Yes, and that use of the word "draw" is related to its broader meaning of "causing (a thing) to move via pulling." It shares an etymological origin with "drag," in fact!
@@unstaybul I... Hadn't given much thought to the exact semantics of the word draw! I'd need to elicit a bunch of felicity judgements from different people to be really confident, but based on my own native speaker intuition, I'd say no? I can draw water out of a glass using an eyedropper, gravity draws water to the lowest local elevation, and I could draw water across a tabletop by dragging my finger through a spill. But if I were pushing the spill with a rag or pouring water out of a glass, I wouldn't consider it an acceptable word to describe that action with. So for me at least, I think the use of "draw" comes with restrictions on the method/manner by which one causes the water to flow, but if you use it differently, please let me know!
I wore a red dress to my wedding. I found out years before that each of my friends had different favourite colours, and I thought “if we each wore our favourite colour, we would be a rainbow” so that’s what we did for my wedding.
That is such a gorgeous idea. I love it. For my wedding I wore the royal blue dress that my grandmother wore to my mother and her sister's joint wedding. It was both my something borrowed and my something blue.
I'm disabled, and a "portable urinal" is what my male friends in wheelchairs use to go pee. It's basically a plastic container, and then they pour it in the toilet after.
First story - I freaking hate busybodies. That's what that woman was, a busybody. Her neighbor running outside for a minute in a robe is not her business. She was fully covered, not indecent. I'm really disappointed in OP's mom for not supporting her daughter. OMG. OP should totally make the apology while wearing a bikini!
I would fully wonder what The Busybody’s version of the story was to OP’s mom. I have a feeling it got “embellished” a bit, and *that* might be part of mom’s crummy reaction. Still should back her daughter, but Neighbor Politics can be a real one, you know.
If the girl in the bathrobe is a literal teenager and the neighbor's husband is leering at her then absolutely NTA because I'm tired of adults being so fucking weird about teen girls' bodies
Also if the OP had been an older/elderly woman I'm positive the neighbor wouldn't have cared. Its only because she was young and she though/knows her husband would be attracted that she was mad.
@@awolters5827So weird though. 53 years old here. I've gone out to get the mail in my robe, run out to get something off my porch countless times, or out of my car...I live next to a church. 🤷 I'm not an old 53 year old at all but I think there are some that can't handle seeing a woman of any age dressed "immodestly". Ridiculous.
I'm 50 too & wouldn't have whinged about her wearing a robe for TWO SECONDS out to grab medicine, because unlike some people (like this 50yo in the story), I mind my own business
I agree entirely. Also I'm the kind of person to sarcastically say something like "I only wear my burka on days not ending in day" then just keep walking. Or puke on her. Either should shut her up honestly.
I thought it was funny because I’ve seen and known of far more older people going out to fetch the post, take the rubbish out, have a chat even in the dressing gowns then I know of younger people even owning them lol. I’m 24, and other than as a kid on Christmas mornings or cold winter evenings, I’ve not worn mine any times other that while in hospital after surgery! Meanwhile my gran where’s hers very often, and used to take the dog out for a morning pee on our carpark (old pub lol) get the post, etc without even thinking about it, I wouldn’t be seen dead in mine 😂
For our wedding we did a Doctor Who theme without it being overt. We used drinking glasses etched with the Tardis as the vases for the table centerpieces along with different quotes from Dr Who about relationships. The ring bearer carried a little terrarium with a Tardis inside with the rings. It felt like our own personal touch without it taking over the whole wedding.
Obsessed with that but infeel as long as a theme isn't overly offensive if people want a themed wedding then let them have it. It's their day. If this is something they love and brings them joy in life then why not bring it into their big day.
Vicks contains: camphor, menthol, spirits of turpentine, oil of eucalyptus, cedarwood, nutmeg, and thymol Several of these tree oils can cause irritation in sensitive skin (or membranes) and are common to have mild allergies to.
I'm allergic to mint and every time my dad uses icyhot etc i always have to run to a different part of the house because I start having a reaction lol. I think my skin might melt off if someone put vicks in my bath haha.
An ice cream bucket is a plastic gallon-size bucket. They have a plastic lid and a plastic handle and can be cleaned completely. Most truckers (even without medical conditions) usually use soda pop or water bottles and throw them in the trash; using the bucket, particularly if he is washing it out between uses, is just a more sustainable option. Now, if he's going home and washing out the bucket in the same sinkful of water with the dishes you eat on, maybe there is a conversation that needs to occur about that... But either way, yeah... She's definitely the drama. Nothing at all wrong about having a pee bucket if you sometimes don't make it between stops, regardless of how long that is.
While I agree that's not a problem with peeing in a container in emergencys, but I drink more than 4 liters of water every day (normally 5 to 6, also due medical issues) I can hold it in for 2 hours with no problem.
@@feviana8852holding your urine for long periods of time can cause bladder issues. So good for you you can hold it for so long, but everyone's not you.
In the pee bucket story, it could be a plastic gallon ice cream tub. Also screw that girl, I also have to keep constantly hydrated for medical reasons, and while I'm used to holding it, it can get pretty painful after awhile.
Actually holding in your pee increases the risk for health conditions such as a UTI. ESPECIALLY if someone is holding pee in for a long time repeatedly. It has gotten schools who are strict with bathroom breaks in trouble because kids end up getting UTIs and other bladder problems.
Im a disabled person with vulva and have a urine bottle with attachment in the car for moments when i am caught unawares and am nowhere near a toilet. It does have a lid though and i always empty and disinfect when home. (Nb. You might consider it a car urinal) Ableism successfully detected i think.
The bathroom story - there's plastic buckets of ice cream in US stores that do have lids and handles. There's also portable urinals for men and women. Finally, as someone with bladder and kidney problems myself, holding isn't easy for everyone.
I definately get that. I am an AFAB person who has had GI issues since birth and overactive bladder, when i need to pee or go number 2: when i need to go, i need to go. The amount of times i've had to hold it and be in agony to the point i feel sick/can't walk while my eyes are streaming. I try to hold it as long as i can, 1 hr to maybe an hour & a half a most (pee) or i have to go there and then (poop). Anymore i get excruciating pain. If i can , i go at the side of the road but if i've held it in too long and in agony , it won't just go whoosh and done. It take 5 or so minutes and changing sitting positions for my body to relax to let me relieve myself. It is horrible, embarressing and painful. Having female body parts, i can't just pee in a bottle. There aren't many services on major roads. Despite UK being a lot smaller than a plethora of other countries, there are a lot of rules on stopping on a road: especially on motorways. Xx
For the last one I can understand not wanting to pee in the fields. Having been caught squatting with my skirt hoisted, you never know how quickly & quietly people can appear. He may be worried about people who live on a route he has to use eveyday seeing him & even possibly getting in trouble for public indecency (possibly by someone who loves to complain refusing to listen to his explanations)
@@AstronomicalJelly it really is a very awkward experience, even if you’re lucky enough that no one does discover you or you found what you think is a brilliant cover to hide behind, the fear of being caught is always there
Vicks uses menthol as the active ingredient. Some people are very sensitive to it. For instance, I am not and I have often used horse liniment for a muscle rub. My husband, is very sensitive and can't stand Vicks or anything with menthol in it. It actually reddens his skin and feels like a chemical burn. On the other hand I can't use an ointment with capsaicin (from peppers) at all. It feels like a chemical burn.
To explain ice cream buckets: idk if everywhere has them, but in the States stores sell big plastic buckets of ice cream for parties and larger families. They do have lids that supposedly seal good.
When I heard "Ice cream bucket" I imagined the gallon sized plastic buckets that you can get in American grocery stores. My parents always got those because being a family of 5, we could eat a lot of ice cream in the summer. We always kept the buckets for various uses. some for cleaning around the house (holding soapy water) some were used in the garden to protect plants on frosty nights, some became sand box toys, some became storage for things. they were really handy and sturdy. I would hope that he'd give the bucket a wash after emptying it when he had to use it, but if it's one of those plastic buckets with a lid then it's not that bad of a thing to use in emergencies IMO. Also in America it's illegal to pee on the side of the road. If you get caught you would be charged with indecent exposure, so it is more common to pull over and pee in the car into some sort of container in emergencies.
i feel like with the red wedding dress story, 1. yeah the cousin is totally just trying to get out of going to the wedding, but 2. it feels like they're the AH because, okay, it can be argued that 4 weeks isn't that much notice, but also... there's a difference between going "oh, my dress is red. would it be possible for me to wear it anyway as it's short notice?" and going "omg you F-ing AH how dare you not give us more notice" like.... the reaction is just not proportionate with what has happened. so OP is NTA because there's a difference between being annoyed at plans suddenly changing and literally refusing to go to a wedding and making a huge drama over it without even trying to sort the matter out peacefully first.
