how could you stop being a lesbian? and which gender turn you on when trying to be a grown up man/grandpa? I am so confused and longing back to the 80s or 70s
@@lauraclark427 Yes, I heard about that. Maybe they changed it to "penis-lacker who is sexually attracted to penis-lackers". That's inclusive, right? Defining us exclusively by comparison with men isn't misogynist at all, right?
It’s just nonsense why are you letting them upset you? They are out of touch with reality do you really think things will change the way they want them to? No stop letting whiney l0sers dictate your emotions.
Yeah. I find it funny how the woke feminists always go "WAH WAH WAH PATRIARCHY!!1" then proceed to turn around and say "Non-men is an inclusive word and you should all start using it!" Aren't they the same people that were screeching about man being in the word 'woman' like 6 years ago? Lol.
Reminds me of the 1950’s housewife syndrome, if women didn’t embrace their femininity as socially expected they were listed as “others” instead of woman.
When you meet a “hot chick” at the bar, you don’t fall in love with them….you fall in lust with them. If in the process of getting to know them better by talking to them you find that you’re not compatible (for any reason) then you simply say “ it was nice getting to know you, but I don’t think it’s going to work out between us “. No harm no foul.
Exactly. And it happens the other way for me: I fall in love first before feeling lust. And to fall in love there's a lot more than sexual orientation or gender identity for me to ponder.
It was love at first meeting for me, but because I saw him cycle through 5 major emotions, all while still holding a professional position in a meeting…. I didn’t need more time, I bought in 😍 (without expectations )
i’m so sick of having my identity as a woman removed. i am not a “non man”. im a woman. A WOMAN. and that’s what a lesbian is - a woman loving other women. i saw an article for menshealth today and the headline was referring to us as “vulva owners” and i about vomited. thank you buck for everything you do.
Straight woman here. If I go to the bar and meet a hot guy, we have a great conversation, we have tons of things in common.... And then I find out he is married - it's a no go. And I find out he has domestic violence in his path- it's a no go And I find out he abandoned his kids and doesn't support them- don't let the screen door hit you on the way out. We all have our preferences and standards. We don't owe anyone an explanation. Even a hook up involves intimacy so you should only be with someone you are comfortable with. Honestly, all these semantics games feels like some huckster trying to pull a bait and switch to me.
I’m a straight 50ish conservative woman. What pisses me off is bc I’m conservative I’m assumed to be anti homosexual/trans. Maybe some are but, I could could care less who one’s partner is & what they do behind closed doors (straight or not). I just want my friends to be happy & to live their lives as they do. It just sucks to be assumed to be something that I’m not just bc I have more conservative opinions. :(
Trans women who pressure lesbians into dating them honestly feels just like when straight men are doing that but instead of saying "you havent found the right man yet" they say "im a woman and you like women, right?"
Part of the problem is referring to them as "trans" WOMEN. By doing this, we give credence to them being women. They are trans identifying MEN.Calling them what they are would be a big step in getting our rights back.
What’s really annoying is that most of these people are under the age of 30 and still living with their parents and/or someone else ‘paying the bills’ for them….and have no Real Life Responsibilities
I’m going to be 30 in a couple weeks and I live with my fiancé now, I lived with my parents in my early 20s but I was there because I was going thru my drug addiction trying to get sober, I moved out again when I met my fiancé at 24, I was still using but I was making more progress in life. I got a job and I finally got sober 4 years ago. Life was difficult out on my own but as a prescription pill/substance abuser I always had to have some kind of job because I had to have money. I overdosed one time after I left my parents and it scared me so bad I got clean
@@TheBlindwig hey I don’t see my original comment but thanks! My life’s pretty good. Well with bpd I have my daily ups and downs but it’s ok tontie lil
As an older non-woman, I'm totally disgusted that anyone, ANYONE would refer to our sister humans as non-men and to be taken at all seriously is insane.
Lesbians is the lgbtha+++ category that is treated the worse of ALL categories. Males claiming to be lesbians are even talking about "the cotton ceiling". That's what they refer to when they talk about the panties of lesbians and how discriminated they (males calling themselves lesbians) are when leabians don't want to be intimate with anyone else than real biological women. Why can't the males that identify as lesbians date other males that identify as lesbians?
Good point. My lesbian cousin had a relationship with a trans women but she is not trans herself. Still she is 100% lesbian and was attracted to a woman with masculine traits...makes me wonder
@@sammckinlay6918 yet the ones yelling on social media that lesbians don’t like them aren’t complaining that “trans lesbians” aren’t attracted to them, which was my point.
Nice to see Vikki!! Having dated both men and women in my lifetime, one thing I noticed is that during my relationships with women, men would still flirt with me like I was fair game. They did not care that I was in a relationship with a woman. Many men don't take lesbian relationships seriously, that, as you know, has always been a thing. Now we're seeing it on a whole new level! It's so gross.
I've also had this experience as a bisexual person when with women. Plus there's the automatic assumption on the part of many men that they will now be invited to a threesome.
True I've experienced it too. And if me and my girlfriend told them harshly "leave us alone we are not interested in you, fk off!" After being harassed for half an hour, they became aggressive and started calling us "whores" "fk ur moms" "your sick in the head' etc. This is what happens in Europe. And the guys screaming this at us were both natives and immigrants. Nowadays it's dangerous to hold your girlfriends hand, even in Scandinavia.
Lipstick lesbians was a term issued in the 70s when I was going to ptown and gay bars in my youth, and yes it simply meant a woman who was feminine and liked women. Simple, where butch was traditionally more masculine presenting. Weird enough I was a lipstick lesbian , self identified, and also liked men's clothes. I prefer less labels.
^^^ I'm not gay... but I think this is a great idea. I'd definitely back it up and attend something like this. Something sane. Hold a celebration of all ppl or love in general. A happiness parade 🥰😄
@@jaimejones3177back in the day it was just a one day thing, gay day, then it turned into a week, then it turned into pride month,and now it’s pride season 4 months. And the parade DID NOT have people in dog costumes,balls in their mouths or any of that chanting they had last year. It was just normal people walking in the middle of the street,
I'm a real gay and so r a bunch of my friends. We haven't gone to pride for years now cause the TQIA............ gross us the f out. We go to the cottage and have cocktails. Lol
@@krisleppy that’s just it, especially now with all the little kids watching, and petting these sorry to sound mean (weirdo’s in dog costumes) that’s just wrong.
As a lesbian it’s really annoying that you don’t hear anything about if a trans guy is gay or not if he likes man it’s always the lesbians who need to change!
To be fair, as a gay man, I've seen this argument a lot on gay social medias. For me, a "gay" trans man is a biological straight woman. Real gays are not attracted by female anatomy.
Gay trans men actually have had some clashes with gay men over this, but it's been slowly getting resolved by more rational minded people creating sections in apps for us to attract men who like trans men. Trans women who like women should do the same thing.
It's an attack on all women in general... Everything from our identity, sexuality, experiences, terminology, and capabilities that are distinctly unique to us, to our protected rights, sports, opportunities, and private spaces. Womanhood and everything that defines being female and the female experience is being systematically erased and replaced. This is literally blatant misogyny. I was never one to believe in the whole patriarchy thing but having biological men coming into our spaces, telling us what to do, and asserting themselves as real women stating that there's no difference between us and them is a big no for me. You're not going to tell me that I'm the same as a trans woman and that I have to accept them into all of our spaces and taking away opportunities from actual women who worked their butts off to get to where they are. And I'm certain not going to accept that something is wrong with me for not accepting it and be called every type of "phobe" and "ist" buzzword for speaking my mind and sticking up for women and young girls. Riley Gaines said it best, "If her not accepting that trans women are women makes her transphobic, then that makes them a misogynist".
