TIRED!!! I literally just went to Vegas by myself for my birthday on purpose. Thought I was gonna do all kinds of craziness but ended up barely leaving the room and just resting. Didn’t even wanna answer my phone on my birthday. It was one of the best, most insightful weekends of my life
I’m here. I’m a 34 year old new father and I find myself drowning feels like. Nobody cares about my mental or wellbeing. I literally pay all major bills minus my girl’s cellphone and car note. Mind you I pay all my own bills and still give her money where she lacks and yet she came to me literally yday like she’s tired. I’m like you’re tired of what. Working 40 hours when I work 70 or more to make you comfortable. I’m at the point where I feel like a tool for everybody but me
I also feel that men who are masculine, but also sensitive, gentle-hearted have additional challenges. Their kindness is dismissed as weakness and they receive little respect.
Shalom Brothers. Wow! Finally I know that it's just not me feeling like this. I thought something was wrong with me for wanting to stop being everyone's "Go to". Thank you for this Brother Jason!🙏🏿✊🏿💪🏿
Coach, I just saw you break down a young boy with love and was moved to check you out. I feel this talk. I want to add, I think men need to learn HOW to rest and to give themselves space and PERMISSION to do so. Much of what you talked about here, like boundaries, fit in with these two simple things. We need to create boundaries that protect our ability to fully rest and that do not infringe on allowing ourselves to do so without feeling any type of shame or guilt. Keep going coach, I'm going to listen to more of your stuff. ✌️💙
Thank You. I really mean it. I'm from Poland and our society of men is very much like that. Always working, never resting and being distant on the days off. I recognized that as the years pass, when I became father, I becoming like this myself. Now I want to get time for myself, I set boundaries and demand to be treated not only as a person who provides but also as a person who feels and wants to enjoy life. I feel pretty alienated when I try to do that. Your conversation makes me feel less lonely. Thank You!
That's the ONLY advice my Pop ever gave me about dating and relationships; but I applied it more to life in general: "Boundaries aren't for them (the world and other people) they're for you. If you don't put them up people will treat you any way they want."
I think you are right. Black men rarely get massages and have the mind to rest for example. They feel like they have to overproduce because of the pressures and conditions of society or they don’t take care of business at all. It’s a dramatic extreme. Also because many Black men fail Black women other Black man have to do more work due to the unhealthy behaviors and unhealed traumas of their brothers. I think my people are healing in general and you all should go out into nature and recharge more often as brothers like I see White men doing. I love you all and need you to be healthy.❤❤❤❤
I as a man I am tired emotionally and mentally. There is days I question my existence. Life is tough and I’m learning by myself as I go. I had a father but that father did not teach me how to be a man. None the less I am very thankful for that man as he taught me how to be a hard worker. Still I feel extremely lost I finally admit everything and I can see it all, just do not know what to do how to handle it or where to start. I just give up and have no energy for anything.
Shalom Elder, I pray that you both stay encouraged. I feel you with walking away from social media and the emotional weariness. You are a voice crying out for men around the world. I pray that you stay on your POST.
All praises to the Most High for this timely message brothers! I'm so "tired" of being a sole provider 12 yrs to a stay at home wife that is uncooperative that I'm ready to leave. Your message & the book may have provided a little more time & grace for us to get things together starting with me setting boundaries. Thanks 💪🏾✊🏾
Once I had my first kid,my focus shifted less on, do people like me or,what can I do for other people to except me. Nowadays, my focus is on fertilizing the love me and my family share ,and how can I make their life easier.
Salam Alikum - thank you for this powerful conversation. Just had a similar one with my friend today. So important to set those strong boundaries. I really love the framing around "God doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear" but... we can. We can burden ourselves, and we have choices to make every day. Very important shift here, remembering our power and creating the life we need to lead. Protect your energy as much as you can. A dose of prevention is better than a ton of treatment. Prevention will feel boring sometimes but its the most important medicine we need!
