This isn't so much a male vs. female phenomenon, as it is an example of the universal human behavior of desensitization. People who get complimented often, do not value compliments. People who are rarely complimented, highly value compliments. Everything else being equal, women are complimented far more often than men. However, there are exceptional men who are often complimented, and women who are not.
I remember every single compliment I get and I take them to heart, what can I say? I try to only make compliments that I feel as deeply about, but people, women in particular, do not take it as seriously lol
I’m a straight woman. I’m not promiscuous by any stretch of the imagination. With that out of the way... l love men. They are my favorite thing on the planet. I love watching movies that are geared toward men. I love reading books written by men. I loving hanging out with them and being the girl amongst a bunch of boys. I love playfully picking on them. I always feel relaxed, safe, and able to be myself around men. I love when they’re being ornery. I love when they’re direct and honest. I love when they’re strong and masculine but underneath they still retain their boyish charm. I love their stupid jokes as much as their really good ones. I like when they have muscles not from the gym but from doing actual work. I have a thing for strong hands and forearms. I love how they can rang from being tender and sweet to rough and tumble when it’s appropriate. I hate that some women tear men down... too many women. What I look for in a guy is that we complement each other‘s personalities but I still appreciate how damn sexy they are. I was standing at Best Buy once and there was a maintenance guy climbing the rafters. I could have stared at him all day. He was a good looking guy but wasn’t insanely good looking but god was he sexy. Climbing the rafters to fix stuff and did it with such ease. When I’m around a group of men it’s like being around the real life version of the Avengers. I’m like a kid in a candy store. Smitten and charmed. I think more good men need to know it. Because good men won’t use it as a weapon they just get the cutest little smirk and twinkle when u compliment them. All guys have sex appeal. A man could be missing a limb and as long as he was ok with it and carried himself like it was just an obstacle and not something that made him less of a man he would not only retain his sex appeal but get extra points. I think it so terrible that we live in a Society that demonize men. I make sure every man I know... knows this. I make sure I hand out sincere compliments to both men and women because we all need them.
This video reminds me of the old days of TH-cam. No flashy editing, no jump cuts, clickbait, feel good rhetoric and false adverts, just a simple discussion. She’s got a good grasp on the idea of masculine power.
REALLY though. Back in the days of response videos, when TH-cam had communities rather than niches. I miss those days desperately. I watched this video, and thought it might have been from 10 years ago.
When I was 24 a girl I dated for the first time laid her head on my shoulder after kissing me good night. I was smitten for years by that gesture. Never experienced it again. It felt like recognition as a man and trust from her. Women are taught to fear men and not look them in the eye but never taught the power of their own female energy over men. Some women know that and are popular because of it.
i remember a girl once did that shoulder thing to me, and secretly i really liked her but i was a dumb kid and i jokingly shunned her away becasue i just didn't have the balls to admit i liked her. makes you think how easy it is to miss a chance with someone for no good reason
Wow, bro this is true; the feminine " i trust you", " you can protect me" energy from a woman will melt your heart as a man, i very know that feeling. It is something that is very rare in these ages.
Here's the secret: Just stop caring if women find you attractive. Stop caring about trying to be this or that. Don't even about care about being "confident". Don't even "play the game" because that's all it is. A game.
@@thalmoragent9344 What i don't really understand about with women, is why do they even care if they're vulnerable and play weird ass mind games. It just complicates the relationship and makes us think twice before doing anything.
@@thalmoragent9344 Aquire assets and women will find their way to your door. OP is correct. The less attention you pay to women the more they will want it from you. Thing is, because of the legal system being slanted toward's females, there's really no safe way to get with a female if you want a family. Marriage opens men up to extreme financial risk.
@@austntexan Yep, Marriage is basically a trap for men, and it sucks because it's gonna really hit a lot of potential families hard, not to mention all the good men getting done wrong by the BS divorce process.
Being myself a man, I remember that when I was an arrogant, non-caring and super-confident guy with no noble values beyond getting what I wanted at the moment, I dated more girls in a year than the rest of my life. I was more ignorant, and not even as adult or ripped as I am now. But, my dear male friends, I can tell you that what women are attracted to is absolute confidence, and that's something you can't fake unfortunately. Now, 10 years have passed and I'm still trying to recover it due to personal issues. Be confident. Be confident. Be confident. That's the only mantra that matters.
@Icewulfby moving past your fears, self doubt, procrastination and perfection. Confidence is a skill set that comes to you when you do what you dont want to do when you move past your resistance and act despite having fears
@@jb894 he said women are attracted to confidence which is something you can't fake for a long time, whereas personality is derived from the word persona meaning disguise, real confidence is about who you are so in the long run you got to be yourself to attract the right people in your life and let go of the people who no longer serves you.
I think straight men are attracted by the softness in women, the feminity, so it makes sense if straight women are attracted to the opposite, the rougness of men/physical power
There are many men who are NOT effeminate but they unapologetically have natural feminine energies or strong liking of the feminine presentation that they themselves wear, and these same men love women and not only appreciate them for sex but treasures women and the soft strength they hold. Take prince for example very masculine but oozes this mysterious but yet attractive feminine energy (that all humans have) but he just knows how to use it.
@@johnnyskinwalker4095 he was very masculine (just comfortable with expressing strong femininity) straight people are just used to everyday men putting on tough guy/male social norm acts and mistake it for masculinity. So when prince does something different in the 80’s it blows heads especially in the time when the black American community was defining what strength and manhood looked like on a social level mean while most of the men in this time are doing the most effeminate things… black men in large cities leaving/running the families they’ve started
I'm a female and I love more tender soft- emotional men I don't know if those are feminine traits but it's endearing and attractive to me. I don't really like the traditional male roughness
@@Slow-Rolling yea I read it and I listened to an audiobook of his book say it again... and I have seen some of his vids but not many due to length usually. Are u a fan?
Just stumbled upon your channel, wow thx for being so open, never though that all males have some sort of attractiveness that appeals to women, I know as a male that we feel the same way about women and she kind of mentioned I never knew it was the other way around basically males fine all women to some degree the femininity of them attractive. Thanks for sharing really opened my eyes. You are attractive by the way😉 Ken
Approach a woman with confidence, and if rejected take it with confidence. Remember fellas, we don't find some women attractive, and some women won't find us attractive, it's about how you handle yourself. Confidence is the key! Arrogance is not.
Pfft arrogance is the same thing. Act like you don't give a shit. A man who doesn't give a shit is a man with options. A man who surely has other women interested in him. That's like catnip.
I get that, but I also think there's a limit on how much rejection one person can sustain without being permanently damaged. Humans are social animals. You may not give a shit initially, but after a certain point you'll be forced to.
Im pretty sure she’s talking about masculine energy. The types of men who constantly have this energy are: 1. Disciplined (have full control over their mind and body) 2. Confident (good self esteem) 3. Honest (says what is in their head all the time) 4. Goal oriented (they know who and what they want to be and is extremely focused on achieving it) When guys have these traits, girls can just tell by a glance and can sense this energy from them that they don’t know they even have. Their instincts say, “That’s a man who’s strong and confident. That’s a man who’s disciplined.”
You know what, anybody can aspire to have these virtues and be hot stuff. I would trust any potential partner, man or woman, in my life when I can see these qualities and I don't see them compromising on any of them.
@@cornupswarYes, these traits I listed are just more on the masculine side. Tell you what, I don’t have much insight on this, but I know for sure that the feminine energy is as beautiful and powerful.
i remember when i was in a depression spiral i lost my goals and discipline but was still confidant and honest with people and i found it bizarre people were attracted to me when i was literally in the worst shape iv ever been and two steps from full collapse.
It feels good to be appreciated for being a man, it's the complete opposite nowadays, it's a rare feeling. Thanks a lot for the video, we all appreciate it.
I am confused by your name. Reuben is a spanish name, but also a German last name, then there is a Polish last name connected with an English last name? What's going on ?
Well, it won't be like that for long. That powerful link, which eventually gives rise to another powerful bond called Family is under siege. How? Well, testosterone levels in men are in downward spiral. To sum it all up, it's a chemical war against men and women with the sole purpose of creating a vast void between the two. I mean, it's already happening and the main ingredients are a concoction of ideology (feminism & mgtow) and endocrinal subversion
Self confidence and humor seems to work for me. Make her laugh and complement her pretty smile. Keep it short, smile and start to walk away! If she wants to talk more, she'll stop you from walking away. If not, the world is full of them! Most of all... RESPECT!!
I've watched a lot of "experts" and scientists talking about masculinity. This person beats them all explaining the essence of masculinity and the inherent tension between men and women based solely on her experience, observation and sensitivity. Wow.
Because she's speaking basic facts. All the others are trying to create tension and division among partners, which they have managed to do successfully in the West.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
"it's the real deal" meaning what? You have studied and applied these techniques and suddenly you were having women eating from the palms of your hands? Are you saying you became biochemically irresistible? If so, what were you after, a huge F count? If you've ever wanted a relationship, have those formulas ever worked?
@@Bananabanananabanana I think every man has different spots where he gets hit the most. Some find it super feminine, if she giggles in a cute way, others like it if she's super shy, or maybe dancing an erotic dance or other things... those are not particularly female, but they can spike that "female feeling"...
@@Bananabanananabanana ah nevermind me, bin gerade mal durch dein Profil gegangen. Ich hoffe du verstehst meinen Punkt, auch, wenn du ihn nicht teilst :)
Yes Mohammed. Evolution, time, or God, whichever makes sense to you, designed it like that and it's been that way for centuries. It's weird how it takes so long to figure it out.
@@Bananabanananabanana TH-cam schickt natürlich keine Benachrichtigung über Antworten und Erwahnungen x'D Die Alternativität (wieder sehr schwammig, aber die Kanäle zu alternativer Psychologie und Veganismus vermitteln mir generelle Alternativität). Um ehrlich zu sein, dachte ich bei deinem Namen zuerstn auch an Transsexualität, und da dachte ich mir dann, dass du das Konzept von Mann/Frau so nicht ganz richtig findest. Deswegen habe ich deinen Kommentar eher so verstanden "Wer kann bzw darf. überhaupt bestimmen, was weiblich und was männlich ist?" Das waren Vorurteile, stimmt, und deswegen bin ich zu diesem Schluss gekommen - aber beleidigt hab ich dich nicht damit, oder?
I've noticed this. Hanging out with girls I was unapologetically quiet and admitted that I would rather be home. One of the girls I was hanging out with was really into it. I used to be insecure about my quietness but once I owned it SOME girls found it really attractive. But that is some advice for my quiet people. Just be comfortable and okay with being quiet around social settings
Thank you! I'm one of those quite people (if I'm not too interested in just talking just to talk), but then I start thinking that maybe people don't like me because I'm too quite and to most, that's boring, but like you said, some people will respect you and love you the way you are :)
@@r011ing_thunder6 and? Tell them you don't have to engage in the conversation to enjoy your time e out, just don't be some stoic sourpuss cause in that case it does beg the question, why are you here?
it's so difficult to be totally comfortable being myself. I still have this thing inside me that says I should be doing this or that. A lot of my insecurities come from feeling inadequate and that i need to change myself so that people (or women) will like me. I want to break free!
@@mynonleatherlife Hello! I read Mode One a few years ago, and altough you didn't explain the book, you did mention some insights that men can learn if they read the book, nice catch! I have one question for you. You talked about honesty, doing what we want, saying what we want, without fearing rejection or critics, but, you mentioned something that got me thinking. "Instead of saying you're beatiful..... I would like to fuck you". I think your example was not on point but the message was 200% correct. I don't think that a man saying "I want to fuck you" is a good thing to do, but, it's like everything, depends on the girl, the kind of relationship you have, if you met her 5 minutes ago or you have built some sexual tension. Let me ask you something, what do you think would be an ideal approach to a women with everything you just said ? Do you think that being honest about what you think and say is a step to confidence and more self esteem ? Do you think that men sometimes need to calculate what they say, but keeping it 100% real ? Thanks for your video!!
@increase Folabomi , haha great comment well said I even suscribed before even listen the entire video the way she introduced the subject was enough to know it will be something outstanding anyway !! Yes she overpassed overdriven those gurus as you say ... in fact is related to express properly the male basic instinct properly ... is been said also when a man keep coming back to a woman even rejected he has more & more chance to get trough ..., I know several cases ...
This video is very powerful. So many men feel insecure about themselves, because society tells them to behave, be polite, always be nice. All these things are obviously important, but when it comes to attracting a woman, you need to show your real colours as a man. Be honest and straight. Don't be ashamed for the desire you feel for women. Its natural and women love it.
You will get nice. If you start being brutally honest, it won't be long until you stop judging and having annoying impressions. It just makes you covered in shit instead of filled with shit, it's more clean and less acceptable. But once it's outside, it won't be long until you throw it out and start becoming more brutally nice each day.
This is eye opening. For example, an old girlfriend of mine told me one of the things that first attracted her to me was how if I didn't want to do something, I would just simply say "I don't want to do that." And I had no idea what she was talking about haha. Maybe it because it gave her a comforting sense that when I was doing something, that I truly wanted to do it.
My theory is that they like a man who knows what he wants, is aggressive and uncompromising and down right ruthless to some extent. Though it always comes out in different frequencies and tunes... Either way women are fairly docile creatures, little attention should be paid anyways and they can sense that. Just go out and take what you want, that's what most of them want anyways, I mean look at how fragile they are!
My ex bf was just like that n that's what I loved about him initially when we started, bcoz I find it super hard to say no when asked for help even tho it cause me inconvenience, later we broke up for diff reasons tho but I really admired that quality. But hate when my brother do it, that piece of sh*t
Having boundaries and refusing to be pressured into disregarding them. This is mental strength, you don't just do whatever people tell, or ask you to do. The most important choice you have is deciding how to act, and if you never lose focus on that then no one controls you.
@@krishafyme This girl (an old freind I came across after months) was kind of mean while waiting for the train. Finally I got reall angry . I didn't use any foul language but my tone was angry and my voice was really loud. She kept quite and did not even move when I got angry. Normally a woman under such a situation, will turn her body away from the guy, or take a step away from the guy, or start to yell back at the guy . So Why did she not move even one step away from me when I got angry ? She only moved when the train came to get in the train.
Essentially, yes. But confidence doesn't always mean what people think it means. Confidence isn't necessarily the person who always says and does the right things, or likes everything about themselves. True confidence, in my opinion, is the person has insecurities, who fumbles, whose jokes fall flat, but OWNS it. Confidence is the person who's comfortable with themselves, knows what they want and goes after it, and also knows that if they get rejected by one person, it's not the end of the world. Women can't resist a man who wants them but doesn't need them.
