Troubled Times
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ย. 2024
- Another behind-the-scenes podcast where Liz and Brian share their decision to discuss such personal details about their marriage and life in public (including talking about Liz's mum, who was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer).
We talk about how our family is (trying) to navigate the "new normal", addressing guilt, wrestling with emotions and lastly, the importance of not assuming to know what others are thinking or feeling.
You never know what others are thinking.
Not ever.
If you doubt this statement, just remember the Spitfire story.
And lastly...
This podcast is my and Brian's outlet: our escape, our therapy. We really, really hope it feels the same for you too. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts for giving us your ear and allowing us into your life each week to chat. You are the best.
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Thank you for being you and for being incredible. Much love, Liz and Brian xx
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Bravo Brian. Bravo. Not only do you have strength of mind, you have clarity of thinking. Come what may, keep rejunenating that strength and keep on being unflappable. it will stand you in good stead. Liz, you have found a sheltered port, take the time to breathe. It will give you small moments of peace in chaos.
Thank you so very much, Ana. Your kindness and thoughtful words of support mean the world to me, thank you ❤️ Liz x
Thank you,you are ßo real and strong
Thank you for making us feel safe and loved ❤️
I loved George and Mildred😂 what I love about you both is that you do keep it real and share with us warts and all. My heart goes out to you all at this very sad time. Thanks so much for being prepared to open up to us all xx
Thank you for creating a space where we feel safe enough to do that, Jill ❤️
PS: Yes...I love Midred too...especially her pink nightie...😂
Brian is a gem!! love to you both and all the family.xxx
Thank you, Penny. He is indeed ❤xx
Hey Brian & Liz, you guys are real and it in many ways reflects whats happening in our lives. It helps us to get through, to discuss and open up to each other, have compassion for each other. Thank you for having the courage to be open and share your heart wrenching situation. Remember our hearts beat with yours.
How beautiful you are ❤️ Thank you so very much,
Liz and Brian xx
Hi Liz & Bri my heart goes out to you and your family at this time. Truly thinking of you all at this trying time. Sending you huge snuggles to you all❤
Thank you, Raewyn. Your words and thoughts are truly appreciated ❤️ Liz and Brian xx
Good morning Liz and Bri.. Loved your podcast yesterday, knowing how difficult it is showing ones vulnerability to all. All power to you Liz. When my previous husband was dying of cancer, I felt honoured to be going through this final stage with him. Some days he was better than others but he was aware of my presence right to the end. He asked me what side of the Angels wings the feathers were on. I said, the outside I suppose.. He said, wrong.. the wings don't have feathers. He told me many things about what he was seeing and who was there with him in the room. Also said he could tell me more but it wasn't my time to know. I was truely blessed to spend that time with him (He was in a Hospice in NZ) Although it was emotionally heavy for me, I enjoyed being there with him as long as I needed to be.. Afterwards, when it was all over, I could reflect on all the things he told me, funny and sad and was able to manage my grief so much better, although you do grieve whilst you are with them.. You also need to take care of yourself Liz but let this time be as comforting for you as it is to your mum. Reminisce about the funny things with her and ask her questions about what is happening with her. Bri, keep being the stalwart because when Liz feels weak you will always feel strong and vice versa. Thank goodness you are both each others best friend.
Jan...thank you from the bottom of my heart for these beautiful words of comfort and love. I smiled at the angel wings because...because I just did.
I can't tell you how humbling, honouring, lovely, special, and mostly unbelievable it feels to be in such a privileged position where I am lucky enough to hear from others who have gone before me on this journey.
It is as though this whole TH-cam channel, everything we have ever done was created just for this moment. For wonderful people like you, Rob and everyone else listening and watching to be there for me and Bri in these times. We are all here for each other. As one lovely person said "our hearts beat the same". How very, very true. Never have I felt that as much as now. ❤️
Much love to you, Jan.
Your friend,
Liz x
Grasp those memories Liz, she ain't stressed(you are), lose is hard
Thank you for this truly moving, filled with genuine emotions and love vlog. It is always great to see you beautiful couple talking and interracting with each other and this amazing property behind you. Your story resonated deeply with us.💖
We were deeply saddened to hear about your mom's declining health and her need for palliative care. We understand the immense impact such a family tragedy can have on everyone involved, and we empathize with the difficult emotions you're experiencing. We have been there. We experienced it.🥺
Brian, you are truly amazing man.🥰 Your kids are remarkable with such a wisdom and compassion at such a young age🥰
Liz, you don't need validation from others; grant yourself permission to feel whatever emotions arise during this trying time. There's no "normal" in such circumstances; there is no rules or guidance on how to feel; it's about accepting and adapting to your new reality.
