Atsuko Okatsuka: Documentary on my Mom and Grandma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ม.ค. 2025
- -In-Waiting
Directed by: Atsuko Okatsuka
Presented by: Yay! LA
-In-Waiting is a documentary that tells the story of a Taiwanese mother and daughter whose dynamic resemble comedic duos such as Laurel and Hardy. As they go through their day to day going to doctor's visits, hair appointments and sharing meals, it becomes apparent that I would one day have to take over for my grandmother to care for my sick mother.
More information: www.yaylamag.co...
Official Selection of:
Independent Film Festival Boston
LA Asian Pacific Film Festival
REDCAT
For more info on Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka: www.atsukocomedy.com
Your Grandmother is so special and you can see her dedication to your Mother. She reminds me a lot of my Grandma and the way she cared for my aunt. ❤
That's not caring, that is patronizing
@pi2080 if you say so 😊
She looks at you the way my mum looked at me when she had vascular dementia. She'd look at me like she was seeing someone she liked for the first time, with a tiny smile on her face.
The way your mom looks at you is so tender. It makes me cry. It is hard to be a caregiver, especially with mental illness. I admire your grandmother and her resilience. ❤
Coming from KK show. The love and proud when your mom looking at you made me cry like a child. Thank you for reminding me how important the emotions are.
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Yes the end made me cry so much. The way she looked at you with that smile❤
This is the Japanese editor who interviewed you. The foundation of your happiness is your love for your family. And full of love for your homeland. Thank you for teaching me how to live patiently as a minority, to love Asian culture, to never forget humor, and to communicate confidently to the world in English. Please tell me more about your mother and grandmother.
I love the way your grandma takes care of your mom. I feel so touched by this documentary! It is so nice to hear some Taiwanese spoken by your grandma! 😍
I find the mixture of the Mandarin and Japanese spoken by your family so interesting!
It's Taiwanese not Jap
I used to take anti-depressants for my depression and it gave me sluggish feeling, I was also forgetful and so weak, I quit taking medication because it just give me more suicidal thoughts, now, been 10 years since I stopped and I am fulfilling mommy duties to my children. hugs to everyone, hugs Atsuko
I can see how as an adult now you take care of your mom. My sister and I are taking care of our mom now and it is something we didn’t expect. Life changes every second. Thank you for sharing this documentary. You guys are helping so many people.
I hope when i get older my kids will be patient with me, I do not have mother or father my siblings are not my biological family so I have no one to take care of me, We are just poor we can't afford to be sick, your mom is so lucky to have grandma and you Atsuko. Hugs grandma
I wish you only good health and happiness, even when you get old you may never know who you will meet don't lose hope, god will always be there and I wish you the best of best dear. To be loved and taken care you don't need to be blood related dear and have faith you will be fine and loved❤❤. I love your soul for sharing your vulnerability.❤
Thank you for this inspiring words, wish I found people like you before... @@crazysingerr
Came here from your hbo special - and wow, thank you for inviting us into this glimpse of your life. I rarely leave youtube comments but felt the need to just say thank you. I cried seeing the indescribable, all-encompassing love you captured between mother and daughter, shown so distinctly in the way your grandmother fearlessly approaches strangers while speaking her second/third language so that her daughter might be able to experience what she can of this world. I saw it in the way your mother looks at you with gentleness and pride, perhaps wishing she could care for you in the way her own mother has. Thank you for sharing a piece of you and your art with the world and for bringing so much joy and laughter (and now tears!) to your fans :') Can't wait to see what you continue to do!!
Reminds me of my grandmother who passed away 25 years ago. Taiwanese grandmother so loving well-mannered, strict but protective of their grand kids.
14:24 I love how your mom smiles at the camera, i want to hug her,
Wow, I did not expect to sob like a baby watching a video on your channel, Atsuko. Your grandmother is so strong. Your family's story would make for a beautiful, poignant screenplay someday. Hugs, hugs, hugs; thank you for your comedy, and sharing a glimpse of your family with us. ❤
10:34 your mom is smiling and it touches my heart. I admire you, your grandma, you mom so much.
