Maddy’s Battle With Cancer
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ก.ย. 2023
- She was beautiful, patient, selfless, loving, ferocious, and kind. She drew people in and made them feel like their lives and problems were her priority. She was animated, fiery and strong yet so gentle and considerate. She loved me and our children endlessly. Maddy adored our quirks and magnified our strengths. She was always positive and hopeful- one of the biggest questions I got through this cancer battle from so many people was “why is she trying to make me feel better? I should be the one making her feel better?” She remembered EVERYTHING! Songs, artists, movies, actors, quotes, funny stories, your problems, your talents, your hobbies, and your struggles. She would drill you relentlessly with questions about what mattered to you. She made YOU feel like you were her best friend but that’s how everyone felt about her. She had a light and a smile that could overpower any room while also not being at all attention seeking! She thrives in every environment, every day! She was so animated with her facial expressions that she always felt perfectly engaged in her conversations with you. This made talking with her extremely fun, and sometimes a little dangerous because she wore every single emotion on her face. If someone said something unkind, cruel, rude, or wrong, Maddy’s expressions showed it, and a lot of the time this was a combination of hilarious, thrilling and a little scary. There were so many times that she would get into a story about something or someone unjust, and I would grab her hand and say. “Love, people are going to think we’re fighting because you look pissed haha” and then her smile would explode. She was a foodie. We loved traveling and finding the best food! Even though she was only 100 lbs she could destroy a double cheese burger. I’ve always liked salads so lots of times I would order a salad and she would order a double cheeseburger and without fail, the server would put the wrong food in front of us. She loved people and she was such a skilled communicator and story teller but she never dominated a conversation. She was so fully engaged in any conversation that if you were on a walk, she would slowly start to walk in front of you and slow you down because she was making such good eye contact that she would forget where she was walking. This often left us at a standstill in the center of a main walkway with me intently listening to every word. She was an athlete, an artist, and an absolute boss on the violin and piano! She brought beauty everywhere she went and she was funny as hell! If someone got on her bad side, she would talk a big game about how she was going to set them straight. She would then fold like a lawnchair and show them love. When I would call her out on this, she would smirk and say,“ honey is always better than vinegar.” She could read my mind, and I could read hers. We somehow always landed on the same viewpoint after starting on two sides of it. She would say, “Chan, we are a damn force”.
She was always present! Somehow she didn’t get caught up in the past, or the future hardly ever. She had an endless hope that everything would workout for good, and if it didn’t, she knew she would make the best of it. She wore the pants because I was absolutely obsessed with her! Anyone that knows me knows that every day since I met her has been the best day of my life! It isn’t fair that she’s been taken from me just days before her 27th birthday. But it also isn’t fair that I got her. She was so far out of my league, and for whatever reason, she chose to love me perfectly. Most importantly, she was an absolutely incredible mother! Every minute of every day she was thinking about what she could do to make her kids’ life better. She loved Wren and Andi endlessly and uniquely. She parented them so different because they were so different! Even though they were only three and five, she always treated them like equals to her. She made them feel heard. She spent so much time making every day special for them and I will make sure they never forget that. In the last couple days with her, I cracked and told her I didn’t know how I was going to do it without her. I asked her how I was going to find purpose with life and what I was supposed to do. She paused, and responded “Live it for them and before you know it you will be living it for you again” so here we go. Finally, thank you to all of the friends and family and neighbors who have looked after us. Your love, thoughts and prayers have been an energy that we are so grateful for.
Thank you so much for all of the kind comments! I really appreciate all of you!
I'm so sorry, this is just so heartbreaking.
My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer, had surgery and chemo.
I know it's a horrible journey, I was lucky, my husband is still here.
Just know, my heart breaks for you, and I'm sending so much love for you and your children 😢❤❤❤
Hope all is well with you my brother ..i feel ya peace be with you
My deepest condolences to you and your family. Love and prayers from Canada 🇨🇦 😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
The fact you are doing this video is amazing. We are so sorry to hear this. Our son had the same cancer. Same operation. Prayers man for your future with your precious children.
Love you brother, Maddy is smiling down on you and the kids at peace knowing that you've got the reigns. May God bless you and your family.
As a husband, you did everything right and protected her till the end. Your children had a light through the battle. Well done.
Well said. I love your comment.🤘🏼
Did he look into natural healing?
@@sweetbeephe mentioned in the video that they did.
@@gertrudenyirenda7010 ...what kind?
when u know how to heal cancer like dr. leonard coldwell.....than u laugh about ahhahahahaha
Brother this story is my wife's and I story for last 2 years. My wife was diagnosed with stage 4 epithelioid Sarcoma wrapped her aorta and spine. They could not operate and we decided to listen to the doctors and they recommended chemo, immunotherapy, radiation. She did not eat for weeks after radiation. I know the battles I stepped back from work to be her 100% caregiver she was in wheel chaired. My wife past away 4/14/23 leaving me with a 7 and 4 year old. God bless bro my wife was 42.
I had to bring my 7 and 4 year old to.say goodbye to there mommy. Cancer fcking sucks . I'm 5 months out and I am living life trying to make her proud. I know your pain Horrible to go through. Thanks for sharing.
God bless you and your children.
@@rockk973So sorry 😢. I know you are doing a great job and your wife would be so proud of you 😢.
I'm so sorry for your pain, grief, loss. You're family is in our prayers.
