Story 1!! Also you're going to be a great mom. You're not going to be jealous for your kids because you'll love them so much and be happy for them. Maybe even feel closer to your husband watching him with them and the way he's a great father. Breaking the cycle and giving your kids an amazing dad could help heal as well. Wow okay brain did not brain out of the gate on that one and I wanted to make sure you heard it!!
Good addendum! There’s also room to acknowledge that she may feel flares of those jealous feelings, many parent experience triggers around their own wounds as their children grow up. This doesn’t make you a bad parent, your love is bigger than your pain and by consciously working through you will also heal alongside your children ❤️
@@FatherKnowsSomething understandable and relatable! I'm glad that you come into the comments to make the point after thinking it over. That's one thing (of many) I love about your shows 💓
About story 6, I dont think you should be friends with someone who is doing something you consider immoral, just because they havent hurt YOU personally before Its not even about the feelings of the person they’ve hurt, its about your own values
Thissss. You should also be able to voice out your own thoughts regarding shit your friends do bc friend groups are a huge factor that influences a person's mindset and morals. The more you let shit slide bc we "don't know their relationship or dynamic", the more lenient you'll become towards the things you're turning a blind eye to. Your friend isn't a friend if they're too afraid to call you out on your own bs.
Story 1: sometimes the connection we had to our parents as children doesn’t translate into adulthood, and that feeling can almost emulate grief. As we all know, people change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. That change can be so extreme that they may not even look like the person you knew as a child, so take the time to recognize the person you thought you father was/could be, and then acknowledge the person he is today. Grief isn’t linear, like Justin said one time on one of the shows: grief is like a large rock we carry in our pockets. On day one it feels incredibly heavy and uncomfortable, but as time goes on we notice the sharp edges less, and don’t pay it as much attention. That doesn’t mean we’ve forgotten about it, or how much it hurts. I think you may be surprised just how much the little you can be healed by watching your husband parent you children. You will get to live vicariously through them, and cherish your partner even more because of how he treats your children. Grieve the father you thought you could have. Sending you love 💕
Story 2: Find something interesting to do, or read, so then when you will reconnect with you friends you can tell them what interesting you did. Reconnecting without having anything interesting to share can be dreadful.
Morgan, I totally understood what you were saying when you said you just feel like “oatmeal” 😂 that’s how I feel about my dad too. I have an AMAZING step dad that I am so blessed to have in my life. He stepped in when my dad didn’t. ❤️
Story 1 - I think you’ll be surprised at how not jealous you’ll be of your children. My kids have everything I could have ever dreamed of and more! I (like you) had rough relationships and was pretty poor. I have a 17 year old and a 3 year old, my older daughter has all the experiences I never had, dances with dates & dresses, I’m teaching her to drive, traveling dance team, family vacays! The list goes on! Both my husband and I are loving and involved. The world you create for them will be so fulfilling. Obvi, therapy would def be a good thing if you’re sincerely worried about that, but I think you’ll be surprised. You’ll be a family. I don’t dwell on my childhood because I’m making new memories with my babies. It’s hard to explain cos I don’t live vicariously through them, I live with them. And things I dreamt about for myself are manifesting through them. I don’t regret not experiencing certain things or having certain relationships cos I have that with them. I hope all this makes sense. Sending you love. ❤
Story 2: My best friend is also my colleague, I see her every working day and then on weekends, has gotten a new job for september and has also landed a 1month trip in Kenya from next Monday. We've spent every summer for 4 years together because we're teachers and everybody else in our lives are working. And I am so happy for her and sad at the same time. She's going offgrid for 4 weeks and then i have a week and a half with her before she leaves. I'm going to miss my best friend and am very aware that I'm going to be lonely for 6 weeks. I will occupy myself, but I'm going to miss her so much, we message every day, see eachother everyday and are inseparable- to know that's all changing is so sad xxxx
This is going to sound dumb, but I kinda thought that I was already subscribed since I subscribed to THT. I hit the button now Jerry!! ❤ Love you guys. Great episode
For story 3: I think it's important to keep in mind that you and your family have gone through something traumatic. Most likely your grandpa is feeling some way that's causing the fights, as well as your parents. I would suggest maybe even taking some time to care for him for a night or two if possible so your parents can get a break?