It’s so touching how grand mom keeps looking at you mom and your mom at you ….and you back at your mom thru your camera yet every one has a different thought but the affection and concern are common ❤
I’m on an anti-psychotic and it makes me so tired at times. So I understand why your mother is so tired. The only reason why I seem active is because I’m dramatic. I love your mom and grandma. I love their Taiwan accented Mandarin. It sounds like my accent.
할머님의 따님에대한 사랑과 그 책임감에 깊은 존경의 말씀을 올립니다. 할머니의 그 강인함과 우아함, 그리고 배려심에 감동받았답니다. 힘내서 살아야겠다는 생각이 들었어요.
Well, that's life!
Your grandmother is a very strong woman. I hope I can be half the woman she is.
You're doing good 💯 Grandma would be proud
Made me cry, but thank you. I'm half Chinese. You touched on so much. My mother passed away at age 97, 2 months ago (acute covid complicated by failure to thrive due to advanced dementia). Atsuko, I wish you all the best and much love. 🙏
The love of some parents are immeasurable! There for their child till the end of their days. This made me cry. Thank you for sharing your family with us.
I feel bad for your mother, she seems to have a lot of health issues, but your grandmother is amazing, she takes care of everything. Heart warming video.
The way your mom looks at you and smiles describes her love for ya. She must really be proud of you.
i literally have tears streaming down my face from the last scene
same
I discovered you recently as a comedian, and I started following you on Instagram. Today I discovered your mother suffers from schizophrenia; a disease my mother suffered from too. I connect to you a lot by watching this documentary, and I am very impressed by how you handle it. Seeing everything through a comedic eye, I relate to that too, but it is not always easy to do. You are very brave for documenting her illness and talking openly about it; something I have not yet been courageous enough to do. I wish you thé best, and send you my best regards ❤️
Atsuko this brought me to tears. Your grandma is so strong.
As a Japanese-Taiwanese, I am touching by how you documented your family story. It’s a deep and uneasy topic. I was planning to have some laughs, so I click your h channel. But I end up crying.
PS. Your Mandarin is so good!
Beautiful relationships between three generations, real blessings! I cried at the end, your grandmother is a superhuman ❤ I can totally sense her love for both you & your mom
What a beautiful honest documentary. Came here from watching your comedy specials and quite frankly I am surprised how delicate and moving this documentary is. I really enjoy what you put out there and there is such depth and intellect to your work that really makes me appreciate your art. Thank you so much!
I love the ending. I know the feeling of worrying for the future.
I was once surprised by your carefulness, gentleness and empathy. After understanding your story, I found that these were all gifts from your mother. She just loved you in her own way.
The great grandma, mother and you worked hard to get through the unimaginable hard times.
All of you showed the tenacity of women, just like my grandmother.
Life sucks for me now.Thank you for your story,it brings me some warmth.
Love from Taiwan❤
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The world is going quite off the rails. Sometimes finding a small hallway in which to connect... Is a real gift. ❤
Your grandmother is a noble woman. She is so good, patient and kind. You are blessed to have her in your life.❤
So good, Atsuko. Plus, it was so funny to hear her say not to buy the dish, we can make 1000 year old egg dish at home haha
我的媽媽在離世之前的幾年，狀態跟你的媽媽幾乎是一樣的，讓我想起了他.....外婆真的是一個了不起的女人，推算起來，當時的他大概70幾~80歲... 頭腦很清晰，說話邏輯正確，還是將媽媽像是小孩一樣照顧著，真的很感動!!
I miss my grandma more than anything in this world. You are so blessed to have her. She’s so amazing. She reminds me of mine so much.
Your Mom and Grandma are beautiful. They have lovely smiles. I hope they are both doing well.
Thank you for making people realise that mental illness is similar to a broken arm or leg, only there aren't any sticking out bones and no blood.
I'm all teared up. Mothers are the greatest! I can see the way your mom looked at you filming, that she is proud of you.
You're absolutely right that they would feel not to be a bother to us, her children. I see that in my own mother as well, even though she is suffering in a form of dementia right now.
Your obaasan is another incredible lady. Initially I thought she was your aunt. I wish good health to both your okasan & obaasan.
Thank you Atsuko!
