No. They can have joint custody. The woman is already seeing somebody that's wineing her. Get full custody or at least joint custody. If she refuses full or joint custody then the kid is probably not yours do DNA. She's not going to be alone, she's seeing another man.
@@inabiyiyen yen yen..shes seeing another man. na that one dey pain you. the guys violent attitude. his cheating(which he didnt deny by the way) is good abi?since na man like you. obviously you guys are the same. untrained and badly brought up!
Chinasa, please bear something in mind before you make your final decision. It's not always greener at the other side. With the look of things, he has realized his flaws please for Christ sake please give your husband a second and final chance with a written undertaking with Dos and Don't s for just 3 months for the Sake of your Son, I guarantee you he has learnt his lessons, all he need is to go for marriage counseling and to visit a Therapist . And please guard your tongue respect him because he's your husband and he's the father of your son. Stop saying provocative things that can trigger his negative reaction. A word is enough for the wise. Happy new year.
The woman is no longer interested. She's tired of beatings and bullying. Is marriage by force? Set her free she has made up her mind. Stop using your son as a bargaining tool.
Ben Cash, what is so difficult for you as a mediator to accept the fact that this man is crazy. He totally misses it. He is not a good husband or father, period. Over here in the USA 🇺🇸 and for good reasons, this so-called father will have restraining from the child. He is very, very incorrigible. BTW, the question from his soon to become ex-wife was quite in order. If he was a learned person, there is no way he should be expecting primary custody of the child. No court throughout the world will award him primary custody. So, yes, the question of whether he was learned was a fair and sensible question to ask by her wife. He is a spoiled brat and inconsiderate and wife beater and abuser. I will never have him as a brother inlaw.
Lady don’t go back, he’s not matured to accept his own part in the failure of the relationship. He’s still being childish, having a co parenting relationships should be meditative and come to agreement. This guy is his own worst enemy. Women are to be respected and cherish. Think of the well being of of the child, children are not pawns. Don’t use the child to punish the mother.
See, the discussion has shifted. Jide and Chinaza are no longer the focus, the focus here is the child and his future. Why am I a bit scared for the boy? A two and a half year old boy staying with his father (an aggressive man) and a "housemaid"? When his mother is still alive. Ben, seek legal advise o
1. Jide is still has anger issues but still wants Chinasa back. 2. Chinasa has moved on and can't go back into the marriage. 3. As per the custody of the children, they have to share custody of the children. However, Jide cannot solely take care of the child as he is still a minor 4. Sometimes, Chinasa behaves unruly to Jide in some conversations. You don't throw jabs at your ex-husband at your convenience because Ben is there. 5. Instead of taking every matter to BenCash, why cant the family put closure on this matter instead.
Rafiu the father has come in and he cant handle it then the family is out of it. Secondly, Jide will not have the custody of the child at this moment due to some factors: He is violent and the age of the boy , the financial power of the whoever would be in custody of the child the mental health of the person of whom the child will be with. The living conditions of the of whoever the child will be with. The judge will determine who will the child be with,
So, is it BenCash that will solve it? Fine, Jide is violent but Chinasa too is mouthy sometimes, whether it's her natural way or as frustration. For me, just like what Judge Funmi advocates, the child stays with the mother while they share the child during holidays. The mother best cares for the child more than the father, period!
Every other week for each parent to co-parent. This is a pure example of best friends turning to the worst enemies, and now the innocent child becomes the victim. The next would be buying of love, no restrictions, no rules, and regulations. At last, the child's future relationships, both intimate and otherwise, will be impacted. The society at large suffers 😢
He can’t have full custody of their minor child but can have visitation rights or joint custody if the child is not an infant. What’s the guarantee he will not take the child and leave the country? They need to go to court to sort things out.
I am seriously not in support of the reunion. This man seems to be pretending. The way he is talking and acting is not a guarantee that he will be a good person. I am a man, but i will not and never agree with you going back to him. He is so controlling, " i want her to look me at my face. It is me Jide you are talking to". Who is he ?. He is so full of himself. He is counting on everything the woman is saying. Let the court speak. Don't leave the child for him. He is irresponsible, Monday to Friday with him is a disaster for the boy's future. Talk to you later.
I concur with you. He can't have the full custody, the child is still child. Only what he could do is visitations ... the wife must meet him somewhere with the child.
This man will never change, how's he going to take care of this baby??? He said he'll get a maid, why not the mother instead??? He's definitely a hard learner. The court will rule in the child's best interest.
