I spent a day with BISEXUALS
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When I came out as bisexual to my mom, she said “it’s normal to have a girl crush once in a while, it doesn’t mean that you’re bi”. I’m pretty sure my mom is hiding something-
That comment
The fact that I've heard this story
Not just once or twice,
But like 4 or 5 separate times,
From different people
throughout the past year
is so weird.
I've never experienced it myself,
But apparently a lot of mums and grannies just find themselves in this scenario.
@@BramLastname a poem
@@ariatheanalbanian thanks,
Even if it's not the first time,
I heard that one, either.
Listen, she grew up in a different time maybe she’s denying
"The hardest person to come out to was myself." Felt that.
Facts
Same with me it took me so long to accept myself for who I am and to accept my sexuality
to me it was easy i’m not sure why but i was like “ ok i’m gay im bisexual and im okay with that” hardest part is telling others
Fr
its always easier to come out to people you dont know online, than it is your own parents
I was attracted to a guy in High school. At that time I never knew Bisexuality. And in class, my girl BFF came out as Bisexual and for an essay she explained what it is and that it is okay being bi. And during Pride Month I told my peers I was Bisexual and no one teased me cause of the amazing essay my BFF did and I'll always thank her.
Also the guy thought I was brave. One word, JOY
I love this story! It's so sweet! 💜
Aww that made my day ^_^
What did you do with him after?
❤
To all the people that think being bi is a sexual thing:
I’m bi and asexual. Go and puzzle that one out.
Edit: this is a joke. Trust me I know my identity better than you and I know I’m biromantic asexual not bisexual asexual. It was a play on words and assumptions.
I would like to know how did you realised that?
@@Martyna456 probably having crushes on men and women, but being turned off by the idea of being in a sexual relationship
@@Martyna456 i am bi and ace, and why would you like to know how someone realized that
@@touya_simp8110 I'm interested in the process as I'm still struggling with figuring out my own sexuality. It's not so obvious to me
I'm bi, aroflux and ace
As a bi trans guy who is dating a trans woman, I chuckled at the “bisexuality is transphobic” part
I find it so funny when people say that because if your bisexual you like multiple genders, so I’d assume it’s more common for them to accept trans people and realize trans woman are woman and trans men are men.
I’m not very familiar with the terminology and I’m trying to learn so sorry if this is bad to say but saying your a trans guy does that mean your a guy now or a women now
@@tahmidrakib7993 a guy
@@tahmidrakib7993 trans guy means your a guy now. Trans woman means your a woman now.
If this is offensive sorry but like is that just a reversal to straight lmao like bruh so logically it doesn't make sense to me
thank you for having me on Anthony!!! really loved talking with you for this video
Mad! I love your song and as a bisexual man, I also used it to come out to my mum!! I'm very thankful for you!
The bi king is here
I loved your song man. Was a great surprise to see you on this vid :)
i love u
@Adelyn Adams omg i loved ur amongus video
16:06 "You don't owe anyone an explanation of your sexuality" That is called healthy AF right there.
💯
you dont have to tell everyone your sexuality either
@@bobbyiscool everyone has the right to stay closeted
@@bobbyiscool yeah, i only want to know the sexuality of a person if i want to be in a relation if that person.
@@joyul8216 Good for you
I was convinced I was straight until 24. I didn't believe I could be bi, because It was not a 50/50 thing, it was heavily one-sided. For every say 10 women, I was attracted to, I would find one man I would be attracted to. As it was so few I just brushed it off. It took me almost a decade of this to finally realize that that 1 in 10 attraction to guys was still valid and still made me bi.
Hahaha ur attracted to men 😂
Oh yeah same here! I would find a lot of guys attractive and find at least a handful of girls attractive. I really thought something was wrong with me because I thought it has to be 50/50 or else I wouldn’t be considered Bi but after talking to a lot of people they said that it’s okay and it doesn’t have to be 50/50!
I’m the opposite, but I never talk about the girls I like bc they’re straight (I also don’t talk about guy crushes who are gay) but now people think I’m faking it for attention 🙂👍
This. Bi and other multi-sexualities are a spectrum. You can absolutely lean more towards one vs another.
Mhh yeah, same here. Only realized that I had some attraction for guys when I was 23 or so. For me the difference is even more stark actually. I've only met maybe a handful of guys in my life that I felt attracted to. It's quite rare, but it's definitely there
I spent a day with blind people would be so helpful for society as a whole. There are so many things that aren’t known about blind people and many misconceptions that should be corrected. I would love to feature as one of the guests
Yes! Include Molly Burke
That's a really good idea! I'd be interested to see it
I third this, i really want more rep for disabled people in general as the most we see are just from memes making fun of them or whoever's in our immediate lives affects our awareness of them.
i would love to enjoy watch this episode. and also one for deaf people.
Oh absolutely! There's also this girl called Lucy who does really educational videos. I can't remember her channel name though. :/
I'm straight and I will never understand bi-erasure, because saying "oh you must be straight because you're dating someone of the opposite gender right now" is like saying "oh you must be asexual because you're single right now." Like no... just because I'm not with someone doesn't mean my physical and sexual attraction isn't there. Sexuality is all about sexual attraction, not whether you're actually in a relationship at that moment!
The asexuality metaphor is SPOT ON, I am absolutely gonna start using that
And unlike what some people assume, being attracted sexually to others while in a relationship doesn't mean you're gonna cheat or have to break up with who you're with. Your sexuality doesn't just disappear or change into a [insert current love one]-sexual, you can still be attracted to whoever and still stay loyal to who you're with. It's exactly like straight relationships, c'mon people.
FR
Just to clarify, asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction (there can be some, for example, demisexuality.) Asexuals still experience romantic attraction and can want to be in a relationship. Aromantic people do not experience romantic attraction (or experience some - demiromantic) so would not want to be in a romantic relationship. So it would be more fitting to use aromantic in that metaphor
Exactly, Im bisexual and dating a man who has admitted to me he is bicurious, everyone automatically assumes we are a straight relationship but ive dated women and arent any less attracted to them just because im dating a man.
As a bi guy, straight girls often think I'm secretly gay, and gay guys think I'm not "gay" enough
same
Yeah this hits hard. I’ve copped literal hate speech from gay guys, straight gfs dumping me when I told them because they thought I was a gay guy just using them out of confusion, and have been completely shut down by a queer girl as being a confused straight guy because I didn’t act like a member of the lgbtq community should (I still have no idea what she meant).