She’s basically just describing the moments that she has perceived men’s primal nature coming out. The issue here is men are conditioned to not exhibit these things due to societies constraints placed on men. Because they tend to be aggressive in nature. Typically when we do these things they are small to us or to her point we do not realize how they effect the opposite sex. Could be anger in a certain light. Demonstrating strength, walking into a room and owning the room, etc. it is a energy thing you put out and others tune into. There is also a genuine response to it so if forced it removes the authenticity of it. That’s what makes it so effective.
@@renegadezen7841 The cure to anxiety.Which is to just work with the present experience and everything within it no matter what emotion or thought arises.Work with it never against it.The four agreements are amazing for that.My whole point being depending on external things to change internal things never works.Or to never distract yourself from negative emotions or experiences
What she's talking about is authenticity. For a lot of men, it is difficult to bring forth authenticity in a world that constantly wipes it away. The power of authenticity can only come around when you get rid of lusting after women, being greedy, and desiring things that you don't have. If you stopped doing those, perfect. The next step is to embrace and promote positive emotions, like love, joy, gratitude, and selfless service. The authenticity will flourish, but it comes with a downside, you'll love yourself so much that you won't be interested in women anymore.
You’ll love yourself and your male power so much that you won’t be interested in women, true. You’ll only want to share yourself with yourself and your fellow Kings, and you’ll feel blessed to do so. This is how I realized I only wanted to be intimate with other men, only wanted to give myself physically to those who shared my male power, that is the truest way to embody masculinity.
I think the trick is to find a partner who can join you in your service work, be they man or woman. Then you've got something higher to focus on than just each other. No need to turn gay just to feel more BDE...but by all means, if that's what you're into, enjoy 😉
Its the power to defy the pull of others’ judgement. To be able to act exactly how you want to and be okay with whatever happens or what anyone else says or thinks about you. Its the realization that authenticity provides fulfillment that no one else can give you. When you see its beauty, you will embrace the pain of being disliked, mocked and criticized because the pleasure of authenticity and personal autonomy far outweighs the pain of judgement. Women feel the joy of the unburdened man
there was a video on your channel i watched, gosh, probably about 8 or 9 years ago. as a young man at the time, it really boosted my confidence. glad i found your channel again by accident, as i begin my body transformation (tHiS iS mY yEaR) having a channel like this from a woman's perspective is opening to my eyes. Thank you for the videos you make
I’ll throw in my two cents: She said that women don’t tell guys how to be attractive because then the same women would be vulnerable. True, but I would also add a concept known as “observing a process changes a process”. Women CANT tell a man how to be attractive because women want a man that “just gets it”. Women don’t want a man who has to be told HOW to be a MAN because that wouldn’t be his predominant personality. If you have to be taught how to be a man then you are not the man for her. You are not a “man” but “ “someone that has to be told how to a man”. It’s not the same. Women understand there is no point in telling a guy how to be a man because he has to realize it on his own for it to be authentic. I’m not saying a man can’t eventually “just get it” but, at this the moment you don’t get it. Think about like this when somebody wants something from you they aren’t going to tell you because it would be out of obligation and it wouldn’t be genuine. That’s the best way I can explain it
It’s important for guys to understand this dynamic and get them to the next level with women. Women want to submit and be vulnerable but is has to be genuine. The process has to be organic. Eventually, a woman will be annoyed and disappointed because she sees your potential but you don’t just get and she has no choice but to move on.
@@raheemthegoat1066 Ah but I do get it. As of watching this video 😜 You've explained it well. It's a lot like hiring a person for a job because they've done the job before, while rejecting the one who can only claim that they're "willing to learn." If she has to teach you how to be her man, you cannot be her man. No girl wants to tell a guy she's met "just put me in my place." And yet it's what she really wants. It's nothing mothers tell their sons, or that society tells its boys, especially these days.
@@videowilliams Your last sentence has some similarity with my thoughts about this (great) video: At least in the western world, women can (still) have a typical feminie role or a male one. However men are advised to have a rather feminine role or they get called chauvinist and creepy, although this is what most women (secretly) desire: a manly man...I am 35 and discovered this in recent years, makes me sad...Edit: Still don´t want to change my female character traits and fake it!
What's so great about her? All she said was you gotta be masculine and be yourself. The same talking points I hear from everyone else. Man just stop simping.
@@sodagamer8711 Bro, there's an ocean of emasculated men you don't want to investigate, and it goes far deeper than just simping. They don't respond to the kind of tough love you could give men 10-15 years ago.
This video really proves that someone can say a lot within a short amount of time versus someone saying nothing within twice the time. Well done. What I mainly draw from it is that honesty can move mounains
It took her 10 minutes to say guys who are assertive are attractive. Worse yet, she waited until the end to say it, and there was nothing of value before the end that was said.
@@feartheghus she said it multiple times and she elaborated on a few other things. Watch it again If you missed something. There are other comments that summarized it pretty well
I think men realize this as we age. I just turned 40 and I get more attention now than when I was a teenager. You are just more confident in what you want.
Over the years, countless women have been asked, what age is a man most attractive? Most of them have said, and will say, men in their 40s. Women in their 20s go bonkers over men in their 40s, think of every college professor, he got girls swooning over him. The majority of Hollywood actors, Paul Newman, Sean Connery, Robert Redford, Denzel Washington, Tom Cruise, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, yup. Women think they're hottest while in their 40s.
She can't word it out, but thee term she was looking for is "Machismo", the pride of being a man. You see this in Latin-America, for example when little boys try to imitate their father, they look very manly and "macho". I don't know why it is almost non-existent in North-America, but oh well.
Who would have thought it? Women love when men are masculine and, for the record, men LOVE women who are feminine. Kind, caring, helpful, beautiful etc. Be a mans peace and he will never go
The reverse for me is when a woman do something out of pure kindness or because it's the right thing to be done, even if it gives her some lost. It always captures my admiration.
Same. In my case especially because I've met so many black hearted, manipulative women (not dated) which has made me appreciate the very few kind ones even more.
Testosterone is quite powerful. What I think Victoria is trying to say here in essence is that Yang (male energy) is very attractive to hetero females, as is the estrogen in Yin (female energy) to hetero males. We heterosexuals sense these in the opposite sex. Hard to put into words. All five senses can also come into play here. It's what makes the adventures of sexual attraction so amazing, mysterious, and powerful.
It's simple the feminine are designed to be attracted masculine...we are wired that way...the problem is we are programmed in this world to change and challenge what is natural.
Opposite for me, acting like someone I'm not often gets lots of girls, but once they start seeing there's more complexity to me than what they initially thought, they lose interest. Kinda have to keep a girl at bay, don't let her in no matter how much she begs, cause then she thinks she knows you and it's no fun anymore.
Difference is if the non fakeness is discouraged and forced out of men by society at large and then guy becomes trash to women. Like breaking someones legs with a bat and then punishing them for having broken legs/not walking good. How this nuance isnt obvious or central is mindboggling
@@gabrielguzman6018 well if you reread the mans comment you should pick up on it right away. right around acting and trying to be someone else..... that should sum it up right there... and a women can wanna sleep with a guy who may i guess be an ass hole and not want them in a more gratifying way.
She's right. But if a guy doesn't 'get it.. it's useless information - or at worst, yeah, will get him in HR, because he's taking what she's saying verbatim.
@@justingutierrez8893 I did i just don't believe being upfront like that works in most cases these days thats why the original comment he said she gon get a lot of men in trouble with HR lol. The video still gave decent insight tho
Treat a woman like a queen and she will treat you like a subject. Treat yourself like a king and women will want you before anyone else can. The secret has always been to pay attention to yourself, not to others. Attention is gold.
I can attest to this. Summer of 2015. I was 25. I had just gotten out of jail after being in for 30 days, lost my job. I just remember feeling like I had nothing to lose, i had so much energy. Found a job after 2 days of being out. I didn't give a fuck and my confidence and swag was on 10. I was ripped from working out and eating low calories in jail. Lol but I remember approaching women with no hesitation or second thought. I had women that I knew and hung out begging me to have sex with them. It was so weird. But I felt the masculine energy inside me. Felt like a super hero. You couldn't tell me shit. My jokes and whit were on point I was like a magnet and just attracted everyone. That was the most powerful I've ever felt.
I'll save you ten minutes. 1. Victoria discusses the concept that men possess a unique and powerful form of sexual energy that is particularly noticeable and attractive to women, but often unrecognized by the men themselves. 2. Victoria shares personal anecdotes about how men and women perceive each other differently, particularly in sexual or romantic contexts, and how her own perceptions have influenced her interactions with men. 3. The video explores the idea that this male energy is a key factor in attraction, even in cases where a man is rejected for other reasons. The speaker suggests that many men are unaware of this power they hold. 4. Victoria concludes by noting the complexity of attraction and the potential vulnerability women might feel in acknowledging this male power. Victoria does not clearly describe what this masculine power is. It's left to the viewer to come to emotionally sympathize with what this masculine power actually is. From the video, it likely refers to a man that is enigmatic, potent, unrecognized, yet influential. Think James Bond.
I think it's authentic, driven by ones own power, uncompromising to oneself. Sure James Bond, but not every man is going to be an international super spy. Every man can achieve those three things though.
Yup and that drive. That's the hardest part for men. Especially if they're depressed. Depression is horrible. It can get you and you won't even realize it until someone makes note of your current actions. Lots of men are very depressed now days.
@@dwanrobinson Vitamin D deficiency. I have a theory that it's one of the main factors in a lot of disorders and is very understudied. It plays a role in so many processes from metabolism and energy to immune, testosterone production, and mental health. Actually it's not even a vitamin, but is a hormone. And I think there is a reason why the best source of it comes from sunlight. It's essential! With more tech and corporate jobs and loss of manual industry and farming, people have lost out on key aspects of development growing up indoors, in front of a screen and eating junk that further messes up your hormones. In fact, low vitamin D is even associated with Co-vid mortality. I think vitamin D supplements, more natural sunshine, and some manual work or activity can go a long way with depression and drive. Probably more effective than big pharma. Unfortunately, society has become a culture about sedentary entertainment and consumerism.
@@Geoff Man I think you have a great point because sometimes I feel really really bad, like if I don't want to live anymore and have low energy. And when I walk out to buy something and see and feel the sunset my perspective change totally and my feelings change very quickly in a positive way.
When a man shows a woman that he doesn't give a shit about being rejected by her or what she thinks of him, genuinely showing himself as he is and really saying what he wants or thinks, without taboos or reservations, without fears or worries. .. The woman can't help but feel attracted. This attitude is a typically masculine power of seduction to which women are very sensitive. Show women that you are not afraid of being rejected, ignored, criticized or insulted by them (and that it does not affect you either, that you are indifferent to their reaction, that you are not reactive); Showing them that you don't care about the outcome of being accepted or rejected or what they think of you attracts them. That's what Mode One is about, it's not about getting accepted, it's about having the balls to show women that you don't give a shit about being rejected or what they think of you, and it's also about not giving them your free attention (have the attitude of: “I don't give a shit not having anything with you, you are not the only woman in the world, there are many other women that I can enter and with whom I can have something”).
I don't think is that absolute, I would complement what you said with not giving a shit makes them respect you, attraction is directly proportional to respect and chemistry, you do need both to get in a womans head.
This just showed up on my feed. We need more conversations like this. Candid introspection and sharing of how we see each other, no judgement, just observation. Understanding is unifying. Thank you for this. Wish you'd post again.
You will never understand the level on how useful and extreme power boosting and secretive this message was for men out there, the capacity of confidence you just unleashed for God knows how many male souls in which you have helped drastically. We men….love you. #girlcodeexposure
@croq8444 Lord! Have Mercy on us peasants. We don't know any better. Though, where are you getting your info from. Like i know deep down we all knew but she mad it evident and now it sticks in our subconscious mind.
@@madmax7539 my friend you ever heard of a little something called ‘fresh n fit’ or for us Christian folk I would recommend Jon Zherka. But you yourself said you knew this inside of you, and that’s the key. We all know what is right, we just need the right stimulation to bring it out of us. Find yours
Now EVERYONE is stealing her content. Ever since the algorithm put her up a month back all these TH-cam’s are talking about it. That’s how you know most of these content creators are talking out their ass. This girl is the truth
Yes, I notice TH-cam algorithms promote the sleazy salesman/marketing type "me too" creators who streal all their ideas from genuine creators, and the genuine grassroots people get ranked low, shadow banned, demonetized, or even have their channels deleted. The imitations are never as good as the originals--often water-down with many details wrong. We live in a really sick society which rewards the grifters and con artists but punishes the honest originals.
Masculine raw charisma… which is contained in the embodiment of the warrior, which exists within all men. The rawness of war, and the restraint of war.
@@videohq1181 oh please stop with this shit. if it was true then all women would only go for rich men. that's obviously not the case, a lot of women still value non-materialistic things more. if ya can't find one then either you have bad luck or don't really want to.
Nofap will heighten that aura that you speak of...if you are attractive to begin with, take care of your body and have self assurance..it’s game over for the ladies
The one time I hear someone talk about attractive power and it's about men rather than women. And you have to be the first person that's mentioned that, to a degree, men are mysterious creatures! This is something that I've heard EXCLUSIVELY used to describe desirable women and it's such a shame. I have to say, thank you for saying what you said. There seems to be so much emphasis in media regarding feminine energy with rare acknowledgement of what real masculine energy is because people focus on what men can become/gain rather than what they ARE. It's relieving to find another woman who acknowledges simple yet fundamental male attractive qualities because I NEVER hear other women talk about this at all with a very select few tip-toeing around it. Even when going to the description where you summarized five points, I can so wholeheartedly agree that YES just being a real live man is a good deal of the attraction. I grew up hearing girls/women talk about boys/men and mentioning countless surface traits they prefer, but I was never encouraged by my own family to view men a certain way other than just understanding that "men are men and women are women". I am now 26 years old and haven't had a day in my life where I can state any surface traits that truly draw me to men. The fact that you're a man literally gets you 50% of the way, and the rest of the way to drawing me in is simply having a proper personality and acting like the man you were born to be without conforming/constraining yourself to some idea of what someone else says you should be.
As a man, ive always been shy and have always felt rejected by woman. I am very appreciative that you decided to have the courage to be vulnerable because this honestly makes me feel hopeful going forward.
