This isn't so much a male vs. female phenomenon, as it is an example of the universal human behavior of desensitization. People who get complimented often, do not value compliments. People who are rarely complimented, highly value compliments. Everything else being equal, women are complimented far more often than men. However, there are exceptional men who are often complimented, and women who are not.
I remember every single compliment I get and I take them to heart, what can I say? I try to only make compliments that I feel as deeply about, but people, women in particular, do not take it as seriously lol
I’m a straight woman. I’m not promiscuous by any stretch of the imagination. With that out of the way... l love men. They are my favorite thing on the planet. I love watching movies that are geared toward men. I love reading books written by men. I loving hanging out with them and being the girl amongst a bunch of boys. I love playfully picking on them. I always feel relaxed, safe, and able to be myself around men. I love when they’re being ornery. I love when they’re direct and honest. I love when they’re strong and masculine but underneath they still retain their boyish charm. I love their stupid jokes as much as their really good ones. I like when they have muscles not from the gym but from doing actual work. I have a thing for strong hands and forearms. I love how they can rang from being tender and sweet to rough and tumble when it’s appropriate. I hate that some women tear men down... too many women. What I look for in a guy is that we complement each other‘s personalities but I still appreciate how damn sexy they are. I was standing at Best Buy once and there was a maintenance guy climbing the rafters. I could have stared at him all day. He was a good looking guy but wasn’t insanely good looking but god was he sexy. Climbing the rafters to fix stuff and did it with such ease. When I’m around a group of men it’s like being around the real life version of the Avengers. I’m like a kid in a candy store. Smitten and charmed. I think more good men need to know it. Because good men won’t use it as a weapon they just get the cutest little smirk and twinkle when u compliment them. All guys have sex appeal. A man could be missing a limb and as long as he was ok with it and carried himself like it was just an obstacle and not something that made him less of a man he would not only retain his sex appeal but get extra points. I think it so terrible that we live in a Society that demonize men. I make sure every man I know... knows this. I make sure I hand out sincere compliments to both men and women because we all need them.
This video reminds me of the old days of TH-cam. No flashy editing, no jump cuts, clickbait, feel good rhetoric and false adverts, just a simple discussion. She’s got a good grasp on the idea of masculine power.
REALLY though. Back in the days of response videos, when TH-cam had communities rather than niches. I miss those days desperately. I watched this video, and thought it might have been from 10 years ago.
Here's the secret: Just stop caring if women find you attractive. Stop caring about trying to be this or that. Don't even about care about being "confident". Don't even "play the game" because that's all it is. A game.
@@thalmoragent9344 What i don't really understand about with women, is why do they even care if they're vulnerable and play weird ass mind games. It just complicates the relationship and makes us think twice before doing anything.
@@thalmoragent9344 Aquire assets and women will find their way to your door. OP is correct. The less attention you pay to women the more they will want it from you. Thing is, because of the legal system being slanted toward's females, there's really no safe way to get with a female if you want a family. Marriage opens men up to extreme financial risk.
@@austntexan Yep, Marriage is basically a trap for men, and it sucks because it's gonna really hit a lot of potential families hard, not to mention all the good men getting done wrong by the BS divorce process.
@@Slow-Rolling yea I read it and I listened to an audiobook of his book say it again... and I have seen some of his vids but not many due to length usually. Are u a fan?
Just stumbled upon your channel, wow thx for being so open, never though that all males have some sort of attractiveness that appeals to women, I know as a male that we feel the same way about women and she kind of mentioned I never knew it was the other way around basically males fine all women to some degree the femininity of them attractive. Thanks for sharing really opened my eyes. You are attractive by the way😉 Ken
Self confidence and humor seems to work for me. Make her laugh and complement her pretty smile. Keep it short, smile and start to walk away! If she wants to talk more, she'll stop you from walking away. If not, the world is full of them! Most of all... RESPECT!!
Being myself a man, I remember that when I was an arrogant, non-caring and super-confident guy with no noble values beyond getting what I wanted at the moment, I dated more girls in a year than the rest of my life. I was more ignorant, and not even as adult or ripped as I am now. But, my dear male friends, I can tell you that what women are attracted to is absolute confidence, and that's something you can't fake unfortunately. Now, 10 years have passed and I'm still trying to recover it due to personal issues. Be confident. Be confident. Be confident. That's the only mantra that matters.
@Icewulfby moving past your fears, self doubt, procrastination and perfection. Confidence is a skill set that comes to you when you do what you dont want to do when you move past your resistance and act despite having fears
@@jb894 he said women are attracted to confidence which is something you can't fake for a long time, whereas personality is derived from the word persona meaning disguise, real confidence is about who you are so in the long run you got to be yourself to attract the right people in your life and let go of the people who no longer serves you.
It feels good to be appreciated for being a man, it's the complete opposite nowadays, it's a rare feeling. Thanks a lot for the video, we all appreciate it.
I am confused by your name. Reuben is a spanish name, but also a German last name, then there is a Polish last name connected with an English last name? What's going on ?
I think straight men are attracted by the softness in women, the feminity, so it makes sense if straight women are attracted to the opposite, the rougness of men/physical power
There are many men who are NOT effeminate but they unapologetically have natural feminine energies or strong liking of the feminine presentation that they themselves wear, and these same men love women and not only appreciate them for sex but treasures women and the soft strength they hold. Take prince for example very masculine but oozes this mysterious but yet attractive feminine energy (that all humans have) but he just knows how to use it.
@@johnnyskinwalker4095 he was very masculine (just comfortable with expressing strong femininity) straight people are just used to everyday men putting on tough guy/male social norm acts and mistake it for masculinity. So when prince does something different in the 80’s it blows heads especially in the time when the black American community was defining what strength and manhood looked like on a social level mean while most of the men in this time are doing the most effeminate things… black men in large cities leaving/running the families they’ve started
I'm a female and I love more tender soft- emotional men I don't know if those are feminine traits but it's endearing and attractive to me. I don't really like the traditional male roughness
When I was 24 a girl I dated for the first time laid her head on my shoulder after kissing me good night. I was smitten for years by that gesture. Never experienced it again. It felt like recognition as a man and trust from her. Women are taught to fear men and not look them in the eye but never taught the power of their own female energy over men. Some women know that and are popular because of it.
i remember a girl once did that shoulder thing to me, and secretly i really liked her but i was a dumb kid and i jokingly shunned her away becasue i just didn't have the balls to admit i liked her. makes you think how easy it is to miss a chance with someone for no good reason
Wow, bro this is true; the feminine " i trust you", " you can protect me" energy from a woman will melt your heart as a man, i very know that feeling. It is something that is very rare in these ages.
Approach a woman with confidence, and if rejected take it with confidence. Remember fellas, we don't find some women attractive, and some women won't find us attractive, it's about how you handle yourself. Confidence is the key! Arrogance is not.
Pfft arrogance is the same thing. Act like you don't give a shit. A man who doesn't give a shit is a man with options. A man who surely has other women interested in him. That's like catnip.
I get that, but I also think there's a limit on how much rejection one person can sustain without being permanently damaged. Humans are social animals. You may not give a shit initially, but after a certain point you'll be forced to.
Well, it won't be like that for long. That powerful link, which eventually gives rise to another powerful bond called Family is under siege. How? Well, testosterone levels in men are in downward spiral. To sum it all up, it's a chemical war against men and women with the sole purpose of creating a vast void between the two. I mean, it's already happening and the main ingredients are a concoction of ideology (feminism & mgtow) and endocrinal subversion
there was a video on your channel i watched, gosh, probably about 8 or 9 years ago. as a young man at the time, it really boosted my confidence. glad i found your channel again by accident, as i begin my body transformation (tHiS iS mY yEaR) having a channel like this from a woman's perspective is opening to my eyes. Thank you for the videos you make
This video is very powerful. So many men feel insecure about themselves, because society tells them to behave, be polite, always be nice. All these things are obviously important, but when it comes to attracting a woman, you need to show your real colours as a man. Be honest and straight. Don't be ashamed for the desire you feel for women. Its natural and women love it.
You will get nice. If you start being brutally honest, it won't be long until you stop judging and having annoying impressions. It just makes you covered in shit instead of filled with shit, it's more clean and less acceptable. But once it's outside, it won't be long until you throw it out and start becoming more brutally nice each day.
it's so difficult to be totally comfortable being myself. I still have this thing inside me that says I should be doing this or that. A lot of my insecurities come from feeling inadequate and that i need to change myself so that people (or women) will like me. I want to break free!
@@mynonleatherlife Hello! I read Mode One a few years ago, and altough you didn't explain the book, you did mention some insights that men can learn if they read the book, nice catch! I have one question for you. You talked about honesty, doing what we want, saying what we want, without fearing rejection or critics, but, you mentioned something that got me thinking. "Instead of saying you're beatiful..... I would like to fuck you". I think your example was not on point but the message was 200% correct. I don't think that a man saying "I want to fuck you" is a good thing to do, but, it's like everything, depends on the girl, the kind of relationship you have, if you met her 5 minutes ago or you have built some sexual tension. Let me ask you something, what do you think would be an ideal approach to a women with everything you just said ? Do you think that being honest about what you think and say is a step to confidence and more self esteem ? Do you think that men sometimes need to calculate what they say, but keeping it 100% real ? Thanks for your video!!
This is eye opening. For example, an old girlfriend of mine told me one of the things that first attracted her to me was how if I didn't want to do something, I would just simply say "I don't want to do that." And I had no idea what she was talking about haha. Maybe it because it gave her a comforting sense that when I was doing something, that I truly wanted to do it.
My theory is that they like a man who knows what he wants, is aggressive and uncompromising and down right ruthless to some extent. Though it always comes out in different frequencies and tunes... Either way women are fairly docile creatures, little attention should be paid anyways and they can sense that. Just go out and take what you want, that's what most of them want anyways, I mean look at how fragile they are!
My ex bf was just like that n that's what I loved about him initially when we started, bcoz I find it super hard to say no when asked for help even tho it cause me inconvenience, later we broke up for diff reasons tho but I really admired that quality. But hate when my brother do it, that piece of sh*t
Having boundaries and refusing to be pressured into disregarding them. This is mental strength, you don't just do whatever people tell, or ask you to do. The most important choice you have is deciding how to act, and if you never lose focus on that then no one controls you.
@@krishafyme This girl (an old freind I came across after months) was kind of mean while waiting for the train. Finally I got reall angry . I didn't use any foul language but my tone was angry and my voice was really loud. She kept quite and did not even move when I got angry. Normally a woman under such a situation, will turn her body away from the guy, or take a step away from the guy, or start to yell back at the guy . So Why did she not move even one step away from me when I got angry ? She only moved when the train came to get in the train.
I've watched a lot of "experts" and scientists talking about masculinity. This person beats them all explaining the essence of masculinity and the inherent tension between men and women based solely on her experience, observation and sensitivity. Wow.
Because she's speaking basic facts. All the others are trying to create tension and division among partners, which they have managed to do successfully in the West.
She’s basically just describing the moments that she has perceived men’s primal nature coming out. The issue here is men are conditioned to not exhibit these things due to societies constraints placed on men. Because they tend to be aggressive in nature. Typically when we do these things they are small to us or to her point we do not realize how they effect the opposite sex. Could be anger in a certain light. Demonstrating strength, walking into a room and owning the room, etc. it is a energy thing you put out and others tune into. There is also a genuine response to it so if forced it removes the authenticity of it. That’s what makes it so effective.
@@renegadezen7841 The cure to anxiety.Which is to just work with the present experience and everything within it no matter what emotion or thought arises.Work with it never against it.The four agreements are amazing for that.My whole point being depending on external things to change internal things never works.Or to never distract yourself from negative emotions or experiences
This video really proves that someone can say a lot within a short amount of time versus someone saying nothing within twice the time. Well done. What I mainly draw from it is that honesty can move mounains
It took her 10 minutes to say guys who are assertive are attractive. Worse yet, she waited until the end to say it, and there was nothing of value before the end that was said.
@@feartheghus she said it multiple times and she elaborated on a few other things. Watch it again If you missed something. There are other comments that summarized it pretty well
@@videohq1181 oh please stop with this shit. if it was true then all women would only go for rich men. that's obviously not the case, a lot of women still value non-materialistic things more. if ya can't find one then either you have bad luck or don't really want to.
Its the power to defy the pull of others’ judgement. To be able to act exactly how you want to and be okay with whatever happens or what anyone else says or thinks about you. Its the realization that authenticity provides fulfillment that no one else can give you. When you see its beauty, you will embrace the pain of being disliked, mocked and criticized because the pleasure of authenticity and personal autonomy far outweighs the pain of judgement. Women feel the joy of the unburdened man
@@Bananabanananabanana I think every man has different spots where he gets hit the most. Some find it super feminine, if she giggles in a cute way, others like it if she's super shy, or maybe dancing an erotic dance or other things... those are not particularly female, but they can spike that "female feeling"...
@@Bananabanananabanana ah nevermind me, bin gerade mal durch dein Profil gegangen. Ich hoffe du verstehst meinen Punkt, auch, wenn du ihn nicht teilst :)
Yes Mohammed. Evolution, time, or God, whichever makes sense to you, designed it like that and it's been that way for centuries. It's weird how it takes so long to figure it out.
@@Bananabanananabanana TH-cam schickt natürlich keine Benachrichtigung über Antworten und Erwahnungen x'D Die Alternativität (wieder sehr schwammig, aber die Kanäle zu alternativer Psychologie und Veganismus vermitteln mir generelle Alternativität). Um ehrlich zu sein, dachte ich bei deinem Namen zuerstn auch an Transsexualität, und da dachte ich mir dann, dass du das Konzept von Mann/Frau so nicht ganz richtig findest. Deswegen habe ich deinen Kommentar eher so verstanden "Wer kann bzw darf. überhaupt bestimmen, was weiblich und was männlich ist?" Das waren Vorurteile, stimmt, und deswegen bin ich zu diesem Schluss gekommen - aber beleidigt hab ich dich nicht damit, oder?
