It is mind blowing how many people are out there with this mental health issue. Men I don't even know will go on my PM and start out with flattery to me. Automatically I block. Asking me personal questions. That's how I became trapped for 7 years with one. I'm well educated now on narcissim. The game/play will not work anymore.
@@susanweaver6946 Susan, me too. I would rather be alone than go thru that again. I see my friends and that's it! Keep up the great work! HAPPY HOLIDAYS! ⚘️
When my son married after 6 months,the trap was set. She controlled my whole family, did not let us see our grandchildren or allow our son to visit. I went for therapy and told the therapist she was a narc. He shut me down and told me I can't say that. My son and his wife went to this therapist for 6 years so my son could learn to listen to what she wanted. Thousands spent for nothing. It ended 6 months and we are on the long road to recovery. You videos are our saving grace. Be blessed.
Connie, I so sorry, I am going through this myself. My son married a narcissist and now we are no contact. She has been disrespectful, bossy and even threatened me at one point. My son is just not the same person he was anymore. I disengaged because who treats other people like that. I wouldn't accept from a stranger, so I would not accept it from a family member. I saw a therapist on my own on how to handle this problem and he, not ever meeting her, would not say she was a narcissist, but did, gently, guide me to a place where I was comfortable putting them in my own life. I have good days and bad, I know this is hard for you.
You have to be careful with therapist. Some of them are narcissistic and psychopaths. There have been therapist put in prison who worked at the department of veteran affairs in California for sexually assaulting patients.
I don't know what kind of therapist you went to but it's well known among therapists now that narcissists are destructive people who can devastate an entire family.
@@edemontfort9482 you are correct, but a therapist cannot just pronounce anyone as anything when they have not met or tested that person. We kind of went around that and the outcome was the same as if she was a narcissist. RUN!!! Kidding, but total no contact. It is hard because I have no contact with my son either and I miss my son. All in all, no contact is the best for us both.
It’s unbelievable how he got in my mind and heart, our relationship was mostly about his issues and suddenly like a tornado he vanished leaving me damaged. I’m still trying to glue all the pieces and heal from the trauma.
He definitely did reconnaissance on me - I remember him warning me that I was easily found by googling with just my first name, as soon as I told him what I do for a living. And I remember thinking why is that an issue? Now I know. I can't/don't want to hide my online presence but what I know now is there needs to be a clear boundaries set when people contact me and to be careful with how open I am. And you're right about them searching us out, I told him I didn't want to date him and stopped talking with him online at first. He then waited a month and then tried again. Why would you do that when there was little hope I'd say yes the second time? He clearly saw I am an empath. I remember him saying once early on how he loved how I cared for things too, sigh. At least I know better now... Andrew it's so lovely that you're so smiley and happy now 🥰🥰🥰🙏
I learned so much about boundaries by googling it and seeing the images with the visual lists of the different boundary types and why set them!!! I feel stronger now with no regrets ditching people who are not good for me! Hugs 🤗
He is so right. It takes a special person to break down what a narcissist is and how they operate. I try to explain to people but I just find myself not being able to explain it well. I’ve been with my narcissist for 7 years and I tried to leave in the beginning after being disrespected many of times and he would apologize and beg for me back saying how we need to be together. He said I love you right away. He separated me from my friends and family and made me take pics of where I was to prove I was with friends/family. He wanted to see me everyday even though he knew I was pursuing school and needed alone time as an introvert. Just all my boundaries were crossed. 7 years later we have a 2 year old and I feel completely destroyed and now he goes to hang out with his friends and now he calls me the jealous controlling one but he literally took everything I had but it was too late when I realized. And because he knows I have no one or nothing he doesn’t have to control much because he has me right where he wants me. Complete mind fuck and you don’t even realize this is happening until you have nothing and you look back.
I was found on internet. He was nice in correspodence. Also insisted to meet and tried to be very amusing. First coffee turned into 3 hours. First month I had to go out every evening and to talk over mobile phone for hours. And second month nothing at all. Mother passed away...I have only one now, my sister and she lives far away. All narcissists were competitive and jelousy but I really didn't recognize that on time.
Yeah I met my narc online on a dating app. I was out of town having surgery so we talked for 6 weeks. When I got back she picked me up from the airport and it was off to the races from there. A few weeks later she asked me to move in. She had 2 kids, both girls, that lived with her. I always thought it was reckless of her to let me move in not really knowing me when she has 2 girls at home. Lucky for her in a good person but she didn't really know that. I could have been a serial killer for all she knew. In retrospect there were so many red flags that I should have been paying a attention to but hey I thought I was in love... Too bad that woman never existed. What a mind fuck
I just want to say "Andrew, Thank You with all my heart." You have brought about soo much change in my life. From all of us introverts out here who, like myself never comment on videos we sit in the silence with great appreciation. You are truly a blessing. I just can't find the right words to show you how grateful I am. Namaste
Hello DF101ABN, yeah i posted a little more compared to my usual that i don't comment often. I found that myself being introvert it was still good to post comment and it is kind of removing weigh on the shoulders. I understand what you are saying because i feel the same.
I Google what makes a person scream and holler when they don't hear what they want to hear. Boom thank you so much. I had no idea this was a thing. Everything makes sense now. I already started saying NO. He is not happy. Thank you so much for the knowledge.
Yes i know andrew,and meny are trying too find out a bout,and saying grammer is not,good has long has i can spell,that is the main thing,and i am not going eny were haha,if only knew,i only found out a bout the narissist a few year's a go i have had them a round me most off my life,i wish i knew a bout the narissist growing up,jealous off my look"s and figure just sad,and some one i was round when a teen i had a gut feeling a bout them,but thought know i am wrong,but i was right,neaver thought i better than eny one,and trying too find out my age sad, god bless you,
Very much love the background Andrew. Looks so lovely and warm and calming. I can see you are enjoying your new surroundings …it is so good to see you content 🙌🙌🙂🙏
Hello Jennifer, It is just marvellous to see Andrew looking so good. I’m sure it’s been a great move. I’m doing well Jennifer.....was very concerned over my granddaughter’s health.....but thank the Lord all is well. Have a wonderful weekend 🙌💕🤗🤗
I just saw the narc that really messed me up both spiritually and financially, I have seen her around (we live in a small town) and when I called out to say hi she'd stare right through me and ignored me. This time we both saw each other at the same time. I turned around and walked the other way. I owe her nothing, and I want nothing from her. It feels right.
The night I met the narcissist he asked me to write down my name, phone number and address. I thought how odd, I had never been asked for my address before. I never gave him it luckily, but I realised afterwards he wanted to stalk, to see what sort of house I had so he could move in with me! Luckily that never happened but it was a huge red flag I wasn’t aware of at the time, he found out my road and tried to look up my house on Google maps, he looked for my car on the drive. He actually told me this,I did think it very strange behaviour at the time, now I know why. Now if anyone asks for my address I’m running for the hills.
I was adopted into a narcissistic family with narcissistic parents and grandparents when I was 5 years old. I went no contact with my parents about 7 years ago. I didn't know what narcissism was until I was in my mid 30's. I'm just thankful I didn't find out any later and was able to leave that situation and enjoy my life.
