On the topic of asking people when they'll have kids: the number of people I see harassing Safiya and Tyler in their live streams about them having kids is a little disgusting.
Agreed. I actually decided to be an unofficial, unasked-for chat mod because of how dehumanizing and creepy it was getting. It seems to have slowed down for now but they just get micromanaged to hell instead.
I completely agree. The issue of parenthood is no one’s business but their own. They might want kids and are trying, they might want them but can’t have them, they might want to wait or they might never want them. It’s none of our business and I find it extremely shocking that people just ask, like it’s their right to know.
@@tiasnails3552 in America we have amendments. Consider them basic rights that all Americans are entitled to. The 5th amendment is the right not to testify against yourself if accused of committing a crime. So when someone says “I plead the fifth” they’re saying that they’re going to remain silent and not to answer the question and not incriminate themselves. It’s become popular to say in casual conversation when someone doesn’t want to divulge information. So when Jen didn’t want to answer Cristine and she said “I plead the fifth” Cristine reminded her that “we’re in Canada” because it’s an American thing. But as Jen said afterward Canada has a similar legislation. I’m not Canadian so I’m not sure what they have in regards to self incriminating.
Can we give some props to their parents? Cristine and Jen seemed to have an amazing childhood from the pictures. They raised amazing, self-sufficient women.
I agree, but t pictures mean nothing, I have a friend with volumes of wonderful childhood pictures where everyone looks so happy and she was abused in many ways by both her parents
@@emilymulcahy I'm sorry your friend has to go through that. Parenthood is suuuuch a delicate task it is so scary when people don't realize that they hold a whole ass psyche in their bare hands.
Yes, we need to stop asking women when they are going to have kids. I am a married 30+ year old lady and even though we are planning on having a baby one day, we are NOT ready. And I am always being constantly asked why we're waiting and to just have one and we will figure it out. We are not ready, period. Becoming a parent is a big decision and it should be taken seriously. A baby/ child is not a cute puppy, it's a big deal.
Love your comment. I definitely agree. I'm in my 20's but I live with my partner and we are about to adopt a cute puppy and it feels like a big responsibility, now I can't even imagine having a kid and how you are gonna be responsable for another human been. I feel sometimes people mistreated kids so much they don't even realize that is another human being who will eventually grow up /:
Podcast idea: Ben gets to take Cristine on a vacation and Jen and Matt do a podcast that's just them, with Jen playing the role of Ben and Matt as Cristine 😉
I thought Jen was chaotic type personality but she seems the sweetest soul. This podcast just cheered me up so much. Would be great if Jen appeared more in your videos Simply, becoz Jen is SimplySweetLogical.
Aw man, hearing you ladies talk about becoming closer as you got older makes me so jealous. I hope you don’t take that for granted because my sister and I never did!
My older sister was never interested in providing guidance or advice growing up or like Cristine did at college-age. I understand that she had emotional difficulties, but she really lashed out at me and I think used putting me down to make herself feel better. It didn't help that my mother often pitted us against each other. Now, as adults, she just seems completely uninterested in becoming closer. Definitely a bummer. Anyways, I appreciate this comments section therapy session and I hope you've all found alternate support systems!
Going back to the question about sexist jokes or comments, I’ve found that a good way to deal with those sorts of comments (be it sexist, racist, etc.) is to make them explain it. I definitely use this a lot if I’m worried about the person becoming aggressive if I just blatantly and assertively call them out. Like “Wait I don’t think I understand the joke, what’s the punchline?” Because then they have to explain directly that they think of women or a certain race as inferior, and by now they most likely know that’s not an acceptable thing to just directly say out loud. So even if they don’t acknowledge or even really recognize they’re being terrible, it at least still makes them think about it and puts them in check a bit, and conveys that it’s not funny.
Doesn't work for me. Instead I get a lecture on how im not familiar with the world (im 23 btw) and how stereotypes exist for a reason/people that belong to the same group (race, religion, nationality) share similar values and problems. And if they cant answer my valid points it ends with "im double ur age, if it happens only once I let it go but I have seen the same pattern for years. You will find out when you have to deal with these things." So annoying agh
It is great and heartbreaking, at the same time, to watch you two. You remind me of my sister and I. I lost her 8 years ago to suicide and miss her so much. We had a relationship much like yours. Please know that you are each other's best friend and be there for each other. Me losing her was harder then when I lost my parents.
I'm so sorry for your loss honey. I saw your comment and I wanted to respond, because I'm in the same boat right now. I lost my sister to Suicide March 26th of this year, and I can't imagine the pain that you're going through. I'm so sorry that you lost your sister it's so horrible
My heart is with everyone of yous that have experienced a loss. It is never easy, we all just some how learn to live with the pain. May your angels always be by your side.
On 40:00, about dating and telling your parents... I come from a strict muslim family with a line of arranged marriages and female child brides. Yeah there was no way I could communicate to my parents about who I wanted to date, my romantic interests and such. It was awful and I was abused very badly for many reasons but this contributed a lot to the abuse. If you are in this situation, your parents will often NEVER listen or change. They have proven through their actions you cant be vulnerable with them and trust them with that kind of info. Do not share sensitive info with them for your own safety and start making plans to leave if you havent.
@@franpolyphemus4496 escaped and living a better life. I'm lucky that I dont live in the middle east, otherwise they would've had full control over my life even into adulthood. Thank you for your kind words. I hope one day the women living in the Middle East may have the same freedoms.
@@AmethystQtz As a muslim middle eastern girl, I understand your suffering and I'm sorry you had to go through this. But it isn't the case for every muslin girl in the middle east, me being one of them as well as all the girls I know. Please always note that what you go through shouldn't necessarily be projected on all other people.
@@fana5485 this is my perspective as someone who went through what I did. Dont invalidate my experience. You cant lie to yourself and act like this type of misogyny and sexism doesnt exist in the middle east. Yes there are women who are blessed to be free from it, but just like any other culture or religion there is a dark side. Heck, with anything to do with humanity there is a dark side. And this is a snippet of my story about that darkness. I'm glad you were raised on the good side of it. You truly dont understand how blessed you are.
@@AmethystQtz I am sorry if I offended you in any way or made you feel as if your suffering is invalid. That's not my intentions at all. And yes it's true perfection is so far from reach. I am glad that you are at a better place now that you can call home ❤️
RE: Strict dad - I don't know what your existing relationship is with your dad, but if it's reasonable to discuss it, I'd recommend asking him what his dreams and desires are for your future. This will give you an understanding of his perspective. If he has a ridiculous fantasy of you being a single virgin forever, him saying it out loud might just help him realize that he is being ridiculous since he is talking to an 18 year old woman. You can also try asking him about his relationship with your mother and how he fell in love with her... Or ask him how he would judge a man's character. You'll probably learn a lot about what your dad values in young men, which will help you prepare your BF to meet him. You might also pick up some wisdom from a man/husband/father's perspective. I think a good way to get around a strict parent is to talk to them from the point of wanting to ask/learn from their experience. This shows that you respect their opinion/experience and also opens them up to considering that you're an adult going through thinking about your romantic future.