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
"it's the real deal" meaning what? You have studied and applied these techniques and suddenly you were having women eating from the palms of your hands? Are you saying you became biochemically irresistible? If so, what were you after, a huge F count? If you've ever wanted a relationship, have those formulas ever worked?
I've noticed this. Hanging out with girls I was unapologetically quiet and admitted that I would rather be home. One of the girls I was hanging out with was really into it. I used to be insecure about my quietness but once I owned it SOME girls found it really attractive. But that is some advice for my quiet people. Just be comfortable and okay with being quiet around social settings
Thank you! I'm one of those quite people (if I'm not too interested in just talking just to talk), but then I start thinking that maybe people don't like me because I'm too quite and to most, that's boring, but like you said, some people will respect you and love you the way you are :)
@@r011ing_thunder6 and? Tell them you don't have to engage in the conversation to enjoy your time e out, just don't be some stoic sourpuss cause in that case it does beg the question, why are you here?
This information is one of the most generous gifts that has ever been given to men on all of TH-cam I thank you dearly with all of my heart and wish you all your heart desires
@increase Folabomi , haha great comment well said I even suscribed before even listen the entire video the way she introduced the subject was enough to know it will be something outstanding anyway !! Yes she overpassed overdriven those gurus as you say ... in fact is related to express properly the male basic instinct properly ... is been said also when a man keep coming back to a woman even rejected he has more & more chance to get trough ..., I know several cases ...
Who would have thought it? Women love when men are masculine and, for the record, men LOVE women who are feminine. Kind, caring, helpful, beautiful etc. Be a mans peace and he will never go
I think men realize this as we age. I just turned 40 and I get more attention now than when I was a teenager. You are just more confident in what you want.
Over the years, countless women have been asked, what age is a man most attractive? Most of them have said, and will say, men in their 40s. Women in their 20s go bonkers over men in their 40s, think of every college professor, he got girls swooning over him. The majority of Hollywood actors, Paul Newman, Sean Connery, Robert Redford, Denzel Washington, Tom Cruise, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, yup. Women think they're hottest while in their 40s.
She can't word it out, but thee term she was looking for is "Machismo", the pride of being a man. You see this in Latin-America, for example when little boys try to imitate their father, they look very manly and "macho". I don't know why it is almost non-existent in North-America, but oh well.
I know exactly what you're talking. It's mainly being confident and not caring what other people think. I was shy as a young teen but quickly learn that women are not attracted to that. I used to think I was ugly fat and nobody like me. I didn't have any family and wasn't shown love or affection like most children are? By the time I was 15 or 16 years old I was starting to get women in their that was head over heels for me. Living on my own at such a young age has taught me not to take no shit and how to deal with people. I do realize that I'm not the most attractive man but confidence in the ability to not give a shit what other people think makes a big difference. A man who sits around and wanders what's wrong with himself has too much free time and will always waste his time wondering instead of putting his time towards being confident. When I say being confident I mean to be yourself. Women can spot fake and phony.
Essentially, yes. But confidence doesn't always mean what people think it means. Confidence isn't necessarily the person who always says and does the right things, or likes everything about themselves. True confidence, in my opinion, is the person has insecurities, who fumbles, whose jokes fall flat, but OWNS it. Confidence is the person who's comfortable with themselves, knows what they want and goes after it, and also knows that if they get rejected by one person, it's not the end of the world. Women can't resist a man who wants them but doesn't need them.
What's so great about her? All she said was you gotta be masculine and be yourself. The same talking points I hear from everyone else. Man just stop simping.
@@sodagamer8711 Bro, there's an ocean of emasculated men you don't want to investigate, and it goes far deeper than just simping. They don't respond to the kind of tough love you could give men 10-15 years ago.
This just showed up on my feed. We need more conversations like this. Candid introspection and sharing of how we see each other, no judgement, just observation. Understanding is unifying. Thank you for this. Wish you'd post again.
I’ll throw in my two cents: She said that women don’t tell guys how to be attractive because then the same women would be vulnerable. True, but I would also add a concept known as “observing a process changes a process”. Women CANT tell a man how to be attractive because women want a man that “just gets it”. Women don’t want a man who has to be told HOW to be a MAN because that wouldn’t be his predominant personality. If you have to be taught how to be a man then you are not the man for her. You are not a “man” but “ “someone that has to be told how to a man”. It’s not the same. Women understand there is no point in telling a guy how to be a man because he has to realize it on his own for it to be authentic. I’m not saying a man can’t eventually “just get it” but, at this the moment you don’t get it. Think about like this when somebody wants something from you they aren’t going to tell you because it would be out of obligation and it wouldn’t be genuine. That’s the best way I can explain it
It’s important for guys to understand this dynamic and get them to the next level with women. Women want to submit and be vulnerable but is has to be genuine. The process has to be organic. Eventually, a woman will be annoyed and disappointed because she sees your potential but you don’t just get and she has no choice but to move on.
@@raheemthegoat1066 Ah but I do get it. As of watching this video 😜 You've explained it well. It's a lot like hiring a person for a job because they've done the job before, while rejecting the one who can only claim that they're "willing to learn." If she has to teach you how to be her man, you cannot be her man. No girl wants to tell a guy she's met "just put me in my place." And yet it's what she really wants. It's nothing mothers tell their sons, or that society tells its boys, especially these days.
@@videowilliams Your last sentence has some similarity with my thoughts about this (great) video: At least in the western world, women can (still) have a typical feminie role or a male one. However men are advised to have a rather feminine role or they get called chauvinist and creepy, although this is what most women (secretly) desire: a manly man...I am 35 and discovered this in recent years, makes me sad...Edit: Still don´t want to change my female character traits and fake it!
Agreed. There’s obviously some women that men should avoid just like there are men who women should avoid. The main thing is being who you are. That allows a woman to see your true personality and know if that’s what she wants. As a guy I can say that an honest personality is one of the first things I look for.
yeah that's a good point. I have some suspicion that a lot of guys repress themselves to some extent because of a, b and c and ofc I also think it's important to recognize that it does go both ways but men don't seem to hear it as often
Now EVERYONE is stealing her content. Ever since the algorithm put her up a month back all these TH-cam’s are talking about it. That’s how you know most of these content creators are talking out their ass. This girl is the truth
Yes, I notice TH-cam algorithms promote the sleazy salesman/marketing type "me too" creators who streal all their ideas from genuine creators, and the genuine grassroots people get ranked low, shadow banned, demonetized, or even have their channels deleted. The imitations are never as good as the originals--often water-down with many details wrong. We live in a really sick society which rewards the grifters and con artists but punishes the honest originals.
I went through a bad breakup a few years and it's taken me a while to recover my confidence as a man... I listened to this same video two/three times a day and it's helped me. I've always know this to be true deep down inside but this video puts it into words. Thank you!
When a man shows a woman that he doesn't give a shit about being rejected by her or what she thinks of him, genuinely showing himself as he is and really saying what he wants or thinks, without taboos or reservations, without fears or worries. .. The woman can't help but feel attracted. This attitude is a typically masculine power of seduction to which women are very sensitive. Show women that you are not afraid of being rejected, ignored, criticized or insulted by them (and that it does not affect you either, that you are indifferent to their reaction, that you are not reactive); Showing them that you don't care about the outcome of being accepted or rejected or what they think of you attracts them. That's what Mode One is about, it's not about getting accepted, it's about having the balls to show women that you don't give a shit about being rejected or what they think of you, and it's also about not giving them your free attention (have the attitude of: “I don't give a shit not having anything with you, you are not the only woman in the world, there are many other women that I can enter and with whom I can have something”).
I don't think is that absolute, I would complement what you said with not giving a shit makes them respect you, attraction is directly proportional to respect and chemistry, you do need both to get in a womans head.
Opposite for me, acting like someone I'm not often gets lots of girls, but once they start seeing there's more complexity to me than what they initially thought, they lose interest. Kinda have to keep a girl at bay, don't let her in no matter how much she begs, cause then she thinks she knows you and it's no fun anymore.
Difference is if the non fakeness is discouraged and forced out of men by society at large and then guy becomes trash to women. Like breaking someones legs with a bat and then punishing them for having broken legs/not walking good. How this nuance isnt obvious or central is mindboggling
@@gabrielguzman6018 well if you reread the mans comment you should pick up on it right away. right around acting and trying to be someone else..... that should sum it up right there... and a women can wanna sleep with a guy who may i guess be an ass hole and not want them in a more gratifying way.
As a man, ive always been shy and have always felt rejected by woman. I am very appreciative that you decided to have the courage to be vulnerable because this honestly makes me feel hopeful going forward.
Best way to have people treat you like you're a confident, attractive person, is to 'pretend' to be one. Stand up straight, act confident. It's amazing how people's (women's) attitudes toward you will instantly change. Before long you won't be 'pretending'
@@happydappyman #1 this only works if you already are attractive physically speaking #2 trying to pretend for the rest of your relationship is A VERY BAD idea... eventually she will realize you are pretending and her attraction towards you will plumit, she will then proceed to slowly distance herself from you until completely dumping you.
@@Crimson50 the thing about pretended is to commit. Eventually you will be your actions, as evident from your history. If you pretend to be strong and masculine, you are actually just practicing. We you make decisions that your weak version can't handle doing, you will just prove that you moved past any weakness. Like the ability to walk away or handle rejection well.
The reverse for me is when a woman do something out of pure kindness or because it's the right thing to be done, even if it gives her some lost. It always captures my admiration.
Same. In my case especially because I've met so many black hearted, manipulative women (not dated) which has made me appreciate the very few kind ones even more.
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It's simple the feminine are designed to be attracted masculine...we are wired that way...the problem is we are programmed in this world to change and challenge what is natural.
Most men have never heard a woman say anything like this, and they have no idea. This video is undoubtedly a transformative lesson for many, many men. Thank you for saying this.
I think it's emotionally intelligent and mature to recognize such things from both perspectives (men and women). Thank you for sharing, Victoria. ✨✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨
You will never understand the level on how useful and extreme power boosting and secretive this message was for men out there, the capacity of confidence you just unleashed for God knows how many male souls in which you have helped drastically. We men….love you. #girlcodeexposure
@croq8444 Lord! Have Mercy on us peasants. We don't know any better. Though, where are you getting your info from. Like i know deep down we all knew but she mad it evident and now it sticks in our subconscious mind.
@@madmax7539 my friend you ever heard of a little something called ‘fresh n fit’ or for us Christian folk I would recommend Jon Zherka. But you yourself said you knew this inside of you, and that’s the key. We all know what is right, we just need the right stimulation to bring it out of us. Find yours
Dont be a simp, desperate, or a crybaby. Have goals, focus on them and yourself first. Dont care too much about what others think, but whatever your "style" is, be clean. Girls think they know what they want, but most women need someone dependable, strong, assertive, confident, protective. They will take notice and come to you.
It’s deeper than that. Don’t do all those things but also heal. Go into yourself, read a real psychology book like for example Emotional Resilience by David Viscott. Challenge yourself to go deeper and tap into it
@@renatosureal so people should.listen to some 40yo dead beat losers after divorce on how to play the game??🤣🤣 U misogyns are so super funny. No sane person gives flying fuck about red pill bullshit. It is male equivalent of modern feminism. Keep on living on your unicorn land thinkong that life is all about scoring as many chicks as u can get. Then when u will be old 65+ old fuck w/o kids or anyone u will understand why it is beneficial for both sexes to have someone by them. God damn 20yo incels u lot....
This actually gives me so much sense of calm hearing this off a woman. I've always felt that women are put on a pedestal by us lot and we feel a certain entrancement off of women that women don't feel the equivalence of in return. I guess tho as a straight guy, I am not gonna understand what women are gonna feel towards me or how they experience being attracted to men. Thanks for explaining
Yup and that drive. That's the hardest part for men. Especially if they're depressed. Depression is horrible. It can get you and you won't even realize it until someone makes note of your current actions. Lots of men are very depressed now days.
@@dwanrobinson Vitamin D deficiency. I have a theory that it's one of the main factors in a lot of disorders and is very understudied. It plays a role in so many processes from metabolism and energy to immune, testosterone production, and mental health. Actually it's not even a vitamin, but is a hormone. And I think there is a reason why the best source of it comes from sunlight. It's essential! With more tech and corporate jobs and loss of manual industry and farming, people have lost out on key aspects of development growing up indoors, in front of a screen and eating junk that further messes up your hormones. In fact, low vitamin D is even associated with Co-vid mortality. I think vitamin D supplements, more natural sunshine, and some manual work or activity can go a long way with depression and drive. Probably more effective than big pharma. Unfortunately, society has become a culture about sedentary entertainment and consumerism.
@@Geoff Man I think you have a great point because sometimes I feel really really bad, like if I don't want to live anymore and have low energy. And when I walk out to buy something and see and feel the sunset my perspective change totally and my feelings change very quickly in a positive way.
Nofap will heighten that aura that you speak of...if you are attractive to begin with, take care of your body and have self assurance..it’s game over for the ladies
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I'll save you ten minutes. 1. Victoria discusses the concept that men possess a unique and powerful form of sexual energy that is particularly noticeable and attractive to women, but often unrecognized by the men themselves. 2. Victoria shares personal anecdotes about how men and women perceive each other differently, particularly in sexual or romantic contexts, and how her own perceptions have influenced her interactions with men. 3. The video explores the idea that this male energy is a key factor in attraction, even in cases where a man is rejected for other reasons. The speaker suggests that many men are unaware of this power they hold. 4. Victoria concludes by noting the complexity of attraction and the potential vulnerability women might feel in acknowledging this male power. Victoria does not clearly describe what this masculine power is. It's left to the viewer to come to emotionally sympathize with what this masculine power actually is. From the video, it likely refers to a man that is enigmatic, potent, unrecognized, yet influential. Think James Bond.
