It makes me so frustrated that people actually judge and look down on women who decide to have an abortion because of possible handicaps. It's really not a question or mindset of "I don't want a handicapped child", but more a "I don't have the time, money or possibility to take my responsibility as a mother and take care of a mentally or physically challenged child". If you feel like you can take care of a child with a handicap, great, that's awesome! If you don't, than that's how it is. It's not something anyone can do about it, so why criticize and judge? Not everyone have the resources to have and raise a disabled kid.
its hard because as a parent you want to spare them pain but you don't want to make that decision for them but before they are born they can't tell you what choice they would make if they lived to be a hundred and you asked them on their deathbed, you also don't know what kind of positive effects they could have on the world on other people, etc. some of the strongest people have suffered the most and learned that strength through adversity. regardless its a decision that no one should judge even if you have had to make it yourself. i think even terminal diseases can be worth it, but i would never judge someone who felt they couldn't do it. its none of my business anyway, and many of the people who say they would keep a differently abled child if actually put in that position might not. i don't think they really know what they would do. i believe with all my heart i would keep a differently abled child but i have never had to make that decision.
Maja Ritzman also, I'd like to see how these certain people felt when they were told they were about to have a handicapped child, im sure they'd be the first ones to terminate, how can you possibly imagine finding out your child was going to be handicapped? Knowing they would naturally have a much harder life than the average, will never be considered 'normal'. They would face more obstacles and come with much more responsibility. For those who claim it's 'wrong' or 'selfish' I'd like you to put yourself in that position, for real.
If you scared of that, why do you decide to have kids? Tell me please. What do these parents, who are "scared of a lifelong burden", if their kid is hit from a car? Throw the injured kid in the rubbish, because they don't like to have a lifetime burden?
The problem with this, for me at least, is that although the girls seem absolutely wonderful and clearly function really well within their environment, there are many children with Down's Syndrome who are unable to speak, go to school or live any sort of normal life to the extent that the twins are. The disparity between cases is massive and expectant mums don't know how badly their child will be affected, because of this fear I really don't feel its anyone's place to judge those who do choose to terminate the pregnancy.
E.L. Zürcher to add often a diagnosis of Down’s Syndrome during pregnancy can also come with other issues including severe heart problems which are not easily overcome or may even prove fatal in utero.
Shonna Lawton Yes, and I hear they’re more likely to have leukemia. I can’t help but find negativity surrounding this. I feel sorry for parents who have kids with Down syndrome.
My mum was offered an abortion with my sister who had Down's. My sister passed away at 5 but my mum still says she wouldn't have done anything differently.
In Ireland youre not given the option to terminate in any situation. This video shows 2 very highly functioning girls with DS, however this is not always the case. My cousin has DS and autism, he is 18 and still cant even communicate properly never mind learn to write. He throws tantrums, he hits, he kicks, he smashes things. Although he is also the sweetest most caring little boy I know, he has stolen the life of his parents to care for him and he also has no real life of his own. He is a beautiful soul trapped in a ill functioning mind and its not a life I'd wish on any child.
Perhaps euthanasia would be the best way to deal with situations like that. Most of the people with DS who I've met have seemed quite happy and able to function without much support, but I know this is not always the case. Give them all a chance and if after a while it becomes clear they will never be able to live happy, reasonably normal lives, just put them down.
MrOhWhatTheHeck are you serious just because some one has ds or autism doesn't mean u put them down first of all their not dogs and second of all just cuz their not perfect doesn't mean "put them down" !!! they deserve to live to !
chloe kenny this is beautifully written and earnestly true. I've never seen anyone describe the condition so well. if I had the option to abort a child, I would take it. I could not lube knowing I am putting my child through so much frustration and pain. thank you
Pro choice is not having to quantify your decision to anyone but the doctor. If a woman decides she wants an abortion for any reason that is her choice regardless of what anyone else thinks or says
Grinnz marius exactly. they making it sound like it's bad that people use their right to abort because maybe in the future they will.be OK with raising a child with birth defects
Why is it her choice? Abortion isn't just a medical procedure because the life of another human being is at stake, and that has to be taken into account. During the later stages of pregnancy an unborn child can be more highly developed than one who has already been born prematurely. The baby in the womb is no less sentient and no less able to suffer than one in an incubator, so why should it have fewer rights just because it hasn't yet passed through its mother's vagina?
Indeed, but this to raise awareness to the fact that most females would choose to abort a foetus with down syndrome before getting any professional advice. I fully believe in the right to choose when and when not to have a child.
That's false from a scientific perspective. The baby is connected to its mother by an umbilical cord, but it's a separate person with different DNA, a separate bloodstream and a separate brain. Please learn more about this issue before you form any opinions!
Lovely family. What an amazing brother Abigail and Isobel have. I have a special place in my heart for people with Downs. There is such a capacity for love and sincerity from these sweet souls. To think that anyone would terminate a pregnancy because of their child may have downs syndrome is terribly selfish.
I am happy for this couple. But, I think it's appropriate, as well, to document the adult Down's Syndrome and the challenges they face. A documentary needs to look at the whole picture. If it doesn't, it's just a story, a movie, for fun.