Some girls are insecure. Bisexuality in males tends to signal to straight females that they won't be secure in the long run. We all look to the future with guys we like. If there is something that gives us a smidge of doubt in our stability with you, then it's done. The doubt sets in, and before you know it, it's too much to think about. To see you in a different way is also just down to our individual preferences. What you look and feel like to us changes. It's unfair for you, but people can't help their attraction, as you know. Attraction across the board can come and go. I wouldn't want to know. I would think why's he telling me this? Is it because he wants us both? Normalising it is the only way to change this. But that won't happen in our generation.
@@jl_nwestieso you are claiming that women are biphobic because bisexuality is…unstable? I think you need to have more confidence in your ability to keep a man tbh.
@icedancer2370 Biphobic? No, don't put words in my mouth. Not all women. Some women who aren't as fucked up as myself can handle it. But others who have been shit on from great heights by men and maybe even influenced by past trauma have a harder time. I know for myself that I would want to have just 1 normal thing for myself after being orphaned and not having anything else that's stable in my life that came with no drama. I use normal and stable in the same type of context. As in, it's not what I have grown up seeing and gotten accustomed to, so it's very new still for some. The unstable possibility also comes from the many gay men who used it as a stepping stone, and therefore, the doubts that stem from their time in the bisexual box still linger. Something unfamiliar to our lives can often light up the insecurity in us. So that brings me to your kind comment on my belief in keeping a man. Unfortunately, I have 1 and have had for a decade. No matter where I leave him, he always finds his way home, bless him. But play your cards right, and I can arrange for him to be all yours. I can't speak for everyone, but I can speak for the women who I know have been affected by this. This may make me a tad biased on the subject after losing my friend to suicide after she found out her man was sleeping around with men and women. This isn't all on him though as she was just as fucked up from people letting her down in her past, just as I am today. She also had no belief in herself that she could keep a man. I shouldn't have spoken before like I knew exactly how it feels to be in a bisexual relationship because I don't. I was only giving my not so great 2 cents and possible reasons on the matter. But I can't help but think of the comparison on biphobia (in this case) or mere preferences? Is it wrong that your subconscious brain tells you your male partner isn't as attractive as he also loves dick? Then, with this, the physical attraction that you get with him then goes out the window as you look to him as a different person? My friend saw it the same way as when guys who break up with girls for weight gain. Is it right, no, but can you help how you feel, no! Do you hate the sexuality, no! Do you hate the sexual acts themselves? No! Do you hate the people? No! Do you want the drama that's associated with it? NO! Would you want people to be happy with whoever It may be, but just not within your relationship? Yes! Again, this isn't everyone, as some are truly biphobic, in every sense. It's such a complex issue with so many factors that can make people run away! My friend didn't like that she felt everyone and their dog had a whisper or sneer for her. She didn't like that there was whispers regarding how she couldn't keep him happy as her dick sucking skills were crap, and that how could she be with someone who's had more dicks than her?! She didn't like 2nd guessing who her man had slept with and if he compared her to them. Knowing that she could never give him the 1 thing he liked destroyed her. She always said that it's just her luck to find something that everyone else had and for it to be dangled in front of her and then whipped away. All things that girls who are stable in their life would find it hard to deal with. I just hope it can be normalised and educate people on it. That way, we don't have people take their lives because of it.
I'm a bi woman, in a relationship with a straight man. I've never had any romantic interactions with women, cause I live in a country where I have a high chance of being brutalized if I had acted on my attractions. The amount of times I've been told that I'm "basically straight" or "seeking attention" for using this label, despite the fact that I *know* my attraction is real, it's astounding
Majority of "bi" women are always in a straight relationship. Hope you know that. 😐
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're happy with your boyfriend and I hope you know you're valid
As I’ve seen so many bi-women ending up marrying men and having kids.. I just don’t feel (as a trans-masculine person) that bi women look for women to settle with. Recently also feeling emotionally played by a bi girl
@@Zoro-IX hello, I am a bi woman with a girlfriend
Same Like exactly
I'm a bisexual woman who has been in a relationship with a man for 10 years. My identity has been invalidated SO much and it really hurts :( sometimes it's easier to just pretend I'm straight instead of hearing the pushback.
Hi! I’m married to a man and he knew when he married me I was not straight. That has not changed. I can promise you there are people who are in the same boat and are 100% valid. 💕 It took me a while to feel valid but knowing I’m not alone helped :’) Much love to you!!
Im sorry you've had to go through that. I've been with a man for 5 years, hes straight but I'm still super bi, we talk openly about women and our attraction to them though, thankfully its nice to have that, none of my exes had that kind of respect with me... im sorry you are going through that trouble though and hope things get better for you :( its not easy when someone is telling you you are or arent this or that.
sorry to hear that
So many of us bis end up in "straight" relationships and it makes sense when you consider the number of heterosexuals outnumber other sexual and/or romantic orientations. We are all still valid! 💖💜💙
Totally feel you. Just to assert dominance I constantly remind my partner that I am "75% not straight" (we took a mock test like ' how gay are you? ' ) when he seems to forget about that.
“the hardest person to come out to was myself” THAT HIT HOME
hjj
Yup, I though I was straight until 15 years old and bisexual until 17 years old. I’m biromantic asexual
Honestly I didn’t really care when I found out I was pansexual. I was just like “meh I kind of expected that” in my head.
@@zzpixel4861 lol had a similar experience
hearing people say that bisexuality is not always a 50/50 thing is really helping me come to terms with the fact that i might be bisexual. Thank you Anthony for giving us videos like this that can really help people like me
by that definition, everyone is bisexual
@@bobbyiscool I mean not necessarily, not everyone is attracted to both men and women
@@Rayinator Bro, even the straightest person will gain pleasure out of gay sex (unless they have no sex drive). Maybe if the definition is more about your attitude towards it, maybe.
Also definitely a lot of men aren't "attracted" to other men in the same way as a woman, but clearly would enjoy sex with a man. Perhaps that should be the line for bisexuality? You should be clearly attracted to a man's body when seeing them just as you would with a woman's body (not naked).
@@Rayinator If you just like sex with the same gender, that doesn't make you bisexual. You're an average horny person.
@@bobbyiscool idk man kinda just sounds like you're bi in denial
i came out to my mom and later she left the church because of their views which was so unexpected because she had been going to church her whole life. she told me she still has her faith but doesnt need the church to practice it. i am still super touched that she did that.
Waw shes a queen for that
LOVED being a part of this 🥰🏳️🌈 thank you for having me and for giving us some bi representation!! bisexuals, i love u all kiss kiss
Thanks for sharing your experiences Jessie, my fellow bi queen! ❤️
I love you too Jessie ❤️
I’m a bisexual too
Im lesbian but love u guys
Love u too 💓
(Also bi)
If a bi person decided to never be in a relationship, does that make them a byesexual
It means they’d prefer to stay bi themselves
looooooooooooooool
@@snowystarflakes7700 LOL
They're Aromantic then
no
I came out to my parents while one of my dad's friends was over. (My dad's friend is basically like an uncle/hilarious older brother to me)
My parents basically said "aight, explains a couple things, congrats!"
