Thanks. This was helpful. I do still find myself saying negative things about the kids mother in front of them. I try to repair it and say something genuinely nice when I catch myself doing it, but it still will be hard for them. They didn't even get a choice .
Thank you for watching and for honestly sharing. Seeing your actions clearly like this isn't easy to do. Your self awareness will go a long way towards helping you support your kids in the long run.
I can forgive her for giving up on this life with me. I know it was not an easy decision for her. I can’t forgive myself for all the mistake I see I have made in my relationship with her that made her feel the way she feels now. Now I can see clearly and have conviction and God dealing with me to come back to my walk with him but I feel so unworthy of anything and feel so ignorant for loosing my family because of mostly my dumb mistakes.
Okay? Never. Ask any kid 10, 20, 30, 40,years later from a broken family, they will tell you all,you need to know. No one, and I mean no one escapes the detrimental effect divorce has on kids ( outside abusive situations). Single parent households are the most destructive construct ever invented by society, cause divorce is to easy today.
Divorce is not the main problem, rather egoistic are. The rather try to play the blame game and boost their fragile egos than act like responsible grown adults and put the kids ‘ well being first.
What you've just said is a really common way the human brain defers responsibility to avoid having to change. If your kids are screwed, then you can stay in the oddly comfortable, vindictive helplessness, and you get to be angry at your ex for the divorce. If there is an opportunity to make this right for your children by facing your grief, getting your own emotions handled and showing up calm, emotionally available, fully present and engaged with your kids... well that's an awful lot of work. Unfortunately most people choose not to do it and take the easier victimhood route instead.
@@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoachAbsolute GARBAGE TAKE and luckily men know this and so does society 😂 go look at the stats before uttering bullshit start with black single parent homes look at how it’s working out .
FY🖕 Another present for the cheater. They must know. My boys should not be naive towards woman as I was. She did not care for them during betrayal. But they were given by court. PS Very very very very very long introduction before saying what's up.
Well said. Love our Kids more than our personal ego. ❤
Lady, you are awesome. Thank you so much. You have no idea how many of us out here need these words. Thank you
Thanks. This was helpful. I do still find myself saying negative things about the kids mother in front of them. I try to repair it and say something genuinely nice when I catch myself doing it, but it still will be hard for them. They didn't even get a choice .
Thank you for watching and for honestly sharing. Seeing your actions clearly like this isn't easy to do. Your self awareness will go a long way towards helping you support your kids in the long run.
Forgiveness is a decision that you make. Let God judge the situation. Let go so He can heal your heart.
I can forgive her for giving up on this life with me. I know it was not an easy decision for her. I can’t forgive myself for all the mistake I see I have made in my relationship with her that made her feel the way she feels now. Now I can see clearly and have conviction and God dealing with me to come back to my walk with him but I feel so unworthy of anything and feel so ignorant for loosing my family because of mostly my dumb mistakes.
Okay? Never. Ask any kid 10, 20, 30, 40,years later from a broken family, they will tell you all,you need to know. No one, and I mean no one escapes the detrimental effect divorce has on kids ( outside abusive situations). Single parent households are the most destructive construct ever invented by society, cause divorce is to easy today.
Divorce is not the main problem, rather egoistic are. The rather try to play the blame game and boost their fragile egos than act like responsible grown adults and put the kids ‘ well being first.
Im sorry but this video is absolute garbage…kids will never be the same after a divorce..never!
What you've just said is a really common way the human brain defers responsibility to avoid having to change. If your kids are screwed, then you can stay in the oddly comfortable, vindictive helplessness, and you get to be angry at your ex for the divorce. If there is an opportunity to make this right for your children by facing your grief, getting your own emotions handled and showing up calm, emotionally available, fully present and engaged with your kids... well that's an awful lot of work. Unfortunately most people choose not to do it and take the easier victimhood route instead.
@@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoachAbsolute GARBAGE TAKE and luckily men know this and so does society 😂 go look at the stats before uttering bullshit start with black single parent homes look at how it’s working out .
FY🖕
Another present for the cheater. They must know.
My boys should not be naive towards woman as I was.
She did not care for them during betrayal. But they were given by court.
PS Very very very very very long introduction before saying what's up.
Your wife betrayed you and your children, now you are also betraying and hurting your children with that mentality and action.