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Guys, pls try to understand.. KOREA in general values education. You can't blame her studying for long hours and sacrificing sleep. Let's just hope she does well and that all her harfwork pays off.
Yeah but children are still developing and need sleep. We all get different cultures and mindsets however, it is not healthy for a human especially when their brain is developing to lack sleep.
But health should be valued before anything else? Whats the point of everything when you're sick?
Yea, Korea have real serious problem on this. But I know a Korean friend, she stop Uni and went for gap year for working. I was shock because I thought Korean usually values education very much. I think might be family and community factor too. Hope everything the best for that her in the video.
@@mr.pineapple8687 yes of course it depends on the family and community factor bcs on the interveiw she had a competitive side after entering special school
@@yuwichan you have to understand. it's not the parents who are the problem. it's the kr society.
Just because korea has different revalues and standards doesn’t mean that what they’re doing isn’t harmful to their daughter
As a korean student yes it is harmful, it shouldn’t be excused.
exactly
“there’s really no need to apologize among family members. we just move on and be careful of one another.” this is a very toxic way of thinking no wonder the daughter doesn’t have a good relationship with the father. my dad also thinks this way and the only thing he me gave is trauma. u know kids are just waiting for the parents to talk to them and apologize but parents will never admit that they are the wrong ones and also blame u for being dramatic. well this is based on my case tho me & my dad will always fight but he never apologize to me and just move on like shouting at me didn’t hurt my feelings
Agreed. My dad has always provided me with material things and I even feel his love. He works hard to support me and my mother, and he takes great care of mom too. But he has a lot of trouble showing his love and connecting emotionally with my mom and me. He definitely tries but never seems to get it right. Turns out he grew in a very abusive household under an abusive single mother. She was even abusive and toxic towards my mother whenever we visit their house. It’s sad how trauma can take root in a persons mind,even in those who are considered “successful “.
Some parents have just too much pride, they can't bring themselves to apologize to others, and this sometimes affects the kid, it makes it hard for the kid to say sorry, so don't let your parents affect you too! Be better than them and learn to know your mistake. I was blown off by the dad's word, if you never apologize, the kid will never know if the parents realized the mistake or not, they may think, "Oh, my dad always thinks he is right, and I am always wrong." Its normal for the daughter to move distance from the dad.. :(
In asian countries family is given more importance than anything else. It is wrong but that's just the way they are brought up. I can confirm as an Indian. But the way he used it here was manipulative and wrong
Yes ur right I understand my mom emotionally abused me one day I snapped at her and stood up for myself I finally learned to keep my problems to myself in peace and keep to myself I keep my distance from her and I promised myself I would never do that to my kids
definitely,i went through that too :( even being the youngest (bcs ppl think we're spoiled)
I have an energy like her when entering college, studying all day all night, but now in my second year I'm losing my spirit to do all the assignment, feel like burnout...
Hope you overcome your burnout and slump 💕✨🌷
Honestly burn outs r one of the hardest things to recover from. It takes months or even years for ur body to actually stop feeling the burn out n I completely understand how u feel.
@@lilmotato5941 Thank you💖😭
@@yeelin723 I'm sobbing... glad that there are someone who understand what i'm feeling rn, thank you😭
The best way I found to beat that, is to study for 30 mins at a time. But if that’s too much, 10 mins. Then take a break. Don’t set yourself rewards as it won’t be that rewarding, play music you like and have a shower after you’ve studied. I found it helps me! Hopefully the same, if you burn out, then you burn out, there isn’t much you can do, but I hope you can do well, if not, you did your best!.
Wow this guy left his family to pursue his baseball career and his kids grew up without his presence and "there's no need to apologize between family members" is his mentality. What decade does he think this is! 1960s?!
IKR
He was clearly present just not living together.
@@skillbopster he wasn’t present…he didn’t watch his children grow, he didn’t guide his children through every emotion they felt, he didn’t even witness his daughter be born, he didn’t even remember his daughter’s birthday, he never spent a day with his daughter on her birthday before this show…he wasn’t present as a father and that’s why his daughter resents him because she sees him as a stranger.