I think it's authentic, driven by ones own power, uncompromising to oneself. Sure James Bond, but not every man is going to be an international super spy. Every man can achieve those three things though.
I can attest to this. Summer of 2015. I was 25. I had just gotten out of jail after being in for 30 days, lost my job. I just remember feeling like I had nothing to lose, i had so much energy. Found a job after 2 days of being out. I didn't give a fuck and my confidence and swag was on 10. I was ripped from working out and eating low calories in jail. Lol but I remember approaching women with no hesitation or second thought. I had women that I knew and hung out begging me to have sex with them. It was so weird. But I felt the masculine energy inside me. Felt like a super hero. You couldn't tell me shit. My jokes and whit were on point I was like a magnet and just attracted everyone. That was the most powerful I've ever felt.
it's so funny that two or three years ago when I had a kinda like "IDGAF attitude", I was actually more successful with girls...then down the line I had my first rejection, then I just shut down after that and all my insecurities started to pop up, been shy and timid to this day(it was a brutal rejection tbh) and interacting with girls feels like a disaster waiting to happen...I genuinely miss the childish confidence I had, your demeanor makes a huge difference in attracting women I 100% agree...I would say it's more effective than your looks or status
I want to add something after watching this and thinking on it. A few months ago go I had a really honest conversation with a girl that changed my life. We had been talking for awhile and I could really sense that she was attracted to me, but she rejected me when I made advances. This frustrated me a lot and I eventually called her on it. I told her I could feel in my body that she was attracted to me and asked her why the hell she rejected me when I acted on that. She responded to me with a profound question. She asked me if I thought women slept with every guy that turned them on. That honesty meant everything to me. It let me know that I wasn't crazy and didn't misread my intuition. That lack of honesty and clarity from women contributed to my low self esteem in the past. I always thought I was an idiot who misread situations or was delusional. Now I can see I wasn't. Women just keep everything so close to the chest that it makes it extremely easy to second guess yourself if you're a guy.
@@mynonleatherlife Not exactly. It's hard to explain and is very subjective, but my mindset was if a woman was flirting with me in a way that I deemed obvious and she turned me down she was obviously playing games or toying with me and if it was subtle I was an idiot and misread the signals. I guess my problem is I'm too logical. I have never flirted with a woman I wasn't attracted to and if I flirt with a woman I'm definitely open to sex and/or dating. I understand that every woman isn't necessarily open to fucking every guy she is attracted to, but I would think she would generally be open to that if she is flirting overtly enough that the guy gets that idea. One thing I've noticed is that women who are married or in relationships are the ones who flirt with me the most openly. That is something that I find really frustrating. A lot of them are women I would definitely be interested in if they were available. It feels like they are trying to torture me when they flirt with me when they aren't available to me in that way.
But it doesn’t make any sense. Somethings missing. Don’t pay attention to what women say, pay attention to what they do. You were still missing something
I’ve rejected a lot of guys I’ve found attractive. 90% of the time it was because they did something i didn’t like that went against my morals but nothing to do with their physical. A woman who isn’t desperate and loves herself will not have any second thoughts of rejecting a man who doesn’t meet her standards and that goes for internal qualities aswell. It’s not fair to the guy either to just settle for him because he’s “attractive” knowing I’ll be unhappy. I also find that the more i like a guy the more my insecurities come out and i can be complex which has confused a lot of guys but it had nothing to do with them.
I figured that out about 15 years ago. Confidence and assertiveness “dominance” are the key. Add the slightest amount of affluence and it’s unbeatable.
@@fendermon I learned it at 44... doubt I'm smarter. Horrible marriage and horrible sex life made me try to learn how to change that. And I did, and it's been unbelievably great to have that power. I try to share what helped me.
@@user-tq6fx7tl7e I disagree. If you're overweight, get on keto and exercise. You'll need the endurance to please a woman (and it's much easier than you think). If you're not what is traditionally considered OK, or nice looking, then you're dead wrong. You don't have to be nice looking, just clean, and confident, and appear to have ambition (working towards life goals). A few rules. Don't drink, ever... you have other ways to enjoy your time. Never validate (compliment) a female, they hear it all the time. I joke and tell women that they are nice looking, every bit of C+ (with a grin on my face). They typically slap my arm and say WHAT??? I say it's better than average! (chuckling). Women place a higher value on a man they have to work to get validation from... only give it in a backhanded joke. Next, have a meaningful conversation (investment, work goal, property you're interested in), with a guy where a woman you're interested in is nearby, preferably next to... and act like she's invisible, never look at her, you can see her in your peripheral vision and judge her interest. I promise, she will be interested in anyone who's talking about ambitious things. Bottom line, any guy can get women if the guy presents himself as having the characteristics that women desire, confidence, dominance, ambition.
She's right. But if a guy doesn't 'get it.. it's useless information - or at worst, yeah, will get him in HR, because he's taking what she's saying verbatim.
@@justingutierrez8893 I did i just don't believe being upfront like that works in most cases these days thats why the original comment he said she gon get a lot of men in trouble with HR lol. The video still gave decent insight tho
Good vid, and kudos for some honesty. I realised, waaaay later, that I was trying to project confidence rather than Being confident. Projecting it is a single lane assertation, but when you Are confident (aka stop giving a fuck) then you exude more than the single lane. It's body language, tone of voice, Honesty and a whole lot more. Ironically, I realised it after meeting the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with, but hey, at least I know it now. Cos damn that conundrum befuddled me for a long, long time. I guess she's why I realised it. Because she made me so comfortable. That's why we seem to get girls on us when we're not single and never when we are. It's cos we're at ease. For me, it was getting an answer, rather than using it to "get stuff". There's something fulfilling in knowing your nature.
U just dropped a huge gem. It’s truly Inspiring the honesty is real. I always felt like this but could never explain it in my own words. Peace and love
What I could never explain or put into words is that women won’t admit that energy men give off quite often but as you said if you were to say it you would feel vulnerable
@@showtimemcm yes, it's true. I found myself agreeing with so much in this video. From personal experience I can say that forsure even the guys we turn down, there is still something attractive about them even if we don't particularly find them to be a match for us. Maybe just the energy is attractive, and if men just trusted their own unique man energy...boy would they be more magnetic.
@@eagletmars I was waiting for another female to respond. I believe what you are talking about in male energy is testosterone. The vital energy of a man gives off such a potent energy that woman can sense before any man can. If a man isnt your match he’s not your match but that male energy is powerful.
As a straight woman, I can totally attest to this. To the guys who don't know what she is talking about, think of it this way, the feeling you get from "femininity" is a similar thing to feeling "masculinity". It is a feeling of a presence. A masculine presence. Little subtle things that men do, they don't know that it can really be a very "masculine" thing and it can drive straight girls wild by such small things. It is basically, masculinity, an "energy" around men, like how you would feel a presence from a female and her femininity, well men have their own version of it. It isn't metaphysical or mystical, or even a concept. It is a feeling of masculinity. You can't easily pinpoint it because of that, but it is totally real in the minds of straight women, and probably gay men too. It is easier to pick up this feeling on the sex you are attracted to, because that is what draws you in. Men don't realize their masculinity in this way, just as women don't feel their own femininity in the same way as a straight guy would see it. It's an attraction to the little and subtle ways men just... are.
@@maxforsman7102 Tough questions to answer. I don't subscribe to the "alpha and beta males" thing, to me there is only what I find attractive in a man, which will be different for every female. I don't see black and white when it comes to men. So, I don't categorise men into alpha and beta males. I don't like doing that, I respect all men. It is kind of like crabs in a bucket thing, with "alpha and beta males", if you have heard of that story before, where the crabs will pull the other crabs down into the bucket if they see one that is nearer to getting free... that is what categorising males into "alpha" and "beta" feel like to me. Pulling someone down to better yourself. No offence to anyone who likes the alpha and beta thing, I just don't. I don't think that you can have a man that is "too masculine" or "not masculine enough". It is simply preference as to who we as women are attracted to. Like I said, it will be different for every woman. I personally think every man has this "attractive masculinity" to them, even if they feel they don't have it. As to if a man is a good match for a woman, that is, for me, down to each other's personalities, not about how "masculine" a man is. The most subtle of things all men do every day can be a huge turn on, it is a feeling that every man has, not just a select few, so don't worry about it. A man just feels masculine without even trying to. This feeling is always there. Just my opinion.
Well put! I would say that there is a key distinction in masculinity vs femininity: masculinity is very much attached to confidence. And confidence is a very deep part of a person. Femininity though, is related to delicacy, which is a completely effortless trait that some women are naturally endowed with. For example, thin hands and waist turn me on a lot, a low volume sweet voice, the way a woman moves and poses her arms and legs… If a woman has these traits, she has a lot of power, but she was just lucky. But for a man to have sexual power, he really has to work on himself. Because if a man has weakness, he can't hide it, it will eventually show, and it will turn the woman off immediately and crush his soul because he'll notice it. I think maybe that's how it should be, it drives me to wanna improve myself, so I'm not complaining. But the distinction is fascinating to me.
As I already know there'll be plenty of dudes who see this and think "being angry" or "being raunchy" is what makes men attractive, what she's actually saying here is that sincerity and being honest with yourself and others is what's attractive.
As a man I know exactly what your talking about. Took me a long time to realize it but it's basiy having a true honest presence. There's a lot more to this but its the presence that your feeling that is so attractive.
Hearing people say 'all men are trash' and 'men ain't shit' makes me physically cringe. You'll never catch me saying that. It hasn't happened for me yet, but I can't wait for the day I get to love and be loved by a MAN. What a treasure you all are.
if feminism was honest, an independent woman would mean get ur degree get a good job and get a mortgage for a flat u put tenents in whilst living at home cheap and u put all ur money into paying off the mortgage then by late 20s probably paid most of it off. ive wasted a lot of time listening to feminist stuff last 5 10 years or so and not once heard this idea. Also I don't think most women want to be spinsters for the rest of their lives so i don't know why femism is the dominant voice on male females. its really cancer for relationship success. feminism seems just trying castrate all men psychologically. feminism just seems a product of mental illness ignorance, bullying, passive aggressive unadjusted liars and the deluded. All should just do intense phychological councelling before trying to create their cult. sorry for the rant, just so disappointing causing so much dysfunction in society and any change seems a huge uphill battle.
I love your honesty. It's been painful being rejected and doubting my own power because of it. If a woman would have told me this decades ago, it would have saved me so much selfdoubt and mental pain it is unbelievable. Thank you.
Apparently it's easier to just reject and go playing the slots for the next guy that ticks more boxes, than help give a guy the confidence to be better.
Well, still nothing changes after watching this. You can't read women's minds and if you try the wrong shit with the wrong one it will be "sexual harassment" and they will lock you up.
@@Josith13 It's exactly the same with money. Most women simply don't get the idea that you can build wealth together with a man; instead, they want the man to already have the wealth.
Thank you for sharing this, and in being vulnerable in these moments. Do you realize how much guys need to hear and know this? It's so rare to find a woman who is secure enough in herself to build up and appreciate a man. You have done an incredible service to us with this honest and well communicated video. Much thanks!!
From my experience, I think women can really acutly sense when men are being insincere. And I don't mean insincere in a conniving way, but in how men will sometimes try to suppress aspects of their personality they think might not be proper or attractive. Or how men will try to force confidence. When men try to be "nice" or act in a way that is not natural, it just comes off as creepy and super fake... like they are hiding something. The forced smile, the slightly extended eye contact (or glancing away), the hesitation and pauses... it all happens in milliseconds, but women seem to be super attuned to noticing it and it sets off alarm bells. As a man its not easy to be yourself around someone you are attracted to. Every message society sends us these days tells us to "do better, be nicer, don't ignore women, but don't look at womem either. Be CONSTANTLY aware of offending others and suppress your negative emotions along with your positive emotions". The messaging says "you are inherently bad and you need to be someone else" . With that messaging it's hard not to be fake, the more you want to do better, the more manipulative you look... but in the end you are better off being yourself and just treating others how you would want to be treated.
What's wrong with eye contact? Everytime I look women in the eyes longer than what is the norm, they always seem to get attracted. Eye contact is good bro, most people look away. Nothing wrong with longer eye contact.
most men only hide from women who they want to have sex with but they think the girl is crazy. they hide their true self because they know this girl hates men and shes like a crazy feminist type, so they play the nice guy. a lot of simps and guys who just pretend to be nice or hide their true goofy self and play tough/nice guy, they only pretend because they are so scared of getting into an emotional thing with this crazy girl because women like that are literally hell, but they still want the coochie. but sometimes the coochie isn't even worth it, sometimes they dont even want coochie they just want any female around them. a lot of females nowadays really are mean and hateful to men so of course men have to act around them, it's to keep them safe. you can't even touch a girl without going to jail unless she really likes you, and you can only get on her good side by playing this safety act if she hates men. you can tell the girls that love men because they're always with men, and they never accuse them of sexual harrassment and stuff like that just for flirting with them
also most women kind of fall into the mainstream and men don't , so women have these really PC opinions and men are usually critical of the mainstream. when men get around women they have to hide their opinions because these hateful women will completely attack them for having a different opinion, and call them sexist for criticizing anything about women or their opinions. it's like the threshold not just for rejection but for outright hatred is really easy to cross. most guys do not want to deal with all that crazy shit, they just want some female energy around them cause it's what they naturally crave. women know this and use it to surround themselves with docile men who are hiding their true self. some men go so far as they lose their true self entirely because just that many women hate men, and so his biological instinct is to do what he thinks attracts women. more women need to stop the hate because men really love women I think.
Anger has been labeled as a purely toxic/destructive emotion but it's often what people actually want to see from men. Constructive anger can be incredibly powerful and attractive.
@@riechen when you finally get angry enough that you stop getting bullied or undervalued or manipulated in your work, or relationships, or life etc. and take action. It can help you overcome fear to take a positive action in your life to help yourself or to help others.
