I sat down with my 16 yr old daughter and talked to her about this. ( Not our first conversation about it). But, I needed her to know the real world consequences of this. As a mother, I have to make sure that we keep this open dialogue. Addiction issues have run in my family deeply. My heart aches for this family. I don't know how I would cope through such a huge loss. Parents are supposed to go first. I don't want to outlive my child.
@@KILLEMALLTWICE I'm not sure why your asking. But, her Dad lives about six city blocks away from us. He hasn't seen her in a year and a half. He started a new family, and has put that family before his his daughter. That being said, I have never trash talked him to her. I've let my daughter form her own opinions. I wouldn't be doing my daughter any justice by trashing her father. My daughter and I have always had a close relationship though. She is a really good kid. She's never had any issue with drugs or alcohol. I just felt it was good to make sure that I talk to her about it though. I have many family members who have had issues with addiction. And some studies have shown that addictive behavior can run in families.
sorry for their loss; parents, please listen - just because your kid is making straight As and preparing for college does not mean he isn't also stressing over the nonsense that you upper middle class folk impose on your kids and doing hard drugs to blunt the edges. these kids are abusing adderall and all manner of drugs (they're not experimenting, they're abusing - first they did it with alcohol, now it's drugs). also, drug dealers aren't laying in wait to pounce on your kid - your kids find them and know who they are!
@Jon Dough look honey, I'm speaking from experience and observation as a middle class parent (if you will). raising children is the hardest thing you will ever do. having resources at your disposal, hovering over children, stressing them to death over grades, appearances and schools, even drug testing them are all things I observed and on occasion participated in during my child's high school years. to date, five of his peers from high school have died of opioid deaths (all before age 30). I'm not envious, just encouraging everyone not to be deluded into believing that external indicators of "normalcy" and "All American-ness" are often misleading...
A parent should never have to bury their child. It's so unnatural and against the circle of life. I just can't imagine how the parents feel. Sending my most sincere condolences. This is beyond sad 😔
It is sad, but we are never guaranteed another day I was almost one of them. I choked on a jawbreaker at five years old. I was able to hold on until the nurse across the street came to our house, but I can't imagine what he was feeling not knowing he had taken something worse than his body could deal with.
I just find it disturbing that medicine is called drugs. I can see why they cause more problems than what it solves just look at all the side affects. I will say something is missing in kids lives to be thinking about doing drugs. The thought never crossed my mind I knew it is bad. Seems like people use it to try to escape the reality of something happening in their lives. Therapists are not going to solve your problems they look at this as a job, and paycheck. Friends, and family should take the time out to actually get to know their children, and spend time with them. If your lifestyle is to busy that you need other people to raise your children don't have them. I'm not judging them but I know there is more to it than what has been said. Maybe talking about drugs enables some children to want to try them as a part of their rebellious attitude.
@@ac4498 Look parents can't be with their children 24/7 anyone who says they are is a liar. What is not right is bringing children in to the world if you can't spend time with them, and actually bring them up in a loving home while talking to them. If you have a busy life style, and need other people to raise your children for example. Children just seem to be treated as property more than a human being with emotions, wants, and needs.
As a 16 year old teen. Even I know what Xans & the cause it can do to you . I was in 6th grade & still knew what hard core drug were. I never done any type of drugs besides weed. He knew what he was doing. He didn't know it was laced. Why blame a social media . You don't need social media to get drugs.
to my knowledge, they are only guessing that the drugs are laced right now. i think they are still waiting for the results from the autopsy and police investigation.
also just because you know what they are does not mean other people do. lots of times it just depends on the environment you grow up in. some kids know about weed and cocaine but not about rx drugs. some kids know about weed but not other drugs. some kids know about alcohol but not about any types of drugs. some kids know about all of the types of drugs and so on and so forth. sometimes it can depend on whether people have actually educated or informed you of them and the effects other than “it’ll make you chill or feel good.”
Lord have mercy......I am definitely gonna share this with my 16 year old who is in virtual school as well. Thank God I work part time, so I am home with him alot, but these poor parents have to bury their son. God help them in their time of grief.
Parents need to be careful about who or what their kids no matter the age are doing or maybe meeting watching on virtual teaching WHEN they are away from their classes taking breaks, maybe they go on TH-cam maybe chatting I dont know but it needs to be addressed and talk about it, I am a teacher.
"He was so careful about his health" "he new the risks" No mom, he was just a kid. He wasn't careful because kids aren't careful and they do not know the risks, no matter how much they research because they are by design cynical about everything, are really bad at making decisions and have very little self-control. Add to this a never ending pandemic and the chance to do something new and things like this happen. Your boy was a very normal child, and someone out there took advantage of that developing mind full of dreams. Sometimes we think so highly of ur kids that we forget that their brain is still developing. This was clearly an accidental overdose and I hope that whoever is responsible is apprehended and charged for what he/she did to your beautiful boy. This person must face justice.
He probably knew what the risks were. But, teens don't understand the finality of their decisions. Their brains are not developed enough to truly understand consequences to their actions. I feel really badly for Mom and Dad
You and many others really do not understand Fentanyl. It should not be in any drugs. Taking a xanax here and there does not mean someone has a drug problem. He was not an addict necessarily. He got unlucky because he got a drug cut with fentanyl. One can argue whether he should have tried that to begin with but whether we like it or not experimentation is a thing for many kids. If drugs were legal and regulated we would not have deaths caused by fentanyl. There are people not abusing drugs, buying xanax from a dealer because it is cheaper than their insurance, who die because it is laced with fentanyl.
@@samanthab6642 0:11 according to this video they have not yet confirmed what the actual drug/s were in his system. we do not know what drug/s were in his system, the amount, or even if this was a one time incident or if he had taken them before. they say it was cocaine plus other drugs in this other video link th-cam.com/video/OLPBZighPy0/w-d-xo.html so who knows until the toxicology report comes out.
@@bhumphries1360 mmmm yes their young age is a factor in their bad decisions but don't use it as a cop out for them being responsible for their actions. They may know the weight/finality of their decision but do it anyway. No matter how many abstinence videos, safe sex lessons, say no to drugs, don't drink and drive campaign their will always be those who make the bad choice.
