Ace By Angela Chen | Full book Summary | Eng Subs | The Book Show ft. RJ Ananthi
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- In a world obsessed with sexual attraction, what does it mean to be asexual? How does asexuality relate to gender roles, romance, and consent? What is the role of sexuality in causing conflicts within ourselves and in society? Is it okay to have an open relationship over not meeting each other's needs? The author of this book wants to enable readers to realize, reveal, and embrace who they are regardless of their sexual orientation. To get a deeper understanding of sexuality, desire, society, and meaning of sex, be sure to watch the full video.
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We need such eye opening speeches for this society Ananthi ! I appreciate your boldness 🎉
Ikr, but having an asexual partner makes me feel like I'm not worth it, yeah I know I'm wrong but without sex it doesn't feel like I'm really loved by my partner.
Extreme love without sex is still incomplete imo.
It's an art which needs two individuals to paint it.
And here i am feeling single in a relationship.
Hi akka 🫡🙌
Naanum ace than akka. Ana ethai eapdi family friends kitta solrathu theriyala. Even doctors kuda purinchukama pesuranga.
😍 But I love myself. I embrace myself.
Neenga pesum podhu ennai pathi solra mathiriye erukku. Naan book padichen akka. Romba happy ah nammaku thunaiya nammala mathiri erukkanga. Ethuku guilty ah feel panna vendam nu aruthal solra mathiri erunthuchu. Really good book akka.
Love your open talks.
Problem in India is most boys grow up craving sex influenced by media and porn. 80 to 90% of his requirement from a woman is sex. He is more happy with his male friends (less drama) when it comes to other requirements. The need for sex and the lack of easy access to it (like in other countries) is one of the most important reason men even feel there is a need to get married. Girls grow up with the mindset of sex is dirty, bad, perverted etc instead of looking at it as a biological requirement (unless you are an exception).
Ultimately they get married and he is upset if he doesn't get sex as often as he wants. She is upset if she has to provide that frequently.
Also as suggested by you if one partner is asexual or doesn't need as much, s/he cannot talk to their partner on getting it outside. It just is not possible in India with our conservative mindset. S/he would be expected to be content with whatever one is getting because it is sufficient for one of the partners. It's like one person is content with 2 meals a day while the other is expected to be ok with it too even if they need 3 meals a day. Learn to control your hunger or hide your outside meals is more common today. So many are doing this without their partner knowing for fear of (1) being judged negatively (2) leading to divorce etc etc
It is better people talk in advance before getting married on their sexual compatibility, be open discussing it or live in relationship to understand each others compatibility on sex and others. But both these are not possible in India. So better option is people don't get married and live separate lives than live empty fake lives of being happy to the outside world.
True, there's also the case of women not getting orgasm during their time with their male partners after marriage, since there are still some who thinks the sex ends when he is satisfied.
Also if you're in a relationship with a asexual person, better option is to divorce under false terms so as to not affect their remarriage status (in india), but if its not on the table, then open up the relationship under strict clearly spoken rules (aka have an open relationship), tho i don't recommend this one cause it's not easy to form rule satisfying both parties and also making sure it doesn't affect their relationship/family connections. Then there's also polygamy, idk if its a thing in india yet.
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Agree 💯
@@nomoskarramin637 but that's true. 20-30 mins of sex is more than enough otherwise it takes a lot of effort to pleasure women. Usually men will put more effort on one particular day and for the rest just do normal or below average effort
Same, same I also felt like you sis. I found myself as Asexual after many self analysis
Yeah mee too💜🤍🖤
Me too 💜🤍🖤
People not interested in sex irukingala ? 🧐
@@kanimozhi.g7904 are you ever in relationship?
What🙄
Glad you are coming up with such books Ananthi ma, maybe because you are a compassionate person and so you can empathize every one. When we stop worrying about society's rules, we will start living.👋👋👋❤️ this reminds the book Veronica decides to die, the quote on a forest where each trees differs to complete the ecosystem but people tries to be someone they are not to be a part of norms.
Very wonder to see such a type of women who spokes about everything which is prohibited by the society through cultural prosecution. Iam really appreciating your guts to talk about sex and intimacy of human being.
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Money matter
I am transwoman cum asexual. Its great u are opening up about LGBTIAQ+ topic where A describes asexual. Being trans and asexual is seen much more wierd as society has framed trans=sex. I am just happy me being me in my own skin without any such need or desire.