The cousin is totally trying to find an excuse not to go and is being overly dramatic. I do think 4 weeks is short notice for a dress code to a wedding though.
@@s.a.4358 Agreed. My rule of thumb is “if it doesn’t go out on the invites, it’s too late.” I know the bride didn’t choose her own dress that early but, I mean in the most respectful way, that’s her fault? Not the people who may have already bought dresses?? If I was the bride in that situation, I might still ASK people not to wear the same color too, BUT if someone already bought/planned a similar dress, I would accept that as the consequences of making such a last-minute request and harbor no hard feelings. Responsibility for your own actions people!
@@alexnoelle5423 I have the feeling everyone is being a bit dramatic. The cousin certain, with her whole reaction of going or not going to the wedding even before the red dress issue, but also the bride over picking a red dress a month before the wedding and not let anyone else wear that colour. Also choosing a wedding venue where one is not supposed to have a wedding?! Of all the restaurants they could have picked, why choose one where they have to be discreet about it being a wedding? Maybe it is their favourite restaurant or something like that, and I guess it’s their wedding so they should have the place they like, but it seems to me a bit like wanting to “be different” just for the sake of it.
@@s.a.4358 literally tho, like out of all the places they picked they chose the single venue that didn't allow wedding parties?? madness. like just go somewhere else.
@@s.a.4358 100%. I feel like there’s zero etiquette on both sides, which is fine if everyone’s okay with that. But enforcing etiquette from guests while not having any as a host is just hypocritical in my opinion. No idea what’s up with the cousin. Feels like she just doesn’t want to go, which is honestly her prerogative, but say so in the first place, right?!
Shayne Topp, will give YTA badge for how people will write stories, like you aren’t the AH in the situation, but how you wrote the story makes you sound like one.
In the US, especially the south, it's considered rude to wear red to a wedding - almost as rude as wearing white - because of an old idea that red meant you either want to or already have slept with a member of the couple/were the groom's mistress, etc. Nowadays, it's considered rude because it's too eye-catching in photos. My own mother wouldn't even wear burgundy for her mother-of-the-bride dress even though I, the bride, picked it out for her lol
@@raspberryitalia3464 I think so too 😂 and I have some gorgeous red dresses. I expect due to his views on marriage versus mine, I'm more likely to get married before he does but I feel like that'd make it funnier.
No red at a wedding is a pretty recent thing, red as a colour supposedly signalling promiscuity is a very new idea. People claim it's a historical thing, and it even has made its way even into reenactment "Victorians wouldn't wear red! That's for slnts!" except Queen Victoria wore red in a portrait. Many wedding rules that people claim are very old turn out to be very recent. No white was not a rule because most brides did not wear white (or white only, white wedding dresses existed, because white dresses in general existed, brides simply wore their best clothes, which could be any colour) for a very long time. So red as a guest is only rude because some people made up a rule about it very recently. That's not to say that those people won't find it rude, but the reason (she slept with the groom) is complete nonsense. It's also not a common thing in most places. I only heard about it from a few people from the US. I learned that black is more offensive because it implies mourning the wedding instead of celebrating it, but that's a fairly recent thing too.
@AnnekeOosterink it may be relatively recent, but my grandmother never wore red anywhere her entire life because where she grew up (deep south usa) she was taught red was a whore's color. These might be localized ideas but they exist. Also, come on - the scarlet letter, the red light district, these things have existed a while.
29:10 I always said that if I got married, it would be a Halloween wedding with everyone coming in costume. But even with the clothing being non-traditional, I would likely ask people not to come dressed up as whatever myself or my partner were going to be dressed as.
AFAIK, the rule to not wear white at a wedding is because that's the color that the bride is wearing. So it makes sense that the color changes depending on whatever the bride decides to wear. I'm not understanding all the "YTA" verdicts either. The cousin is a guest. As a guest to a wedding, I tend to just raid my closet a few days before. 4 weeks is MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME to pick another outfit.
I think for the dress it's not really a question of tradition, but more about "stealing the thunder". Like, you don't wear the same color as the bride, to let her shine by making her the only one in that specific color maybe.
I love Jamie and Roly filming but Shabaa and Roly is something very special 🤣 her sweet and unproblematic language and nature compared with Roly’s dark humour and chaotic energy is like whiplash and it’s hilarious ❤️ Despite their differences in nature they’re also still similar
Yes. Jamie and Shaaba are very complementary personalities and they share a lot of temperaments, at least on camera. Shaaba is very much lawful good, and Roly is chaotic good... maybe chaotic neutral. Still learning a bit about DnD. Totally different vibe and I like what Roly pulls out of her.
Also, re: the pee story, it's NOT healthy to hold in pee when you have to go. Like, you can get a UTI, or even Kidney stones. Like, if you gotta pee, you gotta pee. Constantly holding it in and forcing yourself not to pee can lead to heath issues.
My best friend and I were not warned about the need to water down squash when we moved to Ireland and then the UK (from Canada), so the first drink of that was certainly intense.
*Definitely sounds like the guy sat on an undissolved crystal in the bath. *I agree with you on the red wedding dress one. *Y'all are so much fun to watch! 💜
7:55 - I feel like it's quite often that like, middle-aged men walking around topless with their beer bellies hanging out are used as an example all "they're doing it", and I feel like, yeah; and it's great that they have the confidence to do that. It'd be great if everyone had the ability to just be comfortable in their body and left unbothered when they choose to dress (or not dress) a certain way, within reason of course. My mother used to go off about how awful it was with these "fat old men running around in nothing but shorts" and I just think it's fine. No one's getting hurt, provided they're wearing sunscreen.
Swedish perspective here. I live in a suburb that's fused with a by Swedish measures larger city. If you're on the motorway there's no place to stop unless you leave the main road. As I understood it, the problem arises when traffic is backed up and when that happens, the back road clog up with people trying to get around it. Even trying to get off the main road can take 20 minutes but you also can't really know in advance how long it's going to take.
Telling someone to go pee in a field could potentially be very bad advice in the US. In one of the most asinine laws in this country, you can be put on the offender registry for peeing in public in many states.
What do you do if you are on a road trip and really need to pee while driving in the middle of nowhere? I have peed in so many fields! And so have my parents. Just go behind a bush of somewhere where nobody can see you.
actually with the peeing in the car, in some countries like usa you can be put on sex offenders registry for peeing on the side of the road. its considered exposing yourself in public.
I had the unfortunate fun of applying an icyhot back patch over a lower buttcheek spot. What was originally diagnosed as 'unknown back pain/possible sciatica' was actually a pilonidal abscess. The icy hot patch felt like I sat down straight on a fiery pike. Do not suggest.
OH MY GOD. The gasp I gasped reading this, I felt like my stomach dropped to my feet. Nobody should have to experience even a portion of the pain you must have experienced.
Holy sh*t that must have hurt like an insane amount. I can’t even use icyhot on ordinary skin (really sensitive) let alone an *abscess*. 😬 So sorry you experienced that-sounds horrendous!
I came here to mention a similar story, I knew someone who thought icy hot was like Trojans fire and ice lube though, needless to say it did not end up pleasantly
I feel bad for the guy who needs to pee alot. A "icecream bucket" does not sound great. You can buy things like pocket toilets (basically a folding bottle you can pee in) , travel/camping toilet, you can even just buy sealable sick bags that can hold alot and be disposed of safely :) I have alot of health issues and have looked into emergency toilet needs alot. The best seems to be a sickbag type thing , they can be slid into your pocket or your glove compartment or under your seat or whatever until you need them and then you can seal it safely so nothing gets out and then you can bin it once your at the other end. I hope they don't feel ashamed or anything ♡ Also a kids travel potty could be useful. I definitely think they need to find a more hygienic way to do this but the fact they had something even if it was a icecream tub shows that they obviously can't "just hold it in" and it's something they are trying to handle. I hope they don't feel ashamed, they literally have a medical condition ❤
i also have unpredictable needs for the bathroom. i recently purchased a camping toilet for my annual beach trip, and the difference in panic and physical pain levels are night and day.
On my first visit to England, they gave me a bottle of squash and I drank about half over half an hour before they noticed and told me it's concentrate haha Truly a how to spot an American without them speaking moment :D
I’m so glad to find your comment! Even after their banter I still wasn’t sure what squash was or why it’s bad to drink a bottle 😂. Before the picture, I thought she was drinking pumpkin juice!
