8 Psychological Tips On How To See Through People
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 เม.ย. 2018
- You don’t need to be a psychic in order to read people’s minds. Those around you constantly give away their thoughts, feelings, and intentions without even realizing it. You just need to be really attentive to see right through them.
Obviously, everybody’s different, each with their own mannerisms and peculiarities. That's why it's so important to understand what behavior is normal for a particular individual. Slight changes in their behavior or body language can speak volumes and allow you to read them like an open book. Analyzing all the information you have, you'll be able to understand someone’s personality a lot better without even spending that much time with them.
In different cultures, there can be different rules. For example, in some countries, people look away to show their respect, not because they’re hiding something or feeling uncomfortable. They say you should never judge a book by its cover. That’s good advice and all, but a person’s appearance really can tell a lot about them.
We like to spend more time with people who share our interests and personality traits. Watch who someone spends most their time with and how they treat other people. See if this person tries to make others comfortable or rudely annoys people without even noticing it.
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TIMESTAMPS
Define the norm 0:20
Observe and compare 1:05
Always mind the context 1:43
Check out how someone is dressed 2:19
What's with the face? 3:26
Watch their behavior in a group 5:12
Listen to how they articulate their thoughts 6:07
Trust your intuition 7:02
SUMMARY
-Try to understand what behavior is normal for a particular individual, and then pay attention to anything the person does differently.
-Pay attention to the details: how they carry themselves, how they communicate with other people, what secrets their body language reveals.
-Always keep in mind the context of the situation: in different cultures, there can be different rules.
-People, either willingly or subconsciously, show their true selves through their clothing choices.
-Facial expressions can reveal a lot of things people would rather keep hidden. For example, when someone likes you, their facial muscles relax, the head tilts a bit to the side, and blood rushes to their lips, making them slightly plumper and brighter.
-Watch who someone spends most their time with and how they treat other people.
-Don’t just listen to what a person says, pay attention to how they say it.
-Intuition can let you down from time to time, but the longer you keep listening to it and observing people, the better it’ll work.
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TIMESTAMPS
Define the norm 0:20
Observe and compare 1:05
Always mind the context 1:43
Check out how someone is dressed 2:19
What's with the face? 3:26
Watch their behavior in a group 5:12
Listen to how they articulate their thoughts 6:07
Trust your intuition 7:02
This is not soo this channels behaviour hmm something is wrong :/
It sucks to see through people tho. I have this habit of observing people's smile and body languages until I know who dislikes me and annoyed by me. Then I will feel bad for myself😑 It can make you lose confidence of yourself
Little Miss Introvert what about the flipside to that coin, knowing who likes you and is a good friend?
Cik Pessimist Introvert-Nah....That's just you, you have serious issues. You feel bad about yourself and want to see if people feel about you the way you feel about yourself, so you look for that in others. That can really blur what you're seeing when talking to other people and cause you to gain a faulty perception of how others view you. You need to get yourself some help.....
Misty Nights maybe...Sometimes I am thinking to stop my habit so I don't overthink but it will lead to the anxiety
Cik Pessimist Introvert-Not overthinking things is hard because I do that a lot. I'm starting to learn to just ignore the negative thoughts unless something more substantial comes to play(concrete evidence) other then my own negative thoughts. Because a lot of times when I'm overthinking it distorts the way people look to me as in whether they are sincere or not. I can sense when people are being genuine but that overthinking side of my brain tells me they are still hiding something. I'm trying to get rid of the anxiety because it's annoying AF. And I'm only dealing with "mild" anxiety. smh
I do this as well, but it's not always bad. It also is kind of cool depending on who you are with. I surprise some friends with it sometimes. it's really dependent on how you look at it. It can only get better, but people that do these things are mostly looked at as understanding, so there's a plus.
No matter someone like or hate you, stay happy 😁
Amen
Well said!!!!😆😁😄😃😅😜😛😋😚😗😊
Yessssss !
Yeah 😃😂
Thanks man
Maybe they're relieved to be done talking to you because they have social anxiety.
blameitonablackstar exactly
me.
Mostly it's like that.
This is me
That's me all the way, I'm fine chatting online or video chat/phone, but talking in person I get nervous and sometimes jittery. It is a relief when the conversation is over, because then I can calm down and feel at ease again. Something tells me the maker of this video doesn't understand anxiety at all.