Honestly I just feel like once you’re an adult and moved out, their opinions shouldn’t really matter that much as they aren’t paying your bills and you’re an adult. Like they don’t have to live your life, YOU have to live your life. Like honestly f strict fathers, I think it’s bs and sexist. As an adult my parents have absolutely no bearing on my life and I make my own decisions without any input from them. I don’t need their permission for anything anymore. If parents are bad with boundaries (as many parents of all cultures are) you just have to keep setting boundaries and not letting them have any control over your life. (Using “you” as a hypothetical)
this is optimistic. i hope our countries culture is like this. im 25 and ive just been allowed but i have no experience in talking or communicating to anyone because of them. Im so envious of kids who get to learn how to date, what is wrong and what is right because they got to do it slightly young and had guidance.
@@Heeyitsmika ❤️❤️you will figure it out, you aren’t alone! Honestly I had a super traumatic childhood and have basically had to relearn how to human as an adult and how to reframe my thoughts and therapy has been a literal lifesaver.
@@lizalove91 i do wish it was that easy. Therapy costs like 25% of my monthly salary and Id have to hide it. Since its the pandemic and I had to go back and live with my parents again but thank you so much!!! Support is appreciated
One of my favorite ways to call people out when they make inappropriate comments or jokes is to ask, "Can you explain why that's funny?' or a variation of asking why they're saying what they're saying because more often than not they get choked up and don't know how to respond because they know the meaning behind what they said is wrong.
OK, so now I know how people feel when they listen to my mom, my sister, my daughters and me in the same room. We all have different demeanor and vocabulary, but we have similar mannerisms, enunciation and voice tone that if you are not so familiar with us all we could at a certain extent sound like the same person is talking. You have such a similar voice tone that if I'm just listening to this podcast in the background without context I might not realize it's 2 different people. But as soon as start paying attention is clearly obvious and I'll add endearing because you reminded me of my sister and myself (and my daughters). Great podcast, nothing but respect on the way you responded and handled all questions. My favorite was the one about the periods. I love how you pointed out that they shouldn't even be call embarrassment anecdotes as they should prompt respect and helpful actions instead of embarrass, mortified and terrified young women. Just beautiful!
re: asking people when they are having kids My husband and I silently dealt with my infertility for years and it was always so uncomfortable when people would ask us about having kids. One woman my husband used to work with asked us when we will have a baby, and we said maybe down the road since he was finishing university. This woman kept harping about how cute and sweet babies are and why don't we want one now.🤦🏻♀️ We were not comfortable sharing our struggles, so it was a very difficult situation for me. Now I am open about my infertility so if someone asks such a personal question, I tell them "I have been trying for x number of years" and that seems to make them uncomfortable enough to leave me alone😂 edit to add: I don't mind if someone says "do you think you might want kids someday?"
My go-to answer for "when are you getting married??" "When are you having kids??" is "When I want [insert forced-upon milestone here], I'll get them." I know I'll never want kids. I know I'll never want to get married, but telling someone that you'll cross that bridge when you get to it shuts them up without being rude or confrontational. Granted, being confrontational or rude in response to invasive questions is totally justified imo. I'm just someone who hates making waves.
I'm already married, and thankfully in my 40's so the kid shit stopped, but I always said when I find a man I want to marry and I hate kids were straight and to the point
I haaaaate those questions so much like... are you my therapist or S.O.? NO so back off lol. When I reply that I don't want ___ I just get people trying to convince me otherwise by using 0 logic and 100% shame and conformity pressure.
I can understand people are trying to be nice or show that they care about you or what not. But there are other ways of communicating the same sentiment without asking invasive questions.
I had a coworker leak and i noticed it and got her to the bathroom, gave her supplies I had in my bag, and gave her an extra pair of gym pants I had in my car. Life as a woman is hard enough we need to be kind to one another. And the best way to do it is to help another woman fix something without broadcasting it. Now that I have daughters I hope someone will help them like this if they ever need it.
Jen, thank you so much for writing the captions for the podcast youtube videos!!! I am hearing-impaired, and they are incredibly helpful. Thank you for all your hard work and commitment
To the person asking how to tell their strict dad: I am in my 30ies and my dad always hated all my partners, he spoke ill of them and even said "choose me or him". So now I am in a 3 year relationship and we live together and I never told my dad. He is very toxic and manipulative and I don't let him meddle in my life anymore. So sometimes you can't tell them. I wish I had a dad like Jen and Cris. Would save up alot instead of spending it on theraphy:)
this podcast made me so happy but also cry so much because my older brother died four years ago when i was 17 and he was 21 and now i'm his age and it almost feels surreal, i miss him so much and wonder if we would've become kinda like cris and jen
I love how level-headed Jen is. I would have loved to have her as a sister. My sister is almost 5 years older than me and pretty much had to raise me and we've always had an on-again off-again relationship. I wish my family was closer.
Thank you for having the conversation about having children and how invasive of a question it is. I’ve always felt uncomfortable having to defend my decisions about not having children. It’s infuriating.
I would love for their parents to come on the podcast and speak about how they got their kids involved in acting and their thought process on how they knew their kids would succeed at this type of activity and what was their goals.
This was the absolute sweetest. Such good advice in such a heartfelt and sincere way while being so funny. Petition for Jen once a month (give Ben a hummus break)
I loved hearing all these stories. In my family it's just me and my sister sibling wise. I'm the youngest, (22) and my sister is older (23). We actually have the same birthday, so we're exactly a year apart. Honestly we were raised as twins since we were so close in age. When you guys were talking about how you couldn't remember any physical fights, I remembered so many with me and my sister. When I was probably ~10 I was chasing my sister up the stairs and bit her, I ended up losing a tooth. Then when we were teenagers we were cleaning the room we shared and my sister threw a glass cup at me and I ended up needing stitches on my cheek right under my eye. But hey, now we're best friends.
Never thought I would see another story of someone losing a tooth biting a sibling (my first tooth loss actually). I remember fighting with my younger sister all through childhood. Never anything to the point of needing a hospital visit, but bloody noses, bites and scratches weren't uncommon. We got along sooooo much better after I moved out for college. Just like Cristine and Jen said, when you aren't forced to live with them, the dynamic changes.
