REASONS WHY PEOPLE THINK I'M NOT AUTISTIC
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- Reasons why people think I'm not autistic
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Autism 👏🏻 does 👏🏻 NOT 👏🏻 have 👏🏻 a 👏🏻 gender 👏🏻
Some people need to learn that. 😡
The Autistic Unicorn Thank you! I’m an autistic girl and I’m professionally diagnosed, but a lot of people say I’m lying
I have autism and people say that I don't seem like I am but that's cause I try hard to hide it but some of my friends always say that I shouldn't have to hide my disorder....I can control it as well as discipline my ticks
thanks ! i'm an autistic girl too and hearing people thinking that only boy have autism is just frustrating ! :')
I'm an autistic enby but I have a female body. I hate when people say I'm not autistic because I'm not a boy. It's so invalidating
@@hamiltrash3243 I feel the same way. I'm also diagnosed with Autism. I've been diagnosed since I was 3 years old and people think I'm lying because they say that I don't seem like I'm autisic or act or look Autisic even tho it doesn't have a certain look and everyone with Autism are different.
My mother said that I didn't have autism when i was a kid. I said, "Bull! I have had autism all my life, I just wasn't DIAGNOSED until adulthood." She also said that I couldn't be autistic as I could talk as a kid!
Similar thing here. I got referred for an autism assessment when I was 5 but the assessor claimed I "wasn't autistic enough" like wtf.
@@UltraHylia 🤣🤣🤣 Autistic enough? You are or you aren’t. Neurotypicals are adorable.
@@FutureAuth0r they think 5 year olds are exactly the same as 30 year olds 🤣🤣🤣 whyyy
@@UltraHyliaame but I was 3 my mom was told I can’t be because I am a girl
Many of us Aspie girls have the acting type, so we are good at hiding the "negative" autistic behaviours in public for short times, but then have to retreat from the public to recover, sometimes for days.
Yeeeep
Good to know I'm not alone.
"You can't be tired/sad/overwhelmed because you're young"
Cant stand that shit
Yes you can.
You’ve taught me a lot about autism that I didn’t know before, but I never once thought you were faking it for views. That’s ridiculous. Thanks for educating
shes bogus
guy woodhouse What’s that supposed to mean? Don’t invalidate her experiences as an autistic person just because she’s female. I’m an autistic girl and I’m 10000% not faking it. It’s not ok to assume a person is faking a disability.
@@hamiltrash3243 i said NOTHING about being a girl ok? she's FUCKING SCREAMING and extroverted..THAT IS WHY i say she is bogus. i have been disabled by my autism to the point I live w my parents as a middle aged man. i barely leave the house and draw the blinds when summer hits and i need help w basic chores, yet my IQ is 150 but i cannt function day to day. i thi nk some young people think it is cool or trendy to be austistic.its not. its hell and its pain. this girls seems so happy go lucky makng her vids and painting her face..i cant imagine a person who REALLY is autistic acting like this. NOTHING TO DO W FEMALE>.that is what YOU said
guy woodhouse If you’ve actually watched her videos, you would know that she used to be selectively mute and had a lot of trouble in school. Girls with autism are often better at masking, but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t struggle. Autism is a spectrum that effects everyone in different ways
@@guywoodhouse4684 Guy you don't know what her struggle looks like, though - she's able to mask but you haven't seen her having a meltdown or going through sensory overload. Autism is a very broad spectrum, you and she are both on it.
"But you seem so normal, I would've never guessed,"
I hate being called "normal," even as a compliment. Wtf does normal even mean? With everybody being different, there is literally no norm! This is just insulting to me.
I feel the same way. Even the notion of being normal insults me. I don't even WANT to be normal.
Exactly. When people say so, I ask them to define what is "normal". And then when I present with common differences, the silence is astounding.
Or "there's nothing wrong with you" (normally by someone who isn't educated in autism or are older and think they're being reassuring) yes, there's nothing wrong with being autistic, but assuming a person is fine when they're not is SO INVALIDATING!
@@sophiekerr8964 Exactly
Whenever someone calls me or my direct family members (ab)normal,
We without fail reply with "Well duh, I'm from the only normal family in the country."
Because it shows just how insulting it is to alienate or invalidate people.
