How Socialization Makes You Stupid - Problems With Conformity & Group-Think

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  • @brianmarshall3931
    @brianmarshall3931 2 ปีที่แล้ว +318

    After 7 decades.on this planet.. and having lost every friend and family member by now... I never "fitted in" and at this time in my life there is no pressure of any kind on me to conform, comply, or join any 'groups". I consider myself a very lucky man.

    • @summerwind457
      @summerwind457 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Very lucky. Wishful thinking for me.

    • @kristilu1987
      @kristilu1987 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Good for you. Wasn't it a very lonely life? Couse Im only 34, but Im deeply lonely from not fitting in and Im wondering will this pain of loneliness will ever going to end

    • @summerwind457
      @summerwind457 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@kristilu1987 On one hand I completely agree. But I have to recognize there is a big difference between loneliness and alone. I have been lonely when surrounded by people and relationships that were supposed to be lasting. I am now alone. Yeah, sometimes lonely. But looking at the difference and the risk of being involved to think I am no longer lonely or being alone, I choose the latter. Sure beats depending on someone else outside yourself to decide what happens to you, redefining who you authentically are, or what YOU have learned, unless that individual is exceedingly rare and willing to see YOU for YOU and themselves for themselves. Then it’s possible to learn from each other. Or not.

    • @summerwind457
      @summerwind457 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kristilu1987 Fitting in is not a healthy goal. Being who YOU are.IS.

    • @brianmarshall3931
      @brianmarshall3931 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@kristilu1987 Never been particularly lonely... always got something to do - and spend my evenings learning new things from audiobooks. Because one of those things is a new language - I spend time with those people...

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +204

    "Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation." ― Oscar Wilde

    • @macogottalent112
      @macogottalent112 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      You just quoted another dude. I think you’re self aware enough to realize that though. If not get help.

    • @Ben-oi1nl
      @Ben-oi1nl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What other people

    • @zcar
      @zcar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Ben-oi1nl Why are you talking to yourself?

    • @tthbro
      @tthbro 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      these people are just too stupid to understand that they are just less common "copies" of environment they live in xD

    • @TheVoyagerArtist
      @TheVoyagerArtist 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are the only concious being in existence

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +214

    "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

    • @andreipopescu4353
      @andreipopescu4353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Plăcut surprins sa mai dau de români pe pagina lui Leo.

    • @sebaswegman9433
      @sebaswegman9433 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      to speak boldly, aren't you doing exactly the opposite what is trying to be thought? quoting words spoken by others.

    • @rsv298
      @rsv298 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Love this. We admire and look up to people who have mastered this skill. It takes enormous courage and confidence to remain true to yourself in the face of social pressures.

    • @aed3053
      @aed3053 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Humans are boring. I die in total bliss in God-Consciousness daily, and I got white to really intensify and heighten this shit ;) This shall never change with me. I will do this divine work in my little apartment to my last breath, and yea, my friend Rune and Roger do not dissapoint.
      And fuck no, God shall never leave me, or I'll slit my wrists ♡
      #NietcheIsDead

    • @Konfide4043
      @Konfide4043 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@aed3053 hook me up with some plz 🙏

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +208

    "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." ― J. Krishnamurti

    • @Shivamg415
      @Shivamg415 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tobia5267 The fact that he never said that quote is even disturbing.

    • @fliu5282
      @fliu5282 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I guess after watchin, i can conclude that all chinese people from the Comnui Chinese Party are simply...

    • @sanatkumarphukan5481
      @sanatkumarphukan5481 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Go to JK official page. It's not his quite. It's someone else.

    • @harris.kh17
      @harris.kh17 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      absolutely!

    • @MarkErrington
      @MarkErrington ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If you want to REALLY go deep, UG Krishnamurti and NOT jk.

  • @EnlightenedSchmuck
    @EnlightenedSchmuck 2 ปีที่แล้ว +706

    To all introvert nerds watching this who genuinely struggle with being social:
    Don't take this video as an excuse for staying in your comfortable loner bubble. Too much mindless socializing might have the potential to make you stupid, but too much social isolation can lead to serious delusion and mental derangement.
    Trust me, I speak from personal experience...

    • @atryptaminemolecule
      @atryptaminemolecule 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Well said, also by realizing the foolishness of others you begin to see your own. So it’s a phase everyone must go through.

    • @SovereignBrainwash
      @SovereignBrainwash 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      agreed... !! Finding the people I can talk to by relation... people that get it... understand all the concepts and the power of our word/thoughts and understandings that land us in our reality. I have faith the rise of the introverts bringing out the light (opposite of group think). I think this also relates to boundaries for all layers and levels of it. How to Navigate without draining ones soul fire/Energy/intelligence.

    • @bloomp7999
      @bloomp7999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      we all need to connect, but for the first time, let's connect with our passions instead of our neurosis.

    • @jacobmorres9817
      @jacobmorres9817 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      I'd argue the majority of leos audience needs more socialization. I'm assuming most of the audience are a bunch of introverted, shy, philosopher type loners

    • @zendevil6965
      @zendevil6965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      But they are and that’s why this vid is a problem. Leo is saying it to justify staying in his own way of thinking, and because of that his followers who already are a majority of outcasts will take it a step further and isolate themselves further. Everything Leo says isolates peoples thinking and in turn isolates them to his community.

  • @jiotaterzi2568
    @jiotaterzi2568 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    ' The greatest hazard of all, losing one’s Self, can occur very quietly in the world, as if it were nothing at all. No other loss can occur so quietly; any other loss - an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc. - is sure to be noticed. '
    Søren Kierkegaard

    • @ReisBeatriz93
      @ReisBeatriz93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No doubt about that...

  • @theteenageexperiment1356
    @theteenageexperiment1356 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    In my life I definitely tend to notice that the most social people are always the people who think about things in a very surface level type way. They often tend to assume life is very simple and people who ask the big questions are being unnecessarily pedantic.

    • @almila1368
      @almila1368 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True

    • @hanacurekovic
      @hanacurekovic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This is exactly what my parents would tell me if I started asking the “big” questions… “you’re just not busy enough” or “you’re just lucky you don’t have real problems”.

    • @armyshope
      @armyshope ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hanacurekovic or like some internet bozos "you're jobless

    • @ASMR-XI-ZUI
      @ASMR-XI-ZUI ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Such a shame that all the future potential Albert Einstein's n Nikola Tesla's will be in the pub, high n drunk n getting into trouble. What a shame.

  • @noahhecker6672
    @noahhecker6672 2 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    This episode rocks man! The ability to truly philosophize on my own has been one of the most freeing and purposeful aspects of my life. I’ve been truly able to lay the foundations on which my whole life will be built, and for that I thank you. I would recommend this channel to anyone looking for a higher meaning to life

    • @marksavoia3687
      @marksavoia3687 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The rule of law operates on integrity. Within any environment where rule of law exists, individuals who have no integrity will destroy themselves.

