I’ve had 3 exes come back through no contact so yes it does work. Begging someone to be with you won’t get you far. They’ll just pity you. Yes it’s tempting to reach out to them but the rejection would be worse. Especially if you find out they’re seeing someone else. They will come back to you when they’re ready and if they don’t I guess it just wasn’t meant to be anyway. And even if you DID get your ex back by reaching out to them, you’d eventually start to doubt how much they truly like/love you if they weren’t willing to reach out themselves.
@@KS-gy3ch Craig advises that when someone breaks up with you say something like ‘I disagree I think we’re good together. Let me know if you change your mind’ then go NO CONTACT and when he reaches out to you, DON’T ignore him. Be receptive but do not overreact and show desperation. Craig has so many videos that will help. I’ve watched them over and over so this is engraved in my memory now!
@@spedhead218 believe me when I say they were all over the place when they returned and some breadcrumbs throughout etc and I guess that’s why Craig says every situation is so different. So don’t give up hope just because it’s been a certain amount of days. But to answer your question the soonest I heard from an ex was 6 months and the longest was 2 years maybe even longer. It really does depend on the person and the situation !but at some point they start to reconsider! They found an excuse to message me like ‘happy birthday’ or ‘congratulations on passing your test’ they found any excuse! Hope that helps
@@spedhead218 I did give them all second chances but they didn’t work out which doesn’t bother me anymore because I can see that they weren’t honest/loyal/mature enough at the time for anything serious. At least I know I was good to them and they’ll wish they still had that one day!
By the time you get your head together you won’t want your Ex. You will see them for who they are. When people meet they all put on a facade. Slowly but surely people reveal themselves. When the relationship gets to the point where one wants out (assuming no abusive or controlling events) then you (if the dumpee) see how they deal with that situation and how they see your emotions and feelings. Opposite of love is indifference not hate. It’s such a huge irony but the those that have been dumped learn the most (or should do) as they realise they are good people and they see why they ended up where they ended up. The dumper is left in the same position that they exited. Except they see the their space as the same but your space as different- that is such an interesting place to investigate. By then you won’t care, you have now evaluated your own worth and realising you are worth more.
Craig, you are saving lives. I watch your videos all day every day and that way I avoid a major depression. It´s such a relief that you want us to keep hoping and stay positive. When people say: Just forget him/her!!...it´s really dangerous to kill all hope. Many heartbroken people are suicidal once in a while.
Suicidal once in a while? I've been dumped and broken up many times by different people. You get immune to it. My recent ex dumped me last week. Did I get hurt and cry? Nope, just another day for me. I find the death of a loved one more painful than a break-up. The murder of my brother last year and the death of my dog hurt me more.
I'm six months out. I don't know how he feels but for my own sanity I made a random comment in a group chat and he jumped to engage in conversation. I would have sworn he never wanted to think of me with how cold he was last time we saw each other. My anxiety is low now and I'm going back into NC and refocus on myself. If he wants something more he knows I'm somewhere but he'll have to do something about it. Stay strong and don't discount how valuable you truly are.
@@GeoBoots I also dont know anything about his feelings towards me. He isnt active on social media and he doesnt have any friends. One "friend" of him told me, that my ex is only sitting at home, no vacation, no trips, doesnt do any hobbies anymore. Also no new girlfriend, or dates. But he still has my presents in his flat/car
Anyone who’s struggling please listen to this man he knows and you don’t but you will do soon 😉 once you see the path before you it will be easy to walk it have faith you are stronger then your ex you just need to prove it ❤ thanks coach you the man
My ex gf is definitely never coming back. I can just feel it in the air. And even if she does, the fact that I had to watch these videos to feel comfort, rather than talk to her, is why I could never go back.
She sounds like she was a scammer, a user, and an ungrateful narcissist. She was STUPID to let a great guy like Craig go. She probably never really liked him in the first place. I hope KARMA visited her REAL good!
Great video Craig. So very true. If you have an anxious attachment then you’ll look for the other to fulfill your needs. Too much pressure to put on someone. If their actions don’t match their words get out. If they are emotionally unavailable then get out. If they won’t work on themselves then get out. Do more enjoyable things in life. If a higher power told you you than you’re going to be single until you die would you sit around moping? Nope! You’d be living your best life. Go work on your insecurities and what you feel are faults then you can step aside from the red flag guys. The more you are self aware and stronger physically. Emotionally, spiritually then you’ll attract the same. Thee we fright person will appear. Best things in life are the things you do the work for 💕good luck folks X
These were the videos I didn’t know I needed. I don’t want him back, but even so these videos help with detaching from an experience. For that healing, I am ever so grateful. Many thanks.
Damn I’m sorry to hear this bro. Just because she is dating doesn’t mean they will be in a relationship with that person that they are dating. Also that person will be compared to you in many ways. The years also
but if shes willing to sleep around with guys shes barely knows or guys she knows aren’t going to give her the full love and support that you did.. after years of being with you, why would you ever want her back? Here’s the cold hard truth, shes guzzling down a whole lottla man babies and shes enjoying it, shes getting her throat gripped and being called a “b**tch” “sl*t” while shes saying “yes daddy” to that guy that all he has to do is hit her up and say “come over” and she will be there no matter what.. and you feel sad waiting hoping she comes back? She may want to come back, once shes had her fill.. pun intended.
Lol I did the 'hand written' email.... was that a let down... so after that I discovered Team Craig... and what a Godsent cause I was about the DM his mom....followed all your incredible videos, worked on myself... did the emotional deep dive and setting boundaries...which was the entire 2021...together since Jan 2022..and still doing the work and much more relaxed and attentive to my own needs and reactions...he is an avoidant that wants to grow and learn and that's important..
So you and him was broken up for a whole year and reconciled at the beginning of this year? That's amazing! Don't ever stop doing the work. Congratulations!
I listen to your videos to keep myself from either going nuts or reaching out to him. I know that I have a lot of work to do on myself but I'm afraid. However, as soon as I'm able to, I'm going to buy the workbooks. i owe it to myself and my children.
