Young Bae Faces Her Abusive Dad For The First Time | Black Ink Crew
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- Bae finally faces her father years after fleeing Korea and tries to get answers for why he treated her and her family so violently, leading to an emotional blow out. If you or someone you know has experienced domestic violence, help is available. Head to gethelp.vh1.com for more resources.
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Jordy Lunkhead Verrill u got receipts??
such a poor excuse for a dad.
You guys should be ashamed for even allowing this to take place for views or whatever it is you do this is way personal
@Dionta Williams if not then go read what others viewers think, would you put something so private on national TV for views likes or money it is what it is shameful
If you’ve never been abused physically and sexually by your father 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭dammmm it’s so painful
Why do I get the feeling that if the camera crew was not there, he would have beat her up again
Right
he was so defensive even when the security guards tried to get close to him, thankfully they were not alone together
He definitely would have if he had a chance. People like him don’t deserve to have children.
I mean she’s the one who started being aggressive.
@@criss3266 lol she started throwing things and approaching him aggressively yet you’re blaming him?
The “say you’re sorry” broke my heart
fr
Same.
ikr he supposed to know better. Its sad that she had to say what she wanna hear
I cried during that part and the rest of the screaming. You can hear all the agony she had held inside for all those years and she finally reached the breaking point . I’m proud of her for finally being able to find the strength to stand up for herself and those he hurt as well .
I was crying with her 🥺
The fact that her father can just sit down and smile whilst she’s screaming in pain tells us everything. He doesn’t regret it, not even a little bit
I agree, he shows no remorse!
I agree, but i also think he partly disassociated with him and the actions he did. not saying this as an excuse for the Terrible things he did, but his realiy is being challanged
@the cool nice guy🎩 do you want that much attention? lol
@the cool nice guy🎩 wow edgelords are still a thing? Who knew
@the cool nice guy🎩 you are sick in the head idk If you are mentally ill or your momma left when you were young but you need help ❤️
"He fucked Up 3 lives and he got nothing to say“. I FELT THAT 💔
I can definitely relate to this. A**holes like him. Abusive parents like him are the worst beings. My sp*rm donor was the worst and I hate him very much that I wish sometimes he suffers like my family and I did.
Same.
That comment triggered me bc I have 3 sisters and I am Asian too. I felt that and I don’t judge and nobody else should. Abuse is fucking death but a slow kill over the years to your soul. I have to stop crying now and I need a break from the phone. Just hearing that line is emotionally taxing; now imagine living it. Don’t judge us. Empathy.
@@ritujag i have two sisters but same
I felt for her
That is not a woman being dramatic, that’s her inner child screaming when she wasn’t allowed to while she was being abused
Exactly
Who in the world would say the woman was being dramatic? She clearly isn't.
@@rodanthefiredemon3016 some people still saying that
well hope no one said she was being dramatic
The violence we adjust to as a child is like taking a vase and breaking it. Eventually we get the pieces in the right places and "fix" it. The cracks in the vase are the memories. Even though we look whole, the cracks are still there. People will compliment you are your beautiful and unique vase, but we only see the cracks because every time we see the crack it triggers a memory of something that happened.
she's screaming for all the times she couldn't. it's good to let it out.
Trust me i know that feeling
Definitely 😤
So trueee
You don't know stop using her trauma for likes you mosnster
Michael O'neill actually it can help to finally one day stand in front of the person who abused you and hurt you and scream at them and tell them everything they never would let you say and this is coming from my own personal experience
The way he shouts "let go of me" to the producers shows his true colors
Exactly, he never even apologized..then showed aggression as if he's the victim. It's sickening!
You could hear a police siren coming for him when he was walking out the cafe
@@FactStormThat’s DARVO for you.
How let him go tf
@@ajax4801 they werent even touching him he barely got touched
Her pain is so RAW. I hope she heals, no one deserves to go through that.
@Tech some of you really need to stop bringing 'women this' 'men that' into everything. You dont even know if thats a woman. Just talk directly to the person you're replying to. No need to bring generalizations and stereotypes or whatever into everything. Also, how are you so sure its scripted? (im not saying i 100% believe this is real but still, it could be)
@Tech Take your meds
The chance to scream the truth at his face helps the healing. She'll feel the relief later.
@Tech you just doesnt have heart stfu
The fact that she was yelling at him and crying but the dad looks like he doesn’t care
BROOO HE WAS SMILING TOO
I felt like he didn't care and he lied to her and i feel bad she really wants an apology and he didn't give her that
Sounds like my mom.
Fr shameless creature 🤮🤢
I think he cared deep down and knew what he did was cruel, bc I can sort of tell by how he was getting emotional by yelling at the camera crew and crying a little. But people like him don’t want to show it. I was never physically abused like her but my dad acts the same. He knows he’s made mistakes but I’ve never heard him apologize and he’s never showed a feeling of sadness. I mean he also genuinely thinks he’s right for how he acts so
I hate how he is smiling when she’s telling him the stuff he did to them. He’s evil and he’s proud of hurting them...