@@shannono9421 I think the best US equivalent of squash would be cordial. We drink it as an everyday thing, kids especially, where as Americans don’t seem to drink “cordial” very often. It’s just a super strong concentrated liquid we dilute with water. Lots of different flavours, and it’s generally quite healthy as it’s generally quite low in sugar anyway by the time it’s diluted 4-1, but you can get reduced sugar and sugar free versions. I drink apple and elderflower squash daily!
Honnestly you’re not the first person I’ve heard of do this lol! If you search for videos of Americans trying British things/drinks SO many drink it neat straight from the bottle, and so many say it’s gross, how can we drink it etc, then often they will go back and try it another time after being corrected and decide it’s actually nice if done correctly! My dad is obsessed with these types of video and so frequently tells me about the latest one he’s found lol Also if you try Bovril or Marmite, you already a very thin layer on some buttered bread or toast. None of us like it too thick or straight from the jar! Weirdly that one always gets you too 😂
I had a last-min military wedding, in a public park, during a HOT summer day. My partner was in a blue/red uniform and I chose to wear red. We wanted people to come casual, with a bit of red to match our group (only 10-15 ppl even showed up)... The Best Man was in shorts and tank top ffs. So glad my partner and i cared so little about the wedding itself. It was sweet and we were both too giddy to care. Pictures were cute too! F wedding monsters.
12:30 Back in ye olde pre-plumbing days you would literally draw water from its source to fill your bath. As in drawn from a well, the same etymology as a horse drawn cart. "Draw" = "Pull"
Story 3: NTA, their wedding, cousin is being very difficult and is the AH. They have time to pick another dress: cousin has supposedly been to plenty of weddings recently so probably has other options.
As someone with abdominal prolapse from childbirth which has led to urinary incontinence, as well as a currently 6yo kiddo, we absolutely have a pee bucket in our car. It does have a lid, and it does get washed out after use, but 🤷♀️ It has never seemed like a big deal to me.
There's biodegradable pee bags that all genders can use and when you pee in them, it goes onto a powder that crystallises and then you can throw it out and again, it's all biodegradable. These are used a lot at festivals. Great for kids abd adults alike for trips or like that story for medical conditions.
For the first one, I once drove past a house on a very busy road. Old lady (at least 70s), she was chilling on her front porch in a dressing gown/robe and nothing else. But it was open and she was wearing absolutely nothing underneath and I saw everything...I feel like this is more of an issue than someone dashing outside for a minute in her completely covering robe.
Aerosolizing the Vicks in the hot water of the shower is super helpful for opening up clogged airways .. buuuut I'm sure there's a scale here of healthy amount vs.. too much in the bath tho? I feel like she'd have been better off with some lavender bath salts or sumthn
🤣 So for "draw a bath", I'm pretty sure it's the same "draw" as "draw something towards yourself" - people used to have to draw water from a well to get the water *for* the bath, so "drawing a bath" likely stemmed from that.
As someone who has been completely mortified anytime I've ever had to pee in the potential sight of other people, I completely understand why someone would use a bucket instead. I know this is usually less of a big deal for guys than for women, but not all guys are the same. Honestly I'm a little annoyed that neither of them considered that desire for privacy might be a factor here.
I went to a gothic Halloween wedding and it was so much fun! The bride looked gorgeous in her black gown & veil. They had a flower plague doctor, a witch officiant and a Viking escorted the bride (nice costumes, not the typical Halloween ones). While it's not a theme I'd choose for my wedding, it was lovely and suited the couple perfectly.
13:17 OK no actually these people totally exist. My papa T makes so many not OK jokes and says so many not OK words. But at the same time is the most accepting and loving person on the planet.
The ice-cream bucket - as someone with an unreasonable bladder capacity, I have never had to, but on many roads (e.g. UK motorways) it is a lot easier to find a layby where you could pull over and subtly fill a bucket or bottle than get to accessible field to offload. Also possibly he is using receptacle when stuck in stationary traffic?
The Wedding One: My rule of thumb is “if it doesn’t go out on the invites, it’s too late.” I know the bride didn’t choose her own dress by then, but (I mean in the kindest way) that’s her fault, not the people who may have already purchased clothing. If I was the bride in that situation, I might still ASK people not to wear the same color too, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking. BUT if someone already bought/planned a similar dress, I would accept that as the consequence of making such a last-minute request and harbor no hard feelings! The cousin is weird/the main drama in this story, but objectively, the couple can’t expect perfect wedding etiquette from the guests when they aren’t displaying their own as the “hosts”. It’s not about tradition, it’s about being considerate of people’s time and money. Asking is fine, but I would add a caveat to the request for the people who may have already chosen red. The other alternative is not being upset if anyone shows up in something not up to dress code because they didn’t have time/money to go purchase something else. When I’m a guest, I choose my outfit a month or 2 ahead of time at minimum, usually as soon as I get the invite and see what season it will be! I don’t own many dresses, most of the ones I do have were purchased for weddings specifically, so it’s not true that everyone just has alternatives sitting around in their closet. And while there may be time, that does not mean there is money. “just go buy another one” is not considerate of people’s various financial status’. I think if they wanted to be strict on this rule, they should’ve taken responsibility for that desire and figured out the dress much earlier; pre-invites.
I have IBS & one time I had to pull over & shit in the bushes because I for sure wasn't going to shit in my car. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Solidarity with my IBS comrades! Crohns & celiac included!
Damn an nearly 2 hours of shaaba and roly shenanigans split over the 2 channels ♡ this is gonna be an evening full of smiles and laughter I can just tell. Not even started the video yet but I always love the way you bounce off each others energy so I'm looking forward to settling in for an evening of these 2 videos ❤
36:00 I will admit, I did this with an old bleach container. I felt okay because it was decently discreet, I'd clear it every time, and no one would ever even open it. It always just looked like a bit of bleach in the side cup holder.
TMI/ To be honest, I've considered getting one of these thingies that allow women to pee into a little container. I have MS, which for me unfortunately comes with incontinence. When I need to go, I need to go NOW. I always wear incontinence pads, and when I know there's a long drive ahead without the option to stop at a rest stop, I might wear adult diapers. But to be honest, it's not the most comfortable thing… You know, once they are full… So maybe it would be better to get a container. Either way, I would feel crushed if my husband ever told me it was disgusting. /TMI
Yeah, one of the key rules of pissing in the wild is that you go somewhere people can't see you. Like, hide behind a tree. Don't do it near people. The field could well have been too open. It would only work if there's a wall, bush or tree that he could go behind. Wild wee etiquette, people.
Park the car in the side of the road, open the door and now you are covered from two sides. If you have back door, you can open that too and now you are covered from three sides. I have done that when I really needed to go, and I am a woman. For a man it is easier.
Or if there's waist-high tall grass not far off the road (edit: but still on the public part of the road's shoulder, not behind a fence or property line), just walk a few feet into it so you're covered from any angle that matters and stomp yourself a little clear spot to stop grass cuts on the tender bits while they're out. People passing by would likely know what you're doing, but the only ones who could actually SEE it are in planes overhead.
Yeah and depends on lots of stuff… are there safe areas to pull off near the fields? Are they owned by either high-surveillance corporate farms, and/or rural enough that they might be met with a shotgun blast to the rump? Also, here in my state, public urination is considered an exhibitionist/sex crime for prosecution and can literally get you on a Listed Sex Criminals roll permanently along with actual SAers and Ped*philes, so that’s a HUGE risk.
Roly brings such chaotic energy whenever he appears on collabs, it is pretty fun and infectious, I love it Also, man I love your eye color so much here
On the clothing topic, I'm going to play devil's advocate for a minute: I'm physically disabled and don't have the energy to change out of the clothes I wore to bed every morning. Sometimes I go to out in unwashed clothes, sweaty clothes, or slept in clothes because I just don't have the spoons to change. Many other physically disabled folks are the same. We have to pick and choose what we spend our energy on because we cannot do everything.
One thing I am noticing is how much longer european people think an hour drive is compared to north americans. And how much less distance they get in that same hour. I was temping at an office here in Oregon and had to cover for a coworker. The manchester office absolutely refused to believe that I was covering for her because she and her husband had both taken long lunches and drove a hundred miles each to meet in the middle for lunch.