Best way to have people treat you like you're a confident, attractive person, is to 'pretend' to be one. Stand up straight, act confident. It's amazing how people's (women's) attitudes toward you will instantly change. Before long you won't be 'pretending'
@@happydappyman #1 this only works if you already are attractive physically speaking #2 trying to pretend for the rest of your relationship is A VERY BAD idea... eventually she will realize you are pretending and her attraction towards you will plumit, she will then proceed to slowly distance herself from you until completely dumping you.
@@Crimson50 the thing about pretended is to commit. Eventually you will be your actions, as evident from your history. If you pretend to be strong and masculine, you are actually just practicing. We you make decisions that your weak version can't handle doing, you will just prove that you moved past any weakness. Like the ability to walk away or handle rejection well.
Agreed. There’s obviously some women that men should avoid just like there are men who women should avoid. The main thing is being who you are. That allows a woman to see your true personality and know if that’s what she wants. As a guy I can say that an honest personality is one of the first things I look for.
yeah that's a good point. I have some suspicion that a lot of guys repress themselves to some extent because of a, b and c and ofc I also think it's important to recognize that it does go both ways but men don't seem to hear it as often
Hearing people say 'all men are trash' and 'men ain't shit' makes me physically cringe. You'll never catch me saying that. It hasn't happened for me yet, but I can't wait for the day I get to love and be loved by a MAN. What a treasure you all are.
if feminism was honest, an independent woman would mean get ur degree get a good job and get a mortgage for a flat u put tenents in whilst living at home cheap and u put all ur money into paying off the mortgage then by late 20s probably paid most of it off. ive wasted a lot of time listening to feminist stuff last 5 10 years or so and not once heard this idea. Also I don't think most women want to be spinsters for the rest of their lives so i don't know why femism is the dominant voice on male females. its really cancer for relationship success. feminism seems just trying castrate all men psychologically. feminism just seems a product of mental illness ignorance, bullying, passive aggressive unadjusted liars and the deluded. All should just do intense phychological councelling before trying to create their cult. sorry for the rant, just so disappointing causing so much dysfunction in society and any change seems a huge uphill battle.
Good vid, and kudos for some honesty. I realised, waaaay later, that I was trying to project confidence rather than Being confident. Projecting it is a single lane assertation, but when you Are confident (aka stop giving a fuck) then you exude more than the single lane. It's body language, tone of voice, Honesty and a whole lot more. Ironically, I realised it after meeting the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with, but hey, at least I know it now. Cos damn that conundrum befuddled me for a long, long time. I guess she's why I realised it. Because she made me so comfortable. That's why we seem to get girls on us when we're not single and never when we are. It's cos we're at ease. For me, it was getting an answer, rather than using it to "get stuff". There's something fulfilling in knowing your nature.
Dont be a simp, desperate, or a crybaby. Have goals, focus on them and yourself first. Dont care too much about what others think, but whatever your "style" is, be clean. Girls think they know what they want, but most women need someone dependable, strong, assertive, confident, protective. They will take notice and come to you.
It’s deeper than that. Don’t do all those things but also heal. Go into yourself, read a real psychology book like for example Emotional Resilience by David Viscott. Challenge yourself to go deeper and tap into it
@@renatosureal so people should.listen to some 40yo dead beat losers after divorce on how to play the game??🤣🤣 U misogyns are so super funny. No sane person gives flying fuck about red pill bullshit. It is male equivalent of modern feminism. Keep on living on your unicorn land thinkong that life is all about scoring as many chicks as u can get. Then when u will be old 65+ old fuck w/o kids or anyone u will understand why it is beneficial for both sexes to have someone by them. God damn 20yo incels u lot....
Men subconsciously realize this after their first love. Once we get heartbroken for the first time we don't care anymore about anything really, thus our real thought's and motives are shown to women we date afterwards. Kind of depressing but true nonetheless.
@@lonewulv13 you will in time, sooner or later you’ll realize how much better you become when you focus on yourself. You’ll slowly start to realize how selfish you become, and for the better. Trust me.
I want to add something after watching this and thinking on it. A few months ago go I had a really honest conversation with a girl that changed my life. We had been talking for awhile and I could really sense that she was attracted to me, but she rejected me when I made advances. This frustrated me a lot and I eventually called her on it. I told her I could feel in my body that she was attracted to me and asked her why the hell she rejected me when I acted on that. She responded to me with a profound question. She asked me if I thought women slept with every guy that turned them on. That honesty meant everything to me. It let me know that I wasn't crazy and didn't misread my intuition. That lack of honesty and clarity from women contributed to my low self esteem in the past. I always thought I was an idiot who misread situations or was delusional. Now I can see I wasn't. Women just keep everything so close to the chest that it makes it extremely easy to second guess yourself if you're a guy.
@@mynonleatherlife Not exactly. It's hard to explain and is very subjective, but my mindset was if a woman was flirting with me in a way that I deemed obvious and she turned me down she was obviously playing games or toying with me and if it was subtle I was an idiot and misread the signals. I guess my problem is I'm too logical. I have never flirted with a woman I wasn't attracted to and if I flirt with a woman I'm definitely open to sex and/or dating. I understand that every woman isn't necessarily open to fucking every guy she is attracted to, but I would think she would generally be open to that if she is flirting overtly enough that the guy gets that idea. One thing I've noticed is that women who are married or in relationships are the ones who flirt with me the most openly. That is something that I find really frustrating. A lot of them are women I would definitely be interested in if they were available. It feels like they are trying to torture me when they flirt with me when they aren't available to me in that way.
But it doesn’t make any sense. Somethings missing. Don’t pay attention to what women say, pay attention to what they do. You were still missing something
I’ve rejected a lot of guys I’ve found attractive. 90% of the time it was because they did something i didn’t like that went against my morals but nothing to do with their physical. A woman who isn’t desperate and loves herself will not have any second thoughts of rejecting a man who doesn’t meet her standards and that goes for internal qualities aswell. It’s not fair to the guy either to just settle for him because he’s “attractive” knowing I’ll be unhappy. I also find that the more i like a guy the more my insecurities come out and i can be complex which has confused a lot of guys but it had nothing to do with them.
This actually gives me so much sense of calm hearing this off a woman. I've always felt that women are put on a pedestal by us lot and we feel a certain entrancement off of women that women don't feel the equivalence of in return. I guess tho as a straight guy, I am not gonna understand what women are gonna feel towards me or how they experience being attracted to men. Thanks for explaining
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Truth. She's not going to be vulnerable to a guy that doesn't know to know to be this way. Her thinking this means she's already passed. She doesn't want to "help them" because that means he's not worthy, not because she doesn't want to be vulnerable. She's guilty of cognitive dissonance here. Women want men to "just get it". Be that way and she will be vulnerable because you are a man worthy of her vulnerability.
I typically don’t ever take advise from woman about relationships becuase they are not honest and most don’t know it. But man I have to say you nailed it.
At the end of the day it's fundamentally the same as you hear all the time form women. What she's describing is this nebulous "masculine" thing that she can't really define - and probably can't be defined. For women, it's much more often the case that they are attracted to a man for reasons they can't even put into words. For men, it's far more simple. I can define exactly what initially attracts me to a woman and it's always youth and hotness. The icing on the cake is agreeableness, warmth and empathy - these are the traits that can turn the attraction from a short term fling into a "life partner" situation.
@@mhashim5643 That's my point. It's vague and indescript. One thing she did say that was very clear was that if all guys just did exactly what they wanted, said what they wanted and didn't give a fuck, that would be very attractive to her. This is backed up by so many men's advice creators who generally advocate for being confident in your own mind and being unapologetic for being masculine and assertive. The single biggest turn off I think for women is simping and (she mentioned this too) begging. You ever facepalm at how women are drawn to shady dickheads who seemingly don't give a shit about them? This is exactly why.
Perhaps I might add also - if you think about the base psychology of the above... From a woman's point of view, a man who is indifferent about impressing you presumably has options elsewhere. Your approval and attention isn't of great importance to him because he is getting that attention from other women. Which subconsciously implies you are a man who has value that other women are chasing after.
The irresistable 'masculine energy' referred to here is not 'brutal/vulgar' honesty... It's the ability to draw a very clear line in the sand; when a man can establish healthy boundaries between acceptable/unacceptable behavior. A man must be able to establish that there is a line a woman cannot cross, a point beyond which she will not advance - and hold that @#$ing line. When a guy can do that, it makes a woman melt.
and then you'll spend the rest of your days trying to cross that line. it's your goal. and once you finally cross the line you will be onto your next victim just be honest.
@@doodlebob2023 ...Not if a man becomes valuable enough to that woman that she's terrified of not having him - and I'm not talking primarily because of money. And yes, I'm speaking from experience..
@@i-dont-wash-money We can cope just fine, at least I can, but it kinda sucks when you want to be genuine and your looks already stop that from being taken as natural. If that makes sense. It's just disappointing, not really life-altering 😂
I love your honesty. It's been painful being rejected and doubting my own power because of it. If a woman would have told me this decades ago, it would have saved me so much selfdoubt and mental pain it is unbelievable. Thank you.
Apparently it's easier to just reject and go playing the slots for the next guy that ticks more boxes, than help give a guy the confidence to be better.
Well, still nothing changes after watching this. You can't read women's minds and if you try the wrong shit with the wrong one it will be "sexual harassment" and they will lock you up.
@@Josith13 It's exactly the same with money. Most women simply don't get the idea that you can build wealth together with a man; instead, they want the man to already have the wealth.
it's so funny that two or three years ago when I had a kinda like "IDGAF attitude", I was actually more successful with girls...then down the line I had my first rejection, then I just shut down after that and all my insecurities started to pop up, been shy and timid to this day(it was a brutal rejection tbh) and interacting with girls feels like a disaster waiting to happen...I genuinely miss the childish confidence I had, your demeanor makes a huge difference in attracting women I 100% agree...I would say it's more effective than your looks or status
The elites want that power for themselves, and they want ordinary men to relinquish it. They don't want strong, vigilant men; they want subservient consumers who don't pay any attention to what's going on around them. It's gotten to the point where there's no denying that there's a blatant agenda to feminize men, and the mainstream media is pushing it harder every day. Even public schools, colleges, and universities are pushing it now.
As a man who has always been running away from toxic masculinity (yes, it's a thing) , but to the point where I'm not sure I know what is 'masculine' anymore and how to express it, : YES.
True but that makes a man much more attractive because of it. When you become confident in your ability and yourself as a man, along with being unreactive to the things around you, you become a powerful force of nature. Women can sense that, thus they will come to you easier
As a straight woman, I can totally attest to this. To the guys who don't know what she is talking about, think of it this way, the feeling you get from "femininity" is a similar thing to feeling "masculinity". It is a feeling of a presence. A masculine presence. Little subtle things that men do, they don't know that it can really be a very "masculine" thing and it can drive straight girls wild by such small things. It is basically, masculinity, an "energy" around men, like how you would feel a presence from a female and her femininity, well men have their own version of it. It isn't metaphysical or mystical, or even a concept. It is a feeling of masculinity. You can't easily pinpoint it because of that, but it is totally real in the minds of straight women, and probably gay men too. It is easier to pick up this feeling on the sex you are attracted to, because that is what draws you in. Men don't realize their masculinity in this way, just as women don't feel their own femininity in the same way as a straight guy would see it. It's an attraction to the little and subtle ways men just... are.
@@maxforsman7102 Tough questions to answer. I don't subscribe to the "alpha and beta males" thing, to me there is only what I find attractive in a man, which will be different for every female. I don't see black and white when it comes to men. So, I don't categorise men into alpha and beta males. I don't like doing that, I respect all men. It is kind of like crabs in a bucket thing, with "alpha and beta males", if you have heard of that story before, where the crabs will pull the other crabs down into the bucket if they see one that is nearer to getting free... that is what categorising males into "alpha" and "beta" feel like to me. Pulling someone down to better yourself. No offence to anyone who likes the alpha and beta thing, I just don't. I don't think that you can have a man that is "too masculine" or "not masculine enough". It is simply preference as to who we as women are attracted to. Like I said, it will be different for every woman. I personally think every man has this "attractive masculinity" to them, even if they feel they don't have it. As to if a man is a good match for a woman, that is, for me, down to each other's personalities, not about how "masculine" a man is. The most subtle of things all men do every day can be a huge turn on, it is a feeling that every man has, not just a select few, so don't worry about it. A man just feels masculine without even trying to. This feeling is always there. Just my opinion.
Well put! I would say that there is a key distinction in masculinity vs femininity: masculinity is very much attached to confidence. And confidence is a very deep part of a person. Femininity though, is related to delicacy, which is a completely effortless trait that some women are naturally endowed with. For example, thin hands and waist turn me on a lot, a low volume sweet voice, the way a woman moves and poses her arms and legs… If a woman has these traits, she has a lot of power, but she was just lucky. But for a man to have sexual power, he really has to work on himself. Because if a man has weakness, he can't hide it, it will eventually show, and it will turn the woman off immediately and crush his soul because he'll notice it. I think maybe that's how it should be, it drives me to wanna improve myself, so I'm not complaining. But the distinction is fascinating to me.
I enjoyed your perspective. I once met a female in front of a club. After some small talk we went around the back of club to smoke a joint. We kissed. She told me she was attracted because I had a beard. I ask what about my beard turned her on she said because I can't grow one. That was over 2 decades but her answers has stayed with me, it made an impact on me.
@@ricardoramos4514 To be fair, shit tons of people are oppressing it, don't pull this card out. Terms like "toxic masculinity", "mansplaining" , "patriarchal" and loads more are constantly thrown around to shame, silence and belittle men, and cancel culture puts a sword of Damocles over the heads of many as a culture-wide drive for masculine conformity and feminization. Don't be ignorant.
7:23: Happened to me with a coworker, she was attractive and me as other coworkers were obviously attracted to her, i never showed her any obvious signals but we talked a lot and joke a lot. one day she started kinda making fun of me and i got a little angry (actually angry)so i told her to stop. She continued and i got up my chair and i kinda grabbed her shoulder and pushed her against the wall and said her to stop (not violently, but in a imperative way)boxing her between me and the wall. some months after we were dating and she became my girlfriend, she confessed me that push against the wall REALLY turned her on.
I figured that out about 15 years ago. Confidence and assertiveness “dominance” are the key. Add the slightest amount of affluence and it’s unbeatable.
@@fendermon I learned it at 44... doubt I'm smarter. Horrible marriage and horrible sex life made me try to learn how to change that. And I did, and it's been unbelievably great to have that power. I try to share what helped me.