I am still confused about a narcissist v. an abuser v. a sociopath. Feels to me that a narcissist is a three for the price of one. If you left the trio chances are by the time you did you were terrified, they had control of your movements and finances and probably your friends and family. It can take months of planning ever so slowly so as not to set off their (change of e) motion detector. Sometimes I am sad because I think when I meet the right person that says the right things my instinct will be to run. Trusting again is hard to do. However, experience be damned, we deserve love. The best advice for me from this video is take your time. Love is evolution, not an ultimatum. My love and prayers to everyone here who has been through and is going through this. ❤️
After thinking about this subject last night, I deleted my other comment. I realized that I don't have to change my qualities of being open, trusting and honest. What I get to do is discern who is worthy of these qualities. Thank you for the knowledge and what to look out for. Not everyone deserves us and that's ok because we are enough and we are deserving of love and respect and that is the truth about us! ❤️
I have really learned, after the narc relationship, to trust my gut feelings. I take it slow and let the truth reveal itself. Last week, I had that experience with a person who came on pretty strong, only to find out he's married to his "soulmate". I feel sorry for her.
Wishing you an abundance of love and happiness in your new adventure Andrew. You have helped so many while processing your own pain. It’s time for a joyful life again 🌻
Yep, I encountered someone who used me for my connections… they became friends… or lovers… who knows with those two 🙄 oh well 🤷♀️ if they’re both gonna turn around and do THAT to me, I don’t need “friends” who are willing to betray me and just use me for who I know. I’m not that kind of person, and I don’t want to KNOW that kind of person. EXCELLENT video, Andrew! Just a reminder to go slow and observe the situation before getting too involved 😁👍 Hope you’re enjoying your new home, and starting to meet new people! Love you, handsome! Get out there and do what makes YOU happy!!! XOXOXO 😘💋🥰🌹😍🙌💪😁👏🌞✌️🫂😉🤩😎🥳🤗🫠🫶🤠❤️💜❤️💜 My friends, I hope you all are enjoying your Friday… don’t do anything I wouldn’t do tonight 😛😛😛 Love y’all SO MUCH! Have fun!!! 😁🙌🌞🫶✌️🤗❤️💜
I just wanted to add this: I had a few phones for a little while, not for "supply," but to try to protect myself from a few troubled, potentially dangerous, people in my life who kept hacking my electronics. I can only imagine them explaining this as my being a narc and needing so much supply. I happen to be of the Christian faith, and it is people like this who have helped me better understand what it truly means to forgive, but - most importantly - these people, who have meant harm, have shown me how much God has protected me from the damage they intended to inflict. Beautiful setting, Andrew. Happy New Life!
So very true about the work related narcissist. It doesn't have to be the boss oftentimes it's a coworker. Thank you for the concrete Information that hopefully enables me in the future to avoid the narcissist 's snares.
So creepy...I remember the first date we had. He asked me to tell him about my 'dark side'. (wth)? I felt completely jarred. I don't have a dark side. Then he asked me to tell him about every horrible thing that's ever happened to me...These people are SICK.
I've written before how my narc/wife admitted to targeting me, researching me, manipulating me, etc. Now that over the last two years I have estranged myself from her as much as possible, she is literally going after our adult kids, doing all the same things to them. It is upsetting and profoundly sad at the same time.
Absolutely true, we are like grocery store items that they shop for, its actually that inhumane. We are simply replaced, once we have expired or when something new comes along.
Andrew, right you are - I had NOTHING left to give. Exhausted. "No contact" is essential, from my experience. He took my "credentials" as if they were his own. But now I am free. Thank you for the support. Understanding has been key. 🌅🙏
Andrew amazing how you description about narcissistic people watching you like a hog and used you then discard you once they are done with your service!! It truly happened to me a few years ago I met someone near where I lived have known him and his wife 20 yrs then she passed multiple illnesses! I was an empath and neighborly I would gave him food just to be kind and I didn’t know he also had lots of health issues ! He asked me if I could help him offering me a job I didn’t need and I accepted very little money he was broke I didn’t care I didn’t need the money! I ended up getting more involved with his family grown kids who ignored him and their spouses just the same a bunch of narcissistic idiots! I felt very sorry he was so grateful for my help and time went on he fell romantically in love with me but I wasn’t available ! He was so happy and proud of me the way I looked and dressed and I blended with his siblings easily I have friendly and open personality! Time went on his health issues started to escalate and I spent so much time in ER and hospital and the 5th year he passed of cardiac arrest in the restaurant in front of me I took him out to dinner as my Christmas gift and that day I never saw him happier all his friends he talked to that day said the same! I can write a novel about my life and after the big loss of my heart I cared deeply for him and he was a true gentleman his kids cut me off not even a hi let alone thank you note or text! I never heard from them since then on it hurt me and I felt so sad confused etc and I kept on asking myself why what was wrong???? Took me a few years to get the answer I was being used by his narcissistic grown kids so they didn’t have the responsibility and they were very jealous of me and my performance! Andrew you helped me so much to get over it and I let go and let karma takes care of them, Amen 🙏 ❤
It amazing to me how many people throughout life that I have given everything to them. Bosses, friends, romance and even my child. Living my best life and blocked them all. Andrew thank you for all you do for us. We love you. Namaste 🙏❤️
Andrew, this is all so fascinating to me. I have learned a ton from you! After leaving my girlfriend for the third and final time, I began to search, how to handle toxic people. I'm so glad that as I was scrolling somewhere, you came up. I don't remember the title of the first video I watched, since then I have watched and listened to video after video. I'm doing the work, I've dived in deep and have discovered things about myself, my ex- girlfriend, my ex- wife, my up bringing, and what I can do to protect myself and heal. I have been kind to myself during this process because digging down deep inside reveals, what I didn't know then, but realize now. Sometimes it's not pretty, I've learned to be gentle and forgiving of myself and courageous enough to do personal introspection. It's been very positive and I appreciate the many ways you have helped me to put the pieces of the puzzel together. In fact this community has been a source of strength, encouragement and relief, because I know... I'm not alone. Much love ❤
This one hit home Andrew. When I first met the narcissist it was hello and goodbye, then the next time he was more attentive and spoke more to me. Then he asked for my number, I gave it to him he told me he was attracted to me and then he asked to come over and spend time with me. All this happened in about 3 weeks. Then he was moving in . It was fast now after watching these videos and learning, and healing my heart and soul I see how the warning signs were there. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
Carlos, I knew my last husband for a year. He was no where in my religion at all. It threw me for a loop. It's hard to meet others, I have no huge bank role as an attraction. It's better this way. My second anniversary would have been yesterday. I never missed the feeling of the union because divorce saved me from the Narcissist! So thankful he did not meet my family and friends. So my social group was untouched and I was able to heal so well. I can smell NARC over the phone and ended a new friendship recently cause they were way below my mental level. I feel that saved me to cross-check in my mind what we have learned from Andrew! Wishing you many good friends and joy in your future, Carlos. You deserve to have good things coming your way. We get the best when we don't settle for the "next thing" and wait for the "Best thing" to happen in our lives. Love and Warm Hugs to Andrew and All in the Family Tribe ♥.
Thank you for the reminder of how very fortunate we are. Especially for knowledge and a beautifully independent mind. I love the background! Thank you as always. Namaste 🙏🏼♥️
Was discarded by a covert narcissist. This shit will ruin your life if you let it. I love this channel. It’s helping me put pieces together. Only so much you can piece together on your own and empowers me to not be a victim and move on stronger. I sent him a book on covert narcissism from Amazon as a final goodbye. I figured him out and it feels good to know that I won just knowing the facts.