Serious question….if a trans woman only wants to date women would that not mean that that trans woman is really a heterosexual male with a fetish for dressing up as a woman? Love your channel btw and your open and honest conversations/topics :)
I feel like a lot of them are but not all of them. Though from personal experience, the majority of normal trans women i met where either into men (so they would be technically from a physical standpoint homosexual) or at the very least bi, with a couple exceptions of normal trans lesbians. But also my experience shouldnt be indicative of reality. Maybe there are a lot of normal trans women who like women and i just happen to see a lot of the weirdos
Not necessarily. It happens enough to be considered, but it doesn't apply to the whole group. A lot of lesbian trans women date women and trans women and vice versa for trans men. I'm a gay trans man, and I date men and occasionally trans men. Our attractions don't determine whether or not we'll have real gender dysphoria that requires medical intervention.
It's a good question. Confusing subject. Buck stating not to be a lesbian is also confusing to me. Buck is open about being a woman, biologically, and isn't the definition of a lesbian a woman who is sexually attracted to other women? Why would presenting as a man (which IMO Buck has all the right in the world to do, I'm not criticising that) change the definition of lesbian? Man this stuff is confusing...
@wjdeoliveira3809 Buck is a trans man. For those who date trans people, especially ones who pass, it's it's own thing. It's not like being with a woman, but it's also not like being with a biological male. Our bodies are unique to us. People used to use the term trans attracted to describe people's orientations if they like trans people, but it was mostly used by men who like trans women. Some people don't quite fit into any commonly used labels, so they just say that it's it's own thing.
Why not just make it easier on themselves and say "trans lesbian"... they love labels, so it's just one more to add to the list. 🤷♀️ EDIT: ...or better yet... enough with the labels. Just date who you want and ṣĥụṭ ụp about it.
I never tried because not one of the lefties who wanted me to use it could answer the question Who is Gary Yourofsky? You don't know my beliefs, I don't take the time to learn yours.
"Noone has to date anyone they dont want to date" - "queer community" ALSO "If won't date a trans person you're transphobic." - 'queer community" 🤨 Soooo... which is it? EDIT: Sorry Buck...I posted this before I listened to your brilliant response! 😄
Helen Joyce imo explained it perfectly. Those are agp, hence why they are so attached to the idea that they are real women. So everybody who spoils that fantasy by pointing out that they aren’t and denying them access to female spaces ie lesbian contacts etc. Gets to experience their wrath.
I experienced their wrath because I was shopping in the grocery store where one of them was working. He flipped the hell out on my husband for triggering his OCD because we bought ONE of the items he was stocking and that meant he had to start his job ALL THE WAY OVER from the start and he was literally screaming that OCD is such a hard condition to live with and we were just so awful for harming him. Bro is lucky my military husband was in a patient mood.
i'm a straight gal, but my ENTIRE questioning era in the 90s/early 2000s was informed by people like kd lang. i wanted to look like her, but wear a little makeup. i even managed to see 'salmonberries' back before slsk made it easy to find niche films. turns out i simply like androgyny. thank snot i went through that stage of experimentation before extreme sexuality became a political fad. now i'm my own person, i'm good in my body, and my sexuality is just whatever it might be and it's not a defining part of my identity. i'm tough, i have a deep voice, i can be aggressive. but when i'm in a relationship, i'm the one who cooks dinner and makes my partner's life easy and nice. SO WHO KNOWS? WHO CARES? the "trans masc" thing is wild to me. i don't understand why it's so important to put a label on chicks who are inclined toward dude stuff. THAT"S ME! that's why i started questioning my gender identity a long time ago, but it was not necessary. i'm just a lifelong tomboy and i've finally grown to love that about myself. i dig this episode.
I'm a billionaire too. And you SHOULD mind about my bank account. Seeing numbers less than 10 digits is really dysphoric for me. Pls donate on my transition
It's misogyny from both sides tbh. I see a lot of females using that term because they dont wanna use women as they dont see themselves as such but also dont want to be men. But why cant you just be a woman then? And it typically boils down to internalized misogyny and their perception of womanhood.
Relationships with authentic trans people are their own thing. I'm a trans man. My partner is a gay guy. He likes men and trans men but has no interest in women. We call ourselves gay, but we recognize that on a kinsey scale we're in a gray area that's not bisexual but not all the way over to homosexual either. I like a lot of what Blaire White says about this not being very bkack and white.
I appreciate your comment but I feel very awkward about "gay" men attracted by trans men. For me, a p*nis in a v*gin* will never be a homosexual relationship. But what matters is that you and your partner are happy. I wish you all the best.
Very interesting comment. I'm a FAB, not super feminine, but feminine enough, and love men, so take my thought with a grain of salt. I think it depends on the appearance and mannerisms of the individual that makes the other attractive to the other. Not necessarily their plumbing they had at birth. We also don't know if they have their original sex organs or not, nor is it our business. At the end of the day, gay, bi or straight, it's a sexual preference we all have. That being said, it's my preference to only want a MAB and nothing else.
@netjernefer3160 It's not homosexual. It's it's own thing, but we do use the word gay. Some men like men and trans men who pass but due to no attraction to women they don't claim to be bisexual. They're a minority, but I think that that puts them in a gray area of going with the orientation that is the closest to what they are.
@YumegakaMurakumo The genitals matter for most people. It doesn't make them bad or wrong. It's why I don't agree with Arielle being scrutinized for only liking biological women. You shouldn't base your own self worth off of who doesn't want to date you anyway. Some people might look at trans men and trans women who pass and find them very attractive, but that doesn't mean that that attraction will be there when the clothes are off. My experience has been that we have niches where we can find people who like us. I've had luck with apps that have a trans section. I even met my partner on Grindr, because he was specifically looking for trans men.
@buckangel please keep speaking out, my daughter is a lesbian she’s only 14 now and I’m so worried for her future, she’s also autistic which makes her more vulnerable in my mind but this is now at the point of craziness and this woke stuff scares me. Please keep talking, I also follow Blair as she’s amazing and I found you though Blair and other trans realists. Love you all. ❤
So according to them lesbians are: women, trans women, non-binary AFAB, non-binary AMAB, trans men who like women, trans women, non-binary AFAB, non-binary AMAB, trans men? Damn so it’s just cis men that aren’t included? Wtf is the term now for someone who just likes women?
OMG inclusive language for sexualities? The whole POINT of sexualities is definition and exclusion, it is what you like and DON'T like! Why is it so hard for these people to understand that exclusion is not always necessarily a bad thing? It just defines something!
I will not let women be erased!! We must stand for women and disregarding the misogynistic language that these “LGBT” people have come up with!! This bullshit is absolutely absurd!!😡
Yeah, as a trans man myself I think it's one to ask for neutral language in places specifically for us, but expecting hospitals to change how they refer to much larger populations and things like that is different. I'm aware that I'm not biologically male, but I have asked my doctors to refer to my genitals as neutrally as possible. However, that's different than expecting all biological women to not be able to refer to their bodies as female.