I broke no contact just to find out they never wanted me back. To everyone waiting for months I want to say, please don't do it to yourself. Reach out to them. Yes, you will maybe be rejected, but what's worse, being rejected or still hoping like a fool? Don't lie to yourselves. Who needs months to figure out if they want you or not? And do you really want someone who takes such a long time to suddenly realize they love you? No! Work on yourselves, yes it will be hard for awhile, but then you will find someone who will never make you feel confused or unwanted.
I AGREEEEEE! After 2-3 months of non contact, break it if the ex has not. Not coming on strong and all that, just a casual message. I too learned there was zero chance when I did it so I could now move on. I have no doubt no contact is the best strategy for getting an ex back, for sure, but it has the con of putting ourselves in limbo too. I'd rather know it's truly over than remain in a hopeful state. If your ex still reacts badly after 60-90 days of complete no contact, that's pretty much clear that you don't need to bother anymore.
@@MVProfits If I break no contact, I could also break her healing process which is very bad...She told me in the relationship that she cant be in contact after break ups. Also she stopped watching my stories and is fully active on IG again which definitely tells me that she cant watch my stories because it hinders her recovery and she is trying to kill her pain by updating every single move she does in life.
No contact always works for me. A lot depends on how things ended. I never end things with begging or fighting. If they break up with me, I tell them, “That’s fine and I wish you the best.” No contact works as long as you weren’t mean or rude or begging like they are some god. It takes time too. They may go into a rebound relationship. But they always come back as long as you were accepting, don’t break no contact, and you were a good person. I have one ex who was a b-itch. I refuse to go back to her because she was a pain in my a$$. Don’t expect an ex to return if you were a jerk or became very unattractive.
Dang Coach...super insightful! Thanks for saying it's OK/wise to take your time - I needed to hear that. I speak for us all when I say we're thankful for your efforts.
I jumped in on a group chat he has me in. He immediately engaged in asking questions and made several references to my personal life like my grandparents home and the books I have. I chatted a bit and am gonna ghost the chat again. I've been anything but calm about this break up but him jumping to react to me after five months was not what I was expecting but I still kept it cool and casual. Let's see what happens next.
That’s a good sign. Just be yourself and don’t “try” to play a game. Let him come to you and make it a fun and positive interaction. Talk about funny times you all had together and inside jokes. After 1-2 interactions, tell him to take you somewhere that you both enjoy.
Now that I have seen so many Graig's videos I know that the main horrible things that come along with the breakups are diarrhea and handwritten letters! 😀😂
I did a long ass hand written letter that got me nowhere. That was months ago, I’ve done a lot of healing to the point where I wouldn’t want this person again. Watching so I don’t make the same mistakes with the next person 😂
STOP REACHING OUT. NO REACHING OUT. SHE WANT OTHER PEOPLE, MORE MONEY, MORE CARS, MORE TITLES, MORE STATUS. SHE WANT TO OUT. CONGRATULATIONS, GO FOR IT. GOOD FOR HER. GO FOR IT.
My ex just contacted me today since he broke up with me in Sept only to tell me he now has herpes. I did the no contact, but never imagined I would hear this.
Craig doesnt speak anything about ppl with lack of empathy in his videos. Had great 2 year relationship but I lacked empathy (im problem solver instead). After 2 weeks of our breakup I searched her from a bar and wanted to talk but she couldnt even look me to my eyes. She said a few phrases about the problems but then she said with loud voice (almost crying) that "YOU HAVE ZERO EMPATHY, DONT WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER" Its one of those issues which I just dont believe can be fixed in her mind in no contact. Would hope a video for dumpees who lacked empathy in the relationship. Feels like its not fixable to reconnect (especially doing no contact)
Thank you for another great video coaching session Craig. I have applied what you teach and it works. I’ve completed the work books and they were a fantastic resource and guide to helping me understand my attachment style and issues. I’m currently going through a break up and having the “knowledge” has helped keep my anxiety regulated. It has also allowed me to look within and get curious about what I contributed to the break up and how to fix it in myself so it doesn’t happen again. Thank you once again for all of your helpful work.
I’m currently going through a rough break up probably the toughest break up I’ve had. This is fresh and I recently begged her to just talk to me. Just talk not even to come back and she said she had nothing to say. I am just praying and leaning on God. I am going to begin therapy soon. I would love to have her back in my life despite everything that has transpired. She says we should date other ppl and if we’re meant to be together we will get back to each other. She said plans to start dating at some point but it doesn’t mean she will get into a relationship. I know I sound like a simp but I miss her and love her so much I want her back in my life but I know I can’t force it and I have to just continue with my life with just hoping we will reconnect again. This is a second break up by the way. This breakup is so different this time I am really down about it.
Hey Craig could you please do more videos for dumpers and how to reconnect with dumpees? Especially when they're uncomfortable or very angry with you. Thanks
@@bizzy5439 I agree with HM. If you want to fix it just reach out. The anger that the other party gives you could be their way of protecting themselves from being hurt by you again. Take it like a man, listen to what they have to say fully, then apologize sincerely and express wholeheartedly why you’re reaching out. Good luck to you. I wish my ex wanted to reach out to me haha 😅
Craig, I’ve watched hundreds of your videos, and I’m still curious about something. Are these the same strategies you would suggest for someone that’s married? Not necessarily this video specifically but in general. You very rarely mention marriages so I just wanted to ask in case I’m doing something wrong. 12 years together, out of nowhere abandoned and blocked. They are practicing extreme no contact - going on 4 months now. Thank you.
After two weeks I broke contact and got a cold shower We broke up in april After two months she came back after NC so it works for Shure but after 3 months she left again Leaving me With a broken heart again
He ended our relationship three months ago but the surprising thing is that he has maintained his friendship with my elder sister he calls her and text her every day my sister and I just sit back and laugh it out why is he talking to my sister but has not contacted me in months please help me what is the reason for is uncivilized behavior 😂😂
How do u get in her head when all she’s gonna do is move on and forget that’s the part u failed to mention especially when she never cared and u broke up with her
He kept reaching out and once he deleted a message because I took too long to respond. He said he was thinking about me and I finally responded with a “yeah I tend to do that.” Then he started going ham with emotions. My answers were short and detached and I could tell it drove him even more crazy. He declined meeting in person because he’s not good with confrontation. But yeah balls in his court if he wants me back. I’m indifferent at this point.