The dad’s ego is ….. I’m glad his wife and son try to talk sense to him
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parents should learn to acknowledge that they are wrong and tell their kids they are sorry. this is important :) and kids who went through something like this knows
Apologize to family members when you did sth wrong is so important. Even if you are parents, you can make mistakes and admit it. I came from the family where parents never said sorry to me and It’s sad af.
For the study issue, I knew some Korean schools finish at 10-11 pm especially with high-schooler. It’s the problem of educational system. As a onced asian student who spent my whole time studying to attended uni, the family could tell her that ‘It’s fine, you can do anything. Don’t pressure yourself too much. Finding what you really want to do and happy about it is more important than being accepted in SKY’. Mom and Dad need to assure her that there’s someone got her back even if she couldn’t reach her goal. She likely to be in the stressful and anxiety state now. It’s not healthy both physically and mentally to study now. Maybe some changes could help her a lot.
Agree
But there's a problem with that mentality. It's hard to find jobs in Korea. You can find part time jobs like no problem. But a decently paying job with benefits? That's a whole different ball game. The reason why they study so hard and the reason the parents push them is due to the scarcity of stable good paying jobs. South Korea is especially competitive due to the restrictions of a small nation. Japan and Singapore also share the same fate in that regard. Especially when the entire country is having a crisis with too many over qualified citizens and a declining labor force. It's hard to find a job that you love and earn livable wage on top of that while taking care of family. SKY opens doors for opportunity but even then, that opportunity is still highly competitive. So just because they graduate from SKY doesn't immediately get them a job unlike in United States with the IVY league.
Lol when he said that there's no need to apologize within family members and just have to cautious around each other, a very typical trait in a family I guess but I hope this kind of mindsets stop though. True that action speaks louder than words, but hearing those kind of words are important too
Apologizing between family members is important. When my parents would yell at me and spank me they would never apologize and act as if it never happened. I never realized this until later on but it really affects you. This happened when I was younger but as I grew up I realized how difficult is was for me to apologize to other people when I made a mistake. I can recall this one time when I said something and hurt my best friend’s feelings but I had a hard time admitting it and apologizing. Eventually I did but in the moment I couldn’t bring myself to apologize. Kids learn from their parents…
Absolutely. Breaking the mold and what's given as example is difficult. It is possible though. It takes decision every day. I'm going to be a good parent today. When we fall, and do something we shouldn't, get up again. Starting again, so that the children get some apologies at least. Forgiveness is also important. So when someone apologizes, to forgive them. Saying sorry, please, thank you, I forgive you, every day.
I can relate with her. I remember everyday we had to sleep at 3 am in the dorm in high school, and wake up at 5 to go to school..
Okay but the younger brother seems to have a very sweet personality. He didn't get mad when both his parents sort of implied he isn't as academically inclined than his sister in this clip and the previous clips.
His own father is an athelete...... How anyone in this house will scold him for being atheletic
@@daisydaisy9309 eh idk my mom was an athlete and my dad an engineer. It's mostly our mom scolding us ab out academics lol even though we perform well. My dad on the other hand just tells to try hard and that he doesn't care ab the marks
ikr
Omg i can relate with her so much. Studying for almost half a day, went out for school early in the morning and went back home at night. Got little time to rest, really taking tolls to my body. Becoming fatigue and tired all the time. Anyhow, hardwork and effort never betrays! Hoping for your future success 🙌
I have same feeling during my first year in Uni. I was so nervous and anxious that people around us sounds really competitive and have really good in academic and have goals . That's make me so much low self esteem and push myself too hard for academic and lost the eye for beautiful thing around my Uni. What I would say is, after all those experience, I learn to put down the competitive mindset with others , I compete with my own self, learn thing at my own pace, participate in whatever thing I wanted to. I learn to accept that I am different from others. And I have my own path to go, this is when I started to think about what suit me the best bug not what the best people think. I really hope parents can give her lots of encouragement instead of asking her why she dint finish her homework.😢😢 It's just telling her that she is not pushing herself enough. If she is a night people , then ok, but looking her falling asleep at the table, I really hope she can get good sleep, not sleep that on the table.