    • @guillermo3471
      @guillermo3471 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I couldnt have said that any better

    • @lightdark8468
      @lightdark8468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Totally agree! I learned this skill at a earlier age about 19, 35 now. Built my life how i wanted it but in the slow process of refinement and observation. Leo's a great power and reminder here of whats gotten me to this incredible position. Lol i got trapped by being too social and people pleasing, Balance is key. Like he said "there is a time to be social, silly, stupid and have fun but just as importantly a time to be at home contemplating and creating new dreams. Cus that fk social matrix will be stuck like an "umbilical cord"
      Watch the house you build on those foundation brother it will be a rainbow dream house!

  • @blankearth5840
    @blankearth5840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” -Aldous Huxley

  • @janicestevenson6496
    @janicestevenson6496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Thank you for this rich presentation.
    Here is an excerpt from the writings of Marshall Vian Summers which seems relevant to your teaching: "Do not deceive yourself today. Strengthen your commitment to Knowledge. Do not be comfortable with merely the assumptions or the beliefs of others. Do not accept generalities as truth. Do not accept appearances as representative of the reality of another. Do not accept the mere appearance of yourself. Doing these things demonstrates that you do not value yourself or your life and that you are too indolent to carry forth effort on your own behalf. You must enter uncertainty to find Knowledge. What does this mean? It simply means you are giving up false assumptions, self-comforting ideas and the luxury of self-condemnation. Why is self-condemnation a luxury? Because it is easy and does not require you to examine the truth... Do not deceive yourself today. Allow yourself to examine the mystery and the truth of your life." (MVS, Steps to Knowledge)

  • @FrancisTrach
    @FrancisTrach 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I COMPLETELY agree with this . The collective Consciousness / Hive Mind is a REAL thing. I've taken SERIOUS precautions to PROTECT myself and have SERIOUS boundaries from that energy . Does that mean I'm not going to expand my energy ? No . Of course I still need to be a part of the world, but I do so consciously, and with as much integrity and alignment with my true values as possible. Great video Leo ! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day ! Much Love 🙏

  • @jobunny919
    @jobunny919 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This made me realize how much my negative experiences were needed to prepare my soul. I had childhood trauma which caused my toxic shame and social anxiety. I isolate a lot. I know because of my social anxiety and c-ptsd, I was a validation addict. I think my social anxiety protected me from the wrong people to seek validation from. Well seeking validation outside of self is not good but I imagine if I didn't have social anxiety, I would've blended in with the very wrong people....For the past few years, my isolated self started working on my inner healing and now I am open to connections. My less traumatized self will now connect with good souls instead of the "bad" souls my traumatized self would've connected with. Wow. God thank you. More of a reason not to question the higher being.

    • @captainalex157
      @captainalex157 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      yeah, looking back i see my teenage anxiety as a blessing, i would have never started the path if i wasnt lonely back then, funny how that works.

  • @playthegameoflife937
    @playthegameoflife937 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It’s unreal how informative this channel is. With every video that I watch , I keep thinking “ what new subject could he talk about , I watched so many hours of Leo speaking “. The video is 2 hours long , no way it’s all information, probably just repetition. And yet , with every video I am amazed by how much this man can teach me , you , humanity. I am truly impressed and grateful ❤ much Love ❤❤

    • @22z83
      @22z83 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeah it's pretty trippy😉

  • @PhysiqueRepair
    @PhysiqueRepair ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dude u changed my life dramatically when I first discovered you in 2017. And here we are in 2023 and I feel this video unlocked something for me . Thank you

  • @lutfchehne1
    @lutfchehne1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I've realized the effect of socialising on my awareness within the last years of collage. After that I intuitively knew that I need a lot of alone time to unlearn to deprogram myself from everything I've learned about life from the education system through my life.
    Thank you Leo, identifying as a part of a group has a bad impact on us indeed and especially being a part of an institution.
    The majority will always be blinded lead easily to lower consciousness. That's why individuation is crucial.
    I believe the best thing you can do to yourself is taking on your own path in life. Being "in the world, not of it" frees us from being enslaved to it unknowingly.

  • @_The_Matin
    @_The_Matin ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I just want to take the time to let you know about how privileged I feel to have found your channel. I am admittedly not watching all of your videos, but have been following your content for more than 7 years now and learned a lot throughout. For that, I wanted to thank you.

  • @cary7261
    @cary7261 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    What is Inteligence value list
    -Wisdom
    -Love
    -Context awareness
    -Construct awareness
    -Big picture thinking and understanding
    -Holism
    -deep grasp of relativity
    -Ability to take new perspectives and points of view
    -Radical open mindeness
    -Conscienciousness
    -Self reflection
    -Deep awareness of self deception
    -Deep awareness of ability of being bias.
    -Being unbias
    -Facing fear
    -Ability to surender and accept what is
    -Ability to be transrational and translogical
    -Emotional awareness Emotional inteligence
    -Ability of deep abstraction, implicit thinking, oblique ways of thinking
    -Being able to think in non linear ways -Ability to work with paradox
    -Inteligence must have existencial and spiritual dimension

  • @blank_earth
    @blank_earth 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    “A high degree of intellect tends to make a man unsocial.” -Schopenhauer

  • @larsjrgensenmdphd125
    @larsjrgensenmdphd125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    “Be alone, that is the secret of invention; be alone, that is when ideas are born.”
    ― Nikola Tesla

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    "The conventional view serves to protect us from the painful job of thinking." ― John Kenneth Galbraith

    • @ludwigwittgenstein5054
      @ludwigwittgenstein5054 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Also listening to Gura serves to protect you from critical thinking - me.

  • @isthereabirdinhere
    @isthereabirdinhere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I completely understand your point. I am very aware that I am more true to myself when I have spent time alone and I really value that time. However, I am also very aware that too much time on my own will lead to a decline in my mental health. It is all about balance. We also learn a lot from eachother. Intellect is not everything. I thought it was the be all and end all for years but it is really not. As long as I am true to myself then that is all that matters.

    • @AnitaAlibi
      @AnitaAlibi ปีที่แล้ว

      Most of the women I know... are mf badasses. We need to report and unfollow this mysoginist.

  • @troygoss6400
    @troygoss6400 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    A friend once told me, " the shaman always lives outside the village"

    • @Captain_Birdy
      @Captain_Birdy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A shaman never tells anyone they are a shaman

  • @paulbraunstein2290
    @paulbraunstein2290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you for this, Leo. It pains me how many people still are paradigm locked. I’ve watched this content for a long time and benefitted so much but I’ve had to truly, sadly accept that you cannot help to people open their minds until they are ready but truly, thank you for helping to open my mind. Always positive, even though my ego used to fight me kicking and screaming.

