This is NOT the "anti-vemom" to the "venom". It doesn't talk about how to address and heal from the real traumas that are the sources of the pain, suffering, "venom". 👎 1 should not have to "take responsibility" for traumas caused by others, and i know it means take responsibility for your own emotions and actions on how to handle it. BUT, that CAN'T HAPPEN UNTIL the person gets the love and support and help to treat the "venom" which is the source of it all. Otherwise the "love" given out from within still carries a desperation or resentment that is part of said venom.
Being a child and domestic abuse survivor, this hit right in the feels. I am resentful of so many things I know I have to let go in order for me to be free
Know that what you went through was in order to help you, no matter what it looks like. Like the lotus that blooms out of the mud, we also bloom from the muck. Be that one, the example of what transcendence looks like. Much Love and Light on your journey 🙇♀️🙏💛
U gotta ask God to help u forgive and let go of bitterness cuz that root has grown over the years and u don't have the strength to pull out that root of bitterness, only God can do it.
The tricky thing is, we can't really let go of resentment because if we do, then there is no "I" to tell the tale. The "I" will therefore resist letting go though many clever, clever ways... Luckily, all we need to do is recognize that resentment is still there, that we (and no one) are not guilty for keeping it, but we'd love to think differently. We ask the Holy Spirit, God, or whatever we want to call it, for help, that we can look at things in a different light. That's all. We ask, wholeheartedly, and just make sure we're willing to recieve, to the best of our ability. The "I" gets to stay, and use it's functions, which means resistance won't be too hard (it will be there though, it just won't win the battle), but it slowly gives way to Truth.
@@Instancias_de_paz I needed to hear this today, as I’ve been feeling a lot of restlessness, fear, anxiety, worry and an overall sense of dread. Not feeling equipped to handle this thing called “life”, wanting to leave sooner rather than later. Such a hard thing to do, separate your feelings from what you truly are. But pointers like this help on the journey. Thank you so much and I hope you have an amazing day 🌅 🙇♀️🙏
That Teddy story hits home. When I was a little girl my mom taught me that lesson with a cousin I had and didn’t like much. He was hyperactive and used to destroy everything. My mom tells me he will be staying with us a full day and I pleaded with her to not allow it because I was afraid he’ll destroy my books. She told me he was not going to misbehave and she was going to show me how. Well he came and as soon as his mom left and he was about to get into my books, my mom offered to read him a book. I remember to this day how still and hypnotized he was, he kept on asking for more books. When he left, my mom mentioned how he misbehaves because he needs more attention than he receives. I leaned a great lesson that day that to this day I remember clearly.
@@GlowBowlPhilosophy I won the lottery with my mom and my dad. Life is easier because of them, all I do is follow their steps with a few updates here and there. Thank you for your words.
That's awesome. :) I've been called wise quite a few times, even though I'm still young. I always say the same thing, "I just listen to people who are where I would like to be and try my best to follow their advice." Adding your own twist is definitely important. Sounds like you're on great path. 🙂
I was middle child of 7 kids in a very dysfunctional family. Neglected and abused I was socially aloof and completely checked out in school and treated poorly by a lot of peers and most of my teachers. But Ms. Wilson, my 3rd grade teacher at Bethel Elementary in KC, Kansas taught me what unconditional love was. She always believed in me and treated me with kindness and compassion. I’ll never ever forget her.
Unfortunately I never found someone like you teacher or the one from the clip.. In fact at 27 I have a destroyed life, because no one was there to show me I matter
@@lovemydog27 You do matter! I promise you that. It is very hard to see it though when you’ve been treated poorly all or most of your life. God loves everyone with an infinite love! We can’t fathom how much God loves you.
@@lovemydog27 we can learn self care, try to get a mentor, if you speak kindly to people with issues, do the same with your inner and outer talk about yourself. There’s a lady on TH-cam that I listened to a couple times. Tara Brach. Look her up, not exactly for budism or enlightenment, but just listen she makes me feel very welcomed n normal
@@lovemydog27You don't need anyone to show you matter. That's a mistake I was making, a terrible mistake. By believing that you need someone you are giving your soul, self-esteem and happiness into someone else's hands. This way you will be used by someone else just for them to feel better. Go and be alone. Learn in solitude to be with yourself. It may be tuff at first 😉 But after some time you can build in solitude yourself from scratch. Believe that you need anyone for being happy is a LIE put into people usually by controlling women, especially mommy. You don't need anyone to be happy. Also try psylocybin. It helps go through the first stages of solitude. Exercises and good diet are also needed because healing your soul may be exhausting 😊 Remember, you don't need anything from anyone to be happy. Nothing and nobody.
I spent the majority of my 20s being bitter and resentful because people who were close to me turn their backs on me and hurt me tremendously. I always thought I was aa good person who was better than everyone and believed I had some kind of moral high ground but I had to learn that REAL GOOD people show it through action, they don’t just sit around and claim to be a good person and they definitely don’t sit around and judge others. Forgiveness, understanding, and healing are painful processes but nothing compares to the years of suffering I have already endured being alone and angry at the world and god. I hope everyone find the strength to overcome their challenges and to choose love and happiness over all.
@@Izz740 If you can afford therapy or if it is offered through your health insurance you should start there. The pain others cause you may never completly go away but you should try to understand the people that hurt you. Maybe they have been through traumatic things or maybe they don’t know or don’t realize they are causing you harm. Try to rationalize on your own why they treat you the way they do and forgive them for it. Forgiveness isn’t weakness. It is actually the most selfish thing you can do for YOURSELF because YOU are choosing to LET GO. Like Wayne mentions in this video. You can’t wait for people to apologize because it may never happen, they may not see the way they live or treat people as “bad”. Choose forgiveness and love. Lastly, do some self reflecting. I don’t know your situation but I’m sure there are things you can change about yourself. Rather that is setting boundaries or learning to stand up for yourself in a way that you’re comfortable with. Remember, these changes don’t happen overnight. It takes months, maybe even years and a lot of self-love and mindfulness. I hope this helps you. You deserve to be happy and live a life you enjoy. Don’t ever forget that.
This is a bunch of bull. Read a real biography of someone who achieved things you truly admire, and you'll find a jumble of all sorts of emotions, including of course resentment. What you will notice most often is *an absence of self-censorship.* Of course! It's a waste of time. (By the way, butterflies encircle me all the time.)
This made me cry. I grew up with extreme abuse for many years. I am now a parent and I have been struggling in my relationship with my son. Yesterday I watched a coach speak about how he encouraged and supported one of the best athletes ever. Today I stumbled upon this beautiful message. I have found my answer. It may seem so obvious to many, but when you were born in darkness, it takes 10 times the effort to find simple truths. Thank you...
And of course, then they're ten times as clear once we get them ;) You might like Anthony DeMello's work. He's passed on, but you can find many of his talks on TH-cam and Spotify. God bless.
How exactly do you know "No leaf falls randomly." Maybe they do. Or maybe it's not your fault if they don't. Where does accountability come into your philosophy? Or does it at all?
The Teddy story reminded me of my grandma. She was a primary school teacher for math and science in a public school of a small community in the south of Brazil. She told me that she would always look at those kids that were left out, that were not doing well in the tests, that wouldn’t pay attention in class. She would call them up to talk to them individually, and no doubt, they always 100% had some big problems of abuse and lack of love at home. She would see them, and give them the support and care that they needed. No doubt no matter where she goes, there are 40/50 y.o. People that recognizes her in the streets and shops of that town and will always remember Teacher Leda, and they all say how great a teacher she was to them. God bless all the kind teachers out there in the world that see and care about every children. Love is the answer, always! Ps: I loved that you used aang in the art 💛
@solomongrundy145Of course they are allowed to feel that. The message is that, once they can forgive and let the resentment go, they are free of that burden and can grow out of victimhood and finally take responsibility and their life into their own hands.
@@greenisgreat-m4eYes that is correct. We are allowed of feeling resentment, but it is of no use, this is merely us cursing ourselves with prolonged torment. By letting go of our resentment, we are choosing to act out of self love and bless ourselves from now on, instead of cursing ourselves. This takes courage and strength indeed.
