But that what cringe is, Joshua understands words, you can tell by how he gives advice Take having toys there nothing wrong with being a collector but be a Collector make it look professional don't be ashamed of it but also don't let it be your personality otherwise just have one or two favorite toys and let that be that
Molecule 01 which consists of Iso E Super is where i point everyone to when they ask what scents to wear. Straight from the bottle it has literally no scent because its main scent molecule is too big for our receptors to pick up on. But once it hits your skin it breaks down and it breaks down differently for each person making a unique smell. Plus the main ingredient can be purchased for a fraction of the price if you want to diy a cologne.
The art is what really sells it for me. It shows him with a girl (courier) and not romantically or anything but simply walking together and both looking kind of happy. It's perfect
As a friend once said to me, when asked why he gives dating advice but never dates, in high school, all those years ago: "Some Coaches have played and got hurt. Some Coaches have played and cling to their prime like a trophy. Some Coaches have never played. But all Coaches watch and study what works and what doesn't. "
Nah, you want someone who knows the game inside and out. The coaches who never played might be good, but 9/10 times in hindsight, they are mediocre. Thing is, since you are seeking for advice, that means you can't distinguish good advice from bad advice (or else you would already have the answer). This makes the qualifier their experience. This is why pick up artists is such a scam. You see a lot of wannabe coaches in that space, and the thing is, since the people who don't know any better follow them, they end up paying for their services while getting advice that doesn't work. If they go to their coach, they would reason that they are "just not doing it right". Remember, they will say to you that they studied the game inside out as well. Get one who knows the struggle of the battlefield and has a proven record. The best coaches are players too. Phil Jackson in basketball was an NBA player. Erwin Rommel of the Wermacht started as an ensign. Genghis Khan was a warrior himself before he commanded the Mongol horde. José Mourinho (Football) was not a World Cup champion, but he had practical experience in the field since he was a midfielder in Portugal. Belichick (American Football) was not an NFL player, but he played American Football regularly when he was younger. Even Jesus Christ lived personally with the poor. Do you want to get better at dating? Your best chances are following someone who dated (not dated a childhood friend, but dated a stranger or acquaintance) and has a successful relationship. You might get lucky with listening to a guy who never experienced a relationship, but do you really want to rely on luck? Well, up to you if you want to listen to a guy who has no lived experience, but know that there are better choices out there waiting for you.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 libido and appearances fade over time, some even sooner than others. Take that away and ask yourself if it wasn't for intercourse or appearances, would you honestly be happy with spending the rest of your life with X person. Think hard about it, because if appearance and intercourse is the main reason, then that realtionship isn't going pan the test of time.
@@datekaname2246 If my gf is hot and white with nice bones, I really don’t care. The last phases of life suck ass for everybody, so that entire point is moot.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 This commer like attitude is why your still single. Nothing wrong with wanting to smash. But don't complain about never finding any indepth relationships with anyone who actually cares about you.
“Women do not usually age as gracefully as men, so marrying for looks or sex is like buying a broken down car with a new paint job” is such a raw fucking line. I LOVE this! It clearly comes from the heart, and everything said here is worded in a way that sounds like something Joshua Graham would actually say. 500/10!
Funny how from my experience it's the opposite. Most middle aged men I know are overweight, unkempt, and have a plethora of health problems from years of drinking and smoking. Women their same age while they obviously don't look 25 anymore they age more gracefully since they take better care of themselves.
Oh I’m not so sure about that. It’s a positive message, but plenty of men certainly don’t age gracefully. Nothing wrong with that, especially if love is there.
Just from a guy that got recently engaged to a girl way out of my league, don't take everything in here as advice, some things are unfortunately the generic pick-up artist stuff he warns you about. Whether it be to deny your hobbies and passion and act like they are absolute killers of any chances or more minor things like "rubbing your wrists after applying cologne", everyone who ever paid the most minuscule amount of attention knows that this actually muddles or even ruins the scent. Again, there is some rock-solid stuff that helped me get where I am, but again, be true to yourself. If you like anime, get that merch, just don't wear it on a date or when getting out, make it your cozy fit. And same about toys and funko pops, if that's what you like, get it, just don't make it who you are. Again, the dressing advice, and the taking care of yourself as a person advice is true, but like I said some is just as bad as pick-up artist stuff. Obviously, it would fit for Joshua Graham to say these things, giving who he is and what not, so as a video Idea I get it, but don't swallow all of it as proven advice. This is a mixed bag of advice. Just saying this because I met my partner during the Covid Pandemic while gaming, and she is way above my league, and she is an even bigger anime enthusiast and gamer than I am. So yeah boys, take care and groom yourself, and just swallow your pride and talk to any girl, that was probably the best advice. Girls do get prettier in your eyes when you get to know them. Good luck yall, took me 24 years to get lucky, and I wish all of you the same success.
The parts where he said most women only put on makeup to attract men, or just pretend to like "manly things" were definitely parts that had me raising an eyebrow. Those are the type of blanket statements he was literally just advocating against a minute or two earlier. Ahah
@@Gladuos1 The author is human as well while it's generally good advice there are some things that could be re written but im just happy it isn't Andrew tate top g alpha male bullshit
@@Gladuos1 women put makeup on to compete with each other because it is a societal norm. In the 90s, most teenage girls didn’t wear makeup, at least not to school. Nowadays it is the norm. Take any girl from today and place her in a school in the 90s and I guarantee she stops wearing makeup quick, because she won’t want to do something that the other girls aren’t.
@@StoutProper No doubt many people do things for social approval, but it seems a bit dismissive to assume there aren't many women who do something for their own sake.
@@lesshuman00 Alot do but not all of them although I can understand why they would because some of the shit I've heard said towards women in multi-player games has been some pretty vile shit
Even tho they never had one they still have experience because they observe the people around them failing and succeeding and learn from it because they usually aren't in love with the person you like or somepne else likes. This makes it easier for them to observer behavior without the distraction of love feelings.
@@jensvanbockstal1056 I also fine those who don't shop around like that usually understands that stuff best. Cause they don't see every man/woman as a potential fuck buddy but as real people, and they know how to talk to them like real people cause they've been talking to them like *real goddamn people*
@@jensvanbockstal1056 stupid person never learn from their own mistakes. smart person learns from their own mistakes. wise person learns from others mistakes.
This is essentially why even if I figure I look disgusting in a good-fitting T-shirt I will gladly wear it over some huge hoodie and baggy-as-all-hell pants. I see too many dudes who wear whole ghillie suits to camouflage their insecurities
My man Graham made a 7 minute speech that encapsulates the listener for the full duration, beating them up for their prior thinkings and then helping them grow into a new mindset of being an actually decent and flexible person who cares less about the goal and more about the journey. Well said.
@@Jdjdjdujakzgsha still though, there are plently of female people who do not seek attention. Tik Tok represents not every woman, nor a majority at all.
@@arielmino643 Yeah I agree. I mean the part about "women only wear makeup for the sake of men" doesn't make sense to me. Now I don't know anything about makeup, but the whole point of makeup is that it's a form of self expression, and makes you look a certain way right? I feel it would be like saying "Men *only* work out for the sake of women." As if no one ever changed their appearance just to be able to smile at themselves when the look in the mirror.
A couple criticisms: There's nothing wrong with being passionate about a fandom or hobby, and wearing logos. Just be well-groomed, confident, and NOT OBSESSED. There are a lot of women who do, in fact, wear makeup simply because they like to. In fact many women wear makeup more for appreciation from other women, not from men. Trying to measure the perfect time you should take to respond to texts is, in fact, playing a game. While I recognize that many people do this, I believe that if she is the kind of person who does this crap, it's best to move on. The key is not about whether you appear obsessed, the key is to not BE obsessed. Be genuine, up front, respond quickly if that's important to you, and above all approach with the understanding that things may turn out well or into nothing, and that's okay. Hold your peace within you.
no, if you like something you can be obsessed with it, getting women is not the most important thing in live, live how you want to, dont listen to anyone bc the only person who is right is you
@@superbrajanek4579 point, but this is advice for people who presumably want to have a woman in their life. But by your comment, you are right, having hobbies and likes outside of relationships is healthy.
Indeed, this is a great video but thank goodness I don't have to worry about any of this garbage, as I've discovered the secret to being happily single and yet not at all lonely. I can indulge in my hobbies and fandoms as much as I wish and still live healthy and happy.
Every relationship I've had, and I am no expert in those, has involved someone who has been clearly interested in texting me even if they take time to respond 😊
@@Nixx26 I think the best place to start is why you are here...in the present time...at this present channel asking this present question, while watching this video.
4:53 this is true, in 2022 I've talked to an girl for 6 months straight, till I realize she is not interested in me, neither did she cared about me, guess what? When I stopped texting her, she never came back to ask how you doing? What's wrong? How its been? Damn I just was so dumb, never let an woman or man take place in your life like it's an "need" or "I need her to be happy", no person in this life should be responsible for your happiness.
Yea sadly a lot of women talk to multiple men with no intention to date or romance them, but keep them as emotional objects and for validation and attention. I've seen it a lot, and once you stop giving them that, they may attempt to dangle the "cheese" in front of you more. I'm sure some men do this as well. It's unfortunate behavior.
He taught us religion when we were younger, now he's teaching us to get bitches. His skin may be burnt but damn he roasts like hell, but its for the sake of letting out a better us
We're missing some of the most important stuff. Confidence is like the #1 thing, and confidence is pointed out in the video. But where does confidence come from? Make sure that you have something you are proud of in your life, and you can share it with others in a fashion that speaks to your fundamental character. I am a teacher - that's who I am. I am proud of the fact that the person that I embody at work is 99% the same human being that I am outside of work. I am proud that I contribute something to my community, and that I make people's lives better by doing what I do. I also do a lot of reading and exercise, which shows that I am dedicated to self-improvement and new experiences. My wife has always said that my confidence was a huge factor in her attraction to me early on in our relationship, and now I get to be proud that I am married to a bonafide scientist. I was watching the league of legends world championships in her bed around date number 4 (I was spending the weekend over, do not try this during a date of a normal 2ish hours). She does not play nor relate in any way, but I didn't give a fuck because I am in shape and was an accomplished college athlete. The hobby shit that Joshua talks about here does not apply if you are *truly* confident in who you are and how you present yourself as a person. I don't hide ANY of my morals or ethics simply because I don't have to - I worked hard to be a morally upstanding person and that has worked wonders for my young adult life. Tl;dr: develop yourself so that you are *actually* attractive. Do some community service or some shit. Read a book. Go outside. Actively work towards becoming a good person on your own terms. Become someone worthy of the partner that you want. This will make you more attractive than anything else that you can possibly do. Insecurities are the death of a relationship, so become secure in yourself before looking to others for solutions or even comfort.
You just made me think about confidence in a completely different way. However, I don't think most women will think we're cool for knowing a lot of fallout lore
“Axe body spray? You may as well tell her you’re a serial killer” - As someone who did this, I must agree. Axe is women repellant, and I wore it for that express purpose. The only thing Axe does beneficially is make the gym bros more friendly.
Best advice I got was “don’t lie about who you are.” You have to be the real you. You can’t pretend to be someone else forever. She will catch on. This attracts a real compatible partner and greatly reduces your anxiety. Just avoid lying to her altogether. That builds trust, and remember that real love is wanting her to be happy. Remember the ending of Bruce Almighty… You can’t force a woman to like you, only fan the flames of pre-existing attraction. Also, consent is key.
I disagree. If I were just myself I would be anti-social and avoid women because of social anxiety. Maybe some people listening to this video are currently slobs and need to work on themselves. I surely wouldn't tell them to be themselves. For some things you really have to learn to change and become a new you. "Just be yourself" is the most bullshit wrong advice for men I've heard my entire life to the point that it annoys me when people say it. Learn to be comfortable with yourself, and learn to be comfortable with other people. If you have social anxiety, look up self-help posted by real therapists, there's fantastic videos on youtube on the subject.