My dad's friend just kinda looked at me blank for a moment, then asks "so you swing both ways?"
I said yeah, and he just smiles and goes "wait wait wait! I have a meme for this!" And send me a meme with the caption 'I swing both ways, violently, with an axe'
It was an absolutely wonderful experience, and it definitely made me feel more comfortable with being myself.
lmao
being bisexual, is such a huge journey. i had only came out to my brother, and sister. my family is christian. i was shaking, crying, today. i came out around an hour ago. looked at bisexual videos to feel normal. to fit in you know? thank you for posting this. i feel more happy now that people are going through what i am. stay safe, sweet days ahead. 💖💖🙈
We’re all here for you good job for coming out 😀
@@sigmarizzyeehaw Thank you, bless your heart!❤
what was the purpose of coming out as bisexual though? did you want to have gay sex with somebody? if not, why do you care to let them know?
also im sorry, but everyone is bisexual. some people just dont want to admit it for religious reasons. humans innately have homosexual feelings. that doesn't change the cultural disposition that we should have normal relationships with each other, and avoid hypersexuality
@@bobbyiscool tf are u talking about
Bisexual people are often accused of being confused - that they haven’t figured who they’re “really” attracted to. That’s totally not true. Being attracted to more than one or even all genders is totally valid. Hey, it means that you can find lots of people cute!
Yeah!
100%!
Exactly!
100% Facts
What’s extremely hurtful is when people in the LGBTQ+ community refer to bisexual as greedy or even pick a side you aren’t really bi no one can actually like both. Like I expect those comments from outside the community but to be erased within the community stings more.
Roxy's story broke me. I'm an Iranian bisexual and non-binary person and living there as an LGBT person is horrifying. I'm still living in Iran and I hope I can get out next year. wish me luck fellas!
Good luck!!
wait doesn’t iran kill ppl who are lgbtq or something
I wish you the best and hope that you will be able to escape as soon as possible!
@@Yayayayayayehkrodks yes they do that's why I'm escaping
@@6emowitch957 good luck with it i rly hope ur safe
As a massive bisexual, the sentence "Let's dive back into the word of bisexuality" is everything to me!
Same
As a closeted bisexual, This episode made me understand myself more about my sexuality and the struggles/ misconceptions...especially the "50-50 rule" bcos other people assume that we should equally date men and women.
It's also empowering for us to own our narrative as individuals🏳️🌈🏳️🌈❤❤
i don't have a problem with you being "bisexual" particularly because whether some religious people dont believe it or not, everyone is bisexual. most straight people would be aroused by gay sex period. the problem i have is the hookup/dating culture that we have. this isn't a new thing, its been a problem (mostly straight issue) in the past, but now its even worse. more kids involved too.
there is something called abstinence and its pretty good for your mental health. if more people abstained, we'd be happier and we would have to think less about our sexuality. sex drive is almost like a drug. control it
If only your father was bisexual
@@bobbyiscoolYesss I agree with you! I love the model/actor Jaye Davidson even though supposedly he’s gay. But then one day when I was looking through some of his old pictures he was kissing up on some girl lol. I wouldn’t be surprised if he was a little bi😊
You can be bisexual and transphobic. You can also be gay, straight, or lesbian and be transphobic. Bisexuality itself has nothing to do with transphobia, if you're transphobic, you're transphobic regardless of your sexuality.
facts
yep
exactly
yes, but some people seem to think that bisexuality by definition is transphobic :c
@@kikibirdball how? being bilingual doesn’t meet you deny the existence of all other languages but two. same thing, bisexual just means of all the different options you are generally attractive to both feminine and masculine people. For a lot of people that includes trans + non-binary
She really went :"a lot of your audience is questioning their sexuality rn"
Well she was fucking right!😅
That's on period 💅
Fr....literally HELP
Hello there, hungarian bi fellow!
Actually tho
Yep
As someone who's bisexual, I was absolutely terrified of coming out, but this makes me feel a little better about my choice of coming out.
the way i came out the first time irl was to my sister and she looks at me with this little impish smirk and says "i know" because i had left out a love letter from my girlfriend and she hid it from our parents for me shjkfds i cried and hugged her so hard
Source: You made it all up...
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv liars
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv What's extra funny is you two think you're believable, Wittle BABY GUrls
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv You definitely act like a whiny annoying little gurl.... Especially with all the internet crying. IRL tho, the poorly shaven beard and BO are a dead give away....not to mention the tiny pp.
Plus adults of any variety are supposed to be, like you two....
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv it's all the whinnying. The extreme immaturity. IRL, no one would mistake you for anything but what you are. Annoying. The tiny pp is a ded giveaway. Not to mention BO....
Funnily enough, Smosh was actually something that made me look back and realize I am bi. Being a little girl sneakily watching all their videos with hot women in bikinis in their thumbnails probably wasn't a super straight thing to do.
OMG I DID THE SAME THING 💀💀💀
Funny story, I had to come out to my mom because she went through my search history after a sleepover when a friend yelled "sex" and saw an 'Am I Gay?' quiz website and thought it was lesbian porn. Not my preferred way of coming out but at least she accepts me 🤷🏽♂️
I looked a LOT of pictures of zendaya when I was a kid and every show she was in I watched and my dumb child self marked that off as admiring and being jealous of her. That was not the case lol
It was straight for me lmao
same tho
One of my most invalidating moments, was when this girl I had a crush on, and I went to a gay bar and entered a dance competition and the drag queen interviewed everyone. She had fun talking to the hot straight man, and the lesbian couple, but when she asked who we were, we said we are Bi, and in front of the bar, she said "Oh I forget yall even exist" and the whole bar laughed. Like this is one play I try to feel validated, and I don't. I don't ever feel gay enough or straight enough. Its so hard.
damn that's awful
This. When I always tried to get a gf the girls would say I wasn't "gay enough" which, cool, fine, preference.
They prefer less feminine looking women, fine.
But when people were telling me "hey you know if you looked more feminine or more masculine maybe the other gender would like you?" Like what?!
It is
pan ppl rn : 😀
Yikes :/
I'm Bi and NB, so when people make the "bisexuality is inherently transphobic" argument I just burst out laughing.
Edit: so uhhh I'm just a trans girl now but I like the term demi-girl so I'm still technically NB!!!
