When People Laugh at You
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ก.ย. 2024
- Bad things happen to everyone, even good people. So, it's what you do with these bad things that matter. How do you deal with people stepping on your encouragement "air hose"?
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Say you have a plan, goal, idea-whatever-that you think is great. You thought of it all on your own, and you take great pride in it like you would a child. You put hours of labor into making the dream happen, and you see yourself making slow, but steady progress.
But-when a close friend asks about what you're doing, and you tell them, they laugh at you! Maybe you're the type who can laugh at yourself no matter what, but for most people, this would crush your spirit, at least temporarily.
I experienced this while on the phone with my mother. She asked me the typical question, "So, what have you been up to lately?" In response, I told her the exciting news that I have a book coming out in the near future, Lessons From The Year I Lost One Million, and a little about the book. I also told her about the upcoming e-book I have coming out about "woo power", and what both have in common is that they emphasize encouragement above all else. I answered her question, with excitement, happiness and enthusiasm while I did so-I was feeling pretty good, and then-well, she laughed at me.
A stranger laughing at me would have been bad enough, but my mother not taking my ideas seriously? Needless to say, my spirit was down a little. However, another idea I emphasize in all I do is that bad things happen to everyone, even good people. So, it's what you do with these bad things that matter. How do you deal with people stepping on your encouragement "air hose"?
"Air hose" comes from the idea that we need encouragement to be productive in the same way we need air to breathe. When someone laughs at you or sends a disparaging comment your way, they are actually stomping on that air hose and limiting your airflow. You just want them to get off so you can breathe. How do you deal with this?
Well, this will need talking to yourself a little, whether out loud or in your head. Let's say ten of your friends give you encouragement by saying they love your idea, they totally believe you'll be successful, and are behind you 100%. Only two friends laugh at you and call you crazy. What are you going to do with those negative comments? I think you are free to ignore them, because in this case the positive so obviously outweighs the negative.
Also, stay persistent in your search for encouragement. Some writers are so determined to have their work published that they will go from publisher to publisher in search of someone who will finally accept their work. You can do the same thing with your ideas-get second, third, or tenth opinions. It's okay to go out and get what you want-although it may not always work out, it's good to go where your passions take you, because you're born with the desires and talents that you have.
Also, sort out constructive criticism from that which intends to hurt, or is just thrown around carelessly. Constructive criticism helps you and moves you forward. Train yourself to take hurtful criticism as constructive criticism. Ignore the condescending tone and the laughter, and take only what could be used toward improvement.
What ways do you deal with laughter? As the expression goes, always "be a duck"-let others' words roll off of you like drops of water would do a duck's feathers.
When people laugh at me I feel anger because I think they are making fun of me
Same. I have social anxiety, and it makes me feel terrible.
Just know, you're not alone.
Same here, what to do?
When people laugh at me I wanna fucking slit there throats open and watch them die off slowly I'm tired of that shit everywhere I go niggas always wanna talk shit
@@jsavagetooreal ,I go through the same stuff ,but u shouldn't have that hate in your heart ,it's hard but forgive all them bozos and I just ignore people ,I've been itching to say ,"you're pretty low class to laugh at a complete stranger ,have fun with that".hold to ur head hi and Don't let people get to u down.have a good day🤣
Being a fat Black woman I get laughed at all the time, even by my own family members. I’ve decided to keep going outside anyway, outside doesn’t only belong to them❤
I have so many things that I wanna do, I can’t let them stop me
Very strong of you 💪🏾 good job 👏
Guys I love you all reading your stories, does anyone here want to be my friend?🥺
@Dale Suslick thanks, Dale I really needed there was this guy at customer service and my colleague was smirking laughing at me yesterday making fun of me so it made me feel bad about myself
People laughed at me during having a allergic reaction today It broke my heart people really don't care . They usually laugh all the time at me even for no reasons aswell . I even told my friend and she laughed it off . I feel alone in this because If things got this bad people would usually drop their ego and help but instead they found it amusing. Most of the time I'm not sure what they are laughing at. I thought maybe everyone wishes the worst for me and that hurts more than anything would they brush it off and laugh if something serious happened to me
Let them laugh laughing is a good thing not bad thing people will also broke your heart fell bad to you let them they are laughing say to them keep doing you just ignore then don't watch them if they are watching you again and again then they are made not us people always hurt you. They thinks that you are looser or you can do anything in your life let them think bad about you let them laugh actually they have a habit to laugh always on other they think they are really very intelligent and you are dump do whatever you want to do in your life be happy always ignore them .