Ik I saw him smiling😭 he should be ASHAMED of himself
yes and no i smile and laugh in the worst situations i cant help it but i trully so feel bad and sorry
Thats not completely true tho ppl tend to smile/laugh when there in a situation where they dont know how to react. I remember when I got scolded by a teacher I kept smiling for no reason
@@doomnatic8837 fr then i get in more trouble
@@jordyn9407 wdym
4:16 the translation is wrong.
she didn't say fever. she said bleeding downwards from stomach.
those two words sound similar but thats what she said. he kicked her intestines so hard that it bled out
damn. that’s fvcked
We need this comment to get popular so people can know
@@ZeyTheGamer09 Lmao I didnt know people are still watching this video, thank god I wrote this comment
@@booooostaaaaa-h5j yea, thank you for clarifying
Every shrill scream was her as a child screaming during the abuse. My heart breaks.
Nah there’s nothing over exaggerated about how she reacted. That’s trauma coming out.
True.
I felt that. Poor baby. I hope she eventually heals from this.
I can totally understand this. My parents feel like they raised me the best they could but I have to repress so much trauma. When I try to talk about it I cant I just uncontrollably cry. So I just forgive them and move on and try to build a new relationship with them. Because I know its not their fault its how they were brought up and it was stressful raising a weird kid that got bullied in school. No one gives parents a book on how to handle depressed kids. And nobody tells you what to do with your anger issues. You have to accept you have a problem in order to find solutions and my parents just never knew or admitted it themselves. But im okay now.. for the most part.
YUP
Yes
she is so incredibly strong. she should be so proud of herself.
Period
I know I would be tough to and tell the truth 😉
periodt
No she is not
Periodt
I have never watched this show but saw this pop up on my feed and watched in pure tears. You can immediately understand the amount of trauma she has experienced. Absolutely heartbreaking
Broke my heart
yes and I completely believe her he is so wrong for that how could you do that to your own children
Even if her father will not validate her feelings at least we have all seen and heard her truth I hope she reads some of these comments and feels heard, that’s all she wanted was to feel heard
I started FUCKING crying. Like, my inner child cried with her.
What's even more fucked up is that after watching this, I might be like
...."Oh, she should just forgive him and let go." And that terrifies me because I don't want to be someone that minimizes people's problems.
Same, I cried as well and tbh, it’s normal for you to automatically think “I should forgive this person” because that’s something called sympathy, something that some people (like her father) do not have. But one must analyze those thoughts more deeply and take into consideration the abusee’s situation, like imagine being in their shoes, being tortured for years on end and you meet him and he shows no remorse? It’s easy to feel bad for him as you only know him from this clip. And that’s why you should not feel bad, even if it hurts you
forgiveness is for the person to heal not for the abuser so its actually a good thing to forgive but that doesnt mean you should keep contact with the abuser! let him go and forgive and heal yourself but its hard
@@sarabernard9475well said 🙏
Forgiveness is for the victim's sake, not the abuser, hate, revenge, anger, prevent you from moving on with your life and focus on the good, forgiveness set yourself free from what was done to you. She will never heal if she waits for apologies and explanation, he will probably never give that to her and she is left with more pain after this meeting. Healing is the best revenge because you didn't let that person break you and poison your mind, This is what an abuser wants, to broke you and make you miserable.
This is easier said than done, but once she had grieved that father and everything she expected of him, she will feel better.
Forgiveness has so many different levels. I think there’s multiple times of forgiveness and I think it’s beneficial for her to give herself that forgiveness first. Nothing that happened while she was young in regards to him treat her badly was her fault.
Poor baby. ); She turned into that same little girl as soon as he walked in.
Amarra not to mention every time she tries to confront him he makes up an excuse. He has not realized his actions and what he has done to his daughter and he needs to get out. As a chinese kid I’ve seen some nasty stuff with parents and children. This guy will not change.
right i can see it, its so sad
Amarra she couldn’t even look at him💔
Amarra , i saw the tears in her eyes 🥺
You could tell that she was getting scared when he walk in
Not everyone deserves a second chance.
I think everyone does. But only when they know how terrible and evil they were and they are truly sorry and they make a change. They can’t go back to their old ways, that’s when I’d give them a second chance because I know it’s possible for them to do that. But him, he is obviously a bad father and if he doesn’t admit that he’s sorry and that he broke his daughters, he better run
i will eat your kids what? Humans are all terrible beings but all of us have good inside. I will not go on believing that when someone does something terrible, they will remain terrible forever. I want to believe that they will make a change. Now I’m not saying if that dad does change, she should straight away forgive him. That would be something close to impossible. But I believe he should try
@@chrizztopherbang i'm abused by my dad, he chocked me and gave me rashes on my arms and spits on me. he slaps my sister countless times. he even threatens to kill my sister, he spits at my mom and sometimes hits her. my mom and dad where fighting outside of our house and the police got involved. he still hasn't changed. he doesn't let my mom leave the house. he chased my mom and fought her infront of his own mom while we were on holiday. he hit me in my his car while picking me up from school. you have to understand that there are people that change their ways, and people that don't change. you can have your opinions, but for me i'm definitely not giving him a second chance.