First book read was "Your Erroneous Zones" CHANGED MY LIFE decades ago.The latest piece of truth of his I've been chewing on, was when he said " when you change the way you are look at things, soon the things your looking start to change".❤ RIP DR.DYER.
That Teddy story made me tear up. When I was in primary school I was a pretty bad student. I was poorly socialized and didn't know how to make proper friends so I was often frustrated and acted out. By the first quarter of 5th grade my teacher noticed that I was intuitively intelligent but wasn't applying myself so she took special attention and helped me channel my skills into school. Ever since then I've been an over-achiever and it has taken me to great places. I'll never forget Ms. Higgins.
Ok. First off. This teacher was a monster. Only guilt and the realization she was a bitch changed her outlook of this child. Teacher bias. Dont yet me started. Advocate for AI to take over as soon as possible. Its too late for us. And yes. This is a Roccos basilisk post to our future masters. See im one of the good ones. 😊
His name was Mr Council, He was the librarian at my primary school and temp teacher. He understood the challenges of growing up with a mother with a mental illness. His kindness and understanding still brings tears to my eyes.
This all makes sense, but it has to be applied collectively. If you’re stuck in a family who resent each other and you’re the one who lets go of that you will be attacked by the others who still resent you. I’ve been trying so fucking hard for years now to sort my family out and reach a proper understanding. I do everything I can to be kind and at my very best. Frankly these online motivational quotes sound lovely, but don’t really work. Be humble and work hard and you’re going to suffer and other people will shurk their responsibility on to you. In the end I’ve realised that I’ve got no choice, but to walk away, no matter how much I love them and try my very best for them, it’s never enough. I’m tired and I hurt and I really don’t want to resent them for how hard they’ve made my life, how much pressure they’ve put on me so the only option left is to walk away
I think you're doing the right thing. I walked away too. Perhaps they will learn something from losing you, but alas, probably not. I walked away too - I think of them now, years later, with something like pity and compassion (on my better days), because they can never be as I am - free of people who seek to cause harm. I carefully choose my battles - and actually don't have many anymore. Good luck to you 👍
Leaving the drama and allowing others to fully walk their path without trying to “help” is the lesson I finally learned. Now I live a calm life free of family and friends who I felt responsible to help.
Definitely, like he says at the end "How others treat me is their path, how I react is mine." In the case of poor company, you always have the option to respectfully decline to stick around and walk away instead :) a far better choice than sticking with it day after day and becoming resentful for your mistreatment, especially after trying and taking steps to correct it
I am a 52 year old father of three boys, gulf-war veteran, 5th degree black belt and I consider myself a pretty tough guy. That "Teddy" story has me bawling like a 220lbs baby as I type this. Haven't blubbered like this since I was a very small child.
The Teddy story hit me right in my feels. Esp the part where he tells his teacher "thank you for making me feel important and showing me that i could make a difference". I feel like we need to wake up everyday and be that person for ourselves. Believe that we are so important and so capable of making so many lives better just by being us. Best wishes to everyone here, hope you have a great day today:)
I truly wasn't expecting rhe Teddy story. As a teacher and dad, it makes me think about my actions and who I am. I hold myself to a standard of not doing harm and encouraging my students and kids to do their best, but I know I fall short. This story has me in tears and I thank you. I know I can do and be better, and stories like this remind me of that.
Same, I'm a teacher too and this made me cry because I'm falling short for my students right now and I want to do better. Oof it's so hard to be human. Maybe no justified resentments can apply to myself too.
When something someone did or said to me hurts me.. I would let it eat at me and I’d be angry or upset and get anxiety everytime I thought about it. I started forcing myself to say it out loud and in my head that I forgive them, I accept what happened and I forgive myself. I repeat it a few times or anytime it crossed my mind, now when I think about what happened, I don’t get any anxiety or negative feelings. I can forgive very quickly and easily now, it’s helped me be more understanding and patient with people. Forgiving people isn’t about letting bad people off the hook, it’s about not letting it affectyou anymore. ❤
I’m fighting this right now. It got so bad ,I may have compromised my health because of this. I keep thinking about it over and over and over again. And I’m so conscious that I shouldn’t be wasting my time and emotions on that, but it’s hard. 😢 not fun
I had a sad realization today and felt hurt and then mad. Your suggestion is helpful i repeated it and just felt all the feelings 😢. Thanks for sharing.
I can relate to this!! Whether it's someone who cut me off, or a coworker or boss who I perceive to have treated me unfairly, I let it eat at me , endlessly. Ugh, it's exhausting. I'm gonna give this a try!
Taking responsibility doesn't mean what happened was your own fault, but it does give you your power back in the situation. I used to scoff at this ideas of not being concerned with blame and resentment, but now I can completely see that entertaining these feelings and ideas have only kept me stuck in a place of misery and inaction.
It takes two to tango. 💃🏻🕺 So I focus on owning my side of an issue and leaving the other half to be resolved by the other. I’ll be busy for a lifetime 🤭
Exactly, today is the day I realized accountability and blame on yourself are different. Accountability/responsibility gives you ABILITY!! To grow, learn and take action, blame has you seeping in resentment and unhelpful criticism towards yourself/others. I know we all just learned that but I needed to type it out to reiterate it for myself, I love life and relearning our strange adapted thought patterns into healthier ones. I’m so grateful for channels and humans like this.
So beautiful, thank you. People can only behave at their own level of consciousness, and when we act in unskillful and cruel ways to others, it is an indication of our own suffering. I choose compassion & love over resentment & hate. When I start to feel the embers of blame, resentment or anger towards those who have mistreated me, I say a prayer for them, “may you be healed, may you be at peace”, and I say the prayer for myself as well. All is love, and love is all.
What about pedophiles who abuse kids their whole lives . I was that kid , then my daughters were those kids . I really don’t care that he was suffering to do that stuff - he made multiple CHOICES to abuse. This happens to so many people and they feel they must be doing something wrong by being angry or resentful. I understand that resentment keeps you imprisoned to that person , but I also don’t believe that the formula of looking at the other person and seeing it was only their level of consciousness at the time that allowed them to be cruel is healthy. Maybe for smaller acts of cruelty, but s. Abuse ? That kills another’s soul and it lasts a lifetime for many while these people “who are only acting from their suffering “ keep harming people over and over.
@@jennykelter9518I agree. My mother was violent and cruel. And I have difficulty not being angry at her. It caused me to develop unhealthy coping skills that have kept me in chains. I practice self responsibility but when triggered Its one step forward two steps back.
Thank you, this was beautiful and touching. Rest in peace, Dr. Dyer; thank you for what you have shared with us, which resonates beyond your living time here.
What a timely and beautiful message. I believe this can work for shame as well as blame. In that case you would be both the teacher and student. When we are gentle with ourselves and stop blaming ourselves so harshly, we can find the energy to take a step toward what is in our hearts. For me that looks like picking up a thing or two from my clutter instead of beating myself up for being a perpetual mess. Or allowing myself to make mistakes instead of berating myself. No one is perfect. We're all just waves. Takes courage to learn to surf. But it's more fun than getting stuck in the undertow. Just don't get discouraged when you fall. It's all part of life. No shame!
What helps the most in such circles is to always remember that I am dealing with people who are sick, just like I am. And since "it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society," we all must be profoundly sick.
People harm one another, this is an unfortunate aspect of human reality. To pretend otherwise, to pretend that you have been hurt but shouldn't feel any pain is an illusion. Understand your resentments, understand that the people who wronged you were perhaps sick. Allow yourself to have resentment, allow yourself to understand it and grow from it.