Andrew, your advice keeps me moving forward, especially during difficult days. The horrendous, brutal treatment a narc dishes out leaves a trail of destruction within that takes a lot of inner work to heal. A mammoth task.Thank you for being there tor us all on your platform. God Bless and stay safe.🙏🙏🙏💛
Hi Andrew, yes, I love the background I think it looks like the trees in Maryland. Are you sure that you are not an artist like me because you have the eye to select beautiful sites. Just wondering. Thank you for the video. Just wanna say that a lot of what you said resonates with me. Because all my childhood I was surrounded by toxic people to start with my mother. And after that in many workplaces. And of course, my ex narc husband. When you mentioned jumping through hoops, I started laughing because I remember once I said to him and I quote, " if you need someone to jump through hoops for you, hire a monkey". I can assure you that he did not laugh at all but I did. Anyway Narcs don't laugh much. I never saw my mother laughing out loud. Never. Isn't that terrible. I am like my father, thank God I made it a point to have laughter in my life everyday. I am going back to work now. Have a beautiful day Andrew. I love you and you make me smile and laugh. You are funny. 😏💜💯🫶
One of your most powerful videos, 100% accurate. Mine was a coworker that had years to observe me before he made his romantic move. He had all the intel on me before we ever exchanged a non- work related sentence.
That's a scary thing but I know it's true. My family always asked me for something every time they saw me. It could be days weeks or years . I hadn't heard or seen from any of them and they still would ask me for money; cigarettes; gas you name it they were going to ask for it. Not to mention my time. They always would tell me stories about their horrible life as if it were my fault and I should be interested. My deceased narcissist husband was the same way. I didn't realize because my thinking was already distorted because of my family. I'm so grateful they are not anywhere close to me anymore! You've got to be strong to survive this torture.
Those who have not experienced the narcissist and their abuse will often say “why are you / did you attract this type of person / people to yourself…”Narcissists are conniving, strategic, patient, cunning master manipulators, opportunists who prey on everyone they meet, in one way or another.
That did happen to me ,he did ask to marry me very quick ,but now I realise all about him he faked everything ,all you said did happen to me .i finely left him but I had no idee he was a nark ,until I was already divorced i found out a few years later ,He past away but I still get flash backs about how nasty he became .Thank you Andrew
Wow, you just described how I had met my narc estranged husband. I was not at all looking for any kind of relationship. He approached me at worship service and asked me so many questions. I knew something seemed different and rather off about him, not knowing what in the world it was. SMH, had met in October and was married in December, New Year's Eve. 5 years and 1 child later, getting divorced.
Hey everybody 🖐🏽Blessings 💯 thanks Andrew, right on. I ve learned too let mum be the word because of my out going personality. Sometimes the less someone knows about you the better you are, especially people you don't know. Beware and keep those boundaries in place ❤️✌🏾🙏🏽
Hello Andrew Great Video I can't stand mean people or troublemakers And I'm full aware that not everyone is my friend, my entire life I've had an unusual amount of jealousy more so than kindness I will keep looking for nice people I shy away from pushy or intrusive people. The only person in my life I trusted was my mom she's not with me anymore 💔 Great to see you namaste
Yes, he did say that I was a "nice person" and I still am but he pushed too far and I refused to be a doormat and controlled...and the discard really pushed my witch button, lol. Nothing left to give is an understatement. His mistake is the discard stage wasn't timed right and even though I had nothing to give, these days you can actually go below zero in your finance. That's right, I financed my fight. Discard me after I gave all....how dare he! Oh...welcome to the SE. I'm in VA so I recognize the plant life, tall pines, green grass, etc. :)
I had no idea about narcissism. I was so taken by his charm and he was the first man who had paid any amount of attention to me after my divorce. His charm continued for a long time until I started noticing things happening that made no sense to me and I asked him about it and he’d get mad and accuse me of overthinking and I was so confused and gaslighted I went on medication. I had to let him go; if I held on I probably wouldn’t be here (as Andrew mentioned about himself). I’m healing, I blocked him and kept him out of my boundary, journaling, in therapy and have a large group of supported people around me. His current supply is my former friend and current neighbor and a recent widow. I pray she opens her eyes on and get out.
Gratitude to you! Andrew, you voiced two points from my life here, : my words to "the disordered" one when boundaries are pressed are "this is my LIFE, and I know how I want to live". My fault for not expressing that sooner, but, as my Father once told me, "you are honest to the point of your own detriment." He was Not encouraging deception or omissions, but that I must be fair to myself. And, keep your hair, it's pretty, Sir.
I’m still stuck in the damage of it all. But have been making progress. I keep ruminating over how it happened…so fast. But the more I learn about the Narcs process of capturing and killing the empath, I’m positive he was hunting me down long before he actually got to me. And the worst part is, I KNEW something was off the entire time but I didn’t know why. And you know, when you’re raised by narcs, you don’t have the tools to protect yourself. So in hindsight, I consider everything that’s happened, a massive awakening, and an opportunity to heal and never let it happen again. Which is a blessing. Now I know to TRUST my gut. If someone feels off it’s because they are. But if you don’t know what a narc is it’s hard to put your finger on why they feel off. Knowledge is power. Thanks again Andrew ❤
Andrew your looking fabulous! I’m glad that your still rolling those videos. Keep them coming! You are a big part of my life. Your videos encouraged me to get through my difficult times. Your always right on narcissism. We know how the narcissist thinks. They are investigators. All they want to do is to get as much information about us. Then they want to destroy-us, but they can’t. I have encountered narcissist in my new job, so I don’t tell them things about me. Take care! 🙏 Thinking about you daily! LOVE ❤️ THAT HAIR! Don’t you dare touch-it. It’s beautiful! The narcissist once mentioned to me that he was going to cut my hair while I would sleep. How crazy is this! The narcissist that I used to live with was jealous of me. Now I know this.
Finding your channel (like no other) has given me the acknowledgement of what I've lived through my entire life. TU so much for sharing your experiences. I no longer feel alone. Namaste...
The worst part is, the difficulty in believing in the kindness of others anymore. Everyone new is suspect. Speaking and reaching out is scary. Every kindness toward me is questioned, every word I speak or write I examine for holes a narc can climb through; mostly I quit talking to people and delete my writing. Refusing to be in pictures but required for work at times. Trying to share work to survive but remove myself from my work to also, survive. The head work to manage is daily. Thanks for listening. Hitting send, though, fearful of it, always. ❤️☀️🙏
Andrew, I’ve been on this journey for about 7 years now. I’ve been married for 32 years, and it wasn’t until a friend of mine told me she was divorcing her narc husband, that the word become known to me. After meeting her I researched it and found that I totally related to being in a narcissistic relationships. My whole world changed and the healing journey began. Your videos are perhaps some of the BEST videos I’ve yet to experience here on TH-cam. 🙏
Andrew it's so good to watch you when you just give ot your all you seem like your back and worh 🔥 fire. We need you your what we have going for us. Welcome 🙏 home my friend
Great video!! The narcs ask a lot of questions in the beginning. You feel uncomfortable with it, but you go along with the "100 Question Interview" because it comes across as personal interest in you. But, you discover it was a collection of data to use against you later...discovery sessions to find your weaknesses!! Stay blessed and vigilant!!🙏🏽🙏🏽
It is good that you are helping our fellow empathic people to sniff out the bad seeds. Believe me when i say this: I've been in that role, as the person taken advantage of many times throughout my young life. After the last relationship ended, i spent many years meditating and consumed by thoughts, felt into a deep depression over it. I saw the depression period as a gift not a bad thing, cause it made me reflect on the signals i radiate from my own personal self and out in the world. This has resulted in the realization that it is OKAY, to put yourself first in any given situation, if i am not 100% okay myself then how should i expect to help anyone else. It's not selfish to put yourself first and others 2nd or 3rd, it's just you looking out for your own skin. On the other hand i have also self taught myself to spot those with ill intentions before they corrupt my life. When you tell a narcissist to back off in a blunt and on point manner, the narcissist will lash out at you and show his or her true colors right before your eyes.
