Becoming Self Centered Will Change Your Life | 4 Tips to Do It Right!
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From as early as we can remember, we can probably recall being taught not to be selfish. Being taught to care, share and tend to the needs of others. Some of us may have even been taught that putting the needs of others before our own is the best path to being a good person and having happy relationships. While these behaviors are noble and absolutely necessary sometimes, many women learn the hard way that living that way full time without prioritizing yourself and your needs actually leaves you exhausted, depleted and resentful.
On the other hand, when done correctly, becoming self-centered can lead to happiness, success and fulfillment that most people never tap into in their lifetime. It can actually be the single best thing you can do for yourself, for your goals, and for all the relationships in your life. If you want to learn more about being self-centered, to release any guilt for taking care of yourself and to embrace the idea that by centering yourself, you can actually allow everything else in your life to improve, let’s get into it!
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As women, prioritizing ourselves is a life SAVER esp when we are conditioned to put ourselves last!
Recovering people pleasers unite!! We were told to put ourselves last - but no more! It’s a game changer - call me selfish anyday. I take it as a compliment now because I know myself and how I treat the people who love me. Everyone’s opinion doesn’t matter 🤷🏾♀️
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Same here ! It’s a struggle but necessary ! Can’t give it all to anyone anymore. Got to give it to our beautiful self ❤
That’s right! Even in the Bible it says “love thy neighbor as thyself” how can we even know how to love others if we don’t love and care for ourselves!
This is truly a great video.
Well said! I don't understand why people always sleep on that part.
Glad you enjoyed this one, love💕
its good to love yourself but.
The Bible teaches that Self-Centeredness is a sin because it leads to self-gratification and an overlooking of others' needs. The Bible also teaches that self-centeredness is antithetical to the teachings of Scripture.
My parents sometimes tell me that I am selfish. But I know it is not true. I do care about other people, but in moderation. I just don’t do things I 100% don’t want to do and if i know it will make me feel resentful. I have my own priorities in life and I can’t break my own rules just to make them feel good. But again I am kind to others, I don’t like hurting others feelings. I consider myself lucky to know and feel when I need to stop and where this resentment-line is
Tell them Selfish or Selfcare. That usually shut them down❤
I let go. I suffered. I’m aware of me now, I focus only on me. I am selfish intentionally. I am comfortable with it.
You have to stop asking people for things you refuse to give yourself! IT STARTS WITH YOU!
I love how you explained this in a positive way. The imagery, the examples, you've done it again sis.
Challenge accepted! Re-focusing on pouring into me❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled that the message resonated with you. It's powerful to realize that our journey starts within. Embracing self-love and investing in yourself truly transforms everything. I'm here cheering you on as you refocus on pouring into yourself! ❤
I struggle so much with this, I can never understand if I’m taking care of myself or just being selfish.
I find that it helps to look at situations objectively, like an observer. Would you justify the person who acts or wants to act like you do? Or would you judge them as being selfish? Hope this helps 😉
There is something I have learnt from my student fellowship 😊, you cannot give others what you don't have. If you don't love yourself you can't love others. If you don't care for yourself you can't care for others. The love for others is a function of the love for yourself.
When in doubt, be selfish. Don’t go by that to your kids if you’re a parent. 😂
One thing I’m teaching my daughter who are very young is that they can tell me no(to negotiables), and they do not have to share even with each other. Im also teaching them just because your saying no made someone cry doesn’t mean you have to then say yes because they are sad or angry. I want them to learn early the difference between selfish and prioritizing their needs and wants above anyone else’s. I reminder them of that when someone else says no. So much growth. As a mother I adore my babies yet I put myself first so that I can pour into them from a full cup. I let them see me do self care activities they participate for them, I do their nails, etc moms your children are you hearts, pride and joy remember to prioritize you.
Great topic. It's insane how many women I've come across in my lifetime who made it seem like I was a horrible person because I take care of myself (including my body) before taking care of others. We are always taught to put everyone else ahead of us, but I've never seen those results end well. I've had people look at me like was nuts because I excercise on a regular basis. I've responed, "My overall health is important to me. Its not about how I look, its about taking care of myself. I cannot take care of other people if I am messed up myself." and this is something I had to start applying to other areas of my life outside of fitness.
Stay feminine, stay focused, and have fun! -lovely! You are appreciated!
