I'm a victim too by my neighbour who was a teenager and i was 7 or 6 yrs...i came to know that i was abused when i was 17...i took 10 yrs to know that i was abused....the trauma is so real. I told my by(who is ex now)that i was abused but he told don't do that hereafter be loyal to me.... even bf think it was my mistake....i was just 7 yrs old ufff...
Absolutely It’s not your mistake. We must educate the people (both genders) from school itself by sex education. Even I was abused by my relative girl when I was so young and now I’m realising I had been abused . It hits suddenly when we are doing our normal work.
I came across this video after the Kolkata Doctor rape incident. Part 2 throws valid pointers than part 1. Some of the valid points are 1. Asking the female to ignore small abuses in whatsapp, social media etc that impends bigger crime like rape and throwing voices after the incident which in first place could have been prevented. I have seen in many foreign countries where the law supports immediate assistance to any form of inappropriate behaviour/abuse be it online, physical etc with real concern and respect to the people facing it. What if India enforces such laws against any form of inappropriate behaviour without having any sort of negligence/ignorance. 2. Stalking - I cannot count the Tamil/Indian movies that fantasize coercing the girl into love/relationship by continuously stalking/pestering them. Young people who grow by seeing these things will believe the same. Movies in a way are influencing mob in a wrong way. Keerthi History also spoke about this beautifully 3. Rape free world - I can only imagine the joy and freedom that female will have when traveling in train, going to other public places without sending location to anyone. I am stunned at this point. India has lot of restriction in common places like school, college, etc for a boy to speak with a girl. But, in other foreign countries they dont have such serious social practices. But, they have lesser rapes and harassments than India. So what did India achieve by restricting interactions in school and colleges? The duty of the school is to teach values to overcome problems like this and not to avoid the problem by stopping the interaction. Its high time to stop normalizing abuses, accepting or tolerating the crimes, and get rid off "Its how the world is. You stay away from it" attitude. Educate people!
i actually does not support restrictions but your point about social practice of foreign country is wrong.. USA has higher rape percentage than india. infact india ranks at low in per capita of rapes. The only way to do better is transparent investigation, strict punishments and strict rules. no matter how much awareness we give to the society, such men and women will always try to rape.
I definitely wanna appreciate you for coming up with a topics like this. Movies TH-cam every one trying to get views by giving contents how most of the crowd want to hear or see. But ur giving really valuable content which is eye opening fr most of us. Giving different perspective to the judgemental society who hide around women to show what’s culture. Hat’s off to u girl. Definitely agree with all your perspective. I hope at least some of them would change there perspective through ur video. Being a women Am proud of you. I wanna raise my hand too I was abused numerous time in my childhood by numerous people and situations. I just couldn’t remember them but it feels like dream I felt that way now. Effect of abusing I normally walk by putting my head down. Many times men shows some sexual signs while u see them it hurts me sooo bad so I stopped making eye contact also wont look around due to that fear. Still I have such a fear.
Yeah I've been too... By an old aged man when I was 6 years, it took almost 20 years to say that to my mother & cry. But I learned to defend myself from such creeps at an early age due to my aversion. Till now I have a name among my friends & collegues that I'm a man hater, just because I keep such men (who try to approach me differently than a friend) at bay. That is the main reason I questioned about double standards on men & women. I learned one important concept is that abusers are not ready to come up in a lime light so shine it on them instead of breeding them as you said ananthi.
Being abused is such a worst traumatic experience a person can face in their life. Abusing a person is such a cruel and brutal mentality a person can have.. They have to die ! . And i don't think ur called a man hater just because u avoid those people who approach differently than a friend (and i don't think male and female friendship is a stable thing or it exists maybe really rarely on some conditions, it's a different topic) I think it's because ur a feminist. I think most feminists are irrational coz they are ignorant of male and female biological and psychological differences. And i have came across many women who identify themselves as feminists are actually incapable of accepting their mistakes and then acting on their emotions. And most have no logical counter argument and then proceeds to keep on bashing the same irrational, illogical, non factual, unscientific arguments. And feminists like to have conversations with people who have no counter productive arguments coz they can easily be won but they are not ready to argue with factual and scientific things. I've seen ur comments on different channels so i can get why u being called as man hater(misandrist). What u r questioning is not the double standards , it's the difference between men and women, it exists. My stand is men and women are not the same And u can now change my mind . And also we had arguments before and u failed to prove ur point and i had similar arguments with other feminists too, most did the same thing.
@@pot8735 thanks for your concern on abuse & killing an abuser is not the wholistic solution. But I disagree that I failed to prove my point. I walked out because you still think double standards exists just because the physiological & psychological difference between male & female. I dont know your definition on feminism, but I stand firmly at the true definition of feminism- its dont compel men/women to follow some stereotypes just because of their gender, just treat them as equal human. Its clear you wont be changing your ideology & will continue to argue. But Be sure I wont change either, I will be a proud feminist & will always fight for equality for all genders. Peace out
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 u still failed to prove ur point coz "proving a point" means u should have to come back with a counter argument , walking away is not a way to prove ur point ,u have to prove ur point by argument not by walking away,I don't think double standard exists in a traditional roles. I think u didn't know what double standard actually means. So prove me how double standard exists in a traditional role. Prove me wrong I will be a feminist the next minute. Walking away is not the way to prove ur point, u have to prove by counter argument that defends ur stand.
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 and prove me how's that not killing a rapists is a solution. Seems u dont understand the social structure we'll enough. Prove me!?
@@pot8735its not possible to prove it to you because you are blindfolded by being traditional rather than being rational. You are not trying to understand feminism but trying to blame & convert feminists according to you. You made it clear by telling that abuser must die instead of thinking a way to control sexual abuse in a wholistic level. I'm not gonna try to convert you to a feminist its more of a internal change that one should go through. This will be my last reply to you ever, bye creep.
Almost my doubts were covered in this video.. thanks for that.. and.. there are so many people who talk about these topics which are labbelled "sensitive" ..but its only you who can have a neutral perspective and which clearly makes anyone understand the way it is..👏👏👏
Super sister.. most of the womens and mens are too shy to talk about it.. u make a good move.. and i sure your speech on this topic can a make a great change in society and make a nice amd better future....🔗🦋
Yes.. I have been abused when i was 2nd or 3rd std I immediately told my mother about it and she told my father but idk what they did... The trauma is real It actually made me a tough person It definitely take a toll on me The effect is still exist and im not sure whether im over it or not The incident is still fresh on my mind But his face is not clear U took me with him with my mother permission to buy me ice cream.