There were more drugs in college than in my neighborhood. If he was doing weed, he knew where to get the hard stuff. How much money did that kid have? Drugs are not free. Lot of dead kids trying to be Kool kids.
So true! I learned from a student at a university and he stated about other students who came from super-wealthy families and they don't use commercial anything 🛩
You got a point there! How much money are kids getting and what for? I didn’t get allowance when growing up. Our chores was expected to be done, period. There was no bribing with allowances to get us to do our chores or adhere to the house rules. It was if we wanted to live under their roof that they paid for, we knew what we had to do. Now a days that type of upbringing sounds abusive but I’m here as well as my siblings (even my step-siblings). Thank God.
Well back in the 80's while in High School we were offered on many occasions weed coca and a simple NO was enough you got to have a strong willpower and a strict FATHER like I did!!
Why would he be allowed to smoke Marijuana in the house at 16? And he smoked that much that they had to check on him every hour. It appears that the only people that did not know about his hard drug use, were the parents. They missed the signs.....or refuse to believe it. Sad
So now she's blaming snap chat for her sons overdose?? What about taking responsibility for the upbringing of your children? I notice alot of rich kids are enabled by their parents to do whatever they want with no consequences. They casually mentioned how their son smoked weed. C'mon, parents need to be better.
I live on long Island. Last year one of my high-school friends overdosed on fentanyl laced pills. This was shocking to even ppl close to him, as he wasn't a drug addict... and he had his life together. His mother was outraged and determined to find out where these drugs came from. Through her vigilance, and the hard work of local police, they arrested 3 NYPD police officers, part of a drug ring...
You know what, being a parent is hard. Sometimes you try everything and nothing works. Believe you me, she already knows that she missed something. Have compassion.
It's hard for all parents to notice how their kid feels, for some reason. But in this case, seemed like he really didn't have a problem, he was probably just being a teenager. Fentanyl laced drugs in an epidemic
@@OkOkOkJeez to my knowledge, they have not confirmed the drugs in his system at the time. it is just the parents guess right now. i do not believe the autopsy or police investigation have been concluded. i could be wrong though. also we do not know what really happened. we do not know if it was one time use or if he had used them multiple times and/or tried lots of other drugs whether prescription or otherwise except for weed.
@@noomwa i agree being a parent is hard. i didn’t blame her or anybody else for it unlike others. i said it sucks. that is compassion. it sucks that this situation happened to them. honestly, none of us know what that family was really like behind closed doors. it could have actually been a very happy satisfying life for every member of the family. or it could have been a picture of a family struggling to appear perfect. that kid could have had deep emotional struggles that he felt like he could not talk about about them with his parents due to having to be picture perfect. who knows? 🤷
We didnt allow ours online or cell phones til they were 18. They are 29, 27 and 19 . The 19 year old hates phones and computers unless doing school work. The other 2 are youth ministers helping youth with these problems.
Thank you to the friend to help. This is so dangerous and you truly are helping to protect other kids from danger. You should be commended. Thank you for helping these parents. It help so many other families. You are a hero for helping. it's not easy to do. Thank you.
Let this not be anything special. Just because she is a "celebrity" therapist doesn't make her family immune to the realities we all live daily. 100's die this way DAILY!
Of course it happens daily.....But they are using their celebrity platform to warn parents of the potential trauma of drugs affecting families via Snapchat.
Sorry to hear this. This happen to my grandson, he was 16 years old and died. It was not Snapchat, but a dealer in the neighborhood. My heart is broken. The drug was laced also.
So so sorry for your loss. Thank you for speaking out. Personally, I think there should be a call for Snapchat and these app to have to be transparent and parents should have access to all in communications involving their minor young child.#callyourlegistator
It looks better for them to blame everyone and everything than being accountable for neglecting their child. Besides what kind of home environment is that, that they let their kids to try illegal drugs, seriously? And why does a kid want to even wanna try drugs in the first place? There was a lot of disconnect and emotional abandonment in that home, a child won't ever want to try any drugs if he or she feels heard, considered, respected, acknowledged not only materially but emotionally and spiritually.
It looks better for them to blame everyone and everything than being accountable for neglecting their child. Besides what kind of home environment is that, that they let their kids to try illegal drugs, seriously? And why does a kid want to even wanna try drugs in the first place? There was a lot of disconnect and emotional abandonment in that home, a child won't ever want to try any drugs if he or she feels heard, considered, respected, acknowledged not only materially but emotionally and spiritually.
@@jenem9618 At first I thought that's what they were doing but on second watch I think they're blaming Snapchat for not giving them access to the data they're after.
Why did she cut them off when they mentioned snapchat and twitter do not help bring down drug dealers?? Note to Parents: check your kids phones daily, not weekly or monthly or sometimes.
All drugs should be decriminalized and regulated and addicts given treatment. And take the distribution of drugs away from the criminals. People will do drugs. Make them safer and not lethal
So sorry for the parents and just to hear this story makes me want to go home and delete my child's social medial accounts. It is very difficult to monitor their social media accounts. Prayers to the family.
Unfortunately that won’t keep your child clean from drugs!!! Keep the lines of communication open!! Help them to feel they can trust talking to you! Try to keep your discussions a no- judgement zone! Know where your children are and who their friends are!! That’s a start! Good luck and don’t forget to pray!
unfortunately drugs can be accessed in lots of other places not just social media. you can try and teach your kids to be responsible and informed human beings. it is their choice to make educated, healthy, and/or safe decisions. you can only do so much as a parent.
it sucks that lots of therapists do not realize issues going on in their own home. sometimes people need to focus on home more than work. everybody needs balance in their lives.
Insensitive. Nothing wrong with experimentation. How do you know he had a drug problem? Taking a xanax is not usually an issue in a normal dose once in a while but FENTANYL EASILY kills. The issue is the drug dealers and cartels are cutting drugs with Fentanyl. This could have been the first time he ever even tried the drug. If anything, this situation shows that drugs should be legal and monitored so when someone gets something they know what they're getting!