The one particular Puddle did immense research ( and apparently continues to do so through mutual sources). She tried in the early 90's and in 2015. She was an individual from a time long ago ( attended the same school albeit in different grades). Was married & still is. Honestly she was not the type one was seeking nor sought. But she showed determination that at a distance was admirable ( Puddles tend to be relentless in their quest). The relationship was not one of note. Save for the various discussions that yielded a multitude of lessons learnt in life. Many required for the growth today.
Loving the background!!! Hope that beautiful sunshine is filling up your cup more and more ☀️ Well, another fabulous video. I have to say these narcs did serious homework on me. I had two major ones come in my life simultaneously. Found out later they both researched. One boss the other One who I married. And they both were “huggers” and faked empathy and preached on love. I mean literally preached on love in the workplace. In everything. I will never forget the day they met each other and I heard the same thing from each of them behind the other’s back... “I know about guys like that” and they sure did. Different covers same life sucking energy drains. Can’t please both at the same time now can you. And when we use the Almighty as our cover dear narcissists…I do wonder how that will end up in the end 🤷♀️ Anyhow, super thankful every day for education and sharing the real NON fake love forward. God bless you and all. You’re glowing Andrew
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 as the white 🐑 growing up (that’s a new concept for me Andrew thank you) I was not given a choice who to give hugs to and let’s just say I limit my hugs to my two female mentors, my kids, my best friend (and safe people as my mentor says “test them”) and kids and animals now. While I work through all the stuff I have to work on 😉 and I AM working on ME. 🤗 hugs to survivors and thrivers are good I believe I think we’ve all had enough BS and games. I’m practicing loving myself Martha. How are you?
I'm understanding more now. I understand more that...... 'The New Supply doesn't know that they're the new Supply'...... Thank you Andrew for everything that you have helped me understand what I have been going through for so many years. There are people who are Dream Smasher's ( Narcs ) watch out.... Your great this is great! 😅 I will learn this and as I do I will teach my children to be true to thereself
Many years after I ended a primary relationship with a narcissist, my replacement contacted me. She had been a mutual friend of my partner and me before the breakup. I knew they had gotten together, but never saw either one again. She said she wanted to apologize for having such bad thoughts about me for years. She said she had at first believed I must have been the worst person in the world based on what the narcissist told her. Then she went through the cycle herself. She needed some validation of all the confusion she was in. This was before channels like this one. One very interesting thing she told me. One night, the narcissist got really high and confided that there was no “them.” That they mirrored other people and became what they thought the other person needed and wanted. I don’t think it’s common for a narcissist to disclose or even be aware of something like that. But I think it’s true for all narcissists: that they are empty shells that take on a shape built on on the love and devotion and admiration of their victims, use it all up, throw the person away like empty garbage, and go out searching for the new supply, just as you say, Andrew. I hope people can learn some truth from this. It’s hard to believe there is no “them” in a narcissist, just a calculated, cold, endless hunger. It is sad to sometimes discern the remnants of a true human being with one of them, but they are like vampires and you can’t fix them by giving them all your life force.
Yep.The Narc moved things along at warp speed.There really shouldn't be such an unnatural rush to establish a bond at the outset of any relationship.Big Red Flag. 👍 Loving that beautiful setting your in. ❤️.no wonder your looking content.good for the soul.🪴🌱🌿🌺😊
Andrew is fantastic to see you in your happy place you seem elated. Your wisdom and your words and your dedication I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it and I would helps me get through every day. It’s funny but sometimes I feel like you’re talking directly to me. Much love thank you
It is mind blowing how many people are out there with this mental health issue. Men I don't even know will go on my PM and start out with flattery to me. Automatically I block. Asking me personal questions. That's how I became trapped for 7 years with one. I'm well educated now on narcissim. The game/play will not work anymore.
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Susan, I totally agree with you. So many of those MONSTERS seeking out beautiful people. Best wishes to you. ⚘️
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Thank you so much. I'm not wanting to date anyone right now. I'm truly enjoying just being me. 🤗
@@susanweaver6946 Susan, me too. I would rather be alone than go thru that again. I see my friends and that's it! Keep up the great work! HAPPY HOLIDAYS! ⚘️
Exactly!!
So true, they start off acting like they want to know you, and end up not wanting to know you at all! It's horribly hurtful.
It is such a horrible notion of someone searching you out to ruin your life to satisfy there own ! Thank God I'm out !! 🙏🙌💪💯
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I still find it hard to believe that people are like this and are abundant on this planet called Earth!
When my son married after 6 months,the trap was set. She controlled my whole family, did not let us see our grandchildren or allow our son to visit. I went for therapy and told the therapist she was a narc. He shut me down and told me I can't say that. My son and his wife went to this therapist for 6 years so my son could learn to listen to what she wanted. Thousands spent for nothing. It ended 6 months and we are on the long road to recovery. You videos are our saving grace. Be blessed.
Connie, I so sorry, I am going through this myself. My son married a narcissist and now we are no contact. She has been disrespectful, bossy and even threatened me at one point. My son is just not the same person he was anymore. I disengaged because who treats other people like that. I wouldn't accept from a stranger, so I would not accept it from a family member. I saw a therapist on my own on how to handle this problem and he, not ever meeting her, would not say she was a narcissist, but did, gently, guide me to a place where I was comfortable putting them in my own life. I have good days and bad, I know this is hard for you.
You have to be careful with therapist. Some of them are narcissistic and psychopaths. There have been therapist put in prison who worked at the department of veteran affairs in California for sexually assaulting patients.
I don't know what kind of therapist you went to but it's well known among therapists now that narcissists are destructive people who can devastate an entire family.
@@edemontfort9482 you are correct, but a therapist cannot just pronounce anyone as anything when they have not met or tested that person. We kind of went around that and the outcome was the same as if she was a narcissist. RUN!!! Kidding, but total no contact. It is hard because I have no contact with my son either and I miss my son. All in all, no contact is the best for us both.
It’s unbelievable how he got in my mind and heart, our relationship was mostly about his issues and suddenly like a tornado he vanished leaving me damaged. I’m still trying to glue all the pieces and heal from the trauma.
You’re spot on. They punish you because of their pathological envy.
My neighbors are literally outside as soon as i go outside. Funny part is , i am really rude when they engage but they still come back
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So glad you landed somewhere safe and green that suits you, Andrew!❤🎉
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North Carolina?
I love you Andrew without you I would still be being used by the narc I am forever grateful 🙏🏽
THANK YOU ANDREW!!! I pray our Heavenly Father continues to bless you. 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏💞
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He definitely did reconnaissance on me - I remember him warning me that I was easily found by googling with just my first name, as soon as I told him what I do for a living. And I remember thinking why is that an issue? Now I know. I can't/don't want to hide my online presence but what I know now is there needs to be a clear boundaries set when people contact me and to be careful with how open I am.