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In 2012 I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. The cancer spread to my lung. After multiple surgeries and a year long course of brutal chemotherapy, I was in remission. Here I am, cured 12 years later. Watching your video was painful and heartbreaking. May God bless you and your family.
Praise God He is able. My son was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer in December 2021, it has metastasis to his lung and liver. He has surgery to remove tumors and a J-tube was placed today. Please keep us in your prayers.
@@sandradavis-abby107 Medical care - Yes. However, perhaps salvestrol as well. Please check the paper: jeffreydachmd.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Savestrol-Cases-Studies_JOM_2007_v22_n04_p177.pdf
@@sandradavis-abby107Father just diagnosed within the last month with rectal cancer, with metastasis too liver and lung. Liver spot very small, 2 smaller lung spots. Starting chemo a week from today. Keep us in your prayers. Any tips as we embark on this journey?
I just came across your videos. Your wife’s smile was so beautiful and contagious. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am currently fighting this battle with my son. He is only 19 years old. Please pray for us.
Prayers for your son going up! GOD can do anything!
Praying 🙏
🙏 All love for your son and your family!!
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Praying for your son and your whole family 🙏♥️
I seldom comment on videos but I just wanted to let you know that as a man that loves his wife more than anything this made me start crying uncontrollably. I want to let you know that you've got people everywhere thinking about you and your kids, keep pushing
Beautiful
Thank u for ur words. U expressed my feelings better than myself. 💕
Well said. This is the kind of comment that Chandler needs to hear.
Best wishes to you and your wife.
I have not cried like this in a very long time...❤ I am so grateful that Chandler is making these videos, as he is going to save lives. The first doctor didnt listen;(( Chandler continuing to share his beautiful Angel's story will help others to be pro-active when the symptoms of Colon Cancer arise.
You're a good sweet man. Unafraid to show emotion and show his love for his lady. I wish you both every happiness. 😊❤️
My heart 💔 I have cancer, late stage. Its the most extreme battle. The way you described Maddy's journey... im going through it. The way you shared and described her journey gives a voice for all of us who are going through it but cant share because we are just so sick. Many of the symptoms she was experiencing I have and I want to share my journey but im just too sick to do the work to have my voice and journey heard. Thank you for being a voice. My deepest condolences. The pain in your eyes, I see in my husband's. So many people are experiencing cancer and many of us were watching others go through it before going through it ourselves and when its happening, its hard to share. Im grateful you shared. I wish you peace during this dark time!! Rest in Love Maddy! You'll never be forgotten 💗
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Praying for you😢❤
Hope you’re okay❤️ Wishing you all the best
If u need a friend. Please reach out to me ❤
Here for you and praying for you as well. God bless you, your husband and the rest of your family.
Cancer skips evil people in the world and keeps taking the sweetest kindest people. It's just so painful to me. Haley, Jenny, And Now Maddy. People better start praying all over the world for a medical breakthrough and cure.
We love you brother. We may not know you, but you’ve got thousands of us thinking of you and keeping your family in our prayers.
Is he a believer?
@@HappyPenguin75034 Did you hear God, Jesus in the video?
@@kathy1149 did you?
@@HappyPenguin75034 I didn't, I'm sorry. He didn't mention their Faith during this Video. Be at rest now, Maddie
This is the first time I've seen a video of you & about your family. I have cried right along with you & feel like you Are Incredibly Courageous to Share Maddie's & Your Story. She Would Be SO VERY PROUD of YOU! Please Know it takes an Incredible Soul To Share, Cry & Tell the Story of What You & Your Precious Maddie Have Gone Through. Just as You Shared How She Handled Everything, I Feel You Deserve Credit For Everything You Did & Do, Too. She Was BLESSED To Have You By Her Side, With Her Through It All. Not Every Man Could Have Done As Much Nor Knew What To Do. God Was With Y'all Every Step of the Way!! I'm So Grateful Y'all Had Those Wonderful Months Together When She Was Feeling Stronger & The Hope Was There That The Worst Was Through. Thankfully, Those Memories & Many More Will Forever Be In Your Heart. I'm Sure She Gathered Strength From Your Love & A Lot of How She Went Through All of What She Did Was Because You Loved Her. What An INCREDIBLE Person She Is & As You Mentioned That At Such A Young Age, She Already Knew What Was Most Important In Life & The Value of Living It To Its Fullest. What Strength & Fortitude She Showed. How Wonderful That She Had You, Your Love, 2 Incredible Children That She Was Given The Privilege of Being A Mom To & Their Love, Too. What The 4 of You Have Is Already More Than Most People Will Ever Have In Their Lifetime. I'm So Sorry For Your Loss & Your Pain, As Well As The Children's, Too. Also, How Wonderful That Everyone Had Time With Her Before Her Passing - What a Gift God Gave To Each of You. As I Reflect Upon Your Story, I See A Great Man Who Through It ALL Matched His Wife's Steps One For One & At Times Was Likely Some Steps Ahead In The Discovery Processes of Finding Options For Her & Thus For You, Too. I Will Keep You & Yours In My Prayers & Pray You Will Let God Heal The Deep Wounds Within You. May God Bless & Keep You Close Forever In His Comforting Embrace. Love You
My husband passed away at 39. It was taken by a brain aneurysm. It was the worse lost i had ever experienced!
Dont ever apologize for wanting to talk about Maddie! She was your love , your wife,the mom of your babies and you lost her! You talk about her as much as you need to, til you start to heal and thereafter ❤ She was a terrific woman and an inspiration to so many!