baby i’m here to listen and ur loved ily and i experienced the same thing too
@@hereisdiki i have also experienced it almost for last 4 year people love make fun of me some loser dumb people ohh god plz help them to get some emotions hsve respect for others plz god they need u more than me
You know people always find a reason to laugh at you
That is hurtful. Like I don’t understand and it’s something I want to know why. Why would you laugh at somebody who’s hurting? People laughing at me triggers me. It makes me feel worthless and stupid
After 16 suddenly my looks changed and I don't know that didn't bother me , but when I saw people laughing at me like really they try to hide their laugh when I'm in front of them, and when I ask why u laughing at me they just say "nothing" and I ignored it, but now I'm 18 and this is getting worse and worse cuz, now every single person I communicate with laughs at me without any reason, I mean people can't even understand how the other person is feeling, that made my hard broke and I'm feeling so lonely, no one is there to accept me. Every day I try to accept my self and after some time while feeling good by myself , someone comes and starts laughing again , and that happens every day, I'm tired of it, if this will happen again I'm going to have a suicide. Take this comment as a suicide note.....
Hey man i feel you but don't let them crush you , ignore them , you are worth more than that
I'm on the same boat brother. It's a spiritual attack. The enemy wants to see you break down and give up, but through that process, you must gain strength and courage to just let it be. There's a reason it's happening to us. It's because we are strong minded, and strong minded people get attacked the most. I know you may have a different faith, but in the Bible, even Jesus was attacked constantly, and was hated by the world. He was also laughed at and made fun of. Just remember that.
Omg don't worry if u feel like nobody knows how u feel but not everyone my looks also changes and your not the only one and people laughed qt me too and said nothing so yea
OMG SAMEEEEEE IT HAPPENED TOO MEE so dont worry🤗
Do martial arts.
This happened to me recently. I was sitting outside alone waiting to be picked up from a restaurant and this asshole walks past me smirking like he can’t contain his laughter. It happened for no reason that I can think of since I wasn’t doing anything. It’s either he himself was anxious or he was just laughing at me. I don’t understand the cruelty. I just lost my father and I’ve gone through everything horrible one could possibly imagine. Social anxiety is one of those things. And I’m not always anxious but it’s effecting my life to the point that I’m starting to lose control. And there’s no one there for me ever except my mom and sometimes my two brothers. At least I have them but I’m very alone in the end
Need positivity in you
Following are some ways to think and behave in a more positive and optimistic way:
Identify areas to change. ...
Check yourself. ...
Be open to humor. ...
Follow a healthy lifestyle. ...
Surround yourself with positive people. ...
Practice positive self-talk.
Same dude ..but i don't give up i am also trying to lift myself i have no friends...and often encounter negative peoples
Same 😭😭
Don’t let these things gets you …be strong
I get laughed at in public people point at me saying look at his face whenever i go in public i wanna hide my face idk what they laugh at cus when i look in the mirror i look nice so people point at me and laugh with others and it hurts so much i always feel sad and cry i was at the airport once and someone said u have very big ears and started laughing and somone else pointed at me and started laughing just cus i look transgender even though im not so its very hard for me i wish the world wasnt this cruel everything bad has happened to me through the past 2 years i dont even know why people point at me and laugh or say cruel things about me like hes gay hes transgender he looks weird he has autism it just affects me in so many ways even my uncle laughs at me and i just look down so i can ignore people
my friend even laughs @ me and makes me go down and also bullys me in an indirect way
which is the worst
Confront her, and if she doesn't understand then cut your friendship.