And you're right about them searching us out, I told him I didn't want to date him and stopped talking with him online at first. He then waited a month and then tried again. Why would you do that when there was little hope I'd say yes the second time? He clearly saw I am an empath. I remember him saying once early on how he loved how I cared for things too, sigh. At least I know better now...
Andrew it's so lovely that you're so smiley and happy now 🥰🥰🥰🙏
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I learned so much about boundaries by googling it and seeing the images with the visual lists of the different boundary types and why set them!!! I feel stronger now with no regrets ditching people who are not good for me! Hugs 🤗
I FELT LIKE A FOOL after I found out about him. I never knew what a narcissist was. All I can say is, good luck to you always. ⚘️
Remember that film"Something about Mary?" All the men after her were willing to lie and cheat to get to her. Nothing was beneath them!
He is so right. It takes a special person to break down what a narcissist is and how they operate. I try to explain to people but I just find myself not being able to explain it well. I’ve been with my narcissist for 7 years and I tried to leave in the beginning after being disrespected many of times and he would apologize and beg for me back saying how we need to be together. He said I love you right away. He separated me from my friends and family and made me take pics of where I was to prove I was with friends/family. He wanted to see me everyday even though he knew I was pursuing school and needed alone time as an introvert. Just all my boundaries were crossed. 7 years later we have a 2 year old and I feel completely destroyed and now he goes to hang out with his friends and now he calls me the jealous controlling one but he literally took everything I had but it was too late when I realized. And because he knows I have no one or nothing he doesn’t have to control much because he has me right where he wants me. Complete mind fuck and you don’t even realize this is happening until you have nothing and you look back.
Got to get used to your new schedule, that morning sunlight is so good for endorphins
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I was found on internet. He was nice in correspodence. Also insisted to meet and tried to be very amusing. First coffee turned into 3 hours. First month I had to go out every evening and to talk over mobile phone for hours. And second month nothing at all. Mother passed away...I have only one now, my sister and she lives far away. All narcissists were competitive and jelousy but I really didn't recognize that on time.
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Yeah I met my narc online on a dating app. I was out of town having surgery so we talked for 6 weeks. When I got back she picked me up from the airport and it was off to the races from there. A few weeks later she asked me to move in. She had 2 kids, both girls, that lived with her. I always thought it was reckless of her to let me move in not really knowing me when she has 2 girls at home. Lucky for her in a good person but she didn't really know that. I could have been a serial killer for all she knew. In retrospect there were so many red flags that I should have been paying a attention to but hey I thought I was in love... Too bad that woman never existed. What a mind fuck
I just want to say "Andrew, Thank You with all my heart." You have brought about soo much change in my life. From all of us introverts out here who, like myself never comment on videos we sit in the silence with great appreciation. You are truly a blessing. I just can't find the right words to show you how grateful I am. Namaste
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Hello DF101ABN, yeah i posted a little more compared to my usual that i don't comment often. I found that myself being introvert it was still good to post comment and it is kind of removing weigh on the shoulders. I understand what you are saying because i feel the same.
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Thank you for understanding. That was my first comment ever. I just felt I needed to try to express my gratitude.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Not anymore. Thank you.
Good words, well put. You are a blessing too.
I Google what makes a person scream and holler when they don't hear what they want to hear. Boom thank you so much. I had no idea this was a thing. Everything makes sense now. I already started saying NO. He is not happy. Thank you so much for the knowledge.
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Wise words , learn from my mistakes ! And I have made many sadly . Thank you ,another truly honest lesson .
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Yes i know andrew,and meny are trying too find out a bout,and saying grammer is not,good has long has i can spell,that is the main thing,and i am not going eny were haha,if only knew,i only found out a bout the narissist a few year's a go i have had them a round me most off my life,i wish i knew a bout the narissist growing up,jealous off my look"s and figure just sad,and some one i was round when a teen i had a gut feeling a bout them,but thought know i am wrong,but i was right,neaver thought i better than eny one,and trying too find out my age sad, god bless you,
Very much love the background Andrew. Looks so lovely and warm and calming. I can see you are enjoying your new surroundings …it is so good to see you content 🙌🙌🙂🙏
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I agree!!! It’s WONDERFUL to see Andrew happy!!! How are _you_ doing, Margaret? ☺️🥰🤗💪😁❤️💜
Hello Jennifer,
It is just marvellous to see Andrew looking so good. I’m sure it’s been a great move.
I’m doing well Jennifer.....was very concerned over my granddaughter’s health.....but thank the Lord all is well.
Have a wonderful weekend 🙌💕🤗🤗
@@margaretrussell7202 you too! Glad your granddaughter is doing better! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I just saw the narc that really messed me up both spiritually and financially, I have seen her around (we live in a small town) and when I called out to say hi she'd stare right through me and ignored me.
This time we both saw each other at the same time. I turned around and walked the other way. I owe her nothing, and I want nothing from her. It feels right.
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The night I met the narcissist he asked me to write down my name, phone number and address. I thought how odd, I had never been asked for my address before. I never gave him it luckily, but I realised afterwards he wanted to stalk, to see what sort of house I had so he could move in with me! Luckily that never happened but it was a huge red flag I wasn’t aware of at the time, he found out my road and tried to look up my house on Google maps, he looked for my car on the drive. He actually told me this,I did think it very strange behaviour at the time, now I know why. Now if anyone asks for my address I’m running for the hills.
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I read that noone falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs somewhere to live!
@@lgfisher8463 good point, I will remember that, he told me he loved me after two weeks! I was not stupid enough to let him move in thankfully.
I was adopted into a narcissistic family with narcissistic parents and grandparents when I was 5 years old. I went no contact with my parents about 7 years ago. I didn't know what narcissism was until I was in my mid 30's. I'm just thankful I didn't find out any later and was able to leave that situation and enjoy my life.
I do have that feeling that he wants to drain my resources for eternity. Thank you for this video
He summed you up in order to devour you for his benifits.
I am still confused about a narcissist v. an abuser v. a sociopath. Feels to me that a narcissist is a three for the price of one. If you left the trio chances are by the time you did you were terrified, they had control of your movements and finances and probably your friends and family. It can take months of planning ever so slowly so as not to set off their (change of e) motion detector. Sometimes I am sad because I think when I meet the right person that says the right things my instinct will be to run. Trusting again is hard to do. However, experience be damned, we deserve love. The best advice for me from this video is take your time. Love is evolution, not an ultimatum. My love and prayers to everyone here who has been through and is going through this. ❤️
After thinking about this subject last night, I deleted my other comment. I realized that I don't have to change my qualities of being open, trusting and honest. What I get to do is discern who is worthy of these qualities. Thank you for the knowledge and what to look out for. Not everyone deserves us and that's ok because we are enough and we are deserving of love and respect and that is the truth about us! ❤️
I have really learned, after the narc relationship, to trust my gut feelings. I take it slow and let the truth reveal itself. Last week, I had that experience with a person who came on pretty strong, only to find out he's married to his "soulmate". I feel sorry for her.
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Wishing you an abundance of love and happiness in your new adventure Andrew. You have helped so many while processing your own pain. It’s time for a joyful life again 🌻
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Yep, I encountered someone who used me for my connections… they became friends… or lovers… who knows with those two 🙄 oh well 🤷♀️ if they’re both gonna turn around and do THAT to me, I don’t need “friends” who are willing to betray me and just use me for who I know. I’m not that kind of person, and I don’t want to KNOW that kind of person.
