Helicopter Parenting Gone Too Far
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This young woman joined the military and as soon as she got out of basic myself and a bunch of others noticed that she was "off". Several NCO's dedicated a weekend to teach her to be a female, because her mother had taught her nothing. She learned tampons, basic female hygiene, how to shave certain places, use of make up and hair care. It made a HUGE difference. (Note: because basic was jammed up there wasn't time for her to learn these things).
Questions: What's NOC? And how did you meet this woman?
Also: dang her mom kinda sounds like my mom but I wasn't really interested in those things and l live in the Caribbean and had to teach the shaving and tampon parts to myself.
@@steamyvegetables1445 NCO is a non commissioned officer (sergeant). And how I became aware is that twice a year I was in charge of "cadre". Cadre is a group of NCO's and lower ranking officers that are experts in physical fitness and aspects of training, such as marching, rifle drill, uniform preparation and so on. Anyway, we had just finished a cadre cycle (six weeks) when my two top female NCO's and approached me and pointed out the female that had been neglected by her mother. The three of us watched her closely for two days, then the female NCO's came up with the idea of the weekend where they would teach her things she needed to know. And that's why Jenny and Leesa were great NCO's-instead of running someone off, humiliating them in the process, make them a better human being. Then, if you have made all this effort, teaching them and they still don't comply, then humiliate and run them off.
@@The_Dudester Ohh thank you for the clarification 👍
It's actually kind of sad she got taught to shave- That's the one thing that's good she didn't learn. Shame for her to be brought into that world.
I guess this happened a long time ago before people started to realise shaving is not a necessary part of grooming.
@@bambino9235 Hair attracts oil. Oil is a natural medium for bacteria. Give bacteria a natural medium, warmth and moisture and voila!! Petri dish.
When a military school I attended switched from all male to co-ed, someone made me the remark "Why would a woman want to give up what is best about being a woman to try and prove that she is equal to a man?"
I'm not against women serving in the military or law enforcement (I've done both). I have seen both men and women in both professions that didn't carry their weight. As a cop, my best partner was Becky. She was stunningly beautiful and used that as a super power. When she was my partner I wasn't in any fights. Becky used what is best about a woman. After Becky left the country to marry, my next partner was Laura. Laura was very smart, but always spoiling for a fight and she could hold her own in a fight-I never had to rescue her. My day off partner was Sandra (she filled in if my partner had to take a day off, vacation, or so on). Sandra was an office worker and had no business working in the field. I never had to rescue her, but the only help she was-was to call for back up if I needed it.
So, I am all for both women and men shaving their legs or other body parts as it is hygienic. I am also a believer that a person, man or woman, should not hold a job if they can't do it effectively.
My cousin by marriage...her mom is such a helicopter parent she would speak for her. For example "Hey K how are you?"
Ks Mom: "Oh I'm great! School is going awesome!"
To the point where K would just stand there holding on to her moms arm, staring down at her feet saying nothing. She had a terrible time going to college because her mom kept wanting to come to class with her to "support" her because "she can't do it on her own, she is sensitive, she needs my help!" Absolutely nutso....
Meanwhile as a blind person I have the opposite problem, people wanting to talk to my mother like I can't understand anything. They keep asking mom questions and then Mom will say something like ask her she can speak for herself, or I might even snap and say something like I'm right here, can you please speak to me instead?
@@cmpvariety1764 I am really sorry that you have had to deal with that! It must be very frustrating. I am glad both you and your mom speak up, and say something when this happens. It is not your job to educate anyone of course, but it may teach someone a lesson about assumptions. Thank you for sharing your story! Cheers!
@@0ri0nssuspenders it does frustrate me but at the same time though I do love teaching people about blindness it's fun. Until they start asking me really inappropriate questions then it's not fun anymore. Then I just kind of break the conversation and leave. But yeah, it is frustrating to have people talk to the other person like I don't have a brain.
@@cmpvariety1764 Have you ever asked them "Are you blind? Do you not see me standing right in front of you?"
@@cmpvariety1764 i mean this with absolutely no offence, but out of curiosity how are you typing on youtube?
Helicopter parents just make things 100% worst for kids to make it in this world alone.
“A person grows up when he’s able to overcome hardships. Protection is important, but there are some things a person must learn on his own.”
;Jiraiya
Wise words from a wise man
parents: you should never date EVER
also parents:so where's our grandchildern? WE DEMAND GRANDCHILDREN!! WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU NEVER DATED?! WE NEVER SAID YOU SHOUDN'T DATE
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My mum isn't as bad as these parents here, but if I so much as tell her I could have done better on a test I did well on anyway, she sits right next to me for weeks on as I study in my room. If I even get a discord notification she tells me to log off my computer and bring all my books downstairs to study there. Once I dared to ask her if I could play some video games with my friend, she damn near started to destroy my computer. If I didn't pin her against the wall until she was too tired I would have lost my computer for good.
