My very conservative mother’s best friend was like, “so when girls go through puberty they get more insecure, and when guys go through puberty they get more confident, so that’s why girls want to transition and go on testosterone, to become more confident.” Mmmmm so I had to be like “kids don’t just come out and immediately get in hormones, you do not know what you’re talking about.” It’s so frustrating.
And it’s pretty dangerous to assume that boys don’t get insecure while they’re going through puberty. That’s exactly the kind of rigid gender-based assumption that contributes to men and boys hiding mental health struggles. Puberty doesn’t make someone transgender, gender dysphoria does. I’m sure puberty can make that dysphoria more pronounced but there’s a lot more to why people choose to transition than just “I guess teens these days are just sO cRaZy”.
Me, a cis guy who went through puberty: AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA! Your mother's friend should become a comedian.
Everyone is insecure during puberty. Trans people actually tend to have a bit of an advantage because they have to actively analyze their gender on a daily basis and are faced with daily confrontations with gender disphoria. Cis teens will probably be even less sure and comfortable with their identities because they haven't taken the time to get to know themselves as much. But either way, even if it doesn't balance out that way and trans people questioning tilts the scale their way for insecurity, everyone is experiencing it, and I highly doubt many people experience confidence during that time any deeper than surface level as in the way they hold themselves.
“You teenager is just a teenager” No, your teenager is just a person with ideas, thoughts, opinions, needs, and basic human rights 🤠 please treat them as such
"But if I can't boss around and dismiss my children, what's the point of being a parent? My parents did it to me, so it's my turn now!" _-Conservative parents_
I agree with the thing of "your teenager is just a teenager" but for a different reason. Your teenage child is a teenager so let them figure themself out. Support them and let them make advances and mistakes, let them grow up knowing they can be who they are and no mater what you will love them unconditionally.
@@onivlasbrony7432 yeeeesh I relate to this to much. But it’s okay “they love you and are only trying to help to be more responsible, although completely ignore you when you ask to go to the doctor to be diagnosed with your obvious adhd/depression 😀”
Truth! I was never officially diagnosed in childhood most likely because of that stereotype since I didn’t fit the typical presentation so instead I was listed as having an undiagnosed learning disability, yay me! (Not sure if I’m actually autistic as I’ve yet to be tested but at a minimum I do know I have both sensory and auditory processing disorders which are the two most common cooccurring disorders amongst autistics so it’s highly likely).
This is exactly what I thought of as well. Some things can present differently depending on things like how children are socialized, how open their household is, how likely their guardians are to take issues seriously. Which has led to many on the spectrum to never be diagnosed or to be diagnosed very late in life, and others to believe autism doesn't even present in girls at all. I'm not surprised that similar things are being insinuated here.
I was waiting for someone to add something like this. AFAB people didn't used to be in medical studies--I can remember a paper from pre-1980s about reducing the risk of ovarian cancer in which all the participants were men--or they were considered 'hysterical'. This is why you learn the 'time' rule when citing sources or doing research: the more modern a paper is, the better it is. Hell, I had a teach from way back that told me any paper over 5 years old should be treated with extra scrutiny. The bullshit these people use when talking about sources from the fucking nineties or before makes me want to tear my hair out.
Me throwing up and getting sick bc of a food I ate when I was younger and my parents saying I was just being a dramatic teen, turns out I was allergic :) they did the same for my depression and adhd, let's just say my therapist was not very happy abt my parents
I've found that teens and older children are really good at telling you if they're in mental or physical pain if you aren't dismissing them constantly as just kids.
i love that their caricature of a scary trans person thats turning all the "normal girls" trans has blue-green hair and multiple facial piercings. like thats me lmao
I m a cis girl with purple hair and facial piericings. But I mean I kinda did help my trans friend come out/change his feminine name to a shorter version more masculine nickname. And he did change his name and totally transition after 18. So I guess I kinda was the final push he needed to accept himself. But I like to call it being a good friend lmao
The thing is when I came out as bi, my mother said “you’ve never been interested in women before”. I HAD been interested in women before, but I had never said anything because I thought it was wrong or weird. My gender identity is the same. I haven’t talked about it because I don’t want to be disowned or thrown out. I love my family, but they can be very conservative.
@@sarahdagnall6250 The number of left-handed people have raised since the last century, not because of seeing more left-handed people, but because being left handed is now more acceptable. Same with being trans, people in the past did not come out much because they feared being killed or getting disowned by their parents, but since it's a little more acceptable now, more people are coming out as trans.
"you've never been interested in women before" is like saying "you've never showered before" just because she doesn't see it happening doesn't mean it isn't 😭
I tried coming out as trans to my mom today and she said “but you were so feminine before” and I didn’t have energy to explain that I didn’t understand the concept of gender as a kid and everything appeared intersex in my eyes so I crawled my ass back into the closet and proceeded to cry 😌👌
The fact that she thinks that transitioning is a “quick fix” or the easy way out confuses and disgusts me. Pretty sure it is neither easy or quick to transition.
It seems like every transphobe thinks you can just go to one doctor appointment and get surgery and hormones next day. Like wow does it not work like that. I’ve heard like, _one_ story of someone who detransitioned and it sounded like the medical professionals they saw were extremely incompetent. I think Sammi Dodger mentioned them before? Idk my memory is shit. But yeah in 99.99% of cases, it takes months to years, and lots of therapy.
When you realize that these are the same people who think it only takes a minute to get a license to own and operate a vehicle, and that the DMV doesn't require amazing amounts of "proof of residency" (at least in the USA). They are also the same people who think that the already existing gun restriction and registration laws can be gotten around by any law-abiding citizen in just a couple of minutes ... It just ... why are people so amazingly stupid and refuse to do any research at all?
Yeah cause when you know your trans first you have to research it to know how to transition then you have to come out then change your wardrobe then get hrt then you have to be on hormones for atleast a year to get any surgeries and you also have to afford tell surgerys it's not quick at all
Also way overblowing and misunderstanding how transition is talked about among trans groups. Like there’s definitely issues within trans communities on how we talk about it, but she makes it very obvious she doesn’t actually know how trans communities work, what we talk about and how. Like she doesn’t actually know what trans teens might be learning from other trans people online lol.
Yes because surgeries are quick..... I have had issues with my mammory ducts and already had a surgery when I was 18. The problem is still there and now I am in my 30s and I am tired of dealing with the problem. Oh my gosh I am having a hard time getting a problem fixed and prague thinks doctors give out surgeries willy-nilly???? No they don't!!!
it also led to the torture of many people. medicine has honestly always been horrible, but then trying to go back to the way it was before after you made advancements is just insane.
How do you keep your kids from being comfortable and discovering who they are? Well, don’t let them have contact with the outside world and don’t educate them on identity works.
As someone who graduated high school nearly a decade ago, I can confirm that she is 100% lying about no one knowing any trans kids in high school back then.
i graduated high school 20 years ago and hadn't heard about trans people back then, but when i did learn about them later on it was just like "oh, that makes sense, ok." it was really nbd, and you know a lot of girls in my high school identified as vapid cheerleader bullies but somehow that did not magically brainwash me into wanting to be a vapid cheerleader bully... 🤔
@@chara7259well every school is different but I know that trans kids are everywhere whether they are out or not. I attend a Catholic school in very far right Florida and I know trans kids who just told their friends.
"A four year old is too young to know they're trans." most parents at their babies: dress them in shit like "i'm gonna break all the girls hearts when im a teen" "i'm gonna bring all the boys home to daddy"
@@Zero_Is_Stopping_Time Would your family notice if you threw it out? Would you be able to come up with some excuse like 'I don't like the colours/font' or 'it doesn't fit me right' or just 'I don't like the shirt anymore'?
@@Zero_Is_Stopping_Time i'm in the same position. My mom's bf got me a "Women will save the world" shirt and I didn't know how to explain that I was not a woman. Plus everyone i was already out to was there and NOBODY corrected him.
@@BestBetterBestest And, that sounds pretty sexist towards men, people act like men can’t have feelings and have to be “big balls tough guy” all the time
I love how she said that "there was 0 research on trans men" then later basically said "something weird is happening cause theres a lot more trans men now"
"Hm, it seems that people are far more comfortable openly identifying as a thing now that it's more commonly accepted. This is clear proof that that they are only identifying as this thing because it's trendy and they want to take over the world so that they can... um... I'll get back to you on that. But it's totally because they want to take over the world, and not because they want to be happy with their lives."
Thought the same thing. This part is a testimony of her great stupidity. Can't even believe people can live with that level of "thinking" (assuming she ever tried to think before)
Child: finds out they're trans Parents: shame them into hiding it because they're too young Child: represses their emotions Parents: what do you mean, you're trans? There weren't any signs!
It’s terrible that she says gender transition won’t help these “girls”. My trans son had terrible anxiety, depression, an eating disorder and basically a terrible time. He is now presenting as male and in T and eating properly and being mostly happy. It’s not that everything is perfect but the improvement is so noticeable.
Exactly. I suffered mentally when my breasts started growing in and I just couldn't understand why but when I finally got a binder, my life was improved immensely. Like I actually could take care of myself because I didn't have to deal with having breaths all day
that she said the process is "rushed" was so funny to me. it took me 13 years to figure out and accept myself, 2 years to actually come out to everyone, 1 year to get T and now more than 2 years to get top surgery. Like, honey. I wish it was rushed so I didn't waste like half my life, geez...
Friendly reminder to you you didnt waste half your life, all of that waiting, no matter how shit that waiting felt, every brilliant thing you did and every moment you spent in those years culminated in the brilliant person you are today, who has the words and knowledge for you are, or at least has more and better words and knowledge, certainly not a waste in my eyes
Literallyyyy when i was still figuring myself out, i would sometimes beg to whatever god-like being that was out there to just give me a slip of paper telling me what my gender was 😭
yea i’m 14 and just started questioning and i’m out to some friends as bi/pan but 3 people know i’m also questioning my gender and one of them only knows because i had to explain something to them. i’m only out to 5 people in total and 2 of them are part of the community, another one is one of my best friends for almost 8 years, someone who is like as sister to me, and the bf of one person i already told. i just found out my best best friend is homophobic today and might be transphobic tho :(
You know what also gives anxiety and depression.. feeling completely alone because you can’t find anyone in real life who relates to you that’s why social media is so popular
Alright so, hear me out: I had a cat-and I know this is a weird way to start the anecdote-who we always thought was a female cat. We had it since it was a kitten, we adored it. We thought the cat was female since it was a kitten when we adopted it, because no one in the house knew how to tell the difference. That cat was the queen of the house and everybody loved it. Then, one day, we discovered it was a male cat instead. My mom was shocked and mildly horrified, my grandma didn't much care about it anyway, but my stepfather had the worst reaction of all. Poor thing passed from being his favorite cat on earth to being worse than dirt and the punchline of every joke because it was male and it had "deceived him" its whole life or something stupid like that. He even got physical with it when it tried to snuggle with him at first until it learned better. The worst part is: the poor cat couldn't understand why everybody but me treated it differently now. _It was still the exact same cat, it had always been male,_ it's just that no one was able to see it until it grew up enough to be able to show them better. Now, since they reacted this way towards my cat… if I'd come out as transmasculine, or in my case nonbinary, what do you think would've been their reaction to _me?_ Seriously, why do people think "girls want to become boys because they're told it solves all their problems and it's easier" is _even slightly_ a reasonable argument to make?! Being trans is *_not_* an "easy fix" at all. It usually makes your life harder. You don't come out because it's *_"easier"_* you come out _to be able _*_to be yourself._*
Being a CIS man is certainly still easier, but trans? Nope. And yea, it’s not about “easier”, it’s about fixing a biological issue. And poor cat. Some people are just dumb. I bet Brandon Teena would loved for things to be easier when he was revealed to be trans. Let’s ask him. Oh wait. He was killed in cold blood. Yea, “easier”.
That poor baby! Even as a cis woman, I don't understand how anyone could think people "choose" to be trans for an "easy fix." It just doesn't make a bit of sense. All I hear from trans people is about how badly people treat them because they are trans. How do transphobes see that as being an out?
"Quick fix." Really. Years of therapy, doctors, referrals, legal document changes, misgendering, erasure, bullying, harassment, threats of violence, DO I REALLY NEED TO KEEP GOING.
The fact that she just keeps misgendering me and other trans guys basically in the whole video just makes me feel so uncomfortable- she says she is worried about us but she's just trying to hurt us lmao
@@ameliasellers6396 people like that just use the "it's to protect you" card to promote their transphobic ideas and make them sound less discriminatory and ridiculous
Guys I just wanted to say that you're all so beautiful and valid, one day everyone will appreciate you and love you for who you are, regardless of your sexuality or gender, you are loved and supported no matter what
Your patience with this stuff is frankly astounding. I’m cis, but I can’t listen to her blatant manipulation, fake concern and intellectual dishonesty for more than a few seconds without the urge to throw my iPad. Thank you for always providing a reasoned, well-sourced rebuttal to harmful nonsense like hers.
Lol I know right. I like when they say that facts don’t care about your feelings, then get mad when all the facts point to trans people being valid. Hypocrites, all of fhem
Thanks for being an ally. We appreciate every single one of the allies just like you being on our side. Have a good day and just reply to this or something if you need help dissing out the phobes
As a transgender boy, I was put into therapy because of other reasons, a year later I came out to my mum, she wasn't that supportive, then a few months later, I came out to my dad, he was hella supportive, but within those few months my mum learned more and grew to really supportive. and now I got my first binder last week and most of my mum's family knows. Just thought I should share some good news! (and my therapist is a literal queen tho, she was the reason I came out to dad) Edit: I have finally looked back on this old comment. A lot of things of changed sadly, I now use They/Them, My mom is still supportive as always but my dad isn't so much. Also thank you to everyone so much! Thank you for 700 likes, like wow-
Glad to hear so! I hope your life only gets better from here! For me its personally been the opposite experience. I am a trans girl, but still not out to everyone, my mom knows and is supportive, but my dad is massively transphobic, so I can't let him know or I risk my dad trying to kick me out and possibly causing a massive fight with my mom.
as a cis girl with anxiety, not once in my life have I thought: "Hey, you know what would make all my problems go away? Cutting my boobs off and grow a beard!!"
Exactly! I would have been a prime candidate for "rapid onset gender dysphoria", I was insecure, had several friends coming out at the time and was fairly gender noncomforming... except I've never felt the need to question my gender because I'm not transgender!
As a cis girl who is often insecure about her body, I can say that my insecurities come from my body not being "feminine" enough, strangely enough it has never occurred to me that masculinising it with testosterone would help.
@@himikotoga2191 Unfortunately, the few who will watch and believe her videos will either suffer the consequences and repress their actual identity, or go on and inflict massive damage on trans people.
I can tell me being transgender isn’t a phase Because you know why? No matter how many times I try to suppress it and move on or try to convince myself I’m not trans, The feelings and dysphoria always come back.
I realized I was trans when I was 19 (A year ago). To the outside, it was sudden, but in my mind it’s always been there, Amara has always been there. She was always there, but I kept pushing her back because that wasn’t manly enough. I’d done it for so long I just thought it was normal, that I wasn’t trans. A year ago, I was doing some mental spring cleaning if you will, going through my mind, feeling, and emotions, to make sure I was doing good. That’s where I found her, Amara. That’s where I found *me.* I realized the voice I’d been listening to for a long time was the voice of dysphoria. When I started listening to who I really was, I was able to push back my dysphoria. He’s still here, but he no longer has power, because I am Amara
California demigirl here. That “kindergarten trans stuff” is literally just teaching kids how to address people you don’t know the gender of. My friend is a teacher (2nd grade currently) and that’s basically it for the “transing of education.” Telling kids that there are trans people in the world, and also that you should be kind and respectful to everyone? Oh, the horror! 🙃
In Britain we have Christmas Pantomimes which traditionally involve a lot of crossdressing (e.g. Peter Pan is played by a young woman, and there's usually an over the top older lady played by a fat guy with a beard putting on a silly voice, if you've seen much Monty Python you'll know the kind of thing) and most young kids don't underrstand that the actors and the characters aren't the same gender despite the fact that's part of the joke! Pretty sure a little bit of "trans people exist" teaching isn't going to rock their world
New Jersey demi girl here It wasn't until middle school when it was announced we'd be talking about lgbtq history. I've always known of transgender people when I was younger, but it was mostly from the news and 2012/2013 TH-cam
@@bluecritical7618 demigender is different from demisexual. Demisexual is when you only are attracted to people you have a close connection with, and demiboy/girl means that you feel only partly male/female (if I'm wrong, someone correct me)
I also noticed that the “friend suggestion” was accompanied by a friend with -short blue hair -many piercings -and a position and expression that suggest some sort of nefarious “whispering in their ears” situation. I mean, this is no accident. Prager is, at the same time, drawing on the negative stereotypes of people with dyed hair, piercings, or that aren’t gender conforming, that their right-wing audience has, as well as creating a negative association with people like that. Suggesting, without saying, that people like that are a bad influence, that you should keep them away from your kids. Screw Prager U and their bullshit. Seriously!
This stereotype is the reason why I, a young trans man (a bit older than the age that the moral panic is usually about, but still) will never dye my hair blue even though I think blue would suit me. I don't wanna be clocked as trans or seen as some stereotype, rip.
"But if you graduated high school over a decade ago chances are you didn't know any." 2006, my school had an LGBT Alliance, the principal was out as a lesbian, many of my friends were bi and dated accordingly, and one of my close friends was non-binary.