Ayyye, same here! Nonbinary bisexuals rise up ✊💜
@@sw4mpy that sounds like an awesome combo 😊🤩
I'm nonbinary panromantic ace those that count
Me too! Nice to find other bi enbies :) 💖
Nonbinary bisexuals are so sexy and cool, I love it for us ❤
Oh my god- I’m a half Iranian biromantic individual who was born and raised in the South. I connect to this on a deep level. I really want to go see my family in Iran and the South but they can’t know. I’ll die in one place and be shunned in the other.
if youre biromantic fr you dont have to say anything . like seriously, what do you get by saying something? if you have a same-sex friend, they're literally your best friend. the only reason someone would be mad is if you want sex with them (aka bisexual)
Hey I'm bi and Persian too!! I'm sorry about your situation, I hope that one day it gets better and that you have a good support system or will find one
as a bisexual genderfluid person “bisexuals being transphobic” made me laugh 😭
I'm bi and non-binary and my girlfriend is bi and trans so I guess I hate myself and my girlfriend, huh. 😅
omggg me too bestiee
Bestie sameeee
Lmfao same im she/they and bi
I’m bi & trans so like guess I’m mephobic🚪 🏃♂️
As a person who identifies as lesbian I just wanna say bisexual people have to deal with so much and deserve to be treated better by the lgbtq+ community, all love to you guys
I'm sure the bisexual community as a whole would really appreciate that comment. Thank you for your support, sending love to y'all too💓 -sincerely, a very bi person
Thank you. Bisexuals are often attacked and feel not valid. People like you make Bisexuals genuinely so happy!
Love you
An oppressed bisexual
As a bi myself thank u for the comment!
The B in LGBTQ+ means bisexual. That is my ted talk.
As a pansexual (formerly bisexual), I second that statement. much love 💗💜💙
Sometimes I wish I could push my bisexuality away. I know if my father knew about it it would change our entire relationship, he’d want nothing to do with me. When my brother comes come and tells my family over dinner about his new girlfriend I want to be happy for him, but I’m just jealous. Don’t I deserve to have that too?
Big mood, until I was outed by my bro I wasn’t even going to tell anyone except my sister. Sending an internet hug if you want it, and either way also I hope you have a pleasant day
If you are bisexual you can get a girlfriend too? I think you seem to be homosexual/
also your father is pathetic if he lets any of your siblings have a girlfriend before marriage and he acts "religious" when you come out. absolute loser. of course, i am on the side of no sexual relationships before marriage, BUT i would accept your view over your father's because his is clearly hypocritical
“I have more sex appeal then I know what to do with”
Anthony, you are a gem
"Straight people don't feel this way" ... oh. That clarifies things... if I was straight, I would probably not be sitting here going "Both men and women are deliciously hot". That... actually helps, lol.
You’re welcome. ;)
I used to think everyone felt this way, some just have a preference or are afraid of discrimination.... Took me a while to realize I was wrong 😂
right? you'd think it is an obvious thing to know, but I also had to hear someone just straight-up say straight people don't feel anything for the same gender to actually realise lol it just felt so surreal like, wdym not everyone feels this way? is it not normal to be "confused"? I was a bit slow haha
@@tova1412 right?! I knew I was into women for years, but since I thought everyone was to some extent, I thought if I only date men I'm still straight lol
@•{crow}• that true
The “no honey not everyone feels this way, you’re just gay” really hit too close LOL
Trulyy
being a bisexual girl who is currently into a guy is so difficult 😭 all my lesbian friends treat me like ive betrayed them or something
What do they think Bisexual means?
im biromantic so when someone says "well have you had s3x with a girl?" i tell them im biROMANTIC not biSEXUAL, and that i've only had romantic and platonic crushes
Lmfao.
I’ve been thinking about it for a while and I think I’m biromantic heterosexual, but I don’t want to confirm that until I’ve actually had sex a couple times with both genders (for context I’m a virgin)
isn't that just being a normal close friend? i have many of those in both genders but dont see the urge to announce that i am "biromantic"; also im quite not sure how you can be romantic but not sexual? maybe give examples of some distinctions? im not trying to trick you or anything. i just dont have the same understand as you since im not biromantic. i would like to learn
personally though, i'd have a lot of respect for someone who is biromantic over someone who is bisexual (by this i mean someone who is engages in sex with both sexes, which means they change partners often or cheat, also hypersexual- i am fine with people who are sexually attracted to both sexes, since that seems to be the case with most people to some degree). i just dont understand the drives for this. what do you want to get out of it that is greater than a normal friendship (best friend)?
I have done some research, and I'm starting to get it. I still don't see how this is different than a normal relationship (girlfriend/boyfirend). Even before the LGBTQ+ movement, girls used to have "girlfriends" as a normal thing, (could be platonic), just typically not at the same romantic level as a boyfriend.
And tbh, a platonic love seems pretty much the same as two really close high school or college friends of the same gender. I personally don't understand why it needs a classification beyond "best friend" unless you are looking at a long term relationship.
Saying that bisexuality is transphobic or excludes trans people is not only wrong, it is also transphobic in itself because it implies that trans men and trans women are not men and women.
If bisexuality was exclusionary of anyone (which it isn't) it would be non-binary people. Not just trans people in general.
But the "bi" meaning 2 does refer to 2 genders anyways. It refers to 2 types of attraction. "Homo" means same and "hetero" means different. So homosexuality is attraction to people of the same gender as you, while heterosexuality is attraction to a different gender from your own. Bisexuality is experiencing BOTH kinds of attraction - same gender attraction and different gender attraction. It has never implied that there is only 2 genders.
EXACTLY 💯💯💯
yes, and memento mori
As a bi I completely agree with this statement
Also, o7 memento mori
thank you for clearing this up because I'm confused. So then what's the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality then? (I identify as pansexual specifically to not exclude any genders)
@@Mauiohwowie there really is no difference it's just what you want to call yourself
It took me YEARS to realize that me repeatedly telling myself "man, if i was a guy i'd totally try to date that girl" was not straight behavior and that i was, in fact, just lamenting over the fact that it seemed like i was not allowed to date girls cause only guys could do that. no girl, u were bi the whole time girl
Oh mood. This was me
Same. I alway thought: yeah, that's what other hetero girls think too right?
I used to think having minor crushes on attractive women was just a thing that everyone experiences.
I know this comment is from a year ago, but I have to say I felt this way too. I tried to force myself to feel attracted to a fictional dude because I thought it was unfair that I could only be with the opposite sex, and I didn't realize until very recently that that is NOT a straight thing to do, and that, hey, I can be with anyone of any sex if I want to.
As a bi female, this video makes me happy 🥺
I wonder what would have happened if your mother was bisexual and chose a female partner instead
@@bobbyiscool she would have lived a happy life with her partner 😁💅
@@bobbyiscool So what? Whoever a parent chooses as a partner regardless, the parent deserves to have a partner that makes them happy and as long as the partner (regardless of gender) is respectful to the family everything is okay
@@ryujuice9693 okay then its not a family no more
@@bobbyiscoolso what????