Following are some ways to think and behave in a more positive and optimistic way:
Identify areas to change. ...
Check yourself. ...
Be open to humor. ...
Follow a healthy lifestyle. ...
Surround yourself with positive people. ...
Practice positive self-talk.
im still feeling bad when people laughed at me. it just happened today. although people are saying ''DONT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT THAT PEANUT GALLERY" but its easier said than done.
It will never be easier. We just have to handle it. 😉 Stay strong! 💪🏻
Look at them in the eye, and smile and say to them YOH HAVE A BLESS DAY, and walk away with your HEAD HELD HIGH AND PRAISE JESUS IN YOUR MIND WHILE WALKING AWAY. YOU WILL WIN.
sameeee
People laughed at me many years ago and I'm still feeling the effect. It makes me so angry
@@alicjakozicka2270 easy for you to say in this day and age... lol white girl , pretty face, privileged , probably grew up with a silver spoon up her ass , get a room 😉
When i talk to people eyes to eyes they usually start laughing like i'm making some weird faces, or when i walk or sit in a restoraunt i usually look around and somethimes Me and the stranger look at each other and they just turn around and I see them holding back laughter. It breaks my hart to see how people are soo rude like i didn't chose to look weird leave me alone i just wana have peace in life.
Are you black ? I am and similar things happened to me so I'm just checking ...
People usually project their insecurities… ur beautiful regardless
I was just on this topic. NO one has empathy any more. I tell my family all the time I just beed support. We are allot alike.
Sadly, I agree. Emotions, especially the good ones like empathy, are fading from humans.
I am scared of people laughing at me because of my noticeable difference. I am so scared that i dont talk infront of anyone or in public i dont open my mouth..
People judge me because they know that i have a weakness and keep an eye on me, any 1 mistake i do and then they will not hesitate to make a good comedy out of it.
same ! I don't know if I will be a teacher one day, I am scared that kids will make fun of me :')
In my mind i see people laufhing at me for no reason. It's a mental block im dealing with
Same to me at school
I'm ugly, dark, fat and on the top of that i recently got a boy cut coz it was comfortable. Now everywhere I go in college I can see people laughing at me. Why do they care? It is my body. But I'm hurt and it's hard to go out and talk to people.
Trust me, it's about them, not you. When someone laughs at you, they are revealing their own insecurities.
at least they dont do that in public@@heliotrope3345
My family laugh at me every time id been in pain or agony but when i laugh back im called an uncaring jackass i was petty curious if any one else been through this type of bullshit
Husband of my sister always leave so many stuff everywhere in the House we living in together. It's always a big mess. And when I try to correct them and ask them clean up their mess. His husband will laugh at my back and keep doing it. Feel helpless sometimes, because I can't go anywhere that's only our house. Since my sisters husband live here it's always a mess here. Worst is my sister tolerate it. Like he doesn't care about us.
i have a big face and head and i got anxiety from fucking humans
i heard many people laughing and talking about how my head is huge
Now I'm in that situation anybody and everywhere i see people who giggles or laugh i 100% think they laugh with me
god damn it how to change this i can't change my fucking head 😔
Sorry that's happening to you. Remember that what other people think of you does not change your value as a human being. You are worth just as much as the next person, and you have the right to exist and thrive just as much as anyone else. People can be so cruel for no reason, and it sucks to be on the receiving end of it. But no matter how cruel they are, it does not change your value. ❤
I fucking hate being laughed at because of my looks i cant continue what I am about to say because of yt potentially deleting my comm but I might turn into ER soon ifyky I really dont give a single f no more
I hope you're better today! Don't let a holes steal your life. You have as much right time be here as anyone else.
i still get bullied
Thank you so much for this! 💥
People calling me paranoid because why would someone laugh at me. They don’t get it
My best friend does the same thing and it's at the point I don't even share my feelings anymore.
My Gramma always told me that if people are laughing at you, it's a good thing because it means you are making someone smile.
.... girl but self respect comes first
@@ashwatirao4330no God will take care of those people 😊
If people are stealing from you, it's a good thing because you're feeding someone in need
How to deal those people hurting you by words and laughing you?