@@user-tq6fx7tl7e I disagree. If you're overweight, get on keto and exercise. You'll need the endurance to please a woman (and it's much easier than you think). If you're not what is traditionally considered OK, or nice looking, then you're dead wrong. You don't have to be nice looking, just clean, and confident, and appear to have ambition (working towards life goals). A few rules. Don't drink, ever... you have other ways to enjoy your time. Never validate (compliment) a female, they hear it all the time. I joke and tell women that they are nice looking, every bit of C+ (with a grin on my face). They typically slap my arm and say WHAT??? I say it's better than average! (chuckling). Women place a higher value on a man they have to work to get validation from... only give it in a backhanded joke. Next, have a meaningful conversation (investment, work goal, property you're interested in), with a guy where a woman you're interested in is nearby, preferably next to... and act like she's invisible, never look at her, you can see her in your peripheral vision and judge her interest. I promise, she will be interested in anyone who's talking about ambitious things. Bottom line, any guy can get women if the guy presents himself as having the characteristics that women desire, confidence, dominance, ambition.
It's not that men don't know how to do this, we just don't want to get arrested for it. The consequences outweigh the reward, you can thank our justice system for that.
Anger has been labeled as a purely toxic/destructive emotion but it's often what people actually want to see from men. Constructive anger can be incredibly powerful and attractive.
@@riechen when you finally get angry enough that you stop getting bullied or undervalued or manipulated in your work, or relationships, or life etc. and take action. It can help you overcome fear to take a positive action in your life to help yourself or to help others.
@@nightmoose Whenever that happens people just think the guy is crazy. Look at David Goggins, he is a master of this 'constructive anger' and lot's of people think he is unhinged. At the end of the day, only your opinion about yourself matters and others only benefit if the man is Godly in spirit.
@@nightmoose so using fuel and making a comeback story - which no woman gives a single fuck about. only men care because they relate with being a loser in life and they mentally masturbate with the idea of finally getting rich and winning
Most men have never heard a woman say anything like this, and they have no idea. This video is undoubtedly a transformative lesson for many, many men. Thank you for saying this.
Don’t know how to verify something like this, if only one person in the outside world tells me this. However…thank you for saying those things. It’s comforting. It’s helpful. It helps me move towards giving women an attractive man (myself). It helps me to achieve more and offer more positive things to the world and to women. I would not have been able to figure this stuff out on my own. Just not realistically possible. Thank you for helping me to make it possible. I appreciate you taking the time to be more ambitious, and describe everything about that topic as best you can.
From my experience, I think women can really acutly sense when men are being insincere. And I don't mean insincere in a conniving way, but in how men will sometimes try to suppress aspects of their personality they think might not be proper or attractive. Or how men will try to force confidence. When men try to be "nice" or act in a way that is not natural, it just comes off as creepy and super fake... like they are hiding something. The forced smile, the slightly extended eye contact (or glancing away), the hesitation and pauses... it all happens in milliseconds, but women seem to be super attuned to noticing it and it sets off alarm bells. As a man its not easy to be yourself around someone you are attracted to. Every message society sends us these days tells us to "do better, be nicer, don't ignore women, but don't look at womem either. Be CONSTANTLY aware of offending others and suppress your negative emotions along with your positive emotions". The messaging says "you are inherently bad and you need to be someone else" . With that messaging it's hard not to be fake, the more you want to do better, the more manipulative you look... but in the end you are better off being yourself and just treating others how you would want to be treated.
What's wrong with eye contact? Everytime I look women in the eyes longer than what is the norm, they always seem to get attracted. Eye contact is good bro, most people look away. Nothing wrong with longer eye contact.
most men only hide from women who they want to have sex with but they think the girl is crazy. they hide their true self because they know this girl hates men and shes like a crazy feminist type, so they play the nice guy. a lot of simps and guys who just pretend to be nice or hide their true goofy self and play tough/nice guy, they only pretend because they are so scared of getting into an emotional thing with this crazy girl because women like that are literally hell, but they still want the coochie. but sometimes the coochie isn't even worth it, sometimes they dont even want coochie they just want any female around them. a lot of females nowadays really are mean and hateful to men so of course men have to act around them, it's to keep them safe. you can't even touch a girl without going to jail unless she really likes you, and you can only get on her good side by playing this safety act if she hates men. you can tell the girls that love men because they're always with men, and they never accuse them of sexual harrassment and stuff like that just for flirting with them
also most women kind of fall into the mainstream and men don't , so women have these really PC opinions and men are usually critical of the mainstream. when men get around women they have to hide their opinions because these hateful women will completely attack them for having a different opinion, and call them sexist for criticizing anything about women or their opinions. it's like the threshold not just for rejection but for outright hatred is really easy to cross. most guys do not want to deal with all that crazy shit, they just want some female energy around them cause it's what they naturally crave. women know this and use it to surround themselves with docile men who are hiding their true self. some men go so far as they lose their true self entirely because just that many women hate men, and so his biological instinct is to do what he thinks attracts women. more women need to stop the hate because men really love women I think.
Many women know this and they do things to make us angry just to spice things up and gain pleasure from these situations, others overdo it and exploit this power leading up to toxic relationships and ending to a break up....excellent video.
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Tell a girl she's attractive, she won't think much of it.
Tell a guy he's attractive and he'll remember these sacred words till the end of his days.
This isn't so much a male vs. female phenomenon, as it is an example of the universal human behavior of desensitization. People who get complimented often, do not value compliments. People who are rarely complimented, highly value compliments. Everything else being equal, women are complimented far more often than men. However, there are exceptional men who are often complimented, and women who are not.
Truth!
Nah I think you got that backwards fam
maybe because you are ultra ugly🤔
I remember every single compliment I get and I take them to heart, what can I say? I try to only make compliments that I feel as deeply about, but people, women in particular, do not take it as seriously lol
I’m a straight woman. I’m not promiscuous by any stretch of the imagination. With that out of the way... l love men. They are my favorite thing on the planet. I love watching movies that are geared toward men. I love reading books written by men. I loving hanging out with them and being the girl amongst a bunch of boys. I love playfully picking on them. I always feel relaxed, safe, and able to be myself around men. I love when they’re being ornery. I love when they’re direct and honest. I love when they’re strong and masculine but underneath they still retain their boyish charm. I love their stupid jokes as much as their really good ones. I like when they have muscles not from the gym but from doing actual work. I have a thing for strong hands and forearms. I love how they can rang from being tender and sweet to rough and tumble when it’s appropriate. I hate that some women tear men down... too many women. What I look for in a guy is that we complement each other‘s personalities but I still appreciate how damn sexy they are. I was standing at Best Buy once and there was a maintenance guy climbing the rafters. I could have stared at him all day. He was a good looking guy but wasn’t insanely good looking but god was he sexy. Climbing the rafters to fix stuff and did it with such ease. When I’m around a group of men it’s like being around the real life version of the Avengers. I’m like a kid in a candy store. Smitten and charmed. I think more good men need to know it. Because good men won’t use it as a weapon they just get the cutest little smirk and twinkle when u compliment them. All guys have sex appeal. A man could be missing a limb and as long as he was ok with it and carried himself like it was just an obstacle and not something that made him less of a man he would not only retain his sex appeal but get extra points. I think it so terrible that we live in a Society that demonize men. I make sure every man I know... knows this. I make sure I hand out sincere compliments to both men and women because we all need them.
Thank u for sharing this, sooo many men need to hear this, I am sure they will appreciate this as much as I did if not way more
I needed this
A lot of us feel disposable. Thanks.
Thanks A LOT for this message, it's really heart-warming!
Thank you for sharing those wonderful insights!
This video reminds me of the old days of TH-cam. No flashy editing, no jump cuts, clickbait, feel good rhetoric and false adverts, just a simple discussion. She’s got a good grasp on the idea of masculine power.
REALLY though. Back in the days of response videos, when TH-cam had communities rather than niches. I miss those days desperately. I watched this video, and thought it might have been from 10 years ago.
Still it'll be better if she's able to tell in 5 minutes
YUP, BACK WHEN REAL PEOPLE SPOKE TO REAL PEOPLE . ALWAYS. BEFORE CORPORATE SHILLS DESTROYED EVERYTHING GOOD DAT THE PEOPLE GOT GOING .. AS ALWAYS. :-/
just 10 minutes to get he maximum amount of profit from ads though ;)
just thinking that, had to check publishing date
When I was 24 a girl I dated for the first time laid her head on my shoulder after kissing me good night. I was smitten for years by that gesture. Never experienced it again. It felt like recognition as a man and trust from her. Women are taught to fear men and not look them in the eye but never taught the power of their own female energy over men. Some women know that and are popular because of it.
It sounds like that girl you dated had a father she trusted. Then she recognised it in you. Trustability.
i remember a girl once did that shoulder thing to me, and secretly i really liked her but i was a dumb kid and i jokingly shunned her away becasue i just didn't have the balls to admit i liked her. makes you think how easy it is to miss a chance with someone for no good reason
The head on the shoulder, leg cross over midsection thing is female body language that she totally trusts you and you're hers.
Wow, bro this is true; the feminine " i trust you", " you can protect me" energy from a woman will melt your heart as a man, i very know that feeling. It is something that is very rare in these ages.
Lol, "Women are taught to fear men." Jesus Christ my man, what has your childhood been like? (Rhetorical question!)
Here's the secret: Just stop caring if women find you attractive. Stop caring about trying to be this or that. Don't even about care about being "confident". Don't even "play the game" because that's all it is. A game.
Yeah women love it when you don't pay attention to them
@@Dmdm_dm
It's weird because I still don't understand how that works... man, women just confuse the hell out of me. 😅
@@thalmoragent9344 What i don't really understand about with women, is why do they even care if they're vulnerable and play weird ass mind games. It just complicates the relationship and makes us think twice before doing anything.
@@thalmoragent9344 Aquire assets and women will find their way to your door. OP is correct. The less attention you pay to women the more they will want it from you. Thing is, because of the legal system being slanted toward's females, there's really no safe way to get with a female if you want a family. Marriage opens men up to extreme financial risk.
@@austntexan
Yep, Marriage is basically a trap for men, and it sucks because it's gonna really hit a lot of potential families hard, not to mention all the good men getting done wrong by the BS divorce process.
Wow, an honest heterosexual woman. A pleasure to see in 2021.
Fr
She's one of the last survivors of this kind, Save her at all cost
Daughters with fathers who were instrumental... I would guess that
Yea. True
facts
Being myself a man, I remember that when I was an arrogant, non-caring and super-confident guy with no noble values beyond getting what I wanted at the moment, I dated more girls in a year than the rest of my life. I was more ignorant, and not even as adult or ripped as I am now. But, my dear male friends, I can tell you that what women are attracted to is absolute confidence, and that's something you can't fake unfortunately. Now, 10 years have passed and I'm still trying to recover it due to personal issues.
Be confident. Be confident. Be confident.
That's the only mantra that matters.
@Icewulfby moving past your fears, self doubt, procrastination and perfection. Confidence is a skill set that comes to you when you do what you dont want to do when you move past your resistance and act despite having fears
So just don't be yourself then and create a persona lmao
@@jb894 he said women are attracted to confidence which is something you can't fake for a long time, whereas personality is derived from the word persona meaning disguise, real confidence is about who you are so in the long run you got to be yourself to attract the right people in your life and let go of the people who no longer serves you.
@@maysumraza8198 that's rubbish. Being yourself doesn't get you anywhere if your self is a self that people don't gravitate towards to.
Be confident. Be confident. Be confident. -> What does it really mean?
This is one of the rare examples of true human honesty and reality.
I think straight men are attracted by the softness in women, the feminity, so it makes sense if straight women are attracted to the opposite, the rougness of men/physical power
There are many men who are NOT effeminate but they unapologetically have natural feminine energies or strong liking of the feminine presentation that they themselves wear, and these same men love women and not only appreciate them for sex but treasures women and the soft strength they hold. Take prince for example very masculine but oozes this mysterious but yet attractive feminine energy (that all humans have) but he just knows how to use it.
@@willarroz6703 I don't think Prince was very masculine. lol I think he attracted women cause he was such a unique being.
@@johnnyskinwalker4095 he was very masculine (just comfortable with expressing strong femininity) straight people are just used to everyday men putting on tough guy/male social norm acts and mistake it for masculinity. So when prince does something different in the 80’s it blows heads especially in the time when the black American community was defining what strength and manhood looked like on a social level mean while most of the men in this time are doing the most effeminate things… black men in large cities leaving/running the families they’ve started
@@willarroz6703 you deviated away from the original conversation
I'm a female and I love more tender soft- emotional men I don't know if those are feminine traits but it's endearing and attractive to me. I don't really like the traditional male roughness
It’s called assertiveness, women respect honesty and confidence in your actions, even if it hurts feelings.
true
@@mynonleatherlife ... Did you just read Mode One by Alan Roger Currie? He’s a well known TH-camr in the Manosphere.
@@Slow-Rolling yea I read it and I listened to an audiobook of his book say it again... and I have seen some of his vids but not many due to length usually. Are u a fan?
Just stumbled upon your channel, wow thx for being so open, never though that all males have some sort of attractiveness that appeals to women, I know as a male that we feel the same way about women and she kind of mentioned I never knew it was the other way around basically males fine all women to some degree the femininity of them attractive.
Thanks for sharing really opened my eyes.
You are attractive by the way😉
Ken
It’s called mixed martial arts 😅🤣
Approach a woman with confidence, and if rejected take it with confidence. Remember fellas, we don't find some women attractive, and some women won't find us attractive, it's about how you handle yourself. Confidence is the key! Arrogance is not.
Pfft arrogance is the same thing. Act like you don't give a shit. A man who doesn't give a shit is a man with options. A man who surely has other women interested in him. That's like catnip.
Perfectly stated!!!
@@goodlookinouthomie1757 if you give a shit, give it, if you dont, dont, why fake it lol
I get that, but I also think there's a limit on how much rejection one person can sustain without being permanently damaged. Humans are social animals. You may not give a shit initially, but after a certain point you'll be forced to.
If a woman you are interested in rejects you then just laugh it off because she is the one missing out. Poor girl.
Im pretty sure she’s talking about masculine energy. The types of men who constantly have this energy are:
1. Disciplined (have full control over their mind and body)
2. Confident (good self esteem)
3. Honest (says what is in their head all the time)
4. Goal oriented (they know who and what they want to be and is extremely focused on achieving it)
When guys have these traits, girls can just tell by a glance and can sense this energy from them that they don’t know they even have. Their instincts say, “That’s a man who’s strong and confident. That’s a man who’s disciplined.”