In response to the statement that women go on vacations and live their best lives, that's part of their performance as well. Of course some people really enjoy vacation and aren't doing it to put on a performance just like some people really enjoy working all the time. But with the push of the soft feminine, showing yourself relaxing can be done to perform femininity and as a sign of wealth and being 'high value' as many people can't afford that. Thank you for this conversation
A lot of truths in here got me emotional but when you got to the father's day point I just broke down into actual tears. Wanting to be left alone on the day you're celebrated is just something else. Thank you for these conversations Daddy J.
White brother here. Wish I could take a trip and vacation. Just got married and have a newborn baby. Maybe could’ve done that when I was single. But it’s not a culture thing as much as it’s a class thing. make below 60k you’re out there struggling. Plus a nagging wife. Sheeeeesh.
thank you for this. where i currently live (china), it is common work culture to accept any request from the boss no matter whether it is short notice, poor communication, or an unrealistic expectation given the resources that are available. i am seen as difficult for saying no, but i do it in order to maintain my ability to be passionate and thus successful in my profession (school teacher). thank you for the reminders and affirmations.
Thank Yall I'm mad at the trucks outside reving engines or bassing right now b/c I'm exhausted and can't sleep with all that noise and didn't want to sleep last night b/c I wanted time for myself since I'm off today. Man yall said it all fr ty. 🙏 shabbat shalom .
Thank you so much for your ministry. This was a great discussion. I totally feel tired a lot. But thankfully I can reflect and realize the lead up to being tired and try not to be in that place again. Thank you for opening my eyes and sharpening my sword.
If telling someone no to prevent resentment from taking hold so you can continue to be a loving patient person who gives from a place of abundance is wrong, I don’t wanna be right
To sharpen a sword, you need something abrasive. Not mean, but abrasive. You can't sharpen a sword on cardboard or a sponge. A lot of men can't take that abrasive love to help sharpen them. I'm always looking for someone to give me that hard, abrasive truth, especially when it's out of love.
I'm in Chicago and I've been feeling this and seeing it around me. One of the boundaries I set for myself was stepping away from our Urban Crucible weekend this spring. More responsibilities came up, and honestly, I'm recognizing that I have limitations and I'm shifting my priorities to not take on more than I should be.
Atleast this gives me somewhat of a justification to being hesitant to start working im a young man trying to figure out what to do with my life and im thinking its best for me if i persue my creative ability with Making animated films and music and even acting and stuff i think that would make me happier and more effective than just doing "some Job" heres to hoping it will work out for me!
A lot of this is compelled by capitalism/market economies. Many older cultures didnt live like this; we built mud houses, didnt have pricey insurance policies, etc. Im not arguing life was easy or even lengthy, but it was simpler & less demanding on a daily basis.
Well obviously but the point is that men are socialized into putting so much on themselves. The whole culture is “grind all the time, resting is for when you got it” but a lot of men feel like they have to work nonstop, not stopping when their bodies are breaking and when they don’t have anything left. Jason is one of the only guys telling men “you need to rest too”
Some white dudes. It's about disposable income really. If you've got enough of that, no matter what culture you're in, you can afford more time to chill with your friends and to get away from the grind.
funny how white guys and black guys have the exact same job, same salary range, and yet black culture sees white male culture taking time for themselves with their men. So.....disposable income....sounds like a good excuse to not hold your own culture accountable. That's what his point was about white men taking time but black men are not doing the work of setting boundaries and taking care of their mental needs.
Your life has meaning and purpose in God's grand plan of life. Keep on keeping on brother. You won't see what only God knows so seek his guidance and lean into his light!
This talk underscores the beauty of the Sabbath. Our Heavenly Father *knew* we were going to need breaks. A day, every week, when we don't work, focus on Him, our loved ones and *rest* . On another note, I have to disagree with your claim that your white brothers are out here "getting it in", living in paradise, lol. Godly men, who are protectors, providers and leaders of their homes, who are TIRED, come in every color.