Bhaiya ye sab chutiyapa ha inn gandu logo ko khud hi nhi pata kahe inka man machalta ha Mera point of view bataye toh hum toh yahi kahenge ki film hi ye sab ki jar ha films me soft porn yaha waha itna subtle tarike se dikhaya jata ha ayese ek khwaish ko ek aam admi ke dimag me plant kiya jata ha ek rapist ka dimag bana diya jata ha agar sexy ka definition films nhi samjhati toh kayse ek 5 saal ki bachi ka rape hota kaise 60 saal ki aurat ka rape hota ya kaise burkha pehne huye aurat ka rape hota films sab dekhke bass dream karte rehte ha film ko hi jindagi man lete ha ek heroine ko dekh lete ha toh koi usse milta jhulta ladki ka sakal dikh jaye toh larke uska piche par jate ha love nam ka bawasir ho jata ha inko are mere pyare chindi bhaiyo pyar ka spelling bhi ata ha tumko ??!!... Films ka motive hi kya ha entertainment or education hi nah toh kahe ye chutiyapa dikhate ha ayese bhi toh films ho sakte he jaha humari sanskriti ko preserve kiya jata ha auroto ka or admiyo ka izzat kiya jata ha sabko samman ki nazro se dekha jata ha kyu itna faltu ho gaya ye duniya jaha humare behen didi ko nazre jhuka ke dupatta or ke burkha pehen ke jana padta ha kahi or ke dusman se nhi yahi humare aas paas ke admio ke nazro se bach ke jana padta ha Ye log chullu bhar pani me dub ke kyu nhi marte jee kyu rhe ho taki auroto ko dekh pau or unka asamman kar pao chiiiiiiiii jaha aurat ko devi ke rup me puja jata ha unhi ke kok se janam lekar unhi par hawi ho rhe ho Nasamajh namardo chutiyo sharam karo bhagwan se daro or har ek insan ka izzat karo gandu
U r right. We should convey our problems. If we think they won't liaten without saying that's our problem. As u said ellam ponnoda karpu la than adangi irku nu solranga athanala than ipo karpazhipu nu oru term ey use panna koodathu paaliyal vankodumai nu than use pannanum. Atkast really happy for the reply u gave to deepak 😊🎉
I too was abused when I didn't know what it is. I didn't know how to escape even though i tried when I understood because it was by... I was unable to openup and it took 26 yrs afterwards to communicate that too only after I was being told that she too underwent and i was heart broken... I couldn't even tell back... Me too until she asked if I had such experience. Just after this, i somehow with much mental pain communicated to a few others hoping to get relief. Later, when my ex was abusing me verbally, i didn't understand that it wasn't my fault.. I was trying to correct myself a lot to satisfy him even though i didn't feel i was wrong. I was feeling what wrong did I do that the person left me for about next 6 yrs blaming myself a lot. Again that shows how a person if abused at early age won't understand what is normal and tend to keep adjusting falling as a victim again and again. Yes, from school level itself this education needs to be emphasised from early childhood age itself. Of late only, i started seeing such experiences by similar victims and their feelings matched me. Then, i started working on my mind to stop blaming myself for someone else' mistake and repeatedly work inside to live my life happy and enjoy whatever may come. Actually i feel one of the parents should be friendly to the children so that children will tell whatever happens. If both are strict but caring, child would not know to fight nor complain from fear of what if they scold and just keep on adjusting itself suffering more and more.
True. I'm sorry you went through something and had to overcome it through so many years...I'm very glad you become this beautiful and strong person now.... Keep Fighting and be Strong
@Anonymous-md5mf your pov is wrong. That's called similarity not equality. Both are equal but not same. Simply says, 10 kg of iron and 10 kg of gold is equal in ⚖️ this scale. But both are not same. Like that, men are physically strong enough to work in mines, and women are physically strong enough to bear the pain of pregnancy and periods. Men are mentally and emotionally strong enough to bear the pain of family member's death. Women are mentally and emotionally strong enough to grow a child as a single mother.
@Anonymous-md5mf yeah you are right, women are not treated equally. But I want to treat both equally. Atleast in future, situation will be changed. Only thing we can do is, educating our children in right way🫠
wow mind blowing speech and I am too learned a lot about what is happening and I find some answers why it is happening either it is our mind set or the society!... thank you for this most boldly speech video with more information and facts!!....
Good one. It has been happening for years after all the strong laws we have in place. Only way to stop is by proper and strong education. We have to continuously keep spreading the message. The change has to happen from within. I sometimes wonder if it's something to do with biological structure or design of men. I myself a man and have a daughter. Never abused anyone so far. Women should be bold and should report any abuses immediately without worrying about the society and as a member of society we should stand for it
The video is so informative and an eye-opener to many , But my doubts were 1. There is a common fear that if you speak against the simple small incidents , like in a bus , if you raise your voice against the abuser , it'll gain you attention and there is a chance that the abuser could make you want to teach a lesson to shut you up and notify you and do something bigger than that , or it can make him feel ashamed but doesn't realise it was his fault but wanna teach a lesson to the girl and may assault her . 2. Also not all assaults are done for a reason , Some just do drugs and just for the sake that they know that girl isn't gonna raise her voice they abuse her , this is happening, am I right?? , only when she's put into a life threatening situation or death , the abuse becomes notified otherwise it remains unseen , that's I guess what gives power for an abuser to abuse .
yes I was abused too when I was in 6th grade by an old aged man whom I saw as a grandfather, he had a fancy store, and I grew up passing by his shop everyday by bidding him goodbyes & greetings while going to school, till now I am not allowed to go out to any shops nor for a walk/cycling without any elders of my family and I'm 20 now. and about the Rape free World -yes its one kind of a dream for me, as mentioned above I'm being watched by my parents with a damn tracking app. Like seriously I understand their worry for me ,but still isn't too much invading my privacy and like whatsoever. I feel like bawling my eyes out whenever my parents share their childhoods memories like playing with their friends, going to cinemas, travelling alone ,because of one incident and the state of this society many people like me are affected and missed making their childhood memorable by sitting in their homes.
my tuppence on this crisis: a. all movies with love as one of the scenes- the hopeless man serenading or harassing a woman , stories, songs, etc - put a warning upfront before tobacco/alcohol warnings that their depiction of romance is not real and not to be followed b. put POCSO rule in the credits before the movie starts AND publish pocso in cities and villages c. make men & women understand that getting into these sort of relationships isnt 'love' - its just calculations that might go awfully wrong d. ill-educated population - not just talking of school or college gradn - the fact that most people dont read beyond the daily newspaper and magazines (that're sometimes filled with filth anyway) - they dont know their own native scriptures, etc to think of things and people beyond themselves e. girls should be clear that if the male they befriended ever ask for physical intimacy, break that relationship off immediately if they have dreams of marrying that person in the future. no mature fellow will ever ask for sex before marriage if he really respects himself and the girl. never too late to break a fall instd of going thru with it out of insecurity befriending some male without family's knowledge itself is a big first step to disaster - so beware and get a life! f. the lawmakers/keepers - these pathetic scum will never do anything right to implement the laws - look at the # of politicians and police and bureaucrats that have raped and/or have their sons as rapists that got away - priya mattoo's killer, asifa's murderers, unnao, hathras, pollaachi, etc etc - the list just goes on and on.
There are two sides to my thoughts here.... I really wish I couldve read this comment a decade ago - It is a trick to keep for life. But if I had read it back then I would've simply thought this to be blasphemy. Because the person who I am now has gone through something she hadn't. Thank you very much pal.
Hi Ananthi ma'am, Some men in our society.. Some majority part of men, are disrespectful towards women. Adai parthu valarum samudayam 'mathu' nu pesuradhu not a surprise. Veetla sila taaai maargalum, ann pillai meedu adeeda mariyadaiyum, pen pillaigal meedu madip inmaiyavum nadathuranga. Adai parthu valarum samudayam 'mathu' nu solradhu no surprise. Change should begin at home, change needs to be sown by good parenting. It's my observation. -Vivek
Among my cousins boys are given more attention and more respect by family(the girls are asked to serve boys...we are in our teens ) even though girls are equally capable of them.. Until now I was not asking anything about that as they are my family and relatives but hereafter I'm going to voice out if I find out discriminating activities...
Yes, i was absued. On a bus, by a doctor, by relative when i was a child. And now i am messed up in head. I also seen many absures get married. When i think of marriage i dont want a guy who absued someone or a phedophile. How to find it? And prevent myself from getting married to a phedophile or a rapist/ abuser.
