From Good Enough to Irresistible | Don't Let Anyone Treat You Like You're Ordinary

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ต.ค. 2024
  • We hear a lot about the importance of not settling in relationships, but the concept of what it means to settle for someone or to be the person someone settles for is extremely misunderstood. Some people still believe that unless you look like a magazine cover or someone’s exact fantasy, you’ll never be more than a placeholder-but that’s far from the truth. The reality of life is, for all sorts of reasons, some women are treated exceptionally well in relationships, some are treated poorly and most fall somewhere in between.
    And while some women are happy with that in-between status, others yearn to join the women who are treated extraordinarily well, but don’t know how. That’s why today, we’re diving deep into the "good enough" girl dynamic, because while many, if not most relationships fall into the good enough category, it’s also the easiest category to elevate from-if you choose to take that step.

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  • @TheFeminineUniverse
    @TheFeminineUniverse  หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    Hi ladies! I took a couple of extra days to try to fit as much as I could into this one. I wanted to be as thorough as possible for all my ladies who feel like they end up in this category.
    Leave me any additional questions you have on this topic, and I'll address them in the next livestream! 💕💕

  • @cherissewilliams8748
    @cherissewilliams8748 หลายเดือนก่อน +201

    Most of the time women who are being treated like they're basic, treat themselves like they're basic. How can you want some to do the most for you, when you're not willing to do the most for yourself!??? 🤯🤯🤯
    I feel called out, speechless and thankful at the same time

    • @sagittariusbeauty
      @sagittariusbeauty หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      You’re really pretty and also so right! I’m working on this with myself

    • @slayfaee
      @slayfaee หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Yes!! Also you are so gorgeous!!

    • @clementinabusayo
      @clementinabusayo หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree she is​@@slayfaee

    • @jadajackson1740
      @jadajackson1740 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Self centered! 😊

  • @estherjohannes1355
    @estherjohannes1355 หลายเดือนก่อน +119

    Dear internet big sister, I am so glad that I found you at 26, at a stage in my life where I am on a journey of self-discovery. Love, from Namibia.

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Happy you're here, sis! Self-discovery and self-love as a foundation will make your entire life easier. Cheers to your journey! 🥂💕

    • @drickascorner
      @drickascorner หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Turning 26 tomorrow! So happy I came across this video 🤞🤞

    • @estherjohannes1355
      @estherjohannes1355 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheFeminineUniverse you are the best thing to happen on TH-cam ❤️

  • @dhd3491
    @dhd3491 หลายเดือนก่อน +89

    Girl I have learned this now. Just told a guy that I like being spoiled and like pleased.
    Explained it and he got it. I'm not settling for no random body.

    • @nicoleblake2700
      @nicoleblake2700 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Treated well* being spoiled creates poor character. You should aim for being treated well with respect and love. True love. A man can spoil and waste your time but a man who treats you well is a man who is intentional with his words and actions.

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      U dont even need to say that at all. Lolol ur aura will attract the guy that will do that n more. All my bfs have taken good care of me. My husband adores me n i only picked him cos I have so much admiration n respect for him. I told him after 4 dates that I admired him. But I did not sleep with him for 3 months so he thought I h8ed sxx, but he stuck around lolol n found out dat i loved sxx. I dont know how to explain it but its ur aura that informs the kind of men that talk to u. From an African girl❤❤❤

    • @Liz-ic6jb
      @Liz-ic6jb หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I know you're learning, but you shouldn't have to tell a man that. It should be obvious the way you look and carry yourself that you have high standards. And over time you should learn to pick men that are the type to normally spoil, wine and dine women

  • @aeiou0123
    @aeiou0123 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I have been treated especially well. Its about your aura n self care.

  • @thehaweseffect
    @thehaweseffect หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    I ❤ me
    Currently dating a guy who literally just told me that he loves the fact that I love myself...he continued to say that women do not like themselves and they know it
    He just surprised me with a dozen of roses and orchids on Wednesday and on Friday he bought me another dozen of roses and a different color orchids
    💕
    I'm the main character 💋 and he knows ✌

    • @denisebrock3154
      @denisebrock3154 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sit back and enjoy the special treatment! You deserve it!❤

    • @thehaweseffect
      @thehaweseffect หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@denisebrock3154 thank you 💕

  • @PrepperRapperFairy
    @PrepperRapperFairy หลายเดือนก่อน +146

    We are soo happy to have YOU here ❤

  • @sagittariusbeauty
    @sagittariusbeauty หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    ✨Thank you for this! I’ve been treating myself as basic (sometimes even below basic) while treating others better, and embarrassingly hoping for them to treat me better. It’s time to STOP, also self-centered.✨

    • @arkangelmerici1170
      @arkangelmerici1170 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      That's right! Put yourself in that pedestal!

