Want More Confidence? Be More Selfish! - Dr. Aziz, Confidence Coach
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[Be More Selfish...Not exactly what you think of when you think of how to build your self confidence.
Are you ready to discover a surprising trick to becoming infinitely more confident in yourself? Do you want to feel bolder, stronger, and more fearless?
Today, I’m going to share an extremely powerful trick that will help you master confidence in all areas of your life. This trick may end up feeling counterintuitive, but that’s only because it probably goes against everything you’ve been taught.
So, what is this possibly controversial trick I’m dying to share with you today?
If you want to begin to develop ultimate confidence, you need to start being more selfish.
This, of course, must sound crazy to you-selfishness is supposed to be this ugly quality! Even as children, we’re taught that we’re supposed to share everything.
How can becoming selfish possibly help me develop confidence?
Well, to begin with, there is a spectrum of selfishness-let’s say on one end you have Henry VIII, and on the other you have Mother Teresa. While we all wish we could be as perfect as Mother Teresa, it’s not practical to expect that of mere mortals in modern society. What I have found, however, is that most people tend to lie closer to that end of the spectrum than the other.
This might sound ideal-and it definitely says great things about how Western society has progressed since the 1500’s-
but if this mindset of complete selflessness becomes habit to the point of self-denial and self-neglect, we do ourselves and our dreams a disservice.]
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i care too much for others and I usually don't realize it until I get hurt
dp driz same here
That's why I don't get what I really want and everyone else does :/
Iam too
Same here,i want to be selfish
Religions tell us to be humble but never tell us the limits that's why we should draw a line of whether the one deserves our niceness or not... because at the end god also do the same..And if God wants you to do something good to someone he'll put love in your heart for the one he wants to help through you but draw a line... you're the way only if you truly love someone that's natural but if you are saying I'm gonna do good to someone who's evil and bad that's where you're being stupid and that's what it's all about...that's where we should start listening to our brain and find out what we really want for others and what they deserves...But Never help bad people or you think are the bad people because even god Dont help them...Be rational there are way more good people or creatures that needs you're prayers and help done with them that would be enough
"You are not the only saviour, everyone's got other resources."
#TRUTH
No one Is responsible for each other's happiness do what makes you happy!
I like what you said
That's actually deep
anthony siders well said ... you can't live your life according to other people expectations...and people only treat you the way you let them....
Thanks
I'll do what makes me happy, I'll have an obscene amount of money, luxury and possessions, be outrageously posh and have people have a bad reaction to me because I just said posh! Then I will kill everything because the whole world hates good things and best people, that way I will be happy. :(
Roger that.!
Dude it took me 25 years to learn all this. I fully understand every single word you just said.
Adelina Monroe 36 for me. 35 actually
Adelina Monroe I'm blissful you have got the right response .... I wish you well in your journey.... be well
38 here. Ex co-dependent. My last relationship ended because of boundaries. I think I probably dated a co-dependent who excepted me to read her mind. I constantly let her know I’m here for you, just please let me know what you need and want and if I can, I’ll more than happily help. Otherwise, I want to take 100% care of my 50% for and because of this relationship. She told me I’m not compassionate.
How the hell did it take you 25 years to learn this if a child doesn’t understand these concepts. Maybe in your later teens and early 20’s but not a whole 25 years.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
you don't owe anybody anything. you owe it to yourself and once others start seeing that, you get more respect. with more respect, comes confidence afterwards.
Very well summed up. thank you!
The thing is when I’m narcissistic I’m more able to help others like those in need. When I think selflessly my depression and ADHD kicks in and I start thinking I should kill myself over things like not being “sociable enough” (fake enough in this system of selfish people who expect you to engage with them). Maybe it’s a personal thing.
damnthis a
@@starx8775 it's not personal.. even I have the same issues with me
What about if end up dead. Let me tell you tomb stones are full of selfish people.
This is so true. I'm going through a period at the moment where I have to ask myself, 'What are people giving me?' And the answer is 'very little!'.
Sounds like you might need upgrade the quality of people you're interacting with.
