My mom had my youngest brother at 43. He was an oops baby. My parents thought they were done. He was almost 10 pounds and the healthiest out of all of us. I have 4 siblings.
Im curious to know how the test results changed, considering Down's syndrome is caused by an extra chromosome. I guessed that maybe the testing was prenatal and based on genetics but maybe I misunderstood.
My grandma had her last son, my youngest uncle, at 47 in rural Mexico without the help of modern medicine; He’s in his late to early 50s now and she’s 97.
this is interesting actually, here in the Philippines fertility isnt a problem, so many people plan with the idea of having kids in the late 30's or early 40's, not 35
That’s great! I wonder if there is better quality food there? It used to be more common for older women to have kids late in life, but now not as much. It’s important to eat a good diet too. My grandma had kids after 40 and so did her mom. It might also be more cultural differences. A lot of women just give up or don’t try after a certain age here.
@bad bad mc bad This is a weird out of place take that has nothing to do with the main subject. It also sounds like projecting to me, and not to mention very creepy to go after teenagers when you're way too old be in business with them.
The big problem with that is the age you have to raise them at, do you want to be able to mobile and do things with your kids or be too old to do anything with them when they are getting of age to leave
@@mammamathews I saw a TEDtalk on YT where a woman recounted how she had - like I don't know - six or seven miscarriages and even gave birth to one baby who died. But she eventually did have a healthy baby and this kid is now doing fine. If you still want a baby I really hope you don't get discouraged.
My mom had me at 38 and I turned out great! Its weird to me that people think of women from 35 to 40 as "older mothers", Im 36 and I feel like I just FINALLY got to the point of being mentally and financially capable of having a baby. I cannot fathom that someone could be emotionally ready to do so in their early 20s. Your own brain isn't even finished developing!!! (Research has shown we still experience some brain development up to 28!) Although I know women who pulled it off, but for me there is no way in hell I would have been ready back then.
yeah I agree. I know people who have them young then leave the grandparents to do most of the parenting, selfishly exhausting the grandparents and not allowing them to live their lives and enjoy grandparenting how it should be!
And how have your pregnancies been? I can't believe how much I felt like I aged with my first baby at 28--I don't want to feel rushed for the next kid(s), but the thought of doing this in my mid-thirties just sounds exhausting! I could use some good news :)
well the reason their are more female studies is because the female side of things is more complex, but their are still a lot of studies for men, for example potency reduces with age, so a woman getting older may not have a serious effect on having kids, but with men its significant
@@InitialPC Actually, men can have babies into their 70's, and there's little evidence of significant decrease in potency before then. The fact is that a woman getting older has a MAJOR impact on fertility (harder after 30, difficult after 40, nearly impossible after 50), while a man getting older has a modest impact on fertility, with little decrease until the 60's.
There are TONS of new data that show that a combo of older age of the man plays just as much of a role in, not only fertility/ potency but also in chromosomal risk. They increase SIGNIFICANTLY after 40 for both genders
Just because a healthy baby CAN be conceived later in life does not mean that it's as common or as easy. The risks and capability to do so drastically drops after 40...even if its just the man who is older or vice versa and doubles if they are both older.
Better then than in your 50s--menopause AND puberty in the same house? *shudder* Besides, in traditional extended families, the grandparents do a lot of the parenting while the middle generation is working.
We bought the myth too, then got pregnant almost immediately. I was 36. Our son is now a healthy two year old who can count to 30, say his ABCs, identify colors and shapes, add single digits, share, wait his turn and take care of his own basic hygiene. This whole nonsense about 35 is worthy of nothing but being ignored. Have your baby. They'll get two mature and hopefully more established parents in exchange for age.
@@anonymoussaga8723 Most women want more children but mess up their dating and start too late. Two children per woman is needed to sustain civilization. For every woman that thinks one child is enough, another woman needs to make 3
@@Snarkulous If she's able to take care of her child then they're good. Age shouldn't be a problem at that point. There are a lot more people in their 20s who shouldn't be parents in the first place.
Watching this while I'm 35 years old and I'm 37 weeks pregnant😏 I'm considered an 'advanced age' pregnancy. It's crazy cause I got pregnant so much easier in my 30's than I ever did with our 1st baby at 28.
@@resplndntI’d say it should start to apply as a general medical term for expecting mothers over 40 years old because that’s typically when natural fertility levels truly do plummet in both men and women. Most women can’t get pregnant naturally easily and swiftly, if at all, once they enter perimenopause between their mid-late 40s. I know that there are many women between 41-44/45 who still can naturally conceive a perfectly healthy baby safely within a year or two of trying without fertility treatment. I think pushing the terms of “advanced maternal age” and “geriatric pregnancy” on the general population of otherwise healthy and normal young women in their 30s is rather ageist, outdated, and sexist fear mongering to push the fertility treatment market. Are there women who will go through perimenopause and menopause between their 30s and earlier? Are Absolutely, but *usually* fertility issues before the age of 45/46 is not directly age-related to the expecting mother. It’s usually because she came from a long history of women in her family going through early or premature menopause (yeah, I know some doctors say that your menopause age will usually follow your mother’s, but that usually just applies when her age of menopause is consistent with the rest of the women in her family), It’s usually because she developed some sort of autoimmune disease that wasn’t properly treated. It’s usually because she struggled long-term with being anorexic or being overweight. It’s because she was a long term smoker. It’s because she spent a lot of her childhood and young adulthood feeling highly stressed and insecure in a high pressure or toxic environment that never got properly dealt with. It’s because she was a smoker. It was because she abused drugs and/or alcohol throughout most of her young adulthood. It’s because she had to get a hysterectomy. Granted, these are things that young women who want to become mothers to children of their own should be aware of regarding our natural fertility because some of these are environmental and personal lifestyle choice factors that we can change to decrease the possibility of early or premature menopause, while others are out of our control, such as genetics and unfair fate, no matter how hard we try. Every woman’s fertility journey is going to be a little bit different, and we can’t predict the future. That being said, it also shouldn’t be getting treated as the norm by society for the average women between 35-40 to be experiencing perimenopause and menopause yet, It should be mentioned that early menopause could be a possibility for anyone, but age between 35-40 in and of itself shouldn’t typically be stressed as a significant factor in making successful natural conception more difficult until over 40. Even then, the average woman doesn’t typically enter perimenopause until about 45/46 years old, so our chances are still usually between 50-60% in a year until then. At 30 years old, most of us should be able to expect a greater likelihood of being able to have a successful natural pregnancy for the next 15-16 years of our lives.
@@resplndntAll women should be learning about the nature of natural female fertility and the potential complications and pros by the age of 18. All women should do research on the history of menopausal age for the women in their family. If it’s a genetic predisposition for early menopause’s more than just one female relative will have gone through it early or prematurely. That being said, while it should be pointed out that menopause could come earlier than what’s typical, it also shouldn’t be considered nearly enough of a majority due to age to warrant the term of “geriatric pregnancy” for the average expecting mother under 40 because the 30s are not when significantly age related declines in natural fertility take a nosedive in quality and quantity. That’s typically the 40s.
Yeah notice how everybody freaks out about older moms getting pregnant for the first time but there's women who sometimes have multiple babies and have their youngest in their forties?
thats because modern day fire emblem and xcom are "easier" fire emblem averages 2 rolls so you end up with a much higher chance than you think its not clear how xcom works, but it does screw rolls in your favor in xcom 2 on lower difficulties I believe this doesn't mean you can run and gun obviously, strategy is 70% of the battle
"Man, I feel so much better." Indeed. * My mum had me after 5 years of marriage, at age 28. It was hard to get pregnant, so she tried fertility treatments. She was always the oldest mother in the school meetings with parents. My brother was born when she was 35 years old and in the childbirth, the stupid nurses told her she was too old to get pregnant and the baby could be unhealthy due to her age. This scared my mother a lot. * At age 28, one of my grandmothers was a widow and the other died from cancer. * I'm 28 now and I don't think to have children soon.
Looking at my family tree, I see my great grandmother was born to a 43 year old, one great-great grandfather born to a 40 year old, another great-great grandfather born to a 45 year old. They all happened to be on the bottom end of large families, which were common in those days. This was the case with many younger siblings of other ancestors as well. If it wasn't uncommon to be able to conceive past 40 back in the 19th century then why should it be any less common now?
