Can A Catholic Marry a Non-Catholic?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 มิ.ย. 2024
- The idea of "mixed marriages," that is, a marriage between people of different faiths, has long been looked at with suspicion by the Catholic Church. Until recently, it was nearly forbidden. Today, this is not the case, as theological and liturgical shifts at the Second Vatican Council opened the door to ecumenism.
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My mother was a Mormon, and my father was a Catholic, but they both converted to Pentecostalism after they married. The funny thing is now that I’m older I highly want to convert to Catholicism. I’m planning on doing it after this whole coronavirus thing is over.
Tou are most welcome, friend!!!
Welcome Home !
c L Finding Catholicism was the best thing to happen to me it's beautiful
c L Please do! It’s a GREAT decision! 👍🏻😊We’re here for you!
Yay! Welcome home! I hope to convert too.
My mom was Catholic n my dad was Hindu they got Hindu matrimony but after 10yrs we all family converted into Catholic in 1996 now we are strong Catholic in my society ..in 1980 their is 3 Catholic family are in my village but today more than 70 home are Catholic .
Deo Gratias - God bless you!
Jackpatras' Baxla YESSSSS
God bless you.
Praised be Jesus Christ!
Based. God bless your village.
My dad was a lapsed Catholic and my mom was not Catholic at all. Now we're all Catholic and go to mass weekly (back when we could)
Praise God
I’m trying to make my family Catholic, how did your family do it
@@adannanmezi3672 you should never try to make anyone catholic or anything else for that matter
@@summershakelton9478 why
@@summershakelton9478 too be a catholic is a humans right
I need prayers on this matter. Am engaged to a non-Catholic and it is extremely difficult to even share the word of God... I do not even know if God meant this relationship to work or we are forcing it with our worldly ways...
Remember me in your prayers father
Think it better my friend... dont be blind as i was.. i feel in your message you are not sure... i felt the same but i didnt paid attention, is not easy when you both dont share the same religion, values, goals, my ex husband was always the owner of the thruth if you desagree ..he could punch you! Not peace on him..
I'll pray for you, I'm married to a non Catholic, it's very difficult, but it is possible if a) you respect eachothers' religions b) If you strike the balance of standing your ground but be willing to compromise. God didn't give us his love and knowledge to keep us apart, he wants us to build good will among people and love is always the best tool. Lead by example through the teachings of Jesus and you will be fine. Remember that the great challenge of our time is division, use your marriage as an opportunity to create bridges and not build walls. And finally, if you are unsure pray to God and ask him if he approves of your marriage, he will let you know, he always answers when we call.
If you want my opinion based on experience, I would rethink twice before getting married. As a catholic, not being able to take communion just because I made the mistake of getting married with a protestant minister has made me rethink my whole life.
Angel Valentin Mojica this makes me cry.
May the Holy Spirit, Who is the Cause of All Sanctity and the True Converter of hearts, lead you to the path of peace and happiness in God's side... ✝️🕊️🔥
Catholic mother,Atheist father.
Two of them where catholic at the marriage,but dad is no longer one.25 years and counting.
Funny thing he thought that his son will kill all religion in his family,since as a baby i would listen to Chistopher Hitchens at the age of 7.Plus Darwinism.
He almost had a heart attack when i told him that i wanted to be a priest of the ICKSP.(Latin mass priest)
God bless you father.
Mr Benedictine you are curious fellow
And GOD bless you too Father for answering your calling.
God bless you
Cari how so?
Cari how so?
My brother is an atheist, but officially Catholic. His first wife was a Hindu and their marriage ended up in a divorce. His second wife is a devout Catholic and this marriage is working well. Hopefully, my brother will come to Christ and become a practising Catholic like I have.
Amen
My mom is Protestant and my father is a lapsed Catholic. They were married in a Protestant Church ,after the priest threatened my father with excommunication And would not do a joint ceremony with a protestant Minister , And the condition that their children will be raised Catholic (the irony is I was raised protestant and ended up converting to Catholicism).
This is not irony ..this is God s Will but i understand what you mean
I'm a Catholic... I married a Presbyterian, and she tried to raise our son as Presbyterian too. He comes to Mass with me:- he has done since he was 3 or 4, and he's now crowding 25... and he says he won't marry a non-catholic.
Bernardo Krolo I was raised Protestant and I remember going to church and I just felt like I wasn’t getting anything out of it and it wasn’t really making me believe. Then another part of god‘s plan when I was in college, I ran into a Catholic campus ministry at a club fair and I started becoming friendly with the gentleman who ran the ministry (and we’re still good friends today) first I started attending meetings here and there, and then I was asked to go to mass with them and I remember the first time I went to mass it was one of the most beautiful experiences ever ,I always had an interest in Catholicism and even though it took a while on Easter 2019 I was confirmed into the church. And it was honest to God one of the best decisions I’ve made.
TD Connected Is he thinking about possibly doing RCIA in the future
@@billmurphy577 Yes, he has already spoken to my parish priest, and they'll handle it between them. I treat him like an adult... I leave it to him, and he goes where GOD leads him... I just stand off to one side and give him 100% support.
I'm in a mixed marriage and we are both happy, in love, and I do everything within my power to raise our children in the Catholic faith. The most important thing to remember is that you cannot do God's job. I am obligated to live out my vows with my husband and pray for him. God handles the rest. To those in these marriages or about to enter mixed marriages, it is possible to have a successful marriage. God bless you!