Story 6: def agree with Morgan on this one, I understand where Dad is coming from with this, the friendships are separate now- however, I do believe we owe are friends the respect of considering how our actions affect them, and if you care about maintaining a relationship with the ex-wife, it is polite to talk to her about her feelings on the matter, it may hurt her more to go to that wedding than it would hurt him for you not to attend. Or maybe not- you won’t know without talking to them.
Story 4: My therapist recommended looking through Facebook for a book club because I love reading and it’s been my savior because I feel the same way with my friendships.
Story 2: as someone who went through that growing up, it sounds close to BPD symptoms. Needing that verbal validation, always feeling like the background friend & overthinking relationships because of lack of proximity. Don't overthink it, friendships don't need to be constant contact. Having friends during school vs summer, it's fine to have different friend groups during those times too.
Story #1: I can only speak from my experience and emotions and hope it is helpful to share. I have had a similar experience with my none existent dad. I am married and have 3 children and I can tell you, it has been healing to witness and experience what a good father is. I don't feel any type of way towards my children, other than grateful. My husband has filled a void that I didn't realized was there due to not having a male father figure in my life and I am glad my children will never know what that void feels like. I am grateful my children have an awesome dad.
story 1: I can heavily relate. I haven’t had contact with my biological father since I was 15. I am now 27 and it took a lot of letting go to heal from the anger and hurt of having a father that completely forgot I existed and created a new family with kids who don’t even know he had me. What I can say is that now being a parent myself I know that if you truly love your child you would never go on acting as if you didn’t have a child in this world, so I don’t feel anything for a man who never acted like a father to me. I can also say I am happily married with an amazing man who is an amazing father and seeing the way he is with our daughter doesn’t make me sad, it has healed me to see what a true amazing father can be like. Wishing op a healing heart ❤
Story 1 - My mom and dad got divorced when I was 10 months old. I feel you girl. I would be a total “daddy’s girl” if given the chance. It’s a painful void to feel but truly and honestly, I think so much of you will heal in knowing your children won’t have to meet the same fate or feel the same way. I have no doubt you will encompass your children with so much love. As for advice, I would highly recommend therapy. I have a strong fear of abandonment that has bled poorly into my relationship with my significant other and therapy has been a beautiful way to heal and mend some wounds our shitty fathers left us with. It’s taken me some time to fully recognize that my birth father was nowhere near an actually “good” dad. But I know that doesn’t reflect who I am or what I am worth in this lifetime. You are worthy of being loved, cherished, and doted over in all the ways your father didn’t. Find the strength within to combat the negative self talk that this wound has left you with. Our father’s leaving was a blessing in disguise. Longing for something they were never equipped to give us, is wasted energy. You are beautiful, worthy, and deserve to give yourself the love we both missed out on. Father figures will come with time, I promise. Really dig deep within yourself to understand this wound and again, therapy is a beautiful space to mourn and heal from this lifelong loss. You’ve got this, beautiful. We’ve got this. 🥹❤️❤️
Story 3: I don’t have much advice to give than what was given in the episode and in the comments. I’m more here to say that I actually know what you’re going through and if you ever need someone to talk to that has gone through the same exact thing I’m here! My grandpa is long passed (for about 4 years now) and during his final years taking care of him was no fun and put tons of stress on my family. We were in a very same situation where other family members didn’t help leaving the bulk of the work on me and my parents. It’s very hard work talking care of an elder and it’s more difficult when you know they are ready and they you don’t want to see them go. My grandpa was the same, mean to us in his final years, yelling at my parents and even me. During his last hospital visit the nurses had told us that he needed more care than we were able to give and we had to make the hard choice of putting him in a home. Looking back I think that was the best decision, he lived in that nursing home for 6 months before he passed but the relief we felt of no longer caring for him made us visiting him so much better and he was able to enjoy it more! That’s not to say he still didn’t yell at his nurses, and trust me they got pretty good Christmas gifts from us as thanks, but it was better on our relationship with him so there wasn’t strife when he passed. Again I’m here to talk if you ever would like. My Snapchat is h.marie1025
It's also winter in South Africa,but I live in a weird town, I think it has like a weather bubble, where it's not cold like the rest of South Africa or it often doesn't get to warm like the rest of the country it's almost always the same weather it just mostly depends on where the wind comes from and with that we almost get like al 4 seasons in one day the only difference is in the winter it gets a bit colder and summer it gets a bit warmer(according to Wikipedia it's because of a type of sea current that stops here because if you go like 10 km away from the town the weather matches the rest of South Africa
Story 1: I doubt you will feel jealous toward your future kids for having an amazing dad. If you do feel jealous, it’s ok it doesn’t make you a bad parent. You will be proud of yourself for choosing an amazing father for your children. You will love them so much that you will always want them to have a better life than the one you did in every aspect. Speaking from experience, a part of your inner child will heal when you see your partner being the best dad to your kids. Also, you may feel angry towards your dad, once you realize how easy it is to love your children. You will notice how it shouldn’t have been so hard for him to be a good dad to you and love you. I don’t think you ever fully heal abandonment issues, they might become lighter with time. I think you should muster up the courage to vent out every feeling you have to your dad. Even if nothing changes, at least you’ll get it off your chest. If you write a letter like Morgan suggested, you can read the letter to him. Best wishes to you from one fatherless girl to another.