I had my baby at 38 and she is healthy , beautiful and I'm perhaps a better mom than my friends who had their babies @early 30's because I was fully ready !
Yeah, must be nice living in a part of the world with a high life expectancy. (cries in Eastern-European) Part of the "have babies before 35" scare comes from the fear that you won't be able to care for your kids when they're in their teens or college years, or you won't be able to see your grandkids.
relo999 by the time your 50 your kids will be teens and will not want to spend time with you. You do all the time spending on your 40. You can still do alot of stuff in your 40s
Because of this "have babies before 35", it makes you wonder about the US mandate in healthcare about treating children as such until they're 26 might be full of hokum as well.
What age do you feel comfortable saying is the time to “strike while the iron is hot” for the average woman (with sperm on demand from her partner) to have 2-3 children spaced out by 12-18 months? What age would you say it’s too late for 1/5 of women to have a baby?
My mother had me at 37 and a befriended family had two healthy sons when their mom was in her mid 40s and their dad in his late 50s. My friend's parents are turning 60 and 70 soon (he is 18) and he is perfectly healthy. I was always very suspicious when teachers told us that women should better not get pregnant after 35 :D
Here are some data from a 2004 French study of modern couples (NOT 17th century peasants) According to a 2004 study by Henri Leridon, PhD, an epidemiologist with the French Institute of Health and Medical Research of women trying to get pregnant, without using fertility drugs or in vitro fertilization. At age 30 75% will have a conception ending in a live birth within one year 91% will have a conception ending in a live birth within four years At age 35 66% will have a conception ending in a live birth within one year 84% will have a conception ending in a live birth within four years At age 40 44% will have a conception ending in a live birth within one year 64% will have a conception ending in a live birth within four years
It's risk management. There are no guarantees your fertility goes away at 40, but the RISKS increase dramatically. We play the lottery because the risks are low and the potential reward is high. We don't gamble away our life savings because the risk is high to justify the potential reward.
@@jovanatokic4741 in animals older males sperm becomes less viable. They end up with a lot of mutations. So the chance of them reaching the egg are lower.
It’s not politically correct to tell women that they do have a biological clock and that famous women with loads of money to throw at fertility issues aren’t the norm. The same results were/are replicated by super religious no birth control baby crazy communities like the Hutterites too.
I guess all the doctors are just wrong then. My wife what’s to have kids now I’m going to tell her we can wait until she’s 50 thanks I love your comment
My wife was 35 with our first and 37 with our second. Both kids perfectly healthy. No Complications. We conceived within 3 months of trying and the only reason it took so long was I had the Hank Hill narrow urethra.
As well as having the kid(s) take care of you before their lives/careers launch compared to long after. Early caregiving has put my life on hold and I'm hoping I'm not permanently behind my peers from high school and college regarding a career and family.
My wife gave birth to our son the day before her 37th birthday, she did develop gestational diabetes during the pregnancy which went away after he was born. Mother and child were both healthy as they could possibly be.
Adam, please talk about infertility affecting men at a later age. Everyone's so hung up about women's fertility and how it decreases with age and none about men's like the latter have immortal fertility.
Hemashree Krishnan they’re hung up about it because it’s a trend that women have babies in later years and it is well established that it is both more difficult to get pregnant after 35 and it puts the baby at greater risk of developing certain problems. Men have declining fertility with age too but not as early and not as noticeable. Women have more complicated reproductive organs. There is no blame in this, only reality.
@@nsoromma9505 The video didn’t debunk anything. Those French farmers exclusively ate organic and got plenty of exercise and every kid they had was free labor for their farms too. We also know enough about French history to the point where you don’t have to lie about them having a war, that only the men married to 35 years old and older women went off to fight in. When do you think is the latest the average woman should wait, if she wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by 12-18 months?
Hey Adam, I don't comment on videos ever... this really changed my life I'm 25 and was really worried about having kids...fertility and I believed the latest I could do this was 35...I have a request could you do one on happiness and parenting... there are so many contradictory studies that say parenting cause people to be more or less happy and I would like to know which it is...
your question solely relies on the purity of your relationship with your partner. my wife and i had our first daughter at 19. so many people believed that having a child at 19 would cause us to break up due to major stress. in our particular case, we grew even more in love with one another while falling in love with our baby. on the other hand, there are couples out there who think they love each other because they have fun together doing non-kid-friendly things around the age 30+, they finally have a child and divorce, it wasnt their love for one another, it was the love for a carefree lifestyle . having a baby means you no longer can afford to be carefree. my wife and i were mature and responsible at a young age, we could handle not going out and partying or to the movies every weekend. while other couples thrive on the thrill in order to maintain their "love" for one another.
Your happiness after kids is really a hard thing to predict. I got lucky and my s.o. is amazing to our daughter and I absolutely love him. I have to say I struggled post partum and after a year I'm still struggling with my emotions and getting my life in order with work and child care (expensive as hell btw) I love my daughter more than anything but it's been so difficult financially and the constant struggle between deciding to stay home and still struggle or work and still struggle it has been rough. I know this isn't very uplifting but in all honesty having children is a choice to not take lightly and as a parent you'd be surprised by how many mountains you can move but it's rough if you're not prepared emotionally and financially.
I'm pregnant with my first baby at 38. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes & it's not as scary as some would have you believe; it has more to do with genetics than age, both of my cousins were diagnosed with it in their 20s, none of us are obese. I just have had to cut out added sugar, cut back on simple carbs, while increasing my complex carb & protein intake. No need for medication, because it is easily controlled through diet & exercise. Don't let people scare you & make you feel like you need to rush into parenthood. Being in a stable, healthy, committed relationship where you are both ready for the responsibility of raising a child is the most important factor.
This is good to know. I always suspected something was up, and that the only real downside might be chasing a toddler at 42 or being mistaken for grandparents at graduation. Screw it; why rush if you're not ready? It would be way worse (for you and the family) to raise a kid you weren't prepared for emotionally or financially.
Also, if a person's parents and grandparents are still alive, might not want to wait so long that they end up never getting to meet your kids. May not always be important, but it's something I've been thinking about. I just lost one set of grandparents this year (I'm in my late 30's, though).
Actually I've heard that women with PCOS might even have a longer fertility window that ones that don't have it! I'm not sure if that's correct though, you'd have to ask a doctor :)
I started explaining this stuff to people, even started linking them Adam's sources, but they absolutely refused to believe I was anything but a troll, just because someone who claimed to know a doctor said I was trolling, and they didn't provide any evidence at all to back their claims, just hearsay from the patient of a hypothetical doctor.
What do you think is the latest the average woman should wait to have kids, if she wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by a year or two? What age do you think clock starts running out for women’s fertility?
“The vast majority of women who freeze their eggs, never use them.” The amount of women being scared into spending 25k injecting, freezing and unfreezing eggs. 🙈 They could be using this money as a downpayment on a home or a college fund. 😢😵💫
actually, there's one thing they forgot to mention, this whole fertility fear has also broken down many potentially happy marriages. After all, while men are always taught to first find a stable life and then have children, this fertility fear does push a lot of women in the kids or career modus, which makes them act forcibly towards their husbands (or the other way around, as men are also privy to this lie and still think it's true), thus causing stress, frustration and eventually in a lot of cases: divorce.
@@SkycometAnimeVamp same, I feel like I couldn’t be a stay at home mom. It just isn’t me and I have big plans for when I’m older (since I’m super young now😭) also what if i become a stay at home wife and get stuck in that position with an abusive/neglectful man
We're among the wackadoodles that had a Bazillion children and my wife had her last one when she was 42. We did have one Downs child but that was when my wife was 31 and I'm afraid the child died in NICU after a day of heart defects. Toward the end it was our experience that instead of saying oh boy we are going to have another baby, we ended up thinking oh my I hope this pregnancy goes to term instead of miscarrying. That being said is among the most heart-rending scenes to have a couple decide to wait to have a child and then finding out that fertility is an issue. But then who's to say that fertility wasn't an issue 10 years prior. Just musings of an old guy.
My Grandma (a farmer in a house with no running water, electricity, or central heat) had her last and ninth child at age 48 back in the 1930s. She was a late bloomer for the time. She got married at 28. She was ahead of her time, though, because she got divorced in the 1940s.
