You're Right Where You Are Supposed to Be
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 มิ.ย. 2023
- You're Right Where You Are Supposed to Be
--------------------
The best way to get up to speed on my concepts surrounding pain and getting well can be found on my Getting Started page at: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
If you'd like some help on your road to recovery, check out my online course and group coaching program. PainFreeYou.com/join - Hope to see you in the program.
Not a TH-cam subscriber yet? Please subscribe so you don't miss any of the videos. Check out the video archive here: / painfreeyou
If you'd like to make a donation to support my efforts and free daily videos, you can do that here: paypal.me/DanBuglio
Want to join my private Facebook Group? Come join us here:
/ painfreeyounow
When I struggle I tell myself, “there is value in this journey.” It reminds me to think abt how much I’ve grown and changed. Learning to slow down. To be kind to myself. To prioritize mental health and connection with others. I’ve never been more resilient. The journey sucks sometimes, don’t get me wrong, 😂 but overall it’s good for me. Thank you Dan! Great reminder.
I just want to give some hope for anyone who is dealing with tms now that It will get better!
I can say I am doing 80% better than I ever was in these almost 4 years with GI issues (mainly nausea and bloating/gas). My overall approach to health got better … I got from freaking out to calm. It definitely wasn’t easy dealing with fear and doubt but it was definitely worth trying. I would say at the end of my journey my symptoms got even worse but I stayed calm and consistent with safety messages and symptoms settled. Now I am doing so much better!
I would say even if you fear/overthink or you are anxious you can still heal! Accept what you are experiencing but don’t engage much with it. I still deal with an anxiety but my stomach is not upset.
Thank you Dan! Seriously, earth is such a better place with you and people like you in it😊
This experience, finding you and joining this group has been life changing for me! It's been a long seven years, but I know that I'm finally on the right path. The good Lord placed me in the right place at the right time when He nudged me to look at that first TH-cam video about TMS. I think most of us can say that we've found an inner strength we didn't know existed. Thank you Dan for your calm reassurance, your knowledge, inspiration, love and support. Your daily messages are invaluable! ♥
Dan you truly are an earth angel. Your daily videos have become a part of my life & I truly appreciate your consistent, calming voice of wisdom, sense, love & kindness. This video was beautiful in every way. I am learning I am not my sensations, fear or thoughts that come from the past when I didn't have the correct information given by you. To be kinder to myself whilst on this journey & trust I am where I am suppose to be. Many loving blessings to you & the PFY family...and the frogs!!💚💜
Dan the Mindset Man I will listen to this video several times as I was crying listening to it. I am exactly where I am suppose to be to learn the lessons I need to learn before I go on to the next mile! I am no longer sleeper walking thru life I’m in the present moment enjoying the simple things in life! I don’t beat myself up anymore! I’m loving myself and reparenting myself giving myself HI FIVES telling myself that I’m doing a great job even with this TMS recovery journey and I know in my heart ♥️ I will reach the other side! Thank you 🙏 Dan ♥️
I cried too Annie ❤
@@massagepublications
Awww 🥰 Peggy it went to my heart ♥️ Dan is so loving and moving 😢
Wow, Annie. Beautiful words 🩵
I've been letting go of people pleasing and it feels SOOOO good!!
The part you repeat all the time is the most important part. It’s the foundation and without it, all the rest is real hard to implement. Keep repeating it Dan. It’s sinking in
Dear dear Dan !!!
Your words touched my heart ❤️. You are so right ( as always😂) . I have definitely grown soooo much and have gained so much wisdom and knowledge BECAUSE of the years of struggling and surviving life . Yesterday I shared in the call how my life has changed so much for the better since I started listening and being part of the group . I am not back to the Dorien I used to be before 8 years but so much wiser , and extremely happy that I went through what I had to go through . I am so grateful for this journey and maybe I have not expressed enough how your words really connected all the dots . From knowing loads of stuff from books , meditations etc etc to really knowing and feeling it in my heart .
Your words in this video brought me to tears because I really feel your ( daily) support and also the recognition that indeed the journey can be really tough and challenging. And it has been like this for me , but I am getting to the other side !!!!!
And dear all if I can do this , so can you .
Love to you Dan and the whole community
Good man Dan ❤ wow, wow, wow. Like others I cried during this video. Your words and your love of us come through so strongly. Yes, I’ve learned some hard lessons about myself, such as always, pushing myself so hard and being so critical. Typical type A overachiever. I’m trying to control everything! I don’t know if you, or anyone else is familiar with the Enneagram, but I am an eight, the Challenger! I was reading a great book on it the other day, and the author said the one thing that eights need to learn how to do is rest. The same day I was driving past a church and the sign on the outside said, “REST”. There was one more message from the universe of rest that day. You can’t make that stuff up!