  • @idissolvebutirecrystallize8410
    @idissolvebutirecrystallize8410 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Leo, I've been watching you for six years and I love your content you give meaning to my life and I wanted to get it off my chest. Thank you so much for this video because you basically cut my guilt about leaving a few friends behind and my social life because I prefer to be alone. I've been trying hard to socialize just to get any benefit out of it but I'm no longer fulfilled by anything other people have to offer, it feels like a chore to talk to most. I truly and deeply hope I meet someone like you, who thinks alike, but it's so terribly hard since we're all antisocial hahaha and the loop goes on

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Cheers!

    • @quincyferdanand3125
      @quincyferdanand3125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Actualized.org what are your thoughts on MorgueOfficial he keeps saying reality being mathematical or mathematics can prove god or reality being composed of living mathematics or mathematics will solve everything. And he tries to say that reality is rational or that you need to follow a basis of logic and reason. A lot of what he’s saying trying to fit reality in certain boxes is what I have a problem with

    • @lightworker2956
      @lightworker2956 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@quincyferdanand3125 True intelligence comes from the heart, not the rational mind.

    • @captainalex157
      @captainalex157 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      thats hilarious! But i also found that one reason i didnt wanna socialize was fear of being judged, not just no interest in social interaction, its a mix. Dont mistake the two.

  • @mustie3682
    @mustie3682 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is quite an interesting angle to look at things. as a queer person, i've always felt alienated from my society & community, but this made me much more critical about the world & politics in general, made me dedicate my time to understand this alienation i felt through reading, opened many intellectual horizons. i think what you're saying is in principle correct

  • @9FAQ
    @9FAQ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is a particularly important topic to think about and contemplate. I've been an introvert my whole life and I've also learned to be an extravert freely, but still, I feel much more comfortable and 'true to myself' when I'm alone. Thank you for reminding me how important it is to not get lost in comfort group thinking and generate original thought.

    • @localmissfit7961
      @localmissfit7961 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same ❤️‍🩹✨🧚🏼‍♂️

  • @PeterParker-fw2wb
    @PeterParker-fw2wb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I really needed this... we can't pay you back man you helped me alot❤️

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      The only payment God knows, is Love.

  • @natanunorthodox
    @natanunorthodox 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is my biggest problem with social media and reaching out to anybody, because as bad as I don't want to say this, I already know what everyone will say, I understand the lingo and how every human reacts to any situation. It's hard to explain when you're the one who gets it, but that "getting it" is not always fun. I know.
    I'm writing in my notebook right now about how you can push the envelope way too far, know way too much, understand way too many things, that it takes on a repeat, and in that repetitievness, you almost go nuts, you lose your mind. I'm telling everyone out there, be careful where and what you are allowing yourself to get into or what you are letting go into your mind and thoughts. YOU CAN GO SANE, IN AN INSANE WORLD! and that is a scary thing to understand and know too much. Trust me, because I will not lie to you out there.
    I would not go any further than philosophy itself. When you go past that, I am telling you because I have done it, did it, experimented with it and experienced it myself, you may never return to who you thought you we're, and you will then know what horror is. I call it the "horrible glory" of everything. It's like a rubberband pulling you in two directions, and when you tell it to stop, sometimes it doesn't. Stay out of murky waters. Make sure you never go deeper than your own abyss. Remain in a HIGHER ABYSS. You do not want to experience hell itself.
    I found that Jesus consciousness is the only way out from that hell for me, and even if it's a metaphor or happens to not be a reality, or even if I'm delusional, I don't care anymore, it's irrelevant to anything, and I'm willing to accept that, because I've already looked into every possibility that I can, and this has nothing to do with conformity in any way, shape or form. I give Jesus the credit and glory for everything, even if he's not a reality. I know this is hard to understand, but Jesus consciousness is what I find myself returning to time and time again, and I have looked into EVERYTHING that I can possibly think of, and nothing fills the void but when I call on the name of Jesus, and when I think of his compassion and sacrifice, and remember his words, it pulls me from the hell I find my mind getting into because of the world's aspects and the ignorance of simply conforming to conform.
    I know the average Joe will call me crazy or nuts, but that's ok, because I know the world as a whole will never understand understanding itself, and that's what kills me, crushes me, rips me to shreds, tears me into pieces, breaks me down beyond comprehension, is when I can't find what I am looking for in the world, but in Jesus and the arts alone, and only in a few others that dive deep, but know when they are going too far.
    I hate to boast that there are only a few, but this is one of the HARDEST THINGS to come across, is a UNIQUELY HONEST INDIVIDUAL, that does not just say what they have been conditioned to say, just because. It may seem like I am conforming to certain things, but I don't even think that way anymore, because I'm past that thinking, and deconditioning my brain has been the most difficult pill to swallow and thing that I have ever had to do, and I'm still in that process...
    Always remember, too much, too little, over doing it, not doing enough or anything at all. Don't do either. Have compassion in a corrupt, conditioned and lying world, but be careful your kindness doesn't get mistaken for some kind of nonsensical weakness that only fools attempt to abuse or take for granted. Discernment, well being and stillness to all...SBN RESONATE

    • @ennead607
      @ennead607 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i thought i was the only one who thought this mane u worded this perfectly. look life on the outside and u see how everything works, its so simple🍑

  • @gfkluy
    @gfkluy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Great vid Leo. I've been watching your vids for years. I have an idea for a video for you - why don't you make an episode where you review some of your old videos & make comments on how you have changed your mind on some of the things you've said in those videos over the years? That would be so interesting to see!

  • @mcawesomeytyo3312
    @mcawesomeytyo3312 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really appreciate this video. I am trying to deprogram and unlearn the lies I was taught all my life. Unfortunately, I have this pesky habit of checking the TH-cam comments, and the comment sections tend to be very toxic on philosophy videos.

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not with my videos.

  • @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez
    @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Notice how commenting without watching the video first is a pointless exercise in low consciousness
    Pd: this comment was directed at people who commented on the first few minutes of this video being published. But if you got upset by it, better examine your reaction first.

    • @NicoGee1
      @NicoGee1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Johan exatly🙌🏼
      (Came to check the comments prior😂Yes I’m condistioned)

    • @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez
      @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ReverendDr.Thomas well, I'm guilty of it too. I did comment without watching the video. But it's for a good reason. Just look at the comments. By this moment not even half the video would have been watched and people writing low effort not valuable stuff.

    • @paulbraunstein2290
      @paulbraunstein2290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It’s okay, I’ve done that. Low consciousness Is high consciousness in some paradoxical way. We are fully God and fully human and living all lives right here, right now. Limited or not it’s basically infinity lmao

    • @Dinosaurs_with_laser_guns
      @Dinosaurs_with_laser_guns 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReverendDr.Thomas What are you saying is he is presuming?

    • @pleqs2
      @pleqs2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Talking about a “pointless exercise in low consciousness” 😂 nice way to pat your self on the back. Watch and LISTEN to his video on hypocrisy in FULL.

