Najboljše je slovensko poslavljanje. Družinska večerja, ko se gostje odpravijo, se poslovijo. Gotitelj pa jih spremi do vrat vendar gostje še ne odidejo, temveč steče pogovor še ene pol ure. Nato jih pospremi do avta, in tam še deset minut pogovora ...
to iz moje strani je videti zavsakič ko imamo obiske. ..zmeraj je nekaj treba še povedati, kakor 3 gospe , ko so bile zaprte 30 let pa pridejo ven in se nemorejo še kar zmeniti. ena bo zmeraj začela z stavkom, še nekaj ti moram povedati xD
Yes, it is true. And when you then start to answering them, they do not listen your answer to their "question" (which is actually greeting), they just continue conversation. Even more funny is, when they say (especially if a women asks me): "Hey, what's up?" When I hear this question (which is just a phrase and not a question), I always want to answer... but it would be unaproppriate do do so :)
It's just a part of their fake character. They don't actually care about you and how are you, they just say it, but they don't care about anyone but themselves.
My Slovenian American family nortoriously sits outside in the dark and talks into the night. But not indoors so much. There could be several reasons for this: 1. Light attracts bugs at night. 2. Saving electricity/fuel/being frugal. 3. Enjoyment of the night- see stars, use our night vision, experience natural nightness. 4. Intuitive sense that sitting in the dark will stimulate melatonin, so we can go to bed early, and rise early. In fact, the more I thought about this, the more I wondered why people in America are so weird about having lights on at night.
I am English from London living in Ljubljana for the last 12yrs, the switching of 'He/She' happens a lot from my experience..I am used to this now, but it was confusing in the beginning. Could it be to do with having nouns that end in masculine and feminine, neuter? I.E. Masculine nouns usually ending with a consonant? is this where the mix up comes from when using He/She?
I heared people say she instead of her. So what! Sounds pretty arrogant to Believer THe whole world must speak an understand bloody American language. Bis the way for hundrets of years this Part of Europe was dominanted or influenced by German language and culture. So you can expect this language to bei undetstood Most frequently. I advise her to study the History of this region to get an understand ing of why Things are going on Here Like they do. But from m experience With US people, Most have none ...
I think "actually" is actually just us trying to flex our English skills. Anyone can say "good". Or "bad". But "actually good" -- sounds kinda richer. :D
Jst mislim da rečemo "actually " oziroma "v bistvu" bolj zato ker avtomatsko mislimo da nas nekdo sprašuje kako smo, ker ga zanima ali nam gre dobro in ga tut mal skrbi za nas. In rečemo "v bistvu ni slabo, kr gre", da mu sporočimo da nam gre dobro kljub temu da vse pa tut ni vredu. Recimo kakšen študent ki ima še 5 izpitov za nardit ne bo rekel "odlično mi gre" ampak "ja še kr, lahk bi blo slabš ampak je v bistvu kr dobr"
@@paulfellowes4879 whispering is considered really rude here. If you have something to say everyone can hear say it, if not wait until you're alone with that person. Same goes, for example, with food; if you have snacks but can't offer them to everyone around you, it's really rude to eat them by yourself in front of others.
I laughed too hard at 100 goodbyes. So true. So if we need to leave at certain hour, we start to say "We will go now" half an hour earlier 😄😄 But the finger counting had me, I cried of tears. Really, why do we almost break our fingers to show number four? 😆😆
Before I went into comments section, I held my breath to see if we will have another ''Mariah insulting Čokolino'' drama. Luckily none of that. :D - Another great video, thank you!
About the whispering, if it's something nobody is supposed to hear, we can do it without anyone hearing. Therein lies the problem, if you whisper something here, you usually want others to hear it, sort of a loud secret opinion that everyone is supposed to hear. Like the saying goes "If you want to be heard whisper."
I'd love to hear her speaking slovene language so that we can ACTUALLY get a laugh out of her. Most likely it's a typical american person speaking just ONE language and being ignorant of all other languages.
I was coming into this video expecting to already know what you are going to say and I was like just curious not realy thinking much about it...but when you went HEJ A IMAŠ ROBČEK... i just lost it. Hilarious 😂
For me the biggest cultural difference is the way you say things, Americans (all English speaking folks) make them smaller and prettier whereas Slovenians say them directly and exaggerate. For instance: An American would open the door of their house and say: 'Hey honey, it's a bit chilli outside, you better take a coat with you.' (a bit chilli actually means cold or very cold). A Slovenian would say: 'O sranje, zunaj je minus 10!' (-10 actually means +5 in November on a first cold day). That causes a lot of confusion, at least to me, I never know what Americans and British actually think because everything seems small and nice and acceptable. I guess we seem like drama queens to them???
SO true! Everyone here is much more direct. I think it has something to do with the fact that English doesn’t have a “vikanje” form. We are more formal or polite in the way we talk, which ends up being more words.
@@MariahDolenc Actually, CALIFORNIANS are some of the least "direct" people I ever encountered. Remember, I'm from rural central Florida (where we made all the concentrate Orange Juice). Floridians are some of the most direct people you'll EVER meet. We are Southern and we have interacted with New Yorkers for 100 years. This clip from "Cross Creek" displays this. We will be initially "polite" even vague. But if we feel the person isn't listening we switch to very direct. th-cam.com/video/N0gROT2bLTQ/w-d-xo.html. This other scene of the maid "Gechee" leaving has another example of it. th-cam.com/video/YFhigK8M-nk/w-d-xo.html The most difficult aspect of adjusting to California was all the people who were never direct, and/or who just pretended I wasn't in the same space with them, or who were specifically trying to freeze me out by ignoring me. In the South, that is the supreme insult and a good way to get one's face rearranged. Lastly, this is another scene that embodies our closeness to the earth, something we also share with Slovenes. th-cam.com/video/qCl_X7-y0ek/w-d-xo.html Marjorie Kinan Rawlings was an actual person, an author, who chronicled the rich lives of rural Florida. This is the world I grew up in. Two decades later, the trappings had improved a bit, but these are "My People" and I love them.
@@MariahDolenc well... English did used to have vikanje and you in plural (what Americans replace now with "y'all", English with "you lot" ). Supposedly, you/ye was in old english and I think also middle english akin to "vikanje" (en. formal honorific) and informal plural; whereas thou/thee was the informal variant. (Like in German Du (similar to old english thou) vs sie/Sie (similar to old english "ye")... So I guess people must have overused ye/you so much, so as to avoid being impolite, that thou/thee got lost in the process. Funnily enough though, the plural version is so needed though, that, as aforementioned, it's being used with "y'all" or "you lot" or "you guys" or whatever.
I remember having seen the video on the topic. here's the reference if you're curious about you/thee th-cam.com/video/tBwdRs-D8lU/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=SimonRoper As I was just looking this up I also noticed that Old English did in fact also have "dual" but lost it. XD
I never turn on the lights, because of the insects.. Not even inside, only if the windows are closed. My husband is from Macedonia and we always argue about that, he thinks it's nonsense.
Ever heard of the movie "Love Actually" ? British. not Slovenian. Actually, Marija is wrong about at least one more thing here, and it's what I as a Slovenian expat in the USA (a while ago) noticed, to my dismay (and sometimes amusement, actually). He mentioned "suffering" from years ago. I take it that he meant suffering during Communism. Americans always think Eastern Europe is suffering while they have long vacations Americans can only dream of, no political correctness requirements, no 6-digit college loans.... you get the point. They can even shout while whispering. Where's that infamous suffering? Sorry, for the typos that may have sneaked in, I am sitting in the dark.
This little corner of the world has had pretty much every nation trample over it. Slovenia, as a Republic, has existed for less than 30 years. If you compare things to today’s standards, there are good things about both 😊
@@MariahDolenc Hi Mariah, you are right, but Slovenians have always considered themselves sovereign, especially while a part of Yugoslavia, so the "independence" in and of itself did not bring many changes to an average Slovenian. Ask Luka, but when we were asked where we came from back in the ex-Yu times, we always responded "from Slovenia". Only after we had received an "uh/eh?" in response did we (reluctantly) add ... "from Yugoslavia".