I love your comment here. I’m a non-catholic and my Bf is catholic... I have been asked to change my church which I don’t totally agree with as I’m a strong believer in God’s work and believe if God wants be to become catholic someday, I will as I will get that conviction and also because I have absolutely nothing against catholic or any religion. It’s important I respect people faith and pray for them to come to know Jesus Christ personally. Condemning once faith or religion isn’t the right way to bring people to Christ. Will like to know how it was getting married cause I have been told it must be done in a Catholic Church but I’ll also want to have this in my church as this will make me happy and my parents/family too. As a lady I know this is mostly done in the woman’s church and then she can start going to her husband’s church or decide not to but support each other’s faith/church as you mentioned.
Which was your first vow? To God or to your boyfriend-now-husband? I’m thinking we sometimes break our First Vow and them try to justify it.
Thank you for this ❤️
@Martin Patrick that’s not true
@Martin Patrick There are very happy couples who do not believe in God. They are still in love. And there are very happy mixed marriage couples as well. It’s not a matter of being the same religion
My husband was not a Catholic when we got married 12 yrs ago. He was a Protestant. We married in Catholic church since I insisted of it. And before when he said he was serious about me I said to him that I would never leave my faith and I would always wants to have a Catholic family one day. And thanks God, my husband followed me and baptized after 3 yrs of our marriage. He said the reason was because he saw that what a real Catholic in me and wanted to share our faith and raise our children with our faith with no confusion. God heard my prays 🙏
I met my wife at a Catholic charismatic prayer meeting 35 years ago. I can’t image being married to someone that you can’t share the most important aspect of your life, your relationship with Christ. I just can’t imagine it.
Mike Kennedy That’s right- your relationship with Christ. I’m Protestant, my husband was Catholic. We believed in the basic tenets of Christianity and weren’t concerned about the “non essential things”. Our marriage was very good!
@@ellenhall2090 great. The pray meeting was a Catholic charismaric prayer group.
@@ellenhall2090 i I can't see or understand why are Protestants considered non- Christians?....you still believe in Resurrection , read a bible and celebrate a mass, right? Where does the fuss come from
@@MmM-do6rg It comes from the reason that some people believe that catholics are 'corrupt' version of the original church or something and therefore some catholics believe the reverse, that certain others aren't real christians
Basically its the spider man pointing meme but christians
@@MmM-do6rg Protestant are not considered non Christians. That isn’t Catholic doctrine. We accept they are validly baptized Christians although separated from the main church. Catholics and Protestants don’t accept as Christians some of the cult groups who have posted in these comments.
My friend is a Catholic, his wife is Jewish. The have been married for over 25 years. They had a civil ceremony with a judge but invited a Priest and A Rabbi to say a blessing over them. He said he might as well cover all the bases.
Yeah my mom just left the Church. Now I’m coming Home
praying for your mom.
@@reigenlucilfer6154 amen
Your mum sounds like a clever woman. You should honour thy mother and follow in her footsteps
@Jacob Monk no❤️
I’d advise against marrying outside the Faith. Marriage can be difficult enough without the added tension.
True
I’m a reformed Presbyterian and I would have to agree with that. Marrying outside of the faith will add more complications to an already complicated relationship.
Couldn't agree more. The struggle is real.
There are also difficulties when people share the same faith-but at varying degrees. I currently find myself in this situation-my spouse is currently Catholic in name only-and mocks my own efforts to be faithful. Love him dearly, but it’s hard!
I advise marrying the person you have a shared love with. Regardless of race, religion or gender.
I have family members who are in mixed race or mixed religion marriages, together happily for decades.
If you don't want religion to be a tension point of your marriage, don't make it one. Respect the others beliefs, possibly share each others traditions.
Spending your life with someone is about common ground and compromise. You are in this as equals.
I am an Anglican and my husband is a catholic ,we were married at a catholic church. Have seven grandchildern.Still happy now.Married 42 years ago.
I am an Anglican Minister and my wife is a Catholic. Married 15 years, with five kids and it gets better every day. My wife is by biggest supporter and account keeper of my ministry.
I am Catholic and my husband is Hindu. We will be married for 9 yrs this year God willing. I think growing up Catholic I just assumed that I would marry another Catholic. When I first laid eyes on my husband I just knew he was the one I felt it in my heart. I did not think about the fact that he was a different race or religion. I remember praying and putting my trust in God that if he was the right man for me it would come to be. My husband is kind, respectful and caring I don't ever really think of our religious difference. I only really think about it when others point it out or question it. One thing I love about him is that he respects my Catholic faith and encourages me to participate (he even gets excited and accompanies me to Christmas mass). In return I do the same for him. I respect him and his religious views. I will accompany him to temple and watch him participate. He does not try to convert me and so I also do not try to convert him. If he ever decides to join the Catholic faith I want him to do it out of his own will and because he feels called to do so NOT because I have pressured him. I really enjoyed this video Father Casey. A new subscriber here! I am now binge watching all of these videos.
P.S.- A quick little funny anecdote about the first time my husband went to church with me. He took off his shoes and tried to leave them outside the door.
That is very nice. In fact, this is how interfaith marriages should work. What one believes is secondary, because at the end, we do not know how God is, because He is so complex. Respect to you and your husband! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Wow that’s beautiful
No. I will pray for you my sister in Christ.
I would think not believing in Jesus at all would be a huge deal breaker.
It is defined Catholic dogma that outside of the Church there exists absolutely no salvation (Check the Council of Flotence, Trent, and multiple papal statements)
Additionally, it is an act of love to convert one to the Catholic faith, one only confirms another on the path to hell if no reasonable effort is made to convert them.