Hold the memories you've made together close . Share them with your kids.. so that they also know what a blessing she was to you all before going to heaven ... RIP Maddie xx hugs to you and the kids xx ❤
I am crying as i listen to your pain . Maddie was a very brave woman mum wife .her suffering is admrable and so positive .you had precious years wuth her and had two wonderful children who will live with mum within them .
Your pain is immeasurable . Maddies life is a blessing . She instilled in you and her children love in abundance and great courage .
Live every day with love in your heart . Maddie has not gone she lives within you .
Please keep sharing your story about maddie .she is a bleesing xxxxx
Lisa, you got to read a book called MY GLIMPSE OF ETERNITY by Betty Malz. She died after her appendix ruptured on a family vacation ... She tells what she saw on the other side... I know there a lot of life after life books written, but Betty's story is life changing to read. If I knew you, I would buy this for you!
I'm so sorry Ma'am 💔
@@drewellis5655 reading the HOLY BIBLE as well is a life changing experience. Not everyone gets into heaven.
My sister passded of a brain aneurysm out of the blue age 34..she had 3 young boys...I'm sorry for your loss.
Came upon this channel by accident, watched the latest memorial video.
Never heard of you or your channel but now I'm in tears.
Your wife, wow. I felt the light of God in her way of being. While I know I have no idea what the dark moments were like, to see her dance, laugh, and embrace her life despite her diagnosis, is awe inspiring. It's as if she knew deep in her soul not to worry, that life is transient, that someday you will see each other again. i have no doubt at all that her spirit remains glued to you and your kids' sides. I know your devistation is still fresh but to see you here, getting back on the horse, tells me you have a lot of strength and love ur kids so much it fuels u to get up every day and put one foot in front of the other It's too soon for you to think what the future holds but I know that God will provide you the help and support u need to raise ur kids w/o her, that the way you and your wife handled cancer and dying that despite a heavy impact gave those kids a huge dose of character that they will carry throughout their lives and will a lot them the ability to always have empathy for other people's pain and tragedy, a rare quality in this world. I wish you and them the very best. I stopped crying now so i'll say goodbye!
A beautiful tribute. As a single woman who hasn't yet found her person, I can only hope to find a man that loves me the way you so obviously loved Maddie. What a blessing you were to each other.
For anyone that doesn’t know what to say to a grieving person, he just explained it. Let them talk about their loved one. Don’t avoid the subject, that makes the grieving bury them twice. ❤
Only 27, Life is so unfair. She was beautiful. She caught it early, fought valiantly, did everything she could, even experimental. When cancer strikes children or young people, it is especially cruel. I am glad you took off time from work and spent so much quality time with her. She is in heaven, as an angel and feeling no more time. My prayers are with you and your family.
As a nurse I can’t imagine the trauma you have been through. People don’t realize the pain and suffering that patients go through. To lose your sweet wife so young, is unimaginable. Condolences. She is your guardian angel now. Heal as much as one can heal. God Bless.
I agree ! You can only stand by and watch thier suffering ... cancer is a demon !
I am so sorry for your loss. Mady seemed like the kind person that would be a wonderful person to get to know. Such a cool lady she was. God bless you & your family. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I will be praying for you and your family!! 😢
I’m a nurse too and my son was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer with Mets to lungs, appendix, and liver I can see a decline in his health.
I have cancer, but I'm old. I am so.very sorry for your loss. A beautiful wife and family. Be strong and know she will always be with you and help you to continue.
I hope you are doing well 🙏❤❤❤
Been through cancer twice, in 2000 and again in 2016. Now it's back and terminal. Such a horrible insidious disease that is sadly becoming more prolific. Thanks for sharing your story RIP Maddy ❤
I am so sorry to hear that😢 What kind of a cancer you have?
@@gykg3202no. Don't ask. No
@@gykg3202 Prostate, spread to left hip bone, and left lung also.
@@motleydude73 I am soo sorry! Is it curable?
@@gykg3202 Terminal means incurable. I might have 2 years left. Just started radiation treatment yesterday.
So very sorry about this devastating loss of your beautiful wife and mother of your daughters Chandler. I was diagnosed with late stage 3 colon cancer a month after she was and your story was one of the ones that I followed to help motivate me thru this awful disease. I was shocked to learn that she passed away in May when I pulled up your TH-cam channel recently. Unfortunately, I just learned this week that my cancer has metastasized to my liver and have no idea how much time I have. This kind of news is demoralizing and depressing, but I have a beautiful wife and two beautiful daughters I need to fight for. I really appreciate you sharing your story and positive spirit which helps those of us fighting this insidious disease. God bless you and your daughters.
Bless you I don't know you but I pray for you to be on some kind of trial that will ultimately save you ❤Bless Bless u recover.
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On my feed and watched . You brought tears to
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So sorry she left you too soon . but please do not be afraid . she’s in paradise no more pain . you will be together again . But Right now you have a job to do and that is to take care of yourself and raise you’re beautiful girls . I’ll pray for you . 🌻🌻🌻
prayers for you.
Don’t worry, even with metastases, cancer can be cured, or you can live a long time, the main thing is to find a good doctor and not be too nervous! I wish this to be your case! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Maria Sharueva, Russia!
Stay present for yourself, your wife and kids. Prayers for all of you. Show up every day in every way that you can.