Here's a fun story for you that really fucked me up. I'm going to self disclose as a recovered alcoholic because I have to for the purposes of the story. I'm also a bisexual, biological woman. I've been sober for 4 years. When I'd been sober for 2, I started dating a woman who was friends with my sponsor, who had 17 years sober. We fell in love (being women lol) but I noticed some controlling behaviors so I put off moving in with them. Around the 6 month mark they told me they were "trans non-binary" and that I should start using "they/them" pronouns when referring to them. This came out of literally nowhere. Keep in mind, please, that I'm in my 50's, they're in their 30s. I said okay. However, things began taking a gradual and then rapid shift to the masculine. Two months later I was informed that they'd been on testosterone for several weeks and we're scheduled for a mastectomy THE NEXT DAY. Without discussing it with me. I felt like someone had slapped me in the face. While I was in love with this person and not their breasts or their vagina, the fact that they were having all of this done behind my back while we were in a serious relationship was just too much. I ended it. And I've never heard the end of it. I am endlessly harassed by them and their "stunning and brave" friends both in public and on my socials, labeled a traitor and a TERF and a transphobe, had my recovery called into question. The absolute limit was when they showed up at my anniversary celebration that next year. When we opened the meeting up to sharing from the floor this person was chosen to speak. They stood up, said something about how I deserted them because they were having a mastectomy, then ripped open their shirt to show their scars. At an AA MEETING. So yeah. Not just a conservative talking point.
Thank you for talking sense Vikki. I was the same as you. I didn't believe the stories about how uninclusive some of the community were being. I just thought it was people trying to demonise the community, sadly I was so wrong. The hypocrisy and double standards are getting ridiculous, but they are oblivious, completely oblivious.
@@noladavis5085unfortunately people are people, and no "community" is exempt from this type of behavior I put that in quotes because community denotes different people working together, and unfortunately the LGBTQ community works against its self and its members more than anything
Notice how she said "trans people don't have to date cis people" not "cis people don't have to date trans people". Because cis people DO have to date trans people, according to these people. Sigh.
I'm SO glad I found your channel! I have a little sister-brother, born Amber transitioned to Ethan. These hard conversations have to be led from the inside! My family has been exceptionally gentle, loving and supportive through all the versions and changes. I'm so proud of Ethan to finally have the wife, children and even grandchildren he always dreamt of. New subscriber that will be telling my family about you!
Love the awareness this channel is bringing. Thank you! Straight lady here that’s been wondering how the LGBTQ community has been feeling about what’s been going on. It’s hard to ask without offending anyone. It’s been very refreshing to hear your levelheaded input. I stood with the LGBTQ community in the early 2000s, and I still do, but it’s been getting hard with everything that’s been getting out of hand. You’re bringing respect back to the community. I don’t think anybody should be shocked by rejection in the dating scene after a transition. Dating in itself is tricky, no matter who you are. Transitioning is just check marking another box that somebody else may not have checkmarked in their dating preference. It doesn’t make you trans phobic if that’s just not your preference sexually, no matter if you’re gay or straight.
Thankyou thankyou thankyou for this! I struggled with coming out as a lesbian for 20 years, because of lack of representation and acceptance. I fully support the trans community but this is my biggest frustration when men or trans women say they are lesbian, they are not! It’s so much more than gender and gender expression.
Going on 70 and I couldn't be more confused when it comes to sexuality! As an ADULT, what you do behind closed doors is your business! Young children getting mutilated are finding very often their bodies are damaged!! There could be no future sex life if your sensitive body parts ain't working!!
I'm a trans man who only dates men. On Grindr I call myself a gay trans man, but went I'm out with my partner amongst people who don't know I refer to myself as a gay guy. Context matters at least to some extent, but I do agree that when trans men and trans women are interacting with gay and lesbian folks we should specify that we're gay trans men and lesbian trans women.
Great conversation!!! Also listen we all have our style and what we like... I have no desire to date a trans woman. Just like I will never date anyone who is 400 lbs.. we have our preferences and that's okay!! Doesn't make anyone a bad person 🤷🏽♀️🇺🇲
Preference is real. To very many people obesity is physically unattractive and that's okay! That is inherent and cannot be changed unless through indoctrination/ brainwashing, aka HAES. Get over it, no one owes you sex.
these new activists keep trying to change definitions and it's infuriating! Lipstick L was always just 'fem' since as far as I can remember (gen x'er here)
Same. It’s always these people saying it too and labeling others as queer. I never identified as such and never will. For me it’s not even about identity.. it’s about sexual orientation. The end 😂❤
Buck I just love your viewpoints and how educational your videos are. I've learned so much even though I was raised in a very open environment, Mom was a little bit hippy and just loved all humans. Keep doing what you're doing because your topics are not common knowledge and they need to be.
I’ve seen where Nihilism is supposedly a new trending belief in TikTok, even get this “optimistic nihilism”. Yes you read that right. But here’s the thing, if they truly believed in nihilism, they wouldn’t get upset or offended or try to push their political agenda because it wouldn’t matter. That’s the point of nihilism, nothing matters! They’re just trying to hide the fact that they’re narcissists.
I was in elementary school mid 90’s, and I remember my best friend (a girl) and I (a girl) being asked questions we didn’t understand. The first one was “are you a virgin?” I said NO! The kids who asked me laughed. Then they asked me “are you a lesbian?” And I said YES (thinking in my kid brain I should answer opposite to the last question I didn’t understand). The kids laughed even harder. I got home from school that day, to my parents waiting to have “the talk” with me. I was mortified 😂 I now understand, rather than my TEACHER choosing to sit me down and explain sex and sexual identities to me, a child, my teacher called my PARENTS. It’s so sad the way we’ve normalized school teachers talking with children about these kinds of things!!!
I mean, there is a middle ground for teachers. If teachers are upfront with what is going to be discussed, everyone is on the same page, and the discussion tries its damndest to be age appropriate, there's no issue with simple definitions. The creeps are the ones who for some reason are constantly talking about it. These things are typically discussions buried in sex ed(1-2 nurse visit presentations, at least once in elementary and at least once in high school), or buried periodically within the reproductive unit in whatever high school grade does its biology focus in science. (Usually grade 9 or 10). The whole unit lasts 3 weeks at most. Contraception and sexual identities is usually a single class worth of time. Maybe a class and a half if there are questions.
all this nonsense pissed me off before especially when i hear "transwoman" say that THEY ARE BETTER WOMAN THAN BIOL WOMAN, that one gets my blood boiling. However, I am now expecting my first and maybe its the hormones but omg these people ENRAGE me now lol I had to make a separate tiktok account to get a break cause I was getting actually pissed off lol
congratulations on the 100k subs! ( 122 at the moment ) and thank you for all you do for the community and not falling for the delulu, i agree with all you say about this new generation of LGBTQ i was born in 79 ( 44 ) and my view aligns so muhch with yours keep pushing back to all this ignorance, as a mexican ill try to do what i can in my country love you Buck saludos from Tijuana Mexico
Who here is old enough to remember the shoot of kd lang in a barbers chair with Cindy Crawford shaving her? If you don't, look it up! That was "lesbian chic".
Non-men loving non-men is such an offensive way to describe lesbianism. I thought these “woke” Individuals were feminist? No? This reminds me a lot of the feminist book- Invisible Women, by Caroline Criado Perez. She talks about how we live in a world that views women as the secondary sex, while viewing men as the “base setting human.” Referring to women as non men is literally just that. Viewing women as a sub type of human and men as just human. As a bi woman, I’m damn tired of this 1000 gender narrative. I like girls and boys. With the exception of rare intersex conditions, gender is really not complicated. You can be a man, a woman, a trans man, or trans woman. There is no halfway, non-binary, gender-fluid, Demi girl, Demi boy. Even intersex people- they have male and female parts, it’s not a third set of anatomy, it’s both male and female anatomy. If they had a set of completely unique anatomy that neither male nor females had, that would be different. This wierd gender narrative has been exclusively harming women and I don’t really know why. These people confuse presentation and personality with gender. There are infinite ways to express femininity or masculinity or both- but there’s not infinite genders!