What I find that makes me tired is my own career field of engineering and the male alpha culture. There's soo much to learn in this career field and around soo many men that know the information to succeed in this field (like engineering analysis software, Engineering Standards, etc.) but almost to a person, they have a mentality of, "I learned it myself, so no I'm not going to help you learn it. You do it yourself." We are toxic to each other in the work place because there is zero company reward for reporting how you developed your team, only that your team completed their projects. Why teach the person next to you the skills they need to succeed since the company only measures your worth by project completion, not team development? How about the fact that our engineering project managers have to perform annual performance reviews of their team members but there is no mechanism to give feedback on your manager's personnel management of the team? They are project managers, rewarded for completing the engineering tasks with no metrics they are accountable to for team development. Everyone on their team also has to complete their assigned tasks and manages people to complete their engineering tasks by reaching out to other engineering departments to coordinate their projects' development. So why are they "managers" of people, with the power to fire you, and yet they have no metrics of their team development that they are accountable to?
Wow, great discussion. 🤎 🙇🏾♀️ If I may... I am experiencing another generation of worthy men in my family. I am grateful and remind others when necessary that they too have dreams unspoken that we can hear if we listen...yet dont wait for anyone to hear to know that YOU ARE worthy of joy & peace too. Psalm 23:5 ~ Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; MY cup runneth OVER. What is in my cup is for me, my sustenance; only do I give from the OVERFLOW, anything more is a sacrifice. We are not called to be a habitual sacrifice. "No", it is an acceptable answer, and a refresh will freshen all. I AM that woman that will say unequivocably to family, friends, professional associates... "No, I dont feel like it" when I am tired. The chips fall where they may, healthy boundaries indeed secures all. I've learned the lesson. 🫨 The men in my life since forever get away, hiking, fishing, hunting, camping, ball games, cards with their band of brothers when needed. And what the neighbors are doing or achieving/comparisons truly are the thieves of joy. What authentically makes one feel alive, appreciated, secured, and whole needs to be explored and embraced. Yup, we need you but You ARE worthy. 💛🧘🏾♀️💜🧘🏾♀️🖤
TIRED!!! I literally just went to Vegas by myself for my birthday on purpose. Thought I was gonna do all kinds of craziness but ended up barely leaving the room and just resting. Didn’t even wanna answer my phone on my birthday. It was one of the best, most insightful weekends of my life
you know i actually need a break like that lmao
Take care of self bruv
I can definitely understand and relate.
I’m here. I’m a 34 year old new father and I find myself drowning feels like. Nobody cares about my mental or wellbeing. I literally pay all major bills minus my girl’s cellphone and car note. Mind you I pay all my own bills and still give her money where she lacks and yet she came to me literally yday like she’s tired. I’m like you’re tired of what. Working 40 hours when I work 70 or more to make you comfortable. I’m at the point where I feel like a tool for everybody but me
I also feel that men who are masculine, but also sensitive, gentle-hearted have additional challenges. Their kindness is dismissed as weakness and they receive little respect.
This is the most enriching & nutritious (to the soul) conversation I've ever heard on TH-cam. I 100% needed this. Thank you.
You’re welcome! I’m glad our conversation blessed you.
Shalom Brothers. Wow! Finally I know that it's just not me feeling like this. I thought something was wrong with me for wanting to stop being everyone's "Go to". Thank you for this Brother Jason!🙏🏿✊🏿💪🏿
Coach, I just saw you break down a young boy with love and was moved to check you out. I feel this talk. I want to add, I think men need to learn HOW to rest and to give themselves space and PERMISSION to do so. Much of what you talked about here, like boundaries, fit in with these two simple things. We need to create boundaries that protect our ability to fully rest and that do not infringe on allowing ourselves to do so without feeling any type of shame or guilt. Keep going coach, I'm going to listen to more of your stuff. ✌️💙
Thank you for this conversation. This was so affirming and real. I really needed to hear this. 🙏
You’re welcome, glad our conversation was affirming. Please share it with other men.
Thank You. I really mean it. I'm from Poland and our society of men is very much like that. Always working, never resting and being distant on the days off. I recognized that as the years pass, when I became father, I becoming like this myself. Now I want to get time for myself, I set boundaries and demand to be treated not only as a person who provides but also as a person who feels and wants to enjoy life. I feel pretty alienated when I try to do that. Your conversation makes me feel less lonely. Thank You!