Good point. I routinely drive over 3 hours from Orlando to South Florida non-stop to visit my folks. I feel like it goes by in the blink of an eye, if the traffic isn't atrocious.
yes me too! i recently was watching a d&d actual play and mint was introduced to characters that were children, so they had never tried mint before, and the DM described it as **cold spicy** and that is the best description i’ve ever heard
20:38 gandma wasn't entirely wrong! you shouldn't apply anything *cold* when you burn yourself, it's putting you at a higher risk of scarring/ damaging the tissue on the area but like, ofc dont use warm water either that won't calm the burn, so she was halfway there :'^)
That op of the pee post is not only ableist af, but has some seriously weird hang ups over repurposing plastic containers for reuse. Like I'm assuming op is talking about those big ice cream buckets that are usually meant for parties which are water proof, resealable, and are generally meant to be reused like any other similar duty containers like trash cans or sand castle buckets. Also it's been washed meaning it doesn't even have any pee in it. She's acting like a toddler herself like that bucket is somehow permanently contaminated and thereby contaminating everything else around it because at some point it had pee in it. The "it's not in the exactly one space it should be therefore it's wrong and bad" is far more toddler behavior than someone recognizing and accommodating a need that not everyone else has in a safe and healthy way. Also the whole why don't you just hold it is actually terrible advice for anyone as holding it in too long is the number one cause of UTIs and you can get so so sick doing that. I feel bad for the boyfriend cuz that's so infantilizing and inconsiderate like wtf.
Thoughts Re: wedding clothes. On the one hand it's nice to contact the wedding couple and ask what the colours are especially if there could be family photos. For example, I checked with my soon to be sis-in-law to ask about colours. If there was suddenly an announcement 4 weeks before the event and I realized I had to buy something else, I'd be super stressed. Not everyone can afford a second outfit and might even have trouble finding something nice to begin with (ie. in a bigger body and/or disabled and/or sensory issues).
Wedding one. NTD. OP told people as soon as they knew. If this was a new dress, I could see the cousin getting upset, since she would have bought it especially. It wasn't so no money was laid out. Mostly, imo, she was looking for an excuse not to come.
1 - NTD for running out, but her mum never said that was what she should apologize for. Mum pointed out the remark about the neighbour being a creep. 2 - NDH I think. As for aftershave, the idea is that it pulls the edges of the wound together so it stops the bleeding. 3 - NTD. Like you said, this sounds just like an excuse. 4 - YTD totally. As someone who drinks a lot and also tends to get upset stomachs a lot, it ain't easy to hold.
It’s called drawing a bath probably because you have to draw water up from a well, or at least you did if you wanted a bath back in the days before indoor plumbing. Nowadays I hear some people say draw a bath and some say run a bath
I trained myself to eat excessively spicy food (Indian, Thai mostly) but I got sick of my flat mates eating my food so I made sure it’ll hurt them and it stopped 😂 I eat really hot curry with ice cold water everyone looks at me like an alien, I’m thirsty not trying to dull the burn thank you 😂
38:31 it's a public decency thing. If you just pee on the side of the road and someone reports it, it is public indecency or at worse public nudity. But if he pees in a bucket in the privacy of his car, he is 1) less likely to be reported and 2) have a reasonable case if he is reported. I've been on my share of long drives with no bathrooms and we used a tin can or Gatorade bottles.
The Vicks story gives me VERY vivid images of that one weird Red Bull-drinking uncle who your parents suddenly stopped inviting to Christmas dinner. I can only read it in the voice of an old biker man screaming it in the middle of a family barbecue 👁👁
If I had been invited to a wedding (or any other party) and I have an outfit sorted out, I would be pissed if they would suddenly inform last minute change of the dress code. Considering that the outfit I have, would now be a no-no and I wouldn't have anything suitable at home. I don't like shopping clothes and don't like using a lot of money to clothes I might not wear again. So if I'd be forced to get a new outfit, I wouldn't be happy about it. If planning to have a dress code in a party, should state that in the invitation.
I agree. 4 weeks is short notice for a wedding dress code, which is something that should be communicated on the invitation. I understand that the bride only decided recently, but then I don’t think she should expect others to not wear a certain colour that is not public knowledge not to wear (ie not wear white or black). We cannot assume that everyone will have multiple outfits for special occasions. Having said that, I also think the cousin is being overly dramatic. She could have communicated in a calm manner that not being able to wear the dress she planned to wear is an issue.
My guess for "drawing a bath" is that it probably comes from "drawing water from a well" for the bath (when you had to hand fill a tub with buckets of water)? IDK where "drawing water from a well came from unless that's a shortened form of "withdraw" So I don't actually know and don't quote me but I'm hypothesizing that it went withdraw water from the well -> draw water from the well -> draw water (from the well) for a bath -> draw a bath
You need to get those big plastic viks vapo deffuser. They saved me when we lived in a place w black mold and were constantly sick. Its easier than trying to shower with it and more potant than putting it in a bowl and you can sleep or so other things while it does its thing.
The instructions on Vicks Vapor bath say to use two rounded caps full in a bath, so she definitely could have used too much by accident if she just poured it in.
I agree with you and Roly about the red wedding attire. They are NOT the drama. I don’t understand so many people saying otherwise. It appears to be a ‘nice attire’ function but not formal at all, so how difficult would it be to substitute the cousin’s chosen outfit for any nice business attire. A nice pant suit? The wedding couple are NTA for sure.
Peeing on the side of the road: I am not sure, but if he gets out to pee, he may be at risk of a public indecency ticket. Also, my drives on roads that go through fields it’s going 80mph with no shoulders on the road. I would not want to pull over myself 😅
peach ice tea AND the darjeeling?! hehe, go send some love to @RolyWestYT and check out our collab on his channel too! x
I came here from Roly's channel, you're great! Can't wait to check out more 😄🧡
Click is who taught him about the.... waffle stomping.
The phrase "draw a bath" comes from the days when we didnt have plumbing and had to draw out the water from the well.
Yes, and that use of the word "draw" is related to its broader meaning of "causing (a thing) to move via pulling." It shares an etymological origin with "drag," in fact!
@wingedjellifish11235 so technically if youre causing the water to flow the term is correct regardless?
@@wingedjellifish11235...RuPauls DRAW race. 😜...
I'm an idiot and I had to. 🤷♀️ 😂🤷♂️
@@wingedjellifish11235 but then why is drag called drag? I mean the drag from drag queens.
@@unstaybul I... Hadn't given much thought to the exact semantics of the word draw! I'd need to elicit a bunch of felicity judgements from different people to be really confident, but based on my own native speaker intuition, I'd say no? I can draw water out of a glass using an eyedropper, gravity draws water to the lowest local elevation, and I could draw water across a tabletop by dragging my finger through a spill. But if I were pushing the spill with a rag or pouring water out of a glass, I wouldn't consider it an acceptable word to describe that action with. So for me at least, I think the use of "draw" comes with restrictions on the method/manner by which one causes the water to flow, but if you use it differently, please let me know!
I wore a red dress to my wedding. I found out years before that each of my friends had different favourite colours, and I thought “if we each wore our favourite colour, we would be a rainbow” so that’s what we did for my wedding.
Love this!
So wholesome, love this ❤
That is such a gorgeous idea. I love it. For my wedding I wore the royal blue dress that my grandmother wore to my mother and her sister's joint wedding. It was both my something borrowed and my something blue.
What a great idea! 🌈
That's so good 😊 very blessed to have such a friend group
I'm disabled, and a "portable urinal" is what my male friends in wheelchairs use to go pee. It's basically a plastic container, and then they pour it in the toilet after.
First story - I freaking hate busybodies. That's what that woman was, a busybody. Her neighbor running outside for a minute in a robe is not her business. She was fully covered, not indecent. I'm really disappointed in OP's mom for not supporting her daughter. OMG. OP should totally make the apology while wearing a bikini!
ergh busybodies!
I would fully wonder what The Busybody’s version of the story was to OP’s mom.
I have a feeling it got “embellished” a bit, and *that* might be part of mom’s crummy reaction.
Still should back her daughter, but Neighbor Politics can be a real one, you know.
If the girl in the bathrobe is a literal teenager and the neighbor's husband is leering at her then absolutely NTA because I'm tired of adults being so fucking weird about teen girls' bodies
Also if the OP had been an older/elderly woman I'm positive the neighbor wouldn't have cared. Its only because she was young and she though/knows her husband would be attracted that she was mad.