@@nightmoose Whenever that happens people just think the guy is crazy. Look at David Goggins, he is a master of this 'constructive anger' and lot's of people think he is unhinged. At the end of the day, only your opinion about yourself matters and others only benefit if the man is Godly in spirit.
@@nightmoose so using fuel and making a comeback story - which no woman gives a single fuck about. only men care because they relate with being a loser in life and they mentally masturbate with the idea of finally getting rich and winning
Just came across you now, in this video and was pretty much blown away by the modesty, earnestness and depth of your insights. As a GUY, who understands and very much appreciates everything you said, I want you to know that YOU have that divinely beautiful FEMININE energy that makes men want to acquiesce into that exquisite hypnotic trance to which you referred. It's like falling under the spell of the Goddess (so to speak), whose essence you channel in YOUR own way, with unassuming intelligence, intimacy of communication, and generosity of spirit. Graceful, lovely and wise. Thank you 💛
I typically don’t ever take advise from woman about relationships becuase they are not honest and most don’t know it. But man I have to say you nailed it.
At the end of the day it's fundamentally the same as you hear all the time form women. What she's describing is this nebulous "masculine" thing that she can't really define - and probably can't be defined. For women, it's much more often the case that they are attracted to a man for reasons they can't even put into words. For men, it's far more simple. I can define exactly what initially attracts me to a woman and it's always youth and hotness. The icing on the cake is agreeableness, warmth and empathy - these are the traits that can turn the attraction from a short term fling into a "life partner" situation.
@@mhashim5643 That's my point. It's vague and indescript. One thing she did say that was very clear was that if all guys just did exactly what they wanted, said what they wanted and didn't give a fuck, that would be very attractive to her. This is backed up by so many men's advice creators who generally advocate for being confident in your own mind and being unapologetic for being masculine and assertive. The single biggest turn off I think for women is simping and (she mentioned this too) begging. You ever facepalm at how women are drawn to shady dickheads who seemingly don't give a shit about them? This is exactly why.
Perhaps I might add also - if you think about the base psychology of the above... From a woman's point of view, a man who is indifferent about impressing you presumably has options elsewhere. Your approval and attention isn't of great importance to him because he is getting that attention from other women. Which subconsciously implies you are a man who has value that other women are chasing after.
Men subconsciously realize this after their first love. Once we get heartbroken for the first time we don't care anymore about anything really, thus our real thought's and motives are shown to women we date afterwards. Kind of depressing but true nonetheless.
@@lonewulv13 you will in time, sooner or later you’ll realize how much better you become when you focus on yourself. You’ll slowly start to realize how selfish you become, and for the better. Trust me.
I appreciate you talking about this. We don't ever get enough of a real answer from women and it's refreshing to hear someone being honest. A lot of times we just don't know (because obviously we aren't psychic) but if someone speaks up then absolutely we can do something about it. Communication is key. Your advice definitely helps
Men are supposed to be warriors, protectors, active and firm. Also compassionate and devoted, which both take strength and conviction. I've never been the big and strong type. More quiet and creative. I was rejected by a few girls in high school, probably mostly because we were too young and because I didn't go to the same school (didn't see them every day). But it still made me feel like girls just aren't interested in me apart from friendship for almost a decade. I was even a friend with a girl in my mid twenties who was cute and we had similar interests, enjoyed talking, and I gave her rides to hang out with other friends because she still didn't drive yet. But she wasn't interested in being a couple, though a few people assumed we were because we kept showing up together. We were just good friends. I've always been an introvert and kind of quiet, though I'm not shy at all. I just figured I was too nerdy, skinny, small, etc. I did meet a girl online once and we met in person, and she even told me later that next time we get together I could kiss her. So she seemed to be in to me, but I didn't really find her attractive and not someone I wanted to be with long term, so I broke it off. I just never was one of those guys who has the attention of girls all the time. It was a rare thing. I finally met my wife when I was 28. She tells me now that she was attracted to me right away but actually rejected my invites to go out a few times, even with my friends. She finally went on a date with me, but it turned into 3 months of "are we just friends or a real couple?" until I just asked her. From that point on we were definitely "together" and we've been crazy about each other ever since. Married over 12 years. She still can't get enough of me. I just had to be patient and not try to rush things. I attracted the right girl at the right time.
@@thefunnybuddy4138 I should have said "declined my invites"... because she was nervous about going out with me, probably BECAUSE she was attracted to me. Besides, isn't that part of the point of this video? Sometimes they turn men down even when they're attracted to them.
@@ricardoramos4514 To be fair, shit tons of people are oppressing it, don't pull this card out. Terms like "toxic masculinity", "mansplaining" , "patriarchal" and loads more are constantly thrown around to shame, silence and belittle men, and cancel culture puts a sword of Damocles over the heads of many as a culture-wide drive for masculine conformity and feminization. Don't be ignorant.
You're amazing. All my years of insecurities on behalf of negative experiences I've had with women melted away through your honesty and reassurance. Most of all, thank you for reminding me that I'm still a man but more importantly, a person. This video alongside Rock n Roll and Hip Hop has saved my life. Thank you.
Thanks for your honesty, this fills in the missing piece I could never understand. I don’t have even close to all of the traits typically considered attractive in a man, but the girls who have been attracted to me have always been the ones I wasn’t trying to impress. I always questioned their judgement or thought they had low standards. I thought the default was unattractive until proven otherwise, it never occurred to me that men might be attractive to women until we messed it up lol. Behaviors and preferences are still important to find a good match of course, but it’s nice to know that maybe it is possible to be enough for someone.
Tell a girl she's attractive, she won't think much of it.
Tell a guy he's attractive and he'll remember these sacred words till the end of his days.
This isn't so much a male vs. female phenomenon, as it is an example of the universal human behavior of desensitization. People who get complimented often, do not value compliments. People who are rarely complimented, highly value compliments. Everything else being equal, women are complimented far more often than men. However, there are exceptional men who are often complimented, and women who are not.
Truth!
Nah I think you got that backwards fam
maybe because you are ultra ugly🤔
I remember every single compliment I get and I take them to heart, what can I say? I try to only make compliments that I feel as deeply about, but people, women in particular, do not take it as seriously lol
I’m a straight woman. I’m not promiscuous by any stretch of the imagination. With that out of the way... l love men. They are my favorite thing on the planet. I love watching movies that are geared toward men. I love reading books written by men. I loving hanging out with them and being the girl amongst a bunch of boys. I love playfully picking on them. I always feel relaxed, safe, and able to be myself around men. I love when they’re being ornery. I love when they’re direct and honest. I love when they’re strong and masculine but underneath they still retain their boyish charm. I love their stupid jokes as much as their really good ones. I like when they have muscles not from the gym but from doing actual work. I have a thing for strong hands and forearms. I love how they can rang from being tender and sweet to rough and tumble when it’s appropriate. I hate that some women tear men down... too many women. What I look for in a guy is that we complement each other‘s personalities but I still appreciate how damn sexy they are. I was standing at Best Buy once and there was a maintenance guy climbing the rafters. I could have stared at him all day. He was a good looking guy but wasn’t insanely good looking but god was he sexy. Climbing the rafters to fix stuff and did it with such ease. When I’m around a group of men it’s like being around the real life version of the Avengers. I’m like a kid in a candy store. Smitten and charmed. I think more good men need to know it. Because good men won’t use it as a weapon they just get the cutest little smirk and twinkle when u compliment them. All guys have sex appeal. A man could be missing a limb and as long as he was ok with it and carried himself like it was just an obstacle and not something that made him less of a man he would not only retain his sex appeal but get extra points. I think it so terrible that we live in a Society that demonize men. I make sure every man I know... knows this. I make sure I hand out sincere compliments to both men and women because we all need them.
Thank u for sharing this, sooo many men need to hear this, I am sure they will appreciate this as much as I did if not way more
I needed this
A lot of us feel disposable. Thanks.
Thanks A LOT for this message, it's really heart-warming!
Thank you for sharing those wonderful insights!
This video reminds me of the old days of TH-cam. No flashy editing, no jump cuts, clickbait, feel good rhetoric and false adverts, just a simple discussion. She’s got a good grasp on the idea of masculine power.
REALLY though. Back in the days of response videos, when TH-cam had communities rather than niches. I miss those days desperately. I watched this video, and thought it might have been from 10 years ago.
Still it'll be better if she's able to tell in 5 minutes
YUP, BACK WHEN REAL PEOPLE SPOKE TO REAL PEOPLE . ALWAYS. BEFORE CORPORATE SHILLS DESTROYED EVERYTHING GOOD DAT THE PEOPLE GOT GOING .. AS ALWAYS. :-/
just 10 minutes to get he maximum amount of profit from ads though ;)
just thinking that, had to check publishing date
This is one of the rare examples of true human honesty and reality.
Here's the secret: Just stop caring if women find you attractive. Stop caring about trying to be this or that. Don't even about care about being "confident". Don't even "play the game" because that's all it is. A game.
Yeah women love it when you don't pay attention to them
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It's weird because I still don't understand how that works... man, women just confuse the hell out of me. 😅
@@thalmoragent9344 What i don't really understand about with women, is why do they even care if they're vulnerable and play weird ass mind games. It just complicates the relationship and makes us think twice before doing anything.
@@thalmoragent9344 Aquire assets and women will find their way to your door. OP is correct. The less attention you pay to women the more they will want it from you. Thing is, because of the legal system being slanted toward's females, there's really no safe way to get with a female if you want a family. Marriage opens men up to extreme financial risk.
@@austntexan
Yep, Marriage is basically a trap for men, and it sucks because it's gonna really hit a lot of potential families hard, not to mention all the good men getting done wrong by the BS divorce process.
Wow, an honest heterosexual woman. A pleasure to see in 2021.
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She's one of the last survivors of this kind, Save her at all cost
Daughters with fathers who were instrumental... I would guess that
Yea. True
facts
It’s called assertiveness, women respect honesty and confidence in your actions, even if it hurts feelings.
true
@@mynonleatherlife ... Did you just read Mode One by Alan Roger Currie? He’s a well known TH-camr in the Manosphere.
@@Slow-Rolling yea I read it and I listened to an audiobook of his book say it again... and I have seen some of his vids but not many due to length usually. Are u a fan?
Just stumbled upon your channel, wow thx for being so open, never though that all males have some sort of attractiveness that appeals to women, I know as a male that we feel the same way about women and she kind of mentioned I never knew it was the other way around basically males fine all women to some degree the femininity of them attractive.
Thanks for sharing really opened my eyes.
You are attractive by the way😉
Ken
It’s called mixed martial arts 😅🤣
Self confidence and humor seems to work for me. Make her laugh and complement her pretty smile. Keep it short, smile and start to walk away! If she wants to talk more, she'll stop you from walking away. If not, the world is full of them! Most of all... RESPECT!!
Thank you sir, you're a gentleman and a scholar.
The world isn’t full of them
Couldn’t have said it better
@@Nazgul593 have you looked around lately? Just saying, not trying to be a smart ass, but anyway, have a nice day.
Being myself a man, I remember that when I was an arrogant, non-caring and super-confident guy with no noble values beyond getting what I wanted at the moment, I dated more girls in a year than the rest of my life. I was more ignorant, and not even as adult or ripped as I am now. But, my dear male friends, I can tell you that what women are attracted to is absolute confidence, and that's something you can't fake unfortunately. Now, 10 years have passed and I'm still trying to recover it due to personal issues.
Be confident. Be confident. Be confident.
That's the only mantra that matters.
@Icewulfby moving past your fears, self doubt, procrastination and perfection. Confidence is a skill set that comes to you when you do what you dont want to do when you move past your resistance and act despite having fears
So just don't be yourself then and create a persona lmao
@@jb894 he said women are attracted to confidence which is something you can't fake for a long time, whereas personality is derived from the word persona meaning disguise, real confidence is about who you are so in the long run you got to be yourself to attract the right people in your life and let go of the people who no longer serves you.
@@maysumraza8198 that's rubbish. Being yourself doesn't get you anywhere if your self is a self that people don't gravitate towards to.
Be confident. Be confident. Be confident. -> What does it really mean?
It feels good to be appreciated for being a man, it's the complete opposite nowadays, it's a rare feeling. Thanks a lot for the video, we all appreciate it.
I am confused by your name. Reuben is a spanish name, but also a German last name, then there is a Polish last name connected with an English last name? What's going on ?
@@aak8297 AND a profile picture of someone who looks like a younger Arnold Schwarzenegger...
@Gdjxbeo Bfhwk lmfao cope
@Gdjxbeo Bfhwkc you mad this guy has the body you’ve been dreaming about for years?
@Gdjxbeo Bfhwkc why you mad bro
chill out
I think straight men are attracted by the softness in women, the feminity, so it makes sense if straight women are attracted to the opposite, the rougness of men/physical power
There are many men who are NOT effeminate but they unapologetically have natural feminine energies or strong liking of the feminine presentation that they themselves wear, and these same men love women and not only appreciate them for sex but treasures women and the soft strength they hold. Take prince for example very masculine but oozes this mysterious but yet attractive feminine energy (that all humans have) but he just knows how to use it.
@@willarroz6703 I don't think Prince was very masculine. lol I think he attracted women cause he was such a unique being.
@@johnnyskinwalker4095 he was very masculine (just comfortable with expressing strong femininity) straight people are just used to everyday men putting on tough guy/male social norm acts and mistake it for masculinity. So when prince does something different in the 80’s it blows heads especially in the time when the black American community was defining what strength and manhood looked like on a social level mean while most of the men in this time are doing the most effeminate things… black men in large cities leaving/running the families they’ve started
@@willarroz6703 you deviated away from the original conversation
I'm a female and I love more tender soft- emotional men I don't know if those are feminine traits but it's endearing and attractive to me. I don't really like the traditional male roughness
When I was 24 a girl I dated for the first time laid her head on my shoulder after kissing me good night. I was smitten for years by that gesture. Never experienced it again. It felt like recognition as a man and trust from her. Women are taught to fear men and not look them in the eye but never taught the power of their own female energy over men. Some women know that and are popular because of it.