I used to object when people called me a lipstick lesbian because, though I'm very feminine in mannerisms and dress, I seldom wear makeup. I called myself femme instead. But now I embrace the word "feminine" for myself. I'd never heard that a lipstick lesbian prefers other feminine women. That's a new definition for me. I'm also pretty sure that the term "lipstick lesbian" predates the 1990s. I just read a lesbian pulp novel from 1965 that uses the term at some point.
I am a transwoman. Yes I date biological women but I never called myself a lesbian. It's not the same. It's more like a complex straight relationship. There are certain boundaries I never crossed because my parents were not open minded and that was the way I was raised.
I'm a lesbian and I am so thankful to be with my lesbian partner. If I became single in this day and age, I'd dread navigating the dating world with everybody 'identifying' as something they aren't and having to ask people their pronouns, offending people by calling myself a lesbian (refusing the use an umbrella term like 'queer' and such) and having to explain that yes I do have genital preferences but no that doesn't mean I'm a so-called 'TERF' etc etc etc.... it's stuff like this that makes me think I'd just have to stay single as a lesbian until I met somebody with some common damn sense.
I'm a lesbian and on top of being single in this time, I came out late and still haven't had much experience, so it adds to the difficulty. It's dreading.
I actually recently did an interview with someone in the same boat.. single .. came out late .. and dealing with all sorts of issues including harassment from activists and trans trenders
...and the fact that he's going after lipstick lesbians...as a straight dude...lipstick lesbians are the most straight appealing lesbians. Kinna makes it extra creepy, like almost looney tunes bugs bunny scam to put on a wig and dress to sit next to the hottie....
My mom identifies as a lesbian and I truly believe she is. But I don't believe most trans woman who identify as such are and here the difference. First my mom has always been upfront with all her partners,2nd at any time someone isn't comfortable with the idea of dating her she takes no offense and understands she is a visitor at the woman's table and has gladly and respectfully earned her place 3rd doesn't think nor shouts out to the world that someone is a transphobe just because someone won't date her. I love her and I think of her as a real woman not at all what I think of half these crazies online who by the way a few have called me transphobe. Of course they don't know me or my story just their own delulu.
I honestly think the words "transbian"/"trans lesbian" actually sound more like labels that trans women should use if they wanna date each other and leave OG lesbians alone. I bet it would be easy to convince TRAs of this since they believe this type of stuff without asking any questions about it. 🤭
I was told I was "transphobic" because I stated I wouldn't date another transman or transwoman who hasn't had all surgeries. I was a lesbian before coming out as transsexual and still prefer full 100% biological women. It's ridiculous. I was a stereotypical "butch" lesbian lol before I started my transition at age 31. I'm now 37.
I'm a gay man,and from my experience most gay men and lesbians aren't attracted to trans people,and wouldn't date them. I wouldn't either. Its not personal,nor is it transphobia,its just preference.
Hello I have a background in Education. Real teachers leave because it isn’t what teaching is about. This is what I say to people if they can do homeschool. They will get the schooling the way real teachers really want. That is why real teachers are leaving. I am not your CIS I am not your sis. I am a female at birth and still am. I really dig this woman, thank you for common sense…
Back with another crazy trans tiktok reaction video! Haha! Let me know your thoughts in the comments❤ love Buck
The reactions videos I live for!
Happy to wake up to this! Thanks ❤
how could you stop being a lesbian? and which gender turn you on when trying to be a grown up man/grandpa? I am so confused and longing back to the 80s or 70s
Check out Rachel Queen Burton - Australia’s ‘trans’ pedo child abuser 😢
Yes! Him and Blair white and amir Odom:)
Calling a woman a “non-man” might be the most misogynistic thing I’ve ever heard. JUST SAY WOMAN!!! 😡
Exactly!
Well, almost the most misogynistic thing. Defining us as "uterus-havers", as if we are exclusively a single organ and not full human beings, is worse.
Johns Hopkins University changed their official definition of lesbian to "non-man who is sexually attracted to non-men". They later changed it again.
@@lauraclark427 Yes, I heard about that. Maybe they changed it to "penis-lacker who is sexually attracted to penis-lackers". That's inclusive, right? Defining us exclusively by comparison with men isn't misogynist at all, right?
Literally!
It’s so sexist and misogynistic! “Non-men” implies that men are the default and women are the subcategory! Pisses me off.
Bonus-Hole Person doesn’t sound much better
@@kaudsizugh. That is so awful.😢
@@kaudsiz😂
By that definition, if a cat (non-man) loves a sunbeam (non-man), the cat is a lesbian.
It’s just nonsense why are you letting them upset you? They are out of touch with reality do you really think things will change the way they want them to? No stop letting whiney l0sers dictate your emotions.
Its so misogynistic to refer to women as non men. Its disgusting. Im a woman not a non man 😒 so much for women's rights
Yeah. Talk about loving the patriarchy.
Yeah. I find it funny how the woke feminists always go "WAH WAH WAH PATRIARCHY!!1" then proceed to turn around and say "Non-men is an inclusive word and you should all start using it!" Aren't they the same people that were screeching about man being in the word 'woman' like 6 years ago? Lol.
That's how I feel too. So much for womens rights, now they're trying to redefine us. We just can't seem to get a break.
@@myrasmama”non man” rights 🙄
Reminds me of the 1950’s housewife syndrome, if women didn’t embrace their femininity as socially expected they were listed as “others” instead of woman.
When you meet a “hot chick” at the bar, you don’t fall in love with them….you fall in lust with them. If in the process of getting to know them better by talking to them you find that you’re not compatible (for any reason) then you simply say “ it was nice getting to know you, but I don’t think it’s going to work out between us “. No harm no foul.
Exactly. And it happens the other way for me: I fall in love first before feeling lust. And to fall in love there's a lot more than sexual orientation or gender identity for me to ponder.
It was love at first meeting for me, but because I saw him cycle through 5 major emotions, all while still holding a professional position in a meeting…. I didn’t need more time, I bought in 😍 (without expectations )
Well, not even necessarily lust, just attraction
i’m so sick of having my identity as a woman removed. i am not a “non man”. im a woman. A WOMAN. and that’s what a lesbian is - a woman loving other women.
i saw an article for menshealth today and the headline was referring to us as “vulva owners” and i about vomited.
thank you buck for everything you do.
Vulva owner. Like I picked one up at the five and dime... 🙄
5-star safety rating --- that's why I bought one😂😂😂
Being called "vulva owner" gives me more gender dysphoria then being called a woman 💀
Those media sources have been hijacked by trans activists, pushovers and autistic people.
Vulva owners. Good grief. What will be the next one testicle owners ?
Straight woman here. If I go to the bar and meet a hot guy, we have a great conversation, we have tons of things in common....
And then I find out he is married - it's a no go.
And I find out he has domestic violence in his path- it's a no go
And I find out he abandoned his kids and doesn't support them- don't let the screen door hit you on the way out.
We all have our preferences and standards. We don't owe anyone an explanation. Even a hook up involves intimacy so you should only be with someone you are comfortable with. Honestly, all these semantics games feels like some huckster trying to pull a bait and switch to me.
Exactly. It’s as though men woke up one day and thought…how can we force lesbians to have sex with us? It’s ridiculous and insulting and absurd.
I’m a straight 50ish conservative woman. What pisses me off is bc I’m conservative I’m assumed to be anti homosexual/trans. Maybe some are but, I could could care less who one’s partner is & what they do behind closed doors (straight or not). I just want my friends to be happy & to live their lives as they do. It just sucks to be assumed to be something that I’m not just bc I have more conservative opinions. :(
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You don't get it. They are different. They are deserving. The world owes them
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Did you notice how she said "lesbians don't have to date non binary people" but left out lesbians don't have to date trans women
And she left out "cis people don't have to date trans people"
Nobody needs to date anyone, do they?