Talk to the person who you going to marry, understand how they talk, react , behave to other person... don't worry you will choose the right partner. ✌✌
Same thing goes on my mind occassionally. The faces we see everyday, on our travel, I could not help but think 'what if this person had abused someone' or 'what kind of person will I marry? would he abuse anyone in future' because we couldn't believe anyone.
I know i can’t do anything but tell everyone you were abused and make sure he never comes near you again file a complaint, it can be hard you cannot live like this
You can tell this incident to your parents right..?? please tell this to them because it's not some random person abused you its someone your seeing or facing repeatedly... Even if some random person i think it's better to speak this with ur parents...
Hi RJ Ananthi, It's been 10 months since this video was posted. Na ipo dan pakran 😅. Truly appreciate your efforts 👏. Yes, I have been abused by a transgender when I was in 9th grade. Ipovum enaku Avangla patha oru bayam varum. My Lady was also abused by her friend whom she trusted. The sad part is she doesn't know that she was being abused. I think, educating kids and people is much more important. As you said, Shout out when you are being abused. Hoping for a different future.
I have been abused by my own cousin brother @ my age 8....yaa exactly still I didn't reveal this to my parents also.........but I HV been told this to my boyfriend once I feel very secure with him.....but now we broken.....I don't know how they r abusing physically nd mentally.....my thoughts will be respect nd responsible should be equal for both genders..... don't hesitate this as ur low thoughts using gender discrimination
The point here is, we see Respect in term of ATTITUDE.... Respect should be in the ways a person sees, thinks of you, treats you, how they speak to you, do they listen and understand to what you say, and more than that what is their persona when in their personal circle and you are around....it speaks a lot about that person. Give respect and take respect seems very cliche when you think of so many of these aspects.
That's absolutely right Akka, If Treat a woman just as mere human instead of glorifying them as god or making them inferior to men majority of problems can be solved!
I have been abused by one of my close friends still I feel the fear to tell this to anyone as i gave him the space to do this all. Due to this i still have issues in making relationships in my own life.
I am a boy ,I got abused by a men during bike lift . He continuesly press private part during the journey of 10 to 12km. (That is extremely painful, "NO ERECTION, NO PLEASURE = UNCONTROLLABLE PAIN (I would like jump from the bike) tired & energy loss , can't walk...
Hi Ananthi, I appreciate you very much for the open minded and progressive views which you are sharing through your channel. Do you think doing yoga, meditation and exercise will reduce the tendency to rape/insecurities which make people do these things? Is there any research related to this? Thanks, Kaala
I think the biggest cause is porn and the availability of porn to anyone with a mobile in their hand at anytime. The more they watch the more the pervasion increases. Also the availability of drug and under the influence of alcohol. So if someone keeps on indulging in all these then what is the use of yoga, meditation and exercise.
@@shaktishrivithiya496 currently porn is banned in India, though there might be alternate ways to access it. My point is to bring about a physical and mental training regime which prevents youth from engaging in liquor, porn and rape kind of activities. I realize its utopian!
YESS!!! I've been abused...but it took nearly an year to understand that I had been abused...it happened with consent later I realized that I've just been manipulated by my BEST FRIEND to satisfy his needs. And till date I feel guilty for trusting someone to that extreme who just threw me as a trash after using me!
I'm very sorry you went through something like this. I'm glad you opened up. Take care of yourself. Please don't be stuck at the past anymore...let's take small steps everyday to make a move forward. Try loving yourself. Respect your feelings because who else will if not you. You have to start with yourself to make others respect and love you the way you want to be treated now on. I have. So you can too. Lots of love.
Hi, In 25:40 You tell, how about a world without rap*? I'm the person that, I thought that's nothing change happens. But, Even have a sister. but, your words (how about a world without rap*) creates a new Feel and Dimension on me. Thank you so much showing me the world of without rap*
This book is about some men harassing women. Not about the men who aren't. This book confines the subject only to such men and it doesn't accuse the men as whole. First try understanding it. If you have understood it, you wouldn't have posted such an immature comment.
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
I completely agree with what Akka and the author says. But to be honest, the title is somewhat provoking. If someone writes "Why do women cheat?" This will become a big issue. Isn't it?
29:28 then should punish women who file fake rape case on a men who want to move on if he sniffs it as a toxic relationship. The thing is he will be put to jail even if he is not an accust and after period of time he will be set free when "he proves" that he is innocent BUT at the same time she will be set free even after he is innocent, here she wrongly blame him eventhough no punishment to her. The men again has to go for defamation and to prove HIS side and produce strong evidence to seek justice. Everyone says about equality but where is it in law ??
I thought one experiment. We should make one state or region where women population should be always greater than men. And in political power there should be more women. What will happen?
i was twice sexually assaulted by my own friend and I reported this to my own elder brother , he tried compromising me saying we cannot take any steps and it happens generally and said me to move on . whom should i blame more now ?
How old is your elder brother? If your elder brother is a minor you should tell your parents. And some boys are not mature enough to handle these types of problems, so you have to inform your parents.
Just my perspective: Consider one special case, Abuse pannavanga thirundha koodaadha?. Victims speaking out may be the last for them. If you are seeing the abusers living happily infront of you may be they could have changed or else they will reap what they sow. May be both the parties understands that don't waste time by thinking about the past, But very cautious in the next time and educate the same to children. But that doesn't mean they shouldn't be punished for their mistake. But we all know "kaalam kadandhan needhi is aneedhi". Anandhi's speech shown some new perspective to unaware people
Hi akka 🙋🙋 Enakum sexual harrasment natanthu eruka Na 5 or 6 yrs erukum pothu Relative la oru uncle ena harrase pani erukararu.. Ena matum ela enga area la eruka elam chinna ponnu nga la um.. Antha age la athu enku sexual abuse ne theriyathu... Yaru kita um sola kutathu nu soluvararu etha... Aprm na 10 th padikum pothu... My brother enkita sexual abuse pana nga... But my brother and that uncle both are now die... Epa recent ah I harrased by police..... I really feel that ...akka Na sona 3 perum ena save ah pathuka vendiya vanga... But avinga tha ena harrase pana nga.......
Why men are rape romeo varusama Enakulam irutha question ithu athuku na kandu pudicha answer rape is a mental broblem are decis but itha video pathathum I was very sack because it's wrong really I want read that book thank you arthi sis you doing really awesome work ❤ I love soooooo much❤❤❤❤❤❤
You said that only intercourse is not sex, doing something which related to sex is also sex. So Even a adolescent girl entering into sex with a juvenile boy who doesn't know what is sex. Here who is raped by whom?
I have been victim by my sis BF in last year. At first, I was scared and I don't fell confiable to talk abt it. But, at the end, I talked to my sis, but after I told her she still be with him. I really get angry why my sis y didn't understand my position. So, What advice can give me and my sis?