Akka !! Great ..it's not about your understanding towards the book & not the way you narrate it.. This was the perspective of a better human , exploring the new things as the way they are! And teach us how.. I admire your knowledge.. keep going.. all d very best sister..
I just understand world more in your talks.. we are always worried why we can't become someone great but we never understood how much our ancestors gone threw . Took even for us to come to some stage in life..we always find physical reasons for get psychological reasons..you are an eye opener.. . you rock girl! Ananthi you just doing great for all middle class girls . You talk the way exactly the way I used to talk with my friends . Your efforts definitely change few people mindset and aspirations.
I appreciate you used to word inclusive where still many in our society is not even aware such word exist in accepting the fellow human being as who they are irrespective of their gender identity,expression and sexual orientation.
I admire your work . I would like to share my understanding Ananthi akka . You mentioned a guy who asked how you manage your sexual needs or desire after a breakup or whatever. I think sexual need is a very personal and private thing , ofcourse we can talk and share our views ,but there is no need for a person to ask a fellow person as to how they fulfill their desire of sexual need. I am sharing this because what happens generally is that we ourselves have a scant understanding of sexual desire till we actually encounter experience. These days many teenage girls are targeted with this question in Instagram and other platforms where adult guys ask minor girls about this, and this generally ends up wrong . When a person with a prior experience asks someone having no such experience ( not desire) it leads to a wrong understanding. Desire is not equal to understanding of sexual experience. The guy you mentioned must have been probably a pervert . We need to be careful when we discuss about these things because it differs from person to person when it comes to intentions behind the question. Girls generally get affected and by the time they realize what has happened ,they land up in bad experience or even unknown harassment. I have seen this happening with my college students and my own cousin. And this could also happen with boys .
Your just becoming a role model to Many people in many ways, we are all getting educated to live in this society through your each book review, your a precious Human Ananthi🖤
I have a doubt! If they don't feel like they don't want that, why do they want to marry someone who needs that. Better Marry someone who's not interested in that. Isn't it!. Because That would definitely damage the relationship. No one has the right to destroy others life
Yes....our society has neither taught that asexuality is normal nor given space for a human to think whether they need marriage or not....they just push marriage into anyone's life...as if birth and death happen's in one's life marriage should also happen...
Moreover, to know whether he is a asexual or not he should have the chance experience of being in a relationship but in our society still Love marriage is not normal
@@lavanya1188 if they are Asexual how can they go into a relationship, firstly there won't be any interest towards opposite gender.
@@sharathkumar2176 @sharath kumar am asexual, in my family they are always Pressurizing me to do marriage. Somehow I managed till my 31 years by telling am not interested an all.. But every time I need to go through their torture.. Think about my mental status.. Sometimes I feel like go somewhere without any notice or shave my head or change myself like Monk(though am an atheist, to escape from family pressure).. Can't able to attend any function normally like others,, they will ask about my marriage to my siblings and parents instead of asking me... Think that if a girl has no choice to deny marriage because of their parents and siblings Societical status, what she will do.. We asexual people can produce baby but will not enjoy the sexual pleasure. Baby producing is the most important thing for marriage, so no one is gonna care about ur interest.
@@tamil9002 It must be hard for you. Can i ask something ? is your problem is about That thing only ya, or is it hard for you to find a Friendly partner who can understand you!
@@sharathkumar2176 if I find a guy friend and if we are talking to a particular extent of time, every guy I met end up asking about the sexual things...and they will also bully me that you have some issue,u are not normal an all..This makes me cut off the relationship right there.. It's better to be alone and enjoy and die one day.
I have been following all your videos and reading some of the books. Day by day, you are inspiring me to know more, contemplate many aspects of life and guide me to a mindful and purposeful life. 😊
By your bold and matured speech, You are creating a more informed group of generation by exposing many important issues which lie hidden under the rug by the society.
By discussing these topics, many people would be motivated to rip off their false masks adorned for the society and start living their authentic life ! Godspeed to your service ! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼
Brilliant ! There is a need for such open discussions to break the taboo.
You are rocking mam.. Such a bold talk !! Appreciated 👍
The movie called "Peranbu" talks the same.. Wonderful movie by Ram !!
Good topic and if don't want to have sex. Better they can avoid marriage...
👌👌👌👌well said
Or they can marry a same kind of person
@@tharam2768 only if it's love marriage i don't think that's not the case with Indian society! Indians have the wierd habit of interfering in everyone's personal life
people always like and appreciate companionship. you just have to be open about it and you will find such partners.