My mom is bi and literally hung out with so many lesbians when she was in highschool (I think her last year would've been 2005-2006, I know she had me in her first senior year then had to retake it so I think that makes 2006 her graduation year)
I got a Trevor project ad while watching this and started tearing up- Just a random reminder that there are a lot of good people in the world, even if a lot of others aren’t the best
I"m near on 50 and went to school with a trans person. She was unhappy and confused in herself, I think, for a very long time. She only came out in her late 30s early 40s. I wish she had had the internet trans community to help her understand herself sooner.
Same for one of my mothers. It took her many, many years and I dare say it's part of why she has had depression for decades. I wish she had had the support and understanding there is today (I mean still not good enough but at least it's better)
Exactly this! I'm nothing but happy for these kids that they have all these resources now. If I'd known I was asexual in high school I wouldn't have spent 30 years thinking I was broken.
@@seans857 is it just me, or do you get creeped out by the adds on these videos. (When I'm watching illuminaughty I get loads of MLM ads, so I just feel like when. I'm looking at transphobia videos, all the companies that pop up are thus transphobic and I give them my completely irrational side eye
the "but there were never any signs!!" reaction is always so funny to me because it's always just parents in denial. i'm ftm and that was my mom's reaction when i came out to her. me, a huge tomboy my entire life, hated wearing dresses and skirts so much that when i was forced to wear a skirt for church it was an ankle-length one so i could wear jeans underneath it, she thought _that_ child never showed any signs of being trans. the "rapid onset" perception is and has always been parents ignoring what's right in front of them.
For me, there weren’t any visible signs, by intention. I thought that I wasn’t supposed to feel things like that, so I locked them in a box in the back of my mind. I was a boy after all. A year ago, I was searching through my mind, spring cleaning if you will, and I found that box. Inside was Amara, inside was me. There were signs, but I wouldn’t let anyone see them. I couldn’t let anyone see them. I’m glad I opened that box and started being myself again
@@ScizzoringGirlz if that was the _only_ sign then you might have a point, but i opted not to list out everything else that got written off as "typical tomboy behavior" because i didn't want my comment to become an essay. i'm not trying to say that a girl being a tomboy is ALWAYS a sign that they're actually a trans boy, but i _am_ saying that if they do eventually come out as trans, you shouldn't be surprised.
"What do you mean "my body is made of living systems of organs, cells, hormones, tissues, etc?" My doctor never said I have autism! I'm not some medical person!" -These people, probably.
prageru: "these medical facilities rush these teens towards 'a solution'" me, a trans man still waiting for 4+ years for the entry appointment at the gender clinic:
Wait... you mean a newly born male baby can't just waddle over to the transition ward and be turned into a 25 year-old woman with implants on all parts of her body! Ridiculous! Famed Facebooker @IHateWomenAndMinorities88 told me that they can do that, and he would NEVER lie!
@@emmettmcnally740 gosh that's awful :( In my country you can buy testosterone without medical recipe but if I want the right dose and not self-medicate, you have to do a whole paperwork circus for an endocrinologist to even give you said recipe :// Same for any gender-related surgery
I am FTM in Oregon, I had to get 2 therapist and a doctor to agree I have gender dysphoria before starting testosterone. Now I have to wait a year from my dysphoria diagnosis date for top surgery. I am in my 40s already, so I know that whole teenagers rushed into transiting is made up. Thank you for making these videos.
Lol I am in Utah and I just flat up said I don’t do therapists but I identify as FTM and the doc was like k cool and gave me a prescription for T.... idk what that says about my doctor LOL but i definitely know for surgeries I will need a therapist. So that will be fun. I have tried countless times to get a therapist and they’re all too busy...
I wish you would do a video specifically for scared parents that breaks down their fears and explains it for them. You've done a lot of research and can see through the bs in a way that's is logical and helpful. I wish there was a single video that I could share to a couple people to help them see past Propaganda like this
Not related to transphobia but I used to get non vape ads that make me very uncomfortable, and when I reported them multiple times TH-cam didn’t care. All I get mostly(I still get them sometimes) stupid mobile game ads
PragerU: Internet is a place that is gonna make teens feel sad, depressed and alone. *PragerU proceeds to make videos emphasizing that teens should be left sad, depressed and alone*
I think the entire point people like these are trying to make is that being comfortable with your biological gender will help you with your sadness, depression, and loneliness. It's great to argue against something, but if you're not even trying to grasp what the other side is actually arguing FOR, you don't even know what you're arguing against.
@@isitsweet9567 I am gonna trust you on that for a moment and believe that's really their entire point... It's not an argument it can debated against since it shows a complete 360° ignorance over the whole matter. For example: "biological gender" is not a thing, so they do not even know the words nor the concepts they are trying to argue against. Gender Dysphoria is "the distress a person feels due to a mismatch between their gender identità and their sex assigned at birth.", so they clearly don't know that either. Less explicitly, to claim something like that, they obviously do not even know anything biologically correct about chromosomes and intersex people. Intellectually honest debates can be held when both the parties are equally prepared over the topic of the discussion. They are not and that's why their arguments, including this one if that's the case, have no sense and don't even have the basis to be argued against. BUT PragerU is not actually arguing for that. Because we scientists, plus doctors, psychologists, trans-allies in general, are the ones that do agree completely that managing to live comfortably with your gender will help you with sadness, depression and loneliness. We have data on that. That's why people should be let free to transition physically: to live comfortably with their gender, no matter their biological sex. These transphobes are arguing against it. Not even for hate, I think. Simply medical ignorance.
It's especially bad because, while there is a slight correlation between social media use and depression in the group considered girls in the study*, that doesn't say anything about what causes what (ie: does social media cause depression or are mentally ill kids more likely to be online more because real life is much harder for them, or even do bad IRL connections and a lack of friends mean their main means of interaction and spending time are online) and for trans people with unsupportive families in particular the internet is often the one place they can find support. *I don't think they really looked into trans vs. cis so whether trans boys ended up being counted as boys or girls is anyones guess, probably depended on whether or not they were out
Also as a troubled cis teenage girl with trans friends not once did I think “I must be trans then” because that’s NOT WHY PEOPLE COME OUT AS TRANS THEY COME OUT AS TRANS BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS L I S A
Why do transphobes think that people come out as trans because of influence from other trans people? As a cis girl I’m exposed to a lot of stuff about trans people on the internet and not once did I question my gender identity. People who do that were most likely always trans, and seeing other trans people made them more comfortable to come out.
@@emytann7838 I honestly think some of them do, it’s really stupid but I’ve been told by some family that I’m just jumping on the bandwagon saying I’m bi to fit in! Even in the trans community some people talk about “trenders”
@@ratface2138 Or they shut learn to convert their hat in some thing positiv. Because hat dont discriminat gender, sexuality, race , children or adults. So it wot be bether for they children to have loving parents and not parents full of hate😉😉💖💖🤟🤟🤟
"Social media give you depression and anxiety and will make you sad and alone" I litterally feels accepted and love by being the way i am like I've never been before
As a cis female who delt with a lot of anxiety and depression in my teens, I can assure everyone reading this that I was in no way pressured by the abundance of social media I was consuming, to "become" trans, nor is literally anyone else
Yeah, as much as being a woman makes some parts of my life harder, I definitely wouldn't try to be trans or try to be a man, because that wouldn't solve those problems. I hate PragerU so much
yeah, even though being a woman is often made seem less than being a man, i would never transition because i AM a woman and i cant just change that. similarly to how trans men are born female, but they ARE STILL MEN, nothing changes when they come out, you just know now. regardless of who im friends with or social media i watch and their gender or gender dysphoria, i am still a woman, and i won't just transition into a man.
Yes! As someone who have dealt with a lot of the things she's mentioned, anxiety, depression, self-harm, I never *once* thought "hmm I should become a man". I'm not bothered about my gender, I'm bothered by life. Please try fixing the problems that teenage girls actually face instead of blaming the testosterone for everything
@@Hyacinth-Blue yes. i love it when transphobes are just so fundamentally wrong (and not just when they say trans-ness is wrong-ness, but like the actual "evidence" they use to back it up)
I love how one of the scares they tried to list was “infertility” and I bet that a bunch of tokophobes like myself just leaned back in their seats and went “you tried. And you failed”.
Pregnancy-related subjects give me massive dysphoria so the "you hold no power here" energy was strong when she brought that up. Also why is she so keen on the fertility of children? Gross.
@@Itri_Vega I mean they're the kind of people to want u to start making good Christian babies at like 14, as if that isn't incredibly creepy. Just another layer of bad on this rotting pragerU onion
@@averyt23 It is, I just looked it up. Oh my god im dying of laughter at what I saw tho. there was a 7 signs of tokophobia, there's what you would expect and then "7.they have a fear of death". I know they prolly meant like resulting from you know, but I cant help imagine they meant just in general they fear death.
I love how she is treating transitioning like weed. It just reminds me of the anti-drug commercials. The idea that anyone would even hint that transitioning is easier than not doing it is absolutely insane, I'm a cis woman and even I know that.
I had a teacher that taught us about trans people and gay people, and she just said it normally and I didn't even know they were a minority because she just said it so nonchalantly. I think all teachers should just explain it simply and plant a small seed and help their students accept others
She did not seriously suggest that people treat their children like prisoners to keep them from transitioning. "Limit their exposure" no honey, that's gonna cause more problems when the kid gets upset because of all the pointless rules in the house.
Technically, her comment on this was not just attacking trans kids: she was effectively saying we should prevent ALL kids, cis and trans, from seeing any social media. It’s the same craziness that pretends if we say condoms don’t exist, then no teens will ever have sex.
It's especially bad because, while there is a slight correlation between social media use and depression in the group considered girls in the study*, that doesn't say anything about what causes what (ie: does social media cause depression or are mentally ill kids more likely to be online more because real life is much harder) and for trans people with unsupportive families in particular the internet is often the one place they can find support. *I don't think they really looked into trans vs. cis so whether trans boys ended up being counted as boys or girls is anyones guess, probably depended on whether or not they were out
No because that's not going to do shit. All that will happen if you restrict your kid's social media is they'll start looking at it behind your back, and if god forbid they get groomed, doxxed or cyberbullied, they won't come to you anymore out of fear of being yelled at for using social media in the first place. It happened to my cousin, she was found in a drunk coma on a balcony. Thank god my parents don't fuck with that shit, that could've been me had they not been open with me about what I can and can't do on the internet
I heard a quote somewhere, I can’t remember who said it, but it goes: “It takes ten minutes to debunk a ten second lie”. This video is a prime example.
A similar quote has been said since the 1600s or thereabouts: “A lie will travel around the world before the truth has pulled its boots on.” Just goes to show...
Hey I was in the same boat when I was 12 by my mom. It was very hard on me I get it and I hope you’re doing well at the moment. Keep going I promise it gets better.
thank you, sam and jammi, for being so strong and putting up with this girls bullshit. we love you, and we’re proud to be spuds!! have a great day love!!
@オリバー 【O】 okay, another trans TH-camr that I watch that reviewed this, that's their dead name, so I was just confused if someone was calling them like that as a nickname. thank you
Can we appreciate that the "friend's suggestion" is coming from a character of ambiguous gender, with unnatural colored hair, and facial piercings? I just love stereotyping and "subtle" visuals that demonize people that are "different". 😠
My mom didn't think I had any symptoms of dysphoria in my early childhood when I came out as a trans man. I...did. I just...like, didn't tell her about it? Cause I thought it was illogical and I didn't know trans men were a thing, and I got shit about making mountains out of molehills all the time. It was only when puberty hit and I had my breasts grow and I though, huh, maybe I just think they should be bigger, that's why I'm uncomfortable with them, and then my period hit, and I remember laying in bed that night staring at the ceiling and realizing at that moment that I didn't want to become a woman anymore. I didn't understand it, but I just knew I didn't like what was happening and I preferred it before. I wanted to go back. I remember wishing desperately, holding a plush, with my eyes closed tight, still sore from crying that day from panic attacks cause things got really wild when my period hit, and wishing that time would go back to that morning when I woke up, except it would be the same, without the period thing. Or, as my alternative to the universe, I wanted to just not wake up please. My mom saw a change in my behavior hitting puberty, she just didn't know wtf it was. I never told her about the time when I was a kid and I would think about how I hated being called a "girly girl" and wanted to be called a "tomboy" even though I knew I didn't fit that role all that much, and how I started trying to amplify and speak out about my more masculine interests to try and get people to go along with my wishes. I didn't know why I felt that way, but it was on and off my mind for like most of my early childhood. I told my mom at the age of 16-17 that I had thought those things, and she never fuckin' knew. Just cause parents don't see shit doesn't mean it's not fuckin' happening. I hate that bullshit concept. Like, I know that she's a dumb and just spreading propaganda about anti-trans shit, but it fuckin' pisses me off that she uses that wording, that, oh no, the parents hadn't seen any symptoms, yeah, no shit. That happens sometimes??? Especially when you're raised AFAB and you acting out or feeling odd is dismissed all the time and you're told not to be "overdramatic" around every corner??? Not all trans masc folk behave the same as children, hell, I wasn't super masculine, I was more androgynous femme-leaning in my interests. Why? Cause even now, I present androgynously, it's just how I am. But I am a man. A dude. I've literally been on HRT for a year and known I was trans for about 7 years now. Been out for about 6-7 years now. My mom and pediatrician can attest that the change in my behavior and mood and anxiety and depression and all that shit was IMMENSE. Like, my pediatrician has told me, point blank, that I'm one of the most like clear cases of how much HRT can help someone's mental health, in ways you might not even expect. She has said the general feeling I gave off before was just like a cat latched onto the ceiling, and now I'm a lot more calm, I have a lot less daily anxiety, I walk into a room with my shoulders actually straight instead of curled in like a little tortoise shell of protection, and I just overall seem more like..myself. Like comfortable with life. She hadn't even expected this significant of a change, and I suspect she probably uses me as an example of the more extreme side of like how HRT can drastically help mental health, and how being trans can impact more than just general mood or depression.
I've felt this way since kindergarten but it took me until age 47 to put the label "trans" on it. When I came out to my parents, they had absolutely no idea I'd been having these feelings for over 40 years. Because yeah, I was ashamed of feeling that way, and I didn't tell people about it.
Wow! So by trying to go against nature and lie about what biological sex you are, you feel better now! Looks like the Prager U people are right about some things! It is a way to escape reality!
It makes sense why women in this society would 'become men'. Because they as a sex class are oppressed, and face many issues from the patriarchy, so of course they try to escape their oppression. The denial of this is pure misogyny. Women don't just 'want to become men'. They feel pressured, and want to escape this endless oppression, which you can't blame. But it is gaslighting and forced affirmation to then go, 'ah yes, these women obviously wanna become men because they're systematically oppressed, but that's probably nothing to do with it, nah, they probably just wanna become men because they feel it deep inside! Let's let them saw off their boobs, because that's definitely not the patriarchy pushing them to hate being women! Nope! Mustn't be that!'. This isn't progressive. It's the complete opposite. It's misogyny sprinkled with glitter. It's very natural for women to not want to be the sex they were born with, because let's face it, being a woman in this society sucks. But you're not a male. You only want to be a male because you know the benefits and how males are not an oppressed class. It's sad that it's now accepted to tell girls to just 'be men' instead of us all joining together to stop the source of patriarchy all together.
People like Abbigail and Prager U are the reason it took me 28 years to finally accept myself. Too many years of not knowing trans men even existed coupled with "you're just a tomboy", "you're not trans enough", and sprinkle some "there's too much hatred in the world for trans people/I don't want this/I'm broken" in there 💔 I just bought my first packer today. 💜 To anyone also struggling: you are valid, you are enough and you are loved. Please take care of yourself and your needs however you can, even if its just little steps. They are important and so are you
Awesomely amazingly spoken homie took me over half my life too. All the signs I was trans were there when I was 5, it just never had a name until somewhere in my 30s and then it still took an eternity to get the ok for hormones and surgery but I believe better late than never.
Right there with you. I didn't put the pieces together until I was 28, then stayed in the closet for 4 years because I was afraid I'd lose everyone I loved. Eventually cracked and came out to my partner a month before our 10th wedding anniversary. He was so supportive and just wanted me to be happy. Now I've been on T for over a year, my kids call me Little Daddy, and my top surgery is in 3 weeks.
Schrier: "Medical transistion has become too easy!" Me, on a 3 year waiting list for a first appointment in the only gender clinic in the country on the NHS: k
Shit, we do better than that in Minnesota, state care and two big gender clinics. When AMERICAN health care is more available, you KNOW you have it tough.
I am a cis girl who has consumed hours upon hours of content made by trans creators, has multiple trans friends, and has done lots of research on trans individuals and look, I’m still cis, I just disproved Pr🅰️gerU’s entire argument 😂 2022 update: this aged very poorly 😅
Is it Sweet? I don’t experience any gender dysphoria, I was born female and identify as female. If I was born male, I probably wouldn’t be trans simply because I would be just as comfortable identifying as male. I’m not quite sure what point you’re trying to prove here.