Yeah. The documentaries like this never focus on teenage years or severely impaired children. It's a very romanticised view I suppose to counteract the extreme prejudice of people towards the condition. But I think it's leaving out a lot of facts.
Exactly. The lady says that she cannot forgive the doctor saying they were sorry - but I understand why he might have said it. While these twins are completely sweet and adorable, people with Down syndrome are much more prone to certain types of cancer, have a mild degree of intellectual disability and many other health conditions. That is sad!
This is also a very good case I feel. We have a close family friend with a little girl who has Down’s and she didn’t walk until she was almost 5. She still can barely talk. I 100% support not terminating the pregnancy and raising the children you were given, but his really doesn’t show the cons to the syndrome and that not all children with this disability have stories this positive.
they forget to mention what happens in the long run when they can't live on their own and the parents will have to literally look out for them the rest of their lives.
My brother has downs and he is the nicest person I know! Although he finds it hard to talk and has to go to a special school, me and my twin brother and my parents love him!
And I understand that mothers may want to abort their baby, I am happy that they get that choice, but there are so many positives about having a Down's syndrome brother in my opinion.
This seems really one sided- having any child means making a commitment for 18 years, having a disabled child costs a lot more time and money, and in the case of down's syndrome often life long care. I wouldn't want to put them through such a hard life, and I have a low income anyway so a normal child would be really tough, so I would abort. It's fine when they're little, but most adults with down's syndrome are unemployed and require supported housing for life. I just can't provide a decent lifestyle for them.
scifirocks This may be true in some cases, but one thing I have seen time and time again is that people with down syndrome can enjoy life just as much as someone with one less chromosome. Having or caring for someone with a disability has its disadvantages but it also can be amazing. Some people who are considered disabled can think differently and more creatively and that's genuinely what the world needs so what if it's hard? They deserve a choice to live.
jerraye I think this is an unrealistic portrayal of Downs Syndrome as a large amount of people with the disorder can barely feed themselves and have very limited brain function, it is unfair to state that they can lead near normal lives and it is also unfair to expect them to. there are some cases that are exceptions but the way Downs Syndrome affects a person cannot be determined in the womb and therefore may often leave a parent or parents with a child that requires constant care and medical assistance for the rest of their life. I would personally terminate a pregnancy if I found the foetus had Downs Syndrome but that is due to my own beliefs on the matter. everyone is entitled to their own opinions and decisions but I believe this video does not adequately cover the hardships many parents may face if they choose to continue a Downs Syndrome pregnancy.
Some of the happiest young ladies I know have down syndrome. They work in a cafe and they're lovely to all the customers. They don't live a hard life if you bring them up well :) Just like any child.
the comments: while im glad these girls are living a good life, not all people with Down Syndrome are able to have a high functioning life like this some random person: well EXCUUSE ME, MY ONE (1) COUSIN HAS DOWN SYNDROME AND SHE IS HIGHLY FUNCTIONAL, THEREFORE EVERY PERSON WITH DOWN SYNDROME *MUST* BE LIKE HER!!!
There is a reason why parents want to abort children with down syndrome. You can have anything from a slightly different face to being wheel chair bound and unable to communicate. I've seen both sides of this and sadly I've seen more of children and adults unable to communicate. Plus they less likely to live past 40, more likely to develop muscle issues and can end up not being able to eat properly due to the shape of their mouths. These children were lucky.
At the end of the day, every one should have a choice; it's wonderful to see this beautiful family but not everyone has a similar situation. And very Down child is different.
The reason the doctor apologised before breaking the news was because it's far from the ideal scenario and anyone who says it is isn't being truthful. I'm glad she's happy with her family circumstances but just because she is doesn't mean anyone else would be or should be. She doesn't speak for everyone in this same scenario.
As two of my childhood friends had this condition I'm aware that people with DS can be nice, kind, happy, loving, and as capable as people without it, but I also know that It is not always the case. And if they are nice, kind, happy, loving, and capable is not because of DS it is because they are persons with different personalities and characteristics, so I don't see that as a pro. I can't see how the fact of having DS, that can cause so many health and development problems can be beneficial for anyone.Therefore, I find that choosing to abort when being sure that your future child will have DS is totally valid, if not common sense. I'm sorry for my English and if I might offend anyone, I just were so frustrated that I wanted to express my opinion.
I have autism some my friends are more severe I have some friends with DS some are high functioning I know some who are very They can't dress them self or use the toilet some are still in dipper need 24/7 care .you should never judge what a parent choices to do I know I could have had a child like me .but everyone has a choice
I feel that many women terminate because they simply don't have the resources, and if they did they wouldn't. Maybe in order to decrease abortions of babies with Downs we should try and keep teen pregnancies down and help keep funding planned parent hood.
tessa and make sure our gov continues to fund programs that help provide treatment and speech therapy and other helpful things for all sorts of differently abled children, and contribute to charity if we want to decrease these sorts of hard choices where if people feel like they have no support, then yeah, they are being realists, and no one should judge anyone elses descisions
+Crystal Walker If an older parent has a child it's got a higher chance of having down's, but since younger parents have so many more babies, most kids with down's have younger parents.