@@chdata I literally got this advice from Cinema Therapy on youtube. If the real you is a slob or ridden with anxiety, you have to reveal that person to begin to change. Changing bad habits also doesn’t mean changing who you are, it’s changing the habit/behavior. Tbh I know a dude who is absurdly obnoxious, aggressively bisexual, and smells like death 24/7. He has a girlfriend. She’s not hot, but he’s got her.
Half right. Be yourself. But Also improve. We never stop growing just some people stop caring. If so it's truly over. Be you but strive to be the best you. Maybe hell idk try video games and move onto coding or maybe watching animal documentaries and move onto bird watching and learning to take care of animals.
@@chdata Since when did becoming a good person contradict being yourself? Building confidence in yourself can be done without faking it...its being courageous to say "I'm going to be genuine" from a place of genuiness and being fine with the outcome. As long as your trying to be good any girl who is also good will like that...and even if they are not attracted to you they will at least like talking to you.
@Narendra Joshua and Caesar were raised Christian but then joined the church of Atom and witnessed to the savage raider tribes. Over time they became the Legion and Joshua was one of the worst generals. Joshua was blinded by anger and lost the Hoover dam to the NCR rangers. Caesar had him covered in pitch burned and thrown into the grand canyon.
i love how he said this will trigger some of you and then you have people writing paragraph retorts on the exact thing he said. The Burned Man is 10 steps ahead
After being in a couple of relationships myself, one of which ended because they were just using me as a coping mechanism for their depression, another was just suicidal and i kept giving her too many chances and that made me worry about people a lot. The only significant relationship i had lasted a while, and we got back together two times, both were significant and we broke up on good terms. This video has basically given me the idea that, maybe there is a good relationship and a meaningful one for me out there if i just better myself. Thank you for this video
Yea, this video helping me feel better after I broke up and how to improve myself even better. There will be time when I ready for another relationship or grow up more. I have girls ask me out but I know deep inside I know myself better than anyone that i not ready for another relationships so I turn her down and she slightly angry. I dislike her actually because I am guy believe in good thing and right thing classisy and I feel like she is crazy girl type. I think we not good match if we going out and then she drag me to date and selfie with her and give it to my friend that told her he would date her if he not already have girlfend then ask me out after she bought herself some shirt.
Alright either you grew up with a lot of good men around you or you're a boomer but I'll break the sad news no one has been telling young men this for years that's the problem.
@@BeautifulGreen252my dad did. Some advice better than others, but he did. The problem is, i'm not really big onto the relationship game rn, my last girl dumped me because of past trauma that i still can't get past.
@@BeautifulGreen252 No I'm not a boomer but I have been telling young men about this for years. Unfortunately they listen to grifters or black pillers who either trun these men into those with no self respect or no self confidence. Which is a shame.
@@BeautifulGreen252 you act like growing up with good men is a hard thing to do, maybe just don't be so fucking condescending and you'll find those good men. LMAO
This is one of the better "AI voice gives you advice" videos because it gives specific, bracing advice and provides reasoning for a lot of it. This isn't just feel-good claptrap.
Not too sure bout the "not wearing logo shirts" advice though... Every time I have had girls approach me lately, it was to compliment my shirt or hoodie cause it had something on it they liked, especially my anime shirts!!!
@WowItzAkina Sorry the word "girl" caused a misunderstanding, I mean women... I'm 34 and the ladies I'm referring to range from mid-20s to my age. And are usually so attractive, I stumble over my words lol
@@GoatSimpulator Anime shirts can be cool, long as its not excessive or uncomfortable to look at. First off, try and stay far out of hentai shirts, that is a given. Secondly, keep it simple, it shouldn't be too detailed, otherwise it can become overbearing and distracting. Simple is good. Remember to keep it your size, don't go baggy, but don't go excessively small. A comfortable shirt that is tight enough to cover your body without hiding it is a great shirt. Showing confidence in your body is very important, as even pretending to be confident can make you feel more confident. Confidence is good for thousands of reasons, looking good is just one of them. Keep all of this in mind, and remember to keep to a simplistic color palette or you stick out like a sore thumb. Like Joshua says, keep it simple. White, grey, and black, or darker variants of colors, such as navy blue, look best. In short, don't go out trying to look unique and cool, look simple. Your appearance matters little in comparison to your personality, and focusing too much on looks can make you forget how to act.
I was expecting this to be a reading of some tryhard or incel parody copypasta, but no, it's legitimately solid, levelheaded, reasonable advice. And it's been condensed into a 7 minute video. This is amazing.
The same common and tired platitudes is good advice to indoctrinated people. If you are a man, you really ought to know that sexually attractiveness is what will get you a woman and a few facts about male demographics and what attracts women.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 plenty of ugly people have ugly partner who love them for who they are and share simular values with, some even get lucky and find someone who's more attractive then them, but we all look the same in old age. Also if you think these """"hot"""" pick up artists are actually getting women who genuinely love them, then your in for some bad news. Stop doomer posting and wallowing in self pity. People can pick up on those vibes from miles of you. You need to be better to yourself. If you can't accept yourself and love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to give you that love and respect you can't give yourself.
@@datekaname2246 You’re too deluded to start debate with. I have my own anecdotes too. You know, the ones you don’t talk about. The middle age virgins, the used and abused ugly providers, the just wait until your late twenties. Patterns to everything and everyone.
For everyone that is hung up on the anime thing, there is enjoyment and then there is off putting obsession. I have long discussions with my husband on the ins and outs of the anime’s we watch, and I love these conversations because they are stimulation. That is different than my husband spending money (or just a little too much money) on anime t-shirts or decorations. For example, I went to an anime convention and my sister in law got me a Rengoku/Akasa artkwork, it’s beautiful, I love it. I don’t have it on display. I’ve had it for 2 years now, I don’t know if I’ll ever have it displayed. There is a certain slide of maturity/immaturity that is portrayed with display pieces like that and you have to consider what and where you are in your relationship. If all you have is anime talk then there is not much else there, we want more and we often want it with the same level of enthusiasm. At some point they won’t want to have their ear talked off about anime and want to hear of all the things you got done around the house unprompted like taking out the garbage, putting down mice traps, taking the car to get an oil change and having it cleaned out (bonus points if you did it yourself)
I appreciate the point about tasks to be done (Like Car maintenance or daily chores. If you're moving into a new home, changing your mailing address is your top priority). As for the whole anime-obsession topic, along with hording, there is a fine line between being obsessive and being in control of yourself via your spending habits. My thing isn't anime per-se, save for me mimicking the overall art style like everyone else, but my collection of figures and games is more so like me being a curator. I balance my budget, I only go for the best when I plan it, I always keep the concept of postponing gratification in mind, and I don't just buy random things on a whim. I don't buy things I won't need or know that I'll get bored with it down the line. As for conversation topics, you couldn't be more right. It is important to have a foundation for other things to discuss at length outside of entertainment. Politics ain't my thing, but it could be anything from nature, enjoying the scenery of anything, or even stargazing.
@@nickthepick8043 absolutely, in my household we have varying topics, the one my husband is ready to talk my ear off with is table top, which is fine most of the times, but we also do politics, not party specific but policy specific and how it will affect us, I live in CA, and there is a case here of a mom who’s child got taken away by CPS because she would not allow “affirming care” well the girl was given “affirming care” by the government and ended up throwing herself in front of train tracks. As parents that terrifies us, because we are also seeing policies that promote that sort of lifestyle for children. How will that affects our son? Do we have to worry about his grade teacher making him question himself and convince him he must be a girl because he likes to cook? Will they give him “affirming care” behind our backs as a concerning amount of school are doing? We also have other topics like skin care (I’m an new esthetician) medical stuff, new research studies in medicine or biology fascinates us. But to be honest, what really kicks the dopamine bucket is my husband saying he got the laundry done, or he did dishes, or that he did chore “x” that really makes me smile and happy, and makes feel better about my ear being talked off about table top.
This is legitimately good advice. It's not condescending or aggressive, just well-meaning words of wisdom. I wish more guys got this kind of advice like this instead of from guys who encourage men to treat women like stupid, meaningless objects that only want to ruin your life.
Absolutely boggles my mind that people can take people like Andrew Taint seriously, despite his unhealthy view of women, failed relationships and recent charges. Those poor, lost men.
@@Talcyon64 While there are some things he said I do not agree with, he also said things like "A real Man should protect and provide for his wife and family" and that "all women are precious and should be protected". Absolutely no evidences exist for the recent charges, and most of his ex-girlfriends are protecting him even though they are not together with him anymore. Sure, they could give them money to make statements such as those, but so can others (for example Vice) give money to actresses or literally any other people to play the role of the "victims" they *supposedly* interviewed.
@@wladynoszkapitany8277 it's a grift. You'll rarely find people in history who didn't say something you also happen to agree with. You have to take this holistically (meaning the whole picture). If I tell you that we should treat animals well and with respect but also happen to own slaves does it make me still worth listening to? He's a rampant piece of garbage and harmed so many people, you don't need that tiny straw of common advice from him. And the reality is thousands start to listen there and then go to follow the rest of his rethoric. Good men, good people in general, can recognize someone paying lip service. And no evidence exists? That's wild, please look into how trafficking works and how the people go about it. Exploiting others sucks.
uhm how many couples do you know that never had a crisis? how big is your family? I know for a fact in a thousand long lasting relationship you get 3 that never tilted ever well on 997 the women definitely lost their Jimmy's. Though the 997 that nearly failed were exceptional on one thing they forgive the most horrendous creatures God had made.
I guess its time to throw in my story (instead of doing my coursework lol). I was not a social butterfly when I entered my teens. Socially awkward, withdrawn, and very inwardly focused. As I progressed through my early teen years, I surrounded myself with like-minded people. Me n' the boys would shoot the shit and talk about practically anything, but it was during that time where I started developing a resentment to my more social peers. I very nearly became an incel, as I felt that I the reason why girls wouldn't talk to me were absolutely superficial. The whole bullshit of girls only chasing assholes and dumb/popular jocks was something that I perceived as my reality (with hindsight, this was such a dumb take for younger me to have). It took me moving to a different country for me to finally break that negative cycle that I had trapped myself in. I finally started working out (I wasn't very physically active when I was in my early teens, and was even pre-diabetic), meeting new people, making new friends, and touching more grass (really it did wonders). I still didn't have any luck with girls in highschool, but I ultimately didn't feel resentment at that. I understood that I was simply not doing enough to better my image, and was mainly waiting for the right opportunity. After graduating and entering a community college, I became exposed to more people with similar interests. I joined a club and finally took greater steps to improve myself. I finally started to shave consistently (My family isn't known for strong facial hair. I just end up getting a scraggly mess around my neck if I don't shave), wear cologne, and acquire a better wardrobe. I ended up meeting some girls, dated some of them, fell out with some, and became friends with some. I took the steps to better my mental and physical image, but it would have amounted to nothing if I didn't develop my social skills either. Just talking with girls raised my self-esteem and made me more comfortable communicating. I went into conversations not expecting anything to happen and it helped immensely knowing I didn't have to impress or flirt. I'm seeing a girl currently and it wouldn't be possible if a mutual friend of ours didn't set us up. She's smart, hard working, kind, fun, and beautiful. We aren't too serious and I wouldn't call her my girlfriend just yet, but i'm hoping that we can get to know each other more and have experiences that make pleasant memories to look back on. I wouldn't have this if I didn't join the club, and I wouldn't have joined the club if I didn't learn to socialize or seek new experiences. I wouldn't have this if I had not taken the steps to better myself. If you read this, what I want you to take away from this is don't sell yourself short. Don't be afraid to step away from your comfort zone every once in a while. Start small and build on previous accomplishments to get to where you are. It'll take time and work (I turned 20 a little over a month ago, and only really entered the dating scene when I turned 18.), but you'll be all the better for it, I know I am. Edit: Also Im a HUGE nerd for history, videogames, and military vehicles. Still I only really bring it up when relevant or asked about it. If anything my knowledge of history impressed the girl I'm seeing since she had a personal connection to it.