@@alinafakin370 Hmmm pretty sure the suffering is meant before WWI when we were under Austro-Hungarian Empire. Or even farther in the past. Also almost all proverbs are focusing around the rural life so it must've been before all modernisation.
Lets be frank here. We are a nation of complain all the time and be jealous because neighbour has a better car or a better whatever. I see this all the time. I would say that this can be in many cultures and I do not want to be like fake kindness and everything is alright mindset which is another extreme, but I would say that Slovenian nation can work on their supporting other people and be happy for one another. We are getting so focus on our own suffering that is never enough, we can never be happy, happy and someone will always be, like well that could be better, this is not good etc. We put down people way to much and we a lot of times camouflage it as worry or whatever. And when it comes to real problems, people just do not listen. That is why we have such high suicide rate. Because if we are happy, it is weird and wtf in your face. If you are sad and have legit problems they are not bad enough to worry. A lot of people especially professional when it comes to mental health are still not trained enough or a far to judgemental to begin with. So yes Slovenian as a nation, we been throw a lot, but we have to grow and do not be so unsatisfied all the time.
@@tidid5572 I agree with you, I’m a first generation Australian Slovene, my Slovenian parents & many of there fellow Slovenians are similar to your description. At times It makes me climb the wall🙄
So true! All of it! I haven’t realized the whispering ‘issue’, but it’s very accurate! 😃 My husband is American and he constantly reminds me of your video about Čokolino. He’s so proud of you for pointing that out! 😂 I’m afraid to show him this one. 🤦♀️😃
We hear very well, but there are several levels of whisper :) - talking in a way that nobody hears you, - talking in a way that you indicate you don't want to interrupt the conversation / activity that is going on, but you want to pass information right away, - talking in a way that shows others it's a private conversation that they should not get involved. Dark... what can I say... why waste lights, no need. Let the eyes rest, let's enjoy natural light (moonlight, stars), or even natural darkness. It's very fun playing table-tenis in summer, outside, in almost pitch dark - try it :) And no, it's got nothing to do with carrots. The wrong pronouns... I don't get it. Haven't met a Slovenian who'd mix these two, although I've worked as an English teacher for 6 years and I'm in international cooperation for 11 years... noticed many mistakes that Slovenes generally make in English, but confusing HE or SHE is not one I've noticed. Talking about how awesome life is... no it's not connected to hard times in the past... it's connected to - superstition, you jinx it, if you speak well about it - envy, if other people hear you are doing fine, they'll envy you and rumours will start (he's great? he must have a mistress or something) Hope that helps.
Lol! Great video! I think sitting in the dark outside (usually that would be in the summer) is not to attract mosquittos by turning the light on. At least that's why I do it. :)
“Actually” is maybe the attempt to translate “še kr”. If you ask somebody “how are you” he/she will never say “dobro” or “odlično”. At max they’ll say “še kr”...
I believe it's "v bistvu" which would directly translate to "in essence" but that would be advanced English. It usually comes with a small frowning because we just did a quick calculation and to our surprise the good things actually prevail.
Maybe I’m crazy, but I thought “še kr” meant something else. Like if my mom asked me how I was doing, or how school was going, I would say “še kr uredu je”, meaning “oh it’s going pretty good”. Like not great, but just ok.
I don't run into the misusage of words ''he''/''she'' that often, actually. But I assume it might have to do something with Slovenian language having three grammatical genders (female, male, neutral). Things having actual sexes (e.g. animals) reflects onto the words describing them - also only occuring in male and female roles. Therefore one could use words like ''man'' and ''person'' for the same person and then refer to him with ''she'', since in Slovene the word ''person'' is female. Also, because of this we only seldom use the word ''it'' (not to be confused with words ''this'', ''that'' etc.).
Im 46 and have been in a relationship with a beautiful Slovenian woman going on 5 years. I completely relate to the communication aspect. Slovenians are unique in they really care about what you're really saying and express real interest. Where Americans say things to just be polite. I really relate to you and your relationship. Im so glad you have such an amazing family wishing you all the best from. Sunny Northern California
Second generation Canadian who grew up wholly in Slovenian culture here - I didn't even realize my family does most of these. 😂 The sitting in the dark, though, that one made me truly laugh! That is 100% true in my life lol.
OMG! XD I actually enjoy that video cuz is soo true hahaha! I didn't realized until you pointed out, I do loudly "whisper". I do get quite annoyed with saying 100 goodbyes because otherwise the other person would just think you're rude. That mostly happens when I speak with my grandma on a phone. I feel that otherwise he would just be a little bit upset. You really made my day :D Now I need to send that to my other Slovenian friends. My favourite: Superior vision from eating carrots XD (I think sitting in the dark outside it's just nice, you can see sky changing colours and then see stars, and most importantly you don't draw all the insects to you)
prosim ce mi lahko poves v katerem smislu je mislila actually? kaj to prevede kot actually ne zastopam :) dragac ful vsec.. in videa in punca in "onadva" :)
@@valentinakosta1892 v smislu, da te nekdo vpraša: Kako si? In odgovoriš: Pravzaprav sem vredu. Kot da bi ti bilo nenavadno oziroma bi se opravičevala, ker si vredu. Kot, da bi morala biti slabo, ampak si v resnici vredu. Upam, da sem razumljivo pojasnila :)
You made me laugh so loud, especially on the Saying goodbye part! 😁😁 Omg so true! I am such a Slovenian, obviously! Actually (😜), I feel really great after watching your video. Thanks for making my day! 🙃
Hi Mariah! Thank you for this video. You made my day. I have an American friend living in the Uk and I think she can relate to you, as sometimes, when she visits me in Slovenia or I go to 🇬🇧 she says sometimes we do things differently than Americans, but I was not aware you notice all this things.
My grand folks were dirt poor. Keeping lights on wasn't really an option, so sitting in the dark was more of a way of life. I remember listening to my grandmother knit in the dark. This was during the two visits to Slovenia we made mid 60's and 1970. BTW, love listening to your take on living in Slovenia.
Haha your intro about everyone saying how wrong you are made me laugh so hard 😂 my grandfather was Slovene and I have Slovene relatives...sufficient to say, you're a brave women to say anything be it positive or negative about Slovenes on line 😂🤣 There will always be people who diagree 🙄 ignore them! I love your videos!
As an expat I have to say the He/she thing is very common...I think because the masculine feminine thing in Slovene applies to a lot more than in English maybe? I don’t speak Slovene yet so I might be wrong... As to saying goodbye I have the opposite...at the end of a business conversation we finish in English with ‘See you...’ and that’s it...it almost feels rude but now I’m used to it...
I've never realized that people would mix he/she, but I guess it's because we don't often use he/she (or subject pronouns in general) in Slovene, because you can tell that with the verb, so you don't have to specifically say SHE did this.
Hi Mariah, your observations are spot on. I think I can explain evening chats in to the night. This would happen when people rally enjoy each other’s company and conversations are engaging. No one wants to get up and ruin the moment. I actually have newer thought about it till now. Thanks to you. Coming from Slovene living in AU 🇦🇺 let us know if this is correct. Love your content 👍
That was fun 😜. I am from Peru, coming and going from slovenia for the last 4 years and this is very much TRUE. This year I am staying longer so I can see this personally and add that gathering takes some serious planning, specially if you have to drive longer than 20 min. Can you also relate?