Shalom Elder Wilson. I just found this channel from watching an FD Signifier video. Truly a breath of fresh air. Keep doing what you’re doing.
Please subscribe if you haven't' already! 🙏🏾
Sometimes I visit this channel just to remind myself that this DOES still exits in men. I’m glad there’s a space like this for men. 🙏🏾
I can’t express how much I needed to hear this at this exact moment. Thank you, Brothers.
This is truly blessing me! Tired of being the bad guy😒
That's the ONLY advice my Pop ever gave me about dating and relationships; but I applied it more to life in general: "Boundaries aren't for them (the world and other people) they're for you. If you don't put them up people will treat you any way they want."
I think you are right. Black men rarely get massages and have the mind to rest for example. They feel like they have to overproduce because of the pressures and conditions of society or they don’t take care of business at all. It’s a dramatic extreme. Also because many Black men fail Black women other Black man have to do more work due to the unhealthy behaviors and unhealed traumas of their brothers. I think my people are healing in general and you all should go out into nature and recharge more often as brothers like I see White men doing. I love you all and need you to be healthy.❤❤❤❤
Needed to hear this, brothers. Thank you.
I as a man I am tired emotionally and mentally. There is days I question my existence. Life is tough and I’m learning by myself as I go. I had a father but that father did not teach me how to be a man. None the less I am very thankful for that man as he taught me how to be a hard worker. Still I feel extremely lost I finally admit everything and I can see it all, just do not know what to do how to handle it or where to start. I just give up and have no energy for anything.
Shalom Elder, I pray that you both stay encouraged. I feel you with walking away from social media and the emotional weariness. You are a voice crying out for men around the world. I pray that you stay on your POST.
So much value here I appreciate you guts for this 🖤
Amen! Thank you!
KAN we have to perform constantly. The grind.. the life.. the battle..
All praises to the Most High for this timely message brothers! I'm so "tired" of being a sole provider 12 yrs to a stay at home wife that is uncooperative that I'm ready to leave. Your message & the book may have provided a little more time & grace for us to get things together starting with me setting boundaries. Thanks 💪🏾✊🏾
I would love to hear your update. I can relate
Once I had my first kid,my focus shifted less on, do people like me or,what can I do for other people to except me. Nowadays, my focus is on fertilizing the love me and my family share ,and how can I make their life easier.
This is eye-opening. Take care of yourselves, brothers!
Funny how we all found this at different times but for all the same reason may this all lead us to where we need to be brothers….
Salam Alikum - thank you for this powerful conversation. Just had a similar one with my friend today. So important to set those strong boundaries. I really love the framing around "God doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear" but... we can. We can burden ourselves, and we have choices to make every day. Very important shift here, remembering our power and creating the life we need to lead. Protect your energy as much as you can. A dose of prevention is better than a ton of treatment. Prevention will feel boring sometimes but its the most important medicine we need!
In response to the statement that women go on vacations and live their best lives, that's part of their performance as well. Of course some people really enjoy vacation and aren't doing it to put on a performance just like some people really enjoy working all the time. But with the push of the soft feminine, showing yourself relaxing can be done to perform femininity and as a sign of wealth and being 'high value' as many people can't afford that. Thank you for this conversation
Such a true Statement.
A lot of truths in here got me emotional but when you got to the father's day point I just broke down into actual tears. Wanting to be left alone on the day you're celebrated is just something else. Thank you for these conversations Daddy J.
Bruh! Y’all talking about everything I’ve been feeling in my heart. It’s lowkey like a weight was lifted just a little bit
Brothers Thank you so much. 🙏 I am there now it's hard.
This subject should be the topic of your new book bro. I believe many of us are dying because we truly need rest.
I’m watching every video, thank you very much!
Shalom big brothers. I appreciate this content.
Respect for this conversation. Boundaries matter.
Peace brothers! This was great🤎👊🏾
Makes *_so_* much sense.