Ben, Let them go to family divorce court as Jide is not realistic. It is always better for the child to be with the mother except if the mother is not responsible enough to care for the child. The father can have the child on the weekends and holidays. Alternatively, they can do 1 week on and 1 week off.
Hi Jide, the pain you are experiencing presently is the culmination of your behaviour over the years. What your persistence is doing is, pushing your wife further away from you. My advice to you is to back down, suspend every conversation about reconciliation and channel every effort into being a good dad to son. I believe you will win her over depending on the sort of father you are to your son. Please let her keep the boy. Can you check yourself onto a DVIP programme if there is any available in your country? DVIP stands for domestic violence intervention programme.
I wish Deacon Famous could handle this matter. This guy has anger issues. Having a discussion with him it's a nightmare because he wants to have the last word. PLEASE DON'T GO BACK
Jide is not realistic. Chinaza stand your ground not to realize her child to Jide. Legally, the child would remain with the mom until he/she is 18 years, but Chinaza MUST allow Jide to see the child periodically. Jide can't have it his way at all.
Jide you are doing mistake here pls. You don't apologize like this and likewise not all women actions require reactions. Jide note the following : 1. All women talk back to their husbands naturally. 2. All successful marriages are through men's patience, intelligence and silence. 3. Corrections are done with love not anger in all successful marriages
He just wants you back and he's using the child as an excuse. Chinasa keep your child or you both go to welfare and claim custody of your child please so you don't loose that child due to carelessness on the path of both of you. This is a new year and your peace of mind is key here,so guard it and be wise. God bless you my dear Chinasa and grant you His wisdom always 🙏 ❤
Let this woman leave, these type will scar your face to spite you. Never girl do you listen to anyone who never spent a day in your shoes. He has no remorse for all he did to her
Narcissist normally accept no blame for the deteriation of anything. He believes his wife shouldn't speak to him as an adult the way he speak to her. Custody should be alloted to mom, because he still needs nurturing. Father is working daily and should receive custody ofthe child after he get help with anger management. Should be a must program, before he take the baby on the weekends from court appointed agreement. He will use this time to prove if he will run with the child, or due the programs to learn to controll his anger.😢😮
If Jide went to the house and had access to the child but claimed he did not it's because his interest is not about the welfare of the child but seeing Chinasa. This is a husband who spends time with other women, hence him contracting STDs monthly. Having custody of the child, and being cared for by a maid is absurd!! This will only allow him to extend his time from late nights to spending a few days or even more with these women. This would make him ignorant if the maid is abusing the child!! These meetings going over the same issues have now reached a stalemate. The next step is for Chinasa to get legal counsel. Go to court and request sole custody of the child with visitation rights to the father. This will give the law the authority to get involved if Jide decides not to allow the mother access to and or flee with the child. Jide is a narcissist who is bipolar. He is a womanizer, an abuser prone to inflict domestic violence, and a manipulator. He is obsessed with Chinasa because this gives him a sense of mastery and superiority. This is demonstrated in his disdain for her even having an opinion and speaking it, and also his inability to humbly apologize. At this point, Jide is void of loving anyone or anything else but his own ego. He needs deliverance to deal with the spiritual issue and therapy to deal with his fractured soul.
SHE ASKED A GOOD QUESTION..... IS HE REALLY LEARNED TO THINK A MOTHER IS ALIVE AND HAS CAPACITY AND HE THINK ANY COURT OF COMPETENT JURISDICTION WILL GRANT HIM CUSTODY OF A CHILD.... YOU WANNA GIVE A CHILD TO A NANNY WHEN THE CHILD'S MOTHER IS THERE...... WHAT KILLED DAVIDO'S CHILD IFEANYI..??
Ben tell Jide to relax a bit by separation and allow chinasa to go through healing process. She still loves Jide if he gets it right. The force attitude is an albatross for Jide
Ben! Tell Jide to stop calling you, you are not the family courts. Let the courts finalize their divorce and the custody of the child. # Jide is premature
Let him go to the JUSTICE COURT - Judge Asolou. No law will allow a child under 18 not to stay with the mother. I believe this same applies to Nigeria too.
You better go to a court and have a legal settlement. All these meetings won't put an end to this situation and worse off, any decision you make that does not have legal backing will affect the innocent kid. Ire o
Jide just continue to beg your wife you don't need to force her to accept your plea for now. The child cannot be in your house because he still to young even if you go to court, they could only allow you to pick the child for holidays in your house and after holidays you will be required to return him to the mother. Please you may ask your lawyer for counsel better ok. I wish you both well in whatever you may have decided. Happy new year to all of you.