Yes, my freshwater friend, I certainly did!
Who tf are they to make any rules???
Trans women who pressure lesbians into dating them honestly feels just like when straight men are doing that but instead of saying "you havent found the right man yet" they say "im a woman and you like women, right?"
this.
Part of the problem is referring to them as "trans" WOMEN. By doing this, we give credence to them being women. They are trans identifying MEN.Calling them what they are would be a big step in getting our rights back.
@@Blue-Sky-Butterflyexactly!
They’re men who is mocking women. It’s literally a way for men angry women don’t want them finding another loophole
That's exactly what it is.
So tired of the language manipulation. Yet another way to disassociate from reality.
and violate the constitution when they force us to participate. How the hell did we end up living in the actual twilight zone.
1984 in real life...
Also everyone knows a LIPSTICK LESBIAN is A FEMININE LESBIAN!!!
What’s really annoying is that most of these people are under the age of 30 and still living with their parents and/or someone else ‘paying the bills’ for them….and have no Real Life Responsibilities
I’m going to be 30 in a couple weeks and I live with my fiancé now, I lived with my parents in my early 20s but I was there because I was going thru my drug addiction trying to get sober, I moved out again when I met my fiancé at 24, I was still using but I was making more progress in life. I got a job and I finally got sober 4 years ago. Life was difficult out on my own but as a prescription pill/substance abuser I always had to have some kind of job because I had to have money. I overdosed one time after I left my parents and it scared me so bad I got clean
@@onedaybutnottoday63 Okay….🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ thanks for sharing….I have no idea why you are sharing this with the comment section on TH-cam….
@@onedaybutnottoday63 Glad things are better for you!
@@TheBlindwig hey I don’t see my original comment but thanks! My life’s pretty good. Well with bpd I have my daily ups and downs but it’s ok tontie lil
As an older non-woman, I'm totally disgusted that anyone, ANYONE would refer to our sister humans as non-men and to be taken at all seriously is insane.
Yeah it's totally dehumanizing
Think this comes of the patriarchy where poor, dumb men have to value themselves up…. 😂
It is a very misogynistic statement to make as it makes men the priority.
Your not a non-woman either, you are a man with your own value.
What always gets me is they are never attracted to other trans women “lesbians” and you don’t hear them going off about that.
F*ck n GOOD POINT!! Clearly the legend Buck attracts the great minds!!! Luv ya work 😊
Lesbians is the lgbtha+++ category that is treated the worse of ALL categories.
Males claiming to be lesbians are even talking about "the cotton ceiling". That's what they refer to when they talk about the panties of lesbians and how discriminated they (males calling themselves lesbians) are when leabians don't want to be intimate with anyone else than real biological women.
Why can't the males that identify as lesbians date other males that identify as lesbians?
Good point. My lesbian cousin had a relationship with a trans women but she is not trans herself. Still she is 100% lesbian and was attracted to a woman with masculine traits...makes me wonder
I know lots of trans women in relationships with other trans women, it's very common.
@@sammckinlay6918 yet the ones yelling on social media that lesbians don’t like them aren’t complaining that “trans lesbians” aren’t attracted to them, which was my point.
Nice to see Vikki!!
Having dated both men and women in my lifetime, one thing I noticed is that during my relationships with women, men would still flirt with me like I was fair game. They did not care that I was in a relationship with a woman. Many men don't take lesbian relationships seriously, that, as you know, has always been a thing. Now we're seeing it on a whole new level! It's so gross.
It’s so disrespectful that men think that lesbian couples are not serious. It’s misogynistic!
Yep they see it as a challenge or something. Silly and stupid and disrespectful
A very small percentage have taken gay relationships seriously.
I've also had this experience as a bisexual person when with women. Plus there's the automatic assumption on the part of many men that they will now be invited to a threesome.
True I've experienced it too.
And if me and my girlfriend told them harshly "leave us alone we are not interested in you, fk off!" After being harassed for half an hour, they became aggressive and started calling us "whores" "fk ur moms" "your sick in the head' etc.
This is what happens in Europe. And the guys screaming this at us were both natives and immigrants.
Nowadays it's dangerous to hold your girlfriends hand, even in Scandinavia.
Lipstick lesbians was a term issued in the 70s when I was going to ptown and gay bars in my youth, and yes it simply meant a woman who was feminine and liked women. Simple, where butch was traditionally more masculine presenting. Weird enough I was a lipstick lesbian , self identified, and also liked men's clothes. I prefer less labels.
Less labels, more lipstick and perfume! 🎉
How about all the real gays band together and boycott the parades this year?
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I'm not gay... but I think this is a great idea. I'd definitely back it up and attend something like this. Something sane.
Hold a celebration of all ppl or love in general.
A happiness parade 🥰😄
@@jaimejones3177back in the day it was just a one day thing, gay day, then it turned into a week, then it turned into pride month,and now it’s pride season 4 months. And the parade DID NOT have people in dog costumes,balls in their mouths or any of that chanting they had last year. It was just normal people walking in the middle of the street,
I'm a real gay and so r a bunch of my friends. We haven't gone to pride for years now cause the TQIA............ gross us the f out. We go to the cottage and have cocktails. Lol
@@krisleppy that’s just it, especially now with all the little kids watching, and petting these sorry to sound mean (weirdo’s in dog costumes) that’s just wrong.
@@Ace-v3t I remember. ❤️
As a lesbian it’s really annoying that you don’t hear anything about if a trans guy is gay or not if he likes man it’s always the lesbians who need to change!
To be fair, as a gay man, I've seen this argument a lot on gay social medias.
For me, a "gay" trans man is a biological straight woman.
Real gays are not attracted by female anatomy.
Gay trans men actually have had some clashes with gay men over this, but it's been slowly getting resolved by more rational minded people creating sections in apps for us to attract men who like trans men. Trans women who like women should do the same thing.
It's an attack on all women in general... Everything from our identity, sexuality, experiences, terminology, and capabilities that are distinctly unique to us, to our protected rights, sports, opportunities, and private spaces.
Womanhood and everything that defines being female and the female experience is being systematically erased and replaced. This is literally blatant misogyny. I was never one to believe in the whole patriarchy thing but having biological men coming into our spaces, telling us what to do, and asserting themselves as real women stating that there's no difference between us and them is a big no for me. You're not going to tell me that I'm the same as a trans woman and that I have to accept them into all of our spaces and taking away opportunities from actual women who worked their butts off to get to where they are. And I'm certain not going to accept that something is wrong with me for not accepting it and be called every type of "phobe" and "ist" buzzword for speaking my mind and sticking up for women and young girls.
Riley Gaines said it best, "If her not accepting that trans women are women makes her transphobic, then that makes them a misogynist".
It's really gross, just another way to erase women & lesbians.
Serious question….if a trans woman only wants to date women would that not mean that that trans woman is really a heterosexual male with a fetish for dressing up as a woman? Love your channel btw and your open and honest conversations/topics :)
I would consider that person a heterosexual cross dresser.
I feel like a lot of them are but not all of them. Though from personal experience, the majority of normal trans women i met where either into men (so they would be technically from a physical standpoint homosexual) or at the very least bi, with a couple exceptions of normal trans lesbians. But also my experience shouldnt be indicative of reality. Maybe there are a lot of normal trans women who like women and i just happen to see a lot of the weirdos
Not necessarily. It happens enough to be considered, but it doesn't apply to the whole group. A lot of lesbian trans women date women and trans women and vice versa for trans men. I'm a gay trans man, and I date men and occasionally trans men. Our attractions don't determine whether or not we'll have real gender dysphoria that requires medical intervention.