Great conversation!!
White brother here. Wish I could take a trip and vacation. Just got married and have a newborn baby. Maybe could’ve done that when I was single. But it’s not a culture thing as much as it’s a class thing. make below 60k you’re out there struggling. Plus a nagging wife. Sheeeeesh.
thank you for this. where i currently live (china), it is common work culture to accept any request from the boss no matter whether it is short notice, poor communication, or an unrealistic expectation given the resources that are available. i am seen as difficult for saying no, but i do it in order to maintain my ability to be passionate and thus successful in my profession (school teacher). thank you for the reminders and affirmations.
Yes, continue to set your boundaries. You’re not being difficult you’re taking care of yourself. Shalom!
Thank Yall I'm mad at the trucks outside reving engines or bassing right now b/c I'm exhausted and can't sleep with all that noise and didn't want to sleep last night b/c I wanted time for myself since I'm off today. Man yall said it all fr ty. 🙏 shabbat shalom .
very powerful conversation, thank you.
Just found this and this is, me!!!
Thank you for this!
Appreciate you brothers. Much love and prayers
Thank you so much for your ministry. This was a great discussion. I totally feel tired a lot. But thankfully I can reflect and realize the lead up to being tired and try not to be in that place again. Thank you for opening my eyes and sharpening my sword.
Thank you for sharing this
Man this is powerful!!!! Speaking exactly how I feel!!!
FACTS the comraderie is needed..
I'm pretty sure his t shirt has unlimited ammo in Grant theft auto 3 lol. I'm liking the conversation so far thanks for what you do.
Nah its the Konami code. Real ones know😂
Lol!! Its the Konami code
@@sneakykamon lol thanks now I know!
Yup, it’s for Konami Contra ti be exact! Glad you guys like it.
Boundaries! Please set them.
Needed this thank you brother 🙏
Much needed discussion 🙏🏾 13:52
Dang that survivors guilt comment hit in more ways 🤯🤯
If telling someone no to prevent resentment from taking hold so you can continue to be a loving patient person who gives from a place of abundance is wrong, I don’t wanna be right
To sharpen a sword, you need something abrasive. Not mean, but abrasive. You can't sharpen a sword on cardboard or a sponge. A lot of men can't take that abrasive love to help sharpen them. I'm always looking for someone to give me that hard, abrasive truth, especially when it's out of love.
That’s dope! I’ve been labeled abrasive and it’s apart of my purpose. Thank you for this.
I'm in Chicago and I've been feeling this and seeing it around me. One of the boundaries I set for myself was stepping away from our Urban Crucible weekend this spring. More responsibilities came up, and honestly, I'm recognizing that I have limitations and I'm shifting my priorities to not take on more than I should be.
Atleast this gives me somewhat of a justification to being hesitant to start working im a young man trying to figure out what to do with my life and im thinking its best for me if i persue my creative ability with Making animated films and music and even acting and stuff i think that would make me happier and more effective than just doing "some Job" heres to hoping it will work out for me!
Do it brother! I’m a coach for creatives and would love for you to pursue that passion and monetize it.
Yes, go for it! I did! Doing what you love is personally rewarding.
If you close your eyes, it's not Ronald talking, it's Morgan Freeman.
😂 That’s the first time I’ve ever heard that. I’ll take though 😂
Were is our outlet. And unjust balance is an abomination to The Most High. We have to have a balance.
I just vented to my girlfriend this morning about how tired and stressed I am, and then my homeboy sent me this. Crazy
Shalom family, would definitely love to talk with you on day Yah willing
Israelites don't take time for us..
A lot of this is compelled by capitalism/market economies. Many older cultures didnt live like this; we built mud houses, didnt have pricey insurance policies, etc. Im not arguing life was easy or even lengthy, but it was simpler & less demanding on a daily basis.
Im tired of working hard my whole life and my finances not matching my work ethic.
I definitely can relate, you have to start working from your value opposed to your time and you’ll see the increase.