I know this video is trying to show how awesome life can be despite down syndrome, and the girls and their family truly do look happy. Choosing to keep their babies was the right choice for their family at that time. However I think that not every family is capable, financially or emotionally to take care of a child with disabilities and if they believe the choice to terminate a pregnancy is the correct one, we shouldn't judge them for that. A child with any sort of disability requires extra of everything.. time, money, resources. Not everyone has the resources or the ability to alter their entire life to care for a disabled child, some families do. I do think it's very brave to choose not to terminate if the baby has a disability, you could potentially have to give up so many things in your life and having a child with a disability ages you so much faster. It's hard work and its stressful. I don't think its selfish to terminate a wanted pregnancy if the fetus has a profound disability. I'll probably get a lock of flack for sticking up for people who want to terminate their pregnancies, but I'm just trying to see it from the other side. Put yourselves in the pregnant mother's shoes and try to feel what she would feel. It can't be easy regardless of what they choose. Having a baby already changes your life in every way, and I don't think a woman or a family should have to be forced to raise a child with a disability if they are not willing or able to do so in a way that is fair to both the child and the parents.
There are plenty of people who are fully equipped to parent a kid like that. I’m not one of them. I don’t want to risk having a child on the lower end of functioning. Look, people with Down Syndrome are great, and I’ve met plenty of people with it who are the nicest people ever, but it’s hard enough having kids; then you have one with a disability like that. I don’t want a child to go through life working twice as hard. I want it to be easier for them. It won’t ever be easy if they have Down Syndrome.
It's so inspiring to see them live life as if they were any other child. I have a little cousin who has Down's Syndrome and when he was born he had to have heart surgery and he also had eye surgery and he now wears glasses due to him not being able to see well. But he still fights and is such an angel. So I hope these girls will fight as well and live life to the fullest :) God bless❤️
The best part of the video is how clearly and wonderfully their brother explains his sisters’ disability. Clearly his parents have talked to him and explained things.
The doctor most likely said sorry because most parents are expecting babies with out issues. He may have thought you would be upset. I think you have adorable children and he would agree.
the title is literally so wrong 🙄 "living differently", they're not living differently, they're normal human beings just with different necessities, they're learning like us, they're playing outside, they're eating like us so how should they live differently? it's actually an insult for them, don't say that disabled people are different, they're normal, just like us♡
I work in a charity providing care and education for people with learning difficulties and physical disabilities. We have several people with downs there and they're abilities all differ greatly. One can't talk very much, but can communicate, another is the life and soul of any group he is in and works really hard for his and others rights and advocacy and one girl I work with in particular can speak amazingly and I work with her 1:1 in college completing a maths/English/life skills course. Downs can be a life worth living over no life at all, but ultimately I still believe it's up to the mother/parents to decide if they can cope emotionally/physically and financially to name a few.
The comments on this video made me so sad. I have a sister with Down's and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I can't believe that there is so much support for aborting a baby because they are "different" Why? Because you don't want the responsibility of raising "that kind" of child. But in reality, people with Down's always make you smile and laugh. They are the kindest and most generous people you'll ever meet
Ehsan Ag You're ignorant and disgusting lmao have fun being a worthless TH-cam troll, it's a really impressive thing to aspire to be and you've truly outdone yourself with your success.
my little SD girl passed away at the age of 5 months..few days before her heart surgery. she had 3 holes in the heart...glad to see you girls grew so well..
My Aunt had Downs Syndrome, she was the happiest and most loving person I ever met. If in the future I was told my unborn child had DS, there's not a chance on this earth I'd abort. They are normal people, happy and loving people...what more could you want?
They are far from normal. The large majority are never able to learn to read or write properly, have a proper job, operate a bank account or live independently.
I went to school with twins who had downsyndrome. One of them also had austism so she couldnt talk. This year they left elementary school into grade 9 and I got emotional!
The children with DS seem sweet i wont abort my child just because my child(ren) has a disability theyre still people and they could become great people
People with down syndrome do not have a life full of pain and torture. My 19 year old with DS has a great life, and he's probably fitter and healthier (and happier) than you.
Emoprincess xyz If a test could determine that someone would certainly become a liberal later in life I'd abort without hesitation....that is shockingly ironic.
I cannot help but well up with this. I work with individuals with DS and I connected to much to this film. Them girls are amazing and already they have come so far! Inspiring parents. Shared x
I feel sad for all these people commenting that they would abort, because they do not know all the joy that they are missing! my little sister had Down Syndrome and I wouldn't change her for anything. I have never ever heard a parent that has a child with Down Syndrome say " Man, they are so much work. I wish I would have aborted them!". Is there life going to be hard at times? Yes, but everyone has things in their life that make it hard. If you knew your child would have depression in their life and be bullied would you abort them for it? No, you would not. All children deserve to live, even if life is hard.
Sometimes people just dont have the ability to care for a special needs kid. Sometimes they might not be mentally able to deal with it, or maybe they just aren't ready to deal with a ds kid
my little sister has down syndrome and I HATE it when people call her "Down Syndromed" it;s something that she HAS, not something that she IS. I HATE this viedo title. But the video is hopeful, so that's good!