I kept telling a girl that I didn't want to be more than friends because I didn't want to hurt her feelings.
She called me a narcissist.
I took a quiz on the Internet (I know this isn't a real diagnosis) and it actually said I was not even a healthy narcissist.
She took it and she was more of a narcissist than myself.
The 'healthy narcissism' is probably the 'selfish' you are talking about.
I let people walk all over me.
They can basically shoot my legs off and within an hour, I'd forgive them and tell them it's alright.
So being more selfish, telling and asking others for what I need, saying no, rejecting people, etc. is something I REALLY need to do because I've struggled with it for so long and I'm constantly being used when someone needs me because they know I'd be there.
Billy Rowe
Bro you’re spot on
This is my 2022 focus. Self care and selfishness.
Yes!
You hit the nail on the head!!!!! I am a selfless person get screwed over ALL the time.
You're not alone! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
What I like about this the most is that he has experienced what I'm experiencing, overcame it, and then starting speaking to us about how to be more confident in a way I can relate. And, he seems like an actual nice guy whose also respectable because he respects himself. That's what I want to be as a woman.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
When he says "you can only feel guilty if you already feel bad" I almost dropped my whiskey
Key point... "almost" :)
I've struggled with this my entire life. I'm a good person but I don't wanna be perceived as a saint though.
True just avoid toxic people and welcome good ones and always be selfish inside.
aman brother
phillyfan182 I feel the same way, I feel that my body language and presence makes people think that I am way to gentle and anxious. I absolutely hate how it shows.
Maddie O just ignore angry toxic funny people trust me I wasted decades thinking about them. Just ignore them like black smoke that escapes chimneys. And do your work evrry hour. Once you done enough work for a year relax and travel with a friend. Simple and keep a garden it enriches your life. Also read books every weekend all these are far interesting adventurous than thinking about bad people which is black smoke toxic.
It certainly can be a real struggle. Keep at it though and you'll find a balance that works,
I agree with this 100%. It's about balance.
Absolutely. Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I have been nice person through out my life not knowing that people are taking you for granted.When you step up to take control or reply back to ppl.That is whn I guilt feeling steps in ...I am not able to be live fullest of my potential..I couldn't figure out my problem until now ....
Exactly what I think. I feel this to an extreme level. So also because I am inclined a bit towards religion too which for sure teaches you to be selfless. But this way of conduct/feeling hasn't given me anything. I feel good when I agree with others. It gives me this extreme feeling of goodness and hapiness on the contrary I feel more guilt when I go opposite. I dont know how to tackle this. I just want to keep a balance in this where it leads me to benefit out a bit also.
I’ve learned that being a little mean for self benefits is okay ! You can take care of yourself and they can take. Are of themselves. They are not stupid !
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Whatever you do, not everyone is going to be grateful. Not everyone is your friend. So although you must be kind to others, don't be soft. And never tell others your plans, especially at work. They might use it against you. Respect others, but respect yourself more.
Always respect yourself more!
I bought your book “ NOT NICE. Even though my English is still processing. But your book help me a lot to learn English and to improve myself. 🙏 Thanks 🙏
A side benefit I hadn't even considered! :)
Altruism out of fear sets you up for regret a lot of times. We should ask "what do I want?" instead of "what should I do"?
Good reasoning process Maria!
You're helping us a lot Dr. Aziz. Thank you.
treat me right ....be nice to me ..but go wrong the beast comes out ..is a give and take
I'll remember that! :)
great video, i feel alot of people just feel guilty for saying no.
Family puts these feelings in you on purpose
They want you to serve them without questioning so they teach you from a young age that the word NO is a bad thing and you must die if you say it
Am lucky I got this message
I don't know I find that kind of weird how do you feel guilty from saying no
It’s a journey, there’s a difference between self-centred and selfish!
I’m laughing because this video could have been said in 3 mins, but I enjoyed the transition, thank you.
You're welcome!
You must value yourself first
Absolutely!
Thank you ! I am Blessed to find you , I was looking for help to stop being used and hurt by everyone!!! I start now the work on me !!! No means NO !!! The End of thinking about it !