I am RC and my wife was Methodist when we got married. We got married in the church, but her grandfather insisted on having Methodist minister at the wedding as well. We promised to raise our children within the church. Both of our sons were baptized in the church now,but her mother was insisting that our first one be baptized Methodist until her minister said that a Catholic baptism is as good as a Methodist one since they are both under the trinity. My wife has since gone through RCIA and our church is about two blocks from our house. Our youngest one was going to do his first communion this Easter, but things got pushed back because of the virus. Oh well long story short I believe that if your spouse is not RC and you are and you love each other God will lead you to the way especially when children are involved. Have faith.
@Martin Patrick Amen🙏🙏🙏
My Dad is Hindu n mom is presbyterian both they are converted to Catholicism in 1972, Thank God for showing my parents the way of truth n beautiful religion ❤🙏🙏🙏 ❤ ❤ R.I.P my Mom n Dad.
Prayers for your Parents soul🕯🕯🕯🕯🕯🕯
My dad was a catholic and my mom's a Protestant and it ended in divorce when I was two. As a new convert to catholicism I hope to be blessed with a catholic wife as the experience has left me unwilling to consider courtship outside the church
My mom's Catholic, my dad's atheist and was never part of any religion. They got married in 1971, and my mom said the priest wasn't even quite sure at first what kind of ceremony they should have. He was used to Catholic and non-Catholic Christian weddings, but Catholic and atheist?
They're celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary next year, so I'd like to think God has blessed their marriage. :)
My mother is Catholic, my late Father was Lutheran. But my father let my mom raise brothers and sisters and myself Catholic. One of my brothers married a Lutheran but he never gave up his Catholic faith.
That is because the church advises against it....but allows it, the caveat being the children must be baptized catholic since you are bringing other souls into the mix.
I’m a Protestant and my wife is catholic. It’s a challenge. I totally understand why the Catholic Church has been hesitant to encourage this.
@Martin Patrick I pray she can become Protestant😊🙏
@@mikaylahall5959 We will have to see...😄
Both of you are blessed to have Jesus Christ in the centre of your life.
@Martin Patrick Amen🙏
I pray she can become catholic!
I had no idea about the changes in the viewpoint on mixed marriages! Thank goodness for the reforms and thank you for this presentation about the past views and the current views. I really loved it.
I sought this topic back in Feb 2020. Even though I thought I understood it. Clearly you Sir have been able to articulate it in a manner that my religious leaders were not able to break it down to the simplest level as you have. I greatly appreciate the time and resources you must have had to research and process for us the viewers to be able to not be lost in the many explanations you provided. God bless you and many thanks from me personally.
Catholic and Sikh union here!
I´m Catholic and my wife wasn´t baptized. I thought it was extremely difficult in these situations to get married but the Church was super helpful and it was quite easy! We got married in a wonderful church last year. Now she´s considering to be baptized as well. :D
That’s fantastic brother, God bless you brother.
@@dwightschrute900 Thank you! The same to you :D
How it's possible a non catholic to get married in church do they have any procedures for it
@@sandyswetha2559 its super easy. Just speak to your local Priest and he will explain you.
Did she recieved communion?
I'm from Chennai I don't know its possible here😢to get married in church
Fr. Casey I try to catch one of your videos everyday. You are truly a gifted and holy young man. Thank you Father!!
This is a very uplifting channel. I'm reading all the comments. May God bless you all :)
Scripture tells us that the unbelieving spouse is made holy through the believing spouse (1 Cor. 7:14).
My husband grew up Roman Catholic and I was raised as a Presbyterian. Part of our pre-marriage preparation was a betrothal weekend that was run buy the archdiocese and facilitated by older married couples and a priest. The weekend was designed for couples of different faiths and served (along with family interviews) to prove to the Catholic Church that our commitment to each other was genuine. I can attest that the focus for the weekend was on what united us in our faith traditions and not what divided us. We were married in my church and even though my husband's parish priest was not able to co-celebrate, he wrote a lovely blessing that was printed on the back of our marriage bulletin. In October we will have been married 33 years. ❤🤵🏻👰🏼😊
My mother is Catholic and my father was a Southern Baptist. My dad went to church with us nearly every Sunday until he converted 45 years later. It used to shock my friends (as an adult) that my father wasn’t Catholic.
I would stay completely single rather than marry a non-catholic... Traditional Catholic... ⚜️🥀🙏
I wish I can marry you
Genevieve Is ....Agree.. That's what many Catholic ladies feel now. .. All my close Catholic friends married to Protestant years back.. One friend tell me to get married to Protestant,don't wait anymore for a Catholic 😂 ,Another friend says since none of us married to a Catholic so you should married a Catholic only...Thanks to both of them... 😂.. Only God knows the best.. 😍
Same here sister
Catholic Women should only marry Catholic men... Ave Maria ...⚜️🥀🙏
@@genevieveis2838
Iam single and a Catholic. Do you have a boyfriend?
Thank you for the video Fr. Casey!
I am a catholic and my fiance is a Christian protestant, he would prefer that we get married to his church... I don't have any plans in giving up me being catholic and thankfully he accepts that and we love each other unconditionally. We respect each other.
What a great topic! Thank you! Can you follow up with a video on how the children of these marriages should be raised (sacraments, weekly mass, how to handle issues where two religions may collide)?
Fitting timing for this video. I’m Catholic and my fiancé is a baptized Christian. We are having the wedding in August and my priest was so thrilled for our wedding. He has gone above and beyond to make sure her family feels included and respected. It is great that the Church recognizes that a mixed marriage can still love and praise God.