Strolling through TH-cam, I came across this video only to realize that I went to high school with Maddy. Even though we weren’t very close and didn’t necessarily run in the same crowd, she was absolutely one of the most beautiful and kind persons I have ever met, inside and out. Truly, a wonderful and genuine heart. My condolences.
I’m so very sorry for your loss . I lost my husband in 2021 to cancer . I pray one day they will find a cure . ❤️
Dammit, my mom passed of colon cancer when she was 54, my grandpa died when he was 52. As soon as you said colon cancer, I froze and watched. For viewers, PLEASE GET COLONOSCOPIES. I’m 43 and just had my 3rd one, started when I was 28. I do it in honour of my mom. Please please please make sure you & Maddy’s kiddos get them, starting in their 20’s & repeat every 5 years. Insist on them, it’s family history. NEVER let a doctor tell you it’s nothing if you have blood in your stool. It may be hemorrhoids but it’s always best to check. My condolences ❤
I’m praying for you that you will stay strong and continue to honor your mother’s memory with your repeat colonoscopies. Also, you can continue to honor your mom by warning others who may have a genetic reason to have their own early colonoscopies. Good for you!
I have blood in my stool almost every day and my Drs tell me it's nothing. My last colonoscopy has been over 5 years
I have had blood in my stools when I’m constipated I’m 57 I will get a colonoscopy hearing her story and yours . Love and prayers from Texas
@@novaressler5243could be hemorrhoids, are your stools hard to pass, try to eat fiber more water, benefiber etc AND get a COLONOSCOPY and if it comes back clean then change your diet add more fiber water and stool softener it help a lot too.
I feel like colonoscopies should be a standard screening now for everyone. So many people younger people are getting cancer these days it’s scary!
As a nurse of 43 yrs she was the most amazing woman, so strong so happy so controlled so unique. You are so lucky to have been part of her journey, she gave you two beautiful children who have half of you and half of maddy , it’s going to be a hard climb for you to be able to come through enough to move forward , for you and the children but you can do it.🌟🌟
Could you be honest and admit the the covid vaccines are to blame gor the epidemic in cancers happening now or are you too scared.
Oh my heart. Where do I start. My daughter was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer at 17. We've had 7 years of pure hell. She's 24 now, but as much as we try to live in the present, its still hard because of the fear of reoccurrence. Every blood test, every ct scan its a lot. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife, she radiated a strength and confidence that is rarely seen. But I as a mother watching my child go through such trauma has made me realize I am not the same person as I was before the diagnosis anymore. That person is gone. I am learning who I am now, and honestly I'm not there yet. I felt your pain, because your focus is so much on the situation at hand you dont really have time to deal with the emotional pain and scarring. Its like being in a war and then trying to come out of it as life as usual, but its not life as usual. I was recently diagnosed with CPTSD and am receiving counseling finally. I also have had to deal with many of my own health issues because of neglect of myself while trying to keep my daughter alive. My advice to you would be.... be patient with yourself. Be loving and be kind to yourself. Try to remember you are not the same person anymore and healing takes time. God has gifted you both with two beautiful children that will be light upon your path, embrace their love. And if all you want to do is talk about your precious wife, do so. Take as long as you need until you can find it in your heart to smile again. Again, I am so sorry for your loss and your children loss. Life is so unfair and makes no sense. I can only trust that there is a God that has a much bigger plan than what we see now. Look to that to give you hope. One thing ive learned through it all is as you said...stay in the present. Dont look back, its too painful and don't look ahead, its too scary. Stay in the present, because the present is all we have. If you ever need to talk, please reach out.
Sending prayers for you and ur daughter 🙏
@@manuelavargas8366 Thank you so much ❤️
My identical twin brother was diagnosed 2/27/21 and I just lost him 12/15/23. Besides the journey to Mexico, it was very much the same path with him. I began yearly colonoscopies but to be honest, I'm ruined right now. Watching this video gives me hope for the future. Thank you.
I am so sorry for your loss❤
I'm so terribly sorry, Chandler... I can't even imagine going through all that you guys went through. You're a good man, and you did everything you could. What a shining example for your children, and a beautiful tribute to your wife.
You can see the pain in this man’s eyes stay strong❤
He's in mourning still. This is okay, really.
@@cathrynmWho said it wasn't okay? OP was just making a simple observation.
What a beautiful tribute to your wonderful wife.I lost my son 6 weeks ago, I'm confident these young souls are happy and healthy in heaven.
I am very sorry for Maddie's passing. 14 yrs ago I lost my husband to cancer. It was very quick and shocking. I have a totally different life but I feel like I am in the day he was diagnosed for eternity. I really feel for your loss and pray for all battling cancer. God Bless you and your children.
Never stop talking about Maddy, we will keep listening!!!! Her legacy, the person she was, is extraordinary!!!!! ❤
Bro. This video killed me. Huge kick to the gut. Man I’m so sorry to hear all of this. We love you man.
Maddy didn't need to pass away to become an angel...she WAS an angel!
Her spirit was amazing. I wish I could have half her strength! I was diagnosed with a terminal blood cancer in 2018. By the grace of God, I have far exceeded the odds of 2 -12 months. There are days just getting off the couch are rough! Watching her beaming through all of this has showed me what I can do even in the face of this horrible monster! Your children have two excellent role models. Thank you for sharing and God bless.
🙏🙏🙏💝💝💝 Praying for you.
This is heart wrenching to watch; I can only imagine what your family has been through. I’m just so sorry to hear this. I know you did everything you could for her and your family.