@@squano9440 If you would identify as whatever your biological birth sex was, you'd be arguing against the entire concept of "gender identity" which states that gender is deeply ingrained into the inner self and overrides that of the restrictive shells that are our bodies. Hence, either you don't believe in the whole transgender thing and your comment above is lying for some reason, or you do believe in it and doubtless your intensive exposure to it while probably having no exposure to opposing philosophies had something to do with that, just as PragerU says. I know you're proud of it, but the idea that "PragerU is saying everyone who supports our society's views on gender IS trans" is a straw-man argument that doesn't even make sense. Like do you see "there's no such thing as a cis believer" anywhere in there? I wonder why you would feel you needed to construct straw men...
16:30 'just a teenager'. I saw something that said 'why are teens so angry? Because they are treated like kids and expected to behave like adults.' That's what we're talking about. Also, re: how the video says that social media is influencing people to be LGBTQIA+, in my personal experience, it just told me what it was. I recently found out I'm asexual, and I kind of always knew it, but k didn't know that asexuality was an actual thing. A random youtube video was reccomended to me about asexuality, and since I was trying to learn as much as I can about everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community i decided to check it out. Then I realized "oh wait... this is me. I'm actually a thing? There are people like me?" and it was wonderful 🖤💜🤍 So social media isn't making people LGBTQIA+, just spreading awareness and information about it, and helping people realize that there's a community for them ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I thought I was lesbian until college, when I learned more about the LGBTQIA+ community, at which point I found aro/ace is a thing. I firmly believe that you don't "change" gender/sexuality, you just expand your knowledge and adapt the label that most fits you. Which is why it's so important to teach that in school.
Same experience here! I watched a video where someone was interviewing asexual people and watching it I was like "hold on, i can relate to this" so I looked more into it and safe to say I am ace ^-^
With the whole 2% statistic, it reminds me of something. Teachers in schools used to forbid children from writing with their left hands, and even discipline them for doing so. It’s hard to be accurate, but it’s estimated that about 1% of children in that time period were left-handed. Once that practice stopped, the rate began to increase. It is estimated that 10% of people are left-handed today. Gosh, I wonder if the increased support of the LGBTQ community has anything to do with an increase of children and teens being educated about gender identity who feel safe and accepted enough to come out. /s
I can vouch for the teachers trying to force left handed kids to write right handed. I was one of them back in 1965 in first grade. Luckily for me, my mom (who was also an elementary school teacher) firmly told my first grade teacher that she was NOT to EVER even try to make me write right handed. My teacher's petty revenge was to make me slant my paper the same way as the right handed kids and to this day, I write left handed with a severe "hook" positioning of my hand.
My grandpa was left-handed and wasn’t allowed to write with his left hand and now he just writes with his right hand as well as his left and I think that’s a shame because I’m left-handed and I still get to write with my left hand. Also gays come in packs 😂
My school did that to me when I was in kindergarten or maybe first grade when I was just learning to write. My teacher told me I was writing "with the wrong hand" and made me write with my right one. I did turn out ambidextrous because of this so not entirely horrible but still.
I am left-handed at birth, born in a family of teachers. By my grandpa's influence, I was forced into being right-handed. Sometimes I think that's the reason I'm so clumsy.
Also, it makes perfect sense for trans men to come out of the closet before trans women. As society is pretty accepting of "tomboys" but not of "effeminate boys".
I remember seeing this ad while I was in the car waiting for my sister, and I ended up shouting things like “THEY ONLY STUDIED AMAB PEOPLE” and “OF COURSE MORE PEOPLE ARE TRANSITIONING MORE, ITS NOT A DEATH SENTENCE ANYMORE” at the screen
Exactly people act like it's a trend when in reality people and just get together of their high horses and accepting people so more people are comfortable with being out
@@findingagain "The Library of Alexandria never existed! I mean, can you find any evidence of it? Because I went to Egypt, and I couldn't find the building anywhere! Therefore, it doesn't exist!" -These people, probably.
"OMG they're just teenagers 😤 they're not mature enough to know their gender!" So you're telling me a teenager is not old enough to know their gender... But is old enough to know exactly what career they want to pursue....? Excuse me what.
Meanwhile, earlier in the same video she was saying that real gender dysphoria has onset in preschool. So a 3 year old is old enough to know their gender, but a 13 year old isn't?
@@himikotoga2191 yeah that's what I tell people when they say that my partner is too young to know they're genderdoe, like aren't I too young to know i'm cis then?
Bruh like seriously wtf, it's more likely to be the other way round tbh, unrelated issue but I'm so mad about how schools put pressure on kids to choose their entire life path at like fifteen
I have unaccepting parents, so the fact that they can get confirmation bias that I'm not "actually trans" from videos like that, ROGD, and websites like transgender trend, makes me sick. I tried to come out to my mom when I was 18 and she forced me back into the closet, saying the EXACT rhetoric in the PragerU video. That I "showed no signs of GD when I was younger" and that I'll regret it if I transition. This is so damaging. Thank you so much for talking about this, Jamie.
As a mom of a beautiful member of the alphabet mafia, these people make me sick to my stomach. My kid spent the last year searching their identity. I'm so proud of them for the amount of trust they put in me. We talk about everything and anything. Our house is a safe space. We are now in the process of getting them referred to a gender clinic. First appointment with a new psychologist is in 2 weeks. They also have anxiety, so to ask for help is a big step. I'm just lucky they are able to talk to me freely. They know they can tell and ask me anything. I will always do my absolute best to help them, or find someone who can help them. They're already subscribed to your channel. I advised them to watch your earlier videos on your transition. Thank you for speaking up. And for the peeps in the comments who are struggling, I give you a big mom-hug 💜
I really wish I had parents like you. I had to beg my mom for therapy for my depression and she still wouldn't listen to me. I don't feel safe coming out to my parents as nonbinary. Even when I came out to her as lesbian, after a long conversation where she seemed supportive, she randomly said, "you could still marry a man someday though". What?? Now I believe I'm pan, but no mom, I'm not going to marry a cis man and have a bunch of kids like you've told me since I was little.
@@xxx-ie9ic okay, I am now your mom. And I want to say I am very proud of you. Proud of the person you are becoming. Proud of how you keep fighting every day to be the best you can be. You can do this! I have faith in your strength. Keep your chin up until you can safely live on your own (if you don't already). Know that you are loved. And know that you are worth fighting for. You'll get there. Big mom-hug 🤗 ❤
I swear this ad would be absolute nightmare fuel if my mom watched it and didn’t research the statistics being mentioned because my mom is homophobic and transphobic and has untreated schizophrenia, also we live in Oregon so she would be pretty quick to believe the stuff said about Oregon
OMG, I can picture it now. "My daughter's a tomboy. She likes to hang out with tomboys. Aren't tomboys cute? And you know, tomboys blossom into the most beautiful women, when they grow up. Amirite?" Later... "OMG! My daughter's tomboy friend convinced her that they are both boys! OMG! The horror! BAD GIRL! How dare you lie to my little girl!" It makes sense that a transgender would have a transgender friend, even with the low % rate of trans people, because they can identify (without realizing it) that here is someone who UNDERSTANDS the same feelings they are feeling about their bodies and their minds and their lives.
As someone surrounded by non-cis, non-het friends that have been steadly discovering those identities over the course of many years, I can confirm (as a budding mtf) that there is a certain je-ne-sais-quoi that linked us in the first place. The best way I can describe it is that we all feel like B-side tracks on the vinyl record of society. That's true of my cishet friends, too, but it explains the clustering regardless.
Female to nonbinary person here! I really identified as a tomboy as a kid, I think if I had been born like five years later than I was, I would've identified as a trans boy as a kid since it was the mid-to-late 2000s and I had no idea what being trans was lol. I ended up identifying as some flavor of nonbinary as a teen and buried it deep for years due to societal stuff, then I had my MAJOR queer awakening this year and it really confirmed I'm nonbinary for me. I'm not super masculine or feminine, but I'm a bit cutesy lol and that's how I've really been since early childhood.
Fr fr people say it far too often it😔 literally all it takes is a Google search to show how expensive medical costs are and long referral times can be so idk how anyone can still believe its quick and easy ;-;
What, I always hear about people "transgendering" from the right wing, it must be like a laser beam zaps you and you're transgendereded by the laser all of a sudden. (Nobody tell Marjorie Taylor Greene about this; she'll get all conspiracy theorist on us)
41 years old here. I didn't know transgender was even a thing until I was maybe 28-30, but I can remember being as young as 4 years old and thinking "What is wrong with me? Why was I born a girl instead of a boy? I'm supposed to be a boy". I only came to understand myself thanks to finding others like me on the internet and eventually finding the terms for it. I rped male characters for years, felt more comfortable on the internet from people perceiving me as male. About 35 I finally saw a doc about starting HRT and while other things in my life have made things worse, HRT actually helped me feel a bit better, both mentally and physically.
I'm so proud of you. It make me so very happy to see older people who can be their authentic selves. I may not be trans, but seeing all of you get to be the real you is so amazing.
I'm only 16, but I remember how I would only watched shows with female leads ( except spongebob, but he's a Sponge anyway) shows like Sam and Cat, Sofia the first and DocMcStuffins as I felt like i related to the characters more, aslo PE was a big factor because it was the only subject that separated boys and girls (which meant they put me in the boys room) and I HATED it (I was extra uncomfortable showing my chest and still am so that made the changing rooms much worse) it would have been so much easier if just did the lessons instead of making a different reason every week to miss PE class, but that's how uncomfortable it made me
@@sam4gaming135 So sorry you had to go through that. I was lucky in that my dysphoria wasn't really strong as a kid. I had that niggling in the back of my mind, but while I was extremely uncomfortable changing clothes in front of someone else, I think for me it was more because of my religious upbringing. Still, I couldn't stand to wear a skirt without shorts under it and as I went to an all girl school for a long time, I got heavily teased for wearing them. I hope you can find more acceptance in the future. I know we're not there yet, but the world is at least gradually changing for the better on that front.
@NecrochildK 🙋♂️ 40 years old and it wasn’t until I was mid to late 20s that I first realized I was trans too. Before that I had a feeling of wrong that I didn’t understand or have words for. When I realized I was trans I brought the subject up in a roundabout way to a loved one who had a somewhat negative reaction. I quickly back peddled and played it off as a joke. Tried to squash it down. But in my mid thirties it all resurfaced x10. I spiraled into a deep depression and was suicidal. I used escapism a lot (before too but almost constantly during that period of depression). I was finally able to accept it for myself, told my spouse (he’s been great btw) and started living my life again but more as the real me.
I had a cousin transition and our family flipped out. Several of my cousins were never surprised when this happened. We all knew as kids that my cousin was a boy. He has a happy family life now. I know it was a long, difficult journey for him. I truly hope people could keep an open mind. Everyone deserves to be happy within their own bodies.
The impression I get from this woman is that she sees parents as the ultimate, all-knowing authority in their children’s lives, which I find weird for someone who doesn’t have kids.
@@essr4580 I will add, it's not only conservatives though. My mom may be transphobic in her past and still...questionable, but she saw me as her puppet/doll to do with as she pleased for 16~ years. She was TERF-y and is a second-wave feminist iirc. Always voted democratic and holds mostly democratic views. Sadly, depending on the area, it can actually be the majority mindset of adults/parents in said area, for example, my state as a whole, oof.
You believe ppl are born trans. She believes ppl are turned into trans...and she doesn't like the fact some ppl are not adapted to their genetic sex, independently of its source. So, she wants to "protect" ppl to be turned into transgender, while you argue ppl were already trans since the beginning... Is there any scientific method to achieve a solution for that? Conservatives claim that destroying the classical family design is the ultimate goal of ideologies like gender identity, gender disparity/feminism, racial conflicts, poor-rich conflicts, etc, because all those things make ppl argue and fight each other to achieve some kind of justice/repair violence offered from Governments, turning the latter into a even more powerful institution.
Me, genderfliud: (finally comes out) Mean kid at school: (trys to misgender me on purpose) Me, accepting all pronouns: *jokes on you im into that sht* Edit: oh crap yall we trans Edit 2: im out now Edit 3: dealing with bullies well still! Not my fault u got a 2nd grade knowledge of gender
I have a trans-man cousin whose life got measurably WORSE after coming out, to the point where his familly kept constantly trying to guilt and Hell-fear him back into becoming "our true little girl again". Transitioning makes your life easier? HA!
@@ironandzinc being imaginative is not the same as hating your body because it feels wrong, no matter what you force yourself to think. believe me, if trans people could choose, they wouldnt be dysphoric
I tried explaining that I am non-binary to my 8 year old sister and she was like wait wait wait.. you people can turn invisible?!?! She thought I said translucent not transgender 😆
Little kids and LGBT terms are so wholesome. When I was a kid, I HATED going to my aunts house, not because they where lesbian but because they where never going to have kids and I would be bored in their house
Reminds me of the story where my four year old brother brought my phone to me. This was a month or so after I came out as non binary. He goes, “I got them phone.” Later he says, “I say them now.”
@@at-citie I am a daughter of a lesbian, and I have two sibblings of the same mother, her partner during huge parts of my childhood was a mother of four. Lesbian women can and do have children. But the greatest fun I had when her lesbian friends came over to babysit us, or took us for a weekend. BECAUSE they had no children of their own they where super invested in giving us a good time. I think you might have missed out on some great time with your aunts.
Most of the comments here are bashing that stupid transphobic ad, but I just wanted to share a bit of good news!! I finally worked up the courage to come out as a trans guy to my parents and they were totally on board and willing to accept and learn about me. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world and my whole life feels lighter and happier. Jamie, you’re a huge part of the reason why I was able to discover who I was and come out, and being able to pursue who I really am. Thank you so much and I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!
My mom claimed I transitioned as a social contagion. I was homeschooled. I DID have online homeschool classes, but every class talked about how trans people were not real, a plight on the world, and going to hell. Would have been kicked out of school, actually, if I told them. And, I fully believed it. Social contagion. I read a medical article on the internet. I love being a man, now, as an adult. It's perfect for me. Mom still says it's a social contagion. She says it was rapid onset gender dysphoria of the internet, because I didn't call myself a word until I learned the word.
I’m not transgender but I’m a lesbian, and of course I wouldn’t be openly gay a decade ago because there was so much more homophobia back then (and still today)! The spike in people identifying as transgender is something we should be proud of, as our society has become more accepting of trans people! ♥︎
Exactly! There were trans kids when I was at school a decade ago, they just didn't come out publicly until several years later. Basically, they've always been there, they're just now more comfortable with being openly trans.
How hard is it for people to understand that WE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HERE. The reason we’re not taught about lgbtq+ people throughout history is because people want us to believe that the lgbtq+ community just magic appeared one day and that it’s all a trend. Like look at the Greeks, they were VERY gay!
When I came out as enby to my mom, she basically said “no you’re not” then sent me to a therapist to be told that I’m not valid and that enby people don’t exist (edit: so apparently a lot of people are confused, my therapist is the one who told me that enbies don’t exist, not my mom (shes supportive of enbies?? but still refuses to believe that I am one??)) (edit 2: I’m going by he/they now haha, now I’m even more scared)
I'm so sorry. Hang tight, write down every hateful this she says, with the date, say nothing further about gender, and bide your time. Wait until you are independent financially. Then and only then: 1. Come out again to her as enby. 2. Take that list you used to keep track of the hateful thing she's said and send her a copy. 3. Tell her that this is why you need to cut contact with her for at least a year, if not two, so that she can think about what she's done. 4. Follow through and cut communication for the length of time you chose. We gay men and lesbians had to do things like this in the 1990s. Learn from us; learn to do the same.
You are amazing, and I love you. You are truly wonderful, and don’t let anyone ever tell you differently. There are people out there who will accept you, there are people out there who are enbies too. You’re amazing and don’t let anyone get you down ❤️❤️❤️
“16 year olds are able to get top surgery without even a therapist’s note.” Me: 🧐 a 40 year old who has to have a therapist’s note before I can get top surgery.
I am so sorry to hear this. If you’re in the US and you pay for surgery why do you need a note to say you’re allowed. You don’t need a note for a breast augmentation. I can understand a little more in the U.K. when it is a free procedure as you need a health care referral for most things but if you wanted to pay and go private I just don’t see the issue...
@@maximummax7232 me too, I’m not trans but I’m genderfluid and I definitely don’t feel comfortable with my chest so that kind of world would be amazing
@@bluebelledarling, yes I’m in the U.S. and I’m paying 100% out of pocket. It’s ridiculous. But I could walk in there for the opposite and no questions. lol
I'm finally at the point where I can send this to my mom and expect her to listen to it. Thank you, Jamie, for creating wonderful, easily-accessible, educational content.
The fact that she had the audacity that a sixteen year old can just go have a double mastectomy without a note is just ridiculous. My mother, a cis woman, is trying to get weight loss surgery and she's had to undergo multiple psych evals before they even considered giving her a note saying she could have surgery. And she's 43!
If a woman wants surgery to permanently remove her ability to have kids, typically she has to talk to a couple doctors, already have had two kids and be in her thirties or she might not be able to have the procedure. Also, they might ask permission from a husband if she has one. 🙄
@@SilverGallowglass Nobody ever said that she was trying to remove her ability to have kids, I said she wants to have weight loss surgery. As in she wants to be skinny. Before you get all aggressive maybe read my comment 😁
@@ashemarlow6471 I know... I was adding to the discourse of there being various surgeries that people cannot just go and have. That full grown adults will go and say they want a surgery and will have to go through the ringer to justify that they really want that surgery. My comment had to do with sharing another surgery and the loops in the way and had nothing to do with what your mother's surgery did or was. I did read your comment. I'm sorry MY comment's purpose wasn't clear enough.