@@BOBO-wq9mx last three line is very correct
I have heard from many of my aunts and friends. They said that their husband wants sex even when they don’t feel like or busy. If they don’t go for sex, then the mood of husband changes they fight or even show anger next day.
What can you expect from a guy who brought up in a society where marital rape is allowed and legal ?
Most of the rape is happening inside the Marriage but Society don't care as long as it's under Marriage. Filthy fucking Society...
Energy will transfer from one to one it depends upon the persons touch,in what mindset he touch, in what manner he touch I hope you understand this sister. Keep on rocking 🤗.
Hi Anandi akka few years before nan ungaloda help kettean nan grief la irrundhu veliya vardhukku oru book suggest panna solli kettean so neenga kudatha advice romba help pannuchi thank u so much now i have another suggestion indha idha unguda share pannana better irrukum nu nenaikkirean did u suggest or post any book about "AVAMANANGAL" adhu la irrundhu veliya varaikudiya ways with examples All the best akka keep rocking
Me remember's Selvaragavan's creation Maalai nerathu mayakkam.Every Humans must watch
My respect for you increases day by day seeing how bold and open you are to talk about all the taboo topics so easily 🙂👍
This is such an eye opener. But people here won't even consider our sexuality. What matters more to them is the process of giving birth. It's true that it's everyone's choice to decide if we want to marry or not but people(parents) from the previous generation consider us as their sin if we tried to take such a stand on our sexuality. What they have gone through is what they think we have to go through too. I hope they get to watch your videos and learn these basic needs and rights🫶🏼🫶🏼
Wow wow wow hands off ananthi 👏👌 the books you choose makes me feel so happy.
See anandhi , let asexual people be asexual. Before getting into relationship, adhu pathi avanga sollidanum. Sex thevapadra peopleku adhu essential....don't spoil their sex life too.....sex ndra hunger ungalukku illana....andha hunger irukra innoruthavanga life huh we shouldn't spoil....that's it....
Well said
Much needed topic. Kudos to u for taking dis topic 🙌
again kudos to you Anandhi. you are a super shining star. Yes I have felt this way too with A jokes everything exactly. I think there is another term for people who gets attracted only when they are touched emotionally by the other person, not physically. i also don't get attracted physically or get turned on like that but with emotional connection, I could feel something.
My love Towards Aanandhi become more and more ❤️🤗
I went to the doctor about this same situations,may be ( USA) nala, they told me clearly about this… thanks Anandhi 💕🌻
Excellent review
First of all it feels like its a gift , because a lot of distraction is avoided. But if they want to be in a relationship where the other partner is not a asexual and wants to have a sexual relationship with other like other women or men , will they be ok with that ? How do a asexual person react for this?
ஆனந்தி.... உங்களைப் போன்றே நானும் இருந்துள்ளேன். எனக்குள்ளும் நிறைய கேள்விகள் இதே போன்று இருந்தது. என் வயது 36. காதல் திருமணம். எனக்கானவர் வந்ததும் என் எண்ணம் மாறியது. திருமணம் முடிந்தும் 1 1/2 வருட காலம் ஒரே வீட்டில் காதலர்கள் ஆகவே வாழ்ந்தோம். ஆனால் இதை பற்றி கூறினால், ஒருவரும் நம்ப மாட்டார்கள். அது எப்படி முடியும் என்று கேப்பாங்க.
சற்று விளக்கமாக கூற முடியுமா
Neenga vera level, ithellam padichi solllave oru guys venum namma society la
Woww worth unique content Anandhi 🔥 Respect on Asexual people. I am a hypersexual (Max time think of sex) but not ready for marriage same as ur friend😋.
Is porn addiction leads to be a hyper sexual?
Yes. Do it once a month
Day by day I'm becoming a big fan of you dear..... ❤️❤️❤️
Bold and mature girl. Great job.
Thank You sis,Would you please take topics like this, I am romantic and completely asexual. I can't talk about this because everyone is asking, "Are you okay? or Do you have any problem? ". I thought it was because of the lagging awareness among people. I know it doesn't change 100%, but it changes 1% and that's fair enough.
But you have a problem. People across the world have sex. You don't and now people like you are somehow trying to claim some sort of fame. Go to a doctor and get hormone pills.
@@gohan12991 I take it you never went to school for Medicine by the way you harass people on here and have no clue what you are talking about...She doesn't need hormones. Asexual people exist. Not everyone wants sex just like everyone has personal preferences. Back off with the ignorant bullying on here. You aren't asexual and are doing this to be a jerk.