He did reach out and then I text him the next day and we are back to square one, it’s been two weeks since the break up. I hope I didn’t mess up to bad
My ex said she wanted space five weeks ago. I’ve dated nine people since then and I have three dates in the next four days. Looks like I won’t be going back to the Ex. so sorry for her 57 years old and plays games like a 14-year-old. Good luck and take care of your three cats.
Scenario: I was seeing a married woman, yes she was with a man, but in the closet as a lesbian, hence why I entertained it to begin with even though I didn’t agree with the whole “affair” thing. I ended it over a week ago, due to her narc tendencies and lack of respect. And to top it off being caught up in a clandestine affair. So ive ended it and yes I miss her. She deactivated her social media for a week after requesting I block and delete her every where. Which I wasnt ready to do that, as it didnt end nasty, it was just more heart breaking. She is back online as of last weekend, I havent reached out, but as I was the one to end it, is it upto me to maybe reach out? Ive made it clear to her, whilst she is married I cant entertain a relationship any further. Most dont ever leave regardless how in love they claim to be with you. She has two small kids with him also I guess what’s different is she is gay, and cant stay living a lie about who shw is for ever. Which makes this situation that much more difficult. Any thoughts would be great xx
My ex wont leave me alone now but I don't know if she really misses me / confused or if she's bread crumbing me. The signs are similar if not the same.
How do you know if you’re actually a backup while you’re in no contact or if they really need the time apart to heal, especially if they’re an avoidant which I think she is. I don’t want to be an option though and have no idea what she’s doing during this period apart.
Hi Craig, your videos are on all a break ups but nothing on when your partner wants to go on a break in the relationship and has stated its not a break up after asking them, moreover they want no time limits on the break. Sadly this situation of limbo aka unnecessary uncertainty of where you stand is where I have found myself in for the last 4 weeks. Could you please do a video on this situation?
Really ask for yourself, is there difference between no time limit break with breakup? Your anxiety is just finding sth to cling on, telling yourself that it isn’t a breakup
Yes. It may take longer or they might hide it better but they DO want a relationship. They've just had bad experiences or you know childhood stuff that's caused them to be avoidant
What do I do if I took her for granted? We stayed in touch for 2 months after the break up, but she stopped reaching out. We were together for 8 years. Should I do NC now?
If u took her for granted then its up to u to fight for her not waiting on her reaching out..If people were less scared of being honest and vulnerable ..if only
Nightwalker, sorry you didn’t appreciate her when you had her in your world. You’ll have to wonder why you didn’t? Eight years is a long time. She’s moved on at this point. She’s probably in someone else’s world who truly adores her and doesn’t take her for granted. Seriously, why would she want to go backward when she already wasted eight years with you? Or maybe she’s alone by choice and that’s a good thing because she isn’t keeping company with the wrong person. What a sad situation you put yourself in… no one likes being taken for granted.
Hello Craig, thank you for the videos which really help my anxiety, I think. What should we do after an ex made a indirect direct approach? Should we wait for them to contact again? Can you give us suggestions about what to do after they made a contact?
From my understanding, Craig’s advice is to respond politely but brief to whatever they ask but in no way act in an insecure manner. I.e. expressing all your feelings or lashing out at them. If they ask if you still have their curling iron simply say “yeah I still have it” or “I’ll look around for it and let you know.” Best of luck to you.
@@HomicidalZygote Thank you for the answer. What I don't know is after that chat. I mean should I go back to no contact again after reply him politely? Best of luck to you too. I hope you get what best for you
Today i found out your applebees girl thing happened to me exactly . And i did the same exact mistakes by giving away all the power which was all in my favour
Screwed myself by reaching out to her a few weeks ago and telling her how much I’m hurting and vulnerable, and weak right now Wish I found this video weeks ago. Oh well. Life goes on, I’m doing no contact now. She keeps watching my IG stories where I’m going out and having a good time and I’m wondering if I should stop posting to really make her wonder. I haven’t blocked her but I unfollowed her and don’t watch her stuff.
@nicole Yes, I would. It will be a win-win honestly. That’s how I’m looking at it. I’m really putting work into myself seriously and trying not to focus on missing him but I’ve made up in my mind if I never hear from him again in a years time I’ll still be good because I plan to have evolved from the guy I am currently. Who knows maybe another special girl/guy will align with the new me.
Had same situation twice. First time he came back with basic greetings and mentioning he'll take me out- months off and on communication and guess what? He didn't take me out. I went no contact again. Recently, he messaged (after 9 months no contact). All he said was "hi, how you're doing?". I left him on read. I will never reply to insignificant message again. Also, deleted his number. Didn't wish him on his birthday this month. My advice is: do not reach out to them, do not reply to insignificant messages. If they want your attention, they must come back invested and ready to work on relationships
How to get into your ex's head when they've moved onto someone else and blocked you on everything? 🤔 Can you do a video on when an ex moves onto someone else and you've been blocked on all social platforms.
@@pepsicolla123 even if you’re blocked, women are emotional people. No matter how bad the breakup is, they would still be invested in trying to figure out what you’ve been up to. Set traps. Make your social media public from time to time. Put stories of you genuinely having fun and you’ll notice there would be a random burner account that will always be trailing you. Sooner or later, they will approach you and now the power has shifted into your hands and you have to make the decision. Would you accept her back or would you send her back to the streets.
Women always come back when they find out that the grass wasn’t greener on the other side…shut the door and wish them good luck , and find someone younger and better looking than her , that drives them INSANE
Doesn't sound too good but I know how you feel, because i would want to do that. I just refuse to go there even though its tough as hell! But if it's still early stages, just stop now contacting all together. He'll probably one day realize there was a reason for that "explosion".
There is still hope. Just text them “Hey, I know I may have gotten out of hand and I apologize for going off on you. I think this break up was for the best for both of us and it will help clear my mind to move forward.” Then redeem yourself and start no contact.