It sounds like that girl you dated had a father she trusted. Then she recognised it in you. Trustability.
i remember a girl once did that shoulder thing to me, and secretly i really liked her but i was a dumb kid and i jokingly shunned her away becasue i just didn't have the balls to admit i liked her. makes you think how easy it is to miss a chance with someone for no good reason
The head on the shoulder, leg cross over midsection thing is female body language that she totally trusts you and you're hers.
Wow, bro this is true; the feminine " i trust you", " you can protect me" energy from a woman will melt your heart as a man, i very know that feeling. It is something that is very rare in these ages.
Lol, "Women are taught to fear men." Jesus Christ my man, what has your childhood been like? (Rhetorical question!)
Approach a woman with confidence, and if rejected take it with confidence. Remember fellas, we don't find some women attractive, and some women won't find us attractive, it's about how you handle yourself. Confidence is the key! Arrogance is not.
Pfft arrogance is the same thing. Act like you don't give a shit. A man who doesn't give a shit is a man with options. A man who surely has other women interested in him. That's like catnip.
Perfectly stated!!!
@@goodlookinouthomie1757 if you give a shit, give it, if you dont, dont, why fake it lol
I get that, but I also think there's a limit on how much rejection one person can sustain without being permanently damaged. Humans are social animals. You may not give a shit initially, but after a certain point you'll be forced to.
If a woman you are interested in rejects you then just laugh it off because she is the one missing out. Poor girl.
This is a great explanation of why women are often attracted to aggressive and dangerous men, because they are raw, visceral, masculine and exciting.
I read about how Roman women would literally go insane over successful gladiators
@@edmundlubega9647 it makes sense. They are pumping with testosterone.
@@edmundlubega9647 👃Nice his story (history) 😆 All bollocks
Cringe
@@okbutwhatif9905 Be quiet kid.
Masculine and Feminine have attracted each other for millions of years. It's still there, no matter how "civilized" we are
I agree
And no matter how stupid n PC the world is rn too
Well, it won't be like that for long. That powerful link, which eventually gives rise to another powerful bond called Family is under siege.
How? Well, testosterone levels in men are in downward spiral. To sum it all up, it's a chemical war against men and women with the sole purpose of creating a vast void between the two.
I mean, it's already happening and the main ingredients are a concoction of ideology (feminism & mgtow) and endocrinal subversion
Billions. It's as old as when life first divided into the two sexes.
@@tranglomango you really need to feel validated with any old rubbish you read online don't you.
there was a video on your channel i watched, gosh, probably about 8 or 9 years ago. as a young man at the time, it really boosted my confidence. glad i found your channel again by accident, as i begin my body transformation (tHiS iS mY yEaR) having a channel like this from a woman's perspective is opening to my eyes. Thank you for the videos you make
Being "raw" and not reading a script made this visual gold.
I’m so effing high I don’t even know wtf she’s talking bout and why TH-cam took me here
Something that makes less sense is why this got 29 likes 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Same brotha
LMAO
Me2
same hahahahaha
This video is very powerful. So many men feel insecure about themselves, because society tells them to behave, be polite, always be nice. All these things are obviously important, but when it comes to attracting a woman, you need to show your real colours as a man. Be honest and straight. Don't be ashamed for the desire you feel for women. Its natural and women love it.
You will get nice. If you start being brutally honest, it won't be long until you stop judging and having annoying impressions. It just makes you covered in shit instead of filled with shit, it's more clean and less acceptable. But once it's outside, it won't be long until you throw it out and start becoming more brutally nice each day.
Yeah they love to exploit it and ruin everything.
woman shut the fuk up the realness of life TERRIFIES you
One word comes to mind. “Authenticity”
Makes sense.
it's so difficult to be totally comfortable being myself. I still have this thing inside me that says I should be doing this or that. A lot of my insecurities come from feeling inadequate and that i need to change myself so that people (or women) will like me. I want to break free!
This is the most honest and corageous woman I've ever seen...
you're blowing my mind hahaha thank you! my ego is skyrocketing!
@@mynonleatherlife LoL
@@mynonleatherlife welcome well deserved...but Please We must control our egos lmao
@@mynonleatherlife Hello! I read Mode One a few years ago, and altough you didn't explain the book, you did mention some insights that men can learn if they read the book, nice catch! I have one question for you. You talked about honesty, doing what we want, saying what we want, without fearing rejection or critics, but, you mentioned something that got me thinking. "Instead of saying you're beatiful..... I would like to fuck you". I think your example was not on point but the message was 200% correct. I don't think that a man saying "I want to fuck you" is a good thing to do, but, it's like everything, depends on the girl, the kind of relationship you have, if you met her 5 minutes ago or you have built some sexual tension. Let me ask you something, what do you think would be an ideal approach to a women with everything you just said ? Do you think that being honest about what you think and say is a step to confidence and more self esteem ? Do you think that men sometimes need to calculate what they say, but keeping it 100% real ? Thanks for your video!!
@@mynonleatherlife thank you for being brave and giving insight !
“Is it possible to learn this power?”
“not from a jedi”
haha goated comment
This has me crying 🤣🤣
This comment deserves more likes 😂
Underrated comment
Tap into that dark SITH force energy
This quote has been swirling in my head for the last 4 days. "Stop debating what a good man is, be one" - Marcus Aurelius
and now you have made it swirl in mines...
i asked my mum on how to meet good people, she said become a good person.
Stg historical figures are just a way to play action figures with their "quotes" grow up
You can't be something you don't even know what it is. Debate first to find out. ~ Aurelius Marcus
Got this written in fancy old world cursive, framed, and hanging on the wall in my office.
This is eye opening. For example, an old girlfriend of mine told me one of the things that first attracted her to me was how if I didn't want to do something, I would just simply say "I don't want to do that." And I had no idea what she was talking about haha. Maybe it because it gave her a comforting sense that when I was doing something, that I truly wanted to do it.
My theory is that they like a man who knows what he wants, is aggressive and uncompromising and down right ruthless to some extent. Though it always comes out in different frequencies and tunes... Either way women are fairly docile creatures, little attention should be paid anyways and they can sense that. Just go out and take what you want, that's what most of them want anyways, I mean look at how fragile they are!
My ex bf was just like that n that's what I loved about him initially when we started, bcoz I find it super hard to say no when asked for help even tho it cause me inconvenience, later we broke up for diff reasons tho but I really admired that quality. But hate when my brother do it, that piece of sh*t
Having boundaries and refusing to be pressured into disregarding them. This is mental strength, you don't just do whatever people tell, or ask you to do. The most important choice you have is deciding how to act, and if you never lose focus on that then no one controls you.
@@krishafyme This girl (an old freind I came across after months) was kind of mean while waiting for the train. Finally I got reall angry . I didn't use any foul language but my tone was angry and my voice was really loud.
She kept quite and did not even move when I got angry. Normally a woman under such a situation, will turn her body away from the guy, or take a step away from the guy, or start to yell back at the guy .
So Why did she not move even one step away from me when I got angry ? She only moved when the train came to get in the train.
I've watched a lot of "experts" and scientists talking about masculinity. This person beats them all explaining the essence of masculinity and the inherent tension between men and women based solely on her experience, observation and sensitivity. Wow.
Because she's speaking basic facts. All the others are trying to create tension and division among partners, which they have managed to do successfully in the West.
true that m8
It just seems like a whole lotta womanese to me lol
“It’s the implication.“ -Dennis, It’s always Sunny in Philadelphia
@@BD-1-And-Onlyya that’s good. Rather listen to her then some dog water redpill bald dude. Ik you are a Andrew Tate/Richard cooper dickkk rider 😂😂
She’s basically just describing the moments that she has perceived men’s primal nature coming out. The issue here is men are conditioned to not exhibit these things due to societies constraints placed on men. Because they tend to be aggressive in nature. Typically when we do these things they are small to us or to her point we do not realize how they effect the opposite sex. Could be anger in a certain light. Demonstrating strength, walking into a room and owning the room, etc. it is a energy thing you put out and others tune into. There is also a genuine response to it so if forced it removes the authenticity of it. That’s what makes it so effective.
@meefjwfhss I I got the cure to it.If you need it
@meefjwfhss I don’t use crutches to deal with things
@pysch naut what do you mean?
@@renegadezen7841 The cure to anxiety.Which is to just work with the present experience and everything within it no matter what emotion or thought arises.Work with it never against it.The four agreements are amazing for that.My whole point being depending on external things to change internal things never works.Or to never distract yourself from negative emotions or experiences
@@SykeeNot ah well said. Yes agree with what you are saying entirely. The most advanced practice this concept daily.
all secrets are told in a whispered voice, thus she is telling the truth
Perfectly said.
All I understood was, something like say when u want to kiss her, and tell her when u are angry.
@@piedramultiaristas8573 u commented this fifty times
@@kozy.3022 U ara Liyng.
@@kozy.3022 An if I would what wrong?
This video really proves that someone can say a lot within a short amount of time versus someone saying nothing within twice the time. Well done. What I mainly draw from it is that honesty can move mounains
It took her 10 minutes to say guys who are assertive are attractive. Worse yet, she waited until the end to say it, and there was nothing of value before the end that was said.
@@feartheghus she said it multiple times and she elaborated on a few other things. Watch it again If you missed something. There are other comments that summarized it pretty well
she said nothing lol
@@cyanized0 hm
Violins aside. Baseline, she wants a caveman. Danmmit!!
The power she's talking about is confidence.
The Raw Attractive Power All Men Have in their wallets.
@@videohq1181 oh please stop with this shit. if it was true then all women would only go for rich men. that's obviously not the case, a lot of women still value non-materialistic things more. if ya can't find one then either you have bad luck or don't really want to.
@@LOLHAXGUN you know, you may be right. Lets keep an eye on the thumbs up for each of our comments.
So true! Real confidence goes a LOOOOOOONG way!!!
@@LOLHAXGUN there’s only so many men that are rich, statistically. If women could all have a rich man..... they would
Its the power to defy the pull of others’ judgement. To be able to act exactly how you want to and be okay with whatever happens or what anyone else says or thinks about you. Its the realization that authenticity provides fulfillment that no one else can give you. When you see its beauty, you will embrace the pain of being disliked, mocked and criticized because the pleasure of authenticity and personal autonomy far outweighs the pain of judgement.
Women feel the joy of the unburdened man
The best comment about authenticity, ever
Brilliant explanation.
couldn't been put better
Crazy how this applies to both genders dawg.
well put my guy
" the pleasure of authenticity and personal autonomy far outweighs the pain of judgement"
I have noticed this thing in girls, when they, in the right time, act super feminine or delicate. That does spike something inside a man
Hence why a crying woman alone is the target for every guy at the bar to make her feel better... then take her home
@@Bananabanananabanana I think every man has different spots where he gets hit the most. Some find it super feminine, if she giggles in a cute way, others like it if she's super shy, or maybe dancing an erotic dance or other things... those are not particularly female, but they can spike that "female feeling"...
@@Bananabanananabanana ah nevermind me, bin gerade mal durch dein Profil gegangen. Ich hoffe du verstehst meinen Punkt, auch, wenn du ihn nicht teilst :)
Yes Mohammed. Evolution, time, or God, whichever makes sense to you, designed it like that and it's been that way for centuries. It's weird how it takes so long to figure it out.
@@Bananabanananabanana TH-cam schickt natürlich keine Benachrichtigung über Antworten und Erwahnungen x'D
Die Alternativität (wieder sehr schwammig, aber die Kanäle zu alternativer Psychologie und Veganismus vermitteln mir generelle Alternativität). Um ehrlich zu sein, dachte ich bei deinem Namen zuerstn auch an Transsexualität, und da dachte ich mir dann, dass du das Konzept von Mann/Frau so nicht ganz richtig findest. Deswegen habe ich deinen Kommentar eher so verstanden "Wer kann bzw darf. überhaupt bestimmen, was weiblich und was männlich ist?" Das waren Vorurteile, stimmt, und deswegen bin ich zu diesem Schluss gekommen - aber beleidigt hab ich dich nicht damit, oder?
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Who’s it by
Dark mind tricks is creepy
bot
Yeah because every fruitful relationship started from "dark mind tricks". Pull your head outta your ass lmao
"it's the real deal" meaning what? You have studied and applied these techniques and suddenly you were having women eating from the palms of your hands? Are you saying you became biochemically irresistible? If so, what were you after, a huge F count? If you've ever wanted a relationship, have those formulas ever worked?
I've noticed this. Hanging out with girls I was unapologetically quiet and admitted that I would rather be home. One of the girls I was hanging out with was really into it. I used to be insecure about my quietness but once I owned it SOME girls found it really attractive. But that is some advice for my quiet people. Just be comfortable and okay with being quiet around social settings
Thank you! I'm one of those quite people (if I'm not too interested in just talking just to talk), but then I start thinking that maybe people don't like me because I'm too quite and to most, that's boring, but like you said, some people will respect you and love you the way you are :)
Plot Twist: BabyGirl was deaf.
Yeah but what if you’re quiet and never say a word? At that point someone might be annoyed and ask why are you even here lol
@@r011ing_thunder6 and? Tell them you don't have to engage in the conversation to enjoy your time e out, just don't be some stoic sourpuss cause in that case it does beg the question, why are you here?
@@TheGoldenChile I got what you said thank you
On behalf of all man you just earned yourself a medal
😅😅😅
Speak for yourself
@@heritice1927 heri tice ur opinion doesnt matter with a feminine name like that 😭
@@nicm8909 your mom loves to scream it though
@@heritice1927 are u like 5?😂😂😂
Love how this hit everyones recommended.