Yeah, I don’t want kids but because of this video I can now tell my 31 year old wife we can wait until she’s in her 40s to have kids I’m so glad I found this video to show her 😊
allot of folks in these comments need a lesson in why "anecdotal evidence" is very bad evidence. Your personal experience (e.g- my mom had me at the age of 45) does not stack up against scientific studies and surveys carried out by experts.
+T2Thunder 2 The very premise of the entire video is a "straw-man" fallacy. Nobody ever said you can't have a baby after the age of 35, that's pure nonsense. Rather the chances of having a baby after 35 start to drop significantly while the risks sky-rocket. This is the standard professional opinion of any expert in the field.
Yes. It's frustrating that public medical advice all seems geared to the normal range. I like when they bother to put in a disclaimer that the advice might not fit everyone. I hope you were able to have kids before then.
My mum had me at 38. I was her 4th, and she didn't even start having kids until she was 28. I was almost 10 pounds, and I've never had any medical issues. As for me, if I wanted to give birth, I probably should have frozen some of my eggs, but that's because I'm a trans guy, and there's a chance that being on testosterone will harm my fertility. Fortunately, if I decide to have kids, I fully plan on adopting.
An anecdote is not data. Some women have kids in their 50's. Some women are taller than 7 feet in height. Some women are billionaires. But that means little to most average women.
My SIL has her daughter at 39 and my great grandmothers had children into their 40s because the only birth control back then was menopause. None of their kids had birth defects.
My best friend and I both lost our ability to bear children by the time we were 35. Neither of us were aware of having fertility problems when we were in our twenties and still able to have kids. I am glad so many people are able to bear children in their 40s and even 50s, but if you really want to have kids, my advice is to make it a priority since there are no guarantees that your health and fertility will remain constant through your 30s and 40s.
Please keep in mind that pregnancy past the age of 35 also comes with increased maternal risks. Pre-eclampsia/eclampsia, gestational diabetes, and cardiomyopathy come in at higher percentages as women age. Many OBGYN's will refer women to maternal-fetal medicine specialists due to these risks. It's about more than just fertility...
And these days add to the list the complement of age-related diseases that typically was never seen in gravid populations: coronary artery disease, osteoarthritis, cognitive decli e
One thing that wasn't mentioned was whether or not birth control can affect fertility and I believe in a good number of people hormonal bc can affect future fertility.
I got pregnant so easily in my 20s had my last child at 29 never had a miscarriage before. I turned 35 had a miscarriage after it took over 6 cycles to even conceive. 11 TTC cycles total still no baby :'( there is a bit of truth to this. Egg quality and ovarian ageing can impact your fertility. Of course there are exceptions. Also everyone is different in different parts of their lives. Hoping this months egg is good and is getting ready to snuggle in any day now
If I ever met him, Murph, and Emily. I would have huge fanboy moment and want to hug all of them. I'm also a huge fan of College Humor which of course they all were originally from.
Viktoria Van Eycke nobody said it doesn't have an age limit. They said your risk goes up. Your personal experience is not a peer reviewed study and does not reflect the general experience of others.
Since we're on the anecdote train... I have had kids in my 20s, and 30s, having my 6th a month before my 40th. All problem free pregnancies, births, and recoveries. I never had fertility issues or miscarriages. Then I surprisingly found out I was pregnant at 42, everything seemed fine like all the others, then I found out I was having twins (the risk of multiples increases after 40 too), then I had my first miscarriage, it was unexpected by me, and devastating. Then I found out from many of my large family mum friends, that they had more miscarriages after the age of 40 too, that most of them had never had before or it was more difficult to fall pregnant.
At 3:25, is this the chance of the egg implanting process itself working? Or does this also take into account personal and societal factors that will end up making you not even want to use your frozen eggs anyway?
My mom had me and my twin brother at 40. We are both healthy, the only condition I probably have (it's very difficult to get assessed in my country) is ADHD, which has nothing to do with mom. It's always better to have kids when you're ready than just doing it for cultural reasons, out of fear of being infertile, etc. I know a guy who accidentally got his now ex girlfriend pregnant when he was 21. She did not feel ready for a child, which is why he has to raise her alone with only a few family members around to help. Now he loves his 4 y/o daughter more than anything else, which is why I am not worried about her well-being, but it's still not easy to have that much responsibility at his age (25).
I recently got pregnant at 37 and the doctor treated me like I was so old. It was a surprise and I wasn’t happy at first but I ended up being excited. The doctor scared the crap out of me about Down syndrome and other defects. I ended up losing him at 5 months, but it was hard. I felt so old.
I'm so sorry to hear. 😞💙 I'm turning 37 pretty soon and have been feeling older, but still hopeful to have a baby someday. May I ask how you felt old? Like, was it your muscles, bones, etc? Thanks for the reminder that life can sometimes take a hard road.
2:30 miscarriages become more common because egg quality declines... So said BIRTH of those deformed ones wouldn't count as they were not carried to term. I mean increased risk of miscarriages you just shrug that off like whatever. Pregnancy loss can change a person. It breaks you on the inside. :'(
And part of the reproductive system is the ability to renew oneself so a woman fertility comes in Cycles. Poor health then and poor health now is what causes fertility issues in both genders. Natural menopause starts at 50
Your attitude is why The Fertility Industry is a multi billion dollar industry that keeps growing year after year. High profile women who secretly use donor eggs love to talk about how they do yoga twice a week and only eat chocolate once a month, instead of that they spent six figures to carry a child that isn’t theirs biologically.
journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Fulltext/2004/01000/Increased_Infertility_With_Age_in_Men_and_Women.10.aspxYoublacklove That's the one linked on the TruTV website. Presumably they got it from the inverse of "The percentage infertility was estimated at 8% for women aged 19-26 years, 13-14% for women aged 27-34 years and 18% for women aged 35-39 years" So 100-14=86 at 27 and 100-18=82 at 37
As a guy wondering when I'll go infertile does concern me. I'm a few months away from turning 30 and have no romantic or sexual experience, I've never dated. This has mostly been due to me never having been in love before. Therefore I never had an interest in dating.I still hope I can find someone to start a family with.
I still think its probably a good idea to get it done before 40, mind you i'm a guy so that probably devalues my opinion. The biggest reason people wait to have kids is because of how hard it is, that and the risks involved. It requires a huge investment of time and money to raise a child and even then their success is not guaranteed, on top of that they might end up being terrible. The final nail in the coffin is the ever-present risk of divorce. Raising children is hard enough for two parents, doing it on your own though is ridiculously tough and stressful. My mom raised me and my two siblings on her own after a divorce and she started that at 30. She did an amazing job all things considered but it was hard and she was never able to re-marry. Her children and to a lesser extent her career were her entire life. Anyway back to why I think it's a good idea to get it done relatively early, simply put raising a child is exhausting and can sometimes require over 2 decades before they successfully launch and become independant and your not going to be around forever, the sooner you get it done, the better the chances you will be able to see it through to the end and even help them with their own children. This is all assuming you are in a stable enough position financially and socially to provide for and raise them of course. Do not have a kid unless you're certain you can handle it.
True but I would phrase one sentence there otherwise. Children can only become terrible if you don't have time to level with them and spend time with them on their challenges. They shouldn't be in the comfort zone. They should learn independence and go on their own to carve their road in life. That's what means the most.
Your opinion shouldn't be devalued just cos you're a guy. If your family unit is cohesive, you're in this together, esp in modern parenting where a guy is expected to take a big share of the care load. What you're saying is in essence true, but there is a trade-off to consider. Bearing in mind that costs of living are now getting increasingly stacked against wage growth, which in many countries is slowing, most people now need to save more in order to afford having a child, something that is beyond the capacity of a lot of people in their 20s and early 30s. At least, if you're both mid-30s or older, you've had more time to plan and save. It's getting to the point where people are even putting off marriage until they're mid-30s, even in cultures where the pressures are to marry young, like in traditional Chinese families (I know, because I belong to one); the ability to save and spend enough is just too limited for many families, even with double income.