You are missing the point. The point is that resentment never actually helps you in any way. You don't have to feel anything to learn from things that happened to you. All resentment does is hold you in a bind of learned powerlessness. There is no changing the past, and you can learn all the same lessons without holding on to things. He's not saying to not feel pain in the moment, he's saying don't hold it and don't assign it to things out of your control long term
@@dxfifa , My point is that: resentment is normal and healthy; while staying resentful for years and years is unhealthy. I have a background in the recovery world.. Too often people in recovery are told that when people have wronged them that it is still their fault. There is nothing more self-centered than to think that even if people screw you over that it's still your fault. Just to be clear: I say that this is a nuanced topic and deserves a full dissection. Resentment is normal and moving beyond them is even better.
thats the hard part. my uncle went to jail for 12 yrs b/c he r worded three of my little cousins. its hard because it DOES feel justified even if he grew up tough
Recognition and moving through something is a path to a new way of being. I see the wisdom in your words and the stepping stone of allowance and authenticity that eventually leads to dropping the blame. You're not missing the point. You're taking your own path to the same end.
Something I came across earlier. You die cos instead of seeking to heal yourself, you are on a path to find the snake and ask the reason it bit you and prove to it that you didn't deserve it.
I don't know much about Wayne Dyer except that I listened to his audio recording of the Tao Te Ching for hours and hours, over and over again. Just his voice gave me peace. I think that's the ultimate example of what he's talking about here. We never knew each other and never will, but because he was filled with love he could give me love without ever meeting me. I know I need to work on being the same way.
Heard that peopke showed up naked when he presented his first book which was called Your Erroneous Zones in 1980's 😅 They thought it was Errogenous zones 🤣
Wow, I didn't think id be in tears but when that story about Teddy came into it it had me. I lost my mum last year and have had resentment since but have been working on many different ways to over-come it. It was a beautiful story to hear - thank-you
Thank-you I'm good, the goddess/Gaia/Mother Nature has me. What will be will be. Its just difficult at times reminding myself that all is a delusion despite the trials and tribulations that we face. Life can throw a curve ball and knock you hard and that puts things in a different perspective @@emmalewisart641
That teddy story reminded me as a young boy for what I went thru with my father on his own terminal illness and all battle we shared. Miss you father so much Hope u all r safe my friends Namaste ❤
This video came about right when I needed it. I’ve been experiencing lots of big life changes this year and doing my best to navigate them with the same grace, patience and compassion I’d want to be given. I first discovered Dr. Wayne Dyer early in college when our library had a book sale. His interpretation of the Tao was 50¢ and found me at a time in life where I was struggling immensely with mental health. I’ve read and reread that book and others many times. His book opened my heart and mind and spoke to my soul. His works are a big part of why I’m still here today. Rest in peace, Dr. Wayne Dyer❤
I am a young lady and this channel alone has taught me so much wisdom thank you to everyone behind the scenes !! And remember guys “there are no justified resentments”. Much love and Light to anyone reading this Xo
Wayne Dyer is a beautiful person. This is a beautiful message. The peacefulness that comes with letting go of resentment is life changing. Although the artist is very talented, the speed is disruptive to receiving Wayne's message.
I usually don't weep at merely reading or listening to tales, but that story of Teddy and his teacher made me all teary eyed, sobbing and feeling my heart ache, which is good, because it relieves me of repressed and locked sorrow inside of me. 🥺💓😭❤️🩹🕉🌊🌠 And that is because of the universal truth, love and beauty of this story. ✨️💖💎 A deep story indeed. 🌌
I needed to watch this talk today, it gave me a more focused direction on my slow and painful road to recovery from mental health issues that have literally robbed me of remembering most of my past and made happiness elusive. I am scared and anxious nearly all of the time and despite making progress I’ve never been able to turn off the fear. I had and still have a lot of resentments... my journey continues 💛
After I lost my father 2 weeks before starting 8th grade, in my 1st quarter I was sick and out of school, and looking back my immune system must have been trashed from the stress, and my teacher decided that I was cutting class and failed me. Even though I had a doctor's note. Then when my mother had the school change my class to a different teacher, that teacher pulled me aside the end the year. He told that he saw great improvement in me but had to lower my grade because the other teacher failed me. Those were some of the worst teacher I ever had.
Im so sorry to read you were treated this way. You deserved so much better. Im sending you lots of love from Wales and cwtches, warmth and encouragement for the little boy you were back then. Im sure your father would be very proud of your strength and resilience ❤
It’s extremely difficult to watch this without saying “yeah, I’ll show this to person X, that way they’ll see how THEY should behave” - which in turn is, of course, a form of resentment. For this advice should be for whoever is listening, not someone outside of ourselves.
No-limit Person. I remember listening to Wayne Dyer lectures almost every evening before sleep. He introduced to some of the greatest spiritual teachers 🙏🏿 He lives on…
Teddy's journey reminds me of the very first book I ever read from cover to cover. It was called Dibs in search of self. It showed me the importance of accepting others from where they are on their journey and not on ours. Dibs story saw him grow to trust in others and most importantly he learnt to like himself ❤
Very nice stuff... forgiveness doesn't mean you take back the person who wronged you, it means forgiving them inside your heart with recognition that they contributed to your maturity so that you feel lighter and welcome new things and people.. learnt the hard way
My understanding of the vipers I’ve endured…. Have become lessons. As I … survived…. I grew. Nothing is damaging, only creates strength. Education. Tenacity. We become more of the depth inside ourselves…. As an old person.. I’ve lived through so much…. Yet..,, lessons are never comfortable.
Admirable idea, and something i believed once. Then realised i was gaslighting myself in toxic positivity and depriving those that gave me reasons to resent, the opportunity to learn and grow by bathing them in validating compassion. And the behaviour got worse not better. Its false virtue to pretend its all my fault and i can love my way into another person changing. The bhagavad gita nails it on the head. The sutras i feel give a different teaching to this talk - punya vs apunua. Really, i wonder how the boys teacher relates to this idea of resentment, on basis of the examples given in the opening part of the video.
I don't think you need to go so far as to give validating compassion in order to not resent. You definitely don't need to pretend it's all your fault. Nothing about this video gave me those ideas.
@@wendylcs4283 its where he references the yoga sutras of Patangali, which say we should cultivate loving compassion to oppose our natural instinct to feel anger or fear. Its good not to carry around our baggage. But in the moment events are playing out in our lives, we must respond honestly with our feelings. This is true virtue.
I personally have had to walk away with complete no contact from someone who caused me pain and own my contribution and responsibility to the toxicity. I have to face the future with compassion and better understanding of why I put myself in the position and try never to return to that pattern.
As a Mom, I have tried so hard to give love and slso to my late husban. Since his death 19 years ago things have difficult. Right now they are the most difficult ever and I had given up, allowing myself to fill with anger and resentment. Last week, while visiting my daughter who has poor mental health and my Grandaughtet who live in Europe, I was attacked at 4am in my tiny motorhome. I received a black eye as a man punched me through s window he had just torn off. My daughter's reaction was to become almost catatonic. There was no comfort for me, just a sense of guilt, for upsetting her again. I was so hurt and of course the anger and resentment flooded into my shocked brain. I felt I just couldn't do this any more. I just couldn't take anymore of my daughters illness which has gone on for 20 years. I sobbed and sobbed in despair because I am such a useless parent. My eldest son no longer speaks to me either. And yet, I tried my best. Then I listened to this video and I saw how all that anger, hate and resentment was just poisoning me.
Sorry to hear that happened to you, sounds a horrible experience. I guess we have to try really hard to accept our weaknesses and failings and flaws and those of others in our lives. We can only do our best and maybe focus on one hour at a time.
I’ve often enjoyed some of the things that Wayne Dyer has taught, however, this time, while I agree with most of what he saying, it doesn’t apply to everyone. Yes, we need to let go of the venom that is left in our system because of what others do to us, but that doesn’t mean that we have to accept blame for it. He notes in there that we have to accept responsibility for putting ourselves in the situation and accepting our part of the blame. This is not always the case. As a child growing up in abusive foster homes, it was not my choice to be abandoned by my parents and shoved into the system. I was not to blame for the abuse that was poured out upon me. Fortunately, through the Gospel of Jesus Christ, I can apply the Lord’s teachings of forgiveness, and allowing the Atonement to heal me from any resentment. But accepting blame in order to do that, that’s not good counsel for an innocent victim who’s suffered abuse at the hands of others. 🙏🏻
It is important to see the whole picture. When I take care of my side of the street, and not focus on the other, I am then able to forgive and let go of all sides. All blame goes away....