Story 4 is oh so familiar to me. I’m going to be a senior in college in the fall. I’m also the friend that always reaches out. Trying to put myself out there bc I recently got out of a relationship. I’m looking for local events on Facebook and downloaded bumble bff. Also looking after myself. It’s hard but I read a lot, do yoga, and go for walks. I am going to try to go to a local thing twice a month, but I have social anxiety so going alone is scary :/
I hate going alone! It can be so so hard, but I will say every time I do I don't regret it. So many people came to the live shows solo and made friends. It was so magical to see. You got this! I think local things you're into are so key
That opening about the heat is too accurate i live in AZ, it gets up to 125 and a couple years ago my grandpa also passed on his motorcycle in the summer because it was too hot, rip
Story 1- I am 41. I haven't talked to my bio dad in 12 years. He did not attend my or my sister's weddings, did not acknowledge any of my 3 kids being born, has not sent me a birthday or Christmas card in YEARS and YEARS, he did not even show up to his own mother's funeral. I put some effort in, in the past, but when I realized I was ALWAYS the one initiating contact, I decided it was his responsibilty as the parent to try if he wanted a relationship. I have other people that love me and show it. I have accepted that that is more than enough.
This is my first time watching on youtube, normally i listen on apple podcasts but I do have to say the voices dont match the faces I had in my brain for them! Lbvs!
In the story with the couples.. if the man cheated on his wife or did anything shady before starting the divorce process I would NOT attend the wedding and would NOT continue the friendship with him. In my personal experience cheaters are just as bad of friends as they are romantic partners.
Story 1.at least you know your dad a bit. Mine left when I was two. I don't remember him I did write him a letter tried to get contact. He didn't care. He had moved halfway around the world and had a new family. I'm 42 now and still see father's and daughters and think I wish I had had that. Not even his parents or brother wanted to have anything to do with us. His three kids from his marriage. But there's nothing we can do. Mine is long since dead. Maybe carma got him he died in horrific pain. You have a new family you have your mum. He doesn't deserve to have you in his life. Enjoy your new family and try to move on.
Story 1: I’ve never personally understood why people get so upset about their father abandoning them. They obviously don’t deserve you!! My father ditched as soon as he found out 2 things; 1) Twins 2) one child (me) will be very sick at birth and may be for the rest of her life. I’m 29 my twin sister and I have never wanted to know him, our mother never talked bad about him when we were children although as adults we do know some shitty stuff about him. He’s best friends with my uncle and he plays the poor me their mom didn’t let me see us which wasn’t true he was always welcome however my mom had set a boundary you are either all in or not at all he can’t go back and forth ALL in emotionally physically and financially he didn’t like that so walked away
Story 6: if it was my friend who got a new gf and engaged within 9 months of breaking up with my other friend, before the divorce was even finalized, i wouldnt go to the wedding. Not bc im friends with his ex but bc its wrong and im not down to support that behavior.