1.First change yourself what he saying about you
2.Practice savage reply and great roast for toxic people
3.Improve your sense of humour
4.Spent some time with toxic people
Maybe helpful for this problem
When people laugh at you show them the middle finger it’s only fair
I worked so hard to go to university, being an immigrant kid in this new world, every day my nightmares grow bigger. Today was one of those days that I just wanna leave. The teacher in the lecture made fun of me because I couldn’t speak English clearly.
Teachers can be idiots. I learned that myself when I was in college. But, don't worry. Your future is bright & you will be rewarded. If you immigrated to the U S., welcome. If elsewhere, I wish you the best of luck. I hope all your dreams come true.
I really despise high school but i have 2 more years
1 more year
1 more for me but it got me wishing for more era of online classes even if I'm struggling
Congratulations! I still have 6 agonizing months left 😊
Now i have a job and i graduated!
Yay now you can deal with coworkers lol life's a blast innit
Sir, may I ask you something?
Is it better to publish on Amazon?
Many thanks.
I was sitting in the bus and when I moved my head I saw people ( young guys) staring at me and laughing at me I was so confused
Two elderly women laughed stuped about me. 🥵🥵 Was that fair, what do you think ??
I just stayed home when people used to call me fat and a “snorlax” I used to really love pokemon. This one guy made all my actual good friends laugh at me. All of them were seeing I went home and looked at them from my window. It never broke me, I felt good alone. And the people who mattered and who cared came around anyways. Life is long, it does go by really fast when you forget about your loved ones.
Are you kidding me? I will be cracking up with someone called me that people used to call me big body burnt garbanzo beans and other stuff. I’m even laughing while writing this comment because it was so ridiculous. It was hilarious. If you can get around your insecurities you will realize how funny jokes made at your expense are.
Just before 30 minutes some kids start to laugh at me in the public transport i ask them calmly what is so funny and they're smiles change to guilty facial expressions i don't take it so personally but it hurts and they where just kids go to school and i understand them maybe i was creapy because i was staring at them unconsciously i will laugh to btw
Two elderly women laufhed stuped about me. 🥵🥵 Was that fair, what do you think ??
I play pick up soccer with all boys and Im the only girl. I was defending the ball when a guy is laughing at me the whole time. I stopped him and asked “whats so funny” “why are you laughing?”. He responded and said “because you are chasing after the ball you cant get”. I literally told him “ just shut up and play the ball because nothing is funny and no one else is laughing with you”. From my POV “Im the only girl here he is making fun of and doesn’t think Im capable”. He admitted he was laughing me at me though. Can someone explain if it was wrong to stand my ground?? Im questioning my reality and Im wondering if Im right for setting my boundary or people percieve me as hostile and stuck up.
Two elderly women layghed stuped about me. 🥵🥵 Was that fair, what do you think ??
When people laugh at me, I laugh right back, why pass up the opportunity to be happy and life with people whether they’re laughing at you or not. This is my approach to life people believe me I love bad things happen I laugh. I laugh at everything. Laughing works as a mediator to prevent you from feeling emotions that you don’t want to feel and plus some people have made some pretty clever jokes about me and when I hear them laugh, it’s just too contagious. I don’t care if they’re laughing at me being autistic, or not. I love when people laugh.
Two elderly women laughed stuped about me. 🥵🥵 Was that fair, what do you think ??
I have a long jaw and every time I go outside the people laugh at me, it gaves me anxiety and it ruins my life, my face change when I was 18. I didn't expect that this will happen to my face. I have a normal face before but now I have a funny face. because of this problem I get depression now I'm taking maintenance for my mental health cuz of this face problem. my life ruined.