If I didn’t want kids and people told me “you’ll change your mind” I would soooooo love to tell them “well, I’m sure with your kids, you’ll change your mind too!”
58:02 YES to all of this. I don’t ever plan to have children and I get so many invasive questions about it. When people ask, I still answer them, even when I’m not in the mood to talk about it or defend my choice: “I believe that kids know when they’re loved or when they’re not wanted...and every child deserves to feel loved and wanted. I don’t want to be a parent and I don’t want to hurt some kid who can sense that.”
Jeeeeeeyn! Thank you so much for the captions! My first language is Spanish so when I use the automatic translation I can really understand better the words or sentences that I don't know/understand.
One of the best ways I’ve heard to respond to uninvited, invasive questions about having children, getting married, etc. is to say, “Huh, I’m surprised you feel comfortable asking me about _____. Most people would find that kind of question invasive and inappropriate.” and then just look at them with a confused look on your face… and watch them squirm.
Thank you for working on the captions, Jen! I appreciate that you help your sister and Ben make this podcast more accessible to others. ❤️ Thank you Cristine for having someone do them rather than a bot.
I really feel like I got to see Jen in a different light here. She is so eloquent and has her finger on the pulse for a lot of different issues. I really enjoyed this episode of SimplyPodLogical!
my family is actually so young, my grandma is only 65. nonetheless, I am confronted with the same question at every gathering: "when are you getting kids?" or (refering to the spare room me and my partner have in our flat) "you already have a room for another family member". although my family well knows that I do not want any, my grandma always says "you'll change your mind, sooner or later every woman wants children". it is so hurting, and I am so glad that I am seemingly not the only one daily being confronted with that.
I like that you guys talked about the having kids thing. My husband and I have been married almost 14 years and have had a lot of struggles and the things people think is okay to say or ask is crazy, you hear "you'll change your mind" and I get "take my child for a day and you'll change your mind" it's all upsetting
This was a wonderful podcast! Cristine and Jen always seem to be joking and being sarcastic with one another. This podcast was more serious and sincere. Thanks for sharing with us. Sending love to you both from NEW ORLEANS to CANADA!!
I think for the “embarrassing period stories”, they weren’t necessarily asking about when your first got your period, but more like stories where maybe you unexpectedly got your period or like you didn’t have tampons on you at that moment
@@lizalove91 yeah but I think they misunderstood that people thought getting periods in general are embarrassing? Whereas the question was more like certain moments that were embarrassing. They did end up answering the question, I just wanted to point out that the person asking wasn’t asking about them first getting their period, and that moment is embarrassing, just if they particular had any stories involving periods that was embarrassing
I ask people if they want to have kids all the time, it says a lot about their life goals. I don't ask WHEN, just IF. Some people say maybe, yes, or no. I think the discussion just needs to be redirected and to teach that. It's asked in such a way that isn't personally revealing of any issues. It also opens up the discussion later to be more friendly and supportive later if they want to reveal they are having trouble.
Yes, but it's not a bodily function you lost control over (btw there's a shocking number of people on the internet who think women can "hold in" period blood)
I gotta say i really enjoyed listening to two grown sisters talk with such poise and respect ... I did miss Ben's apologies to (namedrops celebrity name here) .. we were going to have them on the podcast but we ran out of time.. But I guess we'll see y'all next week bye!
I have so many images to analyse form my experiment and the fact that I get to have this on in the background makes it 100x better! ☺️ thank god for taco Tuesday!
I want to add my POV on the "compared to your sibling" question. I was the youngest of 4, 2 older brothers and one older sister. I was also very feminine, even more so when compared to my siblings (sister included) none of my siblings did exceptionally well in school, but school was always super easy for me- so my entire life not only did i feel different from my siblings- but I was also reminded every time i turned around that i was different. By everyone who knew my family, by my teachers, by our relatives etc. It made me feel incredibly isolated growing up, and in a lot of way put incredible pressure on me to be "better" I remember even my 1st grade teacher telling me she had taught all of my siblings, and she could tell i wasnt going to "be like them" - which in hindsight is pretty fucked up to tell a first grader.. Anyway.. The sibling comparing is real.
It really is. I was the only girl of three kids and was pushed to be hyper-femme because my mom “prayed for me”. My older brother and younger brother both were naturally outgoing and charismatic, and we were all really smart, but I struggled more in school than they did. My older brother was diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age and everyone was always really impressed with him for overcoming his obstacles and being “oh so brave” and whatnot, but I didn’t get diagnosed with my conditions until later, so for almost all of my school years it was the “what’s wrong with you? What can’t you be more like your brothers? Why do you always dress like a boy? You’re my only girl” Yadda yadda yadda. Come to find out I too had ADHD, only people had expected me to behave “normal”. I also got diagnosed with severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder and clinical depression. Having a parent who didn’t believe in mental health was another obstacle, but now that we’re over that hill and I’m on meds, I’m doing so much better. And on top of that, turns out I’m androgynous, but little kid me never had a word for it until I grew up a got to college. Being compared to siblings is such an emotional detriment. All THAT aside, what honestly helped me out is that my brothers both loved me a lot and saw how differently our mom treated me from them. When I finally broke down and told them how much it was hurting me, they supported me and helped me confront her about it. It didn’t fix everything overnight, but knowing they had my back and seeing my mom at least START to try to change meant a lot for me. I was really lucky to have a strong bond with my brothers, because I know a lot of people can end up resenting their siblings when they’re compared, but we all kinda knew we were different people, and we enjoyed seeing each person doing their own thing. In the end, I don’t think my mom would have ever stopped if they hadn’t been there to reaffirm my experiences, because I was usually written off as the “dramatic one” since I would bottle everything up until I exploded. My younger brother and I both coming out as queer also helped to shake off those last bits of bad habits, because she realized we were never going to meet the standards she’d set for us (for him having a wife and kids, for me being a girl’s girl and living life as a womanly woman, jury’s still out on the husband possibility because men and women are both pretty hot tbh) and that REALLY made her have to re-examine her expectations. Now she just wants us to be happy and stable… and she wants granbabies from my older brother and granbabies/adopted granbabies from me LMAO but it’s to be expected when she has granbabies from my stepsisters now
I bled through my pants my last period of school, and I felt it. I had to wait until everyone left class but the teacher. I quickly put my sweater over my butt when I got up, saw blood all over my seat, and ran out of there. The janitor must have cleaned it because it wasn't covered in the blood the next day. That or the person first period had to clean it 😵 thankfully no one saw me! But that was embarrassing. I had heavy periods... this isn't the only time this happened to me even when I changed my pad or tampon regularly during the day. It freaking sucked!