@@mysseraefim7852 you know what. Looking back to what I said, I feel like so much has changed and I think it’s amazing when people go from bad to good but even then, I completely understand why people won’t give them a second chance and I understand why. I think when I wrote that before, I was thinking on what might be overall better but truth is, it’s a whole lot better to just get away from them. I know if I ever had a father that abused me, I would just want to leave him and never look back, and doing that would be the best option. I’m sorry for what your dad does and I’m sorry for my comment, young me was just learning about how terrible it really is
@@mysseraefim7852 saying this, I do still think people believe second chances but there is nothing wrong with not wanting to give it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting them to leave you be, because I bet it would feel like hell for someone to give their abusive father a second chance and not mean it. So I only believe people deserve second chances but sometimes, in different places
She isnt crazy. Her inner child is broken and cannot be healed. She has very right to scream and yell at her father, the amount trauma she has gotten is insane. This world is truly cruel, many children probably go through the same thing.
His smirk… says it all
you can hear the years of pain in her voice,, and the dad doesn’t even show any sympathy but is rather giving excuses. disgusting.
nah you can tell he regrets he's just very embrassed. just like he should be
Ima Ho
yea but he still did a bad thing even though he regrets it the pain and the memories will still be there
In the abusers head everything they did was right which is why I hate people like that
joyult you can
I feel bad for her she shouldn’t have to deal with this
She isn’t overreacting, the little girl is coming out of her again...
THANK YOU !!!
Yasss
Yep
5th reply
How she feel hurt but you wouldn't know because you wasn't in her situation and you don't know how that could have impacted her life she is just simply hurt
That's NOT a woman being dramatic. That's her lil kid inside her trying to protect her.
No for real. I learned in therapy that myself from the age range of around 7-12 became the “protector”. To this day, sometimes, I still let that little kid come out when I shut off due to ptsd. That kid is still trapped in there, fears and all, because they never for closure…
"Beating us for smiling, beating us for crying..."
That really hit me so hard because I always had to hold in my emotions so yk YOUNG BAE HAS EVERY SINGLE RIGHT TO YELL AT HIM. Pour her emotion out because she couldn't before.
@leannelynes6780 6:43! :)
"He's not gonna do this to me"
"Say you're sorry"
My heart hurts so much.
less whoreable I almost cried at that part🤧
@@Isthatdejean I started bawling. Poor ma.
He's definitely a narcissist. I know this behavior so well
j mula
It’s not
@j mula if it was staged why would they go through all this trouble to throw a translator to help translate and have a meeting at a designated place at night
Cause the guy could of been working at a job during the day hours and just got off of work because he's not in retirement yet and then they were able to meet at night
Her reactions were real
His too
Because when he lied to her
He provoked her to react the way she did
Besides staged things don't consider having non stage things making people cry just when someone who has hurt the enters the room and hasn't even sat down yet or spoken
Its mostly after they spoke
And she was wiping away her tears
Also her body language says it all the way she restlessly moves the was shes just tired of it all
Tired of the lies
She can’t even look at him in the eyes. So sorry for her
it is a thing in many Asian..and Native Americans...we can not look at a man till he acknowledges us.
moonlight right💔
“SAY YOU’RE SORRY!!!” Actually sent a chill down my back, because that resonates with me completely. Only survivors like us can truly understand the utter despair of knowing that someone is walking around out there, someone who destroyed us, and will never even say sorry.
Being a victim of abuse, this is extremely triggering to me because I know how she feels. I know what it’s like to have someone minimize, deny, lie and blame the victim. No one should be put through that abuse and made to relive it by being in contact with the abuser, just like a parent should never lose a child, though it all still happens, and it’s heartbreaking. This is why we can’t look to external sources for healing. We must go within to cultivate our Knowing, and NOBODY can ever touch that.
I hope u do well now wish yall the best
I'm sorry for what you've been thru. Please talk to us here anytime, and thanks for sharing. Take care.
The fact that he smirks like 5 times when she’s screaming and crying disgusts me
Leilani culturally I think the smiles are a way to mask what he may be really feeling, remorse, pain, shame....
He probably thinks she is crazy but that's what he did to her he did this to all of her family.
He more than likely isn't smiling because he is enjoying it. He is probably smiling for the same reason I do. When faced with confrontation I smile and laugh like its weird but I feel guilty and wanna avoid it so he is smiling not for pleasure but more than likely for the remorse and the confrontation he is facing with his actions.
IKR! It made me cringe each time! It was just disgusting to see. It's sad some people cannot change.. :(
it’s an asian thing it’s really hard to explain or understand but my korean parnets do the same in situations like this
You can’t tell this isn’t an act. He intimidates her and his soul is ugly. You can see it when he walked in.
I was just about to say that. He walked up in there with mad arrogance.
“His soul is ugly” that’s a very bald statement. I don’t think you are capable of reading people’s souls Taylor.
Adalat q For someone who beat his children and wife his soul is ugly for sure.
@@cryurheartzout6681 he didnt do it. Young is lying. Her mom and sister are both ashamed of what she does on this show.
@@kitanacalderon4275 he walked up like a person with zero acting experience that was too busy thinking about his lines for the scene. Show is scripted and fake. Multiple takes etc. Back story for Young is fake. So many lies and she keeps digging her hole.
The father is the literal definition of narcissistic evil. The fact that he’s acting like he did nothing wrong and that his wife and daughters are ungrateful and delusional. Basically he all like “sorry I didn’t had the knowledge needed to be a good person so I decided the best way to raise you is by abusing you” disgusting! I hope Young Bae is okay and will never have to deal with something this traumatizing ever again.