@@samanthab6642 i never said there was anything wrong with experimentation or that he had a drug problem. my statement was a very general statement that can be applied to lots of therapists/professions out there. some but not all, people focus on work more than their own home and do not realize that they have their own similar “work things” going on in their own home. this applies to lots of people not just therapists, like teachers, social workers, cops, doctors, etc. i also did not say that this happened to this family. i do not know them at all and am not claiming too. sorry but not sorry if you think it is insensitive. 🤷 also if think my comment was “insensitive” you should go read or comment on the other comments that actually say something along the actual lines of what you “accused” mine of... like having drug issues or bad parenting. if you don’t like comments that are “insensitive” don’t read the comments and don’t go on social media. sometimes reality and/or the truth can hurt.
@@fjp9 I don't see anything wrong with your comment, sometimes we have to speak truth even if it hurts. My coworker, a therapist, his daughter pregnant at 15, he worked 24/7. Keep an eye on your kids. And yes, there is everything wrong with experimental drugs, sometimes the experiment will only happen once. You might die.
I watched your interview with Dr. Phil, I am so very sorry that this unthinkable thing has happened to lose a son in this manner there are no words. I will talk to my daughter and have her watch your interview. Hopefully she can gather mom's to come over and discuss mom to mom what can be done to keep an eye open
It must Be excruciating for a parent In the Mental health field lose a child to an overdose. This happened to a classmate of mine in HS. It’s Very heroic of the survivors who go on to help others. Thank you for sharing.
“...he wanted me to discuss a summer internship, when I got to his room he was dead.” I doubt the timeline fit so tidy. Straight A students who have involved parents Likely relationship expert set a higher bar of outward appearances & totally absorbed in the couples appearances on TV than personal parental relationship/involvement...no mention on how his brothers are doing; so sad.
If a 2 parent household can’t be available & involved for your *16 Year Old* while working from home during a pandemic, are considered an “expert on relationships” with your last article titled “Why Working from Home is NOT Working for Couples”... perhaps it’s not social media to blame. *It’s not the son that a parent can learn from IMO.*
*Clearly an attempt to quickly volunteer their own narrative to misdirect any public opinion which might damage her career.* Their son was discovered at 4:24 pm Sunday; Dr Bergman posted regarding the death of her son also on Sunday-not possible for her to know anything besides her own guessing after saying someone from SnapChat delivered at their home, to their son tainted RX drugs. All media reports *solely* source Dr Berman & her husband with their claims. That SOLE statement by parents led an *OFFICIAL POLICE* statement YESTERDAY saying: “The case is currently with the Los Angeles Coroner’s Department & a preliminary investigation leads us to believe prescription drug use may have been involved.” ~~~An autopsy is usually completed within a day or two but final results of a toxicology report take 5-6 weeks. EVEN a PRELIM report on a dead body looking for tests regarding drugs to help police investigation can take several days or even weeks.
sorry but i find it kind of funny you are posting comments to your own comment. it is normal when other people have posted additional comments but not so much when it is just one person. but i do appreciate some of the information that you have posted here.
@Sofia Elias Jamison Really... Then explain why we still have no autopsy or cause of death re: Officer Sicknick who died at Capitol Riots, but less than 4 hours after Dr Berman’s son died she happens to know AND publicly announce he took pills laced with fentanyl? AND i’m a single parent of a now 19 & 15 year old from a tragic situation which left us in a bad situation with no support system. I can & will express my opinion which is based off more facts than emotions!
I don’t understand how did she not know?? My daughter is 16 also sheltering at home and she doesn’t “receive mail” that we don’t know about, or wouldn’t check first...she doesn’t go out on her own, for air or anything, I guess we owe that to living in rough part of Brooklyn, but parents you MUST check in on your kids! Every know and then we do random “phone checks” where right in front of her, I’ll read through her texts and check her Instagram, etc. She doesn’t get offended anymore because I tell her, “if your carrying yourself correctly, then you have nothing to worry about, these checks are just maintenance and good parenting ...when you’re a parent one day you should absolutely do the same”...I tell my daughter that she should be offended if we didn’t check up on her. But these kinds of things come with trust that’s built over years starting when they’re little.
The result of spending too much time with everybody's issues and not your own ... I spent so much time with my sons that even as adults now, when I talk to them on the phone, I can immediately tell when things are not going as good as they try to tell me they are and I don't let it go until they finally come clean
I think this is key, spending as much time as possible with your kids. Many parents today are overwhelmed and overworked and just do not have the time anymore. My kids are 4 and 2 and I have trouble making as much time as they want. They said themselves he was in his room and they had to check on him several times, why wasn’t he with his parents. Clearly he’s been idle in room for long periods of time.
@@SergeantArchDornan2242 Think that just makes you go mad. Thankfully I don't know what some of that stuff is so theres no chance I'll be having any of that! The only ones I take is ones like paracetamol. Taking 1 or 2 is cool when you got a head ache as they help make you feel better
My heart breaks and I am truly sorry. Let's find the dealer and get him off the streets. Please talk to your angels and guides to help you through this difficult times. I am so so sorry.
Any platform can be used to do the unthinkable. Gail, the interview should be about why our children feel a need to escape through drugs, not considering the escape can be a.final destination . So sorry for this loss, praying for the parents.
My son who turned 18 on Feb 7, 2021 is not allowed to walk around outside between classes. Don't know why they let their 16 year old walk around the neighborhood during Zoom breaks. Rip
Social media was how he got drugs THIS time. But the issue is that naïveté of just trusting a rando to hook you up with hard drugs. He was at that weird age where they get how to do adult things, but not necessarily how it all works. RIP, kid
Sat down with my youngest yesterday, he’s 15, and made him watch this yesterday. I stressed that what you THINK you are getting, isn’t what you think you could be getting. He had been out to eat with a friend, and I asked him what he ate. His response was, “A cheeseburger mom”. 😢😢😢🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
These cell phones can be really bad for young children. They can indirectly lead to many deaths of these kids. This is probably more common than we realize. So sorry for their loss.