There are always exceptions. The exception does not make the rule. Your experience is the exception here. Brother Wayne’s road map to self-transcendence/actualization is one most adults will find instructive. ✌🏾❤🕊️
As you grow older, and learnt from past experiences and making changes, you know exactly that those events needed to happen to make who you are today. But of course it's not 100% fact
@@TheKingterri Please re-read what I wrote. I never said my experience was the rule. I do agree with what Wayne Dyer says, but as you said and I inferred, there are exceptions-my abuse experiences being one of them. Sadly, your reply is indicative of a bigger issue in society where people see what they want to see, have patience for other people who don’t see or say the same thing. This is usually done by just skimming through what’s been written/said by others rather than really reading and absorbing and thinking about what they have or are trying to say. Please consider that next time before replying. Given your comment is actually quite well worded, I have a feeling you’re above average in intelligence and wisdom. So, I have no doubt others will be most grateful to hear your input-especially if they know that you truly understand and care about what they had to say. Thank you and God bless. 🙏🏻💝
He said : No one can make you stressed, anxious, or depressed without you consent , a nonsensical statement that he pretty much plagiarized from Mrs . Eleanor Roosevelt, who by the way was as beautiful as she was smart . Which was not at all.
This video really helped me. It helped me crack my ego open. It changed the way I see people. And helped me forgive myself and others. Thank you, Dr. Dyer
This video came back up at the right time in my life. I forgot I had seen it once before until I heard the story about the butterflies. Then when I heard Teddy's story again, I could relate so much to what he had gone through. Although I was 17 when my mom passed, life at home was no walk in the park. I soon finished school and went down a less than desirable path. I'm still working towards my bright future and am learning more each day. Thank you for this beautiful lesson. I will make sure I spread love today and every day.
I was told long ago that holding resentment against another person was like swallowing poison & expecting it to hurt someone else. Thank you for this lovely lesson.
Thank you for renewing my faith in my profession. As a teacher, we are inundated by the minutiae and oftentimes want to give up. I think of the starfish story. You never know the kind of impact you have. It mattered to that one.
My parents were narcissists and abandoned me as a teenager in the street. My brother was murdered when he was 26 I was 28. I'm 59 now. I've been her. I know resentment so deep I would have destroyed the entire universe many times over if I had the ability. I pulled myself up from that street and I take credit for my own incredible success in life. I finished my computer science degree two days ago. My parents not only neglected me and abused me all of my life they came against me. My father tried to steal my car and my mother tried to kick me out of my own home she attacked me with a huge butcher knife. The person who killed my brother well the potential for resentment there is obvious. I don't have time to feel anything about these people. I don't think about the person that killed my brother this video reminded me of him. I have a healthy sense of understanding of the evil deeds of men. You can't ignore that or they will continue to abuse you. Resentment isn't a default reaction you're bound to have you can walk away and heal. You need that traumatic memory to carry as a lesson that's the most valuable part. You can call it resentment if you like but I call it knowledge for discernment. My brothers murderer is out of prison now should I trust him? My parents are dead now but should I have trusted them and allowed them into my life with their destructive ways? No you use resentment to create boundaries. Be rational. Passively loving people from a distance who have tried to destroy you is okay I suppose. If you allow these people around you after them violating you then you're not getting the message. Resentment serves this purpose heed the message.
This is a blanket philosophy that does not cover every situation. You can avoid blaming others to try to be as congenial to others and yourself as possible, but then you enable their further actions, and you enable the further harm they can do not only to you but to others as well
This assertion depends on the premise that YOU are so important and central that even what you dont do or do is the mother of all reason that anything will or will not happen in the future.
I almost didn’t watch this video but am so glad I did. Once again I find that the profound can be simple. To the extent that i have let go of resentments through my 73 years, i can attest to the benefits of doing so. You helped me to commit to following this advice consciously going forward every day. I forwarded it to people I believe struggle in life because of holding onto resentment. Thank you so much for making this video Mr. Dyer. You make a real difference.
The resentment we carry is a heavy burden. Please share this video far and wide. Thank you.
what if you only have resentment for yourself?
This was a mid lecture. More Alan Watts stuff please.
This is NOT the "anti-vemom" to the "venom". It doesn't talk about how to address and heal from the real traumas that are the sources of the pain, suffering, "venom". 👎 1 should not have to "take responsibility" for traumas caused by others, and i know it means take responsibility for your own emotions and actions on how to handle it. BUT, that CAN'T HAPPEN UNTIL the person gets the love and support and help to treat the "venom" which is the source of it all. Otherwise the "love" given out from within still carries a desperation or resentment that is part of said venom.
@@starryeye6511 💯 I’d much rather hear you talk for fifteen minutes than the misguided dude in the vid
Loved this. Came at the right time for me x
Being a child and domestic abuse survivor, this hit right in the feels. I am resentful of so many things I know I have to let go in order for me to be free
Know that what you went through was in order to help you, no matter what it looks like. Like the lotus that blooms out of the mud, we also bloom from the muck. Be that one, the example of what transcendence looks like. Much Love and Light on your journey 🙇♀️🙏💛
U gotta ask God to help u forgive and let go of bitterness cuz that root has grown over the years and u don't have the strength to pull out that root of bitterness, only God can do it.
The anger is the disease.
The tricky thing is, we can't really let go of resentment because if we do, then there is no "I" to tell the tale. The "I" will therefore resist letting go though many clever, clever ways... Luckily, all we need to do is recognize that resentment is still there, that we (and no one) are not guilty for keeping it, but we'd love to think differently. We ask the Holy Spirit, God, or whatever we want to call it, for help, that we can look at things in a different light. That's all. We ask, wholeheartedly, and just make sure we're willing to recieve, to the best of our ability. The "I" gets to stay, and use it's functions, which means resistance won't be too hard (it will be there though, it just won't win the battle), but it slowly gives way to Truth.
@@Instancias_de_paz I needed to hear this today, as I’ve been feeling a lot of restlessness, fear, anxiety, worry and an overall sense of dread. Not feeling equipped to handle this thing called “life”, wanting to leave sooner rather than later. Such a hard thing to do, separate your feelings from what you truly are. But pointers like this help on the journey. Thank you so much and I hope you have an amazing day 🌅 🙇♀️🙏
That Teddy story hits home. When I was a little girl my mom taught me that lesson with a cousin I had and didn’t like much. He was hyperactive and used to destroy everything. My mom tells me he will be staying with us a full day and I pleaded with her to not allow it because I was afraid he’ll destroy my books. She told me he was not going to misbehave and she was going to show me how. Well he came and as soon as his mom left and he was about to get into my books, my mom offered to read him a book. I remember to this day how still and hypnotized he was, he kept on asking for more books. When he left, my mom mentioned how he misbehaves because he needs more attention than he receives. I leaned a great lesson that day that to this day I remember clearly.
What was the lesson?
Great post 😊 Thank you for sharing. Indeed an important life lesson, I'm glad you learned it so young. Sounds like you had a great mom, too.❤
@@GlowBowlPhilosophy I won the lottery with my mom and my dad. Life is easier because of them, all I do is follow their steps with a few updates here and there. Thank you for your words.
That's awesome. :)
I've been called wise quite a few times, even though I'm still young. I always say the same thing, "I just listen to people who are where I would like to be and try my best to follow their advice." Adding your own twist is definitely important. Sounds like you're on great path. 🙂
I love that your mom gave him what he deserved as a child 😭😭💔💔💔💔💔
I was middle child of 7 kids in a very dysfunctional family. Neglected and abused I was socially aloof and completely checked out in school and treated poorly by a lot of peers and most of my teachers. But Ms. Wilson, my 3rd grade teacher at Bethel Elementary in KC, Kansas taught me what unconditional love was. She always believed in me and treated me with kindness and compassion. I’ll never ever forget her.