She has every right to act this way. I feel so bad for her :(
*”Beating us for smiling”*
*”Beating us for crying”*
*”And then we cried from the beating, you said you would kill us”*
justice Q5 ' fym?
The last one I can relate to but my parents love me
Beating us for smiling? Nah ur parents ain't like u period thats evil
:(
Keirin Snow I got slapped for not smiling from my grandma 💀 but that dad is more toxic than mine
She’s not crazy. She’s hurt and traumatized and a tiny piece of her will probably always be broken
She needs to work through this with a therapist, I think, or it won't be a tiny piece of her that remains broken.
Always and it is disgusting that the father was meant to love and take care of her but no he BEAT her im disgusted it hurts me aswell i can feel her pain and i hate how she went through that
@Cupcake LOve My father was abusive as well. I'm telling you, the only way to break the cycle is to deal with the anger, work with a counselor, write it out, find a way to stop being angry.
@@lilbertsmom3561 u would know a therapist wouldn’t help if u have been threw this or is going threw.
@@ieatlino They help as much as you're willing to do the work necessary. If you're not willing, then nothing will help.
As a grown woman with abusive parents that I haven't seen in a multitude of years, this reaction entirely makes sense and is justified.
I cried I'm Asian from vietnam and my dad is exactly like this when I say exactly I mean EXACTLY
The fact my dad looks the same and the same age as hers I'm only 12
I am so sorry that must have been very hard
im so sorry i'm always here to talk if you need to
she was screaming to make up all of the times she was kept quiet. she’s such a strong individual fr.
Marielle Junel Lakindanum soo true 😭❤️
That’s what I was saying. My sister was clowning her for screaming so much but she really had mad pent up frustration that she wasn’t able to release way back when
But why do something so traumatic. I hope she could heal after all this torture.
Respect your fathers
Warsame Rashid Respect your children too that father deserves NO RESPECT
she looks badass but you can tell as he walked in she couldn’t even look at him, that is just sad, making excuses is stupid, you can tell she was actually hurt when she was crying ;(
Ik he was abusive but he couldn’t even talk about her.
@Apex stop that's really serious
@Apex shes screaming because all the pain she had in her she had to scream for what he had done
@Apex it aint funny at all not trying to be rude
Apex that’s not even funny stfu
The fact that she was kinda like scared to look at him when he first walked in says a whole lot… the amount of damage he’s done can never be fixed
My dad did the exact same thing. And it was worse because my mom had no money because my dad literally controlled our lives. But if I were to speak to him again. I would definitely vomit.
❤❤❤
My heart goes out to you ❤️ I hope you’re doing okay and things get better for you.
Sorry
ugh,he is so manipulative acting like he didn’t mean it and asking if she still hates him and feeling bad for himself. Disgusting.
Hehe ItzMaya he only asks if she still hates him bc he wants her to say no so he doesn’t realize his own guilt
my dad is the same. liar. I can't tell him or call him out because of his ego. he blames me for everything and doesn't want to listen. it's exhausting
Indeed he’s narcissistic. They can’t stand having to apologize, even if they know that they’re wrong
Callista Chan No it’s just how asian culture is. They call physical, mental , and emotional abuse “Discipline” . All because he gave her a home and food doesn’t mean she has to like him. She has a right to hate him for putting her through that for years.
fka twigs is the queen of england omg my dad is the same
Honestly that screaming was not her being extra or anything like that she needed to get that out...I’m proud of her that she even had the ability to confront him what a strong woman
I was thinking the same thing I think screaming it out was much needed. All that pain she has inside, that anger. It breaks my heart. I know she wants to hear that apology.
She was screaming for all the times she couldn’t.
Exactly! Her screaming was all her pain, fear, frustration, and anger. I could really feel it. She is so strong to even confront her father like this. I wish her the best.
Imani Plant lmfao
What lmfao? What’s funny?
this poor girl. She went through way too much. Her screaming and throwing things is honestly the only way she can express how she's really feeling. She's reacting normally in these circumstances. She's never gonna recover from what she had to go through as a kid.
She's so incredibly brave for letting such a vulnerable moment of her life be shown to the public. It really does make a difference though. Exposing these vulnerable moments is what really shows the true impacts of this issue. It really hurts to watch and seeing him invalidate all her feelings and trying to justify is actions is so wrong.
I started crying when she was yelling. You can hear her pain.
Ikr😭😭😭
Ethiopian-zen same :(
Sarah D'amelio that’s a laughing emoji idc what anybody says.
Zuleimy Silva lol big mood
Same
When she said "Say you're sorry" I wanted to hug her so bad
I know, It broke my heart I dunno how no one hugged her I woulda hugged her and cried together poor thing😭
same. that rlly hurt
I love your profile
@@jadetoysforlife2146 Ty ^^
Right!! I felt that one
Those wails and shrieks of hers made me cry. I can just feel her pain. I hope she can get to forgiveness for herself’s sake because that pain is just so deep and rooted it’s literally the only thing that heals it. I’m so late to this video so I wonder the outcome of their relationship.
I had a very similar experience too when I was young. My father sexually abused me. I did the same thing as she did, screaming in front of my dad trying to fight for justice but it didn't worked out well because my father is a fake person. Just like her father. My goal now is to be independent, find a job and live by myself away from him and my mum. I belive in next life, God will help us fight for justice and what we what.