My handsome son came out as trans when he was 17. I had actually questioned him a year prior because of how I saw him presenting. I am Bi and he came out as his when he was 14ish and was still scared to come out to me. I immediately started him in therapy so he can begin the process in the correct manner and so he can quickly know what path he would like to consider in terms of surgery. Even kids with accepting parents can still be hesitant to come out to them. Just love your kids. That is literally our entire job.
The first sentence you wrote made me so incredibly happy!! I hope someday my parents call me their son. Thank you for your amazing advice and loving your son so much ❤ ♥ ♥
I live in oregon. I didn’t have to get my parents permission to start testosterone because I’m sixteen; however, the process took A YEAR AND A HALF (NOT the same day i walked into my doctors office), and I had to work with a therapist, pediatrician, behavioral health specialist, endocrinologist, and a social worker. it’s so weird how they make it sound like it’s incredibly easy to get gender affirming therapy when it’s so damn hard
@@RunOut25 In most states teenagers have almost complete say over their medical health once they turn a certain age. In Oregon I believe it’s 14. This can exclude certain medical procedures, but for the most part, once you’re 14 you do not need parental consent when it comes to medical stuff :)
I've run into so many people who don't believe young trans people should be allowed to transition, and yet fully support nonconsensual cosmetic surgery on intersex kids' genitals. I can't imagine the mental gymnastics that takes.
Because they think everyone who knows what they're talking about is "influenced by the radical left" or something. Like, just say you have no facts, hate science, and go 😂 (them, not you)
Worse it seems citing sources is an issue for them because they know their sources are either invalid or debunked because the source is anti trans to begin with.
For any eggs that may be reading this: If you’re worried about passing and feel like you can’t wear certain things, just know that it’s not about what you wear but how you wear it. I’m MTF and the other day I was tired and didn’t even try to pass, I was wearing a blue shirt and I looked more masculine than usual. However I kept getting called Miss and Mam and I realized that’s because of my mannerisms. People don’t assume your gender based on your clothes, but how you wear those clothes and how you act. Just some advice.
someone once said "love yourself than others will love you too" and I feel it aplies here to, being confident in yourself makes it more "passable", yall are valid and beautiful
Well I act pretty emotional as ftm but it's getting annoying that people assume dudes have to be constantly aggressive analytics. I can be but k don't want to be .
True. My daughter was seen as a boy on several occasions even though she was wearing a horribly pink overall. She was climbing around on a bench instead of sitting calmly. Seems being an energetic child is enough to be perceived as a boy.
15:35 I’m a Californian high school student, and we actually did get a lesson on gender identity! I already knew most of the stuff they told us about in the lesson but I felt so happy that this kind of stuff is being taught in schools! I’m not transgender myself but you guys are so valid, have a great day! ♥︎
Our health class has something similar! Even though it didn’t cover everything, I was happy people were learning about things they may not have heard about!
What’s frustrating is that most of this ad is covering about the teenage girls, almost feeling like “oh, trans women are acceptable and common but trans men are totally not real”
The funniest (and by funniest I mean annoying) thing about this “They just wanted to be trans because they did it after it was on social media” like... yeah. Because we didn’t fucking realize being trans was even an _option_ let alone something we could be. I didn’t WANT to be non-binary, I am non-binary. And I didn’t even know that was a thing I could be until I learned about it on online. That’s how learning works. People learn identities exist and go “Oh! That’s me!” when they wouldn’t have before if the information as suppressed. Same with dysphoria, it turns out I have some dysphoria, BUT it wasn’t magically created the day I read the word dysphoria on social media. I always had it since puberty and just assumed everyone felt so uncomfortable in their own skin.
Same here! For me its like....I never reslly cared what people called me. If someone thought I was a girl on the internet, I let them assume that. If someone that I was a boy on the internet, I'd let them assume that. Time passed and I learned what non-binary was. Now I identify as the type of non-binary that's everything, and nothing at the same time. My pronouns are They/He/She, and I'm pretty happy in my identity!
Yeah the whole argument of "social media makes people LGBT" angle is really fucking dumb. I'm not the way I am because the internet forced me to be, it's more like I just happen to be this way and the internet gave me a word for it. I'm asexual because that's how I was born, not because I read about asexuality and thought "wow that's me!" I was always ace and the internet exposed me to the fact that I wasn't alone in these feelings. Same with being aro, and later on being nonbinary. I always was, I just didn't even realize it was even an option for the longest time.
Same, I feel like I have dysphoria however, still trying to confirm if I am male, I feel like I was supposed to be male however, I want to make sure that I have my information correct.
Like- they shield us from the real world, force us into gender roles, and never even let us question our gender then wonder why we didn't say anything or exhibit symptoms sooner 🤦♂️
Yeah literally contradicting... Such BS like she's trying to say. "teens that are developing can't possibly realize their gender identity doesn't match their assigned at birth identity when they're not toddlers. HOW DARE YOU EXIST" why tf is TH-cam allowing this on their platform?
To be honest the more negative comments I hear from closed minded people , the more I want to support trans people you can't tell trans people who to be or how to live their life fact💯
6:57 this is something that Sam Collins brought up; but usually when a AFAB shows masculine traits at a young age it is brushed of as the person is "Just a tomboy" whereas when a AMAB person shows feminine traits at a young age it is considered a problem. I think this has a lot to do with the "sudden shock" of afab people coming out as trans men at puberty because they dont really have the opportunity to come out before that, since nobody bats an eye at their "tomboyish" behaviour
That aspect definitely ties in to a general distaste or devaluing of femininity. Nobody thinks it’s a problem wether an afab child acts masculine, because it’s seen as a neutral or positive. But the moment an amab child is feminine or even perceived as a possibility to be, now it’s a problem because “boys shouldn’t be feminine, that’s weak and bad”. I’ve noticed that even if the kids are cis and a girl identifies with more feminine traits, she tends to be treated in a more patronizing manner than a more masculine-presenting girl. so it definitely doesn’t apply only to gender variance/nonconformity, but it can make things harder for people who are nonconforming I don’t think I worded that as well as I wanted but hopefully the idea is still understood
@@PochamaRex Oh yeah definitely. I do think it depends on the culture, there are for instance some cultures that favour feminine traits over masculine but the majority of places it's most definitely easier to be a masculine person in society even as a cis woman. I do think it is headed in a healthier direction though, now that there's a lot of strong and powerful feminine people in media breaking that stereotype.
It’s funny that the same people who are like “covid only has a two percent death rate let’s open back up” are also like “nearly one percent of people who medically transition will detransition we need to stop this!” like well my kid might die at school but at least they’re not learning how to be “a tRaNsGeNdEr”
I love how she's calling transitioning a "quick" fix Doesn't the whole transitions process take like (please take these numbers with a heap of salt) three years to find an opening for a therapist, three years spent with said therapist, five years waiting for an opening for a specialist, etc etc
The numbers can be pretty accurate for some countries actually, in The Netherlands it's pretty much up to that time to find an opening for an intake. Next to the time it takes, it's also astonishing they completely gloss over the fact that it can also mean some people have faced a lifetime of bullying already, so much for a quick fix right....Ugh.
I know someone going through being trans and its very sad and hard for her. It sucks, I can't really help but support her. I don't think you put yourself through so much pain just to get a "quick fix"
A friend of mine knew she was trans when she was 14 and started to go into transition over summer break (I’m 28 now and that really was a new and different thing to everyone back then) Even though she knew about it so early she had to wait until she was around 19 to get bottom surgery. And even though she started so early unfortunately she had already grown a beard and had a masculine voice so it took really long for her until things started to change on hormones. It’s not like you just go to the doctor, get one pill and boom - you are a different gender now.
Depends on where you are and what paths you take. I was able to get testosterone in about two months and top surgery in six months. That said, transitioning is not a quick fix at all, even taking hormones and getting surgery doesn’t 100% fix dysphoria.
I managed it in 17 months, back in 2001. But that was pretty damn atypical. The local gender clinic stretched it up over 8-10 YEARS you had to pretty much convince them you were NEVER changing your mind
they sweep these inconsistencies under the rug, lest they have to actually think upon the inveracity or harm of their statements. because they know that anyone who notices these inconsistencies will never be convinced that those statements are true.
the "but some ppl regret transitioning!!1!!" argument is so blatanly wrong, lots of people regret getting tattoos, but do you see these bigots arguing to shut down tattoo parlors?
Honestly they'd had some kind of leg to stand on if they went after plastic surgeons. The regret rate there is genuinely concerning. Makes me wonder why I need to jump through so many hoops and they don't. Probably something something capitalism, something something transphobia.
@@chrissy9997 Yeah, but the regret rate for normal cosmetic surgeries is dramatically different from the regret rate for transitional surgeries. They wouldn’t have _much_ of a leg on which to stand.
My very conservative mother’s best friend was like, “so when girls go through puberty they get more insecure, and when guys go through puberty they get more confident, so that’s why girls want to transition and go on testosterone, to become more confident.” Mmmmm so I had to be like “kids don’t just come out and immediately get in hormones, you do not know what you’re talking about.” It’s so frustrating.
so "guys" get on estrogen to become more humble?
And it’s pretty dangerous to assume that boys don’t get insecure while they’re going through puberty. That’s exactly the kind of rigid gender-based assumption that contributes to men and boys hiding mental health struggles.
Puberty doesn’t make someone transgender, gender dysphoria does. I’m sure puberty can make that dysphoria more pronounced but there’s a lot more to why people choose to transition than just “I guess teens these days are just sO cRaZy”.
the “girls” would be more confident but not for the reasons she is saying
Me, a cis guy who went through puberty: AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!
Your mother's friend should become a comedian.
Everyone is insecure during puberty. Trans people actually tend to have a bit of an advantage because they have to actively analyze their gender on a daily basis and are faced with daily confrontations with gender disphoria. Cis teens will probably be even less sure and comfortable with their identities because they haven't taken the time to get to know themselves as much. But either way, even if it doesn't balance out that way and trans people questioning tilts the scale their way for insecurity, everyone is experiencing it, and I highly doubt many people experience confidence during that time any deeper than surface level as in the way they hold themselves.
I’ve been told this recently as well on my videos. PragerU is a bit much, just, all of the time.
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I've been seeing it on your channel,this channel, Sam Collins, and Samantha Lux's channel.
I agree, I really hated this ad.
@@cobrabear6497 wow really?!
“You teenager is just a teenager”
No, your teenager is just a person with ideas, thoughts, opinions, needs, and basic human rights 🤠 please treat them as such
"But if I can't boss around and dismiss my children, what's the point of being a parent? My parents did it to me, so it's my turn now!"
_-Conservative parents_
I agree with the thing of "your teenager is just a teenager" but for a different reason. Your teenage child is a teenager so let them figure themself out. Support them and let them make advances and mistakes, let them grow up knowing they can be who they are and no mater what you will love them unconditionally.
yell it louder so than parents can hear it, please
@@onivlasbrony7432 yeeeesh I relate to this to much. But it’s okay
“they love you and are only trying to help to be more responsible, although completely ignore you when you ask to go to the doctor to be diagnosed with your obvious adhd/depression 😀”
No your teenager is just a meatsack with electricity and hormones, please treat them as such
"Gender dysphoria only existed in boys."
Me, a woman with autism: why does that sound familiar?
Omg, that's right. I forgot about them saying that!
Truth! I was never officially diagnosed in childhood most likely because of that stereotype since I didn’t fit the typical presentation so instead I was listed as having an undiagnosed learning disability, yay me!
(Not sure if I’m actually autistic as I’ve yet to be tested but at a minimum I do know I have both sensory and auditory processing disorders which are the two most common cooccurring disorders amongst autistics so it’s highly likely).
This is exactly what I thought of as well. Some things can present differently depending on things like how children are socialized, how open their household is, how likely their guardians are to take issues seriously. Which has led to many on the spectrum to never be diagnosed or to be diagnosed very late in life, and others to believe autism doesn't even present in girls at all. I'm not surprised that similar things are being insinuated here.
I was waiting for someone to add something like this. AFAB people didn't used to be in medical studies--I can remember a paper from pre-1980s about reducing the risk of ovarian cancer in which all the participants were men--or they were considered 'hysterical'. This is why you learn the 'time' rule when citing sources or doing research: the more modern a paper is, the better it is. Hell, I had a teach from way back that told me any paper over 5 years old should be treated with extra scrutiny.
The bullshit these people use when talking about sources from the fucking nineties or before makes me want to tear my hair out.
Same! Everything is more common in boys…
this ad screams, “I’ve never talked to a trans person."
As do all PragerU videos
I mean, if they did then they might start to realize that trans people are humans who deserve the right to exist.
@@amythistowo8377 no we can't have that
@@cheddarcheese8577 why
@@greendayenjoyer i think they were being sarcastic
"Remember that a teenager is still JUST a teenager." Ah, yes. Time to engage in Gaslighting 101.
The truth makes you apoplectic with rage
So if a teenager says they're allergic to peanuts they're not really allergic to peanuts theyre just teens ooof
Going into this video, seeing this comment, I already know it's gonna amp up my ✨little t trauma✨
Me throwing up and getting sick bc of a food I ate when I was younger and my parents saying I was just being a dramatic teen, turns out I was allergic :)
they did the same for my depression and adhd, let's just say my therapist was not very happy abt my parents
I've found that teens and older children are really good at telling you if they're in mental or physical pain if you aren't dismissing them constantly as just kids.
i love that their caricature of a scary trans person thats turning all the "normal girls" trans has blue-green hair and multiple facial piercings. like thats me lmao
You: Just chilling
Transphobes: running in panic!
me: talking to you and getting confidant to wear abnormal clothes
transphobe: OH POOR BABY WHAT HAS THIS PERSON DONE!
Ah, so you're a brave person who is true to yourself instead of conforming to societal pressure. HOW DARE YOU lol
Keep up the good work then! :)
I m a cis girl with purple hair and facial piericings. But I mean I kinda did help my trans friend come out/change his feminine name to a shorter version more masculine nickname. And he did change his name and totally transition after 18. So I guess I kinda was the final push he needed to accept himself.
But I like to call it being a good friend lmao
The thing is when I came out as bi, my mother said “you’ve never been interested in women before”. I HAD been interested in women before, but I had never said anything because I thought it was wrong or weird.
My gender identity is the same. I haven’t talked about it because I don’t want to be disowned or thrown out. I love my family, but they can be very conservative.
Same, and I hope that you’re currently well ❤️
I don't think this is transphobic. But it does raise the question why is the rate skyrocketing.
@@sarahdagnall6250 The number of left-handed people have raised since the last century, not because of seeing more left-handed people, but because being left handed is now more acceptable. Same with being trans, people in the past did not come out much because they feared being killed or getting disowned by their parents, but since it's a little more acceptable now, more people are coming out as trans.
"you've never been interested in women before" is like saying "you've never showered before" just because she doesn't see it happening doesn't mean it isn't 😭
I tried coming out as trans to my mom today and she said “but you were so feminine before” and I didn’t have energy to explain that I didn’t understand the concept of gender as a kid and everything appeared intersex in my eyes so I crawled my ass back into the closet and proceeded to cry 😌👌
The fact that she thinks that transitioning is a “quick fix” or the easy way out confuses and disgusts me. Pretty sure it is neither easy or quick to transition.
It seems like every transphobe thinks you can just go to one doctor appointment and get surgery and hormones next day. Like wow does it not work like that.
I’ve heard like, _one_ story of someone who detransitioned and it sounded like the medical professionals they saw were extremely incompetent. I think Sammi Dodger mentioned them before? Idk my memory is shit.
But yeah in 99.99% of cases, it takes months to years, and lots of therapy.
When you realize that these are the same people who think it only takes a minute to get a license to own and operate a vehicle, and that the DMV doesn't require amazing amounts of "proof of residency" (at least in the USA). They are also the same people who think that the already existing gun restriction and registration laws can be gotten around by any law-abiding citizen in just a couple of minutes ... It just ... why are people so amazingly stupid and refuse to do any research at all?
Yeah cause when you know your trans first you have to research it to know how to transition then you have to come out then change your wardrobe then get hrt then you have to be on hormones for atleast a year to get any surgeries and you also have to afford tell surgerys it's not quick at all
Also way overblowing and misunderstanding how transition is talked about among trans groups. Like there’s definitely issues within trans communities on how we talk about it, but she makes it very obvious she doesn’t actually know how trans communities work, what we talk about and how. Like she doesn’t actually know what trans teens might be learning from other trans people online lol.
Yes because surgeries are quick..... I have had issues with my mammory ducts and already had a surgery when I was 18. The problem is still there and now I am in my 30s and I am tired of dealing with the problem. Oh my gosh I am having a hard time getting a problem fixed and prague thinks doctors give out surgeries willy-nilly???? No they don't!!!
"Let's not listen to doctors" that is literally how the pandemic started.
Also the reason why the pandemic got worse
Yes omg this comment is gold
Wouldn't be surprised if there's a ton of anti-masker virus deniers working at PragerU
Yes and it gets worse when you open up the country for Christmas.
Why do we not listen to scientists?
it also led to the torture of many people. medicine has honestly always been horrible, but then trying to go back to the way it was before after you made advancements is just insane.
That "be the adult in the relationship" line just screams "force something on another human being under the guise of them being stupider than you."
I know. It sounds like child abuse to me. If anyone has parents who think like this I'm very sorry
Yeah, these are the same people who treat their children like property and think they have the right to control them like puppets.