19:53 , you really nailed it. that ah ha haa... your expression and the conveyance, great.....
Camera lens clean panalaya ila filter edhachu potrukeegala? 🤔
Camera lens clean pana marakatha blur ah eruku 😅
If you are not interested in sex don't get married don't spoil someone's life
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Is marriage is all about just sex ?? And nothing else matters?
@@kavyakavi7912 For a couple yes it matters along with others ! Sexless marriage isn't easy as you claims ! It literally rips family apart ,carnal nature is part of our nature nothing to be ashamed and denial only worsen it ,if you are a asexual person better not marry someone who is sexually active it's an injustice to both
@@kavyakavi7912 for most of the men... Yes
I feel like you sis. Now I found myself.
😂lol!! You nailed when you emoted for touchy-feely sexual expressions!! Sure the film’s exaggerate the emotions and misrepresent love , sexuality etc
Love you loads for your work… keep it up!! stay blessed!!!
Sex may won’t work.. but intimacy will.. it’s about the view..!
Sex is natural thing. For Healthy living being . All the creatures will have the natural being. If someone have no such natural feeling, something wrong with them
👏👏 Great work, it takes more courage to speak topic like this,
Super topic ma...yes before marriage they respect women more if they dosnt open topic of sex but after marriage men I'll create more problem they I'll take it for granted....y women hv mental nd physical problems y men cnt understand tht nd blaming women y u came for marriage u destroy my life like tht
if u noticed these kind of content in book show will usually cross million views..😂😂😂😂
Seriously I think your are so bold and mature.. keep going.. All best for your future achievements sister...
Such a clarification 😂😂😂😂 I'm really impressed
yes eanakkum than... apdi thoonirukku
எப்படி தோன்றுகிறது 😜
Thank you sister
உங்கள் தமிழ் உச்சரிப்பு மிக அருமை 👍🏻
Sex பத்தி வெளிப்படையா பேசணும்னா முதலில் அமைப்பு பற்றிய தெளிவான புரிதல் வேண்டுமாம்.. ஆண் பெண் அமைப்பு பற்றி தெளிவான புரிதல் வேண்டுமாம் பிறகு மட்டும் தான் கலவி பற்றி வெளிப்படையாக பேச எண்ணம் வருமாம்..
One of ur Best Reviews 👌👌👌
Oru request akka 1st tamil la peysunga illa fullah English la peysunga please onnume puriyala akka.. please consider it
i didn't expect that at 19.55
You made me laugh my lung out with that expression man... 😆
🤔
Respect dear, it's nice to open up and explore other side of sex
I figured it out last year... Same here.. same experiences
All these questions I asked
Ohh then how will you live rest of your life then? What about marriage and kids?
Some larva turns into pupa some pupa turns to butterfly, some caterpillar dies caterpillar...🎭
It dont seems like funny..
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Book padhichuthu solluga akka
😂😂😂😂 that gesture 😂😂😂😂
Feeling is the sceret book review please
Hlo ananthi, have you read the whole book or some specific topic in that book.
Question for Chat day show :-
How to develop an interest to live the moment, I am almost in the verge of giving up everything like if I put extra effort that effort goes for waste.
Eg I gave my blood and sweat for a project eventually the company dropped the project and we were all fired.
Took up a new job totally irrelevant but by the time I could get a hold I was again sent out due to covid cases.
Now with all this how can I ever get into a relationship anyways I am pretty old.. How to find the purpose of my existence?? Trust you will read this question 🙏🙏🙏
Life always opens up other things or opportunities when it shuts a door. to be able to receive it, one needs to be happy. who knows maybe you might become a youtuber or something else. first stop worrying and start living. things will sort out by itself very soon. be happy, do things that make you happy, small small things and start being grateful. slowly things will get uplifted and change and shift. all the very best. age is only a number. one can feel young at 96 and another can feel very old at 36. hope this helps even thought i am not Anandhi. 🙂
@@Mel-by7re brilliant take mei 👍👌
Opening up about the problem one faces is the initial step toward a solution, but it is very limited in our society's structure. Also, our society evaluates/accepts a person by comparison to others, rather than understanding each individual is unique.
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It's their mistake that they don't speak their mind on what relationship they want... Marriage is a relationship where they share their life with their partner. Marriage pandrathuku munadi sex vena nu neraya Peru solluvanga for many reasons... Only when they make it clear what type relationship they want.. the other can understand. Marriage ku munadiyum vena marriage ku approm uh vena nah ena artham without giving the crt reason.