I’m so sorry. I hope you can cope with this trauma
But you are a guy? and you were abused sexually by your father?
I hope everything works out for you dude, you’re not alone
We're in a similar situation, and I understand your goals. I hope the best for you to achieve them. Sometimes, it feels like you aren't going or moving anywhere, but every day you live, it's a sign you still have strength-the strength to at least try until you get in that content setting in your life. Just as you may have learned, I learned that closure would be nice but it isn't the important part of healing or recovering from what happened. Again, I hope you are able to accelerate up the hill.
Let's all repent so we can go to Heaven, there there will be no pain or sorrow. Everyone will be your brother and sister living in peace. Let's all turn to Jesus who died for us.
When she yells “say you’re sorry” I literally started to cry. She can’t wrap her head around his poor excuses for beating her. All her screams were of trauma. Screams that you can’t faked. I hope she knows how strong she is for even showing up to that meeting with him.
I started crying too. Especially when she started sobbing. That made me so fucking sad
Dammm
Dasasopiram people who shows their crying emotion is not weak but they are the strongest !
The worse part was that when he was leaving she still didn't want him to leave, she was clearly scared of him leaving forever and never saying sorry, like she was still waiting for him to say it :(
I also started crying, i actually went through something like this, when i was young i was severely abused, finally it was found out by the time i was fourteen, barely 3 years ago (i was 21) i was able to drive by andstop by the same house where i lived my worst years, i cried a lot, the house now abandoned, held in all the years i spent in a horrible hell of beatings and sexual harassment and starvation, and that day i felt strong enough to stop, and cry all i wanted to...and after, after i fel better, relieved, no longer afraid
Why is he crying? He’s acting like he didn’t beat her for a living.
ASMR Time Stamps fr.
Guilt or attention.
Embarrassment. Regret?
Maybe seeing how he messed up? I'm probably wrong
@@solxatt If he truly regretted it he would have apologised
This one of the first times I can't watch a video all the way through. I've seen some horrible stuff in my life but this broke me. The way she's screaming i can feel that rage and grief burning inside her chest. My father never hit me but he abandoned me and outright rejected me as his daughter and there are times when all I want is an apology. I wish I could turn back time and heal her. She doesn't deserve to feel that kind of pain. That man is pathetic and sick. Some people should not be allowed to be parents
Amen
@@Seraphim7 My husband’s parents were highly religious, had 12 children, and abused every single one of them all in gods name. 🤮
she isnt being dramatic its her inner childing screaming yelling and crying when she couldnt
@Zender Man bros calm down Fr this person was physically and mentally abused
@Zender Man bros tf
The way she cried before he Sat down let me know how real this is that man put her through hell. Omg im in tears for bae
Me too girll😭
Same!!! It's so fucked up!!!!!
Capricorn Queen ♕ Me too especially when she started screaming 😭😭that’s real pain😢
@@mzTayTay17 FACTS!!!!
Yup you know it's real those type of cries. It's real. That deep cry
When he walked into the room...you can just tell there's something off about him.
i know. he walked in and sat down smiling. that didn’t sit with me right.
ikr *disgusting*
Uhhhh yes
It's beyond me why he was smiling about it.
He seemed smug almost
this breaks my heart. she has every right to scream at him
She attempts to physically assault him. She was probably the aggressor the whole time. My sister is just like her and abuses my parents and yells at them despite them doing nothing but support her. I had to move out early because of her because she tried to stab me, because I disagreed with her political views.
@@gaiseric9518 What about her Mom and her Sister? They also left because of the Father’s abuse.
Do you think they would lie and fake all of those stuffs.
@@gaiseric9518 Her and her family is not like yours, she’s the one getting abused and not the abuser. How would you feel if your family abused you for all of your childhood. Her father lied straight to her face saying that he wanted to take care of the family while he was beating them, he didn’t even apologize which is the thing she wanted so her reacting like that was reasonable and i think that wasn’t even enough.
@@gaiseric9518 The father was also the ONE that wanted to talk to her, him coming in and blatantly lie about the things he did was not it.
@@gaiseric9518 Her acting aggressive was her rage, her trauma building up from all the way up to her childhood. If your family got abused by your sister for many years i think you would have had trauma also.
I really hope the producers didn’t push this on her because sometimes facing your abuser doesn’t always help
She's reacting the way she has wanted to react while going through abuse. People with this type of trauma were forced to be silent. And when the bubble bursts, it
bursts.
Absolutely
Yes and especially because she was a small child and couldn't do anything all those years to protect herself. Now she's an adult and he can't hurt her anymore it's coming out
That’s what happened to me, it’s disgusting
yeah. abusing your abuser should be normalized. it sucks that society sets that standard on men AND women being silent when it comes to being verbally/mentally/sexually/physically abused.
@@888.veronicaa The truth is, while our abusers have caused us trauma, its now our duty to ourselves to heal and find peace. You will never get that from the same environments or person that broke you in the first place. I do not want to be hateful, but I shall not become what they did to me. Bless to everyone going through it, I know its difficult, but we all deserve better!!!
She doesn't even want to look at him ,this was hard to watch.