@@mob-dee4210 I did this on his SM, he deleted the whole section, or page. Ouch! I'm done. That's it. Yet since doing that I am bombarded with his SM stuff interestingly enough, but I'm just not looking anymore.
I hope this is accurate because I don't wanna suffer anymore. Either I would like him back or I really hope to find someone who finally DOES appreciate the love, affection and many other things I give them! I hope they love my face and think that I am still pretty at my 40 years of age, and will want to build, not just a oresent, but a future with me. Be/want to be my husband and love sex with me and feel deeply connected to me. 😞 I am so frustrated, disappointed and tired.
Thanks need this much my wife had affair I tried to save our marriage she moved out with my daughter 6 months ago but the last 4 weeks we have been intimate once each week but she’s pulling away now and it’s making me panic because I want our family together again
She blocked my no. Social media So I start contact with other no. and please her for 2 days. And after i watch your video i realised. So wil my gf come back,.... please help me😭😭😭
What do you do if you had a creepy friend who stalked them and their new love interest without your consent and now tihey think your involved. I know longer talk to that "friend"
My boyfriend dumped me last Sunday 🥲🥲 we just dating almost 6 months & he broke up with me coz he has a new girl ! & I caught them , I begging him like an idiot to stay but he said to me I need to respect my self , & I didn’t stop to contact him & he blocked me now ! I dunno what to do I really love him 😫
Me & my ex broke up for the 2nd time first brake up we dated 1yr half she dump me because my anger issues um okay well she got back with her ex husband like 3days later because i cought her well it lasted only 1 year because he cheated again well she came back looking for me said she miss me she got her karma that lost a great man and that she didnt wanna loose me and that she was selfish she didn't want me to move on thats why she came back well we got back together well only lasted 10months this time she dump again because of a small argument guess my anger issues again and shed called the cops she said she would never call me back again for me to leave her alone never look for her well its been 4months know since the brake up this time im working on myself therapy gym listening to these video's ive been doing no contact well we ran into eachother bout 2 weeks ago we both waved then all a sudden she stared texting all that night saying i kno you dont wanna hear from me but it was good seeing you you look so handsome and she sent a picture of us saying she miss us then she text can i see you tonight and then she text said well maybe one day you well be able to be atleast my friend and to god bless well i never text back that night tell like 2days later i said this short message . MAYBE ONE DAY BUT NOT TODAY. she text back and said I UNDERSTAND i havent herd from her since then its hurts i just dont wanna be a doormat think she can always come back and leave because my issues
Good for you man. I’m proud you actually took the step to work on you and choose yourself first. God bless bro keep pressing on wishing you all the best in your journey
Lol I did the 'hand written' email.... was that a let down... so after that I discovered Team Craig... and what a Godsent cause I was about to DM his mom....followed all your incredible videos, worked on myself... did the emotional deep dive and setting boundaries...which was the entire 2021...together since Jan 2022..and still doing the work and much more relaxed and attentive to my own needs and reactions...he is an avoidant that wants to grow and learn and that's important..
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I’ve had 3 exes come back through no contact so yes it does work. Begging someone to be with you won’t get you far. They’ll just pity you. Yes it’s tempting to reach out to them but the rejection would be worse. Especially if you find out they’re seeing someone else. They will come back to you when they’re ready and if they don’t I guess it just wasn’t meant to be anyway. And even if you DID get your ex back by reaching out to them, you’d eventually start to doubt how much they truly like/love you if they weren’t willing to reach out themselves.
@@KS-gy3ch Craig advises that when someone breaks up with you say something like ‘I disagree I think we’re good together. Let me know if you change your mind’ then go NO CONTACT and when he reaches out to you, DON’T ignore him. Be receptive but do not overreact and show desperation. Craig has so many videos that will help. I’ve watched them over and over so this is engraved in my memory now!
I’m just curious…in your personal experience how long did it take for each of those 3 exes to reach out to you and how did they (try to) come back?
@@spedhead218 believe me when I say they were all over the place when they returned and some breadcrumbs throughout etc and I guess that’s why Craig says every situation is so different. So don’t give up hope just because it’s been a certain amount of days. But to answer your question the soonest I heard from an ex was 6 months and the longest was 2 years maybe even longer. It really does depend on the person and the situation !but at some point they start to reconsider! They found an excuse to message me like ‘happy birthday’ or ‘congratulations on passing your test’ they found any excuse! Hope that helps
@@ameliapeach3029 Thank you for sharing that! Did you choose to get back together with any of them?
@@spedhead218 I did give them all second chances but they didn’t work out which doesn’t bother me anymore because I can see that they weren’t honest/loyal/mature enough at the time for anything serious. At least I know I was good to them and they’ll wish they still had that one day!
By the time you get your head together you won’t want your Ex. You will see them for who they are. When people meet they all put on a facade. Slowly but surely people reveal themselves. When the relationship gets to the point where one wants out (assuming no abusive or controlling events) then you (if the dumpee) see how they deal with that situation and how they see your emotions and feelings.
Opposite of love is indifference not hate.
It’s such a huge irony but the those that have been dumped learn the most (or should do) as they realise they are good people and they see why they ended up where they ended up. The dumper is left in the same position that they exited. Except they see the their space as the same but your space as different- that is such an interesting place to investigate. By then you won’t care, you have now evaluated your own worth and realising you are worth more.
Like the saying goes masks can’t be worn forever eventually it will fall off
Craig, you are saving lives. I watch your videos all day every day and that way I avoid a major depression. It´s such a relief that you want us to keep hoping and stay positive. When people say: Just forget him/her!!...it´s really dangerous to kill all hope. Many heartbroken people are suicidal once in a while.
I agree! It’s not that easy to “just forget him, you will find someone better / who really deserves you”
Suicidal once in a while? I've been dumped and broken up many times by different people. You get immune to it. My recent ex dumped me last week. Did I get hurt and cry? Nope, just another day for me. I find the death of a loved one more painful than a break-up. The murder of my brother last year and the death of my dog hurt me more.
@@OS253damn I’m sorry for your loss
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I am 5 months into the break up. I still miss him everyday but I kind of accepted the fact, that he will probably never come back.