@@awolters5827Or she was mad cuz she herself was attracted 🤮🤮
@@awolters5827So weird though. 53 years old here. I've gone out to get the mail in my robe, run out to get something off my porch countless times, or out of my car...I live next to a church. 🤷 I'm not an old 53 year old at all but I think there are some that can't handle seeing a woman of any age dressed "immodestly". Ridiculous.
The robe story ....was such a karen moment
" Your husband being a pervert , its not my concern"
And how insecure is she of her marriage to assume her husband gonna chet? Cheaters accuse others of being unfaithful.
Dude, I'm 51. Her age isn't the problem... bodies aren't taboo! I agree 100% about her marrying a creep.
That lady is lucky she got a young girl bc I would’ve told that and to f*ck off 😅
I'm 50 too & wouldn't have whinged about her wearing a robe for TWO SECONDS out to grab medicine, because unlike some people (like this 50yo in the story), I mind my own business
I agree entirely. Also I'm the kind of person to sarcastically say something like "I only wear my burka on days not ending in day" then just keep walking.
Or puke on her. Either should shut her up honestly.
I thought it was funny because I’ve seen and known of far more older people going out to fetch the post, take the rubbish out, have a chat even in the dressing gowns then I know of younger people even owning them lol.
I’m 24, and other than as a kid on Christmas mornings or cold winter evenings, I’ve not worn mine any times other that while in hospital after surgery!
Meanwhile my gran where’s hers very often, and used to take the dog out for a morning pee on our carpark (old pub lol) get the post, etc without even thinking about it, I wouldn’t be seen dead in mine 😂
@@MochiTheAxolotl69 You make a good point! I wear mine a lot more now than I ever did when I was younger!
For our wedding we did a Doctor Who theme without it being overt. We used drinking glasses etched with the Tardis as the vases for the table centerpieces along with different quotes from Dr Who about relationships. The ring bearer carried a little terrarium with a Tardis inside with the rings. It felt like our own personal touch without it taking over the whole wedding.
I love that idea I wish I could see the vases
I love this so much!
That sounds awesome :)
Thats amazing 🥹
Obsessed with that but infeel as long as a theme isn't overly offensive if people want a themed wedding then let them have it. It's their day. If this is something they love and brings them joy in life then why not bring it into their big day.
Vicks contains:
camphor, menthol, spirits of turpentine, oil of eucalyptus, cedarwood, nutmeg, and thymol
Several of these tree oils can cause irritation in sensitive skin (or membranes) and are common to have mild allergies to.
I'm allergic to mint and every time my dad uses icyhot etc i always have to run to a different part of the house because I start having a reaction lol. I think my skin might melt off if someone put vicks in my bath haha.
I thought this had to be fake, so I checked & people actually do this! You're supposed to use a teaspoon or so. Maybe the wife used too much. 😊
I used one of the Vicks shower tabs last time I was congested. It worked, but it was overwhelming
@@teri2466true, people don't always read the directions or feel they know better than the company who made the product.
“I WANT TO SEE SOMEONE DIE” is hands down the best part of the intro 😂
Strap in, Roly's a rollercoaster! 💛
YES!!!!
@@shaabaRoly is everything! Seriously his such a riot.
@@shaabaone might say a Rolycoaster
@@bumbley.umbleythat's what I wanted to say 😂
An ice cream bucket is a plastic gallon-size bucket. They have a plastic lid and a plastic handle and can be cleaned completely. Most truckers (even without medical conditions) usually use soda pop or water bottles and throw them in the trash; using the bucket, particularly if he is washing it out between uses, is just a more sustainable option.
Now, if he's going home and washing out the bucket in the same sinkful of water with the dishes you eat on, maybe there is a conversation that needs to occur about that...
But either way, yeah...
She's definitely the drama.
Nothing at all wrong about having a pee bucket if you sometimes don't make it between stops, regardless of how long that is.
While I agree that's not a problem with peeing in a container in emergencys, but I drink more than 4 liters of water every day (normally 5 to 6, also due medical issues) I can hold it in for 2 hours with no problem.
@@feviana8852 I worry how long one can actually hold it without compromising health
I was SO expecting the clip of Luxeria saying, "I've got a bucket of piss, sweetie!" But then I remembered this isn't Roly or Novympia's channel. 😂
😂😂 youre right!@@andronymous31
@@feviana8852holding your urine for long periods of time can cause bladder issues. So good for you you can hold it for so long, but everyone's not you.
In the pee bucket story, it could be a plastic gallon ice cream tub. Also screw that girl, I also have to keep constantly hydrated for medical reasons, and while I'm used to holding it, it can get pretty painful after awhile.
Actually holding in your pee increases the risk for health conditions such as a UTI. ESPECIALLY if someone is holding pee in for a long time repeatedly. It has gotten schools who are strict with bathroom breaks in trouble because kids end up getting UTIs and other bladder problems.
Im a disabled person with vulva and have a urine bottle with attachment in the car for moments when i am caught unawares and am nowhere near a toilet. It does have a lid though and i always empty and disinfect when home. (Nb. You might consider it a car urinal)
Ableism successfully detected i think.
The bathroom story - there's plastic buckets of ice cream in US stores that do have lids and handles. There's also portable urinals for men and women. Finally, as someone with bladder and kidney problems myself, holding isn't easy for everyone.
I definately get that.
I am an AFAB person who has had GI issues since birth and overactive bladder, when i need to pee or go number 2: when i need to go, i need to go. The amount of times i've had to hold it and be in agony to the point i feel sick/can't walk while my eyes are streaming. I try to hold it as long as i can, 1 hr to maybe an hour & a half a most (pee) or i have to go there and then (poop). Anymore i get excruciating pain.
If i can , i go at the side of the road but if i've held it in too long and in agony , it won't just go whoosh and done. It take 5 or so minutes and changing sitting positions for my body to relax to let me relieve myself.
It is horrible, embarressing and painful. Having female body parts, i can't just pee in a bottle.
There aren't many services on major roads. Despite UK being a lot smaller than a plethora of other countries, there are a lot of rules on stopping on a road: especially on motorways. Xx
I believe that the mints are what we would call, "Cold Spicy." lol
Shaaba and Roly are such a chaotic duo I love it
I’ve been waiting for them to collab🥹
For the last one I can understand not wanting to pee in the fields. Having been caught squatting with my skirt hoisted, you never know how quickly & quietly people can appear.
He may be worried about people who live on a route he has to use eveyday seeing him & even possibly getting in trouble for public indecency (possibly by someone who loves to complain refusing to listen to his explanations)
yeah when on long road trips i hate getting out to pee outside because like. you're just exposed like that and everyone can see you
@@AstronomicalJelly it really is a very awkward experience, even if you’re lucky enough that no one does discover you or you found what you think is a brilliant cover to hide behind, the fear of being caught is always there
An AITA video NOT on Monday and with Roly?? Shaaba is truly spoiling us.
Vicks uses menthol as the active ingredient. Some people are very sensitive to it. For instance, I am not and I have often used horse liniment for a muscle rub. My husband, is very sensitive and can't stand Vicks or anything with menthol in it. It actually reddens his skin and feels like a chemical burn. On the other hand I can't use an ointment with capsaicin (from peppers) at all. It feels like a chemical burn.
Shabba has such warm kind energy and Roly is chaotic and unhinged 🤣 perfect dynamic
The way they interact reminds me of one of my friends and myself 🥺
To explain ice cream buckets: idk if everywhere has them, but in the States stores sell big plastic buckets of ice cream for parties and larger families. They do have lids that supposedly seal good.
When I heard "Ice cream bucket" I imagined the gallon sized plastic buckets that you can get in American grocery stores. My parents always got those because being a family of 5, we could eat a lot of ice cream in the summer. We always kept the buckets for various uses. some for cleaning around the house (holding soapy water) some were used in the garden to protect plants on frosty nights, some became sand box toys, some became storage for things. they were really handy and sturdy. I would hope that he'd give the bucket a wash after emptying it when he had to use it, but if it's one of those plastic buckets with a lid then it's not that bad of a thing to use in emergencies IMO. Also in America it's illegal to pee on the side of the road. If you get caught you would be charged with indecent exposure, so it is more common to pull over and pee in the car into some sort of container in emergencies.
Ahh thanks for sharing! x
i feel like with the red wedding dress story, 1. yeah the cousin is totally just trying to get out of going to the wedding, but 2. it feels like they're the AH because, okay, it can be argued that 4 weeks isn't that much notice, but also... there's a difference between going "oh, my dress is red. would it be possible for me to wear it anyway as it's short notice?" and going "omg you F-ing AH how dare you not give us more notice" like.... the reaction is just not proportionate with what has happened. so OP is NTA because there's a difference between being annoyed at plans suddenly changing and literally refusing to go to a wedding and making a huge drama over it without even trying to sort the matter out peacefully first.