The Lesser Confessor My faith is very important to me. I chose to come back into the Church after leaving as a teen and my faith has built me into the person I am today. I mean and understand the words that I say in the Creed at mass. My fiancé and I have built our relationship with Christ in the center of it and I fully believe that our children would be brought up in a home of love and prayer. She and I differ in some areas, but we are largely on the same page with what we believe. It is all stuff that we have talked at length about one-on-one and in prayer. We have talked with our priest about it and we have discussed baptism for our children (assuming that children are in God’s plan for us). We have been very open with each other and we are not rushing into marriage without any forethought. We will both continue to pray and prepare for this next big step together. I appreciate your comments and ask that you pray for us as well. God bless
The Lesser Confessor of course they can learn that. I will teach them just like someone taught me when I was young. We also go to mass every weekend as well. I am confident that we will still be going to mass when we have children.
This is very helpful. Thank you! 🙌🏻
Never been married. I will hopefully one day. I refuse to marry a non Catholic. I'll wait or go without. Either way to me it makes no difference. It is the will of the Father.
I agree with you. You have the good understanding on how this works.
Confusing. Marry a catholic. Keep it simple.
Nard Foru Supernatural glue of the complete sacrament.
And Catholics who do not use contraception have a 0.2 divorce risk. Compare with 50% quoted in secular marriage.
Not simple. Do you think I planned to fall in love with a Wiccan? It definitely hit me out of left field! I socialized almost entirely with Catholics. I didn't even expect to marry at all, and wasn't dating anybody. I went one time to a poetry reading to listen to some friends, and WHAM! There he was! Still, I would have tried to walk away if the Virgin Mary hadn't told me in a dream to not be afraid to marry him. Best advice she ever gave me, and that's saying a lot! 34 years of blissful love and mutual support has followed and we're still madly in love.
Dolores J. Nurss It is pretty clear, your job, over the course of your marriage is to pray and suffer that your spouse will repent, convert and get to heaven. St Monica is your friend in this task.
@@tysonsmith9711 St. Monica was a beautiful human being!
Dolores J. Nurss ¿Is he Catholic now?
thank you for covering this. it was what i needed for guidance.
Father, I'm a new fan and love your videos! Thank you for this one! I'm getting married in September, and my fiance is Presbyterian, myself being Catholic. We're going to be working on structuring our ceremony soon, so this was very helpful! Her faith is beautiful and I want to honor that, so thank you for explaining this in an easy-to-understand way.
Letting Christ Lead Your Decisions
When a decision is unclear, ask yourself these questions: Will Christ be glorified in this choice? Can I do this in Jesus’ name? If either answer is no, then don’t follow that path, because the Holy Spirit is not guiding you there. His leading always aligns with Scripture and brings glory to Christ.
Amen
AMEN
Unfortunately, however prayerfully done, and however self-satisfied one's conscience may be, asking oneself such questions will end only in answering oneself - that is not how the one body with one spirit acts, JC B BC. God bless.
My marriage to a Wiccan has given glory to God. It has brought me into friendship with the Wiccan community, where I have been able to heal many grievances that drove people away from Christianity and into Paganism. Some have come back to Jesus. Some have simply shed their bitterness against Christ, but that is no small blessing in itself. I've enjoyed 34 years of a wonderful marriage--no regrets.
@@DoloresJNurss There are a billion Bible verses against that. I couldn't possibly live with a partner that I know will burn in hell, and it's on you for not converting him/her
Exodus 22:18
You shall not permit a sorceress to live.
Exactly ! Let the holly spirit guide. In my case the Virgin Mary showed me what she was doing with my Protestant husband. One day he came running from work and told me he wanted to pray the holly rosary. Now, we pray the holly rosary every day as a family 🙏🌹
Perfect timing with this, Father. 😁
Glad to hear it! I assume that means congratulations is in order...?
@@BreakingInTheHabit Father Casey, this is Vicky Allen, still Costilla on some forums and credited as such, still, for my work. Will and I are still hoping to be married in the Church before you and Fr. Frank leave us. 💙 We are still doing our homework. 😁 Fingers crossed we'll be able to have some sort of ceremony. Just us and our parents, if that is even possible. Hope to see you soon. 💙
Vicky Costilla Oh, my mistake! Yes, well congratulations anyway! 😉
@@BreakingInTheHabit Thank you! I discovered your channel recently and have been enjoying it. Thank you for your work!
All true Christian preaching is expository preaching … To expound Scripture is to bring out of the text what is there and expose it to view. The expositor prizes open what appears to be closed, makes plain what is obscure, unravels what is knotted and unfolds what is tightly packed.
When I was 22 I decided to become Catholic as my husbands family was. I loved the RCIP program every Thursday with my father in law ( my sponsor)it brought us closer as I had many questions and still do. Unfortunately I’m no longer married but my faith has never left me. Please allow me to say because of your videos that I just stumbled upon has relit my love and respect for The Church and God. God Bless and Thank You so very much for your time and videos. 💐💝
Thank you very much for all these info! You make learning for me easy as I am inclined to listen and watch than reading.
The spouse with the stronger faith will end up converting the weaker one.
Let's hope not.
Facts
Not always true, sometimes the protestant has the stronger faith but is called to the Catholic church of the spouse.
@@babytater33 it may happen through God's grace. However I have personally seen
many cases where the weaker side converted.
@@jeremiahong248 I agree, most of the time the weaker side gets dragged along. I see many religious wives drag their husbands to church and then when the kids are grown up, they stop going.
Just saw this. I'm 72, and I had two aunts who married non-Catholic Christians in the 1930s. I'd say these worked out well in that both of my uncle's eventually converted to the faith (one aunt even put a small crucifix under her husband's pillow in the hope that would lead him to the faith - which it did). Indeed, My other uncle had his first communion on the same day I did in 1956. We have a picture of both of us on that day.