Watching this video a few years back I was in the same boat as Emily, but I came out thinking “I do have some time.” I’m 26 and cannot imagine having a kid now. I have a lot to work on before I am ready. My parents were 30 (mother) and 33 (father) when I was born. Thankfully they are reasonable and are like “Wait until you’re ready to have kids”
My brothers best friend was an accident baby, the mother and father weren't financially ready and her birth nearly ruined their lives, 14 years later when the mom was in her late thirties they were ready and have had two more kids (at 38 and at 40). She didn't need any fertility help either, just watched her cycle.
What age do you think it’s too late for 1/5 of women to have two kids spaced out by 12-18 months without having to use secretly donor eggs like all those 40 something year old celebrities?
Literally every woman is different, some still are fully fertile at 50, while others lose theirs in their late 30's. However if a woman still has a functioning uterus but just isn't producing eggs anymore I'd suggest seeking treatment to boost egg production instead of an egg doner.
@@rosieg6989 Fertility treatments can be too expensive for many women and not even work. Religious beliefs can also make them not an option. The Fertility Industry is predatory in getting egg donors (typically broke college girls) and not informing them of the health risks, or giving their biological children and their recipient parents health history updates. Using your friend’s mom as a woman’s typical expectation for fertility is going to leave a significant amount of women childless, broke, and not having biological children of their own. 35 being around the time to get in gear, if a woman wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by 12-18 months is the best advice to avoid massive amounts of heartache from a significant amount of women.
Dude, let women make their own choices on when they want to have kids, and also don't shame the methods they use. I told my story as a positive, that despite her age when she was ready she had more kids, but even if she couldn't get pregnant the normal way there is no shame in seeking options like ivf, doner eggs, surrogacy, or adoption. Don't pressure people to all have kids the same way at the same age.
@@rosieg6989 How is it shaming women to acknowledge that the Fertility Industry is predatory about getting egg donors? How about the surrogates in very poor countries like Ukraine or India for rich western boss babes? We haven’t even touched on the children who are never told their mom’s used donor eggs/sperm. So they don’t have accurate health histories and get to enter the dating world with no idea who they’re related to!
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My mom had brother at 46. He screened positive for Down syndrome initially. Later tested negative twice. Born normally and on honor roll.
Thank you! People need to hear these stories so the anxiety can simmer down
They probably miscalculated gestational age, which can skew AFP readings.
My mom had my youngest brother at 43. He was an oops baby. My parents thought they were done.
He was almost 10 pounds and the healthiest out of all of us. I have 4 siblings.
Im curious to know how the test results changed, considering Down's syndrome is caused by an extra chromosome. I guessed that maybe the testing was prenatal and based on genetics but maybe I misunderstood.
@@lildon112 It's an AFP level that it used to determine whether or not the fetus has Down syndrome.
My grandma had her last son, my youngest uncle, at 47 in rural Mexico without the help of modern medicine; He’s in his late to early 50s now and she’s 97.
this is interesting actually, here in the Philippines fertility isnt a problem, so many people plan with the idea of having kids in the late 30's or early 40's, not 35
@bad bad mc bad ???
@bad bad mc bad but that doesn't stop the fact that women can have babies past age 35. The scientific facts just don't correlate with cultural norms.
That’s great! I wonder if there is better quality food there? It used to be more common for older women to have kids late in life, but now not as much. It’s important to eat a good diet too. My grandma had kids after 40 and so did her mom. It might also be more cultural differences. A lot of women just give up or don’t try after a certain age here.
@bad bad mc bad This is a weird out of place take that has nothing to do with the main subject. It also sounds like projecting to me, and not to mention very creepy to go after teenagers when you're way too old be in business with them.
The big problem with that is the age you have to raise them at, do you want to be able to mobile and do things with your kids or be too old to do anything with them when they are getting of age to leave
I wish I had watched this when I first got pregnant! I am 37 and I was SO afraid the baby would be messed up. So far all the tests say he is perfect.
I felt the same way. I ended up losing him but I was really worried the whole time.
My mom gave birth to my sister at age 39 and my sister is prefect
@@mammamathews I saw a TEDtalk on YT where a woman recounted how she had - like I don't know - six or seven miscarriages and even gave birth to one baby who died. But she eventually did have a healthy baby and this kid is now doing fine. If you still want a baby I really hope you don't get discouraged.
Dwah congratulations! 😍
mintghost
Can you please not say “messed up” and “perfect?” I have ADHD and it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me
My mom had me at 38 and I turned out great! Its weird to me that people think of women from 35 to 40 as "older mothers", Im 36 and I feel like I just FINALLY got to the point of being mentally and financially capable of having a baby. I cannot fathom that someone could be emotionally ready to do so in their early 20s. Your own brain isn't even finished developing!!! (Research has shown we still experience some brain development up to 28!) Although I know women who pulled it off, but for me there is no way in hell I would have been ready back then.
I wonder why a 22 year old woman is more fertile and has a better chance of having a healthy child that a 42 year old woman?
yeah I agree. I know people who have them young then leave the grandparents to do most of the parenting, selfishly exhausting the grandparents and not allowing them to live their lives and enjoy grandparenting how it should be!
Same my mom had me at 39. I was born early but im ok now and despite her faults I’d take her over a teen mom any time
this is very true... men show mental development all the way up until they hit their 40's... im 41 .. im finally mentally an adult... hurray
And how have your pregnancies been? I can't believe how much I felt like I aged with my first baby at 28--I don't want to feel rushed for the next kid(s), but the thought of doing this in my mid-thirties just sounds exhausting! I could use some good news :)
Have there ever been any major studies on male fertility? It's all well and good to know women's data, but it takes two to do the baby tango...
well the reason their are more female studies is because the female side of things is more complex, but their are still a lot of studies for men, for example potency reduces with age, so a woman getting older may not have a serious effect on having kids, but with men its significant
@@InitialPC Actually, men can have babies into their 70's, and there's little evidence of significant decrease in potency before then. The fact is that a woman getting older has a MAJOR impact on fertility (harder after 30, difficult after 40, nearly impossible after 50), while a man getting older has a modest impact on fertility, with little decrease until the 60's.
i have a friend who’s dad was 60 when she was conceived so their fertility isn’t really affected by age
There are TONS of new data that show that a combo of older age of the man plays just as much of a role in, not only fertility/ potency but also in chromosomal risk. They increase SIGNIFICANTLY after 40 for both genders
Just because a healthy baby CAN be conceived later in life does not mean that it's as common or as easy. The risks and capability to do so drastically drops after 40...even if its just the man who is older or vice versa and doubles if they are both older.
On the other hand, I cannot imagine trying to parent a teenager at 60.
yossarius more time to get your life together and learn to take care of one
Exactly
Thaťs a personal choice, not an impossibility
Why? You’re probably gonna be more patient and wiser. It is better than having a kid when you’re not ready.
Better then than in your 50s--menopause AND puberty in the same house? *shudder*
Besides, in traditional extended families, the grandparents do a lot of the parenting while the middle generation is working.
We bought the myth too, then got pregnant almost immediately. I was 36. Our son is now a healthy two year old who can count to 30, say his ABCs, identify colors and shapes, add single digits, share, wait his turn and take care of his own basic hygiene. This whole nonsense about 35 is worthy of nothing but being ignored. Have your baby. They'll get two mature and hopefully more established parents in exchange for age.
Yeah, but you only had one child at 36.
keep telling yourself that. time served on this planet does not give you maturity or financial success
@@GK-op4oc And? Lots of people have only one or two kids (my aunt had her second and last child at 28, they decided that was enough).
@@anonymoussaga8723 Most women want more children but mess up their dating and start too late. Two children per woman is needed to sustain civilization. For every woman that thinks one child is enough, another woman needs to make 3
@@GK-op4oc Not sure of your point.
I used to ride with a woman who kept having miscarriages then at the age of 47 she gave birth to a beautiful, healthy, baby girl.
*ride with*
@@te1327 look at the profile, horseback riding
47? That's just irresponsible.
crazy
@@Snarkulous If she's able to take care of her child then they're good. Age shouldn't be a problem at that point. There are a lot more people in their 20s who shouldn't be parents in the first place.
I love how the video is so serious, Emily is asking questions, Adam is supplying good answers, and Murph is just in the background vibing.