The cousin is totally trying to find an excuse not to go and is being overly dramatic.
I do think 4 weeks is short notice for a dress code to a wedding though.
@@s.a.4358 Agreed. My rule of thumb is “if it doesn’t go out on the invites, it’s too late.” I know the bride didn’t choose her own dress that early but, I mean in the most respectful way, that’s her fault? Not the people who may have already bought dresses?? If I was the bride in that situation, I might still ASK people not to wear the same color too, BUT if someone already bought/planned a similar dress, I would accept that as the consequences of making such a last-minute request and harbor no hard feelings. Responsibility for your own actions people!
@@alexnoelle5423 I have the feeling everyone is being a bit dramatic. The cousin certain, with her whole reaction of going or not going to the wedding even before the red dress issue, but also the bride over picking a red dress a month before the wedding and not let anyone else wear that colour. Also choosing a wedding venue where one is not supposed to have a wedding?! Of all the restaurants they could have picked, why choose one where they have to be discreet about it being a wedding? Maybe it is their favourite restaurant or something like that, and I guess it’s their wedding so they should have the place they like, but it seems to me a bit like wanting to “be different” just for the sake of it.
@@s.a.4358 literally tho, like out of all the places they picked they chose the single venue that didn't allow wedding parties?? madness. like just go somewhere else.
@@s.a.4358 100%. I feel like there’s zero etiquette on both sides, which is fine if everyone’s okay with that. But enforcing etiquette from guests while not having any as a host is just hypocritical in my opinion. No idea what’s up with the cousin. Feels like she just doesn’t want to go, which is honestly her prerogative, but say so in the first place, right?!
I'm sorry but i didn't know this guy and I was literally like "wow Jamie's had a makeover"
Shayne Topp, will give YTA badge for how people will write stories, like you aren’t the AH in the situation, but how you wrote the story makes you sound like one.
In the US, especially the south, it's considered rude to wear red to a wedding - almost as rude as wearing white - because of an old idea that red meant you either want to or already have slept with a member of the couple/were the groom's mistress, etc. Nowadays, it's considered rude because it's too eye-catching in photos. My own mother wouldn't even wear burgundy for her mother-of-the-bride dress even though I, the bride, picked it out for her lol
...I'm good friends with my ex, if he gets married and invites me, should I wear red? 😂Or no because we never slept together?
@unapologeticallylizzy I mean I think it'd be funny lol
@@raspberryitalia3464 I think so too 😂 and I have some gorgeous red dresses. I expect due to his views on marriage versus mine, I'm more likely to get married before he does but I feel like that'd make it funnier.
No red at a wedding is a pretty recent thing, red as a colour supposedly signalling promiscuity is a very new idea. People claim it's a historical thing, and it even has made its way even into reenactment "Victorians wouldn't wear red! That's for slnts!" except Queen Victoria wore red in a portrait.
Many wedding rules that people claim are very old turn out to be very recent. No white was not a rule because most brides did not wear white (or white only, white wedding dresses existed, because white dresses in general existed, brides simply wore their best clothes, which could be any colour) for a very long time.
So red as a guest is only rude because some people made up a rule about it very recently. That's not to say that those people won't find it rude, but the reason (she slept with the groom) is complete nonsense. It's also not a common thing in most places. I only heard about it from a few people from the US.
I learned that black is more offensive because it implies mourning the wedding instead of celebrating it, but that's a fairly recent thing too.
@AnnekeOosterink it may be relatively recent, but my grandmother never wore red anywhere her entire life because where she grew up (deep south usa) she was taught red was a whore's color. These might be localized ideas but they exist.
Also, come on - the scarlet letter, the red light district, these things have existed a while.
29:10 I always said that if I got married, it would be a Halloween wedding with everyone coming in costume. But even with the clothing being non-traditional, I would likely ask people not to come dressed up as whatever myself or my partner were going to be dressed as.
AFAIK, the rule to not wear white at a wedding is because that's the color that the bride is wearing. So it makes sense that the color changes depending on whatever the bride decides to wear. I'm not understanding all the "YTA" verdicts either. The cousin is a guest. As a guest to a wedding, I tend to just raid my closet a few days before. 4 weeks is MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME to pick another outfit.
Roly!!! Love this combo. Precious Shaaba and chaotic Roly!
I think for the dress it's not really a question of tradition, but more about "stealing the thunder". Like, you don't wear the same color as the bride, to let her shine by making her the only one in that specific color maybe.
I love Jamie and Roly filming but Shabaa and Roly is something very special 🤣 her sweet and unproblematic language and nature compared with Roly’s dark humour and chaotic energy is like whiplash and it’s hilarious ❤️
Despite their differences in nature they’re also still similar
Yes. Jamie and Shaaba are very complementary personalities and they share a lot of temperaments, at least on camera. Shaaba is very much lawful good, and Roly is chaotic good... maybe chaotic neutral. Still learning a bit about DnD. Totally different vibe and I like what Roly pulls out of her.
Also, re: the pee story, it's NOT healthy to hold in pee when you have to go. Like, you can get a UTI, or even Kidney stones. Like, if you gotta pee, you gotta pee. Constantly holding it in and forcing yourself not to pee can lead to heath issues.
My best friend and I were not warned about the need to water down squash when we moved to Ireland and then the UK (from Canada), so the first drink of that was certainly intense.
rolys grandma's advice about running burns under warm water is actually correct!! you typically want to run burns under luke warm or room temp water
*Definitely sounds like the guy sat on an undissolved crystal in the bath.
*I agree with you on the red wedding dress one.
*Y'all are so much fun to watch! 💜
7:55 - I feel like it's quite often that like, middle-aged men walking around topless with their beer bellies hanging out are used as an example all "they're doing it", and I feel like, yeah; and it's great that they have the confidence to do that. It'd be great if everyone had the ability to just be comfortable in their body and left unbothered when they choose to dress (or not dress) a certain way, within reason of course.
My mother used to go off about how awful it was with these "fat old men running around in nothing but shorts" and I just think it's fine. No one's getting hurt, provided they're wearing sunscreen.
Swedish perspective here. I live in a suburb that's fused with a by Swedish measures larger city. If you're on the motorway there's no place to stop unless you leave the main road. As I understood it, the problem arises when traffic is backed up and when that happens, the back road clog up with people trying to get around it. Even trying to get off the main road can take 20 minutes but you also can't really know in advance how long it's going to take.
Telling someone to go pee in a field could potentially be very bad advice in the US. In one of the most asinine laws in this country, you can be put on the offender registry for peeing in public in many states.
What do you do if you are on a road trip and really need to pee while driving in the middle of nowhere?
I have peed in so many fields! And so have my parents. Just go behind a bush of somewhere where nobody can see you.
@@s.a.4358 you do what OP's boyfriend did, I guess.
@@Lexichi22 thankfully I live in Europe, not the USA, so I will take my chance peeing in nature in an emergency 😅
True story, a grandmother got arrested in America for letting her grandson pee in a park in NYC.
actually with the peeing in the car, in some countries like usa you can be put on sex offenders registry for peeing on the side of the road. its considered exposing yourself in public.
I had the unfortunate fun of applying an icyhot back patch over a lower buttcheek spot. What was originally diagnosed as 'unknown back pain/possible sciatica' was actually a pilonidal abscess. The icy hot patch felt like I sat down straight on a fiery pike. Do not suggest.
OH MY GOD. The gasp I gasped reading this, I felt like my stomach dropped to my feet. Nobody should have to experience even a portion of the pain you must have experienced.
Holy sh*t that must have hurt like an insane amount. I can’t even use icyhot on ordinary skin (really sensitive) let alone an *abscess*. 😬 So sorry you experienced that-sounds horrendous!
I came here to mention a similar story, I knew someone who thought icy hot was like Trojans fire and ice lube though, needless to say it did not end up pleasantly
Love Jamie‘s new style ♡ although getting all these tattoos and piercings all at once must have been pretty painful
Physically and for the wallet 😉
😂😂
I feel bad for the guy who needs to pee alot. A "icecream bucket" does not sound great. You can buy things like pocket toilets (basically a folding bottle you can pee in) , travel/camping toilet, you can even just buy sealable sick bags that can hold alot and be disposed of safely :)
I have alot of health issues and have looked into emergency toilet needs alot. The best seems to be a sickbag type thing , they can be slid into your pocket or your glove compartment or under your seat or whatever until you need them and then you can seal it safely so nothing gets out and then you can bin it once your at the other end.