Only metaphors... colours,shapes.... likely food advertisement...hmmm .not understanding who am i,and what is the opposite gender...much more create and stimulate the atoms ...but these are all one kind of delirium...body parts just part of the body...nowdays totally portrait other frames...keep safe ...not only womens including mens...thank you mam...✍️
Akka i am studying college 2nd year ennaku unga ellam romba pudikum recent a phone ku romba addict aana maari oru feeling aana ennaku athu pudikala aana controlum panna mudiyala exam la nalla mark vanganum aasai but phone nala concentrate panna mudiyala ennakaga nalla suggestions kuduga akka pls
I have been abuse lot of time age 8 to 10 than, ipavum ponnunga strong ha No sola maatikaranga antha Boldness varanum No solanum , than next martial art learning panirukanum plz soli kodunga,parents strong ha itha kathuka vaikanum pengaluku avinga matum tha sequr so😢
I agree with everything but there is lot more things are going நிறைய பேர் இங்க ரொம்ப நல்லா தப்பிக்கிரங்க what I mean is not only the persons you said what I convey is as a men I have met some girls and they are saying that they were abused by some financialy wealthier people doing this.I wanna ask you that do you will face them (super rich) with the same potential that you have right now for other girls what you do is you will safeguard yourself and you will try to protect the girls and don't fight against him see I don't mean that அதனால முன்னாடி பண்ணினது correct nu sollala athuvum thappu than ana wealthier ah irukkavangala face panna girls romba bayapaduranga work poidum,family la thappa ninaippanga nu. then sollamudiyama avunungala ethuvum pannamudiyama irukkanga and for example: vichithra big boss season 7 la enna situation face pannanga and Yara face pannunaga nu ellarukkum theriyum even Kamal sir Kum kooda but enna pandranga antha person ah ethuvume panna mudila innum nerya nerya nerya irukku and I am thinking that everyone is respecting the persons who are super rich and wealthier financially and அவுங்க பண்ணினது ஏன் எல்லாரும் light ah எடுதுக்குராங்க even Kamal sir, its a crime more than rape.I can understand that what you are trying to convey for mens and as well as women but as men I have this serious question to someone who's doing the things that you are doing especially the media persons why you guys don't have the guts to ask them they are the majority people go and take a look out of book and ask the girls around you who were working as a daily wages labours
I think at around 28 mins about respect.. men hurt the other men’s ’women’ because they may love their mom or sister etc which will hurt them more than any physical pain. May be not that the family dignity lies with women. Am I right or no?
Strong law rules and punishment vandha maridumnu namburanga ana adhuku vaipe illa kannuku theriyama thappu panna dhaan try panuvanga avungala maranum thapu seya koodadhunu thonanum bayamuruthi yelathaum sadhika mudiyadhu
Rape boosts the male ego while simping boosts the female ego. There's no in between. Sex is always about power. Everything in this world is about sex; But sex is about power - Oscar Wilde
Hello Mr Privileged. Women Simp for power you say. If you mean simp in the send that we are submissive then your words contradict yourself. Majority of Indian women have stopped simping...a long time ago. But if you still find some - be gracious and kind to them because they are from those part of the society who are experiencing the millenial version of the age old women discrimination. And its usually for LOVE and Respect not power.
Yup every women in their lifetime have been abused and i too have been abused i accept it..But it's not use of sharing every individual stories in social media Yes it's useful when every women raise her voice and actions against men on that particular incident that doesn't mean we should learn to fight. Protect men too❤ According to Men are being raped! At the same time perspective of Men seeing women should be loved nd respected if it's in wrong way definitely teach them about it rather than growing or praise them in words of Nee Aambala da, avaluku laam idhan daa gedhi u gave her a lesson, Supporting them is worse way to promoting this type of mEn. Atleast grow our future Boy Kids in good way❤make them know Equality..
நீங்க அழகா சொன்னாலும் மக்கள் யாரும் ஆணையும் பெண்ணையும் காதலிக்காத பொருளை தான் காதலிக்கும் பிசாசுகள் வாழும் காலத்தில் வாழ்கிறோம். ஆண் பெண் அனைவரும் பணப்போய்கள். உண்மையா திருமணத்திற்கு அழகு தேவையில்லை, பணம் தேவையில்லை, ஆணாக பெண்ணாக இருந்தால் போரும். 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ கலிகாலம் எல்லா காலங்களிளும் பூர்வ ஜென்ம புண்யம் இருந்தால் தான் சந்தோஷமான இல்லறம் கிடைக்கும். அதற்கு பெற்றோர்கள் அதிகம் குழந்தைகள் பெற வேண்டும். இந்த விஷயத்தில் முகமதியர்களை நான் காதலிக்கிறேன் சாஷ்டாங்க நமஸ்காரமே செய்யலாம். 🙏💐.
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'Maaththu illaga' "Maaththunga" salute for you, sister
I'm a victim too by my neighbour who was a teenager and i was 7 or 6 yrs...i came to know that i was abused when i was 17...i took 10 yrs to know that i was abused....the trauma is so real. I told my by(who is ex now)that i was abused but he told don't do that hereafter be loyal to me.... even bf think it was my mistake....i was just 7 yrs old ufff...
Glad to broke up with him
Absolutely It’s not your mistake. We must educate the people (both genders) from school itself by sex education. Even I was abused by my relative girl when I was so young and now I’m realising I had been abused . It hits suddenly when we are doing our normal work.
It's not your mistake. It's not easy to come out of it, I can get you. You have been brave don't get into the victim's mindset.
Sorry for what you experienced. It's not at all your fault.
@@sangaviash7910 I'm so sorry, Glad he is your Ex. Dont fall for such guy again.
I came across this video after the Kolkata Doctor rape incident. Part 2 throws valid pointers than part 1. Some of the valid points are
1. Asking the female to ignore small abuses in whatsapp, social media etc that impends bigger crime like rape and throwing voices after the incident which in first place could have been prevented. I have seen in many foreign countries where the law supports immediate assistance to any form of inappropriate behaviour/abuse be it online, physical etc with real concern and respect to the people facing it. What if India enforces such laws against any form of inappropriate behaviour without having any sort of negligence/ignorance.
2. Stalking - I cannot count the Tamil/Indian movies that fantasize coercing the girl into love/relationship by continuously stalking/pestering them. Young people who grow by seeing these things will believe the same. Movies in a way are influencing mob in a wrong way. Keerthi History also spoke about this beautifully
3. Rape free world - I can only imagine the joy and freedom that female will have when traveling in train, going to other public places without sending location to anyone. I am stunned at this point.
India has lot of restriction in common places like school, college, etc for a boy to speak with a girl. But, in other foreign countries they dont have such serious social practices. But, they have lesser rapes and harassments than India. So what did India achieve by restricting interactions in school and colleges? The duty of the school is to teach values to overcome problems like this and not to avoid the problem by stopping the interaction.
Its high time to stop normalizing abuses, accepting or tolerating the crimes, and get rid off "Its how the world is. You stay away from it" attitude.
Educate people!
i actually does not support restrictions but your point about social practice of foreign country is wrong.. USA has higher rape percentage than india. infact india ranks at low in per capita of rapes.
The only way to do better is transparent investigation, strict punishments and strict rules.
no matter how much awareness we give to the society, such men and women will always try to rape.
I definitely wanna appreciate you for coming up with a topics like this. Movies TH-cam every one trying to get views by giving contents how most of the crowd want to hear or see. But ur giving really valuable content which is eye opening fr most of us. Giving different perspective to the judgemental society who hide around women to show what’s culture. Hat’s off to u girl. Definitely agree with all your perspective. I hope at least some of them would change there perspective through ur video. Being a women Am proud of you. I wanna raise my hand too I was abused numerous time in my childhood by numerous people and situations. I just couldn’t remember them but it feels like dream I felt that way now. Effect of abusing I normally walk by putting my head down. Many times men shows some sexual signs while u see them it hurts me sooo bad so I stopped making eye contact also wont look around due to that fear. Still I have such a fear.
That's a nice point. How we need to support our own community. Like school, cinema, workplace.
I changed myself after seeing something like this. Thanks. I hope everything will change! Hurray for your journey
Yeah I've been too... By an old aged man when I was 6 years, it took almost 20 years to say that to my mother & cry. But I learned to defend myself from such creeps at an early age due to my aversion. Till now I have a name among my friends & collegues that I'm a man hater, just because I keep such men (who try to approach me differently than a friend) at bay. That is the main reason I questioned about double standards on men & women. I learned one important concept is that abusers are not ready to come up in a lime light so shine it on them instead of breeding them as you said ananthi.