This really resonated with me. I am a people pleaser and it is slowly killing me. I find myself annoyed and frustrated with people all the time. I give generously to people who won’t even return my phone calls. The epiphany I had was that I’m not worthy of love so I’ve settled for being useful. . . for being used.
I love how you have the difference between self obsessed vs self absorbed. A lot of people get them confused, I can say I’m self obsessed MY world revolves around me, but the amount of self absorbed people in the world is getting out of control and it’s such an unattractive trait to have. People really be out here wanting you to do for them without considering you.
I am listening to this on my first ever Hot Girl Walk lol I am eating cleaner and committing to a workout routine so challenge accepted!!!
Yesss! Come through hot girl walk! Love all of this for you💕
Sending consistency, results and fulfillment your way!
I am joining u next week, Hot mama era loading 😂😂😂
Challenge Accepted! it's about time I get myself together and start to truly take life seriously.
as a recovering people pleaser I literally have this vid on repeat every day because it hit like a truck.
I already renovating my house (starting with my room), buying new things for myself, donating stuff I don't want anymore.
I also started new hobbies like painting, something I wanted to do for decades.
Guess why I didn't do it before? Because I wasn't self-centered. And it brought me nothing but defeat.
Challenge accepted with the help of God
These videos are really helpful for those who don’t have families to speak into their lives, but yet have to have mentors that are passed away. I will never know them. Thank for the new upload.
I had the words "It starts with you" tattooed on my collarbone a year ago. My reminder that I have to do better than what my mother, her mother and her mother etc got.
Hey, girl! ❤ I haven't commented on anything of yours in a while. Challenge accepted! I spent nearly my whole life taking care of nearly everyone else but myself. I already knew i needed to take more time for self care, but its so hard because that's how ive been wired since i was a little girl, taking on the role as not only the oldest child in my family who had to set example for my younger sisters,but as a second mom and being a latchkey kid. Sadly, the long term effects carried into my adult life .But I needed to hear this . Thanks again!
Saweeetie exudes this. She always give main character energy!!
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Challenge accepted! Love your neighbour as yourself doesn't mean you have to make yourself ill or can't have boundaries- sometimes it's a kind "No thank you, i don't want a sugar crash later" or "That's something that I'm not comfortable doing because of my beliefs, thank you for thinking of me though". I do a lot of things, faith based and otherwise for others but my gym time (sometimes very early to fit around responsibilities), hair appointments and derm appointments are not negotiable unless there's a major crisis
The best thing ever. I have been doing this for a couple of months Now. Finding time and spending time for myself. I care about, and I do love people, but I take care of myself
So glad you posted! I love your videos and they have changed my life. Please keep posting!! 🥺 Hopefully one day you can post on Spotify too!
It really makes my day to know these videos help! It's been a slow process, but the podcast process is in the works. More to come, love😘
Challenge accepted! An incredible video as always. I love how you always go deeper. The bit with the you've heard the say no to things that don't serve you was great, I'm always ready for actionable advice.
She's bacccccckkk ❤❤❤❤
Heyyyy, my love! Getting back to the regular schedule! 💕
Yes!!! I missed you!!! Sooooooo happy!!
Am so happy for the new video ❤ thanxs beautiful
I’m so happy to be here! I was up for hours unable to sleep. Mind racing, thoughts all over and anxiety on defcon 5. Thank you for this, I’ve pulled myself together lol!!!
This is the best advice ever and it's arrived at just the right time. So grateful for you!
These are literally my favourite videos from the feminine universe ❤
Challenge accepted !!! Thank you for this video !! I feel like every time I watch your videos it hits home for me. So relatable to where I am in life. Thank you Fr your videos help me a lot.
Your video clips are always so on point and very helpful in understanding what you're saying I love it!
You are amazing, I love your videos, imagine if everyone lived by the information you share in your videos, the world would be a different place ❤
You are the absolute best! It's been so long since your last video so I was sooo excited to see this one when it dropped. Look forward to the next video and anything else you drop! Please never stop doing this videos.
This is so perfect because I started the 75 hard challenge today as well!! We got this sisters. Challenge accepted!! ❤ 💪🏾
I appreciate you 💝 Thank you so much for sharing this information I definitely needed this and in the mist of working on this! In this season in my life 🤍🏆🙏🏼
Love your channel so much. Thank you for always putting together such thoughtful, visually appealing videos 🥰🫶🏽
Challenge accepted! Thank you so much for these videos! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾So much wisdom being imparted to us!