I hope they don't feel ashamed or anything ♡
Also a kids travel potty could be useful. I definitely think they need to find a more hygienic way to do this but the fact they had something even if it was a icecream tub shows that they obviously can't "just hold it in" and it's something they are trying to handle.
I hope they don't feel ashamed, they literally have a medical condition ❤
i also have unpredictable needs for the bathroom. i recently purchased a camping toilet for my annual beach trip, and the difference in panic and physical pain levels are night and day.
On my first visit to England, they gave me a bottle of squash and I drank about half over half an hour before they noticed and told me it's concentrate haha Truly a how to spot an American without them speaking moment :D
I’m so glad to find your comment! Even after their banter I still wasn’t sure what squash was or why it’s bad to drink a bottle 😂. Before the picture, I thought she was drinking pumpkin juice!
@@shannono9421 I think the best US equivalent of squash would be cordial.
We drink it as an everyday thing, kids especially, where as Americans don’t seem to drink “cordial” very often.
It’s just a super strong concentrated liquid we dilute with water.
Lots of different flavours, and it’s generally quite healthy as it’s generally quite low in sugar anyway by the time it’s diluted 4-1, but you can get reduced sugar and sugar free versions.
I drink apple and elderflower squash daily!
Honnestly you’re not the first person I’ve heard of do this lol!
If you search for videos of Americans trying British things/drinks SO many drink it neat straight from the bottle, and so many say it’s gross, how can we drink it etc, then often they will go back and try it another time after being corrected and decide it’s actually nice if done correctly!
My dad is obsessed with these types of video and so frequently tells me about the latest one he’s found lol
Also if you try Bovril or Marmite, you already a very thin layer on some buttered bread or toast.
None of us like it too thick or straight from the jar!
Weirdly that one always gets you too 😂
I had a last-min military wedding, in a public park, during a HOT summer day. My partner was in a blue/red uniform and I chose to wear red.
We wanted people to come casual, with a bit of red to match our group (only 10-15 ppl even showed up)... The Best Man was in shorts and tank top ffs. So glad my partner and i cared so little about the wedding itself. It was sweet and we were both too giddy to care. Pictures were cute too!
F wedding monsters.
The second poster certainly has a way with words.
I'll never understand why a parent wouldn't back up their kid however old they are
12:30
Back in ye olde pre-plumbing days you would literally draw water from its source to fill your bath. As in drawn from a well, the same etymology as a horse drawn cart. "Draw" = "Pull"
6:54 lol I moved my car in my pajamas this morning, just couldn’t be bothered to get dressed for that
Story 3: NTA, their wedding, cousin is being very difficult and is the AH. They have time to pick another dress: cousin has supposedly been to plenty of weddings recently so probably has other options.
As someone with abdominal prolapse from childbirth which has led to urinary incontinence, as well as a currently 6yo kiddo, we absolutely have a pee bucket in our car. It does have a lid, and it does get washed out after use, but 🤷♀️ It has never seemed like a big deal to me.
There's biodegradable pee bags that all genders can use and when you pee in them, it goes onto a powder that crystallises and then you can throw it out and again, it's all biodegradable.
These are used a lot at festivals.
Great for kids abd adults alike for trips or like that story for medical conditions.
ooh thanks for sharing!
@@shaaba Emily Boo on TH-cam just showed them in her recent video.
They've been around a little while now but not well known.
Hope they help. 💚💚
For the first one, I once drove past a house on a very busy road. Old lady (at least 70s), she was chilling on her front porch in a dressing gown/robe and nothing else. But it was open and she was wearing absolutely nothing underneath and I saw everything...I feel like this is more of an issue than someone dashing outside for a minute in her completely covering robe.
Aerosolizing the Vicks in the hot water of the shower is super helpful for opening up clogged airways .. buuuut I'm sure there's a scale here of healthy amount vs.. too much in the bath tho? I feel like she'd have been better off with some lavender bath salts or sumthn
🤣 So for "draw a bath", I'm pretty sure it's the same "draw" as "draw something towards yourself" - people used to have to draw water from a well to get the water *for* the bath, so "drawing a bath" likely stemmed from that.
As someone who has been completely mortified anytime I've ever had to pee in the potential sight of other people, I completely understand why someone would use a bucket instead. I know this is usually less of a big deal for guys than for women, but not all guys are the same. Honestly I'm a little annoyed that neither of them considered that desire for privacy might be a factor here.
Seeing Roly try to reign himself in just enough 🤣🤣🤣
I went to a gothic Halloween wedding and it was so much fun! The bride looked gorgeous in her black gown & veil. They had a flower plague doctor, a witch officiant and a Viking escorted the bride (nice costumes, not the typical Halloween ones). While it's not a theme I'd choose for my wedding, it was lovely and suited the couple perfectly.
13:17 OK no actually these people totally exist. My papa T makes so many not OK jokes and says so many not OK words. But at the same time is the most accepting and loving person on the planet.
somehow i never expected this duo but i am SO here for this dynamic their energy works so well together
They've done quite a couple collabs actually!!
@@princessofhell4639 REALLY?? IM BINGING THEM ALL
The ice-cream bucket - as someone with an unreasonable bladder capacity, I have never had to, but on many roads (e.g. UK motorways) it is a lot easier to find a layby where you could pull over and subtly fill a bucket or bottle than get to accessible field to offload. Also possibly he is using receptacle when stuck in stationary traffic?
The Wedding One: My rule of thumb is “if it doesn’t go out on the invites, it’s too late.” I know the bride didn’t choose her own dress by then, but (I mean in the kindest way) that’s her fault, not the people who may have already purchased clothing. If I was the bride in that situation, I might still ASK people not to wear the same color too, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking. BUT if someone already bought/planned a similar dress, I would accept that as the consequence of making such a last-minute request and harbor no hard feelings! The cousin is weird/the main drama in this story, but objectively, the couple can’t expect perfect wedding etiquette from the guests when they aren’t displaying their own as the “hosts”. It’s not about tradition, it’s about being considerate of people’s time and money. Asking is fine, but I would add a caveat to the request for the people who may have already chosen red. The other alternative is not being upset if anyone shows up in something not up to dress code because they didn’t have time/money to go purchase something else. When I’m a guest, I choose my outfit a month or 2 ahead of time at minimum, usually as soon as I get the invite and see what season it will be! I don’t own many dresses, most of the ones I do have were purchased for weddings specifically, so it’s not true that everyone just has alternatives sitting around in their closet. And while there may be time, that does not mean there is money. “just go buy another one” is not considerate of people’s various financial status’. I think if they wanted to be strict on this rule, they should’ve taken responsibility for that desire and figured out the dress much earlier; pre-invites.
I have IBS & one time I had to pull over & shit in the bushes because I for sure wasn't going to shit in my car. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Solidarity with my IBS comrades! Crohns & celiac included!
I have to say that 1) Shaaba is gorgeous. 2) Roly has BEAUTIFUL eyes. and 3) I appreciate that you look at each other while talking to each other.
Damn an nearly 2 hours of shaaba and roly shenanigans split over the 2 channels ♡ this is gonna be an evening full of smiles and laughter I can just tell.
Not even started the video yet but I always love the way you bounce off each others energy so I'm looking forward to settling in for an evening of these 2 videos ❤
36:00 I will admit, I did this with an old bleach container. I felt okay because it was decently discreet, I'd clear it every time, and no one would ever even open it. It always just looked like a bit of bleach in the side cup holder.
Draw a bath is from the days when water was drawn in the sense that it was pumped or supplied in some way that didn't rely simply on water pressure.
TMI/ To be honest, I've considered getting one of these thingies that allow women to pee into a little container. I have MS, which for me unfortunately comes with incontinence. When I need to go, I need to go NOW. I always wear incontinence pads, and when I know there's a long drive ahead without the option to stop at a rest stop, I might wear adult diapers. But to be honest, it's not the most comfortable thing… You know, once they are full… So maybe it would be better to get a container.
Either way, I would feel crushed if my husband ever told me it was disgusting. /TMI
Yeah, one of the key rules of pissing in the wild is that you go somewhere people can't see you. Like, hide behind a tree. Don't do it near people. The field could well have been too open. It would only work if there's a wall, bush or tree that he could go behind. Wild wee etiquette, people.
Park the car in the side of the road, open the door and now you are covered from two sides. If you have back door, you can open that too and now you are covered from three sides. I have done that when I really needed to go, and I am a woman. For a man it is easier.