It's a good question. Confusing subject. Buck stating not to be a lesbian is also confusing to me. Buck is open about being a woman, biologically, and isn't the definition of a lesbian a woman who is sexually attracted to other women? Why would presenting as a man (which IMO Buck has all the right in the world to do, I'm not criticising that) change the definition of lesbian? Man this stuff is confusing...
@wjdeoliveira3809 Buck is a trans man. For those who date trans people, especially ones who pass, it's it's own thing. It's not like being with a woman, but it's also not like being with a biological male. Our bodies are unique to us. People used to use the term trans attracted to describe people's orientations if they like trans people, but it was mostly used by men who like trans women. Some people don't quite fit into any commonly used labels, so they just say that it's it's own thing.
It's an all out attack against women in general and that is the most screwed up thing...
It certainly feels like that
Why not just make it easier on themselves and say "trans lesbian"... they love labels, so it's just one more to add to the list. 🤷♀️
EDIT: ...or better yet... enough with the labels. Just date who you want and ṣĥụṭ ụp about it.
There's already a label for "translesbian", it's called "straight man".
@@trixiedeluxe That is true...
I can’t keep up with the language anymore. I give up. Thank you for continuing to stand up for women.
Thanks so much for watching Buck is the best!
I never tried because not one of the lefties who wanted me to use it could answer the question Who is Gary Yourofsky? You don't know my beliefs, I don't take the time to learn yours.
@@NiaLaLa_V Exactly. I don’t know why we can’t just respect each other’s views without forcing them on others. The world would be a better place.
"Noone has to date anyone they dont want to date" - "queer community"
ALSO
"If won't date a trans person you're transphobic." - 'queer community"
🤨 Soooo... which is it?
EDIT: Sorry Buck...I posted this before I listened to your brilliant response! 😄
Helen Joyce imo explained it perfectly. Those are agp, hence why they are so attached to the idea that they are real women. So everybody who spoils that fantasy by pointing out that they aren’t and denying them access to female spaces ie lesbian contacts etc. Gets to experience their wrath.
Helen Joyce is great. I highly recommend her book
I experienced their wrath because I was shopping in the grocery store where one of them was working. He flipped the hell out on my husband for triggering his OCD because we bought ONE of the items he was stocking and that meant he had to start his job ALL THE WAY OVER from the start and he was literally screaming that OCD is such a hard condition to live with and we were just so awful for harming him. Bro is lucky my military husband was in a patient mood.
@@NiaLaLa_V When is the switch pulled and his ranting turns to physically attacking someone?
60-year-old lesbian that loves my skirts and scarves and jewelry 🥰✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽🥰
i'm a straight gal, but my ENTIRE questioning era in the 90s/early 2000s was informed by people like kd lang. i wanted to look like her, but wear a little makeup. i even managed to see 'salmonberries' back before slsk made it easy to find niche films. turns out i simply like androgyny. thank snot i went through that stage of experimentation before extreme sexuality became a political fad. now i'm my own person, i'm good in my body, and my sexuality is just whatever it might be and it's not a defining part of my identity. i'm tough, i have a deep voice, i can be aggressive. but when i'm in a relationship, i'm the one who cooks dinner and makes my partner's life easy and nice. SO WHO KNOWS? WHO CARES?
the "trans masc" thing is wild to me. i don't understand why it's so important to put a label on chicks who are inclined toward dude stuff. THAT"S ME! that's why i started questioning my gender identity a long time ago, but it was not necessary. i'm just a lifelong tomboy and i've finally grown to love that about myself.
i dig this episode.
Buck , you are always the voice of reason!! I have been a fan of yours for many years.. keep up the good work!
Thanks so much rachel❤
I‘m a billionaire. Don’t mind my empty bank account.
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I'm a billionaire too. And you SHOULD mind about my bank account. Seeing numbers less than 10 digits is really dysphoric for me. Pls donate on my transition
Me too!
Nothing says men are the only ones that count in the agenda, like referring to women as "non-men".
It’s so gross!
It's misogyny from both sides tbh. I see a lot of females using that term because they dont wanna use women as they dont see themselves as such but also dont want to be men. But why cant you just be a woman then? And it typically boils down to internalized misogyny and their perception of womanhood.
Relationships with authentic trans people are their own thing. I'm a trans man. My partner is a gay guy. He likes men and trans men but has no interest in women. We call ourselves gay, but we recognize that on a kinsey scale we're in a gray area that's not bisexual but not all the way over to homosexual either. I like a lot of what Blaire White says about this not being very bkack and white.
I appreciate your comment but I feel very awkward about "gay" men attracted by trans men.
For me, a p*nis in a v*gin* will never be a homosexual relationship.
But what matters is that you and your partner are happy. I wish you all the best.
Very interesting comment. I'm a FAB, not super feminine, but feminine enough, and love men, so take my thought with a grain of salt.
I think it depends on the appearance and mannerisms of the individual that makes the other attractive to the other. Not necessarily their plumbing they had at birth. We also don't know if they have their original sex organs or not, nor is it our business.
At the end of the day, gay, bi or straight, it's a sexual preference we all have.
That being said, it's my preference to only want a MAB and nothing else.
Men don’t have vaginas
@netjernefer3160 It's not homosexual. It's it's own thing, but we do use the word gay. Some men like men and trans men who pass but due to no attraction to women they don't claim to be bisexual. They're a minority, but I think that that puts them in a gray area of going with the orientation that is the closest to what they are.
@YumegakaMurakumo The genitals matter for most people. It doesn't make them bad or wrong. It's why I don't agree with Arielle being scrutinized for only liking biological women. You shouldn't base your own self worth off of who doesn't want to date you anyway. Some people might look at trans men and trans women who pass and find them very attractive, but that doesn't mean that that attraction will be there when the clothes are off. My experience has been that we have niches where we can find people who like us. I've had luck with apps that have a trans section. I even met my partner on Grindr, because he was specifically looking for trans men.
@buckangel please keep speaking out, my daughter is a lesbian she’s only 14 now and I’m so worried for her future, she’s also autistic which makes her more vulnerable in my mind but this is now at the point of craziness and this woke stuff scares me. Please keep talking, I also follow Blair as she’s amazing and I found you though Blair and other trans realists. Love you all. ❤
Autism is a fake diagnosis you should get another opinion it's part of victim culture
The internal homophobia is evident in these people which just makes it really sad.
So according to them lesbians are: women, trans women, non-binary AFAB, non-binary AMAB, trans men who like women, trans women, non-binary AFAB, non-binary AMAB, trans men? Damn so it’s just cis men that aren’t included? Wtf is the term now for someone who just likes women?
Prey.
I would say that a biological woman, with female genitalia, attracted to the same is a lesbian.
OMG inclusive language for sexualities? The whole POINT of sexualities is definition and exclusion, it is what you like and DON'T like! Why is it so hard for these people to understand that exclusion is not always necessarily a bad thing? It just defines something!
Thank you for this honest conversation. Thank you for speaking for lesbians
Thanks for listening ❤
I will not let women be erased!! We must stand for women and disregarding the misogynistic language that these “LGBT” people have come up with!! This bullshit is absolutely absurd!!😡
Yeah, as a trans man myself I think it's one to ask for neutral language in places specifically for us, but expecting hospitals to change how they refer to much larger populations and things like that is different. I'm aware that I'm not biologically male, but I have asked my doctors to refer to my genitals as neutrally as possible. However, that's different than expecting all biological women to not be able to refer to their bodies as female.
I respect the trans community, but I don’t respect the ones cosplaying as them.