Love and kindness towards ourselves. This is a difficult journey that requires great strength and great faith. Dan, are always a light in the tunnel.
❤❤❤❤❤❤
Peggy, I love the enneagram! I’ve learned so much about myself and the people in my life because of it. I’m a 4w5. I’m an artist. I feel all the feelings deeply. You reminded me and inspired me to also REST. All the best to you in your healing journey! 🌺
@@HeidiHarner same to you Heidi ❤
Thanks again from Australia for your constant impactive messages. They mean the world, and are leading me all the time to freedom and healing from the nightmare of trigeminal neuralgia. I look forward to the strength they give me each day, and I go over them the next day too. I just love and appreciate your wonderful commitment. Many many thanks. Shirley
In the last year I’m changing from- Materialism to minimalism… perfectionist to imperfect… people pleaser to pleasing self… ruminating to present living… mean to compassionate… worry to prayer/mediation/tapping… not knowing self to knowing self… fast faced living to slow living
I Agree! I can already see Purpose in my symptoms..They have stopped me in my tracks. Perfectionist..people pleasing Awareness! 😊❤
I stood before a County Townhall meeting without fear today ... for TRUTH
No flares today 💞
I do believe in miracles !!!
Wonderful
I have gone from looking to medical professionals to "fix me" to realising through your videos that I can recover from TMS by self-like and shifting perceptions to banish fear. So many lessons and more to learn but on the right path. Thanks Dan!💗
Magnificent! This struck such a vital chord with me that I was moved to tears. It's not self-pity that I feel but a validation and a well-earned pat on the back that I've been denying myself. Thanks a ton!
Wonderful.
This is like the most gentle reminder I've ever heard in this harsh world where everyone basically judges you and works so fast towards their goals. Because when you can't get out of this pit of darkness, you'll be left by people around you, and all you've got is your suffering and pain. But maybe there are reasons why God gave us this trial and regrets over life decisions that we made consciously or unconsciously. Maybe God wants us to understand something, to understand the concept of gratitude. The more gratitude you are, the more are given to you. But comparison evaporates joy, so if we constantly compare ourselves, we won't get anything but pain, there are no lessons learned from it. We are where we are supposed to be because there are lessons we need to understand so that we can grow better, we can understand life and ourselves better, we can actively make efforts to become a better and useful person to others. The pain of regrets can't be erased and it certainly hinders us from opportunities in the future, but what can we do? What's done is done, and we can't fix past failures. If other people wanna judge or mock us for our past failures, or even if destiny feels like mocking us, so what? It's indeed shameful, but it's also something that I learned about. The fact that we shouldn't get swayed by our emotions and not to take everything deeply. Just do whatever you need to do, you already know it, you're just afraid to do it and your brain tries to protect you from those uncomfortable feelings. *Free yourself from pain by doing something that pains you a little bit every day, but it's gonna give you the best gift at the end of the journey.* Always look up new opportunities, because even pains, regrets, and failures teach us something. And don't forget to ask for help from God, because only He could make everything possible.
Every day I am grateful that I came across your postings. Truly am a disciple of Dan. I have learned so much about my mind/body, I have found my voice & I get to empathize with like minded others, on my journey through Life, win win in my opinion. ❤❤🙏🙏🙏
❤ i always look forward to your posts Patricia 🌸
@@massagepublications aww thanks. I like reading your take and experiences too. X
I am a disciple too ❤❤❤
Hi Dan what a beautiful cottage. This video brought me to tears i am still on this journay because i have to learn so much like not people pleasing standing more up for myself not being so critical about myself anymore etc. And no if i didn't have TMS i would not standing still with my life. Still a way to go but i will and can do this difficult hell yes. Teach myself i am good enough and lovable be confident. I am strong and learning and implementing totally get this beautiful video. This the best video ever. Love you Dan a big hug and smile from me see you tomorrow 😘😘😘
Love you Lenneke ❤❤
@@massagepublications love you too ❤️❤️❤️❤️😘😘
How do these videos keep on getting better? My back flared up today. First time in months. Really pushed myself to think and feel and ride the knowledge that I was sensing danger due to money stress. This video helped me. Really touched me in the right spots. Thank you dearly.