I'm on the final semester of the last year in university and seriously still feel the same as day one, panicking and anxious all the time. Not like I was procrastinating or smt, it happended because I have 3 months break after each semester that make it's harder for me to re-stay focus again :( this situation is worse during the covid pandemic that I can't go to the uni for the final semester :(
@@celline.t hug hug. I am at my second year right now, and I am still learning to do things one by one and not to get anxious about it. I understand your feeling, I guess this is a lesson that we gonna learn for our whole life. Hang in there 💪
i completely relate to her. I study at a specialized education school where every single one of us doesn’t know what sleep is. we usually stay up until 3 in the morning and 6 if its exam days.
Wow that's so amazing!! I have been trying to do this since I need to catch up on my lessons but I somehow always end up sleeping on the studytable. Can u share some tips?
@@happygoldenstar9231 just get mom's scolding when I was going to school I always wished to study outside korea because the way we get pressure to study but it's good for future
@@happygoldenstar9231 to be honest, i don’t know how to advise you to sleep early because i’m literally writing this comment at 2 in the morning hahaha but if you want to catch up on your studies, i suggest you use your freetime to learn and repeat some topics that you want to master 🤗
Wow how do you guys manage to study so amazingly I have an exam tomorrow and I am binge watching TH-cam
Can you guys share some Tips for me to follow if that’s ok with you
when the mom got to the son, she didn’t have anything nice to say 🤣
I enjoyed my highschool days, even in medschool, i never stay up late, just wake up earlier; 4am-10pm.. find the best study routine for 1self..
The difference here is that in Korea many of their schools end at 10-11pm or even later. And it’s mandatory so it’s impossible to compare their system to other education systems
@@Chloe-jo5bk yup.. boarding school is like finish around 11.. thn supper..prepare 4 next day..so sleep around 12-1am.. wke up around 4..so tired
dude.. apologise if you did something wrong 🤦🏽♂️
I don't know what happened but if something happens you have to apologize and in this case is even more neccesary seeing her going throught so much.
I salute those students who study well because when I was in Junior Highschool I'm not really serious in studying and now I kinda regretting it, now that I'm a senior highschool student hahahaha
2:41 this is wrong on so many levels.
Why is life of today's teens so dawm
😭😭
i could finally relate her.
Not getting proper sleep.
Having meal when getting time instead of having with family .
Too much competitive surroundings .
If you're Asian, yeah surely your teen life would be like that. I'm an Asian and never found myself in peace when keep taking higher and higher education. But that's the shortest way for people from developing countries like me to seek jobs and gain better life to be honest. Our parents formed in our minds that we have to study to get a better life than them. I think they do get the point tho, I don't have dream and don't really like anything so studying is the only way for me to discover what I can do for future job :(
I feel her because as a first year collegeee, I stayed up for almost 24 hrs because of a lot of assignments and you also need to review for everyday recitation and quizzes. So if you're still in your highschool pleasee enjoy it noww and if you all have a lot of time to sleep do it now. Cuz once you enter COLLEGE it's reallyy hit different
Guys, it's how it is. That's basically how education works in some asian countries or any other countries at that, but again, it's individually different. There are really some students who would work so hard for a gratifying result and there are also some who don't. And that's how it is for her. When I was in uni as well I would be sleeping at 5am and wake up at 6:30am to go to school, because it would be difficult for me to steady my game if I don't study hard. I was not blessed with a theoretically excellent brain but it doesn't mean I can't achieve anything when there is what we call HARDWORK. And not all parents support and understand that, that's why I chose to study miles away from home.
I'm a high school student getting up 4 or 5 am to study , go to school at 8:30 and at 4 pm start to study again till 12pm🙂 I know how its feel 😫
my dad was never exactly around while i was very young (im the youngest out of 7) because he was working in different state and whenever he came home i'd be confused to the man inside of our house. i remember watching him so curiously. at one moment he quit his job and came back, he tried his best with his role of a father and being there for my siblings and i. my parents are seperated but im appreciative for him doing the best he can. seeing the father daughter relationship just pains me the way he acts
OMG, so happy to see her again... I've been know her since leaving the nest!!!
There was a time when I was also like her, but I realised that my attitude wasn't right.
It wasn't right for me to let my stress out on my family members and get angry of every little thing they did. At the beginning I was in the right because they really weren't understanding but after time I got angry ok the smallest things.