Ben, I respect you on one thing: your calmness. My only issue here is that please don't force that lady. Please respect people decisions and be at the side of caution always so that in the long run, nobody will blame you. Remember, the Internet doesn't forget!.
Ben this guy will not change I'm a man like him this is the truth, let them go to court i promise you is going to be after 18yrs b4 he can have access of the child. he can not take care of the child, he's still a baby
Devorce will worsen the matter. They can separate; overtime by God's grace they can come back. Jide should not push to have full custody of the child but should go and learn what marriage is all about.
No sane society will leave the child with the father at this age while the mother is still alive to nurture the child of just 2 years 3 months. They should go to court and get the issue resolved. You can hire a maid but can't rent an apartment for your brother's
Ben, stop making a mountain out of a mole hill! She hasn't said anything wrong by asking if he's not learned which obviously you and Jide aren't! How would any thinking person think any maid would committedly take good care of another man's child especially in this wicked world of ours now?! If he was learned, would he have been spewing gibberish?!
Do not give Jide the child. He needs to settle and calm his head before thinking of custody. Go to family court. Jide is violently tempered. Jide will not be able to raise the child. He has an overestimation of himself and is arrogant. His boyish mentality will not help him give the child the attention he deserves. Mr. Presenter, do you draw Jide's attention to what the online community thinks of him? And can you stop making this lady feel guilty for making her stance known? Jide is immature and arrogant in every ramification, so he needs time for introspection. As a matter of fact, he does not deserve to be with any woman for the next twenty-four months so that he can think back as well see a therapist for belligerence and braggadocious utterances. What a boy playing in men's field!
The family court is the best place to settle the child custody issue. Jude has not humbled himself and I do not believe he is honest with his apologies, there is still too much pride on his part! Certainly, the child cannot be better off with a maid because Jude can afford a maid; the child any time any day will be better off at his mother’s family home with all the support and love they have demonstrated will be available to him.
Young lady please give the child back to him immediately and he will soon find out the crazy thing he’s been saying. Free yourself from this guy. He will not be able to care for the child. Once he gives the child to a relative then you can slam him in court for definite custody.
Characteristics of a good apology , u can’t wrong me and force me to forgive me , u can’t be raising your voice while apologizing. U have to show remorse and your apology must be sincere. Jide as a paralegal I will tell u with you with my full chest u can never have custody of that minor and u have no right to give the child to a nanny when the mother is still alive . If u give him that child, Jide will intentionally keep the child away from the lady .
Chinasa,please I beg you in God's name ,do not give in to the pressure of releasing your son to Jide. Go to family court and settle this issue once and for all.
I'm tired of seeing this beautiful Queen Suffering this kind of abuse!!!!,,,, This man is manipulative and he only wants the child to have a Form of control over My African beauty movements,,,, Don't be manipulated anymore Queen and do not give him full custody of your son cause he you'd use it as control over you,,,,Just let him visit!!!!God bless you and The family all the best love and respect My queen And Empress❤❤❤❤😊....
The man must understand that even if they go to court the court would give custody to the mother with asses to the father.further more the man does not look mentally stable to take care of the child.
From all I've seen, this guy doesn't know what he's about to miss. He's not humble to admit his faults and change. For the fact that the lady is still attending these meetings means she's hoping he'll realise himself and really change for good but it's not working. He's impatient, hot tempered, too agressive and proud. The way I'm seeing it, the whole thing will end in divorce by the court.
Please let this lady go to court, this guy is trying to outsmart her. Go to family court and every agreement should be legal. Maturity is of the mind, this guy is still a boy
She is definitely done with the marriage. Let them go to court and have the issue sorted out on how to co-parent! The child is still too young! The court has all the answers for now. It will help them set boundaries please. The way I see this Jide, he will keep frustrating Chinaza because she does not want him anymore!
The signs are always overlooked. This couple need serious councelling away from social media. Otherwise, they especially the wife will soon find out that Co parenting is just a nice word.
Chinaza be wise. If you don’t make proper visitation arrangement with your ex husband, you will not see your child again once he take him home. Please I don’t want that heartbreak for you
When he is triggered, notice how he jumps up and has to walk up to her to say his mind. The question is, why can't he remain sitted and talk? He will beat her again if she ever lives with him again. He has no other way of controlling her besides beating her. This should serve as a lesson to him. When he meets another innocent woman and beats her, she will also leave him. You want full custody of your child. Imagine his mouth. You claim to love your son and will have the mind to remove him from the custody of his mother just to be taken care of a maid when he is at work. That's the kind of love he has for his son. He wants things his way, whether it makes sense or not. If he can't be okay with seeing his son by visiting him anytime he feels like, you two should go to family court. This man has a lot of learning to do. So many question marks on him. Ben Cash, thanks for not pleading on his behalf..