I am still on this journey as well and yes I have learned so much about myself and giving myself more compassion but it has been worth it for sure
Hi Dan. I've been looking for that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow for decades. I've explored so much, looking for answers and it's only in the past year and a half when i discovered TMS and your good self, that I finally felt that i was getting close. I still have some way to go but I feet that changing my mindset will get me there. Thank you so much for everything you do. So glad to see that you made it back to the cottage.
Thank you Chris. Always great to see you in the group sessions.
🙏 Thank you Dan🥰
Thank you Dan. For showing up daily for us, and for repeating yourself because I need to hear it over and over again! I’m making big leaps towards recovery thanks to you 😊
Dan, this video brought tears to my eyes. So beautiful and so true. I can honestly say I KNOW I am making changes and becoming a different person. I am changing in ways that I never would have without TMS. I feel this deep in my heart. As challenging as this journey can be, I feel myself learning, adjusting constantly now. I have so many Ah ha moments now. We are damn strong - ALL of us! We are learning to trust ourselves, learning to be our own best friends, coaches, therapists etc. What a tremendous gift. Not only are we not sick/broken (which is a gift too) , we are given the opportunity to have a much richer, happier, content life when we all get to the other side of this. Thanks for the video, Dan. It's what I truly believe, but to hear you say it out loud, was such a gift. Much Love, Donna
Dan, thank you for the gift of your beautiful insights. Although I’m fortunate enough not to deal with chronic pain, the reminder that any form of pain showing up in my life is a gift … an opportunity to grow. Sending you love and gratitude. ❤
Wonderful!
Overcoming tms has put me on a path of spiritual awakening. I am thankful my body forced me to look inwards to alleviate my suffering. It is quite empowering.
Great message Dan!! Thank you!! This is how I’ve found strength by feeling there is a purpose for my journey with chronic pain due to MBS. My purpose is to help others one day when I’ve got this better controlled but even now I do this. It’s make for more light on the journey and gets rid of the darkness. ❤️🙏🏻
Wonderful!
At first I wanted to go back to ‘normal’ but now I don’t. I realise I can be a better and happier version of myself. Until fatigue knocked me flat I was busy keeping everyone else happy instead.
Wow. I’ve been thinking exactly what you said in this video. The symptoms suck (!), BUT, I’ve gained so much. I’ve learned self love for the first time (I’m 53 this month). I’ve learned how to make myself a priority for the first time. I’ve learned how to accept myself for the first time. I’m still on the journey (and I’m ok with however long it takes). But, if I hadn’t have found you Dan, bc of my pains, I wouldn’t have found these parts of myself. That’s a blessing. Love to all of you 😘
The silver lining in every cloud. Love it Nicole.
@@PainFreeYou God bless and protect you our dear Dan 🙏🏻❤️
Your area reminds me of Moravian Falls NC ❤. Such good times in a xabin with my daughters there. I sure miss it. Beautiful ❤❤❤
Thanks. I love it here.
What a lovely human you are. God bless you. ❤
I've learnt a lot about myself on this healing journey. After watching today's video, the post arrived. Letter from the hospital for my husband. Freak out! Why do I always react so badly (self criticism) to hospitals? I sit and think. I worked and trained in one for several years, I should be used to them. Hang on, my mum made me get a job there! Light bulb moment! I turned down a teacher's college scholarship for her. Wow, it's taken me nearly a lifetime to discover that was people pleasing. Thanks for the reminder Dan, that self criticism is fear. I've now made the decision to stop.
Wow. The universe will tell us what we need to know. So glad you had a light bulb moment. Onwards you can march. Wishing you a great journey.
Thank you. Funny you should say march and not walk also, as that is how it seems. 🙂
Love the synchronicity- you are loved and supported Diane ❤❤
Thank you Peggy
Amazing your light bulb moment💡so happy for you ❤🎉
Your cottage looks so beautiful and peaceful. I love the sounds of the bugs. So green and lush.
Best video of the many of yours I've listened to over the past few months. I loved this it made me cry but also feel stronger and more committed ❤❤. Thank you so much for this and everything you're doing for us who are hurting ❤️
Iv come a long way since listening to your daily videos so thank you 😊 u do an amazing job xx
Yes! All of this is so true. This has been an incredibly hard journey, but I am grateful for it. It has taught me a LOT about myself. I've been in the program about 6 weeks now and things are turning around. After 3 years of daily pain I am now experiencing pain free days, sleeping without medication, wearing jeans again comfortably, and am sitting with much less pain! I am back to fully living my life again. I also feel I am now ready to start running again soon. I know this isn't completely over yet but I no longer live in fear. I now know that I am really ok. I am so thankful for you and the group Dan ❤
Really beautiful and profoundvideo. Spot on. This challenging journey is a journey to an awareness and consciousness we would not ptherwise have even aspired to. It is big work. For me every time i feel well i notice my irritability and judgmental nature rear its head and then symptons return !!!!. I now say to myself KK....