Who else clicked so fast to learn some new things
Janet Babatunde Yups.
I want to learn what the comment was before it was edited
I did I didn't even see what it was about but because it bright side😁😊
Janet Babatunde MEH NOTICE ME!!!!!!
Yep
Intuition yes! If something ‘feels off’ with someone it most probably is, believe it, it could save you from a nightmare.
Definitely, follow your gut! I almost got close to being manipulated by a psychopath in the music business because i didn't listen to my intuition, very creepy situation.
Amanda E. I was in a relationship with one. I learnt the hard way because my intuition was telling me something wasn’t right with him! He put me through so much abuse but I finally got away. I’ll never ignore my ‘gut’ ever again! Yes it’s creepy but I’m so relieved for you that it was an almost situation!
Lisa Davut: I just hate & suspect everyone to start with and wait to see if they're worth getting to know. Oddly, I have almost zero friends. Wonder why? (I'm kidding--I don't wonder why!)
Lisa Davut
Use more than intuition, but if the situation is iffy at best, yes, excuse yourself and leave. And don't be obliged to be polite. Running is always an option.
You're right! And I think this vibe hits your gut about 3 seconds after meeting a new person, and tends, as you say, to bear out - even if you feel guilty about judging them harshly.
intuition NEVER lets us down. It always leads us exactly where we need to go if we only listen. We betray ourselves when we don't listen or we believe the ego out of fear.
Umm just because I want to be comfortable doesn't mean I don't care about life.
In some cases if the person wears comfortable or bland clothing, they are either genius or a true christian, also some are lazy self centered and or undeciding.
none of these things are correct. stereotyping isn't the greatest things to do. generalization isn't either. i can tell you right now that i am not a genius, or a Christian. I can say i'm lazy, and undeciding, but self centered doesn't fit. what's the problem with just wearing something that doesn't constrict movement?
I do it cause it's cheap, and I don't care about what others think negatively about me.
ASMR no voice exactly. As a psychology student (also common sense ) it’s not that they don’t care about life, they don’t care about people’s opinions
I agree, same here. I prefer to dress comfortably, but it doesn't mean I don't care about life
To sum all this up, ALWAYS go with your first thought. It's usually always right. That's with everything from jobs, marriage, multiple choice questions on exams, meeting new people and anything else.
Global Adventurer Bad idea actually. If you are not a good judge of people then your "first instinict" is always going to be off by a mile.
Global Adventurer true. Although i have multiple thoughts for a first impression . So i really cant decide what to beleive as i see 2 perspectives in the same analysis of thr person . Which one to go by .and btw this happens simultaneously in my brain while deciding what the person is like.
minoshka dsouza You will have that gut feeling something isn't right, that will make you go....hmm? And dismiss it as over thinking on your part, but it will come full circle (as what happens to most people), but then it's too late. There's always a major warning in the beginning, and most people dismiss it. That's how people end up killed....not going by their gut feeling.
Global Adventurer hmm . A vry gud point there. Yr right. Reason i said so is i found certain people suspicious initially without reason but later found no reason to feel that way as they ended up normal so i dismissed it. And its been years. But they didnt slip . So i was like probably my initial judgement was too soon and i was being over cautious. And i can tend toward paranoia at times so i give that a benifit of doubt clouding my judgement. Im an over thinker by nature so u can assume my predicament . But i have been right about many too. However ive been wrong about some.... until date. Whose to say it could be proven right in thr future. But i think yr rule applies only to those of a sound and stable mind unaffected by paranoia. Eg: assuming yr bf will cheat on u for no given reason after being with him for many yrs and hes been faithful throughout but due to insecurities u just assume hes a cheat. This is one senario many people fall into a trap of assuming paranoia is intuition and getting into a mess coz of it. U get what im saying right?
minoshka dsouza I get what you're saying. But, I'm speaking of dangerous people. Anyone can lie or cheat on you at anytime, even the people with the best intentions, but I'm speaking about dangerous people and dangerous circumstances they could put you in physically and mentally. It's like all those mass murderers and serial killers. There is ALWAYS a subtle warning light and that "gut feeling". People just ignore.
But, for over thinkers like yourself, it may be difficult right now, but that will change with time and more experience.