Hey hey Maria...good to see you back again :) This one made me laugh so much (I may have 'actually' pee'd myself :) It was what you said on 'whispering' "maybe they have a genetic hearing disability" started me off :) :) and then with 'He & She' " if you don't learn English soon enough here there's no hope for you" priceless! :) :) I get all 5 but especially the multiple 'Goodbyes' and like you, I've now adopted this trait....Unfortunately, this has also stuck with me in English now, much to the puzzlement of my friends, who respond with "err yeah, bye, whatever!" x
Hey girl. Lady. You are awesome above and beyond. You survived years of living in slovenia. Years!!! I love your reflections on this Slavic clan of ours. Girl, I see them everyday. Thats how I know you are genius. For american, that is. Dont change ;)
"Im totally expecting people to tell me how wrong i am because thats just what people here love to do" It hits different...and is true....slovenia is such a judgemental place...ugh😔✨
@@n1ngnuo I think that americans are more confrontative about some issues, sending hate mails (and other things) to the studios or politicians with bad rep... While us Slovenes are more like silent but if you go to some news webpage, like 24ur, you'll fall on your behind when you read the comments
Well, the americans have a copyrighted personality trait they call "Karen" which is extremely confrontational. Somehow they seem to have a serial production of these since it's hard to miss them.
@@n1ngnuo everyone is judgmental, I don't think it varies too much from country to country, the only difference is WHAT you are judged for. Ofcourse it is going to depend with who you are talking but generally here there is no fear to offend someone : for his political opinion, religion,......
Well she can also look at this from a different view: we are normally very friendly to foreigners. If we are overly judgemental toward her, that can only mean, we've taken her for our own 😅
Mariah this is sooo interesting and refreshing to hear, the other perspective! Loud whispering, ha haaa, yes :))) And about actually, made me think about... Thanks Mariah. Wish you a lot of happy days! By, ciao, well, just something more to say...Now I'm really going, so, have a good day, a big hug, adijo :))))
These are such fun observations. I would love to see you do a video on what to expect for travelers visiting a Slovene (i.e. topics of conversation that are taboo or expected). I have to admit, I had to brace myself to get through politics and basically skirted the topic. This was back during the last election year, "So, what do you think of Trump," they asked. I said, "I don't think anybody takes him seriously." Little did I know! I skirted the topic all the same. I still cringe thinking about the time I mistakenly used "Ljubim te" for a friend - non romantic before learning "Rada te imam". Awkward! Slovenes just don't talk about their feelings like Americans do, and when they do they are MUCH more specific and serious. We say "I love you" to friends all the time. We probably say "sorry" more than Slovenians as well I think. As for them mixing up he/she, I think it's just being absent minded. They denote sex as part of the word, so they aren't as practiced in using pronouns. It's been awhile, but I don't remember them using the Slovene pronouns nearly as much as we need to in English. Love your videos on cultural observations!
I think sitting in the dark is because when we were kids our parents let us hang out after sunset. We had spots were we would sit and chat and drink, smoke weed. So, after sunset you were still there and it was dark.
I noticed one annoying thing here too. When someone get a visit and they talk for fev hours and after that they say they will go home and put their shoes on and stand on the front door and talk there another half hour and than they go to the car and talk there another half hour. What the hell.... talk inside and than pack and go home.....
Socializing in the dark ... Bright light requires self-confidence, and Slovenians, unlike Americans, are not so self-confident. Therefore, a little less strong light is sometimes pleasant.
Haha, great stuff! Do more of these videos xD I've never noticed the "actually" (v bistvu) thingie... But then again, "I'm pretty good, actually" is something I hear quite often from English-speakers - they just say put it AFTER the thing they might feel "guilty" of :D
I also constantly mix he or she while talking, my mind is slower than my tongue is. And I use "well" and "actually" or both all the time as a filler instead of uhm... In Slovene I overuse the word "pač" or "v bistvu". I've been told several times already that I annoy people with overusing "pač" and "actually" :)
I recently got told I use “so” too much in English. I feel you. Honestly I think “v bistvu” is a great filler word! Very versatile. People need to stop being so bothered by filler words :p
Good thoughts in the last "actually" part. You made me think about it deeper and you are very right.I always had strange feeling dealing with this theme "how are things doing", but yeah, Im slovene:). Thanks for sharing thoughts. Lep pozdrav.
Hi Mariah, I’ve just come across your channel, this upload is very very funny & you’ve hit the nail on the head!!😂🤣🤣. I’m an Australian-Slovene & live in Australia, I absolutely love this beautiful country & visiting certainly helps me to remain fluent in the Slovenian language. You speak Slovenian so well! & Well done with your videos, very interesting & funny perspectives!! My dear dad, even though he spoke English fluently, right up to his eighties, was still getting the he & she mixed up🤭. You are also completely spot on with how they all whisper loudly🗣😂🤣 I’m now subscribed & look forward to your future uploads🤩🫶🏻✌🏻
Interesting observation So let me add something I do when I am in Slovenia that isn’t what they are used to For instance: if I ask a policeman for information or if I get stopped by police I would say: good morning/good afternoon and followed by : “How are you doing “ dober dan, kako ste”? That throws them off By the way your comments are rather gentle That’s why return comments are rather nice Nj
Hi, I never thought about these things that we do. But I can whisper very well. And yes I hate it too when we sit in the dark outside with friends, it hurts my eyes 😁 Please do more of these videos. Maybe top 10 things american people do Slovenians don't, or maybe the dress code, or school learning system differences, I know it's very different and it would be interesting to hear. I also wonder how do you feel about different dialects of Slovenian regions? Do you understand other dialects as well as "Ljubljanščina" which dialect is the hardest for you to understand? How is it in America with the dialects in different states. ☺️
I definitely understand Ljubljanščina The best, but I do understand most regions. However when you get into the far out, small villages, no way. Dialects in America are not nearly so different. I don’t think there’s anywhere in America that I could go and have trouble understanding.
OK, so.. how would you tell something to a person.. 3 meters away.. in the church? They wont hear you whispering American way. And u cant talk normally either. Solution? Whisper in Slovenian way.
Oh boy, u got me laughing. I am Slovene and you have a point. Actually😁, I think you Americans, with your positive directness and candour bring some very positively fresh air to this place. But, as you have found out, Slo is unfortunately not necessarily a place for unburdened, open-minded liberal exchange of views. Which often makes me want to just relocate somewhere more open and diverse. Keep up your good work, spirit and smile! There's a ton of people who appreciate it!
Wonderful video haha. You pointed all of these so nicely I would get it why you made a disclaimer again. Now, speaking of hate comments - please don't care too much about haters. Your "5 Things" hit the nail on the head and if people can't stand their own behavior mirrored at them (which is indeed difficult to take sometimes) then this is hardly your fault. I am honestly just very happy you've uploaded something again and that you guys are all healthy especially in this situation.
Everything you mentioned indeed happens with Slovenes! I've just realised this while watching your Vlog! Great stuff! Keep up the nice work, Mariah! :))
Actually I liked the video .. and actually like this glasses ... thanks for the smiles Good bye.. adios.. caio.. see you .. adijo... bye bye ... cheerio...take care... see you later ..
My Slovene partner gets he/she mixed up a lot despite learning English at a young age, and despite being fully immersed in English after living here in England for the last 8 years. Also the 1000 goodbyes, he even does it in while talking in English and will say "Okay, bye bye bye, see you, okay bye" which I i find hilarious!!!
she's right. we do all those things... it's funny when some one points it out. The loud wispering is my favorite:) i don't know why we do it, it's so pointles...
I totally agree with you on nr. 3 (100 goodbyes), but I have to object to nr. 4. I don't know what kind of English did your husband and friends learned, but I've never mixed he/she and I started to learn English when I was 11 years old, so I was not so young. I also know a lot of people from Slovenia who can speak English without mixing up he/she. I was really surprised when I heard you say that ...
HELLO!!! I Love your videos...and I understand all that you said. I am from Venezuela and I am living in Slovenia since 2016. There are a lot of cultural sock (in a good way) !!!! Take care and I hope we can meet someday!!! Kiss
This is hilarious and all true! I never noticed these things. And the one about "actually" is sad but I realize I do that A LOT. "Kako si?" "Ou, ma dejansko sem prav dobro danes", like it's such a surprise, I guess it's because a lof of us are pessimists by default.