Not a man but I am sympathizing and hope you men get the healing you need. 😢
If they are tired, take a nap...a break.. do self care....do what everyone else does when they are tired.
Well obviously but the point is that men are socialized into putting so much on themselves. The whole culture is “grind all the time, resting is for when you got it” but a lot of men feel like they have to work nonstop, not stopping when their bodies are breaking and when they don’t have anything left. Jason is one of the only guys telling men “you need to rest too”
What's the link to the therapist name
Some white dudes. It's about disposable income really. If you've got enough of that, no matter what culture you're in, you can afford more time to chill with your friends and to get away from the grind.
funny how white guys and black guys have the exact same job, same salary range, and yet black culture sees white male culture taking time for themselves with their men. So.....disposable income....sounds like a good excuse to not hold your own culture accountable. That's what his point was about white men taking time but black men are not doing the work of setting boundaries and taking care of their mental needs.
The right women make that possible for the right men. Her success is his success and vice versa
@@AmandaMG6can y’all stay away from our conversations. Y’all are not our helpers. You are enemies to us.
What documentary you mention?
The Cave of Adullam documentary on ESPN+
Save me from myself
W
Asking God what he wants from me. Not feeling fulfilled. Not seeing the point in being here.
Your life has meaning and purpose in God's grand plan of life. Keep on keeping on brother. You won't see what only God knows so seek his guidance and lean into his light!
You have purpose my brother. Read Jeremiah 29:11 . Continue to trust God!
This talk underscores the beauty of the Sabbath. Our Heavenly Father *knew* we were going to need breaks. A day, every week, when we don't work, focus on Him, our loved ones and *rest* . On another note, I have to disagree with your claim that your white brothers are out here "getting it in", living in paradise, lol. Godly men, who are protectors, providers and leaders of their homes, who are TIRED, come in every color.
Yes, rest in the Most High on the Sabbath is key.
Job in the Bible was tired also.
No comment
You know he gets his beard died
😂 He used to dye it black but that’s all natural 😂
What I find that makes me tired is my own career field of engineering and the male alpha culture. There's soo much to learn in this career field and around soo many men that know the information to succeed in this field (like engineering analysis software, Engineering Standards, etc.) but almost to a person, they have a mentality of, "I learned it myself, so no I'm not going to help you learn it. You do it yourself." We are toxic to each other in the work place because there is zero company reward for reporting how you developed your team, only that your team completed their projects. Why teach the person next to you the skills they need to succeed since the company only measures your worth by project completion, not team development?
How about the fact that our engineering project managers have to perform annual performance reviews of their team members but there is no mechanism to give feedback on your manager's personnel management of the team? They are project managers, rewarded for completing the engineering tasks with no metrics they are accountable to for team development. Everyone on their team also has to complete their assigned tasks and manages people to complete their engineering tasks by reaching out to other engineering departments to coordinate their projects' development. So why are they "managers" of people, with the power to fire you, and yet they have no metrics of their team development that they are accountable to?
Wow, great discussion. 🤎 🙇🏾♀️ If I may... I am experiencing another generation of worthy men in my family. I am grateful and remind others when necessary that they too have dreams unspoken that we can hear if we listen...yet dont wait for anyone to hear to know that YOU ARE worthy of joy & peace too.
Psalm 23:5 ~
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; MY cup runneth OVER.
What is in my cup is for me, my sustenance; only do I give from the OVERFLOW, anything more is a sacrifice. We are not called to be a habitual sacrifice. "No", it is an acceptable answer, and a refresh will freshen all. I AM that woman that will say unequivocably to family, friends, professional associates... "No, I dont feel like it" when I am tired. The chips fall where they may, healthy boundaries indeed secures all. I've learned the lesson. 🫨
The men in my life since forever get away, hiking, fishing, hunting, camping, ball games, cards with their band of brothers when needed. And what the neighbors are doing or achieving/comparisons truly are the thieves of joy. What authentically makes one feel alive, appreciated, secured, and whole needs to be explored and embraced. Yup, we need you but You ARE worthy.
💛🧘🏾♀️💜🧘🏾♀️🖤
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