The Perfect Lie | Tiffany Webster - Hope Works
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- Tiffany saw perfection in her future as a wife, mother, and overachiever. But as checklists grew longer and expectations grew harder to meet, Tiffany felt exhausted and broken.
“Who was I if I wasn’t everything I did? How could I have worth while sitting in bed day after day? Who was I as a wife, a mother, and a woman when my body didn’t allow me to do the things that a wife, a mother, and a woman should do? I had a testimony that my Savior’s Atonement was real. I believed His miracles, I believed Him when He said that all things were possible. But in my most broken state, I wasn’t sure how to use His power.”
Hear Tiffany tell her story in this Hope Works presentation about how she overcame what she calls “The Perfect Lie.”
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After walking away from watching this I felt a clear message come into my mind "You are enough".
Me + Christ = Enough
That is amazing 🤗❤
I am not a Mormon church member but this blessed me so much. God bless you
Awesomeness!
6:20 or so. I was surprised to find myself in my kitchen frozen in the midst of making lunch as tears filled my eyes and understanding filled my heart. Thank you for helping me do so, so that the Holy Ghost could finally have a chance to get through to me and answer some of my longest prayers. Thank you!
I have been there, and finally decided my plan was not the same plan that Christ has for me. It becomes a matter of learning humility and accepting Christ’s plan for us. And yes it is very hard. Perfection becomes a matter a fact of you are putting pressure on yourself that causes you to fail. It is a journey and when we listen to Christ we find greater peace in our lives.
I think this is why so many women in and out of the church suffer with depression. They feel like they're just never good enough! Even women who have immaculate homes, prefectly turned out children and as thin as can be etc... it's just too much. Accept you're not perfect and it's ok. I don't believe you have to love yoir imperfections, just put them to the side if needs be and enjoy the things you can do. That's my short version xxx
this is real Mormon church. spoken from the heart after personal study and experience.
There is not a mormon church and no mormons, only followers of JESUS.
Correct, we are a home centered church. We are not Mormons; this is not Mormons church, Or any general authorities. It is the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. The strength of their church lies in each individuals personal sacrifice to obtain a testimony of Jesus Christ, and endure to the end. And ultimately, if they continue making the sacrifice to become more like Them, the Father and the Son, they are promised to have their calling and election made sure.
I understand completely what your saying. Thank you for your video God bless you and everyone who watches this and who ever out here in this world feeling the same way I pray for you. AMEN
Fantastic and true. Perfection in this life is not possible, but continually following Christ is the answer.
If perfection in this life is not possible, then why was the city of Enoch taken up to heaven?
@@josephward6422Your question is perfect! I think no one has said the people of Enoch were perfect. In a coming day, I expect we will learn why they were taken up and what they were asked to do.
I love this so much!!! I never wrote a list when I was 15, because I wasn’t even in the church and I didn’t have a teacher to ask me to do that! I am now 73, joining the church when I was 45! But this young sister/your talk really hit home with me! Thank you so very much, dear sister, for your preparation & courage to get up there in front of this audience and open up about your life and what happened to you, etc.! Your talk was so inspirational & has helped me now, and I’m sure will be helping me in the future! Yes, I thought that we were told to be perfect now on this earthly plane!!! And I finally learned that is not what is expected of us! Yes, to strive toward perfection, but to remember Jesus and turn to him and learn of him! Yes, and Satan has been in the mix so much! Thank you so very much again to this sister and everyone else involved in bringing these talks to us! ♥️👍🤗👋❤️
I struggled with this for many years. My marriage was not working and I thought it was because I wasn’t pretty enough, my body wasn’t good enough, I was stupid/broken etc.
Then I found out that my husband was addicted to pornography. Of course I thought that if I was good enough he would not want to look at that garbage.
A couple years later I thought he was done with it, but my marriage still wasn’t working. Then I found out that he was still addicted.
Something clicked in me at that point. I saw the truth! Our marriage wasn’t struggling because of my not being enough. It was because of the addiction. I gained so much confidence and strength in that moment because I finally knew it wasn’t my fault!
He finally took getting away from pornography seriously and we finally started making progress in our marriage!
I had things to work on too, but this trial in my life has truly been a blessing to me. Weird huh!?!?! I became very happy with myself because I came to realize that I was enough. I was not the problem. I was not undesirable.