KEEP KIND. I know i am actually well and i pray that when i also feel well i will stay kind. I feel that is getting close now. Thankyou Dan. ❤
I agree with this message though at one point in time it would have pissed me off. 😂 I’m still on my journey, but I’ve come a looooong way from where I was. I’m so thankful, and I’m proud of myself for how far I’ve come. ❤ Thanks for this, Dan.
Another great message - thank you! What an amazing porch to shoot on! I am finding that the suffering is going before the pain - I am finding myself OK with pain now. It’s a great place to be.
Powerful Message!! Thank You!
Thanks for listening
From Spain. Thank you for your dedication and time helping us😊
Thankyou so much Dan for this video, it really resonates with me and I will return to it. I am recovering from fear, people-pleasing and co-dependancy. My brain has been scared for so long and I haven’t listened to my body at all. I know this too shall pass and now I see it as a gift, a chance to turn my life around and start to live MY life.
Recovery from Fear: (have you seen this one?)
th-cam.com/video/VSmTe8zPXh0/w-d-xo.html
Yes seen it and love it! ❤
Dan, this video is very soothing, sensitive, also touched my heart ♥️ and one of the best. The journey is challenging but your daily videos keep me motivated and on track. May rejoin the group after taking a short break this month as the symptoms are still quite sensational (strong). 😊
Awesome topic. This is my 4th major experience with TMS and it’s back for a reason: stuff I need to learn at this point in time.
Dan thank you the acknowledgment that we are each of us way stronger than we give ourselves credit for . I know I am a people pleaser, perfectionist and realize as I am setting up boundaries I am getting push back but am learning to stay firm . I have learnt and am learning so much from this group and you
Needed a Dan Buglio Peptalk today. Thank you! ❤
Welcome.
Amazing insight Dan, you are so wise, everything you say hits home for me.10 year pain journey now at an end thanks to this work, Sarno & talking to my brain.
As you say it's changed me - made me realise how I treated myself badly, didn't feel my emotions & let others take away my power 🙏
Oh and also you are blessed with the gift of speaking to those parts of people which need healing & understanding. You make everything so accessible & achievable to those who may feel hopeless.
Thank you so much for your work.
One of your most inspiring daily videos. Thank you ❤
Thank you Dan for your wisdom 🙏. It resonates a lot, both the positive and the negative. Many times, often during the day, I find myself ruminating, and hating where I am; the suffering, the loneliness, the bad choices leading to it, etc. But sometimes, generally in the morning or at night, I have the peaceful realization that everything is necessary. Without this suffering, I wouldn't be so dedicated to my spiritual path and search for Truth ; I wouldn't have sought beauty in music, animals, landscapes and flowers as much as I do now. I wouldn't be this sensitive, and sensitivity is something I love about myself. so obviously all these years of chronic symptoms have shrinked my life, but they also have increased the depth of it. The depth of experience, feeling and meaning. And hopefully the more I stick to this realization, the more my body-mind will reach a state of peace
❤🙏🏻 thanks for this reminder!
thank you for your videos and message. after hearing about John Sarno, and watching your videos, I have been making serious progress
Love it.
Thanks Dan!
I love today's message
Thanks Dan, I love your video's they help me a lot
Super!
A truly wonderful video Dan, thank you so much
Thank you Dan, awesome message.
You’re amazing🎉
Amazing message, Dan. Thank you! 🙏 🙌❤️, 🍁🌱🌳, 🐛🦋
Amazing.
Thanks!
Dude I love your place!
A lake front rental. Love it.
Another gem ! Thank you’
Thank you.
I love that porch and love the sounds of the frogs and birds! I know I wouldn't have learned all the things I have learned had i not dealt with this. I have grown so much as a person and learned what I want and don't want for my life. There are so many lessons that I have gleaned. This has been by far the hardest thing I have gone through. I am ready for my journey with this to be over though
I have been watching some of your videos trying to find what daily practices I could do to help to my recover. For example journaling.... I am not sure what I can do daily. Or if you have a video that explains this. Thanks in advance. You have helped me a lot already.
💯 🙌🙏
Someone please answer me this. When in the moment, when the symptoms are unbearable, when I'm just squirming in my seat, extremely uncomfortable, because my body is so uncomfortable, what can I actually do in the moment?