Being abused is such a worst traumatic experience a person can face in their life. Abusing a person is such a cruel and brutal mentality a person can have.. They have to die ! .
And i don't think ur called a man hater just because u avoid those people who approach differently than a friend (and i don't think male and female friendship is a stable thing or it exists maybe really rarely on some conditions, it's a different topic) I think it's because ur a feminist. I think most feminists are irrational coz they are ignorant of male and female biological and psychological differences. And i have came across many women who identify themselves as feminists are actually incapable of accepting their mistakes and then acting on their emotions. And most have no logical counter argument and then proceeds to keep on bashing the same irrational, illogical, non factual, unscientific arguments. And feminists like to have conversations with people who have no counter productive arguments coz they can easily be won but they are not ready to argue with factual and scientific things.
I've seen ur comments on different channels so i can get why u being called as man hater(misandrist). What u r questioning is not the double standards , it's the difference between men and women, it exists.
My stand is men and women are not the same And u can now change my mind .
And also we had arguments before and u failed to prove ur point and i had similar arguments with other feminists too, most did the same thing.
@@pot8735 thanks for your concern on abuse & killing an abuser is not the wholistic solution. But I disagree that I failed to prove my point. I walked out because you still think double standards exists just because the physiological & psychological difference between male & female. I dont know your definition on feminism, but I stand firmly at the true definition of feminism- its dont compel men/women to follow some stereotypes just because of their gender, just treat them as equal human.
Its clear you wont be changing your ideology & will continue to argue. But Be sure I wont change either, I will be a proud feminist & will always fight for equality for all genders.
Peace out
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 u still failed to prove ur point coz "proving a point" means u should have to come back with a counter argument , walking away is not a way to prove ur point ,u have to prove ur point by argument not by walking away,I don't think double standard exists in a traditional roles. I think u didn't know what double standard actually means. So prove me how double standard exists in a traditional role. Prove me wrong I will be a feminist the next minute. Walking away is not the way to prove ur point, u have to prove by counter argument that defends ur stand.
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 and prove me how's that not killing a rapists is a solution. Seems u dont understand the social structure we'll enough. Prove me!?
@@pot8735its not possible to prove it to you because you are blindfolded by being traditional rather than being rational. You are not trying to understand feminism but trying to blame & convert feminists according to you. You made it clear by telling that abuser must die instead of thinking a way to control sexual abuse in a wholistic level. I'm not gonna try to convert you to a feminist its more of a internal change that one should go through. This will be my last reply to you ever, bye creep.
Almost my doubts were covered in this video.. thanks for that.. and.. there are so many people who talk about these topics which are labbelled "sensitive" ..but its only you who can have a neutral perspective and which clearly makes anyone understand the way it is..👏👏👏
Super sister.. most of the womens and mens are too shy to talk about it.. u make a good move.. and i sure your speech on this topic can a make a great change in society and make a nice amd better future....🔗🦋
Yes.. I have been abused when i was 2nd or 3rd std
I immediately told my mother about it and she told my father but idk what they did... The trauma is real
It actually made me a tough person
It definitely take a toll on me
The effect is still exist and im not sure whether im over it or not
The incident is still fresh on my mind
But his face is not clear
U took me with him with my mother permission to buy me ice cream.
Bhaiya ye sab chutiyapa ha inn gandu logo ko khud hi nhi pata kahe inka man machalta ha
Mera point of view bataye toh hum toh yahi kahenge ki film hi ye sab ki jar ha films me soft porn yaha waha itna subtle tarike se dikhaya jata ha ayese ek khwaish ko ek aam admi ke dimag me plant kiya jata ha ek rapist ka dimag bana diya jata ha agar sexy ka definition films nhi samjhati toh kayse ek 5 saal ki bachi ka rape hota kaise 60 saal ki aurat ka rape hota ya kaise burkha pehne huye aurat ka rape hota films sab dekhke bass dream karte rehte ha film ko hi jindagi man lete ha ek heroine ko dekh lete ha toh koi usse milta jhulta ladki ka sakal dikh jaye toh larke uska piche par jate ha love nam ka bawasir ho jata ha inko are mere pyare chindi bhaiyo pyar ka spelling bhi ata ha tumko ??!!...
Films ka motive hi kya ha entertainment or education hi nah toh kahe ye chutiyapa dikhate ha ayese bhi toh films ho sakte he jaha humari sanskriti ko preserve kiya jata ha auroto ka or admiyo ka izzat kiya jata ha sabko samman ki nazro se dekha jata ha kyu itna faltu ho gaya ye duniya jaha humare behen didi ko nazre jhuka ke dupatta or ke burkha pehen ke jana padta ha kahi or ke dusman se nhi yahi humare aas paas ke admio ke nazro se bach ke jana padta ha
Ye log chullu bhar pani me dub ke kyu nhi marte jee kyu rhe ho taki auroto ko dekh pau or unka asamman kar pao chiiiiiiiii jaha aurat ko devi ke rup me puja jata ha unhi ke kok se janam lekar unhi par hawi ho rhe ho
Nasamajh namardo chutiyo sharam karo bhagwan se daro or har ek insan ka izzat karo gandu
U r right. We should convey our problems. If we think they won't liaten without saying that's our problem. As u said ellam ponnoda karpu la than adangi irku nu solranga athanala than ipo karpazhipu nu oru term ey use panna koodathu paaliyal vankodumai nu than use pannanum. Atkast really happy for the reply u gave to deepak 😊🎉
Ananthi you are one of the best treasures to people, thank you for educating us for the betterment of society.
You did great contribution to this society by this video.. thank U sister 👍👏🤝
How to raise a child who never abuses? Does open conversation alone can help? Or is there something that we miss? Is it covered in the book?
Good question.
Raise him with self confidence and honor. So he doesn't feel the need to abuse anyone.
Rape victims jailerudhu release pannum podhu sweet kuduthu welcome panra County idhu.need strong law for this issues
It’s not victim, it’s convict
I too was abused when I didn't know what it is. I didn't know how to escape even though i tried when I understood because it was by... I was unable to openup and it took 26 yrs afterwards to communicate that too only after I was being told that she too underwent and i was heart broken... I couldn't even tell back... Me too until she asked if I had such experience. Just after this, i somehow with much mental pain communicated to a few others hoping to get relief. Later, when my ex was abusing me verbally, i didn't understand that it wasn't my fault.. I was trying to correct myself a lot to satisfy him even though i didn't feel i was wrong. I was feeling what wrong did I do that the person left me for about next 6 yrs blaming myself a lot. Again that shows how a person if abused at early age won't understand what is normal and tend to keep adjusting falling as a victim again and again. Yes, from school level itself this education needs to be emphasised from early childhood age itself. Of late only, i started seeing such experiences by similar victims and their feelings matched me. Then, i started working on my mind to stop blaming myself for someone else' mistake and repeatedly work inside to live my life happy and enjoy whatever may come.
Actually i feel one of the parents should be friendly to the children so that children will tell whatever happens. If both are strict but caring, child would not know to fight nor complain from fear of what if they scold and just keep on adjusting itself suffering more and more.