That hits home.
Mine was deceased because i ate a fucking brownie, if migraines weren't so hard for me i would still have my computer. Btw, i'm a student and depend on a computer to do almost everything. This has affected my grades immensely and is still "my fault".
No, that’s still just as bad. Or, at the very least, crosses a huge line.
Holy shit.
You should get her to stop
@@gpstudios458 And how do you propose he does that?
"I was going to live with her forever."
Mortality kicks open the door, *"WELL HEY THERE!"*
The ancient Greeks actually had a law that stated that if parents did not teach their children anything of use, then the child was exempt of taking care of them when they became adults.....yeah, lets go back to that.
That is....genius.
shes getting buried with her mom alive
@@MrTomatoPerson Thank you.
Wonder why we haven’t kept that law
We should have this today
"Not allowing your children to learn as they go will not help them"
Entitled Parent: "Yeah, that's the idea"
One of my friends ended up killing himself because of how much of helicopter parent his mom was. 4 years later and she says that he did it because he disappointed her. She makes me really angry. Her other kids don’t talk to her anymore and I’m glad
Can we agree on calling the superior form of helicopter parentig simply "satellite parenting"?
heck yes
No... shadow parenting.
@@oreo1749 also good
4:28 This one both creeps me out and puzzles me. My parents don't allow my bedroom door to be closed (mainly due to us not being able to hear from downstairs),but they'd *never* put a camera in my or my niece's room. That's just disturbing
Also the parent could be arrested
IKR
The ones that *really* piss me off are the ones that prevent their kid from getting a job because they can’t even let their 16+ y/o kid go to a job interview on their damn own. And then said helicopter parents have the nerve to get upset when no one wants to hire their kid. So much second hand frustration for these poor people.
Just sitting here shaking my head listening to this nonsense, I definitely had a over protective mom but jeez this is just mental
Last night, i heard my mum say "yep, hes still alive" because i had been asleep for over 12 hours.
That was because over the past 36 hours, i had 8hr shift at work, 6hrs drag racing, the rest awake so i could maintain my normal sleep cyle and had a total of 2.5 hours sleep to over me
Best sound glitch ever, LOL. XD
It woke me up XD
Do you get them constantly on like 30% of the videos aswell?
_”Then handed it back to him like she saved ta ta ta ta ta.”_ 😆
12:38 lol
_”Mandatory that they accommodate a grown button, button, button, button, button, button, button...”_ lol
19:31
man this makes me glad i didnt have helicopter parents. and im freaking mentally disabled. I feel bad for those with these kinds of parents. I kinda wish there was rules and stuff in place before people can have kids. People like these parents shouldnt be allowed to have kids if they are going to ruin the kid.
19:33 I thought my computer was cursed jesus
*chanting BUTT intensifies*
I heard “button” 🤣
Pensé que mi laptop había crasheado xD
I just started beatboxing
I love the glitches sometimes. They're hilarious.
My adolescence:
Parents: "What time will you be back?"
Me: "Around 2."
Parents: "Ok. Call if it's going to be later. Call if you need a designated driver. Leave an emergency Call if you need a designated driver. Have fun."
I have issues with cutting food because of the sound of the knife on the plate, but jeez.
Thirteen and cutting up a hot dog? Just bite it if you can't cut it.
Some people just shouldn't be parents, I can personally think of an example who treat my friend like crap and tell him he can't do anything right or live like a normal human being and then are shocked that he has Anxiety and Depression. Pretty sure they do this so they can parasite off of his disability checks, he's not severely mentally stunted and I am sure if he was in a better household he would be doing amazing things because he's incredibly creative but because I was a threat to their absolute control they cut him off from ever contacting anyone outside their house ever again. I miss him very much and it drives me crazy sometimes wondering if he's ok.
My grandmother helped my mom raise me, and she was such a helicopter grandparent my mom and her would have arguments over how I should be raised. Didn't really get to do anything on my own until she put me in Girl Scouts and figure skating lessons.
"Then handed to back to him like she savedddddddddd"
Helicopter parenting should be considered abuse
my mom is my friend. when i tell my other friends this they all think i'm crazy for having a good relationship with my mom. She tells me that i'm not allowed to move far away as soon as i'm 18. I'll stay at home while i'm in college but i'll probably move to another part of town after that. she never does any of my assignments for me or comes to my classes but she will help me understand something if I ask her. she will often leave me at home with my little sister unattended while she is gone ( as i write this she is on a scuba dive and i am watching my sister) so she lets me be independent and stuff.
“You hurt my baby!”
Ma’am your demon spawn was choking my brother.