Watching this while I'm 35 years old and I'm 37 weeks pregnant😏 I'm considered an 'advanced age' pregnancy. It's crazy cause I got pregnant so much easier in my 30's than I ever did with our 1st baby at 28.
Congrats ! So she/he is born yet ? o3o
Ayyyy 👏🏻
The term geriatric pregnancy should be retired or just apply to people like that german woman who got invitro in her 60s.
@@resplndntI’d say it should start to apply as a general medical term for expecting mothers over 40 years old because that’s typically when natural fertility levels truly do plummet in both men and women. Most women can’t get pregnant naturally easily and swiftly, if at all, once they enter perimenopause between their mid-late 40s.
I know that there are many women between 41-44/45 who still can naturally conceive a perfectly healthy baby safely within a year or two of trying without fertility treatment.
I think pushing the terms of “advanced maternal age” and “geriatric pregnancy” on the general population of otherwise healthy and normal young women in their 30s is rather ageist, outdated, and sexist fear mongering to push the fertility treatment market. Are there women who will go through perimenopause and menopause between their 30s and earlier? Are Absolutely, but *usually* fertility issues before the age of 45/46 is not directly age-related to the expecting mother. It’s usually because she came from a long history of women in her family going through early or premature menopause (yeah, I know some doctors say that your menopause age will usually follow your mother’s, but that usually just applies when her age of menopause is consistent with the rest of the women in her family), It’s usually because she developed some sort of autoimmune disease that wasn’t properly treated. It’s usually because she struggled long-term with being anorexic or being overweight. It’s because she was a long term smoker. It’s because she spent a lot of her childhood and young adulthood feeling highly stressed and insecure in a high pressure or toxic environment that never got properly dealt with. It’s because she was a smoker. It was because she abused drugs and/or alcohol throughout most of her young adulthood. It’s because she had to get a hysterectomy.
Granted, these are things that young women who want to become mothers to children of their own should be aware of regarding our natural fertility because some of these are environmental and personal lifestyle choice factors that we can change to decrease the possibility of early or premature menopause, while others are out of our control, such as genetics and unfair fate, no matter how hard we try.
Every woman’s fertility journey is going to be a little bit different, and we can’t predict the future. That being said, it also shouldn’t be getting treated as the norm by society for the average women between 35-40 to be experiencing perimenopause and menopause yet, It should be mentioned that early menopause could be a possibility for anyone, but age between 35-40 in and of itself shouldn’t typically be stressed as a significant factor in making successful natural conception more difficult until over 40. Even then, the average woman doesn’t typically enter perimenopause until about 45/46 years old, so our chances are still usually between 50-60% in a year until then. At 30 years old, most of us should be able to expect a greater likelihood of being able to have a successful natural pregnancy for the next 15-16 years of our lives.
@@resplndntAll women should be learning about the nature of natural female fertility and the potential complications and pros by the age of 18. All women should do research on the history of menopausal age for the women in their family. If it’s a genetic predisposition for early menopause’s more than just one female relative will have gone through it early or prematurely.
That being said, while it should be pointed out that menopause could come earlier than what’s typical, it also shouldn’t be considered nearly enough of a majority due to age to warrant the term of “geriatric pregnancy” for the average expecting mother under 40 because the 30s are not when significantly age related declines in natural fertility take a nosedive in quality and quantity. That’s typically the 40s.
My mom had me at 42 and my grandma had my uncle at 48
48?? Wow.
Wow bro
Yeah notice how everybody freaks out about older moms getting pregnant for the first time but there's women who sometimes have multiple babies and have their youngest in their forties?
"At age 37, her chances are 82%"
"That's like bearly a difference"
Someone hasn't played Fire Emblem
My go to would be Xcom, but I have had flawless encounters sooo.
thats because modern day fire emblem and xcom are "easier"
fire emblem averages 2 rolls so you end up with a much higher chance than you think
its not clear how xcom works, but it does screw rolls in your favor in xcom 2 on lower difficulties I believe
this doesn't mean you can run and gun obviously, strategy is 70% of the battle
Its over 10 years though!! That's a tiny difference in 10 years!!
Had my daughter at 40...it’s been awesome. And I’m taking great care of myself and plan to be an amazing, kick ass grandmother one day!
"Had my daughter at 40"
Your last daughter, right ?
When you are 80?
Any tips on keeping yourself healthy?
And yay! What a blessing. ❤
@@eestudajwhy not 🤷♀️
"Man, I feel so much better."
Indeed.
* My mum had me after 5 years of marriage, at age 28. It was hard to get pregnant, so she tried fertility treatments. She was always the oldest mother in the school meetings with parents. My brother was born when she was 35 years old and in the childbirth, the stupid nurses told her she was too old to get pregnant and the baby could be unhealthy due to her age. This scared my mother a lot.
* At age 28, one of my grandmothers was a widow and the other died from cancer.
* I'm 28 now and I don't think to have children soon.
My mom had me at 39 and I was just the first of her three pretty healthy daughters. And no egg freezing obvs :/
good for her!
Looking at my family tree, I see my great grandmother was born to a 43 year old, one great-great grandfather born to a 40 year old, another great-great grandfather born to a 45 year old. They all happened to be on the bottom end of large families, which were common in those days. This was the case with many younger siblings of other ancestors as well. If it wasn't uncommon to be able to conceive past 40 back in the 19th century then why should it be any less common now?
I had my baby at 38 and she is healthy , beautiful and I'm perhaps a better mom than my friends who had their babies @early 30's because I was fully ready !
ZSALE20
Say it louder for the women in the back!!!
"I had my baby at 38"
Your one and last child, right ?
so you can't be fully ready in your early thirties?
@@GK-op4oc how can you be so lame?
guess what? My mom gave birth to me at the age of 43
lastprism5 mine at 45
mine at 21 and i can now go to my gran granparents house in brasil and they are still alaive
lastprism5 same!!
my mom 40
my mom gave me at 39
Yeah, must be nice living in a part of the world with a high life expectancy. (cries in Eastern-European)
Part of the "have babies before 35" scare comes from the fear that you won't be able to care for your kids when they're in their teens or college years, or you won't be able to see your grandkids.
relo999 by the time your 50 your kids will be teens and will not want to spend time with you. You do all the time spending on your 40. You can still do alot of stuff in your 40s
don't generalise Eastern Europe please
Because of this "have babies before 35", it makes you wonder about the US mandate in healthcare about treating children as such until they're 26 might be full of hokum as well.
Mexazavr actually I believe it's 25: 1/1500 35: 1/300 40: 1/100. But is it me or does 1% sounds more reassuring than 1/100
xøñχt .. that is a good point too, but that’s what parents and aunts and all are for.
My mom had me at 42. I'm the youngest of five siblings. By the time I was in high school my parents were way chill about everything.
My parents had 5 kids from 35 to 45. I never heard that myth before and if I did, I wouldnt believe it
What age do you feel comfortable saying is the time to “strike while the iron is hot” for the average woman (with sperm on demand from her partner) to have 2-3 children spaced out by 12-18 months?
What age would you say it’s too late for 1/5 of women to have a baby?
My mother had me at 37 and a befriended family had two healthy sons when their mom was in her mid 40s and their dad in his late 50s. My friend's parents are turning 60 and 70 soon (he is 18) and he is perfectly healthy. I was always very suspicious when teachers told us that women should better not get pregnant after 35 :D
Just played this video for my mom to stop hounding me about having kids. Thanks! 🙏
My grandma had my dad at 51! You have your age and your body has it's own chronological age which can differ alot depending on your diet/lifestyle.
My mom had all of her children after 35. We are all just fine.
Your mom was fine too, I assume? But that's awesome! Praise the Lord.
Here are some data from a 2004 French study of modern couples (NOT 17th century peasants)
According to a 2004 study by Henri Leridon, PhD, an epidemiologist with the French Institute of Health and Medical Research of women trying to get pregnant, without using fertility drugs or in vitro fertilization.