I also had very heavy periods as a high schooler :( After 2 embarrassing incidents, I wore black pants every day so no one could see any leaks if they happened.
That happened to me once in high school. I was in class with a skirt so I didn't notice, when I standed up a classmate saw the chair covered in blood. It looked like a horror movie haha. Thanks god this guy was a super normal and friendly kid so he told me to go and buy a pad (in my high school sold pads) and he cleaned the chair without telling anyone. He actually took the blame and told the teacher he had an accident wit his juice or something and went bring the janitors mop. I really appreciate that, always remember him. That kid wasn't even my friend, he was one of the popular kids. He never said something about that to me I did thanked him a lot later, because that day we just didn't say anything to each other. I thank so much his mom too, she must have teached him right about those topics. Also he had a sister one year younger, so I guess he knew about periods and stuff. I'm from Costa Rica, for context reference. When I was in school and the teacher started teaching us about periods, took all the boys out for the teaching part 🙃 Boys knew nothing. At that time it really was amaze, I didn't knew how to react at the moment jaja, so I went and bought the pad as he had told me and change in the bathroom, went back to the class and the kid was cleaning the chair as if it was his chair and in my seat (next to him of course) was another chair instead. We really should/need to normalize periods and helping other people is such a normal thing..
You two are the first example that I've found of a sister dynamic that is similar to how my sister and I are. It used to make me incredibly sad how much most of my friends would hate their siblings, but especially sister dynamics whereas me and my sister were always, and still are, each other's best friend. In fact, most of those friends hated OUR relationship so much because they wanted what we had, I've had my weird fair share of threats (and being physically attacked) from some of her friends who outright hated me for being closer to my sister than them LOL. I definitely can attribute that to how our mom raised us and just the amount of shit we experienced growing up that shaped us to rely on each other and be close. I am always thankful for that, to know I can depend on her and be there for each other, good times and bad.
You have no idea how hard i hit my desk IN CLASS when i heard my name- I love you guys so much!! Been a fan for 3 years now, and I’ll continue watching ❤️❤️
to the Twins sharing room question. I have a twin sister and we used to figh like crazy and I also felt like I am only botched version of her ..here to spoil all her favourite things. But We are 34 now and what helped us to become close friends was each going to different highschool .. living in dorm and seeing only on some weekends and holiday. We both had separated group of friend. We realised it'S good to have lot in common and was actually interested in each other lives and sharing some hobbies. We still argue sometimes but we also grown to respect each other.
1000% behind Jen on the don't ask women about kids. You truly never know what anyone is going through and you could seriously impact their mental health with invasive questions like that. We are more than just a uterus!
I would love to see a double sibling podcast with Christine and Jen, and Ben and Matt!! 😩👏👏👏
Idea!!!
@@derekklossner9176 im not sure it has IDK🤔🤔🤔
Love this idea!
Love the idea!
They've done it, look it up
On the topic of asking people when they'll have kids: the number of people I see harassing Safiya and Tyler in their live streams about them having kids is a little disgusting.
Agreed. I actually decided to be an unofficial, unasked-for chat mod because of how dehumanizing and creepy it was getting.
It seems to have slowed down for now but they just get micromanaged to hell instead.
On my country right now, people who announcing they're childfree, get humiliated on the social media. As if their child is everyone business
I completely agree. The issue of parenthood is no one’s business but their own. They might want kids and are trying, they might want them but can’t have them, they might want to wait or they might never want them. It’s none of our business and I find it extremely shocking that people just ask, like it’s their right to know.
I never read the live chat, it's 99% insanity
@@glittery_cucumber usually it's semi controlled chaos, but on the rare occasions they forget to enable slow mode it's absolute hell.
“I plead the fifth”
“We’re in Canada”
😂
That made me, as an American, die
im not american what does that even mean
@@tiasnails3552 in America we have amendments. Consider them basic rights that all Americans are entitled to. The 5th amendment is the right not to testify against yourself if accused of committing a crime. So when someone says “I plead the fifth” they’re saying that they’re going to remain silent and not to answer the question and not incriminate themselves. It’s become popular to say in casual conversation when someone doesn’t want to divulge information. So when Jen didn’t want to answer Cristine and she said “I plead the fifth” Cristine reminded her that “we’re in Canada” because it’s an American thing. But as Jen said afterward Canada has a similar legislation. I’m not Canadian so I’m not sure what they have in regards to self incriminating.
@@elizabethm5962 ohhh i see that makes sense. thank you
Best exchange of the whole podcast.
Can we give some props to their parents? Cristine and Jen seemed to have an amazing childhood from the pictures. They raised amazing, self-sufficient women.
I agree, but t pictures mean nothing, I have a friend with volumes of wonderful childhood pictures where everyone looks so happy and she was abused in many ways by both her parents
@@emilymulcahy I'm sorry your friend has to go through that. Parenthood is suuuuch a delicate task it is so scary when people don't realize that they hold a whole ass psyche in their bare hands.
@@STRcircaFKR oh her parents were in it to fuck up her mind I think, but she's doing well now that she's not having to be subjected to them daily
Once a month we should get a sibling Pod and each month we switch from Jen to Matt
as someone with auditory processing issues THANK YOU JEN for doing the captions. Google captions are so hard to understand sometimes
Yes! Often notice this with the podcast, makes watching so much easier. And makes it easier when I'm watching while doing dishes!
Yes, we need to stop asking women when they are going to have kids. I am a married 30+ year old lady and even though we are planning on having a baby one day, we are NOT ready. And I am always being constantly asked why we're waiting and to just have one and we will figure it out. We are not ready, period. Becoming a parent is a big decision and it should be taken seriously. A baby/ child is not a cute puppy, it's a big deal.
Love your comment. I definitely agree. I'm in my 20's but I live with my partner and we are about to adopt a cute puppy and it feels like a big responsibility, now I can't even imagine having a kid and how you are gonna be responsable for another human been. I feel sometimes people mistreated kids so much they don't even realize that is another human being who will eventually grow up /:
Taking care of any living mammal is a big decision.
Cat, puppy or child.
UGH 😩😍 Jen radiates the sweetest most pure energy. I always love when she makes appearances! 🤗
And she’s hilarious 😂
Petition to make Jen a weekly guest cause this is GOLD
YESSS I LIVE THESE PODCASTS
More Jen!!!