Unfortunately I never found someone like you teacher or the one from the clip.. In fact at 27 I have a destroyed life, because no one was there to show me I matter
@@lovemydog27 You do matter! I promise you that. It is very hard to see it though when you’ve been treated poorly all or most of your life. God loves everyone with an infinite love! We can’t fathom how much God loves you.
@@Rockell479 thanks, your words matter.
@@lovemydog27 we can learn self care, try to get a mentor, if you speak kindly to people with issues, do the same with your inner and outer talk about yourself. There’s a lady on TH-cam that I listened to a couple times. Tara Brach. Look her up, not exactly for budism or enlightenment, but just listen she makes me feel very welcomed n normal
@@lovemydog27You don't need anyone to show you matter. That's a mistake I was making, a terrible mistake.
By believing that you need someone you are giving your soul, self-esteem and happiness into someone else's hands.
This way you will be used by someone else just for them to feel better.
Go and be alone. Learn in solitude to be with yourself. It may be tuff at first 😉
But after some time you can build in solitude yourself from scratch.
Believe that you need anyone for being happy is a LIE put into people usually by controlling women, especially mommy.
You don't need anyone to be happy.
Also try psylocybin. It helps go through the first stages of solitude.
Exercises and good diet are also needed because healing your soul may be exhausting 😊
Remember, you don't need anything from anyone to be happy. Nothing and nobody.
I spent the majority of my 20s being bitter and resentful because people who were close to me turn their backs on me and hurt me tremendously. I always thought I was aa good person who was better than everyone and believed I had some kind of moral high ground but I had to learn that REAL GOOD people show it through action, they don’t just sit around and claim to be a good person and they definitely don’t sit around and judge others. Forgiveness, understanding, and healing are painful processes but nothing compares to the years of suffering I have already endured being alone and angry at the world and god. I hope everyone find the strength to overcome their challenges and to choose love and happiness over all.
It’s wonderful that you have freedom from that sick feeling of resentment
I admire your Self awareness❤
How did you overcome? I’m still sad they could treat me in ways
@@Izz740 If you can afford therapy or if it is offered through your health insurance you should start there. The pain others cause you may never completly go away but you should try to understand the people that hurt you. Maybe they have been through traumatic things or maybe they don’t know or don’t realize they are causing you harm. Try to rationalize on your own why they treat you the way they do and forgive them for it.
Forgiveness isn’t weakness. It is actually the most selfish thing you can do for YOURSELF because YOU are choosing to LET GO.
Like Wayne mentions in this video. You can’t wait for people to apologize because it may never happen, they may not see the way they live or treat people as “bad”. Choose forgiveness and love.
Lastly, do some self reflecting. I don’t know your situation but I’m sure there are things you can change about yourself. Rather that is setting boundaries or learning to stand up for yourself in a way that you’re comfortable with.
Remember, these changes don’t happen overnight. It takes months, maybe even years and a lot of self-love and mindfulness.
I hope this helps you. You deserve to be happy and live a life you enjoy. Don’t ever forget that.
This is a bunch of bull. Read a real biography of someone who achieved things you truly admire, and you'll find a jumble of all sorts of emotions, including of course resentment. What you will notice most often is *an absence of self-censorship.* Of course! It's a waste of time.
(By the way, butterflies encircle me all the time.)
This made me cry. I grew up with extreme abuse for many years. I am now a parent and I have been struggling in my relationship with my son. Yesterday I watched a coach speak about how he encouraged and supported one of the best athletes ever. Today I stumbled upon this beautiful message. I have found my answer. It may seem so obvious to many, but when you were born in darkness, it takes 10 times the effort to find simple truths. Thank you...
And of course, then they're ten times as clear once we get them ;) You might like Anthony DeMello's work. He's passed on, but you can find many of his talks on TH-cam and Spotify. God bless.
This is my answer as well. Resentment is weaved right into the fabric of my being.
Thank you for this message.
I won't go into detail but seriously thanks
No leaf falls randomly. Patience be with us all.
How exactly do you know "No leaf falls randomly." Maybe they do. Or maybe it's not your fault if they don't. Where does accountability come into your philosophy? Or does it at all?
The Teddy story reminded me of my grandma. She was a primary school teacher for math and science in a public school of a small community in the south of Brazil. She told me that she would always look at those kids that were left out, that were not doing well in the tests, that wouldn’t pay attention in class. She would call them up to talk to them individually, and no doubt, they always 100% had some big problems of abuse and lack of love at home. She would see them, and give them the support and care that they needed. No doubt no matter where she goes, there are 40/50 y.o. People that recognizes her in the streets and shops of that town and will always remember Teacher Leda, and they all say how great a teacher she was to them.
God bless all the kind teachers out there in the world that see and care about every children.
Love is the answer, always!
Ps: I loved that you used aang in the art 💛
@solomongrundy145Of course they are allowed to feel that. The message is that, once they can forgive and let the resentment go, they are free of that burden and can grow out of victimhood and finally take responsibility and their life into their own hands.
@@greenisgreat-m4eYes that is correct. We are allowed of feeling resentment, but it is of no use, this is merely us cursing ourselves with prolonged torment.
By letting go of our resentment, we are choosing to act out of self love and bless ourselves from now on, instead of cursing ourselves. This takes courage and strength indeed.
Yep 👍
As a Teacher, thank you, THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORDS. God bless you and Teacher Leda.
@@isabelmujica945 God bless you for all you work, Teacher Isabel
Wayne Dyer has been one of the greatest teachers in my life. I miss him.
First book read was "Your Erroneous Zones" CHANGED MY LIFE decades ago.The latest piece of truth of his I've been chewing on, was when he said " when you change the way you are look at things, soon the things your looking start to change".❤ RIP DR.DYER.
He was a rapist. You idolize a rapist
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That Teddy story made me tear up. When I was in primary school I was a pretty bad student. I was poorly socialized and didn't know how to make proper friends so I was often frustrated and acted out. By the first quarter of 5th grade my teacher noticed that I was intuitively intelligent but wasn't applying myself so she took special attention and helped me channel my skills into school. Ever since then I've been an over-achiever and it has taken me to great places. I'll never forget Ms. Higgins.
That is so great! God bless you AND Miss Higgins.
@@Featherfinder thank you!
@@Featherfinder god bless you too!
Ok. First off. This teacher was a monster. Only guilt and the realization she was a bitch changed her outlook of this child. Teacher bias. Dont yet me started. Advocate for AI to take over as soon as possible. Its too late for us. And yes. This is a Roccos basilisk post to our future masters. See im one of the good ones. 😊
Letting go of resentment is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Freedom begins with forgiveness.
Greetings from the Republic of Sovereigns ❤
His name was Mr Council,
He was the librarian at my primary school and temp teacher. He understood the challenges of growing up with a mother with a mental illness.
His kindness and understanding still brings tears to my eyes.
I’m the mom with who struggled with mental illness who is grateful for teachers like that.
This all makes sense, but it has to be applied collectively. If you’re stuck in a family who resent each other and you’re the one who lets go of that you will be attacked by the others who still resent you. I’ve been trying so fucking hard for years now to sort my family out and reach a proper understanding. I do everything I can to be kind and at my very best. Frankly these online motivational quotes sound lovely, but don’t really work. Be humble and work hard and you’re going to suffer and other people will shurk their responsibility on to you. In the end I’ve realised that I’ve got no choice, but to walk away, no matter how much I love them and try my very best for them, it’s never enough. I’m tired and I hurt and I really don’t want to resent them for how hard they’ve made my life, how much pressure they’ve put on me so the only option left is to walk away
I think you're doing the right thing. I walked away too. Perhaps they will learn something from losing you, but alas, probably not. I walked away too - I think of them now, years later, with something like pity and compassion (on my better days), because they can never be as I am - free of people who seek to cause harm. I carefully choose my battles - and actually don't have many anymore. Good luck to you 👍
Leaving the drama and allowing others to fully walk their path without trying to “help” is the lesson I finally learned. Now I live a calm life free of family and friends who I felt responsible to help.