How do you keep your kids from being comfortable and discovering who they are?
Well, don’t let them have contact with the outside world and don’t educate them on identity works.
@@RowanArk it sounds like religion.
This whole ad just screams ”I know my child better than they know themself and you can’t tell me otherwise”
As someone who graduated high school nearly a decade ago, I can confirm that she is 100% lying about no one knowing any trans kids in high school back then.
i graduated high school 20 years ago and hadn't heard about trans people back then, but when i did learn about them later on it was just like "oh, that makes sense, ok." it was really nbd, and you know a lot of girls in my high school identified as vapid cheerleader bullies but somehow that did not magically brainwash me into wanting to be a vapid cheerleader bully... 🤔
I graduated nearly 30 years ago... there were certainly trans people in my school and community!
You can confirm no such thing and it is you who is lying
i graduated like in 2014 and never saw a single trans person
@@chara7259well every school is different but I know that trans kids are everywhere whether they are out or not. I attend a Catholic school in very far right Florida and I know trans kids who just told their friends.
"A four year old is too young to know they're trans."
most parents at their babies: dress them in shit like "i'm gonna break all the girls hearts when im a teen" "i'm gonna bring all the boys home to daddy"
I have a shirt that says “Bright future, strong girl” and whenever I find it in my closet I throw it because I’m a non-binary
@@Zero_Is_Stopping_Time Would your family notice if you threw it out? Would you be able to come up with some excuse like 'I don't like the colours/font' or 'it doesn't fit me right' or just 'I don't like the shirt anymore'?
@@SirMrSir-do4dk I mean, it is a bit loose so that could be a good excuse
@@Zero_Is_Stopping_Time i'm in the same position. My mom's bf got me a "Women will save the world" shirt and I didn't know how to explain that I was not a woman. Plus everyone i was already out to was there and NOBODY corrected him.
@@BestBetterBestest And, that sounds pretty sexist towards men, people act like men can’t have feelings and have to be “big balls tough guy” all the time
I love how she said that "there was 0 research on trans men" then later basically said "something weird is happening cause theres a lot more trans men now"
Lol yes
"Hm, it seems that people are far more comfortable openly identifying as a thing now that it's more commonly accepted. This is clear proof that that they are only identifying as this thing because it's trendy and they want to take over the world so that they can... um... I'll get back to you on that. But it's totally because they want to take over the world, and not because they want to be happy with their lives."
Thought the same thing. This part is a testimony of her great stupidity. Can't even believe people can live with that level of "thinking" (assuming she ever tried to think before)
"the trans men are multiplying!!!!!!!!"
Child: finds out they're trans
Parents: shame them into hiding it because they're too young
Child: represses their emotions
Parents: what do you mean, you're trans? There weren't any signs!
I didn't realize I was trans until I was 14 and when I came out my mom said something like "looking back now I see the signs"
@croissant Hey! If you need some to talk to I can always give out my Instagram or Discord!
It’s terrible that she says gender transition won’t help these “girls”. My trans son had terrible anxiety, depression, an eating disorder and basically a terrible time. He is now presenting as male and in T and eating properly and being mostly happy. It’s not that everything is perfect but the improvement is so noticeable.
Someone on Twitter said this: “transitioning doesn’t fix all your problems, it makes your problems worth solving”
You're a good parent, im glad your son feels better, i wish him well ❤
Exactly. I suffered mentally when my breasts started growing in and I just couldn't understand why but when I finally got a binder, my life was improved immensely. Like I actually could take care of myself because I didn't have to deal with having breaths all day
@@Amara87387yess that's the best way to describe it. It's part of why my dad has been so adamant on paying for my trans tape and binders
that she said the process is "rushed" was so funny to me. it took me 13 years to figure out and accept myself, 2 years to actually come out to everyone, 1 year to get T and now more than 2 years to get top surgery. Like, honey. I wish it was rushed so I didn't waste like half my life, geez...
Friendly reminder to you you didnt waste half your life, all of that waiting, no matter how shit that waiting felt, every brilliant thing you did and every moment you spent in those years culminated in the brilliant person you are today, who has the words and knowledge for you are, or at least has more and better words and knowledge, certainly not a waste in my eyes
It wasnt wasted if its what makes you happy for who you are
Literallyyyy when i was still figuring myself out, i would sometimes beg to whatever god-like being that was out there to just give me a slip of paper telling me what my gender was 😭
yea i’m 14 and just started questioning and i’m out to some friends as bi/pan but 3 people know i’m also questioning my gender and one of them only knows because i had to explain something to them. i’m only out to 5 people in total and 2 of them are part of the community, another one is one of my best friends for almost 8 years, someone who is like as sister to me, and the bf of one person i already told. i just found out my best best friend is homophobic today and might be transphobic tho :(
I love ur pfp
PragerU: 10 years ago there were no trans-men
Jamie (trans man who began transitioning 10 years ago): Well...
Now we know who started it
"We haven't talked about it, so it didn't exist."
Clearly *Clearly* he was the first
The greek god of trans people: "Am I a joke to you?"
My religion is so chill 😂😂
She kept saying "she" and I thought for the longest time she was talking about trans woman but no she was just misgendering trans men
@Just another soapy dude yeah transphobes are not ones to look at facts or listen to reasons
They literally referred to trans boys in the video as “girls who want to transition to another ‘SEX’ “
It's so frustrating. She keeps calling AFAB trans people "girls". I'm not a "girl who thinks she's a boy", because I never was a girl.
You know what also gives anxiety and depression.. feeling completely alone because you can’t find anyone in real life who relates to you that’s why social media is so popular
As a fellow genderfluid, i completely agree with this
Yup. I have a visual impairment that leaves me unable to drive, I live in Texas. If it weren’t for the internet and discord, I’d have been VERY lonely
@@TerryWaryObituaryI dunno if i'm genderfluid or genderflux tbh 😑🫴
Alright so, hear me out: I had a cat-and I know this is a weird way to start the anecdote-who we always thought was a female cat. We had it since it was a kitten, we adored it.
We thought the cat was female since it was a kitten when we adopted it, because no one in the house knew how to tell the difference. That cat was the queen of the house and everybody loved it.
Then, one day, we discovered it was a male cat instead.
My mom was shocked and mildly horrified, my grandma didn't much care about it anyway, but my stepfather had the worst reaction of all. Poor thing passed from being his favorite cat on earth to being worse than dirt and the punchline of every joke because it was male and it had "deceived him" its whole life or something stupid like that. He even got physical with it when it tried to snuggle with him at first until it learned better.
The worst part is: the poor cat couldn't understand why everybody but me treated it differently now. _It was still the exact same cat, it had always been male,_ it's just that no one was able to see it until it grew up enough to be able to show them better.
Now, since they reacted this way towards my cat… if I'd come out as transmasculine, or in my case nonbinary, what do you think would've been their reaction to _me?_
Seriously, why do people think "girls want to become boys because they're told it solves all their problems and it's easier" is _even slightly_ a reasonable argument to make?! Being trans is *_not_* an "easy fix" at all. It usually makes your life harder. You don't come out because it's *_"easier"_* you come out _to be able _*_to be yourself._*
Poor cat.
Being a CIS man is certainly still easier, but trans? Nope. And yea, it’s not about “easier”, it’s about fixing a biological issue. And poor cat. Some people are just dumb. I bet Brandon Teena would loved for things to be easier when he was revealed to be trans. Let’s ask him. Oh wait. He was killed in cold blood. Yea, “easier”.
Damn that's awful, it really sucks that they are like that and acted like that to the poor innocent cat :( He didn't deserve that
What the fuck I thought this was going to be like saying that you are the cat and not actually a cat, but like seriously wtf poor cat omg
That poor baby!
Even as a cis woman, I don't understand how anyone could think people "choose" to be trans for an "easy fix." It just doesn't make a bit of sense. All I hear from trans people is about how badly people treat them because they are trans. How do transphobes see that as being an out?
"Quick fix."
Really. Years of therapy, doctors, referrals, legal document changes, misgendering, erasure, bullying, harassment, threats of violence, DO I REALLY NEED TO KEEP GOING.
The fact that she just keeps misgendering me and other trans guys basically in the whole video just makes me feel so uncomfortable- she says she is worried about us but she's just trying to hurt us lmao
@@ameliasellers6396 people like that just use the "it's to protect you" card to promote their transphobic ideas and make them sound less discriminatory and ridiculous
god ikr- it made me so dysphoric ugh
shskdhsk ik I hate it so much hearing someone talk about me and my community like that makes me feel so icky
Oh come on, TERFs are not feminists and conservatives never cared for people's well-being. There's nothing out-of-character in this.
Guys I just wanted to say that you're all so beautiful and valid, one day everyone will appreciate you and love you for who you are, regardless of your sexuality or gender, you are loved and supported no matter what
Your patience with this stuff is frankly astounding. I’m cis, but I can’t listen to her blatant manipulation, fake concern and intellectual dishonesty for more than a few seconds without the urge to throw my iPad. Thank you for always providing a reasoned, well-sourced rebuttal to harmful nonsense like hers.
Lol I know right. I like when they say that facts don’t care about your feelings, then get mad when all the facts point to trans people being valid. Hypocrites, all of fhem
Thanks for being an ally. We appreciate every single one of the allies just like you being on our side. Have a good day and just reply to this or something if you need help dissing out the phobes
As a transgender boy, I was put into therapy because of other reasons, a year later I came out to my mum, she wasn't that supportive, then a few months later, I came out to my dad, he was hella supportive, but within those few months my mum learned more and grew to really supportive. and now I got my first binder last week and most of my mum's family knows. Just thought I should share some good news! (and my therapist is a literal queen tho, she was the reason I came out to dad)
Edit: I have finally looked back on this old comment. A lot of things of changed sadly, I now use They/Them, My mom is still supportive as always but my dad isn't so much. Also thank you to everyone so much! Thank you for 700 likes, like wow-
:0 good to hear :D
So glad to hear that!
I know it's been 2 months, but I'm just so happy for you! Please stay safe out there and may great things come your way💙
Glad to hear so!
I hope your life only gets better from here!
For me its personally been the opposite experience.
I am a trans girl, but still not out to everyone, my mom knows and is supportive, but my dad is massively transphobic, so I can't let him know or I risk my dad trying to kick me out and possibly causing a massive fight with my mom.
@@Lyralye23 I hope that things get better for you too! As an adult you get a lot more control over your life and stuff. Just keep on going!
as a cis girl with anxiety, not once in my life have I thought: "Hey, you know what would make all my problems go away? Cutting my boobs off and grow a beard!!"
exactly! their statements are so obviously flawed that they can be shot down almost instantly
I love this xomment. Its sp sarcastic
@@ERIF2003 thanks ^^´
Exactly! I would have been a prime candidate for "rapid onset gender dysphoria", I was insecure, had several friends coming out at the time and was fairly gender noncomforming... except I've never felt the need to question my gender because I'm not transgender!
As a cis girl who is often insecure about her body, I can say that my insecurities come from my body not being "feminine" enough, strangely enough it has never occurred to me that masculinising it with testosterone would help.
"I'm Abigail Schrieir, author of irreversible damage..."
She's right, you know. Not in the way she thinks, but she did cause a lot of damage.
Luckily she didn't, most of people watching those videos don't agree with the shit she says
@@himikotoga2191 Unfortunately, the few who will watch and believe her videos will either suffer the consequences and repress their actual identity, or go on and inflict massive damage on trans people.
I'd like to challenge her to a duel. There can only be one of us.
LMAO
@@abigailsaoirsefinnegan So basically Highlander? lol
I can tell me being transgender isn’t a phase
Because you know why? No matter how many times I try to suppress it and move on or try to convince myself I’m not trans, The feelings and dysphoria always come back.
...did you just rickroll me-
(same though)
You could say that the dysphoria is never gonna give you up?
@@Sketchguy1248 NOOOOOOO AHHHHHH HAS FB J YES BB KJ Y FF BJTT
Rick has spoken, and truth he speaks.
I realized I was trans when I was 19 (A year ago). To the outside, it was sudden, but in my mind it’s always been there, Amara has always been there. She was always there, but I kept pushing her back because that wasn’t manly enough. I’d done it for so long I just thought it was normal, that I wasn’t trans. A year ago, I was doing some mental spring cleaning if you will, going through my mind, feeling, and emotions, to make sure I was doing good. That’s where I found her, Amara. That’s where I found *me.* I realized the voice I’d been listening to for a long time was the voice of dysphoria. When I started listening to who I really was, I was able to push back my dysphoria. He’s still here, but he no longer has power, because I am Amara
California demigirl here.
That “kindergarten trans stuff” is literally just teaching kids how to address people you don’t know the gender of. My friend is a teacher (2nd grade currently) and that’s basically it for the “transing of education.”
Telling kids that there are trans people in the world, and also that you should be kind and respectful to everyone? Oh, the horror! 🙃
How dare you teach children to respect people?!? Shame on your friend!
In Britain we have Christmas Pantomimes which traditionally involve a lot of crossdressing (e.g. Peter Pan is played by a young woman, and there's usually an over the top older lady played by a fat guy with a beard putting on a silly voice, if you've seen much Monty Python you'll know the kind of thing) and most young kids don't underrstand that the actors and the characters aren't the same gender despite the fact that's part of the joke!
Pretty sure a little bit of "trans people exist" teaching isn't going to rock their world
New Jersey demi girl here
It wasn't until middle school when it was announced we'd be talking about lgbtq history. I've always known of transgender people when I was younger, but it was mostly from the news and 2012/2013 TH-cam
Just wanna know: isn't being demi means that you can only be attracted to someone if you know him personally? (Just asking)
@@bluecritical7618 demigender is different from demisexual. Demisexual is when you only are attracted to people you have a close connection with, and demiboy/girl means that you feel only partly male/female (if I'm wrong, someone correct me)
I also noticed that the “friend suggestion” was accompanied by a friend with
-short blue hair
-many piercings
-and a position and expression that suggest some sort of nefarious “whispering in their ears” situation.
I mean, this is no accident. Prager is, at the same time, drawing on the negative stereotypes of people with dyed hair, piercings, or that aren’t gender conforming, that their right-wing audience has, as well as creating a negative association with people like that. Suggesting, without saying, that people like that are a bad influence, that you should keep them away from your kids.
Screw Prager U and their bullshit. Seriously!
i noticed that in these ads every thing is in it for a reason
The nicest, most innocent, and least “problem child” friends I have look like that the worst kids I knew always looked pretty basic
The middle school I went to showed PragerU videos in class. My “friends” (fortunately now ex-friends) saw the shitty transphobic speakers as “heroes.”
This stereotype is the reason why I, a young trans man (a bit older than the age that the moral panic is usually about, but still) will never dye my hair blue even though I think blue would suit me. I don't wanna be clocked as trans or seen as some stereotype, rip.
"But if you graduated high school over a decade ago chances are you didn't know any." 2006, my school had an LGBT Alliance, the principal was out as a lesbian, many of my friends were bi and dated accordingly, and one of my close friends was non-binary.
man I wish that was my school now
My mom is bi and literally hung out with so many lesbians when she was in highschool (I think her last year would've been 2005-2006, I know she had me in her first senior year then had to retake it so I think that makes 2006 her graduation year)
I graduated in 04 and know someone... It's me 😅 lol. I'm nonbinary, I just didn't have the words for it until about ten years ago.
I wish I went to your school omg. The only thing we had close to an alliance of any sort there was the Anime Club.
Y'all have clubs?? lmao
I got a Trevor project ad while watching this and started tearing up-
Just a random reminder that there are a lot of good people in the world, even if a lot of others aren’t the best
I"m near on 50 and went to school with a trans person. She was unhappy and confused in herself, I think, for a very long time. She only came out in her late 30s early 40s. I wish she had had the internet trans community to help her understand herself sooner.
I hope she feels happier with herself now!
Same for one of my mothers. It took her many, many years and I dare say it's part of why she has had depression for decades. I wish she had had the support and understanding there is today (I mean still not good enough but at least it's better)
Exactly this! I'm nothing but happy for these kids that they have all these resources now. If I'd known I was asexual in high school I wouldn't have spent 30 years thinking I was broken.
@@alrayjs fellow ace! 🖤🤍💜
@@alrayjs mood 🖤💜
Jamie’s videos: Wholesome trans content
TH-cam Algorithm: trAnSpHoBiA
In someone's twisted mind that's 'fair' and 'balanced'
@@seans857 FACTS
@@seans857 is it just me, or do you get creeped out by the adds on these videos. (When I'm watching illuminaughty I get loads of MLM ads, so I just feel like when. I'm looking at transphobia videos, all the companies that pop up are thus transphobic and I give them my completely irrational side eye
@@demonheart13 I KEEP GETTING FUCKING BEN SHAPIRO “why we’re getting rid of gender” ADS BECAUSE I ACCIDENTALLY CLICKED ON ONE ONCE HELP
@@Iskkkk167 You can delete videos from you're watch history, or if it's ad's click the i at the bottom and click don't show this ad.
7:22 is just like "To know how deers felt about being killed in their natural habitat, we asked hunters"
So true
"So how does murder victimes felt like when they were being chased by a maniac? *We asked a murderer."*
yes the deers love to be killed
You speak "deer"? (Not that you would need to in this situation).
Yes I do.