Keep your Head up ☺
@@kathia.4640 Thank you.
I'm six months out. I don't know how he feels but for my own sanity I made a random comment in a group chat and he jumped to engage in conversation. I would have sworn he never wanted to think of me with how cold he was last time we saw each other. My anxiety is low now and I'm going back into NC and refocus on myself. If he wants something more he knows I'm somewhere but he'll have to do something about it. Stay strong and don't discount how valuable you truly are.
@@GeoBoots I also dont know anything about his feelings towards me. He isnt active on social media and he doesnt have any friends. One "friend" of him told me, that my ex is only sitting at home, no vacation, no trips, doesnt do any hobbies anymore. Also no new girlfriend, or dates. But he still has my presents in his flat/car
Stay positive and be nice to yourself. As the coaches say, "exes come back all the time." There's good things in store for you 🙏
Can't believe TH-cam played an ad for Applebees right before debuting this new video lol
How dare they 🤣
Anyone who’s struggling please listen to this man he knows and you don’t but you will do soon 😉 once you see the path before you it will be easy to walk it have faith you are stronger then your ex you just need to prove it ❤ thanks coach you the man
Well said. This man and M & V have REALLY helped my lonely nights
My ex gf is definitely never coming back. I can just feel it in the air. And even if she does, the fact that I had to watch these videos to feel comfort, rather than talk to her, is why I could never go back.
45 days of NC today. I was blocked on everything which is what started NC.
The Applebee’s Girl , I wonder if she watches these videos lol
She sounds like she was a scammer, a user, and an ungrateful narcissist. She was STUPID to let a great guy like Craig go. She probably never really liked him in the first place. I hope KARMA visited her REAL good!
Wew 😂😂😂❤red heart
Me too😅😅😅😅
Great video Craig. So very true. If you have an anxious attachment then you’ll look for the other to fulfill your needs. Too much pressure to put on someone.
If their actions don’t match their words get out. If they are emotionally unavailable then get out.
If they won’t work on themselves then get out.
Do more enjoyable things in life.
If a higher power told you you than you’re going to be single until you die would you sit around moping? Nope! You’d be living your best life.
Go work on your insecurities and what you feel are faults then you can step aside from the red flag guys. The more you are self aware and stronger physically. Emotionally, spiritually then you’ll attract the same. Thee we fright person will appear.
Best things in life are the things you do the work for 💕good luck folks X
These were the videos I didn’t know I needed. I don’t want him back, but even so these videos help with detaching from an experience. For that healing, I am ever so grateful. Many thanks.
Let’s face my ex ain’t coming back. It’s been nearly 6 months, she’s been dating for 5 of those months. It’s a wrap
I'm sorry you're going through that, man. Good luck for the future.
Damn I’m sorry to hear this bro. Just because she is dating doesn’t mean they will be in a relationship with that person that they are dating. Also that person will be compared to you in many ways. The years also
but if shes willing to sleep around with guys shes barely knows or guys she knows aren’t going to give her the full love and support that you did.. after years of being with you, why would you ever want her back? Here’s the cold hard truth, shes guzzling down a whole lottla man babies and shes enjoying it, shes getting her throat gripped and being called a “b**tch” “sl*t” while shes saying “yes daddy” to that guy that all he has to do is hit her up and say “come over” and she will be there no matter what.. and you feel sad waiting hoping she comes back?
She may want to come back, once shes had her fill.. pun intended.
Absolutely and why would you want her back knowing someone else has been inside her just now.
@@gotchamocha who hurt you 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol I did the 'hand written' email.... was that a let down... so after that I discovered Team Craig... and what a Godsent cause I was about the DM his mom....followed all your incredible videos, worked on myself... did the emotional deep dive and setting boundaries...which was the entire 2021...together since Jan 2022..and still doing the work and much more relaxed and attentive to my own needs and reactions...he is an avoidant that wants to grow and learn and that's important..
So you and him was broken up for a whole year and reconciled at the beginning of this year? That's amazing! Don't ever stop doing the work. Congratulations!
Update?
I don't mind it taking time, it results in me having more time to really make improvements
I listen to your videos to keep myself from either going nuts or reaching out to him. I know that I have a lot of work to do on myself but I'm afraid. However, as soon as I'm able to, I'm going to buy the workbooks. i owe it to myself and my children.
Same situation here. Not easy at all but these videos really help!
Same situation here
I wanna buy the 10 set but wondering if it works, I wish he provide some pages for preview
I broke no contact just to find out they never wanted me back. To everyone waiting for months I want to say, please don't do it to yourself. Reach out to them. Yes, you will maybe be rejected, but what's worse, being rejected or still hoping like a fool? Don't lie to yourselves. Who needs months to figure out if they want you or not? And do you really want someone who takes such a long time to suddenly realize they love you? No! Work on yourselves, yes it will be hard for awhile, but then you will find someone who will never make you feel confused or unwanted.
What he said? How long was no contact?
I AGREEEEEE! After 2-3 months of non contact, break it if the ex has not. Not coming on strong and all that, just a casual message. I too learned there was zero chance when I did it so I could now move on. I have no doubt no contact is the best strategy for getting an ex back, for sure, but it has the con of putting ourselves in limbo too. I'd rather know it's truly over than remain in a hopeful state. If your ex still reacts badly after 60-90 days of complete no contact, that's pretty much clear that you don't need to bother anymore.
@@MVProfits If I break no contact, I could also break her healing process which is very bad...She told me in the relationship that she cant be in contact after break ups. Also she stopped watching my stories and is fully active on IG again which definitely tells me that she cant watch my stories because it hinders her recovery and she is trying to kill her pain by updating every single move she does in life.
No contact always works for me. A lot depends on how things ended. I never end things with begging or fighting. If they break up with me, I tell them, “That’s fine and I wish you the best.” No contact works as long as you weren’t mean or rude or begging like they are some god. It takes time too. They may go into a rebound relationship. But they always come back as long as you were accepting, don’t break no contact, and you were a good person. I have one ex who was a b-itch. I refuse to go back to her because she was a pain in my a$$. Don’t expect an ex to return if you were a jerk or became very unattractive.