    • @sagittariusbeauty
      @sagittariusbeauty หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@arkangelmerici1170 💖💞

  • @rorenee5245
    @rorenee5245 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    Self-centered 💜

  • @pumpkinseed5498
    @pumpkinseed5498 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I can't thank God enough for TH-cam and TFU... literally bridging all the gaps in my understanding of HOW to holistically be the woman of my dreams. Every time I watch a video from this channel, I feel bold and encouraged, in a good way. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart 💚🧡💛

  • @alishak4061
    @alishak4061 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I would love a self-centered video!!! As someone who has been single for 5 years, no dates nothing. this video is what I would love to see.

  • @viviancovington7813
    @viviancovington7813 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Self-Centered… Let’s get that video rolling! 😊❤
    P.S. Your notes & graphics are always on point.

    • @TheeCheleMarie
      @TheeCheleMarie หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Top tier for sure!! ❤

    • @TheMuzik05
      @TheMuzik05 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes , waiting for the self centered video too ! 😊

  • @EdelweisSusie
    @EdelweisSusie หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    If ever there was a day I needed to hear this, it's today. I've been feeling really emotional about my ex and wondering why I'm constantly being abandoned and so much of this video resonated with me. My problem is that I'm very humble but now I recognise I've always put the man first (I listen to his issues without him hearing mine; not setting boundaries; having no requirements ie letting the relationship drift without him getting divorced or offering commitment). WOW - what an utter idiot I've been. Thank you so much. Lesson learned!

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You were probably conditioned to be that way. Thankfully this platform has shown us both the error of our ways ❤

  • @PreppyPrincess777
    @PreppyPrincess777 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    I’m so excited when you upload!🎉

  • @arkangelmerici1170
    @arkangelmerici1170 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Thank you! I've been building my wardrobe piece by piece and also started changing things around my place it feel more confortable and nice to be in.

  • @susannpatton2893
    @susannpatton2893 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I've been married twice.
    One bad bad man
    One good man that I let go of
    I'm single and ok with it.
    I'm able to spoil myself and live where I wanted to live. ❤
    Sometimes, you have to love yourself more.

  • @SaidaAbdulaziiz
    @SaidaAbdulaziiz หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I love you, like for real i love your ideas, your presentation, your opinions, your voice and everything. When I hear you i autamatically be the best version of myself. Thank you for being there for me and us. God bless you endlessly ❤❤❤

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Wow, thank you! That's truly my goal - helping us tap into the best versions of ourselves. Cheers to that and cheers to you!🥂

  • @dionne2k
    @dionne2k หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Preach sis!! Self centered!! ❤

  • @viviancovington7813
    @viviancovington7813 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Self-Centered… Let’s get that video rolling! 😊❤

  • @boipelokgoathe5023
    @boipelokgoathe5023 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I love your delivery on these videos. Learning about femininity has been so uplifting and has me feeling all confident. I see a lot of my childhood hobbies popping up ever since I've started this journey. I have a gym membership now and started writing poetry.

  • @kamikazipeace2603
    @kamikazipeace2603 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    We have missed you 😢

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Missed you too! So glad things are getting back to normal💕

  • @laurasilola2403
    @laurasilola2403 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm so glad i found this channel at 19 yrs it's been a great inspiration for me in every aspect of my life representing the Kenyan flag 🇰🇪 much love ❤

  • @DanyelleHygrade
    @DanyelleHygrade หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I absolutely adore this channel it has inspired me so much.

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  หลายเดือนก่อน

      These words mean so much to me, Danyelle! 🥰

  • @angelphilbert1200
    @angelphilbert1200 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Self-Centered. I must acknowledge that the video shows you did a lot of research to create this presentation. I subscribed.

  • @kiaracollier7290
    @kiaracollier7290 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Man you called me out in this video. I focused so much on him that it was detrimental. 😮

  • @zothilemkhize8523
    @zothilemkhize8523 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Yesss sis thank u for this video, I've never been in a relationship before but I've seen most of the women around me being treated as basic, so I am thankful that there is a way I can avoid falling into that same scenario

  • @DivinelyK-bp3mg
    @DivinelyK-bp3mg หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you!! Self centered ❤

  • @TheeCheleMarie
    @TheeCheleMarie หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    OMG TFU, you hit this video out of the park as usual. You really have me doing some self reflection and I love it! You’re such a gem! Thank you for all you do! 🥰
    Oh and, SELF-CENTERED!! 💗💕🥂

  • @AyaMohamed-mj2fx
    @AyaMohamed-mj2fx หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    That was a very comperhensive guidance, and better yet : with actionable steps (and I think it will be effective inshaallah).
    Thank you so much for these amounts of informations !❤
    Yes SELF CENTERED please ❤ can't wait.