And also if you don't like snarky replies, you shouldn't be talking to us.
This is super validating. I’ve suspected I’ve had autism and hearing all of this, especially the outgoing part, is incredibly validating. Hearing other women like you talk about your experiences makes me feel so heard. Thank you for doing what you do.
i need that validation too 🥲 it feels good to know your not crazy!🥰
As an autistic who's not very articulate and outgoing as you are I think you are definitely valid and worthy of acceptance, all autistics are different but we are all valid 💖💖💖
Because she's a happy-clappy selfish spoiled brat.
I've had teachers use my Autism diagnosis as an excuse to treat me like I'm stupid.
Also as an Autistic guy, my Autism diagnosis got modified to Aspergers when I was a teenager.
@@jamesleejackson1970 That was when Aspergers was considered a different type of Autism.
When I became a teenager, my diagnosis got modified because I wasn't as Autistic as they thought I was.
BTW I still use the term Aspergers to describe people who are as Autistic as me and Chloe.
SAME
Every teacher I had (with the exception of two) talked down to me and treated me like I was stupid. The worst one was a real piece of work. My handwriting had been perfect until I got him as a teacher. He wouldn't let up about how I didn't hold my pen "properly." So stressful. I met him by chance years later and he acted like nothing had happened. Typical!
In the uk it’s really hard to get diagnosed and I’ve just been accepted by CAHMS to get assessed for autism. I’m really happy because I’ve been waiting a year and a half for this news 🤗
Eloise Elliott Congratulations on taking the next step in your journey! I’m so happy for you!!
Good luck with your assessment!! I got diagnosed by the NHS last year, it took a while but was worth it. :)
@@Ash-up9gl same
Love this! I was diagnosed with ASD (Asperger's) last year and it's been a bit of a roller coaster. I've been really quite fortunate that no-one has outright questioned my autism diagnosis, but I still get a bit annoyed when I tell people that I'm on the spectrum and they say things like "I never would have guessed that you were autistic" - well, I just told you that I'm autistic, so deal with it :-) I think you make some good points, especially around the negativity that sadly lots of people still seem to have around autism, as though being autistic is somehow "second-best" to being neurotypical, which is not at all true! Yes, we autistics have some struggles that only 1% of people have, but we each of us individually have strengths that 99% of people don't have! My church has a goal this year to get better at helping people who are struggling with mental health issues, so I will probably have to explain to them that autism is not a mental illness, but it can lead to mental health issues due to lack of autism understanding and acceptance. Still, everyone around me is being really supportive, which I'm really thankful for! Is there any chance I can use your video, or part of it, to educate my church about autism please? S.
Yes yes yes thank you!
It’s horrible when people outright say: “you can’t be autistic.” Like, say that to the DOCTOR that diagnosed me.
Nothing irks me more than when people think autistic people look a certain way. 🙃
Thanks a lot, Rain Man and Good Doctor (NOT!).
Actually you describing your meltdown on the train was the first time I ever heard someone else describe what I go through word for word...theres no reason to film vulnerable moments like that, you speaking about it is enough and you are for sure autistic, we all hide our bad days anytime we can its awful and embarrassing. Thank you for sharing so much!!
I have an older cousin who's autistic (with many of the classic symptoms), and for a while, he was my understanding of what autism was, and I had a pretty limited view of it for a while... Until I did hours of research on female traits and realized I related to 90% of them (plot twist)! People will always have their assumptions until enough people like you educate the public. Keep up the good work 🙂
It's true you know I am 42 years old and I was only diagnosed 2 years ago. As a female you know how do we raise awareness...
I don't have the diagnostic and I'm 29years old. I discovered autism when I delved into my final work of college and understood everything I was and felt was related to autism
As she said a lot of people (mainly women)
Go through life undiagnosed,
Because of the stereotypes attached to autism.
I just had a meltdown the other day after holding it together for a year in lockdown with partner and 3 teen kids ( 2 of them also autistic).... There’s no way I would be doing as well as I am without the understanding my diagnosis gives me. (Now age 51, diagnosed at 45.) So happy so many young women are getting diagnosed earlier.
