Stay away from toxic people, family or not. I did so and moved far away from them, and way way happier now, even the news from them gave me anxiety. Have a nice day!
Yes good to hide away, only live in your world, or try to understand your friends and family, allow them to be what they are, you might be able to do some good by showing a good example
Points: 1) Keeping up their relationships and connections: intentional and nurturing 2) Pets are helpful to well-being 3) Use social media to positively and actively engage with others ONLY 4) Keep making efforts at connections.
He missed a vital key to happiness... 5) Give yourself away...whether that be doing volunteer work or just making it a point to help others in some form or fashion. Doing so helps you forget about yourself, and makes you appreciate that you're better off than many.
I'm a fierce introvert. I have virtually NO relationships, and I'm thrilled. It's when I invite too many others in my life that I become miserable because they will visit every last one of their problems on you.
That is the absolute truth. More than one person confessed to me that people who push you into marriage and child-bearing only want company in their misery.
@@Marchant2 it's not that you can't handle the problems yourself.its a comfort to have someone listen.i lost 4 family members in recent years and I think having friends helped me through it.
@@shirleyashanti3031 why, you can experience happiness without seeking it. Andrew for instance felt unexpectedly happy. To be enlightened you experience emotions and travel through them. There are infinite things to seek and some you will not find. When you notice something there is a reason. I will teach you some Aramaic. Schlama means peace. Malkuth means heaven. Hubba means love. It is a nice aim and mantra. In Hebrew 11 is Gevurah it equals justice. True justice appeals to people. Sincerely you local Jewish Christian Sufi mystic. One of my aims is diplomacy.
"It is NEVER too late." 😊😊😊 "Our study shows us that people find friends. They find love when they're sure it is never going to happen to them at all different points of their lives. Much depends on whether you are INTENTIONAL about making and nurturing good relationships."
The "key to happiness" is the key to peace of mind, and it is this: STOP worrying about what others think of you. Let it go. BE your authentic self. Everything else will fall into place.
I'm screwed! I avoid people like the plague. People are the cause of my unhappiness. The world is a dog-eat-dog world and full of insane people. When I don't have to deal with others, I'm very happy. I prefer the company of animals more than people. I don't have any pets of my own, but my neighbors cat comes to me for regular petting. Very pleasant visits for both of us. I think most people need emotional support from others. I'm not one of them and very happy and content with my life.
Yeah I think it's harder for some people to connect with others. If someone can only have positive relationships with 10% of the population, there will be a lot of pain to making and keeping friendships
But know this, that in the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here. 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, 4 betrayers, headstrong, puffed up with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God, 5 having an appearance of godliness but proving false to its power; and from these turn away.
Here's the question, is it a matter of people who build and maintain healthy relationships are happier and healthier, or is it that happier and healthier people tend to maintain healthy relationships?
I knew a guy who used to say, "having friends is better than having money." He was a small-time conman who swindled everyone who made the mistake of believing anything he said. So, beware.
That is amazing, I am a very happy person who doesn't worry about little things. I am always trying to get up with my old friends and go out fishing and other things like that. I'm also disabled but that doesn't make me not want to do things I'm able to do. I've always tried too tell my wife, whenever you have something that needs to be done get it done and out of the way. It's also important not to worry about things you don't have control over so just live happy and worry free as much as possible.
After years of rollercoaster life experiences, I know that happiness comes from within. Acceptance, gratitude and a strong connection to my Creator. Once I discovered the depth of meditation, my life is so much happier even though it's not perfect. I know things may go awry, but I know my Creator will deal with it.
I believe the key to "happiness" is compassion, and I refuse to consider anything more than that as it's far too overwhelming for me to focus on my feelings about everything. They seem to be overrated.
Meditation has made me a very peaceful, happy person. Also, my best friends. But I believe the biggest happiness factors are: 1) a creative life; 2.) a sense of humor and 3.) self-love and forgiveness of yourself and others. I left my family - aunts, uncles, cousins - behind and don't miss them at all, though I enjoyed growing up with them. Now we have little in common, so I don't miss them at all. My friends are my family, and I interact with many nice people in my community on a daily basis.I had a very happy marriage of twenty-five years. My husband died in an accident, so I grieved for quite a while, but I found that tears had been cleansing, and now I thoroughly enjoy my life as an artist and writer living alone. I cherish my solitude, and wake up very happy every day.
My parents had very little but there was family, friends and community. I guess those weekly picnics, arguments over holidays and gatherings at the beach with sandwiches and coffee brought laughter and joy. Our society has become insulated and personally selfish.
I retired 7 years ago and wasn't very sociable. Then out of the blue a woman I worked with called and said lets have lunch. Now once a month I have lunch with her and two other women who are now retired. We weren't very close before but now I find I enjoy our get togethers. Then I started taking a couple classes at the senior center. I thought of myself as an introvert but now I think this social contact is very satisfying.
Kindness is the best ingredient in any relationship. Humor, laughter, forgiveness make life happier. When you think enough is enough, you will feel happier.
I've been alone most of my life, and couldn't be happier. I don't really watch the news religiously like most people do. I don't have social media accounts or a cell phone. My life feels more at ease these days. In my opinion, the world is way too chaotic to form any meaningful relationship with someone. We're still trying to figure out the best economic system for all, which is tearing everyone apart.
Smart man that professor, I think that most people would have figured out what brings them happiness during their lives, if you work night and day then you do not have the time or energy to do nice things, if you are lucky to have spare time and you use it well and you try your best to do good and be fair to those around you then life wil be a god as it can be, Happiness is a fleeting feeling it comes and goes, what young children should be told is that life will not be a fairy stories all bright lights and nice things, Life has its ups and down for everyone, some people suffer great hardships, illness of the body or mind, caught up in wars, famines, drought earthquakes, floods, freezing weather, long hot sunny weather with no rain at all. hunger, abuse, It is good to stop and think for a few moments each day, look around and see that your life is better than some other people and be grateful and thankful for what you have got and don't be greedy
I've had so many friends and romantic partners come and go though. They say they bring happiness but too bad they don't stick around. They either leave due to a move, a better job offer, a breakup, etc. Nothing ever lasts so how can you maintain close friendships in today's society? One of my favorites film sequences is the very last scene in Star Wars Return of the Jedi and the victory celebration. It just makes me think of old friends and acquaintances who've been separated for years reuniting and being happy again. I wish I could see all of those people again all together one more time.
I watched it at 2x speed (as I usually do), but what struck me was that the Prof. seems to have a lot of experience speaking on TV: he gets to the point very quickly. They don't have to cut his sentences because he already speaks in soundbites.