Jide go and rest, you have no case here. This is child of 2 years plus, you can't handle him, take weekend as time goes on the child turns 6 years plus then you can have 70% custody
He has a narcist behavior along with calling the cards. Nooo way you should have custody of a 2.6 yrs. boy. There are certain milestone the child has to master. It seemes the husband needs counseling, along with separating the child from his mother. That is been vindictive.
Are you not learned is not an insult but a question that needs a simple answer. Definitely 2.5 yr child needs an extra time for him Jide will not change because he misinterprets every word snd is ready to show violence
Babe don't let him have the baby,he wants to used baby to get you back, please 🙏 don't go back for sake of your life,six feet ebuka kwa biko nwa biko nwannem.
It pains me to see Mr Jide’s marriage coming to an end. I have been a strong critic of JIDE but Mrs Chinaza show forgiveness as it hurts to see young couples suffer from marriage dislocation. If you guy chooses to part ways I think we are touched but will agree to your decisions. Happy New Year from New Year.
she should show forgiveness and go to her death by moving back to his house abi?especially for someone who hasnt promised to seek treatment for his anger issues? you do well. when she dies like your sister Osinachi, you will be amongst the men that will ask her why didnt she leave him...weldone.
This lady asked you whether you're LEARNED and you were CHARGING at her, don't you know that you cannot have COMPLETE CUSTODY of the child until he's is 18 years of age and to decide for himself?
This is the reason people should cherish what they have. When your partner complains of what you do that is not good, why not make amend? Jide you can't take good care of the child. And a maid cannot do it as good as the mother. You can be going to see him and when you are chanced you be with him.
If this man want to apologize he should keep doing it but as for the custody of the child this man can not do it. The law does not allow him to take the custody of the child.
When the mother of a child/children is alive and sane, the idea of a man having full custody of a child and entrusting him/her in the hands of a domestic help is not a welcome idea. Jide, leave your boy in the mother's custody and pick him up when you can afford adequate time with him. I pray your marriage is restored and you stop physically abusing your wife regardless of the provocation, please. Good luck!
They have to go to court for child custody, he looks like he will with hold the child from her.He has anger issues, the court might put restrictions on his child visitation.
Girl stand your ground this man will never never change you are a beautiful woman you will find a good man
She is a beautiful bull dog and no man will take her anywhere by her attitude.
Jide, by law you can not take the custody of the child.
Lady, take the matter to Justice court in Lagos.
Ben do not trust this Jide. Because if anything happens to this woman, you will be held accountable. Mark my words!
I couldn't agree more
Naza nnem stand ur ground ma,this guy can never change he's just a beast in human form
They should go to court to have the custody issue settled , the husband still have anger issues
This guy is seriously mad, drugs in control, your child your child😂😂
Jide wants to use the child to emotionally blackmail Chinasa
They need to go to the court to finalize the divorce process and know what child custody will look like.
They should truly go to family court! The guy is arrogant.
They should truly go to family court! The guy is arrogant. I doubt if the court will grant him custody!
As long as the child is under 18 and the mom is not incapacitated, custody of the child is to the mother by law
No. They can have joint custody. The woman is already seeing somebody that's wineing her. Get full custody or at least joint custody. If she refuses full or joint custody then the kid is probably not yours do DNA. She's not going to be alone, she's seeing another man.
@@inabiyiyen yen yen..shes seeing another man. na that one dey pain you. the guys violent attitude. his cheating(which he didnt deny by the way) is good abi?since na man like you. obviously you guys are the same. untrained and badly brought up!
Chinasa, please bear something in mind before you make your final decision.
It's not always greener at the other side.
With the look of things, he has realized his flaws please for Christ sake please give your husband a second and final chance with a written undertaking with Dos and Don't s for just 3 months for the Sake of your Son, I guarantee you he has learnt his lessons, all he need is to go for marriage counseling and to visit a Therapist .
And please guard your tongue respect him because he's your husband and he's the father of your son. Stop saying provocative things that can trigger his negative reaction.
A word is enough for the wise.
Happy new year.
The woman is no longer interested. She's tired of beatings and bullying. Is marriage by force? Set her free she has made up her mind. Stop using your son as a bargaining tool.