I thought I was right because I was studying so much but I had to realise that I was in the wrong.
studying isn't as important as my mental health and my relationships.
I can be good in school and take care of myself without overworking.
In the end it all went well and I graduated.
I wasn't the best in class but I did my best without being competitive.
I know it must be harder in korea, but I think if she doesn't change her attitude towards school she will regret it.
I truly believe she will do well without studying until 5 am.
I'm saying it mostly for her and her mental and physical state, then her relationship with her father will improve automatically.
Of course her father has to be understanding too.
„There’s really no need to apologize among family members.“
I can’t put into words how much this sentences irritates me.
Ireland also values education. But I've seen too many get overwhelmed with it all. Others than stop and give up. The trick is to enjoy the study, then learning is easier. If our brains are overloaded, the information doesn't stick. So a plan is very important. I'm also a great believer in timers. Spend a set time on each subject, including revision of a written summary and after a short 10 minute break. This really works. It's also important to have something to look forward to in the week and work around it. Other comments about sleep shouldn't be ignored. Learning happens while we sleep. Discipline time is a good habit to develop, also for university. My eldest just finished a PhD, so believe me, I'm like an expert. I had to encourage him when he was too hard on himself. When he got down. When he felt he got very little done even though he'd studied all day and night. Then told, he needed to redo everything. In the end, it was discipline that got him there. His viva was amazing. They were really happy. So get out the timer. Not phone timer. Set for 30 minutes,( second level) 40 minutes ( university) then 10 minutes revision, making notes. 10 minutes break, doing physical activity. Walk or tidy or run or shower. Finally, 10 minutes check knowledge. It really works. By the way, he was working with Asian supervisors. He also was surrounded by Asians doing PhDs in same area, engineering He worked as hard as they did. Nepal, India, as well as Africa, Mexico. They were an amazing group of people. Parents, encourage discipline, rather than study. Let them have fun too. Recently, Paul O Donovan won a gold medal in rowing for Ireland. He is currently doing post-grad medicine at the same time. He had placement in hospitals as well as difficult exams, and he was training Olympic training for rowing, the most difficult sport of all. What's his secret? He doesn't do stress, and he's disciplined. He uses his time well. We all can't be Paul, but we can learn from him. Look up some of the interviews with him from the recent Japanese held Olympics. Enjoy and learn.
My freshman year was not what I was looking up to for since it was the start of pandemic. My first year of high school was ruin!
I'm sorry but "no reason to apologies among family", THAT IS ABSURD. Attitude like that is what makes children never want to talk to their parents again after they leave the house.
And then when they grow old when children don't care abt them, they will backstab and said children nvr appreciate them and think abt them. Bloody hell.
I feel bad for students in South Korea because they put great importance in studying but it's often not healthy because students have weaker physical and mental health from studying all the time. I'm glad my Asian parents weren't pressuring me to have excellent grades as long as I did my best 😞✊
this is so university student vibes. people oftentimes don't even know what we're going through at times. love to all my fellow students.
Kinda makes me miss my school days. I did poorly at Junior high school and High school, but did my best at college. Though I'm sad I couldn't graduate (I decided to drop my education to work bc my parents splitted and I had help my mom paying debts) but it's such an unforgettable experience. We have shop at home which sells daily necessities and everyday's very busy. My parents (before splitting) mostly spend their times maintaining the shop and I was the one in charge of all chores (except for cooking 😅), my brother was a high school student at that time and well... Back then he's just a boy. I woke up at 5, doing chores until 9-10 AM, spent at least one hour for a nap then preparing myself for class (my classes regularly started from 11 to 5 PM). Went home and doing chores again, got sleep at 11 PM then woke up again at 2AM to do all assignments and did some study until 4 AM. My weight dropped really bad in my college days (in HS I was 68 kgs and in college I was 48Kgs to 50Kgs) but I enjoyed it. It's the most productive time in my life. Now if I stay up late without nap my body'd would feel tired easily lol, getting old is tough.
I remembered sleeping for only 1 hour just to study and yeah I’m still in 10th grade lol
She kinda looks like Kaori Oinuma, kawaii
I just love how people in the comments try to justify their incompetence by blaming others or pretending it's not important.