  • @spintillimdizzy2340
    @spintillimdizzy2340 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    im confused as to why this content has so little views tbh. I respect leo immensly for what hes doing in all honesty because for some reason I always remembered his videos getting well over 100k views all the time idk why I even thought I saw millions at a time. But the fact that hes still doing it shows the passion and love he has for the craft. Its just crazy because I have learned so much from this channel.

  • @whis4264
    @whis4264 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    6 years ago I agreed to do some illegal work that required me to stay inside of the house to "guard" something. Internet was not allowed in the house so I could go out twice a month for a few hours if I wanted to talk to my family or check social media, since I was in a different country. This seemed easy to me because I'm introverted person anyway and being alone is not difficult for me. (also the money was good) So everything I had for entertainment were anime, movies and books. People visited me twice a month to take me out or bring food and that was it.
    I spent 2 years doing that and I can say that was probably the best time of my life, I just learned so much about myself and life in general. I used to smoke weed every night before bed and just sit and think and it was like I just got all of those things downloaded into my head out of nowhere. I came out of there as a completely different person. Before that I used to be very shy and thinking everyone else is better than me and all kinds of things, and those 2 years of being isolated literally erased my ego almost completely.

    • @tarzan.CB.
      @tarzan.CB. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would like to have an experience like this.

    • @whis4264
      @whis4264 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NerdyNEET not sure, I was not involved with mafia and narcotics

    • @whis4264
      @whis4264 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NerdyNEET
      the only thing was that the police can find the house, which is what happened in the end after 2 years and that is why my work ended. Luckily they didn't have a warrant and couldn't come inside so when they left I left too. I was aware of all the risks before I started the job.
      That was a "small business" so it was not like I would get killed or something :D

    • @whis4264
      @whis4264 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NerdyNEET where I'm from police is exactly the same as you described, you get a year in jail for smoking a joint.
      But weed is legal in this country where I worked, so it was not the biggest deal, the only thing is that you are not allowed to produce it in big amounts and try to shipp it to other countries

  • @mgabriel650
    @mgabriel650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Beeing alone is when great ideas are born, if we go back at your episode what is intelligence, I've found that I am very aware and contend when with myself that when I try or am in any social environment I feel robed of my authentic self, this is experianced not theoretical, great episode Leo, thank you for making this available for us there are people that I've seen and been when I was trying to fit in into this social environment and couldn't find myself is like I was dying and many more people are in the same situation, and it's not 100% your fault for beeing different is them that have been submitting themselves to a copy, paste system most of the time since beeing authentic won't give you the false illusion of the Success that is robing you, of you.

    • @paulbraunstein2290
      @paulbraunstein2290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, the fitting in isn’t good but it’s just a compromise. Just look internally but balance it out with introspection and meditation and then some days hang out with friends.

    • @SovereignBrainwash
      @SovereignBrainwash 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      beautifully said.

    • @ambermoon719
      @ambermoon719 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can harmonize energetically with others while still retaining your autonomy and own mind. Or if the energy of the people around you is disturbing, you can still harmonize within yourself, hold a strong space and be graceful towards the people.

    • @mgabriel650
      @mgabriel650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ambermoon719 yes, I would definitely agree with that since Weare not our surrandings and the ultimate control of our mind belongs to us.

    • @mgabriel650
      @mgabriel650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@paulbraunstein2290 it's all about balance, I am not saying that its not necessarily to socialise and keep in touch with our community, definitely is but once we realize that we gaining more insight from our own company they it's just like you are treading yourself for them.

  • @junglejarred6366
    @junglejarred6366 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    When i socialize with others there is nothing and i mean no thing that can change my mind. I don't conform to anything. Sometimes i just stare at the people as they speak like they are just something to observe. When i socialize its to get out of solitude and watch something different. To watch the animals interact. But i am incapable of influence from them. This also can cause issues in a different manner. It sometimes can make me feel more alone in groups, which brings up a certain sadness. I see that the others are immersed in their exchanges and enjoying themselves and i am mostly incapable of that at this point in my development. Whatever. It doesn't matter

    • @eternal_nomad
      @eternal_nomad 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @junglejarred6366
      @junglejarred6366 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@eternal_nomad my condolences. It's not really a fun place to be at

    • @briannerk3373
      @briannerk3373 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't worry, most people are actually not enjoying themselves although they may think and look like they are. Here is an excerpt from Fromm that discussed this:
      “With feeling as with thinking, one- must distin­guish between a genuine feeling, which originates in ourselves, and a pseudo feeling, which is really not our own although we believe it to be. Let us choose an example from everyday life which is typical of the pseudo character of our feelings in contact with others. We observe a man who is at­tending a party. He is gay, he laughs, makes friendly conversation, and all in all seems to be quite happy and contented. On taking his leave, he has a friendly smile while saying how much he enjoyed the evening. The door closes behind him -and this is the moment when we watch him care­ fully. A sudden change is noticed in his face. The smile has disappeared; of course, that is to be expected since he is now alone and has nothing or nobody with him to evoke a smile. But the change I am speaking of is more than just the disappear­ance of the smile. There appears on his face an expression of deep sadness, almost of desperation. This expression probably stays only for a few sec­onds, and then the face assumes the usual mask­ like expression; the man gets into his car, thinks about the evening, wonders whether or not he made a good impression, and feels that he did. But was "he" happy and gay during the party? Was the brief expression of sadness and despera­tion we observed on his face only a momentary reaction of no great significance?"

  • @alisonlivingston
    @alisonlivingston 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Socialization is incredibly valuable for the following reasons:
    1. Information/resource sharing
    2. Viewing of the self through projection
    3. Widening perspectives
    4. Health (our bodies give us happy chemicals)
    5. Boundary strengthening
    6. Empathy and compassion strengthening
    7. Trigger evaluation (people trigger us and that helps us explore our trauma)
    8. Affection and closeness are critical to human meaning
    9. Ego whittling
    10. Spiral Dynamics stage progression
    I think it makes sense to spend a lot of time alone and a lot of time with others at different stages of development and you will feel when the time is right. But being alone all the time has a tendency to promote schizophrenia.
    True “yellow” intelligence knows not to slip into groupthink, nor schitzoid self-aggrandizement. It can play in both sandboxes, and a yellow thinker can also play the game of the social group he’s in.
    A yellow thinker in a red group can have fun but enforce boundaries. A yellow thinker in an orange group can speak the language of the orange person to fulfill his goals.
    If we are using an SDI framework I’ve found that isolation is a requirement in moving from one stage to the next. If one is in red, being alone during the transformational dilemma can give one the space to move into blue structured thinking. Then socialization is important to conform to the group.
    When it is time to move to Orange, a new stage of isolation is needed to move to the selfish rationality of that stage. Then, it is time to locate your Orange friends.
    I see socialization as dangerous when it keeps you stuck in a stage. A lot of people won’t move stages for decades and they can pull you way down. It’s incredibly dangerous to get stuck in a stage because (I believe) that is where mental illness breeds.

