My husband is 66 and I am 64 and we have been sleeping in separate rooms for close to 12 years now because of his really loud and constant snoring. When we go away to a hotel we get a double queen room and I turn up my sound machine. It was worked great for us. Sleep is so crucial. On a funny note my husband has 9 siblings and shared a room his whole life and jokes that he finally has his own room 😂 Cheers!
My husband and I have been married for 33 years. We have a spare bedroom and there’s times when we both go sleep in it together and say we are “going out of town “sometimes it’s on the weekend or sometimes it’s during the week. It’s fun and exciting for us to do this 😂🎉❤
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). If you think sleeping separately can strengthen a relationship, you should know that couples who live in separate residences can strengthen a relationship even more. It known as “LAT” (Living Apart Together). It creates a ton of oxygen in the relationship and usually keeps the attraction for each other very high. I’ve seen it work beautifully! Great video!
I've been reading a lot about this lately. I can see how it could help a relationship. In a way, we already do this. I frequently stay at our second home, which he has decided he doesn't enjoy as much anymore. Win - win 😊
Thank you for sharing your story with us. My wife and I have been happily married for 36 years. We always slept together until about 10 years ago when I first started snoring. We mutually decided to sleep in separate bedrooms and it's worked out very well for us. I've stopped snoring since then, but we both prefer to continue our sleeping arrangement. However, that hasn't stopped us from continuing to be very intimate and loving with one another.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Every couple is unique, and finding the balance that brings happiness and comfort is what matters most. Wishing you both many more happy years together!
I'm so glad you are talking about this topic! I felt some embarrassment when sharing our separate bedroom arrangements because sleep comes up a lot as a topic as we get older. Friends and family usually say they would LOVE their own sleeping space!
Wow, this video provides such insightful and refreshing perspectives on relationships! It's amazing how something as simple as sleeping in separate rooms can actually strengthen a bond. Thank you! -Macy (Team Evan)
My girlfriend and I "Live Apart Together" for now. When we do spend nights together it is great, we BOTH have sleep apnea, both have CPAP machine (We are both "true believers" in CPAP therapy, and we both have similar success stories with CPAP therapies!!! It's those sorts of connections that we have built off of for this relationship. There will come a day we live under 1 roof. But, no rush, and we have talked about the idea of separate beds at times.
We have been sleeping in separate rooms for close to 20 years. My husband, who is a drinker, has snored almost our entire marriage. After years of "toughing it out" I would move into our daughter's room each night after she left for college. I finally decided to turn our daughter's room into my room. It actually improved our relationship because we were both getting quality sleep. In regards to intimacy, where there's a will there's a way. I was also concerned about public perception. It was when I realized that probably many of the couples that we were aware of having affairs were probably sleeping in the same bed. Sleeping arrangements do not determine whether intimacy happens or not. When traveling - we sleep in the same room but separate beds. We have very different sleeping styles and we have both become very fond of having the whole bed to ourselves 😜
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s great to hear that finding a solution that works for both of you has improved your relationship and sleep quality. It’s clear that open communication and flexibility can make a big difference. Your approach to intimacy and sleeping arrangements is a practical reminder that every couple can find what works best for them. Wishing you both continued happiness and comfort in your own spaces!
My wife and I have been sleeping in separate rooms because of snoring. We start the night together and as we start falling asleep, I move to my own bed. It works for us that way.
Thanks for sharing! It’s great to hear that separate rooms have improved your rest. Finding what works best for you can make a big difference in overall well-being.
My husband and I have slept in separate beds for 12 years now. We are better for it! We don’t care what others think 😂 we sleep better! Couples will find cuddle time elsewhere 😉
My grandparents had separate bedrooms for years. I thought it was strange growing up. It worked for them. My husband and I worked slept separate for the first 15 years of marriage because he worked night work and I worked day work. When he came on day work, we struggled sleeping together. My husband snores, I snore and he moves around alot and wakes up in the middle of the night and watches tv. He loves the fan on high , I like it on low. We decided to sleep in different rooms. 26 years of marriage, works well for us.
Ugh…we had this issue right from the beginning (and we are retired now)…….hubby snores horribly and is a very restless sleeper…..at some point every night one of us went to the other bedroom to finish the nights sleep. I was getting absolutely no sleep otherwise. It was embarrassing when people suspected that we did this. We have a great marriage and I can relate to people that do this.
I have sleep apnea. I got a sleep apnea machine - it is a life saver. I feel so much better - sleep soundly and quietly. Solved all the problems with my snoring, for both of us.
We love it. We have our own space to have our stuff. Our own schedules, our own environments. But! We make sure to have our weekly date night. It’s kind of romantic actually after 35 years. It brings much peace and respect.