I actually searched for this :)
@@johnvallsater4499 💪🏻
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Love it
I appreciate these little gems every now and then
This information is one of the most generous gifts that has ever been given to men on all of TH-cam I thank you dearly with all of my heart and wish you all your heart desires
She summarized in one video what all these gurus have been teaching for 5 years
@increase Folabomi , haha great comment well said I even suscribed before even listen the entire video the way she introduced the subject was enough to know it will be something outstanding anyway !! Yes she overpassed overdriven those gurus as you say ... in fact is related to express properly the male basic instinct properly ... is been said also when a man keep coming back to a woman even rejected he has more & more chance to get trough ..., I know several cases ...
Where's the 5 years figure come from?
And I still don't get it after 10 plus years of not dating and never having a gf
@@roflswamp6 how old r u?
@@mkmllrc 29 :(
Who would have thought it? Women love when men are masculine and, for the record, men LOVE women who are feminine. Kind, caring, helpful, beautiful etc. Be a mans peace and he will never go
Prison Mike! Great name! "You got a good life! ...a good life."
They guy can still cheat on you if you all that
@@kazi2683 thats not the kind of nigga we talking about fam
Yeah they love the best of both worlds
I was like that and then got cheated on
I think men realize this as we age. I just turned 40 and I get more attention now than when I was a teenager. You are just more confident in what you want.
One woman told me" you will look amazing in your 30s", when I was 18
Over the years, countless women have been asked, what age is a man most attractive? Most of them have said, and will say, men in their 40s. Women in their 20s go bonkers over men in their 40s, think of every college professor, he got girls swooning over him. The majority of Hollywood actors, Paul Newman, Sean Connery, Robert Redford, Denzel Washington, Tom Cruise, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, yup. Women think they're hottest while in their 40s.
She can't word it out, but thee term she was looking for is "Machismo", the pride of being a man. You see this in Latin-America, for example when little boys try to imitate their father, they look very manly and "macho". I don't know why it is almost non-existent in North-America, but oh well.
Ya cause you have experience.. that’s what men need to work on each day and take risks. It makes for a interesting life
@@CarlosReyes-qe2iq lol, you are talking about very good looking guys with money and status. Of course they will look good even at 70 years old.
I know exactly what you're talking. It's mainly being confident and not caring what other people think. I was shy as a young teen but quickly learn that women are not attracted to that. I used to think I was ugly fat and nobody like me. I didn't have any family and wasn't shown love or affection like most children are? By the time I was 15 or 16 years old I was starting to get women in their that was head over heels for me. Living on my own at such a young age has taught me not to take no shit and how to deal with people. I do realize that I'm not the most attractive man but confidence in the ability to not give a shit what other people think makes a big difference. A man who sits around and wanders what's wrong with himself has too much free time and will always waste his time wondering instead of putting his time towards being confident. When I say being confident I mean to be yourself. Women can spot fake and phony.
"A man that exudes total confidence is a woman's kryptonite." That's essentially the takeaway if you boil this down.
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Im confident that i have zero confidence with females 💯
@@Appachoppa112 why
@@Appachoppa112 LMAO
Essentially, yes. But confidence doesn't always mean what people think it means. Confidence isn't necessarily the person who always says and does the right things, or likes everything about themselves. True confidence, in my opinion, is the person has insecurities, who fumbles, whose jokes fall flat, but OWNS it. Confidence is the person who's comfortable with themselves, knows what they want and goes after it, and also knows that if they get rejected by one person, it's not the end of the world. Women can't resist a man who wants them but doesn't need them.
WE MUST PROTECT THIS WOMAN AT ALL COSTS, BOYS! She's the last one we're gonna get. Welcome to 2021.
Orah! USA USA USA.
What's so great about her? All she said was you gotta be masculine and be yourself. The same talking points I hear from everyone else. Man just stop simping.
@@sodagamer8711 Bro, there's an ocean of emasculated men you don't want to investigate, and it goes far deeper than just simping. They don't respond to the kind of tough love you could give men 10-15 years ago.
Simp 🤣
@@sodagamer8711 She took it to another level though.
As a heterosexual male, I needed to hear this. Thank you.
@Rayyan Patel you're a douche
@Rayyan Patel What tf? Damn chill out my homie brother
@Hellrais3r also a douche
@Hellrais3rnaw man for play-play
It's what I always knew, but could never pull off: Be an asshole.
This just showed up on my feed. We need more conversations like this. Candid introspection and sharing of how we see each other, no judgement, just observation. Understanding is unifying. Thank you for this. Wish you'd post again.
"...and women aren't gonna help them. Because that makes women vulnerable." Aha!! 💡
I’ll throw in my two cents:
She said that women don’t tell guys how to be attractive because then the same women would be vulnerable. True, but I would also add a concept known as “observing a process changes a process”. Women CANT tell a man how to be attractive because women want a man that “just gets it”. Women don’t want a man who has to be told HOW to be a MAN because that wouldn’t be his predominant personality.
If you have to be taught how to be a man then you are not the man for her. You are not a “man” but “ “someone that has to be told how to a man”. It’s not the same. Women understand there is no point in telling a guy how to be a man because he has to realize it on his own for it to be authentic.
I’m not saying a man can’t eventually “just get it” but, at this the moment you don’t get it.
Think about like this when somebody wants something from you they aren’t going to tell you because it would be out of obligation and it wouldn’t be genuine. That’s the best way I can explain it
It’s important for guys to understand this dynamic and get them to the next level with women. Women want to submit and be vulnerable but is has to be genuine. The process has to be organic.
Eventually, a woman will be annoyed and disappointed because she sees your potential but you don’t just get and she has no choice but to move on.
@@raheemthegoat1066 Ah but I do get it. As of watching this video 😜 You've explained it well. It's a lot like hiring a person for a job because they've done the job before, while rejecting the one who can only claim that they're "willing to learn." If she has to teach you how to be her man, you cannot be her man. No girl wants to tell a guy she's met "just put me in my place." And yet it's what she really wants. It's nothing mothers tell their sons, or that society tells its boys, especially these days.
@@videowilliams I know you get it I was just talking in general lol. yes exactly there is cognitive dissonance going on there.
@@videowilliams Your last sentence has some similarity with my thoughts about this (great) video: At least in the western world, women can (still) have a typical feminie role or a male one. However men are advised to have a rather feminine role or they get called chauvinist and creepy, although this is what most women (secretly) desire: a manly man...I am 35 and discovered this in recent years, makes me sad...Edit: Still don´t want to change my female character traits and fake it!
A lot of guys need to hear this. And its not about showing inconsideration or disrespect to women. Its about having the confidence to be who you are.
Agreed. There’s obviously some women that men should avoid just like there are men who women should avoid. The main thing is being who you are. That allows a woman to see your true personality and know if that’s what she wants. As a guy I can say that an honest personality is one of the first things I look for.
yeah that's a good point. I have some suspicion that a lot of guys repress themselves to some extent because of a, b and c and ofc I also think it's important to recognize that it does go both ways but men don't seem to hear it as often
Now EVERYONE is stealing her content. Ever since the algorithm put her up a month back all these TH-cam’s are talking about it. That’s how you know most of these content creators are talking out their ass. This girl is the truth
Thanks Jorge, who do u think is stealing it, do u remember any? Probably nothing I can do but I’m curious
@@mynonleatherlife u can do something about it! Just copy strike it
Yes, I notice TH-cam algorithms promote the sleazy salesman/marketing type "me too" creators who streal all their ideas from genuine creators, and the genuine grassroots people get ranked low, shadow banned, demonetized, or even have their channels deleted. The imitations are never as good as the originals--often water-down with many details wrong. We live in a really sick society which rewards the grifters and con artists but punishes the honest originals.
@Phasing Out Somebody just do a stutnex virus to TH-cam and mess with their ad rev system,m... that outta teach em a lesson lol
Sounds like that v shred gym guy he was very misleading no honesty in there content just cheap nasty content a quick sale for the .ost money possible
I went through a bad breakup a few years and it's taken me a while to recover my confidence as a man... I listened to this same video two/three times a day and it's helped me. I've always know this to be true deep down inside but this video puts it into words. Thank you!
When a man shows a woman that he doesn't give a shit about being rejected by her or what she thinks of him, genuinely showing himself as he is and really saying what he wants or thinks, without taboos or reservations, without fears or worries. .. The woman can't help but feel attracted. This attitude is a typically masculine power of seduction to which women are very sensitive. Show women that you are not afraid of being rejected, ignored, criticized or insulted by them (and that it does not affect you either, that you are indifferent to their reaction, that you are not reactive); Showing them that you don't care about the outcome of being accepted or rejected or what they think of you attracts them. That's what Mode One is about, it's not about getting accepted, it's about having the balls to show women that you don't give a shit about being rejected or what they think of you, and it's also about not giving them your free attention (have the attitude of: “I don't give a shit not having anything with you, you are not the only woman in the world, there are many other women that I can enter and with whom I can have something”).
I don't think is that absolute, I would complement what you said with not giving a shit makes them respect you, attraction is directly proportional to respect and chemistry, you do need both to get in a womans head.
@@DiegoMachida I agree
@Stellar Fav comment
@DiegoMachida also fav reaction
@Stelar
It’s not everyday a woman would make a video like this simply being honest about what they feel but it’s actually being constructive. Very good.
Great instructive and edifying Videos Sister Thankyou For the Great Video im a Guy So i Highly Apreciate the info
Well said. A point I often make is that acting, being fake, and trying to be someone else isn't attractive at all and will push men/women away.
Yet being shallow is better.... Makes no sense
Opposite for me, acting like someone I'm not often gets lots of girls, but once they start seeing there's more complexity to me than what they initially thought, they lose interest. Kinda have to keep a girl at bay, don't let her in no matter how much she begs, cause then she thinks she knows you and it's no fun anymore.
@@gabrielguzman6018 yin and yang
Difference is if the non fakeness is discouraged and forced out of men by society at large and then guy becomes trash to women. Like breaking someones legs with a bat and then punishing them for having broken legs/not walking good. How this nuance isnt obvious or central is mindboggling
@@gabrielguzman6018 well if you reread the mans comment you should pick up on it right away. right around acting and trying to be someone else..... that should sum it up right there... and a women can wanna sleep with a guy who may i guess be an ass hole and not want them in a more gratifying way.
Turning 50 soon and the biggest superpower i ever gained is that sex doesn't have any power over me anymore.
As a man, ive always been shy and have always felt rejected by woman. I am very appreciative that you decided to have the courage to be vulnerable because this honestly makes me feel hopeful going forward.
(Looks at username) Simp.
@@kamikazekyre6101 Why are you here?
Best way to have people treat you like you're a confident, attractive person, is to 'pretend' to be one. Stand up straight, act confident. It's amazing how people's (women's) attitudes toward you will instantly change. Before long you won't be 'pretending'
@@happydappyman #1 this only works if you already are attractive physically speaking #2 trying to pretend for the rest of your relationship is A VERY BAD idea... eventually she will realize you are pretending and her attraction towards you will plumit, she will then proceed to slowly distance herself from you until completely dumping you.
@@Crimson50 the thing about pretended is to commit. Eventually you will be your actions, as evident from your history. If you pretend to be strong and masculine, you are actually just practicing. We you make decisions that your weak version can't handle doing, you will just prove that you moved past any weakness.
Like the ability to walk away or handle rejection well.
The reverse for me is when a woman do something out of pure kindness or because it's the right thing to be done, even if it gives her some lost. It always captures my admiration.
Same. In my case especially because I've met so many black hearted, manipulative women (not dated) which has made me appreciate the very few kind ones even more.
A kind woman with self respect is all I want.
It's almost like people with a moral compass are attractive
yeah, a lot of men like self-sacrificing women because it feeds into their mommy fantasy.
blacks? @@ugn154
"This is going to get a bit sexual, so if you're not interested in that, please stop watching now."
* half of TH-cam enters the chat *
hahaha that part was when my family were the main people who watched my channel. trying to tell them not to watch
@Yograndmaahoe Pwassy lol
@Yograndmaahoe Pwassy I thought you were talking about the cock n ball torture?
@Yograndmaahoe Pwassy yea
@@mynonleatherlife 😂😂😂
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02:56 *🍑 Men have a raw attractive power that women can sense even when rejecting them.*
04:56 *💪 Men's attractive power stems from their masculine energy and behavior.*
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It's simple the feminine are designed to be attracted masculine...we are wired that way...the problem is we are programmed in this world to change and challenge what is natural.
that may be a big part of it
Preach!
It's a fucked up world
God’s design, so simple
so stop accepting the change. When change happens fight it and shut people up
Most men have never heard a woman say anything like this, and they have no idea. This video is undoubtedly a transformative lesson for many, many men. Thank you for saying this.
I’m a simple guy🤷🏾♂️ I see bad camera quality, I click
Hahahaa
Raw 👌😅
Truth and Honesty do not need studio quality camera work. They just need to be heard.
@@philvess6376 that's why he clicked! 😁
Its about sending a message. Fancy cam meh
I think it's emotionally intelligent and mature to recognize such things from both perspectives (men and women). Thank you for sharing, Victoria. ✨✨
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You will never understand the level on how useful and extreme power boosting and secretive this message was for men out there, the capacity of confidence you just unleashed for God knows how many male souls in which you have helped drastically. We men….love you. #girlcodeexposure
Take that truth Serum.
Who knew that masculinity is that attractive to ladies.
she didnt say shit that people didnt know.
@croq8444 Lord! Have Mercy on us peasants. We don't know any better.
Though, where are you getting your info from. Like i know deep down we all knew but she mad it evident and now it sticks in our subconscious mind.
@@madmax7539 my friend you ever heard of a little something called ‘fresh n fit’ or for us Christian folk I would recommend Jon Zherka. But you yourself said you knew this inside of you, and that’s the key. We all know what is right, we just need the right stimulation to bring it out of us. Find yours
@@croq8444no brain lol
Dont be a simp, desperate, or a crybaby. Have goals, focus on them and yourself first. Dont care too much about what others think, but whatever your "style" is, be clean. Girls think they know what they want, but most women need someone dependable, strong, assertive, confident, protective. They will take notice and come to you.
straight fax
Lol just to cheat on you with losers. So I’m going to have to roll with future on this one
It’s deeper than that. Don’t do all those things but also heal. Go into yourself, read a real psychology book like for example Emotional Resilience by David Viscott. Challenge yourself to go deeper and tap into it
If a MAN is watching this expecting to learn something.... that's a BAD start. STOP BEING A SIMP and get proper "education" from a RED PILLED guy.