@@TJEMPPA10 she’ll be back.
Dang Coach...super insightful! Thanks for saying it's OK/wise to take your time - I needed to hear that. I speak for us all when I say we're thankful for your efforts.
This is one of your best videos. Concise, to the point without any BS. Going back to creative healing course. ❤ thank you Craig
I jumped in on a group chat he has me in. He immediately engaged in asking questions and made several references to my personal life like my grandparents home and the books I have. I chatted a bit and am gonna ghost the chat again. I've been anything but calm about this break up but him jumping to react to me after five months was not what I was expecting but I still kept it cool and casual. Let's see what happens next.
That’s a good sign. Just be yourself and don’t “try” to play a game. Let him come to you and make it a fun and positive interaction. Talk about funny times you all had together and inside jokes. After 1-2 interactions, tell him to take you somewhere that you both enjoy.
my avoidant ex offered to give me boxes for moving and i’m meeting up with her tomorrow to get them. wish me luck coach!
How did it go?
Now that I have seen so many Graig's videos I know that the main horrible things that come along with the breakups are diarrhea and handwritten letters! 😀😂
This made my day and lifted my post breakup depression 😅 thank you 😆
@@assiradarling8981 😊☀️
😂😂😂
Write the letter on soft paper dual use
No F’ing begging from my part!🙌🏼
I did a long ass hand written letter that got me nowhere. That was months ago, I’ve done a lot of healing to the point where I wouldn’t want this person again. Watching so I don’t make the same mistakes with the next person 😂
STOP REACHING OUT.
NO REACHING OUT.
SHE WANT OTHER PEOPLE, MORE MONEY, MORE CARS, MORE TITLES, MORE STATUS.
SHE WANT TO OUT.
CONGRATULATIONS, GO FOR IT.
GOOD FOR HER.
GO FOR IT.
My ex just contacted me today since he broke up with me in Sept only to tell me he now has herpes. I did the no contact, but never imagined I would hear this.
Fantastic video! Jus wanted to ask..... If the ex tries to contact you on your birthday or tries to send a gift, how would you respond
Craig doesnt speak anything about ppl with lack of empathy in his videos. Had great 2 year relationship but I lacked empathy (im problem solver instead). After 2 weeks of our breakup I searched her from a bar and wanted to talk but she couldnt even look me to my eyes. She said a few phrases about the problems but then she said with loud voice (almost crying) that "YOU HAVE ZERO EMPATHY, DONT WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER"
Its one of those issues which I just dont believe can be fixed in her mind in no contact. Would hope a video for dumpees who lacked empathy in the relationship. Feels like its not fixable to reconnect (especially doing no contact)
Thank you for another great video coaching session Craig. I have applied what you teach and it works. I’ve completed the work books and they were a fantastic resource and guide to helping me understand my attachment style and issues. I’m currently going through a break up and having the “knowledge” has helped keep my anxiety regulated. It has also allowed me to look within and get curious about what I contributed to the break up and how to fix it in myself so it doesn’t happen again.
Thank you once again for all of your helpful work.
You are so helpful. We can't thank you enough for your videos!
That was a very good video, many thanks 😊
I’m currently going through a rough break up probably the toughest break up I’ve had. This is fresh and I recently begged her to just talk to me. Just talk not even to come back and she said she had nothing to say. I am just praying and leaning on God. I am going to begin therapy soon. I would love to have her back in my life despite everything that has transpired. She says we should date other ppl and if we’re meant to be together we will get back to each other. She said plans to start dating at some point but it doesn’t mean she will get into a relationship. I know I sound like a simp but I miss her and love her so much I want her back in my life but I know I can’t force it and I have to just continue with my life with just hoping we will reconnect again. This is a second break up by the way. This breakup is so different this time I am really down about it.
Man i feel u 💔
Girls don’t care once they leave. And most girls leave. Remember this going forward. Your situation is normal
Any update?? Did she reconnect with u?
We work together. I’m not seeking but if we run into each other I don’t retreat.
Very useful as usual, thank you Craig🙂
Hey Craig could you please do more videos for dumpers and how to reconnect with dumpees? Especially when they're uncomfortable or very angry with you. Thanks
Yess more videos for dumpers
Reach out to them! You broke it so you need to fix it
@@hm3622 as in how to reach out and if you tried and they get really upset. Whattaya do then lol
@@bizzy5439 I agree with HM. If you want to fix it just reach out. The anger that the other party gives you could be their way of protecting themselves from being hurt by you again. Take it like a man, listen to what they have to say fully, then apologize sincerely and express wholeheartedly why you’re reaching out. Good luck to you. I wish my ex wanted to reach out to me haha 😅
Beautiful Advice!♥️♥️♥️♥️
May I ask
How it is possible to purchase the workbooks? On the homepage it says “purchase” but in the end it is not possible. What is needed?
Another brilliant video.. thank u..you would not belive how your videos are helping me and probably others. Big. Big. Thank u ..here from. London UK
Craig,
I’ve watched hundreds of your videos, and I’m still curious about something. Are these the same strategies you would suggest for someone that’s married? Not necessarily this video specifically but in general. You very rarely mention marriages so I just wanted to ask in case I’m doing something wrong. 12 years together, out of nowhere abandoned and blocked. They are practicing extreme no contact - going on 4 months now.
Thank you.
Do we share the same name 👀
@@blakejessop6995 shiiiii 👀
Yes…. ❤ and start with God❤
Keep up your Work ❤
After two weeks I broke contact and got a cold shower
We broke up in april
After two months she came back after NC
so it works for Shure but after 3 months she left again
Leaving me With a broken heart again
Thanks for the helpful video.
You r one of the best coaches!🙏
He ended our relationship three months ago but the surprising thing is that he has maintained his friendship with my elder sister he calls her and text her every day my sister and I just sit back and laugh it out why is he talking to my sister but has not contacted me in months please help me what is the reason for is uncivilized behavior 😂😂
How do u get in her head when all she’s gonna do is move on and forget that’s the part u failed to mention especially when she never cared and u broke up with her
Would you say this is similar advice for a women I use to hook up with who recently got married and cut things off after she did????