I’m very sorry for their loss. I’m sure the pain is unimaginable. That being said he still solicited drugs and unfortunately probably not the first time.
Another life lost to pills being laced with Fentinyl. I cant imagine what his parents are going through. I do know the pain of unexpected loss, this past Nov., my ex husband, who i was with from the age of 15-29 & father of my 3 kids, shot himself. The knot still in my stomach, not being able to take the pain away from my kids & the thoughts...Should of, could of, would of, goes through your mind. My heart ❤ goes out to them all. 🙏🕊
they say it was cocaine plus other drugs in this other video th-cam.com/video/OLPBZighPy0/w-d-xo.html so who knows until the toxicology report comes out.
My deepest sympathy to these parents. I thank God that my children are adults now and survived their teen years. No matter how close you are or how much you try to stay connected, teenagers that you may have sent to their rooms as punishment when they were little suddenly become bedroom recluses. They need and want their space. You can't constantly be in their face. A family schedule for meals or a movie night is pretty much set. But the rest of the time it's like any healthy relationship. Sharing this tragic event, I hope and pray, will save others the loss and grief. May God be with them during this very difficult time.
And now all the drug dealers are working together and posting this to keep each other out of trouble and continue selling to little kids. Great people !!!
I am so sorry Mama. I cannot imagine the pain you are enduring right now- I wish more was being done with this iPhone epidemic. I am on suboxone (free since April 2016) because of a neglegent doctor prescribing massive doses of pain medications (five all together - oxycodone/Percocet/diludid/tramadol/Xanax and a fentynal patch). I am lucky to be alive. However detox was eye opening. Every single person there for heroine started with an injury, prescriptions and pills. We need to STOP overprescribing, over consuming and killing our babies. I want to help- let me know if I can! I really hope they find who did this- prayers for your family!
@@michaelmyers5782 Michael Myers 😍. But yes. I never used any drugs myself and I only drank 2 times and I'm 31 years old. But I do know for people to get there hands are drugs is easy and if they can't they would these do something else to get a high. When I was that age I was playing video games. But doing the blame game is kinda wrong when you can these say you may want to have a better eye on your kids at the age when it likely for them to abuse substances.
This goes to show that no one is safe. For all the good from social media & technology there IS the dark side as well. Dr. Laura & Sam were checking on their son hourly, but it only takes a moment for a life to be snuffed out by a killer be it drugs, a murderer, or suicide. The lockdowns are causing more depression among preteens & teens. Humans are social beings, & this isolation is taking its toll on everyone. GOD BLESS!
I sat down with my 16 yr old daughter and talked to her about this. ( Not our first conversation about it). But, I needed her to know the real world consequences of this. As a mother, I have to make sure that we keep this open dialogue. Addiction issues have run in my family deeply. My heart aches for this family. I don't know how I would cope through such a huge loss. Parents are supposed to go first. I don't want to outlive my child.
@Bat Boy Correct! It's not fun and glamorous, no matter what the media may say about it.
You did the right thing. Keeping an open, non judgmental conversation is the best way to stay in touch with our children.
@@mslettucebfrank Absolutely agree!!
Where's her Father?
@@KILLEMALLTWICE I'm not sure why your asking. But, her Dad lives about six city blocks away from us. He hasn't seen her in a year and a half. He started a new family, and has put that family before his his daughter. That being said, I have never trash talked him to her. I've let my daughter form her own opinions. I wouldn't be doing my daughter any justice by trashing her father. My daughter and I have always had a close relationship though. She is a really good kid. She's never had any issue with drugs or alcohol. I just felt it was good to make sure that I talk to her about it though. I have many family members who have had issues with addiction. And some studies have shown that addictive behavior can run in families.
I can't even imagine losing one of my children. That is one of my most horrible fears. May God bless them. ❤
This is a very trying time for young kids. My heart goes out to this family. They must be in so much shock.
sorry for their loss; parents, please listen - just because your kid is making straight As and preparing for college does not mean he isn't also stressing over the nonsense that you upper middle class folk impose on your kids and doing hard drugs to blunt the edges. these kids are abusing adderall and all manner of drugs (they're not experimenting, they're abusing - first they did it with alcohol, now it's drugs). also, drug dealers aren't laying in wait to pounce on your kid - your kids find them and know who they are!
Alllllll true FACTS
All true but all parent do this not just “upper middle class” that was lame
@Jon Dough look honey, I'm speaking from experience and observation as a middle class parent (if you will). raising children is the hardest thing you will ever do. having resources at your disposal, hovering over children, stressing them to death over grades, appearances and schools, even drug testing them are all things I observed and on occasion participated in during my child's high school years. to date, five of his peers from high school have died of opioid deaths (all before age 30). I'm not envious, just encouraging everyone not to be deluded into believing that external indicators of "normalcy" and "All American-ness" are often misleading...
The joy your son brought into everyone's lives was immeasurable. His presence was a gift. He will be greatly missed, and never forgotten.
A parent should never have to bury their child. It's so unnatural and against the circle of life. I just can't imagine how the parents feel. Sending my most sincere condolences. This is beyond sad 😔
It is sad, but we are never guaranteed another day I was almost one of them. I choked on a jawbreaker at five years old. I was able to hold on until the nurse across the street came to our house, but I can't imagine what he was feeling not knowing he had taken something worse than his body could deal with.
He was doing xanax and pills before this! So many parents see it,but don't want to acknowledge!
They were good parents do not blame them please.
@@Susanc06 Being blind to what your kids are doing, does not make you good parents!
I just find it disturbing that medicine is called drugs. I can see why they cause more problems than what it solves just look at all the side affects. I will say something is missing in kids lives to be thinking about doing drugs. The thought never crossed my mind I knew it is bad. Seems like people use it to try to escape the reality of something happening in their lives. Therapists are not going to solve your problems they look at this as a job, and paycheck. Friends, and family should take the time out to actually get to know their children, and spend time with them. If your lifestyle is to busy that you need other people to raise your children don't have them. I'm not judging them but I know there is more to it than what has been said. Maybe talking about drugs enables some children to want to try them as a part of their rebellious attitude.