Awesome! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
focus on yourself! it needs practice
Practice is extremely important.
It’s true and I have to be more selfish. Whenever I haven’t been selfish and wanted to help everyone all the time, eventually I became resentful.
That is not at all uncommon.
@@GetMoreConfidence Why do you think that is?
He described me to T- yep, a compulsive fear alright, especially grown from early childhood bulling/abuse and the need to feel we HAVE to be like our Saviour is deeply ingrained and not beneficial but for me has been extremely dangerous. I have had so much evil done to me, being taken advantage of that I end up losing it and being abused like a criminal by Police and in the Psychiatric Unit.
Wow, thank you for sharing your story.
@@GetMoreConfidence Thank YOU
I think.its important to stick up for yourself, first I thought you mean by selfish 'arrogant'
It so so true....
I realised it when I start getting pull for 2 different ways to help others
& I was feeling like I am not that good
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I’m in a miserable relationship I feel worried and anxious with my girlfriend and it’s like being in prison, but I’m worried that it will make her upset so I have been prolonging breaking up
If that's what is needed, I hope this information can give you the courage to do what you need to do either way.
I have broken a relationship in dating early stages we not even met yet saying he love me is sweet but far to early for that for me he upset a few times by what he said on text as i am becoming more selfish and staying what i want or dont like and being more confident as i am trying to be which is good thing he decided to leave its really his loss not mine i choose to care on myself thats not wrong being selfish . Men seem to want a damsel in distress type thing well i am not and am proud of it. Selfish is not bad unless to much as he said
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Get More Confidence i will thxs
Don't worry just be yourself and you'll attract your type.
I watch this pretty often just so I really get it in and understand it more and more. Really helps
I'm glad to hear that. Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I grew up in a household where just speaking up for myself was just non existent, so being confident and selfish was completely non existent, which led to being used and abused by people for many years
I think that is very important to say no when we don't want something and to accept when other people say to us "no" because they don't want
The simplest truths are the hardest to apprehend....u have to take care of yourself..nobody will. All the liabilities in this world stems from one's disability....Fate is merely one circumstance mixed with another...and who creates these circumstances?
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
All the people I have ever helped selflessly with my abilities have all tried to kill or destroy me afterwards. So, helping selflessly has come to an end for me.
This can be true in many cases loreta ben. Finding a new balance can be challenging, but also rewarding.
Your passion for topic and own suffering is visible.
It's just awesome how you overcome all these things and sharing your tools with others 👍🙂.
Thank you!
Your content has changed my life man
the first time I saw one of your video, i felt this energy inside me of flame and greatness. your videos are easy to practice and so inspiring. I thank God your word came into my life. Thank brother and God bless you.
Your channel is amazing. Thank you for doing these.
I watch your videos every night before I go to sleep for my self improvement. Your videos are helping me a lot. Thank you. Keep inspiring! May i have the courage to be who I am & to know in deep level that I am awesome. =)
You ARE absolutely awesome!
Starting from January 2023,
No more being nice, I will be more selfish for the betterment of myself.
Aziz(sp), I like your channel so much that I had to subscribe. You make excellent points.
Great to have you hear, dive right in! Be sure to take full advantage of all my free online resources…
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Love your channel! It has helped me a lot to connect with myself and be real around people. Wish you all the best
So grateful to hear that! Be sure and connect with me though my other resources as well...
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
3) Subscribe to my TH-cam channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week!
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4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/
5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them!
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I'm every selfish. Thank you so much wonderful!
Thanks Dr Aziz! Loved your Not Nice book and TH-cam content. It’s has helped me through one of the biggest challenges in life and a life time of being too nice. I’ve read so many self-help books but nothing has spoken to me like this. I only wish I could find a local men’s group. Keep up the good work. 👍🏼
I'm so grateful to hear that! Is there a chance you could come and join me at one of my live events?
Get More Confidence That would be amazing but I’m in FL. I should learn to be a touch more selfish and say yes! But I have guilt about leaving my daughter for too long. Excuses...probably? How do I learn more about the events?