I only hope the pain fades in the days to come, replaced by loving memories of your time together.
Your story is a sobering reminder to us all to never take one single day for granted, and to cherish those we love.
Was it called CarT treatment? I have Multiple Myeloma and CarT is used very successfully
They had a very small clinical trial for. Drug called Dostarlimab brand name Jemperli 12 patients have advanced or locally advanced colorectal cancer and every single one the tumors vanished they are cancer free. I wonder if this could have gave your story a happy ending. I’m a Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer survivor. God bless you your kids and Mandy I don’t know you all but you’re in this cancer family now and we have to stick together to get through this. I’m so sorry passed away you will see her again it’s not far away the world is getting worse by the Jesus Christ will be coming for his church soon. Thessalonians chapter verse 14 this can give some comfort and hope for the future.Take care and I’m to talk.
Well said! Such a caring, sympathetic message to Chandler.
@@ronaldhartfordjr8299comforting message to many. Jesus is coming back for all of us. He went to prepare a place for us. In my father's kingdom there are many rooms. John 14:2. If it were not so, would I have told this to you.
She was your soulmate and accomplished what she and you needed to accomplish. You will meet her again.
Sounds like your wife was truly incredible. As a husband whose wife was just diagnosed with terminal cancer, I truly appreciate the love and emotion shared here. It gives me permission to cry. And cry I did.
My prayers to you as you fight together. May God comfort you both and wrap you in His love and strength.
🌹I am so sorry 🙏💝🤲 Hugs from Virginia USA.
@@dalhousiekid thanks for that. She passed away shortly after I had posted that. Heartbroken, but trying my best.
So sorry 😞 🙏 I pray you find peace. But I don't pity this man, I pity the kids she left behind. He got engaged to another woman just after 4months of her passing.
Cancer is so cruel and relentless. It doesn't discriminate. It's not guilty of racism, agism, classism or sexism. I pray we one day eradicate cancers of every kind and with a vengeance! You gave Maddie the most beautiful life filled with love and happiness many spend a lifetime without experiencing. Live every moment for her and to the fullest ❤
I feel you !! My wife died from breast cancer !
My husband ran a half marathon in November and was diagnosed with colon cancer with mets in the following May. He's been gone almost 6 years now. Lasted almost 3 years from initial symptoms and he almost beat it. I'm sat here with my dog, waiting to see if a lump on him is cancerous or something benign. Brings back so many feelings. We went through all the things you did. Xx
Maddy’s smile was EVERYTHING! Such a beautiful human being. 💔 Her commitment to her kids and husband was beyond what anyone could’ve expected.
God bless you Chan. I know your pain. When you said, "Your life was turned upside down. How do you go on with life? " I can so relate. I lost my husband 1/30/22. My life is still upside down. I still love him. I still wear my wedding band. I still talk about him. I'm so glad that you are sharing Maddy's story. You keep talking about her. I heard you say that that's what makes you feel better. Absolutely!! Only someone who lost a spouse can say, "I know what you're going through." The pain is so deep, so intense, you just wonder how in the world can you live one more day. Only by the Grace of God!! I am here today, Only by the Grace of God and the strength he gives me to face another day. God bless you and your family.
I feel your pain too, it is not an easy journey for the patient or their family. I wish you the best going forward. One day far away from now you will be able to feel the love but not the pain. My husband passed unexpectedly in 2012 and it shattered my world too. I cried for 3 years every time I remember his name, our life, holidays, etc. I was mad with life for what had happened to us. I miss him dearly. He is the love of my life. It's been 11 years and I'm able to smile, laugh again, talk and remember our life together without crying 😢 like before. Give yourself time to mourn no matter how many years it takes. One day you will start to feel better, slowly but surely. And if you're a believer, 🙏 pray
Please know that you’re missed. From human to human, I can’t imagine your pain emotionally and mentally. I am sorry for the pain you and your family have been going through.
I am incredibly sorry for your loss. I will have you in my prayers.
You helped her to have hope until she wasn’t able to rid the cancer. What a beautiful, strong and loving women, wife and mother. She will be missed.
Chandler - you may want to check in with Kyle Appleton who just recently lost his wife Jenny to cancer and also has two young children. I’m sure you could be good therapeutic support to each other. Jenny (Apple) was much like Maddie - very kind and upbeat til the end. I’m so sorry for your loss and praying for you and your children. Cancer is so devastating.
I lost my son when he was31. Doesn’t ever make sense, does it. I’ve seen your videos, what a gorgeous lady. Such a frustrating and maddening disease. I’m sending you all my love. My son and Maddy are on doing better things. Sending love xx
My mom was diagnosed in July 2006 with peritoneal Cancer and she passed in September 2006 that same year. She was only 44 and now I spend my time worrying about if I’ll be next. I’m so sorry for your loss! They did the same thing with her draining fluid and she suffered so much. It changed my whole life route. I’m so very sorry my heart is with you! Prayers! 🙏🏼🥺
my mom went through cardiac arrest on august 3rd this morning, she was without oxygen for too long and never woke up, she was 48, im 15 now but doing well.
I am so sorry for your loss.@@Lollll64
Is it hereditary?
I just started my battle with my first Pet Scan tomorrow. She was very blessed to have you. Your love for her to share her story to help others is incredible!❤
I sure hope nothing lights up on your scan. I got a pet scan on Aug 21st, a biopsy on Sept 1, a brain scan on the 12th and am getting ready to start chemo and radiation today. I wish I could just wake up from this nightmare. Facing your own mortality is the WORST!!