In my early 30s and I'm scheduled for an assessment soon. Your story gives me hope. Hopefully you're doing much better. Happy NYE btw
I’ve been told I was faking my adhd to act up and I’ve been told i was faking my anxiety to get out of class this one girl telling ppl I was faking my panic attacks and anxiety to get pity and get out of stuff me
Why would someone fake panic attacks? I literally had to dump salt down my throat at school so I could get back to class in the five minutes I had in the bathroom.
There was a boy in my mathematics class at college who used to call his friends autistic as a joke. I approached him about it one day to ask him to stop and told him that, as an autistic person, I found it really unhelpful. He then proceeded to tell me that I can't be autistic as I act too normal and I'm too smart to be autistic (I guess I'll go tell my medical professional with a degree that they must be wrong because my 17 year old classmate knows more than them). However, he did at least stop calling his friends autistic in front of me.
Thank you. You been helpping my daughter who just been told she has austim too and she 14 now and I also have my son who also has austim but we knew at a younger age
Having watched several videos from Tony Attwood before finding your content, I've never had any doubt. I have severe autism (dx with level 3 support needs), but I also have an IQ of about 150. It's very difficult to go through life as a twice exceptional person because neurotypicals just presume that someone who is intelligent is not disabled. This is where most of the people are coming from when they say "you don't look autistic", because in their mind autism is the same as intellectual disability. We have to keep up the effort to break that stereotype, thanks for doing that.
Preach👏🏻🙏🏻 You be you! You seem to be living your best life... The haters can suck a lemon!
I'd tell them to suck something worse.
The way you move your hands is so hypnotic! I love to see it!
GIRL SAME!!!!!!!!!!! I feel myself when i have concerts to go to & with our favorite artists!!!!!!!!! :D Jonas Brothers, James Maslow from big time rush, BTR, etc :D
I am an autistic girl, too! I am outgoing, too!! Yey!!
As for me, I do not "look sick", but I have Interstitial Cystitis which is a disease of the bladder walls, arthritis, severe back problems, and digestive problems that can get severe. I have Auto-immune problems and injuries. However, because I do not "look sick" some people can expect more of me than I am actually able to do. Also, some ignorant people treat me like I am lying, lazy, or mentally ill, which are all not true about me. In addition to that because I have been told that "I am well spoken" people sometimes can have trouble believing that I have some learning disabilities. "I do speak well", but I can have trouble with instant memorization and concentration. I actually use a notebook to write things down to help me make comments on You Tube. Your story about the Australian fires and people questioning online about your having Autism reminds me of what happened to me after 911 when the Twin Towers in New York were destroyed by Terrorists. A Lady came up to me in the Ladies Room and said to me in a very upset way, "I have something VERY IMPORTANT I MUST tell you!!! Your hair has split ends!!" I am not kidding it was just after 3,000 Americans in New York were murdered by Terrorist and all this lady who I do not even know could do is get highly upset about the "split ends" in my hair!! Can you imagine? Chloe, I have learned a lot about Autism from your videos!! Also, Chloe, thank you for being a pubic voice for advocating fairness towards other people who have other Disabilities!!
Same I get so excited going to concerts and go to alot. But going out or just having social interaction on a normal day is difficult. People think I am doing fine and there is nothing going on.
Wow I’m exactly the same! I guess music is one of my special interests. Being at a gig who’s music I adore is the biggest high I could ever experience like you said it’s the only place I feel I can be me. Really struggling because of covid all cancelled making me so depressed. But I hate pubs and parties nightclubs etc really weriod lol
Same, love concerts and going out to have a drink. Hate clubbing or loud dive bars.
Watching this made my day. Thank you for having the heart and courage to talk about autism. I got diagnosed 2 years ago and it’s still a scary thing to think about. I feel alone. So thank you for uploading this video.
I have a Artistic Daughter and now I can show her your videos and so her will know there are others out there and she is ok to be herself.
Between notions like these and masking like my life depended on it, I wasn't diagnosed until the age of 38. Even then, I was only able to be referred for testing because of burning out so severely I began losing skills and was no longer able to hide being an intermittent speaker.
One thing I've found that hurts more than just about anything is having family members accuse you of faking autism or only being diagnosed because the doctor is trying to scam more money out of you. I know it is because of masking and learning to go hide in my room whenever possible before meltdowns hit by the age of 8, but it still hurts.
