remained firm the third time as well. Instincts know better sometimes
Sue the EX's mother for damages as well. It is a slam dunk case since you proved her damages in the divorce.
OP should tell her ex mil next time she contacts OP that the ex's breakdown is all mil's fault and to enjoy the pain and misery mil has has created in son's life, that she has shown son what a wonderful mother she is.
"That was sad to read" NO IT ISNT GET OUT OP!
The heart is like a glass bottle, containing love. Once it shatters, the love spills away while the vessel no longer has the means to contain it, or anything else for that matter. How can she love a person who did that to her? How is he going to make her love him again?
He doesn’t care if she will love him or not. He just wants her to forget all about it because it would have made his life easier. Pure selfishness on his part. And he doesn’t have the strength of character to take responsibility. She is right to have left.
I really hope he doesnt. OP deserves WAY BETTER
Gee, threaten to go public with the video of the OPs husband's psychotic rant if they don't behave themselves.
Thank god OPs mother had the sense to record.
I would have put that vid on socialmedia and tag every friend and familymember of OPs ex. That will shut MiL up.
While husband's behavior was inexcusable, OP knew from the beginning that her MIL had it in for her yet didn't tell her husband about any of it. If she had, maybe he would've put his mother in her place and the divorce could've been avoided.
She should have told hubby from the beginning about mil. Partners are meant to be partners
She made the right choice NOT canceling the divorce. He had shown his true character and if she went back to him he would be great for a while but at some point he would fly off the handle again. What is more, you would have that mother in law in your life.
I would not take him back but for anyone who would consider doing so, I would make one of my conditions him fully and absolutely disowning the mother in law and if I were to find out that he had visited or talked with her AT ALL that I would treat it as much of a betrayal as infidelity.
At some point this loser will come to realize that his mother cost him his marriage (its really his fault for not listening to the OP for a few goddamn minutes) and he will cast her out of his life.
Ahhhh~... Don't you just love the "I'm sorry - wait this won't get me anything? You don't feel obligated to forgive me? Well then I'M NOT sorry, and @#$% youuuuu"!!! Type of people? Not just self-centered/delusional, but a disingenuous person altogether.
take the texts to the police and get an anti harassment order against her.
I'd have told STBX that I pitied the next woman he marries.
If I was OP I’d tell her stbx to treasure the last few days he had possession of his soul cause I’m about to eviscerate it and fully plan to milk him for everything the law will let me take from him
Hello, restraining order. What is wrong with people?
OP should call her STBX ",Oedepus", and tell him to go back tk his 'true love', his "Jocasta".
But mom showed me pictures!! Anything of me cheating? Worthy of you breaking down a door and putting hands on me like you threatened?
Dont get back together OP!
OP should never have married this guy. The red flags were there before the marriage!
OP should tell to his face that he is not man enough and she couldn't have a life with mama's boy for a husband.
So all I’m getting is addition to the divorce and losing money you can also sue for defamation of character.
MOMMA'S BOY! HE'S A MOMMA'S BOY! OKAY FINE! FER SURE FER SURE! HE'S A MOMMA'S BOY and there IS NO CURE!
...So I needed to forgive him...
Erm... GET F*CKED! speak to me ONLY via my lawyer from now on!!!
100%! Besides, once my mom knows how you've done me dirty, I truly cannot go back! My mom would clown me for an eternity! My father always said when you let someone 'slide' with gross disrespect, they will soon think they can ice skate over your boundaries going forth!
Like mother like son. Both are pyschos
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You too!!
Op husband only got himself to blame for the destruction of his marriage and now he has to deal with the consequences of his actions
I have some cognitive disorders that make understanding certain social situations difficult. Can someone please help me out here? Isn't cheating in a relationship SEXUAL ACTIVITY with other people? Can someone please explain to me how meeting someone's BOSS at a restaurant for a BUSINESS MEETING that INCLUDES OTHER PEOPLE FROM THE BUSINESS is sexual activity? I have had business meetings myself (I am a board game designer starting up a board game company) at restaurants many times and the number of people at those meetings that I have done anything sexual with is still ZERO.
Can someone please help me understand how a public BUSINESS MEETING is an act of sex? This makes no sense to me at all.
There is emotional cheating as well but the MiL told her son that OP was on a date with her boss. All the pictures showed was them in the same restaurant. She left out the part where they were meeting other people and he wouldn't listen to her when she tried to tell him that. So he kicked her out over some pictures of them at the same table or in the same area and his mothers word that they were having an affair.
The mother didn't see the other business partners and didn't know it was a business meeting. And doing any kind of things people do in romantic relationships with someone else is cheating. Not just sex.
Story 1 - OP's husband is showing his true colours, valuing his mother over his wfe.
Op: have been married for 2 years
Me: ok
Op: ...got married 3 years back.
Me: ....wait a second
I find the end a bit hypocritical mil of course isnt going to accept blame for her actions but wife handed her the grenade by not communicating what she had said to her husband.
He does not sound mentally well at all
Can not "not tell him so he can be happy" that was a direct threat and in all fairness its not fair to leave him unprepared. Had he known she likely wouldn't have been able to get in his head. Being aware she was on a mission.