I promise, eventually, life will resume its normal rhythm, and you'll look back on this challenging period with a newfound perspective.💖
Cherish the moments of laughter and joy amidst the tears (we love that you still make us laugh; my goodness, you guys are sooo awsome; so real and authentic) - those authentic moments are what make life beautiful. Always.💖
Sending you all our love, strength, and warm wishes for your mom's comfort and peace. You're not alone in this journey.💖. We love you from far away.💖
Renata and Saviz...What a truly wonderful message from two beautiful people. Thank you. You are, and always will be so very very much loved and cherished. Thank you for always making us feel safe and loved ❤️ Your friends from New Zealand,
Liz and Brian xx
My son is a hospice nurse, you should find once your mum gets to hospice she will settle and alot of the pressure the family and yourself feel will change as you send your mum on her peaceful last journey
Thank you so much and please thank your son. He is an angel ❤️
It is really hard to know what to do during these hard times. What should be normal? People all react and cope in different ways. I think we just need to be kind to ourselves and others. Thinking of you all at this hard time. 💕
Thank you, Shelley ❤️
I am so sorry to hear about your Mum, my heart goes out to your family. Trying to keep some sort of normalcy in such times, is important. I think people love your authenticity and love for each other. Kia kaha you beautiful people. Arohanui. Sending much love❤
Thank you so much, Angie. You are wonderful and kind and very much appreciated. Much love to you my friend, Liz and Brian xx ❤️
We are sending you all our love. We wish there was some amazing thing we could say or do to help with your pain and sadness. Huge hugs to your mom, and you Liz, Brian, Sonny, Tess & the rest of your family❤🫂 You do not deserve or need to feel guilty for realizing that you also need to live. It's funny how you eventually say something that was needed to be heard at the exact right time. Thanks for sharing. Love you guys!
You being here with us is the amazing thing you do every single week. We love and appreciate you both so very much. ❤️ Liz, Brian, Sonny and Tess xxx
Kia kaha Liz, don't feel guilty
Thank you new kiwis , old kiwi living in London
Much love to you, Terence ❤️ 🇳🇿🏴🏴
Guys, actually like your "shows" as it makes me home sick as a Kiwi living in Oman. Remember my childhood times on my cousins farm in Okato. NZ is bloody brilliant. I've been in the GCC for the last 15 years.
Thank you for being with us, Stuart. You are very much appreciated 🥰 Liz and Brian
Liz, if you want to cry, cry. Don't second guess yourself. The reason it seems 'automatic' is because it's an 'acceptable' way for women to comfort themselves. It's what women have been taught! Tears are a big hug; they have a soothing power.
Consider talking to your GP about how you are coping. They can get you some short term support. Asking for that is not something to feel 'weak' about. Look after you.
Thank you for your words and love ❤️ Liz xx
Hmmm... I'm a Maori, your story resonates with me... My Koro was dying with cancer, my parents and whanau listened, accept it, talk about it, Liz listen... You have come from where you have come from... Truly integrate with Maori, you will truly find your grief will go... You will miss her, but truly..... Learn us...positivity always
Thank you so very much, Delwyn. I appreciate your kind words, thank you ❤️ Liz x
Hey Liz I just want to say firstly, how sorry I am to hear about your Mum❤.
I went through the same thing many years ago when my son & daughter were only 9 and 11, it was also Halloween in the UK.
We moved to NZ in 2006.
My mum initially had breast cancer which turned to bone cancer.
It was terrifying and overwhelming.
The words of comfort are to be there with her as much as you can, just be there, put your life on hold until she passes away. That way you'll have no regrets.
After her passing you will be grieving but I can honestly say to you Liz, it gets easier with time or you learn to live without her.
Look after yourself like your wonderful hubby Brian says, it's sooo important to do that .
Cry, grieve, walk on your own and over time you will realise and accept that even though she's passed from this world and her earthly body, her soul will always be with you.
My Mum visits me every so often and my dad walks with me lots of love Liz & healing thoughts ❤🙏xx
Oh Jacqui...I don't know how to answer this comment accept to say how privileged I feel to have such words of love sent to me. Thank you. Thank you so much.
your friend,
Liz xx ❤️
KIA KAHA LIZ, relax in the kiwi way, listen to those that know, youre awesome, love yous❤,
Top bloke that Brian, reckon you should keep him Liz 🙂. Very fine words offered. I am certain they will resonate and assist others going through similar journeys.
We hope so, Lin. Thank you ❤️
Yes...I reckon after 35 years he's proved he's more than a good looking face 🥰🥰
Much love to you my musical friend xx
Not easy to keep it real as life can be shit , but real people should never forget even people who don't really know you are there for you .