About 13:00... once I was past about two, the food was just monitored for size, and by four I was cutting up most everything myself if it needed it. The only relapse was when I was 10 and laid my right palm edge open on a burr on a girl's bathroom stall door (a burr from where a coathook had been, I ran my hand down the door and didn't know about the burr. I know the janitor went over every bathroom stall door in the school, ground off anything weird and repainted the doors after my accident) and later as a senior when I almost cut my first right finger off in chem lab. At those times I did have to have someone cut up meat, and open peanut butter jars for me. I didn't like it but I couldn't manage those tasks for some weeks after the accidents. Cutting up a teenager's hot dog into rubble bits and they are in possession of all their faculties... shame on the parent.
I really don’t understand how some parents can do their kids homework assignments. When I was younger my parents didn’t even know half of the stuff I was learning unless it was basic math
I’m not sure if this is a helicopter parent but anyways, here’s my story: my mum kept me in nappies till I was 5 because ‘what if she fell in the toilet’. My dad got her to stop 2 weeks after I turned 5. I was 7 two years later, I slipped and it looked as if the toilet had sucked my bottom into it. She started again and almost called an ambulance. (I was completely fine, just shocked). So anyways, that’s my story, hope you enjoy my torture of sharing embarassing things.
I just realized I'm a helicopter parent in some ways. Dang 😔 My eldest kid has ADHD and Autism. He is minimally verbal and runs off. He scares me to death 😩
You have a legitimate reason to be. You get a pass. It's parents of nurotypical children who treat them like 1 year olds long passed the age that are the problem.
@@SassyGirl822006 Thank you. I really don't get it when parents don't want their kids to be able to be themselves. We've spent thousands on fencing in our yard, building a playground in it, and finding the safest ways to keep him happy and safe. It's hard with our eldest. He doesn't recognize danger 😩 He's a handful, but he's worth every second. It's amazing what I've learned with him.
@@meganking3762 Yeah no, you're accurately providing the safety and comfort your kids need. That's not helicoptering. You're a great parent. 💕
@@alyseb5730 thank you! It's actually nice to hear things like this. Most people aren't understanding of his condition.
@@meganking3762 You're welcome! Non-verbal autism seems to spook people and I really don't know why. It just makes it even more important to keep them safe because they can't really communicate if they're scared or hurt. You seem to have taken reasonable approaches to what they need. None of the people in this thread are halfway reasonable at all.
19:30 what the hell nice stutter lol
At a family gathering I watched a 8 year old girl try to play a game of checkers with a 6 year old girl with helicopter parents. The entire time both parents hovered over the checkerboard coaching the 6 year old girl. They made sure the young girl made the best move possible and made no mistakes. When the other girl complained that they were cheating they told her that being 2 years older gave her an unfair advantage. (maybe it did but their combined ages were probably 60+ years older than the 8 year old girl so that was unfair to her.)
8:29 actually it’s all to prevent her from being fricked lmao
I had a classmate whose mom took the phrase helicopter parent to an entire new level. This lady would follow our bus to school EVERY…SINGLE…DAY. In order to “keep her son safe”. I remember once she called the cops and tried to have our bus driver arrested for kidnapping. The truth was he stopped to let other kids onto the bus because our stop wasn’t the only one on the way to school. But perhaps the worst thing I ever saw her do was make it her mission to ensure this poor kid never got to experience childhood. Whenever we had recess she’d pick him up from school because she was convinced the rest of us would give him a disease from playing on the playground. But then in the same breath she was always having meetings with the principal and our teacher about her son because to no one’s surprise he had an extremely difficult time finding friends. However, according to Mrs.Psycho we were intentionally trying to exclude her son. When the truth was SHE was the reason as to why her son had almost no social skills and was awkward around other people.
Why on earth would you not train your child for adulthood? Not exactly the best start in life.
Every time I go to soccer practice, I have to text her when I get there and when I leave or she freaks out, every time I walk to school she does the same. And when I'm in online she is always gone and can never help me with homework. When we have an argument SHE started she always blames me for everything, takes everything I way (like my phone, drawing tablet, and computer) After an argument she always says I'M bullying her. Every time I see her a fight always happens, every day I'm with her she makes me cry. I'm only 12. If I wear a shirt that's just slightly above my pants I have to change. I love my dad, he is understanding and we talk things out. When things are happening we ask for each others opinions. The only time we really argue is over homework. My dad is invested in my homework and actually helps me instead of leaving me clueless to go shopping or to the gym. I wish I could live with my dad full time. I bet when I'm in collage my mom will want to know exactly what I'm doing. Its so frustrating living with her half the time.
I... I know I'm not a helicopter mum. I've had people look at me funny though. My youngest is accident prone, and I work really hard at not reacting when he falls unless he cries. More than once I've had other mum's at his kindy freak out, and fawn over him the second he trips, and then seem upset when I say " he's not crying, he's fine". As I say, he's accident prone, if he doesn't learn to brush it off unless he's really hurt, he'll never learn resilience.