‘No honey not everyone feels this way, you’re just gay’, that simple line was the most relatable thing in the whole video,
I unintentionally was denying who I was because I thought that what I was feeling was normal and that everyone felt like that sometimes, then on the day that I came out to my best friend she said she was already suspicious of it cause of how I talked about this girl that I said was love at first sight, thinking abt it now, you can’t get more obvious than that but for some reason at the time it’s like I had convinced myself so much that I was straight, that a situation like that seemed completely normal to me
pov: you're a bisexual watching this for no informational value because you already know everything about bisexuality (edit: please stop commenting if this isn't you, I'm tired of the notifications lol)
and maybe find out in the comments section if anyone is going through what you are going through at the moment, so yeah.
i feel called out
Ayy lets go same here
yyyyyup
Yeah, that's me :)
ive always loved how anthony is respectful towards whoever he's spending a day with, he's such a empathetic person!
anthony is probably the last guy who would ever get canceled
I’m still really happy about the one he did with nonbinary people. Even though there was a lot of transphobia in the comments, he was being respectful. And I love that
@@tiffanyhuang3115 youd be surprised but yeah i agree
I feel like he’s always low key making fun of them maybe it is the feel of his show
@@Boxofcare666 uh how? Elaborate.
a funny thing happened today, my friend and I came out as bi to each other at the same time. I'm literally so happy because I didn't think she even accepted
My dad would *constantly* try to make me comfortable with the occasional comment of; "By the way, if you come out as gay, I'll still love you."
Late into my teens, I come out as Bi and he has a long moment of processing before going; "Wh-.. Y-.. That's not how that works! It's one or the other!"
He's still getting used to it, but he's trying.
He is a weirdo
I bet he thinks that going around and having sex with random people is bad, how dare he
SAME he did that, but also expressed how non-gay he was, strange, maybe deepdown he was gay, either way NC baby! (he was a bad guy)
When she said “when you tell people you are bi they feel the need to ask for your sexual history” I FELT that. Not only sexual history but “we’ll have you ever actually DATED a girl or do you just kiss them when you’re drunk” makes my blood BOIL.
I feel you mate, that was basically the soundtrack for my late teens.
No seriously.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Me too! I actually recently had someone say this to me! My friend had to bail me out of the conversation before I blew my lid.
Bruh, I'm one of those people who don't give a damn about sexuality unless I want to relate to the person.
The whole "being bisexual is transphobic" is so incredibly hurtful to the bi community bc if they did some bi theory research reading they'd know there is a 90's Bisexual Manifesto & in the manifesto the following is stated "Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own." & like caso cerrado wey✌
It kinda bothered me when he said that bisexuality meant “any two genders”. It’s meant “two or more” for quite some time now.
@@EyeconicLaura Wouldn’t that fall under Pansexual tho?
Because I know a lot of people debate Bisexuality as attraction towards people who identify as female/male. Some people seem to exclude trans people from this, due to them not being born whichever gender.
Pansexuality from what I’ve gathered is an attraction to however one may identify, and regardless of what’s been someone’s legs, so it’s more fluid and open to other genders outside of cis folks
@@Spookynymph pansexuality is more about a lack of preference or how when it comes to attraction, gender isn’t even part of the equation. Bisexuality can still include any gender, but gender is a factor in attraction for bi people. The two widely overlap but the distinction matters for some and that’s perfectly valid, so long as no one is trying to insinuate that bisexuality is inherently transphobic or that pansexuality is inherently biphobic.
@@EyeconicLaura can you describe a little more what you mean when you say gender is a factor v.s. it not being a factor?
@@jazmync3880 I'm bi, and I see gender is factor as that you can for examble like womens more than the other gender(s). That you prefer one or more genders over the rest. When being pansexual the gender completely doesn't matter, you don't prefer any, so it's not a factor.
I remember the time when I came out to my dad and he was like "yeah sure" and then a month later I repeated that in some conversation with him and he was like "oh so your still bisexual" ofc I am
And there was this one stage in life where I was like "wait am I falling for girls too?" yes I am but I am not falling every girl I see y'all gotta remember like I still sleep on my friends lap and never got a feeling for her
my mom thought my bisexuality was caused by my depression, that i was simply 'desperate' for people to give me love and attention, even though despite coming out i continued to not date until i felt mentally healthy enough. everyone's just trying to find an excuse to erase it
As a bisexual person I was so ready for this one. Can’t wait to give my opinions of these questions.💞
P.S. would love a video about spending a day with binary trans people.
Same
same lets go bisexuals
Yassss, I was so excited too
@UCs9ESLwgctnv4PVtLUTyILg ur right we are gay !! anyways learn some manners weirdo
Samee
I’m Glad we got some great bi representation , I’m a lesbian myself, but I feel the need to aggressively support bisexual people even more, due to the fact that some lesbians are extremely biphobic. You’re all valid and beautiful, and so are your feelings and identity
Thank you! I’m a bi woman who has been leaving towards wanting to date women these days. And the amount of hate from lesbians is breaking my heart. No I’m not a cheater. No I’m not trying to entice men. Yes bi includes trans attraction (which can lead to severely transphobic lesbians). I hate feeling so invalidated from my own community.
Thank you! I'm still new to being bi and have a lot to learn because I realized I was bi and came out only a few months ago. (The signs of me being bi were always there it just took until high school to realize) I've heard about biphobic lesbians though so reading this made me very happy! 💖💜💙
@@mandachris7146 I also never understood this. I am also a lesbian, but interestingly all my serious gfs identified as bi or pan. Some lesbians I think are too insecure and can't understand that being bi doesn't necessarily means that eventually you'll miss the D and will cheat.
Thank you. ♡ also, ur username is awesome n funny.
@@walky2 exactly. I have the biphobia. Men think that just means we want to have threesomes with them. Or think that we are just trying to get mens attention. Or that I’m a closet lesbian. It’s tiring
As a bisexual this help me come out thank you anthony also love the videos
I recently came out to my parents and people that I'm close to and luckily they support me in every way possible. I really enjoy watching these videos about people sharing their journey are really informtive to me and I can relate to most of the things they say.
As a bisexual in a "hetero" relationship, the struggle is so HSKSNFJSKKSKS so many questions i hate hearing!!!
LET ME LOVE HIM WITHOUT HAVING TO EXPLAIN MYSELF!
besides its also annoying that they're saying I'm not queer, I'm literally non binary and bisexual stfu
Our generation in a nutshell
okay but literally everyone thinks they’re non binary now because they dgaf about gender norms when 99% of y’all aren’t having actual gender issues.