A lot of these tips are pretty good, especially when it comes to self care and how you present yourself. But, as a lady myself, let me tell you this; don't hide your interests, or force yourself to be a spectator in conversation. You should be able to talk about your hobbies with your s/o without judgement-- if she honestly is so put off by something so trivial like anime, she's probably not a good fit. While you should always let your girl speak, short answers can sometimes make you seem disinterested; there's nothing wrong with expressing yourself.
i was thinking the same when someone shares interests, they can get passionate to the point where it is really attractive, it's nice and fun to see someone's lighten up for things, even trivial the only thing is to notice if you're losing the person or not, to not getting into a full monologue
I have a girlfriend who flies in the face of nearly every principle set forth in this copypasta. Hell, she _prefers_ it when I wear loose-fitting clothes because she thinks it makes me look comfy and cute. Follow these rules if you must, but don't make any drastic changes to yourself or you'll end up attracting someone who wouldn't really like "the real you." Stay strong, boys. God bless you.
As a women I feel I have important advice: do you want a girl who loves nerdy stuff, or do you want a girl who isn’t into the same fandoms, games, movies, shows that you are into. I love a guy who isn’t afraid to show what he loves. Graphic tees are great conversation starters but not on dates. Wear fancy stuff for that.
@@daniilillarionov9854 I’ve been dating a hot gym rat/nerd girl for the last year and a half bro. I look like a massive fck boy, and I grew up playing sports and being a “jock,” but I’ve also played DnD and am a nerd at heart
@@moonie1825 I just don’t like the style and I’m a vain c*nt. I prob could still do fine dressed like a nerd tho ig. Would lose some overall appeal tho with basic thot types
Woman here, I'm glad there are videos like these and i'm so happy to see that you guys are actually taking healthy advices like these. A message that i wanna give to all of you, either you're a man or woman, the first thing that you all should do is be kind to your own selves, accept yourselves the way you are, be it your body shape or things you like, ect. and also try to improve yourselves if you need/have to. This might not mean anything coming from a stranger, but i'm proud of you and i wish you all the best, love you
@@dylanwenzel1282 she’s never out of your league chief, just believe in yourself and treat her like a normal person 👍🏻 And if she says she’s out of your league to your face then she isn’t worth your time. She can find someone just as nasty as she is.
That last part of spraying cologne directly on the shirt hit home. I felt like snapping my neck thinking about the times of done this. Yes multiple times. Better now than never. 9/10 video
absolutely gold, very old very true ideas on how to operate in the world of dating as a man who actually wants to seek relationship or even wedlock, most people need it, most won't take it to heart, but in the end getting messages like this out there again and again and in ways like this really shine on the human condition, all in all guess I'm really just saying thanks in a really long way :9)
As someone that ended a three year relationship on kinda bad terms almost a year ago I needed to hear this. I may not be looking for a relationship, but it’s always a good thing to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else.
This is the best life advice I've heard in my 40 years 1 marriage and two kids time on this planet. And I'm a fat bald man. Happiness is possible brothers. This is the way. I'm rooting for you. We're all in this together.
as a woman, you can safely ignore any texting rules. just do not blow up our phones with 3-6 texts in a row if we are not responding immediately, that shit is really fucking annoying. each person is different. I am very busy so I don't always notice when it takes a while to reply. you might get a text back from me in 1-3 hours on average, or you will get a bit of time where texts back are instant for a while. mostly because I'm ass deep in commissions a lot of the time. if anything its a complement if someone like me spends their breaks with you. my perspective is a little different because I am my own business for work. its a full time job and a half.
Im a wamen, and I can say with confidence that I like it when he texts me back right away. It shows that he cares. It may be because he has other unique aspects as well, but this behavior shows he isn't trying to be mysterious and busy. That shit is childish
this video is simply genious other than the actually useful tips, the key is in the character doing the talking, not just any person no matter if random or famous i think its pretty clear that people, when hearing their favourite character or a character that they respect or is in general seen as "chad" (the doomslayer would be perfect if he talked) are much more inclined into remembering those words, into following them probably wouldnt work the same with memes, having the same video read by shrek would be much funnier, but thats it, a funny video about a meme character giving dating advice, that people probably wont do, or maybe just try "for the vine" so thank you for this video, while there are not as many Joshua followers as we would like, his words wont be forgotten, if heard by the right ears
Joshua’s voice never seizes to both inspire and sooth the soul, be it a religious text despite if one is religious or not along with giving advice such as this. Part of me has always felt left out and even envied my friends when they speak of their relationships. I’m aware of envy being a sin but sadly I can not help it in my heart. However thanks to some close friends and family I don’t ever truly feel alone, while I may yearn for partner’s embrace as long as o hold my friends and family close I know someday I will be blessed with someone whom I’m able to be romantically involved with. Until then I shall strive to keep myself humble and just, I shall follow the advice and to keep his lessons close to heart. P.S. I really enjoyed this vid, I genuinely felt more enlightened to hear tho vid along with being able to get some things off my chest, keep up the awesome work, I look forward to more vids like this.
I’m not even in the market for a relationship. Someone sent me this after I told them. Most of these tips are good even if you replace “female” with “job interview” or “having a good social life” to some degree or another. Dress well, smell nice, put your hair right and shave are all things I have heard and do my best to do no matter what, and I firmly believe all others should strive to do so.
@@Onio_Saiyan damn, I hope the best come for you in life. Keep pushing, you will sooner come to the point yourself can look back and be proud of what currently you are.
My personal best advice will be this. Dont just only treat her well and with respect in her presence, treat everyone else (within reason) with respect and dignity. Especially socially perceived "lessers". Mean it sincerely. Be that person, not just for her but for yourself. People reveal their true selves in the dark or when they think the rules dont apply, be that when no one is around to enforce them or with people often prejudiced against that they dont think the rules of basic human decency should apply to. Become someone who sincerely means it. Even or especially during conflict or confrontational, losing control of yourself under stress or pressure again reveals the true content of your character. They know you or atleast should know, that you will eventually treat them the same way. You cant fake this forever and you are the worst type of person if you depend on pretending long enough until you "lock" someone in. Not all recognize they are this person, a lot of self righteous people delude themselves into thinking they are nice guys or good people. Work on bettering yourself. At the same time, expect the same from them. pay attention to how they treat others. Dont stay with someone who shows the red flags above in how they treat others or how they act under pressure or when they think no one is looking. They will treat you the same in time, they will treat you that way when they think you cant escape. They are a person and many people are terrible, dont stay with them just cause they act or look pretty. LIke the above said, standards conventional beauty is not as relevant as society tries to convince you it is but ESPECIALLY so when its just a terrible person.
I love how the fanbase has agreed how Joshua Graham is the true badass of Fallout New Vegas and the Courier, however badass himself, is just his companion.
thank you so very much "Joshua Graham" I can now finally understand what it's like to be mature and respect ourseleves so we could be in an understanding relationship, I've been dealt with depression in the past two years because I was so obsessed of women that I couldn't find myself and now I feel so good of myself of how I decided to watch this video. Pornography is a sadden addiction to most males and some females I started out crying out to God and started praying so I would'nt go through the same cycle of this addiction all over again. My biggest dream is to have a happy family and since I grow through out my pains and suffering through all these years I finally made it! thank Joshua Graham you inspired me.
@@cervixdevourer when copypasta gains a voice cover, it essentially gets s new life. Especially when the voice is fitting. He wouldn't know about this 4chan copypasta without this video, and even if he did, Burned Man's voice gives it an entirely different vibe. In short: stfu and enjoy Joshua speaking some facts. I still don't agree on every single point here though. Knew too many girls who were genuinely into anime and stuff. I got into it because of one.
I’m going thru alcohol withdrawals & shaking rn. when Joshua said “goober” it brought back a flood of memories from my last relationship Cause that was what her nick name for me. It sounds cheesy but thankyou. This was the positive reinforcement I didn’t know I needed.
Historically, the majority of men did not reproduce. Given free reign, women will share the top 20% of males rather than monopolize a man in the bottom 80%. We're basically seeing this play out right now with "serial monogamy", which is basically just polygamy in a genetic sense, where a very large pool of women all get ran through by the same small pool of men for a decade or longer.
Probably the biggest thing to remember is that woman are people. Average, run of the mill individuals like yourself or me. Sure they have their own differences and quirks but at the end of the day the only thing that sets them apart from say, a male counterpart are the unique traits they have that may have through their life journey. The biggest wall is accepting (and almost welcoming) the possibility of rejection that stops anyone of us from even making the first step. I'm rambling at this point but my point is, accept that you will get shut down but never let it discourage you or make you feel lesser and if it does, step back and evaluate that maybe you have an issue internally that needs to be reflected on and addressed
Fear is a tool as much as it is an obstacle. Use fear to your advantage, but never let fear stop you from doing what you please, as long as it's not a violation of God's ways, fear should be the drive pushing you forward instead of backwards, thing about it this way "if i'm scared to do something, i should do it exactly because of it"
I agree with almost everything except the makeup part and the anime part. Some people do wear makeup to get attention or minimize undesirable features but many people wear makeup because it’s a good way to express themselves and they like how confident it makes them feel. Also there’s nothing wrong with liking anime and owning anime stuff as long as it’s not an obsession. Anything that’s an obsession could be unattractive.
Hearing the advice to walk into cologne instead of spraying it directly gives me the affirmation that I've been doing it right all along! Thank you for your works so far, sir Aogiri. You're a part of a greater whole of motivation for us young men everywhere. And to those out there yearning for attention from women, we're all in this together, so help a brother out and share this with your saddest, loneliest friend and help him too, to see the Light.
^ My ex used to tell me the same thing. I'd just roll my eyes and keep doing it my way. She preferred a nuclear smell, but I don't. I gag anytime I walk past a guy with too much. Had the same bottle for the past several years, still plenty to go. I spray 3 times up front, walk forward, 1 time behind, walk backward, done. Believe it or not, I still get compliments on it and don't smell like a nuke walking around, so to each their own. x3
You are wasting your cologne. Not only is most of it falling to the floor, but the cologne that does get on you doesn't have a chance to work because it'll just be on your clothes. You are far better off applying small amounts of cologne to your neck, chest, and wrists.
^ I can usually smell it on my clothes after work and have gotten compliments over time using my method. If it works for this long, why change it? Efficiency isn't a priority since the bottle is cheap and 12oz or so. It's lasted a few years and is at half capacity.
"dont simply use these women, enjoy the time and make their lives better through your treatment and attention to them, you might be surprised to learn that looks fade" my boy joshua graham lining them up with the "you're not that hot either and the only thing you really want is someone whos going to want to wake up next to you" shhhiieeetttt
I align with everything Josh is cooking. Nevertheless, I honestly don't ever want to not be open about my fondness of anime. There was a time in my life I'd been depressed and decided I wanted to have some fun, so I changed my whole personality just to flirt with this girl for a while. Eventually I ended up dating her. By the time the relationship was over I felt vapis nothingness. A relationship is meant to be a deep personal connection. You should change and improve yourself, but understand you gotta do it in positive ways that you want to improve on. Never remould your entire being for another person. You'll end up miserable. My closest friends care for me because I am me and I expect the same from any romantic relationship. In the end changing yourself too much for one person will make it so they don't love YOU they love the idea that they molded you into. It's a relationship built on vapid ideas and masks. That ain't one worth having bros. You just gotta balance these things out dudes. The thing that made my chances with women better wasn't so much being less of an anime fan, but adding more things less to do with anime in my life. Going to more parties, trying out clothes I wasn't usually into and just in general most of what the video here says. I'm as much of an anime fan as I've always been, but it's just a matter of having more in your life outside of your hobbies not completely cutting it off or having less most of the time. Balance bros.