  • @josephe620
    @josephe620 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    “The high intelligence only comes with selflessness and the transcendence of survival, your identity limits your intelligence and your intelligence limits your identity”. .. one of the greatest quotes

  • @user-vl7du3xd8m
    @user-vl7du3xd8m 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was a very validating episode to listen to. I intuitively look for people that possess the real qualities of intelligence. But being able to explicitize it like this is very profound and helpful. Thank you.

  • @thefrankring
    @thefrankring 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I can understand the point, but I also think that we have to realize that there are multiple types of intelligence. For example:
    - Musical intelligence (music)
    - Bodily intelligence (sports)
    - Interpersonal intelligence (relationships)
    - Logical intelligence (maths)
    - Spacial intelligence (visual)
    - Linguistic intelligence (language)
    - Intrapersonal intelligence (introspection)
    - etc
    I think socialisation is mostly interpersonal and linguistic intelligences.
    You could be intelligent in these areas but dumb in others.
    You could also be dumb in these areas but intelligent in others.
    What is "true" intelligence anyways if everybody is unique in their own ways?
    That being said, I think Leo mostly fall in the introspection intelligence.

    • @tysongreenan2981
      @tysongreenan2981 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree with you that there are other type of intelligence. But I would argue that you can take those other type of intelligence a lot future if you have introspection. It's like the META of intelligence.

    • @tysongreenan2981
      @tysongreenan2981 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What do you think?

    • @tysongreenan2981
      @tysongreenan2981 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I will say thou. Our philosophers are nothing like they use to be in the 500's and before.

    • @thefrankring
      @thefrankring 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tysongreenan2981 I would agree that introspection is a very important intelligence because self-knowledge is ultimately the most important knowledge one can have.

    • @ludwigwittgenstein5054
      @ludwigwittgenstein5054 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      There is also fleecing gullible fools type of intelligence of which Gura is a prime example.

  • @HereThereEverywhereMatt
    @HereThereEverywhereMatt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I stumbled across your channel a few years back when I was first started meditating and your no bullshit method of it was so good. Then I started doing shrooms once a month. Had a couple of God Realizations but most importantly, shrooms showed me what I need to do to improve my well being and being more loving towards myself and towards other.
    I wish people weren’t so quick to judge you and your content. You could easily have all of this information behind a paywall and make a shit ton of money, but you don’t. So thank you and I look forward to listening to this video and future content you provide!

  • @pursuitofspirit
    @pursuitofspirit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    God damn it Leo. I have no words. Thank you so much. The empowerment I feel after watching this video is unparalleled. No other teachers talk like this. And that’s how I know your work is truly authentic. It’s incredible. Everything you said resonated so precisely it was as if my deepest intuitions were brought to light with your words. I can’t thank you enough, and I feel so blessed to have encountered your work at such a young age. Thank you.

  • @Luka.Suvalj
    @Luka.Suvalj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The best video about the illusion of a society I've ever seen in my 15 years on TH-cam. God bless you man, you're one in a million. Keep up the work, you legend.

  • @LaisaMaverick
    @LaisaMaverick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    In individuals, insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations and epochs, it is the rule.
    Friedrich Nietzsche

    • @AnitaAlibi
      @AnitaAlibi ปีที่แล้ว

      He's a mysoginist, unfollow him.

    • @AnitaAlibi
      @AnitaAlibi ปีที่แล้ว

      And having a following of loser boys turn people into champions of the mysoginists.

  • @karstenschwerinski9847
    @karstenschwerinski9847 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Leo Ive really been liking your change up in energy and approach to shooting videos, doing you, and living and saying the things you want to say how you want to say them. No filters, less mind. Loving the videos even more lately, and the blog has definitely been getting better and better. Me and a fiend have been here, "doing the work" , and growing since the beginning of this actualized creation. Its been quite the journey so far my friend, and its only getting better each day.

  • @vuyamie
    @vuyamie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I like this episode a lot. It sctructures a lot of my thoughts about in such a simple, transparent way. Beautiful. I also like the obvious tendency of your thinking to actually getting more broad, nuanced, non-biased. I think i feel the subtle abstract differences in thinking now and years ago you mentioned. I'm extremely happy to see the progress of the chanel.

  • @danalyze
    @danalyze 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    After every time I've been through a rough week of a bunch of bull sh*t I see Leo upload a video and I think to myself "Ah... please give me some f^cking sense in this world"

    • @strawberrygirlvideos
      @strawberrygirlvideos 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here!! Thanks

    • @redhat4363
      @redhat4363 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Is it the work place? 😀

    • @danalyze
      @danalyze 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@redhat4363 nah, thats where I find most peace lol

  • @cristaylor1399
    @cristaylor1399 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My first time watching this video I realized I didn't appreciate it's value. However I do now.
    Let me say thank you!

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "One must conform to the baseness of an age or become neurotic." ― Robert Musil

  • @nvmcomrade
    @nvmcomrade 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I realized that 99.99% of what I think is a product of someone else's thinking that made a good impression on me. Shocking, I immediately paused the video and tried to think up something that hasn't been thought before.I struggled to do so for half an hour and I stopped as I got quite dizzy and exhausted from trying to trying to think something unique and novel completely unrelated to prior knowledge. I went to sleep and first thought in the morning was, I can't think anything like that, I have to investigate further.

  • @davide_gada
    @davide_gada 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Personally I have noticed that when I socialize it's harder to introspect and self reflect. I start to think in superficial and simple ways.... but still, as you said, it's an important part of life.

  • @andrewleaddis407
    @andrewleaddis407 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Anti-social behavior is a trait of intelligence in a world full of conformists.

    • @shivattack
      @shivattack 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      well the point is, what you are saying is not absolutely true or false it has to be done consciously to become intelligence otherwise you are in the traps that were mentionned in the video...

    • @Opethfeldt
      @Opethfeldt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think that's a narcissistic take on it. We aren't any better. In fact, in the past, we, as a species, needed others for survival, so it would be smart to conform. We just live easy lives now and don't need direct relationships with others to survive anymore.

  • @gboriekingdavidalexander513
    @gboriekingdavidalexander513 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello Leo this is King David Alex Gborie from Sierra Leone West Africa 🇸🇱, thank you for all your teachings you are appreciated.
    Love

  • @alexisguzman1117
    @alexisguzman1117 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    We are social animals however being alone does have its advantages. To think your way out of your problems

  • @NEXTLEVELAWARENESS
    @NEXTLEVELAWARENESS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I had friends like you because your the only person who sees what I see and thinks how I do.

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    "The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it's conformity." ― Rollo May

  • @saimak7079
    @saimak7079 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a refreshingly modest bloke.