Lovely! And very informative, thank you!
This was so helpful and educating. God bless you
I wish this existed when I was trying to explain this all to my, non-Catholic husband.
In today's world, it's hard to find someone who is a Catholic. That's the reason many young Catholics marry a non- Catholic/Christian. I lost the hope of marrying a Catholic long ago.
Ain't it sad? 😔
@@jonatikaWwe It is, unfortunately. As someone pointed out, family plays an important role in the relationship between us and the Church. When the link is broken by marrying outside the Catholic church, due to different individual beliefs and perspectives, the relationship with the Church becomes strained in the longer run. This directly or indirectly affects the children and transforms the generations to come, which is why, I shudder to think about the future of the Catholic Church.
What age are you? Never lose hope.
This is very informative, thanks Fr.
I married to an atheist, and it was the biggest mistake of my whole life!! I regret from the deep of my heart, my ex husband did believe in money!! That was his god, we did not have babies, we divorced after many violence problems and i found someone else a very worker good guy, but now in can not participate in the comunion properly.. and that really hurts me! If some one reads this message.. think very well ..about it.. if you are about to get marriage ... is difficult when you dont share your thoughts , values, goals .... i was blind because i was in love, thinking that my only love could change him... as this father says,. Real Love comes from God.. he loved money, didnt care nothing but money, agressive, violent.. unhappy all the time...he never understood happiness comes from love and love comes from God!!
Have you look into annulment? I heard it can be healing.
@@marthacahalan6935 yes even the father of my town told me ...ran awayy from that guyy!! I have to do the anulment process..i really wish to get it... but all this trouble wouldnt have happened if i just would have understood that people dont change easily... and no matter the religion... is about what kind of person you really are....
@johnny bhai is a process where the catholic church after studying and analyzing the causes of your divorce can declare the anulation of your catholic marriage, you have to ask to a comision of the church in your city and they will analyse the case, of course is not for every single case just special cases.... violence can be considered.
You can have very similar values and not believe in God.
@@mmmendoza1821 Wait, did you try to marry the second man despite knowing your first is valid?
Thank God for your vocation. God bless you and your family. Our Lady and St Joseph please pray for us. 🙏💙❤⛪🏴🌎💞💞💞💞
That was my wedding quite short. I was the non Catholic partner, my husband to be almost lapsed. So we were Wed in a Catholic church to please his parents. Two years before I met Derek, I had been on my 3rd family holiday to Italy taking my maternal grandfather and stayed on the coast nearest to Rome and of course we went into Rome and visited St Peters. On my first visit to St Peters I just stood there in awe.
I was a non attendee C of E girl since leaving school. But I think those visits and then attending Mass when visiting my In-laws, the Holy Spjrit was drawing me in. I met Derek 1968, married 1970, received into the Catholic Church 24th December 1977. My dear husband lost his battle with kidney cancer 2017, he did receive the last rights in hospital a couple of months before passing away on 7th May. It had looked as if he was going his obs were dangerously low. The nurse told us to stay so I phoned the hospital chaplain. Just after the chaplain walked out Derek said no more prayers so sad.
I'll give you credit....you are one of the few who addresses this topic with a blend o honesty and respect for non Catholics. It's much appreciated.
Thank you Fr... The information you gave here seems to be God answering my prayers for discernment.
One of my old Catholic School principals wanted to get married to a Protestant Christian but her parish priest refused and said he had to convert first, but he didn't want to convert to Catholicism, so they got married in his church instead (I believe he is a Methodist) and they got ex-communicated from her parish. The priest told her it's because she didn't get married in the church, so she wasn't Catholic anymore (she was baptised, communed AND confirmed). She had been attending that same one church her entire life (she was in her 50s at the time of her wedding) and had always been heavily involved with the parish, both spiritually and financially. She completely stopped going to Catholic church masses, services and events after that for about a year or so because of it. She wanted nothing to do with the religion anymore. The school she taught in was her own private Catholic montessori kindergarten she had started on her own and at that point, she was considering converting it to Non-Catholic. Mind you, it was the only Catholic kindergarten in the entire country and was very successful and religious. It was only after she talked with one of her priest friends (the priest that was at her parish before the one that refused to marry her) that she came back to the church. She started driving 30mins to mass every Sunday just so she could go to a different parish, where the priest welcomed her and her husband. He, my mother (the vice principal) and the other Catholic teachers from the school had to really convince her to come back to church, because she had gotten really depressed after what her parish did to her. I think her priest friend later made her and her husband come to his parish and he validated their marriage for her.... but she never fully regained her trust/faith in the Catholic Church because of that. That was almost 10 years ago. They tried to get the church to speak with her parish priest, but they just relocated him to the other island and made her priest friend the parish priest again.
Despite my background as a cradle Catholic, I married my (non-practicing, baptized, unconfirmed) husband in a non-denominational Christian ceremony during a time when I viewed religion differently. I am proud that I have since returned to my Catholic roots and I am bringing up my miracle daughter in the Catholic faith and sending her to Catholic school. However, this has been a challenge at times. I see the blessing it is to have a spouse share your faith and wish I had that. I guess it is one of my many crosses to bear in life, but if you are reading this and you are thinking that you’ll never find a practicing Catholic as a spouse and that it won’t matter if you settle, trust me it does affect your life in ways you might not be aware of yet.
My husband and I are also from different Christian traditions. I would agree with you, no matter how much you discuss it in advance it will effect your lives in ways you don't expect and especially if you have children.