BTW They don't like being hunt, they find a bit stressful
the "but there were never any signs!!" reaction is always so funny to me because it's always just parents in denial. i'm ftm and that was my mom's reaction when i came out to her. me, a huge tomboy my entire life, hated wearing dresses and skirts so much that when i was forced to wear a skirt for church it was an ankle-length one so i could wear jeans underneath it, she thought _that_ child never showed any signs of being trans. the "rapid onset" perception is and has always been parents ignoring what's right in front of them.
I’m not out to my parents as nonbinary, and my friends and therapists use they/them for me around my parents…but nah I’m still cis
For me, there weren’t any visible signs, by intention. I thought that I wasn’t supposed to feel things like that, so I locked them in a box in the back of my mind. I was a boy after all. A year ago, I was searching through my mind, spring cleaning if you will, and I found that box. Inside was Amara, inside was me. There were signs, but I wouldn’t let anyone see them. I couldn’t let anyone see them. I’m glad I opened that box and started being myself again
It’s not really a sign tho
You just don’t like dresses….. i don’t too, Does that make me any less of a woman? No
@@ScizzoringGirlz if that was the _only_ sign then you might have a point, but i opted not to list out everything else that got written off as "typical tomboy behavior" because i didn't want my comment to become an essay.
i'm not trying to say that a girl being a tomboy is ALWAYS a sign that they're actually a trans boy, but i _am_ saying that if they do eventually come out as trans, you shouldn't be surprised.
I'm lost in my mind anyway 😲
“youve created a permanent medical patient”
EVERY HUMAN EVER IS A PERMANENT MEDICAL PATIENT
AMEN MY DUDE
THATS TRUE
"What do you mean "my body is made of living systems of organs, cells, hormones, tissues, etc?" My doctor never said I have autism! I'm not some medical person!"
-These people, probably.
So basically anyone with a chronic disease and must take medication is just as bad to them lol
People that rarely go to a hospital be like:
prageru: "these medical facilities rush these teens towards 'a solution'"
me, a trans man still waiting for 4+ years for the entry appointment at the gender clinic:
Exactly they act like a 6 year old can go into a hospital and come out with bottom surgery and hrt
Wait... you mean a newly born male baby can't just waddle over to the transition ward and be turned into a 25 year-old woman with implants on all parts of her body! Ridiculous! Famed Facebooker @IHateWomenAndMinorities88 told me that they can do that, and he would NEVER lie!
Me, a AFAB non-binary person who has to go to a therapist to get approval for a non- gender related, medically appropriate, breast reduction:
@@emmettmcnally740 gosh that's awful :(
In my country you can buy testosterone without medical recipe but if I want the right dose and not self-medicate, you have to do a whole paperwork circus for an endocrinologist to even give you said recipe ://
Same for any gender-related surgery
You are in the wrong state
I am FTM in Oregon, I had to get 2 therapist and a doctor to agree I have gender dysphoria before starting testosterone. Now I have to wait a year from my dysphoria diagnosis date for top surgery. I am in my 40s already, so I know that whole teenagers rushed into transiting is made up. Thank you for making these videos.
Good luck, sir!
Ugh. Best of luck not strangling them when they try to put up more hurdles. i mean how would you know your own mind, you're "only in your 40s."
Lol I am in Utah and I just flat up said I don’t do therapists but I identify as FTM and the doc was like k cool and gave me a prescription for T.... idk what that says about my doctor LOL but i definitely know for surgeries I will need a therapist. So that will be fun. I have tried countless times to get a therapist and they’re all too busy...
Hope your year is going quickly, dude. Take care and good luck!
@@findingagain youtube's automod is overzealous.
I wish you would do a video specifically for scared parents that breaks down their fears and explains it for them. You've done a lot of research and can see through the bs in a way that's is logical and helpful. I wish there was a single video that I could share to a couple people to help them see past Propaganda like this
TH-cam: "Were trying to fight against misinformation "
Also TH-cam: "Ads like this are fine because money."
They don’t have any actual competition
I’ve seen ads for Alliance Defending Freedom (lol) which is literally considered a hate group.
Not related to transphobia but I used to get non vape ads that make me very uncomfortable, and when I reported them multiple times TH-cam didn’t care. All I get mostly(I still get them sometimes) stupid mobile game ads
same with nazifascist content
@@shroomesh6456 what's vape?
PragerU: Internet is a place that is gonna make teens feel sad, depressed and alone.
*PragerU proceeds to make videos emphasizing that teens should be left sad, depressed and alone*
This comment is underrated
@@m0bz0mb39
I think the entire point people like these are trying to make is that being comfortable with your biological gender will help you with your sadness, depression, and loneliness. It's great to argue against something, but if you're not even trying to grasp what the other side is actually arguing FOR, you don't even know what you're arguing against.
@@isitsweet9567 I am gonna trust you on that for a moment and believe that's really their entire point... It's not an argument it can debated against since it shows a complete 360° ignorance over the whole matter.
For example: "biological gender" is not a thing, so they do not even know the words nor the concepts they are trying to argue against. Gender Dysphoria is "the distress a person feels due to a mismatch between their gender identità and their sex assigned at birth.", so they clearly don't know that either. Less explicitly, to claim something like that, they obviously do not even know anything biologically correct about chromosomes and intersex people.
Intellectually honest debates can be held when both the parties are equally prepared over the topic of the discussion.
They are not and that's why their arguments, including this one if that's the case, have no sense and don't even have the basis to be argued against.
BUT PragerU is not actually arguing for that. Because we scientists, plus doctors, psychologists, trans-allies in general, are the ones that do agree completely that managing to live comfortably with your gender will help you with sadness, depression and loneliness. We have data on that. That's why people should be let free to transition physically: to live comfortably with their gender, no matter their biological sex.
These transphobes are arguing against it. Not even for hate, I think. Simply medical ignorance.
It's especially bad because, while there is a slight correlation between social media use and depression in the group considered girls in the study*, that doesn't say anything about what causes what (ie: does social media cause depression or are mentally ill kids more likely to be online more because real life is much harder for them, or even do bad IRL connections and a lack of friends mean their main means of interaction and spending time are online) and for trans people with unsupportive families in particular the internet is often the one place they can find support.
*I don't think they really looked into trans vs. cis so whether trans boys ended up being counted as boys or girls is anyones guess, probably depended on whether or not they were out
Also as a troubled cis teenage girl with trans friends not once did I think “I must be trans then” because that’s NOT WHY PEOPLE COME OUT AS TRANS THEY COME OUT AS TRANS BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS L I S A
Why do transphobes think that people come out as trans because of influence from other trans people? As a cis girl I’m exposed to a lot of stuff about trans people on the internet and not once did I question my gender identity. People who do that were most likely always trans, and seeing other trans people made them more comfortable to come out.
@@ratface2138 They dont think that siriously, its just a excuse for their hate.
@@emytann7838 That’s true sadly. Transphobes shouldn’t be allowed to have children
@@emytann7838 I honestly think some of them do, it’s really stupid but I’ve been told by some family that I’m just jumping on the bandwagon saying I’m bi to fit in! Even in the trans community some people talk about “trenders”
@@ratface2138 Or they shut learn to convert their hat in some thing positiv. Because hat dont discriminat gender, sexuality, race , children or adults. So it wot be bether for they children to have loving parents and not parents full of hate😉😉💖💖🤟🤟🤟
"Social media give you depression and anxiety and will make you sad and alone"
I litterally feels accepted and love by being the way i am like I've never been before
It's weird to me cuz i never spoke with lgbt people irl. And here the things are opposite
"the best thing you do for your teen is to ignore them and invalidate their feelings"
This seems like the perfect recipe for a kid who leaves home and never comes back, visits, or calls. Or suffers crippling depression.
@@ScorpionViper1001 ahem *you called?*
As a cis female who delt with a lot of anxiety and depression in my teens, I can assure everyone reading this that I was in no way pressured by the abundance of social media I was consuming, to "become" trans, nor is literally anyone else
Yeah, as much as being a woman makes some parts of my life harder, I definitely wouldn't try to be trans or try to be a man, because that wouldn't solve those problems. I hate PragerU so much
yeah, even though being a woman is often made seem less than being a man, i would never transition because i AM a woman and i cant just change that. similarly to how trans men are born female, but they ARE STILL MEN, nothing changes when they come out, you just know now. regardless of who im friends with or social media i watch and their gender or gender dysphoria, i am still a woman, and i won't just transition into a man.
Yes! As someone who have dealt with a lot of the things she's mentioned, anxiety, depression, self-harm, I never *once* thought "hmm I should become a man". I'm not bothered about my gender, I'm bothered by life. Please try fixing the problems that teenage girls actually face instead of blaming the testosterone for everything
As a non-binary person who has barely any social media, I can confirm that social media is in no way linked to bring trans.
@@Hyacinth-Blue yes. i love it when transphobes are just so fundamentally wrong (and not just when they say trans-ness is wrong-ness, but like the actual "evidence" they use to back it up)
I love how one of the scares they tried to list was “infertility” and I bet that a bunch of tokophobes like myself just leaned back in their seats and went “you tried. And you failed”.
HSGSHSHSH yeaH
Pregnancy-related subjects give me massive dysphoria so the "you hold no power here" energy was strong when she brought that up. Also why is she so keen on the fertility of children? Gross.
@@Itri_Vega I mean they're the kind of people to want u to start making good Christian babies at like 14, as if that isn't incredibly creepy. Just another layer of bad on this rotting pragerU onion
Is tokophobia the fear of getting pregnant, cuz I think I have that
@@averyt23 It is, I just looked it up. Oh my god im dying of laughter at what I saw tho. there was a 7 signs of tokophobia, there's what you would expect and then "7.they have a fear of death". I know they prolly meant like resulting from you know, but I cant help imagine they meant just in general they fear death.
I love how she is treating transitioning like weed. It just reminds me of the anti-drug commercials. The idea that anyone would even hint that transitioning is easier than not doing it is absolutely insane, I'm a cis woman and even I know that.
Ye LeTs JuSt HaVe A lItTlE pUfF oF tRaNsGeNdEr-NeSs!
@@Q-Gamez Protect your kids or they’ll get hooked on being transgender! 😂
I had a teacher that taught us about trans people and gay people, and she just said it normally and I didn't even know they were a minority because she just said it so nonchalantly. I think all teachers should just explain it simply and plant a small seed and help their students accept others
My classroom is probably the most homophobic one in the school. I wish they would do that.
That's a friggin good teacher
Sorry about that!
@@Castiel_Chuuya.irl.fr. ): wish u the best
The fact that some people use christianity as a excuse just makes me think of my Christian teacher, *who is an ally*
She did not seriously suggest that people treat their children like prisoners to keep them from transitioning. "Limit their exposure" no honey, that's gonna cause more problems when the kid gets upset because of all the pointless rules in the house.
Technically, her comment on this was not just attacking trans kids: she was effectively saying we should prevent ALL kids, cis and trans, from seeing any social media. It’s the same craziness that pretends if we say condoms don’t exist, then no teens will ever have sex.
It's especially bad because, while there is a slight correlation between social media use and depression in the group considered girls in the study*, that doesn't say anything about what causes what (ie: does social media cause depression or are mentally ill kids more likely to be online more because real life is much harder) and for trans people with unsupportive families in particular the internet is often the one place they can find support.
*I don't think they really looked into trans vs. cis so whether trans boys ended up being counted as boys or girls is anyones guess, probably depended on whether or not they were out
Sheltered children are more susceptible to being preyed on and killed by predators! 👏👏👏
It's also more likely for the kids to become more secretive and hide more things from their parents because they don't trust them
No because that's not going to do shit. All that will happen if you restrict your kid's social media is they'll start looking at it behind your back, and if god forbid they get groomed, doxxed or cyberbullied, they won't come to you anymore out of fear of being yelled at for using social media in the first place. It happened to my cousin, she was found in a drunk coma on a balcony. Thank god my parents don't fuck with that shit, that could've been me had they not been open with me about what I can and can't do on the internet
I heard a quote somewhere, I can’t remember who said it, but it goes: “It takes ten minutes to debunk a ten second lie”. This video is a prime example.
A similar quote has been said since the 1600s or thereabouts: “A lie will travel around the world before the truth has pulled its boots on.” Just goes to show...
I got outed as trans. It’s definitely not a “quick fix” with parents like that let me tell you
That's shitty, I hope you're OK.
Oh no! I'm so sorry :( are you ok? Just know we support and love you!
Hey I was in the same boat when I was 12 by my mom. It was very hard on me I get it and I hope you’re doing well at the moment. Keep going I promise it gets better.
thank you, sam and jammi, for being so strong and putting up with this girls bullshit. we love you, and we’re proud to be spuds!! have a great day love!!
this thread gives me so much fuzzy happy feelings, i have to type this emoticon :D
who is sam?
@@kyleesh217 sam collins, hes another ftm youtuber who made a video on this
@オリバー 【O】
okay, another trans TH-camr that I watch that reviewed this, that's their dead name, so I was just confused if someone was calling them like that as a nickname. thank you
Samantha Lux too!
Can we appreciate that the "friend's suggestion" is coming from a character of ambiguous gender, with unnatural colored hair, and facial piercings? I just love stereotyping and "subtle" visuals that demonize people that are "different". 😠
Honestly if someone like that could help me figure out my gender/sexuality they would be like my edgy fairy godparent. How cool is that?
My mom didn't think I had any symptoms of dysphoria in my early childhood when I came out as a trans man.
I...did. I just...like, didn't tell her about it? Cause I thought it was illogical and I didn't know trans men were a thing, and I got shit about making mountains out of molehills all the time. It was only when puberty hit and I had my breasts grow and I though, huh, maybe I just think they should be bigger, that's why I'm uncomfortable with them, and then my period hit, and I remember laying in bed that night staring at the ceiling and realizing at that moment that I didn't want to become a woman anymore. I didn't understand it, but I just knew I didn't like what was happening and I preferred it before. I wanted to go back. I remember wishing desperately, holding a plush, with my eyes closed tight, still sore from crying that day from panic attacks cause things got really wild when my period hit, and wishing that time would go back to that morning when I woke up, except it would be the same, without the period thing. Or, as my alternative to the universe, I wanted to just not wake up please.
My mom saw a change in my behavior hitting puberty, she just didn't know wtf it was. I never told her about the time when I was a kid and I would think about how I hated being called a "girly girl" and wanted to be called a "tomboy" even though I knew I didn't fit that role all that much, and how I started trying to amplify and speak out about my more masculine interests to try and get people to go along with my wishes. I didn't know why I felt that way, but it was on and off my mind for like most of my early childhood. I told my mom at the age of 16-17 that I had thought those things, and she never fuckin' knew.
Just cause parents don't see shit doesn't mean it's not fuckin' happening. I hate that bullshit concept. Like, I know that she's a dumb and just spreading propaganda about anti-trans shit, but it fuckin' pisses me off that she uses that wording, that, oh no, the parents hadn't seen any symptoms, yeah, no shit. That happens sometimes??? Especially when you're raised AFAB and you acting out or feeling odd is dismissed all the time and you're told not to be "overdramatic" around every corner??? Not all trans masc folk behave the same as children, hell, I wasn't super masculine, I was more androgynous femme-leaning in my interests. Why? Cause even now, I present androgynously, it's just how I am. But I am a man. A dude. I've literally been on HRT for a year and known I was trans for about 7 years now. Been out for about 6-7 years now. My mom and pediatrician can attest that the change in my behavior and mood and anxiety and depression and all that shit was IMMENSE. Like, my pediatrician has told me, point blank, that I'm one of the most like clear cases of how much HRT can help someone's mental health, in ways you might not even expect. She has said the general feeling I gave off before was just like a cat latched onto the ceiling, and now I'm a lot more calm, I have a lot less daily anxiety, I walk into a room with my shoulders actually straight instead of curled in like a little tortoise shell of protection, and I just overall seem more like..myself. Like comfortable with life. She hadn't even expected this significant of a change, and I suspect she probably uses me as an example of the more extreme side of like how HRT can drastically help mental health, and how being trans can impact more than just general mood or depression.
I've felt this way since kindergarten but it took me until age 47 to put the label "trans" on it. When I came out to my parents, they had absolutely no idea I'd been having these feelings for over 40 years. Because yeah, I was ashamed of feeling that way, and I didn't tell people about it.
Wow!
So by trying to go against nature and lie about what biological sex you are, you feel better now!
Looks like the Prager U people are right about some things!
It is a way to escape reality!
It makes sense why women in this society would 'become men'. Because they as a sex class are oppressed, and face many issues from the patriarchy, so of course they try to escape their oppression. The denial of this is pure misogyny. Women don't just 'want to become men'. They feel pressured, and want to escape this endless oppression, which you can't blame. But it is gaslighting and forced affirmation to then go, 'ah yes, these women obviously wanna become men because they're systematically oppressed, but that's probably nothing to do with it, nah, they probably just wanna become men because they feel it deep inside! Let's let them saw off their boobs, because that's definitely not the patriarchy pushing them to hate being women! Nope! Mustn't be that!'. This isn't progressive. It's the complete opposite. It's misogyny sprinkled with glitter. It's very natural for women to not want to be the sex they were born with, because let's face it, being a woman in this society sucks. But you're not a male. You only want to be a male because you know the benefits and how males are not an oppressed class. It's sad that it's now accepted to tell girls to just 'be men' instead of us all joining together to stop the source of patriarchy all together.