Hahaha, you made my day We were taught it is not polite to whisper in group or to whisper to someone ear in group.... If you are in group speak loudly so everyone can hear you..... thats why we probably whisper loudly ... we try to be discreet and polite in same way 🙈🤣 Me and none of my friends dont mix he/she, so I have to disagree with you here..... everything else is TRUE! And a lot of Slovenes on goodbye says "No hard feelings or no offense (pa brez zamere) and it means forgive us, if we said or did something inappropriate" 🤣
Never noticed the he/she thing, but I do notice that some Slovenian people don't know when to use indefinite and definite articles, which makes sense seeing as they're not really used much in the Slovenian language. Also how driving for more than 15-20 minutes is seen as 'far away'. For me, a person from the UK, I would go on outings with my dad regularly to places that were 45-60 mins away and that was seen as 'near' to where we lived 😂 it is so interesting to see the little differences in cultures. It's made me more aware of the things I do differently too as a Brit :)
In my experience a huge minority of south-slavs have a hearing problem: often tinnitus or simply dampened sounds. It could be a genetic predisposition to damage or deterioration.
Thanks for this, this was very interesting. A lot of new information. I wonder if the whispering is about appearing proper rather than trying to be quiet; what I mean is, that it is socially acceptable to say something in church if you appear to be trying to be inconspicuous and thereby give license to everyone around you to forgive you for, essentially, talking in church, when you're not supposed to? I think we Slovenians are generally very bad with definite and indefinite articles and about where there is or isn't one. Americans tend to generalize...
The greeting thing - I get it but also, you kind of have to say more than just bye! 😅 You have to mention 'it was nice to see you' and wish them 'have a good day, hang in there, we'll be in touch, bye bye' these phrases are not interchangeable! You can really mean all of them at the same time 😁
And the article!! They don't use articles. For example "I think problem is ..". "Sister came home", "dog is sick", etc... Or the proncunciation of "a"... Is more "e". Apple=epl, than=then, etc...
"He" & "She"....soooo true. At first I wasn't able to follow in conversation because I would be so confused when "he" and "she" was mixed up. But now I have become very good at following along in conversation even if there is a mix up here and there. I can't even imagine how people follow along with my Slovene for all the times I talk to a guy or about a guy and use the feminine case instead of masculine. Yikes!
If we whisper loudly it means we don't really care who hears it since boy oh boy can you trust a Slovenian to mind their own business when they know they overheard something personal or whatever. You don't know about the silent whispering bc people over here pull the person to the side if possible and have a talk rather than whispering idk
For Slovenes she sounds a lot more masculine than he. Because even when I was a kid and I was learning English, I felt that way. To speak at night, honestly men, it’s fun to talk in the dark ... besides, if it’s a clear night and preferably a full moon you don’t need a light.
Nice observations Mariah - thanks. We do some of these in Scotland - like sitting in the dark because of not wanting to attract the wee midgies. But also so we can enjoy the stars, especially when we are all singing together. Over the border in England Kate Fox wrote a book called Watching the English where she notices that the English need at least 30 minutes to say goodbye - in fact we call it "saying our goodbyes," plural, because there are so many of them and it takes so long. My German father in law was much more direct and could say goodbye in about 3 minutes, but it always left me thinking he must be angry with me. I like the long goodbyes in Slovenia, always makes me feel at home. I've often noticed the he/she thing too. And also the use of until - like I'll see you until 6 o'clock meaning I'll see you at 6 o'clock. I don't think they've ever caused any problems - I usually know what is meant.
Ha! In America we would often say, “Time to say our goodbyes,” but we usually said that at a party that meant we had to go around and say goodbye to everyone. The “until” thing is dead accurate. It had me confused for a long time and I was always clarifying.
HAHAHA, I love this!! Loud whispering, informal outfits at formal gatherings (like pink umbrellas at the funeral... Even if it's a child, c'mon). I'm dreading my wedding, when it happens, because of that. Like I'm literally prepared to have a Greek wedding where everyone's provided a bed sheet to cover and be barefoot. But that wouldn't work because we're afraid of getting cold, even in summer. Endless apologies for the "mess" in the house. And I really felt the last one... In such a beautiful country, with so much potential, we're afraid to succeed.
1. For loud whispering, you don't really do it quietly because it's considered rude. Whispering loudly can also add the comedic effect and what not if it's between friends. I also don't understand ppl when they whisper quietly to me 😂😂. 2. Usually lights are turned off cuz no one wants moths in their food. Usually no one turns the lights on until you really can't see anything. 3. Idk what to say about this one 😂😂 4. Yess, as you said, if you say bye only one time you feel like you are hanging up on them too soon and I agree on that. It does feel like that. But it's fine. 5. They teach British English at school and I can confirm that people mix up he and she, I did too and I don't know why 😂 6. Saying 'actually' is more of a habit, it doesn't have anything to do with suffering haha.
If you sit outside the lights are off because of insects 😁
pa normalno... razn če hočeš bit bife za komarje
Totally agree on this one. We do not have screened porches :)
An American would probably have all Kind of devices to kill the Insects...
@@RePlayBoy101 one vošejo tvojo dihanja ne rabijo luči da te najdejo
@@banner2677 ampak jih luč in toplota luči bolj privlači 🙂
Najboljše je slovensko poslavljanje. Družinska večerja, ko se gostje odpravijo, se poslovijo. Gotitelj pa jih spremi do vrat vendar gostje še ne odidejo, temveč steče pogovor še ene pol ure. Nato jih pospremi do avta, in tam še deset minut pogovora ...
klasika :D .
to iz moje strani je videti zavsakič ko imamo obiske. ..zmeraj je nekaj treba še povedati, kakor 3 gospe , ko so bile zaprte 30 let pa pridejo ven in se nemorejo še kar zmeniti. ena bo zmeraj začela z stavkom, še nekaj ti moram povedati xD
Temu se reče, da se odpravljaš kot bolan srat.
Pa preden grejo, rečejo: Pa brez zamere! Tega tudi jaz ne štekam 😄
Kot lačen srat se tudi reče🥠😁😁
It's funny to me, how all english people say "hey how are you" as a greeting, not an actual question
Yes, it is true. And when you then start to answering them, they do not listen your answer to their "question" (which is actually greeting), they just continue conversation. Even more funny is, when they say (especially if a women asks me): "Hey, what's up?" When I hear this question (which is just a phrase and not a question), I always want to answer... but it would be unaproppriate do do so :)
I more noticed that british people say; Hi mate ,you allright? Or just You allright ... for greeting
It's just a part of their fake character. They don't actually care about you and how are you, they just say it, but they don't care about anyone but themselves.
honestly, sitting in the dark and chatting is very calming. i do it a lot during summer holidays
It's the best
We did it as teenagers ALL THE TIME in summertime.
Also if u turn on the light the mosquitoes will eat u alive
Res je, tudi jaz uzivam sedeti v temi, v prijetnem veceru, ki se spreminja polagoma v noc...
@@tamarasmit2861 To sem tudi jaz mislila.
My Slovenian American family nortoriously sits outside in the dark and talks into the night. But not indoors so much. There could be several reasons for this:
1. Light attracts bugs at night.
2. Saving electricity/fuel/being frugal.
3. Enjoyment of the night- see stars, use our night vision, experience natural nightness.
4. Intuitive sense that sitting in the dark will stimulate melatonin, so we can go to bed early, and rise early.
In fact, the more I thought about this, the more I wondered why people in America are so weird about having lights on at night.
Also, one feels beeing watched. Like the whole surrounding watches from the dark this one lighted stage. It is not a pleasant feeling.
American people probably are affraid of their own DARK Side...
@@harryhaller9386 Fear of the dark, fear of the dark
I have a constant fear that something's always near
@@bojankotur4613 How about getting scanned energetically? There might be an entity in your aura.
@@harryhaller9386 what are you talking about? I just quoted a song by Iron Maiden 😂
I never, ever mix up "he" and "she" and I can't remember the last time I heard a fluent English speaker from Slovenia do this.
Honestly! That's just weird, I never heard any Slovene done that either.
Right?