Nobody is telling you to remould your entire being. 5:00 it's literally 'just calm down with the fuckin anime'. Keep it private and ease it into the relationship if she's warm to it too, or not at all if she is not.
@@Hadgerz The main advice is too cool it with the anime obsession, but bro treats it like a dirt lil secret. If it was any other hobby like movies, sports or arts and crafts you wouldn't do the same. Not coming off strong with your hobbies is cool and all, but the guy straight up makes it sound like chicks will immediately get turned off by simple stuff like your merch as though it's a kids thing. Those chicks are just shallow as heck. Most women are chill and just playing with the merch and borrowing manga. She doesn't have to be into the hobby, but if simple stuff like some posters and funko pops is enough to turn her off then she's just shallow. And you're just wasting your time on people who are fickle like that.
I completely agree with your words. I used to be obsessed with anime and video games. Those were the only things that really made me who I am. They formed my entire personality, and they were the only things that I looked for in others to form a connection. In time I learned how shallow that actually was, and what really matters is sharing the same values(kindness, honesty, ,dedication, etc.) not what kind of media you consume. It's ok to enjoy things just don't let them consume your life. Of course you shouldn't change yourself for others but be aware that you're not perfect and not everything you enjoy is good for you. It's ok to watch anime and other media just don't use it as a type of escapism and live through the mc's life instead of your own. cheers... Edit: Also Funkos are just shit, sorry. At least from anime just can get some good message and Nendoroids are kinda cute, but funkos are just peak consoomer bullshit, giving money to corporations for ugly dust collectors.
@@TheAfroman95 Yup. I'm glad things worked out for ya. Side note: Do people hate Funkos this much?💀 I thought they are kinda cute, but I guess their not as popular as I thought 😅
@@bornanime3255 I guess it's a matter of taste. The bug eyes never really did it for me tbh😂. The vibe I got from people that bought them was never really for the art, but to satisfy some hoarder impulse or something 😅
As a woman I agree with everything here but 2 big things. While some women do pretend to like male things, it happens I don't deny it, many of us do genuinely like video games, anime and cars. It is not just a male thing and thinking that will eventually become clear sooner or later which will make us feel like you are invalidating our interests. I thought ol Joshua would know that. Yes, the primary purpose of make up is to make us look as good as society unfairly expects women to at all times, attract partners, and cover insecurity. But we can also like makeup just because we like to look extra good for the day for ourselves. Thinking of us as vain and insecure just shows how little you think of us. Just... treat us like people capable of our own individual personalities regardless of the statistics on what most men or women do and don't do. Not doing that is cringe.
Ol Josh did get it right when he said “Women are just like men, only to a different degree”. Plus, my girl literally owns a kilogram of Hatsune Miku merch. That ain’t a brag that shit is cringe, and just a placeholder for the real shit; Real Grade Gunpla models 😤
@@tribacioustee2846 Why even keep statistics in mind if it means you have to change yourself and, as a result, end up with a partner who doesn't fit you? Wouldn't that be a waste of time?
For the makeup thing, I’m gonna explain it in the way my girlfriend did that finally made me get it. Sometimes women dont wear makeup to fix their looks, or for men, but they like that it makes them feel pretty. Don’t tell them they’re prettier without makeup. They spend a lot of time on their makeup and they’re proud of the work they put into it. In the same way your girlfriend may never get whats so special about that cool thing you grinded for in a game, you may never get what the point of spending an hour on makeup is. However, clearly it means enough to them to put time and effort into and you should appreciate and respect that. If your girlfriend comes around and you notice she’s done her makeup different, tell her she looks pretty. Same if she doesn’t have makeup on, or if their makeup just looks the same. They put a lot of time and care into their looks that us guys don’t really do, a lot of them have a daily routine of using face washes and lotions and shit, so when you tell them they look good it means a lot more than you know. Besides that, the rest of this video is really good advice that I wish I heard years ago before I learned the hard way.
Before you criticize women for wasting their time applying make-up, remember how long you spend killing enemies for random drops in your favorite RPG to get a new piece of swag for your virtual character. Men often have the same priorities as women, but don´t realize they are simply applying them at different moments, for different reasons, to the same or lesser effect. "We are the same, but different."
Hearing Joshua saying "this is cringe" in a slightly aggressive tone of voice is absolutely golden
But that what cringe is, Joshua understands words, you can tell by how he gives advice
Take having toys there nothing wrong with being a collector but be a Collector make it look professional don't be ashamed of it but also don't let it be your personality otherwise just have one or two favorite toys and let that be that
this is cringe father
never in my wildest dreams did i imagine i would hear the va for nobunaga oda say that.
That and "decent kicks"
😂
"Axe body spray, you might as well tell her you're a serial killer" Lmao
Real
Some women would be into that.
trust me, as someone who has experience in this field, it's true, nobody likes the smell axe body spray besides gym bros
Molecule 01 which consists of Iso E Super is where i point everyone to when they ask what scents to wear. Straight from the bottle it has literally no scent because its main scent molecule is too big for our receptors to pick up on. But once it hits your skin it breaks down and it breaks down differently for each person making a unique smell.
Plus the main ingredient can be purchased for a fraction of the price if you want to diy a cologne.
Lol true, I’m a dude and that stuff smells like a burning meth house
The art is what really sells it for me. It shows him with a girl (courier) and not romantically or anything but simply walking together and both looking kind of happy. It's perfect
That's what love is. It's not embracing and holding hands, it's walking long roads by one another's side.
Courier is canonically female
@@SlZIJI Are they? Where did that canon come from
@@SlZIJInope.
@@SlZIJI The player characters' gender has never, ever been canon in Fallout games.
As a friend once said to me, when asked why he gives dating advice but never dates, in high school, all those years ago:
"Some Coaches have played and got hurt.
Some Coaches have played and cling to their prime like a trophy.
Some Coaches have never played.
But all Coaches watch and study what works and what doesn't. "
Great quote
I....holy shit i might use this! Good god nice!
a little late on the draw on my part, but please ask your friend if he is the reincarnation of one of Confucius’ followes
Nah, you want someone who knows the game inside and out.
The coaches who never played might be good, but 9/10 times in hindsight, they are mediocre. Thing is, since you are seeking for advice, that means you can't distinguish good advice from bad advice (or else you would already have the answer). This makes the qualifier their experience.
This is why pick up artists is such a scam. You see a lot of wannabe coaches in that space, and the thing is, since the people who don't know any better follow them, they end up paying for their services while getting advice that doesn't work. If they go to their coach, they would reason that they are "just not doing it right". Remember, they will say to you that they studied the game inside out as well.
Get one who knows the struggle of the battlefield and has a proven record. The best coaches are players too. Phil Jackson in basketball was an NBA player. Erwin Rommel of the Wermacht started as an ensign. Genghis Khan was a warrior himself before he commanded the Mongol horde.
José Mourinho (Football) was not a World Cup champion, but he had practical experience in the field since he was a midfielder in Portugal. Belichick (American Football) was not an NFL player, but he played American Football regularly when he was younger.
Even Jesus Christ lived personally with the poor.
Do you want to get better at dating? Your best chances are following someone who dated (not dated a childhood friend, but dated a stranger or acquaintance) and has a successful relationship. You might get lucky with listening to a guy who never experienced a relationship, but do you really want to rely on luck?
Well, up to you if you want to listen to a guy who has no lived experience, but know that there are better choices out there waiting for you.
This fireside chat with Graham raised everyone's Charisma by +2.
Depending on the biuld, it could be a limited buff
Damn, now I have 3 charisma!
Great this is brilliant now I have
2 charisma ……..
@@dakingofbootleg1229 At least now you're not unconscious.
@@epigone1796 hold on I got this
Player.modav charisma 10
Player.additem 0000000f 5000
Player.modav repair 50
"We all get saggy, old and decrepit so marrying for looks or sex is like buying a broken down car with a new paint job" Joshua spitting the facts
Sex is mostly a youthful thing. And what this guy is proposing is preposterous.
Sex isn’t the whole car but it’s the wheels on the car
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 libido and appearances fade over time, some even sooner than others.
Take that away and ask yourself if it wasn't for intercourse or appearances, would you honestly be happy with spending the rest of your life with X person. Think hard about it, because if appearance and intercourse is the main reason, then that realtionship isn't going pan the test of time.
@@datekaname2246 If my gf is hot and white with nice bones, I really don’t care. The last phases of life suck ass for everybody, so that entire point is moot.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 This commer like attitude is why your still single. Nothing wrong with wanting to smash. But don't complain about never finding any indepth relationships with anyone who actually cares about you.
“Women do not usually age as gracefully as men, so marrying for looks or sex is like buying a broken down car with a new paint job” is such a raw fucking line. I LOVE this! It clearly comes from the heart, and everything said here is worded in a way that sounds like something Joshua Graham would actually say. 500/10!
I like when he says "goober"
Eh. I don't shoot for looks myself. My experience is that overweight or ugly women have the same problems and insecurity as well.
Funny how from my experience it's the opposite. Most middle aged men I know are overweight, unkempt, and have a plethora of health problems from years of drinking and smoking. Women their same age while they obviously don't look 25 anymore they age more gracefully since they take better care of themselves.
@@AverageWagie That’s actually a good point! A lot of older men be resting that McDonalds belly on the table!
Oh I’m not so sure about that. It’s a positive message, but plenty of men certainly don’t age gracefully. Nothing wrong with that, especially if love is there.
Just from a guy that got recently engaged to a girl way out of my league, don't take everything in here as advice, some things are unfortunately the generic pick-up artist stuff he warns you about. Whether it be to deny your hobbies and passion and act like they are absolute killers of any chances or more minor things like "rubbing your wrists after applying cologne", everyone who ever paid the most minuscule amount of attention knows that this actually muddles or even ruins the scent.
Again, there is some rock-solid stuff that helped me get where I am, but again, be true to yourself. If you like anime, get that merch, just don't wear it on a date or when getting out, make it your cozy fit. And same about toys and funko pops, if that's what you like, get it, just don't make it who you are. Again, the dressing advice, and the taking care of yourself as a person advice is true, but like I said some is just as bad as pick-up artist stuff.
Obviously, it would fit for Joshua Graham to say these things, giving who he is and what not, so as a video Idea I get it, but don't swallow all of it as proven advice. This is a mixed bag of advice.
Just saying this because I met my partner during the Covid Pandemic while gaming, and she is way above my league, and she is an even bigger anime enthusiast and gamer than I am. So yeah boys, take care and groom yourself, and just swallow your pride and talk to any girl, that was probably the best advice. Girls do get prettier in your eyes when you get to know them.
Good luck yall, took me 24 years to get lucky, and I wish all of you the same success.
The parts where he said most women only put on makeup to attract men, or just pretend to like "manly things" were definitely parts that had me raising an eyebrow. Those are the type of blanket statements he was literally just advocating against a minute or two earlier. Ahah
@@Gladuos1 The author is human as well while it's generally good advice there are some things that could be re written but im just happy it isn't Andrew tate top g alpha male bullshit
@@Gladuos1 women put makeup on to compete with each other because it is a societal norm. In the 90s, most teenage girls didn’t wear makeup, at least not to school. Nowadays it is the norm. Take any girl from today and place her in a school in the 90s and I guarantee she stops wearing makeup quick, because she won’t want to do something that the other girls aren’t.