"I watched it at 2x speed" this is actually very bad for you as it is feeding the dopamine pathway in your brain - this downregulated the dopamine receptors and creates a negative feedback loop which you will get diagnosed as ADHD but is in fact self stimming behaviour.
@@alittax You can no longer post external links on TH-cam comments - but Dr Huberman has a youtube channel and he is one of the leading voices in this area of research and HE might link to the studies in his videos and notes - hang on Ill find his channel for you. Here is his video on dopamine - th-cam.com/video/QmOF0crdyRU/w-d-xo.html YES he links to the studies in the notes to this video. I'm an author on psychology with an interest in ADHD - I have / had ADHD and I believe it is largely self-induced and can be managed in most people with behavioural modification. I.e. don't do dopamine-seeking behaviours like watching videos at 2X speed. We create rationales why we do these things, but actually, we want the dopamine.
@@piccalillipit9211 Thank you very much, I'll look into it. Your last sentence is particularly interesting. I don't speed up movies, or videos that are difficult to understand even at normal speed. My rationale for speeding up some videos is that I'm saving time: why should I spend twice as much time on something when I can understand everything at 2x speed? Why don't I speed up every single clip if I was truly looking for dopamine release? How can I be sure that my true motivation isn't what I actually think it is (i.e. saving time)?
@@alittax - the honest answer is - you cant. But I used to stay up really late working and I had this entire rationale worked out that I was a night person and I even had an anthropological evolutionary explanation as to why there were morning people and night people. Turns out I was a night person cos I was stimming my brain with dopamine at 2am and not getting up until 11.00am I stopped doing it and now I get up before the sunrise every morning and walk my dog as the sun comes over the hills... Our brains are amazing at lying to us about why we do things. There is a LOT of evidence that we don't MAKE decisions, we act on instinct and then retrospectively justify the action. FMRI scans show that we have made decisions dn chosen A B or C in a situation before we even engaged the thinking parts of the brain. then when questioned we have REALLY good reasoning why we made the decision. Our brains lie to us all the time - have a look for "do we really have free will" and stuff like that. Its stuff like this that makes this field SO fascinating to me.
Happiness is a fleeting feeling. What people are looking for is, joy. Joy takes considerable work and in even suffering sometimes but offers that lasting feeling everyone is looking for. Stuff won’t make you happy, giving your time or efforts to others does though and I highly recommend it! Be in service to those around you and it’s hard to not have a smile on your face 😊
The importance of good relationships in terms of improving health and longevity has been known for a long time. What ISN'T known is how to help those without quality, close relationships mitigate or resolve the detrimental impacts. There's a lot of people who, for whatever reason(s) are not engaged in close, good-quality relationships.
Yes,This is the best comment I've read so far.Thats a really good question. They would have to be more intentional on building those kinds of relationships and not isolating themselves.
Happiness is a state of your minds reaction to your life that you have created, i.e the way you were brought up, the relationships you've cultivated in your life. Society has its role to play in what Happiness means, a house, a family, a good job,matierlastic things like a nice car etc.. the reality is stuff whether nice or not will not make you happy. Happiness comes from within, practicing kindness, and compassion not just towards others in your life, but yourself as well will change your state of mind.
Finding love and keeping it, finding a companion that you feel comfortable raising a child with, let alone paying the bills and keeping roof over your head and clothes on your back and food in your belly is even more difficult today. Happiness is being able to roll with the punches in life because you will get many punches
Sadness and Happiness are related to each other. The more happy You were yesterday , the more sad you will be today because You will not be able to find same excitement , and vice versa
I am a Loner, and I am Happy( until I go to Work ). But, Finding Happiness is about Finding Yourself in regards to Your Environment. For me, I take Joy and find Happiness, in the things that I can Control. Taking Long Walks on a Sunny Day, Gardening, Cooking, Listening to Music, or Helping Someone in need, keeps me Happy. But, My Happiness gets Interrupted by People who are Fake, Conniving, Bloody Pillocks, that have Ulterior Motives, and are really Jealous and Envious of Me. I just KEEP THEM AWAY!
Findimgs: Social fitness- keeping in contact with friends, relatives, etc. Be intentional about making good network. Also to touch a pet and having religious practices brings comfort. Connectivity is extremely important. Social media may not help in the pursuit of happiness. (Comparisons do not help). 1. Take small actions. Send a message to someone and make the effort to connect.
Actually Happiness is not peace. Happiness is an excitement for limited time period. Actually , when There is peace of mind then you get into your natural state of eternal bliss.
I grew up with an alcoholic, manic depressive mother who was frequently out of control, constantly complaining, threatening suicide, and much worse. When I was a teenager I stayed away from her as much as possible by spending most of my free time at my neighbor's house (who were thankfully very understanding and helpful). When I was old enough to fend for myself (at around age eighteen) I left for college and never returned (after having an intense conversation with her where I told her I would no longer tolerate her crazy, manipulative behaviors. Shortly after that she attempted suicide by jumping off the roof of her house. She broke many bones, etc., and was transported to a larger city hospital via helicopter ambulance and spent almost six months there recovering physically and psychologically. While there, she stopped drinking (since she couldn't access alcohol), stopped smoking, received extensive psychotherapy, and lived the last ten years of her life as a fairly sane, decent person. My life improved DRAMATICALLY once I took the power away from her, and surrounded myself with sane and sober friends and family.
If one wants to build solid relationship then he/she has to be a giver, generous and not expecting anything from others. Geniunely caring not only for the known but all living beings. True Compassion
Seems they are missing something more important, which is understanding why some people are more interested than others in keeping social connections active. There could be many reasons; and probably keeping healthy social connections is a result and expression of something deeper.
I've seen dogs jumping around and wagging their tails excitedly in the presence of their owners, and I've seen dogs just lying down contentedly near to their owners, not even wagging their tails. Which ones are happier depends on what is defined as "happiness". Same with humans -- some people like to go out partying and having a good time, while others like to sit quietly somewhere contemplating on deeper things. Which ones are happier? Again, depends on what is defined as happiness.
my dog does both things. He does a tail wag dance when someone comes home he hasn't seen for a bit. (Girls are off at college.) He wags his tail daily for me and he lounges with me too.