EXCELLENT video, Andrew! Just a reminder to go slow and observe the situation before getting too involved 😁👍
Hope you’re enjoying your new home, and starting to meet new people! Love you, handsome! Get out there and do what makes YOU happy!!! XOXOXO 😘💋🥰🌹😍🙌💪😁👏🌞✌️🫂😉🤩😎🥳🤗🫠🫶🤠❤️💜❤️💜
My friends, I hope you all are enjoying your Friday… don’t do anything I wouldn’t do tonight 😛😛😛 Love y’all SO MUCH! Have fun!!! 😁🙌🌞🫶✌️🤗❤️💜
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Love you too, Chelsea and Martha!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
You're a cutie pie!
@@emilywilson7308 haha, thanks, Emily 🙏😊
I just wanted to add this: I had a few phones for a little while, not for "supply," but to try to protect myself from a few troubled, potentially dangerous, people in my life who kept hacking my electronics. I can only imagine them explaining this as my being a narc and needing so much supply. I happen to be of the Christian faith, and it is people like this who have helped me better understand what it truly means to forgive, but - most importantly - these people, who have meant harm, have shown me how much God has protected me from the damage they intended to inflict.
Beautiful setting, Andrew. Happy New Life!
So very true about the work related narcissist. It doesn't have to be the boss oftentimes it's a coworker. Thank you for the concrete Information that hopefully enables me in the future to avoid the narcissist 's snares.
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So creepy...I remember the first date we had. He asked me to tell him about my 'dark side'. (wth)? I felt completely jarred. I don't have a dark side. Then he asked me to tell him about every horrible thing that's ever happened to me...These people are SICK.
"They want to punish you!"! I didn't realize that!👍
KEEP MOVING FORWARD ANDREW! SOOO HAPPY for you!!💜
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I've written before how my narc/wife admitted to targeting me, researching me, manipulating me, etc. Now that over the last two years I have estranged myself from her as much as possible, she is literally going after our adult kids, doing all the same things to them. It is upsetting and profoundly sad at the same time.
Yes they seek out empaths . It’s all about them . They never ask about you . I seem to be a magnet for them . Thanks Andrew . Namaste ☮️
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Hi Mandy..they talk about themselves..NON STOP! Good luck to you always.⚘️
Absolutely true, we are like grocery store items that they shop for, its actually that inhumane. We are simply replaced, once we have expired or when something new comes along.
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Andrew, right you are - I had NOTHING left to give. Exhausted. "No contact" is essential, from my experience. He took my "credentials" as if they were his own. But now I am free. Thank you for the support. Understanding has been key. 🌅🙏
JW..I was totally burned out. Was even in the Hospital. I left him after 5 years. Thank God I found Andrew. Good luck to you always.⚘️
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@@jannlewandowski5540 You are a survivor, Jann. Be good to yourself. Best to you!
Andrew amazing how you description about narcissistic people watching you like a hog and used you then discard you once they are done with your service!! It truly happened to me a few years ago I met someone near where I lived have known him and his wife 20 yrs then she passed multiple illnesses! I was an empath and neighborly I would gave him food just to be kind and I didn’t know he also had lots of health issues ! He asked me if I could help him offering me a job I didn’t need and I accepted very little money he was broke I didn’t care I didn’t need the money! I ended up getting more involved with his family grown kids who ignored him and their spouses just the same a bunch of narcissistic idiots! I felt very sorry he was so grateful for my help and time went on he fell romantically in love with me but I wasn’t available ! He was so happy and proud of me the way I looked and dressed and I blended with his siblings easily I have friendly and open personality! Time went on his health issues started to escalate and I spent so much time in ER and hospital and the 5th year he passed of cardiac arrest in the restaurant in front of me I took him out to dinner as my Christmas gift and that day I never saw him happier all his friends he talked to that day said the same! I can write a novel about my life and after the big loss of my heart I cared deeply for him and he was a true gentleman his kids cut me off not even a hi let alone thank you note or text! I never heard from them since then on it hurt me and I felt so sad confused etc and I kept on asking myself why what was wrong???? Took me a few years to get the answer I was being used by his narcissistic grown kids so they didn’t have the responsibility and they were very jealous of me and my performance! Andrew you helped me so much to get over it and I let go and let karma takes care of them, Amen 🙏 ❤
Wow. This video gives me hindsight 20/20. I definitely needed to have healthy boundaries. It was a hard lesson to learn. Thank you Andrew! ❤
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Emma, I wish you the best! ⚘️
Over 20 years of silent private hell.
Thank you Andrew.
4 years of after hell.
Andrew, you opened up so much knowledge.
God bless
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Wow, what a great channel. I'm so glad I found it (especially right now) and have been binge-watching the videos. Thank you!
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It amazing to me how many people throughout life that I have given everything to them. Bosses, friends, romance and even my child. Living my best life and blocked them all. Andrew thank you for all you do for us. We love you. Namaste 🙏❤️
Andrew, this is all so fascinating to me. I have learned a ton from you! After leaving my girlfriend for the third and final time, I began to search, how to handle toxic people. I'm so glad that as I was scrolling somewhere, you came up. I don't remember the title of the first video I watched, since then I have watched and listened to video after video.
I'm doing the work, I've dived in deep and have discovered things about myself, my ex- girlfriend, my ex- wife, my up bringing, and what I can do to protect myself and heal. I have been kind to myself during this process because digging down deep inside reveals, what I didn't know then, but realize now. Sometimes it's not pretty, I've learned to be gentle and forgiving of myself and courageous enough to do personal introspection. It's been very positive and I appreciate the many ways you have helped me to put the pieces of the puzzel together.
In fact this community has been a source of strength, encouragement and relief, because I know... I'm not alone.
Much love ❤
This one hit home Andrew. When I first met the narcissist it was hello and goodbye, then the next time he was more attentive and spoke more to me. Then he asked for my number, I gave it to him he told me he was attracted to me and then he asked to come over and spend time with me. All this happened in about 3 weeks. Then he was moving in . It was fast now after watching these videos and learning, and healing my heart and soul I see how the warning signs were there. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
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Carlos, I knew my last husband for a year. He was no where in my religion at all. It threw me for a loop. It's hard to meet others, I have no huge bank role as an attraction. It's better this way. My second anniversary would have been yesterday. I never missed the feeling of the union because divorce saved me from the Narcissist! So thankful he did not meet my family and friends. So my social group was untouched and I was able to heal so well. I can smell NARC over the phone and ended a new friendship recently cause they were way below my mental level. I feel that saved me to cross-check in my mind what we have learned from Andrew!
Wishing you many good friends and joy in your future, Carlos. You deserve to have good things coming your way. We get the best when we don't settle for the "next thing" and wait for the "Best thing" to happen in our lives. Love and Warm Hugs to Andrew and All in the Family Tribe ♥.
@@janetroberts5140 thank you for your kind words
Carlos, God bless you..⚘️
Carlos, you seem like such a sweetie.
Thank you for the reminder of how very fortunate we are. Especially for knowledge and a beautifully independent mind. I love the background! Thank you as always. Namaste 🙏🏼♥️
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We found out the hard way, but we learned. Good luck to you always.⚘️
The background is lovely. Warm and sunny. Thank you for the message.
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Was discarded by a covert narcissist. This shit will ruin your life if you let it. I love this channel. It’s helping me put pieces together. Only so much you can piece together on your own and empowers me to not be a victim and move on stronger. I sent him a book on covert narcissism from Amazon as a final goodbye. I figured him out and it feels good to know that I won just knowing the facts.