At age 30
75% will have a conception ending in a live birth within one year
91% will have a conception ending in a live birth within four years
At age 35
66% will have a conception ending in a live birth within one year
84% will have a conception ending in a live birth within four years
At age 40
44% will have a conception ending in a live birth within one year
64% will have a conception ending in a live birth within four years
It's risk management. There are no guarantees your fertility goes away at 40, but the RISKS increase dramatically. We play the lottery because the risks are low and the potential reward is high. We don't gamble away our life savings because the risk is high to justify the potential reward.
is there data in there on the fertility of men as well? otherwise hope they were not using the same dude😬 🧖♂️😂
joking aside im curious
@@jovanatokic4741 in animals older males sperm becomes less viable. They end up with a lot of mutations. So the chance of them reaching the egg are lower.
I also would love to see this study conducted on black/african women. I know MANY Nigerian auntie’s and grandmas who had babies well into their 40s
@@Confettifun I honestly don't think race has anything to do with fertility.
My mom was 36 when she had me, and I'm the healthiest person I know.
One of the best! I’m a nurse and was never taught the study group for the “35 fertility” data. 😳
there's a reason they use pre-birth control data to understand birth rates.
It’s not politically correct to tell women that they do have a biological clock and that famous women with loads of money to throw at fertility issues aren’t the norm. The same results were/are replicated by super religious no birth control baby crazy communities like the Hutterites too.
My grandmother had a healthy baby girl at 48 in 1956 Mississippi.
Had my baby naturally and healthy at 43. My cousin had same at 50.
I guess all the doctors are just wrong then. My wife what’s to have kids now I’m going to tell her we can wait until she’s 50 thanks I love your comment
My mum was born in 1964. My big brother was born in 2001 and I was born in 2004. We both turned out well and healthy.
That’s so encouraging
I read it as "You can still have BARBIES at 35"
I’m 31 and I find this notion intriguing lol
Not a bad idea! Lol whatever gives you joy 😊
My wife was 35 with our first and 37 with our second. Both kids perfectly healthy. No Complications. We conceived within 3 months of trying and the only reason it took so long was I had the Hank Hill narrow urethra.
37 was your last, right ?
@@GK-op4oc Isn't that their choice?
BWAAAHHHAA
The only real question is how hard it is to wake up 3 times a night when you are 40 compared to your 20's.
As well as having the kid(s) take care of you before their lives/careers launch compared to long after. Early caregiving has put my life on hold and I'm hoping I'm not permanently behind my peers from high school and college regarding a career and family.
Barely at all, if you're struggling to get yourself up several times a night at only 40 then you clearly haven't been taking care of yourself.
For real!😂
If you’re aging so terribly you can no longer do something mildly physically demanding at 40 then you’ve got other problems.
@@MS-he3wz not everyone is lucky to live in 1st world country, you entitled smartass
I been knew it was fake. Mom had my last 2 siblings at 40 and 42
While women have reduced fertility over the age of 35, their sexual market place value in the dating market drops after 32 and falls off a cliff at 35
@@GK-op4oc According to who? You? LOL.
@@SJ-ru4ej I have read about female fertility. Do you know where to find this information ?
My wife gave birth to our son the day before her 37th birthday, she did develop gestational diabetes during the pregnancy which went away after he was born. Mother and child were both healthy as they could possibly be.
Gest diabetes is common in younger mothers too.
My mom had me at 42 and I had my daughter the day before I turned 36. All of us turned out fine.
Yea it's true, my Granny had her last baby at the age of 42.
I wonder why your family knows this? Is it because of how uncommon it is?
never heard of not being able to have babies after 35
Are you a dude
Ikr
@Aditya we can technically
Adam, please talk about infertility affecting men at a later age. Everyone's so hung up about women's fertility and how it decreases with age and none about men's like the latter have immortal fertility.
Hemashree Krishnan they’re hung up about it because it’s a trend that women have babies in later years and it is well established that it is both more difficult to get pregnant after 35 and it puts the baby at greater risk of developing certain problems. Men have declining fertility with age too but not as early and not as noticeable. Women have more complicated reproductive organs. There is no blame in this, only reality.
Skantezz Even though mens fertility drops off slower, the age of the father is correlated with many genetic disorders such as autism
@@Skantezz "Women have more complicated reproductive organs"
More like women are born with a fixed supply of eggs.
@@Skantezz didn’t the video just debunk this
@@nsoromma9505 The video didn’t debunk anything. Those French farmers exclusively ate organic and got plenty of exercise and every kid they had was free labor for their farms too. We also know enough about French history to the point where you don’t have to lie about them having a war, that only the men married to 35 years old and older women went off to fight in.
When do you think is the latest the average woman should wait, if she wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by 12-18 months?
Hey Adam, I don't comment on videos ever... this really changed my life I'm 25 and was really worried about having kids...fertility and I believed the latest I could do this was 35...I have a request could you do one on happiness and parenting... there are so many contradictory studies that say parenting cause people to be more or less happy and I would like to know which it is...
your question solely relies on the purity of your relationship with your partner. my wife and i had our first daughter at 19. so many people believed that having a child at 19 would cause us to break up due to major stress. in our particular case, we grew even more in love with one another while falling in love with our baby.
on the other hand, there are couples out there who think they love each other because they have fun together doing non-kid-friendly things around the age 30+, they finally have a child and divorce, it wasnt their love for one another, it was the love for a carefree lifestyle . having a baby means you no longer can afford to be carefree. my wife and i were mature and responsible at a young age, we could handle not going out and partying or to the movies every weekend. while other couples thrive on the thrill in order to maintain their "love" for one another.
Your happiness after kids is really a hard thing to predict. I got lucky and my s.o. is amazing to our daughter and I absolutely love him.
I have to say I struggled post partum and after a year I'm still struggling with my emotions and getting my life in order with work and child care (expensive as hell btw)
I love my daughter more than anything but it's been so difficult financially and the constant struggle between deciding to stay home and still struggle or work and still struggle it has been rough.
I know this isn't very uplifting but in all honesty having children is a choice to not take lightly and as a parent you'd be surprised by how many mountains you can move but it's rough if you're not prepared emotionally and financially.
I'm pregnant with my first baby at 38. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes & it's not as scary as some would have you believe; it has more to do with genetics than age, both of my cousins were diagnosed with it in their 20s, none of us are obese. I just have had to cut out added sugar, cut back on simple carbs, while increasing my complex carb & protein intake. No need for medication, because it is easily controlled through diet & exercise. Don't let people scare you & make you feel like you need to rush into parenthood. Being in a stable, healthy, committed relationship where you are both ready for the responsibility of raising a child is the most important factor.
This is good to know. I always suspected something was up, and that the only real downside might be chasing a toddler at 42 or being mistaken for grandparents at graduation. Screw it; why rush if you're not ready? It would be way worse (for you and the family) to raise a kid you weren't prepared for emotionally or financially.
Also, if a person's parents and grandparents are still alive, might not want to wait so long that they end up never getting to meet your kids. May not always be important, but it's something I've been thinking about. I just lost one set of grandparents this year (I'm in my late 30's, though).
My mom was 28 when she had me. Yet i was still autistic and was born with spine complications.
Ouch
@@littlemacisunderrated412 Yeah. Ouch is right. I recently had to go through surgery for my spine.
I’m pregnant with my 4th and 36 and freaking out today about if baby will be healthy. Thanks Adam, I feel a little better now.
Congratulations. I wish a wonderful, healthy life and hope the best for you and your upcoming child 🌸🌸 🌸 I believe your baby will be just fine.
As someone with PCOS this is really reassuring.
Actually I've heard that women with PCOS might even have a longer fertility window that ones that don't have it! I'm not sure if that's correct though, you'd have to ask a doctor :)
My mom had me at 45...I was a total surprise. I'm normal too lol
God planned for you to come. ❤😊
I started explaining this stuff to people, even started linking them Adam's sources, but they absolutely refused to believe I was anything but a troll, just because someone who claimed to know a doctor said I was trolling, and they didn't provide any evidence at all to back their claims, just hearsay from the patient of a hypothetical doctor.
What do you think is the latest the average woman should wait to have kids, if she wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by a year or two?
What age do you think clock starts running out for women’s fertility?
Take it from my parents, my mom was 41 and my dad was 44.