I used to wonder what things would be like after my parents had gone within a twinkle of your eye they have been gone for over twenty years as sad as it sounds we move on we adjust we cope , just remember if your hear a horn blowing and see a guy waving frantically smile as you have just seen a nutter going past next time l see you both a big man hug is coming your way.
Oh, my goodness, John...you know the other morning when you beeped your horn SO loud, and we waved like mad?! Well, I FELT that hug then! You are the best virtual hugger in the world. Stay safe in that waggon and know that we appreciate you very much 🥰
Would have stopped to administer real hugs but I've got a trapped nerve in my lower back giving me super gipp at the moment next time l promise the real thing ❤
Is your sister older than you Liz?
I'm looking for a famous and powerful TH-camr from New Zealand or Australia to share my disastrous story that I can't even say anything I've been through in New Zealand.
I lost both my parents a few years ago, just before covid. It's never the same again. I definitely cried. I wish I knew the answers. Wish you guys the best. ❤
We are so very sorry for your loss, James. We hope that you find peace now you are back home. We are both sending you much love ❤Liz and Brian xx
Dear Liz and Brian, listening to your podcast today reminds me what I had to learn as my Mum was dying of cancer when I was 19. I had to learn to give myself permission to find space to fill my energy back up. I had to give myself permission not to be emotional in every situation but mostly I had to give myself permission to find any ounce of joy because I deserved it and so did the people around me. What I needed most of all is to lean into those you love for we all have our roles to play during a crisis. The fact that you and Brian choose to share your experience and learnings with your supporters (extended whanau) through your podcasts, to find any ounce of joy you can during this time, to bring your extended whanau with you on this journey is why we are all still here. We live and learn together and we give each other permission to be us
I send you all my strength and all my support - just be you.
Arohanui Tracy
Oh, Tracy...
I feel as though I could just write your name and you would know exactly how I feel when I read this. What a beautiful, lovely, kind soul you are. You are right. This community IS our extended whanau and me reading those words filled my heart up to the top with love. You are loved ❤️
Liz and Brian xxx
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I love Brian's saying "Kia kaha, Kia U".
To Assume makes an Ass out of U and Me...
Hi Liz and Brian - I think it just shows the difference between men and women, also, it's your Mum Liz, no-one else. Losing a parent is so hard, regardless of how the relationship is. I have listened to you two for quite some time, often during the Covid Years when I hated everything about our country. Your positivity always cheered me up.
I also love the honesty around these last two podcasts, I have lost both my parents and life changes, it's never the same again but we do pick ourselves up eventually and start to enjoy life again.
Thanks for your humour and your honesty. First time commenter, long time listener. Thanks for loving New Zealand when I did not.
So sorry for the pain you are all going through, we Europeans are not equipped for losing someone we love, we just are not.
Mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, animal lover, prone to anxiety and depression, love gardening and cats :)
Wendy...firstly, thank you for being with us for so long, secondly, thank you for taking the time to sit down and leave such a touching an heartfelt message and thirdly, I love you ❤️
Much love to you my new but-probably-feels-like-old friend, I feel honoured to know you.
Liz xx
@@ItsaDrama Thank you Liz for such a lovely reply - it's true that I have an unfair advantage ;) I've lurked for a long time, will try and comment more often... ❤
Liz, perhaps you might be Hyacinth Bucket and Brian is nagged husband Richard? 😂
Seriously, though, we all feel for you in these tough times.When my mum died from cancer I turned off emotionally for a long time, which I constantly feel guilty about now.
We cope in different ways.
You're very lucky with Brian as a Rock for support.
Thank you. I feel very lucky indeed, to have Brian by my side, Robert ❤️
PS: Hyacinth Bucket??? Crikey...it's getting worse....😂
@@ItsaDrama Hyacinth Bucket from the British sitcom Keeping Up Appearances.
You’re going through life, as we all are. Just feel the arohanui we’re pouring out to you. You all need to embrace each other as a family, although each of you will experience this time differently. It’s ok to stop and just be for a while. Kia kaha ❤️
Thank you so much. Your kind words mean the world to me and Brian ❤️
So sad to hear about Mum. Strongs 💪 for all of you and please just take one day at a time. Our Father won't give you more to carry than what you are able to. ✨️
Thank you, Marlene ❤️
Iknow im months behind, but yous remind me of me and my husband, my husband is like Brian(in that sympathetic way, but clever too lolz), and I'm like you Liz (loud and proud in any other time, but when we need our husband, they are there for us), BUT... They are our sounding boards(only yous are bringing it to the world, but I love it)
Omg Liz, when you go through cancer, we don't want family to fuss
Just be there Liz, listen to your husband