Wow thanks for the information I had no idea that this could be done
Enlightening video, thank you.
My parents married in 1960. Dad is RC, Mom is a Protty. They're still married, she agreed to raise their kids Catholic and did. Only 2 of us 6 practice tho.
@The Lesser Confessor Actually, it was the horrific catechism back in the day. The same reason so many left the Church. "Here, read this poorly written 'Catechism' booklet/workbook. Don't bother Jesus with your petty prayers. God loves you!"... and a lockerroom smack on the butt on the way out the door.
It's the parents job to catechise. My dad's explanations (being an engineer) were well above my head as a kid. We get into level-field discussions now as adults, but I certainly wasn't going to learn anything from the catechist who really didn't want to be there anyway. The Church failed its own back then, certainly not now tho.
I lost the interest in the faith shortly after confirmation (1988) slowly became a C&E, then agnostic. My gf brought me back to faith, but it backfired into me returning to the Church, not her happy clappy sing-song Bible study with their monthly "snack time with Jesus" of juice and crackers as she intended.
My oldest sister left the church before confirmation
Brother returned in the last few years
2nd oldest sister became a Lutheran because of 'hypocrisy'.
3rd oldest is a C&E
Me who is considering Permanent Diaconate and in the KofC, etc
Youngest who is lukewarm but a C&E.
@@MarcMercier1971 What is a C&E?
@@abcoh4440 Christmas & Easter. A trap most Catholics fall into. The only 2 times a year they attend Mass.
Here's another: CINO. Catholic In Name Only. They call themselves Catholic but do not hold the values.
@@abcoh4440 Cool. Learned something new today! Thank you.
@@abcoh4440 but one never knows what is in the heart of this nonreligious people. For all we know, they might even be closer to God than people who call themselves religious.
I’m Catholic and my wife is non catholic, she was initially antagonistic towards any form of Christianity and would not really engage in discussion or use mockery when I tried to discuss the faith. We now have two young children who have been baptised Catholic and I bring them up in the faith. Initially she wouldn’t attend mass with me but now she attends most weeks and is more attentive to religious discussions. It’s really not been easy and I would dearly love if she would be my spiritual partner on our faith journey but at least I can say progress has been made. Mixed marriages can work but it’s definitely a slog when it comes to spiritual matters! I would be very grateful for any prayers for her full conversion of heart and belief in our Lord and Saviour.
Praying for you brother.
Thank Y,....very very good each presentation....and generaly fantastic beautiful idea....👍🙏👼👼👼....God bless always...!!!
Good job on trying to explain a very complicated subject and long text.
I'm a non-Catholic marrying a Catholic, and I found this video immensely helpful.
Grow up you brainwashed deluded clown
My dad seems he is agnostic due to some bad childhood experiences, but he was Protestant before my mom and my dad got married. My mom is catholic but her mom and dad were a hard core catholic.
Very informative 👍🏼
Incredibly well done. He has a gift for speaking and explaining clearly with a high degree of scholarship.
I've been married to my non-Catholic husband for 45 years this year. Three sons all brought up Catholic although one has fallen by the wayside in that respect. His two boys are not Catholic which is very sad for me. My mom was Methodist and my dad Catholic and as you said, a very quick ceremony and a disapproving priest .. In 1951.
My parents (1958) and my parents-in-law (1946) were both connected in "mixed marriages" Evangelical Lutheran (man) Catholic (woman). Interestingly, the Evangelical Lutheran families were much more intensely against these marriages than the Catholic relatives. The marriages lasted until the end of life.
Lynn Cw I’m so sorry to hear that about your son and grandchildren 💔😭🙏🏻
In The Philippines we don't have divorce like the Vatican. I remember a catholic priest saying in a debate about divorce "Are we being left by time or are we still holding on on what is right" and it left a very deep impact on me, I believe we are still holding on on what is right and I am against divorce - you can have civil wedding but if you want a church wedding then commit to your vow to God and to your partner. For me or for most of us catholic in the Philippines Marriage is sacred.
The past four years have been tough. I've have been constantly questioning my faith after the death of my ex girlfriend. I will not go into details but needles to say I still love her and care for her and that is she asked me or we could see each other I'd have asked her to be with me again in a heart beat. While I'm not out of the questioning by a long shot your videos over the past few months of me finding your channel have been refreshing. While you remind us that God can be tough he is also love and compassionate and it gives me hope that a young, kind and wonderful woman May be with him even though she found it hard to believe. That he looked at her and say things I will not repeat here that she told me about and said come home child and be at peace with me.
Perfect, this was one of my big questions and concern about coming back to the church.
My Mom is an Catholic
My Father is an Islam
At first my Gramps denied him when my mom explain him that she was inlove with him
When my Dad introduce himself to my gramps
He shown himself he is caable of raising a family , disciplined , responsible , selfless, Money Wise
After they get Married
My Mother remain Catholic
My Father remain islam
As for the 3 of us we choose
who we want to be
What if you convert AFTER you get married? I was born again after marriage and my wife doesn't share my faith in Christ. She respects this and isn't bothered with it, but doesn't want to share any of it. Sometimes this saddens me because she doesn't understand how strongly I feel about Jesus. Thank the Lord she is a loving and caring wife though.
St. Paul touched on this in his Scriptural writings. There is a provision where the sanctification of the convert covers the spouse. I'm sorry that I cannot quote chapter and verse. Look into it!
@@jessealvarez779 thanks for your answer. As I understand it she isn't saved (sactified is not saved) but "set apart" from unbelievers.