@@StoutProper No doubt many people do things for social approval, but it seems a bit dismissive to assume there aren't many women who do something for their own sake.
@@lesshuman00 Alot do but not all of them although I can understand why they would because some of the shit I've heard said towards women in multi-player games has been some pretty vile shit
When that friend that's never had a girlfriend gives you the best dating/love advice you've ever heard:
Even tho they never had one they still have experience because they observe the people around them failing and succeeding and learn from it because they usually aren't in love with the person you like or somepne else likes. This makes it easier for them to observer behavior without the distraction of love feelings.
@@jensvanbockstal1056 I also fine those who don't shop around like that usually understands that stuff best. Cause they don't see every man/woman as a potential fuck buddy but as real people, and they know how to talk to them like real people cause they've been talking to them like *real goddamn people*
@@jensvanbockstal1056
stupid person never learn from their own mistakes.
smart person learns from their own mistakes.
wise person learns from others mistakes.
Coaches don't play 😂
Literally me
"Do you wear baggy clothes because you don't have confidence in your body?" Damn that felt personal 🤣🤣🤣
Hit me like a truck covered in lemon juice
i just like Jesse Pinkman dawg
@@capperbuns so real
This is essentially why even if I figure I look disgusting in a good-fitting T-shirt I will gladly wear it over some huge hoodie and baggy-as-all-hell pants. I see too many dudes who wear whole ghillie suits to camouflage their insecurities
I wear somewhat baggy clothing to keep my remote hoke puncher of self defense hidden the wolf in sheep's clothing
My man Graham made a 7 minute speech that encapsulates the listener for the full duration, beating them up for their prior thinkings and then helping them grow into a new mindset of being an actually decent and flexible person who cares less about the goal and more about the journey.
Well said.
We need more honest hearts like Joshua
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! RAAAAHHHH
I see what you did here
We should walk roads with lonesomeness
HE SAID THE LINE!!1!!
@@asdasfasd1984and get a big mountain of knowledge
I genuinely love the idea of him giving the courier all these tips while they’re just trying to do quests.
Lol just like over the radio or something. The couriers like "the fuck is a scooter?"
“What clothing are you wearing?
Bruh wtf is this game”
Bad advice
Joshua surely know what he's talking about.
@@Canzandridas 🤨
The AI voice meme really transcended itself and now these characters give genuinely good advice.
Except maybe the part of woman just doing stuff for attention, it kinda felt like it makes it scummy
@@arielmino643I mean it’s not strictly exclusive to women but have you been on tic toc?
@@Jdjdjdujakzgsha still though, there are plently of female people who do not seek attention. Tik Tok represents not every woman, nor a majority at all.
I haven't ever played a fallout game before, and I don't really know anything about this character.
Is he actually somewhat like this in the game?
@@arielmino643 Yeah I agree.
I mean the part about "women only wear makeup for the sake of men" doesn't make sense to me.
Now I don't know anything about makeup, but the whole point of makeup is that it's a form of self expression, and makes you look a certain way right?
I feel it would be like saying "Men *only* work out for the sake of women." As if no one ever changed their appearance just to be able to smile at themselves when the look in the mirror.
"You are simply practicing talking" is one of the most genuine pieces of advice I am in awe
I am willing to follow the great word of Joshua Graham
Yes
Who?
Wait till you follow the word of God
@@markrichards7452fr. Tried it. Gotta say it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Even despite the struggles. Praise be to god bro.
Joshua graham is the master we all wish we had before our first date to help us learn
Hearing josh say “that’s cringe” made my day
And it's cursed.
@@Demon_Slayer213 yet so true
Wanna know who isn't cringe, The King
I find the best line about cologne. “Don’t spray it all over yourself like some goober”.
@@HevvvyyySome of The King doing the same advice as this would👌
The fact that a fictional character is giving us advice, and very GOOD advice says a lot about reality
The internet is our father.
A couple criticisms:
There's nothing wrong with being passionate about a fandom or hobby, and wearing logos. Just be well-groomed, confident, and NOT OBSESSED.
There are a lot of women who do, in fact, wear makeup simply because they like to. In fact many women wear makeup more for appreciation from other women, not from men.
Trying to measure the perfect time you should take to respond to texts is, in fact, playing a game. While I recognize that many people do this, I believe that if she is the kind of person who does this crap, it's best to move on. The key is not about whether you appear obsessed, the key is to not BE obsessed. Be genuine, up front, respond quickly if that's important to you, and above all approach with the understanding that things may turn out well or into nothing, and that's okay. Hold your peace within you.
no, if you like something you can be obsessed with it, getting women is not the most important thing in live, live how you want to, dont listen to anyone bc the only person who is right is you
@@superbrajanek4579 point, but this is advice for people who presumably want to have a woman in their life. But by your comment, you are right, having hobbies and likes outside of relationships is healthy.
Indeed, this is a great video but thank goodness I don't have to worry about any of this garbage, as I've discovered the secret to being happily single and yet not at all lonely. I can indulge in my hobbies and fandoms as much as I wish and still live healthy and happy.
Every relationship I've had, and I am no expert in those, has involved someone who has been clearly interested in texting me even if they take time to respond 😊
@@TheNwahDango you discovered Cope Pill (tm)? Bravo!
“Ai is gonna destroy the world, it’s gonna destroy media itself!”
Ai: “alright, look, here’s how you talk to women.”
Duality of A.I
@@tonyng3285AI: How about you get some bitches?
*_Teaches how to get bitches_*
It's just a voice
AI:okay humans just procreates!
@@MayorofHopeville and it was just a joke
"Axe body spray....you might as well tell her you're a serial killer"
Holy crap, straight spitting facts.
Bull-shit. I dated four 21 year old chicks last year wearing nothing but Axe!
I'm 37 - got that daddy game going.
Hey i been using axe body spray what the hell is wrong with it
@@Nixx26 I think the best place to start is why you are here...in the present time...at this present channel asking this present question, while watching this video.
@@pablosanhueza5290 that's some weird question
@@Nixx26 that is because it is sarcasm friend. just have a chuckle and enjoy the content. Cheers!
4:53 this is true, in 2022 I've talked to an girl for 6 months straight, till I realize she is not interested in me, neither did she cared about me, guess what? When I stopped texting her, she never came back to ask how you doing? What's wrong? How its been? Damn I just was so dumb, never let an woman or man take place in your life like it's an "need" or "I need her to be happy", no person in this life should be responsible for your happiness.
Yea sadly a lot of women talk to multiple men with no intention to date or romance them, but keep them as emotional objects and for validation and attention. I've seen it a lot, and once you stop giving them that, they may attempt to dangle the "cheese" in front of you more. I'm sure some men do this as well. It's unfortunate behavior.
damn roland, thats rough.
Joshua spitting facts so hard, he inspired me to self-improve. He is truly the best written Fallout character ever.
Damn man, this got me rethinking my whole life
Bro what u mean u the one who said it😭
Zone operator???
@@whitelinestude0s220 That's the deal, he doesn't remember jack shit of this happening "when the fuck I gave dating advice for the young mormons?"
Ah but you said that...?
Damn man this troll changed it up pretty quickly
Joshua Graham is still teaching us when we were kids and he is teaching us now
He taught us religion when we were younger, now he's teaching us to get bitches. His skin may be burnt but damn he roasts like hell, but its for the sake of letting out a better us
No lol
@@danteshollowedgrounds Yes lol
@Some guy with a Blue mask exactly bro
New Vegas has existed long enough for some players to become adults.
We're missing some of the most important stuff. Confidence is like the #1 thing, and confidence is pointed out in the video. But where does confidence come from?
Make sure that you have something you are proud of in your life, and you can share it with others in a fashion that speaks to your fundamental character. I am a teacher - that's who I am. I am proud of the fact that the person that I embody at work is 99% the same human being that I am outside of work. I am proud that I contribute something to my community, and that I make people's lives better by doing what I do. I also do a lot of reading and exercise, which shows that I am dedicated to self-improvement and new experiences. My wife has always said that my confidence was a huge factor in her attraction to me early on in our relationship, and now I get to be proud that I am married to a bonafide scientist. I was watching the league of legends world championships in her bed around date number 4 (I was spending the weekend over, do not try this during a date of a normal 2ish hours). She does not play nor relate in any way, but I didn't give a fuck because I am in shape and was an accomplished college athlete. The hobby shit that Joshua talks about here does not apply if you are *truly* confident in who you are and how you present yourself as a person. I don't hide ANY of my morals or ethics simply because I don't have to - I worked hard to be a morally upstanding person and that has worked wonders for my young adult life.
Tl;dr: develop yourself so that you are *actually* attractive. Do some community service or some shit. Read a book. Go outside. Actively work towards becoming a good person on your own terms. Become someone worthy of the partner that you want. This will make you more attractive than anything else that you can possibly do. Insecurities are the death of a relationship, so become secure in yourself before looking to others for solutions or even comfort.
You just made me think about confidence in a completely different way. However, I don't think most women will think we're cool for knowing a lot of fallout lore
confidence begins by cleaning your room.
“Axe body spray? You may as well tell her you’re a serial killer” - As someone who did this, I must agree. Axe is women repellant, and I wore it for that express purpose. The only thing Axe does beneficially is make the gym bros more friendly.
We all need someone like Joshua in our lives. Sadly, he is too pure for our broken world
He's a genocidal warcriminal who only calmed down because he got chucked down a canyon and lost everything. He's not pure at all.
@@nativepoint14 Well mf burned to crisp. apparently fires of hell purified his soul
@@nativepoint14 even though he is a sinner, it is believed he has been saved
@@nativepoint14 o: nice. still really nice stuff. he's helping people out with this type of shit.
@Jenny Main u female?
the part that always gets me is when someone says “they’re insecure like you are.” it just hits different when i hear it from Joshua Graham
Yes well the root of pride is insecurity. So many of those "proud" (they claim its just self-confidence) women out there are the most insecure ones.
@@StarboyXL9 Proud People don't advertise to others how Proud they are.
It’s not true tho
"Don't spray it onto your shirt like some goober". Literally me 😂😂😂
Best advice I got was “don’t lie about who you are.” You have to be the real you. You can’t pretend to be someone else forever. She will catch on. This attracts a real compatible partner and greatly reduces your anxiety. Just avoid lying to her altogether. That builds trust, and remember that real love is wanting her to be happy. Remember the ending of Bruce Almighty… You can’t force a woman to like you, only fan the flames of pre-existing attraction. Also, consent is key.
I disagree. If I were just myself I would be anti-social and avoid women because of social anxiety. Maybe some people listening to this video are currently slobs and need to work on themselves. I surely wouldn't tell them to be themselves. For some things you really have to learn to change and become a new you.
"Just be yourself" is the most bullshit wrong advice for men I've heard my entire life to the point that it annoys me when people say it.
Learn to be comfortable with yourself, and learn to be comfortable with other people. If you have social anxiety, look up self-help posted by real therapists, there's fantastic videos on youtube on the subject.
@@chdata I literally got this advice from Cinema Therapy on youtube. If the real you is a slob or ridden with anxiety, you have to reveal that person to begin to change. Changing bad habits also doesn’t mean changing who you are, it’s changing the habit/behavior. Tbh I know a dude who is absurdly obnoxious, aggressively bisexual, and smells like death 24/7. He has a girlfriend. She’s not hot, but he’s got her.
Half right.
Be yourself.
But
Also improve.
We never stop growing just some people stop caring.
If so it's truly over. Be you but strive to be the best you. Maybe hell idk try video games and move onto coding or maybe watching animal documentaries and move onto bird watching and learning to take care of animals.
@@chdata Since when did becoming a good person contradict being yourself?