I’m not saying you’re not nb (im nb and have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria), just an observation I’ve made.
@@jellie1188 well it's an observation you made, ok. but this isn't the place to put that observation out, make your own comment about this under a relevant video because otherwise, you're just coming at this person for being nonbinary.
tl;dr: you're being rude as hell.
The struggle is so HSKSNFJSKKSKS?
@@larsswig912 what’s tl;dr mean ?
When she said that it doesn’t matter if you have only dated one gender, you can still be bi it made me so happy. I’m bisexual but I haven’t dated a woman and I’m with a man currently. I’m not completely out but some of the people who know have asked me how I know and it makes me doubt myself. Her saying that felt really validating.
I was in the same boat. I tried to convince myself that being with a male “made me straight”. However, the attraction to females never went away even when I tried to push it away. Your completely valid and I hope that you have a great life. Much love and support though your life :)
Your attraction is valid and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Wish you all the best 👍🏻
I have only dated men and I'm married to one and it's not my intention to ever be with anyone else but at the same time. For that reason, I don't feel completely confortable using the label bisexual, I'm more likely to say things like "I'm not 100% straight" or " I find women attractive too" or whatever in those lines.
just a psa!!!
bisexual does not say ‘there are only two genders’
bisexual does not say ‘i am only attracted to two genders’
bisexual DOES say ‘i am attracted to more than one gender’ and that can include your own.
if you are attracted to all genders or just more than two you can still be bisexual !! all just your personal preference for labels :)
Pretty much
I'm fully Iranian and this 7:36 is exactly why I'm not coming out to my family there nor publicly as bi. She is a very strong woman for being herself and letting the world know that. I would miss my country too and family too much for that sacrificse.
comments and names i’ve been called as a bi woman:
-“switch hitter”
-“flip a damn coin already”
-“why won’t you have a threesome with me?”
-“so you think there are only two genders, right?”
-“who do you like more? women or men?”
-“how does that work? are you turned on by men and am in love with women or the opposite?”
- LAST BUT NOT LEAST MY *FAVORITE*: “she’s switching over to women because her boyfriend hurt her so bad”
I'm sorry you had to go through that,I believe love is love. I have gay, lesbian and bi friends and I support them no matter their sexual orientation. I really hope you find people who accepts you for you.
@@leslie-annjones5321 thank you so much for your kind words, i don’t let any of it get to me because i live in a city where the LGBTQIA+ community is accepted but questioned but nevertheless it isn’t right
i got called a double dipper once-
I straight up got called the f-slur in middle school with my first girlfriend
i was once called a wet noodle for not being straight
"The hardest person to come out to was myself" No, because, that's exactly it. I grew up in a Christian home as well and I went through so much shit, a lot from my family but most myself. It was so hard to actually come to terms with it but honestly, once you do, it's so rewarding to finally accept it and love your sexuality
Glad you found yourself now
same! im happy that u accept urself now :))
Same
i swear, when i came out as bi, there were tears. When i came out as trans, there was tears. Just goes to show that I was told to never be or reveal any of this to anyone, but Im so glad i got this off my chest...
I'm Bi and my current BF is the only person I've really been with ever and I don't plan on ever losing him or letting him go.
Well good luck
It’s interesting to see how all of us has had such different experiences. We all struggled but in different ways especially with the different times now
Honestly I can't imagine being close minded enough and be so insecure and feel threated by what and who people like and how they identify
Oh really. The way society works today is pathetic. If someone has an opinion that follows with contemporary trends its completely accepteble, but if u say that u don't give a shit about trans people or don't support them (which is your constitutional right to have an opinion) there will a shitstorm.
@@Joewho. what?
@@Joewho. just as it is your right to have an opinion. it is also others' right to villify your opinion. If you are going to make your opinion public, prepare to be scrutinized. Of course people will make a fuss if you say you are indifferent to a group based on their chosen gender (despite any opinions you have on LGBTQ in the first place). I, personally, do not blame you as long as you don't actively go out of your way to bring down any groups based on race or gender. I don't blame others for disliking you for being unsupportive either, as long as they also do not go out of their way to bring you down.
@@Joewho. Constitutional is what the government can't do to you, the government won't stop you, however what you say and do has consequences and the people you effect are allowed to choose those consequences, and not being an asshole to people for things they can't control isn't a "contemporary trends", If you don't care that's fine but atleast leave them alone and understand what these people go through and if you're an asshole to them well then talk shit get hit
@@Joewho. It's one thing to be part of the lgbtq+, it's not hurting anybody. It's another to actively look down on another person and say that they are less worth because of them doing something and loving people, which hurts nobody
I'm so glad to have the president of bisexuality, Jessie Paige, on this video 💗💙💜
Lol I misspelled her surname, just bi girly things ✨✨🤭
Jessie is SO beautiful 🥺
Yes...
same
I watched just for her ❤️
She was so real for calling both on them on that pic hot 😭 lmao
4:05
why is nobody talking about this? the fact that she mentioned not caring he was trans as a realization of being bi thing, i find that a bit weird
straight girls can still be attracted to trans men, lesbians can be attracted to trans women, etc (even if they're not fully transitioned or not transitioned at all. a lot of people actually dont care)
When Roxy said that she’s Iranian, I immediately started crying. I’m also Iranian and I very recently moved out of Iran for many reasons but my sexuality as a bisexual has always been one of my biggest concerns and it just broke my heart how some of us can’t go back to our countries because we aren’t safe there because of who we are
im so sorry you have to go through that
@@sainaina it’s whatever I’m just glad I’m out of that hellhole now :)
I’m Iraqi so I relate :( it sucks how our families also don’t feel like a safe space
I also live in an Islamic state so I relate too. but I'm still living here and it's not just my sexuality that's the problem, I'm also no longer a believer which is also gonna get me killed here. honestly I love my country and if I was straight and still Muslim, I'd 100% continue living here. my family is here, this is the land where I was born, the place where they speak my language. I don't want to leave, but I have no choice but to do it for my safety. and let's not even think about how my family will react...
omg youre so lucky :( im still stuck in this hellhole.
I love how Anthony is always respectful to all the people he interviews
Same here!
Its always refreshing to see interviewers lettings there guests to just talk there mind with out jugging them for it
@@Red_Devil_Stew and he doesn't force them to answer anything, it's always "are you confortable talking about...."
@@simpalert9323 Yes! comfortably it helps so much in the interviews having the comfort the support, It truly feels more authentic like their not hesitant about speaking their mind they feel safe in the way that you get every thing un-filtered
Anthony4President
"Double the opportunity to be alone" did not have to roast that hard! Damn, lol.