Definitely, like he says at the end "How others treat me is their path, how I react is mine." In the case of poor company, you always have the option to respectfully decline to stick around and walk away instead :) a far better choice than sticking with it day after day and becoming resentful for your mistreatment, especially after trying and taking steps to correct it
They're not talking about converting narcissists.
@@annestrada1724oh and how are we supposed to know if they give no disclaimers? ‘Forgive everything and everyone, no resentment is justified’ 😂
I am a 52 year old father of three boys, gulf-war veteran, 5th degree black belt and I consider myself a pretty tough guy. That "Teddy" story has me bawling like a 220lbs baby as I type this. Haven't blubbered like this since I was a very small child.
Sissy.
Lol jk man. It was very touching and beautiful story
Beautifully said by a Real man👊
Only the toughest cry brother 🫡
I cried too - it’s a wonderful gift to be given that
Hilarious when men list their physical size when mentioning they cried
It’s 1am and have tears streaming down my face
Same
The thing about that story was that we all have that, out of all our teachers we all have that one teacher that truly believed in us ❤
Mrs. Minter. 6th grade. 😢🎉
The Teddy story hit me right in my feels. Esp the part where he tells his teacher "thank you for making me feel important and showing me that i could make a difference". I feel like we need to wake up everyday and be that person for ourselves. Believe that we are so important and so capable of making so many lives better just by being us.
Best wishes to everyone here, hope you have a great day today:)
I truly wasn't expecting rhe Teddy story. As a teacher and dad, it makes me think about my actions and who I am. I hold myself to a standard of not doing harm and encouraging my students and kids to do their best, but I know I fall short. This story has me in tears and I thank you. I know I can do and be better, and stories like this remind me of that.
don’t forget to forgive yourself too - the resentments we hold against ourselves can be the sneakiest kind. ♥️
Same man.
I’m better than most at it but I fall short and can be better about it.
Same, I'm a teacher too and this made me cry because I'm falling short for my students right now and I want to do better. Oof it's so hard to be human. Maybe no justified resentments can apply to myself too.
@@abby999Aren’t they tho!!
When something someone did or said to me hurts me.. I would let it eat at me and I’d be angry or upset and get anxiety everytime I thought about it. I started forcing myself to say it out loud and in my head that I forgive them, I accept what happened and I forgive myself. I repeat it a few times or anytime it crossed my mind, now when I think about what happened, I don’t get any anxiety or negative feelings. I can forgive very quickly and easily now, it’s helped me be more understanding and patient with people. Forgiving people isn’t about letting bad people off the hook, it’s about not letting it affectyou anymore. ❤
I’m fighting this right now. It got so bad ,I may have compromised my health because of this. I keep thinking about it over and over and over again. And I’m so conscious that I shouldn’t be wasting my time and emotions on that, but it’s hard.
😢 not fun
I had a sad realization today and felt hurt and then mad. Your suggestion is helpful i repeated it and just felt all the feelings 😢. Thanks for sharing.
This comment resonate with me so much it brought 😢..... I'm going to start doing this.
I can relate to this!! Whether it's someone who cut me off, or a coworker or boss who I perceive to have treated me unfairly, I let it eat at me , endlessly. Ugh, it's exhausting. I'm gonna give this a try!
Taking responsibility doesn't mean what happened was your own fault, but it does give you your power back in the situation. I used to scoff at this ideas of not being concerned with blame and resentment, but now I can completely see that entertaining these feelings and ideas have only kept me stuck in a place of misery and inaction.
It takes two to tango.
💃🏻🕺
So I focus on owning my side of an issue and leaving the other half to be resolved by the other. I’ll be busy for a lifetime 🤭
Exactly, today is the day I realized accountability and blame on yourself are different. Accountability/responsibility gives you ABILITY!! To grow, learn and take action, blame has you seeping in resentment and unhelpful criticism towards yourself/others. I know we all just learned that but I needed to type it out to reiterate it for myself, I love life and relearning our strange adapted thought patterns into healthier ones. I’m so grateful for channels and humans like this.
Teddy was lucky to have had a good mom he actually missed.
Never underestimate what an act of kindness might do to a little boy.
Man i’m so glad I saw this today. Blame & Resentment have no place in my heart.
amen
So beautiful, thank you. People can only behave at their own level of consciousness, and when we act in unskillful and cruel ways to others, it is an indication of our own suffering. I choose compassion & love over resentment & hate. When I start to feel the embers of blame, resentment or anger towards those who have mistreated me, I say a prayer for them, “may you be healed, may you be at peace”, and I say the prayer for myself as well. All is love, and love is all.
You found IT. So happy for you. The world needs more of what you have to offer. 🙇♀️🙏💛
What about pedophiles who abuse kids their whole lives . I was that kid , then my daughters were those kids . I really don’t care that he was suffering to do that stuff - he made multiple CHOICES to abuse. This happens to so many people and they feel they must be doing something wrong by being angry or resentful. I understand that resentment keeps you imprisoned to that person , but I also don’t believe that the formula of looking at the other person and seeing it was only their level of consciousness at the time that allowed them to be cruel is healthy. Maybe for smaller acts of cruelty, but s. Abuse ? That kills another’s soul and it lasts a lifetime for many while these people “who are only acting from their suffering “ keep harming people over and over.
@@jennykelter9518I agree. My mother was violent and cruel. And I have difficulty not being angry at her. It caused me to develop unhealthy coping skills that have kept me in chains. I practice self responsibility but when triggered Its one step forward two steps back.
Because some of us have way more to forgive. Because muscles 💪 only grow through resistance.
Fault means accountability blame means responsibility. Resentment when justice is not served.
Well said
I haven't cried that hard in a long time. This one really hit different
My face is a mess, so many tears rolled down with the Teddy story. Don't even know why it moved me so deeply.
Thank you, this was beautiful and touching. Rest in peace, Dr. Dyer; thank you for what you have shared with us, which resonates beyond your living time here.
What a timely and beautiful message. I believe this can work for shame as well as blame. In that case you would be both the teacher and student. When we are gentle with ourselves and stop blaming ourselves so harshly, we can find the energy to take a step toward what is in our hearts.
For me that looks like picking up a thing or two from my clutter instead of beating myself up for being a perpetual mess. Or allowing myself to make mistakes instead of berating myself. No one is perfect.
We're all just waves. Takes courage to learn to surf. But it's more fun than getting stuck in the undertow. Just don't get discouraged when you fall. It's all part of life. No shame!
What helps the most in such circles is to always remember that I am dealing with people who are sick, just like I am. And since "it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society," we all must be profoundly sick.
People harm one another, this is an unfortunate aspect of human reality. To pretend otherwise, to pretend that you have been hurt but shouldn't feel any pain is an illusion. Understand your resentments, understand that the people who wronged you were perhaps sick. Allow yourself to have resentment, allow yourself to understand it and grow from it.
You are missing the point. The point is that resentment never actually helps you in any way. You don't have to feel anything to learn from things that happened to you. All resentment does is hold you in a bind of learned powerlessness. There is no changing the past, and you can learn all the same lessons without holding on to things. He's not saying to not feel pain in the moment, he's saying don't hold it and don't assign it to things out of your control long term
@@dxfifa ,
My point is that: resentment is normal and healthy; while staying resentful for years and years is unhealthy.
I have a background in the recovery world.. Too often people in recovery are told that when people have wronged them that it is still their fault. There is nothing more self-centered than to think that even if people screw you over that it's still your fault. Just to be clear: I say that this is a nuanced topic and deserves a full dissection. Resentment is normal and moving beyond them is even better.
thats the hard part. my uncle went to jail for 12 yrs b/c he r worded three of my little cousins. its hard because it DOES feel justified even if he grew up tough
Recognition and moving through something is a path to a new way of being. I see the wisdom in your words and the stepping stone of allowance and authenticity that eventually leads to dropping the blame. You're not missing the point. You're taking your own path to the same end.