Andrew, your advice keeps me moving forward, especially during difficult days. The horrendous, brutal treatment a narc dishes out leaves a trail of destruction within that takes a lot of inner work to heal. A mammoth task.Thank you for being there tor us all on your platform. God Bless and stay safe.🙏🙏🙏💛
Hi Andrew, yes, I love the background I think it looks like the trees in Maryland. Are you sure that you are not an artist like me because you have the eye to select beautiful sites. Just wondering. Thank you for the video. Just wanna say that a lot of what you said resonates with me. Because all my childhood I was surrounded by toxic people to start with my mother. And after that in many workplaces. And of course, my ex narc husband. When you mentioned jumping through hoops, I started laughing because I remember once I said to him and I quote, " if you need someone to jump through hoops for you, hire a monkey". I can assure you that he did not laugh at all but I did. Anyway Narcs don't laugh much. I never saw my mother laughing out loud. Never. Isn't that terrible. I am like my father, thank God I made it a point to have laughter in my life everyday. I am going back to work now. Have a beautiful day Andrew. I love you and you make me smile and laugh. You are funny. 😏💜💯🫶
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi Martha i am glad you like it. Someone who never laugh is not a happy person. So let's keep on laughing and be happy my friend. 🤗😅❤
Thank you Andrew. Im geting the visdom. I know what he done to med now. It’s so obvious.
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Beautiful sun... Beautiful Andrew... Thank you so much for your contribution to our healing path..
One of your most powerful videos, 100% accurate. Mine was a coworker that had years to observe me before he made his romantic move. He had all the intel on me before we ever exchanged a non- work related sentence.
Thanks Andrew for another great video. Enjoy where you are. It looks amazing. 😊👍🌞
Loving your energy today, Andrew! You look and sound rejuvenated. The SE sunshine is doing you right. :) God bless your day!
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That's a scary thing but I know it's true. My family always asked me for something every time they saw me. It could be days weeks or years . I hadn't heard or seen from any of them and they still would ask me for money; cigarettes; gas you name it they were going to ask for it. Not to mention my time. They always would tell me stories about their horrible life as if it were my fault and I should be interested. My deceased narcissist husband was the same way. I didn't realize because my thinking was already distorted because of my family. I'm so grateful they are not anywhere close to me anymore! You've got to be strong to survive this torture.
💯💯on point as usual Andrew
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Those who have not experienced the narcissist and their abuse will often say “why are you / did you attract this type of person / people to yourself…”Narcissists are conniving, strategic, patient, cunning master manipulators, opportunists who prey on everyone they meet, in one way or another.
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Your facial features are beautiful, Andrew. Love your honesty and the feeling of peace it brings me. All the best to you. 🌈
That did happen to me ,he did ask to marry me very quick ,but now I realise all about him he faked everything ,all you said did happen to me .i finely left him but I had no idee he was a nark ,until I was already divorced i found out a few years later ,He past away
but I still get flash backs about how nasty he became .Thank you Andrew
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Wow, you just described how I had met my narc estranged husband. I was not at all looking for any kind of relationship. He approached me at worship service and asked me so many questions. I knew something seemed different and rather off about him, not knowing what in the world it was. SMH, had met in October and was married in December, New Year's Eve. 5 years and 1 child later, getting divorced.
Hey everybody 🖐🏽Blessings 💯 thanks Andrew, right on. I ve learned too let mum be the word because of my out going personality. Sometimes the less someone knows about you the better you are, especially people you don't know. Beware and keep those boundaries in place ❤️✌🏾🙏🏽
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So true ...
It is sad we have to do that….. I never met a stranger- I am learning to zip it!!!
@@rdbeckett590 Good for you. Now you will have the advantage ❤️✌🏾🙏🏽
Hello Andrew
Great Video I can't stand mean people or troublemakers And I'm full aware that not everyone is my friend, my entire life I've had an unusual amount of jealousy more so than kindness I will keep looking for nice people I shy away from pushy or intrusive people. The only person in my life I trusted was my mom she's not with me anymore 💔 Great to see you namaste
Yes, he did say that I was a "nice person" and I still am but he pushed too far and I refused to be a doormat and controlled...and the discard really pushed my witch button, lol. Nothing left to give is an understatement. His mistake is the discard stage wasn't timed right and even though I had nothing to give, these days you can actually go below zero in your finance. That's right, I financed my fight. Discard me after I gave all....how dare he! Oh...welcome to the SE. I'm in VA so I recognize the plant life, tall pines, green grass, etc. :)
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I had no idea about narcissism. I was so taken by his charm and he was the first man who had paid any amount of attention to me after my divorce. His charm continued for a long time until I started noticing things happening that made no sense to me and I asked him about it and he’d get mad and accuse me of overthinking and I was so confused and gaslighted I went on medication. I had to let him go; if I held on I probably wouldn’t be here (as Andrew mentioned about himself). I’m healing, I blocked him and kept him out of my boundary, journaling, in therapy and have a large group of supported people around me. His current supply is my former friend and current neighbor and a recent widow. I pray she opens her eyes on and get out.
The background is gorgeous. Hope all is going well in your new home.
Gratitude to you!
Andrew, you voiced two points from my life here, :
my words to "the disordered" one when boundaries
are pressed are "this is my LIFE, and I know how I want to live".
My fault for not expressing that sooner, but, as my Father once told me, "you are honest to the point of your own detriment."
He was Not encouraging deception or omissions, but
that I must be fair to myself.
And, keep your hair, it's pretty, Sir.
Thanks, Andrew! I'm glad you're doing well in a new location!
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Media...and the fact that this saga is so unbelievable, far-fetched & outlandish...
It would make a great thriller movie...
Namaste 🙏
I’m still stuck in the damage of it all. But have been making progress. I keep ruminating over how it happened…so fast. But the more I learn about the Narcs process of capturing and killing the empath, I’m positive he was hunting me down long before he actually got to me. And the worst part is, I KNEW something was off the entire time but I didn’t know why. And you know, when you’re raised by narcs, you don’t have the tools to protect yourself. So in hindsight, I consider everything that’s happened, a massive awakening, and an opportunity to heal and never let it happen again. Which is a blessing. Now I know to TRUST my gut. If someone feels off it’s because they are. But if you don’t know what a narc is it’s hard to put your finger on why they feel off. Knowledge is power. Thanks again Andrew ❤
Let us be careful and discerning who we are dealing with. Time will tell who people in our lives are. Thank you❤
You are a beautiful soul brother!!! Thank you for all of your hard work and dedication, God Bless you 🙏❤️🙏
Andrew your looking fabulous! I’m glad that your still rolling those videos. Keep them coming! You are a big part of my life. Your videos encouraged me to get through my difficult times. Your always right on narcissism. We know how the narcissist thinks. They are investigators. All they want to do is to get as much information about us. Then they want to destroy-us, but they can’t. I have encountered narcissist in my new job, so I don’t tell them things about me. Take care! 🙏 Thinking about you daily! LOVE ❤️ THAT HAIR! Don’t you dare touch-it. It’s beautiful! The narcissist once mentioned to me that he was going to cut my hair while I would sleep. How crazy is this! The narcissist that I used to live with was jealous of me. Now I know this.
Finding your channel (like no other) has given me the acknowledgement of what I've lived through my entire life. TU so much for sharing your experiences. I no longer feel alone. Namaste...