I’m not perfect and neither is he, but he is over the addiction. He beat it! And we are blessed to have each other (been married 15 years now!!!) and now 5 crazy kids that sass and trash the house!!! But they have so much good in them. You can really tell that when they are sleeping. 😉
If you are struggling, keep trying. You can come through it better than you believe right now. ❤️
Thanks for sharing your experience and encouragement, Rozann. We're glad you're here!
That’s a beautiful story... too many People these days do not help each other, Just here for them to leave and find maybe it’s easier person but eventually that person will have a problem too..so they leave again and again .... they will never know real love...
This is my 5th time listening to this.. I feel like she speaks to my soul. Thank you for your sweet testimony.
Totally struggle daily with the "perfect lie".
What is the lie???
@@mayte8018 that you have to be a certain way, certain size, certain lifestyle.
BE YOURSELF. YOU ARE ENOUGH. Include the savior in your life and you will not feel that you’re a failure, that you lack. Do your best and He’ll make up the difference.
What hit me is when she spoke about God giving her those trials so that she would come back to Him.
I'm going though some insane struggles, where I have given up totally and tried to kill myself not once but two times in less than two years. I lost my marriage of ten years because of that, I lost my home and the life I knew. I have fought EVERY day to just live one more day, let alone feel utterly abandoned by God.
I'm finding my way back, I'm barely crawling forward but I'm moving towards Him.
Yes!
I hope you are doing ok
Oh man, that was so freaking good! I love how she recognizes that her true worth is based on her identity, not her past decisions. "Heavenly Father just loves us for our intrinsic value as his children. He does not love us because of our strengths or our weaknesses or because of anything we do or don’t do. It’s not something we deserve and it’s not something that we earn, it just is, and it’s always going to be there." ("Like a Broken Vessel" Mormon Message)
For several weeks, I've been in what I refered to as a rut but has been more of a deep ditch. I've thought of myself as "too busy" and "too tired" to really read the scriptures and pray. I was working SO hard to keep my Christlike image and my positive reputation that I wasnt actually doing the things that merited that reputation in the first place! This video, along with an amazing Relief Society lesson today about bringing the holy spirit into my life so I can taste of the joy of the gospel, helped me to realize that hating myself for my many, many mistakes was driving me further from the source that would cure them instead of endearing me to Him and to others as I had hoped. I'm going to change because of this. I'm going to put off the natural man's tendency to criticize and to be on myself and I'm going to give myself the space and positivity to do those things that produce real, enduring happiness. I thank God for this video and the insightful comments that helped me to realize this.
Sister Webster, I have to say, your presentation is my favorite of this series. It really helps me when I feel discouraged. Your story and the principles you shared really touched me, as I've felt very similarly in my own trials. My favorite part is that equation you shared - Me + Christ = More. It's a reminder for me to draw humbly to the Savior, every day. Truly, thank you for sharing. It's quite a blessing.
You are not a failure sweetie, your a inspiration!!! I have major Heath issues n I've lost my children, but I know that Heavenly father has plan for me. N if that's means I'm not gonna get my children back till there 21 so be it, coz I know that if I don't get my children back in this life I know full well that I will get them back in the next life, as long as I do my part. I've over come so much, n I know if it wasn't for Heavenly father I wouldn't be here now!!!! Our God n his son are amazing!!!
This video deserves millions of views
Yes!😊❤
"He wants me to know that I am enough. Not because of anything I did, but because I'm his"
I don't know it now, but I felt those words if only for just a moment.
Well done. Feeling like a failure is Satan's way of dragging us down. The Savior taught, "Be of good cheer." So hard to do some days. Great self-disclosure like you show builds faith and hope that even I can make it. Thanks for your inspiration.
Sisters, this is great. Just what I needed to hear. 16 minutes of pure wisdom.
I have several mental disabilities, which also includes OCD, severe depression, and anxiety. It's very painful for me at times to feel like what I do is pleasing to God. I know that through the grace of Jesus Christ, we can become a little more like him daily. I'm trying hard to remember this, because when depression and OCD hit me hard it's more difficult to remember that God is very pleased with many of you, and I, and. He loves each of us, and we will succeed with his help!