Two parents are able to share their kid. From USA
Ben Cash, what is so difficult for you as a mediator to accept the fact that this man is crazy. He totally misses it. He is not a good husband or father, period. Over here in the USA 🇺🇸 and for good reasons, this so-called father will have restraining from the child. He is very, very incorrigible. BTW, the question from his soon to become ex-wife was quite in order. If he was a learned person, there is no way he should be expecting primary custody of the child. No court throughout the world will award him primary custody. So, yes, the question of whether he was learned was a fair and sensible question to ask by her wife. He is a spoiled brat and inconsiderate and wife beater and abuser. I will never have him as a brother inlaw.
This guy can never change anger issues
Lady don’t go back, he’s not matured to accept his own part in the failure of the relationship. He’s still being childish, having a co parenting relationships should be meditative and come to agreement. This guy is his own worst enemy. Women are to be respected and cherish. Think of the well being of of the child, children are not pawns. Don’t use the child to punish the mother.
U sound like an unhappy woman ( married or single)
Jide, you're not humble. Go and work on yourself. You can not have the full custody of your child, he stll a minor.
See, the discussion has shifted. Jide and Chinaza are no longer the focus, the focus here is the child and his future. Why am I a bit scared for the boy? A two and a half year old boy staying with his father (an aggressive man) and a "housemaid"? When his mother is still alive. Ben, seek legal advise o
@@sisisade9236exactly
@@Godwin7521i wonder
Jide isn't matured to be a father, he's an abuser. Chinansa, pls move on, move on. Jide can never change. Pls, pls, don't give another chance.
My sister please do not go back, that man has anger issues. For your life my sister
1. Jide is still has anger issues but still wants Chinasa back.
2. Chinasa has moved on and can't go back into the marriage.
3. As per the custody of the children, they have to share custody of the children. However, Jide cannot solely take care of the child as he is still a minor
4. Sometimes, Chinasa behaves unruly to Jide in some conversations. You don't throw jabs at your ex-husband at your convenience because Ben is there.
5. Instead of taking every matter to BenCash, why cant the family put closure on this matter instead.
Rafiu the father has come in and he cant handle it then the family is out of it. Secondly, Jide will not have the custody of the child at this moment due to some factors: He is violent and the age of the boy , the financial power of the whoever would be in custody of the child the mental health of the person of whom the child will be with. The living conditions of the of whoever the child will be with. The judge will determine who will the child be with,
So, is it BenCash that will solve it? Fine, Jide is violent but Chinasa too is mouthy sometimes, whether it's her natural way or as frustration. For me, just like what Judge Funmi advocates, the child stays with the mother while they share the child during holidays. The mother best cares for the child more than the father, period!
Every other week for each parent to co-parent. This is a pure example of best friends turning to the worst enemies, and now the innocent child becomes the victim. The next would be buying of love, no restrictions, no rules, and regulations. At last, the child's future relationships, both intimate and otherwise, will be impacted. The society at large suffers 😢
He can’t have full custody of their minor child but can have visitation rights or joint custody if the child is not an infant. What’s the guarantee he will not take the child and leave the country? They need to go to court to sort things out.
Absolutely a good idea. Let the child welfare/court settle the matter please.
You right,court is the best place to decide on the joint custody
I am seriously not in support of the reunion. This man seems to be pretending. The way he is talking and acting is not a guarantee that he will be a good person. I am a man, but i will not and never agree with you going back to him. He is so controlling, " i want her to look me at my face. It is me Jide you are talking to". Who is he ?. He is so full of himself. He is counting on everything the woman is saying. Let the court speak. Don't leave the child for him. He is irresponsible, Monday to Friday with him is a disaster for the boy's future. Talk to you later.
I concur with you. He can't have the full custody, the child is still child. Only what he could do is visitations ... the wife must meet him somewhere with the child.
This man will never change, how's he going to take care of this baby??? He said he'll get a maid, why not the mother instead??? He's definitely a hard learner. The court will rule in the child's best interest.
Ben, Let them go to family divorce court as Jide is not realistic. It is always better for the child to be with the mother except if the mother is not responsible enough to care for the child. The father can have the child on the weekends and holidays. Alternatively, they can do 1 week on and 1 week off.
This guy is a beast he will never change
Hi Jide, the pain you are experiencing presently is the culmination of your behaviour over the years. What your persistence is doing is, pushing your wife further away from you. My advice to you is to back down, suspend every conversation about reconciliation and channel every effort into being a good dad to son. I believe you will win her over depending on the sort of father you are to your son. Please let her keep the boy.
Can you check yourself onto a DVIP programme if there is any available in your country? DVIP stands for domestic violence intervention programme.