On a funnier note, I write for a living, and I am routinely scolded for using too advanced language in web articles. They always tell me to write the way I talked as a teenager, and I just sit there blinking at the screen thinking, "I already am."
I find these reasons so relatable, I have so so many people tell me things like this all the time
As someone who's high functioning, people are often surprised when I tell them I'm autistic, I have Asperger's to be specific.
As has been said so many times before, "If you've met one person with Autism, You've met ONE person with Autism.
Love you so much, you always say it as it is. ❤️❤️❤️
Henriette Rowland OMG we have similar last name haha yay aspie twin 💕✌️🥰
I shared with a friend from Uni that my therapist suspects that I might be Autistic, she goes " you're kidding " you are not social, always alone ( I wasn't always a lone), come off as cold, don't laugh at jokes( they weren't funny), wore the same thing for a long time ..etc. but your are rational and doing good in life. That was okay I know I am doing good and might not check enough boxes to be Autistic, but later on she tells me that I might have mild schizophrenia because of the said above + she finds it hard to convince me of something ( she tried to convince me that djinns are real) and I talk like her ex who was diagnosed with schizophrenia. So it makes more sense for her that a rational person who is not really social and a bit different is schizophrenic than for her to be Autistic? She also said " they say schizophrenia is the equivalent for Autism in adults ". Mind you we both studied psychology, but in Egypt.
I don't see the point of pretending something is funny when it's not, especially when "funny" is so subjective.
My mum constantly yells at me because i dont look autistic, im like bro what does autism even look like?! Its totally different being an autistic girl but people should talk about it more because we're still able to be happy we just have bad moments. Im not ashamed to be autistic, its just a part of who i am and that's a pretty great thing.
What? Wasn’t she there when you were diagnosed? That’s not ok.
my mum is in denial, my family dont do well with mental health problems or differences in people so they just refuse to accept it
I got it immediately from a couple of people when I told them that my doctor suspected that I was autistic. "You're not autistic. I know people who are autistic and they are not like you.". What was positive but still a bit offensive to me was that the people who know me the best were more ready to believe it because "Well, you are not really like other people.". I was even told that my name had been used at work as a negative example of someone who only see the world in black and white. These were things I didn't know other people thought of me. I still don't have a diagnosis though but at this point I would be more surprised if I was told that I am in fact not autistic. Just as I found it laughable that the doctor suspected me to be autistic in the first place since I considered myself to be the most normal person of all.
i'm scared to tell my friends that the doctor thinks that i'm autistic for this reason. the only one i've told is the one that i know is autistic...
This was very helpful and informative for me! It gives me an idea what to expect as I start to "come out" as autistic to people.
I am The SAME with concerts! Thank you for saying that! 😭
I loved hearing about your story! My story is very similar to your story. I didn't get my Autism Spectrum diagnosis until my late teens. In middle school, my teacher told me that I didn't have Autism but my mom didn't agree with her. Having support is very important. Thank you for sharing your story!
Why people think that i don't have autism
1-I mask my autism very well
2-They think we don't exist!!!
3-I love making friends. It makes me good.
But that doesn't mean i don't have autism!
But adults are like"YOU GOT RID OF AUTISM!!!" OMG!
There's so many people that assume that autism is a childhood thing but autistic adults do exist! Or they think that autistic adults must live at home and be a lot more reliant on a parent or carer. Yes there are autistic adults who do have a lot of struggles but there's a ton of autistic adults who are doing just fine in life! Ugh it makes me so mad when people think only autistic children struggle.
@@sophiekerr8964 I know right? There are many autistic adults who are being pushed away/excluded. I'm a 15 year old (3 years till im an adult) and idk if I will struggle more than now. I wish more autistic adults could speak up and tell how they feel about this,maybe i could at least know that i'm not alone. Also,there's the masking issue (which i used to do but not anymore since i dont go outside a lot). People basically force us to mask because "we're not normal",which is stupid. Yea,i might be a teen but that doesn't mean i won't be an adult and still struggle. period.