Hey 👋🏼 I just like like this o
Dave Daniels he clearly wont, he was just smirking and she is still emotionally damaged from the pain he put her through, I don’t think those go away, she might heal from it but I wouldn’t say both will necessarily come to terms with what happened to her, it’s hard to overcome that, they for sure won’t come to terms with it together anyway, glad he isn’t in her life now
It’s like you can hear Bae as a child while she screaming, yelling, begging for an answer and apology. Trauma is a serious thing.
she has every right to scream like that. i felt that.
I don't even know who this woman is and I'm crying real tears for her. This is heartbreaking.
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I feel her pain 😭😭
I am literally crying 😢
Me tooo I’m really sorry for here
i was crying the thing she said in korean it hurted but i smilled when she attacked him!
get her bae!!
I broke down with her when she yelled “say you’re sorry” I can relate to her 100%. Poor baby.
I do cry now
Because I can understand her... I Just want hear a sorry from my Dad..
My Mom and I did Run away from my Dad too because He did Beat me uo too because I did Always Protect my Mom when He did treat her Like a Slave and abused her mentally...
My Dad did also abused me mentally...everyday I woke Up He Said:" I hate you , " and than He did punched me...
-Pancake- I hope that you are ok and this is on your dad for not seeing what a good , beautiful person you are I pray for you and your mom I’m really sorry u had to go through this....
-Pancake- I’m so sorry you went through that I hope that didn’t change how you see men. You’re beautiful no matter what. I hope someday you find inner peace with no anger in your heart. My brother used to really beat me. Him & his friend even raped me. He passed away a day after I asked him why he hated me so much. He replied with “I’ll talk to you about that soon.” 2am hit & he was found shot & dead in his own car.
I felt this so deep it hurt me I cried to 🥺
I tell them to say sorry, but they always deny that they did something wrong and say they’re the bosses and can do whatever they want
I feel super bad for her. She was just a little innocent child and her dad beat her and her sister because he didn't know how to treat them? Then, he plays innocent and calls HER crazy? There is seriously something wrong with him. There's absolutely nothing wrong with her, her mother, or her sister. It's super heartbreaking. 💔
You can see his true nature appearing at 5:40. That's terrifying
His outburst there triggered me a lot. I see that desperate face a lot in my own father. Last time I saw it was when I grew stronger from manual labor work, and returned home and he couldn't beat me anymore.
y’all don’t understand how painful it is when ur abuser denies your abuse
Frrr
True it's so painful it's worst
i feel for her a lot.
Frfr
@Mastnaer Ceef completely understandable I’m so close to doing the same I can’t handle liars
She is screaming for an entire generation of children abused by their fathers including me. I am screaming with her. This is triggering but I am glad she stood up him. I have not seen mine in years. Also he is showing a nervous laugh, not an actual laugh. Nervous laughing is a reaction of stress.
Jean Funk as a south asian, we feel we are trapped. our parents always play victim
aleeza ༻ ̈*:·.
I’m not asian, but on behalf of us Latino kids that get abused, we stand with you guys.
I haven’t seen mine 5 years and I’m very glad about it🙏🏻
aleeza ༻ ̈*:·. As someone who has origins from the Middle East, I feel you. The victim mentality is so overwhelming
Fair_Bear
We’re talking on behalf of multiple cultures that brainwash their children into thinking abuse is discipline. We don’t mean to say we have it worse than other ethnicities.
He's not a father, he's a sadistic monster. My heart breaks for her & her family and she is incredibly strong for trying to get answers from hin let alone be in the same room as him
As someone who's cried like this, trust me, she needed it.
agreed
Right
@@beanhead7632 did we ask
@@rain-yo2mx are you pressed?
@@beanhead7632 no it’s just no one asked. Don’t be sharing yours and your parents personal stuff like that
Man that scream tells 1000 stories. That’s right Bae get it out.
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@gar
She had me crying with that scream
@@Yourgirljuewell i feel for Bae, she needed answers
Wendy Codner Man I feel her pain I couldn’t even go there I may have not come back
Wendy Codner same I felt her pain
All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids.
that women had every right to be angry she has the courage to speak to him all these years what a strong wonderful women
When she was screaming, it wasn’t dramatic it was pain. She let out everything she couldn’t back then. I started crying cause she never had someone that was a good father.
@Aanya SHARMA Hey you! I have been in the same situation! Like when you scared someone gonna get hurt because of him, like you scared when you come back from school only because of him, being scared around him and everything, I know how that feels. I lived in that fear as well, and let me tell you, if you feel like that dont ever think of it as "normal", or you just a "different family". It surely isnt normal and you deserve better.
@Aanya SHARMA "i was angry with my real dad for leaving me alone when i was four... "
That's not your real dad. I know you mean biological dad, but 'real dad' is too nice to describe your biological father. That ain't no father if he's not being one :/.
Why u stole this comment
My father never paid attention to me and didn't hate me but just didn't care about me.
And that's how I got daddy problems
i think it’s nice that people are sharing their stories and people are comforting others. this thread of reply’s is nice
She couldn’t even look at him, it’s heartbreaking how parents can mentally & physically abuse their kids and feel no remorse💔
keira brianaa I think he is hurting he just doesn’t know how to cope
Erika Norman that’s no excuse to best your family..... there’s nothing that you could’ve gone through to give you excuses to put your hands on your kids...