Story 2: girl, its normal to feel like that ...but some caviate, look into codependency, being a codependent and codependent relationships. It is something worth working on amd will help you create stronger healthier relationships ❤😊
This was so sad for story 1 you cant miss what you never had,i truly understand how you feel,you have ideas on how a father should be but he will never be that to you.I promise you wont be jealous of your children it will however maybe reopen wounds when you see how amazing your huaband is with your kids but it will also show you how disgusting your father is for abandoning you i would write or have a face time conversation and let him know how you feel it will make you feel better
We love more THT and FKS but please don’t sacrifice yourselves for it! It can be draining to do podcasts and the burnout is real. Your mental and physical health is #1 not longer episodes 😊
Story 1: as someone who grew up without a dad and married a wonderful man who is the most amazing dad to our son, you will heal yourself and that feeling of abandonment through raising your child watching your husband be a dad. I can say first hand I’ve never felt resentful or sad that my son has what I didn’t. I feel proud that we changed the narrative and my son will never have to experience those same feelings. 🧡
Story 5 - I think you're parents are handling this completely wrong, I never realized this until I was a mom, but I think mentally the "disapointment" comes from fear, as parents (most of us) want our children to do so much better than we did in life, and not make mistakes that we thought we made... some parents struggle to separate those thoughts with the fact that its YOUR life, and you are your own person, mistakes will be made, but not all "risky" things in their eyes will turn out to be mistakes. Sure they want you to make all the money, be financially stable when they're no longer here... but there is a way to work up from almost anywhere, and you being happy is the MOST important part at this moment, and the money will come 🤍So if YOUR parents wont tell you this, this mama will, I am so proud of you... for making choices in your life that you WANT, and going for your dreams and happiness, you're doing great, and will continue to do so no matter what you do, keep your happiness at #1 and you'll be the richest person. 🤍
Story 1!! Also you're going to be a great mom. You're not going to be jealous for your kids because you'll love them so much and be happy for them. Maybe even feel closer to your husband watching him with them and the way he's a great father. Breaking the cycle and giving your kids an amazing dad could help heal as well. Wow okay brain did not brain out of the gate on that one and I wanted to make sure you heard it!!
Glad you added this bc it's what I was thinking and kinda expected one of you to get to that ... Maybe you needed Justin's presence lol ❤
Teared up reading this. Perfect advice 🤗❤️
@@lunar.mermaid I do not do well when hot haha my brain said "no 🥲"
Good addendum! There’s also room to acknowledge that she may feel flares of those jealous feelings, many parent experience triggers around their own wounds as their children grow up. This doesn’t make you a bad parent, your love is bigger than your pain and by consciously working through you will also heal alongside your children ❤️
@@FatherKnowsSomething understandable and relatable! I'm glad that you come into the comments to make the point after thinking it over. That's one thing (of many) I love about your shows 💓
About story 6, I dont think you should be friends with someone who is doing something you consider immoral, just because they havent hurt YOU personally before
Its not even about the feelings of the person they’ve hurt, its about your own values
Thissss. You should also be able to voice out your own thoughts regarding shit your friends do bc friend groups are a huge factor that influences a person's mindset and morals. The more you let shit slide bc we "don't know their relationship or dynamic", the more lenient you'll become towards the things you're turning a blind eye to. Your friend isn't a friend if they're too afraid to call you out on your own bs.
i’m here! earlyish 😂 just finished a 12 hr night shift and i’m gonna enjoy this on my hour drive home, ❤ you morgan and fam!
Oh no! I was supposed to go to bed but now I'm gonna watch FKS
Story 1: sometimes the connection we had to our parents as children doesn’t translate into adulthood, and that feeling can almost emulate grief. As we all know, people change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. That change can be so extreme that they may not even look like the person you knew as a child, so take the time to recognize the person you thought you father was/could be, and then acknowledge the person he is today. Grief isn’t linear, like Justin said one time on one of the shows: grief is like a large rock we carry in our pockets. On day one it feels incredibly heavy and uncomfortable, but as time goes on we notice the sharp edges less, and don’t pay it as much attention. That doesn’t mean we’ve forgotten about it, or how much it hurts.
I think you may be surprised just how much the little you can be healed by watching your husband parent you children. You will get to live vicariously through them, and cherish your partner even more because of how he treats your children.
Grieve the father you thought you could have. Sending you love 💕
So well said! 👏
Story 2: Find something interesting to do, or read, so then when you will reconnect with you friends you can tell them what interesting you did. Reconnecting without having anything interesting to share can be dreadful.