True
I am English from London living in Ljubljana for the last 12yrs, the switching of 'He/She' happens a lot from my experience..I am used to this now, but it was confusing in the beginning. Could it be to do with having nouns that end in masculine and feminine, neuter? I.E. Masculine nouns usually ending with a consonant? is this where the mix up comes from when using He/She?
I heared people say she instead of her. So what! Sounds pretty arrogant to Believer THe whole world must speak an understand bloody American language. Bis the way for hundrets of years this Part of Europe was dominanted or influenced by German language and culture. So you can expect this language to bei undetstood Most frequently. I advise her to study the History of this region to get an understand ing of why Things are going on Here Like they do. But from m experience With US people, Most have none ...
I think "actually" is actually just us trying to flex our English skills. Anyone can say "good". Or "bad". But "actually good" -- sounds kinda richer. :D
Zame je ponavadi actually bolj kot mašilo. Well, actually, to be honest, like, completely honest, I think that it's really... good 😂
Jst mislim da rečemo "actually " oziroma "v bistvu" bolj zato ker avtomatsko mislimo da nas nekdo sprašuje kako smo, ker ga zanima ali nam gre dobro in ga tut mal skrbi za nas. In rečemo "v bistvu ni slabo, kr gre", da mu sporočimo da nam gre dobro kljub temu da vse pa tut ni vredu. Recimo kakšen študent ki ima še 5 izpitov za nardit ne bo rekel "odlično mi gre" ampak "ja še kr, lahk bi blo slabš ampak je v bistvu kr dobr"
Whispering quietly in a group of people is considered to be rude.
BTW. Love your videos !
It depends on how you do it, as then it could be taken as gossiping...But a whisper should be just that, a whisper!
@@paulfellowes4879 whispering is considered really rude here. If you have something to say everyone can hear say it, if not wait until you're alone with that person. Same goes, for example, with food; if you have snacks but can't offer them to everyone around you, it's really rude to eat them by yourself in front of others.
@@invisuu6280 I eat snacks that I never share while whispering...there's no hope for me :(
When 10 huge hornets drop by then you will understend why the lights should be off😅
Do the carrot thing for the night vision, but remember, you'll lose your hearing
^^
I laughed too hard at 100 goodbyes. So true. So if we need to leave at certain hour, we start to say "We will go now" half an hour earlier 😄😄
But the finger counting had me, I cried of tears. Really, why do we almost break our fingers to show number four? 😆😆
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Before I went into comments section, I held my breath to see if we will have another ''Mariah insulting Čokolino'' drama. Luckily none of that. :D - Another great video, thank you!
Hahahahaha
She insulted Čokolino?? 😭
@@luka3665 Yup. Sadly. But she also didn't make it properly (with water??? And really liquidy.. Yuck)
About the whispering, if it's something nobody is supposed to hear, we can do it without anyone hearing. Therein lies the problem, if you whisper something here, you usually want others to hear it, sort of a loud secret opinion that everyone is supposed to hear. Like the saying goes "If you want to be heard whisper."
I kinda get all of them except the He/She thing. I know a lot of people whose english isn't perfect but I don't remember hearing that ever.
I'd love to hear her speaking slovene language so that we can ACTUALLY get a laugh out of her. Most likely it's a typical american person speaking just ONE language and being ignorant of all other languages.
I was coming into this video expecting to already know what you are going to say and I was like just curious not realy thinking much about it...but when you went HEJ A IMAŠ ROBČEK... i just lost it. Hilarious 😂
For me the biggest cultural difference is the way you say things, Americans (all English speaking folks) make them smaller and prettier whereas Slovenians say them directly and exaggerate. For instance: An American would open the door of their house and say: 'Hey honey, it's a bit chilli outside, you better take a coat with you.' (a bit chilli actually means cold or very cold). A Slovenian would say: 'O sranje, zunaj je minus 10!' (-10 actually means +5 in November on a first cold day).
That causes a lot of confusion, at least to me, I never know what Americans and British actually think because everything seems small and nice and acceptable. I guess we seem like drama queens to them???
SO true! Everyone here is much more direct. I think it has something to do with the fact that English doesn’t have a “vikanje” form. We are more formal or polite in the way we talk, which ends up being more words.
@@MariahDolenc Actually, CALIFORNIANS are some of the least "direct" people I ever encountered. Remember, I'm from rural central Florida (where we made all the concentrate Orange Juice). Floridians are some of the most direct people you'll EVER meet. We are Southern and we have interacted with New Yorkers for 100 years. This clip from "Cross Creek" displays this. We will be initially "polite" even vague. But if we feel the person isn't listening we switch to very direct. th-cam.com/video/N0gROT2bLTQ/w-d-xo.html.
This other scene of the maid "Gechee" leaving has another example of it. th-cam.com/video/YFhigK8M-nk/w-d-xo.html
The most difficult aspect of adjusting to California was all the people who were never direct, and/or who just pretended I wasn't in the same space with them, or who were specifically trying to freeze me out by ignoring me. In the South, that is the supreme insult and a good way to get one's face rearranged.
Lastly, this is another scene that embodies our closeness to the earth, something we also share with Slovenes.
th-cam.com/video/qCl_X7-y0ek/w-d-xo.html
Marjorie Kinan Rawlings was an actual person, an author, who chronicled the rich lives of rural Florida. This is the world I grew up in. Two decades later, the trappings had improved a bit, but these are "My People" and I love them.
@@MariahDolenc well... English did used to have vikanje and you in plural (what Americans replace now with "y'all", English with "you lot" ). Supposedly, you/ye was in old english and I think also middle english akin to "vikanje" (en. formal honorific) and informal plural; whereas thou/thee was the informal variant. (Like in German Du (similar to old english thou) vs sie/Sie (similar to old english "ye")...
So I guess people must have overused ye/you so much, so as to avoid being impolite, that thou/thee got lost in the process. Funnily enough though, the plural version is so needed though, that, as aforementioned, it's being used with "y'all" or "you lot" or "you guys" or whatever.
I remember having seen the video on the topic. here's the reference if you're curious about you/thee th-cam.com/video/tBwdRs-D8lU/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=SimonRoper
As I was just looking this up I also noticed that Old English did in fact also have "dual" but lost it. XD
@@maticjelovcan This is the most complicated set of comments in the history of youtube.
I'm Slovenian and I laughed so hard at this 🤣 well actually... you forgot our love for slippers!
Wearing slippers at home is an European thing in general. Same habbit in Austria, Germany and other countries.
I never turn on the lights, because of the insects.. Not even inside, only if the windows are closed. My husband is from Macedonia and we always argue about that, he thinks it's nonsense.
Ever heard of the movie "Love Actually" ? British. not Slovenian.
Actually, Marija is wrong about at least one more thing here, and it's what I as a Slovenian expat in the USA (a while ago) noticed, to my dismay (and sometimes amusement, actually). He mentioned "suffering" from years ago. I take it that he meant suffering during Communism. Americans always think Eastern Europe is suffering while they have long vacations Americans can only dream of, no political correctness requirements, no 6-digit college loans.... you get the point. They can even shout while whispering. Where's that infamous suffering? Sorry, for the typos that may have sneaked in, I am sitting in the dark.
This little corner of the world has had pretty much every nation trample over it. Slovenia, as a Republic, has existed for less than 30 years. If you compare things to today’s standards, there are good things about both 😊
@@MariahDolenc Hi Mariah, you are right, but Slovenians have always considered themselves sovereign, especially while a part of Yugoslavia, so the "independence" in and of itself did not bring many changes to an average Slovenian. Ask Luka, but when we were asked where we came from back in the ex-Yu times, we always responded "from Slovenia". Only after we had received an "uh/eh?" in response did we (reluctantly) add ... "from Yugoslavia".
@@alinafakin370 Hmmm pretty sure the suffering is meant before WWI when we were under Austro-Hungarian Empire. Or even farther in the past. Also almost all proverbs are focusing around the rural life so it must've been before all modernisation.