That sounds wonderful! Having your own space while still making time for each other is a perfect balance. Weekly date nights are a great way to keep the romance alive.
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This is common more than we think . In our case my wife snores. I go to sleep early and my wife usually after 11pm.I get up early and she gets up late. So we decided to sleep seperately so that we can maintain a healthy relationship without pointing fingers at each other.
After being diagnosed with sleep apnea, your doctor may recommend a CPAP machine. They take a couple of weeks to get used to, but work wonders for your health and proper rest. They are fairly quiet and may also relieve having to sleep in another room.
The carnivore diet helps so much with sleep apnea! So does mouth tape I like Somnifix mouth tape! It works great. My husband and I sleep in separate rooms and it’s the best thing ever! can’t even imagine sleeping with someone else knowing how much better our quality of sleep is on our own. I also sleep with earplugs and blackout curtains.
@@RetirementTransformed Lots of people struggle with getting comfortable with their machines, it does take a few tries and different masks. During my sleep study, they woke me and put a mask on me. I had the best 6 hours sleep after that, better than I'd had in years. That convinced me I had a problem. The visit with my cardiologist a couple weeks later scared me into being a true believer, a zealot, for my CPAP therapy.
Before our divorce I had a snoring problem. My wife ended up moving to a different bedroom to sleep. My doctor implied that "there's no problem with that because sleeping isn't the same thing as sex". It was embarrassing for me. And I think it is one of the things that allowed her to think about leaving. If I were to do it over again, I would attack the snoring problem immediately. Ironically I lost 29 pounds as a result of the divorce and the snoring went away. After that, I've asked women I've slept with and they tell me that I don't snore. However I've gained most of that weight back and need to get serious about slimming down again.
i would love to sleep in separate beds, even if we were in the same room (and we dont have another bedroom on the main floor). My husband has started being more restless which inevitably wakes me just as im drifting off. The other issue is that he is adamant that we always have to sleep together.
You go to a regular doctor you may tell you to wear that mask with the machine that builds up bacteria and try sleeping with that thing on your face . My doctor told me to stop smoking and after 50 years of doing so that suggestion went out the window. He told me not to drink coffee but I'm Italian so that suggestion went out the window. Sleep in a separate room , well that's good if one of you has something catchy but I need something to hold on to a while while trying to fall asleep. What I do is I will not eat or drink anything except water 4 hours prior to sleep. I also do intermittent fasting , will not eat for 16 hours which is very good for the digestion system. 2 to 3 times a week I will stop eating at 4:00 p.m. and will not eat again until the next day at 8 am. When you go to sleep make sure your head is higher than then your feet . Lastly I would try and find an alternative doctor that does acupressure because there's no cure for this issue
Thank you for sharing your personal approach and experiences with sleep and health. It sounds like you’ve found some techniques that work well for you, especially with intermittent fasting and adjusting your sleep routine. It's always interesting to hear different perspectives on health management. How have you found these lifestyle changes to affect your overall well-being? It’s great that you're exploring alternatives like acupressure too!
We totally get it! Sleep is so important, and it can be tough when you’re not getting enough rest. It’s one of those things you really feel the impact of, especially when juggling work and family. Hopefully, things have improved, and you’re finding ways to get the rest you need now. Take care! 😴💖
My wife and I generally always enjoy what you have to say, but this is positively the worst advice I have seen from you. I have slept soundly in barracks rooms with 30 other guys, and tents that were 100 feet from a parking ramp that had fighter jets operating day and night. If you cannot sleep next to what should be the most important person in your life and enjoy all of who and what he or she is, snoring would seem to be the least of your issues. Imagine what life would be like if that person was suddenly gone, and you may realize that a bit of noise should not matter.
My husband is 66 and I am 64 and we have been sleeping in separate rooms for close to 12 years now because of his really loud and constant snoring. When we go away to a hotel we get a double queen room and I turn up my sound machine. It was worked great for us. Sleep is so crucial. On a funny note my husband has 9 siblings and shared a room his whole life and jokes that he finally has his own room 😂 Cheers!
Thanks for sharing!! That’s funny too.
My husband and I have been married for 33 years. We have a spare bedroom and there’s times when we both go sleep in it together and say we are “going out of town “sometimes it’s on the weekend or sometimes it’s during the week. It’s fun and exciting for us to do this 😂🎉❤
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). If you think sleeping separately can strengthen a relationship, you should know that couples who live in separate residences can strengthen a relationship even more. It known as “LAT” (Living Apart Together). It creates a ton of oxygen in the relationship and usually keeps the attraction for each other very high. I’ve seen it work beautifully! Great video!
Interesting perspective. Thank you.