Building confidence in yourself can be done without faking it...its being courageous to say "I'm going to be genuine" from a place of genuiness and being fine with the outcome. As long as your trying to be good any girl who is also good will like that...and even if they are not attracted to you they will at least like talking to you.
@@ProTroll69 what does aggressively bisexual mean lol
Hearing Joshua Graham of all people say things like "Cringe" and "Giga Chad" is a whole new level of entertainment for me.
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
My guy learned, adapt and overcome.
@Narendra Joshua and Caesar were raised Christian but then joined the church of Atom and witnessed to the savage raider tribes.
Over time they became the Legion and Joshua was one of the worst generals. Joshua was blinded by anger and lost the Hoover dam to the NCR rangers.
Caesar had him covered in pitch burned and thrown into the grand canyon.
@Narendra Joshua has a good speaking voice but he isn't wise.
@@matthew2531 it could be said he is good with words and experienced but not wise. Wiseness take longer to achieve.
Listening to this while changing my son’s diaper, can’t wait to share this wisdom with him someday👍
Tell it to him like they are the words of a real-life sage of knowledge
truly, boy become man when he become father of son.
@@cyberneticbeast man, thats kind of wise words
Please do not teach your child this and instead inform him of the truth
please elucidate your son of the order of chaos
WE MAKIN IT OUT THE FRIENDZONE WITH THIS ONE
i love how he said this will trigger some of you and then you have people writing paragraph retorts on the exact thing he said. The Burned Man is 10 steps ahead
After being in a couple of relationships myself, one of which ended because they were just using me as a coping mechanism for their depression, another was just suicidal and i kept giving her too many chances and that made me worry about people a lot. The only significant relationship i had lasted a while, and we got back together two times, both were significant and we broke up on good terms. This video has basically given me the idea that, maybe there is a good relationship and a meaningful one for me out there if i just better myself. Thank you for this video
Yea, this video helping me feel better after I broke up and how to improve myself even better. There will be time when I ready for another relationship or grow up more. I have girls ask me out but I know deep inside I know myself better than anyone that i not ready for another relationships so I turn her down and she slightly angry. I dislike her actually because I am guy believe in good thing and right thing classisy and I feel like she is crazy girl type. I think we not good match if we going out and then she drag me to date and selfie with her and give it to my friend that told her he would date her if he not already have girlfend then ask me out after she bought herself some shirt.
On god brother, On god
Nope unless you had a mature relationship with no real malice in it you won't find a meaningful one unless it's somebody you knew from childhood.
@@datuputi777 lol L take
@@God-nh9lq
Yup, call names so people can validate your stupidity.
Finally. Tips grown men have been telling grown boys for years. Let's hope it coming from Joshua Graham will give it impact.
Alright either you grew up with a lot of good men around you or you're a boomer but I'll break the sad news no one has been telling young men this for years that's the problem.
@@BeautifulGreen252 exactly.
@@BeautifulGreen252my dad did. Some advice better than others, but he did. The problem is, i'm not really big onto the relationship game rn, my last girl dumped me because of past trauma that i still can't get past.
@@BeautifulGreen252 No I'm not a boomer but I have been telling young men about this for years. Unfortunately they listen to grifters or black pillers who either trun these men into those with no self respect or no self confidence. Which is a shame.
@@BeautifulGreen252 you act like growing up with good men is a hard thing to do, maybe just don't be so fucking condescending and you'll find those good men. LMAO
This is one of the better "AI voice gives you advice" videos because it gives specific, bracing advice and provides reasoning for a lot of it. This isn't just feel-good claptrap.
"i will personally fit you in the shin with a Razor scooter" i laughed way too hard at that line XD
I’m already rocking Joshua’s drip guidelines, now I’ll take the rest of his advice. Praise Zion
Not too sure bout the "not wearing logo shirts" advice though... Every time I have had girls approach me lately, it was to compliment my shirt or hoodie cause it had something on it they liked, especially my anime shirts!!!
@@GoatSimpulator notice what he says about “that’s what teenagers wear” it’s kinda saying “that’s what girls want not women”
@WowItzAkina Sorry the word "girl" caused a misunderstanding, I mean women... I'm 34 and the ladies I'm referring to range from mid-20s to my age. And are usually so attractive, I stumble over my words lol
Tucked in black/white tee with jeans??? That is the farthest thing FROM drip 😂
@@GoatSimpulator Anime shirts can be cool, long as its not excessive or uncomfortable to look at. First off, try and stay far out of hentai shirts, that is a given. Secondly, keep it simple, it shouldn't be too detailed, otherwise it can become overbearing and distracting. Simple is good. Remember to keep it your size, don't go baggy, but don't go excessively small. A comfortable shirt that is tight enough to cover your body without hiding it is a great shirt. Showing confidence in your body is very important, as even pretending to be confident can make you feel more confident. Confidence is good for thousands of reasons, looking good is just one of them. Keep all of this in mind, and remember to keep to a simplistic color palette or you stick out like a sore thumb. Like Joshua says, keep it simple. White, grey, and black, or darker variants of colors, such as navy blue, look best. In short, don't go out trying to look unique and cool, look simple. Your appearance matters little in comparison to your personality, and focusing too much on looks can make you forget how to act.
I was expecting this to be a reading of some tryhard or incel parody copypasta, but no, it's legitimately solid, levelheaded, reasonable advice. And it's been condensed into a 7 minute video.
This is amazing.
The same common and tired platitudes is good advice to indoctrinated people.
If you are a man, you really ought to know that sexually attractiveness is what will get you a woman and a few facts about male demographics and what attracts women.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 most incel and pick up artists are forever alone, widely hated, and have never genuinely experienced love from the opposite sex.
@@datekaname2246 The ugly ones, yes. But that is not special to those groups. Being ugly makes you ‘forever alone’.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 plenty of ugly people have ugly partner who love them for who they are and share simular values with, some even get lucky and find someone who's more attractive then them, but we all look the same in old age.
Also if you think these """"hot"""" pick up artists are actually getting women who genuinely love them, then your in for some bad news.
Stop doomer posting and wallowing in self pity. People can pick up on those vibes from miles of you.
You need to be better to yourself.
If you can't accept yourself and love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to give you that love and respect you can't give yourself.
@@datekaname2246 You’re too deluded to start debate with. I have my own anecdotes too. You know, the ones you don’t talk about. The middle age virgins, the used and abused ugly providers, the just wait until your late twenties. Patterns to everything and everyone.
For everyone that is hung up on the anime thing, there is enjoyment and then there is off putting obsession. I have long discussions with my husband on the ins and outs of the anime’s we watch, and I love these conversations because they are stimulation. That is different than my husband spending money (or just a little too much money) on anime t-shirts or decorations. For example, I went to an anime convention and my sister in law got me a Rengoku/Akasa artkwork, it’s beautiful, I love it. I don’t have it on display. I’ve had it for 2 years now, I don’t know if I’ll ever have it displayed. There is a certain slide of maturity/immaturity that is portrayed with display pieces like that and you have to consider what and where you are in your relationship. If all you have is anime talk then there is not much else there, we want more and we often want it with the same level of enthusiasm. At some point they won’t want to have their ear talked off about anime and want to hear of all the things you got done around the house unprompted like taking out the garbage, putting down mice traps, taking the car to get an oil change and having it cleaned out (bonus points if you did it yourself)
I appreciate the point about tasks to be done (Like Car maintenance or daily chores. If you're moving into a new home, changing your mailing address is your top priority). As for the whole anime-obsession topic, along with hording, there is a fine line between being obsessive and being in control of yourself via your spending habits. My thing isn't anime per-se, save for me mimicking the overall art style like everyone else, but my collection of figures and games is more so like me being a curator. I balance my budget, I only go for the best when I plan it, I always keep the concept of postponing gratification in mind, and I don't just buy random things on a whim. I don't buy things I won't need or know that I'll get bored with it down the line. As for conversation topics, you couldn't be more right. It is important to have a foundation for other things to discuss at length outside of entertainment. Politics ain't my thing, but it could be anything from nature, enjoying the scenery of anything, or even stargazing.
@@nickthepick8043 absolutely, in my household we have varying topics, the one my husband is ready to talk my ear off with is table top, which is fine most of the times, but we also do politics, not party specific but policy specific and how it will affect us, I live in CA, and there is a case here of a mom who’s child got taken away by CPS because she would not allow “affirming care” well the girl was given “affirming care” by the government and ended up throwing herself in front of train tracks. As parents that terrifies us, because we are also seeing policies that promote that sort of lifestyle for children. How will that affects our son? Do we have to worry about his grade teacher making him question himself and convince him he must be a girl because he likes to cook? Will they give him “affirming care” behind our backs as a concerning amount of school are doing? We also have other topics like skin care (I’m an new esthetician) medical stuff, new research studies in medicine or biology fascinates us. But to be honest, what really kicks the dopamine bucket is my husband saying he got the laundry done, or he did dishes, or that he did chore “x” that really makes me smile and happy, and makes feel better about my ear being talked off about table top.
This is... surprisingly wholesome.
I don't know the character but the advices are pretty good and respectful, love it
This is legitimately good advice. It's not condescending or aggressive, just well-meaning words of wisdom. I wish more guys got this kind of advice like this instead of from guys who encourage men to treat women like stupid, meaningless objects that only want to ruin your life.
Absolutely boggles my mind that people can take people like Andrew Taint seriously, despite his unhealthy view of women, failed relationships and recent charges. Those poor, lost men.
@@Talcyon64 While there are some things he said I do not agree with, he also said things like "A real Man should protect and provide for his wife and family" and that "all women are precious and should be protected".
Absolutely no evidences exist for the recent charges, and most of his ex-girlfriends are protecting him even though they are not together with him anymore. Sure, they could give them money to make statements such as those, but so can others (for example Vice) give money to actresses or literally any other people to play the role of the "victims" they *supposedly* interviewed.
@@wladynoszkapitany8277 it's a grift.
You'll rarely find people in history who didn't say something you also happen to agree with.
You have to take this holistically (meaning the whole picture). If I tell you that we should treat animals well and with respect but also happen to own slaves does it make me still worth listening to?
He's a rampant piece of garbage and harmed so many people, you don't need that tiny straw of common advice from him. And the reality is thousands start to listen there and then go to follow the rest of his rethoric.
Good men, good people in general, can recognize someone paying lip service.
And no evidence exists? That's wild, please look into how trafficking works and how the people go about it. Exploiting others sucks.
uhm how many couples do you know that never had a crisis?
how big is your family?
I know for a fact in a thousand long lasting relationship you get 3 that never tilted ever well on 997 the women definitely lost their Jimmy's.
Though the 997 that nearly failed were exceptional on one thing they forgive the most horrendous creatures God had made.
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
Man if he finished with-
“I know there is someone out there for you,
but we can’t expect God to do all the work.”👌🏻
Joshua is my dad's friend who gives me the advice that i never asked for but really needed
I guess its time to throw in my story (instead of doing my coursework lol).
I was not a social butterfly when I entered my teens. Socially awkward, withdrawn, and very inwardly focused. As I progressed through my early teen years, I surrounded myself with like-minded people. Me n' the boys would shoot the shit and talk about practically anything, but it was during that time where I started developing a resentment to my more social peers. I very nearly became an incel, as I felt that I the reason why girls wouldn't talk to me were absolutely superficial. The whole bullshit of girls only chasing assholes and dumb/popular jocks was something that I perceived as my reality (with hindsight, this was such a dumb take for younger me to have). It took me moving to a different country for me to finally break that negative cycle that I had trapped myself in. I finally started working out (I wasn't very physically active when I was in my early teens, and was even pre-diabetic), meeting new people, making new friends, and touching more grass (really it did wonders).