How about monthly? I would miss Beyn
we only post episodes once a week, are u asking Jeyyyn to replace Beyyyn
@@simplypodlogical wellll……… yEs 😂😭
It really is girl talk with Menchie sleeping down there lol
Podcast idea: Ben gets to take Cristine on a vacation and Jen and Matt do a podcast that's just them, with Jen playing the role of Ben and Matt as Cristine 😉
Yo that would be hilarious 😂😂
I’m up for it
We all know Christine is not getting on that plane ‘just’ for a vacation 😂😂😂
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I thought Jen was chaotic type personality but she seems the sweetest soul. This podcast just cheered me up so much. Would be great if Jen appeared more in your videos Simply, becoz Jen is SimplySweetLogical.
agreed! I always thought Jen was super sassy (in a good way)
Aw man, hearing you ladies talk about becoming closer as you got older makes me so jealous. I hope you don’t take that for granted because my sister and I never did!
same here, my brother even moved to another state and now we barely see each other... we were so close...
Haven’t spoke to my sister in 6 years. She doesn’t even know my 2 kids
My older sister was never interested in providing guidance or advice growing up or like Cristine did at college-age. I understand that she had emotional difficulties, but she really lashed out at me and I think used putting me down to make herself feel better. It didn't help that my mother often pitted us against each other. Now, as adults, she just seems completely uninterested in becoming closer. Definitely a bummer. Anyways, I appreciate this comments section therapy session and I hope you've all found alternate support systems!
@@saruhhhh aw this gives me hope that one day my sister will stop putting me down and we can raise each other up!
Going back to the question about sexist jokes or comments, I’ve found that a good way to deal with those sorts of comments (be it sexist, racist, etc.) is to make them explain it. I definitely use this a lot if I’m worried about the person becoming aggressive if I just blatantly and assertively call them out. Like “Wait I don’t think I understand the joke, what’s the punchline?” Because then they have to explain directly that they think of women or a certain race as inferior, and by now they most likely know that’s not an acceptable thing to just directly say out loud. So even if they don’t acknowledge or even really recognize they’re being terrible, it at least still makes them think about it and puts them in check a bit, and conveys that it’s not funny.
That's pretty smart!
@@irisarv8333 yes lmao just ask them 'what do you mean?' completely seriously. they get sooo confused😭
I’ve heard people recommend this before, but once I’m in that uncomfortable situation, I never remember.
Love this. I just keep pressing when they try to say "well, you know..." I don't actually. Please explain.
Doesn't work for me.
Instead I get a lecture on how im not familiar with the world (im 23 btw) and how stereotypes exist for a reason/people that belong to the same group (race, religion, nationality) share similar values and problems.
And if they cant answer my valid points it ends with "im double ur age, if it happens only once I let it go but I have seen the same pattern for years. You will find out when you have to deal with these things."
So annoying agh
It is great and heartbreaking, at the same time, to watch you two. You remind me of my sister and I. I lost her 8 years ago to suicide and miss her so much. We had a relationship much like yours. Please know that you are each other's best friend and be there for each other. Me losing her was harder then when I lost my parents.
I'm so sorry for your loss honey. I saw your comment and I wanted to respond, because I'm in the same boat right now. I lost my sister to Suicide March 26th of this year, and I can't imagine the pain that you're going through. I'm so sorry that you lost your sister it's so horrible
Sending my thoughts and prayers to both of you. ❤❤ Sorry for your loss. Stay strong!
I’m glad you can find joy in watching others have a nice sibling relationship and I hope the pain goes away little by little each day, much love!
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my sister due to health reasons and I miss her terribly, which may be why I love watching Cristine and Jen together.
My heart is with everyone of yous that have experienced a loss. It is never easy, we all just some how learn to live with the pain. May your angels always be by your side.
On 40:00, about dating and telling your parents... I come from a strict muslim family with a line of arranged marriages and female child brides. Yeah there was no way I could communicate to my parents about who I wanted to date, my romantic interests and such. It was awful and I was abused very badly for many reasons but this contributed a lot to the abuse. If you are in this situation, your parents will often NEVER listen or change. They have proven through their actions you cant be vulnerable with them and trust them with that kind of info. Do not share sensitive info with them for your own safety and start making plans to leave if you havent.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Hope you're in a happier place now.
@@franpolyphemus4496 escaped and living a better life. I'm lucky that I dont live in the middle east, otherwise they would've had full control over my life even into adulthood. Thank you for your kind words. I hope one day the women living in the Middle East may have the same freedoms.
@@AmethystQtz As a muslim middle eastern girl, I understand your suffering and I'm sorry you had to go through this. But it isn't the case for every muslin girl in the middle east, me being one of them as well as all the girls I know. Please always note that what you go through shouldn't necessarily be projected on all other people.
@@fana5485 this is my perspective as someone who went through what I did. Dont invalidate my experience. You cant lie to yourself and act like this type of misogyny and sexism doesnt exist in the middle east. Yes there are women who are blessed to be free from it, but just like any other culture or religion there is a dark side. Heck, with anything to do with humanity there is a dark side. And this is a snippet of my story about that darkness. I'm glad you were raised on the good side of it. You truly dont understand how blessed you are.
@@AmethystQtz I am sorry if I offended you in any way or made you feel as if your suffering is invalid. That's not my intentions at all. And yes it's true perfection is so far from reach. I am glad that you are at a better place now that you can call home ❤️
Always nice to watch a podcast with my favourite Rotenberg. Oh and look! Cristine is here too!
All jokes, I love watching both of you!❤
HAHA OOP
I've always wondered why Cristine was put in commercials by her parents so it's interesting to know that Cristine and Jen don't fully know why either.
Jen is literally acting like the the sweetest and most mature person here. We can't make jokes now. (But seriously, respect you guys so much)
RE: Strict dad - I don't know what your existing relationship is with your dad, but if it's reasonable to discuss it, I'd recommend asking him what his dreams and desires are for your future. This will give you an understanding of his perspective. If he has a ridiculous fantasy of you being a single virgin forever, him saying it out loud might just help him realize that he is being ridiculous since he is talking to an 18 year old woman. You can also try asking him about his relationship with your mother and how he fell in love with her... Or ask him how he would judge a man's character. You'll probably learn a lot about what your dad values in young men, which will help you prepare your BF to meet him. You might also pick up some wisdom from a man/husband/father's perspective. I think a good way to get around a strict parent is to talk to them from the point of wanting to ask/learn from their experience. This shows that you respect their opinion/experience and also opens them up to considering that you're an adult going through thinking about your romantic future.
Thanks for this. Almost 27 and my parents are still unreasonably strict (Asians, am I right)
Honestly I just feel like once you’re an adult and moved out, their opinions shouldn’t really matter that much as they aren’t paying your bills and you’re an adult. Like they don’t have to live your life, YOU have to live your life. Like honestly f strict fathers, I think it’s bs and sexist. As an adult my parents have absolutely no bearing on my life and I make my own decisions without any input from them. I don’t need their permission for anything anymore. If parents are bad with boundaries (as many parents of all cultures are) you just have to keep setting boundaries and not letting them have any control over your life.