Also, my oldest was always extremely focused on being independent. On his first day at kindy his reaction to me making sure he wasn't going to suddenly lose it when I left was to tell me "you can go now". I got some funny looks when I didn't linger on subsequent drop offs because I knew he was fine.
These stories legitimately scare me
Like this is legitimate abuse
@@Cassiopeia-hn5ue They are infantilizing their children into adulthood, in some cases crippling them mentally and emotionally. People who don't learn to function on their own can become easy targets. It's terrifying 😬
"The Children Are Our Future" Haha
Helicopter parents should have never been parents to begin with all they're doing is ruining their children's lives
To quote a wise man from DBZA:
"I ain't no helicopter papa, sink or swim, b#tch"
If my Mom put cameras and mics in my room they would of been broken in the first day.
19:34
I died laughing
I'm surprised more of these stories don't end up with murdered parents. By God most of these people are extreme psychos
Glad I had strict parents and not helicopter parents. I turned out a functional adult from the strictness but not a sheltered one from the insane strictness
19:31
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My mom is a bit of a "smother" but nothing this extreme. Holy shit!
8:28... that fire bit isn't funny. Middle eastern country that's pretty strict muslim. Girl's school caught on fire. An armed soldier at the exit door wouldn't let the early teen girls OUT because they weren't in burqa's. Held the door, refused to let them out. Quite a few died of burns and asphyxiation.
Derp
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No
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fish
Fish.
Fishing hook
Fishing hook bait
@@ramancat885 boat
Omia wa moo shindaroo
Parenting license is a good idea
9:42 I am almost certainly reading too much into this, but it sounds like the robot guy is laughing right before he reads the list. Like even he's in disbelief. I've heard this guy put inflections on things that he really shouldn't, considering he's a robot. Which begs the question: is this guy really a robot? 🤔
Is it weird I'd kinda like one of these parent's, but not over the top, but they'll do my hw for me lmao
My Brother in law drank from a baby bottle till he was 7!
One I read, they were at a day camp, boys about 13, and about mid morning his mother, who had volunteered to help with the camp came up using baby tones going "(kid) It's time for MILKIES! You just LOVE MILKIES, Mommy's got nice warm milk for her little (kid)" and pulled a baby bottle OUT OF THE BACK OF HER PANTS where she'd put it to stay warm. Boy wanted to DIE and the other boys felt SO sorry for him.
@@user-ml3hl6vr4t What...even is this?
@@user-ml3hl6vr4t ho... h... holy shit thats so inane!
@@josefstalin7033 I agree. Wondered if CPS should be involved with something so spectactularly smothering.
33 seconds since posted and I'm STILL not first???? haha!
people are fast
My father punished me severely so I became a brutal dictator
...okay...
I- Anyways moving along
Omg I just realized that my mom is a semi helicopter parent 👁👄👁
psychos. absolute psychos. no excuses for them.
SKEEK FEELA
10.33 I like that parent
The title wasn't exaggerating. Why is a parent monitoring a married adult's activities and how much time they spend w/their husband as if it was any of the parent's business? Op's mom is independent, but has no life of her own. Yeah, right!
12:47 uhhhh what the fuck
Trinston was here .
19:33 Accommodate a grown butt?
Making your kids disabled I’m not teaching them anything and allowing them to actually live defeats the purpose of having them there.
A strawberry approved
19:33
The first story is just all kinds of wtf
*considers saving up for a new airsoft gun*
"Grown button button button button button"
Can someone explain the in the closet line? I don't get it.
RRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
I thought my mom was bad because she uses Life360
Na, just worried about ya sometimes
That app is crepey af. my former roommate used that to stalk me when I left the house to make sure she knew where I was at all times so she could text or call me to ask me to come back to make her food. So I hate that app with a passion.
And those kids don't protest? Wtf?
These kinds of parents will NOT tolerate any kind of protest. It will not end well for the kids.
Learned helplessness.
The kids probably think it's normal cuz that's what they know. And it's also kinda abusive so it brainwashes the kid into thinking they can't do anything without their parents, and that's the helicopter parents goal, to make the kid as dependant on them as possible so they will always be their baby and never leave them. Atleast in the most extreme cases it's 100% abuse no question about it, in the milder cases maybe it's a parent that is well meaning but is just too neurotic and that rubs off on the kid. They don't want their kids to grow up they have some fucked up mental illness making them want to keep their kids babies forever. And sadly if you have a parent that has sabotaged you your entire life from making friends and missing out on other important milestones then they may become willing participants feeling like their parent is their only friend and that's just so sad.
the first one was fake
or not, it smells possible
Grown nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt nbutt
Looking forward to becoming a helicopter mom one day.
dont
19:32