Who came to check if their crush or boyfriend really like them so as to be able to read their mind
Janet Babatunde I did to see if somebody likes me tbh
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1. Define the norm. 2. Observe and compare. 3. Always mind the context. 4. Check out how someone is dressed. 5. What's with the face? 6. Watch their behaviour in a group. 7. Listen to how they articulate their thoughts. 8. Trust your intuition.
Some people love to complain about being misunderstood, but once you finally figure them out they don't like it. 👂🏾💯💪🏾
Ikr
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1). What about people who don't have the money to buy the clothes that will impress the 'right' people?
2). What about people who have the money, but choose to spend it elsewhere on other things they consider to be more important?
3). What about people who dress sharply to conceal their lack of knowledge on things and try to bluff their way through life?
Genius questions ;)
Well said Walter
why would you have to impress themnby buying expensive clothes?I wouldn't like to be a friend with a person that values you for what you're wearing
You can always buy brand name clothes from a thrift shop
Then don't..?
5:12 This hack always works wonders.
No it doesn't.
Make it count 😭😂
It is really interesting to observe people around you. Its more like a game that you play in real life. The best part is - when you predict something about someone and it turns out to be true.
My curiosity gets me every time. Awesome video, thanks
Thanks again for all your help and supportive advice thanks.
These are INCREDIBLE I pranked my family! Thanks for the facts, BRIGHT SIDE!!
3:03 um...what? That girl looks really fun to be around. People who choose comfort over style tend to be the MOST open minded. They judge themselves and others by their character, not superficial things like the clothes they wear
I think a lot of the examples are focused on jobs, not personal relationships.
Laurence Nguyen Ive known girls who dress like that and they themselves have been superficial. To me the people who wear that type of clothing are the party girls who just want to have fun and disregard the consequences (from what I've seen. Could be different depending on location/ethnicity/just in general).Im taking this video with a grain of salt though.
Phantom Mercedes wow. it’s almost as if we shouldn’t assume things about people based on the clothes they wear, right?
Laurence Nguyen Im late because YT doesn't really notify too much on replies, but the way you take care of your outer appearance does in a way reflect your character. Tell me a guy wearing a tanktop and sagging shorts with a large chain necklace doesn't reflect his character. It's not hard to read a person's character by their body language and the way they dress. The girl in the timestamp for example. Her clothes are extremely loose. The way she's dressed and posing for the camera is asking for attention or trying to stand out by "doing something different" or looking different than the "normal average" thing to do for a picture (which can be considered boring or dull for someone who likes to party and please people). Same goes for something like a duck face pose when taking a selfie. People do that because they want to do something to make them stand out and to be different from the norm.
I have no idea if you're reply is genuine or sarcasm, but my reply still stands either way.
Laurence Nguyen totally agree, my partner dresses like this alot as well as others I know. It's all advice but you can't judge someone totally by how they dress or accessorise
Yes, this was good enough to watch twice! I had hopes to make friends with a gal who cut my hair in a salon once about 6 yrs ago then I recently moved to her town, ran into her shopping when she handed me one of her biz cards and I wanted to chat when she turned to speak to someone else, telling me to call her sometime for coffee. I won't call her for anything.
5:07
I never knew this was a horror movie! What's with the creepy music?
Haha.. who avoids groups.. are
Shy
Unconfident
Self critical
Hard working
Yeah.. it's me.
Me2 and 5:58 my friend 😀😀
Isn’t it pretty much everyone on the internet
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3:15 , when he talks about income and ur like "but I'm just a kid finding out about my crush"!!!
Haha lol!
Madhav Rajkondawar Right.....
Very interesting.
I want to point out though that soft spoken and quiet people are often quietly confident introverts- *not* shy, insecure or self critical!
Love the vids so much keep 'emm coming
I’ve *always* been able to read just seconds after meeting them; even when I was little. My parents have said I’ve always been very discerning about people. One of my friends in middle school asked me what I thought about her friend and I didn’t know why she was asking me. She said I’ve always been right about people but never payed attention to what I said and ended up getting hurt several times. My brother always has me meet girls he’s interested in because he knows I can tell in an instant if someone gives me a bad feeling or if someone is complete genuine. There’s times he thought I was just being over sensitive and wouldn’t listen to a word I would say and ended up getting his heart broken by a girl he dated for 3 years and wanted to marry. (So thankful he didn’t end up marrying her. She was horrible)
The clothes one is wrong. I wear anything.