(Using “you” as a hypothetical)
this is optimistic. i hope our countries culture is like this. im 25 and ive just been allowed but i have no experience in talking or communicating to anyone because of them. Im so envious of kids who get to learn how to date, what is wrong and what is right because they got to do it slightly young and had guidance.
@@Heeyitsmika ❤️❤️you will figure it out, you aren’t alone! Honestly I had a super traumatic childhood and have basically had to relearn how to human as an adult and how to reframe my thoughts and therapy has been a literal lifesaver.
@@lizalove91 i do wish it was that easy. Therapy costs like 25% of my monthly salary and Id have to hide it. Since its the pandemic and I had to go back and live with my parents again but thank you so much!!! Support is appreciated
One of my favorite ways to call people out when they make inappropriate comments or jokes is to ask, "Can you explain why that's funny?' or a variation of asking why they're saying what they're saying because more often than not they get choked up and don't know how to respond because they know the meaning behind what they said is wrong.
OK, so now I know how people feel when they listen to my mom, my sister, my daughters and me in the same room. We all have different demeanor and vocabulary, but we have similar mannerisms, enunciation and voice tone that if you are not so familiar with us all we could at a certain extent sound like the same person is talking.
You have such a similar voice tone that if I'm just listening to this podcast in the background without context I might not realize it's 2 different people.
But as soon as start paying attention is clearly obvious and I'll add endearing because you reminded me of my sister and myself (and my daughters).
Great podcast, nothing but respect on the way you responded and handled all questions.
My favorite was the one about the periods. I love how you pointed out that they shouldn't even be call embarrassment anecdotes as they should prompt respect and helpful actions instead of embarrass, mortified and terrified young women. Just beautiful!
re: asking people when they are having kids
My husband and I silently dealt with my infertility for years and it was always so uncomfortable when people would ask us about having kids. One woman my husband used to work with asked us when we will have a baby, and we said maybe down the road since he was finishing university. This woman kept harping about how cute and sweet babies are and why don't we want one now.🤦🏻♀️ We were not comfortable sharing our struggles, so it was a very difficult situation for me.
Now I am open about my infertility so if someone asks such a personal question, I tell them "I have been trying for x number of years" and that seems to make them uncomfortable enough to leave me alone😂
edit to add: I don't mind if someone says "do you think you might want kids someday?"
My go-to answer for "when are you getting married??" "When are you having kids??" is "When I want [insert forced-upon milestone here], I'll get them." I know I'll never want kids. I know I'll never want to get married, but telling someone that you'll cross that bridge when you get to it shuts them up without being rude or confrontational. Granted, being confrontational or rude in response to invasive questions is totally justified imo. I'm just someone who hates making waves.
I'm already married, and thankfully in my 40's so the kid shit stopped, but I always said when I find a man I want to marry and I hate kids were straight and to the point
I haaaaate those questions so much like... are you my therapist or S.O.? NO so back off lol. When I reply that I don't want ___ I just get people trying to convince me otherwise by using 0 logic and 100% shame and conformity pressure.
My go to for people who are not close to me : "and when are you going to see a dentist ( or insert anything else) ?"
@@MrMt67859 i love this!!!
I can understand people are trying to be nice or show that they care about you or what not. But there are other ways of communicating the same sentiment without asking invasive questions.
I had a coworker leak and i noticed it and got her to the bathroom, gave her supplies I had in my bag, and gave her an extra pair of gym pants I had in my car. Life as a woman is hard enough we need to be kind to one another. And the best way to do it is to help another woman fix something without broadcasting it. Now that I have daughters I hope someone will help them like this if they ever need it.
Jen, thank you so much for writing the captions for the podcast youtube videos!!! I am hearing-impaired, and they are incredibly helpful. Thank you for all your hard work and commitment
To the person asking how to tell their strict dad: I am in my 30ies and my dad always hated all my partners, he spoke ill of them and even said "choose me or him". So now I am in a 3 year relationship and we live together and I never told my dad. He is very toxic and manipulative and I don't let him meddle in my life anymore. So sometimes you can't tell them. I wish I had a dad like Jen and Cris. Would save up alot instead of spending it on theraphy:)
It's so weird when parents start a competition between themselves and their kids' partners. It quite... disturbing.
Jen is glowing, I love her skin. She is very mature, but hilarious at the same time. I would love to see a double sibling podcast! :D
this podcast made me so happy but also cry so much because my older brother died four years ago when i was 17 and he was 21 and now i'm his age and it almost feels surreal, i miss him so much and wonder if we would've become kinda like cris and jen
Sorry for your loss 😞
I love how level-headed Jen is. I would have loved to have her as a sister. My sister is almost 5 years older than me and pretty much had to raise me and we've always had an on-again off-again relationship. I wish my family was closer.
Thank you for having the conversation about having children and how invasive of a question it is. I’ve always felt uncomfortable having to defend my decisions about not having children. It’s infuriating.
I would love for their parents to come on the podcast and speak about how they got their kids involved in acting and their thought process on how they knew their kids would succeed at this type of activity and what was their goals.
Probably just their dad. I don't think their mom wants to be on camera
1:06:44 this made me laugh so hard! Jen doing a blowing kiss to give you her social skills lol
This was the absolute sweetest. Such good advice in such a heartfelt and sincere way while being so funny. Petition for Jen once a month (give Ben a hummus break)
"what do cristine and jen like the best about each other (gross)" LMAO
I am absolutely nerding out that my question was brought up! Thank you guys for answering so honestly!
I loved hearing all these stories. In my family it's just me and my sister sibling wise. I'm the youngest, (22) and my sister is older (23). We actually have the same birthday, so we're exactly a year apart. Honestly we were raised as twins since we were so close in age. When you guys were talking about how you couldn't remember any physical fights, I remembered so many with me and my sister. When I was probably ~10 I was chasing my sister up the stairs and bit her, I ended up losing a tooth. Then when we were teenagers we were cleaning the room we shared and my sister threw a glass cup at me and I ended up needing stitches on my cheek right under my eye.
But hey, now we're best friends.
Never thought I would see another story of someone losing a tooth biting a sibling (my first tooth loss actually). I remember fighting with my younger sister all through childhood. Never anything to the point of needing a hospital visit, but bloody noses, bites and scratches weren't uncommon. We got along sooooo much better after I moved out for college. Just like Cristine and Jen said, when you aren't forced to live with them, the dynamic changes.
Geez😂 my sister and I used to "fight" physically for fun, we enjoyed hitting and chasing each other around
If I didn’t want kids and people told me “you’ll change your mind” I would soooooo love to tell them “well, I’m sure with your kids, you’ll change your mind too!”