I've been reading a lot about this lately. I can see how it could help a relationship. In a way, we already do this. I frequently stay at our second home, which he has decided he doesn't enjoy as much anymore. Win - win 😊
Thank you for sharing your story with us. My wife and I have been happily married for 36 years. We always slept together until about 10 years ago when I first started snoring. We mutually decided to sleep in separate bedrooms and it's worked out very well for us. I've stopped snoring since then, but we both prefer to continue our sleeping arrangement. However, that hasn't stopped us from continuing to be very intimate and loving with one another.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Every couple is unique, and finding the balance that brings happiness and comfort is what matters most. Wishing you both many more happy years together!
I'm so glad you are talking about this topic! I felt some embarrassment when sharing our separate bedroom arrangements because sleep comes up a lot as a topic as we get older. Friends and family usually say they would LOVE their own sleeping space!
Thanks for sharing!!
Wow, this video provides such insightful and refreshing perspectives on relationships! It's amazing how something as simple as sleeping in separate rooms can actually strengthen a bond. Thank you! -Macy (Team Evan)
We're glad you found the video insightful! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
My girlfriend and I "Live Apart Together" for now. When we do spend nights together it is great, we BOTH have sleep apnea, both have CPAP machine (We are both "true believers" in CPAP therapy, and we both have similar success stories with CPAP therapies!!! It's those sorts of connections that we have built off of for this relationship. There will come a day we live under 1 roof. But, no rush, and we have talked about the idea of separate beds at times.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m loving all the honesty and vulnerability of sharing on this topic.
We have been sleeping in separate rooms for close to 20 years. My husband, who is a drinker, has snored almost our entire marriage. After years of "toughing it out" I would move into our daughter's room each night after she left for college. I finally decided to turn our daughter's room into my room. It actually improved our relationship because we were both getting quality sleep. In regards to intimacy, where there's a will there's a way.
I was also concerned about public perception. It was when I realized that probably many of the couples that we were aware of having affairs were probably sleeping in the same bed. Sleeping arrangements do not determine whether intimacy happens or not.
When traveling - we sleep in the same room but separate beds. We have very different sleeping styles and we have both become very fond of having the whole bed to ourselves 😜
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s great to hear that finding a solution that works for both of you has improved your relationship and sleep quality. It’s clear that open communication and flexibility can make a big difference. Your approach to intimacy and sleeping arrangements is a practical reminder that every couple can find what works best for them. Wishing you both continued happiness and comfort in your own spaces!
Are you guys still doing well?
Yes. And I’m visiting with a sleep apnea doctor this week. Looking forward to hearing more from them.
That used to bother me, but not anymore. If your sleep improves, go for it❤
Seems like a common comment.
My wife and I have been sleeping in separate rooms because of snoring. We start the night together and as we start falling asleep, I move to my own bed. It works for us that way.
Are you still in same room?
@@RetirementTransformed no, we have separate bedrooms.
Seems like a common sleeping situation. Thx for sharing.
We’ve been doing separate rooms for 4 years. Much better rest! Age 68 and 67.
Thanks for sharing! It’s great to hear that separate rooms have improved your rest. Finding what works best for you can make a big difference in overall well-being.
My husband and I have slept in separate beds for 12 years now. We are better for it! We don’t care what others think 😂 we sleep better! Couples will find cuddle time elsewhere 😉
Love that!
My grandparents had separate bedrooms for years. I thought it was strange growing up. It worked for them. My husband and I worked slept separate for the first 15 years of marriage because he worked night work and I worked day work. When he came on day work, we struggled sleeping together. My husband snores, I snore and he moves around alot and wakes up in the middle of the night and watches tv. He loves the fan on high , I like it on low. We decided to sleep in different rooms. 26 years of marriage, works well for us.
That’s wonderful that you have it worked out.
Ugh…we had this issue right from the beginning (and we are retired now)…….hubby snores horribly and is a very restless sleeper…..at some point every night one of us went to the other bedroom to finish the nights sleep. I was getting absolutely no sleep otherwise. It was embarrassing when people suspected that we did this. We have a great marriage and I can relate to people that do this.
Thanks for sharing this. I’m surprised or maybe not surprised how many people are responding that they sleep in separate rooms.
I love the idea about scheduling date nights.
Thanks. Could be romantic
I have sleep apnea. I got a sleep apnea machine - it is a life saver. I feel so much better - sleep soundly and quietly. Solved all the problems with my snoring, for both of us.
I just got diagnosed with that. Working through strategies now.
We love it. We have our own space to have our stuff. Our own schedules, our own environments. But! We make sure to have our weekly date night. It’s kind of romantic actually after 35 years. It brings much peace and respect.
That sounds wonderful! Having your own space while still making time for each other is a perfect balance. Weekly date nights are a great way to keep the romance alive.
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!
Your channel is really helpful for retirement planning, and it's also great for improving my English skills.
From South Korea.