  • @RODRIGOR300
    @RODRIGOR300 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    It's not socialization that make us stupid, but our reaction to it. If we are truly awake, socialize even with stupid people can be totally harmless.

    • @bottlewaddle6677
      @bottlewaddle6677 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      fax machine

    • @migspeculates
      @migspeculates ปีที่แล้ว +2

      the duration of said socialization with conformists makes all the difference

  • @archanjelmichael4369
    @archanjelmichael4369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im introvert,i love reading books so solitude is important for me. As very strong individualist im completely out of group think. I go my own way, different than majority.I do not have need to fit in with any team.... i do not give up my style , i do not sacrifice my happiness for anybody.... no no....i rather stay loyal to my attitudes and originality than to be robot ......Some people are really scared of my knowledges, of my open mind attitudes and freedom... some people value these traits and keep touch with me. I only follow my own wisdom... im not rich, im not successful according this society...but despite i feel happy. I find out you do not need to be millionare or sucessful and you can still be happy , because real happiness stems from real truthful loving friendships, good health, reconnection with nature, self development and sensitivity. Im lone wolf. I have always been lone wolf. I met many lone wolfs in my life journey, and most of them are my best friends..... so many intelligent and moral people among those who do not fit in to society....so many great people with great heart among them... many great people are misunderstood in this society, i want to send strong message..... be yourself and do not give up your dignity and happinness for anyone .You have right for your own happiness even it is different from majority ides..... RESPECT YOURSELF

  • @Avante0711
    @Avante0711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’ll always have my own thoughts (opinions) but I’m willing to learn how others think.

  • @FORSAI
    @FORSAI 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've done my best creative work in periods of social isolation. I enjoy it to. Tryna get back to that more.

  • @veganbyday3771
    @veganbyday3771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Leo, I am a woman and for years you have been almost my only and certainly my favorite way of socializing 😅😂🤣

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Femcel, eh? ;)

    • @redhat4363
      @redhat4363 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't believe you.. There is no such thing as a female loner.

    • @shimmish4282
      @shimmish4282 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Watching leo is NOT socializing. I don't think the kind of "socializing" he talks about having done is really quality socializing either...I feel like he is talking about doing "pickup" and yeah, that IS stupid

    • @shimmish4282
      @shimmish4282 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@redhat4363 are you serious?

    • @redhat4363
      @redhat4363 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shimmish4282 yeah I am! There is no such a thing as a female lone wolf. Female are social creatures by nature and it’s all due to some sociobiological survival reasons that go back to the hunter gatherer time. You are probably partially less social than most of your fellow women.. that doesn’t make from you a loner!
      To me this notion of a female loner or a female warrior is as ridiculous as a pregnant man!

  • @jamaladdinjamal
    @jamaladdinjamal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Following your work for a long time now and I have got to say , this EP is minding changing and very important one , much appreciation for your progression and wisdom , Leo , thank you for doing the work , a very inspirational and truthful human being.

  • @jelmar35
    @jelmar35 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Leo, I love you. I just want to say that, despite the fact that you say a lot of true things in this video, it is rife with arrogance. This I see in almost all your videos.
    The fact that many people do not have the insight you have is completely irrelevant. Even though it is true that people are stupid, it does not need to be said.
    A way out is to feel the slight joy you feel when you think about other people being stupid and watch it stream away over and over again. No need to repress it. Enjoy it while it is there. I struggle with the same thing, it is one of the things that hold me back the most.

    • @Schsxuoiywkopjbrreeu
      @Schsxuoiywkopjbrreeu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I get the vibe that Leo has a kind of contempt for most people. I like his videos and get a lot from him, but his (arrogance/contempt/intensity?) is unmistakable. Unmistakable in the sense that it may be one of those things or all of them……I dunno, but he comes across unhappy with something

    • @jelmar35
      @jelmar35 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Schsxuoiywkopjbrreeu I've had the problem of arrogance for years and still do. It came from being excluded from the group in primary school while being quite smart in comparison to the rest. For me, that was a breeding ground to start feeling superior in order to cope with the lack of love I had received.
      It's too bad that Leo has this tone, because quite a few people I tried introducing to him were turned off by it. :(

    • @ThisIsOneHundred
      @ThisIsOneHundred 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I’ve been binging self help related content for years, and have paid for multiple coaches before. So far, Leo’s stuff is the only content which has actually got me to take real action in my life. I think being called stupid is something I actually need, a lot of self help stuff is just way too positive and doesn’t get me to really see all the lies and bullshit I keep telling myself.
      He might take it a bit too far sometimes, but for me it’s a lot more help than hindrance.

  • @M_i_m_e_s_i_s_8601
    @M_i_m_e_s_i_s_8601 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Leo: I really like where you’ve come to with this channel. Imo these latest videos have been a whole new level of great.
    I think this episode will be very helpful to deep thinkers.

  • @grain-coat
    @grain-coat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    leo, appreciate the upload. There definitely is a benefit to spending time alone. However, I can't help but think some sort of balance is needed. With things like art for instance, I believe experiencing others can spawn a new doorway to experiment down. The tricky part is learning to socialize without conforming. I've noticed this while being home over the summer. Even if I don't agree without someone's statement, if it is constantly repeated to me on a daily basis, I almost start to unconsciously believe it. Mshluv

    • @grain-coat
      @grain-coat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      nvm shoulda watched the whole vid

    • @inkolore2
      @inkolore2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@grain-coat I feel like your comment illustrates something important with TH-cam. I assume the nuance you're talking about is literally mentioned by Leo towards the later part (haven't watched the video yet).
      It's kind of unfortunate that good titles are often far less nuanced than the content. To be clear I am not saying Leo is doing anything wrong with his titles, it's just that "Oversocialization and group-think make you stupid, but not healthy relationships" is a far worse title than "How socialization makes you stupid", because even though the 1st one is more nuanced, it's also got 2 ideas within it, which doesn't make the title stick as much to the reader. Seems like there is sort of a tradeoff between being accurate with your content and having catchier titles when someone makes such long form video with lots of nuances in them, like Leo does. And that this kind of tradeoff wouldn't exist if someone just made short and shallow videos with one single point. Not saying Leo should switch obviously, just thinking that TH-cam is biased towards shorter and overall more simplistic content in many ways.

    • @grain-coat
      @grain-coat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@inkolore2 yes. Had to watch more to get the message he wanted to get across rather than create my own

    • @paulbraunstein2290
      @paulbraunstein2290 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yea, it’s all balance

    • @paulbraunstein2290
      @paulbraunstein2290 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@grain-coat Lmao same

  • @babjo3985
    @babjo3985 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What you saying makes sense even LeBron James recently said what gives him sleepless nights is when everybody is not on the same page sometimes he wish he was a tennis player when he can look into the mirror and know it's me against me

  • @pjaw8226
    @pjaw8226 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I do enjoy much of what Leo has to say and I've watched his work on and off for many years. However, I find it highly contradictory to attempt coming across as a vast enlightened being whilst proclaiming to "have reached levels of intelligence few have ever reached". It's very egotistical... so surely enlightened individuals wouldn't feel the need to throw that out there? They wouldn't need to. Where's the ego death?