Studies like these and the attention given to them appear to me to emerge from societal values of wanting the predictability and unambiguity and formula for “doing life right” and whatever the good life is. That suggests there is some secret to living the good life or a specific object you need to chase after. What many of us might be feeling is that we’re not living the good life and need the answer to doing so, that there is always more out there. When we might already be doing it, but think that whatever we are doing is always not enough and someone else must be more satisfied, happier, than we currently are. Especially when we scientize happiness, we can begin to separate people into categories of the happy and the unhappy, and happiness is available to those lucky enough and skilled enough to attain it, such as those who find relationships relatively easy and those who don’t. Really though, happiness is subjective, and perhaps happiness comes from the realization that the way we already are, is enough.
Why are Scandinavian countries happier than the US?.. Personalized Learning. Their guidance counselors and public educational systems in general, are more focused on accurate aptitudes and shaping curriculum around that data. The US is moving more and more towards pushing future generations toward 'just getting them through' (No Child Left Behind), and away from specialized education. Even college level programs are geared toward more money/profit based metrics than what's best individually, and therefore cumulatively, resulting in increasing low self-esteem, displacement aggression, mass shootings, etc.. It's tragic that US legislators focus more on their PAC's donors like fossil fuels, pharma, banking, chemical companies, greed-driven corporations, etc., than an AncestryDNA employing bioinformaticians using genomics data, to better target child proficiency ranges. An inevitably; this dynamic overlaps with other intimately tied interests with US politics - bipolar or otherwise. Perhaps a successful middle party would create the more sustainable roots the US needs.
@@eattherich9215 Because they don't matter as countries? They live in very small, homogeneous low populated countries with perfect geographical positioning away from all the most violent countries. So what is there to be unhappy about? There's literally nothing going on.
If a baseline for happiness is set at birth - and there is evidence it is- how does he know he’s not simply measuring the extent to which ‘happy’ folk are more likely to enjoy the company of others/ can be bothered with the company of others? I.e. the causal relationship is reversed.
I was wondering the same thing. Or when he said that, if you have good relationships, you'll not only be much happier but also healthier when you're older. Isn't it more likely the other way around? When you're healthy for the most part of your life, you are much more likely to be happy/content and able to do things with other people that make you even happier. In contrast, when you get chronically sick at a younger age it can really limit your capabilities/resources in daily life resulting in a lot of the relationships you had with other people slowly ceasing to exist or never getting the chance to develop (because you are physically not able to go out and meet people, e.g.) - and that is not due to the lack of trying or not wanting to be happy but due to sometimes really shitty circumstances.
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Concentrate on improving your own self esteem and happiness is guaranteed...because when you like yourself, you will attract the right people into your life. Self esteem is the starting point of all life issues.
A “good life” can be different things to different people depending on their circumstances. For a poor single mom a good life can mean educating her kids.
There has never been found a case of clinical depression in a hunting and gathering society. I think that's because we're wired to be social, and in a hunting and gathering community there are no closed rooms and no locked doors. There's no room for abuse. There's no room for isolation.
Another key to happiness? Give yourself away, volunteer, help others, and get involved with a cause that's important to you. Doing so is very rewarding and it helps you to get your mind off of yourself!
Neuro-psicology. People are born happy, as everyone in my family, in spite of stressful or sad situations, or people are born unhappy. Of course there is a large gray area in between. But happiness is something from inside. You either have the necessary neurotransmitters and the brain connections for it, or you don't. Unhappy people who look for happiness in the world, will never find it. Of course naturally happy people will have more non stressful social connections. But that probably is rather the consequence of being genetically happy than what causes happiness. We have to try to find out the molecules, receptors and circuits of happiness 😊
You're onto something. Physiology and ones constitution does play a part, and that stuff is hard to change sometimes. But we are social animals, and thats a very deep evolutionary adaptation that probably trumps all.
I can tell you this, after many years of work, you'll remember the people not the work, as important as it was at the time. I have to work harder making contact with more of my old friends. Just contacted a guy I knew years ago. We were both happy about it! He invited me to lunch. May never go but said I might.
What a biased study. Happiness involves having your needs met and not being surrounded by people who use and abuse you. As the twig is bent, so grows the tree. People cause as much pain as they do pleasure...it depends on luck more as much as will as to where you find yourself stuck in life.
I tend to disagree with the findings of H.U., @CNN, my experiences have shown me a Healthy and Peaceful attitude while living detached and being unjudgmental brings one a health and peaceful attitude.
True happiness comes with not caring...not caring what other people are doing, not caring what other people say, not caring what people think of you. Unfortunately, that's like telling most people to just go win a billion dollars lottery.
Never got married ok but, yes I had a kid once, and happiness was filing my life, until the day a tragedy happened. Since then he's my Angel watching on me, sadly. So, happiness is sometimes hard to find from morning to night
A young puppy that felt miserable wished to know how he could find happiness. _Why, happiness is a dog's tail. It is right behind you. There is no need to feel sad._ Delighted with this revelation the puppy thought that all he need do is catch a hold of his tail and he will cease being so depressed. He spun around and around and no matter how hard he tried he failed in his effort to grab his tail. Finally exhausted from his attempts he gave up, having decided that his quest would forever elude him. After that he simply went about his business. And happiness followed him wherever he went.
Howdy hi hi, It has long been my contention that the primary pathway to finding happiness both in the moment and long term. Is the active bipartisan engagement in affective empathy. When we converse with family and friends. And share a common emotional state. Every person involved self triggers biological rewards whenever emotional parity is achieved. Everything said in this video simply confirms this.
Typical science..... Happiness comes from within, independent from external sources, the external sources are a temporary "solution" but do not create a solid foundation for true happiness.
How do you know that an underlying innate happiness isn't the reason that these people are able to have successful relationships with others? Your findings of correlation might be causal the other way around.
The is probably a correlational study, ie I doubt that the conclusion can be made that forging good relationships make you happy. There may be a third factor, such as genetics, which makes some people more popular and also more healthy and successful. For example, we know how much physical attractiveness plays a role.
True happiness comes from within. Relationships are just for entertainment. If you learn to love yourself, all of your relationships get better. Social media has boosted jealousy and anger. This guy is living a fairytale.
Not everybody feels bad about ourselves when we are on Facebook and see positive postings about another person's family and adventures. Some of us actually feel joy in those types of postings. Even if we don't have children of our own or celebrate all holidays . Atleast that includes me so i may skew some of your research. I am an introvert that takes pleasure in other's pleasure. And i am happy for their achievements.
_"... good relationships keep us healthier happier ..."_ Yeah. Good relationships make you happy, and happiness makes you able to get good relationships. Cool. _"... Yeah, take small actions ... think of somebody you miss ... somebody you'd like to connect with ... _... just send them a text ... saying hi, I was thinking of you ... and just wanted to connect ... regularly ..."_ Yeah. That's the trivial way to make them consider you as a stalker. Good advice.