Hannah Laperche that’s true but just because it’s not the right thing to do, doesn’t mean that no one will do it. Some ppl choose the wrong way to cope with things, sadly. I hope she one day finds happiness
It truly is since I used to have a stepfather who mentally abused me. It's hard becuase you put your trust on the one person who's supposed to love and care for not to hurt you and break your sanity. I now have to deal with depression thanks to my former stepfather. I need to be drinking pills now thanks to him. It really those hurt alot especially seeing her be so brave to confront her abuser. I give her my full respect for that. It gives me a bit of strength and let's me know that I'm not alone in this problem.
@@tir_.ed_liah8752 I hope you are safe now? I hope the same for your sister. I think it shows you are a good person that you feel bad for not protecting her. But I do not think it is your fault, or that it is your responsibility for your dad not to abuse her. His actions are out of your control. You are (probably) just a kid, and even if you are grown, you were raised around abuse. How could anyone not understand that you are just trying to keep yourself safe. It is not crazy to want to keep yourself safe. I hope you will be safe from your father and I hope the samen for your sister
all she wanted was a sorry from him.. and he couldn’t even give her that.. man my heart goes out to get and her mom and sister
This show really proves how strong woman are.
May god bless her.
He still didn’t even say he was sorry just making excuses for the things he did to them like it didn’t happen
He said what he was told to say in the script. This show is fake and so is Young's backstory.
Non Believer if what happened to youngbae was fake give her an oscar
@@nonbeliever510 hmm, you're name checks out so pls leave the yt ground if you gon to spread false info idiot
@@nonbeliever510 why you in every comment section saying things fake💀 it dont matter if you believe it or not, if you dont know for f*cking sure keep it to your self💀 damn
Z pOtAtO Because he’s a narcissist. He refuses to take the blame. My dad is the same way. And I can never do what she’s doing cause the only reason I’d talk to him like this would be time blame him and not accepting him back in my life. So it doesn’t work for me.
I recognize the sound of that sobbing. As a child of an abusive parent, those feelings come up like you want to throw up. Anger, confusion, and self-disgust for still seeking love and answers from that parent.
Same, when I cry after my dad throws a tantrum or starts verbally abusing me, I sound exactly like this
@@orionsoutro1794 sending you a very big hug because my dad is the same way. I hope that you protect your peace, sis! Here for you❤
Exactly. I cried the exact same way she did when my narc mother was verbally and emotionally abusing me in private. I cried in public yet no one understood why. I kept all the emotions bottled up inside for it to burst out.
@@katherineraquelle1930 it's such an overwhelming and uncontrollable feeling. I don't wish it on anyone! Hope you are in a good and safe space now❤
@@XOXODANiE I've had multiple public emotional breakdowns mainly in school due to my narc mother's abuse before stepping foot on my campus. I had a fellow classmate and professor think I got in a car accident... It's soul rehab. I have days where I get depressed or traumatized. Its especially hard when some people close to you tell you to "JUST GET OVER IT". This type of abuse is something else. Stays in your subconscious and you never forget it. Thank you love. I have gone no contact with my toxic, abusive family and slowly getting my life together. Everything I lost during my chaotic, insane personal life i am now slowly getting back. I'm also now watching karma unfold on them while I get blessed.
She’s so brave for even able to face and look at the abusive man let alone confronting him. My father is the exact same abusive man and I would never be able to face him like she did. ❤
Narcissist father. I send love and light to this girl. Also being a Korean and having a father and a mother who had tried to suck my energy all my life (but they don't realize they do), I decided not to talk to them and I feel peace. I just want to say to this girl, please detach from your father and your past, find your inner peace first because you deserve love and happiness. It might take years but do it for your own sake. 힘내세요 응원합니다. ❤️❤️❤️
Just remember she not the only one, most of younger asian generation suffer the same as her because our parents are heartless at it best.
The fact that he doesn't look guilty at all disgust me to the fullest...
malefiquegirl BXTCH and that smirk 🤢 it’s as if he finds this funny
I know right... He evil af
At the start he seemed a but genuine then it just got fake
He never apologized to her for all the horrible things he done to her. Yeah it must been stressful having to provide for a family.
But it's no reason for justifying all the horrible things he did to his family.
@@kellimay1959 I felt a slight bit bad bc he was nervously laughing showing stress but what he did truly was horrible u can't believe he wouldn't say sorry
You can hear the pain in her screams. She goes back to those moments. Child abuse RUINS people. 🥺
Screaming "We are hurt, we are fucking BROKEN". That hits me to the core.
@@ShutDFckOff yes it severe pain
Salsa Papi too true
Yes, yes, and YES!
Her statements really hit me. I honestly started tearing up.
This breaks my heart to pieces…she had to deal with this for so long and she finally was able show her feelings in front of her father. She’s so strong.
My baby. She and no one in his family or in this world deserves to be abused. She’s so brave. And should be proud.
HE WAS SMILING THAT MAKES ME SO MAD, HE REALLT THOUGHT IT WAS “FUNNY”
I know that smile. It doesn't mean he thinks it's funny. It means he wants to come for her later. It's an evil smile. It's the camera crew that is stopping him from touching her again.
@@Nora-0.0 that makes a lot more sense
@Nora C I think it can also often be an unconscious external cover up for deep felt shame, being uncomfortable with vulnerability or being called out. It’s like a cover up of showing true feelings/fear, it’s ‘protection’.