I needed this SO, SO MUCH Tiffany! God sent it to me today. I’ve been spending weeks in that dark place that you spoke of. Mourning the life that I wanted so badly that’s not going to be mine. Including the children I wanted to have that aren’t going to be mine in this life. Thank you for being an answer to my prayer today even many years later.
Thank you for your comment!
Such wonderful truths shared here....thank you for sharing your story and the life lessons you learned on your journey. It really struck a cord with me.
Thanku Tiffany, your a amazing young woman!!! Don't you ever doubt your worth, God bless sweetie xxx
Watching your videos makes my faith in this church BIGGER. PLEASE DONT STOPPPP
Thank you! I loved the portion where she shared the addition visuals. I realize I'm much like this, acting in a perfectionism type mindset. I remember a general conference talk where the female speaker shared that it was more important that the kids are spiritually protected with scriptures and prayer than that they get out of their pajamas by the end of the day.
So much of this life is delusional when we lose focus on what really matters and our true purpose for being here. A lot of expectations we set for ourselves are influenced greatly by our culture. What God thinks of us is more important than what those around us think. There are so many factors that go into "worldly success" that are often times out of our hands. We get what we truly want in the end anyways. If we deny Christ enough we will see the misery of our wills being done rather than His. However God is such a loving parent, I can't imagine a better existence than being with Him. Being nurtured and taught by heavenly family, nothing could compare. I have no family on Earth anymore, I had to escape or die if I stayed with my blood family. I feel hope after watching this that it'll all work out, that nothing is more important than developing a relationship with Christ in my sojourn on this Earth.
Thank you Tiffany Webster for being so open and honest and even candid about your views. I think I will try to be more focused on being with Christ rather than comparing myself to Him and feeling badly that I don't measure up. I used to feel a lot more pride towards Him than even I do now, because it seems that such a big deal was made about Him being "the only begotten of the Father" and I felt like God must love Him more and think less of us than Christ. However I realize now that Christ's worth in God's eyes is no different from our worth in God's eyes, we are all His children and God is the ultimate in being a good father. After all Heavenly Father allowed Jesus to die for our benefit, not to diminish Heavenly Fathers love for Jesus, it must have been extremely hard for Him to watch Jesus suffer innocently, but He allowed it so we could progress through Christs atonement. Christ had to finish it to have it be effective. Jesus is more capable than all of us and when it's said that He's the only begotten son that means that He was conceived by the spirit, making Him part God and then having Mary as His mother making Him half mortal as well. I still don't understand how He could have such a different life circumstance from us but I do not argue it because He did more for us than we could ever begin to comprehend in this life. Some people may think that because Christ "gave the most, God must love Him the most" and they're looking at that from a perfectionist view too. Because if we give all we have, we've done no different than Christ. As Mormons we have interesting and great views on interpretations of scriptures in that we do not take them all literally. Christ was given more talents, we were given less. Yet we're all responsible for what we have and what we do with it. Christ checked off all we could possibly do on any checklist, however it's not about tasks, it's about change. Our whole purpose in eternity seems to be progression through change. Christ provided the opportunity for me to change, we took a risk in Him not fulfilling His mission, yet we trusted Him enough hoping He would. Thankfully He did and now we're asked to fulfill our own individual and different missions. We can only do it through His atonement (and that is certainly special) and getting to know Him, work with Him and have that relationship between us two. All that He suffered for our sake was personal and so will all that we suffer for Him will be. It really is a GREAT plan God has for us and our Savior is a true example. He's no better nor worse than us, He's different. His mission was different, His talents-different, abilities, etc. it was all different and thank goodness that it is, because none of the rest of us were suited for all He was sent to do. He was the first born, so it's no surprise that He'd be more capable that we all, because of that.
Amen
I completely resonate with this and struggle with the same thing. I'm so thankful and glad there is this talk because she eloquently explains HOW perfection doesnt work. I don't focus on His love enough, I focus on the pressure and expectations and reaching my highest potential no matter the cost. It is so hard to just be okay with being enough espeically when just being his daughter is supposed to be enough. I'm so thankfuk for this talk it's very thought provoking and I need to meditate on it :)
So joyful I happened upon this!!!
Watching your videos makes my testimony grow stronger. DONT STOP PLEASE!!!!❤️
Me too!😊❤
If you add anything to yourself, you aren't infinity. If you add infinity, you together are greater than you could ever imagine.