You know what, anybody can aspire to have these virtues and be hot stuff. I would trust any potential partner, man or woman, in my life when I can see these qualities and I don't see them compromising on any of them.
@@cornupswarYes, these traits I listed are just more on the masculine side. Tell you what, I don’t have much insight on this, but I know for sure that the feminine energy is as beautiful and powerful.
i remember when i was in a depression spiral i lost my goals and discipline but was still confidant and honest with people and i found it bizarre people were attracted to me when i was literally in the worst shape iv ever been and two steps from full collapse.
@@lordsathariel4384 how did you break out from the spiral
Period
This is a great explanation of why women are often attracted to aggressive and dangerous men, because they are raw, visceral, masculine and exciting.
I read about how Roman women would literally go insane over successful gladiators
@@edmundlubega9647 it makes sense. They are pumping with testosterone.
@@edmundlubega9647 👃Nice his story (history) 😆 All bollocks
Cringe
@@okbutwhatif9905 Be quiet kid.
It feels good to be appreciated for being a man, it's the complete opposite nowadays, it's a rare feeling. Thanks a lot for the video, we all appreciate it.
I am confused by your name. Reuben is a spanish name, but also a German last name, then there is a Polish last name connected with an English last name? What's going on ?
@@aak8297 AND a profile picture of someone who looks like a younger Arnold Schwarzenegger...
@Gdjxbeo Bfhwk lmfao cope
@Gdjxbeo Bfhwkc you mad this guy has the body you’ve been dreaming about for years?
@Gdjxbeo Bfhwkc why you mad bro
chill out
Masculine and Feminine have attracted each other for millions of years. It's still there, no matter how "civilized" we are
I agree
And no matter how stupid n PC the world is rn too
Well, it won't be like that for long. That powerful link, which eventually gives rise to another powerful bond called Family is under siege.
How? Well, testosterone levels in men are in downward spiral. To sum it all up, it's a chemical war against men and women with the sole purpose of creating a vast void between the two.
I mean, it's already happening and the main ingredients are a concoction of ideology (feminism & mgtow) and endocrinal subversion
Billions. It's as old as when life first divided into the two sexes.
@@tranglomango you really need to feel validated with any old rubbish you read online don't you.
Self confidence and humor seems to work for me. Make her laugh and complement her pretty smile. Keep it short, smile and start to walk away! If she wants to talk more, she'll stop you from walking away. If not, the world is full of them! Most of all... RESPECT!!
Thank you sir, you're a gentleman and a scholar.
The world isn’t full of them
Couldn’t have said it better
@@Nazgul593 have you looked around lately? Just saying, not trying to be a smart ass, but anyway, have a nice day.
I’m so effing high I don’t even know wtf she’s talking bout and why TH-cam took me here
Something that makes less sense is why this got 29 likes 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Same brotha
LMAO
Me2
same hahahahaha
I've watched a lot of "experts" and scientists talking about masculinity. This person beats them all explaining the essence of masculinity and the inherent tension between men and women based solely on her experience, observation and sensitivity. Wow.
Because she's speaking basic facts. All the others are trying to create tension and division among partners, which they have managed to do successfully in the West.
true that m8
It just seems like a whole lotta womanese to me lol
“It’s the implication.“ -Dennis, It’s always Sunny in Philadelphia
@@BD-1-And-Onlyya that’s good. Rather listen to her then some dog water redpill bald dude. Ik you are a Andrew Tate/Richard cooper dickkk rider 😂😂
“Is it possible to learn this power?”
“not from a jedi”
haha goated comment
This has me crying 🤣🤣
This comment deserves more likes 😂
Underrated comment
Tap into that dark SITH force energy
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Who’s it by
Dark mind tricks is creepy
bot
Yeah because every fruitful relationship started from "dark mind tricks". Pull your head outta your ass lmao
"it's the real deal" meaning what? You have studied and applied these techniques and suddenly you were having women eating from the palms of your hands? Are you saying you became biochemically irresistible? If so, what were you after, a huge F count? If you've ever wanted a relationship, have those formulas ever worked?
I have noticed this thing in girls, when they, in the right time, act super feminine or delicate. That does spike something inside a man
Hence why a crying woman alone is the target for every guy at the bar to make her feel better... then take her home
@@Bananabanananabanana I think every man has different spots where he gets hit the most. Some find it super feminine, if she giggles in a cute way, others like it if she's super shy, or maybe dancing an erotic dance or other things... those are not particularly female, but they can spike that "female feeling"...
@@Bananabanananabanana ah nevermind me, bin gerade mal durch dein Profil gegangen. Ich hoffe du verstehst meinen Punkt, auch, wenn du ihn nicht teilst :)
Yes Mohammed. Evolution, time, or God, whichever makes sense to you, designed it like that and it's been that way for centuries. It's weird how it takes so long to figure it out.
@@Bananabanananabanana TH-cam schickt natürlich keine Benachrichtigung über Antworten und Erwahnungen x'D
Die Alternativität (wieder sehr schwammig, aber die Kanäle zu alternativer Psychologie und Veganismus vermitteln mir generelle Alternativität). Um ehrlich zu sein, dachte ich bei deinem Namen zuerstn auch an Transsexualität, und da dachte ich mir dann, dass du das Konzept von Mann/Frau so nicht ganz richtig findest. Deswegen habe ich deinen Kommentar eher so verstanden "Wer kann bzw darf. überhaupt bestimmen, was weiblich und was männlich ist?" Das waren Vorurteile, stimmt, und deswegen bin ich zu diesem Schluss gekommen - aber beleidigt hab ich dich nicht damit, oder?
I've noticed this. Hanging out with girls I was unapologetically quiet and admitted that I would rather be home. One of the girls I was hanging out with was really into it. I used to be insecure about my quietness but once I owned it SOME girls found it really attractive. But that is some advice for my quiet people. Just be comfortable and okay with being quiet around social settings
Thank you! I'm one of those quite people (if I'm not too interested in just talking just to talk), but then I start thinking that maybe people don't like me because I'm too quite and to most, that's boring, but like you said, some people will respect you and love you the way you are :)
Plot Twist: BabyGirl was deaf.
Yeah but what if you’re quiet and never say a word? At that point someone might be annoyed and ask why are you even here lol
@@r011ing_thunder6 and? Tell them you don't have to engage in the conversation to enjoy your time e out, just don't be some stoic sourpuss cause in that case it does beg the question, why are you here?
@@TheGoldenChile I got what you said thank you
Being "raw" and not reading a script made this visual gold.
One word comes to mind. “Authenticity”
Makes sense.
it's so difficult to be totally comfortable being myself. I still have this thing inside me that says I should be doing this or that. A lot of my insecurities come from feeling inadequate and that i need to change myself so that people (or women) will like me. I want to break free!
This is the most honest and corageous woman I've ever seen...
you're blowing my mind hahaha thank you! my ego is skyrocketing!
@@mynonleatherlife LoL
@@mynonleatherlife welcome well deserved...but Please We must control our egos lmao
@@mynonleatherlife Hello! I read Mode One a few years ago, and altough you didn't explain the book, you did mention some insights that men can learn if they read the book, nice catch! I have one question for you. You talked about honesty, doing what we want, saying what we want, without fearing rejection or critics, but, you mentioned something that got me thinking. "Instead of saying you're beatiful..... I would like to fuck you". I think your example was not on point but the message was 200% correct. I don't think that a man saying "I want to fuck you" is a good thing to do, but, it's like everything, depends on the girl, the kind of relationship you have, if you met her 5 minutes ago or you have built some sexual tension. Let me ask you something, what do you think would be an ideal approach to a women with everything you just said ? Do you think that being honest about what you think and say is a step to confidence and more self esteem ? Do you think that men sometimes need to calculate what they say, but keeping it 100% real ? Thanks for your video!!
@@mynonleatherlife thank you for being brave and giving insight !
She summarized in one video what all these gurus have been teaching for 5 years
@increase Folabomi , haha great comment well said I even suscribed before even listen the entire video the way she introduced the subject was enough to know it will be something outstanding anyway !! Yes she overpassed overdriven those gurus as you say ... in fact is related to express properly the male basic instinct properly ... is been said also when a man keep coming back to a woman even rejected he has more & more chance to get trough ..., I know several cases ...
Where's the 5 years figure come from?
And I still don't get it after 10 plus years of not dating and never having a gf
@@roflswamp6 how old r u?
@@mkmllrc 29 :(
This video is very powerful. So many men feel insecure about themselves, because society tells them to behave, be polite, always be nice. All these things are obviously important, but when it comes to attracting a woman, you need to show your real colours as a man. Be honest and straight. Don't be ashamed for the desire you feel for women. Its natural and women love it.
You will get nice. If you start being brutally honest, it won't be long until you stop judging and having annoying impressions. It just makes you covered in shit instead of filled with shit, it's more clean and less acceptable. But once it's outside, it won't be long until you throw it out and start becoming more brutally nice each day.
Yeah they love to exploit it and ruin everything.
woman shut the fuk up the realness of life TERRIFIES you
This is eye opening. For example, an old girlfriend of mine told me one of the things that first attracted her to me was how if I didn't want to do something, I would just simply say "I don't want to do that." And I had no idea what she was talking about haha. Maybe it because it gave her a comforting sense that when I was doing something, that I truly wanted to do it.
My theory is that they like a man who knows what he wants, is aggressive and uncompromising and down right ruthless to some extent. Though it always comes out in different frequencies and tunes... Either way women are fairly docile creatures, little attention should be paid anyways and they can sense that. Just go out and take what you want, that's what most of them want anyways, I mean look at how fragile they are!
My ex bf was just like that n that's what I loved about him initially when we started, bcoz I find it super hard to say no when asked for help even tho it cause me inconvenience, later we broke up for diff reasons tho but I really admired that quality. But hate when my brother do it, that piece of sh*t
Having boundaries and refusing to be pressured into disregarding them. This is mental strength, you don't just do whatever people tell, or ask you to do. The most important choice you have is deciding how to act, and if you never lose focus on that then no one controls you.
@@krishafyme This girl (an old freind I came across after months) was kind of mean while waiting for the train. Finally I got reall angry . I didn't use any foul language but my tone was angry and my voice was really loud.
She kept quite and did not even move when I got angry. Normally a woman under such a situation, will turn her body away from the guy, or take a step away from the guy, or start to yell back at the guy .
So Why did she not move even one step away from me when I got angry ? She only moved when the train came to get in the train.
"A man that exudes total confidence is a woman's kryptonite." That's essentially the takeaway if you boil this down.
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Im confident that i have zero confidence with females 💯
@@Appachoppa112 why
@@Appachoppa112 LMAO
Essentially, yes. But confidence doesn't always mean what people think it means. Confidence isn't necessarily the person who always says and does the right things, or likes everything about themselves. True confidence, in my opinion, is the person has insecurities, who fumbles, whose jokes fall flat, but OWNS it. Confidence is the person who's comfortable with themselves, knows what they want and goes after it, and also knows that if they get rejected by one person, it's not the end of the world. Women can't resist a man who wants them but doesn't need them.
This quote has been swirling in my head for the last 4 days. "Stop debating what a good man is, be one" - Marcus Aurelius
and now you have made it swirl in mines...
i asked my mum on how to meet good people, she said become a good person.
Stg historical figures are just a way to play action figures with their "quotes" grow up
You can't be something you don't even know what it is. Debate first to find out. ~ Aurelius Marcus
Got this written in fancy old world cursive, framed, and hanging on the wall in my office.
She’s basically just describing the moments that she has perceived men’s primal nature coming out. The issue here is men are conditioned to not exhibit these things due to societies constraints placed on men. Because they tend to be aggressive in nature. Typically when we do these things they are small to us or to her point we do not realize how they effect the opposite sex. Could be anger in a certain light. Demonstrating strength, walking into a room and owning the room, etc. it is a energy thing you put out and others tune into. There is also a genuine response to it so if forced it removes the authenticity of it. That’s what makes it so effective.
@meefjwfhss I I got the cure to it.If you need it
@meefjwfhss I don’t use crutches to deal with things
@pysch naut what do you mean?
@@renegadezen7841 The cure to anxiety.Which is to just work with the present experience and everything within it no matter what emotion or thought arises.Work with it never against it.The four agreements are amazing for that.My whole point being depending on external things to change internal things never works.Or to never distract yourself from negative emotions or experiences
@@SykeeNot ah well said. Yes agree with what you are saying entirely. The most advanced practice this concept daily.
What she's talking about is authenticity. For a lot of men, it is difficult to bring forth authenticity in a world that constantly wipes it away. The power of authenticity can only come around when you get rid of lusting after women, being greedy, and desiring things that you don't have. If you stopped doing those, perfect. The next step is to embrace and promote positive emotions, like love, joy, gratitude, and selfless service. The authenticity will flourish, but it comes with a downside, you'll love yourself so much that you won't be interested in women anymore.
You’ll love yourself and your male power so much that you won’t be interested in women, true. You’ll only want to share yourself with yourself and your fellow Kings, and you’ll feel blessed to do so. This is how I realized I only wanted to be intimate with other men, only wanted to give myself physically to those who shared my male power, that is the truest way to embody masculinity.
idk, man. My cup runneth over. I love women.
I think the trick is to find a partner who can join you in your service work, be they man or woman. Then you've got something higher to focus on than just each other. No need to turn gay just to feel more BDE...but by all means, if that's what you're into, enjoy 😉
What is going on in here 😂.
I was gonna come in here and say presence. Presence is the word we're looking for but then shh went sideways in here 😂.
@@dookiemayne45
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Its the power to defy the pull of others’ judgement. To be able to act exactly how you want to and be okay with whatever happens or what anyone else says or thinks about you. Its the realization that authenticity provides fulfillment that no one else can give you. When you see its beauty, you will embrace the pain of being disliked, mocked and criticized because the pleasure of authenticity and personal autonomy far outweighs the pain of judgement.
Women feel the joy of the unburdened man
The best comment about authenticity, ever
Brilliant explanation.
couldn't been put better
Crazy how this applies to both genders dawg.
well put my guy
" the pleasure of authenticity and personal autonomy far outweighs the pain of judgement"
I’m a simple guy🤷🏾♂️ I see bad camera quality, I click
Hahahaa
Raw 👌😅
Truth and Honesty do not need studio quality camera work. They just need to be heard.