I'm allergic to korea's education system 😂
I went to a college prep school where we would go to actual community college and I would go to sleep at 12-4am in the morning, because I had a lot of assignment, and I would sacrifice sleep. When I took 6 week class at my college I would literally get less than 4 hours of sleep a night, I worked till 12am at night at my job and had to get up early the next day to go to a 7:50am class and then go to a study group study till 1am and come home and study longer. I understand that it hard to keep up, but I learned that sleep is very important, I had the same habit since my freshman year of highschool till my sophomore year of college. So don't make the same mistake as me and just find time for rest, my anxiety got really bad because of my lack of sleep and I was alway on edge.
When I was younger, even in college, I don't do an all-nighter, I always choose sleep over study. My reason is that no matter how you study, if you lack sleep, your brain won't work that well. And I don't want to risk dozing off during an exam. 😅
And you don't have to be smart to know that.
Dad and daughter lived apart for a long time. She is going on puberty that’s why
Ang laki na anak ni Taecyeon! 😅 Still smart :) Reunion with Daddy Tae and your twin, please?🤭🤭🤭
apologising is really important
Parents who don't put their feet down enough
Premed student here 🙋♀️. Can relate to studying all night and having messed up sleeping schedule😭
Wow she's reaaaaly pretty😍
I understand her very well cause I'm experiencing it rn and it's very hard but you have no choice cause I want to achieve my dream
I come from an Asian household, and it’s unfortunate how many Asian parents don’t apologize to their children. When I was a teenager, my dad told my relatives that I’m not smart, just hardworking. This is something I carry with me until I’ve become an adult. Now I’m in a top medical school, but I constantly feel undeserving because I’m “not smart.” Sometimes parents just assume their children don’t get hurt by their words. Then they expect their children to just forget and act happy all the time.
Agreed. I was considered not so bright by my parents. I had a hard time in primary school, as we moved a lot, and I found it hard to adjust. So I didn't do well really until I reached university. I had managed to develop my skills in music, so that became my study. However, I have now broken with this. I was too old, it took encouragement from my husband and friends and children. So break out from this mentality now. You are very bright. Medical school is no joke, and very competitive. Look in the mirror and say you are the best. You can do it. Love yourself. Love your neighbor as yourself. If you don't love your self, you can't love your neighbor. Be a brilliant whatever you want to be. You are in medical school now. Break free from the bonds holding you back. When the painful comments come again, walk away. Then later, forgive them, then you can be truly free. Buy the parent a gift, or dinner, and then explain how these comments affected you. I did this. The gift was significant. It still took a while, and things were awkward. Still, I became more confident, and when he was dying, we understood eachother. I have no regrets. Courage. Not easy. It might take you years or you might be more courageous than I was. I'll be thinking of you. Routing for you. Think of me as your supporter in spirit. You can do it. Break free.
She’s smart af studying hard to keep her GPA high DURING FRESHMAN YEAR!!!! It’s better to start with a higher GPA than a lower one bc if you start with a low one,it will never go up. Way to go girl
I will never understand why some parents think they are never wrong and don’t apologize when they are wrong
As an Indian I find this way to relatable when I was preparing for JEE Advanced 😭
the father is so useless his mindset is omg , he expect everything will go his way bruh
Many people said she is rude to her and spoke with a loud voice.but imagine a child grew up to teen without having father by her side whom she used to adore and then his father behaves like one heck of a teenager !
I saw this videos and I saw myself in this little girl. She needs to find her own way to learn easier, faster and more effectively. I grew up thinking that studying more hours would mean better grades but REALITY hits hard when you start to notice that It doesn't work like that for everybody. I am an architecture student and I was pretty miserable in my first years, anything was going the way I wanted and it just made me lose motivation and lots of hours of sleep. I was not enjoying college, I didnt want to go outsite, I didnt want to see my friends and I lost all my confidence, I was in general not enjoying life and thats not how its suppose to be. Now after months of trying, found a way of studying that actually works for me, and ironically is studying less hours but concentrate in finishing and understanding. I have more free time to read books of subjects that I enjoy, learn new languages and the most important thing is that my anxiety towards academic matters has been reduced significantly.