People like Abbigail and Prager U are the reason it took me 28 years to finally accept myself. Too many years of not knowing trans men even existed coupled with "you're just a tomboy", "you're not trans enough", and sprinkle some "there's too much hatred in the world for trans people/I don't want this/I'm broken" in there 💔
I just bought my first packer today. 💜
To anyone also struggling: you are valid, you are enough and you are loved. Please take care of yourself and your needs however you can, even if its just little steps.
They are important and so are you
Awesomely amazingly spoken homie took me over half my life too. All the signs I was trans were there when I was 5, it just never had a name until somewhere in my 30s and then it still took an eternity to get the ok for hormones and surgery but I believe better late than never.
Right there with you. I didn't put the pieces together until I was 28, then stayed in the closet for 4 years because I was afraid I'd lose everyone I loved. Eventually cracked and came out to my partner a month before our 10th wedding anniversary. He was so supportive and just wanted me to be happy. Now I've been on T for over a year, my kids call me Little Daddy, and my top surgery is in 3 weeks.
I’m 21 and I got my first binder last week!
Schrier: "Medical transistion has become too easy!"
Me, on a 3 year waiting list for a first appointment in the only gender clinic in the country on the NHS: k
Shit, we do better than that in Minnesota, state care and two big gender clinics. When AMERICAN health care is more available, you KNOW you have it tough.
@@DanaTheInsane yeah American healthcare sucks ass
I think i got pretty lucky i have 3 months until I go to a gender clinic
@@destiny_5540
Since your post was 3 months ago, I just wanted to wish you luck, and I hope it went or will go great. :>.
You got this!
@@destiny_5540 i agree with the person above, i hope you’re doing great now!!!!
I am a cis girl who has consumed hours upon hours of content made by trans creators, has multiple trans friends, and has done lots of research on trans individuals and look, I’m still cis, I just disproved Pr🅰️gerU’s entire argument 😂
2022 update: this aged very poorly 😅
How? Do you experience gender dysphoria or hopelessness? If you were biologically male, would you be transgender?
@@isitsweet9567 They literally just said "I am a cis girl". That doesn't sound very biologically male to me.
@@redacted7851 And I literally just said IF you were biologically male.
They probably would be transgender if they were male, wouldn't they?
Is it Sweet? I don’t experience any gender dysphoria, I was born female and identify as female. If I was born male, I probably wouldn’t be trans simply because I would be just as comfortable identifying as male. I’m not quite sure what point you’re trying to prove here.
@@squano9440 If you would identify as whatever your biological birth sex was, you'd be arguing against the entire concept of "gender identity" which states that gender is deeply ingrained into the inner self and overrides that of the restrictive shells that are our bodies. Hence, either you don't believe in the whole transgender thing and your comment above is lying for some reason, or you do believe in it and doubtless your intensive exposure to it while probably having no exposure to opposing philosophies had something to do with that, just as PragerU says.
I know you're proud of it, but the idea that "PragerU is saying everyone who supports our society's views on gender IS trans" is a straw-man argument that doesn't even make sense. Like do you see "there's no such thing as a cis believer" anywhere in there? I wonder why you would feel you needed to construct straw men...
16:30 'just a teenager'. I saw something that said 'why are teens so angry? Because they are treated like kids and expected to behave like adults.' That's what we're talking about.
Also, re: how the video says that social media is influencing people to be LGBTQIA+, in my personal experience, it just told me what it was. I recently found out I'm asexual, and I kind of always knew it, but k didn't know that asexuality was an actual thing. A random youtube video was reccomended to me about asexuality, and since I was trying to learn as much as I can about everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community i decided to check it out. Then I realized "oh wait... this is me. I'm actually a thing? There are people like me?" and it was wonderful 🖤💜🤍 So social media isn't making people LGBTQIA+, just spreading awareness and information about it, and helping people realize that there's a community for them ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I thought I was lesbian until college, when I learned more about the LGBTQIA+ community, at which point I found aro/ace is a thing. I firmly believe that you don't "change" gender/sexuality, you just expand your knowledge and adapt the label that most fits you. Which is why it's so important to teach that in school.
Same experience here! I watched a video where someone was interviewing asexual people and watching it I was like "hold on, i can relate to this" so I looked more into it and safe to say I am ace ^-^
With the whole 2% statistic, it reminds me of something.
Teachers in schools used to forbid children from writing with their left hands, and even discipline them for doing so. It’s hard to be accurate, but it’s estimated that about 1% of children in that time period were left-handed. Once that practice stopped, the rate began to increase. It is estimated that 10% of people are left-handed today.
Gosh, I wonder if the increased support of the LGBTQ community has anything to do with an increase of children and teens being educated about gender identity who feel safe and accepted enough to come out. /s
I can vouch for the teachers trying to force left handed kids to write right handed. I was one of them back in 1965 in first grade. Luckily for me, my mom (who was also an elementary school teacher) firmly told my first grade teacher that she was NOT to EVER even try to make me write right handed. My teacher's petty revenge was to make me slant my paper the same way as the right handed kids and to this day, I write left handed with a severe "hook" positioning of my hand.
My grandpa was left-handed and wasn’t allowed to write with his left hand and now he just writes with his right hand as well as his left and I think that’s a shame because I’m left-handed and I still get to write with my left hand. Also gays come in packs 😂
My school did that to me when I was in kindergarten or maybe first grade when I was just learning to write. My teacher told me I was writing "with the wrong hand" and made me write with my right one. I did turn out ambidextrous because of this so not entirely horrible but still.
I am left-handed at birth, born in a family of teachers. By my grandpa's influence, I was forced into being right-handed. Sometimes I think that's the reason I'm so clumsy.
Also, it makes perfect sense for trans men to come out of the closet before trans women. As society is pretty accepting of "tomboys" but not of "effeminate boys".
I remember seeing this ad while I was in the car waiting for my sister, and I ended up shouting things like “THEY ONLY STUDIED AMAB PEOPLE” and “OF COURSE MORE PEOPLE ARE TRANSITIONING MORE, ITS NOT A DEATH SENTENCE ANYMORE” at the screen
Exactly people act like it's a trend when in reality people and just get together of their high horses and accepting people so more people are comfortable with being out
@@findingagain "The Library of Alexandria never existed! I mean, can you find any evidence of it? Because I went to Egypt, and I couldn't find the building anywhere! Therefore, it doesn't exist!"
-These people, probably.
@@findingagain Do you know what the name of the institute is?
"OMG they're just teenagers 😤 they're not mature enough to know their gender!"
So you're telling me a teenager is not old enough to know their gender... But is old enough to know exactly what career they want to pursue....? Excuse me what.
Oh but they think all those cis teenagers are old enough to know their gender
Meanwhile, earlier in the same video she was saying that real gender dysphoria has onset in preschool. So a 3 year old is old enough to know their gender, but a 13 year old isn't?
Yeah right, like if they are to young then how do they know they're cis?
@@himikotoga2191 yeah that's what I tell people when they say that my partner is too young to know they're genderdoe, like aren't I too young to know i'm cis then?
Bruh like seriously wtf, it's more likely to be the other way round tbh, unrelated issue but I'm so mad about how schools put pressure on kids to choose their entire life path at like fifteen
Jammie’s channel is a safe space in the chaotic depths of TH-cam
I have unaccepting parents, so the fact that they can get confirmation bias that I'm not "actually trans" from videos like that, ROGD, and websites like transgender trend, makes me sick. I tried to come out to my mom when I was 18 and she forced me back into the closet, saying the EXACT rhetoric in the PragerU video. That I "showed no signs of GD when I was younger" and that I'll regret it if I transition. This is so damaging. Thank you so much for talking about this, Jamie.
I’m a 15 yo cis girl, who has been interacting with and watching content from trans people since I’m 12. You guys failed in brainwashing me. /j
Damn I was really trying /j
@@slothithejungle1158 I think the trans agenda needs a little more propaganda /j
Oh, that's too bad... /s
woooo you're starting to feel transgender wooooo ur getting verryy dysphoricc
Fuck sakes /j
As a mom of a beautiful member of the alphabet mafia, these people make me sick to my stomach. My kid spent the last year searching their identity. I'm so proud of them for the amount of trust they put in me. We talk about everything and anything. Our house is a safe space. We are now in the process of getting them referred to a gender clinic. First appointment with a new psychologist is in 2 weeks. They also have anxiety, so to ask for help is a big step. I'm just lucky they are able to talk to me freely. They know they can tell and ask me anything. I will always do my absolute best to help them, or find someone who can help them. They're already subscribed to your channel. I advised them to watch your earlier videos on your transition. Thank you for speaking up. And for the peeps in the comments who are struggling, I give you a big mom-hug 💜
I really wish I had parents like you. I had to beg my mom for therapy for my depression and she still wouldn't listen to me. I don't feel safe coming out to my parents as nonbinary. Even when I came out to her as lesbian, after a long conversation where she seemed supportive, she randomly said, "you could still marry a man someday though".
What??
Now I believe I'm pan, but no mom, I'm not going to marry a cis man and have a bunch of kids like you've told me since I was little.
@@xxx-ie9ic okay, I am now your mom. And I want to say I am very proud of you. Proud of the person you are becoming. Proud of how you keep fighting every day to be the best you can be. You can do this! I have faith in your strength. Keep your chin up until you can safely live on your own (if you don't already). Know that you are loved. And know that you are worth fighting for. You'll get there. Big mom-hug 🤗 ❤
@@lauramouse6232 Thank you so much, you are the BEST and your son is incredibly lucky!! hugs back ^w^
@@xxx-ie9ic I wish you all the best on your journey. And if you ever need to talk, I'm here❤
@@lauramouse6232 Thank you so much!
I swear this ad would be absolute nightmare fuel if my mom watched it and didn’t research the statistics being mentioned because my mom is homophobic and transphobic and has untreated schizophrenia, also we live in Oregon so she would be pretty quick to believe the stuff said about Oregon
OMG, I can picture it now.
"My daughter's a tomboy. She likes to hang out with tomboys. Aren't tomboys cute? And you know, tomboys blossom into the most beautiful women, when they grow up. Amirite?"
Later...
"OMG! My daughter's tomboy friend convinced her that they are both boys! OMG! The horror! BAD GIRL! How dare you lie to my little girl!"
It makes sense that a transgender would have a transgender friend, even with the low % rate of trans people, because they can identify (without realizing it) that here is someone who UNDERSTANDS the same feelings they are feeling about their bodies and their minds and their lives.
As someone surrounded by non-cis, non-het friends that have been steadly discovering those identities over the course of many years, I can confirm (as a budding mtf) that there is a certain je-ne-sais-quoi that linked us in the first place. The best way I can describe it is that we all feel like B-side tracks on the vinyl record of society. That's true of my cishet friends, too, but it explains the clustering regardless.
as a trans man, “tomboys blossom into ty s most beautiful women” hit too damn hard
ah yes, tomboy erasure, you know its inclusive when girls arent allowed to like boy things
Exactly!
Female to nonbinary person here! I really identified as a tomboy as a kid, I think if I had been born like five years later than I was, I would've identified as a trans boy as a kid since it was the mid-to-late 2000s and I had no idea what being trans was lol. I ended up identifying as some flavor of nonbinary as a teen and buried it deep for years due to societal stuff, then I had my MAJOR queer awakening this year and it really confirmed I'm nonbinary for me. I'm not super masculine or feminine, but I'm a bit cutesy lol and that's how I've really been since early childhood.
If I got a quid everytime someone described transitioning and 'easy', 'sudden' or 'hasty' I'd probably be able to cover all the costs for medical care
*you'll still be too broke for american healthcare* 🤷🏾♂️
Fr fr people say it far too often it😔 literally all it takes is a Google search to show how expensive medical costs are and long referral times can be so idk how anyone can still believe its quick and easy ;-;
Same ngl.
What, I always hear about people "transgendering" from the right wing, it must be like a laser beam zaps you and you're transgendereded by the laser all of a sudden. (Nobody tell Marjorie Taylor Greene about this; she'll get all conspiracy theorist on us)
@@kymikaz4433 why does American healthcare cost so much?
41 years old here. I didn't know transgender was even a thing until I was maybe 28-30, but I can remember being as young as 4 years old and thinking "What is wrong with me? Why was I born a girl instead of a boy? I'm supposed to be a boy". I only came to understand myself thanks to finding others like me on the internet and eventually finding the terms for it. I rped male characters for years, felt more comfortable on the internet from people perceiving me as male. About 35 I finally saw a doc about starting HRT and while other things in my life have made things worse, HRT actually helped me feel a bit better, both mentally and physically.
I'm so proud of you. It make me so very happy to see older people who can be their authentic selves.
I may not be trans, but seeing all of you get to be the real you is so amazing.
I know it's easy to just say this on the interwebs, but I support you & care about you. Hope you continue to feel better.
I'm only 16, but I remember how I would only watched shows with female leads ( except spongebob, but he's a Sponge anyway) shows like Sam and Cat, Sofia the first and DocMcStuffins as I felt like i related to the characters more, aslo PE was a big factor because it was the only subject that separated boys and girls (which meant they put me in the boys room) and I HATED it (I was extra uncomfortable showing my chest and still am so that made the changing rooms much worse) it would have been so much easier if just did the lessons instead of making a different reason every week to miss PE class, but that's how uncomfortable it made me
@@sam4gaming135 So sorry you had to go through that. I was lucky in that my dysphoria wasn't really strong as a kid. I had that niggling in the back of my mind, but while I was extremely uncomfortable changing clothes in front of someone else, I think for me it was more because of my religious upbringing. Still, I couldn't stand to wear a skirt without shorts under it and as I went to an all girl school for a long time, I got heavily teased for wearing them. I hope you can find more acceptance in the future. I know we're not there yet, but the world is at least gradually changing for the better on that front.
@NecrochildK 🙋♂️ 40 years old and it wasn’t until I was mid to late 20s that I first realized I was trans too. Before that I had a feeling of wrong that I didn’t understand or have words for. When I realized I was trans I brought the subject up in a roundabout way to a loved one who had a somewhat negative reaction. I quickly back peddled and played it off as a joke. Tried to squash it down. But in my mid thirties it all resurfaced x10. I spiraled into a deep depression and was suicidal. I used escapism a lot (before too but almost constantly during that period of depression). I was finally able to accept it for myself, told my spouse (he’s been great btw) and started living my life again but more as the real me.
I had a cousin transition and our family flipped out. Several of my cousins were never surprised when this happened. We all knew as kids that my cousin was a boy. He has a happy family life now. I know it was a long, difficult journey for him. I truly hope people could keep an open mind. Everyone deserves to be happy within their own bodies.
The impression I get from this woman is that she sees parents as the ultimate, all-knowing authority in their children’s lives, which I find weird for someone who doesn’t have kids.
But what I find insulting is not one set of parents she spoke to are LGBTQ friendly. Says it all really.
Conservatives usually believe that kids are basically the property of the parents, and legally they’re mostly right, unfortunately
@@essr4580 sad but true
@@essr4580 I will add, it's not only conservatives though. My mom may be transphobic in her past and still...questionable, but she saw me as her puppet/doll to do with as she pleased for 16~ years. She was TERF-y and is a second-wave feminist iirc. Always voted democratic and holds mostly democratic views.
Sadly, depending on the area, it can actually be the majority mindset of adults/parents in said area, for example, my state as a whole, oof.
You believe ppl are born trans. She believes ppl are turned into trans...and she doesn't like the fact some ppl are not adapted to their genetic sex, independently of its source.
So, she wants to "protect" ppl to be turned into transgender, while you argue ppl were already trans since the beginning...
Is there any scientific method to achieve a solution for that?
Conservatives claim that destroying the classical family design is the ultimate goal of ideologies like gender identity, gender disparity/feminism, racial conflicts, poor-rich conflicts, etc, because all those things make ppl argue and fight each other to achieve some kind of justice/repair violence offered from Governments, turning the latter into a even more powerful institution.
Me, genderfliud: (finally comes out)
Mean kid at school: (trys to misgender me on purpose)
Me, accepting all pronouns: *jokes on you im into that sht*
Edit: oh crap yall we trans
Edit 2: im out now
Edit 3: dealing with bullies well still! Not my fault u got a 2nd grade knowledge of gender
PFFF YOU THATS ME
UNLIMITED POWER!!
UNLIMITED POWER!!
Your bullies aren't smart enough to bully you
Power move
Transphobes: Girls don't have beards.
Transmen: *Have beards*
Transphobes: You're a girl.
Make it make sense😭
@@evs06 ikr
lmao 💀💀💀
oo oo i have another one
Transphobes: boys dont wear skirts
Trans Women: wears skirts
Transphobes: you're a boy
You boldly assume transphobes have logic
Being called 'her' just kills me inside...I know what I am feeling, and if it doesn't affect you, leave it be.
I have a trans-man cousin whose life got measurably WORSE after coming out, to the point where his familly kept constantly trying to guilt and Hell-fear him back into becoming "our true little girl again". Transitioning makes your life easier? HA!
oh. please tell him that they shouldnt dictate his life
I’m enby, and I have a trans friend, so sending some (platonic) love for your cousin, hope he feels better.
@@ironandzinc being imaginative is not the same as hating your body because it feels wrong, no matter what you force yourself to think. believe me, if trans people could choose, they wouldnt be dysphoric
@alascow its a mntl dis order. Clasified in the DSM-5
@@Damascene_
its a mntl dis order. Nothing to mutilate your body for.