Lets be frank here. We are a nation of complain all the time and be jealous because neighbour has a better car or a better whatever. I see this all the time. I would say that this can be in many cultures and I do not want to be like fake kindness and everything is alright mindset which is another extreme, but I would say that Slovenian nation can work on their supporting other people and be happy for one another. We are getting so focus on our own suffering that is never enough, we can never be happy, happy and someone will always be, like well that could be better, this is not good etc. We put down people way to much and we a lot of times camouflage it as worry or whatever. And when it comes to real problems, people just do not listen. That is why we have such high suicide rate. Because if we are happy, it is weird and wtf in your face. If you are sad and have legit problems they are not bad enough to worry. A lot of people especially professional when it comes to mental health are still not trained enough or a far to judgemental to begin with. So yes Slovenian as a nation, we been throw a lot, but we have to grow and do not be so unsatisfied all the time.
@@tidid5572 I agree with you, I’m a first generation Australian Slovene, my Slovenian parents & many of there fellow Slovenians are similar to your description. At times It makes me climb the wall🙄
So true! All of it! I haven’t realized the whispering ‘issue’, but it’s very accurate! 😃
My husband is American and he constantly reminds me of your video about Čokolino. He’s so proud of you for pointing that out! 😂 I’m afraid to show him this one. 🤦♀️😃
We hear very well, but there are several levels of whisper :)
- talking in a way that nobody hears you,
- talking in a way that you indicate you don't want to interrupt the conversation / activity that is going on, but you want to pass information right away,
- talking in a way that shows others it's a private conversation that they should not get involved.
Dark... what can I say... why waste lights, no need. Let the eyes rest, let's enjoy natural light (moonlight, stars), or even natural darkness. It's very fun playing table-tenis in summer, outside, in almost pitch dark - try it :) And no, it's got nothing to do with carrots.
The wrong pronouns... I don't get it. Haven't met a Slovenian who'd mix these two, although I've worked as an English teacher for 6 years and I'm in international cooperation for 11 years... noticed many mistakes that Slovenes generally make in English, but confusing HE or SHE is not one I've noticed.
Talking about how awesome life is... no it's not connected to hard times in the past... it's connected to
- superstition, you jinx it, if you speak well about it
- envy, if other people hear you are doing fine, they'll envy you and rumours will start (he's great? he must have a mistress or something)
Hope that helps.
Lol! Great video! I think sitting in the dark outside (usually that would be in the summer) is not to attract mosquittos by turning the light on. At least that's why I do it. :)
You are spot on, especially the last one. Btw, Italians do a 100 goodbye thing too 😁
“Actually” is maybe the attempt to translate “še kr”. If you ask somebody “how are you” he/she will never say “dobro” or “odlično”. At max they’ll say “še kr”...
I believe it's "v bistvu" which would directly translate to "in essence" but that would be advanced English.
It usually comes with a small frowning because we just did a quick calculation and to our surprise the good things actually prevail.
Maybe I’m crazy, but I thought “še kr” meant something else. Like if my mom asked me how I was doing, or how school was going, I would say “še kr uredu je”, meaning “oh it’s going pretty good”. Like not great, but just ok.
I don't run into the misusage of words ''he''/''she'' that often, actually. But I assume it might have to do something with Slovenian language having three grammatical genders (female, male, neutral). Things having actual sexes (e.g. animals) reflects onto the words describing them - also only occuring in male and female roles. Therefore one could use words like ''man'' and ''person'' for the same person and then refer to him with ''she'', since in Slovene the word ''person'' is female. Also, because of this we only seldom use the word ''it'' (not to be confused with words ''this'', ''that'' etc.).
Precisely! I keep doing that - I will use the gender for anything as I am used to words having a gender.
Čist use drži, kot pribito, še posebej to pozdravljanje, great video as always.
Im glad there's one American woman out there who recognize our Slovene culture and troublesome. Thanks a lot for your contribution Mariah.
Im 46 and have been in a relationship with a beautiful Slovenian woman going on 5 years. I completely relate to the communication aspect. Slovenians are unique in they really care about what you're really saying and express real interest. Where Americans say things to just be polite. I really relate to you and your relationship. Im so glad you have such an amazing family wishing you all the best from. Sunny Northern California
Second generation Canadian who grew up wholly in Slovenian culture here - I didn't even realize my family does most of these. 😂 The sitting in the dark, though, that one made me truly laugh! That is 100% true in my life lol.
OMG! XD I actually enjoy that video cuz is soo true hahaha! I didn't realized until you pointed out, I do loudly "whisper". I do get quite annoyed with saying 100 goodbyes because otherwise the other person would just think you're rude. That mostly happens when I speak with my grandma on a phone. I feel that otherwise he would just be a little bit upset. You really made my day :D Now I need to send that to my other Slovenian friends.
My favourite: Superior vision from eating carrots XD (I think sitting in the dark outside it's just nice, you can see sky changing colours and then see stars, and most importantly you don't draw all the insects to you)
As a Slovene I can say that all those things are true. And I can't stand them. "Actually" and "saying goodbye" are the most annoying to me.
Meni tudi🤦🏼♀️
prosim ce mi lahko poves v katerem smislu je mislila actually? kaj to prevede kot actually ne zastopam :) dragac ful vsec.. in videa in punca in "onadva" :)
@@valentinakosta1892 v smislu, da te nekdo vpraša: Kako si? In odgovoriš: Pravzaprav sem vredu.
Kot da bi ti bilo nenavadno oziroma bi se opravičevala, ker si vredu. Kot, da bi morala biti slabo, ampak si v resnici vredu. Upam, da sem razumljivo pojasnila :)
@@roar_with_mama Hvala za odgovor, zelo razumivo :)
Se strinjam
You made me laugh so loud, especially on the Saying goodbye part! 😁😁 Omg so true! I am such a Slovenian, obviously! Actually (😜), I feel really great after watching your video. Thanks for making my day! 🙃
Hi Mariah! Thank you for this video. You made my day. I have an American friend living in the Uk and I think she can relate to you, as sometimes, when she visits me in Slovenia or I go to 🇬🇧 she says sometimes we do things differently than Americans, but I was not aware you notice all this things.
10 minut, dan popravljen :D. Hvala!
My grand folks were dirt poor. Keeping lights on wasn't really an option, so sitting in the dark was more of a way of life. I remember listening to my grandmother knit in the dark. This was during the two visits to Slovenia we made mid 60's and 1970. BTW, love listening to your take on living in Slovenia.
Haha your intro about everyone saying how wrong you are made me laugh so hard 😂 my grandfather was Slovene and I have Slovene relatives...sufficient to say, you're a brave women to say anything be it positive or negative about Slovenes on line 😂🤣
There will always be people who diagree 🙄 ignore them! I love your videos!
Never heard of (s)he thingy.
.. and I've grown to hate the word "actually" :D
Agree with everything else.
Also.. haters gonna hate.
You made me laugh. Great video and thank you for shoving us a mirror. 😃
As an expat I have to say the He/she thing is very common...I think because the masculine feminine thing in Slovene applies to a lot more than in English maybe? I don’t speak Slovene yet so I might be wrong...
As to saying goodbye I have the opposite...at the end of a business conversation we finish in English with ‘See you...’ and that’s it...it almost feels rude but now I’m used to it...
I've never realized that people would mix he/she, but I guess it's because we don't often use he/she (or subject pronouns in general) in Slovene, because you can tell that with the verb, so you don't have to specifically say SHE did this.
@@elzarebol1048 yes, I’m just starting to think about learning Slovene and am aware of that so I think you are right!
Hi Mariah, your observations are spot on. I think I can explain evening chats in to the night. This would happen when people rally enjoy each other’s company and conversations are engaging. No one wants to get up and ruin the moment. I actually have newer thought about it till now. Thanks to you. Coming from Slovene living in AU 🇦🇺 let us know if this is correct. Love your content 👍
That was fun 😜. I am from Peru, coming and going from slovenia for the last 4 years and this is very much TRUE. This year I am staying longer so I can see this personally and add that gathering takes some serious planning, specially if you have to drive longer than 20 min. Can you also relate?