@@philvess6376 that's why he clicked! 😁
Its about sending a message. Fancy cam meh
all secrets are told in a whispered voice, thus she is telling the truth
Perfectly said.
All I understood was, something like say when u want to kiss her, and tell her when u are angry.
@@piedramultiaristas8573 u commented this fifty times
@@kozy.3022 U ara Liyng.
@@kozy.3022 An if I would what wrong?
there was a video on your channel i watched, gosh, probably about 8 or 9 years ago. as a young man at the time, it really boosted my confidence. glad i found your channel again by accident, as i begin my body transformation (tHiS iS mY yEaR) having a channel like this from a woman's perspective is opening to my eyes. Thank you for the videos you make
On behalf of all man you just earned yourself a medal
😅😅😅
Speak for yourself
@@heritice1927 heri tice ur opinion doesnt matter with a feminine name like that 😭
@@nicm8909 your mom loves to scream it though
@@heritice1927 are u like 5?😂😂😂
"...and women aren't gonna help them. Because that makes women vulnerable." Aha!! 💡
I’ll throw in my two cents:
She said that women don’t tell guys how to be attractive because then the same women would be vulnerable. True, but I would also add a concept known as “observing a process changes a process”. Women CANT tell a man how to be attractive because women want a man that “just gets it”. Women don’t want a man who has to be told HOW to be a MAN because that wouldn’t be his predominant personality.
If you have to be taught how to be a man then you are not the man for her. You are not a “man” but “ “someone that has to be told how to a man”. It’s not the same. Women understand there is no point in telling a guy how to be a man because he has to realize it on his own for it to be authentic.
I’m not saying a man can’t eventually “just get it” but, at this the moment you don’t get it.
Think about like this when somebody wants something from you they aren’t going to tell you because it would be out of obligation and it wouldn’t be genuine. That’s the best way I can explain it
It’s important for guys to understand this dynamic and get them to the next level with women. Women want to submit and be vulnerable but is has to be genuine. The process has to be organic.
Eventually, a woman will be annoyed and disappointed because she sees your potential but you don’t just get and she has no choice but to move on.
@@raheemthegoat1066 Ah but I do get it. As of watching this video 😜 You've explained it well. It's a lot like hiring a person for a job because they've done the job before, while rejecting the one who can only claim that they're "willing to learn." If she has to teach you how to be her man, you cannot be her man. No girl wants to tell a guy she's met "just put me in my place." And yet it's what she really wants. It's nothing mothers tell their sons, or that society tells its boys, especially these days.
@@videowilliams I know you get it I was just talking in general lol. yes exactly there is cognitive dissonance going on there.
@@videowilliams Your last sentence has some similarity with my thoughts about this (great) video: At least in the western world, women can (still) have a typical feminie role or a male one. However men are advised to have a rather feminine role or they get called chauvinist and creepy, although this is what most women (secretly) desire: a manly man...I am 35 and discovered this in recent years, makes me sad...Edit: Still don´t want to change my female character traits and fake it!
WE MUST PROTECT THIS WOMAN AT ALL COSTS, BOYS! She's the last one we're gonna get. Welcome to 2021.
Orah! USA USA USA.
What's so great about her? All she said was you gotta be masculine and be yourself. The same talking points I hear from everyone else. Man just stop simping.
@@sodagamer8711 Bro, there's an ocean of emasculated men you don't want to investigate, and it goes far deeper than just simping. They don't respond to the kind of tough love you could give men 10-15 years ago.
Simp 🤣
@@sodagamer8711 She took it to another level though.
This video really proves that someone can say a lot within a short amount of time versus someone saying nothing within twice the time. Well done. What I mainly draw from it is that honesty can move mounains
It took her 10 minutes to say guys who are assertive are attractive. Worse yet, she waited until the end to say it, and there was nothing of value before the end that was said.
@@feartheghus she said it multiple times and she elaborated on a few other things. Watch it again If you missed something. There are other comments that summarized it pretty well
she said nothing lol
@@cyanized0 hm
Violins aside. Baseline, she wants a caveman. Danmmit!!
I think men realize this as we age. I just turned 40 and I get more attention now than when I was a teenager. You are just more confident in what you want.
One woman told me" you will look amazing in your 30s", when I was 18
Over the years, countless women have been asked, what age is a man most attractive? Most of them have said, and will say, men in their 40s. Women in their 20s go bonkers over men in their 40s, think of every college professor, he got girls swooning over him. The majority of Hollywood actors, Paul Newman, Sean Connery, Robert Redford, Denzel Washington, Tom Cruise, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, yup. Women think they're hottest while in their 40s.
She can't word it out, but thee term she was looking for is "Machismo", the pride of being a man. You see this in Latin-America, for example when little boys try to imitate their father, they look very manly and "macho". I don't know why it is almost non-existent in North-America, but oh well.
Ya cause you have experience.. that’s what men need to work on each day and take risks. It makes for a interesting life
@@CarlosReyes-qe2iq lol, you are talking about very good looking guys with money and status. Of course they will look good even at 70 years old.
Who would have thought it? Women love when men are masculine and, for the record, men LOVE women who are feminine. Kind, caring, helpful, beautiful etc. Be a mans peace and he will never go
Prison Mike! Great name! "You got a good life! ...a good life."
They guy can still cheat on you if you all that
@@kazi2683 thats not the kind of nigga we talking about fam
Yeah they love the best of both worlds
I was like that and then got cheated on
The reverse for me is when a woman do something out of pure kindness or because it's the right thing to be done, even if it gives her some lost. It always captures my admiration.
Same. In my case especially because I've met so many black hearted, manipulative women (not dated) which has made me appreciate the very few kind ones even more.
A kind woman with self respect is all I want.
It's almost like people with a moral compass are attractive
yeah, a lot of men like self-sacrificing women because it feeds into their mommy fantasy.
blacks? @@ugn154
Testosterone is quite powerful. What I think Victoria is trying to say here in essence is that Yang (male energy) is very attractive to hetero females, as is the estrogen in Yin (female energy) to hetero males. We heterosexuals sense these in the opposite sex. Hard to put into words. All five senses can also come into play here. It's what makes the adventures of sexual attraction so amazing, mysterious, and powerful.
One word sums it up and that word is *AGGRESSION* .
It's simple the feminine are designed to be attracted masculine...we are wired that way...the problem is we are programmed in this world to change and challenge what is natural.
that may be a big part of it
Preach!
It's a fucked up world
God’s design, so simple
so stop accepting the change. When change happens fight it and shut people up
Well said. A point I often make is that acting, being fake, and trying to be someone else isn't attractive at all and will push men/women away.
Yet being shallow is better.... Makes no sense
Opposite for me, acting like someone I'm not often gets lots of girls, but once they start seeing there's more complexity to me than what they initially thought, they lose interest. Kinda have to keep a girl at bay, don't let her in no matter how much she begs, cause then she thinks she knows you and it's no fun anymore.
@@gabrielguzman6018 yin and yang
Difference is if the non fakeness is discouraged and forced out of men by society at large and then guy becomes trash to women. Like breaking someones legs with a bat and then punishing them for having broken legs/not walking good. How this nuance isnt obvious or central is mindboggling
@@gabrielguzman6018 well if you reread the mans comment you should pick up on it right away. right around acting and trying to be someone else..... that should sum it up right there... and a women can wanna sleep with a guy who may i guess be an ass hole and not want them in a more gratifying way.
She's about to get a lot of men in trouble with HR.
Thank You!!! Im like this sounds great in theory but I call bullshit in reality.
She's right. But if a guy doesn't 'get it.. it's useless information - or at worst, yeah, will get him in HR, because he's taking what she's saying verbatim.
@@Journeyman89 You didn’t understand it then. This is our reality.
@@justingutierrez8893 I did i just don't believe being upfront like that works in most cases these days thats why the original comment he said she gon get a lot of men in trouble with HR lol. The video still gave decent insight tho
Lol true. To quote Admiral Akbar: "ITS A TRAP!!"
Treat a woman like a queen and she will treat you like a subject. Treat yourself like a king and women will want you before anyone else can. The secret has always been to pay attention to yourself, not to others. Attention is gold.
I can attest to this. Summer of 2015. I was 25. I had just gotten out of jail after being in for 30 days, lost my job. I just remember feeling like I had nothing to lose, i had so much energy. Found a job after 2 days of being out. I didn't give a fuck and my confidence and swag was on 10. I was ripped from working out and eating low calories in jail. Lol but I remember approaching women with no hesitation or second thought. I had women that I knew and hung out begging me to have sex with them. It was so weird. But I felt the masculine energy inside me. Felt like a super hero. You couldn't tell me shit. My jokes and whit were on point I was like a magnet and just attracted everyone. That was the most powerful I've ever felt.
Thank u for sharing this, I loved reading. Very cool to hear it confirmed from your perspective.
Antonio.. so in other words semen retention?
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." - Tyler Durden
@@joedough6450 nofap has nothing to do with anything. Use retroduction & logic to solve why this is. Have fun! 🤩
@@zlClutchy stop beating off
I like how respectful everyone is in the comments. If this was a TikTok then there would be a gender war in the comments 😆
I love tiktok
What's a tic tac?
@@DamianSzajnowski it's a candy or something
@@DamianSzajnowski its best you dont know lol and im happy to see another person named damian😁
@@DamianSzajnowski alien craft
Love how this hit everyones recommended.
I actually searched for this :)
@@johnvallsater4499 💪🏻
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Love it
I appreciate these little gems every now and then
I'll save you ten minutes.
1. Victoria discusses the concept that men possess a unique and powerful form of sexual energy that is particularly noticeable and attractive to women, but often unrecognized by the men themselves.
2. Victoria shares personal anecdotes about how men and women perceive each other differently, particularly in sexual or romantic contexts, and how her own perceptions have influenced her interactions with men.
3. The video explores the idea that this male energy is a key factor in attraction, even in cases where a man is rejected for other reasons. The speaker suggests that many men are unaware of this power they hold.
4. Victoria concludes by noting the complexity of attraction and the potential vulnerability women might feel in acknowledging this male power.
Victoria does not clearly describe what this masculine power is. It's left to the viewer to come to emotionally sympathize with what this masculine power actually is. From the video, it likely refers to a man that is enigmatic, potent, unrecognized, yet influential. Think James Bond.
good synopsis bruh
It just means confidence.
I'll save you less than that, 1. : that's it.
I think it's authentic, driven by ones own power, uncompromising to oneself. Sure James Bond, but not every man is going to be an international super spy. Every man can achieve those three things though.
James bond, no doubt. Joe no bond, Chad smash.
How to be a great man: honesty and have a backbone.
You're welcome.
Ambition too, you need that cheddar
Yup and that drive. That's the hardest part for men. Especially if they're depressed. Depression is horrible. It can get you and you won't even realize it until someone makes note of your current actions. Lots of men are very depressed now days.
@@dwanrobinson Vitamin D deficiency. I have a theory that it's one of the main factors in a lot of disorders and is very understudied. It plays a role in so many processes from metabolism and energy to immune, testosterone production, and mental health.
Actually it's not even a vitamin, but is a hormone. And I think there is a reason why the best source of it comes from sunlight. It's essential! With more tech and corporate jobs and loss of manual industry and farming, people have lost out on key aspects of development growing up indoors, in front of a screen and eating junk that further messes up your hormones.
In fact, low vitamin D is even associated with Co-vid mortality. I think vitamin D supplements, more natural sunshine, and some manual work or activity can go a long way with depression and drive. Probably more effective than big pharma. Unfortunately, society has become a culture about sedentary entertainment and consumerism.
@@Geoff YEEEEA
@@Geoff Man I think you have a great point because sometimes I feel really really bad, like if I don't want to live anymore and have low energy. And when I walk out to buy something and see and feel the sunset my perspective change totally and my feelings change very quickly in a positive way.
As a heterosexual male, I needed to hear this. Thank you.
@Rayyan Patel you're a douche
@Rayyan Patel What tf? Damn chill out my homie brother
@Hellrais3r also a douche
@Hellrais3rnaw man for play-play
It's what I always knew, but could never pull off: Be an asshole.
When a man shows a woman that he doesn't give a shit about being rejected by her or what she thinks of him, genuinely showing himself as he is and really saying what he wants or thinks, without taboos or reservations, without fears or worries. .. The woman can't help but feel attracted. This attitude is a typically masculine power of seduction to which women are very sensitive. Show women that you are not afraid of being rejected, ignored, criticized or insulted by them (and that it does not affect you either, that you are indifferent to their reaction, that you are not reactive); Showing them that you don't care about the outcome of being accepted or rejected or what they think of you attracts them. That's what Mode One is about, it's not about getting accepted, it's about having the balls to show women that you don't give a shit about being rejected or what they think of you, and it's also about not giving them your free attention (have the attitude of: “I don't give a shit not having anything with you, you are not the only woman in the world, there are many other women that I can enter and with whom I can have something”).
I don't think is that absolute, I would complement what you said with not giving a shit makes them respect you, attraction is directly proportional to respect and chemistry, you do need both to get in a womans head.
@@DiegoMachida I agree
@Stellar Fav comment
@DiegoMachida also fav reaction
@Stelar
This just showed up on my feed. We need more conversations like this. Candid introspection and sharing of how we see each other, no judgement, just observation. Understanding is unifying. Thank you for this. Wish you'd post again.
You will never understand the level on how useful and extreme power boosting and secretive this message was for men out there, the capacity of confidence you just unleashed for God knows how many male souls in which you have helped drastically. We men….love you. #girlcodeexposure
Take that truth Serum.
Who knew that masculinity is that attractive to ladies.
she didnt say shit that people didnt know.
@croq8444 Lord! Have Mercy on us peasants. We don't know any better.
Though, where are you getting your info from. Like i know deep down we all knew but she mad it evident and now it sticks in our subconscious mind.
@@madmax7539 my friend you ever heard of a little something called ‘fresh n fit’ or for us Christian folk I would recommend Jon Zherka. But you yourself said you knew this inside of you, and that’s the key. We all know what is right, we just need the right stimulation to bring it out of us. Find yours
@@croq8444no brain lol
Now EVERYONE is stealing her content. Ever since the algorithm put her up a month back all these TH-cam’s are talking about it. That’s how you know most of these content creators are talking out their ass. This girl is the truth
Thanks Jorge, who do u think is stealing it, do u remember any? Probably nothing I can do but I’m curious
@@mynonleatherlife u can do something about it! Just copy strike it
Yes, I notice TH-cam algorithms promote the sleazy salesman/marketing type "me too" creators who streal all their ideas from genuine creators, and the genuine grassroots people get ranked low, shadow banned, demonetized, or even have their channels deleted. The imitations are never as good as the originals--often water-down with many details wrong. We live in a really sick society which rewards the grifters and con artists but punishes the honest originals.
