My mind and my soul was so broken down, I looked for the help I needed and I found these videos, I am grateful for people like you making these videos. I wanted to understand where I went wrong, I was stuck going back and forth in my mind for many, many years with this idea that I needed to forgive and I needed to keep trying to make this relationship turn out right. I kept getting trapped in this dynamic with the narcissist until I couldn't do it anymore. I had this dream where I was being gaslighted, it was so real, I felt like I was being backed into a corner, I tried to explain myself and then I got angry, I lashed out and I ended up feeling guilty even though it was happening in a dream. I finally am getting my mind to make peace about this relationship in my head. This dynamic kept happening to me all my life, sometimes I handled it right and sometimes I didn't and I regret the times I didn't handle myself right, I hurt myself, I hurt other people. God is helping me to heal and mature. My intention was right toward people, I did want what was logical and fair, I didn't always express myself right and I made it worse. The idea of forgiving the narcissist, I realized I had to look at myself first where I was going wrong, I had to learn from this experience and mature from it and I had to let these types of relationships go. I also realized the narcissist needs to be humbled before God however He does it, whatever the measure that will come to them will be perfect and I learned to not interfere in that.
I still have empathy for my ex. I want to try to help him so badly, but I know I have to put myself first for once. I do still love him, but I don't want him back. It's hard.
Same. We see how hurt and damaged they truly are, and we want to help them in any way we can buuuutttt we know they don't see a problem with their behavior so they won't change. It's sad tbh
Its ok/normal to have empathy, we are human. Having empathy just means that you need to take good care of yourself and your borders, to protect your energy and soul. 🌻
Having empathy is normal bruh he that dwells in us is greater than he who is in the world ive been with a narcissistic female for 23 yrs only to be used and casually disrespected and provoked to almost overreacting to not a good ending for all involved I loved her and she used that to manipulate me and acted demented and kinda demonic she was very damaged and I thought I could save this gorgeous girl with 3kids wasted a large chunk of my life but the strong survive bro with Gods help in this evil world with people doing vile and insidious this thanks for your imput it definitely helps to see other men who have dealt with it
Weird how I found this video. My narcissistic husband wants a divorce because I didn't empty out the fridge like he asked me to because I went to shop for groceries. He has discarded me before I begged him to take me back. He has physically abused me, choked me, hit me , slapped me etc. He was physically abused by his father as a child. I know he tries but he is too messed up. We had 2 cats together but I adopted them. So I took my cats with me n moved out a few days ago. I cried yesterday thinking how he must miss the cats. I felt so bad when I shouldn't!!
Yes. However learn to love from a distance. Like a wild tiger etc. You can admire and understand but not try to force them into anything that won't work out
I mean I have empathy for narcisists . I just had to let go of one 4 years ago , Cause he was manipulative and controlling and when I let go of people like that there;s no hard feelings I wish them the best but I just can't deal with them anymore
A narcissist weaponizes empathy against you
You are right smh
I appreciate these videos so much because you speak exactly how I feel deep down and it helps me along the healing journey so much!!
You’re welcome! Wish you nothing but success on your journey. You got this ❤️🙏🏾
You are a good man
Appreciate that 🙏🏾
My mind and my soul was so broken down, I looked for the help I needed and I found these videos, I am grateful for people like you making these videos. I wanted to understand where I went wrong, I was stuck going back and forth in my mind for many, many years with this idea that I needed to forgive and I needed to keep trying to make this relationship turn out right. I kept getting trapped in this dynamic with the narcissist until I couldn't do it anymore. I had this dream where I was being gaslighted, it was so real, I felt like I was being backed into a corner, I tried to explain myself and then I got angry, I lashed out and I ended up feeling guilty even though it was happening in a dream. I finally am getting my mind to make peace about this relationship in my head. This dynamic kept happening to me all my life, sometimes I handled it right and sometimes I didn't and I regret the times I didn't handle myself right, I hurt myself, I hurt other people. God is helping me to heal and mature. My intention was right toward people, I did want what was logical and fair, I didn't always express myself right and I made it worse. The idea of forgiving the narcissist, I realized I had to look at myself first where I was going wrong, I had to learn from this experience and mature from it and I had to let these types of relationships go. I also realized the narcissist needs to be humbled before God however He does it, whatever the measure that will come to them will be perfect and I learned to not interfere in that.
You are honest. God bless you.
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I still have empathy for my ex. I want to try to help him so badly, but I know I have to put myself first for once. I do still love him, but I don't want him back. It's hard.
Same. We see how hurt and damaged they truly are, and we want to help them in any way we can buuuutttt we know they don't see a problem with their behavior so they won't change. It's sad tbh
Yes. Thanku.
I gt u.
It hurts. It's painful 💔 xx
Very painful 🥲
Its ok/normal to have empathy, we are human. Having empathy just means that you need to take good care of yourself and your borders, to protect your energy and soul. 🌻
I feel the same
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yes, have empathy...for humans...they are dead inside( trauma in their sad life) but its like trying to help a dead person live again-
Having empathy is normal bruh he that dwells in us is greater than he who is in the world ive been with a narcissistic female for 23 yrs only to be used and casually disrespected and provoked to almost overreacting to not a good ending for all involved I loved her and she used that to manipulate me and acted demented and kinda demonic she was very damaged and I thought I could save this gorgeous girl with 3kids wasted a large chunk of my life but the strong survive bro with Gods help in this evil world with people doing vile and insidious this thanks for your imput it definitely helps to see other men who have dealt with it
Weird how I found this video. My narcissistic husband wants a divorce because I didn't empty out the fridge like he asked me to because I went to shop for groceries.
He has discarded me before I begged him to take me back. He has physically abused me, choked me, hit me , slapped me etc. He was physically abused by his father as a child.
I know he tries but he is too messed up. We had 2 cats together but I adopted them. So I took my cats with me n moved out a few days ago. I cried yesterday thinking how he must miss the cats. I felt so bad when I shouldn't!!
I can't think of a logical reason to love an abuser unless they look physically attractive which is what draws people in these days.
@@hurlentropy6866 it's called a trauma bond.
Yes. However learn to love from a distance. Like a wild tiger etc. You can admire and understand but not try to force them into anything that won't work out
I mean I have empathy for narcisists . I just had to let go of one 4 years ago , Cause he was manipulative and controlling and when I let go of people like that there;s no hard feelings I wish them the best but I just can't deal with them anymore
All I want is 4 them 2 heal xx
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