Hi Atsuko! I've been watching your comedy and this video popped up. I connected with a lot of your humor but this one hits home. Taiwanese grandmas are just the best, I miss mine so much. A small thing that was really sweet for me was how your grandma spoke mandarin with you or when you were around. When she was talking with your mom, she spoke Taiwanese. I remember my grandma telling me that she learned mandarin so she could talk with me. My grandma was most comfortable speaking Taiwanese, Japanese was fine too because that was her education growing up. Mandarin was language of "the oppressors," so she never bothered with it. But she learned it for me because that was what I was taught in school. Also, my Taiwanese is not great...shame I know. The ending of the video with your grandma's voiceover is so comforting to me. Makes me remember that my grandma is/was always looking out for me. Thanks for sharing this my Taiwanese sister. You are great!
my uncle had schizo, and he refused to take medication because it made him feel like a zombie. your mom is so good even with the medication. sad to see her like this and seeing the effects that the illness have on your family. its hard, your grandma didn't give up on her, if that's not love I don't know what is. thank you for this. 🙏
Great to see three generations of women interacting so lovingly together! It really does warm the heart. Your mother was the star!😁
Thank you for sharing your family's stories with us on the KK Show. You, your mum, and your grandma are all so strong and inspiring.
I can relate to this as my husband lives with schizophrenia and epilepsy. He has so many good moments, but home life is so challenging for the kids and I when he’s not well. I can only hope that talking openly with my kids about his condition will help them understand themselves in the future. Thank you so much for this documentary.
Atsuko! What lovely footage of 3 generations of women on their daily journeys. Allowing us a peek in at the past, the present and the future is so liberating!
Well Done!
Godspeed to Beautiful Spirits!
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Thank you for sharing this intimate glimpse into your family life. I very much relate because my mom has schizophrenia and my grandma acts as her primary caretaker. My family share a very similar dynamic to yours in this film. I also expect to eventually take on the role as the primary caregiver of my mom. It's scary to think about all of the responsibility that entails but I found some comfort in this short film in knowing that I'm not alone, so thank you.
I love all of your comedy (and dancing) too! I'm a new fan who looks forward to seeing more of your works. :)
Thank you so much it's very nice to meet you too!
@@AtsukoComedy 😊
Very moving - capturing the challenges, small victories and whistles of a train reminding us of such - mental health is hard. Thank you for acknowledging the day-to-day. Thank you so much for this doc. Thank you for being you💛
What a capable woman your grandma is. This is so poignant. It reminded me of my grandma as well. ❤
aww watching this on mothers day.... this is something u can always come back and look at...
AT 22:55 I see and sense in Atsuko's Moms face that she really loves you Atsuko
Love your work and didn't know you are half Taiwanese! Thanks for sharing this intimate aspect of your family. Every family has a story to tell. I also came to the states as a kid, love to hear more of your adventures!
Your grandma's care for your mum reminds me on my past aunt who brought me up and cared for me. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt documentary of your mum & grandma. Sending love and hugs across the miles.
阿嬤真是堅強又有智慧的女人😭❤️不知道有沒有機會聽阿嬤講白色恐怖的故事，很多時候人的傷心過往是不願再碰的
I worked with folks with schizophrenia for many years and watching y’all care for and engage with your mom makes me feel very gr@teful 💜
Your story brought tears to my eyes as it reminds me of my family. Under all the bickering, there’s so much love. I remember telling my mom not to wash her hands too long and it will make her skin dry. I noticed my mom washed her hands in the same way in the for at least a couple minutes. It’s almost like she wanted to wash all the painful things away from her life although I know she has developed OCD. Thank you for letting us into a glimpse of your life.
Thank you so much for filming this. As a Taiwanese who experienced metal illness and as an immigrant from Taiwan, I’m touched by the love you have to each other, even though the ways to show your love are different but it is also made this documentary became so special. Thank you for being so kind and wonderful !❤
The conversation between your mom and grandma just remind me how my grandma and my mom was. Taiwanese, Japanese, and Mandarin all mixed together. And you also add another new ingredient like english.
I love this documentary. Thank you for making this. It reflects my life and makes me feel and see something deeply and differently. ( from Taiwan )
Thank you, your mama, and your grandmama for allowing this short film of your lives.