@@ac4498 Look parents can't be with their children 24/7 anyone who says they are is a liar. What is not right is bringing children in to the world if you can't spend time with them, and actually bring them up in a loving home while talking to them. If you have a busy life style, and need other people to raise your children for example. Children just seem to be treated as property more than a human being with emotions, wants, and needs.
Stick to red wine!
I lost my Son on Nov 25th, same! It's unbearable!
Tsegui1 sorry for your lost, heartbroken!
So sorry for your loss
I'm so very sorry for your loss
Thank You!
So sorry. Hugs.
As a 16 year old teen. Even I know what Xans & the cause it can do to you . I was in 6th grade & still knew what hard core drug were. I never done any type of drugs besides weed. He knew what he was doing. He didn't know it was laced. Why blame a social media . You don't need social media to get drugs.
to my knowledge, they are only guessing that the drugs are laced right now. i think they are still waiting for the results from the autopsy and police investigation.
Yes,he knew what he was doing
He just got some bad dope...
also just because you know what they are does not mean other people do. lots of times it just depends on the environment you grow up in. some kids know about weed and cocaine but not about rx drugs. some kids know about weed but not other drugs. some kids know about alcohol but not about any types of drugs. some kids know about all of the types of drugs and so on and so forth. sometimes it can depend on whether people have actually educated or informed you of them and the effects other than “it’ll make you chill or feel good.”
I’m really sorry for their loss. I grief with them.
Lord have mercy......I am definitely gonna share this with my 16 year old who is in virtual school as well. Thank God I work part time, so I am home with him alot, but these poor parents have to bury their son. God help them in their time of grief.
Parents need to be careful about who or what their kids no matter the age are doing or maybe meeting watching on virtual teaching WHEN they are away from their classes taking breaks, maybe they go on TH-cam maybe chatting I dont know but it needs to be addressed and talk about it, I am a teacher.
Sad stop no pills.plz
"He was so careful about his health" "he new the risks"
No mom, he was just a kid. He wasn't careful because kids aren't careful and they do not know the risks, no matter how much they research because they are by design cynical about everything, are really bad at making decisions and have very little self-control. Add to this a never ending pandemic and the chance to do something new and things like this happen. Your boy was a very normal child, and someone out there took advantage of that developing mind full of dreams.
Sometimes we think so highly of ur kids that we forget that their brain is still developing. This was clearly an accidental overdose and I hope that whoever is responsible is apprehended and charged for what he/she did to your beautiful boy.
This person must face justice.
He probably knew what the risks were. But, teens don't understand the finality of their decisions. Their brains are not developed enough to truly understand consequences to their actions. I feel really badly for Mom and Dad
You and many others really do not understand Fentanyl. It should not be in any drugs. Taking a xanax here and there does not mean someone has a drug problem. He was not an addict necessarily. He got unlucky because he got a drug cut with fentanyl. One can argue whether he should have tried that to begin with but whether we like it or not experimentation is a thing for many kids. If drugs were legal and regulated we would not have deaths caused by fentanyl. There are people not abusing drugs, buying xanax from a dealer because it is cheaper than their insurance, who die because it is laced with fentanyl.
@@samanthab6642 0:11 according to this video they have not yet confirmed what the actual drug/s were in his system. we do not know what drug/s were in his system, the amount, or even if this was a one time incident or if he had taken them before. they say it was cocaine plus other drugs in this other video link th-cam.com/video/OLPBZighPy0/w-d-xo.html so who knows until the toxicology report comes out.
@@fjp9 yeah I just do not like how mean people are being to the parents and how they're assuming he was a full fledge addict. Thanks for the info.
@@bhumphries1360 mmmm yes their young age is a factor in their bad decisions but don't use it as a cop out for them being responsible for their actions. They may know the weight/finality of their decision but do it anyway. No matter how many abstinence videos, safe sex lessons, say no to drugs, don't drink and drive campaign their will always be those who make the bad choice.
May his soul rest in peace so sorry for their loss😞🙏🙏🙏
Yo, this is terrible. Anybody out there struggling with drugs just know you can find a way out. I'm cheering for you all the way. Stay encouraged.
Thanks but I’ll pass on that
There were more drugs in college than in my neighborhood. If he was doing weed, he knew where to get the hard stuff. How much money did that kid have? Drugs are not free. Lot of dead kids trying to be Kool kids.
So true! I learned from a student at a university and he stated about other students who came from super-wealthy families and they don't use commercial anything 🛩
You got a point there! How much money are kids getting and what for? I didn’t get allowance when growing up. Our chores was expected to be done, period. There was no bribing with allowances to get us to do our chores or adhere to the house rules. It was if we wanted to live under their roof that they paid for, we knew what we had to do.
Now a days that type of upbringing sounds abusive but I’m here as well as my siblings (even my step-siblings). Thank God.
Well back in the 80's while in High School we were offered on many occasions weed coca and a simple NO was enough you got to have a strong willpower and a strict FATHER like I did!!
@@tmartinez1948 The DARE program and those "this is your brain on drugs" PSAs were enough to keep me away from those substances.
Why would he be allowed to smoke Marijuana in the house at 16? And he smoked that much that they had to check on him every hour. It appears that the only people that did not know about his hard drug use, were the parents. They missed the signs.....or refuse to believe it. Sad
i can’t imagine the pain and anger when they walked in on him dead cold on the floor.
So tragic, so sorry for your loss.
So now she's blaming snap chat for her sons overdose?? What about taking responsibility for the upbringing of your children? I notice alot of rich kids are enabled by their parents to do whatever they want with no consequences. They casually mentioned how their son smoked weed. C'mon, parents need to be better.
This recently happened to a family in my area. Same exact story. Warn your children.
I agree, I am going to talk to my kids about this....
I live on long Island. Last year one of my high-school friends overdosed on fentanyl laced pills. This was shocking to even ppl close to him, as he wasn't a drug addict... and he had his life together. His mother was outraged and determined to find out where these drugs came from. Through her vigilance, and the hard work of local police, they arrested 3 NYPD police officers, part of a drug ring...