Would honestly love just to be asked questions like this, getting questioned like this I feel would be a great way to gain a new understanding of your own thoughts, getting a chance to sort them out and thoroughly talk about what your thoughts are on certain subjects
when i saw this i literally gasped and said "I'M a bisexual"
Same
Hell yeee
I did the same with the agoraphobia episode. 🙃
Glad you found yourself lmao! i’m bi and closeted so i just tried to find some bisexual video :) this is perfect
When you don’t got much going for you and the little things cause a little too much child-like excitement XD (not making fun I do this XD)
"The hardest person to come out to was myself" as someone who took 7 years to come to terms with it..... yeah 😅
Took me 16 years lmao , its rough
so proud of you :)
it took me two years when i realized
Around 3 years for me 😅
***Correction***
Bisexual means: attracted to males and females
Pansexual means: attracted to everyone (including trans, non binary, etc.)
I know because I thought I was bisexual until I realized that I was really attracted to everyone not just males and females.
Actually bisexual is attraction to 2 or more genders and pansexual is attraction regardless of gender. Whilst bi does mean 2, the definition was updated to be inclusive of our modern understanding of gender and orientation. Bisexual is also used as an umbrella term, as it encompasses all attractions to more than one gender, as well as its own identity. Pansexuality does fall under the bi umbrella. And also trans isn't a separate gender, trans men and women are still men and women, you arent bi or pan or whatever else if you like a trans person
i am pansexual and the definition i believe is that bi is attraction to 2 or more genders and pan is attraction to anyone regardless of gender
departing trans and non binary people from any sexuality is transphobic btw. all sexualities include them. bi and pan CAN be synonyms.
I just say I'm bi/pan... I just like the bi flag colours better... sryyy :(
@@hy3na739 reasonable
I will never understand why people are so offended by who you prefer to be with
Same
"Everyone doesn't NEED a label, not everyone has a label that they even want to identify with, and not everyone wants to advertise a label at all..." Oh, this is so VERY true! As I've said elsewhere, labels are a convenient shorthand, like how I identify as a versatile switch, but labels are not pigeonholes that everyone fits neatly into--or NEEDS to fit neatly into a slot. The problem I have is when someone feels the need to reduce people to just a convenient label and nothing else, something that other folks feel even more strongly about and with good reason. We are more than just the labels we choose for ourselves, let alone the labels that others try to put on us--especially when those labels just don't suit us--and I refuse to be reduced to just one category when I am many things in one unique package.
I feel this, like I use labels so it’s easier to describe to others but now I feel wrong using a label for my gender because it’s 2 different things at once
@@wiliamarg If you don't feel comfortable with a given label, then don't use it. Like I said, they're a useful shorthand, not a convenient pigeonhole, and people should never be reduced to _just_ a label.
I like to think of labels as this:
They're merely stickers, not slots or boxes. You are still you without the sticker
@@theblaze5530 Now that's how labels SHOULD be viewed!
Thank you so much for having me on!! This was such a cool experience, I’m so honored to be in the same video as so many amazing people. I hope this video helps some baby bi’s in their journey, much love to all of you 🖤🖤🖤
I knew I would find your comment!
Your tattoos are really cool!
Year late but when I came out to my family, all my aunt could say was “you’re not Bisexual unless you’ve had sex with a guy. So have you had sex with a guy?” And all I told her was “my personal life is none of your business” every time she said that
I love that you ask such respectful questions to the different communities you interview to give insight into lesser known topics
I realized in 8th grade when I had a huge crush on this girl.
When I told my mom her response was “Me too”
My half sister came out as bi and I used that to test the waters with my dad, safe to say I will not be coming out to him.
I’m sorry, I’m glad you have a community within your family though.
As a bisexual (possibly omni) Christian, I really loved this. I'm tired of being told that being bi is a sin and more. I just want to be accepted and loved and my sexuality isn't going to change anything ☺💙💜💗
Edit: I am Omnisexual. I don't identify as bisexual anymore nor do I identify as a Christian anymore. I identify as an agnostic theist
As another Christian bisexual, your sexuality is valid and not a sin. God made you the way you are and there’s nothing to be ashamed of 💗💜💙
Me toooo
Ayeee I finally found another bi christian :) 💕💜💙
ayo hey christian bi fam
May I join the Bi Christian gang? :) 💙💜💟
I'm a bisexual in a relationship with another bisexual, it's very annoying how much you're told to "pick a side" or even "so you're a transphobe"
another great episode. Thnx Anthony and guests!
My first lesbian partner didn't believe me when I said I was bisexual, and she shrugged me off as someone who was just bi-curious. It eventually led to our breakup because she didn't take the relationship seriously, thinking that I'd replace her when a straight man comes along.
Its sad how a lot of people don't consider bisexuality valid, even sadder when the people you think would understand didn't.
It ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm sorry you went through that and hope you found better partners in your journey
As a bisexual, I'm living for this video 😌
Same
Same
Same
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@@urmom-xs6vl i like your pfp :)
you know, I never understood using the word "gay" as an insult, but now I'm a goddamn Sophmore and I'm still hearing people say "that's so gay" all the time.
It’s honestly funny for me now cause when ever someone says “your gay” as an insult I’ll just say “I know?!” And the look of shock on their face is priceless
as a gay who frequently hangs out in gay circles, the phrase "that's so gay" is usually used as a way of self-deprecation or ironically
i love watching jessie and listening to mad’s music!! i was so happy when i saw them in the video :)
I've heard the "bisexual implies only two genders" thing and my response always is "does bicycle imply only two wheels exist?"
When it comes to feeling like you have to be 50/50 to be bisexual I think it's a problem with the language we use to describe an incredibly complex phenomenon like sexuality. We use such simplistic terms like "straight" "gay" and "bisexual" when in reality it's not that simple. Also it's not 50/50 for me; it's more like 100/80
especially since bisexuakity has ooenly andnofficially inclided non-binary genders since the 70s. but as soon as the pan label got more popular around 2015-2017, all of a sudden we are biphobic and liking nb people makes you inherently pan 🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴
But.. bicycle does imply that only two wheels exist
@@qannicc no. it implies that a bicycle only has 2 wheels. not that, in the ime tire world, there are 2 wheels only.
but yes, the analogx doesn't fit entirely onto bisexuality. yet the bi vommunity became fully aware of nb identities in the 70s and bisexuality includes people with nb attraction since then at the latest. the bi in bisexual now stands for being attravted to AT LEAST *two* genders. not ONLY two genders
What Mad said was great, that 'bilingual'' does not imply that there are only two languages, in the same way that 'bisexual' does not imply there are only two genders
Roxy telling the viewers that “the only person who can identify u as gay is urself” makes my confusion over my sexuality fixed. My sister called me a lesbian cuz I only dated one woman before and never dated a man. Me not dating a guy doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to them. I love both genders equally and that’s what proves to myself that I’m bisexual.