Let court settle this the child should be with his mother till 18yrs
I wish Deacon Famous could handle this matter.
This guy has anger issues.
Having a discussion with him it's a nightmare because he wants to have the last word.
PLEASE DON'T GO BACK
Jide is not realistic. Chinaza stand your ground not to realize her child to Jide. Legally, the child would remain with the mom until he/she is 18 years, but Chinaza MUST allow Jide to see the child periodically. Jide can't have it his way at all.
Ben this guy will not change I'm a man like him this is the truth
I don't support her going back to d man.The husband can never changeLet her move on with her life before d husband ends her life
She's the mother you can't force her
Jide you are doing mistake here pls.
You don't apologize like this and likewise not all women actions require reactions.
Jide note the following :
1. All women talk back to their husbands naturally.
2. All successful marriages are through men's patience, intelligence and silence.
3. Corrections are done with love not anger in all successful marriages
Ben they should go to court. The ex hubby is not matured enuf to take care of a child.
He just wants you back and he's using the child as an excuse. Chinasa keep your child or you both go to welfare and claim custody of your child please so you don't loose that child due to carelessness on the path of both of you.
This is a new year and your peace of mind is key here,so guard it and be wise. God bless you my dear Chinasa and grant you His wisdom always 🙏 ❤
Let this woman leave, these type will scar your face to spite you. Never girl do you listen to anyone who never spent a day in your shoes. He has no remorse for all he did to her
Look at that, "SO MUCH OF A MOTHER "
Narcissist normally accept no blame for the deteriation of anything. He believes his wife shouldn't speak to him as an adult the way he speak to her.
Custody should be alloted to mom, because he still needs nurturing. Father is working daily and should receive custody ofthe child after he get help with anger management. Should be a must program, before he take the baby on the weekends from court appointed agreement.
He will use this time to prove if he will run with the child, or due the programs to learn to controll his anger.😢😮
this man is immature with pride and anger issues!!!
If Jide went to the house and had access to the child but claimed he did not it's because his interest is not about the welfare of the child but seeing Chinasa.
This is a husband who spends time with other women, hence him contracting STDs monthly. Having custody of the child, and being cared for by a maid is absurd!! This will only allow him to extend his time from late nights to spending a few days or even more with these women. This would make him ignorant if the maid is abusing the child!!
These meetings going over the same issues have now reached a stalemate. The next step is for Chinasa to get legal counsel. Go to court and request sole custody of the child with visitation rights to the father. This will give the law the authority to get involved if Jide decides not to allow the mother access to and or flee with the child.
Jide is a narcissist who is bipolar. He is a womanizer, an abuser prone to inflict domestic violence, and a manipulator. He is obsessed with Chinasa because this gives him a sense of mastery and superiority. This is demonstrated in his disdain for her even having an opinion and speaking it, and also his inability to humbly apologize. At this point, Jide is void of loving anyone or anything else but his own ego. He needs deliverance to deal with the spiritual issue and therapy to deal with his fractured soul.
SHE ASKED A GOOD QUESTION..... IS HE REALLY LEARNED TO THINK A MOTHER IS ALIVE AND HAS CAPACITY AND HE THINK ANY COURT OF COMPETENT JURISDICTION WILL GRANT HIM CUSTODY OF A CHILD.... YOU WANNA GIVE A CHILD TO A NANNY WHEN THE CHILD'S MOTHER IS THERE...... WHAT KILLED DAVIDO'S CHILD IFEANYI..??
Ben tell Jide to relax a bit by separation and allow chinasa to go through healing process. She still loves Jide if he gets it right. The force attitude is an albatross for Jide
Settle this in court, Ben is not a judge. Send it to court. Guy u are a beast.
Ben! Tell Jide to stop calling you, you are not the family courts.
Let the courts finalize their divorce and the custody of the child.
# Jide is premature
She asked a question that needed answers. Is Jide not learned , how can he say he will leave his child with a maid when the mother is alive?
Let him go to the JUSTICE COURT - Judge Asolou. No law will allow a child under 18 not to stay with the mother. I believe this same applies to Nigeria too.
You better go to a court and have a legal settlement. All these meetings won't put an end to this situation and worse off, any decision you make that does not have legal backing will affect the innocent kid. Ire o
If you let him have a joint custody of the child, that very day is the last time you'll see your child again!
Jide isn't matured!