This is so ironic. Her show has been so inspiring and helpful, at least to me.
when a therapist does not realize her own son has issues... that sucks.
You know what, being a parent is hard. Sometimes you try everything and nothing works. Believe you me, she already knows that she missed something. Have compassion.
I know. That's very sad.
It's hard for all parents to notice how their kid feels, for some reason. But in this case, seemed like he really didn't have a problem, he was probably just being a teenager. Fentanyl laced drugs in an epidemic
@@OkOkOkJeez to my knowledge, they have not confirmed the drugs in his system at the time. it is just the parents guess right now. i do not believe the autopsy or police investigation have been concluded. i could be wrong though. also we do not know what really happened. we do not know if it was one time use or if he had used them multiple times and/or tried lots of other drugs whether prescription or otherwise except for weed.
@@noomwa i agree being a parent is hard. i didn’t blame her or anybody else for it unlike others. i said it sucks. that is compassion. it sucks that this situation happened to them. honestly, none of us know what that family was really like behind closed doors. it could have actually been a very happy satisfying life for every member of the family. or it could have been a picture of a family struggling to appear perfect. that kid could have had deep emotional struggles that he felt like he could not talk about about them with his parents due to having to be picture perfect. who knows? 🤷
Don't allow them on social media.
I feel bad for the parents. Can't imagine losing a child.
We didnt allow ours online or cell phones til they were 18. They are 29, 27 and 19 . The 19 year old hates phones and computers unless doing school work. The other 2 are youth ministers helping youth with these problems.
@@travellady68 my 9 year old has a smart phone but can’t install any apps
Just try keeping a 16 year old off social media please just try it
That is easier said than done some go on their friends phones or computers. They even look up stuff on school computers.
people can still get drugs without social media. but i think social media should be limited which is easier said than done.
So sorry to hear. My condolences to you❤️🙏
I feel for these people but they did not know their son as well as they think they did. This is cringy.
Most people don't know have half of the things that their children do.
Deepest condolences to the family. Cannot imagine their pain.
Thank you to the friend to help. This is so dangerous and you truly are helping to protect other kids from danger. You should be commended. Thank you for helping these parents. It help so many other families. You are a hero for helping. it's not easy to do. Thank you.
Let this not be anything special. Just because she is a "celebrity" therapist doesn't make her family immune to the realities we all live daily.
100's die this way DAILY!
Of course it happens daily.....But they are using their celebrity platform to warn parents of the potential trauma of drugs affecting families via Snapchat.
Whats your problem?
Sorry to hear this. This happen to my grandson, he was 16 years old and died. It was not Snapchat, but a dealer in the neighborhood. My heart is broken. The drug was laced also.
This is just so heartbreaking. I never want to experience losing a child
This is so heart breaking
So so sorry for your loss. Thank you for speaking out. Personally, I think there should be a call for Snapchat and these app to have to be transparent and parents should have access to all in communications involving their minor young child.#callyourlegistator
It looks better for them to blame everyone and everything than being accountable for neglecting their child.
Besides what kind of home environment is that, that they let their kids to try illegal drugs, seriously?
And why does a kid want to even wanna try drugs in the first place?
There was a lot of disconnect and emotional abandonment in that home, a child won't ever want to try any drugs if he or she feels heard, considered, respected, acknowledged not only materially but emotionally and spiritually.
Bro with all due respect this is not the dealers fault. No body forced that man to take drugs.
That's true no one forced him but if there were no dealers where would a kid get drugs?
@@maryrose8478 his parents bathroom cabinet.
It looks better for them to blame everyone and everything than being accountable for neglecting their child.
Besides what kind of home environment is that, that they let their kids to try illegal drugs, seriously?
And why does a kid want to even wanna try drugs in the first place?
There was a lot of disconnect and emotional abandonment in that home, a child won't ever want to try any drugs if he or she feels heard, considered, respected, acknowledged not only materially but emotionally and spiritually.
The dealer definitely shares a huge portion of the blame. What I don't get is blaming Snapchat.
@@jenem9618 At first I thought that's what they were doing but on second watch I think they're blaming Snapchat for not giving them access to the data they're after.
Why did she cut them off when they mentioned snapchat and twitter do not help bring down drug dealers??
Note to Parents: check your kids phones daily, not weekly or monthly or sometimes.
I noticed that too. Because big media and big tech are in bed together.
I’m a SUD counselor and I deal with daily users popping up to 10 to 12 pills a day. I feel so bad for these parents. My deepest condolences.
All drugs should be decriminalized and regulated and addicts given treatment. And take the distribution of drugs away from the criminals. People will do drugs. Make them safer and not lethal
Gong!!!!!!!!!!! They already abuse prescription drugs so legalize and prescribe lethal drugs to be abused!!!! Stupid argument!!!!!!!
So very sorry for your loss. Prayers for your hearts to be comforted and healed,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I never knew that about Snapchat
So terribly sad, praying for his family🙏
So sorry for the parents and just to hear this story makes me want to go home and delete my child's social medial accounts. It is very difficult to monitor their social media accounts. Prayers to the family.
Unfortunately that won’t keep your child clean from drugs!!! Keep the lines of communication open!! Help them to feel they can trust talking to you! Try to keep your discussions a no- judgement zone! Know where your children are and who their friends are!! That’s a start! Good luck and don’t forget to pray!
unfortunately drugs can be accessed in lots of other places not just social media. you can try and teach your kids to be responsible and informed human beings. it is their choice to make educated, healthy, and/or safe decisions. you can only do so much as a parent.
it sucks that lots of therapists do not realize issues going on in their own home. sometimes people need to focus on home more than work. everybody needs balance in their lives.
Insensitive. Nothing wrong with experimentation. How do you know he had a drug problem? Taking a xanax is not usually an issue in a normal dose once in a while but FENTANYL EASILY kills. The issue is the drug dealers and cartels are cutting drugs with Fentanyl. This could have been the first time he ever even tried the drug. If anything, this situation shows that drugs should be legal and monitored so when someone gets something they know what they're getting!