@@renatosureal so people should.listen to some 40yo dead beat losers after divorce on how to play the game??🤣🤣 U misogyns are so super funny. No sane person gives flying fuck about red pill bullshit. It is male equivalent of modern feminism. Keep on living on your unicorn land thinkong that life is all about scoring as many chicks as u can get. Then when u will be old 65+ old fuck w/o kids or anyone u will understand why it is beneficial for both sexes to have someone by them.
God damn 20yo incels u lot....
I love how you're so open and honest, this is gold for a lot of people.
Thanks a lot Lucas
i agree i respect, her alot for sharing this some women and men dont even have the balls to do so
@@truegamer2819 thank you very much
@@mynonleatherlife anytime 👍
This actually gives me so much sense of calm hearing this off a woman. I've always felt that women are put on a pedestal by us lot and we feel a certain entrancement off of women that women don't feel the equivalence of in return. I guess tho as a straight guy, I am not gonna understand what women are gonna feel towards me or how they experience being attracted to men. Thanks for explaining
How to be a great man: honesty and have a backbone.
You're welcome.
Ambition too, you need that cheddar
Yup and that drive. That's the hardest part for men. Especially if they're depressed. Depression is horrible. It can get you and you won't even realize it until someone makes note of your current actions. Lots of men are very depressed now days.
@@dwanrobinson Vitamin D deficiency. I have a theory that it's one of the main factors in a lot of disorders and is very understudied. It plays a role in so many processes from metabolism and energy to immune, testosterone production, and mental health.
Actually it's not even a vitamin, but is a hormone. And I think there is a reason why the best source of it comes from sunlight. It's essential! With more tech and corporate jobs and loss of manual industry and farming, people have lost out on key aspects of development growing up indoors, in front of a screen and eating junk that further messes up your hormones.
In fact, low vitamin D is even associated with Co-vid mortality. I think vitamin D supplements, more natural sunshine, and some manual work or activity can go a long way with depression and drive. Probably more effective than big pharma. Unfortunately, society has become a culture about sedentary entertainment and consumerism.
@@Geoff YEEEEA
@@Geoff Man I think you have a great point because sometimes I feel really really bad, like if I don't want to live anymore and have low energy. And when I walk out to buy something and see and feel the sunset my perspective change totally and my feelings change very quickly in a positive way.
Nofap will heighten that aura that you speak of...if you are attractive to begin with, take care of your body and have self assurance..it’s game over for the ladies
Game over ladies ☠️
Haha!!! Let' see. Prove it
💯 correct
Gonna work harder at it
@@mynonleatherlife You’d sure be watching this video if you knew what game over for the ladies looked like☠️☠️
You have helped hundreds of thousands of guys with this video. Cheers to you lady.
Thank you Anuj
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How the fuck do you spell unesciairly bruh
This is like the one word i’ve always had issues with... Googling it at this point would be a personal defeat.
unesciarily, un-necessarily - wait wtf. Did I just?
un-necessarily.
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I DID IT
@@dudeskidude8376 Hahahah I have no idea what that whole comment was about, but I love it
(oh, and also... same dude, I can totally relate lol)
@@dudeskidude8376 😂😂😂. Was that really ⁿᵉᶜᵉˢˢᵃʳʸ?
@@samuelmoss9487 Yes.
I know how to spell necessary now bro
I'll save you ten minutes.
1. Victoria discusses the concept that men possess a unique and powerful form of sexual energy that is particularly noticeable and attractive to women, but often unrecognized by the men themselves.
2. Victoria shares personal anecdotes about how men and women perceive each other differently, particularly in sexual or romantic contexts, and how her own perceptions have influenced her interactions with men.
3. The video explores the idea that this male energy is a key factor in attraction, even in cases where a man is rejected for other reasons. The speaker suggests that many men are unaware of this power they hold.
4. Victoria concludes by noting the complexity of attraction and the potential vulnerability women might feel in acknowledging this male power.
Victoria does not clearly describe what this masculine power is. It's left to the viewer to come to emotionally sympathize with what this masculine power actually is. From the video, it likely refers to a man that is enigmatic, potent, unrecognized, yet influential. Think James Bond.
good synopsis bruh
It just means confidence.
I'll save you less than that, 1. : that's it.
I think it's authentic, driven by ones own power, uncompromising to oneself. Sure James Bond, but not every man is going to be an international super spy. Every man can achieve those three things though.
James bond, no doubt. Joe no bond, Chad smash.
I can attest to this. Summer of 2015. I was 25. I had just gotten out of jail after being in for 30 days, lost my job. I just remember feeling like I had nothing to lose, i had so much energy. Found a job after 2 days of being out. I didn't give a fuck and my confidence and swag was on 10. I was ripped from working out and eating low calories in jail. Lol but I remember approaching women with no hesitation or second thought. I had women that I knew and hung out begging me to have sex with them. It was so weird. But I felt the masculine energy inside me. Felt like a super hero. You couldn't tell me shit. My jokes and whit were on point I was like a magnet and just attracted everyone. That was the most powerful I've ever felt.
Thank u for sharing this, I loved reading. Very cool to hear it confirmed from your perspective.
Antonio.. so in other words semen retention?
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." - Tyler Durden
@@joedough6450 nofap has nothing to do with anything. Use retroduction & logic to solve why this is. Have fun! 🤩
@@zlClutchy stop beating off
Pay attention fellas. She's being 100% honest
Thank you Chase
She maybe referring to only dudes with Looks, Money, and Status. What she is saying doesn't apply to all menn.
ALL women say they are 'honest'....she will tell you- likely many many times...
@@fohnacidemooky-mooks4796 yes im reality they all want dudes with Looks money and status
@@harryh875 it does apply to all man but it might not work on every single girl but every men has it
I like how respectful everyone is in the comments. If this was a TikTok then there would be a gender war in the comments 😆
I love tiktok
What's a tic tac?
@@DamianSzajnowski it's a candy or something
@@DamianSzajnowski its best you dont know lol and im happy to see another person named damian😁
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it's so funny that two or three years ago when I had a kinda like "IDGAF attitude", I was actually more successful with girls...then down the line I had my first rejection, then I just shut down after that and all my insecurities started to pop up, been shy and timid to this day(it was a brutal rejection tbh) and interacting with girls feels like a disaster waiting to happen...I genuinely miss the childish confidence I had, your demeanor makes a huge difference in attracting women I 100% agree...I would say it's more effective than your looks or status
I want to add something after watching this and thinking on it. A few months ago go I had a really honest conversation with a girl that changed my life. We had been talking for awhile and I could really sense that she was attracted to me, but she rejected me when I made advances. This frustrated me a lot and I eventually called her on it. I told her I could feel in my body that she was attracted to me and asked her why the hell she rejected me when I acted on that. She responded to me with a profound question. She asked me if I thought women slept with every guy that turned them on. That honesty meant everything to me. It let me know that I wasn't crazy and didn't misread my intuition. That lack of honesty and clarity from women contributed to my low self esteem in the past. I always thought I was an idiot who misread situations or was delusional. Now I can see I wasn't. Women just keep everything so close to the chest that it makes it extremely easy to second guess yourself if you're a guy.
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Not exactly. It's hard to explain and is very subjective, but my mindset was if a woman was flirting with me in a way that I deemed obvious and she turned me down she was obviously playing games or toying with me and if it was subtle I was an idiot and misread the signals. I guess my problem is I'm too logical. I have never flirted with a woman I wasn't attracted to and if I flirt with a woman I'm definitely open to sex and/or dating. I understand that every woman isn't necessarily open to fucking every guy she is attracted to, but I would think she would generally be open to that if she is flirting overtly enough that the guy gets that idea. One thing I've noticed is that women who are married or in relationships are the ones who flirt with me the most openly. That is something that I find really frustrating. A lot of them are women I would definitely be interested in if they were available. It feels like they are trying to torture me when they flirt with me when they aren't available to me in that way.
Women find logical being boring/weak. Even if you have masczuline energy, for them its big nono
But it doesn’t make any sense. Somethings missing. Don’t pay attention to what women say, pay attention to what they do. You were still missing something
Men are afraid that women will laugh at them.
Women are afraid that men will kill them.
I’ve rejected a lot of guys I’ve found attractive. 90% of the time it was because they did something i didn’t like that went against my morals but nothing to do with their physical. A woman who isn’t desperate and loves herself will not have any second thoughts of rejecting a man who doesn’t meet her standards and that goes for internal qualities aswell. It’s not fair to the guy either to just settle for him because he’s “attractive” knowing I’ll be unhappy. I also find that the more i like a guy the more my insecurities come out and i can be complex which has confused a lot of guys but it had nothing to do with them.
I figured that out about 15 years ago. Confidence and assertiveness “dominance” are the key. Add the slightest amount of affluence and it’s unbeatable.
You're smarter than me.
@@fendermon I learned it at 44... doubt I'm smarter. Horrible marriage and horrible sex life made me try to learn how to change that. And I did, and it's been unbelievably great to have that power. I try to share what helped me.
@@lifestream4191 Thanks man.That means a lot.
But if the person isnt physically attractive, he may as well just give up on it.
@@user-tq6fx7tl7e I disagree. If you're overweight, get on keto and exercise. You'll need the endurance to please a woman (and it's much easier than you think). If you're not what is traditionally considered OK, or nice looking, then you're dead wrong. You don't have to be nice looking, just clean, and confident, and appear to have ambition (working towards life goals). A few rules. Don't drink, ever... you have other ways to enjoy your time. Never validate (compliment) a female, they hear it all the time. I joke and tell women that they are nice looking, every bit of C+ (with a grin on my face). They typically slap my arm and say WHAT??? I say it's better than average! (chuckling). Women place a higher value on a man they have to work to get validation from... only give it in a backhanded joke. Next, have a meaningful conversation (investment, work goal, property you're interested in), with a guy where a woman you're interested in is nearby, preferably next to... and act like she's invisible, never look at her, you can see her in your peripheral vision and judge her interest. I promise, she will be interested in anyone who's talking about ambitious things. Bottom line, any guy can get women if the guy presents himself as having the characteristics that women desire, confidence, dominance, ambition.
She's about to get a lot of men in trouble with HR.
Thank You!!! Im like this sounds great in theory but I call bullshit in reality.
She's right. But if a guy doesn't 'get it.. it's useless information - or at worst, yeah, will get him in HR, because he's taking what she's saying verbatim.
@@Journeyman89 You didn’t understand it then. This is our reality.
@@justingutierrez8893 I did i just don't believe being upfront like that works in most cases these days thats why the original comment he said she gon get a lot of men in trouble with HR lol. The video still gave decent insight tho
Lol true. To quote Admiral Akbar: "ITS A TRAP!!"
Good vid, and kudos for some honesty. I realised, waaaay later, that I was trying to project confidence rather than Being confident. Projecting it is a single lane assertation, but when you Are confident (aka stop giving a fuck) then you exude more than the single lane. It's body language, tone of voice, Honesty and a whole lot more. Ironically, I realised it after meeting the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with, but hey, at least I know it now. Cos damn that conundrum befuddled me for a long, long time. I guess she's why I realised it. Because she made me so comfortable. That's why we seem to get girls on us when we're not single and never when we are. It's cos we're at ease. For me, it was getting an answer, rather than using it to "get stuff". There's something fulfilling in knowing your nature.
U just dropped a huge gem. It’s truly Inspiring the honesty is real. I always felt like this but could never explain it in my own words. Peace and love
Thank you so much, what part did u always feel like but could never explain please elaborate :)
What I could never explain or put into words is that women won’t admit that energy men give off quite often but as you said if you were to say it you would feel vulnerable
@@showtimemcm yes, it's true. I found myself agreeing with so much in this video. From personal experience I can say that forsure even the guys we turn down, there is still something attractive about them even if we don't particularly find them to be a match for us. Maybe just the energy is attractive, and if men just trusted their own unique man energy...boy would they be more magnetic.
@@eagletmars I was waiting for another female to respond. I believe what you are talking about in male energy is testosterone. The vital energy of a man gives off such a potent energy that woman can sense before any man can. If a man isnt your match he’s not your match but that male energy is powerful.
I followed your advice and now I'm facing sexual harassment charges
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Really?
Bruh...
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we must protect this woman at all costs.
I'm on it.
Copy commander.
I'll protect her 😏😝😅
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She must get Z+ security 😅
this is my fav comment section its just so raw and non judgmental and talks about the details no one talks about today
As a straight woman, I can totally attest to this. To the guys who don't know what she is talking about, think of it this way, the feeling you get from "femininity" is a similar thing to feeling "masculinity". It is a feeling of a presence. A masculine presence. Little subtle things that men do, they don't know that it can really be a very "masculine" thing and it can drive straight girls wild by such small things. It is basically, masculinity, an "energy" around men, like how you would feel a presence from a female and her femininity, well men have their own version of it. It isn't metaphysical or mystical, or even a concept. It is a feeling of masculinity. You can't easily pinpoint it because of that, but it is totally real in the minds of straight women, and probably gay men too. It is easier to pick up this feeling on the sex you are attracted to, because that is what draws you in. Men don't realize their masculinity in this way, just as women don't feel their own femininity in the same way as a straight guy would see it. It's an attraction to the little and subtle ways men just... are.
Nice to see there are still women in 2021 who are attracted to masculinity and not beta males which are rampant nowadays.
@@TheR3negadeMaster beta simp thirsty males, the 2nd most abundant resource on the planet aside from water.
Okay but what does she/you mean by that? Are some men "too" masculine, not enough masculine or just not a good match with the girl in question?