He kept reaching out and once he deleted a message because I took too long to respond. He said he was thinking about me and I finally responded with a “yeah I tend to do that.” Then he started going ham with emotions. My answers were short and detached and I could tell it drove him even more crazy. He declined meeting in person because he’s not good with confrontation. But yeah balls in his court if he wants me back. I’m indifferent at this point.
He did reach out and then I text him the next day and we are back to square one, it’s been two weeks since the break up. I hope I didn’t mess up to bad
My ex said she wanted space five weeks ago. I’ve dated nine people since then and I have three dates in the next four days. Looks like I won’t be going back to the
Ex. so sorry for her 57 years old and plays games like a 14-year-old. Good luck and take care of your three cats.
Scenario: I was seeing a married woman, yes she was with a man, but in the closet as a lesbian, hence why I entertained it to begin with even though I didn’t agree with the whole “affair” thing.
I ended it over a week ago, due to her narc tendencies and lack of respect. And to top it off being caught up in a clandestine affair.
So ive ended it and yes I miss her.
She deactivated her social media for a week after requesting I block and delete her every where.
Which I wasnt ready to do that, as it didnt end nasty, it was just more heart breaking.
She is back online as of last weekend, I havent reached out, but as I was the one to end it, is it upto me to maybe reach out?
Ive made it clear to her, whilst she is married I cant entertain a relationship any further.
Most dont ever leave regardless how in love they claim to be with you. She has two small kids with him also
I guess what’s different is she is gay, and cant stay living a lie about who shw is for ever. Which makes this situation that much more difficult.
Any thoughts would be great xx
Yes, leave her alone. She is MARRIED! You have no right to play any part in destroying that. That belongs to GOD
My ex wont leave me alone now but I don't know if she really misses me / confused or if she's bread crumbing me. The signs are similar if not the same.
How do you know if you’re actually a backup while you’re in no contact or if they really need the time apart to heal, especially if they’re an avoidant which I think she is. I don’t want to be an option though and have no idea what she’s doing during this period apart.
I was dumped a week ago. Haven’t talked to her since the day she left me. How long does it take for her to come out of the relief stage?
So true, so true.
Breadcrumbed for weeks. I told him I'm gonna date other people. He won't care lol
Hi Craig, your videos are on all a break ups but nothing on when your partner wants to go on a break in the relationship and has stated its not a break up after asking them, moreover they want no time limits on the break. Sadly this situation of limbo aka unnecessary uncertainty of where you stand is where I have found myself in for the last 4 weeks. Could you please do a video on this situation?
Really ask for yourself, is there difference between no time limit break with breakup? Your anxiety is just finding sth to cling on, telling yourself that it isn’t a breakup
What happened since your comment ?
Does the separation anxiety also apply to avoidants? I think a relationship feels unsafe for them.
Yes. It may take longer or they might hide it better but they DO want a relationship. They've just had bad experiences or you know childhood stuff that's caused them to be avoidant
What do I do if I took her for granted? We stayed in touch for 2 months after the break up, but she stopped reaching out. We were together for 8 years. Should I do NC now?
If u took her for granted then its up to u to fight for her not waiting on her reaching out..If people were less scared of being honest and vulnerable ..if only
Nightwalker, sorry you didn’t appreciate her when you had her in your world. You’ll have to wonder why you didn’t? Eight years is a long time. She’s moved on at this point. She’s probably in someone else’s world who truly adores her and doesn’t take her for granted. Seriously, why would she want to go backward when she already wasted eight years with you? Or maybe she’s alone by choice and that’s a good thing because she isn’t keeping company with the wrong person. What a sad situation you put yourself in… no one likes being taken for granted.
Hello Craig, thank you for the videos which really help my anxiety, I think. What should we do after an ex made a indirect direct approach? Should we wait for them to contact again? Can you give us suggestions about what to do after they made a contact?
From my understanding, Craig’s advice is to respond politely but brief to whatever they ask but in no way act in an insecure manner. I.e. expressing all your feelings or lashing out at them. If they ask if you still have their curling iron simply say “yeah I still have it” or “I’ll look around for it and let you know.” Best of luck to you.
@@HomicidalZygote Thank you for the answer. What I don't know is after that chat. I mean should I go back to no contact again after reply him politely?
Best of luck to you too. I hope you get what best for you
@@nira2274 without knowing the specifics of the conversation I would say yes. They have to do the reaching out.
@@nira2274 Yes, if they don't clearly show you that they want to repair a relationship you go back to NC after your polite reply
@@pepsicolla123 thank you thats the answer i was looking for...
I told my ex I'm moving on and I doubt he'll reach out to me ever again plus I don't want him back in my life anyways.
Will this work, even if my wife threatened me with divorce?
Today i found out your applebees girl thing happened to me exactly . And i did the same exact mistakes by giving away all the power which was all in my favour
Does this work for friends? Not realationships.. just friends??
I’m not a Dr. but I’m pretty sure my ex is a narcissist so I’m pretty sure he doesn’t miss me.
Screwed myself by reaching out to her a few weeks ago and telling her how much I’m hurting and vulnerable, and weak right now
Wish I found this video weeks ago. Oh well. Life goes on, I’m doing no contact now.
She keeps watching my IG stories where I’m going out and having a good time and I’m wondering if I should stop posting to really make her wonder. I haven’t blocked her but I unfollowed her and don’t watch her stuff.
So question. Do i just move on if he doesnt reach out?
@nicole Yes, I would. It will be a win-win honestly. That’s how I’m looking at it. I’m really putting work into myself seriously and trying not to focus on missing him but I’ve made up in my mind if I never hear from him again in a years time I’ll still be good because I plan to have evolved from the guy I am currently. Who knows maybe another special girl/guy will align with the new me.
What if you're both doing no contact and you both r on a dating app (I blocked him before he could see me on there)
what if you don't want to get her back but you just want to 'get her back' . i.e. payback?
Get out of here
Give her radio silence. 🤫
What if they reach out after a yr? With a low level communication?