@@drwrap3431 Wishing you well on scans! I'm going to do Immunotherapy but I am plant based so I am kicking up my juicing a few notches to help fight this!
@@drwrap3431you will be in my thoughts, stay strong and fight this beast as hard as you can, I’m sending you loads of positive vibes as I can’t pray, huge big bear hugs too, 😘
I hope that your results came back clear, I’m sending you loads of positive vibes so stay strong, You will always be in my thoughts, 😘
@@margaretlovelock7031 Thank you,❤️
I understand your pain, I'm a widow too. It is not easy, not fair and so painful. When my husband passed away in 2012 I couldn't speak about him for 3 years without crying or tears in my eyes. It was too painful 💔 😢 . He is and will always be "the love of my life" and I will love him forever. Through out these years (11) God has given me the peace that I needed so bad to survive without him. I can smile again and talk about him without the painful feelings that I felt before. I will cherish his memory forever until we meet again in Heaven ❤. May God give you the strength that you need to survive this terrible trauma, your wife will always be the love of your life. Keep busy, focus on your kids, job, family, church and above all stay healthy for your two kids. Slowly Try to make time for YOU, to relax, to meditate, to decompress from all this stress, I wish you the very best with your two kids going forward. ❤❤❤❤
Can’t say that I have cried over a dang TH-cam video before. These tears are for you my man.😢
God bless you and your kids! I love that she said “live it for the kids, and eventually you can live it for yourself” very valuable message for anyone struggling with not wanting to “be here.” May she rest in peace.
"Just stay present.", what a great lesson. Thank you Maddy for being so inspiring and brave, and thank you Chandler for sharing her story.
@kyledouglas6766 100%. I'm writing down what Chandler said here. Such powerful, profound words. Maddy has given us great advice
What an amazing wife and mother Maddy was! So loving and positive! I’m sorry for you loss and praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. Kyle Appleford another TH-camr just went through the cancer journey with his wife, and her death just before Thanksgiving this year. They too have two young children, seems like so much in common, maybe the two of you could get in contact and share your losses and journey of widowers and now single dads and day to day journeys through your grief and parenting roles. God bless you, hugs and lots of prayers! ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
That was so sad. I loved Jenny.💝@@cherylann2754
"Stay present. When you worry about the worst case scenario you end up living it twice." I wrote your words down so I can easily refer back to them. Thank you for sharing your wisdom; I only wish you, Maddy and your family hadn't been subjected to such an extraordinarily difficult journey. This video and your video montage of Maddy's life in photos and videos are two of the most raw and powerful videos I have seen of personal struggle and triumph. Yes...TRIUMPH...as Maddy will live on in the memories you have shared with the rest of us. Take good care of your heart as you heal. We appreciate you!
Maddy lives on through your children, one day when your children are grown you can explain how beautiful, courageous and strong she was.
You said something that hit me like a ton of bricks. When you talked about not anticipating or worrying about the worst case scenario because you'll end up living it twice, man that hit me hard. You are so right about that. we all sit around and worry, think, contemplate and plan. all the while that is wasted time and we will never get that time back. Yall are some tough cookies. I'm really sorry for your loss. No words could ever express it. What you're doing is exactly what she would want you to do. Continue to spread the word so that your loss may turn into someone else's Saving Grace. You never know how many people's lives you are touching with just one word thank you so much for sharing your story. It was truly profound.
She sounds like the most amazing woman, she 100% fought with all her might. Grief is different kind of battle, but a battle nonetheless. I’m glad you had each other in life. Us bereaved, oh what we’d give for the boring, the mundane Monday morning routine, every moment of “normal” life, before cancer, is good life. Sending lots of love to your family from England 🇬🇧
Gosh. You guys did literally EVERYTHING you possibly could have. I bet it feels amazing to look back KNOWING that. 🙏🏼 Please feel proud of what you guys did to fight this.
You are an incredible person, such a good husband and Father. Im so sorry for your loss. You are an inspiration and if I could hug you, I would. I lost my Mother when I was 15 to cancer, and was the worst thing to happen to me, AND, the best. I learned to value my time on earth, and my relationships. I came out ok, i'm 63 now and deeply care about others. Your children will too. Thank you for sharing your story. God Bless you. Mark Rickert.
Your wife was extraordinary, and brave…an Earth Angel called home much too soon. And you are an extraordinary husband who did all of the right things for her at all of the right times. I am so so sorry for the loss of such an amazing woman😓😓🙏🏼
Thank you, Chandler, for sharing a piece of Maddy's life with us. She has changed my thinking on how to live a more positive day when life gets complicated.
I’m so sorry. I lost my mom and other close family members to cancers. The sorrow is horrible. And I have two close friends currently with colon cancer.
You did everything you could. What a beautiful woman …wife and mother Maddie was. Kind , genuine and giving. Surely, she is in a better place.
Chandler - As a colon cancer survivor (at this point), I understand your pain. I understand the struggles (to a point). I don't fathom all you are going through, or went through because everyone's cancer journey is different. But you helped her fight the fight. You were there for her, and you are there for your kids. Keep your chin up sir. You are one of the good ones. Peace and love my friend.