Hi! can I know what strategy are you doing? still in the phase of looking for what suits me 😔
@@sparedupe7399 sorry for the late answer! Its really hard for me to actually start studying or start an assigment, it takes a lot for me to really concentrate. After some time I realize that studying in my room or my house was not working so I looked for other places, now I go to a public library or a cafe to study and it helps me a lot, there is something aout studying in a place with strangers that give me 0 distractions ( I prefer cafes rather than studying in my collage libraries). I also need to work on routines because I am a anxious procrastinator and I won't do anything if I'm not consistent. So I have a morning routine which include a little session of stretching or walking or jumping rope, anything that makes me move, I know it sound stupid but having a morning routine its pretty helpful, it helps to have some control of myself and not let collage work take over me. I never study at night, there might be days but I tried my best to go and sleep early. I used to do all nighters but I realize that I work slower and less efficent that when I am awake and well rested. Also, I dont study or do homework for longs hours, Im architecture student and its really difficult to try to control how much time I am spending on an specific homework but for me its not posible to study for more than 2 hours without getting horribly distracted. So I try to divide my assigments in little tasks that I know I can do in a few hours, when I finish those tasks I fell really motivated so there are times that I would go all the way and finish an assigment in one day, those day are perfect and really uncommon lol. There are days in which I spend most of the time on my phone and everything I planned its a waste of effort but in those days I try to exercise before sitting in my desk to do anything. In my case that little sense of achievement helps me to continue and fell better, but the best you can do when you are a anxious procrastinator is to planned and set reminders for the deadlines, so even tho you fail one day you still have some others days to try again. It needs to be like that I used to be very hard on myself for not being productive or the perfect student but there are days when you just dont feel like doing anything, in those days being responsable with your condition and have discipline to realize that you really need to stop looking at your phone or doing anything besides your homework is crucial. I hope this helps Im sorry if there are some mistakes english is not my first language haha
@@TheSilvana0403 Thank you, appreciate this... I'm also an architecture student though I'm just in my first year. I'm not really good at drawing which is one of the things I'm insecure about since I'm only used to studying back in high school but now since it's a mix of two, I feel demotivated to study because I wasn't able to get my plates done and if I do it, it took me hours or even days to finish it since I move slow.
"There's no need to apologized among family members" its very true for most of the family as well as to my family specially with siblings. Thats why we just grow up keeping our emotions and losing trust with each other. I kust realized how toxic it is.
It's actually pretty same in india .
I mean before exams i would not sleep the whole night lol
but whatever i still fails 🙂
2:39 this's really wrong, my dad also thinks this way he never apologize even if he's wrong because he's a "father" as he always say..
this happened when i was young but i still remember that night i was in my room and my dad suddenly was screaming my name and yell ! i tried to know what's going on! but because he was in anger i couldn't understand what he talk about so in the middle of his loud yells he slapped me on the face then left the room! i was in shock..
i found out that he heard something about me from someone and what he've heard about me wasnt true at all.. i was even more shocked because he believed what other said about me but not his own daughter he didnt listen to me but he chose to use violence..
the next day i was waiting for an apologize even the days after but he never apologize, he act like nothing happened..
he moved on after that day but it left a big hole in my chest
my relationship with my dad wasn't good we always fight and he never apologize, and with time the gap between us became bigger.
so apologizing between family memebrs is so important, when parents did something wrong they need to put their ego aside and admit their mistake and apologize. in this way kids will learn to apologize when they make a mistake.
'there’s really no need to apologize among family members' - my mom says this so much that I thought it was normal, until I read the comments.....
If the kids decide to throw the parents(especially the dad) in an old age home in the future I will not be surprised
I'm not sending hate, but why are they like trying so hard to have this image of a "perfect family' . not everything need to be perfect. And I felt so bad for that girl, she must have been burnout.