Morgan, I totally understood what you were saying when you said you just feel like “oatmeal” 😂 that’s how I feel about my dad too. I have an AMAZING step dad that I am so blessed to have in my life. He stepped in when my dad didn’t. ❤️
Story 1 - I think you’ll be surprised at how not jealous you’ll be of your children. My kids have everything I could have ever dreamed of and more! I (like you) had rough relationships and was pretty poor. I have a 17 year old and a 3 year old, my older daughter has all the experiences I never had, dances with dates & dresses, I’m teaching her to drive, traveling dance team, family vacays! The list goes on! Both my husband and I are loving and involved. The world you create for them will be so fulfilling. Obvi, therapy would def be a good thing if you’re sincerely worried about that, but I think you’ll be surprised. You’ll be a family. I don’t dwell on my childhood because I’m making new memories with my babies. It’s hard to explain cos I don’t live vicariously through them, I live with them. And things I dreamt about for myself are manifesting through them. I don’t regret not experiencing certain things or having certain relationships cos I have that with them. I hope all this makes sense.
Sending you love. ❤
Not you saying it’s super hot with a blanket and a hoodie 😅🤣 I love yalll lol
She's such a comfy, cosy gal ❤
Haha I had just come back inside after feeding the ponies 🙈 I was good by the end
Story 2: My best friend is also my colleague, I see her every working day and then on weekends, has gotten a new job for september and has also landed a 1month trip in Kenya from next Monday.
We've spent every summer for 4 years together because we're teachers and everybody else in our lives are working. And I am so happy for her and sad at the same time. She's going offgrid for 4 weeks and then i have a week and a half with her before she leaves. I'm going to miss my best friend and am very aware that I'm going to be lonely for 6 weeks.
I will occupy myself, but I'm going to miss her so much, we message every day, see eachother everyday and are inseparable- to know that's all changing is so sad xxxx
This is going to sound dumb, but I kinda thought that I was already subscribed since I subscribed to THT. I hit the button now Jerry!! ❤ Love you guys. Great episode
You're the best!!!
For story 3: I think it's important to keep in mind that you and your family have gone through something traumatic. Most likely your grandpa is feeling some way that's causing the fights, as well as your parents. I would suggest maybe even taking some time to care for him for a night or two if possible so your parents can get a break?
Agree! Being a fulltime care giver is hard work. It puts a hold on your own life.
So happy I made it back from camping in time for the latest episode! Hope you’re all doing great❤
love the longer episodes, thank you!
Story 6: def agree with Morgan on this one, I understand where Dad is coming from with this, the friendships are separate now- however, I do believe we owe are friends the respect of considering how our actions affect them, and if you care about maintaining a relationship with the ex-wife, it is polite to talk to her about her feelings on the matter, it may hurt her more to go to that wedding than it would hurt him for you not to attend. Or maybe not- you won’t know without talking to them.
The fact Morgan's bio dad doesn't even care enough to listen to her podcasts shows a lot.
Story 4: My therapist recommended looking through Facebook for a book club because I love reading and it’s been my savior because I feel the same way with my friendships.
Story 2: as someone who went through that growing up, it sounds close to BPD symptoms. Needing that verbal validation, always feeling like the background friend & overthinking relationships because of lack of proximity. Don't overthink it, friendships don't need to be constant contact. Having friends during school vs summer, it's fine to have different friend groups during those times too.
Story #1: I can only speak from my experience and emotions and hope it is helpful to share. I have had a similar experience with my none existent dad. I am married and have 3 children and I can tell you, it has been healing to witness and experience what a good father is. I don't feel any type of way towards my children, other than grateful. My husband has filled a void that I didn't realized was there due to not having a male father figure in my life and I am glad my children will never know what that void feels like. I am grateful my children have an awesome dad.
Oh and I still don't have a father figure, but I'm okay with that. I don't need one.
I'm early. Good morning :) Btw it's 30°C where I live and I'm already dying.
story 1: I can heavily relate. I haven’t had contact with my biological father since I was 15. I am now 27 and it took a lot of letting go to heal from the anger and hurt of having a father that completely forgot I existed and created a new family with kids who don’t even know he had me. What I can say is that now being a parent myself I know that if you truly love your child you would never go on acting as if you didn’t have a child in this world, so I don’t feel anything for a man who never acted like a father to me. I can also say I am happily married with an amazing man who is an amazing father and seeing the way he is with our daughter doesn’t make me sad, it has healed me to see what a true amazing father can be like. Wishing op a healing heart ❤
Story 1 - My mom and dad got divorced when I was 10 months old. I feel you girl. I would be a total “daddy’s girl” if given the chance. It’s a painful void to feel but truly and honestly, I think so much of you will heal in knowing your children won’t have to meet the same fate or feel the same way. I have no doubt you will encompass your children with so much love.