Nonsense
The snake bite analogy really resonates.
Something I came across earlier. You die cos instead of seeking to heal yourself, you are on a path to find the snake and ask the reason it bit you and prove to it that you didn't deserve it.
The "Teddy & Mrs. Thompson" story made me cry. So poignant.😢💖
I don't know much about Wayne Dyer except that I listened to his audio recording of the Tao Te Ching for hours and hours, over and over again. Just his voice gave me peace. I think that's the ultimate example of what he's talking about here. We never knew each other and never will, but because he was filled with love he could give me love without ever meeting me. I know I need to work on being the same way.
Heard that peopke showed up naked when he presented his first book which was called Your Erroneous Zones in 1980's 😅 They thought it was Errogenous zones 🤣
@@pinkifloyd7867this is hilarious
Wow, that's such an amazing story. I don't think anyone that watched this didn't shed at least a little tear
I watched the whole thing and didn't at all. I'm all cried out, plus I feel dead on the inside....soooo nope
@@3rdeyefocusedI understand how you feel, not many things make me cry anymore. However I do believe this story is very inspirational.
@@3rdeyefocused well at least your 3rd eye is focused
Wow, I didn't think id be in tears but when that story about Teddy came into it it had me. I lost my mum last year and have had resentment since but have been working on many different ways to over-come it. It was a beautiful story to hear - thank-you
Sending love to you ❤The story made me cry too. Hope you're ok 🫂
You didn't cry alone. I'm right here crying with you.
Learn and act accordingly 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]💖
Thank-you I'm good, the goddess/Gaia/Mother Nature has me. What will be will be. Its just difficult at times reminding myself that all is a delusion despite the trials and tribulations that we face. Life can throw a curve ball and knock you hard and that puts things in a different perspective @@emmalewisart641
Right here with you, brother ❤
Teddy giving Mrs. Thompson his mother’s bracelet and perfume broke my heart.
I'm not crying, just washing my eyes! Thank you for such a beautiful example of what we can be.
Same! ❤
Yea, I had a little dirt or an eyelash get in my eye during this video.
The artwork and words with this video and Wayne’s voice make this so powerful. Thank you to the late Wayne Dyer and to the artist here! ❤
Wayne Dyer had such a great way of telling stories to teach life lessons. Thank you for keeping the stories alive!❤
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Who’s cutting onions 🥲 beautiful message ❤
Right here 😢😢😢
That teddy story reminded me as a young boy for what I went thru with my father on his own terminal illness and all battle we shared. Miss you father so much
Hope u all r safe my friends
Namaste ❤
Ty for this video It did wonders for my for what im going thru now
Having negative emotions with being unable to take any action against aggressor is bad. Wow truly inspiring!
Yup! One of the greatest teacher. Mr Wayne Dyer!!!❤
This video came about right when I needed it. I’ve been experiencing lots of big life changes this year and doing my best to navigate them with the same grace, patience and compassion I’d want to be given. I first discovered Dr. Wayne Dyer early in college when our library had a book sale. His interpretation of the Tao was 50¢ and found me at a time in life where I was struggling immensely with mental health. I’ve read and reread that book and others many times. His book opened my heart and mind and spoke to my soul. His works are a big part of why I’m still here today. Rest in peace, Dr. Wayne Dyer❤
I am a young lady and this channel alone has taught me so much wisdom thank you to everyone behind the scenes !! And remember guys “there are no justified resentments”. Much love and
Light to anyone reading this Xo
This was & is something so beautiful in its eloquence, it will touch me forever…RIP & safe travels.
Wayne Dyer is a beautiful person. This is a beautiful message. The peacefulness that comes with letting go of resentment is life changing.
Although the artist is very talented, the speed is disruptive to receiving Wayne's message.
I edited this to say the artist is very talented, but the speed of the visuals disrupts the message effectiveness
I usually don't weep at merely reading or listening to tales, but that story of Teddy and his teacher made me all teary eyed, sobbing and feeling my heart ache, which is good, because it relieves me of repressed and locked sorrow inside of me. 🥺💓😭❤️🩹🕉🌊🌠
And that is because of the universal truth, love and beauty of this story. ✨️💖💎 A deep story indeed. 🌌
Wayne Dyer’s books aided my spiritual awakening over 30 years ago, love his teachings
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I'm not crying a bird just flew into my eye!
I needed to watch this talk today, it gave me a more focused direction on my slow and painful road to recovery from mental health issues that have literally robbed me of remembering most of my past and made happiness elusive. I am scared and anxious nearly all of the time and despite making progress I’ve never been able to turn off the fear. I had and still have a lot of resentments... my journey continues 💛
The anger is the disease. Give it up.
After I lost my father 2 weeks before starting 8th grade, in my 1st quarter I was sick and out of school, and looking back my immune system must have been trashed from the stress, and my teacher decided that I was cutting class and failed me. Even though I had a doctor's note. Then when my mother had the school change my class to a different teacher, that teacher pulled me aside the end the year. He told that he saw great improvement in me but had to lower my grade because the other teacher failed me. Those were some of the worst teacher I ever had.
Im so sorry to read you were treated this way. You deserved so much better. Im sending you lots of love from Wales and cwtches, warmth and encouragement for the little boy you were back then. Im sure your father would be very proud of your strength and resilience ❤
As a teacher, this makes me angry. The second teacher makes no sense.
It’s extremely difficult to watch this without saying “yeah, I’ll show this to person X, that way they’ll see how THEY should behave” - which in turn is, of course, a form of resentment. For this advice should be for whoever is listening, not someone outside of ourselves.
No-limit Person. I remember listening to Wayne Dyer lectures almost every evening before sleep. He introduced to some of the greatest spiritual teachers 🙏🏿 He lives on…
I think I might have to rewatch this everyday
Wow that story is a tear jerker
I’m a grizzled old angry vet, and I don’t cry. Until that damn Teddy story🤧
Well, congrats!
you’ve taken the first step
Teddy's journey reminds me of the very first book I ever read from cover to cover. It was called Dibs in search of self. It showed me the importance of accepting others from where they are on their journey and not on ours. Dibs story saw him grow to trust in others and most importantly he learnt to like himself ❤
This is a beautiful story! Everyone needs encouragement!
Never felt so moved by a TH-cam video, Teddy story, the thoughtful comments and the kind words of Wayne
The is one of the best TH-cam videos I ever came across. A very big thank you to the Honorable Wayne Dyer. A life well lived
I cried at the last story
Very nice stuff... forgiveness doesn't mean you take back the person who wronged you, it means forgiving them inside your heart with recognition that they contributed to your maturity so that you feel lighter and welcome new things and people.. learnt the hard way
Try convincing rape victims that, mate.
True
The teacher did gods work. Not gonna lie I almost shed a tear.
almost
My understanding of the vipers I’ve endured…. Have become lessons. As I … survived…. I grew. Nothing is damaging, only creates strength. Education. Tenacity. We become more of the depth inside ourselves…. As an old person.. I’ve lived through so much…. Yet..,, lessons are never comfortable.
Wayne Dyer....great spiritual guide...do miss his talks on human behavior!
god that made me cry
Fantastic. Repost worthy.
Namaste. 🙏🌟😇
Miss Wayne's brilliance very much... ❤
That story took my soul out 😭🥹
R.I.P Wayne Dyer....Boy how thw tears have just flooded my face
I need this teacher right now in my life ❤
Wow, I really needed to hear this today.
Admirable idea, and something i believed once. Then realised i was gaslighting myself in toxic positivity and depriving those that gave me reasons to resent, the opportunity to learn and grow by bathing them in validating compassion. And the behaviour got worse not better. Its false virtue to pretend its all my fault and i can love my way into another person changing.
The bhagavad gita nails it on the head. The sutras i feel give a different teaching to this talk - punya vs apunua.
Really, i wonder how the boys teacher relates to this idea of resentment, on basis of the examples given in the opening part of the video.