Yup and i am living proof, i was born when my mom was 42, i was a premie though but i didnt have any birth defects or learning disabilities
“The vast majority of women who freeze their eggs, never use them.” The amount of women being scared into spending 25k injecting, freezing and unfreezing eggs. 🙈 They could be using this money as a downpayment on a home or a college fund. 😢😵💫
My mom had me at age 38 and when I was born, I nearly died, but my grandmother Mary said a prayer and I turned out okay!
actually, there's one thing they forgot to mention, this whole fertility fear has also broken down many potentially happy marriages. After all, while men are always taught to first find a stable life and then have children, this fertility fear does push a lot of women in the kids or career modus, which makes them act forcibly towards their husbands (or the other way around, as men are also privy to this lie and still think it's true), thus causing stress, frustration and eventually in a lot of cases: divorce.
great point. Ultimatums have destroyed a lot of marriages for sure.
Bird Dude. Nah. I choose my career because I love what I do. The idea of being a stay at home wife horrifies me.
@Bird nah- women are just as varied as men. and women older than 35 can find partners...LOL. are you a child or just a dumb a ss?
@@SkycometAnimeVamp same, I feel like I couldn’t be a stay at home mom. It just isn’t me and I have big plans for when I’m older (since I’m super young now😭) also what if i become a stay at home wife and get stuck in that position with an abusive/neglectful man
My parents decided to wait longer than most before having children. They were in their forties when they had me.
Same with me, though my parents (mainly my mom) got married late. Got married 3 yrs before I was born.
"They were in their forties when they had me."
But they had only one child, right ?
@@GK-op4oc No, had another son a year and some odd months before me.
What an amazing video! Thank you! I was researching for my friend and I couldn’t find any solid scientific info on this. I Followed your channel!
This honestly makes me feel so much better and I'm only 21
Quick reminder, kids aren't mandatory. You can decide to not have any if that is your wish. You do you!
Yeah you have all the time in the world. Why not just wait until 45 and see what happens
My grandma had my mom naturally at 40 after 4 kids and she actually didn't want another baby, thankfully she kept it otherwise I wouldn't be here!
"My grandma had my mom naturally at 40 after 4 kids"
How many years between you and the next eldest ?
We're among the wackadoodles that had a Bazillion children and my wife had her last one when she was 42. We did have one Downs child but that was when my wife was 31 and I'm afraid the child died in NICU after a day of heart defects. Toward the end it was our experience that instead of saying oh boy we are going to have another baby, we ended up thinking oh my I hope this pregnancy goes to term instead of miscarrying.
That being said is among the most heart-rending scenes to have a couple decide to wait to have a child and then finding out that fertility is an issue. But then who's to say that fertility wasn't an issue 10 years prior. Just musings of an old guy.
You got real French speaking poeple on set I see. Because that accent was flawless
My Grandma (a farmer in a house with no running water, electricity, or central heat) had her last and ninth child at age 48 back in the 1930s. She was a late bloomer for the time. She got married at 28. She was ahead of her time, though, because she got divorced in the 1940s.
Thank you. I’m 33 so I needed to hear this
Same. I’ll be 32 in a few months and not even dating anyone. But I’d like kids oneday.
The age 35 cliff is also significant for male preferences. Women unconcerned about about male preferences are free to have a child on their own
my mom had me at 44 or something like that
Or something like that :P? You could do the math on when you were born, how old was your mom.
Mom power
watching these make me feel better...and smarter.
Yeah, I don’t want kids but because of this video I can now tell my 31 year old wife we can wait until she’s in her 40s to have kids I’m so glad I found this video to show her 😊
allot of folks in these comments need a lesson in why "anecdotal evidence" is very bad evidence. Your personal experience (e.g- my mom had me at the age of 45) does not stack up against scientific studies and surveys carried out by experts.
Tuko Pomwene except plenty of actual evidence was presented in this video?
+T2Thunder 2 The very premise of the entire video is a "straw-man" fallacy. Nobody ever said you can't have a baby after the age of 35, that's pure nonsense. Rather the chances of having a baby after 35 start to drop significantly while the risks sky-rocket. This is the standard professional opinion of any expert in the field.
Ever heard of MGTOW and the wall?
87% to 82% is not "significantly" and 0,5% to 1% is not "sky-rocket"
Anecdotal evidence is not the best evidence, but neither is "standard professional opinion" and magazine-style dramatizing are
I went into natural menopause at 40 so there is still that very real concern for some people
Yes. It's frustrating that public medical advice all seems geared to the normal range. I like when they bother to put in a disclaimer that the advice might not fit everyone. I hope you were able to have kids before then.
You're the freak. Not the rule.
That's PREMATURE menopause.
Everyone needs an Adam in their life like seriously
My mum had me at 38. I was her 4th, and she didn't even start having kids until she was 28. I was almost 10 pounds, and I've never had any medical issues. As for me, if I wanted to give birth, I probably should have frozen some of my eggs, but that's because I'm a trans guy, and there's a chance that being on testosterone will harm my fertility. Fortunately, if I decide to have kids, I fully plan on adopting.
Where are the links to sources used?
Mom had me at 46. It's definitely possible.
Yeah possible but how likely
@@robertowhyte2836 Very for those who are still trying without all these hangups
My mother got pregnant at least 3 times after 35 so I guess it checks out.
Out of context this comment is extremely weird.
DrSnegg Hahahaha
I have never found such a relatable comment
Out of context, this show is extremely weird.
An anecdote is not data. Some women have kids in their 50's. Some women are taller than 7 feet in height. Some women are billionaires. But that means little to most average women.
"My mother got pregnant at least 3 times after 35"
3 pregnancies or 3 deliveries ?
Ummm... my mom had me when she was 45..... I’ve turned out (kinda) fine
My mom had me at 40. My little brother at 41....💜
I’m glad everything worked out for your mom, but she’s an exception not the rule.
My mom had me at 40 and I think I turned pretty okay lol
The egg freezing actress was so good
This episode was pretty good
My SIL has her daughter at 39 and my great grandmothers had children into their 40s because the only birth control back then was menopause. None of their kids had birth defects.
The hell, come tell the mothers that come to our hospital we see all ages pregnant From 17 to 48 years old, the oldest I saw was 53
Thanks for sharing.
My best friend and I both lost our ability to bear children by the time we were 35. Neither of us were aware of having fertility problems when we were in our twenties and still able to have kids. I am glad so many people are able to bear children in their 40s and even 50s, but if you really want to have kids, my advice is to make it a priority since there are no guarantees that your health and fertility will remain constant through your 30s and 40s.
Or just do some tests to know if their is issues.
Please keep in mind that pregnancy past the age of 35 also comes with increased maternal risks. Pre-eclampsia/eclampsia, gestational diabetes, and cardiomyopathy come in at higher percentages as women age. Many OBGYN's will refer women to maternal-fetal medicine specialists due to these risks. It's about more than just fertility...
Matt C. Citations?
Did you not watch the video at all
And these days add to the list the complement of age-related diseases that typically was never seen in gravid populations: coronary artery disease, osteoarthritis, cognitive decli e
One thing that wasn't mentioned was whether or not birth control can affect fertility and I believe in a good number of people hormonal bc can affect future fertility.
I got pregnant so easily in my 20s had my last child at 29 never had a miscarriage before. I turned 35 had a miscarriage after it took over 6 cycles to even conceive. 11 TTC cycles total still no baby :'( there is a bit of truth to this. Egg quality and ovarian ageing can impact your fertility. Of course there are exceptions. Also everyone is different in different parts of their lives. Hoping this months egg is good and is getting ready to snuggle in any day now
Update on the egg?? Did it snuggle into a fetus and then a baby? 💜❤️ wishing you and your family lots of love and light!! 💓✨✨
The sources link doesnt actually link to any sources. Just some advertising for other shows.
oh... the season 2 is out now.
*turns on TV
Who else loves Adam ruins everything. I would love to be friends with Adam
I would be his BFF
If I ever met him, Murph, and Emily. I would have huge fanboy moment and want to hug all of them. I'm also a huge fan of College Humor which of course they all were originally from.
The_gamer_steven he seems like a realy cool guy
elaborate
same!
The best part is that miscarriages are mentioned only briefly, but they DO start having a high chance after 35-40 y.o.
Nick Kharitonov not true my hubby cousin wife who in her 20s had 6 miscarriages in one year. miscarriage doesn't have a age limit
Viktoria Van Eycke nobody said it doesn't have an age limit. They said your risk goes up. Your personal experience is not a peer reviewed study and does not reflect the general experience of others.