@@alara_kanat hey I'm autistic, diagnosed at 17 and am currently 20. It is still a bit weird to consider myself an adult (because to me, being an adult means responsibility and NO THANKS) but I guess if you have any questions about autism in an adult I kind of fit the bill? Idk if you wanna chat a bit more I'm happy to (Also note that I'm from the UK so if you are from somewhere else my views may not apply completely)
@@natural3362 yeah go for it! I hope you’re doing well, friend 😊
@@alara_kanat yeah i think that's true. Neurotypical is allergic to change. Hey can we be friends as well
I have had people say things like “you can’t be autistic because you can speak” or “you can’t be autistic because your too pretty”
That was a really good point about how everybody has bad days. On the internet we're only ever seeing a slice of people's lives.
I relate to you and I'mglad I found your channel, you're amazing for real. Currently in the process of discovering myself under the autistic lens, and it's been not only me going into a rabbit hole, but very transforming. Even if I don't have a formal diagnosis yet (I have no money for that), I feel like I can be myself without imitating people all the time. I've always been outgoing, slightly dramatic and talked A LOT as a child...i still do when I'm excited...(even answered the questions assigned to my younger brother) 🍄🧚🏻♀️
Lol i’m never invited to parties cuz i always refuse going anywhere. I feel u
Thank you so much for this video!!! I have so many people telling me I'm just faking it and I just want to scream!!❤❤
Happy to discover your channel today, Chloe, (it's maybe already the 10th or so video I've watched). What I like about you is that you are setting a great example of raising voice about issues that matter for you! Definitely a thing I need to practice myself, hence I'm writing. I want to say that people with traits like ADHD or autism or something (not having them, but are them, I got it!) often naturally attracted me in my life and are among the most interesting people to be with since many years ago (I even didn't think that they could be autistic or when they are not diagnosed like that). Since recently I met more people with similar characters or traits, and one literally told me that she was autistic (or on the spectrum) although she looked completely "normal" for me (and that's why I started to watch videos like yours). I even suspected that I am autistic myself since I realized that it's just how brain naturally functions in me and I have to love myself the way I am. I even tried various online tests on the Internet and the results were always literally the highest possible points of neurotypical people right before autistic (perhaps in childhood the values would be even higher with my oversentiveness back then). I even stopped thinking about autism as illness (well, I didn't know that such autistic people exist, tbh); it became to me just as a character trait (which is even beautiful) like any other character trait (traditionally considered normal).
Loving your flower hair thingy! Also, you are awesome! Thank you for speaking out about this side of the spectrum
I just saw this video. And hearing about your interests in traveling and going to festivals, and realizing it's COVID-19 time, that must be hard. I have some kind of need to go clubbing, although I nearly never do it (too old, no company, no time, whatever, there were/are always circumstances). But if I do have the opportunity, loud music, dancing, melting together with this world, that's so great at that time, at least partly, if it's not too crowded, etc - though afterwards, the day after, I always have a hangover without drinking, a bad migraine with vomiting and all that stuff, so it's a high price for getting that happy moments of dancing in a club. Being autistic or not, people can't see your struggles. They see a happy moment concluding "if you do this, you can't have struggles, or else, why should you do it?" and I am like, if I'd really stop doing all the things that give me struggles, then I'd also actually could stop living. I wish people would be more hesitating before confronting you with their thoughts. So many voices now in my head, so many confusing feelings of shame for doing things that make me sick afterwards, and for not doing and being sad and lonely. People often say "don't think so much". They don't understand, that's what I am. Even clubbing, I smell the sweat, I hear a beeping pain, I have a thousand inputs of thoughts of what people around me might feel and think, of past and future. I am linked with all, all the time. But especially the overload of music, the extensive dancing, that's when I get so much input that I can pay less attention to all that thinking, and I kind of feel present.
Sorry for the long introspective. If I share, I share deep.
This is a beautiful video 🌟🌟✨✨
I really love your channel… I’m going for my official diagnosis at 28yo.. I’ve found some great people through TH-cam ♥️
This has happens to me all the time. 💯 Exactly!
You are so funny 🤣, like me. Matter fact, there are more 👧 with autism then 👦. Theses people are so neurotypical.
Most people with autism, speak and are articulate. Educate yourselves, people. Right, 😳 does 😂autistic look like. I'm an 👽. Exactly, keep it 💯, am I supposed to start 😢 in front of people all the time. Be for real. If you don't know, be quit, or educate yourself. Thank you! 100% autistic
Thank you for making this video ❤️
It seems to be genuinely shocking to the NTs that we do actually strive for our own sense of normalcy. It just rarely aligns withe NT world. I don't question this anymore.