Something similar happened to me, but I lost everything...my husband, my home, my physical and mental health. And it's taken me 8 years to learn that Jesus Christ is the only one who can make me whole. Now He has filled my heart with love and peace beyond understanding and although I am still broken, I know that Jesus will provide for my needs and lead me down the path He meant for me all along. Jesus Christ is my Savior and my salvation and I love Him with all my heart and soul!
❤️✝️🙏
Update: The miracles just keep coming! God is heaping blessing after blessing upon me and I'm overflowing with gratitude. He has completely restored and renewed my heart. I haven't felt like this since I was a child...turning 54 tomorrow. I'm thrilled to talk with the Lord every day and He answers my prayers 🙏 I have lots of questions and He answers them all! If you seek Him, you WILL find Him. Love and Peace to you all brothers and sisters.
His grace is sufficient.
this has kind of been me. im only 14 but ive always loved money and always have dreams and ambitions. also having the mindset that skinny is pretty and therefore i will be happy. but now i realize that Christ means happiness and can make u feel enough
"Add me upon you and I will make you more." I could hear Jesus Christ telling us this. Thank you for sharing your story. This has widen my understanding of Heavenly Father's love and Jesus Christ's charity for us. And I just want learn more of our Savior and accomplish more things with Him.
😊😊😊
I'm grateful for these testimonials of the power of prayer 🙏. God will prevail if we chose to let God prevail.
Sounds almost like my testimony maybe one day I can have the guts to say it I am also new to the church just got baptized this past Saturday in Fontana California on zoom
this is me......to the "T". this is so inspirational to me. I'm at the point where I'm trying to read but I'm feeling numb....this gives me hope and guidance. thank you!!!!!
this filled my spirits and gave me encouragement🙏🏼
Can we have Tiffany speak at next General Conference? This is so good! :D
if she becomes a general auxiliary of the Church, perhaps.
😅 Amen!😊❤
Yes, only invited guests do, and that is very rare. Only general officers of the church speak at general conferences. I remember in a general priesthood meeting the BYU quarterback spoke. This was years ago.
This is just what I needed. Thank you so much! Please translate this video into the Spanish language. I think it could help so many people just like it did to me!!! I would like to share it with my friends in South America :)
That would be wonderful if they did that!! I don't speak spanish, but it would be life changing to some people if they translated it!!😊❤
Thank you for sharing that. I relate very much (even the guacamole) . I am on round two of relearning all of this "enough" stuff. I've been way low, spent a lot of time in bed and not doing much but what absolutely HAD to be done. Then I learned my worth and the love of my wonderful Heavenly Father and Mother have for me. I learned more about what the atonement means, then I started to be doing better, but now I struggle, again, with thinking I need to be more. That blessings aren't coming because I am not more. I've gone backwards in learning beautiful things about who I am and am now questioning them again, because things are still so challenging. I guess it's back to digging in spiritually, even MORE now. It's how I survive.
❤️❤️❤️ You are so loved! Your efforts are rewarded!! I promise you! I definitely empathize and struggle with similar feelings of needing to be more so thank you!
Exactly amen sister 😂
I am si greatful for your message Tiffany. I really want to share your message in Spanish with my sisters in Relief Society.
Thank you so much! That was certainly for me tonight. It's now a goal of mine to stop that destructive mindset and lifestyle. You're awesome!
Yes, you are enough. Part of this challenge is to persuade parents (siblings, children, and others) that you are enough.
LDS TED style talks? LOVE IT, were do I sign up!
😅 I know right! I love them!😊❤
So genuine and powerful and profound. Thank you!
Inspirational, it has certainly helped me see the lies and the difference between Christ and satans' ways of teaching.
Amen!🙂❤
Great message, everyone needs to see this, very uplifting. Thanks so much.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Best talk ever!!
I needed to hear this message thank you! ❣❣❣
Thank you so much for organizing something like this!!
I find focus listening to your massage and and i do know that you are saying the truth. When using the atonement well its brings change and transformation.
This is Beautiful!!! Chasing Jesus is the source of True Happiness. Thank you, Tiffany!!!