You should absolutely say yes! It would benefit you and your daughter, both in the quality of life you would be inspired to bring to your household and the wisdom you would pass on to her. You can see events at the following URL. If you decide to just go for it and come to my June event I'll arrange for you to get the early bird special price of $197 that expired a couple of months ago: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
Unless you KNOW for a fact that the person would do the same for you and has shown this by actions, don’t feel bad. Most of these ppl wouldn’t do the same for you! The resentment will continue to build and you will end up hating the person. Ppl love taking advantage of selfless ppl, even “good” ppl.
#TRUTH
Wow you're amazing I love your style! 😁 Thank you
Thanks for this🙏
My pleasure 😊 Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Forget all that being Nice to anyone all what's for me belongs to me
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Real talk. Exactly the things i realised
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Yess..exactly
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Thank you..
You're welcome!
Not being stupid in sharing is not being selfish. Selfish is what I need to be right now.
You're not alone Diego.
Ty for the revelation of the ultimate medicine for confidence.
However, I hope you could increase the volume in certain areas and slow down a bit.
You could also group the ideas in order.
Thank you.
I love the way you explain things man, it really speaks to me.
I'm so grateful to hear that! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Thanks Dr. Aziz for your suggestion
Wow unbelievable it was like you were in my head.
Thank Dr Aziz, I just wanted to tell you that your video are great! You talk very well. Keep up the great job, really happy I found you on Facebook. Take care!😉
I'm glad you found me too! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
This is soo helpful & awakening...T.Y. =) Nice? Never again. Kind? Yes, if the person deserves it only.
Glad you found this valuable! Have you checked out my new book dedicated to this topic titled, "Not Nice?" Check it out here: DrAzizBooks.com
Being too aggressive means violating others', and being too nice means violating your own boundaries. You should set boundaries and at the same time respect others' boundaries. It's not selfishness, it's setting proper boundaries.
dude, your videos are awesome. keep up the good job
I’m struggling extremely badly with this especially since I became chronically ill. I’m struggling with the fact that I’ve been told all my life through religion that you should be good kind and selfless and that others will reciprocate. I’ve always been a helper and that rock ppl leaned on and since being sick thought maybe I could finally cash into the friendship bank. But no I’ve learned the cruel lesson that ppl are rude takers users mean and general asshole and I am not taking their shit anymore. I am too ill for it and as a result have virtually no friends and bc I can’t do for ppl they’re gone. Seeing ppl for the users they are has sickened me angered me and grossed me out so that I’ve been losing faith in humanity and can’t believe my eyes weren’t open to it before. I’m being woke now to this and the realization hurts horribly. I’m trying to toughen up be more selfish do me and have kicked so many to the curb. Even nice ppl have their limits. Thank u for this video. It’s sad to me that I will have to become more like those around me.
I'm glad you found clarity here. However, it doesn't mean you should sink to their level. As humans we should always be striving to better ourselves, become a better version of who we are. I know it's hard with a chronic illness but this can still be fulfilling for you. You opened your eyes and discovered a group of people who used you like a doormat. Good riddance to bad rubbish! It doesn't mean you can't rebuild your community of people who care about you and are not like that at all. Start by searching for who that first new community member might be. You know what you're looking for now. :)
Get More Confidence yes thank you so much. That’s what I’m going to start doing. Thank you so much. You’ve helped me so much truly. I really appreciate you taking the time to answer me.
@@Ilovevintage77 Keep me in the loop with your progress! :)
Get More Confidence I will thank you much.
@@Ilovevintage77 You are very welcome!
This is so true
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I totally agree.
Thanks Jason! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
The reason those who are most enlightened and yet most selfless, is because none of their validation comes from people. It comes from what they believe. Being selfless doesn't mean thinking less of yourself, it's thinking about your self less. Leadership and true inner worth come from here.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Hey Aziz, any advice on taking this mentality too far? I find myself often goin so far into ‘idgaf’ territory that it seems nihilistic and apathetic. But it also helps me remain detached from outcomes and rejection etc.
Yeah , where is the line drawn ?