I think it’s wonderful that you’re sharing her story, and you shouldn’t feel any guilt in wanting to talk about her. When your kids are older these videos will be so precious to them. They will be a way for them to get to know her better ❤️
Your video showed up randomly today when I went on TH-cam. I spent a few hours watching the last few videos and I don’t normally do that. Maddy was incredible and you are blessed for the time spent with her and also blessed that you have children together to carry on her legacy. There are tremendous lessons in watching how she navigated everything that she went through. As hard as it is, thank you for sharing her story.
I'm so sorry for your loss!! Watching the journey you two had was amazing! I can't imagine facing a journey with such heroism!! Do life for your children!!
Chandler - I’m praying for you. I’m so sorry to hear this news. You’re an amazing man of God. Such an inspiration to all of us.
Hugging my wife and kids a bit tighter.
Thank you for sharing Mandy's story. I know somewhat of what you are going through. Last year we lost our son to Glioblastoma (brain cancer). His diagnosis was for 12 months and even though he did chemo, radiation 2 trials he died 12 months to the day. Why have our loved ones been taken so young and given so much pain. I pray for you and your family . I just get through one day at a time
Without having met her, her positivity and grace ALWAYYS came through on the screen...That big beautiful smile and all her strength will live on through you and the kids EVERYDAY.
TH-cam recommended this video. I had an aggressive form of breast cancer and could relate to the skin issues, cold sensitivities, sheer exhaustion and - you didn't say mouth and throat sores but I'd be willing to bet she probably had those as well. I'm a little nervous every 3 months when it's time for an onco checkup.
Thank you so much for sharing Maddy's story. Really your story and your entire family's story. It resonated so much and then you mentioned that she passed on May 24th. The last of my cancer was removed on May 24th last year. I think your story is one that the Lord really wants me to learn from. ❤
Please know you are not alone in this journey, Chandler. Your friends, family, and TH-cam audience are definitely sending love and light your way.
Brother, I know this was really tough for you. Thank you for sharing something so heartfelt but also so difficult for Maddie. Her story will help others! You are a good man and your children are so lucky to have you as their father. Wishing you and your family comfort in such a difficult time. We love you bro!
This breaks my heart. I’m sorry for your loss. 😢My dad is fighting colon cancer now.
So sorry to hear about your wife. I came upon a video that you recorded a few years ago about the interview you did of a tenant who was being evicted with his girlfriend from a basement apartment.
As I scrolled through to find more recent videos that you had completed, I came across the one about your family’s struggle with your wife’s cancer.
My sister was diagnosed with uterine cancer. I had a strained relationship with my sister, which I regretted. My oldest son called me to informed me to travel to the city because her health was failing. I did. I also started researching to look for alternative treatments. My sister knew of a treatment in Mexico but financially couldn’t afford it. I did the research and we went to Mexico. The treatment worked for 6 months and then the boarders closed down due to COVID. We lost her while looking for another’s treatment.
We enjoyed the last 6 months together. She spent time with family, friends and her dog.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Fuck man. My condolences, I appreciate you sharing this as it does give perspective to live in the present. Dropped a tear for the first time in years watching this.. may you and your family be happy and fulfilled.
I’ve gone through chemotherapy 2 years ago myself and I can imagine how hard it is. I’m so sorry you’ve lost your wife and so sorry you both had to go through all of this. You both are so brave. Please stay strong for your children and try to live your life to the fullest. When I was going through treatment I was so scared thinking about dying and all that but the biggest fear was for those who love me.
I wish you and your kids find happiness and joy again as your mom and wife guides and protects you from heaven.
Bless your family, God keep this man and his children and anyone affected by Maddie’s death in your graces. Thank goodness you guys were able to spend some time with her and beautiful soul. She’s always with you ❤God bless this man as I know you have been. Bless her children and anyone else that is going through this currently. Thank you for your transparency and love and strength through this video.
From the Netherlands, so much respect. What a beautiful woman and mom, and what a great loss. She will always be with you.
When you can feel someone's pain behind these screens, that pain speaks volumes. 💔🙏
You’re an amazing person for sharing this. My husband was diagnosed with tongue cancer and is going through treatment he’s 77 and my heart sinks all the time when I hear of cancer coming back! He’s doing well but that’s always in your mind. I’m sorry for your loss. You made the time and you will move forward when it’s time lots of love to you n your family
Im a dental hygienist, and do Oral Cancer Screening with a special light called “Visilite”. I can’t tell you how many patients turn me down to do the screening bc it cost $45. The screening is to catch something early.
Her shining personality just really shines through! I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet Maddy! What a way to really live such a full life, making all those memories before she passed! And that you have it all on video to share with the kids later so they’ll remember her! Her positive outlook is so inspiring! I hope you have a massive church and/or local community of support for you and your precious kiddos! 💕🙏🏼
CHANDLER YOU VE BEEN SO STRONG FOR MADDY STAY STRONG FOR THE KIDS AND FOR MADDY AGAIN IM SURE SHE IS SO PROUD OF YOU
The love you and Maddy have for each other is heartwarming and exceptional. It is such a shame that you and your children lost such a loving and devoted wife and mother. I’ve been treated for Stage 3c recto sigmoid cancer - chemo, chemo radiation and two surgeries. I’ve been NED for three years. I had no idea that an apparently successful treatment could ultimately become the difficult diagnosis that the two of you had to deal with. I am jealous of the commitment and love the two of you shared during life, treatment and sadly death. I had virtually no emotional support from my now ex-wife during my treatment. Fortunately my outcome has been good. I never would have been able to go through what the two of you went through, as I would have had to go through it alone. This had to be a very difficult video for you to make. But your love for Maddy, and I’m sure her “presence” helped you put such loving , yet difficult, words together for your video. Yours is an example of how a truly loving couple can do battle with one of life’s most challenging situations. I hope others who are facing a cancer diagnosis draw inspiration from this video. And that they remain hopeful and positive in the face of a deadly disease. When you look at your kids each day, remember you are seeing your beloved wife in them.