True. I'm sorry you went through something and had to overcome it through so many years...I'm very glad you become this beautiful and strong person now.... Keep Fighting and be Strong
பொண்ணுங்களோட மதிப்பு வலிய தெரிஞ்சவங்க பண்ண மாட்டாங்க அதுக்கு அம்மா, அக்கா, தங்கச்சிஇருக்கனும்னு அவசியமில்ல அவன் ஆம்பளையா இருக்கனும்
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Real man never hurt anyone
ITHU YELLAM NAMMA KITTA IRRUNTHU THAA VARUTHU.NAMMA MEN AH PERIYA PRIDE MAARI NADATHURUTHU THAAN ITHU YELLATHUKUM KARANAM NAMMA ITHA MAATHI ELLAM ONNU THAAN NU YETHUKANUM APPO THAAN YELLAM MAARUM
@@NAKSHATRAKP simply says, both men and women are equal ⚖️
@Anonymous-md5mf your pov is wrong. That's called similarity not equality. Both are equal but not same. Simply says, 10 kg of iron and 10 kg of gold is equal in ⚖️ this scale. But both are not same. Like that, men are physically strong enough to work in mines, and women are physically strong enough to bear the pain of pregnancy and periods. Men are mentally and emotionally strong enough to bear the pain of family member's death. Women are mentally and emotionally strong enough to grow a child as a single mother.
@Anonymous-md5mf yeah you are right, women are not treated equally. But I want to treat both equally. Atleast in future, situation will be changed. Only thing we can do is, educating our children in right way🫠
wow mind blowing speech and I am too learned a lot about what is happening and I find some answers why it is happening either it is our mind set or the society!... thank you for this most boldly speech video with more information and facts!!....
Good one. It has been happening for years after all the strong laws we have in place. Only way to stop is by proper and strong education. We have to continuously keep spreading the message. The change has to happen from within. I sometimes wonder if it's something to do with biological structure or design of men. I myself a man and have a daughter. Never abused anyone so far. Women should be bold and should report any abuses immediately without worrying about the society and as a member of society we should stand for it
The video is so informative and an eye-opener to many ,
But my doubts were
1. There is a common fear that if you speak against the simple small incidents , like in a bus , if you raise your voice against the abuser , it'll gain you attention and there is a chance that the abuser could make you want to teach a lesson to shut you up and notify you and do something bigger than that , or it can make him feel ashamed but doesn't realise it was his fault but wanna teach a lesson to the girl and may assault her .
2. Also not all assaults are done for a reason , Some just do drugs and just for the sake that they know that girl isn't gonna raise her voice they abuse her , this is happening, am I right?? , only when she's put into a life threatening situation or death , the abuse becomes notified otherwise it remains unseen , that's I guess what gives power for an abuser to abuse .
Really a society changing Topic.
yes I was abused too when I was in 6th grade by an old aged man whom I saw as a grandfather, he had a fancy store, and I grew up passing by his shop everyday by bidding him goodbyes & greetings while going to school, till now I am not allowed to go out to any shops nor for a walk/cycling without any elders of my family and I'm 20 now.
and about the Rape free World -yes its one kind of a dream for me, as mentioned above I'm being watched by my parents with a damn tracking app. Like seriously I understand their worry for me ,but still isn't too much invading my privacy and like whatsoever. I feel like bawling my eyes out whenever my parents share their childhoods memories like playing with their friends, going to cinemas, travelling alone ,because of one incident and the state of this society many people like me are affected and missed making their childhood memorable by sitting in their homes.
my tuppence on this crisis:
a. all movies with love as one of the scenes- the hopeless man serenading or harassing a woman , stories, songs, etc - put a warning upfront before tobacco/alcohol warnings that their depiction of romance is not real and not to be followed
b. put POCSO rule in the credits before the movie starts AND publish pocso in cities and villages
c. make men & women understand that getting into these sort of relationships isnt 'love' - its just calculations that might go awfully wrong
d. ill-educated population - not just talking of school or college gradn - the fact that most people dont read beyond the daily newspaper and magazines (that're sometimes filled with filth anyway) - they dont know their own native scriptures, etc to think of things and people beyond themselves
e. girls should be clear that if the male they befriended ever ask for physical intimacy, break that relationship off immediately if they have dreams of marrying that person in the future. no mature fellow will ever ask for sex before marriage if he really respects himself and the girl. never too late to break a fall instd of going thru with it out of insecurity
befriending some male without family's knowledge itself is a big first step to disaster - so beware and get a life!
f. the lawmakers/keepers - these pathetic scum will never do anything right to implement the laws - look at the # of politicians and police and bureaucrats that have raped and/or have their sons as rapists that got away - priya mattoo's killer, asifa's murderers, unnao, hathras, pollaachi, etc etc - the list just goes on and on.
There are two sides to my thoughts here.... I really wish I couldve read this comment a decade ago - It is a trick to keep for life.
But if I had read it back then I would've simply thought this to be blasphemy. Because the person who I am now has gone through something she hadn't.
Thank you very much pal.
Hi Ananthi ma'am,
Some men in our society.. Some majority part of men, are disrespectful towards women. Adai parthu valarum samudayam 'mathu' nu pesuradhu not a surprise. Veetla sila taaai maargalum, ann pillai meedu adeeda mariyadaiyum, pen pillaigal meedu madip inmaiyavum nadathuranga.
Adai parthu valarum samudayam 'mathu' nu solradhu no surprise.
Change should begin at home, change needs to be sown by good parenting. It's my observation.
-Vivek
Among my cousins boys are given more attention and more respect by family(the girls are asked to serve boys...we are in our teens ) even though girls are equally capable of them..
Until now I was not asking anything about that as they are my family and relatives but hereafter I'm going to voice out if I find out discriminating activities...
@@Learning-ej3mr
it's necessary & essential to stop discriminations. eradicating differentiations will cultivate harmony.
-Vivek
Yes, i was absued. On a bus, by a doctor, by relative when i was a child. And now i am messed up in head. I also seen many absures get married. When i think of marriage i dont want a guy who absued someone or a phedophile. How to find it? And prevent myself from getting married to a phedophile or a rapist/ abuser.
Talk to the person who you going to marry, understand how they talk, react , behave to other person... don't worry you will choose the right partner. ✌✌
I'm sorry and ashamed to be a man that you've been through this🥺
May your life be blessed sister❤
Same thing goes on my mind occassionally. The faces we see everyday, on our travel, I could not help but think 'what if this person had abused someone' or 'what kind of person will I marry? would he abuse anyone in future' because we couldn't believe anyone.
Nice. What u said about to stop a persons move at the very first step. Than to worry about later after going to some extreme.
Yes, I have been abused..still I feel traumatic whenever I saw that person and couldn't explain to anyone what iam going through...
And also he is one of our relatives person is the worst part😢
I know i can’t do anything but tell everyone you were abused and make sure he never comes near you again file a complaint, it can be hard you cannot live like this
You can tell this incident to your parents right..?? please tell this to them because it's not some random person abused you its someone your seeing or facing repeatedly... Even if some random person i think it's better to speak this with ur parents...
Ungaluku thairiyam vara varaikum Inga edhume maradhu🥲...
Hi RJ Ananthi, It's been 10 months since this video was posted. Na ipo dan pakran 😅. Truly appreciate your efforts 👏.
Yes, I have been abused by a transgender when I was in 9th grade. Ipovum enaku Avangla patha oru bayam varum.
My Lady was also abused by her friend whom she trusted. The sad part is she doesn't know that she was being abused.
I think, educating kids and people is much more important. As you said, Shout out when you are being abused. Hoping for a different future.
I have been abused by my own cousin brother @ my age 8....yaa exactly still I didn't reveal this to my parents also.........but I HV been told this to my boyfriend once I feel very secure with him.....but now we broken.....I don't know how they r abusing physically nd mentally.....my thoughts will be respect nd responsible should be equal for both genders..... don't hesitate this as ur low thoughts using gender discrimination
you gone through difficulty times..
Please go tell this to your the so called cousin brother's parents! And your parents! Please voice out for your rights
Women is not a flower .she also a human .