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Such a bad idea...!!!
Random Dude You Might Like its right what u say u wear anything means you dont really care about what others think wich is good
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That the part disagree with on the color clothes
Some people wear gray and black a lot because they are color blind and cannot match outfits easily.
I'm just lazy and don't care. Also i'm quite fare-skinned, so in contrasts pretty well with my skin. :)
Is it possible we just like the simple elegance of the black color?
The eye thing doesn't really apply to all, many people have Asperger's syndrome and prefer not to look people straight in the eyes.
Amanda E. I don't I like to look people in the eyes untill i get to know them and then some times I still don't look them in the eyes. Looking people in the eyes kinda creeps me out sometimes.
Precisely. Though I'm glad they bring up that sometimes the fidgeting is normal behavior because that would include stimming.
Amanda E. Many? Aspbergers is actually pretty rare.
It's not rare. Here are some statistics: aspergersmn.org/history-traits-answer-mn/statistics-answer-mn/
It's spelled Asperger's. And the number of people with the diagnosis keeps increasing.
I know MANY people with the diagnosis as well.
No it's not, it's just that not everyone with it gets diagnosed and not everyone is willing to tell the world about it.
This list was not as helpful as I had hoped. It was also very overwhelming. Thanks, Asperger’s.
The next time I create a conversation with my crush I gotta see when he smile if there’s a wrinkle
I have Asperger's and you guys help me a lot understanding humans.thnks nice Chennel by the way.
Elegance and modesty, how funny. I have some chatty friends that swear they are quite but i don't mind listening, it gives me a chance to analyze and help, appreciate or understand the person.
This was good. I like the part about the position of the eyes. I always get the left; right eye positions mixed up. Now I know. I can remember, MY RIGHT, is "right" = truthful, otherwise, MY LEFT is wrong = NOT right = lying. O.K. Got it!
These hacks are really very helpful and useful 👍🏻
This video is very helpful thank you for sharing
Idk about #2. I will always be relieved to stop not talking, not because I dislike the person but because I have anxiety
The concept of “first” have been distorted with time because in today’s days means “you are first” while in the past and for more of the human history was “you serve others first”. If you apply that principle in been first by been the last, then you have learn how to treat others. Never try to have friends by pleased them but by just be a friend. The results will amazed you and you will find out that you may have one or two real friends. I prefer to have at least one than a bunch who pretend to be friends.
There are too many more factors for this to be actually accurate, I won't say much but I want the facts. The numbers, the actual research. Great video, "personally" I would enjoy more background information.
Wow this sounds interesting 🤔
🌿👀 thank you 🐐 much appreciated
Thank you Bright Side!
Awesome! Loved it!
I also noticed that people twitch and fidget when they are scared or anxious but the two emotions are so close together with the body language that its hard to tell them apart. And I noticed some people when they are guilty, ashamed, being shady or disbelief sometimes they will raise their eyebrows.
Well I love smart clothes but I do also wear comfy outdoor clothes when life gets hectic. They say you can tell a lot from a person by looking at their shoes. I feel this is true for me as my taste in shoes has changed since undertaking therapy
IMO I think people CAN hide their true personality, by creating a fake persona. They could forget themselves behind the mask,and not be able to be their true selves
I matched the first 4 things said 🤣 in the nervous distrustful or stressed thing at the beginning of the video
Bright side makes my bright side come out!
I'm doing everything right to keep people away.
Wow! That's amazing.
it's amazing how so many people can be 'first' in the comments.
Emma xx ikr 😂💀
To be honest no one cares if you're first or not.
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It's Emma xx Lol
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1. Define the Norm.
2. Observe and Compare.
3. Always Mind the Context.
4. Check out the way someone is dressed.
5. What's with the Face?
6. Watch their behaviour in groups.
7. Listen to how they articulate their thoughts.
8. Trust your intuition.
................Have a nice day :)
Suresh Kumar well done on this. you've really helped me
This is really true !!!
I have found the way to read body language is to look for the changes to each situation and how much they change when they are approached by other people
I was hoping this would help me read the thoughts of people I’m technically close to.. but alas.. I guess now I might be able to judge strangers better.. (since I don’t pass enough judgements on them unconsciously lol)
I have very good decrement. I good with reading pepole. I think this video may help those who are not good at reading people and may need to use outside hints.