As for advice, I would highly recommend therapy. I have a strong fear of abandonment that has bled poorly into my relationship with my significant other and therapy has been a beautiful way to heal and mend some wounds our shitty fathers left us with. It’s taken me some time to fully recognize that my birth father was nowhere near an actually “good” dad. But I know that doesn’t reflect who I am or what I am worth in this lifetime. You are worthy of being loved, cherished, and doted over in all the ways your father didn’t. Find the strength within to combat the negative self talk that this wound has left you with. Our father’s leaving was a blessing in disguise. Longing for something they were never equipped to give us, is wasted energy. You are beautiful, worthy, and deserve to give yourself the love we both missed out on. Father figures will come with time, I promise. Really dig deep within yourself to understand this wound and again, therapy is a beautiful space to mourn and heal from this lifelong loss.
You’ve got this, beautiful. We’ve got this. 🥹❤️❤️
Good Morning!!! ☀️☀️
The camp Granada thing reminds me of the Simpsons 😂😂
Story 3: I don’t have much advice to give than what was given in the episode and in the comments. I’m more here to say that I actually know what you’re going through and if you ever need someone to talk to that has gone through the same exact thing I’m here! My grandpa is long passed (for about 4 years now) and during his final years taking care of him was no fun and put tons of stress on my family. We were in a very same situation where other family members didn’t help leaving the bulk of the work on me and my parents. It’s very hard work talking care of an elder and it’s more difficult when you know they are ready and they you don’t want to see them go. My grandpa was the same, mean to us in his final years, yelling at my parents and even me. During his last hospital visit the nurses had told us that he needed more care than we were able to give and we had to make the hard choice of putting him in a home. Looking back I think that was the best decision, he lived in that nursing home for 6 months before he passed but the relief we felt of no longer caring for him made us visiting him so much better and he was able to enjoy it more! That’s not to say he still didn’t yell at his nurses, and trust me they got pretty good Christmas gifts from us as thanks, but it was better on our relationship with him so there wasn’t strife when he passed. Again I’m here to talk if you ever would like. My Snapchat is h.marie1025
Story 6: OP should definitely find out if Max cheated. You don’t want to support an affair that caused their divorce.
Understand being done with the heat! 109° f in the Pacific Northwest today (The Columbia gorge in Oregon)
It's also winter in South Africa,but I live in a weird town, I think it has like a weather bubble, where it's not cold like the rest of South Africa or it often doesn't get to warm like the rest of the country it's almost always the same weather it just mostly depends on where the wind comes from and with that we almost get like al 4 seasons in one day the only difference is in the winter it gets a bit colder and summer it gets a bit warmer(according to Wikipedia it's because of a type of sea current that stops here because if you go like 10 km away from the town the weather matches the rest of South Africa
Edit sorry for my grammar we're in a mostly afrikaans town so I am out of practice writing and speaking english
@roelienbotha4575 bless your heart, no need to be sorry ❤
Hey sa here too
Jerry I caught the camp Granada reference lmao
Story 1: I doubt you will feel jealous toward your future kids for having an amazing dad. If you do feel jealous, it’s ok it doesn’t make you a bad parent.
You will be proud of yourself for choosing an amazing father for your children. You will love them so much that you will always want them to have a better life than the one you did in every aspect. Speaking from experience, a part of your inner child will heal when you see your partner being the best dad to your kids.
Also, you may feel angry towards your dad, once you realize how easy it is to love your children. You will notice how it shouldn’t have been so hard for him to be a good dad to you and love you.
I don’t think you ever fully heal abandonment issues, they might become lighter with time.
I think you should muster up the courage to vent out every feeling you have to your dad. Even if nothing changes, at least you’ll get it off your chest. If you write a letter like Morgan suggested, you can read the letter to him.
Best wishes to you from one fatherless girl to another.
Story 4 is oh so familiar to me. I’m going to be a senior in college in the fall. I’m also the friend that always reaches out. Trying to put myself out there bc I recently got out of a relationship. I’m looking for local events on Facebook and downloaded bumble bff. Also looking after myself. It’s hard but I read a lot, do yoga, and go for walks. I am going to try to go to a local thing twice a month, but I have social anxiety so going alone is scary :/
I hate going alone! It can be so so hard, but I will say every time I do I don't regret it. So many people came to the live shows solo and made friends. It was so magical to see. You got this! I think local things you're into are so key
That opening about the heat is too accurate i live in AZ, it gets up to 125 and a couple years ago my grandpa also passed on his motorcycle in the summer because it was too hot, rip
Story 1- I am 41. I haven't talked to my bio dad in 12 years. He did not attend my or my sister's weddings, did not acknowledge any of my 3 kids being born, has not sent me a birthday or Christmas card in YEARS and YEARS, he did not even show up to his own mother's funeral.