Don’t ever have any verbal agreement with him any agreement about the child must be made by the court of law stand your ground
Jide just continue to beg your wife you don't need to force her to accept your plea for now. The child cannot be in your house because he still to young even if you go to court, they could only allow you to pick the child for holidays in your house and after holidays you will be required to return him to the mother. Please you may ask your lawyer for counsel better ok. I wish you both well in whatever you may have decided.
Happy new year to all of you.
Ben, I respect you on one thing: your calmness. My only issue here is that please don't force that lady. Please respect people decisions and be at the side of caution always so that in the long run, nobody will blame you. Remember, the Internet doesn't forget!.
Ben this guy will not change I'm a man like him this is the truth, let them go to court i promise you is going to be after 18yrs b4 he can have access of the child. he can not take care of the child, he's still a baby
Mr humble indeed! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Devorce will worsen the matter. They can separate; overtime by God's grace they can come back. Jide should not push to have full custody of the child but should go and learn what marriage is all about.
My sister please don’t give him full custody of the child, let the court decide.
No sane society will leave the child with the father at this age while the mother is still alive to nurture the child of just 2 years 3 months. They should go to court and get the issue resolved. You can hire a maid but can't rent an apartment for your brother's
Ben, stop making a mountain out of a mole hill!
She hasn't said anything wrong by asking if he's not learned which obviously you and Jide aren't!
How would any thinking person think any maid would committedly take good care of another man's child especially in this wicked world of ours now?!
If he was learned, would he have been spewing gibberish?!
Do not give Jide the child. He needs to settle and calm his head before thinking of custody. Go to family court. Jide is violently tempered. Jide will not be able to raise the child. He has an overestimation of himself and is arrogant. His boyish mentality will not help him give the child the attention he deserves. Mr. Presenter, do you draw Jide's attention to what the online community thinks of him? And can you stop making this lady feel guilty for making her stance known? Jide is immature and arrogant in every ramification, so he needs time for introspection. As a matter of fact, he does not deserve to be with any woman for the next twenty-four months so that he can think back as well see a therapist for belligerence and braggadocious utterances. What a boy playing in men's field!
The family court is the best place to settle the child custody issue. Jude has not humbled himself and I do not believe he is honest with his apologies, there is still too much pride on his part! Certainly, the child cannot be better off with a maid because Jude can afford a maid; the child any time any day will be better off at his mother’s family home with all the support and love they have demonstrated will be available to him.
Young lady please give the child back to him immediately and he will soon find out the crazy thing he’s been saying.
Free yourself from this guy. He will not be able to care for the child. Once he gives the child to a relative then you can slam him in court for definite custody.
Characteristics of a good apology , u can’t wrong me and force me to forgive me , u can’t be raising your voice while apologizing. U have to show remorse and your apology must be sincere. Jide as a paralegal I will tell u with you with my full chest u can never have custody of that minor and u have no right to give the child to a nanny when the mother is still alive . If u give him that child, Jide will intentionally keep the child away from the lady .
Guy you are yo proud, you will never have a wife material, like this woman. This guy will never change.
Chinasa,please I beg you in God's name ,do not give in to the pressure of releasing your son to Jide. Go to family court and settle this issue once and for all.
I'm tired of seeing this beautiful Queen Suffering this kind of abuse!!!!,,,, This man is manipulative and he only wants the child to have a Form of control over My African beauty movements,,,, Don't be manipulated anymore Queen and do not give him full custody of your son cause he you'd use it as control over you,,,,Just let him visit!!!!God bless you and The family all the best love and respect My queen And Empress❤❤❤❤😊....
The man must understand that even if they go to court the court would give custody to the mother with asses to the father.further more the man does not look mentally stable to take care of the child.
Nne,
Don't allow ur child under another person's custody.
He will destroy that child 's future.
They should reach a compromise.
Jide can see the child once a week and the child can spend every two Weekend by him.
From all I've seen, this guy doesn't know what he's about to miss. He's not humble to admit his faults and change. For the fact that the lady is still attending these meetings means she's hoping he'll realise himself and really change for good but it's not working. He's impatient, hot tempered, too agressive and proud. The way I'm seeing it, the whole thing will end in divorce by the court.
Woman take it to Court, Ben you are not helping matters. Sent to court and the woman will take full responsibility.
Please let this lady go to court, this guy is trying to outsmart her. Go to family court and every agreement should be legal. Maturity is of the mind, this guy is still a boy
The court is there for you to settle this dispute, is as simple as that they will finalize everything
He knows that by collecting the boy he will have access to the mother lady don't release your son
So true
He can never have custody of a little boy of that age, take him to court already.
Don't leave that kid to this man pls.