Namaste 🙏☀️🙌
Jeannette, Andrew is the BEST! Good luck to you always. ⚘️
The worst part is, the difficulty in believing in the kindness of others anymore. Everyone new is suspect. Speaking and reaching out is scary. Every kindness toward me is questioned, every word I speak or write I examine for holes a narc can climb through; mostly I quit talking to people and delete my writing. Refusing to be in pictures but required for work at times. Trying to share work to survive but remove myself from my work to also, survive. The head work to manage is daily. Thanks for listening. Hitting send, though, fearful of it, always. ❤️☀️🙏
Welcome always 🙏🙌☀️
Very well said. I wish you strength and healing.
I wish you the best of luck! GOD BLESS YOU.⚘️
Prayers.
@@marygribbin2811 thank you
Andrew, I’ve been on this journey for about 7 years now. I’ve been married for 32 years, and it wasn’t until a friend of mine told me she was divorcing her narc husband, that the word become known to me. After meeting her I researched it and found that I totally related to being in a narcissistic relationships. My whole world changed and the healing journey began.
Your videos are perhaps some of the BEST videos I’ve yet to experience here on TH-cam. 🙏
wow love the new background amazing video love it when you smile trying to stay positive today as i say bye to my grandmother today and tomorrow 😢
Sending healing energy 🙏🙌☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you so much
You got that right -extract resources in all forms .in every form. !!!
Andrew it's so good to watch you when you just give ot your all you seem like your back and worh 🔥 fire. We need you your what we have going for us. Welcome 🙏 home my friend
Great video!! The narcs ask a lot of questions in the beginning. You feel uncomfortable with it, but you go along with the "100 Question Interview" because it comes across as personal interest in you. But, you discover it was a collection of data to use against you later...discovery sessions to find your weaknesses!! Stay blessed and vigilant!!🙏🏽🙏🏽
Completely correct 💯💯
Hi, the narc wants to know everything about you, plus, they brag about themselves. Good luck to you..
Insidiously is a key word here.
So true!! He did his homework. Asking about me to others.
And when he knew enough, he made the contact. I did not knew anything about narcissism..
Same here. They are slick for sure.
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Thanks for the video, Andrew! You look happy in a new location, I am glad to see that.
Bless you!
You look refreshed and radiant again!
Glad you are doing well!
This is a beautiful background.
Good Energy!!🌸
Thank you for your fab videos they help a lot 💔...I hope you are happy now, your video made me cry too a couple of days ago 😥 x
Welcome 🙏🙌☀️
It is good that you are helping our fellow empathic people to sniff out the bad seeds.
Believe me when i say this: I've been in that role, as the person taken advantage of many times throughout my young life.
After the last relationship ended, i spent many years meditating and consumed by thoughts, felt into a deep depression over it.
I saw the depression period as a gift not a bad thing, cause it made me reflect on the signals i radiate from my own personal self and out in the world.
This has resulted in the realization that it is OKAY, to put yourself first in any given situation, if i am not 100% okay myself then how should i expect to help anyone else.
It's not selfish to put yourself first and others 2nd or 3rd, it's just you looking out for your own skin.
On the other hand i have also self taught myself to spot those with ill intentions before they corrupt my life.
When you tell a narcissist to back off in a blunt and on point manner, the narcissist will lash out at you and show his or her true colors right before your eyes.
Love the background! thank you for your videos!
As always, They are an inspiration ❤ hope you’re getting settled into your new location.
Thank you so much for your wisdom Andrew 🙏❤️🙌
The one particular Puddle did immense research ( and apparently continues to do so through mutual sources). She tried in the early 90's and in 2015. She was an individual from a time long ago ( attended the same school albeit in different grades). Was married & still is. Honestly she was not the type one was seeking nor sought. But she showed determination that at a distance was admirable ( Puddles tend to be relentless in their quest). The relationship was not one of note. Save for the various discussions that yielded a multitude of lessons learnt in life. Many required for the growth today.
I agree with everything you are saying. Thank you so very much for your thoughts wisdom and insight
Background looks great Andrew good luck in your new place 🍀
Your insightful videos are brilliant thank you as always 🙏🏼
Loving the background!!! Hope that beautiful sunshine is filling up your cup more and more ☀️
Well, another fabulous video. I have to say these narcs did serious homework on me. I had two major ones come in my life simultaneously. Found out later they both researched. One boss the other One who I married. And they both were “huggers” and faked empathy and preached on love. I mean literally preached on love in the workplace. In everything. I will never forget the day they met each other and I heard the same thing from each of them behind the other’s back... “I know about guys like that” and they sure did. Different covers same life sucking energy drains. Can’t please both at the same time now can you. And when we use the Almighty as our cover dear narcissists…I do wonder how that will end up in the end 🤷♀️
Anyhow, super thankful every day for education and sharing the real NON fake love forward.
God bless you and all. You’re glowing Andrew
Thank you for sharing this 🙏☀️🙌
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 as the white 🐑 growing up (that’s a new concept for me Andrew thank you) I was not given a choice who to give hugs to and let’s just say I limit my hugs to my two female mentors, my kids, my best friend (and safe people as my mentor says “test them”) and kids and animals now. While I work through all the stuff I have to work on 😉 and I AM working on ME.
🤗 hugs to survivors and thrivers are good I believe
I think we’ve all had enough BS and games. I’m practicing loving myself Martha. How are you?
I'm understanding more now. I understand more that...... 'The New Supply doesn't know that they're the new Supply'...... Thank you Andrew for everything that you have helped me understand what I have been going through for so many years. There are people who are Dream Smasher's ( Narcs ) watch out.... Your great this is great! 😅 I will learn this and as I do I will teach my children to be true to thereself
Many years after I ended a primary relationship with a narcissist, my replacement contacted me. She had been a mutual friend of my partner and me before the breakup. I knew they had gotten together, but never saw either one again. She said she wanted to apologize for having such bad thoughts about me for years. She said she had at first believed I must have been the worst person in the world based on what the narcissist told her. Then she went through the cycle herself. She needed some validation of all the confusion she was in. This was before channels like this one. One very interesting thing she told me. One night, the narcissist got really high and confided that there was no “them.” That they mirrored other people and became what they thought the other person needed and wanted. I don’t think it’s common for a narcissist to disclose or even be aware of something like that. But I think it’s true for all narcissists: that they are empty shells that take on a shape built on on the love and devotion and admiration of their victims, use it all up, throw the person away like empty garbage, and go out searching for the new supply, just as you say, Andrew. I hope people can learn some truth from this. It’s hard to believe there is no “them” in a narcissist, just a calculated, cold, endless hunger. It is sad to sometimes discern the remnants of a true human being with one of them, but they are like vampires and you can’t fix them by giving them all your life force.
🙏 🙌 so true
Lovely background for a wise message!😍
Yep.The Narc moved things along at warp speed.There really shouldn't be such an unnatural rush to establish a bond at the outset of any relationship.Big Red Flag. 👍
Loving that beautiful setting your in. ❤️.no wonder your looking content.good for the soul.🪴🌱🌿🌺😊
Andrew is fantastic to see you in your happy place you seem elated. Your wisdom and your words and your dedication I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it and I would helps me get through every day. It’s funny but sometimes I feel like you’re talking directly to me. Much love thank you
Thank you Andrew so much for this videos absolutely it is very true when you said God bless you have a good night
So glad your outside again 😁
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Thanks Andrew ❤️
Welcome ❤️🙌