@@maxforsman7102 Tough questions to answer.
I don't subscribe to the "alpha and beta males" thing, to me there is only what I find attractive in a man, which will be different for every female.
I don't see black and white when it comes to men. So, I don't categorise men into alpha and beta males. I don't like doing that, I respect all men.
It is kind of like crabs in a bucket thing, with "alpha and beta males", if you have heard of that story before, where the crabs will pull the other crabs down into the bucket if they see one that is nearer to getting free... that is what categorising males into "alpha" and "beta" feel like to me.
Pulling someone down to better yourself. No offence to anyone who likes the alpha and beta thing, I just don't.
I don't think that you can have a man that is "too masculine" or "not masculine enough". It is simply preference as to who we as women are attracted to. Like I said, it will be different for every woman. I personally think every man has this "attractive masculinity" to them, even if they feel they don't have it.
As to if a man is a good match for a woman, that is, for me, down to each other's personalities, not about how "masculine" a man is.
The most subtle of things all men do every day can be a huge turn on, it is a feeling that every man has, not just a select few, so don't worry about it. A man just feels masculine without even trying to. This feeling is always there. Just my opinion.
Well put! I would say that there is a key distinction in masculinity vs femininity: masculinity is very much attached to confidence. And confidence is a very deep part of a person. Femininity though, is related to delicacy, which is a completely effortless trait that some women are naturally endowed with. For example, thin hands and waist turn me on a lot, a low volume sweet voice, the way a woman moves and poses her arms and legs… If a woman has these traits, she has a lot of power, but she was just lucky. But for a man to have sexual power, he really has to work on himself. Because if a man has weakness, he can't hide it, it will eventually show, and it will turn the woman off immediately and crush his soul because he'll notice it. I think maybe that's how it should be, it drives me to wanna improve myself, so I'm not complaining. But the distinction is fascinating to me.
As I already know there'll be plenty of dudes who see this and think "being angry" or "being raunchy" is what makes men attractive, what she's actually saying here is that sincerity and being honest with yourself and others is what's attractive.
Dang a girl who is totally genuine in the way she expresses herself is attractive to me too.
As a man I know exactly what your talking about. Took me a long time to realize it but it's basiy having a true honest presence. There's a lot more to this but its the presence that your feeling that is so attractive.
Hearing people say 'all men are trash' and 'men ain't shit' makes me physically cringe. You'll never catch me saying that. It hasn't happened for me yet, but I can't wait for the day I get to love and be loved by a MAN. What a treasure you all are.
Fall in love with me
@@hornypolice5969 dwagg your name dont add up with that comment
You're an awesome woman, Beth. I hope I meet one like you!
That was really nice to hear
if feminism was honest, an independent woman would mean get ur degree get a good job and get a mortgage for a flat u put tenents in whilst living at home cheap and u put all ur money into paying off the mortgage then by late 20s probably paid most of it off. ive wasted a lot of time listening to feminist stuff last 5 10 years or so and not once heard this idea. Also I don't think most women want to be spinsters for the rest of their lives so i don't know why femism is the dominant voice on male females. its really cancer for relationship success. feminism seems just trying castrate all men psychologically. feminism just seems a product of mental illness ignorance, bullying, passive aggressive unadjusted liars and the deluded. All should just do intense phychological councelling before trying to create their cult. sorry for the rant, just so disappointing causing so much dysfunction in society and any change seems a huge uphill battle.
I love your honesty. It's been painful being rejected and doubting my own power because of it. If a woman would have told me this decades ago, it would have saved me so much selfdoubt and mental pain it is unbelievable. Thank you.
Apparently it's easier to just reject and go playing the slots for the next guy that ticks more boxes, than help give a guy the confidence to be better.
@@Josith13because they are bad women, she made you a favor so you can't waste time with her
Well, still nothing changes after watching this. You can't read women's minds and if you try the wrong shit with the wrong one it will be "sexual harassment" and they will lock you up.
@@Josith13 It's exactly the same with money. Most women simply don't get the idea that you can build wealth together with a man; instead, they want the man to already have the wealth.
Women are hypergamous.@@OpenGL4ever
Both males and females are naturally attracted to things they don't have.
I agree
Love face, ass, legs
@@ahsidodna3355 good point, we all have those
I disagree
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Thank you for sharing this, and in being vulnerable in these moments. Do you realize how much guys need to hear and know this? It's so rare to find a woman who is secure enough in herself to build up and appreciate a man. You have done an incredible service to us with this honest and well communicated video. Much thanks!!
From my experience, I think women can really acutly sense when men are being insincere. And I don't mean insincere in a conniving way, but in how men will sometimes try to suppress aspects of their personality they think might not be proper or attractive. Or how men will try to force confidence. When men try to be "nice" or act in a way that is not natural, it just comes off as creepy and super fake... like they are hiding something.
The forced smile, the slightly extended eye contact (or glancing away), the hesitation and pauses... it all happens in milliseconds, but women seem to be super attuned to noticing it and it sets off alarm bells.
As a man its not easy to be yourself around someone you are attracted to. Every message society sends us these days tells us to "do better, be nicer, don't ignore women, but don't look at womem either. Be CONSTANTLY aware of offending others and suppress your negative emotions along with your positive emotions". The messaging says "you are inherently bad and you need to be someone else" . With that messaging it's hard not to be fake, the more you want to do better, the more manipulative you look... but in the end you are better off being yourself and just treating others how you would want to be treated.
Yes, we should all get to know Christ and become real christian human beings. Kingology and queenology.
What's wrong with eye contact? Everytime I look women in the eyes longer than what is the norm, they always seem to get attracted. Eye contact is good bro, most people look away. Nothing wrong with longer eye contact.
Nice advice you give
most men only hide from women who they want to have sex with but they think the girl is crazy. they hide their true self because they know this girl hates men and shes like a crazy feminist type, so they play the nice guy. a lot of simps and guys who just pretend to be nice or hide their true goofy self and play tough/nice guy, they only pretend because they are so scared of getting into an emotional thing with this crazy girl because women like that are literally hell, but they still want the coochie. but sometimes the coochie isn't even worth it, sometimes they dont even want coochie they just want any female around them. a lot of females nowadays really are mean and hateful to men so of course men have to act around them, it's to keep them safe. you can't even touch a girl without going to jail unless she really likes you, and you can only get on her good side by playing this safety act if she hates men. you can tell the girls that love men because they're always with men, and they never accuse them of sexual harrassment and stuff like that just for flirting with them
also most women kind of fall into the mainstream and men don't , so women have these really PC opinions and men are usually critical of the mainstream. when men get around women they have to hide their opinions because these hateful women will completely attack them for having a different opinion, and call them sexist for criticizing anything about women or their opinions. it's like the threshold not just for rejection but for outright hatred is really easy to cross. most guys do not want to deal with all that crazy shit, they just want some female energy around them cause it's what they naturally crave. women know this and use it to surround themselves with docile men who are hiding their true self. some men go so far as they lose their true self entirely because just that many women hate men, and so his biological instinct is to do what he thinks attracts women. more women need to stop the hate because men really love women I think.
I don't know why , but I feel like 500% more confident, its like a senkai boost.
zenkai boost*
Time to go super saiyan!!!🔥
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Anger has been labeled as a purely toxic/destructive emotion but it's often what people actually want to see from men. Constructive anger can be incredibly powerful and attractive.
wtf does constructive anger mean 😭
wat u rly mean is u want me to roleplay as ur father and spank u u fuckin freak weirdo
@@riechen when you finally get angry enough that you stop getting bullied or undervalued or manipulated in your work, or relationships, or life etc. and take action. It can help you overcome fear to take a positive action in your life to help yourself or to help others.
@@nightmoose Whenever that happens people just think the guy is crazy. Look at David Goggins, he is a master of this 'constructive anger' and lot's of people think he is unhinged. At the end of the day, only your opinion about yourself matters and others only benefit if the man is Godly in spirit.
@@nightmoose so using fuel and making a comeback story - which no woman gives a single fuck about. only men care because they relate with being a loser in life and they mentally masturbate with the idea of finally getting rich and winning
Just came across you now, in this video and was pretty much blown away by the modesty, earnestness and depth of your insights. As a GUY, who understands and very much appreciates everything you said, I want you to know that YOU have that divinely beautiful FEMININE energy that makes men want to acquiesce into that exquisite hypnotic trance to which you referred. It's like falling under the spell of the Goddess (so to speak), whose essence you channel in YOUR own way, with unassuming intelligence, intimacy of communication, and generosity of spirit. Graceful, lovely and wise. Thank you 💛
I typically don’t ever take advise from woman about relationships becuase they are not honest and most don’t know it. But man I have to say you nailed it.
Yeah I agree, the advice they give is either a lie or just not good lol. But she did really good with this one.
At the end of the day it's fundamentally the same as you hear all the time form women. What she's describing is this nebulous "masculine" thing that she can't really define - and probably can't be defined.
For women, it's much more often the case that they are attracted to a man for reasons they can't even put into words.
For men, it's far more simple. I can define exactly what initially attracts me to a woman and it's always youth and hotness.
The icing on the cake is agreeableness, warmth and empathy - these are the traits that can turn the attraction from a short term fling into a "life partner" situation.
@@goodlookinouthomie1757 so define me what she mean by masculine energy or your interpretation
@@mhashim5643 That's my point. It's vague and indescript.
One thing she did say that was very clear was that if all guys just did exactly what they wanted, said what they wanted and didn't give a fuck, that would be very attractive to her.
This is backed up by so many men's advice creators who generally advocate for being confident in your own mind and being unapologetic for being masculine and assertive. The single biggest turn off I think for women is simping and (she mentioned this too) begging.
You ever facepalm at how women are drawn to shady dickheads who seemingly don't give a shit about them? This is exactly why.
Perhaps I might add also - if you think about the base psychology of the above... From a woman's point of view, a man who is indifferent about impressing you presumably has options elsewhere. Your approval and attention isn't of great importance to him because he is getting that attention from other women. Which subconsciously implies you are a man who has value that other women are chasing after.
Men subconsciously realize this after their first love. Once we get heartbroken for the first time we don't care anymore about anything really, thus our real thought's and motives are shown to women we date afterwards. Kind of depressing but true nonetheless.
Yep.
I really wish I could stop caring. Really really wish...
@@lonewulv13 you will in time, sooner or later you’ll realize how much better you become when you focus on yourself. You’ll slowly start to realize how selfish you become, and for the better. Trust me.
This is 100% true, at least for my case.
You're so right! After every serious relationship I have had, it's always been the easiest to pull women immediately following for like a month.
I appreciate you talking about this. We don't ever get enough of a real answer from women and it's refreshing to hear someone being honest. A lot of times we just don't know (because obviously we aren't psychic) but if someone speaks up then absolutely we can do something about it. Communication is key. Your advice definitely helps
makes perfect sense
I agree totally with this comment. 8^)
Men are supposed to be warriors, protectors, active and firm. Also compassionate and devoted, which both take strength and conviction.
I've never been the big and strong type. More quiet and creative. I was rejected by a few girls in high school, probably mostly because we were too young and because I didn't go to the same school (didn't see them every day). But it still made me feel like girls just aren't interested in me apart from friendship for almost a decade. I was even a friend with a girl in my mid twenties who was cute and we had similar interests, enjoyed talking, and I gave her rides to hang out with other friends because she still didn't drive yet. But she wasn't interested in being a couple, though a few people assumed we were because we kept showing up together. We were just good friends.
I've always been an introvert and kind of quiet, though I'm not shy at all. I just figured I was too nerdy, skinny, small, etc. I did meet a girl online once and we met in person, and she even told me later that next time we get together I could kiss her. So she seemed to be in to me, but I didn't really find her attractive and not someone I wanted to be with long term, so I broke it off. I just never was one of those guys who has the attention of girls all the time. It was a rare thing.
I finally met my wife when I was 28. She tells me now that she was attracted to me right away but actually rejected my invites to go out a few times, even with my friends. She finally went on a date with me, but it turned into 3 months of "are we just friends or a real couple?" until I just asked her. From that point on we were definitely "together" and we've been crazy about each other ever since. Married over 12 years. She still can't get enough of me.
I just had to be patient and not try to rush things. I attracted the right girl at the right time.
Why did she reject you if she was attracted to you?
@@thefunnybuddy4138 I should have said "declined my invites"... because she was nervous about going out with me, probably BECAUSE she was attracted to me. Besides, isn't that part of the point of this video? Sometimes they turn men down even when they're attracted to them.
we need to resist our current society’s oppression of masculinity, and be ourselves godammit
Ohh puhlEASE
Who's opressing masculinity. Just be masculine.
Tru dat
@@ricardoramos4514 To be fair, shit tons of people are oppressing it, don't pull this card out. Terms like "toxic masculinity", "mansplaining" , "patriarchal" and loads more are constantly thrown around to shame, silence and belittle men, and cancel culture puts a sword of Damocles over the heads of many as a culture-wide drive for masculine conformity and feminization. Don't be ignorant.
@@TheAcad3mic bruh no one is feminizing anyone. Just go outside for a bit.
This woman speaks honest truth. About energy , about not giving a fck
Best profile pic ever. Baulder’s Gate is amazing
You're amazing. All my years of insecurities on behalf of negative experiences I've had with women melted away through your honesty and reassurance. Most of all, thank you for reminding me that I'm still a man but more importantly, a person.
This video alongside Rock n Roll and Hip Hop has saved my life.
Thank you.
Thanks for your honesty, this fills in the missing piece I could never understand. I don’t have even close to all of the traits typically considered attractive in a man, but the girls who have been attracted to me have always been the ones I wasn’t trying to impress. I always questioned their judgement or thought they had low standards. I thought the default was unattractive until proven otherwise, it never occurred to me that men might be attractive to women until we messed it up lol. Behaviors and preferences are still important to find a good match of course, but it’s nice to know that maybe it is possible to be enough for someone.