I put some effort in, in the past, but when I realized I was ALWAYS the one initiating contact, I decided it was his responsibilty as the parent to try if he wanted a relationship. I have other people that love me and show it. I have accepted that that is more than enough.
Hi! I need to write in... love from Vancouver Island BC! ❤
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This is my first time watching on youtube, normally i listen on apple podcasts but I do have to say the voices dont match the faces I had in my brain for them! Lbvs!
In the story with the couples.. if the man cheated on his wife or did anything shady before starting the divorce process I would NOT attend the wedding and would NOT continue the friendship with him. In my personal experience cheaters are just as bad of friends as they are romantic partners.
Story 1.at least you know your dad a bit. Mine left when I was two. I don't remember him I did write him a letter tried to get contact. He didn't care. He had moved halfway around the world and had a new family. I'm 42 now and still see father's and daughters and think I wish I had had that. Not even his parents or brother wanted to have anything to do with us. His three kids from his marriage.
But there's nothing we can do. Mine is long since dead. Maybe carma got him he died in horrific pain.
You have a new family you have your mum. He doesn't deserve to have you in his life. Enjoy your new family and try to move on.
Story 1: I’ve never personally understood why people get so upset about their father abandoning them. They obviously don’t deserve you!!
My father ditched as soon as he found out 2 things;
1) Twins
2) one child (me) will be very sick at birth and may be for the rest of her life.
I’m 29 my twin sister and I have never wanted to know him, our mother never talked bad about him when we were children although as adults we do know some shitty stuff about him. He’s best friends with my uncle and he plays the poor me their mom didn’t let me see us which wasn’t true he was always welcome however my mom had set a boundary you are either all in or not at all he can’t go back and forth ALL in emotionally physically and financially he didn’t like that so walked away
My horses like misters or a sprinkler
Story 6: if it was my friend who got a new gf and engaged within 9 months of breaking up with my other friend, before the divorce was even finalized, i wouldnt go to the wedding. Not bc im friends with his ex but bc its wrong and im not down to support that behavior.
Story 2: girl, its normal to feel like that ...but some caviate, look into codependency, being a codependent and codependent relationships. It is something worth working on amd will help you create stronger healthier relationships ❤😊
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C’est la vie - it s what it is
1:34 😂😂
This was so sad for story 1 you cant miss what you never had,i truly understand how you feel,you have ideas on how a father should be but he will never be that to you.I promise you wont be jealous of your children it will however maybe reopen wounds when you see how amazing your huaband is with your kids but it will also show you how disgusting your father is for abandoning you i would write or have a face time conversation and let him know how you feel it will make you feel better
We love more THT and FKS but please don’t sacrifice yourselves for it! It can be draining to do podcasts and the burnout is real. Your mental and physical health is #1 not longer episodes 😊
Story 1: as someone who grew up without a dad and married a wonderful man who is the most amazing dad to our son, you will heal yourself and that feeling of abandonment through raising your child watching your husband be a dad. I can say first hand I’ve never felt resentful or sad that my son has what I didn’t. I feel proud that we changed the narrative and my son will never have to experience those same feelings. 🧡
Story 5 -
I think you're parents are handling this completely wrong, I never realized this until I was a mom, but I think mentally the "disapointment" comes from fear, as parents (most of us) want our children to do so much better than we did in life, and not make mistakes that we thought we made... some parents struggle to separate those thoughts with the fact that its YOUR life, and you are your own person, mistakes will be made, but not all "risky" things in their eyes will turn out to be mistakes. Sure they want you to make all the money, be financially stable when they're no longer here... but there is a way to work up from almost anywhere, and you being happy is the MOST important part at this moment, and the money will come 🤍So if YOUR parents wont tell you this, this mama will, I am so proud of you... for making choices in your life that you WANT, and going for your dreams and happiness, you're doing great, and will continue to do so no matter what you do, keep your happiness at #1 and you'll be the richest person. 🤍