Maybe he would have listened to MIL but you dont keep shite like that from your partner. ETA here mostly MIL but husband and wife are equally so to each other. He had 0 clue what was going on for years due to wife keeping that secret. He let his mom lie to him and whereas he had no clue they had beef he didnt communicate with wife either. Neither belong married because they lack communication ON BOTH ENDS HER AS MUCH AS HIM. Doing it out of love doesnt mean it was ok to keep what his mom had done. He was going to hurt her if she didnt leave. That is unacceptable as well. They need to cut and run on both ends.
Omg this woman keeps trying to screw herself. I didnt try to involve my friends so none of the friends had any fking clue about the divorce.
For fks sake woman this dude is related to MIL she is fking lucky her friends believed her. Some may not have believed this and thought she was trying to save face since she said nothing she must be ashamed of the divorce. They could have ended up siding with him and she could have lost.
She needs to stop omitting stuff out if being nice. This MIL declared war. Then she was in a war with ex. You cant play nice in war. With the jerk her husband turned out to be maybe he would have blown up the marriage himself however on this subject he likely would have told his MIL to stop and even defended wife. She couod have recorded MIL threats down the road. She kept him in the dark for years. That is insane to me.
MIL and husband were both at fault but OP set him up by hiding all that MIL had said and done. She didn't hesitate to tell their friends the whole story when they asked but she let her husband walk into that ambush unprepared.
Nita f him he got what he deserved
Why let him talk? He never let you explain. So I would tell him I'm not interested. You showed you have no respect for me or any value. Did you even ask the restaurant workers? Or contact my boss? No. Only your mother's words were taken. Your trust in me was little. So, I'm done. I am not bending myself in many ways because you NOW feel bad.
Make sure you ask your boss to testify that the day in the restaurant was JUST a meeting. And I would make sure my ex husband knew she vowed at the wedding that she would break us up. So he gift wrapped her present. Nope! You never gave me a chance to explain. You could have asked my boss. You were very VIOLENT. So you screwed up big time. Blame it on your mother!
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While everybody's reaming on the husband,I think everyone needs to stop and think for a second if she was told and showed pictures that her husband was cheating on her everyone knows how a woman would react. she would flip out, she would probably destroy property, maybe key a car, maybe burn everything he owns. she would get angry. she would kick him out of the house. she would file for divorce. as a woman who knows lots of women who have acted exactly as the husband had, we need to stop pretending like the "husband's such a bad man because a woman would never do that" bs. he reacted in the same way any other human would react, with anger, hurt, and betrayal. no one is going to listen to you in the heat of the moment when they are angry at you. Anyone with half of a brain would say, "You know what, I'll leave, and when you're ready to talk in a few days, we'll talk."
instead of just you know rushing to divorce.
that's why marriages don't work because people don't communicate, they don't know how to handle arguments and fights, they don't know how to handle evil in-laws, and to be clear I am not saying that a woman should stay with a man who mistreats her at the same pace as a bad mother-in-law does. that is a time when you get divorced because it's abusive. but she didn't tell her husband about the nasty thing that his mother said to her on their wedding day. that is where the lack of communication comes in. she should have told him straight up right away and then when Mama told him this he would go straight back into the back of his mind "well, she told my wife that she would break us up one day so maybe..."
you know what she should have done, was waited until he realized his mistake and then destroyed the mother-in-law
but it doesn't surprise me that they just went straight to divorce because society today is too lazy to try and stick it through. And I'm saying that about both sides. I'm not just saying this about this woman. I'm just saying in general. Society is too lazy to work at making something work.
it's easier to dump and move on. So like I don't think that she's an a-hole it just doesn't surprise me in the slightest because Society has been brainwashed to believe you just dump and move on, instead of being a strong husband and wife and sticking through it.
Honestly, if they really loved each other, I mean really truly loved each other they would have made it through this mess.
So it's obvious they didn't really love each other that much because it was very easy to break them up. The two of them are probably better off not married.
Hum, why still refer to him as "her husband"?
Ok, so 2:38 in she’s admitting she never spoke about what MIL said about breaking them up and “allowing” the marriage in the first place.
That mean OP 1 is 100% responsible for all misunderstandings and conflict that arises due to hubby being in the dark about his mom’s behavior and nastiness.
And this is irrefutable.
OP ignored massive red flags refusing to alert family/friends to points of conflict.
No matter what happens now it’s all on OP. She’s set up her husband to fail her by keeping him in the dark about MIL’s hatred.
Except even after he found out his mother lied and wanted to break them up from his mother's own mouth he still said he would ruin her reputation with the lie because she wouldn't get back together with him. And even IF you think k your partner is cheating that's absolutely NO reason to threaten them with bodily harm and property damage because you are angry. Nice victim blaming though. There always has to be someone there to try and justify the abusive behavior of others like you do
If a trusted family member tells you "i saw your wife holding hands and canoodling with her boss at a restaurant" its entirely reasonable for you to freak out on your wife. His reaction upon learning the truth was adequate. This chick was primed and ready to leave at the first trouble. She shouldn't have ever gotten married.
Nope. This woman had been in his life for 6(?) years and he never thought about her cheating that whole time! Why now, 2 years into the marriage? He literally OWES her the chance to defend herself but he didn't. Either he is cheating and projecting, or he is an emotional moron. If my mother tells me my husband was on a date, you better believe I'm asking him about it. Especially with her boss, whom you may logically assume the husband had met! Not all kinfolk are "family". He deserved to be left, especially since her mother knows what he did. I've never gone back to an ex once my mom knows the situation.