In your young age you don't even realise its an abuse...later only we will realise
Give respect = Take Respect (mariyatha koduthu mariyatha vangiko) all youngster's should learn this lesson first.😉
The point here is, we see Respect in term of ATTITUDE....
Respect should be in the ways a person sees, thinks of you, treats you, how they speak to you, do they listen and understand to what you say, and more than that what is their persona when in their personal circle and you are around....it speaks a lot about that person.
Give respect and take respect seems very cliche when you think of so many of these aspects.
Exposing to porn in improper age and getting a inorganic sexual education leads to sexual abuse nu nenikura akka
interesting then by that logic it should be more in western countries. Sonce they get access to these at a younger age than here....
great speech anandhi. bravo. i salute. gender equality is must or else the whole society will fell in tragedy.
That's absolutely right Akka, If Treat a woman just as mere human instead of glorifying them as god or making them inferior to men majority of problems can be solved!
25:58 Unmaiyana independence ah ella women um enjoy pannalam❤❤.
I have been abused by one of my close friends still I feel the fear to tell this to anyone as i gave him the space to do this all. Due to this i still have issues in making relationships in my own life.
if it was with consent ..then don't worry..if it was abuse ...then file a complaint
You can still get him to justice dear. But one more important thing dont limit yourself because of that wrong doing get up & fly on reach the horizon
your story is same as movie "Satyaprem ki katha"
@@akee1618 Because most of the time abusers are well known persons to the victim
100%
I think section 375 explained somehow better that what is considered as rape.
I really get scared after seeing this video, and scenioes, Really thank you for sharing the reality in it ...
உடலின் ஆசை, உயிரின் ஆசை எது.உயிரின் ஆசை உயிர் வதை செய்வதில்லை. ஓஷோ நல்ல பதில் தருவார்.
I am a boy ,I got abused by a men during bike lift . He continuesly press private part during the journey of 10 to 12km. (That is extremely painful, "NO ERECTION, NO PLEASURE = UNCONTROLLABLE PAIN (I would like jump from the bike) tired & energy loss , can't walk...
Omg 😳.
You should have blast his balls brother💪
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then why you continued that 10kM journey?
Pls don't laugh, this shows your maturity level.., when someone shares their worst experience , either give them a solution or shut up!!!
Well said mam.. ❤ 27:08 28:13 28:26 28:48
இந்த சேனல்ல பைனான்சியல் எஜுகேஷன் பிசினஸ் இன்வெஸ்டிங் சம்பந்தமான புக்ஸ் வீடியோ போட்டு ரொம்ப நாளாச்சு😢😢😢😢😢
Thanks for part 2 video
Part 1 vdo cmt panirutha part 2 vdo podunga awareness irukm nu
Hi Ananthi,
I appreciate you very much for the open minded and progressive views which you are sharing through your channel.
Do you think doing yoga, meditation and exercise will reduce the tendency to rape/insecurities which make people do these things?
Is there any research related to this?
Thanks,
Kaala
I think the biggest cause is porn and the availability of porn to anyone with a mobile in their hand at anytime. The more they watch the more the pervasion increases. Also the availability of drug and under the influence of alcohol. So if someone keeps on indulging in all these then what is the use of yoga, meditation and exercise.
@@shaktishrivithiya496 currently porn is banned in India, though there might be alternate ways to access it. My point is to bring about a physical and mental training regime which prevents youth from engaging in liquor, porn and rape kind of activities. I realize its utopian!
@@QZWERTIOQ I come from a country whereby law is not compromised. That works above all n is proven.
YESS!!! I've been abused...but it took nearly an year to understand that I had been abused...it happened with consent later I realized that I've just been manipulated by my BEST FRIEND to satisfy his needs. And till date I feel guilty for trusting someone to that extreme who just threw me as a trash after using me!
Found someone who have gone through the same 🤝
I'm very sorry you went through something like this. I'm glad you opened up. Take care of yourself.
Please don't be stuck at the past anymore...let's take small steps everyday to make a move forward. Try loving yourself. Respect your feelings because who else will if not you. You have to start with yourself to make others respect and love you the way you want to be treated now on. I have. So you can too. Lots of love.
Hi, In 25:40 You tell, how about a world without rap*? I'm the person that,
I thought that's nothing change happens. But,
Even have a sister. but, your words (how about a world without rap*) creates a new
Feel and Dimension on me. Thank you so much showing me the world of without rap*
It's possible. Let's not be quiet anymore so that the future is possible soon. Lots of Love
I believe so,
You are really doing a great job
❤
Live in UAE or Dubai. You can go anywhere anytime.
Your explanation so cute ❤ because my sister feelings to your explanation keeping your work ❤😍
Someone write a book called "why some men never rape".
huh always men rapes
This book is about some men harassing women. Not about the men who aren't. This book confines the subject only to such men and it doesn't accuse the men as whole. First try understanding it. If you have understood it, you wouldn't have posted such an immature comment.
Book name should be "Why people do such comment like this!" I know the answer! but You should know
Thank you for uploaded part 2 of it.
Man go gym and strong go your goal 💪 the life is one your character discipline you will be the strongest in world
read this also tamil konngass
Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
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Super ma... Maathu nu ungala yean solanum ...
I completely agree with what Akka and the author says. But to be honest, the title is somewhat provoking. If someone writes "Why do women cheat?" This will become a big issue. Isn't it?
29:28 then should punish women who file fake rape case on a men who want to move on if he sniffs it as a toxic relationship.
The thing is he will be put to jail even if he is not an accust and after period of time he will be set free when "he proves" that he is innocent BUT at the same time she will be set free even after he is innocent, here she wrongly blame him eventhough no punishment to her.
The men again has to go for defamation and to prove HIS side and produce strong evidence to seek justice.
Everyone says about equality but where is it in law ??
I thought one experiment. We should make one state or region where women population should be always greater than men. And in political power there should be more women. What will happen?
i was twice sexually assaulted by my own friend and I reported this to my own elder brother , he tried compromising me saying we cannot take any steps and it happens generally and said me to move on . whom should i blame more now ?
Your brother
How old is your elder brother? If your elder brother is a minor you should tell your parents. And some boys are not mature enough to handle these types of problems, so you have to inform your parents.
Your brother dear
Just my perspective:
Consider one special case,
Abuse pannavanga thirundha koodaadha?. Victims speaking out may be the last for them. If you are seeing the abusers living happily infront of you may be they could have changed or else they will reap what they sow. May be both the parties understands that don't waste time by thinking about the past, But very cautious in the next time and educate the same to children.
But that doesn't mean they shouldn't be punished for their mistake. But we all know "kaalam kadandhan needhi is aneedhi".
Anandhi's speech shown some new perspective to unaware people
What is your view about it
23:20 perfect point
Hi akka 🙋🙋
Enakum sexual harrasment natanthu eruka
Na 5 or 6 yrs erukum pothu
Relative la oru uncle ena harrase pani erukararu..
Ena matum ela enga area la eruka elam chinna ponnu nga la um..
Antha age la athu enku sexual abuse ne theriyathu...
Yaru kita um sola kutathu nu soluvararu etha...
Aprm na 10 th padikum pothu...
My brother enkita sexual abuse pana nga...
But my brother and that uncle both are now die...
Epa recent ah I harrased by police.....
I really feel that ...akka
Na sona 3 perum ena save ah pathuka vendiya vanga...
But avinga tha ena harrase pana nga.......