I still didn't have any luck with girls in highschool, but I ultimately didn't feel resentment at that. I understood that I was simply not doing enough to better my image, and was mainly waiting for the right opportunity. After graduating and entering a community college, I became exposed to more people with similar interests. I joined a club and finally took greater steps to improve myself. I finally started to shave consistently (My family isn't known for strong facial hair. I just end up getting a scraggly mess around my neck if I don't shave), wear cologne, and acquire a better wardrobe. I ended up meeting some girls, dated some of them, fell out with some, and became friends with some. I took the steps to better my mental and physical image, but it would have amounted to nothing if I didn't develop my social skills either. Just talking with girls raised my self-esteem and made me more comfortable communicating. I went into conversations not expecting anything to happen and it helped immensely knowing I didn't have to impress or flirt.
I'm seeing a girl currently and it wouldn't be possible if a mutual friend of ours didn't set us up. She's smart, hard working, kind, fun, and beautiful. We aren't too serious and I wouldn't call her my girlfriend just yet, but i'm hoping that we can get to know each other more and have experiences that make pleasant memories to look back on. I wouldn't have this if I didn't join the club, and I wouldn't have joined the club if I didn't learn to socialize or seek new experiences. I wouldn't have this if I had not taken the steps to better myself. If you read this, what I want you to take away from this is don't sell yourself short. Don't be afraid to step away from your comfort zone every once in a while. Start small and build on previous accomplishments to get to where you are. It'll take time and work (I turned 20 a little over a month ago, and only really entered the dating scene when I turned 18.), but you'll be all the better for it, I know I am.
Edit: Also Im a HUGE nerd for history, videogames, and military vehicles. Still I only really bring it up when relevant or asked about it. If anything my knowledge of history impressed the girl I'm seeing since she had a personal connection to it.
You're doing good, lad.
Yo wanna be friends I'm literally the same history video games and military vehicles
"Don't spray it under your shirt like some goober" noted
But I'm a goofy goober :,(
I never use axe, what do you mean?
@@goober3097 Axe's products don't last as long as other body sprays and smell absolutely horrible
I used dr squatch
@@plymouthruckingberg3479 You missed the pun 😭 bros named Goober, op said "like some goober"
Sorry for explaining the joke but had to incase
Joshua Graham calling logo shirts "cringe" is one of the most hilarious things I've heard in a long while. I nearly fell out of my chair.
I already do that. I have a no tshirt rule.
A lot of these tips are pretty good, especially when it comes to self care and how you present yourself. But, as a lady myself, let me tell you this; don't hide your interests, or force yourself to be a spectator in conversation. You should be able to talk about your hobbies with your s/o without judgement-- if she honestly is so put off by something so trivial like anime, she's probably not a good fit. While you should always let your girl speak, short answers can sometimes make you seem disinterested; there's nothing wrong with expressing yourself.
i was thinking the same
when someone shares interests, they can get passionate to the point where it is really attractive, it's nice and fun to see someone's lighten up for things, even trivial
the only thing is to notice if you're losing the person or not, to not getting into a full monologue
i respect that you said sex if you choose fr
I have a girlfriend who flies in the face of nearly every principle set forth in this copypasta. Hell, she _prefers_ it when I wear loose-fitting clothes because she thinks it makes me look comfy and cute. Follow these rules if you must, but don't make any drastic changes to yourself or you'll end up attracting someone who wouldn't really like "the real you."
Stay strong, boys. God bless you.
I once showed a photo of me in a gun range, she straight up leaved, i dont regret nothing,
@@Literallyryangosling777 She aint worthy then.
@@Literallyryangosling777 Based. Make sure she accepts the real you.
PREACH IT
@@Literallyryangosling777 a woman who isn’t open to self defense other than using fists is just not one to be open to all morals
As a women I feel I have important advice: do you want a girl who loves nerdy stuff, or do you want a girl who isn’t into the same fandoms, games, movies, shows that you are into.
I love a guy who isn’t afraid to show what he loves. Graphic tees are great conversation starters but not on dates. Wear fancy stuff for that.
I can pull nerdy girls without wearing nerdy crap, that’s bad advice. it’s called 6’4 and attractive
@@Borgborg128 your relationship won't last if you have a personality of a rock
@@daniilillarionov9854 I’ve been dating a hot gym rat/nerd girl for the last year and a half bro. I look like a massive fck boy, and I grew up playing sports and being a “jock,” but I’ve also played DnD and am a nerd at heart
@@Borgborg128 then it really would'nt matter what type of shirt you have on
@@moonie1825 I just don’t like the style and I’m a vain c*nt. I prob could still do fine dressed like a nerd tho ig. Would lose some overall appeal tho with basic thot types
Damn solid advice been a long time since I have met anyone man or woman who how to wear cologne or perfume.
6:48 I never thought I'd ever have the need nor the pleasure to hear Graham say "goober"
Joshua saying “goober” is honestly something I never expected… like ever.
Ikr, I died when he said "6'4 gigachad" 🤣
@@bloodocean8389 because it's done by an AI bot thing
Woman here, I'm glad there are videos like these and i'm so happy to see that you guys are actually taking healthy advices like these. A message that i wanna give to all of you, either you're a man or woman, the first thing that you all should do is be kind to your own selves, accept yourselves the way you are, be it your body shape or things you like, ect. and also try to improve yourselves if you need/have to. This might not mean anything coming from a stranger, but i'm proud of you and i wish you all the best, love you
❤❤❤
Thank you kind woman. Between the video and this comment, I now have the confidence to ask out a girl completely out of my league.
@@dylanwenzel1282 she’s never out of your league chief, just believe in yourself and treat her like a normal person 👍🏻
And if she says she’s out of your league to your face then she isn’t worth your time. She can find someone just as nasty as she is.
Thanks.
Thank you comments like these really make a difference :)
That last part of spraying cologne directly on the shirt hit home. I felt like snapping my neck thinking about the times of done this. Yes multiple times. Better now than never. 9/10 video
absolutely gold, very old very true ideas on how to operate in the world of dating as a man who actually wants to seek relationship or even wedlock, most people need it, most won't take it to heart, but in the end getting messages like this out there again and again and in ways like this really shine on the human condition, all in all guess I'm really just saying thanks in a really long way :9)
As someone that ended a three year relationship on kinda bad terms almost a year ago I needed to hear this. I may not be looking for a relationship, but it’s always a good thing to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else.
I was in the same situation as you a few months ago but believe me that you will always find a better person in all aspects G
Same boat and while it hurts it's made me look at myself and change for the better
Just got out of an eight-year relationship that ended extremely badly.
@@nictibbetts I’m sorry to hear about that man. I’m currently going through it right now too.
Right with you, lads. We got this.
Joshua Graham, the father figure we all needed.
I'm cringing how everyone is taking this way too seriously.
@@danteshollowedgrounds What’s cringe about receiving genuine advice?
@@danteshollowedgrounds anime poster all over your room right ?
This is the best life advice I've heard in my 40 years 1 marriage and two kids time on this planet. And I'm a fat bald man. Happiness is possible brothers. This is the way. I'm rooting for you. We're all in this together.
Joshua Graham literally just said the word cringe and I love it
"Don't view this as a game"
"Do not text back women too quickly, it makes you look desperate"
And people wanna ask why men are done with this shit lol
fr, god forbid I just wanna text someone
as a woman, you can safely ignore any texting rules. just do not blow up our phones with 3-6 texts in a row if we are not responding immediately, that shit is really fucking annoying. each person is different. I am very busy so I don't always notice when it takes a while to reply. you might get a text back from me in 1-3 hours on average, or you will get a bit of time where texts back are instant for a while. mostly because I'm ass deep in commissions a lot of the time. if anything its a complement if someone like me spends their breaks with you. my perspective is a little different because I am my own business for work. its a full time job and a half.
what kind of job do you do ?
@@scythescythe884 close your mouth and go back to the kitchen
Im a wamen, and I can say with confidence that I like it when he texts me back right away. It shows that he cares. It may be because he has other unique aspects as well, but this behavior shows he isn't trying to be mysterious and busy. That shit is childish
this video is simply genious
other than the actually useful tips, the key is in the character doing the talking, not just any person no matter if random or famous
i think its pretty clear that people, when hearing their favourite character or a character that they respect or is in general seen as "chad" (the doomslayer would be perfect if he talked) are much more inclined into remembering those words, into following them
probably wouldnt work the same with memes, having the same video read by shrek would be much funnier, but thats it, a funny video about a meme character giving dating advice, that people probably wont do, or maybe just try "for the vine"
so thank you for this video, while there are not as many Joshua followers as we would like, his words wont be forgotten, if heard by the right ears
A good one of these types of videos is Master Chief teaching you taxes.
SIngle-father energy here.
Doom slayer has said about 3 sentences in total.
The doom slayer wouldn't be "perfect" if he spoke. We love him because he does not speak.
He simply does.
Which is enough a lesson as anything.
This is probably some of the best advice I've ever received It was all just so clear, and well spoken
Joshua’s voice never seizes to both inspire and sooth the soul, be it a religious text despite if one is religious or not along with giving advice such as this. Part of me has always felt left out and even envied my friends when they speak of their relationships. I’m aware of envy being a sin but sadly I can not help it in my heart.
However thanks to some close friends and family I don’t ever truly feel alone, while I may yearn for partner’s embrace as long as o hold my friends and family close I know someday I will be blessed with someone whom I’m able to be romantically involved with. Until then I shall strive to keep myself humble and just, I shall follow the advice and to keep his lessons close to heart.
P.S. I really enjoyed this vid, I genuinely felt more enlightened to hear tho vid along with being able to get some things off my chest, keep up the awesome work, I look forward to more vids like this.
I’m not even in the market for a relationship. Someone sent me this after I told them. Most of these tips are good even if you replace “female” with “job interview” or “having a good social life” to some degree or another. Dress well, smell nice, put your hair right and shave are all things I have heard and do my best to do no matter what, and I firmly believe all others should strive to do so.
@@thotslayer9914 never did. Not enough money. Can barely afford food for myself.
@@Onio_Saiyan damn, I hope the best come for you in life. Keep pushing, you will sooner come to the point yourself can look back and be proud of what currently you are.
@@thotslayer9914 US. Taxes are high in my city.
My personal best advice will be this. Dont just only treat her well and with respect in her presence, treat everyone else (within reason) with respect and dignity. Especially socially perceived "lessers". Mean it sincerely. Be that person, not just for her but for yourself. People reveal their true selves in the dark or when they think the rules dont apply, be that when no one is around to enforce them or with people often prejudiced against that they dont think the rules of basic human decency should apply to. Become someone who sincerely means it. Even or especially during conflict or confrontational, losing control of yourself under stress or pressure again reveals the true content of your character. They know you or atleast should know, that you will eventually treat them the same way. You cant fake this forever and you are the worst type of person if you depend on pretending long enough until you "lock" someone in. Not all recognize they are this person, a lot of self righteous people delude themselves into thinking they are nice guys or good people. Work on bettering yourself.
At the same time, expect the same from them. pay attention to how they treat others. Dont stay with someone who shows the red flags above in how they treat others or how they act under pressure or when they think no one is looking. They will treat you the same in time, they will treat you that way when they think you cant escape. They are a person and many people are terrible, dont stay with them just cause they act or look pretty. LIke the above said, standards conventional beauty is not as relevant as society tries to convince you it is but ESPECIALLY so when its just a terrible person.
Knowing how to deal with women translates very well into other aspects of life.
I never thought i would hear joshua graham say "cringe"...not disappointed.
He's actually giving good advice. I thought this would be some alpha male bs but this rocks. Thanks man.