This is heart wrenching to watch for me as I too lost my husband of 35 years on August 6th from stage 4 cancer. I miss him so much and not a minute goes by I don’t think of him. We had a wonderful life together and I will cherish the memories forever!
I am so sorry for your loss, sending your family hugs and prayers🙏
Thank you so much for sharing Maddy’s story. She was an incredible human being. Thank you for reminding me to be present.
Maddy I’m sure was such an exceptional person and the way you broke down crying for her broke my heart to pieces. My condolences go out to you and your kids and May she rest in paradise always till you guys meet again. 💕
Maddy is a great example to us all. To be present and to be in the moment. God bless you brother.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-14
13 Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. 14 For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.
Omg Chandler - I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Words cant describe how you both battled this horrible disease with such courage. I’m heart broken for you but from what you have said your wife wants you to now show your own courage for your kids and family moving forward. She will always be by your side just remember that! Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you and your family.
thank you for your vulnerability and heart in making this video. I can't imagine how difficult Maddy's passing has been for you because I've never experienced loss like this. Your willingness to share is spurring a new perspective of life as it is today, with no guarantees about tomorrow. This video will have lasting impact. thank you for sharing this!!
Nice to have you back brother. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Sometimes we don’t understand God’s decisions, but I am sure she is in a much better place.
I can’t imagine the pain. Wishing you and your family will recover from this. Praying for you and your family.
Just know that God will bring those who died in life back to the new world that is coming. This current world is ruled by the devil and so death exists and wars. But God’s kingdom will come and resurrect everyone that died and give them a chance to know about God and live in the paradise for eternity.
Isaiah 25:8 26:9
Stay positive and faithful Chandler.
Isaiah 25:8
“He will swallow up death forever,
And the Sovereign Lord Jehovah will wipe away the tears from all faces.
The reproach of his people he will take away from all the earth,
For Jehovah himself has spoken it.”
Isaiah 26:19
“Your dead will live.
My corpses will rise up.
Awake and shout joyfully,
You residents in the dust!
For your dew is as the dew of the morning,
And the earth will let those powerless in death come to life.”
I cried for a stranger today. I am so, so sorry for your tragic loss.
I feel blessed to know just a little bit of Maddy through you sharing about the beautiful life and family that you built together. Thank you for telling her story. It is clear that she was so well loved by you, and it sounds like she loved you and the kids with every fiber of her being. What an amazing woman. May you always feel her love surround you.
Keep talking about Maddy! I just binged watching yalls videos and she was a beautiful person 😭 keep sharing maddy’s story, and keep being present for those beautiful children. I am praying for yall!
Lost my dad to cancer last year. I still can't understand what you are going through. I loved my dad but I wouldn't be able to go through the pain if my wife passed away. Thanks for sharing your story, I'm gonna pray for peace and protection for your family. Know that there are strangers willing to pray for you.
Well said brother. We sure miss her. But it’s been amazing to watch how you have responded. The kids are so lucky to have you.
This video doesn’t even begin to show just how far you went to fight this or give you the credit you deserve. Maddy was so grateful for all you did.
Love you man boo
Cancer always takes the lightest and brightest she was beautiful
You, your wife, & beautiful family are such an inspiration. I already feel guilty of the days I’ve wasted and feel inspired to do better, show up with my best like Maddy. This isn’t heartbreaking, it’s heart shattering but you all have the courage of a beast. Bless you all & thanks so much for sharing this story, & all it’s ugly and sometimes scary details. It’s important and a beautiful gift you’ve shared with so many now. You’re a hell of a man, keep up everything you’re doing, we’re all here ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost my brother in law to colon cancer at the age of 32 . This was 28 years ago. You will find a way to breathe again . She was meant to be in your life if only for a while. You are living your life for your children right now but there will come a day when you live life for yourself. ❤️
I just came across Maddy's story yesterday. What a beautiful young woman inside and out.
As a person who is still battling, having someone such as yourself is what we all wish to have. I send my deepest prayers and condolences to you and your family. I am so very sorry. She definitely fought hard and you fought right beside her. I cannot thank you enough for sharing this journey with us.
Wow I’m speechless!! What an amazing, respectful, loving powerful words you wrote about your wife. How lucky she was also to have a real man like you to stand by her side thru all her health issues. Most men.. even women run when it gets tough. Yes how very horribly tragic that such a beautiful family was torn apart by this horrible disease. But I guess we just need to appreciate that you at least knew what true love was really like, as short lived as it was. Because most people live their whole lives not knowing. Bless you and your children. And for your circle of friends and family so they may continue to give you love and support. You also have ours🥹
This was so moving. You are a brave man. Do not stop talking about Maddie, just do what you feel is right for you and Maddie and your kids. Sending you hugs and love from Switzerland.
I never comment on videos but I couldn’t stay quiet for this one. Thank you for bravely sharing the incredible story of Maddy. She is amazing and there are no words for what you both went through and are continuing to live through. Never stop talking about her.