Yeah, it always feels like an ordeal to come together rather than an easy get-together.
I am from Turkey. I coming and going from Slovenia for the last 4 years like you. And i aggree what you said totally. :D
Hey hey Maria...good to see you back again :) This one made me laugh so much (I may have 'actually' pee'd myself :) It was what you said on 'whispering' "maybe they have a genetic hearing disability" started me off :) :) and then with 'He & She' " if you don't learn English soon enough here there's no hope for you" priceless! :) :) I get all 5 but especially the multiple 'Goodbyes' and like you, I've now adopted this trait....Unfortunately, this has also stuck with me in English now, much to the puzzlement of my friends, who respond with "err yeah, bye, whatever!" x
Hey girl. Lady. You are awesome above and beyond. You survived years of living in slovenia. Years!!!
I love your reflections on this Slavic clan of ours. Girl, I see them everyday. Thats how I know you are genius. For american, that is. Dont change ;)
"Im totally expecting people to tell me how wrong i am because thats just what people here love to do"
It hits different...and is true....slovenia is such a judgemental place...ugh😔✨
@@n1ngnuo I think that americans are more confrontative about some issues, sending hate mails (and other things) to the studios or politicians with bad rep... While us Slovenes are more like silent but if you go to some news webpage, like 24ur, you'll fall on your behind when you read the comments
Well, the americans have a copyrighted personality trait they call "Karen" which is extremely confrontational. Somehow they seem to have a serial production of these since it's hard to miss them.
@@n1ngnuo everyone is judgmental, I don't think it varies too much from country to country, the only difference is WHAT you are judged for.
Ofcourse it is going to depend with who you are talking but generally here there is no fear to offend someone : for his political opinion, religion,......
Well she can also look at this from a different view: we are normally very friendly to foreigners. If we are overly judgemental toward her, that can only mean, we've taken her for our own 😅
Slovenia is least Balkans but it still is.
Mariah this is sooo interesting and refreshing to hear, the other perspective! Loud whispering, ha haaa, yes :))) And about actually, made me think about... Thanks Mariah. Wish you a lot of happy days! By, ciao, well, just something more to say...Now I'm really going, so, have a good day, a big hug, adijo :))))
These are such fun observations. I would love to see you do a video on what to expect for travelers visiting a Slovene (i.e. topics of conversation that are taboo or expected). I have to admit, I had to brace myself to get through politics and basically skirted the topic. This was back during the last election year, "So, what do you think of Trump," they asked. I said, "I don't think anybody takes him seriously." Little did I know! I skirted the topic all the same. I still cringe thinking about the time I mistakenly used "Ljubim te" for a friend - non romantic before learning "Rada te imam". Awkward! Slovenes just don't talk about their feelings like Americans do, and when they do they are MUCH more specific and serious. We say "I love you" to friends all the time. We probably say "sorry" more than Slovenians as well I think. As for them mixing up he/she, I think it's just being absent minded. They denote sex as part of the word, so they aren't as practiced in using pronouns. It's been awhile, but I don't remember them using the Slovene pronouns nearly as much as we need to in English. Love your videos on cultural observations!
I think sitting in the dark is because when we were kids our parents let us hang out after sunset. We had spots were we would sit and chat and drink, smoke weed. So, after sunset you were still there and it was dark.
Yes, Thank you for this video! 👏🏻
I noticed one annoying thing here too. When someone get a visit and they talk for fev hours and after that they say they will go home and put their shoes on and stand on the front door and talk there another half hour and than they go to the car and talk there another half hour. What the hell.... talk inside and than pack and go home.....
Socializing in the dark ... Bright light requires self-confidence, and Slovenians, unlike Americans, are not so self-confident. Therefore, a little less strong light is sometimes pleasant.
So funny and entertaining. Very refreshing...thank you.
Haha, great stuff! Do more of these videos xD I've never noticed the "actually" (v bistvu) thingie... But then again, "I'm pretty good, actually" is something I hear quite often from English-speakers - they just say put it AFTER the thing they might feel "guilty" of :D
I also constantly mix he or she while talking, my mind is slower than my tongue is. And I use "well" and "actually" or both all the time as a filler instead of uhm... In Slovene I overuse the word "pač" or "v bistvu". I've been told several times already that I annoy people with overusing "pač" and "actually" :)
I over use the word Prosim for a lot of things. Hello, Goodbye, Thank you, What? … Possibilities are endless!
I recently got told I use “so” too much in English. I feel you. Honestly I think “v bistvu” is a great filler word! Very versatile. People need to stop being so bothered by filler words :p
ACTUALLY this is a great video 😄 super je, da lahko primerjamo kulturne razlike in vidimo stvari z drugacne perspektive.
Haha this is so funny, I’m married to a Slovene and he also interchanges he and she! also when we all sit in the dark, it is to avoid komarji.
Good thoughts in the last "actually" part. You made me think about it deeper and you are very right.I always had strange feeling dealing with this theme "how are things doing", but yeah, Im slovene:). Thanks for sharing thoughts. Lep pozdrav.
Hahaha, that was funny! 😄 Especially the one with goodbyes 😂 we really do that. I don't know why.
Hi Mariah, I’ve just come across your channel, this upload is very very funny & you’ve hit the nail on the head!!😂🤣🤣. I’m an Australian-Slovene & live in Australia, I absolutely love this beautiful country & visiting certainly helps me to remain fluent in the Slovenian language. You speak Slovenian so well! & Well done with your videos, very interesting & funny perspectives!!
My dear dad, even though he spoke English fluently, right up to his eighties, was still getting the he & she mixed up🤭. You are also completely spot on with how they all whisper loudly🗣😂🤣
I’m now subscribed & look forward to your future uploads🤩🫶🏻✌🏻
Interesting observation
So let me add something I do when I am in Slovenia that isn’t what they are used to
For instance: if I ask a policeman for information or if I get stopped by police I would say: good morning/good afternoon and followed by : “How are you doing “ dober dan, kako ste”?
That throws them off
By the way your comments are rather gentle
That’s why return comments are rather nice
Nj
Hi, I never thought about these things that we do. But I can whisper very well. And yes I hate it too when we sit in the dark outside with friends, it hurts my eyes 😁 Please do more of these videos. Maybe top 10 things american people do Slovenians don't, or maybe the dress code, or school learning system differences, I know it's very different and it would be interesting to hear. I also wonder how do you feel about different dialects of Slovenian regions? Do you understand other dialects as well as "Ljubljanščina" which dialect is the hardest for you to understand? How is it in America with the dialects in different states. ☺️
I definitely understand Ljubljanščina The best, but I do understand most regions. However when you get into the far out, small villages, no way. Dialects in America are not nearly so different. I don’t think there’s anywhere in America that I could go and have trouble understanding.
OK, so.. how would you tell something to a person.. 3 meters away.. in the church? They wont hear you whispering American way. And u cant talk normally either. Solution? Whisper in Slovenian way.
Oh boy, u got me laughing. I am Slovene and you have a point. Actually😁, I think you Americans, with your positive directness and candour bring some very positively fresh air to this place. But, as you have found out, Slo is unfortunately not necessarily a place for unburdened, open-minded liberal exchange of views. Which often makes me want to just relocate somewhere more open and diverse.
Keep up your good work, spirit and smile! There's a ton of people who appreciate it!
Mariah, this was a proper stand up act :)
Best compliment of the year.
@@MariahDolenc its true:) Think about it. If you collect all the US/SLO comparisons, that's a at least an open mic act:)
I get it,hearing issues rampant ,bring candles and don’t tell anyone your doing well unless you “Actually “are and then with an apology
Wonderful video haha. You pointed all of these so nicely I would get it why you made a disclaimer again. Now, speaking of hate comments - please don't care too much about haters. Your "5 Things" hit the nail on the head and if people can't stand their own behavior mirrored at them (which is indeed difficult to take sometimes) then this is hardly your fault. I am honestly just very happy you've uploaded something again and that you guys are all healthy especially in this situation.