I love how the fanbase has agreed how Joshua Graham is the true badass of Fallout New Vegas and the Courier, however badass himself, is just his companion.
thank you so very much "Joshua Graham" I can now finally understand what it's like to be mature and respect ourseleves so we could be in an understanding relationship, I've been dealt with depression in the past two years because I was so obsessed of women that I couldn't find myself and now I feel so good of myself of how I decided to watch this video. Pornography is a sadden addiction to most males and some females I started out crying out to God and started praying so I would'nt go through the same cycle of this addiction all over again. My biggest dream is to have a happy family and since I grow through out my pains and suffering through all these years I finally made it! thank Joshua Graham you inspired me.
bro you're so fucking goofy
The only true way is blackpill.
@@thesaddestdude3575 Way to what? Suicide?
@@thesaddestdude3575 Brutal
Joshua Graham is truly a man of GOD.
P.S. it’s so ironic to me that such good advices come from a fictional chharacter
it's a copypasta meme from 4chan
@@cervixdevourer shhhh let him be happy about a fantasy in his head.
@@cervixdevourer when copypasta gains a voice cover, it essentially gets s new life. Especially when the voice is fitting. He wouldn't know about this 4chan copypasta without this video, and even if he did, Burned Man's voice gives it an entirely different vibe. In short: stfu and enjoy Joshua speaking some facts.
I still don't agree on every single point here though. Knew too many girls who were genuinely into anime and stuff. I got into it because of one.
@@motivatedman4630 Gravitas. this gave those words gravitas. 🙏
@@mustafaabed3598 well sorry he's not a fucking 4chan user, calm down lmao
I’m going thru alcohol withdrawals & shaking rn. when Joshua said “goober” it brought back a flood of memories from my last relationship Cause that was what her nick name for me. It sounds cheesy but thankyou. This was the positive reinforcement I didn’t know I needed.
"wait WAIT! Joshua, you haven't taught me about the rizz!"
"I know there is someone out there for you"
That just made me more confident and want to feel the moment
Thanks AI Graham
Historically, the majority of men did not reproduce. Given free reign, women will share the top 20% of males rather than monopolize a man in the bottom 80%. We're basically seeing this play out right now with "serial monogamy", which is basically just polygamy in a genetic sense, where a very large pool of women all get ran through by the same small pool of men for a decade or longer.
I'm addicted to these videos of Joshua Graham spitting more wisdom.
I was addicted but now I'm at an awe for them now.... Maybe a tad bit.
@@danteshollowedgrounds That's the evolution.
Probably the biggest thing to remember is that woman are people. Average, run of the mill individuals like yourself or me. Sure they have their own differences and quirks but at the end of the day the only thing that sets them apart from say, a male counterpart are the unique traits they have that may have through their life journey. The biggest wall is accepting (and almost welcoming) the possibility of rejection that stops anyone of us from even making the first step. I'm rambling at this point but my point is, accept that you will get shut down but never let it discourage you or make you feel lesser and if it does, step back and evaluate that maybe you have an issue internally that needs to be reflected on and addressed
yep.
Women are not normal people lol
Fear is a tool as much as it is an obstacle. Use fear to your advantage, but never let fear stop you from doing what you please, as long as it's not a violation of God's ways, fear should be the drive pushing you forward instead of backwards, thing about it this way "if i'm scared to do something, i should do it exactly because of it"
I agree with almost everything except the makeup part and the anime part. Some people do wear makeup to get attention or minimize undesirable features but many people wear makeup because it’s a good way to express themselves and they like how confident it makes them feel. Also there’s nothing wrong with liking anime and owning anime stuff as long as it’s not an obsession. Anything that’s an obsession could be unattractive.
My boy Josh ain’t holdin’ back with the facts and brutal honesty lol 😂
"this is cringe" 🤣🤣🤣
GOLDEN, please keep making josh graham voice overs like this. These are epic
Hearing the advice to walk into cologne instead of spraying it directly gives me the affirmation that I've been doing it right all along!
Thank you for your works so far, sir Aogiri. You're a part of a greater whole of motivation for us young men everywhere.
And to those out there yearning for attention from women, we're all in this together, so help a brother out and share this with your saddest, loneliest friend and help him too, to see the Light.
You are just wasting perfume. And it won’t last nearly as long
^ My ex used to tell me the same thing. I'd just roll my eyes and keep doing it my way. She preferred a nuclear smell, but I don't. I gag anytime I walk past a guy with too much.
Had the same bottle for the past several years, still plenty to go. I spray 3 times up front, walk forward, 1 time behind, walk backward, done.
Believe it or not, I still get compliments on it and don't smell like a nuke walking around, so to each their own. x3
@@x3lA You're using a whole lot more to achieve the same thing as a single well placed pump.
You are wasting your cologne. Not only is most of it falling to the floor, but the cologne that does get on you doesn't have a chance to work because it'll just be on your clothes. You are far better off applying small amounts of cologne to your neck, chest, and wrists.
^ I can usually smell it on my clothes after work and have gotten compliments over time using my method. If it works for this long, why change it?
Efficiency isn't a priority since the bottle is cheap and 12oz or so. It's lasted a few years and is at half capacity.
He's spitting so many facts it could rejuvenate the Mojave! Have this shit on repeat. Best of luck to you all.
This is supposed to be serious but I can't stop laughing
"dont simply use these women, enjoy the time and make their lives better through your treatment and attention to them, you might be surprised to learn that looks fade"
my boy joshua graham lining them up with the "you're not that hot either and the only thing you really want is someone whos going to want to wake up next to you"
shhhiieeetttt
thats a good piece of advice ngl
Don't stop giving advices Joshua!
These are life savers!
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
I've been wearing baggy clothes lately but that's because I've been losing a ton of weight 🙃
Advice I would have liked to have coming out of highschool. Took me almost 20 years to learn on my own what was covered here.
I align with everything Josh is cooking. Nevertheless, I honestly don't ever want to not be open about my fondness of anime. There was a time in my life I'd been depressed and decided I wanted to have some fun, so I changed my whole personality just to flirt with this girl for a while. Eventually I ended up dating her. By the time the relationship was over I felt vapis nothingness. A relationship is meant to be a deep personal connection. You should change and improve yourself, but understand you gotta do it in positive ways that you want to improve on. Never remould your entire being for another person. You'll end up miserable. My closest friends care for me because I am me and I expect the same from any romantic relationship. In the end changing yourself too much for one person will make it so they don't love YOU they love the idea that they molded you into. It's a relationship built on vapid ideas and masks. That ain't one worth having bros. You just gotta balance these things out dudes. The thing that made my chances with women better wasn't so much being less of an anime fan, but adding more things less to do with anime in my life. Going to more parties, trying out clothes I wasn't usually into and just in general most of what the video here says. I'm as much of an anime fan as I've always been, but it's just a matter of having more in your life outside of your hobbies not completely cutting it off or having less most of the time. Balance bros.
Nobody is telling you to remould your entire being.
5:00 it's literally 'just calm down with the fuckin anime'. Keep it private and ease it into the relationship if she's warm to it too, or not at all if she is not.
@@Hadgerz The main advice is too cool it with the anime obsession, but bro treats it like a dirt lil secret. If it was any other hobby like movies, sports or arts and crafts you wouldn't do the same. Not coming off strong with your hobbies is cool and all, but the guy straight up makes it sound like chicks will immediately get turned off by simple stuff like your merch as though it's a kids thing. Those chicks are just shallow as heck. Most women are chill and just playing with the merch and borrowing manga. She doesn't have to be into the hobby, but if simple stuff like some posters and funko pops is enough to turn her off then she's just shallow. And you're just wasting your time on people who are fickle like that.
I completely agree with your words. I used to be obsessed with anime and video games. Those were the only things that really made me who I am. They formed my entire personality, and they were the only things that I looked for in others to form a connection. In time I learned how shallow that actually was, and what really matters is sharing the same values(kindness, honesty, ,dedication, etc.) not what kind of media you consume. It's ok to enjoy things just don't let them consume your life. Of course you shouldn't change yourself for others but be aware that you're not perfect and not everything you enjoy is good for you. It's ok to watch anime and other media just don't use it as a type of escapism and live through the mc's life instead of your own. cheers...
Edit: Also Funkos are just shit, sorry. At least from anime just can get some good message and Nendoroids are kinda cute, but funkos are just peak consoomer bullshit, giving money to corporations for ugly dust collectors.
@@TheAfroman95 Yup. I'm glad things worked out for ya.
Side note: Do people hate Funkos this much?💀 I thought they are kinda cute, but I guess their not as popular as I thought 😅
@@bornanime3255 I guess it's a matter of taste. The bug eyes never really did it for me tbh😂. The vibe I got from people that bought them was never really for the art, but to satisfy some hoarder impulse or something 😅
"Avoid baggy clothes..." Dying alone doesn't seem so bad now, thanks!
The razor scooter bit earned a like.
4:25 this threat made me rub my shins out of PTSD
As a woman I agree with everything here but 2 big things.
While some women do pretend to like male things, it happens I don't deny it, many of us do genuinely like video games, anime and cars. It is not just a male thing and thinking that will eventually become clear sooner or later which will make us feel like you are invalidating our interests. I thought ol Joshua would know that.
Yes, the primary purpose of make up is to make us look as good as society unfairly expects women to at all times, attract partners, and cover insecurity. But we can also like makeup just because we like to look extra good for the day for ourselves. Thinking of us as vain and insecure just shows how little you think of us.
Just... treat us like people capable of our own individual personalities regardless of the statistics on what most men or women do and don't do. Not doing that is cringe.
Agreed, I think that was the big take away from the lecture, to humanise women.
Ol Josh did get it right when he said “Women are just like men, only to a different degree”. Plus, my girl literally owns a kilogram of Hatsune Miku merch. That ain’t a brag that shit is cringe, and just a placeholder for the real shit; Real Grade Gunpla models 😤
Why do you think men like those things? For example i don't like any of the those listed and i doubt most really care for them.
Statistics are good to keep in mind, insofar as they don't override our ability to judge as individuals, yes.
@@tribacioustee2846 Why even keep statistics in mind if it means you have to change yourself and, as a result, end up with a partner who doesn't fit you? Wouldn't that be a waste of time?
For the makeup thing, I’m gonna explain it in the way my girlfriend did that finally made me get it. Sometimes women dont wear makeup to fix their looks, or for men, but they like that it makes them feel pretty.
Don’t tell them they’re prettier without makeup. They spend a lot of time on their makeup and they’re proud of the work they put into it. In the same way your girlfriend may never get whats so special about that cool thing you grinded for in a game, you may never get what the point of spending an hour on makeup is. However, clearly it means enough to them to put time and effort into and you should appreciate and respect that.
If your girlfriend comes around and you notice she’s done her makeup different, tell her she looks pretty. Same if she doesn’t have makeup on, or if their makeup just looks the same. They put a lot of time and care into their looks that us guys don’t really do, a lot of them have a daily routine of using face washes and lotions and shit, so when you tell them they look good it means a lot more than you know. Besides that, the rest of this video is really good advice that I wish I heard years ago before I learned the hard way.
Before you criticize women for wasting their time applying make-up, remember how long you spend killing enemies for random drops in your favorite RPG to get a new piece of swag for your virtual character.
Men often have the same priorities as women, but don´t realize they are simply applying them at different moments, for different reasons, to the same or lesser effect. "We are the same, but different."
The RPG comparison really helps your point come together. This is a good post
Real
@@katamariroller2837 Jokes on you, I just enjoy killing
@@katamariroller2837lol that doesn't correlate at all 😂😂😂
Thank you for the talk I hope you get the Battle of Hoover Dam done and survived good luck to you survivors.😊👍
I took every part of this personally.
Damn you Joshua for being so right
thank you Joshua Granham for the words of wisdom
your profile picture puts me in a fight or flight scenario
Joshua Graham single handedly fixed the dating crisis
why the hell does a fictional character saying this give me more confidence than an actual human
It is funny that I find this more helpful than some of the things that my friends tell me