He’s not thinking it’s fun abusive people do that to make fun of you and it’s like a signal to say :if I had a chance I beat you up unfortunately I know because my father was abusive and keep Make fun of me make me crying ecc
@@sbelle-oh6dq pooiiok I’lli km
That's the abused little girl coming out of her. I just want to hold her and tell her everything is okay and she's strong. Poor baby.
ik. i dont even know who she is but this came into my recommended and my heart hurts for her. u can hear her pain and im so angry at her father for just smiling and watching. i feel so so bad
This is abuse I know difference between abuse and discipline cah me & my siblings got beatings and punishments but there a line that the parent can’t cross🧏🏾
@@mari-ok6jk i know
Mari Baker same
It’s so annoying that we can’t actually HATE our parents even after all the trauma they put us through through this ‘abuse’… I still find myself trying to get my dad to like me more even though he clearly expresses that it’s not gonna work. 😢
You have the right to do though. I know it js hard or conflicting but you have the right to feel that way.
it must have felt so good to be able to let all the anger out that was held in from fear for so long..
“I don’t know how to be a good father” why have a child in the first place if your just beating them
Right? Like if you KNOW that you are not going to be a good father then why you want to be a father in the first place?
FACT😅😅😅😅😅
Accident
I have two responses....
1) “I don’t know how to be a good father” as in abusive/mean:
Then why did you have kids in the first place, when you know you’re just going to beat them up for something little/when it’s not necessary?
2) “I don’t know how to be a good father” as in you still try your best to be a good parent, even though you’re not the best:
Don’t give up! Parenting is not something that is easy for everyone. Maybe seek for assistance so you can learn from there!
(Btw, I’m on the daughter’s side for this video)
Pretty sure it wasn't planned
he’s smiling while she’s telling him this. that’s literally so evil and vile!!!
I love you're profile pic it's BEAUTIFUL!
Kortney not trying to say what he did wasn’t bad but some people tend to smile when put in situations like this. I know this because i tend to do it especially when I’m nervous to, so that the person I’m talking to doesn’t see that I’m weak on the outside. Or he could just be an evil man that likes to see people suffer.
Its a cultural thing. I dont think hes enjoying himself.
Some people tend to smile out of nervousness kind of like a defense mechanism! Watching this was so heartbreaking I'm glad Bae was screaming letting all of the pain & hurt out facing her abusive father, hopefully he can accept take accountability for his action giving her an heartfelt apology & seek counseling etc., but if not she has an Almighty Father who is willing a merciful unconditionally Loving father who will protect guiding her in all her ways & a brother in Jesus Christ💯🙏😉👑🙏
Kortney he is literally combing his hair, it’s absurd.
My poor baby all she wanted was an apology that’s it acknowledged and genuinely apologized to.
That’s a little girls voice that’s using her words after years of being abused
I know and it's disgusting that he had the audacity to smirk and deny it
I legit felt like throwing up at his reaction. And I wanted to hug her so badly.
@@snjdhzhzdjsjx4408 hit her so badly there were blood stains all over her uniform
@@ryana-6762 LMAO look at your message, perfect.
I read this comment and it hit so hard 😣
This man does not care AT ALL. It upsets me so bad that he's smirking at her while she's yelling at him and even when she was calm. He's disgusting.
He was crying, even though he beat her up every single day. He was probably embarrassed.
He cares...
He does care . Believe me he cares . People make mistakes .
@@tamaramonroy1813 yo 😐 mistake? A mistake is something you do that you don't do again. Constant abuse is not a mistake. People realise their mistakes and change - not, in this case, showing up in the victims life 15 years later and not even apologising.
Jelly Belly !!
I feel so bad for her, the pain in her voice is so visible and it's just really gross how some parents treat their kids like that.. Hoping she's okay now
Father’s excuses are pathetic. Young Bae is in pain. I feel her pain. Pray for her healing. 😢
That man isn’t all there. Smirking while his daughter is sobbing, wth
DJx what?
DJx like what? Angry because of all the years she was abused and couldn’t speak out?
DJx you sound dumb she was abused she was yelling from all those years of abuse
@@djx6593 you don't seem to have many brain cells since you are defending a loser ^^
DJx lmao shut up
She’s strong for facing him and even stronger to put it on tv.
they were going to put it on tv either way
Money hungry is the word your looking for...
Yeah.
Q Lock I agree.
You shouldn't comment if you don't know the story. The producers helped her find him. He agreed to come on camera. My guess is that he thought he could make himself look better after Young Bae and her mother trashed him, but the truth is that he doesn't realize that whatever his reasons are he still hurt his family.
Her feelings are valid. His reaction sleaks volumes.
she isnt crazy, dramatic, or insane. shes speaking for her inner child, that was caged up.
"HE'S NOT GONNA DO THIS TO ME!"
*"SAY YOU'RE SORRY!!"*
Duuude my heart went in my throat-
Im here 😳
Mine too...
I want my dad to say he sorry
@@mrealpretty Just like mine yours most likely never will. I've never done it, but I've heard it's good for you to write a letter as if it's your father writing it to apologize to you, then burn it. Do it for your own closure.
IKR like all he needed to say was sorry but he couldn’t even do that he should be ashamed of himself look how mad and sad she got and he’s just sitting there doing nothing it’s disgust me 😡🤮