I have frnd who got married.. love marriage. After marriage, the boy was not at all interested in sex... This thing affected her whole life. If he had told this before marriage clearly... She wouldn't have took that decision of marriage or else she would have accepted that way.
We need to have clarity and progress on sex education...
So detailed🧐
Camera position crt pannirukalam direct sunlight la glare aaguthu jus make it good
Madam can't hurt me book review pannuga Madam
Thanks ananthi
It's nice to explore sex in a different angle by keeping porn and movies away.
My suggestion is you can also educate school students on this topic.
Also people (especially women) don't immediately come to a conclusion you're asexual, in india most adult content is driven towards men (just like porn industry, only lately there's rise in porn for women), not every women is as comfortabe with it since sex is still seen as a taboo, and women liking sex is seen in bad light. So it's not your fault if you dont like adult flims, or jokes. There's also a factor that lack of sex education made men not know how to satisfy a women (not saying all, but its more). Maybe wait until you got properly diagnosed or have a good "encounter".
Good (topic)msg sister 👌👌👏👏👏
The content is brilliant but the narration will be more effective when it has minimal examples.
I understand about this topic because in my life it's happening my husband does not want too but i understand his feelings I love my husband morethan that.
If I am an asexual, I would never marry a heterosexual girl. It's cheating.
It's great that you accept your husband out of love. But Imagine if it's opposite, say, a guy founds out her wife as an asexual, he would either divorce or maintain a sexual relationship outside.
Nice review
I am also asexual and struggling to have a wife who is asexual
Osho never said that what he was saying meant that the other person had to accept his opinion 😂😂😂 Everyone's spiritual path is unique...
Amazing work.....
Jeep it up ...
Now I came to knew the new perspective of sex life . .
Hi sister whatever it is we need sex in every three days if partner accepts or not accepts. If partner not accepts say please then have sex with partner. Neenga sollara madiri partner no solla mudiaadhu. Otherwise unnecessary problems in the family. Generally we need to support partner whenever we need sex. Both are support each other then no problem will raised. Important will love100% each other. Then partner never said no. It’s my past 13 years of experience.😊
HATS OFF SISTER👏👏👏👏👏
So proud of you ❤
Please recommend the best gentle parenting book in Tamil mam
Asexual should not bother ,if his/her partner enter into another relationship. Sometimes they deny as well as they have fear of breaking the relationship.apram yAaru soru poduva
Hi Ananthi, now the biggest problem for you to make this content to reach the Asexual people. Immediately after seeing the title, they may think, this is also another video talking about sex and skip this. Even, if I forward to my asexual friend, she may think this is a other nasty content. Anyway, it helps us to understand their feelings and act accordingly. Thank you so much
Good sister I like it full and full opena pasurega 🤗👍
Ennaya maathiriye oru jeevan irukku pa,....
I DONT REALLY LIKE THAT... I HESITATE TO SEE OR HEAR IT....🔥🤟
Rightly said, ITS NOT EVEN A PROBLEM ACCORDING TO ME, IM HAPPY EVEN WITHOUT IT, IM PROUD THAT SOMEBODY NEEDS SOMETHING TO SATIFY THAT, BUT I NO NEED OF THAT TO SATISFY ME, KIND OF A MATURITY...!
Sis, What do you mean of ''A"
First of all well Said..kkaaa..........darwin's "sexual collection" review pannu..kkaaaa
hai.. please give ur views on the book - Raving Fans: A Revolutionary Approach To Customer Service
You are absolutely me
ohhhh really...😍😍😍
Please akka gay boys pathi sollunga
meet each other , and mate each other do one video about it.
I'm asking about ananthi i'm not asking about you ok
I am a teenager. Which book you would be preffere to me?
She will suggest only these kinds of books.
@@nimda2sdfsdfsd She has also reviewed books of different genres including finance, health, thriller, drama, mystery, biography, self help, science, relationship, spirituality, philosophy etc. You can visit the playlist and listen to any of them.
Yes @AG Tech , I agree with @Aarthi. There are a lot of self-improvement books that Anandhi has suggested that will be very useful to your life. Ignore negative comments from some TH-camrs who just comment for the sake of it.
Starts with story books i would say go with circe slowly progress into other genre
Rich dad poor dad
Automatic habits
I really like your voice that so beautiful ❤️
Bestttt😂❤
Bold speech