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Here's a fun story for you that really fucked me up. I'm going to self disclose as a recovered alcoholic because I have to for the purposes of the story. I'm also a bisexual, biological woman. I've been sober for 4 years. When I'd been sober for 2, I started dating a woman who was friends with my sponsor, who had 17 years sober. We fell in love (being women lol) but I noticed some controlling behaviors so I put off moving in with them. Around the 6 month mark they told me they were "trans non-binary" and that I should start using "they/them" pronouns when referring to them. This came out of literally nowhere. Keep in mind, please, that I'm in my 50's, they're in their 30s. I said okay. However, things began taking a gradual and then rapid shift to the masculine. Two months later I was informed that they'd been on testosterone for several weeks and we're scheduled for a mastectomy THE NEXT DAY. Without discussing it with me. I felt like someone had slapped me in the face. While I was in love with this person and not their breasts or their vagina, the fact that they were having all of this done behind my back while we were in a serious relationship was just too much. I ended it. And I've never heard the end of it. I am endlessly harassed by them and their "stunning and brave" friends both in public and on my socials, labeled a traitor and a TERF and a transphobe, had my recovery called into question. The absolute limit was when they showed up at my anniversary celebration that next year. When we opened the meeting up to sharing from the floor this person was chosen to speak. They stood up, said something about how I deserted them because they were having a mastectomy, then ripped open their shirt to show their scars. At an AA MEETING.
So yeah. Not just a conservative talking point.
@buckangelofficial Thanks again for having me! You are truly making a HUGE difference and its an honor to be a part of it all!
Thanks for doing the video with me ♥️
Thank you for talking sense Vikki. I was the same as you. I didn't believe the stories about how uninclusive some of the community were being. I just thought it was people trying to demonise the community, sadly I was so wrong. The hypocrisy and double standards are getting ridiculous, but they are oblivious, completely oblivious.
@@noladavis5085unfortunately people are people, and no "community" is exempt from this type of behavior
I put that in quotes because community denotes different people working together, and unfortunately the LGBTQ community works against its self and its members more than anything
These non trans individuals need to stop ruining it for real trans people.
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Notice how she said "trans people don't have to date cis people" not "cis people don't have to date trans people". Because cis people DO have to date trans people, according to these people. Sigh.
Please stop using the word cis. It's offensive and feeds into the toxic trans ideology.
I'm SO glad I found your channel! I have a little sister-brother, born Amber transitioned to Ethan. These hard conversations have to be led from the inside! My family has been exceptionally gentle, loving and supportive through all the versions and changes. I'm so proud of Ethan to finally have the wife, children and even grandchildren he always dreamt of. New subscriber that will be telling my family about you!
Your channel is desperately needed. We’re going backwards at 100 MPH this is exhausting. God bless you both.
Haha thank you so much for watching, friend ♥️
I just love when Vikki's on! I miss sane gay folks! I haven't seen an actual lesbian who refers to herself as a woman in a l-o-n-g time.
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Okay I'm almost 40yo and my whole life a "lipstick lesbian" meant a lesbian who is into typical feminine things and that was IT.
Love the awareness this channel is bringing. Thank you! Straight lady here that’s been wondering how the LGBTQ community has been feeling about what’s been going on. It’s hard to ask without offending anyone. It’s been very refreshing to hear your levelheaded input. I stood with the LGBTQ community in the early 2000s, and I still do, but it’s been getting hard with everything that’s been getting out of hand. You’re bringing respect back to the community.
I don’t think anybody should be shocked by rejection in the dating scene after a transition.
Dating in itself is tricky, no matter who you are.
Transitioning is just check marking another box that somebody else may not have checkmarked in their dating preference.
It doesn’t make you trans phobic if that’s just not your preference sexually, no matter if you’re gay or straight.
Thankyou thankyou thankyou for this! I struggled with coming out as a lesbian for 20 years, because of lack of representation and acceptance. I fully support the trans community but this is my biggest frustration when men or trans women say they are lesbian, they are not! It’s so much more than gender and gender expression.
Right on. The lesbians have your back ❤
Going on 70 and I couldn't be more confused when it comes to sexuality! As an ADULT, what you do behind closed doors is your business! Young children getting mutilated are finding very often their bodies are damaged!! There could be no future sex life if your sensitive body parts ain't working!!
Hell's to the no's, would I date a male no matter how they identify.
Love your channel. 😂
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I'm a Trans Woman who likes only Women, but I'm not a Lesbian. 🤷🙃☮️🖖
Finally one of you gets it
Thank you for knowing the definitions and not demanding a label that doesn’t belong to you 👍
I'm a trans man who only dates men. On Grindr I call myself a gay trans man, but went I'm out with my partner amongst people who don't know I refer to myself as a gay guy. Context matters at least to some extent, but I do agree that when trans men and trans women are interacting with gay and lesbian folks we should specify that we're gay trans men and lesbian trans women.
What's a woman?
A person with XX chromosomes.
What's a man?
A person with XY chromosomes.
Seems simple to me.
For trouble-seeking persons this is way too simple… 😂
So if a lesbian is a non-man loving another non-man, but trans men can be lesbians, does that mean trans men are not men?
Make up your mind.
@@neko7606it's pretty homophobic, they need the world to validate them as they erase lesbians, it's "a preference"
Great conversation!!! Also listen we all have our style and what we like... I have no desire to date a trans woman. Just like I will never date anyone who is 400 lbs.. we have our preferences and that's okay!! Doesn't make anyone a bad person 🤷🏽♀️🇺🇲
Fatphobic, huh?!
Preference is real. To very many people obesity is physically unattractive and that's okay! That is inherent and cannot be changed unless through indoctrination/ brainwashing, aka HAES. Get over it, no one owes you sex.
@@kaudsiz It is a preference, just like how some people don't date short people.
these new activists keep trying to change definitions and it's infuriating! Lipstick L was always just 'fem' since as far as I can remember (gen x'er here)
I was yelling at my screen at that. They’re like the language version of urban sprawl, just taking over everything real with all this artificial crap.
Please please.
No more I'ma lesbian from incel men in wigs.
I can't take it🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Seriously great show buck.
Big hug from a jolly green giant😊🌹💯👋🌈
I can’t take it either 🤣♥️
It's completely exclusionary to not include all women, and lesbians, in conversation and decision making process about what defines lesbian and woman.
I hate being called queer!!!
Same. It’s always these people saying it too and labeling others as queer. I never identified as such and never will. For me it’s not even about identity.. it’s about sexual orientation. The end 😂❤
If someone ever calls me that, they’re gonna have a problem. That is still an insult!!
We're here, we're queer. Get used to it.
Buck I just love your viewpoints and how educational your videos are. I've learned so much even though I was raised in a very open environment, Mom was a little bit hippy and just loved all humans. Keep doing what you're doing because your topics are not common knowledge and they need to be.
Thank God I found sane people in the lgbt community. I know there are many but they are not being heard. I appreciate you and I respect your choices
Been a fan for about a year now love the content
Thanks for being here ♥️
I’ve seen where Nihilism is supposedly a new trending belief in TikTok, even get this “optimistic nihilism”. Yes you read that right. But here’s the thing, if they truly believed in nihilism, they wouldn’t get upset or offended or try to push their political agenda because it wouldn’t matter. That’s the point of nihilism, nothing matters! They’re just trying to hide the fact that they’re narcissists.
Preach!
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Buck your voice is so important..❤❤
Thank you! Love you guys great show!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Vicky and Buck, love you both!!!! Great show!❤
Thank you for watching again!❤
I was in elementary school mid 90’s, and I remember my best friend (a girl) and I (a girl) being asked questions we didn’t understand. The first one was “are you a virgin?” I said NO! The kids who asked me laughed. Then they asked me “are you a lesbian?” And I said YES (thinking in my kid brain I should answer opposite to the last question I didn’t understand). The kids laughed even harder. I got home from school that day, to my parents waiting to have “the talk” with me. I was mortified 😂 I now understand, rather than my TEACHER choosing to sit me down and explain sex and sexual identities to me, a child, my teacher called my PARENTS. It’s so sad the way we’ve normalized school teachers talking with children about these kinds of things!!!