And the reason you'll be considered a 'stalker' is because people of the world don't truly understand what happiness is and how to achieve it. Hence we have a mostly 'wicked' and 'unhappy' world population who are naturally defensive because of it being that way which in fact they've been a part of creating. Most people will never obtain 'true' happiness in their lives because they're busy being too SELFISH to care about others than themselves! But the great thing about these types of people are that we'll be rid of them because they live shorter lives. Thank god!
@@dawm12711 _"... you'll be considered a 'stalker' is because ..."_ Yeah. Hablablablablablabla. _"... But the great thing about these types of people are that we'll be rid of them because they live shorter lives ..."_ Yeah ? How much shorter ? Shorter enough you judging, self righteous deluded ... human being. _"... Thank god! ..."_ What god. That god what created those "most people", those SELFISH ones, to be exactly how they are, you dmnd F@@L of this stpd god.
Well relationships are a 2 way street. The advice won't work with someone who doesnt want to connect regularly, but there is probably someone who does want to connect regularly
My patient was a young centurion and raving about being married as soon as he got out of the hospital! I couldn’t knock It! I want this fit centurion to have fun and thrive!
Life is not perfect but I find one of few countries country out there, the Philippines. Mostly considered third world by many and yet friendly and happy. This has been in their culture since pre colonials and they called it Bayanihan,, ( Brothethood, different indigenous living side by side) helping each other not expecting in return and been carried up to this time.
They studied hundreds of men over several decades. It is quite a feat and it’s nice that they have come to some conclusions. I don’t believe they added a single person from the other half of the human race though.
I missed out on the parental love in my life, but had teachers and friends that supported me. I'm happy and grateful for my life. Your statement does not ring true to me.
Funny about psychologists. They know other people apparently but they don't know themselves. What about monks who live alone and meditate for years and report experiencing a peace beyond all understanding?
The secret to happiness is when your car doesn't have an air conditioner and the McDonald's drive-thru is empty. And you have just enough money to get a dipped chocolate 🤩ice cream cone
if your friends and family are toxic, it's much better to stay away from them than to keep up contact.
Stay away from toxic people, family or not. I did so and moved far away from them, and way way happier now, even the news from them gave me anxiety. Have a nice day!
I'm more confused now. Isn't everyone toxic in some way?
@@shirleyashanti3031 No, but if all of the people around you are toxic… well, you may want to examine that.
Yes good to hide away, only live in your world, or try to understand your friends and family, allow them to be what they are, you might be able to do some good by showing a good example
But try to find other people who are not toxic! People need people
Points:
1) Keeping up their relationships and connections: intentional and nurturing
2) Pets are helpful to well-being
3) Use social media to positively and actively engage with others ONLY
4) Keep making efforts at connections.
He missed a vital key to happiness...
5) Give yourself away...whether that be doing volunteer work or just making it a point to help others in some form or fashion.
Doing so helps you forget about yourself, and makes you appreciate that you're better off than many.
I'm a fierce introvert. I have virtually NO relationships, and I'm thrilled. It's when I invite too many others in my life that I become miserable because they will visit every last one of their problems on you.
That is the absolute truth. More than one person confessed to me that people who push you into marriage and child-bearing only want company in their misery.
In my experience you can tell them your problems also.it helps your mind to not lock everything inside.
@@patrickt6642 What if you don't have any problems that you can't take care of yourself?
That's my family. I had it enough during the pandemic. I have too many issues of my own to take care of.
@@Marchant2 it's not that you can't handle the problems yourself.its a comfort to have someone listen.i lost 4 family members in recent years and I think having friends helped me through it.
The professor actually made me feel happier. He was smiling and projected joy, hes onto something i reckon
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That’s exactly what I was thinking
I guess so after 84 years of study. I would be wasting my life seeking happiness IMHO
@@shirleyashanti3031 why, you can experience happiness without seeking it. Andrew for instance felt unexpectedly happy. To be enlightened you experience emotions and travel through them. There are infinite things to seek and some you will not find. When you notice something there is a reason. I will teach you some Aramaic. Schlama means peace. Malkuth means heaven. Hubba means love. It is a nice aim and mantra. In Hebrew 11 is Gevurah it equals justice. True justice appeals to people.
Sincerely you local Jewish Christian Sufi mystic. One of my aims is diplomacy.
@@jacovawernett3077 Shlama to you
"It is NEVER too late." 😊😊😊 "Our study shows us that people find friends. They find love when they're sure it is never going to happen to them at all different points of their lives. Much depends on whether you are INTENTIONAL about making and nurturing good relationships."
I'll pass.
The "key to happiness" is the key to peace of mind, and it is this: STOP worrying about what others think of you. Let it go. BE your authentic self. Everything else will fall into place.
Very true, you are perspicascious. Acutely aware. Lchaim from Jerusalem
Sincerely the keystone born March 11th in Bethlehem
Stop killing Palestinians 💩🤬
This. This is it.
Absolutely!🤗♥️
I'm screwed! I avoid people like the plague.
People are the cause of my unhappiness. The world is a dog-eat-dog world and full of insane people. When I don't have to deal with others, I'm very happy.
I prefer the company of animals more than people. I don't have any pets of my own, but my neighbors cat comes to me for regular petting. Very pleasant visits for both of us.
I think most people need emotional support from others. I'm not one of them and very happy and content with my life.
People like you make me unhappy!
Shit happens and people cause it..!😂
@@davidames1746 Good.
Yeah I think it's harder for some people to connect with others. If someone can only have positive relationships with 10% of the population, there will be a lot of pain to making and keeping friendships
But know this, that in the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here. 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, 4 betrayers, headstrong, puffed up with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God, 5 having an appearance of godliness but proving false to its power; and from these turn away.
Here's the question, is it a matter of people who build and maintain healthy relationships are happier and healthier, or is it that happier and healthier people tend to maintain healthy relationships?
The chicken and the egg problem. I agree.
Also, those happy and healthy people were probably extroverts. The introverts were the ~15% that didn't show up. 😫
You ask to many very important question, who knows what the answer is
Correlation...not causation.
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I would say pets are a VERY reliable source of happiness! More so than humans. 🐈🐶 Edit: And daily reflection. 🙏
I agree 🐶🥰
The more I know about people, the more I like dogs.