@Phasing Out Somebody just do a stutnex virus to TH-cam and mess with their ad rev system,m... that outta teach em a lesson lol
Sounds like that v shred gym guy he was very misleading no honesty in there content just cheap nasty content a quick sale for the .ost money possible
Both males and females are naturally attracted to things they don't have.
I agree
Love face, ass, legs
@@ahsidodna3355 good point, we all have those
I disagree
@@ahsidodna3355 + calves
Masculine raw charisma… which is contained in the embodiment of the warrior, which exists within all men. The rawness of war, and the restraint of war.
The power she's talking about is confidence.
The Raw Attractive Power All Men Have in their wallets.
@@videohq1181 oh please stop with this shit. if it was true then all women would only go for rich men. that's obviously not the case, a lot of women still value non-materialistic things more. if ya can't find one then either you have bad luck or don't really want to.
@@LOLHAXGUN you know, you may be right. Lets keep an eye on the thumbs up for each of our comments.
So true! Real confidence goes a LOOOOOOONG way!!!
@@LOLHAXGUN there’s only so many men that are rich, statistically. If women could all have a rich man..... they would
Nofap will heighten that aura that you speak of...if you are attractive to begin with, take care of your body and have self assurance..it’s game over for the ladies
Game over ladies ☠️
Haha!!! Let' see. Prove it
💯 correct
Gonna work harder at it
@@mynonleatherlife You’d sure be watching this video if you knew what game over for the ladies looked like☠️☠️
"This is going to get a bit sexual, so if you're not interested in that, please stop watching now."
* half of TH-cam enters the chat *
hahaha that part was when my family were the main people who watched my channel. trying to tell them not to watch
@Yograndmaahoe Pwassy lol
@Yograndmaahoe Pwassy I thought you were talking about the cock n ball torture?
@Yograndmaahoe Pwassy yea
@@mynonleatherlife 😂😂😂
The one time I hear someone talk about attractive power and it's about men rather than women. And you have to be the first person that's mentioned that, to a degree, men are mysterious creatures! This is something that I've heard EXCLUSIVELY used to describe desirable women and it's such a shame. I have to say, thank you for saying what you said. There seems to be so much emphasis in media regarding feminine energy with rare acknowledgement of what real masculine energy is because people focus on what men can become/gain rather than what they ARE. It's relieving to find another woman who acknowledges simple yet fundamental male attractive qualities because I NEVER hear other women talk about this at all with a very select few tip-toeing around it.
Even when going to the description where you summarized five points, I can so wholeheartedly agree that YES just being a real live man is a good deal of the attraction. I grew up hearing girls/women talk about boys/men and mentioning countless surface traits they prefer, but I was never encouraged by my own family to view men a certain way other than just understanding that "men are men and women are women". I am now 26 years old and haven't had a day in my life where I can state any surface traits that truly draw me to men. The fact that you're a man literally gets you 50% of the way, and the rest of the way to drawing me in is simply having a proper personality and acting like the man you were born to be without conforming/constraining yourself to some idea of what someone else says you should be.
As a man, ive always been shy and have always felt rejected by woman. I am very appreciative that you decided to have the courage to be vulnerable because this honestly makes me feel hopeful going forward.
(Looks at username) Simp.
@@kamikazekyre6101 Why are you here?
Best way to have people treat you like you're a confident, attractive person, is to 'pretend' to be one. Stand up straight, act confident. It's amazing how people's (women's) attitudes toward you will instantly change. Before long you won't be 'pretending'
@@happydappyman #1 this only works if you already are attractive physically speaking #2 trying to pretend for the rest of your relationship is A VERY BAD idea... eventually she will realize you are pretending and her attraction towards you will plumit, she will then proceed to slowly distance herself from you until completely dumping you.
@@Crimson50 the thing about pretended is to commit. Eventually you will be your actions, as evident from your history. If you pretend to be strong and masculine, you are actually just practicing. We you make decisions that your weak version can't handle doing, you will just prove that you moved past any weakness.
Like the ability to walk away or handle rejection well.
A lot of guys need to hear this. And its not about showing inconsideration or disrespect to women. Its about having the confidence to be who you are.
Agreed. There’s obviously some women that men should avoid just like there are men who women should avoid. The main thing is being who you are. That allows a woman to see your true personality and know if that’s what she wants. As a guy I can say that an honest personality is one of the first things I look for.
yeah that's a good point. I have some suspicion that a lot of guys repress themselves to some extent because of a, b and c and ofc I also think it's important to recognize that it does go both ways but men don't seem to hear it as often
Hearing people say 'all men are trash' and 'men ain't shit' makes me physically cringe. You'll never catch me saying that. It hasn't happened for me yet, but I can't wait for the day I get to love and be loved by a MAN. What a treasure you all are.
Fall in love with me
@@hornypolice5969 dwagg your name dont add up with that comment
You're an awesome woman, Beth. I hope I meet one like you!
That was really nice to hear
if feminism was honest, an independent woman would mean get ur degree get a good job and get a mortgage for a flat u put tenents in whilst living at home cheap and u put all ur money into paying off the mortgage then by late 20s probably paid most of it off. ive wasted a lot of time listening to feminist stuff last 5 10 years or so and not once heard this idea. Also I don't think most women want to be spinsters for the rest of their lives so i don't know why femism is the dominant voice on male females. its really cancer for relationship success. feminism seems just trying castrate all men psychologically. feminism just seems a product of mental illness ignorance, bullying, passive aggressive unadjusted liars and the deluded. All should just do intense phychological councelling before trying to create their cult. sorry for the rant, just so disappointing causing so much dysfunction in society and any change seems a huge uphill battle.
Good vid, and kudos for some honesty. I realised, waaaay later, that I was trying to project confidence rather than Being confident. Projecting it is a single lane assertation, but when you Are confident (aka stop giving a fuck) then you exude more than the single lane. It's body language, tone of voice, Honesty and a whole lot more. Ironically, I realised it after meeting the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with, but hey, at least I know it now. Cos damn that conundrum befuddled me for a long, long time. I guess she's why I realised it. Because she made me so comfortable. That's why we seem to get girls on us when we're not single and never when we are. It's cos we're at ease. For me, it was getting an answer, rather than using it to "get stuff". There's something fulfilling in knowing your nature.
Dont be a simp, desperate, or a crybaby. Have goals, focus on them and yourself first. Dont care too much about what others think, but whatever your "style" is, be clean. Girls think they know what they want, but most women need someone dependable, strong, assertive, confident, protective. They will take notice and come to you.
straight fax
Lol just to cheat on you with losers. So I’m going to have to roll with future on this one
It’s deeper than that. Don’t do all those things but also heal. Go into yourself, read a real psychology book like for example Emotional Resilience by David Viscott. Challenge yourself to go deeper and tap into it
If a MAN is watching this expecting to learn something.... that's a BAD start. STOP BEING A SIMP and get proper "education" from a RED PILLED guy.
@@renatosureal so people should.listen to some 40yo dead beat losers after divorce on how to play the game??🤣🤣 U misogyns are so super funny. No sane person gives flying fuck about red pill bullshit. It is male equivalent of modern feminism. Keep on living on your unicorn land thinkong that life is all about scoring as many chicks as u can get. Then when u will be old 65+ old fuck w/o kids or anyone u will understand why it is beneficial for both sexes to have someone by them.
God damn 20yo incels u lot....
Men subconsciously realize this after their first love. Once we get heartbroken for the first time we don't care anymore about anything really, thus our real thought's and motives are shown to women we date afterwards. Kind of depressing but true nonetheless.
Yep.
I really wish I could stop caring. Really really wish...
@@lonewulv13 you will in time, sooner or later you’ll realize how much better you become when you focus on yourself. You’ll slowly start to realize how selfish you become, and for the better. Trust me.
This is 100% true, at least for my case.
You're so right! After every serious relationship I have had, it's always been the easiest to pull women immediately following for like a month.
I want to add something after watching this and thinking on it. A few months ago go I had a really honest conversation with a girl that changed my life. We had been talking for awhile and I could really sense that she was attracted to me, but she rejected me when I made advances. This frustrated me a lot and I eventually called her on it. I told her I could feel in my body that she was attracted to me and asked her why the hell she rejected me when I acted on that. She responded to me with a profound question. She asked me if I thought women slept with every guy that turned them on. That honesty meant everything to me. It let me know that I wasn't crazy and didn't misread my intuition. That lack of honesty and clarity from women contributed to my low self esteem in the past. I always thought I was an idiot who misread situations or was delusional. Now I can see I wasn't. Women just keep everything so close to the chest that it makes it extremely easy to second guess yourself if you're a guy.
@@mynonleatherlife
Not exactly. It's hard to explain and is very subjective, but my mindset was if a woman was flirting with me in a way that I deemed obvious and she turned me down she was obviously playing games or toying with me and if it was subtle I was an idiot and misread the signals. I guess my problem is I'm too logical. I have never flirted with a woman I wasn't attracted to and if I flirt with a woman I'm definitely open to sex and/or dating. I understand that every woman isn't necessarily open to fucking every guy she is attracted to, but I would think she would generally be open to that if she is flirting overtly enough that the guy gets that idea. One thing I've noticed is that women who are married or in relationships are the ones who flirt with me the most openly. That is something that I find really frustrating. A lot of them are women I would definitely be interested in if they were available. It feels like they are trying to torture me when they flirt with me when they aren't available to me in that way.
Women find logical being boring/weak. Even if you have masczuline energy, for them its big nono
But it doesn’t make any sense. Somethings missing. Don’t pay attention to what women say, pay attention to what they do. You were still missing something
Men are afraid that women will laugh at them.
Women are afraid that men will kill them.
I’ve rejected a lot of guys I’ve found attractive. 90% of the time it was because they did something i didn’t like that went against my morals but nothing to do with their physical. A woman who isn’t desperate and loves herself will not have any second thoughts of rejecting a man who doesn’t meet her standards and that goes for internal qualities aswell. It’s not fair to the guy either to just settle for him because he’s “attractive” knowing I’ll be unhappy. I also find that the more i like a guy the more my insecurities come out and i can be complex which has confused a lot of guys but it had nothing to do with them.
This actually gives me so much sense of calm hearing this off a woman. I've always felt that women are put on a pedestal by us lot and we feel a certain entrancement off of women that women don't feel the equivalence of in return. I guess tho as a straight guy, I am not gonna understand what women are gonna feel towards me or how they experience being attracted to men. Thanks for explaining
You have helped hundreds of thousands of guys with this video. Cheers to you lady.
Thank you Anuj
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How the fuck do you spell unesciairly bruh
This is like the one word i’ve always had issues with... Googling it at this point would be a personal defeat.
unesciarily, un-necessarily - wait wtf. Did I just?
un-necessarily.
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I DID IT
@@dudeskidude8376 Hahahah I have no idea what that whole comment was about, but I love it
(oh, and also... same dude, I can totally relate lol)
@@dudeskidude8376 😂😂😂. Was that really ⁿᵉᶜᵉˢˢᵃʳʸ?
@@samuelmoss9487 Yes.
I know how to spell necessary now bro
"A lot of times, these guys don't know how to bring it out. And women aren't going to help them...because that makes women vulnerable."
That goes for the usual ones
I myself am a weirdo so im tryna improve to do that without being vulnerable
@@simpsbelongtothegulags3702 improve what???
Yeah that’s actually kind of crazy
Truth. She's not going to be vulnerable to a guy that doesn't know to know to be this way. Her thinking this means she's already passed. She doesn't want to "help them" because that means he's not worthy, not because she doesn't want to be vulnerable. She's guilty of cognitive dissonance here. Women want men to "just get it". Be that way and she will be vulnerable because you are a man worthy of her vulnerability.
Experienced this first hand 😂
I typically don’t ever take advise from woman about relationships becuase they are not honest and most don’t know it. But man I have to say you nailed it.
Yeah I agree, the advice they give is either a lie or just not good lol. But she did really good with this one.
At the end of the day it's fundamentally the same as you hear all the time form women. What she's describing is this nebulous "masculine" thing that she can't really define - and probably can't be defined.
For women, it's much more often the case that they are attracted to a man for reasons they can't even put into words.
For men, it's far more simple. I can define exactly what initially attracts me to a woman and it's always youth and hotness.
The icing on the cake is agreeableness, warmth and empathy - these are the traits that can turn the attraction from a short term fling into a "life partner" situation.
@@goodlookinouthomie1757 so define me what she mean by masculine energy or your interpretation
@@mhashim5643 That's my point. It's vague and indescript.
One thing she did say that was very clear was that if all guys just did exactly what they wanted, said what they wanted and didn't give a fuck, that would be very attractive to her.
This is backed up by so many men's advice creators who generally advocate for being confident in your own mind and being unapologetic for being masculine and assertive. The single biggest turn off I think for women is simping and (she mentioned this too) begging.
You ever facepalm at how women are drawn to shady dickheads who seemingly don't give a shit about them? This is exactly why.
Perhaps I might add also - if you think about the base psychology of the above... From a woman's point of view, a man who is indifferent about impressing you presumably has options elsewhere. Your approval and attention isn't of great importance to him because he is getting that attention from other women. Which subconsciously implies you are a man who has value that other women are chasing after.
The irresistable 'masculine energy' referred to here is not 'brutal/vulgar' honesty... It's the ability to draw a very clear line in the sand; when a man can establish healthy boundaries between acceptable/unacceptable behavior. A man must be able to establish that there is a line a woman cannot cross, a point beyond which she will not advance - and hold that @#$ing line. When a guy can do that, it makes a woman melt.
and then you'll spend the rest of your days trying to cross that line. it's your goal. and once you finally cross the line you will be onto your next victim just be honest.
@@doodlebob2023 ...Not if a man becomes valuable enough to that woman that she's terrified of not having him - and I'm not talking primarily because of money. And yes, I'm speaking from experience..
@@brianm5563 so then how did you lose him?
@@doodlebob2023 Um... I'm the guy in the scenario with a woman that stays behind the line. Lol
@@brianm5563 sure you are
“Fundamentally unattractive”
Yeah that’s a good way to explain how most guys feel after being called ugly in high school.
😰
Exacly mate. My self image totally shattered in the school.