As someone who is just reapproaching Catholicism (got my first mass tonight since forever) and who is also in the same situation (been married just a little over three years, my spouse, coming from a Russian Orthodox background, is not religious but she does believe in God, although not in a Scriptural way) I think that the best way is to focus on your family and let God do the work.
If she's a good wife, who will love you and support you, I don't really see a problem, as long as she doesn't prevent the kids from baptized.
What's funny is that my wife was the one who a whole back suggested that I should go back to Christianity.
God acts in mysterious ways.
Cheers from a future born again Catholic.
Happy new year and God bless you.
Great job Father Casey.
My wife was in RCIA when we got hitched (it was actually a convalidation since I was lapsed). We got married during the Mass and she was perfectly fine with not receiving communion. She actually appreciated the priest's blessing as an alternative.
It's actually fun how we have a tongue in cheek "rivalry" since I'm a Trad and she subscribes to more modern practices. She jokingly rubs in my face every Friday that she enjoyed a hamburger or the like while I roll home fries into a tortilla at work for breakfast.
Interestingly, she likes the sanctity of a Tridentine Mass more than a Pauline one, but stumbles from the Latin. Which is why we plan to take a trip about 90 miles from home to go to an Ordinariate Mass. From what I've seen in videos it's the best of both worlds for her. I think I'll be taking quite a shine to it myself!
We also want to go to an Eastern parish at some point. My state of NH is small, so traveling is a cinch. We can choose from Ukrainian, Melkite and Maronite.
The nice thing about Catholicism is that it's a fun journey with lots to explore.
Now if we could get our ADHD child to sit still at a Mass, be it Tridentine, Pauline or Ordinariate...but that's a different story.
As someone who suffered from ADHD as a child, my folks found that giving me a cup of coffee before school helped me concentrate.
Sounds counter intuitive, but it helped me, and it might help them.
Only problem my folks had was church goers telling my mother her children will burn in hell because she didn't renounce her jewish faith. Then one telling me I clearly know nothing of morals since my mother did not properly teach about jesus, this happened in 2016 btw. My jewish grandfather's advice when they got married. "You both have different faiths. Just raise your children with love and to be good people. Let them decide on religion when they grow up" my mother goes to church to support him, when my grandfather passed my father learned the death prayer in Hebrew to properly honor him.
A parishioner at my church is a convert he converted after going to Mass for 30 years with his wife. they raised all their children Catholic and all of the Children were Adults before he converted he says joining the church is one of the best things he ever did he just wishes he did it sooner
As a Catholic married to a woman entered into the parish rolls as "Baptist-ish," now a committed Methodist, having the rubrics available to celebrate our marriage in the witness of a Baptist minister and Catholic priest before all our family and friends (and, being outside Mass, with a lot of available time for the Liturgy of the Word--we had 2 of everything except Psalms!) allowed me to begin a fruitful sacramental life in a spirit of harmony and unity that has, I believe, greatly benefited her, me, and God's holy Church. Thanks to Fr. Casey for this informational bite.
Cool vid, interesting history and the way it changed
I am a lapsed Catholic coming home after 20 years. In those years I got married and had a child. We will be going to my parish Father to start down the road of either the third option or have it blessed as a dispensation. My wife and I are very strong together and she is a wonderful woman rooted in Buddhism. In some ways she's more Christian than I am! Pray for us, Father. And, awesome channel! I subscribed.
I’m back again. I just read a comment from someone who said he felt marrying a non Catholic would be like marrying a Jezebel. My husband married a “Jezebel” and we shared the same values, loved the Lord and none of the marriage problems we had were related to our different church traditions because we were BOTH CHRISTIANS and lived our faith in Christ. I hope he meets some non-Catholic people that will give him a different point of view on Jezebels! God Bless.
This last point about not having two ceremonies is interesting to me. King Juan Carlos of Spain married Princess Sofia of Greece first in a Roman Catholic Ceremony and then two hours later in a Greek Orthodox Ceremony (with a civil ceremony later in the afternoon for good measure) Do you have any insight into this? It was in 1962, so maybe the rules were different?
My mum was Anglican but my dad was Roman Catholic, they got married in an Anglican church but I was baptised as Roman Catholic then brought up Anglican until I was about 7 when I started going to church with my dad to get ready for my first holy communion.
This makes me rethink about filing for annulment, although we were not married in church but through a judge. We should be marrying for the right reasons and ask for GOD's guidance first before entering it.
The modern liturgy is very accommodating, yes, but simply by looking at such comparison of liturgical texts, are there truly devout Catholics in their right mind who could imagine being married with severely washed out greetings, blessings, prayers, etc??
who is the priest at 4:48? That appears to be the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception, in Wichita, Kansas (where I am from). I can't tell who that is specifically .
Probably just some internet picture lol
My mom is Catholic, my dad is Lutheran-Protestant with both sides of the family strongly rooted in their respective denominations. They were married Catholic but a Lutheran priest was present at the wedding doing both sides of the family justice which I find wonderful. To me it has always been enriching to have both influences in my life. My father for instance prefers the Catholic Mass over the Lutheran to him it is more festive, on the other hand Lutherans have a much stronger emphasis on the Bible which is why my brother and I were encouraged by my aunt (my father's sister) to get into the stories of the Bible more, which is in partly how I ended up as top of the class in religious education in school (even challenging some of the things my teacher said and proofing him wrong by pointing it down in the Bible). There was however one time that I struggled with this as well. Our parents decided to raise us Catholic since that was our moms denomination however frequent discussions of faith and an overall liberal attitude towards religion and our personal faith lead me to having some views and opinions aligning more with Lutheran doctrine than the catechism, which I personally find perfectly normal and okay. However in the preparatory class for confirmation I ended up leaving the class tearfully because I was scolded for my "wrong views" (the women teaching the class admittedly is more Catholic than the Pope himself...) I went home in tears and both my parents asked what had happened, when I told them, my mom got angry at a person being so narrow minded (meaning the catechist) and my dad just bursted out laughing and calling me out as heretic, which definitely eased the tension for me because I now understood that the catechist and I could have "naturally" not agreed on the point as I had been growing up with different views on religion than she had.