Or if there's waist-high tall grass not far off the road (edit: but still on the public part of the road's shoulder, not behind a fence or property line), just walk a few feet into it so you're covered from any angle that matters and stomp yourself a little clear spot to stop grass cuts on the tender bits while they're out. People passing by would likely know what you're doing, but the only ones who could actually SEE it are in planes overhead.
@@Susirajantakaa Yeah that's true, that works too
Yeah and depends on lots of stuff… are there safe areas to pull off near the fields?
Are they owned by either high-surveillance corporate farms, and/or rural enough that they might be met with a shotgun blast to the rump?
Also, here in my state, public urination is considered an exhibitionist/sex crime for prosecution and can literally get you on a Listed Sex Criminals roll permanently along with actual SAers and Ped*philes, so that’s a HUGE risk.
@@RM-hi4vv I mean, it isn't a crime everywhere, actually. Not where I'm from.
Story 2: love the story telling from Roly. NAH. He’s in pain and worried, she hurt by his reaction when she was trying to help.
Roly brings such chaotic energy whenever he appears on collabs, it is pretty fun and infectious, I love it
Also, man I love your eye color so much here
On the clothing topic, I'm going to play devil's advocate for a minute: I'm physically disabled and don't have the energy to change out of the clothes I wore to bed every morning. Sometimes I go to out in unwashed clothes, sweaty clothes, or slept in clothes because I just don't have the spoons to change. Many other physically disabled folks are the same. We have to pick and choose what we spend our energy on because we cannot do everything.
That one 50yo robe Karen must have def been projecting if she that easily thinks her husband would cheat on her. Cheaters accuse others of cheating.
One thing I am noticing is how much longer european people think an hour drive is compared to north americans. And how much less distance they get in that same hour.
I was temping at an office here in Oregon and had to cover for a coworker. The manchester office absolutely refused to believe that I was covering for her because she and her husband had both taken long lunches and drove a hundred miles each to meet in the middle for lunch.
Also a car urinal is the standard (for bedridden patients) medical urinals sold with a car huck.
Good point. I routinely drive over 3 hours from Orlando to South Florida non-stop to visit my folks. I feel like it goes by in the blink of an eye, if the traffic isn't atrocious.
Oh! Listerine Strips! I remember those, they made me gag because spearmint is so spicy.
yes me too! i recently was watching a d&d actual play and mint was introduced to characters that were children, so they had never tried mint before, and the DM described it as **cold spicy** and that is the best description i’ve ever heard
20:38 gandma wasn't entirely wrong! you shouldn't apply anything *cold* when you burn yourself, it's putting you at a higher risk of scarring/ damaging the tissue on the area
but like, ofc dont use warm water either that won't calm the burn, so she was halfway there :'^)
Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little peaches, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
That op of the pee post is not only ableist af, but has some seriously weird hang ups over repurposing plastic containers for reuse. Like I'm assuming op is talking about those big ice cream buckets that are usually meant for parties which are water proof, resealable, and are generally meant to be reused like any other similar duty containers like trash cans or sand castle buckets. Also it's been washed meaning it doesn't even have any pee in it. She's acting like a toddler herself like that bucket is somehow permanently contaminated and thereby contaminating everything else around it because at some point it had pee in it. The "it's not in the exactly one space it should be therefore it's wrong and bad" is far more toddler behavior than someone recognizing and accommodating a need that not everyone else has in a safe and healthy way. Also the whole why don't you just hold it is actually terrible advice for anyone as holding it in too long is the number one cause of UTIs and you can get so so sick doing that. I feel bad for the boyfriend cuz that's so infantilizing and inconsiderate like wtf.
Thoughts Re: wedding clothes. On the one hand it's nice to contact the wedding couple and ask what the colours are especially if there could be family photos. For example, I checked with my soon to be sis-in-law to ask about colours. If there was suddenly an announcement 4 weeks before the event and I realized I had to buy something else, I'd be super stressed. Not everyone can afford a second outfit and might even have trouble finding something nice to begin with (ie. in a bigger body and/or disabled and/or sensory issues).
Wedding one. NTD. OP told people as soon as they knew. If this was a new dress, I could see the cousin getting upset, since she would have bought it especially. It wasn't so no money was laid out. Mostly, imo, she was looking for an excuse not to come.
1 - NTD for running out, but her mum never said that was what she should apologize for. Mum pointed out the remark about the neighbour being a creep.
2 - NDH I think. As for aftershave, the idea is that it pulls the edges of the wound together so it stops the bleeding.
3 - NTD. Like you said, this sounds just like an excuse.
4 - YTD totally. As someone who drinks a lot and also tends to get upset stomachs a lot, it ain't easy to hold.
It’s called drawing a bath probably because you have to draw water up from a well, or at least you did if you wanted a bath back in the days before indoor plumbing. Nowadays I hear some people say draw a bath and some say run a bath
I trained myself to eat excessively spicy food (Indian, Thai mostly) but I got sick of my flat mates eating my food so I made sure it’ll hurt them and it stopped 😂 I eat really hot curry with ice cold water everyone looks at me like an alien, I’m thirsty not trying to dull the burn thank you 😂
38:31 it's a public decency thing. If you just pee on the side of the road and someone reports it, it is public indecency or at worse public nudity. But if he pees in a bucket in the privacy of his car, he is 1) less likely to be reported and 2) have a reasonable case if he is reported. I've been on my share of long drives with no bathrooms and we used a tin can or Gatorade bottles.
I just imagine Jamie somewhere in the house suddenly hearing Roly singing "My coconuts!"
The Vicks story gives me VERY vivid images of that one weird Red Bull-drinking uncle who your parents suddenly stopped inviting to Christmas dinner. I can only read it in the voice of an old biker man screaming it in the middle of a family barbecue 👁👁
If I had been invited to a wedding (or any other party) and I have an outfit sorted out, I would be pissed if they would suddenly inform last minute change of the dress code. Considering that the outfit I have, would now be a no-no and I wouldn't have anything suitable at home. I don't like shopping clothes and don't like using a lot of money to clothes I might not wear again. So if I'd be forced to get a new outfit, I wouldn't be happy about it.
If planning to have a dress code in a party, should state that in the invitation.
I agree. 4 weeks is short notice for a wedding dress code, which is something that should be communicated on the invitation. I understand that the bride only decided recently, but then I don’t think she should expect others to not wear a certain colour that is not public knowledge not to wear (ie not wear white or black). We cannot assume that everyone will have multiple outfits for special occasions.
Having said that, I also think the cousin is being overly dramatic. She could have communicated in a calm manner that not being able to wear the dress she planned to wear is an issue.
My guess for "drawing a bath" is that it probably comes from "drawing water from a well" for the bath (when you had to hand fill a tub with buckets of water)? IDK where "drawing water from a well came from unless that's a shortened form of "withdraw"
So I don't actually know and don't quote me but I'm hypothesizing that it went
withdraw water from the well -> draw water from the well -> draw water (from the well) for a bath -> draw a bath
Haha living for the brief Placebo reference & singsong “every me, and every you” - too good! Hope this collab happens again 😍
YAY WHAT A CROSSOVER 🔥
It's that iced peach darjeeling today!
You need to get those big plastic viks vapo deffuser. They saved me when we lived in a place w black mold and were constantly sick. Its easier than trying to shower with it and more potant than putting it in a bowl and you can sleep or so other things while it does its thing.
I agree, Roly needs to record some books in that voice!❤
Love you two together!!
Aww yay, hope you enjoy the vid! x
Gonna call my haemorrhoids my "mannequins" from now on. Thank you Shaaba!
Years ago, I pulled my groin muscle and the Bengay (another name for Icy Hot) burned me
I eat A TON of ice, I need to pee at least twice every hour….
The instructions on Vicks Vapor bath say to use two rounded caps full in a bath, so she definitely could have used too much by accident if she just poured it in.
Anyone else gaging for a 1800 Drama/Gag Of The Millennial Podcast crossover???
I agree with you and Roly about the red wedding attire. They are NOT the drama. I don’t understand so many people saying otherwise. It appears to be a ‘nice attire’ function but not formal at all, so how difficult would it be to substitute the cousin’s chosen outfit for any nice business attire. A nice pant suit? The wedding couple are NTA for sure.
Peeing on the side of the road: I am not sure, but if he gets out to pee, he may be at risk of a public indecency ticket. Also, my drives on roads that go through fields it’s going 80mph with no shoulders on the road. I would not want to pull over myself 😅