I'm as manly as a man can be but I've realized as a person with a slight level of intelligence that the people around me are absolutely toxic and don't bring anything to the table so I have to literally start again with everyone. It's a very exciting time in my life. I haven't felt this feeling since I was very young to let go of everything and starting a brand new life which is amazing
YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO MANAGE YOUR OWN EMOTIONS, THATS NOT A MAN OR WOMANS JOB BUT THE ONE WHOM IS EXPRESSING THEIR EMOTIONS. ITS CALLED RESPONSIBILITY. AS AN ADULT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN EMOTIONS. YES WE MUST BECOME AWARE OF HOW TO NAVIGATE YOUR EMOTIONS; HENSE "OWN EMOTIONS"
I 1000% agree with you on this. Of course lets say, in a marriage, there are going to be times where your wife/husband will go through traumatic things in life like losing a family member, depression, anger, etc. Yes it's their job to manage their own emotions, but you are also each others emptional support in certain situations. If that makes sense.
I like to think I have some degree of emotional intelligence, so I'll just share what happened between my ex and I that caught her so off guard. She thought she had found herself good, a man who would just take everything she put down and be grateful, no matter how little it actually was. It only took 2 months into cohabitation before there was no putting out, no help from her, no sympathy or understanding. I think it came to a surprise to her when five months later I packed my things and moved to a different apartment in a different town, almost leaving her stranded and homeless because she ignored every single one of my warnings. And they weren't vague "warning signs" either. I would sit her down, eye to eye, and spell it out for her, but I believe she thought I'd be too easy to push over. She found out quick a man with some degree of emotional intelligence doesn't let someone crush his boundaries in order to keep above him.
Wow you did the right thing brotha! I'm glad you got out of there. Women like that think they have you wrapped around their finger, but she took you for granted. Women like that will always regret losing good men.
It's not a man's job to manage a woman's emotions. Or vice versa. Supporting/validating someone as an outside source, yes. Enmeshing with someone and managing their emotions for them, no. Codependents will want to control or placate someone's sadness, anger, whatever, because it makes them uncomfortable. I've noticed sometimes our culture will slip some codependency into the man's role and responsibility. Just thought I'd throw that out there.
I totally agree! When I say a man must tend to his woman's wmotions i meant in the way of validation and making her feel heard. But yes you're correct, no one should be managing someone elses emotions. Codependency is very real💯
Everything she said 💯
Yess factsss 💯🙌🏿
She preaching 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Well said by the Queen absolutely keep on teaching responsibilities peace
Yesss facts🙏🏿❤️💯🔥
I'm as manly as a man can be but I've realized as a person with a slight level of intelligence that the people around me are absolutely toxic and don't bring anything to the table so I have to literally start again with everyone. It's a very exciting time in my life. I haven't felt this feeling since I was very young to let go of everything and starting a brand new life which is amazing
Thats an amazing place to be in brother! Wishing you all the love and blessings on your journey🙏🏿❤️💪🏿
YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO MANAGE YOUR OWN EMOTIONS, THATS NOT A MAN OR WOMANS JOB BUT THE ONE WHOM IS EXPRESSING THEIR EMOTIONS. ITS CALLED RESPONSIBILITY. AS AN ADULT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN EMOTIONS. YES WE MUST BECOME AWARE OF HOW TO NAVIGATE YOUR EMOTIONS; HENSE "OWN EMOTIONS"
I 1000% agree with you on this. Of course lets say, in a marriage, there are going to be times where your wife/husband will go through traumatic things in life like losing a family member, depression, anger, etc.
Yes it's their job to manage their own emotions, but you are also each others emptional support in certain situations. If that makes sense.
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❤️🙏🏿🙌🏿💯🔥
Amen
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I like to think I have some degree of emotional intelligence, so I'll just share what happened between my ex and I that caught her so off guard.
She thought she had found herself good, a man who would just take everything she put down and be grateful, no matter how little it actually was.
It only took 2 months into cohabitation before there was no putting out, no help from her, no sympathy or understanding. I think it came to a surprise to her when five months later I packed my things and moved to a different apartment in a different town, almost leaving her stranded and homeless because she ignored every single one of my warnings.
And they weren't vague "warning signs" either. I would sit her down, eye to eye, and spell it out for her, but I believe she thought I'd be too easy to push over.
She found out quick a man with some degree of emotional intelligence doesn't let someone crush his boundaries in order to keep above him.
Wow you did the right thing brotha! I'm glad you got out of there. Women like that think they have you wrapped around their finger, but she took you for granted. Women like that will always regret losing good men.
It's not a man's job to manage a woman's emotions. Or vice versa. Supporting/validating someone as an outside source, yes. Enmeshing with someone and managing their emotions for them, no. Codependents will want to control or placate someone's sadness, anger, whatever, because it makes them uncomfortable. I've noticed sometimes our culture will slip some codependency into the man's role and responsibility. Just thought I'd throw that out there.
I totally agree! When I say a man must tend to his woman's wmotions i meant in the way of validation and making her feel heard. But yes you're correct, no one should be managing someone elses emotions. Codependency is very real💯
I was mainly responding to the words used in the first clip. You never know what people mean in these gender wars lol
You look and sound like my friend Kerry Rampersad of Atlanta Georgia.
Everyone's got a doppelganger 😆