The Heart Is the Portal Our animalistic predator/prey culture has created a culture of closed hearts. Many of us feel that we need to protect our hearts from being hurt, betrayed, or broken, so we build (most often unconsciously) invisible walls around them, and the flow of love is blocked. Why so many divorces and breakups? One big reason could be that for a relationship to succeed, it takes two hearts that are totally open to one another, that is, no holding back, to really feel connected. In many cases, it is quite possible that when a woman doesn't feel the love and devotion of the other in a palpable way, hurt, sadness, anger, and resentment build up and her behavior towards the other can be explosive, over-blown, and seem irrational and insane. Then this creates a vicious circle that is almost impossible to circumvent. That is, the doubts of the abused partner begins to grow as the problem persists and increases, and therefore becomes more and more reticent and unlikely to share his heart. This, combined with childhood trauma and unconsciously repeating the non adaptive or dysfunctional patterns of the parents, especially the mother, makes for a very unhappy, contentious relationship, that most often ends in separation, which has a traumatic effect on any children that might be present and helps to create a culture of closed hearts. So, amongst all the multifarious crises that now beset all of humanity, one might surmise that the underlying dynamic of a culture with closed hearts which would then be entirely egoistical (the ego wants to receive, the heart wants to give), is how one might explain the current pandemic of injustices, violence, and insurgent tyranny. One might agree that to be truly human is to be humane, humane beings. We have the genetics of animals, and what differentiates us, is perhaps the ability to self reflect and to have the choice whether to be ethical or not, meaning to follow the "golden rule",to treat others as we would like to be treated, rather than be like the rest of the animals, unethical, since animals don't have the ability to choose to be ethical. It is a choice. Another factor to consider is the difference between a culture of abundance compared with a culture of scarcity. It is well known that in a culture of scarcity, the behavior of the inhabitants will become more and more aggressive as the survival instinct is increasingly threatened. A culture of abundance is immensely more conducive towards harmony, peace, and love. A healthy, vibrant, and ethical culture will tend to have the effect of producing an open hearted culture. A healthy culture is one in which all the needs of humans are easily accessible to all. But since we don't yet have this, we are mired in an existential conundrum that can only lead to extinction and totalitarianism. It is a catch-22 situation, uroboros biting its own tail, auto-cannibalism. To change this, we need to be more equitable, to eliminate marginalization, to distribute more evenly. It is the opposite of having the super rich and the vast have-nots, which again is the path to species suicide. This requires systemic changes immediately. This is why a gigantic network (utopiacornucopia.org) is so important now. One which includes millions to billions of like minded people, organizations, and networks that are all doing their part to co-create the new paradigm, the culture of open hearts. Because it is within this network that we can collaborate and advance more quickly, along with our website of ever growing innovations. We are creatures of our cultures, so we must create a culture of and for humane beings. Which simply needs a horizontal, decentralized structure which is virtually incorruptible, with an agreed upon social contract that guarantees and embodies our human values and needs, i.e. civil liberties, no pollution, healthy food, women's liberation, etc. to emerge organically, collaboratively, and autonomously ((1) Horizontal Governing - The Virtually Incorruptible Solution to Vertical Top Down Corruption. - TH-cam). The network once large enough can be used to reinvent, to "utopianize" all those dystopic, congested, polluted, impersonal places we call cities; restructuring economies to incentivize brotherhood, sharing, compassion, caring, reciprocity, and abundance for all. Experienced workers and experts from each sector will be able to collaborate with their counterparts in cities around the world and with access to the wiki of innovations, they will have at hand all they need to achieve this initially, and with transparency and feedback loops will constantly be able to improve.. Think of utopia not as some unattainable end, but as a society that is constantly improving and refining. Such a juggernaut to unravel is similar in magnitude to how we might end the domination of those who would rather put their own private profits over the welfare of the whole, which is by becoming responsible citizens and self governing horizontally. Everyone would gain by being able to open their hearts. How to do it? I like to think that one can decide to open one's heart, to consciously care about the welfare of others, to recognize that the reality we have been ignoring is that we really are one human family, individual leaves or flowers on one gigantic tree, the tree of life, and it this tree of life that we all must love, nurture and care with all our heart, honoring the sacredness of everything. To realize that the more one opens one's heart in all circumstances, romantically, within our personal circles, our villages and cities,in every way imaginable, the more one will be realizing one's human potential and the more gratifying and fulfilling will be one's existence. In a way, its trading pleasure for joy, though you would still be able to enjoy both to a large extent. Choosing joy over pleasure is to move from a superficial to a more profound and fulfilling existence. Having the realization that serving others is the best way to serve oneself.