I feel you. I've only ever dated men, but that doesn't mean my attraction to women is suddenly gone. Whatever label you choose to assign to yourself (or maybe you choose none, that's ok too), you're still valid ♥️
and your ass if you Catch My Drift
I am bisexual but I haven’t dated anyone :’)
@@buzzbuzzbee3850 Based on biphobe logic, that would make you ace (obligatory /j)
Cue my mother saying i'm lesbian after me telling her my first time was with a girl... Turns out I'm ace so that's even funnier cause then none of my sexual history is valid cause I was never truly sexually attracted to them (i was inmy self discovery era)
Omg hi Roxy halfway through my Anthony Padilla binge
it's good that there was a discussion about the difference between bisexual and biromanic, for the longest time i thought i was just the former, but then i read excerpts from biromance stories and realized that i was both
*TL;DR: the term* *_"spicy-straight"_* *is a biphobic/bi-erasure term that is common in the LGBT.*
I am bi and for the longest time (especially in the LGBT community) I was made to feel like I was just what they called "spicy straight." Because I am a top. It really messed me up and put me back in the closet for years.
But it made me angry because I knew what they were insinuating. That mindset where they believe that bi people are only a thing because we just want to fuck everything and me being a top confirmed that to them. This is why I understood where she was coming from when she clarified that 1:10 "I am attracted to men and women I find attractive." This attitude is only more obvious when they say "I don't date bi people because I think they will cheat on me." If they do, they didn't cheat on you because they were bi. But because they were a cheater. Also a specific one but, the idea that they will not date bi-men who are tops because they sound like selfish lovers. The idea being that we just want a hole to fuck. (Been told this gem more than once.)
Oh, also the whole "gold star gay/lesbian" where they see you as spoiled goods because you had sex with the opposite gender before. But that is just pure biphobia than just bi-erasure.
It is frustrating because gay people know how patronizing it is to come out to a straight friend and have them go "well, as long as you don't hit on me." But they are not the least bit self-aware when they think bi people want to fuck everything that moves.
One of the first people I came out to told me that they’d never date a bi person because she thought they would cheat
What does TL;DR mean ?
@@gabrielle3362 too long didn’t read or TL;DR
@@gabrielle3362 too long; didn’t read
the term "gold star" is the one that was popular when i was in school. lesbians would completely ridicule you if you werent a gold star (meaning being with only women) , and it fk'd me up for a while tbh
Can we appreciate the fact that Anthony Padilla is such a sweet, understanding and patient guy. He is so respectful to everyone in his interviews.
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I watched Smosh when I was younger and felt of it way before the break up and now I discovered what Anthony been up to and I am surprised how much I love it.
The style, how he can adapt to serious topics and light hearted ones while giving every guest the same respect is really refreshing
I know this will get drowned out but, thank you Anthony. I came out as bi to my self when I started high school. I’m 22 now btw. I grew up extremely religious and was told it was a phase. My mom found out by going though my phone before, I went to school. I was completely broken. It lead to me beginning to self harm regularly. My family choose to “forget” that day. My mom threatened to send me to a blind pastor. Her reasoning was that “he won’t see me so, it will be better”. That never happened but, I was terrified. My family is very involved with the church. I know that my story is not the worse but, to hear others gives me comfort. I’m just thankful my friends accepted me and want to understand. My current boyfriend is very supportive which, helps me be comfortable with myself. It is true that what gender your dating can effect the view of the outside world. I have been told that I’m just “faking” since, I’m dating a male.
I haven’t self-harmed in month’s btw:). Again, thank you for reading this and much love to everyone.
Glad to hear things are looking up for you. People in the church can often be blinded by overly religious things and forget to prioritize love. Anyways, figured I’d reply since ur story sounded interesting and I was just scrolling thru comments
@@PumpKeen I just want to say thank you. I didn’t think anyone would care to read my comment. Like I said, my story isn’t the worse, but I’m always open to tell it if it can somehow help others. Thanks again :)
Hey there. I'm really sorry to hear that you went through such a tough time. You're not alone, I went through a very similar experience and ended up in a psych ward after a TW!!!
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I hope that things get easier for you. I'm sending all the very bestest vibes to you. Know that you are who you are meant to be, in the place where you are meant to be too. I wish you peace.
@@ezraspencer3571 best vibes back and thank you :)
@Hayley Bagels leave these people alone, this is not appropriate here. and no one appreciates it when people like you start an argument.
That, "I don't care," is such as asexual mood too. I've had crushes on a variety of people regardless of gender, just not interested in the sexual aspects of relationships the same way as others. In a way, both bi and ace are like invisible orientations because everyone either assumes you're straight if you're with someone where you look like it's straight, and others think you're just hiding behind a label because you're actually gay and don't feel safe saying it.
I’m both ace and bi so I felt that. x)
Biromantic ace = damn near invisible
I have heard this so many times, "you don't understand because you're not gay." I'm bi, and I'm married to a man. A pretty masculine, old fashioned guy. Because of that people assume I'm straight. I still feel attraction to women, but I have committed myself to my husband because thats my person. My life goals, my values, my morals align with him. That doesn't mean I'm straight, and being bi doesn't mean I feel the need to cheat on my husband to feel fulfilled.
I'm pretty sure every human being on the planet can be attracted to the same sex? You are only bisexual if you have a very strong **sexual** attraction with that person upon seeing them. For example, most men are attracted to women just off seeing their bodies and shapes. BUT most men would also "enjoy" sex with a man (for reasons), but simply do not have that same level of attraction upon sight. I'm not quite sure if women also view men in this same way. If not, ignore what I said, my argument is wrong for women. But if that is true and your attraction towards women is not as strong as I suggested, you have no distinction from the majority of people on the planet.
But I have total respect if you are bisexual but stay committed to the person. Men can't stop sexual attraction to women outside of their wife, but they can control that emotion. That is all I ask for in people. Going around and having random sex and dates (especially if underage) is a huge problem today. It used to be mostly a straight issue, but now its all spectrums. I just don't think society should be hypersexualized at all...regardless of what orientation it goes with. Your body count should be one, if possible.
I remember my mom said "I don't think you are bi I just think girls get confused when they think another girl is pretty and they think it means they are attracted to them". I told my dad when my sister told him she is a lesbian and he was telling me how he didn't accept it and it is a sin and I told him I was bi as a response and he literally acted like I didn't say it. Didn't acknowledge the words at all. My grandma said she always knew. So I've tried telling my parents but they don't take me seriously 🤷🏼♀️