The risk of miscarriage is twice as high for women whose male partner is aged over 45 than for those whose partners are under 25.
Since we're on the anecdote train... I have had kids in my 20s, and 30s, having my 6th a month before my 40th. All problem free pregnancies, births, and recoveries. I never had fertility issues or miscarriages. Then I surprisingly found out I was pregnant at 42, everything seemed fine like all the others, then I found out I was having twins (the risk of multiples increases after 40 too), then I had my first miscarriage, it was unexpected by me, and devastating. Then I found out from many of my large family mum friends, that they had more miscarriages after the age of 40 too, that most of them had never had before or it was more difficult to fall pregnant.
@@trashbasket11 The risk goes up. Yes but by what % to what %?
At 3:25, is this the chance of the egg implanting process itself working? Or does this also take into account personal and societal factors that will end up making you not even want to use your frozen eggs anyway?
My mom had me when she was 40. I don’t have a birth defect, but You might count glasses need ed see better.
My mom got me with 22 and I still needed glasses xD
@@valentinailic1943 x2
My mom had me at 30 and I wear glasses. Refractory errors are insanely common and can happen to anyone. it’s genetic
"My mom had me when she was 40. I don’t have a birth defect"
Birth defect rates for Down's Syndrome increases to 1%. That is 1 of every 100 babies
My mom had me and my twin brother at 40. We are both healthy, the only condition I probably have (it's very difficult to get assessed in my country) is ADHD, which has nothing to do with mom. It's always better to have kids when you're ready than just doing it for cultural reasons, out of fear of being infertile, etc.
I know a guy who accidentally got his now ex girlfriend pregnant when he was 21. She did not feel ready for a child, which is why he has to raise her alone with only a few family members around to help. Now he loves his 4 y/o daughter more than anything else, which is why I am not worried about her well-being, but it's still not easy to have that much responsibility at his age (25).
I recently got pregnant at 37 and the doctor treated me like I was so old. It was a surprise and I wasn’t happy at first but I ended up being excited. The doctor scared the crap out of me about Down syndrome and other defects. I ended up losing him at 5 months, but it was hard. I felt so old.
I'm so sorry to hear. 😞💙 I'm turning 37 pretty soon and have been feeling older, but still hopeful to have a baby someday. May I ask how you felt old? Like, was it your muscles, bones, etc? Thanks for the reminder that life can sometimes take a hard road.
@@miss_bhello7925 she felt "old" because her doctor treated her like that
why do I have a crush on Adam I feel so ashamed
Don’t be he’s cute ❤️😘
Who wouldn't be attracted to an intelligent man in a suit who's polite with people telling him he's wrong?
Smart is attractive
Celeste Muñoz we all do honey
2:30 miscarriages become more common because egg quality declines... So said BIRTH of those deformed ones wouldn't count as they were not carried to term. I mean increased risk of miscarriages you just shrug that off like whatever. Pregnancy loss can change a person. It breaks you on the inside. :'(
And part of the reproductive system is the ability to renew oneself so a woman fertility comes in Cycles. Poor health then and poor health now is what causes fertility issues in both genders. Natural menopause starts at 50
Your attitude is why The Fertility Industry is a multi billion dollar industry that keeps growing year after year.
High profile women who secretly use donor eggs love to talk about how they do yoga twice a week and only eat chocolate once a month, instead of that they spent six figures to carry a child that isn’t theirs biologically.
My mom gave birth to my sister at 44!
Can someone please link to a study about the 86% chance at age 27 and 82% chance at age 37? Where does this data come from?
journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Fulltext/2004/01000/Increased_Infertility_With_Age_in_Men_and_Women.10.aspxYoublacklove That's the one linked on the TruTV website. Presumably they got it from the inverse of "The percentage infertility was estimated at 8% for women aged 19-26 years, 13-14% for women aged 27-34 years and 18% for women aged 35-39 years" So 100-14=86 at 27 and 100-18=82 at 37
I legit had a AD about a guy who made robots and his name was *ADAM* lol
As a guy wondering when I'll go infertile does concern me. I'm a few months away from turning 30 and have no romantic or sexual experience, I've never dated. This has mostly been due to me never having been in love before. Therefore I never had an interest in dating.I still hope I can find someone to start a family with.
I still think its probably a good idea to get it done before 40, mind you i'm a guy so that probably devalues my opinion. The biggest reason people wait to have kids is because of how hard it is, that and the risks involved. It requires a huge investment of time and money to raise a child and even then their success is not guaranteed, on top of that they might end up being terrible. The final nail in the coffin is the ever-present risk of divorce. Raising children is hard enough for two parents, doing it on your own though is ridiculously tough and stressful. My mom raised me and my two siblings on her own after a divorce and she started that at 30. She did an amazing job all things considered but it was hard and she was never able to re-marry. Her children and to a lesser extent her career were her entire life. Anyway back to why I think it's a good idea to get it done relatively early, simply put raising a child is exhausting and can sometimes require over 2 decades before they successfully launch and become independant and your not going to be around forever, the sooner you get it done, the better the chances you will be able to see it through to the end and even help them with their own children. This is all assuming you are in a stable enough position financially and socially to provide for and raise them of course. Do not have a kid unless you're certain you can handle it.
True but I would phrase one sentence there otherwise.
Children can only become terrible if you don't have time to level with them and spend time with them on their challenges. They shouldn't be in the comfort zone. They should learn independence and go on their own to carve their road in life. That's what means the most.
Your opinion shouldn't be devalued just cos you're a guy. If your family unit is cohesive, you're in this together, esp in modern parenting where a guy is expected to take a big share of the care load. What you're saying is in essence true, but there is a trade-off to consider. Bearing in mind that costs of living are now getting increasingly stacked against wage growth, which in many countries is slowing, most people now need to save more in order to afford having a child, something that is beyond the capacity of a lot of people in their 20s and early 30s. At least, if you're both mid-30s or older, you've had more time to plan and save. It's getting to the point where people are even putting off marriage until they're mid-30s, even in cultures where the pressures are to marry young, like in traditional Chinese families (I know, because I belong to one); the ability to save and spend enough is just too limited for many families, even with double income.
Watching this video a few years back I was in the same boat as Emily, but I came out thinking “I do have some time.” I’m 26 and cannot imagine having a kid now. I have a lot to work on before I am ready. My parents were 30 (mother) and 33 (father) when I was born. Thankfully they are reasonable and are like “Wait until you’re ready to have kids”
My brothers best friend was an accident baby, the mother and father weren't financially ready and her birth nearly ruined their lives, 14 years later when the mom was in her late thirties they were ready and have had two more kids (at 38 and at 40). She didn't need any fertility help either, just watched her cycle.
What age do you think it’s too late for 1/5 of women to have two kids spaced out by 12-18 months without having to use secretly donor eggs like all those 40 something year old celebrities?
Literally every woman is different, some still are fully fertile at 50, while others lose theirs in their late 30's. However if a woman still has a functioning uterus but just isn't producing eggs anymore I'd suggest seeking treatment to boost egg production instead of an egg doner.
@@rosieg6989 Fertility treatments can be too expensive for many women and not even work. Religious beliefs can also make them not an option. The Fertility Industry is predatory in getting egg donors (typically broke college girls) and not informing them of the health risks, or giving their biological children and their recipient parents health history updates.
Using your friend’s mom as a woman’s typical expectation for fertility is going to leave a significant amount of women childless, broke, and not having biological children of their own.
35 being around the time to get in gear, if a woman wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by 12-18 months is the best advice to avoid massive amounts of heartache from a significant amount of women.
Dude, let women make their own choices on when they want to have kids, and also don't shame the methods they use. I told my story as a positive, that despite her age when she was ready she had more kids, but even if she couldn't get pregnant the normal way there is no shame in seeking options like ivf, doner eggs, surrogacy, or adoption. Don't pressure people to all have kids the same way at the same age.
@@rosieg6989 How is it shaming women to acknowledge that the Fertility Industry is predatory about getting egg donors?
How about the surrogates in very poor countries like Ukraine or India for rich western boss babes?
We haven’t even touched on the children who are never told their mom’s used donor eggs/sperm. So they don’t have accurate health histories and get to enter the dating world with no idea who they’re related to!
really needed to hear this.