Everything you mentioned indeed happens with Slovenes! I've just realised this while watching your Vlog! Great stuff! Keep up the nice work, Mariah! :))
Mariah, v redu so tvoji videii, nič narobe ne poveš. Bravo.
Sedenje v temi je pri nas vedno kao romantika :)
Actually I liked the video .. and actually like this glasses ... thanks for the smiles
Good bye.. adios.. caio.. see you .. adijo... bye bye ... cheerio...take care... see you later ..
My Slovene partner gets he/she mixed up a lot despite learning English at a young age, and despite being fully immersed in English after living here in England for the last 8 years. Also the 1000 goodbyes, he even does it in while talking in English and will say "Okay, bye bye bye, see you, okay bye" which I i find hilarious!!!
Oh wow, from England. I always had an inkling there were more of them among us!
There are a fair few I think!
@@iena7719 I haven't come across many in London. Curious to know where they hang out!
I won't know I'm in Devon! I have just heard of them. Maybe a Google search would help?
she's right. we do all those things... it's funny when some one points it out. The loud wispering is my favorite:) i don't know why we do it, it's so pointles...
the only person who mixes he/she is my dad, so i guess it depends on a generation or the way that english is taught to a person.
I totally agree with you on nr. 3 (100 goodbyes), but I have to object to nr. 4. I don't know what kind of English did your husband and friends learned, but I've never mixed he/she and I started to learn English when I was 11 years old, so I was not so young. I also know a lot of people from Slovenia who can speak English without mixing up he/she. I was really surprised when I heard you say that ...
Greetings from Slovenia!
HELLO!!! I Love your videos...and I understand all that you said. I am from Venezuela and I am living in Slovenia since 2016. There are a lot of cultural sock (in a good way) !!!!
Take care and I hope we can meet someday!!! Kiss
The dark is because the dont want to spend in electricity invoice hahahah
Loud whispering.. You're spot on 😅
This is hilarious and all true! I never noticed these things. And the one about "actually" is sad but I realize I do that A LOT. "Kako si?" "Ou, ma dejansko sem prav dobro danes", like it's such a surprise, I guess it's because a lof of us are pessimists by default.
I love the crayon drawings on the wall. My kids did the same thing.
Hahaha, you made my day
We were taught it is not polite to whisper in group or to whisper to someone ear in group.... If you are in group speak loudly so everyone can hear you..... thats why we probably whisper loudly ... we try to be discreet and polite in same way 🙈🤣
Me and none of my friends dont mix he/she, so I have to disagree with you here..... everything else is TRUE!
And a lot of Slovenes on goodbye says "No hard feelings or no offense (pa brez zamere) and it means forgive us, if we said or did something inappropriate" 🤣
🤣😂🤣 they are all so true!!! Yep, that’s us. And the 100 goodbyes annoys me too! 😃🤪
Not even one dislike! People here adore you! And please do correct our english if you get a chance.
Never noticed the he/she thing, but I do notice that some Slovenian people don't know when to use indefinite and definite articles, which makes sense seeing as they're not really used much in the Slovenian language. Also how driving for more than 15-20 minutes is seen as 'far away'. For me, a person from the UK, I would go on outings with my dad regularly to places that were 45-60 mins away and that was seen as 'near' to where we lived 😂 it is so interesting to see the little differences in cultures. It's made me more aware of the things I do differently too as a Brit :)
Love watching your videos. It's funny! :)
You have clarified a few major mysteries in my life... Thanks!
In my experience a huge minority of south-slavs have a hearing problem: often tinnitus or simply dampened sounds. It could be a genetic predisposition to damage or deterioration.
Thanks for this, this was very interesting. A lot of new information. I wonder if the whispering is about appearing proper rather than trying to be quiet; what I mean is, that it is socially acceptable to say something in church if you appear to be trying to be inconspicuous and thereby give license to everyone around you to forgive you for, essentially, talking in church, when you're not supposed to? I think we Slovenians are generally very bad with definite and indefinite articles and about where there is or isn't one. Americans tend to generalize...
The greeting thing - I get it but also, you kind of have to say more than just bye! 😅 You have to mention 'it was nice to see you' and wish them 'have a good day, hang in there, we'll be in touch, bye bye' these phrases are not interchangeable! You can really mean all of them at the same time 😁
And the article!! They don't use articles. For example "I think problem is ..". "Sister came home", "dog is sick", etc...
Or the proncunciation of "a"... Is more "e".
Apple=epl, than=then, etc...
Articles are waste of breath and waste of paper-space :)
Omg, you totally nailed it! 🙌
You are so good... love your videos about us. Thank you. ❤🙏
So honest, great to hear that!
"He" & "She"....soooo true. At first I wasn't able to follow in conversation because I would be so confused when "he" and "she" was mixed up. But now I have become very good at following along in conversation even if there is a mix up here and there. I can't even imagine how people follow along with my Slovene for all the times I talk to a guy or about a guy and use the feminine case instead of masculine. Yikes!
Im already used to the extended goodbyes being from the Midwest but it still annoys me haha
If we whisper loudly it means we don't really care who hears it since boy oh boy can you trust a Slovenian to mind their own business when they know they overheard something personal or whatever. You don't know about the silent whispering bc people over here pull the person to the side if possible and have a talk rather than whispering idk
For Slovenes she sounds a lot more masculine than he. Because even when I was a kid and I was learning English, I felt that way. To speak at night, honestly men, it’s fun to talk in the dark ... besides, if it’s a clear night and preferably a full moon you don’t need a light.
Nice observations Mariah - thanks.
We do some of these in Scotland - like sitting in the dark because of not wanting to attract the wee midgies. But also so we can enjoy the stars, especially when we are all singing together.
Over the border in England Kate Fox wrote a book called Watching the English where she notices that the English need at least 30 minutes to say goodbye - in fact we call it "saying our goodbyes," plural, because there are so many of them and it takes so long. My German father in law was much more direct and could say goodbye in about 3 minutes, but it always left me thinking he must be angry with me. I like the long goodbyes in Slovenia, always makes me feel at home.
I've often noticed the he/she thing too. And also the use of until - like I'll see you until 6 o'clock meaning I'll see you at 6 o'clock. I don't think they've ever caused any problems - I usually know what is meant.
Ha! In America we would often say, “Time to say our goodbyes,” but we usually said that at a party that meant we had to go around and say goodbye to everyone. The “until” thing is dead accurate. It had me confused for a long time and I was always clarifying.
Travel restrictions permitting, I hope to be taking a long trip from the USA to Slovenia, & Croatia the month of September.
I’m a Slovenian living in California and this is hilarious 😂
HAHAHA, I love this!! Loud whispering, informal outfits at formal gatherings (like pink umbrellas at the funeral... Even if it's a child, c'mon). I'm dreading my wedding, when it happens, because of that. Like I'm literally prepared to have a Greek wedding where everyone's provided a bed sheet to cover and be barefoot. But that wouldn't work because we're afraid of getting cold, even in summer.
Endless apologies for the "mess" in the house. And I really felt the last one... In such a beautiful country, with so much potential, we're afraid to succeed.
I think we say "actually" bc we are shocked when things our good. We are surprised by our own answer bc we don't expect thing to be good.
1. For loud whispering, you don't really do it quietly because it's considered rude. Whispering loudly can also add the comedic effect and what not if it's between friends. I also don't understand ppl when they whisper quietly to me 😂😂.
2. Usually lights are turned off cuz no one wants moths in their food. Usually no one turns the lights on until you really can't see anything.
3. Idk what to say about this one 😂😂
4. Yess, as you said, if you say bye only one time you feel like you are hanging up on them too soon and I agree on that. It does feel like that. But it's fine.
5. They teach British English at school and I can confirm that people mix up he and she, I did too and I don't know why 😂
6. Saying 'actually' is more of a habit, it doesn't have anything to do with suffering haha.