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Although over 110k people watch this brilliant clip, they have no idea how significant your ideas are. The magnitude of what you covey here can't be deeply grasped by most people. I also noticed that socializing puts immense pressure on me to conform to their values and act similarly to how they behave.

  • @localmissfit7961
    @localmissfit7961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “Its alot more socially acceptable for a man to go to a club by himself than a women to go by herself” me currently sitting alone at a bar getting lunch alone listening to this while sipping on whiskey 😄🖖🏼

  • @deanf.6926
    @deanf.6926 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great post! Best part -- very few speak on this, and a conversation this direct, is extremely rare. Resonates....thx for the post.

  • @unknownhollow4141
    @unknownhollow4141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That's it. Just like all youtubers you're just repeating the same basic ideas now. No one has anything new to say anymore. No one is moving forward. No one has a vision of the next step. Everyone is just holding on to ancient ''wisdom'' to cope with a world that's changing rapidly into the unknown, despite dystopian projections.

    • @BigSausageTits
      @BigSausageTits 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes indeed.
      otherwise known as ‘the treadmill’

  • @briannerk3373
    @briannerk3373 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is very important:
    Eric Fromm talks about pseudo socializing, which he called "automaton conformity". He wasn't talking about the far end of the spectrum between "introversion" and "extraversion; he was talking about a pathological way of being in groups that is actually a way of not relating to others (this is characteristic of most group interactions in our societies). Reducing Fromm, as many do I think because it feels safer, to a mere talking about "extremes of a spectrum of non-conformity vs conformity" misses the real value of his writing and the extremely disturbing social aspects of our society that he exposes.

  • @albozz_fx
    @albozz_fx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This video is a coping mechanism for introverts who dont socialize to feel good about their isolation.

  • @the-absolute-light
    @the-absolute-light 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is incredibly true. I’m not very social but my profession requires me to be in close contact with clients for an hour or a few each session. I try not to push my radical non-dual worldview and allow the conversations to go at their pace. Most people just pick out conversation topics that they saw in viral tweets, and they don’t have any additional information or questions about it.

  • @summerwind457
    @summerwind457 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My job REQUIRES group/corporate think. I have tried to cultivate those responses even though I do not subscribe to them. Have to keep my job. Really boxes in authentic, personal, truthful responses from me. Plays havoc with my psyche and has required a huge amount of compartmentalization. I feel like a hooker. You are grossly mistaken about genders. I am a very attractive, professionally successful woman. But now as a mid-age woman in a job that requires group- think, I experience a great dilemma.it’s confirm in the job environment or else!

    • @eliethia_munay
      @eliethia_munay 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pretty much the only time I come back to the notion of not quite seeing things as Leo explains in his videos - Is the bias he sometimes has in regards to gender/how males & females think/perspectives.

  • @dmt7674
    @dmt7674 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    After watching your life purpose video, I can already formulate what this one is about. I haven’t watched it yet but I want to say quickly that even if conversations are storms of a person’s own egoic and subjective beliefs and introspections, it doesn’t take away the fact we can talk about enlightenment and respond with love to their struggles. We can bring healing, perspective of something bigger than ourselves, and teach about love with love. All this can be done without the confiscation of ourselves.

  • @Lil_curious
    @Lil_curious 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It depends on what socialization you are doing; in my opinion, if you socialize with people of different income class than you/or if you travel to other countries and socialize with people there, I'd say you'd gain more insight and are less likely to fall into group think. This largely depends on who you surround yourself with because I've met many introverted men with very dogmatic brains. When they socialize, it tests their viewpoints on reality after spending so much time alone... they actually become dumber than they otherwise would've been because they are not gaining insight from interacting with others. (These men tend to fall for religion and internet ideology easier as well, and I'd say it's BECAUSE of their lack of socialization that they subscribe to these theories, thus hindering their intelligence despite spending so much time alone). Similar to how one can be susceptible to groupthink, I've noticed, as someone who is the most introverted of the extravert archetypes (if that makes sense), that there is also conformity of what I'd call "self-think." Suppose you aren't applying balance and interacting with people, especially those that are diverse and have different backgrounds/cultures than you. In that case, you can fall into "self-think," a tunnel vision view of reality because no one is challenging you/your beliefs. I waitressed at Denny's for 4 years, and I can tell you I learned more from meeting people there than my introverted male friend who subscribes to logic and lacks emotions/empathy.
    I think it can be MORE valuable to socialize with one sheep from every different herd, is what I am trying to say.

    • @Liisa3139
      @Liisa3139 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well said! Social skills take intelligence and they can only be practiced in socializing. Also, a portion of the population are truly inborn extroverts and their energy is not drained by socializing. On the contrary, their batteries get loaded in social interaction. They thrive in social contact. And good quality socializing is not manipulative. Skilled socializers may not create many original thoughts, but they may be the ones who can bring people together and work successfully towards a common goal. The big problem in today's world is that way too many people are isolated and lonely. Their isolation does not make them think great thoughts; it makes them suffer and often dulled down.
      I find that part of the problem is that we actually value intelligence too much and believe that rational thinking can solve all our problems. We refuse to admit that every technological invention produces as many problems as it solves. To what degree is our progress really progress at all? In a way of seeing, the Amish are pretty capable people. They are highly sociable within their own group. They can build a house and fix many kinds of tools. They can grow food. It takes intelligence and skills to do these things. How many of us can build anything? What do you really know about different kinds of timber for example? You may have read many books about wood, but has it made you understand how wood behaves when you work on it? It takes years to get to know - really know - materials. Working with a material for a long time increases your intelligence. You don't just learn about the qualities of the material, you learn about yourself - about your body and about your ways of thinking. Repetitive physical work can calm down the mind. You may get totally new ideas. There you go, original thinking!

    • @ASMR-XI-ZUI
      @ASMR-XI-ZUI ปีที่แล้ว

      I think u r spot on. I've found an app where there r so many ppls to connect with all over the world. From all different age groups n backgrounds. N I feel happy there than in my local community. Bcoz local commercial r very narrow minded, racist and old fashioned.
      I like to talk to all kinds of people all over the world. N learn about different cultures n countries. It's wonderful. Without the internet we wud all be stuck in our local tribes n fear the outsiders.

  • @madmax5841
    @madmax5841 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can confirm most of what you described here to be true from personal experience. Good work

  • @ovidiudrobota2182
    @ovidiudrobota2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth." ― John F. Kennedy

  • @nesobre
    @nesobre 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Boy we are all so lucky to have come across Leo and his content. I hope to take my music to the next level as I self improve.