She is definitely done with the marriage. Let them go to court and have the issue sorted out on how to co-parent! The child is still too young! The court has all the answers for now. It will help them set boundaries please. The way I see this Jide, he will keep frustrating Chinaza because she does not want him anymore!
You never miss the water till the well run dry, that fella is a bully Guyana 🇬🇾
Go to family court to arrange for shared parenting.Jede,their no way the law would allow full custody to his dad
The signs are always overlooked. This couple need serious councelling away from social media. Otherwise, they especially the wife will soon find out that Co parenting is just a nice word.
Sometimes we don't know the value of what we have until you loose that particular thing
Watching from South Africa 🇿🇦
Chinaza be wise. If you don’t make proper visitation arrangement with your ex husband, you will not see your child again once he take him home. Please I don’t want that heartbreak for you
Sister Chinaza, pls find a place in ur heart and forgive him pls, forgive him abeg ,
Dis man can't let his ego rest, d lady is always testing his patience but he's always failing d test dats y she's not ready to move back in with him
When he is triggered, notice how he jumps up and has to walk up to her to say his mind. The question is, why can't he remain sitted and talk? He will beat her again if she ever lives with him again. He has no other way of controlling her besides beating her. This should serve as a lesson to him. When he meets another innocent woman and beats her, she will also leave him. You want full custody of your child. Imagine his mouth. You claim to love your son and will have the mind to remove him from the custody of his mother just to be taken care of a maid when he is at work. That's the kind of love he has for his son. He wants things his way, whether it makes sense or not.
If he can't be okay with seeing his son by visiting him anytime he feels like, you two should go to family court. This man has a lot of learning to do. So many question marks on him.
Ben Cash, thanks for not pleading on his behalf..
Jide go and rest, you have no case here. This is child of 2 years plus, you can't handle him, take weekend as time goes on the child turns 6 years plus then you can have 70% custody
Getting a maid to take care of a child that the mother is alive?. It's a no no brother.
Please go to the court and document custody of the child
This girl is throwing tantrums to this guy
He has a narcist behavior along with calling the cards. Nooo way you should have custody of a 2.6 yrs. boy. There are certain milestone the child has to master. It seemes the husband needs counseling, along with separating the child from his mother. That is been vindictive.
He still have anger management
Are you not learned is not an insult but a question that needs a simple answer. Definitely 2.5 yr child needs an extra time for him Jide will not change because he misinterprets every word snd is ready to show violence
Take it to court please he will not be able to live with the baby but have him over the weekend
Go to the family court and let them decide.
Babe don't let him have the baby,he wants to used baby to get you back, please 🙏 don't go back for sake of your life,six feet ebuka kwa biko nwa biko nwannem.
It pains me to see Mr Jide’s marriage coming to an end. I have been a strong critic of JIDE but Mrs Chinaza show forgiveness as it hurts to see young couples suffer from marriage dislocation. If you guy chooses to part ways I think we are touched but will agree to your decisions. Happy New Year from New Year.
she should show forgiveness and go to her death by moving back to his house abi?especially for someone who hasnt promised to seek treatment for his anger issues? you do well. when she dies like your sister Osinachi, you will be amongst the men that will ask her why didnt she leave him...weldone.
He gets visitation and holidays. That's what is provided for by law
This lady asked you whether you're LEARNED and you were CHARGING at her, don't you know that you cannot have COMPLETE CUSTODY of the child until he's is 18 years of age and to decide for himself?
Chinaza go to court and sort out the custody issues with all the videos as evidence
This is the reason people should cherish what they have. When your partner complains of what you do that is not good, why not make amend? Jide you can't take good care of the child. And a maid cannot do it as good as the mother. You can be going to see him and when you are chanced you be with him.
What is wrong with this ABUSER! He only wants the child because he wants to see the woman. LEAVE. THE. WOMAN ALONE!
A child whose mother is still alive he is saying he will get a maid to look after. This man is really crazy and wicked.
If this man want to apologize he should keep doing it but as for the custody of the child this man can not do it. The law does not allow him to take the custody of the child.
mother has right to keep the child till certain age before releasing to his father
If you release your son for him, you will not see him again
When the mother of a child/children is alive and sane, the idea of a man having full custody of a child and entrusting him/her in the hands of a domestic help is not a welcome idea. Jide, leave your boy in the mother's custody and pick him up when you can afford adequate time with him. I pray your marriage is restored and you stop physically abusing your wife regardless of the provocation, please. Good luck!
They have to go to court for child custody, he looks like he will with hold the child from her.He has anger issues, the court might put restrictions on his child visitation.