@@kalimartin6616 thank you! om mani padme hung ^.^ here in Brasil we are receiving the teachings of Joanna and the Work That Reconnects through one of Joanna's student ^.^ also, in 2020 the book "Active Hope" will be published here, in portuguese ^.^ So happy to be writting to someone in France! ^.^ i have never been in France but I like very much a book that have been written by two french: Gilles Deleuze and Felix Guattari ^.^ do you know the book "Mille Plateaux"? ^.^ gratitude and joy! ^.^ Ormando MN ^.^
@@uziao That's amazing that you are receiving these precious teachings in Brazil, and that you will also soon have the book Active Hope in Portuguese! Are you connected with a Buddhist community in Brazil? I have many friends who are students of the late Chagdud Tulku. What an amazing teacher! I will also check out the two books you mentioned! Wishing you all the best from Dordogne. :)
@@kalimartin6616 Yes!!! :D I have not met Chagdud Tulku, but i have been at Chagdud Gompa Sam Drub Ling at Vitória (City), Espirito Santo (State), once to hear teachings by Lama Sherab Drolma (from Chagdud Gompa Khadro Ling, at Rio Grande do Sul) and once to receive initiations by Lama Chagdud Khadro ^.^ I have also read Chagdud's books called "Gates to Buddhist Practice" and "Life in Relation to Death" (this one is short but amazing ^.^) Although i have been just a few times st Chagdud Gompa Sam Drub Ling, sometimes I can watch Lama Tsering Everest on youtube in the channel of Chagdud Gompa Odsal Ling (from Cotia, São Paulo) ^.^ Her teachings are so good, her style of teaching, her wisdom and compassion ^.^ Lama Padma Samten was ordained by Chagdud Tulku in 1996, before that he studied Zen and founded the "Bodisatva Center of Buddhist Studies", he is the lama ordained by Chagdud that I most hear online ^.^ Chagdud have been soooo generous and compassionate to have planted these seeds here in Brasil!! We have to thank him very much ^.^ I feel very happy to be writting to you about these wonderful things! ^.^ in these world we can connect not only by our geographical location, but also by our learning will ^.^ have you ever been in Brasil? ^.^ how is Dharma in France? ^.^ may all be happy and don't suffer ^.^ om mani padme hung ^.^ great hug ^.^ Ormando from Colatina, Espírito Santo, Brasil ^.^
amazing work. Thank you for making it so available. Very generous
The Heart Is the Portal
Our animalistic predator/prey culture has created a culture of closed hearts. Many of us feel that we need to protect our hearts from being hurt, betrayed, or broken, so we build (most often unconsciously) invisible walls around them, and the flow of love is blocked. Why so many divorces and breakups? One big reason could be that for a relationship to succeed, it takes two hearts that are totally open to one another, that is, no holding back, to really feel connected.
In many cases, it is quite possible that when a woman doesn't feel the love and devotion of the other in a palpable way, hurt, sadness, anger, and resentment build up and her behavior towards the other can be explosive, over-blown, and seem irrational and insane. Then this creates a vicious circle that is almost impossible to circumvent. That is, the doubts of the abused partner begins to grow as the problem persists and increases, and therefore becomes more and more reticent and unlikely to share his heart. This, combined with childhood trauma and unconsciously repeating the non adaptive or dysfunctional patterns of the parents, especially the mother, makes for a very unhappy, contentious relationship, that most often ends in separation, which has a traumatic effect on any children that might be present and helps to create a culture of closed hearts.
So, amongst all the multifarious crises that now beset all of humanity, one might surmise that the underlying dynamic of a culture with closed hearts which would then be entirely egoistical (the ego wants to receive, the heart wants to give), is how one might explain the current pandemic of injustices, violence, and insurgent tyranny. One might agree that to be truly human is to be humane, humane beings. We have the genetics of animals, and what differentiates us, is perhaps the ability to self reflect and to have the choice whether to be ethical or not, meaning to follow the "golden rule",to treat others as we would like to be treated, rather than be like the rest of the animals, unethical, since animals don't have the ability to choose to be ethical. It is a choice.
Another factor to consider is the difference between a culture of abundance compared with a culture of scarcity. It is well known that in a culture of scarcity, the behavior of the inhabitants will become more and more aggressive as the survival instinct is increasingly threatened. A culture of abundance is immensely more conducive towards harmony, peace, and love. A healthy, vibrant, and ethical culture will tend to have the effect of producing an open hearted culture. A healthy culture is one in which all the needs of humans are easily accessible to all. But since we don't yet have this, we are mired in an existential conundrum that can only lead to extinction and totalitarianism. It is a catch-22 situation, uroboros biting its own tail, auto-cannibalism.