Why is this so relatable
@@Mk5_Life It’s me, I’m most guys. 😂
@@i-dont-wash-money We can cope just fine, at least I can, but it kinda sucks when you want to be genuine and your looks already stop that from being taken as natural. If that makes sense. It's just disappointing, not really life-altering 😂
This probably just made every straight guy feel more confident lmao
yeah it's a real confidence booster
not me
you must be kidding
Lol
@Stephan Nieto you are spot on
I love your honesty. It's been painful being rejected and doubting my own power because of it. If a woman would have told me this decades ago, it would have saved me so much selfdoubt and mental pain it is unbelievable. Thank you.
Apparently it's easier to just reject and go playing the slots for the next guy that ticks more boxes, than help give a guy the confidence to be better.
@@Josith13because they are bad women, she made you a favor so you can't waste time with her
Well, still nothing changes after watching this. You can't read women's minds and if you try the wrong shit with the wrong one it will be "sexual harassment" and they will lock you up.
@@Josith13 It's exactly the same with money. Most women simply don't get the idea that you can build wealth together with a man; instead, they want the man to already have the wealth.
Women are hypergamous.@@OpenGL4ever
it's so funny that two or three years ago when I had a kinda like "IDGAF attitude", I was actually more successful with girls...then down the line I had my first rejection, then I just shut down after that and all my insecurities started to pop up, been shy and timid to this day(it was a brutal rejection tbh) and interacting with girls feels like a disaster waiting to happen...I genuinely miss the childish confidence I had, your demeanor makes a huge difference in attracting women I 100% agree...I would say it's more effective than your looks or status
Kinda difficult because I feel like society’s trying to push men away from this “power” she speaks of
The elites want that power for themselves, and they want ordinary men to relinquish it. They don't want strong, vigilant men; they want subservient consumers who don't pay any attention to what's going on around them. It's gotten to the point where there's no denying that there's a blatant agenda to feminize men, and the mainstream media is pushing it harder every day. Even public schools, colleges, and universities are pushing it now.
As a man who has always been running away from toxic masculinity (yes, it's a thing) , but to the point where I'm not sure I know what is 'masculine' anymore and how to express it,
: YES.
@@SpongeBath_ShitPants u paying attention😎👍🏽
@Wenander woah wait what the fuck?
True but that makes a man much more attractive because of it. When you become confident in your ability and yourself as a man, along with being unreactive to the things around you, you become a powerful force of nature. Women can sense that, thus they will come to you easier
I followed your advice and now I'm facing sexual harassment charges
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Really?
Bruh...
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As a straight woman, I can totally attest to this. To the guys who don't know what she is talking about, think of it this way, the feeling you get from "femininity" is a similar thing to feeling "masculinity". It is a feeling of a presence. A masculine presence. Little subtle things that men do, they don't know that it can really be a very "masculine" thing and it can drive straight girls wild by such small things. It is basically, masculinity, an "energy" around men, like how you would feel a presence from a female and her femininity, well men have their own version of it. It isn't metaphysical or mystical, or even a concept. It is a feeling of masculinity. You can't easily pinpoint it because of that, but it is totally real in the minds of straight women, and probably gay men too. It is easier to pick up this feeling on the sex you are attracted to, because that is what draws you in. Men don't realize their masculinity in this way, just as women don't feel their own femininity in the same way as a straight guy would see it. It's an attraction to the little and subtle ways men just... are.
Nice to see there are still women in 2021 who are attracted to masculinity and not beta males which are rampant nowadays.
@@TheR3negadeMaster beta simp thirsty males, the 2nd most abundant resource on the planet aside from water.
Okay but what does she/you mean by that? Are some men "too" masculine, not enough masculine or just not a good match with the girl in question?
@@maxforsman7102 Tough questions to answer.
I don't subscribe to the "alpha and beta males" thing, to me there is only what I find attractive in a man, which will be different for every female.
I don't see black and white when it comes to men. So, I don't categorise men into alpha and beta males. I don't like doing that, I respect all men.
It is kind of like crabs in a bucket thing, with "alpha and beta males", if you have heard of that story before, where the crabs will pull the other crabs down into the bucket if they see one that is nearer to getting free... that is what categorising males into "alpha" and "beta" feel like to me.
Pulling someone down to better yourself. No offence to anyone who likes the alpha and beta thing, I just don't.
I don't think that you can have a man that is "too masculine" or "not masculine enough". It is simply preference as to who we as women are attracted to. Like I said, it will be different for every woman. I personally think every man has this "attractive masculinity" to them, even if they feel they don't have it.
As to if a man is a good match for a woman, that is, for me, down to each other's personalities, not about how "masculine" a man is.
The most subtle of things all men do every day can be a huge turn on, it is a feeling that every man has, not just a select few, so don't worry about it. A man just feels masculine without even trying to. This feeling is always there. Just my opinion.
Well put! I would say that there is a key distinction in masculinity vs femininity: masculinity is very much attached to confidence. And confidence is a very deep part of a person. Femininity though, is related to delicacy, which is a completely effortless trait that some women are naturally endowed with. For example, thin hands and waist turn me on a lot, a low volume sweet voice, the way a woman moves and poses her arms and legs… If a woman has these traits, she has a lot of power, but she was just lucky. But for a man to have sexual power, he really has to work on himself. Because if a man has weakness, he can't hide it, it will eventually show, and it will turn the woman off immediately and crush his soul because he'll notice it. I think maybe that's how it should be, it drives me to wanna improve myself, so I'm not complaining. But the distinction is fascinating to me.
I enjoyed your perspective. I once met a female in front of a club. After some small talk we went around the back of club to smoke a joint. We kissed. She told me she was attracted because I had a beard. I ask what about my beard turned her on she said because I can't grow one. That was over 2 decades but her answers has stayed with me, it made an impact on me.
This woman speaks honest truth. About energy , about not giving a fck
Best profile pic ever. Baulder’s Gate is amazing
we need to resist our current society’s oppression of masculinity, and be ourselves godammit
Ohh puhlEASE
Who's opressing masculinity. Just be masculine.
Tru dat
@@ricardoramos4514 To be fair, shit tons of people are oppressing it, don't pull this card out. Terms like "toxic masculinity", "mansplaining" , "patriarchal" and loads more are constantly thrown around to shame, silence and belittle men, and cancel culture puts a sword of Damocles over the heads of many as a culture-wide drive for masculine conformity and feminization. Don't be ignorant.
@@TheAcad3mic bruh no one is feminizing anyone. Just go outside for a bit.
Hey algorithm bros. TH-cam is trying to tell us something.
The Universe is making me woke rn during quarantine
@@Jkpgs facts. Damn near more helpful than school
@@poptartjuulpods no. It is more helpful then school.
7:23: Happened to me with a coworker, she was attractive and me as other coworkers were obviously attracted to her, i never showed her any obvious signals but we talked a lot and joke a lot. one day she started kinda making fun of me and i got a little angry (actually angry)so i told her to stop.
She continued and i got up my chair and i kinda grabbed her shoulder and pushed her against the wall and said her to stop (not violently, but in a imperative way)boxing her between me and the wall. some months after we were dating and she became my girlfriend, she confessed me that push against the wall REALLY turned her on.
I figured that out about 15 years ago. Confidence and assertiveness “dominance” are the key. Add the slightest amount of affluence and it’s unbeatable.
You're smarter than me.
@@fendermon I learned it at 44... doubt I'm smarter. Horrible marriage and horrible sex life made me try to learn how to change that. And I did, and it's been unbelievably great to have that power. I try to share what helped me.
@@lifestream4191 Thanks man.That means a lot.
But if the person isnt physically attractive, he may as well just give up on it.
@@user-tq6fx7tl7e I disagree. If you're overweight, get on keto and exercise. You'll need the endurance to please a woman (and it's much easier than you think). If you're not what is traditionally considered OK, or nice looking, then you're dead wrong. You don't have to be nice looking, just clean, and confident, and appear to have ambition (working towards life goals). A few rules. Don't drink, ever... you have other ways to enjoy your time. Never validate (compliment) a female, they hear it all the time. I joke and tell women that they are nice looking, every bit of C+ (with a grin on my face). They typically slap my arm and say WHAT??? I say it's better than average! (chuckling). Women place a higher value on a man they have to work to get validation from... only give it in a backhanded joke. Next, have a meaningful conversation (investment, work goal, property you're interested in), with a guy where a woman you're interested in is nearby, preferably next to... and act like she's invisible, never look at her, you can see her in your peripheral vision and judge her interest. I promise, she will be interested in anyone who's talking about ambitious things. Bottom line, any guy can get women if the guy presents himself as having the characteristics that women desire, confidence, dominance, ambition.
It’s not everyday a woman would make a video like this simply being honest about what they feel but it’s actually being constructive. Very good.
Great instructive and edifying Videos Sister Thankyou For the Great Video im a Guy So i Highly Apreciate the info
It's not that men don't know how to do this, we just don't want to get arrested for it. The consequences outweigh the reward, you can thank our justice system for that.
not an easy line to walk, 100% agree
Good point. If the woman likes you, it's flirting. If she don't, it's sexual harassment, lol.
indeed.. the juice ain't worth the squeeze.. and as most of us know by now.. she is not yours, it's just your turn.
Exactly. The way society is structured discourages us to show masculine energy. We have a lot to lose if we do it.
That's exactly why I don't try talking to any female strangers. I have too many financial responsibilities to lose my career over something like that.
so what you're saying is men should behave in a way that will get them restraining orders (best case scenario). got it.
Anger has been labeled as a purely toxic/destructive emotion but it's often what people actually want to see from men. Constructive anger can be incredibly powerful and attractive.
wtf does constructive anger mean 😭
wat u rly mean is u want me to roleplay as ur father and spank u u fuckin freak weirdo
@@riechen when you finally get angry enough that you stop getting bullied or undervalued or manipulated in your work, or relationships, or life etc. and take action. It can help you overcome fear to take a positive action in your life to help yourself or to help others.
@@nightmoose Whenever that happens people just think the guy is crazy. Look at David Goggins, he is a master of this 'constructive anger' and lot's of people think he is unhinged. At the end of the day, only your opinion about yourself matters and others only benefit if the man is Godly in spirit.
@@nightmoose so using fuel and making a comeback story - which no woman gives a single fuck about. only men care because they relate with being a loser in life and they mentally masturbate with the idea of finally getting rich and winning
You can tell she loves us. Judging by the way she's playing with her hair alot. 😂😂 Nobody argue with me. I'm an expert
Lols
@@mynonleatherlife Great video. Most importantly. I learnt something new. It helps that you're also pretty so we believe you
@@IgnorantAnime even though she laughed at the end
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I can tell from hearing what she said 🤣🤣🤣 ... duhh
Most men have never heard a woman say anything like this, and they have no idea. This video is undoubtedly a transformative lesson for many, many men. Thank you for saying this.
Don’t know how to verify something like this, if only one person in the outside world tells me this. However…thank you for saying those things. It’s comforting. It’s helpful. It helps me move towards giving women an attractive man (myself). It helps me to achieve more and offer more positive things to the world and to women.
I would not have been able to figure this stuff out on my own. Just not realistically possible. Thank you for helping me to make it possible.
I appreciate you taking the time to be more ambitious, and describe everything about that topic as best you can.
Woman want a guy that can put on all faces. Not just one, be a provider, a warrior, a lover and a friend when the time calls for it.
aka they don't know what they want
Agreed
Wrong words my friend suits or masks would fit the bill other wise it sounds like two faced
Make sure to never show a modicum of vulnerability though or you will be treated like a subhuman
@@pant8081 always keep it real. Say no if you need to.
we must protect this woman at all costs.
I'm on it.
Copy commander.
I'll protect her 😏😝😅
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She must get Z+ security 😅
From my experience, I think women can really acutly sense when men are being insincere. And I don't mean insincere in a conniving way, but in how men will sometimes try to suppress aspects of their personality they think might not be proper or attractive. Or how men will try to force confidence. When men try to be "nice" or act in a way that is not natural, it just comes off as creepy and super fake... like they are hiding something.
The forced smile, the slightly extended eye contact (or glancing away), the hesitation and pauses... it all happens in milliseconds, but women seem to be super attuned to noticing it and it sets off alarm bells.
As a man its not easy to be yourself around someone you are attracted to. Every message society sends us these days tells us to "do better, be nicer, don't ignore women, but don't look at womem either. Be CONSTANTLY aware of offending others and suppress your negative emotions along with your positive emotions". The messaging says "you are inherently bad and you need to be someone else" . With that messaging it's hard not to be fake, the more you want to do better, the more manipulative you look... but in the end you are better off being yourself and just treating others how you would want to be treated.
Yes, we should all get to know Christ and become real christian human beings. Kingology and queenology.
What's wrong with eye contact? Everytime I look women in the eyes longer than what is the norm, they always seem to get attracted. Eye contact is good bro, most people look away. Nothing wrong with longer eye contact.
Nice advice you give
most men only hide from women who they want to have sex with but they think the girl is crazy. they hide their true self because they know this girl hates men and shes like a crazy feminist type, so they play the nice guy. a lot of simps and guys who just pretend to be nice or hide their true goofy self and play tough/nice guy, they only pretend because they are so scared of getting into an emotional thing with this crazy girl because women like that are literally hell, but they still want the coochie. but sometimes the coochie isn't even worth it, sometimes they dont even want coochie they just want any female around them. a lot of females nowadays really are mean and hateful to men so of course men have to act around them, it's to keep them safe. you can't even touch a girl without going to jail unless she really likes you, and you can only get on her good side by playing this safety act if she hates men. you can tell the girls that love men because they're always with men, and they never accuse them of sexual harrassment and stuff like that just for flirting with them
also most women kind of fall into the mainstream and men don't , so women have these really PC opinions and men are usually critical of the mainstream. when men get around women they have to hide their opinions because these hateful women will completely attack them for having a different opinion, and call them sexist for criticizing anything about women or their opinions. it's like the threshold not just for rejection but for outright hatred is really easy to cross. most guys do not want to deal with all that crazy shit, they just want some female energy around them cause it's what they naturally crave. women know this and use it to surround themselves with docile men who are hiding their true self. some men go so far as they lose their true self entirely because just that many women hate men, and so his biological instinct is to do what he thinks attracts women. more women need to stop the hate because men really love women I think.
Many women know this and they do things to make us angry just to spice things up and gain pleasure from these situations, others overdo it and exploit this power leading up to toxic relationships and ending to a break up....excellent video.
This is something new.. 👍🏻