There is nothing "normal" about the way my brain is wired. There never had been. So I make no apologies for that anymore. I am constantly mindful of my intention behind every single interaction I have and I don't care anymore how my autism presents that day. I will never mean you harm and if you choose not to remember that at my worst, I can't help you.
Peace, you guys. 🕊️✌🏻
Omg I have had such a struggle with getting tested. They didn’t test me when I was little because I was a girl 😡
How you feel with festivals I feel about going to see a musical. Sensory immersion of sounds I ‘like’ is like the flip side of sensory overwhelm- just the best feeling in the world. Put me on a bus, which I’m about to get on now 😕 and I still need noise canceling headphones. It’s as much about the discordant sounds as the volume for me.
And my parents think I'm faking being Schizophrenic. Like I chose to be this way. Smh.
Same here at events you can express your true inner feelings
You give me so much warmth in my heart. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
"I hope you guys are staying hydrated"
Oh shooot! **Picks up a glass* * :D
You're such an amazing person and you make me so happy with your videos ❤❤❤
Hmmm 🤔 like many other conditions’ symptoms, all describe how they occur in men but not in women ! When will medicine and science see “women are not little men” 😔
I love how much you highlighted that, as an adult with full autonomy, you have the choice to not share the low lows. Those poor kids whose parents post videos of them in mid meltdown don't deserve to be exploited in their most difficult moments and plastered on the internet for their parents' views, subs, and clout for sympathy.
Personally concerts are the most sensory satisfying way to experience music for me. It feels like I am literally inside the music. It very much so overrides my mind through immersion. It can be overwhelming at times with so many people around but is worth it for me.
I have terrible anxiety and nobody ever told me this but I always told myself that there were limits to what I can do because of it. I also told myself that I couldn't draw because of the tremors in my hands or that I couldn't draw people because of my issues w/ recognizing and remembering faces. (I think I might have a mild case of prosopagnosia)
Omg you always make me smile. I LOVE YOU!!! ❤❤❤
I get it. Sometimes I think I'm faking it. lol Mostly bc I see all these characters that have nothing to do with me whatsoever, but then I remember real life people and experiencies reaffirm my diagnosis, including this channel!
Thank you for this!!!!!!
So was diagnosed with Elhers Danlos about a year ago. Autism is a common comorbidity. I have quite a few autistic traits. I was diagnosed as bipolar after a melt down a few years ago, but as far as I'm concerned I don't fit the diagnosis very well. In my experience being diagnosed with eds or bipolar has done me no favors. If diagnosis for autism is so difficult for women, and gettjng accused of faking is common, is it worth pursuing a diagnosis? Has anyone reading this been diagnosed later in life and actually had improvement in their quality of life after diagnosis?
10 years ago I suggested to a doctor I was autistic and he said "You can't be, because if you were, you would never talk to people about things that interest you". Now I realise he did not have a single clue.
hi i once had some1 tell me when i was talking about my autism say they dont think that you are born with it that its because your parents didnt give u enough love and i was just like uuurrrrrrggggghhhhh y do people think they know about it and how it works when they actually have no clue
I have been told my daughter and I don't look Autistic like what does that even mean? Also I was not given a proper diagnoses until I was 37 years old. The misinformation, stigma, and ignorance around Autism is just sad. We are just as valuable and amazing as any Neurotypical person is.
To paraphrase hundreds of incidents,
Them : what's your deal?
Me: I am autistic
Them: No, nah, no way, you're lying.
Me: uhm okay?!
Also not speaking about it first thing when I meet someone means it's not real somehow.
Now depending on how I feel I may meet people like "I am Stupid-Hat, so you know the weirdness you are detecting is autism, I know neurotypicals like to know that up front"
I love your channel Princess Aspien, you are my folks :-)
I completly understand that doing something you love can completly just make some things irrelivant. Wrestling is that thing for me.
I went to get my kids diagnosed after my own diagnosis. The doctor didnt believe that I was autistic because I was married and had kids and a full time job. Mind you this is a GP who decided that a psychologist made a mistake with his formal diagnosis...