Thanks
Wow nice work bright side
The best part about this video is that classical violin in the background
Viva la violín!!!
I know what you're thinking!!!
It depends on the person who you are talking to. Usually when someone is talking or sharing something with me I act very attentive just to understand what that person is saying. I make various faces based on the topics and subject matter during the conversation. Most times I either squint or raise an eyebrow.
This is cool 👍🏾
One of the things I don´t like is when people wear sun glasses all the time and don´t even lift them for the moment they exchange hellos with you. Or if people you´re formal with wear gloves, like in winter, and keep wearing them when shaking hands. In Germany average people and of younger age often weren´t taught fine manners. In France for instance they always take off the glove.
#4 was sort of a diss to someone who likes comfort over style: we don't "not care about much in life" Sheesh!😒
People can hide their emotions. I've done it thousand times.
I have noticed that one of the secretaries in an office I used alot at school tends to say when she sees me "We haven't heard from you in a while." Like she is answering for the whole office and I always think to myself "How do you know ? Do you go around checking other people's email?" It feels like she is trying to dominant the whole office.
Yes people can hide their feelings &intention. However if their are it legendary. Sooner or later what they really want & feel will come out of you give it time
Yes i do hide my intentions and feeling every time and i and faking my self
Yes, there are people who try to hide what they are truly like. I was married to one for 23 years before I learned I was being lied to and disrespected.
That's all super relative because, for example, I'm a boxer and for that fact I got to always try to have my chin tucked in. Plus variables like how much sun you get where you live. The sun will make to squint and, therefore, you'll have more wrinkles. Etc
I actually do agree with many of these, but of course as in the beginning you need to realise these don't work all the time for everyone. The eye contact thing upset me as someone who has studied ASD; people with said disorder have terrible eye contact. Either too much or too little usually, but they tend to also be the most honest individuals! At least until society teaches them not to be.
dark and comfort over style... that is literally my wardrobe.
These tips and methods seem great, however they are all time intensive and require periodic lengths of time with the subject. Are there any quicker tips for us ?
Sarpant that's specific .
YUS I AM COMFORTABLE BTW THATS SO TRUE ABOUT ME!!!
Obsessed!
I'm almost always with uncomfortable facial expression, not because I don't enjoy talking to certain people, but because I have terrible social skills and I'm struggling with what to say or do!
these trick things are super cute 💐🌼👑
Oh well weather its love or hate aleast i know he always be thinking of me from time to time.☺
People can hide their true intentions, feelings and personalities but if they do it constantly or for a long period of time, they might develop mental illnesses.
The knowledge of observing others by their body language, facial expressions and voice tone might help us to understand their attitude at that moment but not to understand a person's true character base on what we have learnt from these knowledge
6:55 😂 one day you will become an idol
Teach us how to read a youtubers feeling via online
Life hacks!!! Without this I was like is she lying is he lying? But now I know!!! This helped me soo much!!
Who agrees?!?!😘😍😘😍
I'm going to share this right now!!!😂😂😂😂😂
5:10ish question, so they're lying if their eyes are up and to the right but whos right? my right or their right?
Awesome!
Good one
When I saw the cover of this vid I thought where is the friend zoned place???
I think it's important to try and look past people's personalities.
Early!!!!💙
Thx
Natalie Matos lol Cuba
Through Years of observing, only I knew the friends once I considered my best friend are fake
We got hacks
Lol
He sounds like Alejandro from Total Drama.
the most difficult thing for me to do is keep up the conversation.
10/10 of the times i have attempted this ended in me asking the person if they liked French toast. Not the best way to make a friend. So I'm guessing that's why i have close to none. Too bad.
sso pretty much you're saying I should be a spy...I've been doing a great job so far!
My friend said she hates her life I think I will show this vid to her
This music..starting somewhere from 4 : 44... can anyone tell me the name/ title so I can find it? Thank you
Yay but I'm betting I already know these since I'm paranoid
Haha, I knew about the smiling one. I always make sure to smile with my eyes, so people don't know that I dislike them. I just think about puppies 😂😂😂
Agh this is so true when i was little i used to create fake stories and my eyes will pop to the right then i noticed i dd that so i stopped faking stories bc it was to obviouse