I used to be a kindergarten teacher, and I've had allot of down-syndrome kids during my years in my class. All of them were the sweetest children ever. However, some of them were very high-functioning, (I've had one that besides the typical down-syndrome 'look', had nothing wrong with him except for a heart disease, he was such an intelligent child, he was top of the class,) while I had one really agressive child that was constantly tormenting the other kids an her little sisters (-she also couldn't communicate on any level), and another one that also couldn't speak, was severely autistic, and even though he was very sweet, it was as if he was in his own world -he was non-functioning at all, he couldn't even eat by himself (the autism didn't really do him a favor either). It really depends on the individual. Of course you never know how your kids will turn out, and while there are allot of success stories, I sometimes wonder about those non-functioning kids that live like a plant.
I have a 13 year old with DS. I would not change anything about her because DS is what makes her who she is today. She a wonderful healthy child that is loved by so many people. If I had to do it again, I would!
If you have the financial means to support a child with down syndrome, then I would strongly suggest not terminating. My uncle grew up with down syndrome in the 70s, and he is now in his 40s and has lived a happy life bringing joy to everyone that has known him. When you decide to have a child, there is only so much control you have over them. If your sole reason for termination is down syndrome, then you're likely not prepared for the numerous other surprises that come with parenting.
have been lucky enough to not get a server form of the condition it does not mean that every other child is so fortunate. This mother does not know what she is talking about and she has no right to judge other parents for making the right decision for them.
I always wonder why parents say they would never change their kid for the world if they have a mental or physical condition if that would make the kids and families life easier?
my baby brother has downsindrome and the doctors said he wasnt going to be able to sit up till he was close to being one but he sat up earlier and he has a heart defect witch makes his heart bigger on one side than the other and he can die if he chokes while sleeping even the slightest sign that hes choking can mean he can die and i get really scared when ever he goes to sleep
The mom's point of view on other people and terminating pregnancy bothered me a bit. Not every case is the same, not all families are ready to deal with what might be a very severe case, yes some might be as lucky as this family but not everyone is willing to take the chance.
You may be able to adopt. There are often times children with downs that are placed for adoption over seas. It would be a wonderful calling if you truly have the capacity, love and patience.
I understand wanting an abortion when you figure out they will have a disability, not because they won’t love them the same but because their lives will be so hard and sometimes painful depending on what disability and no parent wants that
the ultrasound and tests said one of my twins were down's syndrome and suggested that I abort that twin...neither had down's...neither had trisomy of any form..
Abigail and Isobel are two sweet beautiful girls and I feel like if someone has a child/children who has Down syndrome are the luckiest people in the world. Children with Down syndrome are happy and they always bring joy to the world. Don’t judge them there human to. :)
It makes me so frustrated that people actually judge and look down on women who decide to have an abortion because of possible handicaps. It's really not a question or mindset of "I don't want a handicapped child", but more a "I don't have the time, money or possibility to take my responsibility as a mother and take care of a mentally or physically challenged child".
If you feel like you can take care of a child with a handicap, great, that's awesome!
If you don't, than that's how it is. It's not something anyone can do about it, so why criticize and judge?
Not everyone have the resources to have and raise a disabled kid.
Maja Ritzman it's a lifetime burden that many don't see until the child reaches late adolescence
its hard because as a parent you want to spare them pain but you don't want to make that decision for them but before they are born they can't tell you what choice they would make if they lived to be a hundred and you asked them on their deathbed, you also don't know what kind of positive effects they could have on the world on other people, etc. some of the strongest people have suffered the most and learned that strength through adversity. regardless its a decision that no one should judge even if you have had to make it yourself. i think even terminal diseases can be worth it, but i would never judge someone who felt they couldn't do it. its none of my business anyway, and many of the people who say they would keep a differently abled child if actually put in that position might not. i don't think they really know what they would do. i believe with all my heart i would keep a differently abled child but i have never had to make that decision.
Maja Ritzman no that's not awesome
Maja Ritzman also, I'd like to see how these certain people felt when they were told they were about to have a handicapped child, im sure they'd be the first ones to terminate, how can you possibly imagine finding out your child was going to be handicapped? Knowing they would naturally have a much harder life than the average, will never be considered 'normal'. They would face more obstacles and come with much more responsibility. For those who claim it's 'wrong' or 'selfish' I'd like you to put yourself in that position, for real.
If you scared of that, why do you decide to have kids? Tell me please. What do these parents, who are "scared of a lifelong burden", if their kid is hit from a car? Throw the injured kid in the rubbish, because they don't like to have a lifetime burden?
The problem with this, for me at least, is that although the girls seem absolutely wonderful and clearly function really well within their environment, there are many children with Down's Syndrome who are unable to speak, go to school or live any sort of normal life to the extent that the twins are. The disparity between cases is massive and expectant mums don't know how badly their child will be affected, because of this fear I really don't feel its anyone's place to judge those who do choose to terminate the pregnancy.
Agreed and I'm mostly against abortions.
E.L. Zürcher to add often a diagnosis of Down’s Syndrome during pregnancy can also come with other issues including severe heart problems which are not easily overcome or may even prove fatal in utero.
You will never know who they will grow up to be if you abort them.
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Yes, and I hear they’re more likely to have leukemia. I can’t help but find negativity surrounding this. I feel sorry for parents who have kids with Down syndrome.