I love them.. God bless them..
I Loved it and smiled too when the three ladies laughed and smiled on the train ride...innocent sweet and endearing...We need to share more of this care and love to one another...even at the tiniest or simplest level. To share and experience these simple pleasures, especially with our youth, so that they may learn and experience this love and care for one another, even towards a stranger that could also become a friend. This applies all the way to our elders too. Live life with the Golden Rule, much more enjoyable.
What a beautiful, poetic and touching tribute to the matriarchs in your family. A powerful film - I can see this screened at film festivals, especially APIA specific ones where a wider audience can connect to those intimate moments you shared.
Thanks for making such an honest film covering topics on mental illness, aging, family, cultural/ generational differences and immigrant life in the US- these experiences all need to be more visible and discussed on our society still today.
I’m excited by the innovative work you’re doing in media and comedy. Keep up the great work! You are truly inspiring :)
謝謝妳影出了每個家庭不同的故事，也讓我反思了很多，也很欣賞你的樂觀和幽默面對人生的方式。
媽媽雖有點特殊，但感受的到媽媽很愛很愛Atsuko ，不管看了幾次都還是很感動
Omj, I cry cuz when I saw your grandma…. she is so strong woman and your family love each other 🥹🥹😭😭even I feel that your grandma love your mom so deep…hope you have a good day ❤
I was so happy to have stumbled upon this! I was looking you up on TH-cam because I really love your comedic style but finding this was exactly what I needed. I recently had to take over care fro my sister with mental illness and she is remarkably similar to your mother and her dynamic with my mother. this made me feel seen and I feel stronger knowing someone like you also knows this journey. thank you so much for sharing such an intimate part of your life!
Thank you for sharing this; I had a father with Schizophrenia and wasn't told when it was discovered by the army who sent him into war; only when my Mother investigated did we find out...Unfornutnately, he never went on meds but instead self medicated and was awfully cruel to his wife and children...I formed a hatred for not only my father but this illness as well...I cried because I saw her love for you in every smile and stare, the want and longing to be closer...I have BPD, and I sometimes have that same look, that same longing; Mental Illness sucks...
Of all videos, this is my favorite. You're a wonderful comedian, and your comedy videos are great; but this is so artful and pure. It's an entirely different thing. It makes me feel so at peace.
I cried so hard watching this documentary. So real, filled with love and filming this must’ve been so tough. Would love to see an updated version. You captured so many emotions in varying degrees. The strength of Asian women, their ability to stay private and to not draw attention reminded me so much of my mother. Being Japanese myself and losing my mother two years ago this documentary filled my heart with joy and also sadden me. Mental health is real and what you conveyed in this shows much of the helplessness we feel as we struggle with such issues. Extremely powerful and thank you for taking the risk and sharing apart of you and your family.🥹🙏🫶🏻
thank you for sharing part of your life and theirs with us. it feels special to be let in
thanks so much for watching Tiffany!
Went to your show in Atlanta (Buckhead) Saturday & TH-cam knew I needed more Atsuko content apparently. My 80yo mother lives with me now & her mannerisms are much like your mother’s. I’m the parent in our relationship, and we resided in non-conforming spaces too. I’m not always as patient as you seem to be in this video, nor as funny - but I’m more open about my background thanks to people like you.
I'm not always as patient either. We're all doing the best we can! Thanks for coming out to the show. It was a blast ♥️
Thank you for filming this. I could see the gentleness and love from your mum's gaze, so much behind those eyes, unspoken yet so loud ❤. The way she calls you Atchan ❤. Your grandma is a superwoman for sure! The bicker between them - so relatable to my own family!! I feel its the asian household thingy, everything stems from so much love, fear, worry that it all comes out as annoyed, frustrated, "why dont u listen to me!" expressions 😅
So beautiful. I cried at the end. Thank you for this. 🙏💜🙏🌸
All of this, I understand it so well. You are not alone.
It's strange, it feels like I know your mother from this tiny glimpse into her life you gave us. That's how similar she seems to be to my own.
From the stubborness right down to the creative bone ^^
I wish you and your family all the happiness and good fortune in the world, despite everything.