Do share this to your family members or to your safe place people, file a complaint and take therapy sessions to get healed from this
Ponnugalum oru paiyana thittanum na kooda, Avanga amma or sister ah vachu tha thiranga. 😢
Well appreciated talk Akka 😊
Why men are rape romeo varusama Enakulam irutha question ithu athuku na kandu pudicha answer rape is a mental broblem are decis but itha video pathathum I was very sack because it's wrong really I want read that book thank you arthi sis you doing really awesome work ❤ I love soooooo much❤❤❤❤❤❤
ஆண் என்பவன் தனது உணர்ச்சிகளை கடந்து அவனுடைய உணர்வின் கண்னோட்டத்தில் ஒரு பெண்மையினை கண்டால் இங்கு பிரச்சனையில்லை சகி....
sister why don't you talk about CA (CHARTERED ACCOUNTANT) courses??.
You said that only intercourse is not sex, doing something which related to sex is also sex. So Even a adolescent girl entering into sex with a juvenile boy who doesn't know what is sex. Here who is raped by whom?
I have been victim by my sis BF in last year. At first, I was scared and I don't fell confiable to talk abt it. But, at the end, I talked to my sis, but after I told her she still be with him. I really get angry why my sis y didn't understand my position. So, What advice can give me and my sis?
Just disown ur sister ! When blood is not thicker than the water ,just pull out the cancer blood out and do medication for it......
🙂sorry to hear that.. Inform your parents about she having bf and you got harassed by him
I got so much knowledge from your video akka Thank you 😊
Victim shaming country
Most of the time they are either intoxicated or under the influence of some drug..
Justice For Doctor
Only metaphors... colours,shapes.... likely food advertisement...hmmm .not understanding who am i,and what is the opposite gender...much more create and stimulate the atoms ...but these are all one kind of delirium...body parts just part of the body...nowdays totally portrait other frames...keep safe ...not only womens including mens...thank you mam...✍️
Who are more mostly abused men or woman? Don't try to defend
Well done akka ❤👏🏻
Akka i am studying college 2nd year ennaku unga ellam romba pudikum recent a phone ku romba addict aana maari oru feeling aana ennaku athu pudikala aana controlum panna mudiyala exam la nalla mark vanganum aasai but phone nala concentrate panna mudiyala ennakaga nalla suggestions kuduga akka pls
focus mode la potu padinga.
Last ta sonnadhu 💯 true
Like the way you speak tamil
Well said Akka.
Kindly Watch complete Video before commenting on gender bias
17:05 remembering chinmayi
Same feeling
I have been abuse lot of time age 8 to 10 than, ipavum ponnunga strong ha No sola maatikaranga antha Boldness varanum No solanum , than next martial art learning panirukanum plz soli kodunga,parents strong ha itha kathuka vaikanum pengaluku avinga matum tha sequr so😢
Neenga indha maathiri awarenessa podumbodhu yaarum yemara maatanga..
Sis ,
Can you please make a review on "The mountain is you" book.
Really great book and thank you mam for this video 👍
Need instant topic how to be a romantic person to wife.how to speak with wife 😂plz podunga akka
I agree with everything but there is lot more things are going நிறைய பேர் இங்க ரொம்ப நல்லா தப்பிக்கிரங்க what I mean is not only the persons you said what I convey is as a men I have met some girls and they are saying that they were abused by some financialy wealthier people doing this.I wanna ask you that do you will face them (super rich) with the same potential that you have right now for other girls what you do is you will safeguard yourself and you will try to protect the girls and don't fight against him see I don't mean that அதனால முன்னாடி பண்ணினது correct nu sollala athuvum thappu than ana wealthier ah irukkavangala face panna girls romba bayapaduranga work poidum,family la thappa ninaippanga nu. then sollamudiyama avunungala ethuvum pannamudiyama irukkanga and for example: vichithra big boss season 7 la enna situation face pannanga and Yara face pannunaga nu ellarukkum theriyum even Kamal sir Kum kooda but enna pandranga antha person ah ethuvume panna mudila innum nerya nerya nerya irukku and I am thinking that everyone is respecting the persons who are super rich and wealthier financially and அவுங்க பண்ணினது ஏன் எல்லாரும் light ah எடுதுக்குராங்க even Kamal sir, its a crime more than rape.I can understand that what you are trying to convey for mens and as well as women but as men I have this serious question to someone who's doing the things that you are doing especially the media persons why you guys don't have the guts to ask them they are the majority people go and take a look out of book and ask the girls around you who were working as a daily wages labours
I think at around 28 mins about respect.. men hurt the other men’s ’women’ because they may love their mom or sister etc which will hurt them more than any physical pain. May be not that the family dignity lies with women. Am I right or no?
Partially true but also they consider that the women of his family has the dignity
Neenga victims pathi sollumbothu namma Andrea Jeremiah nadicha "Anal Meley Panithuli" tha enakku mind la varuthu mam
No rapes. very well in the world ❤❤
akka namma andhmaari yosichi kadhakkiravanga kitta oru conversation vachikanunnaa...adhukku avanga kekuradhukkum readyaa irukkanum dhaanee...
Strong law rules and punishment vandha maridumnu namburanga ana adhuku vaipe illa kannuku theriyama thappu panna dhaan try panuvanga avungala maranum thapu seya koodadhunu thonanum bayamuruthi yelathaum sadhika mudiyadhu
You are going very well Ananthi Nice
as far as i know marital rape is STILL not recognized by law in india or does it change? can someone update me on this. thanks.
Major nadakuthu illa pasnga abuse aanlum veliya solla maatanga avalavu than ka.. 😢(5:00).
Rape boosts the male ego while simping boosts the female ego. There's no in between. Sex is always about power.
Everything in this world is about sex; But sex is about power - Oscar Wilde
Enna da simping rape compare panra,
Hello Mr Privileged. Women Simp for power you say.
If you mean simp in the send that we are submissive then your words contradict yourself. Majority of Indian women have stopped simping...a long time ago. But if you still find some - be gracious and kind to them because they are from those part of the society who are experiencing the millenial version of the age old women discrimination.
And its usually for LOVE and Respect not power.
Olaritu kedanga bro
Wdym by this?
Yup every women in their lifetime have been abused and i too have been abused i accept it..But it's not use of sharing every individual stories in social media Yes it's useful when every women raise her voice and actions against men on that particular incident that doesn't mean we should learn to fight. Protect men too❤ According to Men are being raped! At the same time perspective of Men seeing women should be loved nd respected if it's in wrong way definitely teach them about it rather than growing or praise them in words of Nee Aambala da, avaluku laam idhan daa gedhi u gave her a lesson, Supporting them is worse way to promoting this type of mEn. Atleast grow our future Boy Kids in good way❤make them know Equality..
I have been abused 4 times in my childhood
நீங்க அழகா சொன்னாலும் மக்கள் யாரும் ஆணையும் பெண்ணையும் காதலிக்காத பொருளை தான் காதலிக்கும் பிசாசுகள் வாழும் காலத்தில் வாழ்கிறோம். ஆண் பெண் அனைவரும் பணப்போய்கள்.
உண்மையா திருமணத்திற்கு அழகு தேவையில்லை, பணம் தேவையில்லை, ஆணாக பெண்ணாக இருந்தால் போரும். 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ கலிகாலம் எல்லா காலங்களிளும் பூர்வ ஜென்ம புண்யம் இருந்தால் தான் சந்தோஷமான இல்லறம் கிடைக்கும். அதற்கு பெற்றோர்கள் அதிகம் குழந்தைகள் பெற வேண்டும். இந்த விஷயத்தில் முகமதியர்களை நான் காதலிக்கிறேன் சாஷ்டாங்க நமஸ்காரமே செய்யலாம். 🙏💐.