@@louisavondart9178 i like most people but i love dogs 😉👍
And they don't interrupt when I'm talking!
but then they get sick and die. :(
It isn't rocket science to discover that people who are around crappy people are unhappy.
For real
I knew a guy who used to say, "having friends is better than having money." He was a small-time conman who swindled everyone who made the mistake of believing anything he said.
So, beware.
Having kind, empathic people in your life is the most important ingredient to happy life.
That's a reason to become one for other people!
Are they happy in India?
@@andya6461 ???
@@shipratrika2586 I take that as a no.
@@andya6461 what language are you talking in? Who is they you are talking about in India?
That is amazing, I am a very happy person who doesn't worry about little things. I am always trying to get up with my old friends and go out fishing and other things like that. I'm also disabled but that doesn't make me not want to do things I'm able to do. I've always tried too tell my wife, whenever you have something that needs to be done get it done and out of the way. It's also important not to worry about things you don't have control over so just live happy and worry free as much as possible.
A very wise man, I respect a lot once said..."See the job, do the job, stay out of misery."
Wow. You could have made this video. You gave Gold Nuggets right here. Thank you and I totally agree with you.
After years of rollercoaster life experiences, I know that happiness comes from within. Acceptance, gratitude and a strong connection to my Creator. Once I discovered the depth of meditation, my life is so much happier even though it's not perfect. I know things may go awry, but I know my Creator will deal with it.
I believe the key to "happiness" is compassion, and I refuse to consider anything more than that as it's far too overwhelming for me to focus on my feelings about everything. They seem to be overrated.
I didn't know what happiness was until I got divorced. 🤩
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Ha Ha, very funny
You're on to something.
Same here!
Cheers!
Meditation has made me a very peaceful, happy person. Also, my best friends. But I believe the biggest happiness factors are: 1) a creative life; 2.) a sense of humor and 3.) self-love and forgiveness of yourself and others. I left my family - aunts, uncles, cousins - behind and don't miss them at all, though I enjoyed growing up with them. Now we have little in common, so I don't miss them at all. My friends are my family, and I interact with many nice people in my community on a daily basis.I had a very happy marriage of twenty-five years. My husband died in an accident, so I grieved for quite a while, but I found that tears had been cleansing, and now I thoroughly enjoy my life as an artist and writer living alone. I cherish my solitude, and wake up very happy every day.
❤❤❤ bravo 👏🏽 I did the same and I have zero regrets 🎉
Happiness start within us…
That's pretty harsh just turning your back on your family like that just because you have little in common. Were they toxic?
My parents had very little but there was family, friends and community. I guess those weekly picnics, arguments over holidays and gatherings at the beach with sandwiches and coffee brought laughter and joy. Our society has become insulated and personally selfish.
Coffee at the beach?
@@afridgetoofar1818 Yes an East Coast thing
..lol
Absolutely. No sense of community here. No family left. 50 year friend just no interest now.
Very unhealthy society. .
I retired 7 years ago and wasn't very sociable. Then out of the blue a woman I worked with called and said lets have lunch. Now once a month I have lunch with her and two other women who are now retired. We weren't very close before but now I find I enjoy our get togethers. Then I started taking a couple classes at the senior center. I thought of myself as an introvert but now I think this social contact is very satisfying.
Kindness is the best ingredient in any relationship. Humor, laughter, forgiveness make life happier. When you think enough is enough, you will feel happier.
I've been alone most of my life, and couldn't be happier. I don't really watch the news religiously like most people do. I don't have social media accounts or a cell phone. My life feels more at ease these days. In my opinion, the world is way too chaotic to form any meaningful relationship with someone. We're still trying to figure out the best economic system for all, which is tearing everyone apart.
Gabe you've made some good points. Thought I was the only one left on the planet without a cell phone.
Smart man that professor, I think that most people would have figured out what brings them happiness during their lives, if you work night and day then you do not have the time or energy to do nice things, if you are lucky to have spare time and you use it well and you try your best to do good and be fair to those around you then life wil be a god as it can be, Happiness is a fleeting feeling it comes and goes, what young children should be told is that life will not be a fairy stories all bright lights and nice things, Life has its ups and down for everyone, some people suffer great hardships, illness of the body or mind, caught up in wars, famines, drought earthquakes, floods, freezing weather, long hot sunny weather with no rain at all. hunger, abuse, It is good to stop and think for a few moments each day, look around and see that your life is better than some other people and be grateful and thankful for what you have got and don't be greedy
I've had so many friends and romantic partners come and go though. They say they bring happiness but too bad they don't stick around. They either leave due to a move, a better job offer, a breakup, etc. Nothing ever lasts so how can you maintain close friendships in today's society? One of my favorites film sequences is the very last scene in Star Wars Return of the Jedi and the victory celebration. It just makes me think of old friends and acquaintances who've been separated for years reuniting and being happy again. I wish I could see all of those people again all together one more time.
I watched it at 2x speed (as I usually do), but what struck me was that the Prof. seems to have a lot of experience speaking on TV: he gets to the point very quickly. They don't have to cut his sentences because he already speaks in soundbites.
"I watched it at 2x speed" this is actually very bad for you as it is feeding the dopamine pathway in your brain - this downregulated the dopamine receptors and creates a negative feedback loop which you will get diagnosed as ADHD but is in fact self stimming behaviour.
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Thanks for the advice. Can you please link any studies that drew this conclusion? Thanks.
@@alittax You can no longer post external links on TH-cam comments - but Dr Huberman has a youtube channel and he is one of the leading voices in this area of research and HE might link to the studies in his videos and notes - hang on Ill find his channel for you. Here is his video on dopamine - th-cam.com/video/QmOF0crdyRU/w-d-xo.html
YES he links to the studies in the notes to this video.
I'm an author on psychology with an interest in ADHD - I have / had ADHD and I believe it is largely self-induced and can be managed in most people with behavioural modification. I.e. don't do dopamine-seeking behaviours like watching videos at 2X speed. We create rationales why we do these things, but actually, we want the dopamine.
@@piccalillipit9211
Thank you very much, I'll look into it. Your last sentence is particularly interesting. I don't speed up movies, or videos that are difficult to understand even at normal speed. My rationale for speeding up some videos is that I'm saving time: why should I spend twice as much time on something when I can understand everything at 2x speed? Why don't I speed up every single clip if I was truly looking for dopamine release? How can I be sure that my true motivation isn't what I actually think it is (i.e. saving time)?
@@alittax - the honest answer is - you cant. But I used to stay up really late working and I had this entire rationale worked out that I was a night person and I even had an anthropological evolutionary explanation as to why there were morning people and night people.