I mean, there is a middle ground for teachers.
If teachers are upfront with what is going to be discussed, everyone is on the same page, and the discussion tries its damndest to be age appropriate, there's no issue with simple definitions.
The creeps are the ones who for some reason are constantly talking about it. These things are typically discussions buried in sex ed(1-2 nurse visit presentations, at least once in elementary and at least once in high school), or buried periodically within the reproductive unit in whatever high school grade does its biology focus in science. (Usually grade 9 or 10). The whole unit lasts 3 weeks at most. Contraception and sexual identities is usually a single class worth of time. Maybe a class and a half if there are questions.
I knew those terms since 2nd grade
Yes to giving lesbians a bigger voice- cheers Buck
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Women’s rights have flown out the window. Being called a non-man is so degrading!
all this nonsense pissed me off before especially when i hear "transwoman" say that THEY ARE BETTER WOMAN THAN BIOL WOMAN, that one gets my blood boiling. However, I am now expecting my first and maybe its the hormones but omg these people ENRAGE me now lol I had to make a separate tiktok account to get a break cause I was getting actually pissed off lol
Off topic, but I really love the "Tranpa" hat. How cute ! Love you, Buck 😊
congratulations on the 100k subs! ( 122 at the moment ) and thank you for all you do for the community and not falling for the delulu, i agree with all you say about this new generation of LGBTQ
i was born in 79 ( 44 ) and my view aligns so muhch with yours
keep pushing back to all this ignorance, as a mexican ill try to do what i can in my country
love you Buck saludos from Tijuana Mexico
Thanks for all the work and advocacy, Buck! ❤
They base their beliefs on WANTS, not facts.
How did we get here. As a straight woman who has had nothing but love for ole' school LGBT (sad I need to say that) how did we get here
Who here is old enough to remember the shoot of kd lang in a barbers chair with Cindy Crawford shaving her? If you don't, look it up! That was "lesbian chic".
Actually Buck I remember the term Lipstick Lesbian from college in the late 70s....64 yo over here and LOVE your show❤⭐❤⭐❤⭐❤⭐
To all the sane lgbts, I appreciate you!💕💕
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Great conversation ☮
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Thank you vickie for speaking up ❤
Love you two bringing the truth love how you both carry yourselves.
Thank you ❤ Buck is a great guy and I love working with him.
Non-men loving non-men is such an offensive way to describe lesbianism. I thought these “woke” Individuals were feminist? No?
This reminds me a lot of the feminist book- Invisible Women, by Caroline Criado Perez. She talks about how we live in a world that views women as the secondary sex, while viewing men as the “base setting human.” Referring to women as non men is literally just that. Viewing women as a sub type of human and men as just human. As a bi woman, I’m damn tired of this 1000 gender narrative. I like girls and boys. With the exception of rare intersex conditions, gender is really not complicated. You can be a man, a woman, a trans man, or trans woman. There is no halfway, non-binary, gender-fluid, Demi girl, Demi boy. Even intersex people- they have male and female parts, it’s not a third set of anatomy, it’s both male and female anatomy. If they had a set of completely unique anatomy that neither male nor females had, that would be different. This wierd gender narrative has been exclusively harming women and I don’t really know why.
These people confuse presentation and personality with gender. There are infinite ways to express femininity or masculinity or both- but there’s not infinite genders!
Thank you Vicky and Buck for all your insights and truths. ❤
I used to object when people called me a lipstick lesbian because, though I'm very feminine in mannerisms and dress, I seldom wear makeup. I called myself femme instead. But now I embrace the word "feminine" for myself. I'd never heard that a lipstick lesbian prefers other feminine women. That's a new definition for me. I'm also pretty sure that the term "lipstick lesbian" predates the 1990s. I just read a lesbian pulp novel from 1965 that uses the term at some point.
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Thank you, Buck and Vikki! ❤
I am a transwoman. Yes I date biological women but I never called myself a lesbian. It's not the same. It's more like a complex straight relationship.
There are certain boundaries I never crossed because my parents were not open minded and that was the way I was raised.
I'm a lesbian and I am so thankful to be with my lesbian partner. If I became single in this day and age, I'd dread navigating the dating world with everybody 'identifying' as something they aren't and having to ask people their pronouns, offending people by calling myself a lesbian (refusing the use an umbrella term like 'queer' and such) and having to explain that yes I do have genital preferences but no that doesn't mean I'm a so-called 'TERF' etc etc etc.... it's stuff like this that makes me think I'd just have to stay single as a lesbian until I met somebody with some common damn sense.
I’ve said the same thing.. Glad I’m married lol
I'm a lesbian and on top of being single in this time, I came out late and still haven't had much experience, so it adds to the difficulty. It's dreading.
I actually recently did an interview with someone in the same boat.. single .. came out late .. and dealing with all sorts of issues including harassment from activists and trans trenders
A Buck and Vikki reaction video is such a treat! ❤
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So glad yo are an actually safe space. I’ve been immersed in academia where I don’t dare offer any truth on the subject.
...and the fact that he's going after lipstick lesbians...as a straight dude...lipstick lesbians are the most straight appealing lesbians. Kinna makes it extra creepy, like almost looney tunes bugs bunny scam to put on a wig and dress to sit next to the hottie....
Off topic but loving the Master Chief helmet in the background, Buck.
Thank you for a dose of reality in such a mixed up space, love to you both
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My mom identifies as a lesbian and I truly believe she is. But I don't believe most trans woman who identify as such are and here the difference. First my mom has always been upfront with all her partners,2nd at any time someone isn't comfortable with the idea of dating her she takes no offense and understands she is a visitor at the woman's table and has gladly and respectfully earned her place 3rd doesn't think nor shouts out to the world that someone is a transphobe just because someone won't date her. I love her and I think of her as a real woman not at all what I think of half these crazies online who by the way a few have called me transphobe. Of course they don't know me or my story just their own delulu.
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NO DICKS IN THE ROOM PLEASE 😂😂😂😂
FEM NUMBER ONE!!! NO COCK AND BALLS!!!
I honestly think the words "transbian"/"trans lesbian" actually sound more like labels that trans women should use if they wanna date each other and leave OG lesbians alone. I bet it would be easy to convince TRAs of this since they believe this type of stuff without asking any questions about it. 🤭
Brilliant channel, im a lesbian and thank goodness the trans issue wasnt around when i was a teenager, i would have got sucked right in to it
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I was told I was "transphobic" because I stated I wouldn't date another transman or transwoman who hasn't had all surgeries. I was a lesbian before coming out as transsexual and still prefer full 100% biological women. It's ridiculous. I was a stereotypical "butch" lesbian lol before I started my transition at age 31. I'm now 37.
I'm a gay man,and from my experience most gay men and lesbians aren't attracted to trans people,and wouldn't date them. I wouldn't either. Its not personal,nor is it transphobia,its just preference.
Hello I have a background in Education. Real teachers leave because it isn’t what teaching is about. This is what I say to people if they can do homeschool. They will get the schooling the way real teachers really want. That is why real teachers are leaving. I am not your CIS I am not your sis. I am a female at birth and still am. I really dig this woman, thank you for common sense…
First they wanted to force acceptance instead of tolerance. Now they want that to be advocacy.
Another great show Buck!
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Thanks so much!
Love Vicky! Glad she’s back
Thanks so much! Buck is the best!