😂 honestly that's a good comeback
That comeback is golden. I'm stealing it 🤣 (a childless 27 yo woman)
My brother Ian passed away suddenly a few months ago & I miss him so much 💔 seeing the two of y'all together is so heartwarming 🥰 thank you
I’m sorry for your loss 😞
cristine has been relieved of her hair cutting duties since beyn isn’t here today
Great podcast, as always. I also looove that you have detailed time stamps of specific questions, we appreciate the dedication!! 😊
58:02 YES to all of this. I don’t ever plan to have children and I get so many invasive questions about it. When people ask, I still answer them, even when I’m not in the mood to talk about it or defend my choice: “I believe that kids know when they’re loved or when they’re not wanted...and every child deserves to feel loved and wanted. I don’t want to be a parent and I don’t want to hurt some kid who can sense that.”
We need more podcasts with Jen.
Thanks Jen for the captions, they're great for us hearing impaired viewers! 🥰
Jeeeeeeyn! Thank you so much for the captions! My first language is Spanish so when I use the automatic translation I can really understand better the words or sentences that I don't know/understand.
My doctor grilled me on why I don’t have kids. It is so old fashioned and inappropriate.
A man wouldn’t be spoken to like that.
Time to look for a new doctor
Sorry to hear that. You're totally right, too.
Jen has a Maya Rudolph type of humor. Love it! ✨
little menchie on her bed;;; tysm so excited to watch this podcast!!!
One of the best ways I’ve heard to respond to uninvited, invasive questions about having children, getting married, etc. is to say, “Huh, I’m surprised you feel comfortable asking me about _____. Most people would find that kind of question invasive and inappropriate.” and then just look at them with a confused look on your face… and watch them squirm.
YAY omg I love watching these podcasts while doing work cuz it's so weirdly productive
Lookin' forward to the Sisters vs. Brothers episode! 👯♀️👯♂️
Thank you for adressing the pain of constantly being interogated by strangers when you don't have kids.
I loved the pregnancy part, such a good insight.
I would love to watch a podcast with Jen and Matt substituting Cristine and Ben as a brother and sister swap!
It’s pretty cool to see that y’all got closer after Christine left. That happened with my sister and I once she left for college.
Thank you for working on the captions, Jen! I appreciate that you help your sister and Ben make this podcast more accessible to others. ❤️ Thank you Cristine for having someone do them rather than a bot.
I really feel like I got to see Jen in a different light here. She is so eloquent and has her finger on the pulse for a lot of different issues. I really enjoyed this episode of SimplyPodLogical!
I NEED TO KNOW : What is Jen's favourite Holo Taco nail polish?!?
Jen is gonna be a ✨thirty-year-old lady✨
I miss Jenna 😭
Christine's mug matches her jacket so well! ❤
I really like this hair length on Jen!
Love Jen on this episode! Also started to get along with my brother once we didn’t share the same addres anymore :)
my family is actually so young, my grandma is only 65. nonetheless, I am confronted with the same question at every gathering: "when are you getting kids?" or (refering to the spare room me and my partner have in our flat) "you already have a room for another family member". although my family well knows that I do not want any, my grandma always says "you'll change your mind, sooner or later every woman wants children". it is so hurting, and I am so glad that I am seemingly not the only one daily being confronted with that.
I love how Jen "steals" the clothes but Cristine "borrows" the clothes 🤣
We need Dadlogical next!!
I loved seeing your old pictures! You're so photogenic!!
Honestly, both Jen and Cristine are such humble, funny, and smart people. I’m always in awe at their perspectives on these questions.
"Sometimes I say things wrongly"....
(Face palm)
Cracked me up. Too funny.
I'm only halfway into the podcast, and they've already had a longer convo than I've ever had with my own sister 😬
I love Jen's pink socks 😂
I’m so glad Jen came on the podcast again! I totally missed her! Hi from TX! ♥️
I like that you guys talked about the having kids thing. My husband and I have been married almost 14 years and have had a lot of struggles and the things people think is okay to say or ask is crazy, you hear "you'll change your mind" and I get "take my child for a day and you'll change your mind" it's all upsetting
13:06 YOOO that’s me 😭 love you guys!
I saw Jen in a Teams meeting a few weeks ago and just about DIED! Love you both 🥰💕
So hard to tell the difference between your voices when I'm just listening!
Their voices are quite different.
Jen has a constant tone, a bit of raspiness, speaks with a lot more chill.
This was a wonderful podcast! Cristine and Jen always seem to be joking and being sarcastic with one another. This podcast was more serious and sincere. Thanks for sharing with us. Sending love to you both from NEW ORLEANS to CANADA!!
I think for the “embarrassing period stories”, they weren’t necessarily asking about when your first got your period, but more like stories where maybe you unexpectedly got your period or like you didn’t have tampons on you at that moment
I mean they did tell their embarrassing stories right after they made a point about periods
@@lizalove91 yeah but I think they misunderstood that people thought getting periods in general are embarrassing? Whereas the question was more like certain moments that were embarrassing. They did end up answering the question, I just wanted to point out that the person asking wasn’t asking about them first getting their period, and that moment is embarrassing, just if they particular had any stories involving periods that was embarrassing
I ask people if they want to have kids all the time, it says a lot about their life goals. I don't ask WHEN, just IF. Some people say maybe, yes, or no. I think the discussion just needs to be redirected and to teach that. It's asked in such a way that isn't personally revealing of any issues. It also opens up the discussion later to be more friendly and supportive later if they want to reveal they are having trouble.
40:39 I would kill to see Cristine, Jen, Ben and Matt play with the fib finder 😩😫😭
Or tbh any board game haha
Menchie chilling down there is so cute☹️💖
This sister talk really warms my heart and makes me realize how miss my sis
getting your period isn't embarrassing but like leaking in front of people etc is it's like peeing your pants or something 😭😭
Walking in front of your friend asking to see if you have leaked. Joys of having the ladies.
Yes, but it's not a bodily function you lost control over (btw there's a shocking number of people on the internet who think women can "hold in" period blood)
@@glittery_cucumber ooh that's a good point i didn't think of that
THANK YOU JEN for the subtitles!!!!!!!!!!!!! much appreciated
I loved this wholesome episode! Thanks for sharing yourself with us Jen 💓
I gotta say i really enjoyed listening to two grown sisters talk with such poise and respect ... I did miss Ben's apologies to (namedrops celebrity name here) .. we were going to have them on the podcast but we ran out of time..
But I guess we'll see y'all next week bye!
I have so many images to analyse form my experiment and the fact that I get to have this on in the background makes it 100x better! ☺️ thank god for taco Tuesday!