They're so adorable
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My mum was offered an abortion with my sister who had Down's. My sister passed away at 5 but my mum still says she wouldn't have done anything differently.
In Ireland youre not given the option to terminate in any situation. This video shows 2 very highly functioning girls with DS, however this is not always the case. My cousin has DS and autism, he is 18 and still cant even communicate properly never mind learn to write. He throws tantrums, he hits, he kicks, he smashes things. Although he is also the sweetest most caring little boy I know, he has stolen the life of his parents to care for him and he also has no real life of his own. He is a beautiful soul trapped in a ill functioning mind and its not a life I'd wish on any child.
Perhaps euthanasia would be the best way to deal with situations like that. Most of the people with DS who I've met have seemed quite happy and able to function without much support, but I know this is not always the case. Give them all a chance and if after a while it becomes clear they will never be able to live happy, reasonably normal lives, just put them down.
are you really saying someone who you don't know that her brother should be killed?? Rude!
MrOhWhatTheHeck are you serious just because some one has ds or autism doesn't mean u put them down first of all their not dogs and second of all just cuz their not perfect doesn't mean "put them down" !!! they deserve to live to !
chloe kenny this is beautifully written and earnestly true. I've never seen anyone describe the condition so well. if I had the option to abort a child, I would take it. I could not lube knowing I am putting my child through so much frustration and pain. thank you
Bayleigh VC not true you would put a cig in they much pain
they're beautiful, so happy they have such a loving family
my syndrome may be down but my hopes are still up
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My uncle had Down Syndrome. I agree with this family, wouldn't have changed him for the world.
@@chad1682 shut up..and stop saying liberal dumb ass🙄
It's good to be educated on this kind of topic.
I agree they should show this in schools
galaxy morkchris this is way more important than the Pythagorean Theorum
Wonderful parents.
fuzzylumpkin49 they are not together anymore, sadly
Pro choice is not having to quantify your decision to anyone but the doctor. If a woman decides she wants an abortion for any reason that is her choice regardless of what anyone else thinks or says
Grinnz marius exactly. they making it sound like it's bad that people use their right to abort because maybe in the future they will.be OK with raising a child with birth defects
Why is it her choice? Abortion isn't just a medical procedure because the life of another human being is at stake, and that has to be taken into account. During the later stages of pregnancy an unborn child can be more highly developed than one who has already been born prematurely. The baby in the womb is no less sentient and no less able to suffer than one in an incubator, so why should it have fewer rights just because it hasn't yet passed through its mother's vagina?
Indeed, but this to raise awareness to the fact that most females would choose to abort a foetus with down syndrome before getting any professional advice. I fully believe in the right to choose when and when not to have a child.
Because as long as it's in the mother's body, it's a part of her
That's false from a scientific perspective. The baby is connected to its mother by an umbilical cord, but it's a separate person with different DNA, a separate bloodstream and a separate brain. Please learn more about this issue before you form any opinions!
They are so pretty I am glad you kept your babies they are a gift from God and a blessing!
Such a sweet brother.. nobody really appreciates him ❤️
These docs DO ignore the people who aren't the subject, and they shouldn't. I wanted to know more about him too
Lovely family. What an amazing brother Abigail and Isobel have. I have a special place in my heart for people with Downs. There is such a capacity for love and sincerity from these sweet souls. To think that anyone would terminate a pregnancy because of their child may have downs syndrome is terribly selfish.
Not sure what you mean.
I am happy for this couple. But, I think it's appropriate, as well, to document the adult Down's Syndrome and the challenges they face. A documentary needs to look at the whole picture. If it doesn't, it's just a story, a movie, for fun.
Since their children haven't grown up yet do you want them to wait 20 years to make the documentary?
Yeah. The documentaries like this never focus on teenage years or severely impaired children. It's a very romanticised view I suppose to counteract the extreme prejudice of people towards the condition. But I think it's leaving out a lot of facts.
Exactly. The lady says that she cannot forgive the doctor saying they were sorry - but I understand why he might have said it. While these twins are completely sweet and adorable, people with Down syndrome are much more prone to certain types of cancer, have a mild degree of intellectual disability and many other health conditions. That is sad!
This is also a very good case I feel. We have a close family friend with a little girl who has Down’s and she didn’t walk until she was almost 5. She still can barely talk. I 100% support not terminating the pregnancy and raising the children you were given, but his really doesn’t show the cons to the syndrome and that not all children with this disability have stories this positive.
they forget to mention what happens in the long run when they can't live on their own and the parents will have to literally look out for them the rest of their lives.
Must be wonderful to be part of such a loving family, the girls will reach every milestone with the love and support from their parents and brother 💕
My brother has downs and he is the nicest person I know! Although he finds it hard to talk and has to go to a special school, me and my twin brother and my parents love him!
And I understand that mothers may want to abort their baby, I am happy that they get that choice, but there are so many positives about having a Down's syndrome brother in my opinion.
What positives? How is it better than having a normal sibling?