Yes, I'm clearly stressed, but I'm stressed because I feel so unwell, doing some deep breaths or accepting the symptoms doesn't shift them and it doesn't shift the tension. My body, specifically my neck, throat and mouth, are crying because they are so uncomfortable. All I'm included to do is try and distract myself but even that doesn't work. What am I supposed to do, when the symptoms are there, prominent, strong, intolerable, which is almost all the time??
I've been going through a few things which I'd like to share with you,
I'll try to keep this one short but this is really important.
I am 23 years old, and I have had an herniated disc since 2021 August, i didn't get anu treatment until December 2021...back then i did mri , and i found out I have an l4-l5(diameter 9mm) l5-s1(diameter 8mm)herniated disc ... my l3-l4 was 13mm.. i didn't take much medication, i have mostly lived through some sort of pain throughout this time but i have a noticable problem of lateral shift which means my back has inclined a bit to the right and it's really a horrible and embarassing feeling to be among peers and to be discussed about.. that's why i was doing these lateral shift correction exercises but it didn't work out as expected.. instead i now have a neuropathy tingling sensation in my right leg and that's why i visited a very renowned chiropractor recently..he asked me to do 3 session with him but also he suggested some tests..blood tests and ncv..and again a mri..the blood tests came normal, but today i did nerve conduction test(ncs) and it was very horrific..my left and right legs were checked upon through electric shock to detect nerve damage..i now have some discomfort and shock feeling in both legs at times..anyway he also asked me to do mri again..which i think i should do to check on the structural problems that might have been triggered..
What do you think? What i must do? I am trying the mind bidy approach for sometime now but it doesn't seem to work ..
I had reached out to you a few months back regarding another issue which was acid reflux and gastritis, that i have been able to fix
Have you seen Dan's own picture of his bend up body, due to TMS. The way our body's tense and lock under stress etc can be immense
Do a google search for the Boulder Back pain study conducted by Dr Howard Schubiner and Alan Gordon. All the proof you need is in that study
🤚❤
Hi Dan. You mentioned that you suffered with sciatica for years. As sciatia is an irritated nerve that is classed as a physical type of damage or inflammation, please explain how you put this down to TMS. Cheers
Sure doesn’t feel like it when you’re in the psych hospital because the full body burning was too much to bear…😭
Sometimes universe takes you where you're meant to be... Rest and calibrate. Wishing you calm peace
Is it possible to book an one on one session with you Dan?
Always wanted to write and maybe get published. I've written a short story and am 3/4 way through semi autobiography. Today a friend sent me a picture of a book, titled journey with angels, author has same name as me! Universe always delivers what we need to know. Time to get writing. I too would love to be a TMS PDP coach, (in London) Watch this space 🙏
Love it!
Go for it!you certainly have a way with words from reading your posts regularly 😊I am retirement age now so maybe a coach is not something I would want to commit to and I was thinking to myself I wouldn’t be able to do it (not clever enough)sooooo those limiting beliefs are still there and sneaky little bu….s😂
@@sianhaycocks6887 aw thank you for your kind words. I too think I'm too old, most of the time. Today(Wednesday) I'm not so positive lol Sometimes you just got to go for it, nothing to lose. Forget your age, experience is priceless. X
Go for it Patricia and yes the universe gives all the answers we are receiving so much support unbelievable ❤❤❤
❤😂
Hi Dan, this work applies to ALL symptoms right? Including chronic fatigue syndrome? I was told I have central sensitization, then chronic fatigue (which is just a central sensitivity syndrome) but I don’t feel like I identify with it as I identify with TMS, so I’m choosing not to (other than for my temporary disability app). My thing is mostly pain and post-exertional flares. Also since the onset of my symptoms I’ve noticed during times of fear they’ve gotten increasingly worse. Hence I resonate fully with your perceived fear/danger. Have a pathological label sucks because I didn’t want it to begin with but chose to get it for my application. Now I’m doing this work, only 7 months into my symptoms (while doing my benzo raper). I WILL get better right? I feel in my heart I will. It’s just figuring out the real things to do. I’m reading Sarno and identify with all the character attributes and have an intensive trauma history which I’ve done years of counselling for. When the vaccines happened, and my nervous system shook up, I was in an immensely stressful season of my life and pushing myself HARD on all levels. Anyways the label issue… it’s annoying cuz that’s how the medical system sees the cluster of symptoms. But if we choose to not identify with it we will get better right?
What a great video, I too will replay this. On colourful days we can lose sight of the 🌈 and the pot of gold at the end of it. 🪙🪙🪙🏺