Jen is an amazing human! It was so fun listening to you guys interact. Thank you for sharing!
THANK YOU FOR CLOSED CAPTIONS JENNNN
I want to add my POV on the "compared to your sibling" question. I was the youngest of 4, 2 older brothers and one older sister. I was also very feminine, even more so when compared to my siblings (sister included) none of my siblings did exceptionally well in school, but school was always super easy for me- so my entire life not only did i feel different from my siblings- but I was also reminded every time i turned around that i was different. By everyone who knew my family, by my teachers, by our relatives etc. It made me feel incredibly isolated growing up, and in a lot of way put incredible pressure on me to be "better"
I remember even my 1st grade teacher telling me she had taught all of my siblings, and she could tell i wasnt going to "be like them" - which in hindsight is pretty fucked up to tell a first grader..
Anyway.. The sibling comparing is real.
It really is. I was the only girl of three kids and was pushed to be hyper-femme because my mom “prayed for me”. My older brother and younger brother both were naturally outgoing and charismatic, and we were all really smart, but I struggled more in school than they did. My older brother was diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age and everyone was always really impressed with him for overcoming his obstacles and being “oh so brave” and whatnot, but I didn’t get diagnosed with my conditions until later, so for almost all of my school years it was the “what’s wrong with you? What can’t you be more like your brothers? Why do you always dress like a boy? You’re my only girl” Yadda yadda yadda. Come to find out I too had ADHD, only people had expected me to behave “normal”. I also got diagnosed with severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder and clinical depression. Having a parent who didn’t believe in mental health was another obstacle, but now that we’re over that hill and I’m on meds, I’m doing so much better. And on top of that, turns out I’m androgynous, but little kid me never had a word for it until I grew up a got to college. Being compared to siblings is such an emotional detriment.
All THAT aside, what honestly helped me out is that my brothers both loved me a lot and saw how differently our mom treated me from them. When I finally broke down and told them how much it was hurting me, they supported me and helped me confront her about it. It didn’t fix everything overnight, but knowing they had my back and seeing my mom at least START to try to change meant a lot for me. I was really lucky to have a strong bond with my brothers, because I know a lot of people can end up resenting their siblings when they’re compared, but we all kinda knew we were different people, and we enjoyed seeing each person doing their own thing. In the end, I don’t think my mom would have ever stopped if they hadn’t been there to reaffirm my experiences, because I was usually written off as the “dramatic one” since I would bottle everything up until I exploded. My younger brother and I both coming out as queer also helped to shake off those last bits of bad habits, because she realized we were never going to meet the standards she’d set for us (for him having a wife and kids, for me being a girl’s girl and living life as a womanly woman, jury’s still out on the husband possibility because men and women are both pretty hot tbh) and that REALLY made her have to re-examine her expectations. Now she just wants us to be happy and stable… and she wants granbabies from my older brother and granbabies/adopted granbabies from me LMAO but it’s to be expected when she has granbabies from my stepsisters now
jen: get's drunk in more than one simply vid
also jen: more wise than all of us at the same time
I bled through my pants my last period of school, and I felt it. I had to wait until everyone left class but the teacher. I quickly put my sweater over my butt when I got up, saw blood all over my seat, and ran out of there. The janitor must have cleaned it because it wasn't covered in the blood the next day. That or the person first period had to clean it 😵 thankfully no one saw me! But that was embarrassing. I had heavy periods... this isn't the only time this happened to me even when I changed my pad or tampon regularly during the day. It freaking sucked!
Oh, God, I remember those times! Such a horrible feeling!
I also had very heavy periods as a high schooler :( After 2 embarrassing incidents, I wore black pants every day so no one could see any leaks if they happened.
@@fumetsushinju yeah, I don't mind having a period, but it sucked that it was so heavy... Thank God I had leather seats in my car! Great times 😑
That happened to me once in high school. I was in class with a skirt so I didn't notice, when I standed up a classmate saw the chair covered in blood. It looked like a horror movie haha. Thanks god this guy was a super normal and friendly kid so he told me to go and buy a pad (in my high school sold pads) and he cleaned the chair without telling anyone. He actually took the blame and told the teacher he had an accident wit his juice or something and went bring the janitors mop. I really appreciate that, always remember him. That kid wasn't even my friend, he was one of the popular kids. He never said something about that to me I did thanked him a lot later, because that day we just didn't say anything to each other. I thank so much his mom too, she must have teached him right about those topics. Also he had a sister one year younger, so I guess he knew about periods and stuff. I'm from Costa Rica, for context reference.
When I was in school and the teacher started teaching us about periods, took all the boys out for the teaching part 🙃 Boys knew nothing. At that time it really was amaze, I didn't knew how to react at the moment jaja, so I went and bought the pad as he had told me and change in the bathroom, went back to the class and the kid was cleaning the chair as if it was his chair and in my seat (next to him of course) was another chair instead. We really should/need to normalize periods and helping other people is such a normal thing..
@@amandacamposrodriguez9971 what a sweet guy! These things really should be normalized.
You two are the first example that I've found of a sister dynamic that is similar to how my sister and I are. It used to make me incredibly sad how much most of my friends would hate their siblings, but especially sister dynamics whereas me and my sister were always, and still are, each other's best friend. In fact, most of those friends hated OUR relationship so much because they wanted what we had, I've had my weird fair share of threats (and being physically attacked) from some of her friends who outright hated me for being closer to my sister than them LOL. I definitely can attribute that to how our mom raised us and just the amount of shit we experienced growing up that shaped us to rely on each other and be close. I am always thankful for that, to know I can depend on her and be there for each other, good times and bad.
You have no idea how hard i hit my desk IN CLASS when i heard my name- I love you guys so much!! Been a fan for 3 years now, and I’ll continue watching ❤️❤️
I loved this episode! Jen - you’re a kick ass lady! It’s so fun to see the two of you hanging together and chillin’.
Please pleae please more of this! It's so heartwarming ❤️
Thank you! Love it's you two on the podcast!
Who else was refreshing for 9 minutes waiting for this?? 😍😍
to the Twins sharing room question. I have a twin sister and we used to figh like crazy and I also felt like I am only botched version of her ..here to spoil all her favourite things. But We are 34 now and what helped us to become close friends was each going to different highschool .. living in dorm and seeing only on some weekends and holiday. We both had separated group of friend. We realised it'S good to have lot in common and was actually interested in each other lives and sharing some hobbies. We still argue sometimes but we also grown to respect each other.
This intro brings me so much joy! Just as much as these two sisters when the do videos together
1000% behind Jen on the don't ask women about kids. You truly never know what anyone is going through and you could seriously impact their mental health with invasive questions like that. We are more than just a uterus!