Another son of mine had an online exam this week that started at 5pm and they had until 9am to finish. All the class met up and worked together. ( Maths, linear equations). They explained different ways to each other. Finally they all went home, in the early hours, with answers submitted, not all the same, as they didn't give eachother solutions, but explained methods to each other. Yes, I'm sure you agree, what a crazy lecturer. That was my reaction. He got his sleep back though, the following day, missing some lectures and getting notes from others. Could the students in South Korea help eachother more? Is there a roll call in every lecture? Students everywhere have lousy relationships with their parents. It's an international problem. I try to be an understanding Mammy, but I have often had to apologize, and sometimes not been good at it. No doubt, this Dad is wrong. It's clear. So how can this girl best be helped? She can't change her Dad. Comments won't change him. However, if others could help her with her work, and she helps others. A bit of give and take really helps. Another son of mine, did really well in his leaving certificate. ( Irish final exam before third level). He shared good notes on certain subjects, in exchange for good notes others had made in other subjects. ( Irish leaving certificate, you sit 7 subjects, Gaeilge, Maths, English, a European language and 3 subjects of your choice. Each subject has 2 levels higher and lower. You need higher to go to university in 5 to 6 subjects, so a lot of pressure. You get points for grades, so people with highest grades get first preference. If you choose a popular course, the pressure is enormous).
Sadly it's a dog eat dog world. People guard their study notes like crazy so as to avoid it from being stolen or even destroyed by some crazy competitive students. From personal experience, I feel korea and Asia in general place tremendous pressure on academic excellence, our result slips for every test are always distributed on the bulletin board (from top scorer to worst in numerical order) for the whole cohort to see. Yeah it sucks, so people would rather mug by themselves than to collaborate and share notes. So they can do better than their friends.
@@hwanggummy5018 Ireland has academic excellence in mind also, but thankfully they stopped posting results in public. In the 80s and 90s they were up for all to see. If your name was missing, everyone knew you'd failed. So I know that feeling. Also what place you came in the year. But yes I've friends whose children went to school in Taiwan and I know things are much worse there. They had to sit in the correct place. It was fine for most of her children as they were strong academically, but one of her children found school hard and was slapped every day. Is it like this in Korea too? The funny thing is, that when students do cooperate, they achieve more. It takes courage to change the norm. Boys are usually more willing than girls I found. Even in Ireland, I've noticed courses with a high female intake are more cut throat. Medical areas, as opposed to engineering areas. Other studies tend to fall somewhere between the two. Such a pity, as more can be achieved when people help eachother. Two heads are better than one.
@@hwanggummy5018 sad indeed. Maybe some might take courage to change. Generally, men are more open than women. How about suggestions for trade offs. Thankfully the posted results are now in the past here. ( Mine were posted in public, not fun.)
@@db8134 it's great to hear that Ireland stopped with the public results board! I now go to an international school so there's no more of those public shaming boards, but we still have class-based lists where people will still see and know what grade each other got when we pass the list down to sign beside our name/results. Yea it's true, taiwan and China are cutthroat, my cousins have told me they still have those gigantic cohort based results segments. Stressful af. ALSO WHAT how did the child get slapped? By the teacher or parent?? That's too much!
@@hwanggummy5018 teacher. Parent big softie. They moved whole family to another school. In Ireland corporal punishment didn't get banned until 1982, so for my generation, it wasn't as shocking as maybe for yours. I was slapped for being late or forgetting homework. There was one teacher who didn't like me. At 6 and 7 years old I was slapped regularly at school.( Ruler on the hand, once or 3 times) I don't know why, but I didn't say anything to my parents. This guy was the same. Something in the Irish mentally I suppose. My Mum is very soft so it didn't make sense either, looking back.
I want whatever they're eating.
FIGHTING!!!!!!!!!
Like that she it’s her choice to study and not her parents pushing her to do so.
Lol I don't even study half of what she does and I'm in College
Korean education system is really different, they really does that for long generations. Students needs to study all night and some are really competitive. Sad to say, it is bad for the health but we can't change the minds of these students and teachers who made them do this.
i dont know that education pressure nowadays, when i was in high school, i studied hard, but again never did something like this, still awake until 5am in the morning to study, maybe also its different culture... im so grateful that my parent never force me to be number 1 in school or the best in school
Me to same problen
Daughter values her study so so much and her father says "She is not doing something great. Every student studies but she is making big deal out of it alone." Like it's not a right thing to say that at all. He should be thankful that his daughter prioritize her study and should understand, be her strength and simply be with her. Not the way he is acting up.