I was proud of this drawing I made andy mom thought the pose was weird and burst out laughing....
society hurts me so i do the same thing back
In my primary school evwryone used to lagh at me and i was confused and then i was telling my friend that why is everyone laghing at me then she said nothing.. Then i said umm ok then the next day i was playing with my friend then she laghed at me and i feel like the whole world just does the same and not even one person nit lagjing at me or helping and i was alone and some teacher came up ti me and said wats wrong then i said im upset cuz people are laghing at me and the teacher laugh ed aswell this SUCKS 😭😭😭😭😭😭
really
Maybe stop assuming the absolute worst when anyone laughs in response to anything you say. I’m pretty sure the teacher wasn’t trying to be mean
I remember one time when I was at the mall and I walked passed two teenage boys. When they saw me, they started laughing at me. I’m assuming that they laughed because I was wearing a Chicago Bulls jersey, a lot of people hate that basketball team. There are some people that take national sports seriously that they will bully you if you support a certain team that loses.
I had a great life but i remember one day when i was 11 now im 17 my grandma bough me a shark that complain and yet everyone in my old school saw this and laughed at me it wasn t even funny at all it was the worst think in my life i was crying even my mother laughed at me i was really angry bro these times suck so much good old times where always the best but freacking 2020 came ruined and changed everything i miss good old time i wish i could hommgo back ik time people now are getting mad for no reason at me sometime and laugh and when i told them to stop they either ignore me and laugh before this worked but time have changed i hate this new world i wish i could go back it was so much better back then then now 2023 was really bad and 2024 just suck trash has hell
Hang in there bro, just know it's not only you this happens to, people suck and tbh if I saw a dog dying and a person dying at the same time I wouldn't think twice about it, I would save the dogs life first and that's just me keeping it real, I only have sympathy for the people like you and others who deal with this everyday
I no the feelin my teeth are crooked and people stare and laugh at me all the time it hurts so bad but hold your head up its go be fine you got to believe it
Iam 16 and iam pretty average looking this started after I was 15 people just start laughing at me or gossip about me for no reason literally every single person I don't even know them they are literally random people first I thought maybe it's my hair cuz I had stupid azz hair I never bothered combing or styling my hair so my hair always looked those emo kids it always stayed down till my eyes I changed my hair made it a bit short kinda like Zain Malik hair my hair stayed up but people didn't change then I thought maybe it was how I walk cuz even my parents once said why do I walk like a duck and even I knew I walk like a duck I changed that but still people stayed the same they didn't even ananlyze me they just straight up looked at me and burst out laughing some gossip about me while looking at me some laugh about me with their friends looking at me like when I go to shops and stuff or they just keep staring at me I changed literally everything about me I don't see any fault but people just keep gossiping or laughing about me what do I do? I feel doing suicide I told my self f them just do what you like but I just can't when 100 of people looking at you and gossiping everywhere laughing everywhere some don't even bother whispering they just talk so loud I could hear them I don't even leave my house anymore what do I do should I just die?
Humans are soo cruel!! Only people who have been true the similar situations understand you , ive been laughed at called ugly by school boys I didn't even know etc.....
What do YOU do? seriously? Are YOU responsible for people's low IQ?
Anyway you're still young,find something you really love, you enjoy doing...work hard and change the place you do live in...it's the best thing you're gonna do...leave stupid people behind you
that happens to me too its annoying
Same bruh I'm just like you... 🙂
I’m in a group project with some kids from my class one of them is my friend so I call asking some questions about my part and my so called “friend” starts laughing and looking to the side and everybody else starts laughing at something that’s not even funny but just ruining my fucking day
When People laugh at u it's like them saying"yes right whatever"👎
Some horrible relatives laughed at me today. All I did was be kund to them and whilst protecting my dad from their influence. I jope i get yhe chance to make them see how wrong they were.
You obviously have the right to not tell us all the details but you sure from their perspective that it wasn’t reasonable, or mean, to laugh?
Thank you! I was so down about the school club. Maybe I'm still sad and hurt, but I feel better now. Thank you!❤️
i’m here ily and care of u :) 💛🤍💜❤️🌫☁️ NEVER FEEL LONELY BBY CUZ U HAVE ME AND US PEOPLE WHO LOVE U SO MUCH
Alot of people hating on me laughing at me. It's is getting inoring to me
This video has no sound. Made me restart my phone and everything. Its the video not the phone.