  • @thepineapple8434
    @thepineapple8434 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I needed to hear that. Unfortunately I was taught is is superficial and arrogant to take care of ourselves as women. So I definitely became the practical, low maintenance type.

  • @marieclaire6060
    @marieclaire6060 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Love this!!❤.. " self centered "

  • @angelictrigg3688
    @angelictrigg3688 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This video inspired me. It reminds me to reflect on myself and realize that I need to carry myself with more confidence and self-love. It's important to think highly of yourself so you can attract people who recognize your worth and treat you with the same respect you have for yourself.

  • @vitoriamorenacarvalho
    @vitoriamorenacarvalho หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I am so happy you're back!

  • @FabeFangs
    @FabeFangs 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I really like your video's! Clear and concise, pleasant to look at and your voice is calm and pleasing to the ear. Keep up the good work 😉

  • @hnn254
    @hnn254 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Self Centred in the best way❤

  • @daniellerola6637
    @daniellerola6637 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    So glad to see a new video from you! I kissed your content. This one was a real eye opener. I'm not currently in a relationship at the moment but it's great information for the future. Plus I feel that a lot of this can be transitioned over to other types of relationships, such as friendships in perhaps a less intense format. I will have to think on the being medium maintenance concept. I think I've been a little too free with access to my time and energy.

  • @ShaySunshyne
    @ShaySunshyne หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I’ve never clicked on a video so fast 😂😂

    • @ucy8057
      @ucy8057 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too! I just love this lady so so so much.

  • @margret-marynwaiwu9810
    @margret-marynwaiwu9810 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Self-centered
    Thank you for this video❤

  • @Toronto_Steppers
    @Toronto_Steppers หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yay! A new video. I’m gonna wait till I’m on the treadmill to watch this. Your video helps me get through my tough workouts.

  • @clementinabusayo
    @clementinabusayo หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Listening to this just made me realize how much I have missed you

  • @TashyBabeCave
    @TashyBabeCave หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Self Centered❤❤❤

  • @jessicasprague51
    @jessicasprague51 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Fantastic video! Im definitely someone who refuses help after being raised to be hyper independent and self sufficient. Constantly working on this and cannot wait to start saying yes to my mans offers and help ❤️ thank you for your help

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glad this spoke to you, Jessica! I hope that allowing yourself to say yes more often helps you feel even more valued and cared for and helps your man feel empowered to show up for you even more in your relationship! 💕

  • @le7644
    @le7644 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much- you are helping so many women all over the world!!! I have helped me 😊

  • @ishaw500
    @ishaw500 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I appreciate the multiple visual representations to show what you’re speaking about.

  • @beepbobeep4594
    @beepbobeep4594 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m so glad you’re back! I’ve been waiting earnestly 💓

  • @lauriejordan2716
    @lauriejordan2716 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I would love to see a video on healthy self-centeredness.

  • @LeniqueKintea
    @LeniqueKintea 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I don’t know if anyone’s mentioned it, but your voice is very soothing.

  • @Marine-el2sx
    @Marine-el2sx 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I definitely want this self centered guide. Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @bookbutterfly2408
    @bookbutterfly2408 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Definitely self-centred! And thanks again for another well researched & and put-together video! ❤

  • @mrssession29
    @mrssession29 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your videos are getting better and better❤ . I have always been a fan but you are really out doing yourself in this video❤. Keep up the good work Sis Star✨

  • @nailahsuccess7785
    @nailahsuccess7785 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Self Centered thank you!❤❤

  • @gingerjohnson4130
    @gingerjohnson4130 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Self Centered. Thanks so much! 💚👑💎

  • @thebeautyspace
    @thebeautyspace หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Self Centered Queen all the way 😂❤❤❤❤

  • @addvalue4773
    @addvalue4773 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your videos are my only source of elevation, thank you so much from the bottom of my heart
    Also I want to ask you if you can share with us some effective treatments to reach a flawless skin, I don't know where to start from

  • @shibahenry
    @shibahenry หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Self-Center ❤

  • @zi7052
    @zi7052 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great video! Self centred 😘

  • @ayamusic21
    @ayamusic21 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I've been enjoying your content since the beginning. 😀 Will you do a video on feminine hobbies? Thank you!

  • @vashandacausey4922
    @vashandacausey4922 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Self Centered ❤

  • @Christyone
    @Christyone หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Self Centered
    I am sooo angry that I allowed myself to be a good enough girl. I hate that for me so much.