Turns out I was a night person cos I was stimming my brain with dopamine at 2am and not getting up until 11.00am
I stopped doing it and now I get up before the sunrise every morning and walk my dog as the sun comes over the hills... Our brains are amazing at lying to us about why we do things. There is a LOT of evidence that we don't MAKE decisions, we act on instinct and then retrospectively justify the action. FMRI scans show that we have made decisions dn chosen A B or C in a situation before we even engaged the thinking parts of the brain. then when questioned we have REALLY good reasoning why we made the decision.
Our brains lie to us all the time - have a look for "do we really have free will" and stuff like that.
Its stuff like this that makes this field SO fascinating to me.
Happiness is a fleeting feeling. What people are looking for is, joy. Joy takes considerable work and in even suffering sometimes but offers that lasting feeling everyone is looking for. Stuff won’t make you happy, giving your time or efforts to others does though and I highly recommend it! Be in service to those around you and it’s hard to not have a smile on your face 😊
Amen! ❤️🙏❤️
Sounds like you're arguing semantics
Semantic argumentation.
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Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost. Romans 15:13
Happiness is waking up to a cup of coffee . And making it to the bathroom on time 😅
This comment needs a raise 👏
To me going to Bathroom early in the morning releasing a huge amount makes me so happy 😊
Lmafooo
Coffee is a drug.
Giving a dog the best life possible increases our own happiness 100 fold. IMHO
I was thinking the same thing!
I agree!
That sounds like bliss to me. 😊
Until that excruciating, unbearable pain of your dog dying in your arms.
The importance of good relationships in terms of improving health and longevity has been known for a long time. What ISN'T known is how to help those without quality, close relationships mitigate or resolve the detrimental impacts. There's a lot of people who, for whatever reason(s) are not engaged in close, good-quality relationships.
Yes,This is the best comment I've read so far.Thats a really good question. They would have to be more intentional on building those kinds of relationships and not isolating themselves.
This content isn't made to help people, it's meant to gaslight people who aren't happy into believing it's their fault
@@sp123 👍👍
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For 4 hours, a low morality woman screamed, and carried on
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It doesn't make you feel more positive when you reach out and the relations or old friends don't bother to reply. You can actually feel worse.
Somrtimes you gotta go out and make better friends. *The family you choose can be way better than the family you are born to.*
@@beckyd712 Spot on.
I believe being surrounded by nature even when alone can make a person very very happy.
@@bahaar2825 I agree with you. Some people enjoy solitude, which doesn't necessarily mean having no friends.
@@marisadallavalle393 Thank you!😊♥️
I believe toxic people should be avoided even if they are your family.
Happiness is a state of your minds reaction to your life that you have created, i.e the way you were brought up, the relationships you've cultivated in your life. Society has its role to play in what Happiness means, a house, a family, a good job,matierlastic things like a nice car etc.. the reality is stuff whether nice or not will not make you happy. Happiness comes from within, practicing kindness, and compassion not just towards others in your life, but yourself as well will change your state of mind.
This is the best comment. After years of experience (tough shit), I've realised the same...
I can tell, this finding is absolutely true from my own life experiences and observations.
Finding love and keeping it, finding a companion that you feel comfortable raising a child with, let alone paying the bills and keeping roof over your head and clothes on your back and food in your belly is even more difficult today. Happiness is being able to roll with the punches in life because you will get many punches
Once you have suffered enough anything will make you happy.
Sadness and Happiness are related to each other. The more happy You were yesterday , the more sad you will be today because You will not be able to find same excitement , and vice versa
There is no such thing as finding happiness. You'll just have to be happy without it.
Think so?
Managing expectations is a big part of the issue of happiness. With enough experience, people learn how to manage their expectations and moods.
I am a Loner, and I am Happy( until I go to Work ). But, Finding Happiness is about Finding Yourself in regards to Your Environment. For me, I take Joy and find Happiness, in the things that I can Control. Taking Long Walks on a Sunny Day, Gardening, Cooking, Listening to Music, or Helping Someone in need, keeps me Happy. But, My Happiness gets Interrupted by People who are Fake, Conniving, Bloody Pillocks, that have Ulterior Motives, and are really Jealous and Envious of Me. I just KEEP THEM AWAY!
Findimgs:
Social fitness- keeping in contact with friends, relatives, etc. Be intentional about making good network.
Also to touch a pet and having religious practices brings comfort.
Connectivity is extremely important. Social media may not help in the pursuit of happiness. (Comparisons do not help).
1. Take small actions. Send a message to someone and make the effort to connect.
I was also very impressed by the interviewer...Great summing up and framing...good questions and allowing the expert to make their points...
What makes a good life is a RELIABLE , FAITHFUL and HONEST significant other to fight the battles of life with bills , drama and struggles
I believe my wife thinks exactly that, while I'm stressed dealing with life,bills, and so forth, so she doesn't have to.
@@lowridingtrucks88 🥰
Happiness is an emotion, you want to be at peace. Find peace in the face of trouble and you’ll be happy.
My dad used to say, "Cats are happy. You're not a cat." Do better 🇺🇸.
Actually Happiness is not peace. Happiness is an excitement for limited time period. Actually , when There is peace of mind then you get into your natural state of eternal bliss.
Well said.
@@cerveza2297 cats are complete asses
I grew up with an alcoholic, manic depressive mother who was frequently out of control, constantly complaining, threatening suicide, and much worse. When I was a teenager I stayed away from her as much as possible by spending most of my free time at my neighbor's house (who were thankfully very understanding and helpful). When I was old enough to fend for myself (at around age eighteen)
I left for college and never returned (after having an intense conversation with her where I told her I would no longer tolerate her crazy, manipulative behaviors. Shortly after that she attempted suicide by jumping off the roof of her house.
She broke many bones, etc., and was transported to a larger city hospital via helicopter ambulance and spent almost six months there recovering physically and psychologically. While there, she stopped drinking (since she couldn't access alcohol), stopped smoking, received extensive psychotherapy, and lived the last ten years of her life as a fairly sane, decent person.
My life improved DRAMATICALLY once I took the power away from her, and surrounded myself with sane and sober friends and family.
Doing what you love is critical to happiness. Too many people are stuck in jobs they hate and this ruins their happiness.
I'm astonished they found that many happy people
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Thank Goodness. Now I know the secret to being happy
If one wants to build solid relationship then he/she has to be a giver, generous and not expecting anything from others. Geniunely caring not only for the known but all living beings. True Compassion
One can’t be always everything to everyone, because it’s not always reciprocated which eventually leads to burn out.