@@samanthab6642 i never said there was anything wrong with experimentation or that he had a drug problem. my statement was a very general statement that can be applied to lots of therapists/professions out there. some but not all, people focus on work more than their own home and do not realize that they have their own similar “work things” going on in their own home. this applies to lots of people not just therapists, like teachers, social workers, cops, doctors, etc. i also did not say that this happened to this family. i do not know them at all and am not claiming too. sorry but not sorry if you think it is insensitive. 🤷 also if think my comment was “insensitive” you should go read or comment on the other comments that actually say something along the actual lines of what you “accused” mine of... like having drug issues or bad parenting. if you don’t like comments that are “insensitive” don’t read the comments and don’t go on social media. sometimes reality and/or the truth can hurt.
@@fjp9 I don't see anything wrong with your comment, sometimes we have to speak truth even if it hurts. My coworker, a therapist, his daughter pregnant at 15, he worked 24/7. Keep an eye on your kids. And yes, there is everything wrong with experimental drugs, sometimes the experiment will only happen once. You might die.
@@samanthab6642 so you're saying a MINOR should be able to experiment with drugs. I'm guessing you're NOT a parent!
I watched your interview with Dr. Phil, I am so very sorry that this unthinkable thing has happened to lose a son in this manner there are no words. I will talk to my daughter and have her watch your interview. Hopefully she can gather mom's to come over and discuss mom to mom what can be done to keep an eye open
What a cute young man. I am so sorry for your loss. I will be talking to my children about these dangers on snapchat.🙏🙏🙏
This is happening way to much!!! I almost lost my son to this an now his very close friend just died Friday. I want to stop this now!
It must Be excruciating for a parent
In the Mental health field lose a child to an overdose. This happened to a classmate of mine in HS. It’s Very heroic of the survivors who go on to help others. Thank you for sharing.
I am so sorry for your lost. My condolences to you and your family.
My prayers are with you and your entire family 🙏
So sorry for their loss God bless you and your Innocent child's Soul...
Sorry for your loss Berman family and thank you for sharing.
“...he wanted me to discuss a summer internship, when I got to his room he was dead.” I doubt the timeline fit so tidy. Straight A students who have involved parents
Likely relationship expert set a higher bar of outward appearances & totally absorbed in the couples appearances on TV than personal parental relationship/involvement...no mention on how his brothers are doing; so sad.
If a 2 parent household can’t be available & involved for your *16 Year Old* while working from home during a pandemic, are considered an “expert on
relationships” with your last article titled “Why Working from Home is NOT Working for Couples”... perhaps it’s not social media to blame.
*It’s not the son that a parent can learn from IMO.*
*Clearly an attempt to quickly volunteer their own narrative to misdirect any public opinion which might damage her career.*
Their son was discovered at 4:24 pm Sunday; Dr Bergman posted regarding the death of her son also on Sunday-not possible for her to know anything besides her own guessing after saying someone from SnapChat delivered at their home, to their son tainted RX drugs. All media reports *solely* source Dr Berman & her husband with their claims. That SOLE statement by parents led an *OFFICIAL POLICE* statement YESTERDAY saying: “The case is currently with the Los Angeles Coroner’s Department & a preliminary investigation leads us to believe prescription drug use may have been involved.” ~~~An autopsy is usually completed within a day or two but final results of a toxicology report take 5-6 weeks. EVEN a PRELIM report on a dead body looking for tests regarding drugs to help police investigation can take several days or even weeks.
sorry but i find it kind of funny you are posting comments to your own comment. it is normal when other people have posted additional comments but not so much when it is just one person. but i do appreciate some of the information that you have posted here.
@Sofia Elias Jamison Really... Then explain why we still have no autopsy or cause of death re: Officer Sicknick who died at Capitol Riots, but less than 4 hours after Dr Berman’s son died she happens to know AND publicly announce he took pills laced with fentanyl? AND i’m a single parent of a now 19 & 15 year old from a tragic situation which left us in a bad situation with no support system. I can & will express my opinion which is based off more facts than emotions!
@@fjp9 it’s called character limit
I am so sorry for your loss
I don’t understand how did she not know?? My daughter is 16 also sheltering at home and she doesn’t “receive mail” that we don’t know about, or wouldn’t check first...she doesn’t go out on her own, for air or anything, I guess we owe that to living in rough part of Brooklyn, but parents you MUST check in on your kids! Every know and then we do random “phone checks” where right in front of her, I’ll read through her texts and check her Instagram, etc. She doesn’t get offended anymore because I tell her, “if your carrying yourself correctly, then you have nothing to worry about, these checks are just maintenance and good parenting ...when you’re a parent one day you should absolutely do the same”...I tell my daughter that she should be offended if we didn’t check up on her. But these kinds of things come with trust that’s built over years starting when they’re little.
The result of spending too much time with everybody's issues and not your own ... I spent so much time with my sons that even as adults now, when I talk to them on the phone, I can immediately tell when things are not going as good as they try to tell me they are and I don't let it go until they finally come clean
I think this is key, spending as much time as possible with your kids. Many parents today are overwhelmed and overworked and just do not have the time anymore. My kids are 4 and 2 and I have trouble making as much time as they want. They said themselves he was in his room and they had to check on him several times, why wasn’t he with his parents. Clearly he’s been idle in room for long periods of time.
Drugs really are not cool
Greenpoloboy3 weed is. cocaine meth and everything else besides acid and shrooms occasionally are bad
@@SergeantArchDornan2242 Think that just makes you go mad. Thankfully I don't know what some of that stuff is so theres no chance I'll be having any of that! The only ones I take is ones like paracetamol. Taking 1 or 2 is cool when you got a head ache as they help make you feel better
My❤ goes out to his family.
Jesus. This is so horrible. I’m so sorry for their loss. God bless them.
I can’t like this because I can’t imagine. My heart breaks for them.
My heart breaks and I am truly sorry. Let's find the dealer and get him off the streets. Please talk to your angels and guides to help you through this difficult times. I am so so sorry.
Two parents, one kid and they don't know what time it was?
Who would even think of this? That is why they are sharing to inform others "What time it is".
Although I think his mom knew (her face when she looked down at 2:31 makes me think that) but when his dad said, "I wish it were me" so heartbreaking.