I tried explaining that I am non-binary to my 8 year old sister and she was like wait wait wait.. you people can turn invisible?!?! She thought I said translucent not transgender 😆
Ok that's the cutest thing
Little kids and LGBT terms are so wholesome. When I was a kid, I HATED going to my aunts house, not because they where lesbian but because they where never going to have kids and I would be bored in their house
Reminds me of the story where my four year old brother brought my phone to me. This was a month or so after I came out as non binary. He goes, “I got them phone.” Later he says, “I say them now.”
@@lylaiscooler awwwww thats sweett, people really do underestimate how understanding kids can be
@@at-citie I am a daughter of a lesbian, and I have two sibblings of the same mother, her partner during huge parts of my childhood was a mother of four.
Lesbian women can and do have children.
But the greatest fun I had when her lesbian friends came over to babysit us, or took us for a weekend. BECAUSE they had no children of their own they where super invested in giving us a good time.
I think you might have missed out on some great time with your aunts.
Most of the comments here are bashing that stupid transphobic ad, but I just wanted to share a bit of good news!! I finally worked up the courage to come out as a trans guy to my parents and they were totally on board and willing to accept and learn about me. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world and my whole life feels lighter and happier. Jamie, you’re a huge part of the reason why I was able to discover who I was and come out, and being able to pursue who I really am. Thank you so much and I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!
Congrats!!🎉🎉 I hope everything goes well for you in the future
omg congrats! 🎉 🥳 ❤️
i'm happy for you ❤❤
edit: because i made a mess with prepositions
Congrats yay!
MATE, THATS AMAZING :D
My mom claimed I transitioned as a social contagion. I was homeschooled. I DID have online homeschool classes, but every class talked about how trans people were not real, a plight on the world, and going to hell. Would have been kicked out of school, actually, if I told them. And, I fully believed it. Social contagion. I read a medical article on the internet. I love being a man, now, as an adult. It's perfect for me. Mom still says it's a social contagion. She says it was rapid onset gender dysphoria of the internet, because I didn't call myself a word until I learned the word.
DeCadE aGo ThErE wAs No TrAnSgEnDeR kIdS iN ScHooLs. OH MY, I WONDER WHYYY. Pretty sure not because people were more scared to coming out.
I’m not transgender but I’m a lesbian, and of course I wouldn’t be openly gay a decade ago because there was so much more homophobia back then (and still today)! The spike in people identifying as transgender is something we should be proud of, as our society has become more accepting of trans people! ♥︎
Exactly! There were trans kids when I was at school a decade ago, they just didn't come out publicly until several years later. Basically, they've always been there, they're just now more comfortable with being openly trans.
Not to mention young trans men also being at the ire of the misogyny and sexist power structures.
How hard is it for people to understand that WE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HERE. The reason we’re not taught about lgbtq+ people throughout history is because people want us to believe that the lgbtq+ community just magic appeared one day and that it’s all a trend. Like look at the Greeks, they were VERY gay!
@@jupiterdoe3887 Oh my! I completely forgot! We all materialized from dust in the 1980’s. How could I possibly forget? (Sarcasm)
When I came out as enby to my mom, she basically said “no you’re not” then sent me to a therapist to be told that I’m not valid and that enby people don’t exist (edit: so apparently a lot of people are confused, my therapist is the one who told me that enbies don’t exist, not my mom (shes supportive of enbies?? but still refuses to believe that I am one??)) (edit 2: I’m going by he/they now haha, now I’m even more scared)
You are valid no matter what they say, from one enby to another, you are valid 💛🤍💜🖤
@@Bailey-the-Domain-Keeper thank you, this means a lot :))
I hope she sees you for who you are soon, just know that you are valid and we see you🥰
I'm so sorry.
Hang tight, write down every hateful this she says, with the date, say nothing further about gender, and bide your time.
Wait until you are independent financially.
Then and only then:
1. Come out again to her as enby.
2. Take that list you used to keep track of the hateful thing she's said and send her a copy.
3. Tell her that this is why you need to cut contact with her for at least a year, if not two, so that she can think about what she's done.
4. Follow through and cut communication for the length of time you chose.
We gay men and lesbians had to do things like this in the 1990s. Learn from us; learn to do the same.
You are amazing, and I love you. You are truly wonderful, and don’t let anyone ever tell you differently. There are people out there who will accept you, there are people out there who are enbies too. You’re amazing and don’t let anyone get you down ❤️❤️❤️
“16 year olds are able to get top surgery without even a therapist’s note.”
Me: 🧐 a 40 year old who has to have a therapist’s note before I can get top surgery.
Dang, I wanna live in that fantasy land where I can get top surgery without waiting several years
@@maximummax7232 ikr, underage too 😩
I am so sorry to hear this. If you’re in the US and you pay for surgery why do you need a note to say you’re allowed. You don’t need a note for a breast augmentation. I can understand a little more in the U.K. when it is a free procedure as you need a health care referral for most things but if you wanted to pay and go private I just don’t see the issue...
@@maximummax7232 me too, I’m not trans but I’m genderfluid and I definitely don’t feel comfortable with my chest so that kind of world would be amazing
@@bluebelledarling, yes I’m in the U.S. and I’m paying 100% out of pocket. It’s ridiculous. But I could walk in there for the opposite and no questions. lol
I'm finally at the point where I can send this to my mom and expect her to listen to it. Thank you, Jamie, for creating wonderful, easily-accessible, educational content.
The fact that she had the audacity that a sixteen year old can just go have a double mastectomy without a note is just ridiculous. My mother, a cis woman, is trying to get weight loss surgery and she's had to undergo multiple psych evals before they even considered giving her a note saying she could have surgery. And she's 43!
If a woman wants surgery to permanently remove her ability to have kids, typically she has to talk to a couple doctors, already have had two kids and be in her thirties or she might not be able to have the procedure. Also, they might ask permission from a husband if she has one. 🙄
@@SilverGallowglass Nobody ever said that she was trying to remove her ability to have kids, I said she wants to have weight loss surgery. As in she wants to be skinny. Before you get all aggressive maybe read my comment 😁
@@ashemarlow6471 I know... I was adding to the discourse of there being various surgeries that people cannot just go and have. That full grown adults will go and say they want a surgery and will have to go through the ringer to justify that they really want that surgery.
My comment had to do with sharing another surgery and the loops in the way and had nothing to do with what your mother's surgery did or was.
I did read your comment. I'm sorry MY comment's purpose wasn't clear enough.
@@SilverGallowglass but men don't have to get wife's permission for vasectomies and single men can get them without shaming.
My handsome son came out as trans when he was 17. I had actually questioned him a year prior because of how I saw him presenting. I am Bi and he came out as his when he was 14ish and was still scared to come out to me. I immediately started him in therapy so he can begin the process in the correct manner and so he can quickly know what path he would like to consider in terms of surgery. Even kids with accepting parents can still be hesitant to come out to them. Just love your kids. That is literally our entire job.
Thank you for being a good parent, I'm sure your son appreciates it a lot
The first sentence you wrote made me so incredibly happy!! I hope someday my parents call me their son. Thank you for your amazing advice and loving your son so much ❤ ♥ ♥
i wish my parents were like you lol
You have failed him as a parent.
@@justinmoock7506 You are so clueless that you are gender affirming without even realizing it. God, transphobes are so dumb.
I live in oregon. I didn’t have to get my parents permission to start testosterone because I’m sixteen; however, the process took A YEAR AND A HALF (NOT the same day i walked into my doctors office), and I had to work with a therapist, pediatrician, behavioral health specialist, endocrinologist, and a social worker.
it’s so weird how they make it sound like it’s incredibly easy to get gender affirming therapy when it’s so damn hard
i also live in oregon!
Wait, do you not need permission in Oregon?
@@RunOut25 In most states teenagers have almost complete say over their medical health once they turn a certain age. In Oregon I believe it’s 14. This can exclude certain medical procedures, but for the most part, once you’re 14 you do not need parental consent when it comes to medical stuff :)
I'm in Oregon too, and 22, and i wasn't able to start transitioning til 2021 cuz i had no support. No one to talk to, no one who would help with it
@@RunOut25 you gotta be 15 to make your own medical decisions legally, but minors can't get any gender affirming surgery
I've run into so many people who don't believe young trans people should be allowed to transition, and yet fully support nonconsensual cosmetic surgery on intersex kids' genitals. I can't imagine the mental gymnastics that takes.
They're always talking about us but they won't even do proper research.
Why are people transitioning? We asked Cis conservatives!
Because they think everyone who knows what they're talking about is "influenced by the radical left" or something. Like, just say you have no facts, hate science, and go 😂 (them, not you)
@@70Lu07 Honestly lol
MMMMMMM I think they are jealous
Worse it seems citing sources is an issue for them because they know their sources are either invalid or debunked because the source is anti trans to begin with.
For any eggs that may be reading this:
If you’re worried about passing and feel like you can’t wear certain things, just know that it’s not about what you wear but how you wear it. I’m MTF and the other day I was tired and didn’t even try to pass, I was wearing a blue shirt and I looked more masculine than usual. However I kept getting called Miss and Mam and I realized that’s because of my mannerisms. People don’t assume your gender based on your clothes, but how you wear those clothes and how you act.
Just some advice.
wow thats genius, thank you
someone once said "love yourself than others will love you too" and I feel it aplies here to, being confident in yourself makes it more "passable", yall are valid and beautiful
thank you random person on the internet, you are awsome!
Well I act pretty emotional as ftm but it's getting annoying that people assume dudes have to be constantly aggressive analytics. I can be but k don't want to be .
True. My daughter was seen as a boy on several occasions even though she was wearing a horribly pink overall. She was climbing around on a bench instead of sitting calmly. Seems being an energetic child is enough to be perceived as a boy.
15:35
I’m a Californian high school student, and we actually did get a lesson on gender identity!
I already knew most of the stuff they told us about in the lesson but I felt so happy that this kind of stuff is being taught in schools! I’m not transgender myself but you guys are so valid, have a great day! ♥︎
Can't wait for california to realise it can be independant from the usa and actually be a good country
my school told us gender is based on your chromosomes ... I'm out as nonbinary I wish I could have your school /gen
That’s so cool! I wish I had a course on lbgt+ identities.
Our health class has something similar! Even though it didn’t cover everything, I was happy people were learning about things they may not have heard about!
And It was all propaganda
What’s frustrating is that most of this ad is covering about the teenage girls, almost feeling like “oh, trans women are acceptable and common but trans men are totally not real”
The funniest (and by funniest I mean annoying) thing about this “They just wanted to be trans because they did it after it was on social media” like... yeah. Because we didn’t fucking realize being trans was even an _option_ let alone something we could be. I didn’t WANT to be non-binary, I am non-binary. And I didn’t even know that was a thing I could be until I learned about it on online. That’s how learning works. People learn identities exist and go “Oh! That’s me!” when they wouldn’t have before if the information as suppressed.
Same with dysphoria, it turns out I have some dysphoria, BUT it wasn’t magically created the day I read the word dysphoria on social media. I always had it since puberty and just assumed everyone felt so uncomfortable in their own skin.
Same here! For me its like....I never reslly cared what people called me. If someone thought I was a girl on the internet, I let them assume that. If someone that I was a boy on the internet, I'd let them assume that. Time passed and I learned what non-binary was. Now I identify as the type of non-binary that's everything, and nothing at the same time. My pronouns are They/He/She, and I'm pretty happy in my identity!
Yeah the whole argument of "social media makes people LGBT" angle is really fucking dumb. I'm not the way I am because the internet forced me to be, it's more like I just happen to be this way and the internet gave me a word for it. I'm asexual because that's how I was born, not because I read about asexuality and thought "wow that's me!" I was always ace and the internet exposed me to the fact that I wasn't alone in these feelings. Same with being aro, and later on being nonbinary. I always was, I just didn't even realize it was even an option for the longest time.
Same, I feel like I have dysphoria however, still trying to confirm if I am male, I feel like I was supposed to be male however, I want to make sure that I have my information correct.
Before I learned I was ace, I spent 30 years thinking I was defective, and felt like I shouldn't be allowed to be myself. Visibility matters.
“WHY DONT THEY REALIZE IT SOONER”
“THEYRE TOO YOUNG”
???? transphobes are weird 😭
We have one second in life on the first full moon after we turned 11 where we have to come out or be silent for ever /s
Like- they shield us from the real world, force us into gender roles, and never even let us question our gender then wonder why we didn't say anything or exhibit symptoms sooner 🤦♂️
Yeah literally contradicting... Such BS like she's trying to say. "teens that are developing can't possibly realize their gender identity doesn't match their assigned at birth identity when they're not toddlers. HOW DARE YOU EXIST" why tf is TH-cam allowing this on their platform?
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@@jamestalkscomics yes
That ladies book is why I ended up in the mental hospital last month. Thanks mom for being so supportive of me, I will never forget this.
I’m sorry to hear that. Your mother is terrible at her job.
I'm so sorry to hear that, dude :( Stay strong and always remember to not be harsh on yourself just because other people are close-minded assholes.
I sincerely hope that your life has improved in the year since you wrote this. Sending love 💙
To be honest the more negative comments I hear from closed minded people , the more I want to support trans people you can't tell trans people who to be or how to live their life fact💯
just wanna say: your voice is so calming and it just makes me relax even when a video is about horrible anti-lgbt people lol.
6:57 this is something that Sam Collins brought up; but usually when a AFAB shows masculine traits at a young age it is brushed of as the person is "Just a tomboy" whereas when a AMAB person shows feminine traits at a young age it is considered a problem.
I think this has a lot to do with the "sudden shock" of afab people coming out as trans men at puberty because they dont really have the opportunity to come out before that, since nobody bats an eye at their "tomboyish" behaviour
That aspect definitely ties in to a general distaste or devaluing of femininity. Nobody thinks it’s a problem wether an afab child acts masculine, because it’s seen as a neutral or positive. But the moment an amab child is feminine or even perceived as a possibility to be, now it’s a problem because “boys shouldn’t be feminine, that’s weak and bad”. I’ve noticed that even if the kids are cis and a girl identifies with more feminine traits, she tends to be treated in a more patronizing manner than a more masculine-presenting girl. so it definitely doesn’t apply only to gender variance/nonconformity, but it can make things harder for people who are nonconforming
I don’t think I worded that as well as I wanted but hopefully the idea is still understood
@@PochamaRex Oh yeah definitely. I do think it depends on the culture, there are for instance some cultures that favour feminine traits over masculine but the majority of places it's most definitely easier to be a masculine person in society even as a cis woman.
I do think it is headed in a healthier direction though, now that there's a lot of strong and powerful feminine people in media breaking that stereotype.
It’s funny that the same people who are like “covid only has a two percent death rate let’s open back up” are also like “nearly one percent of people who medically transition will detransition we need to stop this!” like well my kid might die at school but at least they’re not learning how to be “a tRaNsGeNdEr”
That is so true and it it annoys the hell out of me
Yeah and school could make a kid off themselves because of bulling in school yet we make kids go there
😂I'm laughing and crying but not crying because I'm laughing😭
Is that not anti-education?
@@isitsweet9567 No Read the sentence again
I love how she's calling transitioning a "quick" fix
Doesn't the whole transitions process take like (please take these numbers with a heap of salt) three years to find an opening for a therapist, three years spent with said therapist, five years waiting for an opening for a specialist, etc etc
The numbers can be pretty accurate for some countries actually, in The Netherlands it's pretty much up to that time to find an opening for an intake.
Next to the time it takes, it's also astonishing they completely gloss over the fact that it can also mean some people have faced a lifetime of bullying already, so much for a quick fix right....Ugh.
I know someone going through being trans and its very sad and hard for her. It sucks, I can't really help but support her. I don't think you put yourself through so much pain just to get a "quick fix"
A friend of mine knew she was trans when she was 14 and started to go into transition over summer break (I’m 28 now and that really was a new and different thing to everyone back then) Even though she knew about it so early she had to wait until she was around 19 to get bottom surgery. And even though she started so early unfortunately she had already grown a beard and had a masculine voice so it took really long for her until things started to change on hormones.
It’s not like you just go to the doctor, get one pill and boom - you are a different gender now.
Depends on where you are and what paths you take. I was able to get testosterone in about two months and top surgery in six months. That said, transitioning is not a quick fix at all, even taking hormones and getting surgery doesn’t 100% fix dysphoria.
I managed it in 17 months, back in 2001. But that was pretty damn atypical. The local gender clinic stretched it up over 8-10 YEARS you had to pretty much convince them you were NEVER changing your mind
"your teenager is just a teenager'
also them
"fetuses are human beings and deserve rights"
Ikr
they sweep these inconsistencies under the rug, lest they have to actually think upon the inveracity or harm of their statements. because they know that anyone who notices these inconsistencies will never be convinced that those statements are true.
“Mam, that is Voldemort”
the "but some ppl regret transitioning!!1!!" argument is so blatanly wrong, lots of people regret getting tattoos, but do you see these bigots arguing to shut down tattoo parlors?
right? 💀
Especially because it’s such a _tiny_ fraction of a percent of people that regret transitioning, lol
Honestly they'd had some kind of leg to stand on if they went after plastic surgeons. The regret rate there is genuinely concerning. Makes me wonder why I need to jump through so many hoops and they don't. Probably something something capitalism, something something transphobia.
@@chrissy9997 Yeah, but the regret rate for normal cosmetic surgeries is dramatically different from the regret rate for transitional surgeries. They wouldn’t have _much_ of a leg on which to stand.
@@thejadedcommenter7371 I mean why aren't they going after that instead of trans people if they care so much about people regretting surgeries?