Had same situation twice. First time he came back with basic greetings and mentioning he'll take me out- months off and on communication and guess what? He didn't take me out. I went no contact again. Recently, he messaged (after 9 months no contact). All he said was "hi, how you're doing?". I left him on read. I will never reply to insignificant message again. Also, deleted his number. Didn't wish him on his birthday this month. My advice is: do not reach out to them, do not reply to insignificant messages. If they want your attention, they must come back invested and ready to work on relationships
How to get into your ex's head when they've moved onto someone else and blocked you on everything? 🤔
Can you do a video on when an ex moves onto someone else and you've been blocked on all social platforms.
This is precisely my same situation. Women get over us in weeks and never come back. Smh
@@alanzo428 you just to let it go bro, love cannot be forced. Just relax and focus on yourself until someone better comes along.
@@alanzo428 That's not true that women move on after weeks. I still cannot move on
@@pepsicolla123 even if you’re blocked, women are emotional people. No matter how bad the breakup is, they would still be invested in trying to figure out what you’ve been up to. Set traps. Make your social media public from time to time. Put stories of you genuinely having fun and you’ll notice there would be a random burner account that will always be trailing you. Sooner or later, they will approach you and now the power has shifted into your hands and you have to make the decision. Would you accept her back or would you send her back to the streets.
Women always come back when they find out that the grass wasn’t greener on the other side…shut the door and wish them good luck , and find someone younger and better looking than her , that drives them INSANE
I think I messed up. Blew up me exes phone. Cussed him out. He really did a number on my heart. Is there any hope for that? Probably not.
nah
Doesn't sound too good but I know how you feel, because i would want to do that. I just refuse to go there even though its tough as hell! But if it's still early stages, just stop now contacting all together. He'll probably one day realize there was a reason for that "explosion".
You will find someone who loves you and appreciates your attention
There is still hope. Just text them “Hey, I know I may have gotten out of hand and I apologize for going off on you. I think this break up was for the best for both of us and it will help clear my mind to move forward.” Then redeem yourself and start no contact.
I need help.
I pretty sure this is not going to happen with me. It's been 6 months now. My ex probably is dating someone else now
Updates ?
what to say if they text
What does it mean when your ex always seems to comment on your fb posts or photos. Idk 🤷♀️ I don’t get it
They are trying to reach out to you hoping for a reconnection would happen.
@@mob-dee4210 I did this on his SM, he deleted the whole section, or page. Ouch! I'm done. That's it. Yet since doing that I am bombarded with his SM stuff interestingly enough, but I'm just not looking anymore.
Not fighting
I said her if she feels for me contact me till that I won’t message her and staying no contact for 4 days now
I have let go nothing to do
Caused so much painful
I hope this is accurate because I don't wanna suffer anymore. Either I would like him back or I really hope to find someone who finally DOES appreciate the love, affection and many other things I give them! I hope they love my face and think that I am still pretty at my 40 years of age, and will want to build, not just a oresent, but a future with me. Be/want to be my husband and love sex with me and feel deeply connected to me. 😞 I am so frustrated, disappointed and tired.
Does no contact work on the mother of your baby? If is how?
How sad…. Now a child is involved. Is God? Start there
Thanks need this much my wife had affair I tried to save our marriage she moved out with my daughter 6 months ago but the last 4 weeks we have been intimate once each week but she’s pulling away now and it’s making me panic because I want our family together again
My ex walked away and i let him then i divorced him
After how many days n week will take to relief her with no contact. Please help me😭😭😭
She blocked my no. Social media So I start contact with other no. and please her for 2 days. And after i watch your video i realised. So wil my gf come back,.... please help me😭😭😭
15:32 lol!
I would not want to be a backup
What do you do if you had a creepy friend who stalked them and their new love interest without your consent and now tihey think your involved.
I know longer talk to that "friend"
Oh lord!
My boyfriend dumped me last Sunday 🥲🥲 we just dating almost 6 months & he broke up with me coz he has a new girl ! & I caught them , I begging him like an idiot to stay but he said to me I need to respect my self , & I didn’t stop to contact him & he blocked me now ! I dunno what to do I really love him 😫
You need to ask your self why would you love someone like that?
NC works different between men and women. Men have Less chance to back their EX.
I broke up with her for a reason.. why would I want to be in her head???
This video is for people who didn't want the break up.
@@rwentfordable ohhh.. you mean simps
Me & my ex broke up for the 2nd time first brake up we dated 1yr half she dump me because my anger issues um okay well she got back with her ex husband like 3days later because i cought her well it lasted only 1 year because he cheated again well she came back looking for me said she miss me she got her karma that lost a great man and that she didnt wanna loose me and that she was selfish she didn't want me to move on thats why she came back well we got back together well only lasted 10months this time she dump again because of a small argument guess my anger issues again and shed called the cops she said she would never call me back again for me to leave her alone never look for her well its been 4months know since the brake up this time im working on myself therapy gym listening to these video's ive been doing no contact well we ran into eachother bout 2 weeks ago we both waved then all a sudden she stared texting all that night saying i kno you dont wanna hear from me but it was good seeing you you look so handsome and she sent a picture of us saying she miss us then she text can i see you tonight and then she text said well maybe one day you well be able to be atleast my friend and to god bless well i never text back that night tell like 2days later i said this short message . MAYBE ONE DAY BUT NOT TODAY. she text back and said I UNDERSTAND i havent herd from her since then its hurts i just dont wanna be a doormat think she can always come back and leave because my issues
Good for you man. I’m proud you actually took the step to work on you and choose yourself first. God bless bro keep pressing on wishing you all the best in your journey
Thanks bro
Lol I did the 'hand written' email.... was that a let down... so after that I discovered Team Craig... and what a Godsent cause I was about to DM his mom....followed all your incredible videos, worked on myself... did the emotional deep dive and setting boundaries...which was the entire 2021...together since Jan 2022..and still doing the work and much more relaxed and attentive to my own needs and reactions...he is an avoidant that wants to grow and learn and that's important..
❤ love this so happy for you
Update? I did an email too
Really good video, thank you ❤