He understands something her inexperienced self does not. She will not be happy, her dream job doesn't exist. The people who are successful at life generally aren't the hard school workers, it's the people who believe in themselves and take risks with confidence. She just keeps destorying her ownself for something she knows nothing about. She wants to be competitive, well in school that gets you very little. She should follow her father and do sports to fulfill her need to compete.
No you can turn on c and now you can understand what they say
why is she have earphones if she hate nose?
She probably means noise she can control, and its probably instrumental or white noise she had on.
It feels like the dad just got married as a formality
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Tutor.... If she needs help
Focus on both the children not only on the daugther and dad
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I used to study from 6pm to 5am for school at 9am it’s ridiculous because despite succeeding in assessments my exams flopped due to negligence over my health during high school, I don’t recommend any young person to live this life it’s depressing and painful. It’s sad when I look at some students today especially in Asia
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what is specialized education school?
So much going on in this family..hmm
I hate the way her father think. So selfish🙄
this is me
idk but i think most asian countries have a really tight schedule when it comes to school. when i was in hs in the philippines, i have to get up at 6 since my class starts at 7:30am then we go home at like 4/5pm coz we have like 8 subjects everyday for the rest of the school year. i think college/uni are also the same. i moved to canada and they only have like 4 subjects every semester which is really manageable.
That's how they say it, there are people who doesn't even know what generation gap is. Their time is different than ours, our goals are different from theirs. The problem is that her Dad's thinking didn't grow up and part of it is that maybe that's what and how he is brought up by his parents during his time and that's the only way he think is right.
I can relate. People in specialized schools compete by 0.1%
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Same same
Maybe she can sleep early then wake up early to study
depends on the person, like for eg no matter how early i wake, i cant focus in the morning so nthing goes in - i end up rlly studying at ard 1pm and get more productive in the evening/at night
She needs to do something else that just studying, I know it sounds simple but when you are highly sensitive because of stress you are unhappy and stubborn, its not good for mental health or your health in general. I know Korean society works like that but her parents should take her to do something else, some sports or just find a way for her to relieve stress, It thrully helps she might clean her mind and helps her to be more motivated.
She's also from leaving the nest right?
Yap, you right.
Besides knowing how hard is korean education system and how absent the father was in their lives.
What does the father know? For what he said and spoke with his wife he was an F student.
"So it's just me that has to do well in this family?" I'm so sorry but my...father does this a lot and it just brings so much bad memories. He should be understanding and try to work it out with his teenage daughter who's working so hard to study.
Also just because they're family doesn't mean you forgive and forget. People don't just forget okay? The fact that he doesn't try to be the mature one and start to apologize is so immature of him. If they keep going with this kind of mentality, one day it will all pile up and it would be too late to do something about it.
This is just... I'm so sorry but this is just a really bad trigger.
seems like one of her parent didnt grew well lmao
wow. what a terrible thing to say. if you messed up you should always apologize or else your kids will grow up hating you. i dont think any parent wants that
As a Korean, I’d like to say that in Korea, studying is everything. If you don’t go to university, your life will be considered a failure. Students sleep 4 to 5 hours a day and go to private academies even on weekends and holidays. This family isn’t a very special case. My brother is 13 and he stays up until 3 to study for mid terms. I hated this system and I was very lucky to get the chance to study abroad. Don’t blame the girl. She’s just trying to survive.
13 years old!? I hope your brother is doing well :)
And they haven't learned, the bubble gets them a mediocre job. And her family isn't pressuring her, she's the only one that is pressuring herself because she wants to compete. If she understood anything her need to compete comes from her father, which is where you compete, in sports. Doing it in school gets you no where that makes you truly happy. Look at the most successful people in the world, most didn't go to school. They are confident people who believe in themselves and are willing to take risks. Experience is everything.
@@lupusdei0819 Sadly, that is not true in Korea. You have to compete at school. That's the only way you can go to university, and realistically going to university(a good one of course) is the only way to get a job in Korea. I know it's hard to understand such extreme measures from an outside pov but it's the truth.
The son is stressing
In my family we having a saying that sorries are for accidents and you can't say it when you did it on purpose.
In this case, the father was purposely selfish, purposely left his family for so long. So for me, instead of sorry he should admit that he's very very wrong and do research and have conversations with his family and take steps to better himself
she was a pretty kid but now as a teen stress must have change her appearance drastically