    • @rekanova3757
      @rekanova3757 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There's always time to change and pour into you!

  • @AquariusOcean
    @AquariusOcean หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    SELF CENTERED ✨

  • @jesspk9515
    @jesspk9515 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I clicked so fast when I saw that you had a new video! 😭

  • @mfati9077
    @mfati9077 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Self Centred❤

  • @uyai-abasibassey4617
    @uyai-abasibassey4617 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This voice is always so soothing ❤

  • @caterinabanella9259
    @caterinabanella9259 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are great! Self centered please!!! Can't wait to get your ideas! Thank you so much and greetings from Roma!

  • @garcia13laura
    @garcia13laura หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Self centered 🥰 thank you for blessing us with your content

  • @misselle1430
    @misselle1430 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Ladies.
    Please have high standards for yourselves. That's it ... that's ny 2 cents on this.
    The day a man or anyone else tells you that you have high standards amd you know you do and they are realistic .... be proud of yourself.

  • @tonjawade9037
    @tonjawade9037 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Self Centered!!!

  • @agnescampbell7692
    @agnescampbell7692 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Self Centered 🙌

  • @ShonaMT
    @ShonaMT หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Self centred ❤

  • @mariamdawson2239
    @mariamdawson2239 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Each time you use Honda I can’t stop laughing 😂😂😂 it really funny ❤❤❤

  • @MarthaMoreno-p9h
    @MarthaMoreno-p9h 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So grateful for this video ❤

  • @reddrose9197
    @reddrose9197 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Self Centered ❣️

  • @Toronto_Steppers
    @Toronto_Steppers หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Did anyone else click the like button before even watching the video? lol

    • @alicekamara602
      @alicekamara602 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I did 😅 I always know I’m going to love the video content so I click the like button before starting to watch. As usual, I’m not disappointed ❤🎉

    • @gaynellebeckles1329
      @gaynellebeckles1329 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Most definitely.

    • @Nicki_____Rose
      @Nicki_____Rose หลายเดือนก่อน

      Always

  • @Naomily
    @Naomily หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Self-centered. So ready to learn more from you! ❤

  • @aprilshowers00
    @aprilshowers00 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Self-Centered 💖

  • @pulengmofokeng6052
    @pulengmofokeng6052 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love it for us ❤️❤️😍...queen and main character energy

  • @alluretaylour
    @alluretaylour หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Self Centered 🖤

  • @natashasoteli2915
    @natashasoteli2915 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Self...Centered

  • @PrettyBlackAnjel
    @PrettyBlackAnjel 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Self-centered. VERY Confident 💜

  • @yaniremarquez771
    @yaniremarquez771 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are the women that I look at for learning❤️

  • @marialucas1810
    @marialucas1810 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Self Centred!🙏

  • @puffsofthought
    @puffsofthought หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would like to learn to be self-centered in a good way. I have not been giving myself the treatment I would like but I’m ready to make some changes

  • @Ms.EJLewis
    @Ms.EJLewis หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Best advice EVER

  • @LovingGod1
    @LovingGod1 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I need more of this video I'm married. Thank you 🙏

  • @abigailprice6997
    @abigailprice6997 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Self-centred 💛

  • @ucy8057
    @ucy8057 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you girl!❤

  • @veemalcom
    @veemalcom หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Self-centered❤

  • @HeksyMagic
    @HeksyMagic หลายเดือนก่อน

    New subscriber and so excited for all your videos 🫶💕 love your Chanel! Makes me feel recharged ✨

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Welcome the family, love! So glad you're enjoying the content. Looking forward to interacting with you more 💕

  • @LindsayGrandberry
    @LindsayGrandberry หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow!! So powerful!!!! Great research!!!! xoxo

  • @gigglegirl177
    @gigglegirl177 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love this, can you do one on friendships?

  • @maryan782
    @maryan782 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love you girl ❤❤❤
    thanks for the big sister advice

  • @poshposh7609
    @poshposh7609 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you❤

  • @LilGothLollipop
    @LilGothLollipop หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Self-Centered 💙💙

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    13:37 -13:55 it is a proven fact that we have more respect for, are more connected to, and value the things and people we invest in the most!

  • @chrystal173
    @chrystal173 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Self centred!!!❤

  • @Willa_TheCreatrix
    @Willa_TheCreatrix หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you! ❤

  • @tina7985
    @tina7985 หลายเดือนก่อน

    very much on point ❤

  • @xoxo_melanne
    @xoxo_melanne หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Self centered!🥰❤️

  • @prettystaslkirk
    @prettystaslkirk หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    ❣️self centered❣️

  • @fashiongoddezz3462
    @fashiongoddezz3462 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    yesss Self centered!