Seems they are missing something more important, which is understanding why some people are more interested than others in keeping social connections active. There could be many reasons; and probably keeping healthy social connections is a result and expression of something deeper.
I've seen dogs jumping around and wagging their tails excitedly in the presence of their owners, and I've seen dogs just lying down contentedly near to their owners, not even wagging their tails. Which ones are happier depends on what is defined as "happiness". Same with humans -- some people like to go out partying and having a good time, while others like to sit quietly somewhere contemplating on deeper things. Which ones are happier? Again, depends on what is defined as happiness.
my dog does both things. He does a tail wag dance when someone comes home he hasn't seen for a bit. (Girls are off at college.) He wags his tail daily for me and he lounges with me too.
Studies like these and the attention given to them appear to me to emerge from societal values of wanting the predictability and unambiguity and formula for “doing life right” and whatever the good life is. That suggests there is some secret to living the good life or a specific object you need to chase after. What many of us might be feeling is that we’re not living the good life and need the answer to doing so, that there is always more out there. When we might already be doing it, but think that whatever we are doing is always not enough and someone else must be more satisfied, happier, than we currently are. Especially when we scientize happiness, we can begin to separate people into categories of the happy and the unhappy, and happiness is available to those lucky enough and skilled enough to attain it, such as those who find relationships relatively easy and those who don’t. Really though, happiness is subjective, and perhaps happiness comes from the realization that the way we already are, is enough.
Also these guides never explain how to keep relationships up especially for those not particularly social
Why are Scandinavian countries happier than the US?.. Personalized Learning. Their guidance counselors and public educational systems in general, are more focused on accurate aptitudes and shaping curriculum around that data. The US is moving more and more towards pushing future generations toward 'just getting them through' (No Child Left Behind), and away from specialized education. Even college level programs are geared toward more money/profit based metrics than what's best individually, and therefore cumulatively, resulting in increasing low self-esteem, displacement aggression, mass shootings, etc..
It's tragic that US legislators focus more on their PAC's donors like fossil fuels, pharma, banking, chemical companies, greed-driven corporations, etc., than an AncestryDNA employing bioinformaticians using genomics data, to better target child proficiency ranges. An inevitably; this dynamic overlaps with other intimately tied interests with US politics - bipolar or otherwise. Perhaps a successful middle party would create the more sustainable roots the US needs.
'Why are Scandinavian countries happier than the US?' That would be because they don't live in America. 😂
@@eattherich9215 Because they don't matter as countries? They live in very small, homogeneous low populated countries with perfect geographical positioning away from all the most violent countries. So what is there to be unhappy about? There's literally nothing going on.
America is terrible at doing anything except making money. There is a serious lack of investment in terms of human capital since the 90s
If a baseline for happiness is set at birth - and there is evidence it is- how does he know he’s not simply measuring the extent to which ‘happy’ folk are more likely to enjoy the company of others/ can be bothered with the company of others? I.e. the causal relationship is reversed.
I was wondering the same thing. Or when he said that, if you have good relationships, you'll not only be much happier but also healthier when you're older. Isn't it more likely the other way around? When you're healthy for the most part of your life, you are much more likely to be happy/content and able to do things with other people that make you even happier. In contrast, when you get chronically sick at a younger age it can really limit your capabilities/resources in daily life resulting in a lot of the relationships you had with other people slowly ceasing to exist or never getting the chance to develop (because you are physically not able to go out and meet people, e.g.) - and that is not due to the lack of trying or not wanting to be happy but due to sometimes really shitty circumstances.
I haven’t watched it but I’ll comment first. Has to be ‘sense of purpose’
"I have no money, no resources, no hopes. I am the happiest man alive."
--Henry Miller lol
Absolutely
My Mother is a mean woman. She has no relationships. She's 85 yrs old and healthy like a horse.
Trouble is, people can be trouble.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness because forgiveness establishes healthy relationships.
If you are a needy person, go out and befriend people . If you dont depend on others to be happy, then, by golly, you are fking awesome.
The findings of the study is absolutely correct 💯👍👍
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@@yaaghobrahmani4928 Wonder, what is the relevance of your statement with the subject at hand!
One of the best interviews I’ve watched.
I found love in my 40s. Every morning I thank God for my childhood & adulthood friends, etc. I'm happy & thankful.
Concentrate on improving your own self esteem and happiness is guaranteed...because when you like yourself, you will attract the right people into your life. Self esteem is the starting point of all life issues.
A “good life” can be different things to different people depending on their circumstances. For a poor single mom a good life can mean educating her kids.
"Believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it."
André Paul Guillaume Gide
There has never been found a case of clinical depression in a hunting and gathering society. I think that's because we're wired to be social, and in a hunting and gathering community there are no closed rooms and no locked doors. There's no room for abuse. There's no room for isolation.
Another key to happiness?
Give yourself away, volunteer, help others, and get involved with a cause that's important to you.
Doing so is very rewarding and it helps you to get your mind off of yourself!
Neuro-psicology. People are born happy, as everyone in my family, in spite of stressful or sad situations, or people are born unhappy. Of course there is a large gray area in between. But happiness is something from inside. You either have the necessary neurotransmitters and the brain connections for it, or you don't. Unhappy people who look for happiness in the world, will never find it.
Of course naturally happy people will have more non stressful social connections. But that probably is rather the consequence of being genetically happy than what causes happiness.
We have to try to find out the molecules, receptors and circuits of happiness 😊
You're onto something. Physiology and ones constitution does play a part, and that stuff is hard to change sometimes.
But we are social animals, and thats a very deep evolutionary adaptation that probably trumps all.
I've suspected this for some time. Some people are just innately happier. It all seems very genetic.
Nowadays, more than ever, only ultra-rich psychopaths can expect to be happy, and in their own twisted way.
Um abraço da América do Sul
I can tell you this, after many years of work, you'll remember the people not the work, as important as it was at the time. I have to work harder making contact with more of my old friends. Just contacted a guy I knew years ago. We were both happy about it! He invited me to lunch. May never go but said I might.
What a biased study. Happiness involves having your needs met and not being surrounded by people who use and abuse you. As the twig is bent, so grows the tree. People cause as much pain as they do pleasure...it depends on luck more as much as will as to where you find yourself stuck in life.
I tend to disagree with the findings of H.U., @CNN, my experiences have shown me a Healthy and Peaceful attitude while living detached and being unjudgmental brings one a health and peaceful attitude.