I heavily suspect I'm on the autism spectrum but have yet to be diagnosed cause it's expensive and I'm a poor University student. I do have severe anxiety though and have from a very young age. The amount of people who've told me I don't have anxiety simply because I like speaking in class is ridiculous. Talking about academic topics is literally the only thing in the world I can do that doesn't make me anxious. I'll have mental breakdowns and anxiety attacks over everyday things but because there's one area of my life I'm confident in I must not have anxiety.
I’m have recently been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. I love your videos I relate so much to them! My mum still thinks I’m not autistic because I talk a lot and thinks I’m too smart to be autistic 🙄
“You don’t look autistic.” Seriously? There is no look! It’s not Down syndrome! Autism is a huge spectrum everyone will have different special interest and experience. However, it is still a spectrum so not everyone is Autistic.
I am autistic and highly extraverted. Personality is a separate characteristic entirely.
My aunt doesn’t think I’m autistic or have ADHD because I didn’t have a proper diagnosis. I 100% know for a fact that I am autistic and have ADHD but testing is hella expensive so I can’t prove it. She thinks I’m making excuses and that I’m neurotypical. When she herself, my dad, sister and myself are all autistic.
It’s invalidating and hurtful.
Love you chloe great video
I'm not autistic (that I know of, though I do having overlapping personality traits that are similar to autistic ones but I don't know because I'm also just gifted, soo), but I do have a condition called Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis that I was diagnosed with at nine months old. When I was around seven, I was certified disabled. I have plates and a placard (though it's now expired and I haven't replaced it because pandemic), though I don't have a wheelchair. I have two stories where I was roundaboutly told that I can't be disabled because I don't have a wheelchair, but I'm only going to recount one.
One of them was at a local Christmas light show that was in a neighborhood. Since this is a big thing where I live during the Christmas season, there was parking just outside the neighborhood. There was standard parking and handicapped parking. I think I was around 8. There was a man (either a police officer or security guard) who was guarding it to make sure people who weren't disabled didn't park there. At the time, I had already had my plates. We pulled up to park and the man asked us if someone in the vehicle needed a wheelchair or do you have a wheelchair, or something along those lines. We said no because it was the truth, and the man told us that we couldn't park there because it was handicapped parking. Basically saying that no one in the vehicle was disabled because there was no wheelchair. I don't blame the man. He was just ignorant, and upon my mother explaining and educating him about invisible disabilities, we were immediately allowed to park there.
One thing that annoys me that I've never been told (however I'm not in the general public much; I've been homeschooled since I was about 6 and a half), but that I've seen online is that "You can't be arthritic because you're too young" or "Arthritis is just for old people." I've spoken about this on my blog a few times. It's frustrating but it's very much real and common for people to think this.
Please... I am outgoing, and I have ASD!
I'm undiagnosed but I believe I'm on the spectrum (and have tested as very likely Aspie) and have been to concerts, been up at the railing right by the stage. I sort of zone out due to the... everything, but I enjoy and focus on the performance. It's weird because I'm diagnosed ADHD (and am like... very ADHD, as well as having an autistic profile) and do have a lot of trouble maintaining attention on one thing at a time, but having additional stimuli (preferably that I'm in control of) helps me to maintain attention on the task. So the chaos and crowd around me helps me to hone in and focus on the stage. But then after the show I need mega shut-down recovery time. And I do have trouble with volume, depending on the genre/performance type: folk music at a loud volume in a larger venue isn't too bad; Psycho-Billy at loud volume in the same venue is harder; Americana at loud volume in a smaller venue that's pretty much JUST AS CROWDED as the larger venue... is very difficult. So I got high-fidelity ear plugs to make those easier (also for super hero/action movies so I don't have to cover my ears in the theatre anymore...)
Word.
I don’t know if you’ll ever be safe from “you don’t look autistic”. I’m 33 and am a sales trainer. People don’t believe I have Aspergers because I “work with people”. I’m also a polyglot, bad at maths and was super outgoing in my 20s. I started to analyse non verbal communication just to feel more comfortable in social situations. I became really good at it and now making a living of this skill. Just do you and you won’t go wrong.
What's strange is even though I'm a guy I seem to have alot of these traits. I've had an extensive vocabulary and college level reading skills since like eighth grade.