I have gone through hell since I was young till now because I have a funny walking style everyone laughs at me and sometimes I feel like God is not fair
I WANNA GO AFTER MY TAIL
ALMOST THERE
When I ask my girlfriend “ are u still in love with me” she’s cracking 😆
Move on
maybe in her mind said "are you kidding me when been years together"?
when i laugh at my 5 year old for hurting herself while teaching her front flips on the bed( thought it would boost her resolve)cause it wasnt so serious a serious issue came up..my friends at my school laughed at me when i got hurt while deeply crying..im like show me what you did she stood up and fell on her face..i said true friends wouldn't(would i laugh at you while remembering my reason)instant response..no!..asked why? cause you love me💖talked a bit and i realized she doesnt have friends cause she's white..that broke my heart cause she is the friendliest person i know..spent the whole day playing our silly games..my advice was simple since she said she got really angry when they laughed and wants to hurt them..jealous(evil) people like to make you sad you should get friends that love you like me even if its just one..i dont know how it happened but we agreed to laugh at ourselfs when crying or sad..she can do flips without hands and i did say even if her whole class laughs she must remember that out of them all only 3 will be able to do it..herself and maybe2 others..the rest will fall on their faces cause they are weak
.now when she "fails"at a game if its still interests her she will be a bit sad and get back on the horse with a smile..then we danced on edm music mixed freestyling..slided of a giant round plastic dog house doing our own tricks..thats were i saw it static charges jumping like crazy..i dont even touch the plastic yet then you hear the crackles..i shocked her right after our talk cause she jumped of the top of my ladder next to my single bed and i grabbed her thinking she would roll of..zapped..we both saw the spark..everything flows 2gether i see with the intent..projection might be the blame game..but in real life there are some hard truths spoken from a small child..asked her what was her favorite animal(of course she said tiger cause its mine)and i ask tou must pick 2..and was thinking earnestly and said elephant(thick skin thats why i train her she)gave her my elephant statue i salvaged a while back while reinforcing its best qualitys to her ...no coincidences here just flow from the heart
I would definitely STOP laughing when your child hurts herself!!!
I can relate !
My mother inlaw invited me for supper they are new apostolic I'm catholic before I ate I prayed and did my sighn of the cross. When that happend my sister inlaw burst out of laughter and made rude comments I still feel bad about it
If she’s cool with you, you might be taking it more personally than she meant it. I’m not saying it’s all your fault, but just suggesting something to help your perspective
I'm Apostolic and think that is rude when they laugh for know reason. Or they need to let you in on the joke?😮❤🙏🏻
i got a haircut low asf, went to the gym, this lady on the treadmill looked at me and started laughing, ... that's lame as hell 😐
Worst case scenario she thought you’re a guy with a goofy haircut. It’s not as personal as emotions can make it feel and if you and her ran into each other and reminded her, you could probably laugh about it together and wish each other well
@@aGOATEDchannelcope. She thought he was ugly af and laughed
@@greatestnitemare6626 Didn't deny that, I just said even if that was the case it's not that deep or personal, and if it was it'd clearly be her problem. Why do you want me to take hating so seriously?
@@aGOATEDchannel Listen maybe YOU feel that way but you can't assume others feel that way too. There are people who have been made fun of all their life so having a person go through that can be extremely humiliating. But yeah let's just shit on others because you're alpha bro!
thank you so much kind gentleman
idk what they think of me
i feel like im talking normally
i just feel like a joke to everyone
I appreciate you♥️
love this radiance of positive energy
Sorry I am still stuck at grandkilldren bahahaha I can’t focus
Hey guys sup uh this is the newer dale channel well I kinda own it lol
Kildren 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Am I the only one who loves it when people laughs at me
Me too..and I laugh at them..
I love laughing..😂😂
Guys is it normal if ur friend laughs at you when ur angry
man, get to the point!!!
Orale 😅
It's rude
What if u have the last laugh , can u laugh? Is it wrong too
😂
The point is that we don’t have to laugh at each other. It’s called being mature.
Thanks for telling that
Thanks Sir
Nice.