My hearts are with them i wouldn’t know what to do n Kids are so sneaky you never know i pray for all Kids
Any platform can be used to do the unthinkable. Gail, the interview should be about why our children feel a need to escape through drugs, not considering the escape can be a.final destination . So sorry for this loss, praying for the parents.
@David Johnson this society does not put a value on mothers nurturing their children, so we have to pay attention
My son who turned 18 on Feb 7, 2021 is not allowed to walk around outside between classes. Don't know why they let their 16 year old walk around the neighborhood during Zoom breaks. Rip
soldier person if hes 18 he can drive to a legal state and buy some weed for himself
Sending love, from one parent to another🤍
There’s a doc on the Vice TH-cam channel about people buying drugs on snapchat. Definitely a thing that people do. Very sad.
Social media was how he got drugs THIS time. But the issue is that naïveté of just trusting a rando to hook you up with hard drugs. He was at that weird age where they get how to do adult things, but not necessarily how it all works. RIP, kid
Sat down with my youngest yesterday, he’s 15, and made him watch this yesterday. I stressed that what you THINK you are getting, isn’t what you think you could be getting. He had been out to eat with a friend, and I asked him what he ate. His response was, “A cheeseburger mom”. 😢😢😢🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Absolutely heartbreaking 💔
RIP to their beloved treasured 16yr old son. God's peace, strength, courage to Dr Berman and Mr Chapman as they grieve.
Gosh, how absolutely awful! I hope this helps parents somehow to be more aware and teens to think about the risk!! God help this family.
Help them Lord!
These cell phones can be really bad for young children. They can indirectly lead to many deaths of these kids. This is probably more common than we realize. So sorry for their loss.
Heartbreaking. Prayers for the family. Rest with the Angels little man. 👼 🙏
Bless their hearts praying for peace and the strength of God to get through
I’m very sorry for their loss. I’m sure the pain is unimaginable. That being said he still solicited drugs and unfortunately probably not the first time.
Absolutely heartbreaking
Another life lost to pills being laced with Fentinyl. I cant imagine what his parents are going through. I do know the pain of unexpected loss, this past Nov., my ex husband, who i was with from the age of 15-29 & father of my 3 kids, shot himself. The knot still in my stomach, not being able to take the pain away from my kids & the thoughts...Should of, could of, would of, goes through your mind. My heart ❤ goes out to them all. 🙏🕊
they say it was cocaine plus other drugs in this other video th-cam.com/video/OLPBZighPy0/w-d-xo.html so who knows until the toxicology report comes out.
@@fjp9 I got info. From moms or family social media.
A tox report takes up to 6 weeks. Dr. Berman is just making assumptions.
Sooooo sorry for your loss Berman family
God forgive him he didn't know what he got in to. Prayers for the family.
My deepest sympathy to these parents. I thank God that my children are adults now and survived their teen years. No matter how close you are or how much you try to stay connected, teenagers that you may have sent to their rooms as punishment when they were little suddenly become bedroom recluses. They need and want their space. You can't constantly be in their face. A family schedule for meals or a movie night is pretty much set. But the rest of the time it's like any healthy relationship. Sharing this tragic event, I hope and pray, will save others the loss and grief. May God be with them during this very difficult time.
⚀⚁I greatly sympathize with the parents of Sammy Chapman. Their pain is indescribable💔
Ugh snap chat drugs 😢😅🥱😡🤬😰💙bless angel guy 🎶🎉🙏
And now all the drug dealers are working together and posting this to keep each other out of trouble and continue selling to little kids. Great people !!!
So sad, my condolences to the family.
As a father my heart hurts for you .
May you find peace .
This is horrible. My prayers are with them.
I am so sorry Mama. I cannot imagine the pain you are enduring right now- I wish more was being done with this iPhone epidemic. I am on suboxone (free since April 2016) because of a neglegent doctor prescribing massive doses of pain medications (five all together - oxycodone/Percocet/diludid/tramadol/Xanax and a fentynal patch). I am lucky to be alive. However detox was eye opening. Every single person there for heroine started with an injury, prescriptions and pills. We need to STOP overprescribing, over consuming and killing our babies. I want to help- let me know if I can! I really hope they find who did this- prayers for your family!
Blame the drug dealer. Blame him not being in school. Blam Snapchat...
exactly...lmao drug dealers also use other social media besides snapchat
@@michaelmyers5782 Michael Myers 😍. But yes. I never used any drugs myself and I only drank 2 times and I'm 31 years old. But I do know for people to get there hands are drugs is easy and if they can't they would these do something else to get a high. When I was that age I was playing video games. But doing the blame game is kinda wrong when you can these say you may want to have a better eye on your kids at the age when it likely for them to abuse substances.
Exactly. Blame everyone and everything except themselves for not paying attention and teaching their son better, and him for taking the drugs.
I thought I was the only one that noticed that. They completely absolved him of responsibility. He killed himself not the drug dealer.
Accountability, much like common sense, is disappearing.
God bless you both. So sorry for your loss.
This goes to show that no one is safe. For all the good from social media & technology there IS the dark side as well. Dr. Laura & Sam were checking on their son hourly, but it only takes a moment for a life to be snuffed out by a killer be it drugs, a murderer, or suicide. The lockdowns are causing more depression among preteens & teens. Humans are social beings, & this isolation is taking its toll on everyone.
GOD BLESS!
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
May he rest in peace. And to the parents. ..I am so sorry for your loss, your braveness is truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
Sending you many prayers and lots of love. I understand your pain and grief 💔🙏❣
Buying and selling hard drugs are not victimeless crimes... Hard drugs need to be eradicated and made as difficult as possible to obtain these drugs.
Praying for them. 🙏 ❤
why are we searching for the dealer? I'm confused.
The child was not an adult and SnapChat should not be used to sell underage children drugs? 🤷🏽♀️
We all know this mother is in pain and suffering why ask her why she is speaking out?!!!!!!!
So sorry prayers for this family
Tragedy
we are so sorry to hear this dreadful news losing
a 16 yr old boy to illegal drugs.