You are good people
This is very heart warming. I always heard that god was a way to show love and connection with others. Maybe that’s why your Mom preferred your grandmothers cooking. They seem like such sweet ladies. Thank you for sharing this. It was a beautiful thing to wake up to and watch ❤
I find the tram ride at the end, so very, very interesting. The way your Mom is looking at you, Atsuko. I see a Mother looking at her child but I also see that same Mother as a child looking at her Mother. I see questioning. Why are we on this ride? I see concern. The road is bumpy, I need to hold on. Are we going to be ok? I see a slight smile. I see, oh we made it. We are going to be ok.... Looking at her Mother, taking the bag and looking back at her daughter. Here we go again...
Thank you for sharing this incredible insight into many ppl’s lives
Had tears after watching! So real and touching
Thank you so much for making and sharing this intimate film. It is simplistic yet so powerful. Such a fine line to walk. I could not stop myself from tearing up at the end. Very powerful and engaging . Thanks again.
Thanks for this video. Helps me anticipate growing old with my schizophrenic younger sister
Beautiful. Three strong ladies ❤
Thank you for sharing Okatsuka-san, my family is Japanese I enjoy. I have to laugh some, because so many things here that many American don't understand. Only "Japanese" type interaction and behavior. Makes me smile.
This reminds me of my mom and my auntie who is living with us. Watching this brought me to tears and as much as I never spoke about it. I'm so proud that you documented it down and telling the world they are not alone in this. Thank you for bringing me tears of joy and tears of being relatable.
Coming from Kk show, too. Gotta show my respect for your grandma. She's so tough! Thank you for sharing this with us. Wish all is well.
A very beautiful and moving film. Thank you for sharing a glimpse of your family with everyone.
I’m crying watching this. I love how your mom looks at you (camera) with a smile and such endearing eyes. I miss my grandma and mama. I wish I could’ve documented them too like this. Thank you for sharing them. I’m happy to see you succeeding and I’ll definitely try to get tickets to your Taipei show, March 11th! ❤😊
Deeply heartfelt! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
This made me tear up. You all take care of each other so well, but your grandmother's last lines punched me. My brother has schizophrenia and it's a worry for me when my mother and I pass... sometimes, I hope he passes before me just so I won't have to worry about him without us there to take care of him...
Your comment made me cry . My son has schizophrenia and I don't know which would be worse , to lose him or leave him behind with no one ..
❤atsuko ,come here from the kk show,this mini documentary is so true and honestly so touching. Sorry for what happened to your family back then. I see an amazing grandma ,a fragile mama and a great child in the film. Hope everything goes well with your family. Best wishes.
I love the Asian businesses that they go to. Really enjoyed learning a little about you’re world
The way she looks at you is so full of emotion. Somehow I understand my mom so much more or maybe I mean I feel for her a lot more. ❤❤❤ this is beautiful
Poignant, elegantly filmed, evoking melancholy emotions, witnessing tender private moments , job well done! Thank you for this. My world was made more beautiful for having this shared with me today. Gonna live my mom extra from now on. Thank you again
Thank you for making this. My sister has bipolar and lives with our mum, but I think bout the future a lot.
we need more of mom and grandma!!!!🧡
Atsuko, just surprised your grandma's Mandarin and Taiwanese is this good, goodness, she is a very authentic local Taiwan lady. I'm literally treating this documentary as my Taiwan drama.
Coming here from KK show. The dinner time make me remember my granny and also the end of the documantary already let me cry like a child.
Thank you for sharing. My mom has a dementia. It was hard to see my mom don't remember anything, but I appreciate she still lives her life.
I first learned about you from your tiktok video (Beyoncé) and I thought you blew up from there. It wasn’t until a little after that that I found out you have been an entertainer for much longer. This video is very sweet.
No matter how old we get, we always have a mother, daughter relationship. The bickering between mother and daughter is funny and heartwarming. Mothers can be annoying and daughters can also be annoying 😂❤.
Thank you for sharing a glimpse into the realities of caring fo a loved one with mental illness.
Your Mom is very pretty. Her smile is sweet. God bless all three of you. 🙏😊
Moving and beautiful. Thank you.