This seems really one sided- having any child means making a commitment for 18 years, having a disabled child costs a lot more time and money, and in the case of down's syndrome often life long care. I wouldn't want to put them through such a hard life, and I have a low income anyway so a normal child would be really tough, so I would abort. It's fine when they're little, but most adults with down's syndrome are unemployed and require supported housing for life. I just can't provide a decent lifestyle for them.
scifirocks This may be true in some cases, but one thing I have seen time and time again is that people with down syndrome can enjoy life just as much as someone with one less chromosome. Having or caring for someone with a disability has its disadvantages but it also can be amazing. Some people who are considered disabled can think differently and more creatively and that's genuinely what the world needs so what if it's hard? They deserve a choice to live.
scifirocks people with DS can live independent lives and can get jobs the world is changing
jerraye I think this is an unrealistic portrayal of Downs Syndrome as a large amount of people with the disorder can barely feed themselves and have very limited brain function, it is unfair to state that they can lead near normal lives and it is also unfair to expect them to. there are some cases that are exceptions but the way Downs Syndrome affects a person cannot be determined in the womb and therefore may often leave a parent or parents with a child that requires constant care and medical assistance for the rest of their life. I would personally terminate a pregnancy if I found the foetus had Downs Syndrome but that is due to my own beliefs on the matter. everyone is entitled to their own opinions and decisions but I believe this video does not adequately cover the hardships many parents may face if they choose to continue a Downs Syndrome pregnancy.
Some of the happiest young ladies I know have down syndrome. They work in a cafe and they're lovely to all the customers. They don't live a hard life if you bring them up well :) Just like any child.
scifirocks So you are saying that people with dowm syndrome don't deserve to live because of money?
the comments: while im glad these girls are living a good life, not all people with Down Syndrome are able to have a high functioning life like this
some random person: well EXCUUSE ME, MY ONE (1) COUSIN HAS DOWN SYNDROME AND SHE IS HIGHLY FUNCTIONAL, THEREFORE EVERY PERSON WITH DOWN SYNDROME *MUST* BE LIKE HER!!!
There is a reason why parents want to abort children with down syndrome. You can have anything from a slightly different face to being wheel chair bound and unable to communicate. I've seen both sides of this and sadly I've seen more of children and adults unable to communicate. Plus they less likely to live past 40, more likely to develop muscle issues and can end up not being able to eat properly due to the shape of their mouths. These children were lucky.
Beautiful, loving family. We need more parents like both of you!
these parents are amazing and so poised not worried one bit about their little girls and their brother will be such a big help to them as well.
At the end of the day, every one should have a choice; it's wonderful to see this beautiful family but not everyone has a similar situation. And very Down child is different.
The reason the doctor apologised before breaking the news was because it's far from the ideal scenario and anyone who says it is isn't being truthful. I'm glad she's happy with her family circumstances but just because she is doesn't mean anyone else would be or should be. She doesn't speak for everyone in this same scenario.
As two of my childhood friends had this condition I'm aware that people with DS can be nice, kind, happy, loving, and as capable as people without it, but I also know that It is not always the case. And if they are nice, kind, happy, loving, and capable is not because of DS it is because they are persons with different personalities and characteristics, so I don't see that as a pro. I can't see how the fact of having DS, that can cause so many health and development problems can be beneficial for anyone.Therefore, I find that choosing to abort when being sure that your future child will have DS is totally valid, if not common sense. I'm sorry for my English and if I might offend anyone, I just were so frustrated that I wanted to express my opinion.
I have autism some my friends are more severe I have some friends with DS some are high functioning I know some who are very
They can't dress them self or use the toilet some are still in dipper need 24/7 care .you should never judge what a parent choices to do
I know I could have had a child like me .but everyone has a choice
I feel that many women terminate because they simply don't have the resources, and if they did they wouldn't. Maybe in order to decrease abortions of babies with Downs we should try and keep teen pregnancies down and help keep funding planned parent hood.
just because you know 5 doesn't out weight a proven fact.
That's anecdotal evidence and not statistics
tessa and make sure our gov continues to fund programs that help provide treatment and speech therapy and other helpful things for all sorts of differently abled children, and contribute to charity if we want to decrease these sorts of hard choices where if people feel like they have no support, then yeah, they are being realists, and no one should judge anyone elses descisions
Planned Parenthood preform over 300,000 abortions annually.
+Crystal Walker If an older parent has a child it's got a higher chance of having down's, but since younger parents have so many more babies, most kids with down's have younger parents.
What an absolute privilege to watch this amazing family.
I hope that this short documentary wins a recognition award.
I know this video is trying to show how awesome life can be despite down syndrome, and the girls and their family truly do look happy. Choosing to keep their babies was the right choice for their family at that time. However I think that not every family is capable, financially or emotionally to take care of a child with disabilities and if they believe the choice to terminate a pregnancy is the correct one, we shouldn't judge them for that. A child with any sort of disability requires extra of everything.. time, money, resources. Not everyone has the resources or the ability to alter their entire life to care for a disabled child, some families do. I do think it's very brave to choose not to terminate if the baby has a disability, you could potentially have to give up so many things in your life and having a child with a disability ages you so much faster. It's hard work and its stressful. I don't think its selfish to terminate a wanted pregnancy if the fetus has a profound disability. I'll probably get a lock of flack for sticking up for people who want to terminate their pregnancies, but I'm just trying to see it from the other side. Put yourselves in the pregnant mother's shoes and try to feel what she would feel. It can't be easy regardless of what they choose. Having a baby already changes your life in every way, and I don't think a woman or a family should have to be forced to raise a child with a disability if they are not willing or able to do so in a way that is fair to both the child and the parents.