Me too man ..mee too..still not diagnosed but I know I have Aspergers ,
I'm @utistic and I'm majoring in psychology. 1:30 min into this video I can already tell, you're @utistic. Those people who say you aren't are a special kind of stupid.
Why did you put an @ instead of an a in autistic?
@@cubeception4561 At the time I wrote this, TH-cam had been censoring the word "autistic." Clearly, it's okay now
@@elisakrivas huh. TH-cam is odd.
@@cubeception4561 Yeah, odd and sometimes annoying. I got censored quite a few times during that time, just for talking about autism. I'm glad they fixed the issue.
@@elisakrivas yeah. Sad they had to fix it in the first place.
Idk why people think creators post every part of their life lol
Like, if I was a creator, I wouldn’t post me having a meltdown because they’re really vulnerable and can be embarrassing. I wouldn’t post a depressive episode because, to be frank, that’d be really boring lol
You can’t be in pain because you are smiling
You can’t be sick(chronically ill), you don’t look sick
Your doctor is joking about your diagnosis
Those are the things I have had people say to me that are about my disabilities
I think i’m autistic and have adhd as well and my mom tells me i’m not autistic i struggle in social situations bcuz i pretend too much i’m someone i’m not and copy ppl around me and i appear unnatural and i also tend to talk too much about my interests. She also told me i’m too gifted to have autism or adhd(started to speak by 5 months and knew things beyond my age while i was in kindergarten and elementary and with adhd she says i’m just lazy bcuz i was the smartest kid in class in elementary
Copying people is a way of masking
I think that people confuse diferent mental health isues whit each other because they dont have the information about them
For example thinking that autism has a characteristic look like dawn syndrome has
At least that is what i think i don't now it all that is why i love this tipe of videos were they teach you the information so that you now the differences and what it actually is and what is not
My favourite one I get is you cant be visually impaired because you don't wear glasses. FUN FACT; glasses can't solve all visual impairments. I could have glasses that have the appropriate aids in but you can't get them all in a pair of glasses at the same time, so I would have to choose what is more important. Also by fixing some of it with glasses chances are the ones I didn't choose will get worse. glasses arent worth it for me.
i asked my psychiatrist about being tested for autism and he told me there's no way i'm autistic because i'm "too self aware"
There is not a blood test for autism...It is determined by a set of criteria that is changing all of the time and applies to almost everyone. That is probably why they question it.
My dad says that I use my autism as a crutch
I'm autistic I work as a judge for card games at conventions for some reason people feel like that means I'm not autistic because I can go to a room with 50000 people in it. But they are all there to play games and have a good time so I use it as my social and sensory training ground. Growth happens outside your comfort zones this is true for autistic people too
That is true to an extent, but it usually leads to more frequent meltdowns, shutdowns, stress, etc, as it can involve lots of masking for many people, or just be too much for your brain to process.
I cannot express how many times I tell someone I have autism- and they’ll be like “Oh well you don’t look autistic...” or that I don’t “seem” autistic... umm, is that supposed to be a compliment...? Thanks I guess...?
Ive had people tell me that they never would have guessed i was autistic. I always took it as a compliment that people thought i was normal. Its never pleasant when people can tell that theirs something odd about me so i dont see whats so insulting about. It shows that we can appear normal to.
@@vice2versa true, more so annoying when they try and invalidate us lol
Why do people think that.
I've considered the possibility of autism in the past, but I just don't quite fit it very well. I've also considered schizoid due to my incredibly solitary nature - once again it doesn't quite fit me. I'm just me, that is what I usually tell people. An odd one I am, but one thing I find so fascinating about people in general is how important labels are to them. People get outraged when others do not agree with them, I've seen this several times in the past and it has always perplexed me. Not just with autism mind you, it extends to just about every identity people have for themselves.
I find it curious how people will go out of their way to deny the person of their own desired identity to. I've seen long drawn out arguments when it comes to Christianity, Transgendered, Autism, that list just goes on and on. It is such a strange thing to witness, the group dynamics at play.
I let people identify as they wish, it is their identity not mine.
I suppose most people think you're not autistic because your autism symptoms are not severe enough to require "support" to get you through daily life. As you know, a key part of the definition of autism is that the symptoms have to be severe enough to "require support".