I don't think you need to go so far as to give validating compassion in order to not resent. You definitely don't need to pretend it's all your fault. Nothing about this video gave me those ideas.
@@wendylcs4283 its where he references the yoga sutras of Patangali, which say we should cultivate loving compassion to oppose our natural instinct to feel anger or fear. Its good not to carry around our baggage. But in the moment events are playing out in our lives, we must respond honestly with our feelings. This is true virtue.
I personally have had to walk away with complete no contact from someone who caused me pain and own my contribution and responsibility to the toxicity. I have to face the future with compassion and better understanding of why I put myself in the position and try never to return to that pattern.
@vjastrix Thanks for this comment. I got some very uncomfortable feelings watching this.
As a Mom, I have tried so hard to give love and slso to my late husban. Since his death 19 years ago things have difficult. Right now they are the most difficult ever and I had given up, allowing myself to fill with anger and resentment. Last week, while visiting my daughter who has poor mental health and my Grandaughtet who live in Europe, I was attacked at 4am in my tiny motorhome. I received a black eye as a man punched me through s window he had just torn off. My daughter's reaction was to become almost catatonic. There was no comfort for me, just a sense of guilt, for upsetting her again. I was so hurt and of course the anger and resentment flooded into my shocked brain. I felt I just couldn't do this any more. I just couldn't take anymore of my daughters illness which has gone on for 20 years. I sobbed and sobbed in despair because I am such a useless parent. My eldest son no longer speaks to me either. And yet, I tried my best. Then I listened to this video and I saw how all that anger, hate and resentment was just poisoning me.
Sorry to hear that happened to you, sounds a horrible experience. I guess we have to try really hard to accept our weaknesses and failings and flaws and those of others in our lives. We can only do our best and maybe focus on one hour at a time.
This has to be the best TH-cam video I have seen yet. Thank you for the enlightenment.
Who’s cutting onions?
Oh those ninjas! They are everywhere! I couldn't hold back my tears, too.
Hahaha good one! 😊
currently tearing up in the club
Wayne is probably the most important teacher I have come across in my lifetime so far. His books and recorded presentations are all worth your time. ❤
That’s beautiful story from Dr Wayne Dyer ❤
Yes I totally agree about holding resentment it’s just not worth it.
love this
may Almighty bring peace n love to the middle east and the world
I’ve often enjoyed some of the things that Wayne Dyer has taught, however, this time, while I agree with most of what he saying, it doesn’t apply to everyone. Yes, we need to let go of the venom that is left in our system because of what others do to us, but that doesn’t mean that we have to accept blame for it. He notes in there that we have to accept responsibility for putting ourselves in the situation and accepting our part of the blame. This is not always the case. As a child growing up in abusive foster homes, it was not my choice to be abandoned by my parents and shoved into the system. I was not to blame for the abuse that was poured out upon me. Fortunately, through the Gospel of Jesus Christ, I can apply the Lord’s teachings of forgiveness, and allowing the Atonement to heal me from any resentment. But accepting blame in order to do that, that’s not good counsel for an innocent victim who’s suffered abuse at the hands of others. 🙏🏻
It is important to see the whole picture. When I take care of my side of the street, and not focus on the other, I am then able to forgive and let go of all sides. All blame goes away....
Well if you have no faith in yourself there's always jesus
There are always exceptions. The exception does not make the rule. Your experience is the exception here. Brother Wayne’s road map to self-transcendence/actualization is one most adults will find instructive.
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As you grow older, and learnt from past experiences and making changes, you know exactly that those events needed to happen to make who you are today. But of course it's not 100% fact
@@TheKingterri Please re-read what I wrote. I never said my experience was the rule. I do agree with what Wayne Dyer says, but as you said and I inferred, there are exceptions-my abuse experiences being one of them. Sadly, your reply is indicative of a bigger issue in society where people see what they want to see, have patience for other people who don’t see or say the same thing. This is usually done by just skimming through what’s been written/said by others rather than really reading and absorbing and thinking about what they have or are trying to say. Please consider that next time before replying. Given your comment is actually quite well worded, I have a feeling you’re above average in intelligence and wisdom. So, I have no doubt others will be most grateful to hear your input-especially if they know that you truly understand and care about what they had to say. Thank you and God bless. 🙏🏻💝
Letting go is the hardest thing ever.
When we suffered tremendously because of someone else violent action, it's actually near to impossible.
This was great. Wayne Dyer was one of the best! He's a goldmine of wisdom, please do more video with him. 😇
He was a charlatan , selling a special brand of snake oil psycho babble.
He said : No one can make you stressed, anxious, or depressed without you consent , a nonsensical statement that he pretty much plagiarized from Mrs . Eleanor Roosevelt, who by the way was as beautiful as she was smart . Which was not at all.
AND THAT STATEMENT IS NOT AT ALL TRUE !
This video really helped me. It helped me crack my ego open. It changed the way I see people. And helped me forgive myself and others. Thank you, Dr. Dyer
I could not stop tearing up..
This video came back up at the right time in my life. I forgot I had seen it once before until I heard the story about the butterflies. Then when I heard Teddy's story again, I could relate so much to what he had gone through. Although I was 17 when my mom passed, life at home was no walk in the park. I soon finished school and went down a less than desirable path. I'm still working towards my bright future and am learning more each day. Thank you for this beautiful lesson. I will make sure I spread love today and every day.
Beautiful. . This one was a challenge emotionally.
I was told long ago that holding resentment against another person was like swallowing poison & expecting it to hurt someone else.
Thank you for this lovely lesson.
Thank you for renewing my faith in my profession. As a teacher, we are inundated by the minutiae and oftentimes want to give up. I think of the starfish story. You never know the kind of impact you have. It mattered to that one.
This has changed my life
Thank you so much for sharing this video, the touching story and the beautiful artwork. I am in tears. Bless you. ❤
My parents were narcissists and abandoned me as a teenager in the street. My brother was murdered when he was 26 I was 28. I'm 59 now. I've been her. I know resentment so deep I would have destroyed the entire universe many times over if I had the ability. I pulled myself up from that street and I take credit for my own incredible success in life. I finished my computer science degree two days ago. My parents not only neglected me and abused me all of my life they came against me. My father tried to steal my car and my mother tried to kick me out of my own home she attacked me with a huge butcher knife. The person who killed my brother well the potential for resentment there is obvious. I don't have time to feel anything about these people. I don't think about the person that killed my brother this video reminded me of him. I have a healthy sense of understanding of the evil deeds of men. You can't ignore that or they will continue to abuse you. Resentment isn't a default reaction you're bound to have you can walk away and heal. You need that traumatic memory to carry as a lesson that's the most valuable part. You can call it resentment if you like but I call it knowledge for discernment. My brothers murderer is out of prison now should I trust him? My parents are dead now but should I have trusted them and allowed them into my life with their destructive ways? No you use resentment to create boundaries. Be rational. Passively loving people from a distance who have tried to destroy you is okay I suppose. If you allow these people around you after them violating you then you're not getting the message. Resentment serves this purpose heed the message.
This is a blanket philosophy that does not cover every situation. You can avoid blaming others to try to be as congenial to others and yourself as possible, but then you enable their further actions, and you enable the further harm they can do not only to you but to others as well
This assertion depends on the premise that YOU are so important and central that even what you dont do or do is the mother of all reason that anything will or will not happen in the future.
I almost didn’t watch this video but am so glad I did. Once again I find that the profound can be simple. To the extent that i have let go of resentments through my 73 years, i can attest to the benefits of doing so. You helped me to commit to following this advice consciously going forward every day. I forwarded it to people I believe struggle in life because of holding onto resentment. Thank you so much for making this video Mr. Dyer. You make a real difference.
I've read three of Doctor Dyers books; fascinating, and motivational words, and themes.
Forgiveness is freedom... ☮️👍
Acceptance transcends understanding
Beautiful! Just a little attention goes a long way!❤
BEAUTIFUL
Thank you for my many tears - a former teacher.
I wish I could like this video more than once! I found so much peace when I let go of victim mentality!