There are plenty of people who are fully equipped to parent a kid like that. I’m not one of them. I don’t want to risk having a child on the lower end of functioning. Look, people with Down Syndrome are great, and I’ve met plenty of people with it who are the nicest people ever, but it’s hard enough having kids; then you have one with a disability like that. I don’t want a child to go through life working twice as hard. I want it to be easier for them. It won’t ever be easy if they have Down Syndrome.
He just express his empathy by saying "sorry". He didn't mean any harm at all.
It's so inspiring to see them live life as if they were any other child. I have a little cousin who has Down's Syndrome and when he was born he had to have heart surgery and he also had eye surgery and he now wears glasses due to him not being able to see well. But he still fights and is such an angel. So I hope these girls will fight as well and live life to the fullest :)
God bless❤️
The best part of the video is how clearly and wonderfully their brother explains his sisters’ disability. Clearly his parents have talked to him and explained things.
The doctor most likely said sorry because most parents are expecting babies with out issues. He may have thought you would be upset. I think you have adorable children and he would agree.
They're so beautiful
My reasoning for the doctor to apologize, simply for the increased risk they may have and that's a heart break no parent wants to bare
they are so precious
the title is literally so wrong 🙄 "living differently", they're not living differently, they're normal human beings just with different necessities, they're learning like us, they're playing outside, they're eating like us so how should they live differently? it's actually an insult for them, don't say that disabled people are different, they're normal, just like us♡
No, they are not normal. The word MEANS something. They are just fine, but they are not bell-curve "normal."
Absolutely beautiful and perfect! The dr didn’t need to say sorry!! These girls are amazing and beautiful xx
They are beautiful !! xx
I work in a charity providing care and education for people with learning difficulties and physical disabilities. We have several people with downs there and they're abilities all differ greatly. One can't talk very much, but can communicate, another is the life and soul of any group he is in and works really hard for his and others rights and advocacy and one girl I work with in particular can speak amazingly and I work with her 1:1 in college completing a maths/English/life skills course. Downs can be a life worth living over no life at all, but ultimately I still believe it's up to the mother/parents to decide if they can cope emotionally/physically and financially to name a few.
The comments on this video made me so sad. I have a sister with Down's and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I can't believe that there is so much support for aborting a baby because they are "different" Why? Because you don't want the responsibility of raising "that kind" of child. But in reality, people with Down's always make you smile and laugh. They are the kindest and most generous people you'll ever meet
Brigh moffatt
how about getting a pet?
Ehsan Ag You're ignorant and disgusting lmao have fun being a worthless TH-cam troll, it's a really impressive thing to aspire to be and you've truly outdone yourself with your success.
+Tyler Jameson Just report people like that.
Ehsan Ag Wow, fuck off. People like you truly disgust me. Have fun living a life filled with hate and making other people feel bad
Tyler Jameson yeah seriously animals are so cool!
Those little girls are so happy, nothing could bring them "Down"
my little SD girl passed away at the age of 5 months..few days before her heart surgery. she had 3 holes in the heart...glad to see you girls grew so well..
I'm sorry for your loss :(
My Aunt had Downs Syndrome, she was the happiest and most loving person I ever met. If in the future I was told my unborn child had DS, there's not a chance on this earth I'd abort. They are normal people, happy and loving people...what more could you want?
They are far from normal. The large majority are never able to learn to read or write properly, have a proper job, operate a bank account or live independently.
can i just say they are the cutest little kids i've ever seen😂😻
Their brother is so sweet and understanding
I went to school with twins who had downsyndrome. One of them also had austism so she couldnt talk. This year they left elementary school into grade 9 and I got emotional!
Their family is so beautiful
The children with DS seem sweet i wont abort my child just because my child(ren) has a disability theyre still people and they could become great people
Emoprincess xyz that shouldn't be cause it will be giving that child a life full of pain and torture.....video is half true
Srinjoy Kar i understand but disabilities shouldnt hold children back.
Emoprincess xyz I am not asking to hold a child back.....but I am saying a different thing
People with down syndrome do not have a life full of pain and torture. My 19 year old with DS has a great life, and he's probably fitter and healthier (and happier) than you.
Emoprincess xyz
If a test could determine that someone would certainly become a liberal later in life I'd abort without hesitation....that is shockingly ironic.
I cannot help but well up with this. I work with individuals with DS and I connected to much to this film. Them girls are amazing and already they have come so far! Inspiring parents. Shared x
I feel sad for all these people commenting that they would abort, because they do not know all the joy that they are missing! my little sister had Down Syndrome and I wouldn't change her for anything. I have never ever heard a parent that has a child with Down Syndrome say " Man, they are so much work. I wish I would have aborted them!". Is there life going to be hard at times? Yes, but everyone has things in their life that make it hard. If you knew your child would have depression in their life and be bullied would you abort them for it? No, you would not. All children deserve to live, even if life is hard.