My wife is Catholic and I am an atheist. It is not a huge barrier between us, we have mutual respect on our beliefs and religion rarely is brought up in our day to day. I will attend Mass with her and I have promised that our children will be raised Catholic.
Thank you for this powerful video. I grew up with a very unique view on this topic.
My mother is Catholic while my dad was a divorced Southern Baptist. While in today’s church an annulment would have been relatively easy (Dad’s ex-wife had an affair), in 1968 they were forced to get married outside the church.
My sister and I were raised Catholic with Dad providing insight as to the Baptist teachings. In the early 80’s my Dad’s ex-wife died and my parents had their vows blessed in the church several months later. I was Dad’s best man at the ceremony. Dad still attended Mass every week with Mom. My adult friends were shocked to learn he wasn’t Catholic. My favorite line was “he goes to Mass more than I do!”
In the early 2010’s, my dad converted to Catholic having gone thru the RCIA program in his late 70’s. I was his sponsor for this process.
Now my family (parents, wife and son) all attend Mass together and receive communion each week (with full COVID protocols in place) and I feel truly blessed.
I learned a lot!
My mother was a Catholic and my father was a non-practising protestant (I think Church of England). My mother's parents were very religious Catholics and not too happy about it, but they accepted it. My siblings and I got raised Catholic but less strictly as time went on and my mother's faith faded. I was christened Catholic as a baby, but never even did first communion.
Just because you can do something does not always mean you should.
Marry any women you love period 💯
Best answer here!!!
so which religion the children will follow ..and which values children to be raised on..then inevitable lasting conflict
@@hanyhanna1307 either or neither of the parent’s religions. Being born into a religion doesn’t guarantee you follow it.
periodt
I'm pushing 50, My uncle who was at the time not open about being a not yet fully Lapsed Catholic (looking to return), he married outside the Church and was Excommunicated. a few years later my parents married, Mum was a church going Catholic & active in the community, foundation stone member of our Parish when the local Catholic School and Church was built, Dad was a Submarine Protestant CoE (you call them Anglicans today), they where married in a full church wedding at her old parish since her new one wasn't built yet and I was raised in the Church. what a difference a few years make.
Hey Fr., can a Catholic and a Christian still have a wedding Mass even though this is not the norm if the Christian party is on board?
10:08 is peculiar, because just saw your very good and excellent video about Don't be a Priest, and the same could be said here. We don't want to have a lighter faith in order to not scare people away, or change the Church because times change. No. Because God is a zealous God, and the Church is His, not ours, we are just the workers who take care of it. So, I know what you mean, but the choice of words could have been better. One thing is not wanting to scare people, and other one is getting to people with love. Very distinct.
My sister was married to a Luthern, within two weeks she told me "Whatever you do, marry a Catholic.
There you go, another result of Vatican II.
I'm sorry that this did not work out for her, but sometimes people need to take personal responsibility and not blame the Church, don't you think?
@@BreakingInTheHabit
I think it is a team effort. Poor catechesis, bad examples, and etc all add up. True, ultimately we have nobody to blame but ourselves, but that does not, and will not, excuse these bad pastors come Judgment Day.
My mother was a member of St. Andrew Roman Catholic Church and my father was a member of Salem Evangelical Church, later renamed Salem United Church of Christ. (I read somewhere the denomination my father belonged to had its origins in the Lutheran Church). In 1950, my mother and father were married in St. Andrew Catholic Church, but were married outside the communion rail as my father was not Roman Catholic. My father agreed for their children to be raised Roman Catholic. My father supported and attended our sacraments in the Roman Catholic Church, attended Mass with us on various occasions and holidays, and helped with the Boy Scout Troop and their activities at that church. We attended service with my father at his church for holidays. My father was instrumental in my faith formation as much as my mother and my maternal grandparents, and I feel very fortunate for his personal contribution, originating from his denomination.
We prayed grace together as a family before meals. Faith and prayer were part of our family life.
My maternal grandfather had been Lutheran since birth and was a member of Concordia Lutheran Church. He married my maternal grandmother, a Roman Catholic, in St. Andrew Roman Catholic Church Rectory on Thanksgiving day in 1926. He agreed to raise their children Roman Catholic. My maternal grandfather who was a Master Plumber, did free plumbing for the Convent for the Sisters connected to St. Andrew Church and School, and was involved with the Boy Scouts of that parish, serving as President of the Boy Scouts Board. He converted to Catholicism on the occasion of his 25th Wedding Anniversary.
My maternal grandfather's family were Lutheran. My maternal grandmother's family were Roman Catholic. My paternal grandfather's family were Lutheran. My paternal grandmother's family were Evangelical, later renamed United Church of Christ. We respected each other for our faith traditions, which really were not all that different. We were Christians!
My wife is an Atheist Chinese woman from Hawaii (who is also a US military veteran.....and if anyone reading this are her fellow vets, thank you for your service). I'm a lifelong Catholic as is my entire family. She's the best person I know and the religion part of our relationship has been an issue literally 0 times.