@@revivalist355 I guess Aziz does not reply to many comments on here...
As with anything, there's a balance to be had. Be more selfish doesn't mean being a jerk.
taking care of oneself isn't selfish, but doing something out of fear of not being liked, that's selfish and self-absorbed. but i get what u mean
Yes!
Very inspirational
nice video, this video after long time from your channel
NO is all u hav to say
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Yes for meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
It's very hard to say it in front of your family, friend and relatives
@@kakacech Because you care. Don't listen to that idiot that says it's about meeeeeeeee. The true measure of a person is to help those in need and not expect anything in return.
@@SitesThatSuck
Yeah he's an asswipe I know
Be selfless to your atleast parents!
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Your describing me exactly very helpful. Thank you
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Amen!
Great doctor, great person. Thanks for your videos!
Thank u for sharing your experience Dr.Aziz.
You’re awesome! Thank you so much 😊
You are so welcome!
what about lying to say no, a lot of people make up an excuse, to say no
Thank you very much,just the way to start a new week :)
You're welcome! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (mp=ore selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
@@GetMoreConfidence Thank you,I have subscribed to your channel :) and will dig into all your videos, grow and share, much appreciation, wishing you great success
I have a problem I don't have presence of mind . anything happen to me or somebody behave bad to me I don't know what to do at that time. after 1 to 2 I realise that I should have done this .and that's was to late. can u help me out
Looking at these comments are disgusting of all the people eager to be selfish. NO!!! Be selfless to those that deserve it and selfish to those that don't deserve your kindness. Knowing the difference is the key to confidence. The true measure of a man is helping those in need and not expecting anything in return.
I think you're missing the point to all of this Mike. The point is not to become a self-serving jerk who doesn't care about anyone else. It's about being out of balance where one always sacrifices his or her own needs just to be "nice." It's about not becoming a doormat to people who take advantage of you once they see they can do so.
@@GetMoreConfidence I agree Moran. I just didn't explain as well as you just did.
Don't trust too much on anyone, even your shadow leaves you when the light vanishes."
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I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
this was bloody amazing - thank you so much!
Becoming more self-FULL!
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Love the video. If you've watched these type of videos before, it's funny how often guys get asked to move their friends.
I'm happy now😃
Yes!
First I didnt agree when I saw the title, but when.I listened to you I think you are making a good point. im 'selfish' already a little but you are giving some good advice eve though I didnt agree at the beginning
Thanks dr.aziz.
amazing doc
I used to be like this a couple of years ago and then switched to the nice guy crap because I was hurting people feelings being a jerk. Since after I became a nice guy, I have been thru total hell. Being used, manipulated, cheated on, lied to and etc.. Is there anyway I can go back to what you showed on your video?.I have been trying to go back to being like what you showed on your Video, but I'm stuck and having problems trying to change. Can you please help me, I'm tired of being used, manipulated, cheated on ,lied to, taken advantage of, and hurt, etc..
Absolutely! However, I want to emphasize that employing the "not nice" approach does not mean being a jerk, or that you're no longer going to be a nice person in your life. The concept is deeper and more nuanced than that. At the same time, you're no longer going to allow yourself to be a doormat. The understanding and application of this is so important it's the sole topic of my latest book, "Not Nice." I believe you'd find most of your answers there for the price of a couple of coffees. Check it out here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Very nice Dr.Aziz. I like the tips..It is so good to see ur Videos
You are AWESOME! Thank you
Subscribed ofc!!
That's a shit I was looking for in my life ,thanks alot
Awesome!
Keep it up man!
I will!
this is awesome. something i should have seen long ago :) thank you.
Wow thank you for this!
Thank you! You have helped me a lot
Very helpful information...
thank you for this amazing tips and advice , what the name of end songs on background :D sorry for that
Your welcome! I don't know the names of the songs. Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice: th-cam.com/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/w-d-xo.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: cli.re/books
make a video with an audio that talks to u that u use in ur sleep to become narcist or egoist , i hate myself for my lovely actions everyone treats me bad and i treat them good
Thank you for the suggestion.