Sometimes people just dont have the ability to care for a special needs kid. Sometimes they might not be mentally able to deal with it, or maybe they just aren't ready to deal with a ds kid
my little sister has down syndrome and I HATE it when people call her "Down Syndromed" it;s something that she HAS, not something that she IS. I HATE this viedo title. But the video is hopeful, so that's good!
I used to be a kindergarten teacher, and I've had allot of down-syndrome kids during my years in my class. All of them were the sweetest children ever. However, some of them were very high-functioning, (I've had one that besides the typical down-syndrome 'look', had nothing wrong with him except for a heart disease, he was such an intelligent child, he was top of the class,) while I had one really agressive child that was constantly tormenting the other kids an her little sisters (-she also couldn't communicate on any level), and another one that also couldn't speak, was severely autistic, and even though he was very sweet, it was as if he was in his own world -he was non-functioning at all, he couldn't even eat by himself (the autism didn't really do him a favor either). It really depends on the individual. Of course you never know how your kids will turn out, and while there are allot of success stories, I sometimes wonder about those non-functioning kids that live like a plant.
The main thing I would worry about is when they are older and I am no longer around.
How lucky are these two parents, and brother. They are dually blessed.
I have a 13 year old with DS. I would not change anything about her because DS is what makes her who she is today. She a wonderful healthy child that is loved by so many people. If I had to do it again, I would!
Just imagine the life of being a single parent with two Down Syndrome twins, and then tell me they can’t choose abortion.
these twins are amazing!
They are perfect just the way they are. They are amazing!!!
If you have the financial means to support a child with down syndrome, then I would strongly suggest not terminating. My uncle grew up with down syndrome in the 70s, and he is now in his 40s and has lived a happy life bringing joy to everyone that has known him. When you decide to have a child, there is only so much control you have over them. If your sole reason for termination is down syndrome, then you're likely not prepared for the numerous other surprises that come with parenting.
Lived a happy life? Does he have a successful career & live independently?
There so beautiful 😍 God bless them both ♥️♥️
Such beautiful girls! Such a great big brother! And such wonderful, loving parents!
cher, a lot of other children who suffer from downsyndrome have a much more server form of the condition. Just because these girls
have been lucky enough to not get a server form of the condition it does not mean that every other child is so fortunate. This mother does not know what she is talking about and she has no right to judge other parents for making the right decision for them.
I always wonder why parents say they would never change their kid for the world if they have a mental or physical condition if that would make the kids and families life easier?
my baby brother has downsindrome and the doctors said he wasnt going to be able to sit up till he was close to being one but he sat up earlier and he has a heart defect witch makes his heart bigger on one side than the other and he can die if he chokes while sleeping even the slightest sign that hes choking can mean he can die and i get really scared when ever he goes to sleep
They're adorable
Parents are perfect and also the girls older brother is a little superstar.
Aww they’re so giggly it’s so sweet💗
How can you dislike this video wtf is wrong with people, Truly amazing twins... I wish you a good life in 2019 and onwards.... Happy New Year :) xx
They are so adorable
"Life with Down Syndrome is a life worth living". Beautiful words. I'm with you all the way!
Can i just say that they are both GORGEOUS
The mom's point of view on other people and terminating pregnancy bothered me a bit. Not every case is the same, not all families are ready to deal with what might be a very severe case, yes some might be as lucky as this family but not everyone is willing to take the chance.
You have a beautiful family!! Blessings!
I love these girls they are the sweetest and cutest I really wanna have a down syndrome child when I'm older 💜
You may be able to adopt. There are often times children with downs that are placed for adoption over seas. It would be a wonderful calling if you truly have the capacity, love and patience.
I understand wanting an abortion when you figure out they will have a disability, not because they won’t love them the same but because their lives will be so hard and sometimes painful depending on what disability and no parent wants that
they seemed so normal
the ultrasound and tests said one of my twins were down's syndrome and suggested that I abort that twin...neither had down's...neither had trisomy of any form..
Finn is such a good brother. What a beautiful family. 💋
“Nobody gives you the pros”
Well, you had a chance to tell us the pros... but you didn’t...
wowowowowowo did anyone see what that child did to the little girl around 6:33????
They're children, for crying out loud, and siblings at that. Get your head out of the gutter.
I hope these kids grow up to be happy adults.
I think I agree with the mum, everyone should have the option, but they should be given the pros and the cons.
They’re so precious ❤️
Abigail and Isobel are two sweet beautiful girls and I feel like if someone has a child/children who has Down syndrome are the luckiest people in the world. Children with Down syndrome are happy and they always bring joy to the world. Don’t judge them there human to. :)
they're so adorable omg
Salute to dad and mum 👍
With the smooth brown hair and bangs, they look like 2 Adelaides from American Horror Story: Murder House 😍😍
Their brother is awesome
They're just adorable little kids
They are soo cuuuttteee!!
They are so cute and adorable 🤗❤️
Aww they’re so adorable I’m-😭😭
i have a little sister with downs syndrome and she is the best thing ever i love here so much.
You don't know why the doctor said 'sorry'? Really?
They are absolutely gorgeous ❤️ If only that doctor could see how wonderful they are now.
What a gorgeous family!
They might be nice now but having children grown up with Down syndrome is hard especially when the parents get elderly