  • @babymae2222
    @babymae2222 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I consider myself a feminist, and I will always support women, but I do have to agree with you on that one. I have more intelligent conversations with men than I do with women. They have nothing new to talk about, and are focused on appearance more than anything. Being intelligent is the most attractive quality someone can have.

    • @AnitaAlibi
      @AnitaAlibi ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't fawn the mysoginist. Unfollow him.

  • @noshamey1495
    @noshamey1495 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I consider myself as introverted. I'm a Meyers Briggs female INTJ personality type but I've noticed how different my type is and although I've always been in this social structured mind that my different types of intelligence has reached the top of every facet just from watching your videos. I just flow through TRUTH and in that it defends itself, but doesn't spare me any less bullshit.

  • @user-hb2dh4zh7o
    @user-hb2dh4zh7o ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I would like to add that there have been just as many female geniuses as there has been male geniuses throughout history, their ideas were simply not listened to or taken seriously, so we have either not heard of them, or they never got the chance they deserved to be recognized.

    • @paul-ie
      @paul-ie ปีที่แล้ว

      Source?

  • @purelightyogaandreiki
    @purelightyogaandreiki 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks Leo for creating another authentic video! This was helpful for me as I have always preferred being alone than in groups. It has helped me a lot with creativity and ‘original thought’ which I think is divine thought that is expressed when one is clear of unconscious thought patterns. I used to think it was selfish to want to be alone most of the time but this has helped clarify that for me. I do feel that socialising is good to some degree as it challenges us to share our truth and be accepting of others without taking on their beliefs. Very insightful, thank you 🙏

  • @nithin7549
    @nithin7549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Me every time after socializing

  • @peacepiper2694
    @peacepiper2694 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was asking existential questions as an isolated 30 a day cigarette smoker for 8 years. Socialising was a joy after quitting nicotine and tobacco. Just got to get over the small duck issue to get to 4th base.
    Law of familiarity. Appreciation is everything.
    But seriously more theatrical improv drama role-playing that has humour as a consistent based on more more intelligent themes. That's a pleasure to the higher mind.

  • @selenalambert3388
    @selenalambert3388 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Leo, the notion that you made, basically stating that men are typically more intelligent than women, because men "talk" less, is very disappointing. Hearing this our whole lives becomes very disheartening, the "big thinkers" of the past, such as Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein were respected and listened to because they were men. Your voice is heard so much more easier than us for centuries. Women are the anchors to the spirit world, all naturally connected without even trying. Many times I've been in a group of men they'll talk over me, so I think you really need to re-ponder your beliefs on this one, seems mighty arrogant. I've seen it working with children from a young age, the girls are always so smart, and the boys are typically barbaric most of the time, I think as men grow older they just tell themselves they're smarter. Surely our IQ is equal, but emotional intelligence and wisdom, women have this in the bag. You're wrong.

    • @AnitaAlibi
      @AnitaAlibi ปีที่แล้ว

      100%. Unfollow him.

  • @chahineezzine5504
    @chahineezzine5504 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Correct If I'm wrong but from this video I can see the old nice leo, but more mature and intelligent and without any kind of superiority vibes or arrogance, this is exactly what I was looking for, thank you

  • @pavelpodlesnjy3438
    @pavelpodlesnjy3438 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Following your ideas made me miserable, thx
    Narcissistic content, the guy lives in his own bubble, dont try to apply this ideas in your own life, not gonna work

    • @pavelpodlesnjy3438
      @pavelpodlesnjy3438 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      OMG, i am not alone here
      Ive watched all of his videos in 3 years
      they have made me a complete social handicap

  • @MacDavis-o2m
    @MacDavis-o2m ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Leo, that lecture was absolutely perfect

  • @user-wj1yd3yr5q
    @user-wj1yd3yr5q 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey

  • @willyouwright
    @willyouwright 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wisdom is ability to put strategies in place that ultimately help and encourage the world to develop

  • @realkursed
    @realkursed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What was the point in pointing out that women are more social on average? That they have had to rely on socialization? Do you feel like a bigger man for pointing that out? Honestly made me want to stop watching.

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Just an observation.

    • @realkursed
      @realkursed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ActualizedOrg Ok so there was no real point. Got it.

    • @madmax5841
      @madmax5841 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Kurstin Roberts Look up 'Equal Contribution' by Colttaine if you are that much in denial about it.

    • @realkursed
      @realkursed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@madmax5841Why don't you look up some reading comprehension? Did i say i was in denial? No, I just fail to see the point of even pointing it out other than to pad the ego of this man.

    • @madmax5841
      @madmax5841 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@realkursed I get that you don't see a point in telling the truth because it hurts your feelings. But truth is a value in and of itself. Besides the large majority of geniuses being male, they also have a 5 years shorter life expectancy due to higher work related stress, making up 93% of work place fatalities, 92% of deaths due to war, 76% of suicides and homicides, 55% of DV victims, 23% victims of r ape and SA at the hands of a woman accompanied by no legal due process, getting 10-63% more prison time for the same crimes, 81% of homelessness, getting significantly less illness funding, 40% less chances to be adopted and so on.
      These facts do not make me feel like a 'bigger man' that will conquer the universe and win against all odds or something. They make me feel betrayed by the female collective (never trusted other men to begin with) and make me want to unalive myself.

  • @CFM7
    @CFM7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm glad you brought up the importance of emotional awareness & emotional intelligence, & how it can totally shake & shape the mindful intelligence in its operation & approaches

  • @muhammadmahboobulhaq4144
    @muhammadmahboobulhaq4144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First comment

  • @olivebates
    @olivebates 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Leo, from the bottom of my heart. Your work has set me free. I hope you continue to bask in gloriful fruits of your existence.

  • @sonatan-sonofsanatan2741
    @sonatan-sonofsanatan2741 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Leo, I believe the root problem of humanity whether it’s is falling for the society or any other things is body identification.
    An average human does not understand that he/she is not the localised ego or programmed nervous system.
    The “Self” itself is God / Intelligence
    Please make a video on this.

  • @gingervitus2377
    @gingervitus2377 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tripping will show you this! Especially at a parade or festival. All the brands, all the things to buy, all the souls drawn there to feed. You can see it for the CONSTRUCT it is. Not that I recommend doing this or not doing it. I've had this experience multiple times. It was astounding and completely mesmerizing and hypnotic. Also in the passenger seat of a car. All the other souls with their car. Sheesh. 😵💖

  • @Rage_Moon
    @Rage_Moon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just know that you can choose not to socialize and enjoy it's just you don't have to stay in home all the time go out have fun sit in a park and think about your ideas do exercises while thinking about your own ideas , do your work but listen only to yourself.

  • @lordsonic4567
    @lordsonic4567 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I been watching your video for the past 5 years Thanks for continuing to share your wisdom. Saludos from Mexico my brother.