Thank you for your kind words! We're glad to hear that our channel is helping with both retirement planning and your English skills. Greetings to South Korea!
This is common more than we think . In our case my wife snores. I go to sleep early and my wife usually after 11pm.I get up early and she gets up late. So we decided to sleep seperately so that we can maintain a healthy relationship without pointing fingers at each other.
Such great advice. Thanks for sharing.
After being diagnosed with sleep apnea, your doctor may recommend a CPAP machine. They take a couple of weeks to get used to, but work wonders for your health and proper rest. They are fairly quiet and may also relieve having to sleep in another room.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! It’s great advice for anyone dealing with sleep apnea. We appreciate you taking the time to comment!
Separate rooms save marriages 😴 🤩
From all the comments I’m reading, you may be right.
My wife started sleeping separately a few years ago. She likes it, I don’t. It has definitely affected our intimacy. Thanks for addressing this topic
We're glad this topic resonated with you, and we hope it helps others in similar situations find a balance that works for both partners
The carnivore diet helps so much with sleep apnea! So does mouth tape I like Somnifix mouth tape! It works great. My husband and I sleep in separate rooms and it’s the best thing ever! can’t even imagine sleeping with someone else knowing how much better our quality of sleep is on our own. I also sleep with earplugs and blackout curtains.
We are definitely looking into options. Thanks for your comment
Get the CPAP machine - the health benefits are the most important consideration.
I’m looking into that.
@@RetirementTransformed Lots of people struggle with getting comfortable with their machines, it does take a few tries and different masks. During my sleep study, they woke me and put a mask on me. I had the best 6 hours sleep after that, better than I'd had in years. That convinced me I had a problem. The visit with my cardiologist a couple weeks later scared me into being a true believer, a zealot, for my CPAP therapy.
CPAP machine!!
Looking into it next week with a doctor visit
Before our divorce I had a snoring problem. My wife ended up moving to a different bedroom to sleep. My doctor implied that "there's no problem with that because sleeping isn't the same thing as sex". It was embarrassing for me. And I think it is one of the things that allowed her to think about leaving. If I were to do it over again, I would attack the snoring problem immediately. Ironically I lost 29 pounds as a result of the divorce and the snoring went away. After that, I've asked women I've slept with and they tell me that I don't snore. However I've gained most of that weight back and need to get serious about slimming down again.
Thank you for sharing this. It may help a lot of people.
i would love to sleep in separate beds, even if we were in the same room (and we dont have another bedroom on the main floor). My husband has started being more restless which inevitably wakes me just as im drifting off. The other issue is that he is adamant that we always have to sleep together.
It’s definitely a phase that most couples go through as we age and sleep becomes harder. Such interesting comments on this video
You go to a regular doctor you may tell you to wear that mask with the machine that builds up bacteria and try sleeping with that thing on your face . My doctor told me to stop smoking and after 50 years of doing so that suggestion went out the window. He told me not to drink coffee but I'm Italian so that suggestion went out the window. Sleep in a separate room , well that's good if one of you has something catchy but I need something to hold on to a while while trying to fall asleep. What I do is I will not eat or drink anything except water 4 hours prior to sleep. I also do intermittent fasting , will not eat for 16 hours which is very good for the digestion system. 2 to 3 times a week I will stop eating at 4:00 p.m. and will not eat again until the next day at 8 am. When you go to sleep make sure your head is higher than then your feet . Lastly I would try and find an alternative doctor that does acupressure because there's no cure for this issue
Thank you for sharing your personal approach and experiences with sleep and health. It sounds like you’ve found some techniques that work well for you, especially with intermittent fasting and adjusting your sleep routine. It's always interesting to hear different perspectives on health management. How have you found these lifestyle changes to affect your overall well-being? It’s great that you're exploring alternatives like acupressure too!
When I was working, and my husband was snoring, it was hard to sleep. And I was tired and grouchy. Our children do not understand.
We totally get it! Sleep is so important, and it can be tough when you’re not getting enough rest. It’s one of those things you really feel the impact of, especially when juggling work and family. Hopefully, things have improved, and you’re finding ways to get the rest you need now. Take care! 😴💖
have you been fitted for a CPAP? It solves the breathing problem and you get to sleep in the same bed!
Not yet. This is all new. My doctors are in Florida and headed down in October to work through this.
My wife and I generally always enjoy what you have to say, but this is positively the worst advice I have seen from you. I have slept soundly in barracks rooms with 30 other guys, and tents that were 100 feet from a parking ramp that had fighter jets operating day and night. If you cannot sleep next to what should be the most important person in your life and enjoy all of who and what he or she is, snoring would seem to be the least of your issues. Imagine what life would be like if that person was suddenly gone, and you may realize that a bit of noise should not matter.
Thank you for sharing this. It definitely resonated with me. Mark