I used to be so good at prioritizing myself and doing self care but now I’m a mom to a one year old and have hardly anytime to myself 😢
I can understand this. When my children were small it was a struggle just to find time to bath never mind anything else, please remember it does get easier. Hang in there it does get easier. Xx
@@Thesignarizzler123thanks so much! Yeah I’m really struggling and feel like a shell of a person.
Give yourself grace. Not being able to sleep a solid 7-8 hours makes any task difficult. Are you nursing? How old are you? Do you have any other kids? Work? All these things make prioritizing self hard.
So glad you posted this topic. I was always so ready to give, and getting nothing in return! Thanks for this amazing topic. ♥️✨😮💋🌹🌹🌹
The intro got me tearing up. I guess this really hit me hard. Thanks sis❤️
Perfect video to start the week with❤really excited about this it's really what I wanted to hear😊
You've got this, babe! Pour into YOU 🥂💕
@12:58 i just ❤ love love how you articulated that!
I looooooove you and your channel!!! Big hugs from Denmark😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The right kind of self centred ..... Amen!
I still struggle to make myself a priority but I want to change that starting now!
challenge accepted! love this video and the message that it is all about balance and self love 🙏♥
I love this channel and your aura.
Very educational content! ❤🎉
You make great content! Thanks for sharing!
Perfect video for me at this phase of my life!
Hey hey!!!!! It's my birthday today Oct. 26!!!! Thank-you for all your great work!!!! xoxo
Challenge Accepted. Let’s go Ladies! And thanks so much for reminding us Sis 🩷
I swear fo' God it be a good day she drop a video!!! 😂 And on a serious note, at the conclusion of this video made my spirit rise up in my chest. I'm encouraged by this content! Thanks again 🥰
Thankyou ❤
Excellent video! I love the "centerpiece" analogy ❤💃🏿.
Challenge Accepted 🎉
Been literally waiting for a video
Thank you 😊🤗😘
You’re welcome, love! Hope you enjoyed it 🥰
I needed this video. Thank you.
challenge accepted and PASSED
Im there now!!! I'm going back to me the rest of this year!!! And so forth ❤❤❤
Challenge accepted!
Thank you young lady!😊
Love this for you, Vicki! Cheers, darling🥂💕
My good sis have you created the podcast as yet?
always rooting for you
Hi, my love!! It's on the agenda, for sure.
Interestingly, I've been contacted by a few podcast agencies so I'm sorting out if I want to consider that or go at it independently. Thank you for always checking in and rooting for me. I see it and I truly appreciate you 💕💕
Thank you feminine universe you’re indeed a gooddess ❤❤❤❤
This is amazing content.
Challenge accepted! Love your videos! May I add to become God centered as well! Love your neighbor as yourself comes to mind.
I am already the center piece of my life, ma'am 🥂
Yay! New video
Hope you enjoyed it! 💕
Girly I love your videos and I would just love it if you could make a video about how to plan things properly and effectively like good basic spread sheets for goal and even daily use because girl I'm lost
Challenge to my self. Thank you
Good for My baby girl!
I'm in this process right now. Challenge Accepted!
Challenge accepted! Self care is self love so let’s do this.
This was a beautiful message, thank you my beautiful sister ❤❤❤ I can’t wait to dance with you too 😁😁😁🎉🎉🎉
Wonderful video and channel ❤
Challenge Accepted! Btw, I love your content, it is truly inspiring!
Thank you for this. I need to learn to prioritize myself ❤challenge accepted.
Inspiration Accepted
Feminine universe ❤❤❤❤
Challenge accepted....💋by God's grace💋💋💋
Yes
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Challenge Accepted!!!
CHALLENGE ACCEPTED 💜
Just in time cause I’m literally at this point in my life 🎉❤
Amen, Challenge accepted ❤🙏
I really love your videos ❤
Challenge Accepted ! Thank you ❤😘
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Problem is focusing on myself makes me feel depressed and lonely..
Loveeee your videos ❤
I’m the opposite of this video, by nature lol. Why am i so self centered 😆but it has made my life beneficial for Me🎉
Challenged Accepted! I love the msg behind this vid so much and it def is helping me set my table 🤍
Loved this! Challenge accepted😃💚
CHALLENGE ACCEPTED😍
Challenge accepted….thank you
Great video! I love what you said at 7:00; but how do you deal w/ cultures that argue that you must feed and take care of others first before yourself? b/c Ive run into that argument many times 😭
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