To change this, we need to be more equitable, to eliminate marginalization, to distribute more evenly. It is the opposite of having the super rich and the vast have-nots, which again is the path to species suicide. This requires systemic changes immediately. This is why a gigantic network (utopiacornucopia.org) is so important now. One which includes millions to billions of like minded people, organizations, and networks that are all doing their part to co-create the new paradigm, the culture of open hearts. Because it is within this network that we can collaborate and advance more quickly, along with our website of ever growing innovations.
We are creatures of our cultures, so we must create a culture of and for humane beings. Which simply needs a horizontal, decentralized structure which is virtually incorruptible, with an agreed upon social contract that guarantees and embodies our human values and needs, i.e. civil liberties, no pollution, healthy food, women's liberation, etc. to emerge organically, collaboratively, and autonomously ((1) Horizontal Governing - The Virtually Incorruptible Solution to Vertical Top Down Corruption. - TH-cam).
The network once large enough can be used to reinvent, to "utopianize" all those dystopic, congested, polluted, impersonal places we call cities; restructuring economies to incentivize brotherhood, sharing, compassion, caring, reciprocity, and abundance for all. Experienced workers and experts from each sector will be able to collaborate with their counterparts in cities around the world and with access to the wiki of innovations, they will have at hand all they need to achieve this initially, and with transparency and feedback loops will constantly be able to improve.. Think of utopia not as some unattainable end, but as a society that is constantly improving and refining.
Such a juggernaut to unravel is similar in magnitude to how we might end the domination of those who would rather put their own private profits over the welfare of the whole, which is by becoming responsible citizens and self governing horizontally.
Everyone would gain by being able to open their hearts. How to do it? I like to think that one can decide to open one's heart, to consciously care about the welfare of others, to recognize that the reality we have been ignoring is that we really are one human family, individual leaves or flowers on one gigantic tree, the tree of life, and it this tree of life that we all must love, nurture and care with all our heart, honoring the sacredness of everything. To realize that the more one opens one's heart in all circumstances, romantically, within our personal circles, our villages and cities,in every way imaginable, the more one will be realizing one's human potential and the more gratifying and fulfilling will be one's existence. In a way, its trading pleasure for joy, though you would still be able to enjoy both to a large extent. Choosing joy over pleasure is to move from a superficial to a more profound and fulfilling existence. Having the realization that serving others is the best way to serve oneself.
thank you from Brasil! ^.^
Happy to help you connect to this wonderful work. May it nourish you deeply. Warmest wishes from France! :)
@@kalimartin6616 thank you! om mani padme hung ^.^ here in Brasil we are receiving the teachings of Joanna and the Work That Reconnects through one of Joanna's student ^.^ also, in 2020 the book "Active Hope" will be published here, in portuguese ^.^
So happy to be writting to someone in France! ^.^ i have never been in France but I like very much a book that have been written by two french: Gilles Deleuze and Felix Guattari ^.^ do you know the book "Mille Plateaux"? ^.^
gratitude and joy! ^.^
Ormando MN ^.^
@@uziao That's amazing that you are receiving these precious teachings in Brazil, and that you will also soon have the book Active Hope in Portuguese! Are you connected with a Buddhist community in Brazil? I have many friends who are students of the late Chagdud Tulku. What an amazing teacher!
I will also check out the two books you mentioned! Wishing you all the best from Dordogne. :)
@@kalimartin6616 Yes!!! :D I have not met Chagdud Tulku, but i have been at Chagdud Gompa Sam Drub Ling at Vitória (City), Espirito Santo (State), once to hear teachings by Lama Sherab Drolma (from Chagdud Gompa Khadro Ling, at Rio Grande do Sul) and once to receive initiations by Lama Chagdud Khadro ^.^ I have also read Chagdud's books called "Gates to Buddhist Practice" and "Life in Relation to Death" (this one is short but amazing ^.^) Although i have been just a few times st Chagdud Gompa Sam Drub Ling, sometimes I can watch Lama Tsering Everest on youtube in the channel of Chagdud Gompa Odsal Ling (from Cotia, São Paulo) ^.^ Her teachings are so good, her style of teaching, her wisdom and compassion ^.^ Lama Padma Samten was ordained by Chagdud Tulku in 1996, before that he studied Zen and founded the "Bodisatva Center of Buddhist Studies", he is the lama ordained by Chagdud that I most hear online ^.^ Chagdud have been soooo generous and compassionate to have planted these seeds here in Brasil!! We have to thank him very much ^.^ I feel very happy to be writting to you about these wonderful things! ^.^ in these world we can connect not only by our geographical location, but also by our learning will ^.^ have you ever been in Brasil? ^.^ how is Dharma in France? ^.^ may all be happy and don't suffer ^.^ om mani padme hung ^.^ great hug ^.^ Ormando from Colatina, Espírito Santo, Brasil ^.^