"detached and being unjudgmental" works for me whenever I can achieve that bliss of time. Peaceful
True happiness comes with not caring...not caring what other people are doing, not caring what other people say, not caring what people think of you. Unfortunately, that's like telling most people to just go win a billion dollars lottery.
I’m happier when doing things for others than for myself 😊
You are right, I,m the same.
You're beautiful. I love good people.
This has always been true from time immemorial. Love yr neighbour as you love yourself.
The secret to happiness is lowering one’s expectations.
Wait, I thought it was NOT getting married and NOT having kids. 🤣🤣🤣
Nope!
Yeah … my mistake … did both
Never got married ok but, yes I had a kid once, and happiness was filing my life, until the day a tragedy happened. Since then he's my Angel watching on me, sadly. So, happiness is sometimes hard to find from morning to night
We did both and were extremely happy 😊
@@peacelove2.0.69 Aww. I am very, very sorry to hear that. He'd want you to live the best life that you can. I hope you can find solace in that.
Good relationships, and 💕 love. That's nice.
A young puppy that felt miserable wished to know how he could find happiness. _Why, happiness is a dog's tail. It is right behind you. There is no need to feel sad._ Delighted with this revelation the puppy thought that all he need do is catch a hold of his tail and he will cease being so depressed. He spun around and around and no matter how hard he tried he failed in his effort to grab his tail. Finally exhausted from his attempts he gave up, having decided that his quest would forever elude him. After that he simply went about his business. And happiness followed him wherever he went.
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It has long been my contention that the primary pathway to finding happiness both in the moment and long term. Is the active bipartisan engagement in affective empathy. When we converse with family and friends. And share a common emotional state. Every person involved self triggers biological rewards whenever emotional parity is achieved. Everything said in this video simply confirms this.
Typical science.....
Happiness comes from within, independent from external sources, the external sources are a temporary "solution" but do not create a solid foundation for true happiness.
How do you know that an underlying innate happiness isn't the reason that these people are able to have successful relationships with others? Your findings of correlation might be causal the other way around.
Happiness is whatever CNN and the media tells me what it is.
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The is probably a correlational study, ie I doubt that the conclusion can be made that forging good relationships make you happy. There may be a third factor, such as genetics, which makes some people more popular and also more healthy and successful. For example, we know how much physical attractiveness plays a role.
True happiness comes from within. Relationships are just for entertainment. If you learn to love yourself, all of your relationships get better. Social media has boosted jealousy and anger. This guy is living a fairytale.
Not everybody feels bad about ourselves when we are on Facebook and see positive postings about another person's family and adventures. Some of us actually feel joy in those types of postings. Even if we don't have children of our own or celebrate all holidays . Atleast that includes me so i may skew some of your research. I am an introvert that takes pleasure in other's pleasure. And i am happy for their achievements.
Same
Great ADVICE. HE IS EXACTLY RIGHT
_"... good relationships keep us healthier happier ..."_
Yeah.
Good relationships
make you happy,
and happiness
makes you
able to
get good
relationships.
Cool.
_"... Yeah, take small actions ... think of somebody you miss ... somebody you'd like to connect with ...
_... just send them a text ... saying hi, I was thinking of you ... and just wanted to connect ... regularly ..."_
Yeah.
That's the trivial way
to make them consider you as a
stalker.
Good advice.
And the reason you'll be considered a 'stalker' is because people of the world don't truly understand what happiness is and how to achieve it. Hence we have a mostly 'wicked' and 'unhappy' world population who are naturally defensive because of it being that way which in fact they've been a part of creating. Most people will never obtain 'true' happiness in their lives because they're busy being too SELFISH to care about others than themselves! But the great thing about these types of people are that we'll be rid of them because they live shorter lives. Thank god!
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_"... you'll be considered a 'stalker' is because ..."_
Yeah.
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_"... But the great thing about these types of people are that we'll be rid of them because they live shorter lives ..."_
Yeah ?
How much shorter ?
Shorter enough
you judging,
self righteous
deluded ...
human being.
_"... Thank god! ..."_
What god.
That god
what created
those "most people",
those SELFISH ones,
to be exactly
how they are,
you dmnd F@@L of
this stpd god.
Well relationships are a 2 way street. The advice won't work with someone who doesnt want to connect regularly, but there is probably someone who does want to connect regularly
Secret to happiness? Avoid Cable news. That's one of them! :):D
Especially CNN and MSN
Progress equals happiness the secret to living is giving. Grow and give and do something to be productive to humanity daily
Smile, be happy take care of yourself, don't have expectations of others to make you happy, live simple.
My patient was a young centurion and raving about being married as soon as he got out of the hospital! I couldn’t knock
It! I want this fit centurion to have fun and thrive!
Life is not perfect but I find one of few countries country out there, the Philippines. Mostly considered third world by many and yet friendly and happy. This has been in their culture since pre colonials and they called it Bayanihan,, ( Brothethood, different indigenous living side by side) helping each other not expecting in return and been carried up to this time.
Being Saved 👍 will make you happy.
Saved from religion. Hear hear.
They studied hundreds of men over several decades. It is quite a feat and it’s nice that they have come to some conclusions. I don’t believe they added a single person from the other half of the human race though.
Not true
I agree with Professor. The key word is abundance.
Parental love is the only thing that will get you started properly and sustain you in life, no matter what kind of life you eventually have.
Unfortunately not everyone had this opportunity of loving parents, definitely not mine.
I missed out on the parental love in my life, but had teachers and friends that supported me. I'm happy and grateful for my life. Your statement does not ring true to me.
@@marisadallavalle393 Parental love doesn't always have to come from parents. Sounds like you did get some from someone else, though.
@@robintalkowski3210 Glad you had someone else to give that love and support that parents are supposed to give.
The first four years is when personality forms. (whether due to genetic factors or environment) It's a critical period.
Hes a man to be trusted this guy... hes nice hes healthy.
Funny about psychologists. They know other people apparently but they don't know themselves.
What about monks who live alone and meditate for years and report experiencing a peace beyond all understanding?
Happiness or Love or Respect etc etc depends on our ability to witness the moment (meditation) rather than identifying to it.
The secret to happiness is when your car doesn't have an air conditioner and the McDonald's drive-thru is empty. And you have just enough money to get a dipped chocolate 🤩ice cream cone
The secret to happiness is a good wife nothing's more important than family
Wake up a higher power in you, which is love, joy and happiness itself. Happiness is a freedom from your own bodymind.
Fascinating.