This message is truly for me thank your for your inspirational words i cried a good cry god bless
Very powerful message ♥️
Do you know why you made it my sister? Because in that moment of decision at the depth, instead of choosing anger, bitterness, and *wanting* the gospel to not be true, then looking for proof or accepting Satan's invitations to look for doubt and confirm doubt for yourself and abandon Him, your Brother and Savior, you reached down from somewhere you had in reserve from your previous life or the life before we came and decided to listen to that. That! And you chose to go to CHRIST. You won. You won in the moment it counted the most, and every moment after that you decided to engulf yourself in Him and bathe yourself in His spirit and truths. You chose Him. Much love to you until we meet in person Tiffany. xoxo Your sister, Candice
That was such an amazing paragraph!!😊❤❤
This is so me, or me a couple of years ago. The sad thing is that I believed that lie and could not se it for what it was. I worked my self so hard that I got the breakdown not at age 30 as she did (which is young enough), but at the aged of 18. I almost worked my self to death to have the perfect life. And I became so ill. But know through Christ atonement my scars getting healed and my life has changed for the better. I have learned that I can do nothing with out Christ and that he loves me and everyone else so, so much. I did´t learn what lie I believed so strongly inn, and still believed some what in, was before today. But I´m grateful for being able to learn about it so I can do something about it and set my goals working with Christ. Thank you!
Hey I know her!! Great job Tiffany!
Thank you for your uplifting words!!! Every woman should her this talk.
I have rewatched this. I have to get this in my head. This was just what I need. :)
I really needed to hear this. I'm so glad this channel exists.
Thank you for your wonderful message
Life changing. Thank you!!
This gave me hope! Thank you so much!
That was so beautiful! I loved it so much!
Anything that keeps you trying and hopeful is helpful and good.. When the Church continually emphasizes faithfulness over acceptance and the hope of forgiveness, it clouds that message and people lose faith.
Love this so much Tiffany. You're amazing.
Wonderful talk! Thank you so much!!
Really powerful speech, thank you!
Found this in a time of need, thank you.
This is exactly why I have been in and out the church for years. BUT I have always believed in Jesus, no matter if I walked away.
Love the deliverance
I love Corinthians 15:52! I just read it because I saw your username!!😊 Thank you!!🙂❤
Thank you. This means more than you could imagine to me 🙂
Awesome! Thank you.
So powerful! Thank you!
I love this....he want us to feel gods love always and his grace is sufficient.
So eye opening! Thanks
Love this!!! Thank you!!
Just what I need it to hear, very uplifthing, it gave me hope.
Thank you for sharing your story!
I enjoyed watching this video, it touched my heart. I have had a similar experience. Thank you Tiffany, for you inspiring message.
That was amazing!! Everything she talked about I've felt ;-; and I just never saw things in the perspective she brings. Truly inspiring talk
I love this so much. Thank you for sharing, I really needed to hear this :')
Thank you for your powerful story, I appreciate it very much, I need to hear more stories like this.
Your a great inspiration for us that are also sailing without a compass.
Thank you.
Awesome Tiffany, i also want to know.....stirred up some things inside of me.God bless you xoxo
Thankyou so much!
Who else here on quarantine, feeling paralyzed?
Focus on the Savior. He is the answer. He can fill your heart with sweetness in an instant. We are lost without him, but remember oh remember that He will never give up on you, never leave you alone, and oh how He loves You dear one.
I'm done with the useless hysteria. The cure must not be worse than the disease. And we have good data by now. The media never tells about "excess deaths" especially suicides. People die of lots of different causes. Were not their lives just as valuable as the ones lost to Covid?
TIME TO
MOVE ON !
Me.😌❤
@@novajohnson6271 That was beautiful! Thank you!😊😌❤
Thank you!
Very honest insightful and inspired.
Thank you very much.
I needed to hear this today, so thank you:).
Thanks for tuning in, Lydia!
Thank you i received an answer to my prayers today.
Thank you
Yes! So good!
I love this talk!!❤
Wonderful Great Job even more Thank You for letting the Holy Ghost teach You how to " Be complete , whole, able ,healed and cleaned in Christ and His Attoning sacrifice" This is the key to achieve true Joy and happiness.
And thank You for sharing it with all of us!!!
Thank you, this really helped me :D
Thanks a lot, this words changed my view.